See, empathy in itself can make someone be less "strong" in how they handle people. Because most generally to be kind and caring means you have less capability to be strong enough to speak out against someone. This is why they are so easily manipulated or intimidated into doing what the Narcissist wants. But as the super empath, it's still having that core empathic ability, while still being able to have that strength to not be intimidated and be able to stand up to whoever it is that's seeking to control them
Because they are that dumb, when we stick up for ourselves they are full blown narcs out calling us selfish, my sil even pointed out she was trying to be nice to me, wow I'd hate to see what being mean meant, she'd called and I'd not spoken to her in 5 yrs, the truth sayer, me, repeatedly hung up on, did she think I'd gone 5 yrs with no one being nice to me, undoubtedly!
I understand now why my ex husband’s hatred for me grew over the years. I grew stronger and he wasn’t able to break through the shield I built around myself for self protection from his BS. I stopped biting his bait whenever he wanted a fall out, started saying ‘No’ to his flying monkeys, refused to fawn over the enablers he wanted to score points with, ignored his tantrums, disengaged when he was unreasonable and went no contact when divorce was filed. It was almost as if I cut off his oxygen supply when I deprived him of his entitled expectations. He totally went crazy and lost control. At that point, I video recorded his stunts to be used as evidence in court and my children finally saw his true colours.
Wow sounds like a mini series in 5 mins or less, I'm glad you showed him who he had the misfortune of screwing with, they're bent on trying to make us into persons we are not, I'd never want a puppet, hate guys who act like, no sin being able to think for yourself, mine wanted marriage and kids, time to grow up, it is the shock of their lives!😊
Well done! It’s not easy to put Narc’s in their place and to serve justice where it is due but what you did is master class! Blessings on your healing journey.
Narcissists think empaths are weak because of the empathy, love, and kindness we have. The narcissists believes empaths are not supposed to make mistakes, and narcissists believe they're perfect because of their false sense of self. Narcissists will use your past against you and they're controlling monsters. Narcissists play the victim in every situation, and blame empaths in every situation, and they're very abusive. Narcissists love to interfere with empaths peace, they love to torment you. They always like to be around a lot of annoying people like them. They'll mess your whole life up, like calling the police on you for no reason, when they're the ones causing problems and bothering you, and the police are narcissists just like them. The best thing to do is to stay away from these monsters and go no contact with them, because they'll mess up your whole life.
My mom has called the police on me about 5 times. My kids were taken away from me. My little 5 month old baby! Bc of my narc mother and her narc bf trying to control my entire life! But this is the year! This is the year to expose these vampires! Once and for all.
@@amart3632 I'm so sorry this happened to you!! I PRAY your situation makes turn around,and rule in your favor!! I had situation at my last residence with a run in with the police. From trouble my narc mom created,and other narc family members joined up on me. I had to take my child,and flee to another place.They are always trying to paint one in a negative view. Such as "unstable","crazy" to try to get my child taking. My narc mom,and her narc husband are always trying to control my life. Exactly "vampires" the evil they do they will stop at nothing. They use the police to weaponize. They interfere with the best interest of your child/children.So they can be separated from you. They will mess with a person's place to live. To cause trouble,and get one put out for rules violations.
Oh great point about “empaths are not supposed to make mistakes” that’s how one started a smear campaign against me. Meanwhile, I was told to let all her mistakes go. 🤷🏽
Don't forget...they force you to forgive. I have no control over what God is entitled to. My forgiveness is simply a sign of weakness....and I no longer afford it to them. That's upto whatever God they believe in. Not me. I have no right to give that gift.
@@beastly.warner Yes they do try to force it on someone to forgive them. These people never repent of their evil. They continue to abuse,and want you to forgive & forget about it.
So I got really into Socratic questioning (used in psychotherapy), which *could* poke holes in their arguments/deception. Using psychotherapy in potentially harmful ways is ethically debatable, though. Really have to let go of the fantasies of justice and possible moral anxiety afterward depending on your ethical views. Because they're *still* not going to change. And chances are you'll be gaslighted in return... Which still wears down on you because psychological abuse is insidious. So I learned that the best boundary is to stop engaging, use the JADE technique, and focus on your own healing. I think they thrive on the attention, really.
