The best negotiation position is the willingness to walk away and not look back. That is the core of a bad boy. Chris, you should do an audiobook this stuff is top shelf material.
100% accurate, I was guilty of these and she pulled away and then I panicked and tried harder. She pulled further away . And in the beginning she was the one texting, calling and chasing. Walk away no contact , show that your good with or without her .
She started texting at random times ,the usual how are you ,where you been, what you up to? But during that time I just got back into the gym met some new people and marched on. Put work and time into me again and she couldnt believe I would just stop and not contact her . Im good dont want her .
This is true to some extent, but If she’s not that into you, go find a woman that will be. If she’s attracted to you the most but takes you for granted due to your responsiveness, then you can pull away and she’ll chase you.
Thanks Chris!! Your Videos and wisdom always work for me! The last time this happened to me 2 years back and here I'm again, encountering the same problem with this other chick. Women are all same LOL
It's true up to a point. What if you keep pulling away and she doesn't come back? Women do not want you to be needy, but you need to know how to be lovely. If you pull away too much, she won't feel loved. If you get too close, she will run away. This is my opinion. I'd love to hear you peeps' feelings about this.
I believe this. It’s a balancing act because a lot of guys say they are the prize and use Brad Pitt rule. But I’ve realised and I’m open to being corrected, that you still have to chase as a man because a woman 99% will never chase and none of us are Brad Pitt. So how can we expect to use him as an example to how women view us. We will always be seen as an option since we have no value that they can see *yet*. So I think in the beginning for everyday guys, they have to chase, and then when the interest is clear and you’ve shown what you are, it’s up to the girl at that point and you see if she chases back. If she doesn’t, you’ve done all you could at your end. But I don’t agree with at the start a woman should be chasing you full stop. She doesn’t even know what you’re about yet especially if it’s online dating
Hey Chris, Thanks for all the useful info you bring to us! I have a question - when you say we have to chase girls only in the initial phase of the relationship, what does the "initial phase" actually mean - till the first kiss, first sex ?
I did chase on the first 6 months as part of seduction proccess then after that when she is emtionally invested on me and always pulling ayawa. I oull away too like 3 weeks.or 5 weeks lol
I feel like an option sometimes . It is like her bestfriends aaaaaandd mee . It's always them then me . Sometimes it feels like they are more important. She spends more time with them and even canceled our date a few times , because of that . It's fucked up . I just give tooo much attention and being taken for granted . I hope things change , because I love this girl so much . But hell nooo am not a fucking option .
Me too man. I put my foot down and said "im not going to consistently put 2nd to your roomate" bc she kept doing that same thing "oh im going with some friends" "oh my roomate wanted to hang just me and her" so i got sick of it, stated how im not gonna let that fly, and then she decided to end it right there on the phone. She reached out to me 99% of the time and asked me to be her bf, she was literally all over me when we were together, always complimenting etc. Then this shit happens. 6 days no contact. Well see. It hurts tho man. "Were too different" she said.
Doesn’t always work but it’s probably your best chance My ex cheated with an orbiter... whom I jus imagine as a desperate dog begging at her ankles for attention Patience and self control gives you time to wait dignity and self respect... interesting how the bible talks about being a slave Feelings and emotions
I pull back when a guy is always checking his phone & his buddies are trying to get them to leave me to hangout with them. Then he leaves to run to them. I’m over!
Obviously this only works if she was attracted to you in the first place and then seemed to lose interest. You can't just walk away from a girl and expect her to chase you if there was never any initial attraction.
You never tell a woman you are seeing someone else unless she asks and even if she asks you never tell her openly you have to be covert. You contacting her and telling her you are seeing someone else is one of the weakest moves ever, she sees you as a weak bitch, she didn't need to know that. Unless she was chasing and you were really seeing someone else you are interested in and thinking in getting serious with this other girl, then you could have told her you can't talk no more but the way you did it screams attention/weakness.
It's nothing to do with weakness, it's about getting closure on a relationship you're not happy with. You shouldn't let things drift. Be honest with her and honest with yourself so you can both move on.
