Knowing the difference between a man who wants a piece of you vs. The man who wants to be a part of you will save a bunch of headaches, heartbreaks, and time wasting.
@Terrance Baptiste holding out sex will make a man manipulate a woman for sex . The way a knowledgeable woman carries herself a real divine man will automatically respect her because she respects herself in every way possible. Knowledge is power
My husband passed away in 2017 & he wrote me a letter months before he passed away from cancer. I happened to have found the letter a few months later in my nightstand. There was a specific part of his letter that will always be in my heart and cherished forever! He wrote.... “There will be many men who want you, but only one will “DESERVE” you”! 😭❤️
Men are incredibly simple. Actions speak louder than words. Simply listen to his actions and you'll know how he feels about you. It's you women who make things complicated by refusing to simply just do what I mentioned.
Just walked away from a girl i was dating. Asked the exclusive question after we kissed she paused and waited like she needed to think abt it but in my mind there was nothing to think abt. I had been dating her for 7 months spending time with her and more importantly stopped dating other girls because i thought she was most special. I asked her if she would be my girlfriend she paused for a while i broke the silence and said dont worry abt it(i was pretty hurt that it was a question she had to think abt it) i ended the date a little early stated i had to be up early. She texted dont take my silence as a no(but i knew better than that) i told her how i felt and that i wanted a relationship with her and that i don't want to force it if it's not something shes ready for right now. She replied her ex boyfriend is crazy and wont leave her alone. In other words shes back and forth on the fence and wants to get back with her ex that left her but shes uncertain if she should leave him for good. I could tell from her answer she wont let go of her ex so i did a favor and said hey well i told u how i felt and....went on a paragraph..and said well hey it was really nice knowing you for the time but i rather just focus on my individual self and improving my life from this point forward i hope nothing but the best on you and your journey. Have a good one. She texted back i meant i cant be your gf right now what do you mean? We can still talk i care for you. I didnt reply back. The fact that she went that long of a time without telling me at least after the 2nd date that "i like you and want to date u but right now im healing or something like im hurting or something. It was as i felt being used to get her mind off of him. I'm dating another beautiful girl at my college now. It took a whole month not to wake up feeling like my heart weighed 40lbs and feeling sad it was almost uncontrollable that i felt that way first thing in the morning but being an active young male I would compete playing sports and doing other things to occupy my mind like i always did after school and work. It hurt but I really started to love her and had the thought of possibly marrying her in another year or 2 after dating a good time. Moral of the story dont be afraid to walk away from lukewarm girls who are on the fence about 2 or several guys bouncing back and forth playing with all of their emotions.
I had deleted all contacts that were no good for me going into this year. Today I was watching my motivation videos and all of a sudden a phone number with no contact name texted me saying oh hey I haven't talked to you in forever , and I thought we were friends and this and that. I was like I don't even recognize the number and if I deleted you as a contact last year you will not be coming back into my life this year. I blocked the number and deleted the message. I'm not a convenience to any man when they think they can just randomly text me because they don't have anyone at the moment. Learned that from you. Have to be strong in your convictions because you are worth your weight in gold if you chose to be.
@@RiseAbove-wc2hs I was like that too still learning and trying to become a better person I'm glad I'm not the only one going through these things but some men are dogs they don't care about your feeling s they just trying to get that one thing I'm still learning maybe this Corona virus staying at home will give me a lot of time to meditate
@@swalker3650 hold your strength and value so high that those type of men you speak of will cower in the presence of your greatness. You know the other night I was watching some videos on scripture late night on my phone and the next door neighbor texted me (who in my past life I was explicit with) and asked me in a disgusting matter to sneak over and mess around. I instantly replied that I no longer engage in sex outside of marriage. After that text was sent my phone acted crazy. I wasn't touching it but it started to flip though a bunch of videos real quick. I got scared and I threw it down and walked out of my room. You know I think the devil works through people and he at my neighbors house speaking into that guy to test me, then came over to my room. Had to show me in such a way that he knows I'm turning away from the dark. I mean I know that sounds weird but I think that evil energy can manipulate technology like that. You know like what poltergeist can do. My house is not haunted so I know it's not my house. Just weird and thought I would share.
@@RiseAbove-wc2hs that s funny that you said that the guy u messed around with lived next door so do mine he left me and started messing with the neighbor just cause I didn't give him sex 1 day and haven't heard from him since but I have a feeling he going call or knock on my door sooner or later he just using her like he used me but she way older than him and she has a husband
I learned this the hard way one year ago after my 3 year relationship ended. I actually thought we were in a relationship but his last words to me were “I can’t remember ever asking you to be my girlfriend”. Yup, after traveling the world together, being introduced to family members as gf etc. I was obviously his option until he found something “better”. These days my heart stays guarded!!!
