I love the advice at the end. Im sick of partners of addicts being held accountable and expected to nurse their addicted SO back to health. So many of them are victims of abuse, cheating, manipulation, poverty (etc etc you know how it is), from their addicted partners and to tell them to "be patient", "be kind", "be supportive", is not only a complete disregard for their feelings and boundaries but also enabling the addict in their behaviour. Also, i know so many people who blame themselves because of their partner's overdose because of this belief that they werent supportive enough
My partner hid his addiction to cocaine for the entire first year of our relationship. One of the women he was cheating on me with and I became friends via social media and then we found out about him. We both left at the same time
That's what happened to me my ex br blew through 20k my dad gave us for a house. Came home scratches down his back lost alot of weight. Gaslighting king. And according to his family I'm the bad guy for leaving him
I being with my boyfriend for 9 months and is really difficult for me to stay with him, I being patience, supportive, caring and all for what? He always go back to drugs and that hurts me. He realized how much it hurts then he promised not to do it again. Tha last time He did it he spent 700 dollars in on day. I end our relationship after that, is being 2 weeks and he is already begging me to come back with him. He he’s not willing to do rehab why is he looking for me? I don’t support his addiction, but I’m trying to help him to understand he’s killing himself, he’s 35.😢
As an addict I lied to everyone. I don't trust addicts. At all. Because I was one, and I know that you'd do or say anything. I do have empathy, because I've been there, but do not, as a sober person, underestimate the deceptive characteristics of an addict. Throw in the bipolar and I've cheated more times than I can count. Didn't care. Now I'm 57, sober, and medicated, and it's all coming back to haunt me. I destroyed my entire life and I'm desperately trying to put it back together through the final hours. So many missed opportunities. So many wrong turns. So many bottoms. Wish me luck.
I just visited your comment and I am having a hard time moving on from someone who cheated on me with some girl of 5 years and the guy has been on coke for years and I was told he was clean and I was far from the first girl. He cheated on and off for all the time, multiple times. I am grateful in a way that I am saved from all this but I still want him to apologise and I am not sure that will happen anytime soon or ever!
My now husband and I used together for a good 3 years we were both unemployed and spent every waking moment together doing coke and drinking alcohol, we had a lot of arguments about the inability to have sex, but neither of us cheated on eachother. We both got clean as soon as we found out I was pregnant with our son.
I spent 2 years with my ex partner, we had a baby together. It wasn’t until I was pregnant that he admitted he had a cocaine addiction. As someone who’s never used drugs I didn’t see the signs. He told me he was 8 months clean on the day my child was born. When my daughter was around 8 months old I realised this addiction hadn’t stopped and I stopped him having contact with his child as he was becoming more and more abusive towards me. He’d never spent any money on his child and hearing he’d spent all his money on cocaine and alcohol… it broke me. Just like he says in the video with the drugs came along the cheating. I just want us to be a family but that isn’t possible anymore due to his choices.
This is not always the case...i am a man...alcoholic my whole life more or less...cocaine addict for 10+ years....then meth addict 10 years and still am currently....and I honestly have never cheated on anyone....ive had 5 girlfriends and been married now for 15 years and have NEVER cheated on any of them!!!
Thanks. I see myself in all this. It does help, i want to say thank you because in someway you help me understamd myself. . I'm from El Salvador. Im still working hard to become a warrior like you do. 👏
Addiction equals cheating and lying. Sobriety equals being remorseful and loyalty.. Addiction is not an excuse,, It's powerful and when you get sober and look back it's amazing to see yourself as the person you are and supposed to be and never go back to that part of life..People can change and if someone can't accept that move on
I took cocaine regularly from the age of 19 then the last 4 years I had a daily habit and I'm now 42. I'm nearly 11 months clean thanks to 12 steps. Although coke gave me a mega high sex drive I never dreamt of cheating on my girlfriend or never did.
This was so hard to digest. Mine refuses to admit the cheating. Got so mad at me for getting two STD checks, and said I was the one probably sleeping with 20 different men.
I’ve had 3 friends die from opioids. One of them burned me pretty bad for money. The other two died a week apart from the same fentanyl/heroin. Then my last relationship, I never would have expected that she would have been like that. Stole, lied, cheated and finally got knocked up by a guy she met where she worked and did coke with him. Lesson learned
As a woman, I can tell you the best way to show her revenge is happiness and moving on, whilst building a family and having a purpose in life with a job. She will be sick to her stomach because I can assume the man she ended up with isn't all stepford husband material? Best revenge is a smile and surrounded by genuine love.These things take time, but they are worth the wait.