Problem i have is that she texts me all the time and she gets mad if i don’t respond quick, it doesn’t bother me but how can i create attraction if she does that
It doesn't matter. If a girl is texting you anything, even if she's just talking about the weather, it shows that she's thinking about you and you're on her mind.
So basically, don't give a fuck. Be fine whether women are in your life or not. The less attention you give them, the more they'll give you. Sad reality of dating.
Chris. Sometimes I pull away, and my gf gets angry and blames me for not talking to her for days. Then I have to bring her down from an argument. What to do?
Is she one of those people who thinks that someone giving her attention(even if its not extreme) is too much for her? I ask because its this show called "Married at First Sight" and this guy doesn't like it when his woman gives him attention(even if it's not a lot) but when she backs away, he wants her. But if she gives attention, he wants nothing to do with her. Is the girl your dealing with like that?
I am in a same situation but my girl has been talking to her ex too , Should I threaten to break up , pull away or go no contact ? Chris you have been my guru
Dude you need to check your girl first that texting his ex is not cool for you. Also, observe carefully on how she reply to his ex, if she was replying without entertaining or being flirty then thats good but you need to check your girl that you dont like it but if she is entertaining or being flirty with his ex then learn to walk away if she doesnt listen to you. In short, pullaway dude and let see if she will change. Goodluck bro.
Jopet Villalobos I’m new to all this attraction theory ...wouldn’t “checking your girl “ show insecurity and weakness “? Aren’t you supposed to be strong and not care ? Shit is confusing man .
@@Evilj82 dude confident people dont think like that. For some people it shows that your insecure or weakness because thats how social media make men become feminized. Checking your girl promotes leadership and trust me girls love being check about their "mistakes" because your not that kind of guy that can easily walk over. But there's a correct way to correct a girl without acting weak or insecure. You need to check her in a calm and serious tone. Don't display that you're angry just say things you dont like that disrespect you in a "serious" tone like saying "Look, do u know what you did a while ago. Don't ever do that again. Thats not cool". Bro you need to set boundaries so women will respect you and find you attractive because you're different from other men. Remember, girls prefer bad guys than good guys because they're different and don't really care if she want to leave.
@@Evilj82 the point you're saying that you supposed to be strong and not care at all falls into when you check her and she doesnt listen to you thats where u will show that you dont care about her anymore by pulling away which promote strong personality because it makes you a guy with many options.
Jopet Villalobos I think I see what you’re saying. Shit is confusing to me because it’s like not caring and checking seemed to be opposite things at first, he drives a guy like me who is already prone to over analysis (never good) crazy , which in turn makes the problem worse. I don’t wanna go mgtow or incel but the truth is I don’t wanna be second place, I get pissed when I’m second place, but then when I get pissed, it’s like shit now I’m losing my frame or whatever. It’s frustrating as fuck because it feels like anything I do , it’s the wrong thing .
Then be man enough to accept that she's not that attracted to you. Approach more girls and find a new on then maybe she will chase you. Girls find men attractive if he have many options.
Jopet Villalobos thanks, she is actually my colleague, and in my company There are not much options :( . Also i stopped texting her like 2 weeks. I still talk to her in person though. And we dated once. On the second time i asked her out, she said she will think abt it. And now I am just like should i try again after all these?
@@JohnLiuFromHK just go out dude, i mean meet new people or focus on your purpose don't think about her just focus on purpose and let her reach you. Thats good, just talk to her in person not in texting or social medias. I usually wait 2 to 3 weeks so set up a date again if she reject me because it display that you have high value. If she doesnt reach you after you ask her out then wait 2 to 3 weeks then ask her out if she still say that shit then act cool and move on. Let her initiate the contact after the second time she rejects you.