They teach to be narcs in schools. They don't want you successful. Then you wouldn't need Big Daddy government. They punish kids for defending themselves but the bully can punch people all day, every day and the teacher sees it but won't do anything until you defend yourself. Kids get into trouble for being too smart and doing extra work. You are only to do as much as the dumbest, laziest kid in class(you know, the narc!). Everything revolves around THEM! Now, you have two choices. Do you want to be the narc or the punching bag? That's the only two options allowed! NO authenticity allowed! That offends and upsets the narc. They never fix schools. They just dump more tax dollars into the hands of corrupt people. Then they say we need more money! Things continue to slide downhill. So they start teaching the kids that the lighter colored ones are causing all this by some vague mystical force that no one can identify, but it's definitely real since the experts said so. You kids hate each other now. Good! Do you feel the love and tolerance? It's "good" to teach kids that definitions of words don't matter. It helps them to become better narcs or punching bag of narcs.
I like these darker videos. What can I say? Suffering narcissists make me happy. We suffered first. Now it’s their turn to understand real suffering. Perfectly balanced as all things should be.
I agree! It's really awesome listening to this and living it at the same time. I can sit back and really appreciate all the hard inner work. Seeing the results is amazing.
Very very true! A very abusive childhood caused me to fight every single day of my childhood for my own safety, protection and life. I did so with the trauma based survival skills that C-PTSD uses over it victims as well as being an Empath. When I was an adult married to a narcissist, he would come up to me out of the blue as I’m doing laundry, dishes, putting clothes away, etc… and he would say ridiculous things to me. EX: All your friends are lowlifes. I replied, “Hummmm I don’t think Tom, Donna, Belinda, Joe, Levy, Mike, Bev, etc… will appreciate you calling them lowlifes”. He just walked away without making a sound. He hated me helping other people and acted like I needed his permission. So he was really mad because I was going to help someone and he didn’t want me to. A couple days later he came to me and said, I forbid it! As in he was forbidding me from helping someone. I coughed sarcastically and asked him to repeat what he just said because I know I misunderstood him. Silence. I said, I’m sorry, you for-what-me? Please say it again, im sure I heard you incorrectly. Silence. Yea I thought so. I’ll pretend you experienced momentary episode of insanity. I added that he knew exactly who I am and knew I don’t ever do orders or demands, I make my own decisions and choices and nobody controls me but me. He never said a word and walked away speechless yet again. Another time while I’m putting laundry away, he came out of the blue to tell me I am an embarrassment to him causing him to be humiliated at his company parties because I am inappropriate. I asked him to tell me how I am inappropriate causing him embarrassment. He said you don’t behave in an acceptable way. I asked that he tell me what I do that is inappropriate. He says I don’t know how to describe your behavior. I say okay, give me an example of one party where I behaved in an embarrassing way. He got mad and yelled that he can’t give me an example on the spot! I told him whenever I bring something up that he does and causes me discomfort I always have many examples that support what I’m referring to. He got even more frustrated and snapped, not everyone can come up with examples on the spot like you do. I replied I didn’t need an example from everyone, I just needed one from him. I don’t have one! We’ll take your time, think about it and the moment you come up with one example of a situation when I was embarrassing you come back and tell me. Until then your complaint of my embarrassing behavior holds no water and is considered unfounded and without merit. Walked away speechless again and he never came back with that example. Not one of his attempts to rattle me with completely false attempts at character assassination ever worked on me. But I love to apply logic, reasoning and rationale thought process in debating illogical, unreasonable and irrational people. So I got A LOT OF PRACTICE in that marriage before divorcing the narcissist.
He walked away because you showed logic and not emotional pain telling him my friends won't like you saying this instead of how can you say this about my friends and act hurt as if he hurt you. If he sees weakness he tries to hurt you even more but not other people that he does not live with.
