From a female perspective and what has worked for me: make sure you look and smell good whenever he sees you, smile and look happy instead of looking mad and pissed off. Be feminine and turn off the masculine energy, when he looks in your direction smile and greet him. When he is ready to talk, respond in a caring and soft manner…yet respectful to yourself. I believe men just need space sometimes and that’s ok. If you want him to miss you, appear to be a place he can return to that is peaceful. If you want him out of your life, move on 🤷🏽♀️ I see nothing wrong with telling a man he makes you feel good and safe when he’s around and you miss him, but you respect his space. I don’t like games, so I don’t play them.
Confidence: Is when you truly believe the person whom wants you wants you back, but being realistic about what is going on in the connection. Love is not supposed to be confusing.
I have to stress that We have to make sure we are in a position to hear from our Heavenly father. Seeking his will in choosing the spouse he need us to be with because of his purpose. My encouragement is to be very vulnerable and dont be scared to be wrong and thrive from that. God will see you through it all🙏🙏🙏.
Love your videos! The part about not always being available is more about making sure as women we continue to have our own life. As long as you’re not doing it as a game, if you usually go to Bible study Tuesdays don’t miss that for a date. If you hang out with your sister on Friday nights keep doing that don’t reschedule for a date. It’s a balance.
I would like to chime in on this post. I am from the Generation X Generation, and by now, in this stage in our lives, we don't have time for games. Gaming should never be played or even discussed. Who has that type of energy? I feel that most good women are always opened for conversation when things seem dismal, distant, dull, or even dark. Our generation is a little more used to the men, taking lead with conversations and approaches. I do know things in society with dating etiquette have changed, but if a man is really feeling a woman, then shoot your shot. A man with his own unique approach can vibe whether or not the woman is for him or not. If a guy really wants that conversation, then all he has to do is reach out. I guess I am a little old school. Before the texting game, if you wanted someone, you either called or wrote. I'm just saying.
I think make yourself 💯 available and vulnerable if you see there is effort from him. Reciprocating his energy. Say yes!! If he’s the one ….. you will know because he will stick around. No more games !!!
People should be following their OWN intuition, and not base their decision on mere "advice". It's your life to live. People have to take accountibility for their OWN ACTIONS. Not saying "Well he or she said for me to do this.." As adults we must not give other people control of our life...
The Bible says the heart is deceitful above all things. When our heart is in the right place, it is a beautiful thing, but our hearts can be deceptive and wicked too. It’s so complicated this thing called life! I just I’m trying my best to follow God so that my heart will stay in the right place.
@@docwhoshops I don't always listen to what the bible says, because you have to use discernment considering how many times the scriptures have been tampered with. People know when their heart is in the right place or not, and certainly TMH does.
I always say analyze things from your highest sense or vibration, because it would be a shame for anyone to misjudged based on their own insecurities. It should be an equal give and take. No other way. I am usually a great communicator, so if I have done that and someone still doesn't get it, then that isn't my fault.
Stephan will ALWAYS be the GOAT! These other new relationship coaches will never be able touch Stephan.. that’s why Stephan is still in the game while you don’t even hear about these other dating coaches they all fall off after 5 years and Stephan been in game over 10 years He is AUTHENTIC and honestly want to see women win in healthy relationships
Oh my gosh that quote you said at the beginning. I literally had tears streaming out of my eyes. That was a few days ago. I've come back to this video just now to hear you say it again and the same thing happening. Beautiful ❤
Trust issues...if someone is used to people lying to them to the point where even if people are being honest with them about things they have already told them, then again that is the fault of the person with the trust issues...
My opinion about “don’t always say yes to him” is… It’s not about me playing game. But most of the time women are afraid to offend men by saying no or refuse to do things, even though she’s uncomfortable. And many times we tend to do that. That’s why the topic of “don’t always say yes to him” exists. Because we are afraid to offend men and their reactions after we said no would make us feel like a bad guy. So I feel like this topic is actually to tell women that we don’t need to say yes to everything men ask for when we are uncomfortable or unable to. For me personally I’m not playing game if I ever say no to men, but it’s because I really can’t. I wouldn’t say no to the things I want to do with him either, if I can’t or don’t want to for a reason, then I would say no. If I can or want, I would say yes. Simply like that but sometimes people take this topic in the wrong way.