Hell no , i dump a guy once i sence that i am an option or the other woman in whoever life even if he is the one , men got lists baseically dont exactly know what he want or whats good for them or not thats why they are hesitant and thats big sign of lack of self confidence even if he chose somebody and commited to them he'll will dump or cheat or plays around once he gets his fill from that option which results another disastaral stress full relation i put my self in fot just accepting or still fought for them while i was an option , i don't know about this world 99% women in my case whoever dream that i will accept thatand give them this precious self of mine so he ruins it he WISHH who want me better be come sure that he want me not more or less and /single/seriouse willing to commit if they hope to get a stable comitted relationship with me without that he can be sure he will be ticked off like neva exisits and wont get A dang out of me , iam not the common type of women to be an option in whoever list if they dont see it that cool it reflects their stubidity and i am allergic to this type of men .
How can a woman miss you if you haven't even had a first date with her yet? You need to make contact with her to get a first date. Two weeks now with no contact.
2:16 Buy my book and read it because it will fix all of your relationship problems... If you can walk away from women it will attract women... What a load of tripe...
Be mysterious again dude. Spend less time on social media like facebook and twitter or stop posting things that will let her see it. You need to pullaway but also on social medias that let her see you so she will be more interesting when she miss you or come back. Improve yourself and go outside meet new people or women.
Walk away from her, break up with her, tell her you've met someone else. Anything. If she's acting like she doesn't care about you then you need to act like you don't care about her.
Some girls don't give a shiiti about all these dating realities They can walk away from you, as long as they get money prospects from other guys Let's be real Girls don't chase that much Once you irresponsive, they go away
Actually, many women want men to waste their time on them. So why should any men try to chase a woman. We can live on our own and get an artificial womb (designed as female human) than to invest in someone who rarely has time for anyone.
The best negotiation position is the willingness to walk away and not look back. That is the core of a bad boy. Chris, you should do an audiobook this stuff is top shelf material.
That is right but the only thing you have to do to be #1 is to put 100% of your efforts in yourself that way she makes you her #1 priority not you.
This man change my life alot I started focusing on myself and everything is good.
I bought a copy of atomic attraction and it's shown me where I've been going wrong all these years!
Good for you guys!
Chris u r always right! I cant emphasize enough to everyone dnt chase girl, dnt be available for her always , pull away!
So true wallah
100% accurate, I was guilty of these and she pulled away and then I panicked and tried harder. She pulled further away . And in the beginning she was the one texting, calling and chasing. Walk away no contact , show that your good with or without her .
Update?
She started texting at random times ,the usual how are you ,where you been, what you up to? But during that time I just got back into the gym met some new people and marched on. Put work and time into me again and she couldnt believe I would just stop and not contact her . Im good dont want her .
I read your book Atomic Attraction and it was worth it! Now I’m getting more women wanting to see me, getting dates, and hooking up! Thanks Chris!
Can u send me on my email?
E E can you please send me on my email ??
How can I find that book ? My brother
How did you find full book cos the one I'm seeing here is having 21 pages
it all comes down to having pride for yourself
If you treat her like a celebrity, she will treat you as a fan
Girls are so complicated... But you just gave the best advice
This is true to some extent, but If she’s not that into you, go find a woman that will be. If she’s attracted to you the most but takes you for granted due to your responsiveness, then you can pull away and she’ll chase you.
Never let her live rent free in your head. Focus on bettering and leveling yourself up as a man
Great videos man! One of the best things you keep your videos short but long enough to explain your point .✊🏽
Thanks Chris!! Your Videos and wisdom always work for me! The last time this happened to me 2 years back and here I'm again, encountering the same problem with this other chick. Women are all same LOL
Chris, you are are incredible teacher
It's true up to a point. What if you keep pulling away and she doesn't come back? Women do not want you to be needy, but you need to know how to be lovely. If you pull away too much, she won't feel loved. If you get too close, she will run away. This is my opinion. I'd love to hear you peeps' feelings about this.
That's true it's a balance.
I believe this. It’s a balancing act because a lot of guys say they are the prize and use Brad Pitt rule. But I’ve realised and I’m open to being corrected, that you still have to chase as a man because a woman 99% will never chase and none of us are Brad Pitt. So how can we expect to use him as an example to how women view us. We will always be seen as an option since we have no value that they can see *yet*. So I think in the beginning for everyday guys, they have to chase, and then when the interest is clear and you’ve shown what you are, it’s up to the girl at that point and you see if she chases back.
