7 Dirty Secrets a Narcissist will Never tell You

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  • Workshop on "Heal After Surviving a Narcissistic Parent"
    www.emotionalabuserecovery.co...
    chapters
    00:00 introduction
    00:35 Master co-parenting Course
    01:32 1.You will always feel alone with me
    03:36 2. I'll tell you the opposite as your strength makes me feel insecure
    05:13 3. I secretly hate you but I want you to think I love you
    06:09 4. I will make you doubt your sanity
    07:03 5. My personality is not real
    08:37 6. I have been unfaithful to you all along
    09:58 7. Your pain is my joy & your joy is my pain

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  • @narcabusecoach
    @narcabusecoach  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Workshop on "Heal After Surviving a Narcissistic Parent"
    www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/pna

    • @chosenforgreatness08
      @chosenforgreatness08 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Is there any way this can be recorded and be watched and paid for that way?

    • @narcabusecoach
      @narcabusecoach  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@chosenforgreatness08 yes. you don't have to attend the live workshop. you can watch the recording later

    • @enosh_art
      @enosh_art 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Where we get recording

  • @antoinettegorman8833
    @antoinettegorman8833 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +275

    Our pain is their joy . Our joy is their PAIN . 💯 .

    • @ez8546
      @ez8546 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Brilliant. Thank you!

    • @Roshini188
      @Roshini188 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      We'll said 👍.

    • @joseenoel8093
      @joseenoel8093 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Ha ha not rocket science aye, you got this! Happiness comes from within, they've none and out to choke ours!

    • @tmtb80
      @tmtb80 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      That is a sadist.

    • @annettestevens5276
      @annettestevens5276 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you

  • @LRB04
    @LRB04 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +355

    We need to be able to charge narcissists with FRAUD.🤨

    • @sunnyadams5842
      @sunnyadams5842 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      I am a Fan of that idea!

    • @nessauk2786
      @nessauk2786 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So am i ​@@sunnyadams5842

    • @perrissmith8809
      @perrissmith8809 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Yes! That’s excellent 😄

    • @nessauk2786
      @nessauk2786 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      It would keep the lawyers in work.

    • @lindaschultz7900
      @lindaschultz7900 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      You can sue for emotional, verbal, psychological abuse, etc. Keep a journal, recordings, signed statements from witnesses . . . . especially exes!

  • @carparthero
    @carparthero 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +233

    narcissists view the world in a very competitive way. they need you to feel small - so they can feel big. they need you to feel broken - so they can appear whole. they need you to doubt yourself - so they can be the source of all knowledge. they’re trying to fix themselves by breaking you.
    cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      They are trying but hopefully don´t succeed...

    • @MSSHARIII
      @MSSHARIII 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Sick and twisted, but true.

    • @tommcewan7936
      @tommcewan7936 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@IsabellaPiesch they cannot ever succeed, but they never stop trying.

    • @subarnaghosh6150
      @subarnaghosh6150 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      So true

    • @anneyoung2310
      @anneyoung2310 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sick!

  • @SarahSodaPop
    @SarahSodaPop 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    "You will always feel alone with me, even lonlier then you feel when you are by yourself."
    This statement gave me an eerie feeling.

  • @ismailpatel7222
    @ismailpatel7222 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    They will never never tell you how evil they are

    • @JustMe-uu3bh
      @JustMe-uu3bh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      they like to pretend they are not, they LIE TO THEMSELVES as well as to you, it's how they operate. get away, work on yourself so that you are no longer susceptible to evil. period. end of story. get healing for your self.

    • @heatherhall3452
      @heatherhall3452 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Most of them don’t know multiple demons have moved into their empty vessel 😈

    • @heatherhall3452
      @heatherhall3452 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@JustMe-uu3bhwork on yourself is another LIE - TURN TO JESUS IS THE TRUTH THE LIFE AND THE ONLY WAY 🙏🏽✝️🩷🙌🏽

    • @JustMe-uu3bh
      @JustMe-uu3bh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@heatherhall3452 we are here to learn lessons.....and we have our part to play, so yes, working on Self to evolve spiritually instead of blaming others for where we find ourselves is the way. but you don't have to do that, you can just sit around and do nothing if you want, God has eternity to wait for you to wake up as to why you are here....He gave you free will after all. sooner or later you will start to see if you are open to God's directing you and teaching you thru circumstances in your life. God bless. it isn't easy but it's what we are here to do, it's called, "waking up spiritually". God helps those who help themselves.

    • @JustMe-uu3bh
      @JustMe-uu3bh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@heatherhall3452 I am pretty sure they hear voices..........prompting them to do things. it's because they are open and if you are weak spiritually, well, things can happen because you allow it. God is our protection........

