WHAT THE NARCISSIST L👀KS FOR IN PEOPLE

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  • @SLLiberty23
    @SLLiberty23 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    I’d rather be kind than anything else ♥️🙏🏻🕊️✝️🏁 but I will fight to the last breath for truth and freedom from this evil.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      💯💯😌

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Beautiful,,they never took the treasures !!empathy love compassion,,understanding,and self belief,and Resilience,,,Stay Blessed ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🕐✝️

    • @01968
      @01968 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Thats why i was disliked at work,,they knew i was not fooling around.not to mess with me..its amazing how you can see tru people.Guys make the effort to really look at people, their eyes, gestures, face, the way they interact with others,,even when they are not interacting with you,watch them,you'd be surprised how much you can see.

    • @pretty_troll
      @pretty_troll 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      keep ur kindness until u know without a doubt the person is worth thr risk

  • @dior277
    @dior277 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    I’m so glad that the world is waking up to Narcs. Let’s continue to educate ourselves and our love ones. Those ppl are evil to the core. 🤮

  • @carparthero
    @carparthero 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    in my lived experience, here's 7 tests a narcissist conducts to assess your suitability a supply:
    1-buy-in: into the narcissist's false narrative
    2-level of investment: what do you have to offer as supply
    3-emotional empathy: how they can manipulate and control you
    4-tolerance: how much will you put up with their chaos, drama, manipulation
    5-compliance: how easy you comply to their demands, putting the narc first.
    6-loyalty: creating conflict to see if you will take their side
    7-memory and cognitive abilities: can they gaslight you, confuse you to affect your judgment.
    cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

    • @lisashope2926
      @lisashope2926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Ooooo, that's a good list!

    • @robynhanda1008
      @robynhanda1008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you for your post❤

    • @BeTheLight624
      @BeTheLight624 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Great post, thank you for sharing!👍🏻🇨🇦

    • @dirtbagliberalsnake5729
      @dirtbagliberalsnake5729 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks alot thats great!

    • @carparthero
      @carparthero 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lisashope2926 thanks. all the best.
      -cheers, steven 🍁

  • @witta505
    @witta505 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    Thanks for your wonderful dedication, even better that it's on a daily basis. So important to be just as persistent as the narcissist when it comes to getting one's life back!

  • @lisashope2926
    @lisashope2926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    I was one who thought others thought as I did. I don't anymore. Thank you, Andrew, for all your wisdom and passion on getting the word out. I admire that. 🙏 No more time wasters for me. Namaste. (Now that I know what that means, I love it.)

  • @mariefrancebourget1749
    @mariefrancebourget1749 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    My ex narc of a husband completely ignored my hopes, dreams and what i wanted to accomplish in my life even though i wanted to include him in my projects. Because he had no interests in them. And also i now know that preventing me from prospering in life was done on purpose. Still today when i look back i can't hardly believe it but it's true. Have a beautiful afternoon Andrew ❤❤😊

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🙏🙌❤️

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes its true their goal,,a friend revealed to me in my own living room,a move i made financially, was not good,and she knew about it, before hand, and said nothing ,wanted my husband and i to fail,,we did..still reeling from that to this day..amazing,,she's clueless that her mask fell, right in my living room.

  • @beckyharrt
    @beckyharrt 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Absolutely learned not alll people think like me. I am now more cautious. Thanks for your wisdom!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Welcome 😌😌💯🙏

    • @lisashope2926
      @lisashope2926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I was the same way as you. Thought other people were basically good. We now know differently.

  • @i.l.9546
    @i.l.9546 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    My ex husband looks for women with children for he is actually looking for a mum.
    I wondered why he would choose a mum of 3 for my replacement as I expected him to get a independent younger woman bc he always seemed bored with family life.
    My mother, a narc herself, explained to me that he needs a motherfigure. At least once in a lifetime her narcissism was helpful to me.😂

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      😌😌😉💯

    • @Hatbox948
      @Hatbox948 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      My ex narc was like that too. He needed a mom more than a companion or romantic interest.

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      King Charles..

  • @judesmith4941
    @judesmith4941 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I am told my style is direct. Many people shy away from that open and honest style.

  • @Arcturus549
    @Arcturus549 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    People are so toxic now, not just narcs. They will break up with you even if there's nothing wrong, just because they get bored.