If she doesn’t, you’ve done all you could at your end.
But I don’t agree with at the start a woman should be chasing you full stop. She doesn’t even know what you’re about yet especially if it’s online dating
Go home dude, youre acting so weak!@@WYJAFAK2
this was awesome, please more videos on the topic of not being 'just an option'. Love your work, its simple and straight forward. Thanks.
Hey Chris,
Thanks for all the useful info you bring to us!
I have a question - when you say we have to chase girls only in the initial phase of the relationship, what does the "initial phase" actually mean - till the first kiss, first sex ?
I did chase on the first 6 months as part of seduction proccess then after that when she is emtionally invested on me and always pulling ayawa. I oull away too like 3 weeks.or 5 weeks lol
I feel like an option sometimes . It is like her bestfriends aaaaaandd mee . It's always them then me . Sometimes it feels like they are more important. She spends more time with them and even canceled our date a few times , because of that . It's fucked up . I just give tooo much attention and being taken for granted . I hope things change , because I love this girl so much . But hell nooo am not a fucking option .
Just see your woman once a week? Space is always good in a relationship
Me too man. I put my foot down and said "im not going to consistently put 2nd to your roomate" bc she kept doing that same thing "oh im going with some friends" "oh my roomate wanted to hang just me and her" so i got sick of it, stated how im not gonna let that fly, and then she decided to end it right there on the phone. She reached out to me 99% of the time and asked me to be her bf, she was literally all over me when we were together, always complimenting etc. Then this shit happens. 6 days no contact. Well see. It hurts tho man. "Were too different" she said.
Doesn’t always work but it’s probably your best chance
My ex cheated with an orbiter... whom I jus imagine as a desperate dog begging at her ankles for attention
Patience and self control gives you time to wait dignity and self respect... interesting how the bible talks about being a slave Feelings and emotions
There are no absolutes. Sometimes chasing is guaranteed, if she asks you. But have some women chase you, mostly.
I pull back when a guy is always checking his phone & his buddies are trying to get them to leave me to hangout with them. Then he leaves to run to them. I’m over!
I think a chase is good to begin with, just dont continue chasing.
Thank you bro 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Your amazing Chris! Keep doing what your doing brother!
I need a personal consultation sir.... What are your charges plz tell me...
Thank you chris.. u really help me alot
Great video's you have. There' s a lot of similarities between you and Alpha male strategies.
Good video as always
Solid advice.
Thanks chris from bottom of my health , u changed my life ❣️.
Awesome awesome Chris
Chris brother may you get reward in Jannah for your help ❤️
Reward in Jannah for telling you to have sex with women to keep her attraction level up? 😅
but if she isnt attracted to u then she wont be reaching out to you?
...duh! ...move on to the next!
Move on bro then attract more and more girls. Have a life rather than waiting for them to reach you. Step forward and let them reach you
Obviously this only works if she was attracted to you in the first place and then seemed to lose interest. You can't just walk away from a girl and expect her to chase you if there was never any initial attraction.
You never tell a woman you are seeing someone else unless she asks and even if she asks you never tell her openly you have to be covert. You contacting her and telling her you are seeing someone else is one of the weakest moves ever, she sees you as a weak bitch, she didn't need to know that. Unless she was chasing and you were really seeing someone else you are interested in and thinking in getting serious with this other girl, then you could have told her you can't talk no more but the way you did it screams attention/weakness.
It's nothing to do with weakness, it's about getting closure on a relationship you're not happy with. You shouldn't let things drift. Be honest with her and honest with yourself so you can both move on.
Great Work
Ok so what if you just ghost her and say forget it
Problem i have is that she texts me all the time and she gets mad if i don’t respond quick, it doesn’t bother me but how can i create attraction if she does that
If she's texting you all the time then she's obviously attracted to you. What are you worried about?