He was looking for an out. Nobody really says will you be my girlfriend. But He has to introduce you to his parents or important people in his life as such.
Damn!!! And that had to be so very painful ....so sorry .... Hope you are working on healing the hurt and know this ..if you know nothing else ....THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!..... Because I know from experience that we women beat yourselves up and what to know what is wrong with us or what did we so wrong ... Be strong my friend 💝💕🙏🏿💕💝
Same thing happened to me. Makes me think, what they say about you not having to be asked to be their girlfriend is not true. Make sure you make it a requirement where its a formal conversation to be had
@@crisclay2678 That's the point. They haven't learn to listen to it or just plain ignore that gut feeling to say "I pass." "I need not to engage with you." Whatever is hindering them in listening to their God given discernment is blocking them from hearing "No, thank you. I'll move on.". Both men and women. Neither are exempt from the baby making process called reproduction. Anyone you lay with is a potential parent for 18 years +.
Wasted time is something we cannot get back. Do no allow anybody to waste your time know when to walk away and close the book. Protect your peace and sanity.
I was talking to a guy for months and he played mental gymnastics with me, we went through an emotional rollercoaster just for him to recently tell me he’s not ready for a relationship and he just wants a “sample” I told him we want different things and I’ll save my body for a king who wants all of me. I cut him off for good two days ago.
Looorrrd I just went through this 😭😭 He talked to me everyday for a month, complimented me, vibed with me, we hung out, and just when I was excited about our connection and thought he was ready to start dating me..he backs away and starts talking alot less, treats me like I'm not that important and eventually ends things with me. I was devestated and depressed for over a month...just starting to try to move on now. Guess he "wanted" me but didn't value building anything with me like that. Crushed all my hopes for having an actual relationship
He who have friends must show himself friendly. Open yourself up to get more acquainted with men whom you usually wouldn't, but use discernment of course. This is how men date; they always keep their options open, until they meet the woman they want to marry. This way, you won't put all of your attention and affection into one man, please believe, they always keep a spare.
@@memoir02 I had multiple men, but there was one I still liked the most. So while yes it's ideal to have multiple men, sometimes even that doesn't work if there is someone you really like. Heartbreak is just a part of dating whether you have multiple men or not. I'm sorry that happened to you. ❤
This video is so on time! I just decided this week to stop wasting my time with a guy who obviously isn't that serious about me. His name in my phone is "He not ready sis" lol as a reminder 😂
"Don't confuse their desire with them valuing you!" 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌You said a word right there!!! Passing the collection plate right neowwwwww!!! Just ended a relationship because although he said he wanted me and our relationship, he want putting in work to keep me or this relationship! He couldn't see my worth and I shouldn't have to keep proving my value to him! If he cannot and couldn't see it, let me remove my whole self out of his view! I have no more time to waste!
A lot of people want what’s quick and convenient. Let me get what I want from this person, that person... We repeat the cycle leading up to marriage. Soon as our spouse do something we don’t like, we ready to leave. The danger of a serial dater jumping into marriage.
ive been hanging out with a guy for 7 months and he doesnt want nothing but a friendship/ sex buddy when he isnt entertaining other woman....i had to step back because i actually really like him, and it sucks when u know they dont feel the same...
Leslie Weir see this for what is, dear. If you want more, severe ties with him starting with closing your legs and cut him off. Don’t waste another minute on someone who has told and shown you they only want a piece of you. You are not a la carte. You show ppl how to treat you by what you allow. You can find the one who wants to be with you, holding on to someone who was meant to be temporary. Cut him loose and take some time to do some soul searching and build up your self efficacy. When you have high self efficacy, these types of brothers won’t even step to you. You will radiate and exude self confidence that will arrest and a man accountable for how he approaches you. You seem to know what you want, Queen. Don’t settle for anything less.
@ Don't have any sex with him without a commitment. Make sure everyone in his life know who you are and who you are to him. Tbh there is no real formula to this only preventive measurements to keep your heart protected. I just don't want you to be soo cautious that you miss out on love. You will know when a man truly loves you. He will respect you and go out of his way for you. Be safe out here young lady.
This goes for gay relationships as well. I’m not giving my goodies away to anyone and everyone who don’t deserve me. I’m so done with relationships at this point. I know this man who I like want his cake and eat it too and just wants to screw me. I’m not giving him the time of day anymore. He won’t get to even experience what sex with me will be like if he isn’t ready to be committed. I know my worth.
You are preaching. Do not confuse their desire with them valuing you. Man I had this alllllllll wrong. Now I know why I'm not married , because every guy wasnt my husband. They just wanted to play with me.