I've only dealt with two narcs in my 60 years, one was a guy I dated after my husband passed away, and the other more recently was a friend. The one I dated was constant chaos, I had no idea what was going on, my late husband was super secure so I had no exposure to mind games, chaos, triggering, exploiting reactions, the demands and ultimatums....that didn't last long but still came out of it confused, then educated myself on narcs. The friend had been jerking me around for his entertainment....so I just cut him off, blocked email, etc. That was about 18 months ago, he hasn't tried any other contact. Don't put up with other people's crap, stay strong, nobody needs that nonsense in their life.
Thank you for this excellent video. You have been such a blessing. I found that I had to control myself! If I went shopping I found myself thinking I should buy this or that for the narc! Always thinking or noticing things they would like.I had to STOP myself. I had gotten them out of my life but not out of my head. Same thing for negative thinking, their voice of constant criticism. So in the mornings I take a little time to think of MY accomlishments, not theirs. Before I go to sleep I ennumerate what I accomplished this day, not them. These narcs are like ghosts we have to banish, interrupt our own thoughts. I actually say "Stop It!" out loud when I start this. Being mindful is really important bcs the thoughts just arise. When dealing with people there are no more second chances. I am never rude, I have far fewer " friends" but I am much happier and healthier. This takes time and mental energy, so I try not to push myself to perfection like I used to. Nobody loves you any more if you are a doormat. Much love and appreciation❤️
Interesting about the negative self talk that these demons park in our minds. I like the command “Stop it”. Seeking ways of how to toss these strong holds.
I have given myself to the Lord and he has healed all my hurt and anger and keeps me safe. After 60 yrs of marriage and betrayal I realize that he at 84 will never change, only get worse. I am happy, very careful and do not let his evilness effect me anymore. For decades he has been prisoning my food to keep me docile and have had some very suspect accidents which have caused serious injury. My family are aware of all this and support me as well as my medical team .
All truth, I'm still try to fight out financially. The last phase is the hardest. They keep trying sabotaging you as long as they can. Distract you to concentrate, you know it when see the patterns but to break the trauma feelings and thoughts is very hard. I don't give up but I'm not sure if I become fully free.. be blessed you all❤
Being raised by a narcissist came in handy years later when I encountered my narcissistic boyfriend: 1. During the first few months with these people please listen to how they talk about their exes, their stories are usually confessions. 2. Give any new relationship a probation period and observe any changes in behavior, the devaluing incrementally increases over time but may start quite early on. 3. Have a dealbreaker offense, mine was Gaslighting, once he did that it was a wrap...(the relationship lasted a solid 3 months, all in all I had a lucky escape) ❤
Everything said is true. The narcs return after 4 years was a piece of cake.. they tried everything to convince me that we are just made for each other. Nothing about them has changed, I called them out, shut them down and reminded them plenty of times how awful they are. I knew how to play the game they started from the first time I met them. She would listen very closely to what I had to say and it was like she liked it but in a vampire type way.. kinda spooky. I ignored her for almost a week then she reached out questioning why I’m being silent. Telling me how she realizes that I “balance” her out and how much we are made for each other. I blocked her the next day 😂 I don’t want anything to do with that ever again in my life. Don’t play yourself
That's true. I am a sigma empath and I have the gift of reading people like open books. I only need a few minutes to see through the narcissist's intentions. I often meet them on my way and amazing situations arise from these meetings. I often end up confronting them with their true selves and leaving them angry and surprised. the brutal truth is refreshing although I don't believe it would change their behavior. but they avoid me like the plague. the awakened empath is enemy number 1 for narcissists. my advice to empaths. connect with nature. its gentle loving energy will bring you closer to your heart and from there it is a short way to being on the right path and full protection against individuals such as narcissists and other such individuals.✌️🙏❤️
We took my narcissistic neighbors to court because of their abuse and control. They lost control of our property because I called them out, and it ended up costing them thousands of dollars (13,000) in arbitration. The court will conclude the case once they recieve the arbitrators report. I suspect my neighbor will loose this as well, again costing them thousands of dollars due to not following court orders or the rules of court.