I smoked meth daily for years and am also a sex addict. Lost my family and everything else. I did get clean and got my family back. I can say it took over a year before I enjoyed sex again without the drugs. 3 years clean now.
My exgirlfriend was using heroin and meth, and she cheated on me, i was 21 years old and she was 50 years, i fell in love unknowing about her condition,and she cheated on me with her best friend who used drugs too, i hope she's cheating on him too it has been so hard for me at the same time i got depression
Rock bottom is dangerous & outdated. I left my husband alone in a seedy motel room after a huge fight. I was tired of his drug & alcohol abuse & i wanted him to hit rock bottom. 48 hours later he was dead. His drug dealer murdered him. I will NEVER EVER forgive myself!
His drug dealer murdered him darling, not you. This isn’t on you- it’s not your doing. You don’t need to forgive yourself as you were never guilty to start with 🙏🏽 .. please release yourself from bondage that isn’t yours to carry .. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss ❤
@jamienicolson2761 I appreciate your kind words but I was the sober party & I never should have left him there. He wasn't in his right mind due to alcohol & drugs. The guilt consumes me.
@JasmineHolden-ue7oh Thank you very much for your expression of sympathy. I can't forgive myself. I told him I was divorcing him & leaving him but I didn't mean it. I wanted him to hit rock bottom. I've regretted that every day for 7 years. I died with him.
I don't agree, never have back then never will. Just nothing I want to do to someone I love. Addicted or not, it doesn't change anything. Even with the high sex drive, j** off and that's it. But, I agree on the other points, the isolation of consumption, and that you naturally hide your disorder (consuming, obsessively). Also totally agree with "having a relationship" with the substance of choice, I think it's really like that. I would like to hear more about that from you. Anyway, thanks for your relentlessness in doing these videos, I really think they make a difference in a lot of lives out there
when I would come down off Meth, I would eat and I would sleep! THIS GUY IS TALKING ABOUT SHIT HE DID, NOT EVERY ADDICT IS LIKE HIM OR DID THE THING HE IS TALKING ABOUT THAT HE DID!
Does an addict not love their partner? He’s cheated on me when on Meth. I’m not an addict so I don’t get it. I know he lies a lot, does it not bother an addict that they cheat and could get an STD?
@@sharonscott1776 and no it doesn’t bother them because in that moment their worried about drugs and sex my ex caught clayemida and he still slept with girl that gave it to him
@sharonscott1776 they can compartmentalise the two things. When they're cheating nd on drugs, it's a different person, and the drug makes you believe that there will be no consequences. It sounds harsh, but most of them think "what she doesn't know won't hurt her." Also, I believe if guys 100% knew that they would NOT get caught and that the situation was just right, then they ALL would cheat. All men would cheat if they were in an appropriate place and horny enough, then all they need is an opportunity to come along. The issue is that the men who don't cheat have a conciounce at the time and think of the consequences more so they show self-control. Sex and emotions for men can be easily separated. They only see the end result being a great orgasm and not the person they are with. Also, women do it too, but the male libido is biologically built to spread their DNA in every and any willing hole. Some guys take their biology job a little too seriously. That being said, if you're in a relationship and he is doing this, then leave because you will never be truly happy. He will cause you so much pain that you will start to resent him anyway.
Woke up in the Bronx zoo with an Ostridge picking at my head, it was after this, I wet into recovery, had 2 different types of STDs, Gonorrhea of the ear canal. Was shooting up Crank and drinking lots of alcohol.
What happens when kids are involved and a life is built and bills!!! Leaving isn’t so easy, functioning addiction is worse…I’m the functioned version who keeps shit in line and relies on a second income and my kids love the “sober” version. I’m in this alone so I accept the cheating
I just let the coke-wh**e that was partying with my ex bf have him. He was spiraling into a cycle where he would disappear for days. He accidentally left his location on and I learned that they would hole up at her house and binge coke and artificial sex (artificial because it’s an induced euphoria, not emotional connection). So much positivity flooded into my life when I left him and his toxicity in that shit hole. I pity him when it all falls apart.
The same thing happened to me. She would go over her dealers house, do drugs and have sex with him. She would tell me she was hanging out with her friends. The only reason I found out was because my money started going missing and one day she came home and I found her completely out of her mind locked in the bathroom screaming at the wall. She ended up cheating on me again with someone else and she got pregnant. I should have ended it before it got to that point. Lesson learned I guess.
@@rosalindr4975 It was all my fault. My wife realized, however, that none of the stuff I did was b/c I didn’t love her. I was sick and needed help. I got help and got clean. My wife and three boys are back with me now. Most relationships do not survive what we went through. Our marriage is now stronger than ever.