    • @paulineEirefairygirl5067
      @paulineEirefairygirl5067 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No values anymore they want everything easy and don't want to work at it

  • @mqua4610
    @mqua4610 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    All I can say is MUST WATCH THIS VIDEO and Andrew describes the restaurant scenario EXACTLY!!! I’m sure this has happened to 90% of the viewers but also 90% of the viewers had no idea what was going on until, You got the wisdom.”

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😌😌🙏

    • @Dorothy-gp6nl
      @Dorothy-gp6nl 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      We couldn't go to a gas station without him flirting with the female at the counter, no matter what she looked like. Same thing at the grocery store.

    • @Cat-sx6ep
      @Cat-sx6ep 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow me too and it was pitful when I told him what are you doing@@Dorothy-gp6nl

  • @enlightenedone7083
    @enlightenedone7083 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    You have one of the very best, most informative channels! Thank you for all that you do to help us understand what happened to us, and to thrive after narcissistic abuse🙏🏾💗.

  • @lourdesecheverria6209
    @lourdesecheverria6209 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Nothing goods comes from a narc or toxic person. Just drama and a lifetime of emotional damage. Blessings! (love the little eyes on the title)!❤❤

  • @jazstar4622
    @jazstar4622 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Yes Ive tried to play smaller me and dress down, hide out ,
    So I wouldn't attract the Narcissit, but there everywhere, In the end I want to be myself!!! ,so I just needed more wisdom and stronger boundaries
    Thankyou 😊for daily guidance 🙏 appreciated

  • @catzska
    @catzska 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    What you are speaking of is exactly how and what I use to believe. I use to always say yes, I use to always help other’s and always tried to help and believed everybody has good in them. However not all people are good. It has been a long journey working hard to retrain my brain and stop helping others use me. Thank you so much for your videos. You have helped me and are helping so many. I am sorry you have endured this abuse as well and to each person that is and has. We can get through this together. ✌🏻💕💜

  • @michellepurcell8703
    @michellepurcell8703 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    They are so cruel when they discard people, and they look at you with total distain, with black pupils. This is who they really are, not the loving, protective partner who you share your most important hopes fears, and vulnerabilities with. Nothing that these people do, makes the slightest bit of sense, and I agree totally with Andrew,it’s like sleeping with the enemy, not your soulmate and love of your life . Time and loads of education on this subject, will heal the hurt to a big extent, and slowly free you from the trauma Bond. Thanks Andrew 🙏

  • @marybarton5651
    @marybarton5651 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    He certainly sold me up the river in a leaking boat, no paddle and no life raft...
    The temperature claimed from minus 2 degrees to 12 today... it's a tropical heatwave in Missouri today ...lol 😊

  • @abigailandino6251
    @abigailandino6251 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I’ve learned in my own journey that I’m not only an empath I’m a people pleaser.
    Once I learned why I became what I am; and that my empathy wasn’t a gift of God of “discernment” I had to do alot of work.
    I live with constant nagging pain.
    One time a guy I was dating (actually living with / it was serious) fell asleep on a dinner date. Fell asleep at the table and even the waitress was embarrassed for me. In my mind I made all sorts of excuses…..I thought I was being nice but now I know I was being a people pleaser. My desperation for affection. How about that?
    Sigh……I believe it’s possible to have your entire soul rocked, absolutely rocked when you’re blinded sided by a situation that normal people would just “get over”.
    I think it goes beyond a “broken heart”…

    • @Arcturus549
      @Arcturus549 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      💜

  • @lisaengland1048
    @lisaengland1048 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I am sure thankful, to have ripped the industrial Velcro,trauma bond away .

  • @AnnieSnow467
    @AnnieSnow467 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Thank you, Andrew, for your insight.
    You are absolutely spot on. It took me two years to get my head wrapped around the behavior.
    It was amazing, How many times I bought and bought and bought gave my time. my money my energy, and finally, one day, it clicked...
    I opened my eyes and ears any, most importantly, my heart ,and realized this is so not normal..
    Show up on their time when they're available, only call when requesting money . May I add to that while they would use the poor me tactic.....
    Finally heard the Word Narcissist .Found your channel, and the rest is history .
    It wasn't easy as they hoovered around for a while but went no contact, answered no call, and what a stress relief.
    Thank you .The healing process has Begun.
    Nanaste.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Namaste..😌🙌🙏

    • @AnnieSnow467
      @AnnieSnow467 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I thank you, Andrew .