Wow! I needed to hear this. Thanks Stephan Speaks!! 💯 I have met three guys in the last several months (all at various times) saying they wanted to get to know more about me because they were intrigued and liked who I am as a person. With each guy, the conversations were good, even the their lasts texts and conversations ended on a high note and expressed interest. Literally, a day or so later I begin to notice habits changed in regards to communication. I asked one guy was everything good, he was like yep. So I'm like how are you so head over hills one day and the next you're dry. So I begin to evaluate each conversation with each guy...I reviewed my texts and they all stated something positive on both ends and I replayed our last verbal conversations (in my mind) and the same thing we got off saying we will chat later, have a great night, let me call you back in a few minutes and etc. Nothing alarming to say I needed to be ghosted. So I got in my feelings but soon realized maybe God is covering me from the men I don't need.
That's a good one. I like that. I like to always find a scripture verse to apply human philosophy to. This scripture is not only speaking about being chosen by God for his purpose but you can also apply it to relationships which also has a purpose for God's creation.
🙌🏾Thank you for setting a standard for many others out there who may not be able to identify that they are experiencing this situation right now. I say this because when you know better, you do better! 👸🏾
I love this! Confirms a current situation I’m facing. And to add, it doesn’t make the person a bad person _ you just gotta be willing to embrace the better you deserve! Took me a veeery long time to do so.
You’ve been put in favorites again, I’ve chose not to date because I’m grinding hard for my future for the past 6 years still now. But I’ll definitely keep these videos. If women truly learn to lose themselves in God, the right man will come. Waiting is not in vain, Patience is a virtue.❤️! Remember my name you’ll see it in the future breaking barriers. Much love
When I was 15yo I already knew I wanted peace more than anything else. I got blinded and distracted by this bad boy and my life changed for worse. I repeated this pattern few more times. I understood this is what I saw at home: mother and stepfather, arguments, jealousy, manipulations... I don't live a lie anymore. I try to work on myself now as I'm sick and tired of BS in my life. I know I invited all this. But no more. I'm currently single and loving my peace. Thank you for this vid Stephan :)
I believe you. For those who believe, spiritual discernment will always, ALWAYS caution u when your choice leads you away from God's instructions about a person or situation. 💙💙💙
It took me a longtime to know the true value of me. Now that I've realized my worth with the help of your videos. I'm truly in love with myself and have kicked ALL of them broken..confused..waste of time..WYD men out of my life..Bye Boys!!
I walked away! Today! I can’t continue to be with a man that does not want a relationship with me! He gave me so much attention! Taking me out all the time called me every day but that’s it! So today I broke it off and took my power back! Thanks to your videos I realized he was wasn’t the one!
My ex is in my ear at the moment about coming back to relationship but accuses me of starting an argument every time I bring up the root causes of the issues! Bye Felicia!
I think this was my last relationship of 2yrs 🤦🏾♀️....Keep telling him about his time and it just never gotten better and I kept waiting for it to come together on its own.
WOW!!! Thank you, this described my previous relationships and I really appreciate you sharing. Learned that people want you to settle for their standards and as long I I believed things were going somewhere as far as a potential marriage, I made myself believe I should stay. I also know I'm in my growing stage and becoming more healthy to be in a relationship. I realized the more unhealthy relationships, the more my healing process is going to be held up. No more settling, no more entertaining people that don't really value me or not healthy enough for a healthy relationship. #HealthyHealingGrowth
Every time you post...it makes me cry! I appreciate so much your insight and how you often times bring it back to prayer. I have to believe that the past four years were not a waste with this man...but instead...a stepping stone to something better! Thank you for all you do.
Very true! My only problem is that the ones who normally want to be with me (and willing to go above and beyond to be in a relationship), I’m not attracted to 😫.
Theres a woman I go on casual dates each time I visit her city. We met 7yrs ago but I lived across the country. She wants a relationship with me but doesnt want a LDR as Im away in the military for 2 more yrs, then Im moving to her city. We've each dated others in the meantime so I'm not exactly putting my life on hold, but she is the one I truly wish to be with.
Works both ways. I began seeing a lady. I'm a great-looking guy, in shape, professional, intriguing, sexy, super intelligent and she has had more fun than she has ever had - This is what she said after I asked her “ where do you see this going ?” The flattered y was followed by “ I'm not looking for a serious relationship “. I said, “ ok, I will fall back .” I dropped her that second. After 5 minutes she called then texted then called. I'm good. We are both over 40. Ain't nobody got time for that.
Short & Snappy yet more in this little video to save lives lol 👏🏽👌🏾 People sometimes ask me “why someone like you not got a man?” my response often, they compliment but leave it at that. Ngl I’m tired of sweet words that don’t go anywhere, I’m so over it 🙄🤦🏽♀️ Keep them to yourself Brandon if you ain’t willing to graft! Thankfully I’m only 21 so I got some time on my hands 💃🏽
The two men I have Dated We're Faithful to me. I have met numerous men In my life and they were All Gentlemen. I have No regrets from my past Relationships.