Eric I'm sorry to say you know nothing about people who do methamphetamines or as they say Meth. My husband and I have watched all your little shows on here and that does not describe a how are people act on meth you are describing what a person who does cocaine so please do your homework because they're two different drugs and The experience on the drugs are not the same
Agreed. This guy was a coke head not a meth head. Ya there both stimulants and share some of the same addict behaviors but he makes to many generalities that aren't true.
I cheated on one person. I learned my lesson! However my now ex denies the cheating but the video is evidence otherwise. Because every single boyfriend, fiencee, and now ex husband has cheated on me also. So far and few DONT cheat. Please don't say EVERYONE I Hate that. But thank you. I still don't understand why one hypersexual me wasn't enough.
deep and sadly true. during addiction i had sex with everyone but my girlfriends. used them as a safety net to come home to when everything hit the fan. 29 days sober. not much but a lot for me.
I love the advice at the end. Im sick of partners of addicts being held accountable and expected to nurse their addicted SO back to health. So many of them are victims of abuse, cheating, manipulation, poverty (etc etc you know how it is), from their addicted partners and to tell them to "be patient", "be kind", "be supportive", is not only a complete disregard for their feelings and boundaries but also enabling the addict in their behaviour. Also, i know so many people who blame themselves because of their partner's overdose because of this belief that they werent supportive enough
Thank you for this comment. I've been through it all.
My partner hid his addiction to cocaine for the entire first year of our relationship. One of the women he was cheating on me with and I became friends via social media and then we found out about him. We both left at the same time
That's what happened to me my ex br blew through 20k my dad gave us for a house. Came home scratches down his back lost alot of weight. Gaslighting king. And according to his family I'm the bad guy for leaving him
I being with my boyfriend for 9 months and is really difficult for me to stay with him, I being patience, supportive, caring and all for what? He always go back to drugs and that hurts me. He realized how much it hurts then he promised not to do it again. Tha last time He did it he spent 700 dollars in on day. I end our relationship after that, is being 2 weeks and he is already begging me to come back with him. He he’s not willing to do rehab why is he looking for me? I don’t support his addiction, but I’m trying to help him to understand he’s killing himself, he’s 35.😢
I know how it feels to be cheated on when they're high on meth it's hurtful
As an addict I lied to everyone. I don't trust addicts. At all. Because I was one, and I know that you'd do or say anything. I do have empathy, because I've been there, but do not, as a sober person, underestimate the deceptive characteristics of an addict. Throw in the bipolar and I've cheated more times than I can count. Didn't care. Now I'm 57, sober, and medicated, and it's all coming back to haunt me. I destroyed my entire life and I'm desperately trying to put it back together through the final hours. So many missed opportunities. So many wrong turns. So many bottoms. Wish me luck.
Good luck mate!
You could be lying. We will never no
Good luck mate
Good luck to you
I just visited your comment and I am having a hard time moving on from someone who cheated on me with some girl of 5 years and the guy has been on coke for years and I was told he was clean and I was far from the first girl. He cheated on and off for all the time, multiple times. I am grateful in a way that I am saved from all this but I still want him to apologise and I am not sure that will happen anytime soon or ever!
Thanks 👍 man i enjoy your honesty...im also a recovering sex and drug addict and liar and cheater... 2 yrs clean no liyn cheating or drugs
Let's make changes it's possible
My now husband and I used together for a good 3 years we were both unemployed and spent every waking moment together doing coke and drinking alcohol, we had a lot of arguments about the inability to have sex, but neither of us cheated on eachother. We both got clean as soon as we found out I was pregnant with our son.
Blue chew..
👏👏
I spent 2 years with my ex partner, we had a baby together. It wasn’t until I was pregnant that he admitted he had a cocaine addiction. As someone who’s never used drugs I didn’t see the signs. He told me he was 8 months clean on the day my child was born. When my daughter was around 8 months old I realised this addiction hadn’t stopped and I stopped him having contact with his child as he was becoming more and more abusive towards me. He’d never spent any money on his child and hearing he’d spent all his money on cocaine and alcohol… it broke me. Just like he says in the video with the drugs came along the cheating. I just want us to be a family but that isn’t possible anymore due to his choices.
Let's make this man a rehab specialist! He deserves a good place in society. Thanks for all you do!
Seriously this dude is on speed and makes recovery vids as he's high it obvious and sickening
@@ScottPhillip-j8y 🤔🤔🤔
No... really? 🤷♂️ ...Really? I don't think?.. hm.
Let's not. He was a coke head not a meth head and throughout this video and others has made inaccurate generalities between meth and coke addicts.