What if he’s there for you when you need him, but you find out he’s into other woman as well? I’ve felt it best to pull back, not call, text etc. People give time to whom they want to give their time to. My thing is, why help me if you’re into others? What is his agenda? Have his cake and eat it too? Who has time for that🤷🏽♀️
Im tired of these men honestly have met 4 already in dating sites and they end up being married...im coming to the conclusion of wanting to be single now and not have to deal with too much nonsense! Sadly it comes to that! Im enjoying my life with friends that are single as well and having a great time with them.
That is playing games. All these things are playing games. When you like each other you will know it , period. You will know the difference and you won’t have to question it. It won’t matter who calls who. You won’t keep account of injuries. You will know by , if he does what he says he’s going to do .
It's the way this youtuber, this man, came in after a CERTAIN youtuber.. *cough cough player's club anyone?* started putting all these manipulation tactics in my head. Me knowing that IS NOT ME am just like "Really this is what is gonna take me to my dream guy?..." I know it's all on me of what I decide to do but this guy is giving advice that isn't..so toxic. Thank you.
Why is missing someone has to be a bad thing? It is not supposed to be..no tricks there.A person can show a person exactly whom they are, but they have to be paying attention...
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Being a person of peace has to be in your character. If you don't this is something you should work on. It is important for you to work on your own peace before you can offer peace.
This is so funny because I am one of those naturally mysterious people. I'm really trying to work on it because there is a guy that lives across the hall from me and he told me I "move like a spy"...lol. That sounds really bad.
Great video! Game players need to get played. Sorry not sorry. It's childish and manipulative. Ain't nobody got time for that. One thing about "game playing & playing a role" sooner or later they're going to forget their lines...more like "LIES" and get exposed. But when you're being yourself, transparent and tell the truth you don't have to worry about that!
I am so glad that I am thinking the same way. I wonder at times if I am right. You validated this for me. Thank you. I am relieved. Now the playing games to make you miss them or being mysterious really aggravates me when it's done to me. Is it to make me wonder and get bothered, is it to make me jealous? I really get turned off by this.
Geese, what's up with all this extra stuff? Just be you. Be genuine, be honest. Be respectful. Be kind. If they like you for you then ok, but if they don't, then that's Ok also. Just be yourself.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
So true there is no time to play games life is too short Need to know what you want and if you dont know what you want then there is the door see yah 🚪💯🤷🏽♀️🥰 Hey Stephan love & light Happy Blessed Friday 10-11-24
He broke up with me but I have hope that he gone come back 😞and he told me not to block him so that means he want access to me?I don’t see myself with him unless is in person cuz we are long distance
Why will he break up then ask u not to block him? Cant you see this is a toxic attitude and he thinks he still has the right to go in and out of your life whenever he want??? Girl be wise!
We broke up, but we still talk almost every day. We broke up a few times before and got back. I want us to get back together, i told him how i feel, and he told me how he feels. I did have some insecurities, and brought things from the past relationship into this one, due to not having time to heal. Its been a month or so since we broke up, i am over the hurt from my past. Its been two weeks, and still waiting for him to let me know what he wants to. What should i do?
Wait. If he really loves you he will come back, pursue you. If a man wants you there is no mountain that he will not move to be with you! If he doesn’t do that then you probably need to dig deeper and ask yourself does he really love me? Does he really miss me?
You need to wait 6 to 9 months. Really want to waste so much time of your best years? A husband came back to his wife after 9 months and she was waiting to take him back. This happens but they were married for 10 or 15 years. You just tried to start a relationship. Forget it, focus on yourself and get yourself together. You better travel for some months or move to another city or another country. This helps you to get over your old relationship and get over this mess with the actual guy. Get a new phone number and don't give it to him. Start over and get a new life.