@@pamelalynn5955 thankyou. I appreciate you for this information. I'm assuming it means have the property surveyed? I was wondering if I went to the courthouse if I could veiw property line/surveys? I don't know much about this. If it's been surveyed before why would it need to be surveyed again? Surely there is a line that hasn't changed. I don't understand these things.
You are doing an Excellent job, plus you are, very brave & you always hit the nail on the head. You know what, I think I am one of those Super Empath. No joke.
Thank you Thank you Thank you soooooooo much danish Savings this video ❤❤❤❤❤ Bless you Please make more videos on how to be a super empath tips and tricks. And how to apply this in examples. ❤❤❤
Dear Danish, I really enjoyed watching this video. I have learned a lot. I am a Super Empath and you thought me a lot about my self to understand myself. ❤❤❤
You are brilliant 😄 I have been in this marriage for over 30 yrs and have tortured myself for not knowing why i have done so. You have explained so much. I am a fighter, of sorts, and have always been the first one to pin him up against the wall if he wad wrong. I have had to heal and learn while still in this relationship. Currently Iam setting things up so that I can file for divorce and move out. Its not easy to do because I am epileptic and live 14 miles from town. Regardless I am determined and my youngest son , whos 18, is with me. Thank You 🙏
I just started therapy to start healing. The realization that I was with one for years if very fresh. I already had CBT for a year so I’m a bit more self aware. So, what really hit the most that you mentioned about healing is Really searching deep down who you are” Thanks, now I have a lot of processing to do.
There was a time after he was gone that Universe asked me if I would want him back is he was ‘fixed’, so to speak, and I said yes. So Universe told me that he would encounter a female who would treat him as he treated me. That was years ago and I have been following his unfortunate life. I don’t know if/when he might come back but I sure learned to trust the universe. 🙏🏼
I directly address their actions. Stick to the facts. Don't allow them to derail the topic of discussion towards something that isn't about the topic of discussion. Don't allow them to shift the blame on you. Stand strong in your boundaries. Don't show any emotional reactions. Stay calm, don't defend yourself. Truth needs no defense. Don't be afraid and don't allow gaslighting. Don't take anything personally. I have learned every narcissistic trick and tactic through experience. Being a healed super empath i have grown to understand and realize that their actions aren't my fault. Remember it's not your fault. Trust what you see not what you hear from them. You cant help them heal, they must want to do that for themselves. Stay strong, always remember your stronger than them.
Thanks for your sharings, I don't really know the super empath but it doesn't matter if we experience it, we recognize it and what you describe is mirror mine as I worked a lot on knowing myself at a point that i recognize others and love, compassion and wisdom that i received heal my own wounds and see others wound clearly.But i don't go chasing them, they want to compete because they think competition is how we show our strength and a lot of people don't understand that life is not a field of battle but a life force of inner peace to master,no one can have peace if not inside.Thanks.
😂 He used no contact to manipulate me into "coming back". This no contact thing TH-cam propagates I used properly by my solicitor, telling him he couldn't come anywhere near me any more. I recommend it by the time you are absolutely sick and tired of them.
Thank you for sharing this constructive information, I nearly had a heart attack, since I met him he has been taking and taking as if I owe him money, he showed no remorse of taking, I felt sorry for him with his manipulating stories . Thank you, now I am off the hook for you good teachings and constructive advises Thanks a million
Currently stuck in a narcissistic relationship. Trying to get the strength to get out, so keeping a diary. This is my 4th narcissistic relationship, including my mother. Your videos help. Thanks Danish.
