I hope she keeps the boundaries straight. There has to be a reason why he is suddenly so interested in his child after 3 years, and why he is trying to win you over again. Something feels off
OP (if they’re reading this), you need to just stick to your boundaries. You are allowing him too much space in your life. You’re thinking about “the pressure he takes off you” and “the good he’s doing” is him doing the court mandated bare minimum. You need to back up
Sticking the the parenting app and blocking his ass is the way to go. Otherwise screenshot his messages and post them in the app. Its how I hot my ex to use the app.
i feel kind of bad for her. she made bad choices but if she’s 26 now and the affair happened 2-3 years ago going by the age of her child she was 23-24 at the time while he was 39-40. she tried to move forward from her poor choices and now due to the connection of the child she has to constantly have involvement with him. like don’t get me wrong i think cheating is extremely scummy, as is knowingly being another woman. but i also feel for her being in this messy situation all over again after moving on and finding some stability.
Sad? Yes, but that's life. You have to abstain from the decisions you make. In this case, op deserves it because it's something she brought on herself.
@@valenparodi9219 i don’t think it’s sad but i do feel bad for her which is a distinction imo. she may be reaping what she sowed, but i simultaneously don’t think anyone deserves to be stuck with someone who threatened their life. he’s still being manipulative in his current actions so how much he’s changed is debatable. no hate to your perspective. op was (and is) incredibly stupid.
Just like always, he is bulldozing all over her boundaries and ignoring anything she says. Wearing her down. And unfortunately it will probably work. He knows exactly how to push her buttons and gaslight her. She needs to ignore him if he communicates with her outside the app. She needs to stand firm on not changing her son's name. That's something that can be discussed later, *with* her son. She needs to document everything he says/does that crosses the line. She needs to shine up her spine and stay strong. For herself and her son.
Also if she don't get a coparenting app and stick to written communication with him. She knows how he is and i don't think she told her lawyer bc he shouldn't be pulling this much mess this fast
Sounds like he’s trying to wiggle his way in financially so she will open up because now he is single. He’s trying to win her over so he can play happy family but he’s failing to manipulate her and is trying to use his child to get more time with her. He’s nasty
I hope she keeps the boundaries straight. There has to be a reason why he is suddenly so interested in his child after 3 years, and why he is trying to win you over again. Something feels off
OP (if they’re reading this), you need to just stick to your boundaries. You are allowing him too much space in your life. You’re thinking about “the pressure he takes off you” and “the good he’s doing” is him doing the court mandated bare minimum. You need to back up
Idk why op would read this here, it's better to comment under her post
I know you both were adults but he took advantage of you and you have to accept that it's not all your fault
Sticking the the parenting app and blocking his ass is the way to go. Otherwise screenshot his messages and post them in the app. Its how I hot my ex to use the app.
i feel kind of bad for her. she made bad choices but if she’s 26 now and the affair happened 2-3 years ago going by the age of her child she was 23-24 at the time while he was 39-40. she tried to move forward from her poor choices and now due to the connection of the child she has to constantly have involvement with him. like don’t get me wrong i think cheating is extremely scummy, as is knowingly being another woman. but i also feel for her being in this messy situation all over again after moving on and finding some stability.
Sad? Yes, but that's life. You have to abstain from the decisions you make. In this case, op deserves it because it's something she brought on herself.
@@valenparodi9219 i don’t think it’s sad but i do feel bad for her which is a distinction imo. she may be reaping what she sowed, but i simultaneously don’t think anyone deserves to be stuck with someone who threatened their life. he’s still being manipulative in his current actions so how much he’s changed is debatable. no hate to your perspective. op was (and is) incredibly stupid.
😭😭 It's the way i just know his ex wife is elated to be free from him
Just like always, he is bulldozing all over her boundaries and ignoring anything she says. Wearing her down. And unfortunately it will probably work. He knows exactly how to push her buttons and gaslight her.
She needs to ignore him if he communicates with her outside the app. She needs to stand firm on not changing her son's name. That's something that can be discussed later, *with* her son.
She needs to document everything he says/does that crosses the line.
She needs to shine up her spine and stay strong. For herself and her son.
Also if she don't get a coparenting app and stick to written communication with him. She knows how he is and i don't think she told her lawyer bc he shouldn't be pulling this much mess this fast
She would look up at the ceiling to search for the word gullible
I feel bad for her but oh my god is this frustrating to listen to
This OP really is stupid.
Sounds like he’s trying to wiggle his way in financially so she will open up because now he is single. He’s trying to win her over so he can play happy family but he’s failing to manipulate her and is trying to use his child to get more time with her. He’s nasty
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