I absolutely needed to hear this today. It has made my own living Reality true. It’s time for my CHANGE. I have been feeling this for a few months now about the guy I’m seeing and I’ve been knowing better as well. But today something hit and it hit different. I deserve what I need and not what he wants. Thanks Stephen 👏👏👏
That's good, that's important, see what they really want, yes my time and money was waisted... One year and half gone, he really wasn't ready, listen to what there saying and how they, I think he wanted marriage, but four months before the wedding, he broke up with me, saying it's not God's will.... Wow it's been since February he broke up me, I'm still healing its a process, he was telling he wasn't ready after he ask to marry him on December 25th, 2019. There was signs but I should have broke up a long time ago
Wow i need this God is always on time. I'm not wasting my time. Thank you God and stephan great message really help me. Don't settle for less i deserve better. 👏☺🙏
It's amazing that so many women didn't seem to realize this until seeing this video. To me this is pretty obvious, pretty much the most basic thing you need to know in order to be able to properly filter bad people out...
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Knowing the difference between a man who wants a piece of you vs. The man who wants to be a part of you will save a bunch of headaches, heartbreaks, and time wasting.
Come on now!!!! I felt that!!! 😍
Well said!
Exactly
Facts
@Terrance Baptiste holding out sex will make a man manipulate a woman for sex . The way a knowledgeable woman carries herself a real divine man will automatically respect her because she respects herself in every way possible. Knowledge is power
My husband passed away in 2017 & he wrote me a letter months before he passed away from cancer. I happened to have found the letter a few months later in my nightstand. There was a specific part of his letter that will always be in my heart and cherished forever! He wrote.... “There will be many men who want you, but only one will “DESERVE” you”! 😭❤️
Diamondeyez his message so touching heart . I feel the special message from him really care about you. Like in a movie
HUGS
Aw😔
❤️
Omg that’s so sweet of him.. I hope he’s looking down & happy for w
Nothing makes a man stay faithful but his own will. ❤
Preach!
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A man with knowledge and a woman with knowledge that will give them all they need to prosper .
Men are exhausting 🤦🏽♀️ I gave up. Life is too short for all these mind games 🤷🏽♀️
I agree 💯☝️
Men are incredibly simple. Actions speak louder than words. Simply listen to his actions and you'll know how he feels about you. It's you women who make things complicated by refusing to simply just do what I mentioned.
Facts!!!
It pays to be Single
Exactly
If ur absence doesnt make them want u, then ur presence shouldnt be around them...
so true!! 100% agree :)
Fact
Amen
Only women would agree on this 😂
Just walked away from a girl i was dating. Asked the exclusive question after we kissed she paused and waited like she needed to think abt it but in my mind there was nothing to think abt. I had been dating her for 7 months spending time with her and more importantly stopped dating other girls because i thought she was most special. I asked her if she would be my girlfriend she paused for a while i broke the silence and said dont worry abt it(i was pretty hurt that it was a question she had to think abt it) i ended the date a little early stated i had to be up early. She texted dont take my silence as a no(but i knew better than that) i told her how i felt and that i wanted a relationship with her and that i don't want to force it if it's not something shes ready for right now. She replied her ex boyfriend is crazy and wont leave her alone. In other words shes back and forth on the fence and wants to get back with her ex that left her but shes uncertain if she should leave him for good. I could tell from her answer she wont let go of her ex so i did a favor and said hey well i told u how i felt and....went on a paragraph..and said well hey it was really nice knowing you for the time but i rather just focus on my individual self and improving my life from this point forward i hope nothing but the best on you and your journey. Have a good one. She texted back i meant i cant be your gf right now what do you mean? We can still talk i care for you. I didnt reply back. The fact that she went that long of a time without telling me at least after the 2nd date that "i like you and want to date u but right now im healing or something like im hurting or something. It was as i felt being used to get her mind off of him. I'm dating another beautiful girl at my college now. It took a whole month not to wake up feeling like my heart weighed 40lbs and feeling sad it was almost uncontrollable that i felt that way first thing in the morning but being an active young male I would compete playing sports and doing other things to occupy my mind like i always did after school and work. It hurt but I really started to love her and had the thought of possibly marrying her in another year or 2 after dating a good time. Moral of the story dont be afraid to walk away from lukewarm girls who are on the fence about 2 or several guys bouncing back and forth playing with all of their emotions.
I love that you know your self worth and you valued your love and emotions. That's rare in nowadays boys. Keep it up. Men are worthy too. 👏👏
PREACH!
Stay strong and stay blessed!
She could’ve really been afraid, I’ve been stalked by an ex before., but glad you recognize your worth and know you don’t gotta be apart of the drama.