I know this feeling... seeing s.o. important to me but who hurt me deeply - anger disgust pain when seeing them. But also relief they r still alive
This is not always the case...i am a man...alcoholic my whole life more or less...cocaine addict for 10+ years....then meth addict 10 years and still am currently....and I honestly have never cheated on anyone....ive had 5 girlfriends and been married now for 15 years and have NEVER cheated on any of them!!!
Thanks. I see myself in all this. It does help, i want to say thank you because in someway you help me understamd myself. . I'm from El Salvador. Im still working hard to become a warrior like you do. 👏
Best video I've watched on addiction in so long totally resonates
Addiction equals cheating and lying. Sobriety equals being remorseful and loyalty.. Addiction is not an excuse,, It's powerful and when you get sober and look back it's amazing to see yourself as the person you are and supposed to be and never go back to that part of life..People can change and if someone can't accept that move on
I took cocaine regularly from the age of 19 then the last 4 years I had a daily habit and I'm now 42. I'm nearly 11 months clean thanks to 12 steps. Although coke gave me a mega high sex drive I never dreamt of cheating on my girlfriend or never did.
Starts at 2:05
Thanks man...
Thank you for sharing, I have been dating this guy for two years and I truly believe he is an addict
My ex-husband is an addict and cheated on me. It sucks, and it was painful to go through divorce.
This was so hard to digest. Mine refuses to admit the cheating. Got so mad at me for getting two STD checks, and said I was the one probably sleeping with 20 different men.
Thank for helping me
I’ve had 3 friends die from opioids. One of them burned me pretty bad for money. The other two died a week apart from the same fentanyl/heroin. Then my last relationship, I never would have expected that she would have been like that. Stole, lied, cheated and finally got knocked up by a guy she met where she worked and did coke with him. Lesson learned
As a woman, I can tell you the best way to show her revenge is happiness and moving on, whilst building a family and having a purpose in life with a job. She will be sick to her stomach because I can assume the man she ended up with isn't all stepford husband material? Best revenge is a smile and surrounded by genuine love.These things take time, but they are worth the wait.
I smoked meth daily for years and am also a sex addict. Lost my family and everything else. I did get clean and got my family back. I can say it took over a year before I enjoyed sex again without the drugs. 3 years clean now.
My exgirlfriend was using heroin and meth, and she cheated on me, i was 21 years old and she was 50 years, i fell in love unknowing about her condition,and she cheated on me with her best friend who used drugs too, i hope she's cheating on him too it has been so hard for me at the same time i got depression
Rock bottom is dangerous & outdated. I left my husband alone in a seedy motel room after a huge fight. I was tired of his drug & alcohol abuse & i wanted him to hit rock bottom. 48 hours later he was dead. His drug dealer murdered him. I will NEVER EVER forgive myself!
You poor soul. Never blame yourself. He was clearly beyond help x
His drug dealer murdered him darling, not you. This isn’t on you- it’s not your doing. You don’t need to forgive yourself as you were never guilty to start with 🙏🏽 .. please release yourself from bondage that isn’t yours to carry .. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss ❤
He did this not you ..
@jamienicolson2761 I appreciate your kind words but I was the sober party & I never should have left him there. He wasn't in his right mind due to alcohol & drugs. The guilt consumes me.
@JasmineHolden-ue7oh Thank you very much for your expression of sympathy. I can't forgive myself. I told him I was divorcing him & leaving him but I didn't mean it. I wanted him to hit rock bottom. I've regretted that every day for 7 years. I died with him.
Not all addicts cheat. I've been an addict and would never ever cheat.
Unless you include the internet.
I knew a guy who didn’t either. Nice guy. He unalived himself though.
All ADDICTS ARE CHEAT 💯
husband and I cheated on each other during active addition but we came back and recovered. all is well now.
I don't agree, never have back then never will. Just nothing I want to do to someone I love. Addicted or not, it doesn't change anything. Even with the high sex drive, j** off and that's it. But, I agree on the other points, the isolation of consumption, and that you naturally hide your disorder (consuming, obsessively). Also totally agree with "having a relationship" with the substance of choice, I think it's really like that. I would like to hear more about that from you. Anyway, thanks for your relentlessness in doing these videos, I really think they make a difference in a lot of lives out there
JUST CUZ U DID ALL THESE THINGS, DOESNT MEAN EVERY ADDICT WERE LIKE YOU AND CHEATED DUDE!!;
when I would come down off Meth, I would eat and I would sleep! THIS GUY IS TALKING ABOUT SHIT HE DID, NOT EVERY ADDICT IS LIKE HIM OR DID THE THING HE IS TALKING ABOUT THAT HE DID!