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      "Stress Relief"- The Magic words

  • @jhavajoe3792
    @jhavajoe3792 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    For every video I want to say Thanks, before even starting to watch it. I'm never wrong feeling that way at the end of it.👍👊🙏

  • @gingersnap108
    @gingersnap108 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Wow it’s so hard ti wrap my mind around this

  • @robynhanda1008
    @robynhanda1008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    OMG Andrew! I didn't realize WHY I was "vulnerable"!! I wasn't really lonely but now, looking back, I was looking to be fulfilled by something to give me purpose. I quit working, retired after 50 years, my kids had grown & moved out, and I had got bored.😂❤
    Much love from Michigan.

  • @Manny-yy7hq
    @Manny-yy7hq 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Being silent is getting easier as each day passes, my Narc brother is starting to avoid me, which is fine with me 👍🏼

  • @hopeinhumanity.
    @hopeinhumanity. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Thanks for getting us through some dark times Andrew. 🙏

  • @lisalynn6246
    @lisalynn6246 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Thank you you nailed my whole marriage

  • @barrystone5329
    @barrystone5329 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Andrew! I have done it, I have discarded my narcissist! I have not blocked her because she has a history of violence with previous partners,and I want to keep that open until the dust settles, she messaged two hours later making out it was her idea to discard me asking if I was ok with it calling me pet names and sweetheart and darling, slightly in a passive aggressive way. I literally cried for about an hour but I am starting to feel better and surprised at myself, I don’t mind what story she starts or who she tells everyone split first , I know the truth and it doesn’t really matter to me anyway. Still can’t believe I did it, your videos gave me the strength thank you, I don’t think this was a reverse discard but do think that might of been on her agenda, as I was at that point in the cycle, either way it’s a win win

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It was obviously on her mind. If shes claiming its her idea😮

    • @almosthome5971
      @almosthome5971 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Congratulations to you!!!! 1st day of your BEST LIFE! 🙏🏻💯👍

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ....they always like to make themselves the creator of your ideas to keep themselves on top...A one up tactic.
      Congrats & keep close to the community for support!
      Blessings 🌈 🎀😘

  • @darladotson6353
    @darladotson6353 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    You are 100% on point. My life to a tee. 13 years to wake up and get out. I remain silent to comments and phone calls. 10 years out, and he's still trying.

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You are the one who got away,!!!,like what my friends xnarc husband tells his daughter about her mom.

    • @roslyncerro1263
      @roslyncerro1263 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Stay out. Stay safe. Alone beats their crumbs and abuse.❣️

  • @abigailandino6251
    @abigailandino6251 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    People who’ve never experienced a situation where the narcissist is trying to run you out or make you leave or make you be the one to file for divorce have no idea how it can destroy your mind and soul and spirit and psyche…..it’s not something you can “snap out of” - - - it makes you crazy

    • @natural_free_spirit
      @natural_free_spirit 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I went through this, but I knew what was happening I stopped caring. He had an outside image as “the good guy”. So, he didn’t want to be the one who broke up his family. Yet, he did so many hurtful things to me that he knew I wouldn’t accept. So I was the one that left, so now he can say “she left me”.

    • @abigailandino6251
      @abigailandino6251 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@natural_free_spirit Yes me too. It took such a long time for me to learn why I always gave the benefit of the doubt. Outside he was so happy and charismatic ; EVERYONE loved him. But inside , his face dropped and he was always sleeping or miserable not engaged, dismissive. Doing things that would make any woman leave or
      Lose her mind. When someone taught me that I was always saying “I’m sorry” …. I looked inward and I scrutinized myself and learned so much of why I am the way I am. It a long painful process from inner turmoil to inner peace.

  • @karenaaron2844
    @karenaaron2844 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thanks Andrew, please get warm and stay cool. love your work

  • @Noname-xm2lj
    @Noname-xm2lj 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    ❤ Andrew...remember...."You are not alone!" Your followers are here for you as well. We appreciate and treasure your thoughts and words of encouragement. May all good things come your way!
    Pamela of SE Oklahoma

  • @narcfree729
    @narcfree729 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Andrew you are that needle in the haystack a million to one chance of finding you Thank You

  • @nn0nx3j
    @nn0nx3j 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Even scorpions care for their children.