Achilles94627 it may seem that way but she never dirty talk to me or send pics, it is a long distance relationship btw
It doesn't matter. If a girl is texting you anything, even if she's just talking about the weather, it shows that she's thinking about you and you're on her mind.
You re the man 😄👌🏻
So basically, don't give a fuck. Be fine whether women are in your life or not. The less attention you give them, the more they'll give you. Sad reality of dating.
Chris.
Sometimes I pull away, and my gf gets angry and blames me for not talking to her for days. Then I have to bring her down from an argument. What to do?
Is she one of those people who thinks that someone giving her attention(even if its not extreme) is too much for her? I ask because its this show called "Married at First Sight" and this guy doesn't like it when his woman gives him attention(even if it's not a lot) but when she backs away, he wants her. But if she gives attention, he wants nothing to do with her. Is the girl your dealing with like that?
Marcus Melton Basically, Yes!!
@@sucram1015 same here
Om namah shivay❣️🙏
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super bro💖 do more and more
I am in a same situation but my girl has been talking to her ex too ,
Should I threaten to break up , pull away or go no contact ?
Chris you have been my guru
Dude you need to check your girl first that texting his ex is not cool for you. Also, observe carefully on how she reply to his ex, if she was replying without entertaining or being flirty then thats good but you need to check your girl that you dont like it but if she is entertaining or being flirty with his ex then learn to walk away if she doesnt listen to you. In short, pullaway dude and let see if she will change. Goodluck bro.
Jopet Villalobos I’m new to all this attraction theory ...wouldn’t “checking your girl “ show insecurity and weakness “? Aren’t you supposed to be strong and not care ? Shit is confusing man .
@@Evilj82 dude confident people dont think like that. For some people it shows that your insecure or weakness because thats how social media make men become feminized. Checking your girl promotes leadership and trust me girls love being check about their "mistakes" because your not that kind of guy that can easily walk over. But there's a correct way to correct a girl without acting weak or insecure. You need to check her in a calm and serious tone. Don't display that you're angry just say things you dont like that disrespect you in a "serious" tone like saying "Look, do u know what you did a while ago. Don't ever do that again. Thats not cool".
Bro you need to set boundaries so women will respect you and find you attractive because you're different from other men. Remember, girls prefer bad guys than good guys because they're different and don't really care if she want to leave.
@@Evilj82 the point you're saying that you supposed to be strong and not care at all falls into when you check her and she doesnt listen to you thats where u will show that you dont care about her anymore by pulling away which promote strong personality because it makes you a guy with many options.
Jopet Villalobos I think I see what you’re saying. Shit is confusing to me because it’s like not caring and checking seemed to be opposite things at first, he drives a guy like me who is already prone to over analysis (never good) crazy , which in turn makes the problem worse. I don’t wanna go mgtow or incel but the truth is I don’t wanna be second place, I get pissed when I’m second place, but then when I get pissed, it’s like shit now I’m losing my frame or whatever. It’s frustrating as fuck because it feels like anything I do , it’s the wrong thing .
When your ex show interest of coming back to you what am I needed to do ?
Daily new video😁😁
I think Chris is trying to increase subscriber.
Rahul Gupta 28k is good 👍
U can invest millions £ on them they will never believe on u
Do you have to tell them that?
Always superb
Be the legend .. play solo ..no worries 😎
S I M P L E
What if the woman has kids or a kid. Do we pursue or leave it alone?
Leave it alone.
Search a TH-cam video.....never date a single mother...by CRP
Taste then leave her
Is there any scientific evidence for your claims, e.g. chase initially then let her come to you (naturla process)?
All the references are in the book
I have been punished by a Chinese woman for chasing her for almost a year, Attraction is not worth it
I was never a choice in the first place.
what if she never chase me back ;( ?
Then be man enough to accept that she's not that attracted to you. Approach more girls and find a new on then maybe she will chase you. Girls find men attractive if he have many options.