I am so glad that I am thinking the same way. I wonder at times if I am right. You validated this for me. Thank you. I am relieved. Now the playing games to make you miss them or being mysterious really aggravates me when it's done to me. Is it to make me wonder and get bothered, is it to make me jealous? I really get turned off by this.
From a female perspective and what has worked for me: make sure you look and smell good whenever he sees you, smile and look happy instead of looking mad and pissed off. Be feminine and turn off the masculine energy, when he looks in your direction smile and greet him. When he is ready to talk, respond in a caring and soft manner…yet respectful to yourself. I believe men just need space sometimes and that’s ok. If you want him to miss you, appear to be a place he can return to that is peaceful. If you want him out of your life, move on 🤷🏽♀️ I see nothing wrong with telling a man he makes you feel good and safe when he’s around and you miss him, but you respect his space. I don’t like games, so I don’t play them.
Excellent advice. Thank you for sharing!
This is excellent... i believe that too
Same here
There is nothing better than finding someone who matches your energy. 🖤
Confidence: Is when you truly believe the person whom wants you wants you back, but being realistic about what is going on in the connection. Love is not supposed to be confusing.
Agreed!
A guy came in my restaurant last week, he said he see’s transparency when he looks in my eyes. No games ❤ it was a touching compliment.
I think the bigger question should be how are you planning on making a healthy relationship playing mind games with each other.
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Don't do it. It's unhealthy 😢
@@MeetStephanSpeaksI think the follow up question is how do you plan on building a healthy relationship by not being the real you.
Right.. nobody should be playing games. It just doesn't work..
Well said 🙏
I have to stress that We have to make sure we are in a position to hear from our Heavenly father. Seeking his will in choosing the spouse he need us to be with because of his purpose. My encouragement is to be very vulnerable and dont be scared to be wrong and thrive from that. God will see you through it all🙏🙏🙏.
Well said 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you sweetheart and thank you for receiving ❤🙏💪🙌
AMEN!!❤🙏🏾❤
Love your videos! The part about not always being available is more about making sure as women we continue to have our own life. As long as you’re not doing it as a game, if you usually go to Bible study Tuesdays don’t miss that for a date. If you hang out with your sister on Friday nights keep doing that don’t reschedule for a date. It’s a balance.
I would like to chime in on this post. I am from the Generation X Generation, and by now, in this stage in our lives, we don't have time for games. Gaming should never be played or even discussed. Who has that type of energy? I feel that most good women are always opened for conversation when things seem dismal, distant, dull, or even dark. Our generation is a little more used to the men, taking lead with conversations and approaches. I do know things in society with dating etiquette have changed, but if a man is really feeling a woman, then shoot your shot. A man with his own unique approach can vibe whether or not the woman is for him or not. If a guy really wants that conversation, then all he has to do is reach out. I guess I am a little old school. Before the texting game, if you wanted someone, you either called or wrote. I'm just saying.
Big facts 💯 very well said.🎉🎉😂
I think make yourself 💯 available and vulnerable if you see there is effort from him. Reciprocating his energy. Say yes!! If he’s the one ….. you will know because he will stick around. No more games !!!
HONESTY is the best policy just be yourself
I,ll continue to be 100 percent me
Points 🤗
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6:16
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16:09
Thank you!
Thank you
Thank you 🙏
In end goal just be yourself and respect yourself.
Show him who you are… or “he can get the hell on” 😂❤🙏🏾
People should be following their OWN intuition, and not base their decision on mere "advice". It's your life to live. People have to take accountibility for their OWN ACTIONS. Not saying "Well he or she said for me to do this.." As adults we must not give other people control of our life...
Awww that intro was touching and I totally agree. I believe all of us would long to have their love interest miss them…great advice!
Lovely quote!❤️
…We need transparency & openness.💯Showing who you are..💯
I agree💯
I love this👍🏼💯❤️
Excellent video!
You’re always on point!
Yes! Thank you 🙏
The heart is a beautiful thing...
The Bible says the heart is deceitful above all things. When our heart is in the right place, it is a beautiful thing, but our hearts can be deceptive and wicked too. It’s so complicated this thing called life! I just I’m trying my best to follow God so that my heart will stay in the right place.
