I've heard this post elsewhere, I feel for the stepson, his parents have done a real number on him and I hope that he can get the help he needs to be a well rounded adult in a few years. He's only 14 for crying out loud, he shouldn't have to deal with this. The ex and mom are absolute trash. Good riddance. It sounds like the daughter wants as little to do with them as possible. Good for her.
I agree. I hope the stepson heals as much as possible. He deserves to be able to enjoy high school and college like any other teen and early 20s adult.
Nothing justifies physical violence. His bio mom wasn't in any danger to justify that kind of reaction. 14 is old enough to know what he did was wrong and he still didn't apologize and was "mad" at OP. He's indeed too young to understand that his bio-parents were literally throwing him at OP to live their child free dream. Once he does, I'm sure he'll regret everything
honestly, i’m so happy that the stepdaughter bonded with OP the way they did, and i’m glad they have each other. i really hope the stepson comes around to OP, or they can at least be friends. i’m glad things ended on a good note for OP, congratulations on her pregnancy!! she may already have a daughter but that baby is in good hands with OP and the daughter, and hopefully with the partner too
I get the feeling that the ex got a vasectomy and never told OP. All the medical interventions over two years with no results, but then she gets a new man and, boom, baby. Also, I really feel for the stepson. Wanting to hold onto the parents who gave you life and go back to the good times. What a brutal slap of reality he got. That his dad is a spineless simp, his bio mom destroyed his second family for shiggles, and both only see him as a burden. I pretty sure stepson has or is going to have resentment towards his sister for having a mom who actually loves her.
It says a lot about her character that she has still been trying to reach out to the stepson, because I would have just given him what he wanted and left him alone.
Cause I surely would’ve left him to his mama that apparently don’t want him. You tried to defend her and she left you, dogged your calls, and then didn’t come see you. That’s all you!!!
@@shauntaejackson9946 that's why he got anger issues now. he internalized those feelings and probably hasn't acknowledged where they actually came from
The ex's ex wife was jealous. The kids liked the step mom. The step mom has a nicer house in a better location. The sperm donor was happy. So she wormed her way back into his life, worked her charms on him and broke everything up.
@@justincooper5189 I wouldn’t say it’s “becoming the normal”. Vanity and selfishness have existed for as long as humans have. I think we’re just disgusted by it same as our ancestors were.
Wait i remember this one. She was used as free childcare the whole time. The bio mom wanted to put ber in her place... The bio dad was trying to suck up bc he wanted to keep using her for free childcare. And everyone acted like she was responsible for these kids bc they wanted to continue to neglect them and dump them on her.
I'm gonna say it: the son is hella wrong for this. She was his bio mom, yes, but she was flighty and neglectful even before the stepmom walked in. Meanwhile the step mom was the only person who actually parented them. The only person making them school lunches and rubbing their tummies when they're sore and making sure rhey have a clean place to live etc. Of course he's resentful now; he gave all that up and now he's seeing the way his parents care for him. The way his bio mom doesnt give a shit. Yeah he would be having issues but that's not her fault. He picked the wrong side in this one and now he's suffering the consequences and he's too proud to admit he made a mistake and that his step mom treated him better so now he's stuck there with these jerks and he's depressed.
@@rauljosechaves3291 WAYYYY better than me, the step son would've been abandoned for real and the step daughter would've been at risk of going too. Shes WAYYY better than me
Despite all medical Intervention she struggled to get pregnant. New man knocks her up without trying. I think he ex should have a DNA test done on those 2 kiddos lmao
About the melissa may want OP's house biit Its not about money, its abouit screwing OP over and about presenting the image of a perfect family and from what OP said, her house fits that image better
I think she wanted to rub it in. It was a power play. She wanted to show her her place because she got too comfy. She wanted to show her that she was the "real" mom and she was just there to shine their shoes. Backfired epically cause they needed her for childcare and this was the straw that broke the camel's back.
Honestly, just give up on that "stepson", he doesnt deserve so much of your energy if he's ready to jump back in his mama's arms so fast after being neglected by her for so long
While I haven't finished the story yet, it's crazy how the husband is calling OP a bad mom for not forcing the stepson to do something he doesn't want to do, when the husband and ex-wife don't even want to take care of their own son. Like you mad someone won't watch after their stepson, while you don't even want to take care of your own son on a daily basis.