This is me. Not only in my personal life but also in my work environment and even with some of my customers. I honestly believe it helps narcasists heal a little in order to place an impenetrable boundary against the b.s. narcissists can only harm those of us who allow it. Those are the ones who came from abuse and learned to tolerate it in order to survive. Once we heal and learn self love and the tools to build true boundaries in order to tell the world how to treat us and love us, we can at the least find a peaceful loving relationship and at most reach others to find the tools as well, including narcasists. I'm not advising to seek this out because it will come naturally. It is better to keep yourself from unnecessary stress and pain, rather than seeking to focus on actively impacting others. But anyways, 😂 basically i do treat everyone the same. If the is a wealthy guy showing off a fancy car or a fancy watch. I understand that he has probably gotten a lot of comments on those "things". So i make a point to ignore it, and focus on a normal interaction with them as a person. Over time as my customers come back, i noticed them leaning less on these items for a confidence boost. I have more stories but this comment is long enough as it is 😂
Dear Danish, I always enjoy watching your videos, they helped me a lot in life, therefore thank you for. We are very lucky to have people like you in this toxic world. ❤❤❤
I left my familie because of familie scapegoat abuse. Narcisist who are also alcoholic. I am grandmother, they abuse me in front of the grandchilderen. Also one of them hit me in the face and broke my glasses in my face. All the fysieke problems. They offend me and bulli me with 5 persons when i come for a birthday. And also the silenttreatment. I am broken, the people i love the most abused me for years .Thank you ,you saved my life ,my body could not take it anymore . I live in Holland en wich you love .❤
I’m the youngest and been abused my whole life . Was the scapegoat and my older sisters did everything together . My father ignored everyone and my mother was over bearing and yet they tore him apart but kisses his ass . Now my sisters control both of them and leave me out of everything . Trash my name but of course blame me
I have implemented it all and it works 100% , Empathy is power but should be allowed to be Mis used , not any more - “Developmentally stunted child “ in an adult body with a fragile ego - perfectly defines them - Thank you Danish - I am sorted with no intent of destroying anyone let karma take over that bit - just need sometime to claim my own self , God bless you !!
Took me ten years to fully destroy a covert narcissistic person being my ex fiancé trying so hard to figure out how to escape him by destroying his ego and I discarded him because he kept avoiding me and I felt lonely and I knew I deserved better. I’m a super empath. My biological father is also a narcissist. I destroyed his ego and now he wants nothing to do with me. I destroyed a third narcissistic persons ego. I’m an ego killer. When someone treats me like shit I won’t take no shit from anyone and I am not afraid to call them out. I literally call myself Karmas little sister because I help her destroy narcissistic people and other toxic people.
I have done all these- 👍👍👍 I first discovered & honed my divine qualities. For that , I saw life as a mirror. A mirror reflects 2 things . 1.. it shows you, who you are on the surface 2… who you are in actuality . Your inner qualities. ( which only can be seen through the inner lens. ). Then it’s a matter of time to turn the mirror on the narc . 🎉 and see the fun.
I have found out, that all kinds of somatic exercises are really valuable and efficient to get a feel for your body and also to get the feeling for your body back. And from my experience, the feeling for my body is really important, to pick up on alll kinds of sensations, especially emotional ones. Because being able to pick up on the emotional sensations is necessary to act and react upopn the emotional sensations to give them an adequate expression.
She tried for 18 years to break me but being able to empathize with her allowed me to see the vulnerabilities hidden behind the behaviour to understand the intent of her actions.
This is VERY helpful! Thank you, Danish.🙂 I'm an empath. No doubt about it. Super empath - I'm working on it. Working on healing. Working on being kinder to myself in my thought patterns.
Used all 5 on someone who was starting to hurt me! He left the country and is living privately instead of publicly now. He can still hurt people but I doubt he is as dangerous as he was. I cut his ego into carpaccio.
As an empath who had a narcissistic father, narcissistic best friend, narcissistic colleagues, it's a given that I've attracted a narcissistic community. I loved in a community home with 3 demons and 1 flying monkey for nearly 2 years. They robbed me of my time, energy and health. How did I resolve it completely? Tedious process but no contact. Absolutely zero. No middle ground. Middle ground or the occasional meeting means permission to continue their behaviour no matter how small. Healing began the moment I removed these scheming parasites from my life. Best health and body I've had in years.