  • @VanessaKittredge
    @VanessaKittredge 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I have accepted that healing will most likely be a life long part of my life. I must focus a few quiet deliberate moments everyday grounding myself, reminding myself who I am and that my abundant capacity for empathy and compassion is a strength, not a weakness. And oh my goodness Andrew, this is the first time I’ve heard you say “the reverse discard”.. I’ll have to watch again to make sure I got it right but yep. That’s it. When the secret smart phone falls out of his pocket on the floor in front of you and the color drains from his face and he lies through his teeth right into your eyes- trying to convince you that you’re just being jealous, insecure, crazy… pretty much no choice but to handle the discard for him. 🤯I’m glad to be rid of the crazy making, the never ending episode of the twilight zone. Now I just have to keep rebuilding my spirit, which I am enjoying 🤸 . Btw the background is particularly beautiful today. ❤

  • @01968
    @01968 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    These people are a whole different breed of human.

  • @rubyjet9513
    @rubyjet9513 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Let's not forget that as people wake up and evolve in their knowledge of narcissists, so too do narcissists evolve in their vile tricks 😈

    • @lisashope2926
      @lisashope2926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ooooo, I hadn't thought about that! Good point about the narcissist.

    • @rubyjet9513
      @rubyjet9513 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lisashope2926 😊

  • @chazbickel4518
    @chazbickel4518 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Great video Andrew!
    Wishing everyone clarity and peace.

  • @thomasdonau5140
    @thomasdonau5140 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I have to admit to appreciating the words of praise that you give viewers.
    I do not think it presumptuous of me to say that we all think that you're pretty brilliant too!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      😌😌🙏❤️

    • @lisashope2926
      @lisashope2926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      He's brilliant. Smart smart man.

    • @robynhanda1008
      @robynhanda1008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      YESSS Thomas, so very much!❤

  • @SusanW-lc8rp
    @SusanW-lc8rp 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    no shortage of fake people in this world.

  • @dclarke1896
    @dclarke1896 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The narc demon kept telling me in the beginning with a smile on his face that I was too nice. He was mirroring me at the time so I didn't relize it was a red flag. I now know he thought I was weak, stupid, and gullible. Towards the end of the relationship when he realized I was leaving and not coming back he tried to beg, cry, act like he actually cared and do all the things he was supposed to do the whole time.
    After, I left for good he launched a full blown smear campaign and flying monkeys after me. I'm over 2 and a 1/2 years no contact and I'm not looking back. I guess I wasn't that stupid. Thank you for all that you do! You are helping me heal and forgive myself for ever having anything to do with a narc.

  • @lios583
    @lios583 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    The wonderful people who believe in LOVE ❤have to learn, that they can get hurt a lot.
    Thank you Andrew!

  • @Babu-kr3cr
    @Babu-kr3cr 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It is hard to believe that they don't care about you at all and are just playing games with you. They have so much intensity and enthusiasm. One thing I really hate is the fake empathy where they try to get supply as if they have compassion for you and then leave you high and dry like it is a game. If you ignore their demonstrations sympathy, they get mad, if you ignore their shallow friendliness, they get mad. They want you to give them a piece of your heart so they can stomp on it and make you feel stupid.
    They are all over. The hardest thing is trying to figure out how to navigate around them. You can't always run from them. You can't always hide or dissuade them. Sometimes you have to plow through them and not look back.

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’ve come to the conclusion that the planet is riddled with them and flying monkeys. I have legit barely known many people not like that.

  • @Divinely_Guided444
    @Divinely_Guided444 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Its been very cold here past few days too. At least you still have some green, its more snow here today. 🥶Stay warm my friend. ❤️🙏✨️

  • @DIGITALSANDBOX
    @DIGITALSANDBOX 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I started working for a narcissist when I was 19. FIFTEEN years later I was preparing to quite by taking my vacation time and 4 sick days. My boss showed up at my house beating on the door on my sick day. Then fired me later the same day. The other employee were clearly flying monkeys and he would talk shit about me to then behind my back. I was a top employee too and the boss didn’t like that I wasn’t able to be controlled anymore like when I was a kid I’m 33 now.

  • @gratefultobehere
    @gratefultobehere 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    They looked for us and they found us and now we know what to look for and are no longer being found to serve their anything thanks to you 🙏❤️💯

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yep!!! 👍👍👍
      🌈🎀😘

  • @niman00
    @niman00 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Andrew, thank you for your videos. every time i think, not that i know everything about narcissism, but, that i have enough knowledge, turns out - i don't. I am learning a lot from you, I appreciate what you do, please keep the videos coming, they are important.