These people handle these situations way better than I ever would have o-o I'd have literally never let stepson back into my house, he'd have been cut out 100% that second I was on the floor >..>
“Treating me like a nanny,” because you ARE! You have these kids in your home, “co-parenting”” when really you’re doing it all alone, but none of them are yours and the birth parents are too flighty to give half a crap! 😫 I’d have cut my losses long ago!
Pretty sure the ex and mom only did it for the thrill. They wanted her to continue to play the mom-figure while they had whirlwind romance like teens. I think the son's anger issues stem from what happened around him. Since he's with dad 24hrs now, he's probably more aware of how bad things are
Your ex and HIS ex found a fool to parent their children while they continue their lives as usual 🙄. She thinks of you like a nanny because that is just what you are ,with bed privileges. They children have parents they are not yours, step away completely and go no contact.
It seems like op was the glue that kept them together and stress free. So that that then they can be together. They are not good parents at all. When they have to deal with actual parent responsibilities.
Ugh!!! THE AUDACITY “women who become stepmoms should know what they’re signing up for and that a REAL MOTHER WOULDN’T LEAVE HER CHILDREN” 😳 THEIR REAL MOTHER DID LEAVE THEM!!🤬 AND THEIR DAD WOULD TOO IF HE COULD!! Anyways, this sucks because I understand OP, I give her props for not just trying but actually providing a healthy home environment for two neglected children. For their pos waste of space parents to just be the most horrible people. I’m sorry I can’t I don’t want to punch my phone. Their friend is a tosser too. If this is real, stay strong OP, you’ve put up with too much. I couldn’t. If it’s fake, I needed way more suffering out of the pos exes.
I’m seeing people judging the stepson and I gotta stick up for him a little here, as someone who grew up with neglectful and complicated parents. The kid was twelve when all this happened, TWELVE! which is right in between a kid and puberty😦 He most likely still looked up to his parents and had golden eyes gloss over how they mistreated him, hoping they would change and holding on for dear life on the moments they dont suck. Also, OP talked about how she mostly hid the affair and drama from him, so he didn’t know about everything that the dad and mom were doing that were bullying OP. Then he suddenly sees his (*SUPPOSEDLY*) sweet mom get verbally attacked at by his stepmom, and people are judging him for getting defensive? He’s a child, he’s going to defend the people he loves, especially if he doesn’t know why she’s screaming at them. Then after that all happens, the person who could actually sit down and calmly explain everything goes away for the weekend, leaving him alone and hurt without a reason for why. I’m not saying OP shouldn’t have left because it was definitely deserved as a break, but I do feel for the kid that he never got a proper explanation. It’s never specified if she actually told him what happened fully, and how they were banned from her house, and everything they did to hurt her. Honestly, given the way that he was kinda pushed off to the side in the information war, and then left with his dad who was bad mouthing the OP, who’s to say his dad didn’t poison and lie to his kids when they were over there, about how perfect Melissa is and how their stepmother is horrible. I just wish he had the opportunity to see things like his big sister did at the beginning, but he still had the blinders of childhood adoration on and it really screwed up his whole life. Now that he’s fourteen and getting therapy I hope he can work it out with his step mom and he can see eye to eye with her eventually.
Unfortunately , a lot of parents h8te seeing their kids & ex's doing well . The kids had it so good , yet their Mom & dad didn't care . But , why do " it " in his wife's bed , with the kids roaming around ?? I guess they wanted to get caught. 🤷
See, I feel bad for the whole family. But Innoway, I see where the sun is coming from. I get how much I can hurt to be cheated on, but it didn’t sound like she even tried once to be calm and every time the mom would come around. Yeah she should’ve respected the ex-wife or do you original poster said please don’t come back here but it sounded like every time they tried to talk peacefully she would just blow up so I’m sorry about the situation with her stepson but it’s kinda understandable.