  • @PamelaA.Pearson
    @PamelaA.Pearson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +275

    After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

    • @Victoria-C.Johnson
      @Victoria-C.Johnson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

    • @PamelaA.Pearson
      @PamelaA.Pearson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .

    • @PamelaA.Pearson
      @PamelaA.Pearson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

    • @PamelaA.Pearson
      @PamelaA.Pearson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.

    • @torbjornnilsen
      @torbjornnilsen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning. Hallelujah🎉🎉🎉♥️

  • @n0426
    @n0426 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +137

    You don’t need to know. Get out as soon as you can. They are just a waste of time. You deserve better.

    • @technicallyafox
      @technicallyafox 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      And when they are your parents growing up? Just run away? Doof

    • @Petra-ss6qr
      @Petra-ss6qr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Å1❤

    • @Petra-ss6qr
      @Petra-ss6qr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Åa

    • @n0426
      @n0426 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@technicallyafox it is my father. I detached emotionally. I spent my time with him making good use of it in every way possible.
      The thing is. Don’t get emotionally invested.

    • @rubyparchment5523
      @rubyparchment5523 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@technicallyafox You can run away at 18, yes. Wish I had.

  • @TerraDactyl-hc9ff
    @TerraDactyl-hc9ff หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    He constantly tells me I’m the problem. He doesn’t do anything wrong

    • @clintonnagy1662
      @clintonnagy1662 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I ruined everything when we would plan dates. She was never happy in my presence.

    • @BelindaMatlock
      @BelindaMatlock 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      NEVER, NEVER NEVER ANY ACCOUNTABILITY!

  • @michaelmccaffrey2731
    @michaelmccaffrey2731 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +115

    A narcissist can destroy their family for a new supply. They can have a healthy family life with children, destroy that and feel no guilt.

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Sadly the truth!

    • @MargaretFantasia-yj9vm
      @MargaretFantasia-yj9vm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They should just go to Hell ND stay there......

    • @Yaruandromedano1111
      @Yaruandromedano1111 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What a low vibrational person

    • @anneyoung2310
      @anneyoung2310 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      And they often do just that.

    • @anithaf5110
      @anithaf5110 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes..ofc this is d reality

  • @meliha56
    @meliha56 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I just realised after 40 years that I live with narcisist and have lost myself. It’s so scary.

    • @aldelgado9343
      @aldelgado9343 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You need to heal, you need to stand your ground, you need to tell him youre not gonna take his crap anymore

    • @tammyroyal3377
      @tammyroyal3377 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      i am so sorry. you’re not alone it has taken me 21 years to finally see the truth. hugs❤

  • @zuzusyk6901
    @zuzusyk6901 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Feeling alone physically, mentally, emotionally and psychologically all the time - I dropped my jaw down literally how accurate this is. My cats and dogs give me more connection, support and love than he has ever given me.

  • @rajashreechanda7089
    @rajashreechanda7089 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Not all narcissists yell and shout although silently show all these traits... Often gaslighting you.. These people are more dangerous

    • @josephinestory9091
      @josephinestory9091 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The covert Narc is more evil than

  • @olaoluwa05
    @olaoluwa05 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    They will never appreciate you for all you do very well, but will nail you for the little you didn't do

  • @user-df3eo9qx9p
    @user-df3eo9qx9p 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Narcissists are like living, breathing forms of toxic waste allowed to escape into the environment. Unfortunately, there isn't any legislation in place to clean up this mess. Thank you to all of the experts who are educated in narcissist abuse and prepare videos relating to this important issue in order to help us heal and clean up this waste and the affects it has caused us.

    • @MSSHARIII
      @MSSHARIII 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Perfect description.

  • @laquandajones7414
    @laquandajones7414 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I can't wrap my head around the way they think and feel. I can't believe someone can get so messed up in childhood to think in the ways that they do. They are truly demons.

    • @noself7889
      @noself7889 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It has much more to do than childhood. They come from all walks of life and it is a choice.

  • @user-pe5wp8ie9i
    @user-pe5wp8ie9i 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Hie everyone I'm Thandi and I refused to be controlled and manipulated and duped and it almost cost me my life. Run everyone run!!!

  • @brianlane9534
    @brianlane9534 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    "They are technically there..." I was married to someone for 12 years. I was isolated and alone for 12 years. It's a profound observation that could only be understood by those who experienced it.

    • @mouseova
      @mouseova หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is why I got a dog few years ago not to feel soooo alone in this "relationship". I kept the dog and got rid off N.