  • @lauraantic1384
    @lauraantic1384 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    True when i would go anywhere with the narcissist i couldnt believe how he speaks with respect with some people and i was like a ghost

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Be encouraged,,you will heal in your time ,,we are all different and the healing time is as individual as your finger print,,,Dont allow people to dictate or try to shame you on your Journey,,you have freedom and agency,,Blessings and sincere love and Understanding Sent,,,T.Y.Andrew.💪🌟🌺❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️☘️🦋

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Welcome 😌💯❤️🙌

    • @lisashope2926
      @lisashope2926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Flower, I need to apologize to you for trying to reply to you about horses. I was on a painkiller and the reply wasn't showing up on my phone... I think. I'm embarrassed about the situation. God bless.

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@lisashope2926nah that's ok no need to explain,,hope you are keeping well take good care and mind yourself❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🇮🇪

  • @roland-v2c
    @roland-v2c 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Andrew you work so hard to help us, the way you talk is special I love the speed you communicate, it’s like a song for me , if you start selling t-shirts with your face when you look sideways, and say think about this, it make me smile every time 🙏🥰

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Man i would certainly buy a few.

    • @Arcturus549
      @Arcturus549 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂

    • @raanfo
      @raanfo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I would and I too adore the knowing sideways grimace that you do at the top of your videos Andrew. Genius! ❤

  • @dr.cynthiabroughton1240
    @dr.cynthiabroughton1240 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you, Andrew, for always educating us with the TRUTH, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth! NAMASTE ❤

  • @dclarke1896
    @dclarke1896 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This video gave me so much clarity! I was that person at the restaurant wondering what is going on. Never again!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😌😌🙏

    • @raanfo
      @raanfo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s just damned rude too! Disrespectful and rude!

  • @theresaloos1485
    @theresaloos1485 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Every night, you tell my story. During the day, I will slip and remember what I have learned from you. I don't even know how I found this channel. Fate brought me here.

  • @BeTheLight624
    @BeTheLight624 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Thank you for pointing out what narcs look for in their targets, Andrew, so that we may reflect in ourselves what those things are and make proper adjustments in the way we present ourselves so we no longer become targets, rather well informed best versions of ourselves, upgraded with the knowledge you’ve shared, not over sharing and protective of who we allow into our inner circle. Beautiful background again, Andrew, thank you. You have a great creative eye. Keep warm and safe in this crazy weather, wherever you are. God bless you.
    ✝️🙏🏻🕊️🌿☀️🦋🌲🌲🌎❤️

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes, who would of thought we would have had to tone down who we are & relearn how to live....BUT WE DO!!!
      Introspection & application are a must before launching forward & serve as protection for our future.
      All part of the lesson! 🌈 🎀😘

  • @stupensardi2783
    @stupensardi2783 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    My narcissistic mother in law revealed some facts in a massive moment of rage which confirmed that she had been lying all the time and she admitted in using her own granddaughter. I knew it!!! The mask dropped big time. What was seen was not nice to put it mildly. Thanks to your videos Andrew I know what to expect and what to do. I feel that my fighting spirit is back. I will not be broken certainly not by her.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      💪💯🙏😌

    • @lisashope2926
      @lisashope2926 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Good! I'm sorry you had to go through such a thing. Your gut was right as you know it usually is.

    • @stupensardi2783
      @stupensardi2783 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you for all your support ❣️

    • @stupensardi2783
      @stupensardi2783 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@lisashope2926 I am certainly trusting my gut a lot more since the last year or so. Now I need to work on healing my family and leave narc mother in law far far behind.

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      By anyone!!!!😮

  • @jp-rs6ns
    @jp-rs6ns 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Yes, I used to think most people thought the way I did & had everyone's best interest at heart. I started to realize this wasn't true. Over the years, I began to put boundaries up & greyrock. But, I did not know the extent of how true it was. And I didn't have the tools & wisdom that I do now. Your videos are important in spreading knowledge, wisdom & tools to utilize. Your words, "get off of their radar", "become dull & boring"... this is so important when greyrocking. Don't share information. Don't give explanations. Don't engage in the conversation. Thank you Andrew for your excellent videos. You have a teaching gift. Thank you for using it to benefit the world🌍🌎🌏. Love your background🙂🌲🤎. Have a good night🙂. God bless☀️☀️☀️. "And it is cold, I am going"🤭😁

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      My grayrockee,called me a couple of hours ago,I won't call back for a couple of days,sometimes a week,, make myself boring and little,when speaking to her,,i keep it super,superficial, used to conversate almost every day in the past,, her mask fell off several times,she thought i did not see,,what i cannot unsee.its amazing when you realize you were that persons friend, but they only had disdain for you ,they thought you'd never figure it out ..