Her loss, she’ll never find someone like you. Keep doing you King💕
You a smart man and you did the right thing
I had deleted all contacts that were no good for me going into this year. Today I was watching my motivation videos and all of a sudden a phone number with no contact name texted me saying oh hey I haven't talked to you in forever , and I thought we were friends and this and that. I was like I don't even recognize the number and if I deleted you as a contact last year you will not be coming back into my life this year. I blocked the number and deleted the message. I'm not a convenience to any man when they think they can just randomly text me because they don't have anyone at the moment. Learned that from you. Have to be strong in your convictions because you are worth your weight in gold if you chose to be.
I deleted my contacts last week ive even started blocking I hate that this day and time has turned to a hook up culture it saddens me
@@RiseAbove-wc2hs I was like that too still learning and trying to become a better person I'm glad I'm not the only one going through these things but some men are dogs they don't care about your feeling s they just trying to get that one thing I'm still learning maybe this Corona virus staying at home will give me a lot of time to meditate
@@swalker3650 hold your strength and value so high that those type of men you speak of will cower in the presence of your greatness. You know the other night I was watching some videos on scripture late night on my phone and the next door neighbor texted me (who in my past life I was explicit with) and asked me in a disgusting matter to sneak over and mess around. I instantly replied that I no longer engage in sex outside of marriage. After that text was sent my phone acted crazy. I wasn't touching it but it started to flip though a bunch of videos real quick. I got scared and I threw it down and walked out of my room. You know I think the devil works through people and he at my neighbors house speaking into that guy to test me, then came over to my room. Had to show me in such a way that he knows I'm turning away from the dark. I mean I know that sounds weird but I think that evil energy can manipulate technology like that. You know like what poltergeist can do. My house is not haunted so I know it's not my house. Just weird and thought I would share.
Girl we need to talk i need to the same
@@RiseAbove-wc2hs that s funny that you said that the guy u messed around with lived next door so do mine he left me and started messing with the neighbor just cause I didn't give him sex 1 day and haven't heard from him since but I have a feeling he going call or knock on my door sooner or later he just using her like he used me but she way older than him and she has a husband
You just helped me make a decision.
What time we meeting then
David Parkinson 😂😂😂
@@CherrellMishelle I'm sure that was your decision lol😁💕
David Parkinson You just gotta troll huh? 🤣
@@CherrellMishelle yes I have to I'm quarentned lol
I learned this the hard way one year ago after my 3 year relationship ended. I actually thought we were in a relationship but his last words to me were “I can’t remember ever asking you to be my girlfriend”. Yup, after traveling the world together, being introduced to family members as gf etc. I was obviously his option until he found something “better”. These days my heart stays guarded!!!
He was looking for an out. Nobody really says will you be my girlfriend. But He has to introduce you to his parents or important people in his life as such.
So sorry about this. May God restore you in all the places that you feel drained ♥️🙏
Damn!!! And that had to be so very painful ....so sorry .... Hope you are working on healing the hurt and know this ..if you know nothing else ....THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!..... Because I know from experience that we women beat yourselves up and what to know what is wrong with us or what did we so wrong ...
Be strong my friend
💝💕🙏🏿💕💝
Same thing happened to me. Makes me think, what they say about you not having to be asked to be their girlfriend is not true. Make sure you make it a requirement where its a formal conversation to be had
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Intuition is everything!
Kandy Gurl lil that shit ain’t real ...that’s why chicks got multiple baby daddies and failed marriages
100% agree!
@@crisclay2678 That's the point. They haven't learn to listen to it or just plain ignore that gut feeling to say "I pass." "I need not to engage with you." Whatever is hindering them in listening to their God given discernment is blocking them from hearing "No, thank you. I'll move on.". Both men and women. Neither are exempt from the baby making process called reproduction. Anyone you lay with is a potential parent for 18 years +.
@smtechx5000 🤔
Wasted time is something we cannot get back. Do no allow anybody to waste your time know when to walk away and close the book. Protect your peace and sanity.
I was talking to a guy for months and he played mental gymnastics with me, we went through an emotional rollercoaster just for him to recently tell me he’s not ready for a relationship and he just wants a “sample” I told him we want different things and I’ll save my body for a king who wants all of me. I cut him off for good two days ago.
How'd tht turn out for you
Looorrrd I just went through this 😭😭 He talked to me everyday for a month, complimented me, vibed with me, we hung out, and just when I was excited about our connection and thought he was ready to start dating me..he backs away and starts talking alot less, treats me like I'm not that important and eventually ends things with me. I was devestated and depressed for over a month...just starting to try to move on now. Guess he "wanted" me but didn't value building anything with me like that. Crushed all my hopes for having an actual relationship
That's why sweetheart, you have to date more than one man ar a time, to prevent this from happening.