  • @Blando7887
    @Blando7887 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

    I unknowingly married a histrionic narcissist woman, foolishly fell in love and had a beautiful daughter with her only to be betrayed hurt and broken. I realized it was only a mirage, I fell in love with a mannequin. everything is on the surface, nothing deep, nothing spiritual. I was taken advantage of and used and eventually cheated on. She was involved with another man 2 streets over who I knew for about 5 years. Right under my nose. She was able to give me kisses and hugs, tell me what a wonderful husband and father I was while simultaneously visiting another man atleast 4 times per week. She was hiding her affair in plain sight

    • @rubyparchment5523
      @rubyparchment5523 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      This scenario is common nowadays, when much emphasis is put on looks, image. Knowing narcs as I do, I bet she didn’t even like the neighborhood Lothario, just enjoyed the intrigue. Danish says they don’t care about anyone.

    • @larshesthaven5828
      @larshesthaven5828 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      It hard to find out you have been together with a 2-year-old and traumatised baby in a full grown adult body, but being cunning, cheating and empty inside ...having a child with a narcissist is the worst to think of because the child will have to suffer trauma growing up with the manipulative narcisisist...I am in the same situation and had to leave everything to protect myself from breaking down..and now my daughter is with a monster. I have tried ti do everything to save my daughter but ender up having to sacrifise my daughter because I live far away...I can only wait and hope for the best for my daughter and maybe one day see her again and take her into my arms and help her to heal and become normal

    • @triciacarolkilbride2993
      @triciacarolkilbride2993 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      My late hubbie was on every dating site, straight and gay and he catfished. He would sit holding my hand watching TV, stroking my face/ hair, saying how much he adored and loved me...whilst texting " a work thing" phone fell outta his pocket...I picked it up...he was an airline pilot just landed.... I put phone back on floor and said nothing...too shocked. Eventually he catfished a friend of a friend so was caught out! Everyone does it, it means nothing, it's a bit of fun, I need people to see me as wonderful or I feel crap and every other excuse you can think of BUT accepting NO liability. I threw him out and took him back a year later when he was dying of cancer...yup hrs before he died he was still at it..all there on his phone and tablet! They simply cannot change ...they also cannot see how their actions hurt you, they cannot empathise.

    • @joseenoel8093
      @joseenoel8093 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yup don't go for mannequins, how do you think those drags fool guys, hubby was saying how much he hated that, I said blame yourself, your idea of what we're to look like!

    • @joseenoel8093
      @joseenoel8093 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@triciacarolkilbride2993wow I knew someone who went through that it was her dad who told me, the dad moved in with her and the kids so she could afford to eat properly, unbelivable!

  • @IsabellaPiesch
    @IsabellaPiesch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Secrets are their life. Their actions never match their words...I resonate with the competition and achievements things the most. Everything you do will be downgraded. Those people can´t lose they get literally crazy when they lose. (They always want to be better than everyone around them). They create an atmosphere to compete (they need the drama and supply out of those environments).

    • @gpal4843
      @gpal4843 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I keep a small table in front of my bedroom door... Scared

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂​@@gpal4843

  • @spiritualmirroranthonyfiel5904
    @spiritualmirroranthonyfiel5904 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I know the narcissistic better than they know themselves. They cannot keep secrets from this Spiritual Mirror.

  • @deborahcaldwell9775
    @deborahcaldwell9775 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    All true
    Gone gone. The damage done. It’s been more than 50 years, but it took me more than 50 years to figure it out.

    • @rhanson1192
      @rhanson1192 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Same here.....over 50 years to figure out

    • @susanabbott8376
      @susanabbott8376 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I left 5 months ago. My covert narcissist husband nearly destroyed me. Im starting over. Was homeless. But now i have a small mobile home and peace. But i am still reeling from it. Trying to process it. My mom and my sister are narcissists as well. Life has been incredibly sad for me

    • @AdmiringGreyElephant-fw4hc
      @AdmiringGreyElephant-fw4hc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Deberacaldwell, it took me longer than that. I am ashamed to say i had three of these demons in a row. I am only just learning about narcs

    • @rhanson1192
      @rhanson1192 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Admiringgreyelephant.....how would you know as this information was not readily out there decades ago. Your words are powerful. You are stronger than you know 👍

    • @AdmiringGreyElephant-fw4hc
      @AdmiringGreyElephant-fw4hc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      One can look back. I aim to survive. They really didnt win, even after all this time i am quietly proud of myself.
      I have ptsd and isolate

  • @kaustic79
    @kaustic79 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    My ex boyfriend started talking like me, playing the fake empath to people who didn't know him well enough. People began getting attracted to him more than before, thinking he was an empath, a bonus to his good looks and charming personality. But, every single thing he said was actually borrowed from me. Of course, this would not work for long, because his empathy performance was totally derivative. I left him after being with him for 8 months, the moment I started doubting him. I approached a friend who's a psychologist and she decoded his character for me. My boyfriend had both NPD and HPD. Apart from borrowing empathy language from me, he did a lot of other things which Danish has pointed out as examples of textbook narcissism. In fact, his mother was the master narcissist in their terribly enmeshed family and the family's dysfunctionality was cleverly covered up by their public performance of grandiose behaviour which easily impressed others. I was saved because I had an awareness of what NPD could lead to. I called him out, and, totally cut him off within 8 months, even before it had become too toxic.