I have had to stay in the same house until it sod because I did not want himto claim abandonment. I Grey yellow and stone rocked for 7 months. The house was sold and I will move in a couple of weeks. We are separated so I can leave without repercussion. I have observed the many ways he always has to comment on anything I do to make himself greater than in his min. I havebeome coldly observant and very cli I al in my observations. I have reclaimed my self and my identity. I will go back to my maiden name. I was discarded and cheated on for years. Suffered me tal and emotional criticism and abuse. He has shit on 30 years but I am growing. He will not. Goingno contact will be hardest for me so I have worked on disassociating myself from him. But I know I will stalk his social media for a while but with the move and New career I am embarking on I'm counting o this to deter me from doing so but I WILL NEVER TAKE HIM BACK IF HE HOOVERS
I don't believe much in astrology but according to Indian Jyotish shastra everyone is devided into 3 Ganas , Dev gan , manushya gan and rakshas gan. Whenever I learn about Super empath concept and Narcissist I relate that with characteristics of all these ganas. and I noticed all the narcissistic people in my life have Rkshas gana. And I noticed they really matched with all the people in my life all narcs has Rakshas gana Me and my brother and father are never get bullied or much affected by Narcissistic people and neither they could harm our character and our Image despite their trying hard. I think my father is a real super emapth me and my brother's got inherited few of his qualities. But still we need to learn more so it helped a lot while we encountered with this my narcissistic in laws.
Then them what’s app message if they are not giving expenses . Write messages about what is happening and try to get their acknowledgment on it . Don’t follow their orders by ignoring their demands ( like get me water - sorry I’m busy get it yourself . ) ( making this for dinner - the kids said they want to eat something else-- ) don’t make what they want . If they want to to do something don’t do it . If they argue it yell I say why are you fighting .. I’m going in other room until and I won’t listen to you or argue with you . He is left speechless 😅 Generally I avoid talking to him at all after learning that whatever he says is a lie to trick me . If he gaslights then I firmly say I know what I said or did !
Well, it certainly explains how I've managed to make some many people in my life hate me - like my parents, my ex-husband and in-laws, my extended family. (Shrugs) Oh well...
Well let's see 1. He says he married me because I wasn't afraid to tell him no and I told him no many ways over the years. 2. I called him out on his bs many times. I do not always hold the boundaries but I know when I am doing it. 3. Biggest fights...cannot let you treat others badly. He told me over and over he hates it the most when I use his words against him. 😅 4. I always called him out on projections and used the things he said as evidence he was a narcissist. 5. Of course I knew. And yes I would call him out or document it. People asked my why? Why do I stay when I know. My vows mattered, even a narcissist is a person and can choose to change, sometimes I can see the human in there. I left him in March. He finally went to therapy. He said he told the therapist that if it weren't for me, he would go to prison. I would tell him when something was a bad idea, he read my responses to determine if others would find it unacceptable. He trusted me enough to literally use me as his conscience. I loved him enough to do it. I could have had a better life without him, but the world would not have been a better place. I left him in march. He is finally seeking therapy. I want to redo my early adult years. I want to be my OWN everything. I want to be my own supply.
I'm a follower of Jesus married to a grandiose narcissist. He was raised in the church and became a preacher. He had already been previously married for more than 20 years when that marriage imploded. He went into a deep depression endless suicidal. I met him as he was just starting to come out of that place. The Lord definitely arranged our marriage and it was extremely difficult for two and a half years. We have now been married going on 9 years. It's been an evolution of me implementing the ways of Jesus Christ and seeing my husband transformed. I truly believe that through prayer and my example of being a godly woman the power of God and the conviction he feels by that has changed him. He is like a totally different person. Every now and then I'll see that narcissistic bent but in general he is a wonderful man. God's goodness is the only thing that can change anyone.
*Caution, here is also a danger. Standing up to one of these with strength will evoke their very worst behavior and often violence. Layers of cardboard under your shirt front and back can help deal with the possibility of a sneak attack. Standing up to them in public may still bring a risk. Be wise. Stand for what is right-no matter what. Their behavior is their behavior. Your response is on you.
I instinctively applied all 5 and only stayed as long cus I was able to see this fragile damaged soul. I thot damaged at 1st then learned she was demented & diabolical. Cruel beyond words yet keen ability to disguise it. Only part ways is solution. Painful experience.