@@shekinahfire5936 I've heard that, but what if you don't have options? I don't have men lined up to want to date me like that :(
He who have friends must show himself friendly. Open yourself up to get more acquainted with men whom you usually wouldn't, but use discernment of course. This is how men date; they always keep their options open, until they meet the woman they want to marry. This way, you won't put all of your attention and affection into one man, please believe, they always keep a spare.
@@memoir02 I had multiple men, but there was one I still liked the most. So while yes it's ideal to have multiple men, sometimes even that doesn't work if there is someone you really like. Heartbreak is just a part of dating whether you have multiple men or not. I'm sorry that happened to you. ❤
This video is so on time! I just decided this week to stop wasting my time with a guy who obviously isn't that serious about me. His name in my phone is "He not ready sis" lol as a reminder 😂
"Don't confuse their desire with them valuing you!" 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌You said a word right there!!! Passing the collection plate right neowwwwww!!! Just ended a relationship because although he said he wanted me and our relationship, he want putting in work to keep me or this relationship! He couldn't see my worth and I shouldn't have to keep proving my value to him! If he cannot and couldn't see it, let me remove my whole self out of his view! I have no more time to waste!
A lot of people want what’s quick and convenient. Let me get what I want from this person, that person...
We repeat the cycle leading up to marriage. Soon as our spouse do something we don’t like, we ready to leave. The danger of a serial dater jumping into marriage.
It is bad. But prayerfully people will change in Jesus name.
Ladenna Young amen!
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ive been hanging out with a guy for 7 months and he doesnt want nothing but a friendship/ sex buddy when he isnt entertaining other woman....i had to step back because i actually really like him, and it sucks when u know they dont feel the same...
I went through this last year with a guy broke my heart 💔 I l learned my lesson though
Better to break up a relationship than a marriage. All the best.
Leslie Weir see this for what is, dear. If you want more, severe ties with him starting with closing your legs and cut him off. Don’t waste another minute on someone who has told and shown you they only want a piece of you. You are not a la carte. You show ppl how to treat you by what you allow. You can find the one who wants to be with you, holding on to someone who was meant to be temporary. Cut him loose and take some time to do some soul searching and build up your self efficacy. When you have high self efficacy, these types of brothers won’t even step to you. You will radiate and exude self confidence that will arrest and a man accountable for how he approaches you. You seem to know what you want, Queen. Don’t settle for anything less.
You must love yourself, 1st & foremost. Men can only do what YOU let them do.
Get rid of his ass.
PLAIN AND SIMPLE!
Don't confuse someone "investing" in you as love. Men will spend spend (money and time) for that 🐈 then drop you like nothing after getting it.
@ Don't have any sex with him without a commitment. Make sure everyone in his life know who you are and who you are to him. Tbh there is no real formula to this only preventive measurements to keep your heart protected. I just don't want you to be soo cautious that you miss out on love. You will know when a man truly loves you. He will respect you and go out of his way for you. Be safe out here young lady.
This goes for gay relationships as well. I’m not giving my goodies away to anyone and everyone who don’t deserve me. I’m so done with relationships at this point. I know this man who I like want his cake and eat it too and just wants to screw me. I’m not giving him the time of day anymore. He won’t get to even experience what sex with me will be like if he isn’t ready to be committed. I know my worth.
You are preaching. Do not confuse their desire with them valuing you. Man I had this alllllllll wrong. Now I know why I'm not married , because every guy wasnt my husband. They just wanted to play with me.
You are changing my life slowly but surely.
Wow! I needed to hear this. Thanks Stephan Speaks!! 💯 I have met three guys in the last several months (all at various times) saying they wanted to get to know more about me because they were intrigued and liked who I am as a person. With each guy, the conversations were good, even the their lasts texts and conversations ended on a high note and expressed interest. Literally, a day or so later I begin to notice habits changed in regards to communication. I asked one guy was everything good, he was like yep. So I'm like how are you so head over hills one day and the next you're dry. So I begin to evaluate each conversation with each guy...I reviewed my texts and they all stated something positive on both ends and I replayed our last verbal conversations (in my mind) and the same thing we got off saying we will chat later, have a great night, let me call you back in a few minutes and etc. Nothing alarming to say I needed to be ghosted. So I got in my feelings but soon realized maybe God is covering me from the men I don't need.
Exactly 💯💯🔑
Rejection is Gods protection
'Don't entertain temporary people' …well said!!
On time Word! I just made a major decision, wasn’t easy but I believe it’s worth it...#growth #ValueYourselfQueen
As did I girl! We got this and will get through🙏🏾💪🏾
You are helping so many of us! Don't stop! Praying for you! 🙏🏽
This is a whole word! Especially during this corona season, loneliness is real
👏🏾👏🏾 I tell my clients this all the time 🙏🏾 many are called few are chosen
That's a good one. I like that. I like to always find a scripture verse to apply human philosophy to. This scripture is not only speaking about being chosen by God for his purpose but you can also apply it to relationships which also has a purpose for God's creation.