  • @Aochic
    @Aochic หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    He brags to others that I'm a doctor, while putting me down "you think you're so important ". Actually, HE feels its important, not ME. He's an embarrassment.

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @anitaslater488
    @anitaslater488 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    So true. They love to tear a person down.

  • @homeschooljunkie
    @homeschooljunkie หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    All of them! When we always change to to make this person happy over and over and over. It is Never Enough! It will never be enough. I love you. You are beautiful. You belong.

  • @brendabanks6000
    @brendabanks6000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    What you’re describing is a demon, these kind of ppl have a wicket demon inside of them, these is why they cannot love you, demons hate us, and when a person hates u secretly and there’s a lot of these kind of ppl out there. These is awful

    • @harobedasenath
      @harobedasenath 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My adult son and I were going through the house taking out the many demonic new age “antennas.” We had finally come to the Truth- Yeshua! We came to a huge framed Whale’s Tail photo. (We had lived on Maui for 42 years.) My son looked at it and said to me- “Mom, do you see that?” I looked at it and the tail had morphed into a terrifying hooded black demon. I asked the soon to be ex if he saw it- he couldn’t see anything. Finally, I was free after 45 years of being trapped in his control! Everything Danish is saying about these demonic entities is true!!

    • @tracydolezal5120
      @tracydolezal5120 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Exactly!!!!!!

    • @CaroleanneWright
      @CaroleanneWright 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Yes and more than one demon. Try Anger, Jezebel, Resentment, Hatred, Venom, Cruelty, Control, Manipulation, Fearmongering, etc

    • @JustMe-uu3bh
      @JustMe-uu3bh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      they DO attract evil attachments, call it what you will. they could be inhabited as well, they certainly do NOT want God anywhere near them this is why they hate good. get it yet?

    • @chaoticalm
      @chaoticalm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There actually are no real demons, just patterns of the mind which are explained as demons. Just saying the experience is the same and responsibility is with 'the demon'.. be certain of that

  • @melissaroshan
    @melissaroshan 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Danish, you’re getting me through a dark time and I thank you. It is heartbreaking knowing someone I loved so deeply is a Narcissist. But realizing this brings me to healing. 😊

  • @nessauk2786
    @nessauk2786 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    My ex lied about everything his identity his work his addictions he lied about everything i dont want to go through that again.Aweful relationshit.

  • @heikeschwarz9028
    @heikeschwarz9028 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Danish, he said to me, you very strong....and then I realise, why he notice that and tell me. So he tried a lot to destroy me and you helping me to awake, thank you so much.

  • @joycejones4526
    @joycejones4526 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    "Thank you from the heart!" I've been dealing with a Narcissistic stalker for over 12 years now. Watching your videos has given me the tool I needed to heal myself. I've been trying your technique for days and already I have noticed a difference. I did every wrong. Now I see and fell I have got a chance to free myself.

  • @Lifeishort17
    @Lifeishort17 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    I even questioned myself was I the Narc am I crazy am I asking for too much NO it was him all I ever asked for the basic needs a person needs in a relationship to be loved , cared, for given emotional attention , their time compassion support someone to rely on NEVER GOT NONE OF THAT..😢

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      They are not able to give you that. They can´t emotional attach with you (they have zero emotional empathy). They can give you lots of gifts but never love.

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They KNOW you will question your reality...another reason why they do the 360 deal. Just to make sure their narrative that they painted sticks to the cockroach wall that they warned everyone about. It's a whore lifestyle.

    • @pulengmokhele4933
      @pulengmokhele4933 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I also asked myself the very same question.He used to call me bipolar and I checked the word it matches him perfectly 😂😂

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@pulengmokhele4933 😂😂😂😂

  • @devinedarkdiva
    @devinedarkdiva หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm literally laughing out loud from how truly ACCURATE this is, how truly REAL this is within my family and amongst so-called friends. This is amazzziiing!!....These people love to sit and wait for your demise or some sort of downfall, all the while, you're steady being blessed and overcoming these things and behaviors after finally coming to know the truth about these sad individuals. I used to think that I'd lost my damn mind when actually it was this horrible behavior and insecurity in these people that was the core of the problem. These narcs get pleasure from waiting and plotting the other's downfall, but they are only digging their own hole deeper, and deeper and DEEPER....Wow. Thank You, God for opening my spiritual eyes.