@@docwhoshops I don't always listen to what the bible says, because you have to use discernment considering how many times the scriptures have been tampered with. People know when their heart is in the right place or not, and certainly TMH does.
@@docwhoshops 💯 exactly what I said 😂 the heart ❤️ renewed by Christ is a beautiful thing!
Well said. Treat people how you want to be treated
Good to know this from a man. Thanks 😊
Thank you 🙏
I always say analyze things from your highest sense or vibration, because it would be a shame for anyone to misjudged based on their own insecurities. It should be an equal give and take. No other way. I am usually a great communicator, so if I have done that and someone still doesn't get it, then that isn't my fault.
Stephan will ALWAYS be the GOAT! These other new relationship coaches will never be able touch Stephan.. that’s why Stephan is still in the game while you don’t even hear about these other dating coaches they all fall off after 5 years and Stephan been in game over 10 years He is AUTHENTIC and honestly want to see women win in healthy relationships
I don’t want anybody missing me I’m better off alone ….. I’m tired of doing house chores need some rest goodnight guys 😉
😂
So why you watch this type of videos??
😂😂
Oh my gosh that quote you said at the beginning. I literally had tears streaming out of my eyes. That was a few days ago. I've come back to this video just now to hear you say it again and the same thing happening. Beautiful ❤
It all sounds exhausting.
😂 ur telling me x
Trust issues...if someone is used to people lying to them to the point where even if people are being honest with them about things they have already told them, then again that is the fault of the person with the trust issues...
My opinion about “don’t always say yes to him” is…
It’s not about me playing game. But most of the time women are afraid to offend men by saying no or refuse to do things, even though she’s uncomfortable. And many times we tend to do that. That’s why the topic of “don’t always say yes to him” exists. Because we are afraid to offend men and their reactions after we said no would make us feel like a bad guy. So I feel like this topic is actually to tell women that we don’t need to say yes to everything men ask for when we are uncomfortable or unable to. For me personally I’m not playing game if I ever say no to men, but it’s because I really can’t. I wouldn’t say no to the things I want to do with him either, if I can’t or don’t want to for a reason, then I would say no. If I can or want, I would say yes. Simply like that but sometimes people take this topic in the wrong way.
What if he’s there for you when you need him, but you find out he’s into other woman as well? I’ve felt it best to pull back, not call, text etc. People give time to whom they want to give their time to. My thing is, why help me if you’re into others? What is his agenda? Have his cake and eat it too? Who has time for that🤷🏽♀️
I see this as well with my counselor whos attracted to me, I think he’s inconsistent because like a lot of men- they just want to sleep with you.
Keep your boundaries and if he pulls back or does something you don’t like, match his energy
Im tired of these men honestly have met 4 already in dating sites and they end up being married...im coming to the conclusion of wanting to be single now and not have to deal with too much nonsense! Sadly it comes to that! Im enjoying my life with friends that are single as well and having a great time with them.
That is playing games. All these things are playing games. When you like each other you will know it , period. You will know the difference and you won’t have to question it. It won’t matter who calls who. You won’t keep account of injuries. You will know by , if he does what he says he’s going to do .
It's the way this youtuber, this man, came in after a CERTAIN youtuber.. *cough cough player's club anyone?* started putting all these manipulation tactics in my head. Me knowing that IS NOT ME am just like "Really this is what is gonna take me to my dream guy?..." I know it's all on me of what I decide to do but this guy is giving advice that isn't..so toxic. Thank you.
This video was really helpful. Thank you so much for busting bad dating advice. Thank you.
Why is missing someone has to be a bad thing? It is not supposed to be..no tricks there.A person can show a person exactly whom they are, but they have to be paying attention...
Why do they say they miss you and love you and then ghost you? I am broken 💔
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Being a person of peace has to be in your character. If you don't this is something you should work on. It is important for you to work on your own peace before you can offer peace.
Thank u for speaking and teaching in a positive healthy way❤🙏🫵🏼
3:13 big facts 💯
Wow! You gave me a total different person to this subject. Thank you!