I agree not all do I always make sure to share this is just my experience and not a professional.
@@vincentmurante2081He said in the video all addicts cheat..
@@EricBZinkrespect for admission. I'd never cheat..... ever. Unless porn is included.
5 + years l am setting myself free
Does an addict not love their partner? He’s cheated on me when on Meth. I’m not an addict so I don’t get it. I know he lies a lot, does it not bother an addict that they cheat and could get an STD?
I got pregnant with my baby daddy this whole time I didn’t know my sister got him on drugs and they slept together
@@SamsamSamsaluv sorry to hear that x
@@sharonscott1776 and no it doesn’t bother them because in that moment their worried about drugs and sex my ex caught clayemida and he still slept with girl that gave it to him
@sharonscott1776 they can compartmentalise the two things. When they're cheating nd on drugs, it's a different person, and the drug makes you believe that there will be no consequences. It sounds harsh, but most of them think "what she doesn't know won't hurt her."
Also, I believe if guys 100% knew that they would NOT get caught and that the situation was just right, then they ALL would cheat. All men would cheat if they were in an appropriate place and horny enough, then all they need is an opportunity to come along. The issue is that the men who don't cheat have a conciounce at the time and think of the consequences more so they show self-control. Sex and emotions for men can be easily separated. They only see the end result being a great orgasm and not the person they are with. Also, women do it too, but the male libido is biologically built to spread their DNA in every and any willing hole. Some guys take their biology job a little too seriously.
That being said, if you're in a relationship and he is doing this, then leave because you will never be truly happy. He will cause you so much pain that you will start to resent him anyway.
Woke up in the Bronx zoo with an Ostridge picking at my head, it was after this, I wet into recovery, had 2 different types of STDs, Gonorrhea of the ear canal. Was shooting up Crank and drinking lots of alcohol.
Ear canal? Thats something i didnt know was possible
What happens when kids are involved and a life is built and bills!!! Leaving isn’t so easy, functioning addiction is worse…I’m the functioned version who keeps shit in line and relies on a second income and my kids love the “sober” version. I’m in this alone so I accept the cheating
I just let the coke-wh**e that was partying with my ex bf have him. He was spiraling into a cycle where he would disappear for days. He accidentally left his location on and I learned that they would hole up at her house and binge coke and artificial sex (artificial because it’s an induced euphoria, not emotional connection). So much positivity flooded into my life when I left him and his toxicity in that shit hole. I pity him when it all falls apart.
The same thing happened to me. She would go over her dealers house, do drugs and have sex with him. She would tell me she was hanging out with her friends. The only reason I found out was because my money started going missing and one day she came home and I found her completely out of her mind locked in the bathroom screaming at the wall. She ended up cheating on me again with someone else and she got pregnant. I should have ended it before it got to that point. Lesson learned I guess.
Call the police stand on your boundaries. No drugs
Don't wife up an addict or some one in active addiction
We're you a truck driver?
My husband is an alcoholic. Viagra & sneaking out early morning. He’s an old man. I foolishly thought they aged out.
I’m # 4 wife…
He needs help for sex addiction.
@@mattthrasher9133 yup & he will never get it
It’s “never his fault “
@@rosalindr4975 It was all my fault. My wife realized, however, that none of the stuff I did was b/c I didn’t love her. I was sick and needed help. I got help and got clean. My wife and three boys are back with me now. Most relationships do not survive what we went through. Our marriage is now stronger than ever.
Don't drugs make you appear irresistible to hot women?
Till they're gone.
I never cheated
So this is why she has a handyman working on her house everyday ? I guess she thinks we all believe her bs
Eric I'm sorry to say you know nothing about people who do methamphetamines or as they say Meth. My husband and I have watched all your little shows on here and that does not describe a how are people act on meth you are describing what a person who does cocaine so please do your homework because they're two different drugs and
The experience on the drugs are not the same
Agreed. This guy was a coke head not a meth head. Ya there both stimulants and share some of the same addict behaviors but he makes to many generalities that aren't true.
Like what? @@leftsrights1921
I cheated on one person.
I learned my lesson!
However my now ex denies the cheating but the video is evidence otherwise.
Because every single boyfriend, fiencee, and now ex husband has cheated on me also.
So far and few DONT cheat.
Please don't say EVERYONE I Hate that.
But thank you.
I still don't understand why one hypersexual me wasn't enough.
deep and sadly true. during addiction i had sex with everyone but my girlfriends. used them as a safety net to come home to when everything hit the fan. 29 days sober. not much but a lot for me.
Don't wife up an addict or some one in active addiction