  • @LearnwithShailja
    @LearnwithShailja 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I resonate with each and every dirty secret of a narcissist.

  • @MsAvignon
    @MsAvignon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I don’t know how I coped for so many years, walking on egg shells, believing everything was my fault, no intimacy, thinking I was a freak, because he said so. Finding these videos has been a life saver. Your pain is my joy, indeed.

  • @2thedivine944
    @2thedivine944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I felt like I was in the midst of hell and that loneliness was the strangest feeling I’ve ever felt. I never even felt that way single! Energy is real. So are evil people

    • @heatherhall3452
      @heatherhall3452 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The demonic realm is REAL ~ Jesus is the only door to true freedom 8:32 🙌🏽 ✝️🩷

  • @ayeshanasir9916
    @ayeshanasir9916 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Omg its like u r describing my situation... the only difference is he does not cut me off from my friends and family

  • @susanabbott8376
    @susanabbott8376 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    All 7!! Cried throughout this video. I was so fooled. It started with my mom. Yikes! Im trying to figure out how to be ok

  • @Lifeishort17
    @Lifeishort17 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    I went through all this 9 months off work with mental health issues he enjoyed me being totally helpless always felt alone more alone then actually being alone you are so accurate..thank you...danish

    • @naowright9308
      @naowright9308 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Being alone is being alone and you get to choose what you do, say, and hear. Being with them is more lonely because there is another himan so you expect companionship, but receive loneliness. You also are not in control of what goes on so you cannot express yourself because they have to control all.

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@naowright9308 Even if you express yourself they don´t care (that´s the whole problem). They don´t care about the other person only use it for their benefits.

  • @2thedivine944
    @2thedivine944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Every single secret I know and the more you pray you can’t deny this fact and not run!!

  • @spiritualbread7133
    @spiritualbread7133 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    #1) Sounded like my whole year of 2023. I finally got free of him in December 10th 2023. The police took him away in handcuffs. I always thought...if I can just prove he's cheating, he'll just leave. ( Please don't do that) He attacked me & choked me until I passed out. I didn't attack him, I was trying to run away. I didn't think he would do that.

  • @Hint158
    @Hint158 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Wow, you summarized my 25 yrs with him. Every year gets worse. My ms was caused by the abuse and now he does not want to care for me as I become disabled. I only have my God Jehovah to support me because no one believes he is the demon I claim he is. But God sees it all. So Danish, you get it. Thank you for the knowledge and support. May God bless you as well.❤

    • @reginadoll390
      @reginadoll390 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, Our God, Jehovah see him, knows what he's really doing to you and will hears YOU and will help You to be strong, victorious!!! Please, stay calm..take care of your health
      Be blessed!

  • @insheyaroopawala
    @insheyaroopawala 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Was discarded by a narcissist boyfriend 20 days ago all of a sudden him saying we have no future together and our relationship will not workout in future after spending 3 relationship’s anniversaries together…he gave me a silent treatment and I gave him super silent treatment and looook few hours ago he came showering with all his love on my instagram posts as if nothing really happened between us. Allah save us from these a*******. NEVER AGAIN GOING BACK TO HIM.

    • @Steph-sb3ge
      @Steph-sb3ge 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      May Allah save us from these types yes. I had a narcissist like this. Now I’m planning on marriage and will be vetting any man through my Wali/imam

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @santanawilliams6542
      @santanawilliams6542 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Alhamdulillah

  • @AnnA-tu3ig
    @AnnA-tu3ig 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    My narc used to tell me to run. Who the hell tells you that? He knew!!

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Cat-fb3pd
    @Cat-fb3pd หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You're doing an excellent job at describing everything in detail. Thank you for the validating those who are hurting the most. Thank you for being honest with us. And thank you for taking the time to let us know that we need to care for ourselves better and not listen to the bull crap

  • @jimmypena3317
    @jimmypena3317 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I saw all these secrets in open view, this is exactly why i went over 10 years staying away from my brother 100%

  • @lilas1999
    @lilas1999 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Our pain is their Joy. That's nota a secret.

  • @krismilstead9215
    @krismilstead9215 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Holy hell! I think he knows my bf! This is the best description I have ever heard! Blown away!

  • @lorenaestay8087
    @lorenaestay8087 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Yes. They are silent enemy.

  • @sunnyadams5842
    @sunnyadams5842 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    A Bag of Dirty Secrets = My Father!
    Nice...