🙌🏾Thank you for setting a standard for many others out there who may not be able to identify that they are experiencing this situation right now. I say this because when you know better, you do better! 👸🏾
Some may want me but may not be for me. Deep 💞🙏
so good! :)
@@ShanaChow ikr💯
I love this! Confirms a current situation I’m facing. And to add, it doesn’t make the person a bad person _ you just gotta be willing to embrace the better you deserve! Took me a veeery long time to do so.
I heard that👌 it's time to stop wasting time on ppl 💯
You’ve been put in favorites again, I’ve chose not to date because I’m grinding hard for my future for the past 6 years still now. But I’ll definitely keep these videos. If women truly learn to lose themselves in God, the right man will come. Waiting is not in vain, Patience is a virtue.❤️! Remember my name you’ll see it in the future breaking barriers. Much love
I wish I could have heard it like that 20 yrs ago, I would been on a different path. Bit it's neva too late. Thanks Stephen
Thank You 🙏 but I’m NO LONGER INTERESTED IN LOVE!!! STAY BLESSED ALWAYS!!!
I'm sick and tired of it. My whole life I've never dated a man who really wanted a relationship just hookups.
sigh.....
Same sis same😏
Same girl
When I was 15yo I already knew I wanted peace more than anything else. I got blinded and distracted by this bad boy and my life changed for worse. I repeated this pattern few more times. I understood this is what I saw at home: mother and stepfather, arguments, jealousy, manipulations... I don't live a lie anymore. I try to work on myself now as I'm sick and tired of BS in my life. I know I invited all this. But no more. I'm currently single and loving my peace. Thank you for this vid Stephan :)
Sooo true
many will want you but few will invest in you , wow... great way to put it
"Do not confuse desire with value"
Stephan ..
WoW!!!!
That's why I stay by myself and don't put my trust, love, faith, etc. in a Male or anyone else but GOD. 🙏
THATS MY GREATEST REVELATION ‼️ DO NOT NEED A MAN‼️ JUST NEED GOD‼️ 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️‼️
@@dianagentile7636
🙏 to that. Be safe, aware and stay healthy.✊🙂
💯💯💯💯💯💯
All my trust love and heart belongs to God. God loves us and God bless everyone.🙏☺💕
What Stephan? Did you read my mind or something? This video is right on time and the truth!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
These men today are so superficial, I want something deep...I want something real...you feel me
Yeah and women love to judge partners based on things they can control like how rich or tall they were born
Necole not all men
Joe V ok Joe
of course the person who makes this comment spells "nicole" with an e
Honestly I don’t need anyone to invest in me. I just want my peace. God’s timing ❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥
I believe you. For those who believe, spiritual discernment will always, ALWAYS caution u when your choice leads you away from God's instructions about a person or situation. 💙💙💙
Yes, Yes, Yes...Stephan you spoke the truth...
There is a difference in seducing you and pursuing you.
Stella Kamau 👏🏾
Thank you
Listen! 💪👏👏
Short and sweet and straight to the point.
Excellent and insightful video.
I really needed to hear this ❤
Being single now, you are helping me to figure this one out! Thank you so much, I appreciate you
Kim Duguay Kim are you filipino?
It took me a longtime to know the true value of me. Now that I've realized my worth with the help of your videos. I'm truly in love with myself and have kicked ALL of them broken..confused..waste of time..WYD men out of my life..Bye Boys!!
Absolutely! I'm not wasting anymore time on temporary people. Value over desire, indeed. Grace and peace!
I walked away! Today! I can’t continue to be with a man that does not want a relationship with me! He gave me so much attention! Taking me out all the time called me every day but that’s it! So today I broke it off and took my power back! Thanks to your videos I realized he was wasn’t the one!
I wished I watch this video 3 months ago.
My ex is in my ear at the moment about coming back to relationship but accuses me of starting an argument every time I bring up the root causes of the issues! Bye Felicia!
You are teaching. I wish I knew this years ago. You have to be patient or those temporary people will use you up
Identify who really desire being with you as opposed to those who just likes the idea of being with you.
Phew! I mean... Wow. Short, concise, and LOADED!!
I think this was my last relationship of 2yrs 🤦🏾♀️....Keep telling him about his time and it just never gotten better and I kept waiting for it to come together on its own.
Beautifully... said...
I just backed off...
No explanation..was needed...
I appreciate those Words of Encouragement...
Let the church say Amen....what a word! Confirmation again that I cut off someone before I waisted my time.
Gee I just love the truth that you speak! Thank you! 💕
Thank you love! You have given me hope with your wonderful words of inspiration.