    • @summacumsoap8983
      @summacumsoap8983 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@MattyNelson-rs3ik"grayrockee"😂 May I borrow that!? Yes, News, Weather & Sports. That's all, if we must. Eventually it gets frustrating for them and they move on. That's the goal. Worked for me on friends hard to shake.

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I can't trust anymore. These are the most challenging times. Thank you, Andrew and Tribe. Stay safe, please.❣️

  • @hongtruong4576
    @hongtruong4576 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I used to see only the good in people, their redeeming qualities. Now! I look at the whole package and I have stronger boundaries 💪

  • @Jewelz90
    @Jewelz90 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Wow! You’re really blessing many of us with your videos! Thank you!

  • @julianterris
    @julianterris 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This reminds me of how my ex shadowed me to get closer to someone who had "quite a lot of money". ~I couldn't figure out why she was being so "supportive" 😆 #CovertNarcissisim.

  • @theideaplace
    @theideaplace 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I can't believe you said they'd flirt w/the wait staff... I was just thinking about how my ex husband would always do that to ruin our night out... it's sad because they are imploding their own happiness in order to hurt us... sad

  • @awakenedjaki
    @awakenedjaki 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    "Adios!" Love it Andrew👌 - Exactly how I operate with people these days too. We know how precious our time is so it's vital to choose wisely who we share it with, and weed out the ones who's actions don't match their words. Hope you managed to heat up after doing your video☕looked chilly in your location today ❤

  • @lindagodwin3680
    @lindagodwin3680 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was an innocent victim and glad you are sharing your experience and education. Better than a therapist can ever do!

  • @robynhanda1008
    @robynhanda1008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    With most everyone having a cell phone nowadays, there's no excuse to not call or text if you're going to be late. Just saying...❤

  • @russellbennett8516
    @russellbennett8516 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    A particularly excellent video Andrew. Resonates so well......

  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Our time is the most precious thing we have and we must not allow anyone to waste it. Narcisists feel entitled to waste our time and consequently our lives. Once we discern someone as narcissistic we should have nothing to do with them. Nothing. Thank you Andrew 😊God bless you ❤

    • @raanfo
      @raanfo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Discern : WORD! 💯

  • @raforbis1
    @raforbis1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I actually started packing boxes in 2008. I knew. So when he walked in October 1 2023 and said he was leaving for another woman, I was like dude I’ve done this before. My second husband was a psychopath, you showed yourself early. That’s why I never have pictures on a wall. The pictures are in boxes. He thinks he knows me, he never believed I was with a psychopath before him. I will never trust a human again.

  • @Mariah.B11
    @Mariah.B11 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Another highly appreciated video. Extremely helpful. Getting the wisdom is great.

  • @Rugbymom
    @Rugbymom 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Dealing with the reverse discard because he’s a coward…it’s emotionally draining, but pulling the trigger gave me a renewed strength to see this to the end…

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It truly can be difficult....
      PROUD OF YOU! 👍
      🌈 🎀😘

    • @hongtruong4576
      @hongtruong4576 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Keep the focus on yourself and your goals 🙏💪. These people are master manipulators

  • @lired70
    @lired70 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Reverse Discard/Exactly! Many thanks Andrew. For putting a name to what I vividly remember. I hope all are doing well. Oh geeze, Ohio is a deep freeze.💯🙏☮️💪❤️👍❄️☃️

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    These are such challenging times. Stay strong Tribe.❣️

  • @tonyroma7599
    @tonyroma7599 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Another great video Andrew. Thank you for all the time you give us each day.
    I’m sure all who have been with a narcissist can spend a lot of time telling their story. I’ve been telling my story for 20 years and still look to your videos for inspiration. You are so right when you said, no one can understand what you have gone through with a narcissistic unless they have been through it themselves. Even though I am understanding what a narcissist is I still can’t understand why they (the narcissist) themselves can’t see what is going on. I pray for them every day.
    I too went through the (dark night of the soul). I didn’t know it at the time. The only way I knew was when you did a video on it. Then a lightbulb moment went off. Thank you for that. I know I still have a long way to go but I’m working on it with your help. I really can’t thank you enough.
    God Bless you Andrew and all of us who follow your channel. 🙏🏻

  • @lisaengland1048
    @lisaengland1048 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Thank you for getting this through my thick skull 😅❤. I don't look at social media from years ago . 😅

  • @marieeakin8534
    @marieeakin8534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Part of my healing path to help put up stronger boundaries to not be such a target for the narcs, was introspection of my conditioned behavior. I had to take a good hard look as to what I wanted to keep & what no longer serves
    me in regards to being so open. Toss outs as well as a tweak here & there make for change in lessening the odds of you becoming prey. 🌈 🎀😘