  • @naowright9308
    @naowright9308 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    One thing my mom instilled in me was that life was not all about me. She did her dead level best to make me see that other people's feelings are valid and I need to be mindful of that. Thank you, Mom, for keeping me from becoming a narcissist and for teaching by word and example how to give of myself to make things better for everyone.

    • @seunajayi6612
      @seunajayi6612 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You're an angel. Let the healing continue ❤❤❤

    • @naowright9308
      @naowright9308 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@seunajayi6612 My mom is an angel.

    • @LW-mq1zl
      @LW-mq1zl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      My narc parents used to tell (accuse) me all the time: “the world doesn’t revolve around you, [name]!” said very nastily. I was still quite young when I realized they were projecting (of course I didn’t know these words/definitions yet) onto me bc it became very clear that they thought the world actually revolved around them and everything I did, every thought of mine needed to be about them. Truly disgusting behavior coming from “adults” who were (and still are!) willing to blame their daughter for all their problems and their own words and actions. I can’t trust anyone like this and I certainly cannot respect them.

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@LW-mq1zl❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @spiritcat77
    @spiritcat77 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    All seven. Every single one.

  • @lumenalight393
    @lumenalight393 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you. After 22 yrs and many videos this is the one that spoke CLEARLY to me 😢 its time

  • @User-vibes1523
    @User-vibes1523 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Yes, they have lot of secrets! Thanks Danish for revealing those dirty secrets. It'll help us in a greater way.

  • @barbarahanks-ut6zn
    @barbarahanks-ut6zn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The very first "secret" resonated in me like a bell. Being with him at any social function was like being alone -- and I was alone in a room full of people, and in a wheelchair.
    When I pointed out that my evening had not been enjoyable, but downright unpleasant, he asked why I didn't mingle.
    After that I let him socialize without me there. I had a better time at home with the pets. At least it felt as if they like me.

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤

  • @user-qv9nw1dq2f
    @user-qv9nw1dq2f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    You will feel lonelier with a narcissist than on your own. Everything else you said Danish is also true. I have experienced it all. Narcisists come to steal, kill and destroy.

    • @MaryFlavor_kanini
      @MaryFlavor_kanini 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is a perfect description of the devil. Narcissists are animals in human skin.

    • @crystalsanchez5720
      @crystalsanchez5720 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Just like the devil

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @belindakaylani5054
    @belindakaylani5054 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I experienced so much abuse as a child by two narcissist parents & then I got into a relationship that never cherished me.

  • @ronjaraubertochter971
    @ronjaraubertochter971 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ u rescued me with ur videos from the 3rd narcicisst... Its now one week since i block him and today i start feeling a little better again😊 they disconnect u so much from urself, u regocnize this first after some time alone 😊❤

  • @TheSniffy1
    @TheSniffy1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yes we do need to have them arrested for their crimes

    • @wzdluv5318
      @wzdluv5318 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      They are the ugliest thieves!

  • @joey5816
    @joey5816 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I couldn't trust my narcissist, she would tell everything and make up stuff to add to it. I only wanted a mother to talk to, but never had it.

    • @LW-mq1zl
      @LW-mq1zl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I have finally come to understand at 56 that my mother is simply data collecting when she asks about me and my life. To get anything she can use against me. And I have finally learned not to give her any information.

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too😢

  • @a0a0--0ao0
    @a0a0--0ao0 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    For me it's 5 and 6.
    My ex did a pretty good job in acting like who he pretends to be. But I found it strange that he wasn't even capable of doing basic adult tasks... I found out about his ugly side from his ex gf he cheated on. And yes he cheated with me. I've been speaking to his ex and put 2 and 2 together to find out the iceberg.. it was actually a relief to find out that he was lying to me like he was breathing.
    Watching your channel helped me to get answers to all the "why?" Questions I had in my head.
    Yes it was a waste of time but this was the final straw for me to go on a healing journey so I don't ever get in another toxic relationship.
    I am taking accountability for allowing myself to fall for this shadow puppetry

  • @missycocoa875
    @missycocoa875 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Spot on! Describes my ex husband & boyfriend! At this point, I'd rather be single 😃

  • @lisajones6839
    @lisajones6839 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You be spot on every time. I resonate with most of them with my ex narc but, the one that impacted me the most was the lying, withholding information and mulnipilation. My withheld the fact that he was married in the beginning and throughout our relationship. I made it clear that I don't date married men or men in a serious relationship so, he withheld the truth bc, he knew I would have left him earlier on or right in the beginning. He strung me on for almost 15 years.