@@sweeety969 I don’t need the snarkiness or rudeness. I’m saying too I don’t remember how old the stepson is but to a young child how could walk. I’m saying that I agree in a way this step mom’s reaction is understandable, but it’s like she keeps losing it in front of him. I can’t I don’t remember had a stepson how old the stepson is. but yes, even people that I have been cheated on can be adults and not freak out and wanna know something I have been cheating on. Yes, me and the girl are no longer together but I heard her out.
@@TheAshleysama I keep seeing the last confrontation. Yes I did. Technically, they weren’t respecting the boundaries, but they weren’t in the house. They were outside during the last confrontation. And again, I don’t remember how old the stepson was but it was still in front of him. I’m pretty sure they said he was like eight if I remember correctly, so in front of a young child does that mom was acting like that.
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I've heard this post elsewhere, I feel for the stepson, his parents have done a real number on him and I hope that he can get the help he needs to be a well rounded adult in a few years. He's only 14 for crying out loud, he shouldn't have to deal with this. The ex and mom are absolute trash. Good riddance. It sounds like the daughter wants as little to do with them as possible. Good for her.
I agree. I hope the stepson heals as much as possible. He deserves to be able to enjoy high school and college like any other teen and early 20s adult.
Nothing justifies physical violence. His bio mom wasn't in any danger to justify that kind of reaction.
14 is old enough to know what he did was wrong and he still didn't apologize and was "mad" at OP.
He's indeed too young to understand that his bio-parents were literally throwing him at OP to live their child free dream. Once he does, I'm sure he'll regret everything
Don’t mean you put your hands on nobody
honestly, i’m so happy that the stepdaughter bonded with OP the way they did, and i’m glad they have each other. i really hope the stepson comes around to OP, or they can at least be friends.
i’m glad things ended on a good note for OP, congratulations on her pregnancy!! she may already have a daughter but that baby is in good hands with OP and the daughter, and hopefully with the partner too
I get the feeling that the ex got a vasectomy and never told OP. All the medical interventions over two years with no results, but then she gets a new man and, boom, baby. Also, I really feel for the stepson. Wanting to hold onto the parents who gave you life and go back to the good times. What a brutal slap of reality he got. That his dad is a spineless simp, his bio mom destroyed his second family for shiggles, and both only see him as a burden. I pretty sure stepson has or is going to have resentment towards his sister for having a mom who actually loves her.
I hope you know I am 100% using shiggles from now on. Stealing that word. Very good word!
It says a lot about her character that she has still been trying to reach out to the stepson, because I would have just given him what he wanted and left him alone.
I think you and I are too harsh,because I certainly wouldn't be bothering about stepson.
Cause I surely would’ve left him to his mama that apparently don’t want him. You tried to defend her and she left you, dogged your calls, and then didn’t come see you. That’s all you!!!
@@shauntaejackson9946 that's why he got anger issues now. he internalized those feelings and probably hasn't acknowledged where they actually came from
The ex's ex wife was jealous. The kids liked the step mom. The step mom has a nicer house in a better location. The sperm donor was happy. So she wormed her way back into his life, worked her charms on him and broke everything up.
And if he were a better man, it wouldn’t have worked.
@@melaniewilson1742 too true. But, it's becoming the normal these days. I'm seeing more and more of this, but at least I have my own set of values.
@@justincooper5189 I wouldn’t say it’s “becoming the normal”. Vanity and selfishness have existed for as long as humans have. I think we’re just disgusted by it same as our ancestors were.
@@melaniewilson1742agreed it was more hidden or swept under the run. Women were taught that infidelity was normal.
The stepson is too young and immature to understand that his parents are what's causing him issues. He'll regret not living with OP when he's older.
Wait i remember this one. She was used as free childcare the whole time. The bio mom wanted to put ber in her place... The bio dad was trying to suck up bc he wanted to keep using her for free childcare. And everyone acted like she was responsible for these kids bc they wanted to continue to neglect them and dump them on her.
I'm gonna say it: the son is hella wrong for this. She was his bio mom, yes, but she was flighty and neglectful even before the stepmom walked in. Meanwhile the step mom was the only person who actually parented them. The only person making them school lunches and rubbing their tummies when they're sore and making sure rhey have a clean place to live etc. Of course he's resentful now; he gave all that up and now he's seeing the way his parents care for him. The way his bio mom doesnt give a shit. Yeah he would be having issues but that's not her fault. He picked the wrong side in this one and now he's suffering the consequences and he's too proud to admit he made a mistake and that his step mom treated him better so now he's stuck there with these jerks and he's depressed.