Thx for advice and work. And i think (prey) the way you speak help nar for bcm good., bcz they see the video on narc only for find new strategy. For me the step with narc is, Ok i dont care, dont juge dont blame good ppl or ppl need help. Find solution dont creat problem. Bcz they need problem for their statu. If they give help. they think like a bank. Is like u are on dept. The last is i see ur game if u are not happy with me or certaine ppl. Just get out live alone. Or tell me why u spend somme time for ppl u dont like. Bcz they like this . Spend time with ppl they dont like bcz they love bomb and in the return they want same with no mask.
Empath are Divine Protected... When narcissist cross That Super Empath.....times is in the side of empath...in silence..divine weapon who watch in long distance observe narcissist games .who have never access to the empath enzrgy .and knows narcissist will collapse badly slowly sadly lonely..
My ex would make me make promises because she knew I wouldn't break them. I would tell her that you can't make people make promises or it isn't sincere. Then she'd give me that look, you know the one. The look in every spoiled brats eyes when they were told 'no'. When I finally stood my ground, she said the only way she would stay married to me is if I committed myself. That was a boundary that I never thought i would have set. After 20 years of putting up with her BS, that bitch tried to commit me. Oh, the humilty. It's ok, I got better.
I have been making plans, saving/ hiding money to fuel my getaway, getting legal advice on how best to protect myself, changing legal paperwork to protect myself, and letting my worst paranoias tell me what to guard against. So far so good . Nothing I had not predicted has happened yet…
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Facts 😂
mistaking kindness for selfishness......they dont fkin deserve attention...i hv been a super empath and seen a lot of changes
lol..."super-empath"
....man...every child recognizes, that this sounds like grandios narzissistic...wake up man
They make the mistake of believing that our empathy is our weakness.
Kindness is not weakness,it’s your strength
See, empathy in itself can make someone be less "strong" in how they handle people. Because most generally to be kind and caring means you have less capability to be strong enough to speak out against someone.
This is why they are so easily manipulated or intimidated into doing what the Narcissist wants.
But as the super empath, it's still having that core empathic ability, while still being able to have that strength to not be intimidated and be able to stand up to whoever it is that's seeking to control them
But it’s a super power, a 6th sense
Because they are that dumb, when we stick up for ourselves they are full blown narcs out calling us selfish, my sil even pointed out she was trying to be nice to me, wow I'd hate to see what being mean meant, she'd called and I'd not spoken to her in 5 yrs, the truth sayer, me, repeatedly hung up on, did she think I'd gone 5 yrs with no one being nice to me, undoubtedly!
Well said
I understand now why my ex husband’s hatred for me grew over the years. I grew stronger and he wasn’t able to break through the shield I built around myself for self protection from his BS. I stopped biting his bait whenever he wanted a fall out, started saying ‘No’ to his flying monkeys, refused to fawn over the enablers he wanted to score points with, ignored his tantrums, disengaged when he was unreasonable and went no contact when divorce was filed. It was almost as if I cut off his oxygen supply when I deprived him of his entitled expectations. He totally went crazy and lost control. At that point, I video recorded his stunts to be used as evidence in court and my children finally saw his true colours.
So true. The kids seeing and hearing him is the worst part. 😢
Wow sounds like a mini series in 5 mins or less, I'm glad you showed him who he had the misfortune of screwing with, they're bent on trying to make us into persons we are not, I'd never want a puppet, hate guys who act like, no sin being able to think for yourself, mine wanted marriage and kids, time to grow up, it is the shock of their lives!😊
Well done! It’s not easy to put Narc’s in their place and to serve justice where it is due but what you did is master class! Blessings on your healing journey.
Your vivid description of him is parallel to how my mother is. I have yet to be around her anymore.
The video/audio recordings are key to protection from them
Narcissists think empaths are weak because of the empathy, love, and kindness we have. The narcissists believes empaths are not supposed to make mistakes, and narcissists believe they're perfect because of their false sense of self. Narcissists will use your past against you and they're controlling monsters. Narcissists play the victim in every situation, and blame empaths in every situation, and they're very abusive. Narcissists love to interfere with empaths peace, they love to torment you. They always like to be around a lot of annoying people like them. They'll mess your whole life up, like calling the police on you for no reason, when they're the ones causing problems and bothering you, and the police are narcissists just like them. The best thing to do is to stay away from these monsters and go no contact with them, because they'll mess up your whole life.