  • @biondna7984
    @biondna7984 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you for your work. Two of these were what I mostly experienced with my first husband. First, he seemed to be a chameleon: to have very few firm opinions of his own. He'd quickly flex to accommodate people he wanted favors or recognition from. I had this growing unsettling sensation that there was no one actually there, in his skin. Secondly, the gaslighting was exhausting. I was strong and sometimes argumentative; I'd fight with him and insist he said or did whatever he said or did, while he'd angrily try to convince me that as ever, I had it all wrong. During the divorce, my attorney went through our finances and discovered things he'd done without my knowledge or agreement. It only strengthened my belief that I was doing a very good thing for myself to get away from him forever.

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you, Danish. Good insight.
    Which one, you ask...I think number six plays into all the others: I have been duplicitous all along. The narcissists ability to mask who they are is the number one way they keep up the abuse of their target. Sometimes the target truly is (not just feels like) the only one who knows the true colors of the narcissist.

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @susanfox-mx3nv
    @susanfox-mx3nv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    That the narcissist likes to watch us tiptoe. I realized about 2 years ago that both my mother and husband are and were narcissists. Mother taught me to walk on my toes; my husband has reinforced this. I am slowly unwinding all the insanity they threw at me. I looked at what I've been though, and realized I am strong for which I am grateful. (FYI: There have been many other such people in my life.) BUT: I am alive and growing. I win, and so do you. Many Blessings!

  • @Dee-mj3pu
    @Dee-mj3pu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The narc never tried to be transparent.

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😮😂😢

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And guess what it was the best thing that ever happened to you in your life❤ so rejoice ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @terriarnold4364
    @terriarnold4364 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    What a "very shallow and empty way to live!I'm "Grateful and Thankful that I am Free of the narc I was involved with.🙏💜🙏❤️

  • @dbb2347
    @dbb2347 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thanks for making these videos. It’s keeping me sane enough to take care of my self more.

  • @MEH157
    @MEH157 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh wow….Dr. Bashir, you have just blown my mind. I cannot believe you summed up my current relationship in a nutshell. He hates himself, he hates me. He falsely accuses me of things I have never done. He insults me on a daily. I realized what was going on but not soon enough. I am completely dependent financially now because I was blind in the beginning. I now have a job but it will take a while for me to be on my own. I’ve always been independent but on the flipside, I am a very trusting person to a fault. I have finally realized what is really going on and am doing my best to get out. He is trying to sabotage my job now. I am not one to be taken down so I have been fighting back. I refuse to let anyone take me down mentally or physically. I need help please help me anyone out there please I am afraid for myself at times and don’t want to be another statistic

  • @triciacarolkilbride2993
    @triciacarolkilbride2993 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Danish...wow 100% ...you truly hit the nail on the head with these observations! Brilliant thanks

  • @mamacitasalsera
    @mamacitasalsera 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Ugh, thanks for the very accurate reminder. I pity his new supply.

  • @milliesecond102
    @milliesecond102 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ALL 7 tell my story! I wish I would have figured this out YEARS ago, even from the very first red flag!🤦‍♀️

  • @sharon3108
    @sharon3108 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s difficult to choose just one. You’ve just described my two marriages to narcs. These are their secrets to dehumanizing

  • @harikakota9329
    @harikakota9329 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    All the points are 💯 correct....they will never be there when we need , if we are happy they can't see it and tries to spoil it no doubt in that... I wish I would have seen your videos 5 years back.... anyways now I am happy that I found your guidance a blessing

  • @deanag8457
    @deanag8457 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i have been listening for narcissistim in myseld from myself and im working to correct it. im just glad im not too far gone with it. i will keep listening and keep growing

  • @KingEddieKane
    @KingEddieKane หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It was not till the end that I even understood what was wrong with her now that I know I can’t shake it. Every single one of the traits they described is her behavior day-to-day. And I saw a lot of red flags even in the dating stage. Now I know that her mother, her and her children are all narcissist. I cannot run away fast enough.

  • @junejelm423
    @junejelm423 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Holy God......i cant believe this depth of conscious predation!
    This is another 5 star 🌟 lesson....to see our hades with labels 😢..

  • @sandygoddard7478
    @sandygoddard7478 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Danish, I think you are adorable. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge with us

  • @rodneychalker715
    @rodneychalker715 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Every single secret you spoke of relates to my experience. Thankfully it was only a brief time I felt it, but didn't suffer greatly. I feel sorry & pray for previous & future supply, at the hands of this devil in disguise.

  • @chosenforgreatness08
    @chosenforgreatness08 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dr. Danish,This was so powerful. You speaking in 1st person as the narcissist really spoke to my heart. You are very gifted and you have the gift of healing. Thank you so much for this.