This is so funny because I am one of those naturally mysterious people. I'm really trying to work on it because there is a guy that lives across the hall from me and he told me I "move like a spy"...lol. That sounds really bad.
I wish I was born on the earlier years where love isn’t so complicated.
Great video! Game players need to get played. Sorry not sorry. It's childish and manipulative. Ain't nobody got time for that. One thing about "game playing & playing a role" sooner or later they're going to forget their lines...more like "LIES" and get exposed. But when you're being yourself, transparent and tell the truth you don't have to worry about that!
@13:00 Stephan is speaking FACTS! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
I am so glad that I am thinking the same way. I wonder at times if I am right. You validated this for me. Thank you. I am relieved. Now the playing games to make you miss them or being mysterious really aggravates me when it's done to me. Is it to make me wonder and get bothered, is it to make me jealous? I really get turned off by this.
Stephan, thank you!!! You are such a gem to us!!!! 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
That is a beautiful quote.
This was a good video ❤
Yes what's goes around comes back
The best quote ❤
1. Don’t let him think he’s gotten you too soon
2. Don’t say yes to him every time
3. To not contact him
4. Be mysterious
Thank you😂
Been looking for this comment
Sweet quote
Geese, what's up with all this extra stuff? Just be you. Be genuine, be honest. Be respectful. Be kind. If they like you for you then ok, but if they don't, then that's Ok also. Just be yourself.
There is nothing you can build on with the wrong person, whatever mind pretzels you make or you don't. In the end it wont work either way.
💯 agree
Thank you for your wise knowledge
You're welcome 🙏
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is dr apala omofulma, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
So true there is no time to play games life is too short Need to know what you want and if you dont know what you want then there is the door see yah 🚪💯🤷🏽♀️🥰 Hey Stephan love & light Happy Blessed Friday 10-11-24
Very interesting video!🧐
Great video tfs
Exactly my point
Games prolong someone being in your life when they are NOt qualified to be there!
I emailed you bout your event in Atl on November 2... I never got a confirmation
He broke up with me but I have hope that he gone come back 😞and he told me not to block him so that means he want access to me?I don’t see myself with him unless is in person cuz we are long distance
🙏
Why will he break up then ask u not to block him? Cant you see this is a toxic attitude and he thinks he still has the right to go in and out of your life whenever he want??? Girl be wise!
Thank you sir
You're welcome 🙏
Being mysterious is not in favor of man or woman
We broke up, but we still talk almost every day. We broke up a few times before and got back. I want us to get back together, i told him how i feel, and he told me how he feels. I did have some insecurities, and brought things from the past relationship into this one, due to not having time to heal. Its been a month or so since we broke up, i am over the hurt from my past. Its been two weeks, and still waiting for him to let me know what he wants to. What should i do?
Wait. If he really loves you he will come back, pursue you. If a man wants you there is no mountain that he will not move to be with you! If he doesn’t do that then you probably need to dig deeper and ask yourself does he really love me? Does he really miss me?
You need to wait 6 to 9 months. Really want to waste so much time of your best years?
A husband came back to his wife after 9 months and she was waiting to take him back.
This happens but they were married for 10 or 15 years. You just tried to start a relationship.
Forget it, focus on yourself and get yourself together.
You better travel for some months or move to another city or another country.
This helps you to get over your old relationship and get over this mess with the actual guy.
Get a new phone number and don't give it to him.
Start over and get a new life.
@@saydiavila1_ thank u
@@doroparker1702
Ok. Thank u
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Thank you for saving me from another Heart break.I been following you for over a year ❤🙏🏽🫂
Love youuuu 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
The guy becames overly sensitive
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Goodbye to you
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black cat and hide in the corners
BAD advice is as dangerous as a HURRICANE stay clear
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I am so glad that I am thinking the same way. I wonder at times if I am right. You validated this for me. Thank you. I am relieved. Now the playing games to make you miss them or being mysterious really aggravates me when it's done to me. Is it to make me wonder and get bothered, is it to make me jealous? I really get turned off by this.
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