  • @raanfo
    @raanfo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m here again! Over the last 5 weeks I have experienced the narc love bombing/adulation > discard. This time I was ready as I recognised the signs and was expecting the discard. When he ended our situationship saying he’d met someone else I simply reacted with 👍 and blocked him. No hoover possible. Textbook behaviour. Thank you for your videos Andrew ❤

  • @bodilskumsrud520
    @bodilskumsrud520 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    But thank you for this video…I’m taking it all in,trying to know what to do…
    Thank you,Andrew ,for being ‘out there’…🙏Namaste🎶🌸

  • @bodilskumsrud520
    @bodilskumsrud520 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I’m going through a big test in a couple of weeks…I know I will see the narc in connection of doing my profession.
    He has taken contact,after six months since I ended our relation.He is trying to lovebomb me,sending gifts,compliments…
    I’m not commenting these things,being polite distant.
    I’m doubtful of this meeting…
    Please send me strengthening vibes ….so I manage to deal with this difficult situation.😶

  • @kalikankanath5474
    @kalikankanath5474 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom with us. Thank you for being a good human being 🙏

  • @drusillialeavel7533
    @drusillialeavel7533 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Each time I watch the Maroon 5 video "One more night". It remember me that advice when I was 13 and started to know my INFJ abilities. The woman I gave the advice to was with a such narc. He was a sport fighter at the top rank of his category. He hit her once to make her understand he was the boss. Even if during the two next years, he did even pretend physically to do it again. You know how, the narcs are getting to have an exclusive language with their victims. She was stressed and scarred to leave him. She had no one who turn to. I advice her, to take advantage of one of his competition for run away from the house. Many people I knew helped her, at the last minute, to pack all her belongings. Of course she started to put some kind of way, all the things she wanted to take with her. Without pouting together; for he doesn't notice, what she was intended to. They should have three days, but at the last minute he considered, he would stay at home a bit longer. It was like he felt something. I remember meeting him before, giving my advice. And felt that possibility of hanger despite he was adorable, and charming with me (the narc masc was very convincing to, someone who isn't at the same time comportmentalist and empath). No body on earth, would believe what was hidden inside. And I met him again four days after, when she had left. I could read in him, inside his crying eyes. It wasn't because he loved her, it was because he was so furious against himself and particularly against her. He wanted to kill her with a single punch. When he asked me if I knew where she was. (I lied, things I'm not comfortable with) I said I didn't even had occasion to meet her, I didn't know her face, how could I know where she was. Of course I knew in the first times where she landed in. But I preferred not to know when she moved again. For her safety. Just in case of my kindness to people, to slip something what could have, led him to her. His mind was set up. He really wanted to kill her.

  • @robinchilds7492
    @robinchilds7492 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    He told everyone when he met me he got a good one this time. Now I know what he meant.

  • @Honeypepper.
    @Honeypepper. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    12:55 This is also a good way of testing how much you care about and respect the individual. If you did you'd be earlier than expected

  • @JJones101
    @JJones101 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Exactly what he did- reverse discard - plays the victim and blames me the non cheating, lying abusive spouse for our divorce and ppl believe it. It is insane.

  • @dirtbagliberalsnake5729
    @dirtbagliberalsnake5729 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I feel like i can see shitty people from a mile away now, not that im perfect haha but im trying my best, gaurd is galvanized! Stay sytong guys!

  • @lisanewman8167
    @lisanewman8167 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Awesome thoughts and we are listening

  • @marypalmer1062
    @marypalmer1062 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    it's a conscience awareness lesson for me today.

  • @edwardspriggs5076
    @edwardspriggs5076 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    They are truly a haunted house and way you came (trust) is never the way out( never trust again).

  • @lysajacobs1107
    @lysajacobs1107 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Heartbreaking truth! Thank you for being here and helping people every day. ❤🙏wishing and praying for your health and happiness! I pray that for everyone here also Sending lots of love you are never alone. We are all blessed to have Andrew consistently show up with so much positive energy.

  • @saphirevierge2031
    @saphirevierge2031 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just left a narcissists 2 months a go I left after I saw the red flags. I got on the first flight and didn't look back.GoD is good. He opened my eyes to see how evil thos man really is.