Jopet Villalobos thanks, she is actually my colleague, and in my company There are not much options :( . Also i stopped texting her like 2 weeks. I still talk to her in person though. And we dated once. On the second time i asked her out, she said she will think abt it. And now I am just like should i try again after all these?
@@JohnLiuFromHK just go out dude, i mean meet new people or focus on your purpose don't think about her just focus on purpose and let her reach you. Thats good, just talk to her in person not in texting or social medias. I usually wait 2 to 3 weeks so set up a date again if she reject me because it display that you have high value. If she doesnt reach you after you ask her out then wait 2 to 3 weeks then ask her out if she still say that shit then act cool and move on. Let her initiate the contact after the second time she rejects you.
even joker wants harley queen ;(
Be like joker, see how harley queen really crazy inlove with joker. Lol
My girlfriend makes me an option when it comes to her Girlfriends. I need to stop this or MoveOn
Hell no , i dump a guy once i sence that i am an option or the other woman in whoever life even if he is the one , men got lists baseically dont exactly know what he want or whats good for them or not thats why they are hesitant and thats big sign of lack of self confidence even if he chose somebody and commited to them he'll will dump or cheat or plays around once he gets his fill from that option which results another disastaral stress full relation i put my self in fot just accepting or still fought for them while i was an option , i don't know about this world 99% women in my case whoever dream that i will accept thatand give them this precious self of mine so he ruins it he WISHH who want me better be come sure that he want me not more or less and /single/seriouse willing to commit if they hope to get a stable comitted relationship with me without that he can be sure he will be ticked off like neva exisits and wont get A dang out of me , iam not the common type of women to be an option in whoever list if they dont see it that cool it reflects their stubidity and i am allergic to this type of men .
What to do if your ex is in your same class and u have to be in the face her everyday ??
Act like you're happy without her. Don't be a jerk. Just ignore her and focus on your things
How can a woman miss you if you haven't even had a first date with her yet? You need to make contact with her to get a first date. Two weeks now with no contact.
Move on
@@Rob-nl5ge Three years now and I haven't met anyone to move on to.
@@rascal211 Keep looking. Get in front of more people but do not make it your priority.
The passion of making this vid is in your eyes xDDDDDDDDDDDDD, get some sleep dude , great info after all :) , Like
Idiot 😅😂✌️
2:30
I think m gonna lose her but i have to pull away to see the result
lol
@@manni06 22 hun tan sab set a 😂😂. Time de nal sab set ho gya.
@@jsingh6851 good to hear lol
@@manni06 yup
2:16 Buy my book and read it because it will fix all of your relationship problems... If you can walk away from women it will attract women... What a load of tripe...
How to make my girlfriend miss me!!?? Tell me guys
by stop texting her stop being in her pants.
Dnt text her ever and work hard in your life! I guarantee she will be back, if not then its her loss, not yours! As u havnt left her
Be mysterious again dude. Spend less time on social media like facebook and twitter or stop posting things that will let her see it. You need to pullaway but also on social medias that let her see you so she will be more interesting when she miss you or come back. Improve yourself and go outside meet new people or women.
Walk away from her, break up with her, tell her you've met someone else. Anything. If she's acting like she doesn't care about you then you need to act like you don't care about her.
Don't give her your attention simple.
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Not being a troll but you look kind of rough in this video bro.. good info though!
Dan Nykil why would you even give a fk about another man’s appearance? That’s the kind of shit a woman does.
says the man with a good reply! fair enough dude.. it was constructive criticism, keep up the good work man!
Develop Attraction hahhah chris you have me laughing here lol .. good one .. why would another guy care how you look for real lol
Some girls don't give a shiiti about all these dating realities
They can walk away from you, as long as they get money prospects from other guys
Let's be real
Girls don't chase that much
Once you irresponsive, they go away
Wrong you just need to be a slave and have a car
i am not winning over no man.. smh
I hope no men are watching this nonsense, women don’t chase, this is setting men up for failure.
Actually, many women want men to waste their time on them. So why should any men try to chase a woman. We can live on our own and get an artificial womb (designed as female human) than to invest in someone who rarely has time for anyone.