OP is a way better person than me...
OP is not better person(ok maybe she is), but she is abused by everyone around her and depressive. She is a victim.
@@rauljosechaves3291 WAYYYY better than me, the step son would've been abandoned for real and the step daughter would've been at risk of going too. Shes WAYYY better than me
I can hold my hands up and admit this cause bwoyyyyy, I'm not raising these lots kids for free whilst they live their best lives. I cannot
Despite all medical Intervention she struggled to get pregnant. New man knocks her up without trying. I think he ex should have a DNA test done on those 2 kiddos lmao
I also think it could be what another commenter said, that the ex got a vasectomy without telling her
Their parents are disgusting id rather get full blown child support from both.
About the melissa may want OP's house biit
Its not about money, its abouit screwing OP over
and about presenting the image of a perfect family
and from what OP said, her house fits that image better
I think she wanted to rub it in. It was a power play. She wanted to show her her place because she got too comfy. She wanted to show her that she was the "real" mom and she was just there to shine their shoes. Backfired epically cause they needed her for childcare and this was the straw that broke the camel's back.
@sweeety969 😂 I just posted something similar. Sis was big mad & envious 😅.
Honestly, just give up on that "stepson", he doesnt deserve so much of your energy if he's ready to jump back in his mama's arms so fast after being neglected by her for so long
Poor op... well at least she's in a good place now
While I haven't finished the story yet, it's crazy how the husband is calling OP a bad mom for not forcing the stepson to do something he doesn't want to do, when the husband and ex-wife don't even want to take care of their own son. Like you mad someone won't watch after their stepson, while you don't even want to take care of your own son on a daily basis.
bruh i feel like the stepson missed out on an opportunity and now hes depressed just cuz he was mad at his stepmom
These people handle these situations way better than I ever would have o-o I'd have literally never let stepson back into my house, he'd have been cut out 100% that second I was on the floor >..>
Op was a glorify babysitter for his kids😂😂😂
And the occasional bed warmer when the ex wife isn’t available 🙄
OP is clearly a mother to the eldest daughter
“Treating me like a nanny,” because you ARE! You have these kids in your home, “co-parenting”” when really you’re doing it all alone, but none of them are yours and the birth parents are too flighty to give half a crap! 😫 I’d have cut my losses long ago!
the audacity to invite someone else into other person's house for dinner without their consent or presence
People be crazy hope you are doing well and congratulations on the baby
Pretty sure the ex and mom only did it for the thrill. They wanted her to continue to play the mom-figure while they had whirlwind romance like teens. I think the son's anger issues stem from what happened around him. Since he's with dad 24hrs now, he's probably more aware of how bad things are
Your ex and HIS ex found a fool to parent their children while they continue their lives as usual 🙄. She thinks of you like a nanny because that is just what you are ,with bed privileges. They children have parents they are not yours, step away completely and go no contact.
The OP needs to fling both those teen children back to their parents. She cannot move on with other peoples children in her life.
It seems like op was the glue that kept them together and stress free. So that that then they can be together. They are not good parents at all. When they have to deal with actual parent responsibilities.
You step son has chosen his path
Am so happy for u ,that u found ur happiness in the end
I understsnd why the stepson is mad but she should of had them kids live with their biological parents. Its sad but let his ass be with his parents
Sister law was wrong
Sorry Not Sorry but the husband would've had to take his kids with him. He screwed up and it's NOT her kids. Everyone has to get out the house.
the thumbnail already had my jaw on the floor but WTF?????
Ugh!!! THE AUDACITY “women who become stepmoms should know what they’re signing up for and that a REAL MOTHER WOULDN’T LEAVE HER CHILDREN” 😳 THEIR REAL MOTHER DID LEAVE THEM!!🤬 AND THEIR DAD WOULD TOO IF HE COULD!! Anyways, this sucks because I understand OP, I give her props for not just trying but actually providing a healthy home environment for two neglected children. For their pos waste of space parents to just be the most horrible people. I’m sorry I can’t I don’t want to punch my phone. Their friend is a tosser too. If this is real, stay strong OP, you’ve put up with too much. I couldn’t. If it’s fake, I needed way more suffering out of the pos exes.