  • @tega3200
    @tega3200 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is just too REAL! Thanks for sharing. 😢

  • @HydroDiver
    @HydroDiver 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am so grateful for the knowledge and awakening but it's still so sad to recognize reality for what it was.

  • @user-rx3pn3ik8t
    @user-rx3pn3ik8t 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is the best description I have heard to describe narcissistic abuse ❤ They ALL resonated with me 😢 Thank you for doing this Danish ❤

  • @ingabireyuwiteka9580
    @ingabireyuwiteka9580 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    All 7 secrets are resonating with my case..
    I wonder if these people can be charged for the wrongdoing!
    They keep moving, in disguise as if they are human...
    But they need a point out and arrested😮

  • @1marki
    @1marki 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Narcissists are absolutely brilliant to play with! If you know what you’re doing you can have a lot of fun fucking with their heads. The secret is to not give a shit.

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Ding ding ding ding ding ding ding ding🎉🎉🎉

  • @angelewing3979
    @angelewing3979 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sadly everyone single one was on spot in my situation I’m currently in and I couldn’t thank u enough for ur videos they r truly helping me through this

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢😢😢

  • @marthaochieng1340
    @marthaochieng1340 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This talk is such an eye opener and therapeutic at the same time. I mean, they are the very things you witness and hear on a daily basis, expect you didn't know they already had description out in the world. Eish! You watch the video with mixed reactions, frustration and loud laughter every time the narrator is spot on! You wonder how he could know your partner so well!! Chei!!😮

  • @nihar5818
    @nihar5818 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm wants living on my own but narcissistic someone distrbing personal lifestyle. I always stayed alone silently but alas he comeback again. Oh my! Thanks.

  • @tuhinadas3572
    @tuhinadas3572 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    All the seven secrets that you revealed here have been experienced by me. But the only thing that my ex accepted 1-2 times when our relationship came to an end that he never loved me and once he accepted that he is not like other people like he cannot experience any excitement for life, love and many more things.
    He broke up with me because I asked him so many questions and one of them was , "What is my value in his life?" He just refused to answer me and started blaming me for not letting him have his breakfast and asking pointless questions. That day I ordered food for him, he had the food and didn't even appreciate me for at least once that I really cared for him and at night he broke up with me. But after 26-27 days he messaged me again and told me that he cannot sleep at night because I am not there in his life.
    I can't understand what he wants. Anyways I have gone no contact with him and am trying to cope up with the situation just because of your videos. Thank you so much !! 😊❤

  • @lauraantic1384
    @lauraantic1384 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The way they can convince all about mental health and all negative things that are not real

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's demonic

  • @anabalarjishvili9357
    @anabalarjishvili9357 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have never heard more accurate and presice description of all those ,,gifts,, narcissist bring into our lives. Thank you so much!

  • @rosaperez9689
    @rosaperez9689 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I relate to all . Thank you for your channel and I listen to you everyday . I’m a narc survivor too ,

  • @cwmamakin1
    @cwmamakin1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When my sorrow created joy and when my weakness gave them strength...it is truly sadistic. Awakened to all the energy they have stolen from me. Albeit a late to "get it" I have and will continue to walk away from the darkness that tries to attach itself to me to steal my joy, my love and my light. 😇🙏

  • @bernadettetaylor881
    @bernadettetaylor881 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am amazed at how deeply you understand these narcissists. I’m also relieved and encouraged by your teaching. Bless you. 🙋🏻‍♀️❤️

    • @maryrice5873
      @maryrice5873 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He was raised by two narcissist

  • @primaryfrench1380
    @primaryfrench1380 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    thank you for this once again accurate amazing video ! all my life I had to listen to people telling me that I had to put up with my dad, that his behaviour was normal, that he was humiliating me to help me improve, then boyfriends would behave like this too, and I always took if for normal.. so sad..

  • @iconicintuitive
    @iconicintuitive 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What a perfectly timed message for me. Thank you so much 💓

  • @ADREN1985
    @ADREN1985 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I congratulated you .. 🎉 I give you very good and I trust you.. I know what you are going through.. I live in Amsterdam, NETHERLANDS and my PhD thesis at the university is ABOUT NARCISSIST. I gave FULLY 4 years. In the first years, I did not understand anything, then I thought calmly and understood everything very well and I succeeded.. I AM TRYING TO HELP THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE. .. I have only one goal: First, I strive to become the best NARCISSIST expert in Europe and I try to help all people. My second goal is that I want people all over the world to know this awareness.

  • @noself7889
    @noself7889 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don’t think they know who they are. They lack self awareness.

  • @user-kd7hr9jr3j
    @user-kd7hr9jr3j 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Danish and God bless you, Amen! 😊