Wow, you did that! You’re so smart man of God🙌🏽
WOW!!! Thank you, this described my previous relationships and I really appreciate you sharing. Learned that people want you to settle for their standards and as long I I believed things were going somewhere as far as a potential marriage, I made myself believe I should stay. I also know I'm in my growing stage and becoming more healthy to be in a relationship. I realized the more unhealthy relationships, the more my healing process is going to be held up. No more settling, no more entertaining people that don't really value me or not healthy enough for a healthy relationship.
#HealthyHealingGrowth
It’s so hard .. especially when they’re actually a great person .. and a
Loyal friend :: but they don’t want more ❤
Every time you post...it makes me cry! I appreciate so much your insight and how you often times bring it back to prayer. I have to believe that the past four years were not a waste with this man...but instead...a stepping stone to something better! Thank you for all you do.
Your video seems to speak to everyone and not a specific group. Much respect, King
“Oh, the love that thought it; oh the grace that brought it.”
Omg give this guy a Nobel price he speaks all the truths without deceiving people.
Very well said my beloved brother ✌️ and God bless you
Yes I agree it can sometimes be more to it than that .Not always how we are seeing it.
Very true! My only problem is that the ones who normally want to be with me (and willing to go above and beyond to be in a relationship), I’m not attracted to 😫.
Theres a woman I go on casual dates each time I visit her city. We met 7yrs ago but I lived across the country. She wants a relationship with me but doesnt want a LDR as Im away in the military for 2 more yrs, then Im moving to her city. We've each dated others in the meantime so I'm not exactly putting my life on hold, but she is the one I truly wish to be with.
Works both ways. I began seeing a lady. I'm a great-looking guy, in shape, professional, intriguing, sexy, super intelligent and she has had more fun than she has ever had - This is what she said after I asked her “ where do you see this going ?” The flattered y was followed by “ I'm not looking for a serious relationship “. I said, “ ok, I will fall back .” I dropped her that second. After 5 minutes she called then texted then called. I'm good. We are both over 40. Ain't nobody got time for that.
So clearly put.. excellent advice for discriminating the Kings from the clowns
Plrase expand on this, its really important to figure out quickly what man is worth it
Short & Snappy yet more in this little video to save lives lol 👏🏽👌🏾 People sometimes ask me “why someone like you not got a man?” my response often, they compliment but leave it at that. Ngl I’m tired of sweet words that don’t go anywhere, I’m so over it 🙄🤦🏽♀️ Keep them to yourself Brandon if you ain’t willing to graft! Thankfully I’m only 21 so I got some time on my hands 💃🏽
The two men I have Dated
We're Faithful to me.
I have met numerous men
In my life and they were
All Gentlemen. I have
No regrets from my past
Relationships.
I absolutely needed to hear this today. It has made my own living Reality true. It’s time for my CHANGE. I have been feeling this for a few months now about the guy I’m seeing and I’ve been knowing better as well. But today something hit and it hit different. I deserve what I need and not what he wants. Thanks Stephen 👏👏👏
That's good, that's important, see what they really want, yes my time and money was waisted... One year and half gone, he really wasn't ready, listen to what there saying and how they, I think he wanted marriage, but four months before the wedding, he broke up with me, saying it's not God's will.... Wow it's been since February he broke up me, I'm still healing its a process, he was telling he wasn't ready after he ask to marry him on December 25th, 2019. There was signs but I should have broke up a long time ago
Maybe your wrong
True about that am going through that now looking for the one who really want to play their part in a relationship
I could have listened to you for hours on this topic.
Facts
Amen to those willing to put in the work 🙏🏾. Thanks for sharing!
Who would dislike this video? I agree with what he’s saying 💯
I see you Boaz!!!! Thank you! Keep standing on the word of God and your Ruth is coming. One of my favorite love story in the Old Testament
This spoke to me so loud,this is so true...I realize people are so artificial at times...needed this motivation.
I need a longer video on this topic!
Wow i need this God is always on time. I'm not wasting my time. Thank you God and stephan great message really help me. Don't settle for less i deserve better. 👏☺🙏
I tell them I'm a solitary person. They get it. They get away.
So many wasters of valuable time....
@smtechx5000 Really???????
Short and sweet to the point
It's amazing that so many women didn't seem to realize this until seeing this video. To me this is pretty obvious, pretty much the most basic thing you need to know in order to be able to properly filter bad people out...
I am happy I came across this channel..badly needed it
Stephan: Exactly! By the way, I did get two of your books.
Thank you so much for this message.
Amen!!! Real talk, so true! Thank you for all of your videos with encouragement for true peace and a healthy relationship.
Wow this is powerful
I've been doing this with someone for like 6 years now!
No more wasting my time! Thank you hun. Always dropping gems 😊
get it Queen! :)
Always come through for me