  • @annbatson8873
    @annbatson8873 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The narcissist wanted a relationship with a family member of mine my family member tolerated them Because of me he was no dam good at all Im healing now that ive been free for years now about three even my cat was upset after that person left I had a time getting the cat well

  • @jenniferwilson7171
    @jenniferwilson7171 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’ve been learning from you since Nov 21. I’ve made it to the pinnacle of indifference yet I keep learning from you. The reverse discard is exactly what happened to me. Can’t wait for the video. I’m also super grateful that I no longer put up or accept any toxic people in my life. So freeing and I love the powerful new version of myself. Couldn’t have done it without your education!!

  • @sabrinacooper1367
    @sabrinacooper1367 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for all of your information just confirmed I’m not crazy and that me coming across these narcissist videos which I didn’t even know a narcissist existed but I have been with one for nine years and I’ve been educating myself for five months six months. Thank you for more education.

  • @kieranoconnor333
    @kieranoconnor333 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Does anyone have any advice for when you begin missing the sweet moments that you had with the ex-narcissist?
    I’m struggling at the moment, going between thinking about how sweet she was… missing holding her and little things like that, and then remembering how manipulative and aggressive she could be… self-centred and lacking empathy when I’d need support.
    I think it’s because it has been 1 month now since I left them, so the feels are getting a bit stronger 😮‍💨

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Your former romantic partner has erased the memories of sweet moments on her side or doesn't value them ( radical acceptance of the fact). If she valued those moments like you do/did, she'd support you with love and empathy till the end. Her priority to upholding her "manipulative game mechanism" will dissolve your value increasingly. I don't want to sound like a know-it-all robot, it's just purely, painful till you finally exit that trauma bond ... inch by inch, day by day.

    • @kieranoconnor333
      @kieranoconnor333 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      It’s all good what you just said Joe, thank you 🙏
      I watched a video the other day which was titled something along the lines of “If they loved you they would have fought for you”, and I’ve had that on my mind a lot and you saying what you said solidifies that fact.
      It’s a rocky journey, but as you say, inch by inch, day by day. I hope you’re keeping well ☺️👍

    • @robynhanda1008
      @robynhanda1008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Dearest, precious CPO:
      I think you may be still trauma -bonded. I went through that, almost everyone here knows what you're going through. You will have weak moments. We all want to remember the good times. We can still love them, miss them, but we MUST do it from a distance. Just a thought I saw yesterday - "Don't let an old flame burn you twice" Stay strong! Be your sweet self and set your boundaries. ❤

    • @MattyNelson-rs3ik
      @MattyNelson-rs3ik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Key Words,"lacks empathy,",nailed it, i think someone should possess empathy, before they can say they love you,,its simple..i used to tell my xnarc friend of 35 years,you are so cold and unfeeling, now i know why and why now she's an x,,,,FRIEND,and KNOW now why she is also married to a NARC..THEY mirrow each other

    • @marieeakin8534
      @marieeakin8534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Yes, Google Stages of grief!!!
      This may better help you understand what you are experiencing & will have to go through to heal properly. It is natural, can be confusing & hurts like hell!
      Take good care. 👍
      🌈 🎀😘

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    They volunteer where they want to be seen.❣️

  • @WillyNillyBaptistBilly
    @WillyNillyBaptistBilly 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Awesome spot on!

  • @horse286
    @horse286 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank You Andrew❤

  • @RedPillOfTheBible
    @RedPillOfTheBible 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

  • @jayaz9113
    @jayaz9113 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Great Video Andrew once again !

  • @lizwilliamson8332
    @lizwilliamson8332 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’m so glad I found your channel. I used to be exactly that person you describe but not anymore thank god 🙏

  • @Cat-sx6ep
    @Cat-sx6ep 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes, i was paying for a grown manchild at first I did not understand it was quick and when things slowed down the disrespect was disturbing in one case he gave me a scratch-off for my bday in front of his father mind you I am a single mother over 35 yrs old. I would never do that to my own child. The father was embarrassed that he gave me money...SMH

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😌😌🙏

    • @jhavajoe3792
      @jhavajoe3792 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sigh* A dad will observe and suffer with you in silence. No question he's a lovable dad and wise he didn't interfere and make your husband eat the scratch off.

  • @irmina777
    @irmina777 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are amazing, so deeply understanding the game and emotions ….. but I still think we can’t use narcissist to get stronger … I thank each time my friend for helping me to grow and overcome my weak points … of course, now, thanks to you, I am aware who I am dealing with I am able to stay neutral…. Without getting over-involved… thank you, Andrew ❤