I’m seeing people judging the stepson and I gotta stick up for him a little here, as someone who grew up with neglectful and complicated parents.
The kid was twelve when all this happened, TWELVE! which is right in between a kid and puberty😦 He most likely still looked up to his parents and had golden eyes gloss over how they mistreated him, hoping they would change and holding on for dear life on the moments they dont suck.
Also, OP talked about how she mostly hid the affair and drama from him, so he didn’t know about everything that the dad and mom were doing that were bullying OP. Then he suddenly sees his (*SUPPOSEDLY*) sweet mom get verbally attacked at by his stepmom, and people are judging him for getting defensive? He’s a child, he’s going to defend the people he loves, especially if he doesn’t know why she’s screaming at them.
Then after that all happens, the person who could actually sit down and calmly explain everything goes away for the weekend, leaving him alone and hurt without a reason for why.
I’m not saying OP shouldn’t have left because it was definitely deserved as a break, but I do feel for the kid that he never got a proper explanation. It’s never specified if she actually told him what happened fully, and how they were banned from her house, and everything they did to hurt her.
Honestly, given the way that he was kinda pushed off to the side in the information war, and then left with his dad who was bad mouthing the OP, who’s to say his dad didn’t poison and lie to his kids when they were over there, about how perfect Melissa is and how their stepmother is horrible.
I just wish he had the opportunity to see things like his big sister did at the beginning, but he still had the blinders of childhood adoration on and it really screwed up his whole life. Now that he’s fourteen and getting therapy I hope he can work it out with his step mom and he can see eye to eye with her eventually.
They want your property. Simple as that
I bet the ex wanted to make sure that the stepmom knew that she could get her man back # anytime . 😌💃
Unfortunately , a lot of parents h8te seeing their kids & ex's doing well . The kids had it so good , yet their Mom & dad didn't care . But , why do " it " in his wife's bed , with the kids roaming around ??
I guess they wanted to get caught. 🤷
So nobody reading this story on Reddit saw the op say the step daughter wanted to stay with the op.
Congratulations I hope that you guys have the Lord in your life and let that be the firm foundation of your marriage
The headline is poorly written or dirty .he end up "inside " his ex wife ,in front of daughter ?
It’s the title I use for TikTok, kind of my main audience I’ve been appealing to, but I always post the videos to TH-cam as well.
It’s eye catching and accurate. The 16 year old daughter walked in on them doing the deed.
See, I feel bad for the whole family. But Innoway, I see where the sun is coming from. I get how much I can hurt to be cheated on, but it didn’t sound like she even tried once to be calm and every time the mom would come around. Yeah she should’ve respected the ex-wife or do you original poster said please don’t come back here but it sounded like every time they tried to talk peacefully she would just blow up so I’m sorry about the situation with her stepson but it’s kinda understandable.
Maybe you'll do better when you get cheated on.
@@sweeety969 I don’t need the snarkiness or rudeness. I’m saying too I don’t remember how old the stepson is but to a young child how could walk. I’m saying that I agree in a way this step mom’s reaction is understandable, but it’s like she keeps losing it in front of him. I can’t I don’t remember had a stepson how old the stepson is. but yes, even people that I have been cheated on can be adults and not freak out and wanna know something I have been cheating on. Yes, me and the girl are no longer together but I heard her out.
She asked MULTIPLE times for them to stay out of her house…ex side kept coming…
@@TheAshleysama I keep seeing the last confrontation. Yes I did. Technically, they weren’t respecting the boundaries, but they weren’t in the house. They were outside during the last confrontation. And again, I don’t remember how old the stepson was but it was still in front of him. I’m pretty sure they said he was like eight if I remember correctly, so in front of a young child does that mom was acting like that.
@@tylercanales5794I think it said stepson was/is 12-14
Maybe if not so *contrived* , it'd be more enjoyable. A.I.?
First pin pls ❤