My mom has called the police on me about 5 times. My kids were taken away from me. My little 5 month old baby! Bc of my narc mother and her narc bf trying to control my entire life! But this is the year! This is the year to expose these vampires! Once and for all.
@@amart3632
I'm so sorry this happened to you!!
I PRAY your situation makes turn around,and rule in your favor!!
I had situation at my last residence with a run in with the police. From trouble my narc mom created,and other narc family members joined up on me. I had to take my child,and flee to another place.They are always trying to paint one in a negative view. Such as "unstable","crazy"
to try to get my child taking.
My narc mom,and her narc husband are always trying to control my life.
Exactly "vampires" the evil they do they will stop at nothing.
They use the police to weaponize.
They interfere with the best interest of your child/children.So they can be separated from you.
They will mess with a person's place to live. To cause trouble,and get one put out
for rules violations.
Oh great point about “empaths are not supposed to make mistakes” that’s how one started a smear campaign against me. Meanwhile, I was told to let all her mistakes go. 🤷🏽
Don't forget...they force you to forgive. I have no control over what God is entitled to. My forgiveness is simply a sign of weakness....and I no longer afford it to them. That's upto whatever God they believe in. Not me. I have no right to give that gift.
@@beastly.warner Yes they do try to force it on someone to forgive them.
These people never repent of their evil. They continue to abuse,and want you
to forgive & forget about it.
Yes this is true - we will "question them without fear" - we "cannot tolerate injustice" - we "take steps required to stop it."
So I got really into Socratic questioning (used in psychotherapy), which *could* poke holes in their arguments/deception. Using psychotherapy in potentially harmful ways is ethically debatable, though.
Really have to let go of the fantasies of justice and possible moral anxiety afterward depending on your ethical views. Because they're *still* not going to change. And chances are you'll be gaslighted in return... Which still wears down on you because psychological abuse is insidious.
So I learned that the best boundary is to stop engaging, use the JADE technique, and focus on your own healing. I think they thrive on the attention, really.
@MeganS1995 what's the JADE technique?
@@ladye215 do not Justify - do not Argue - do not Defend - do not Explain.
Just came up against narcissist abuse this should be taught in schools.
110% !!!
Exactly 💯
They teach to be narcs in schools. They don't want you successful. Then you wouldn't need Big Daddy government. They punish kids for defending themselves but the bully can punch people all day, every day and the teacher sees it but won't do anything until you defend yourself. Kids get into trouble for being too smart and doing extra work. You are only to do as much as the dumbest, laziest kid in class(you know, the narc!).
Everything revolves around THEM! Now, you have two choices. Do you want to be the narc or the punching bag? That's the only two options allowed! NO authenticity allowed! That offends and upsets the narc.
They never fix schools. They just dump more tax dollars into the hands of corrupt people. Then they say we need more money! Things continue to slide downhill. So they start teaching the kids that the lighter colored ones are causing all this by some vague mystical force that no one can identify, but it's definitely real since the experts said so. You kids hate each other now. Good! Do you feel the love and tolerance? It's "good" to teach kids that definitions of words don't matter. It helps them to become better narcs or punching bag of narcs.
Wouldn't work tho, narcs would take the rhetoric and scapegoat their purer peers with it.
@@dakoderii4221 That pretty much sums it up!! 💯
I like these darker videos. What can I say? Suffering narcissists make me happy. We suffered first. Now it’s their turn to understand real suffering. Perfectly balanced as all things should be.
I agree! It's really awesome listening to this and living it at the same time. I can sit back and really appreciate all the hard inner work. Seeing the results is amazing.
Ignore the narcissist. They can't handle it!. ❤️
Yes. This is true as well. Sometimes I put my ear buds in and say.....sorry I can't hear your crap!
They stomp around hahaha, I've got a neighbour who stomps around really angry all the time, it's so funny xxx
@@SillyMoo-uf2ny 😂
@@SillyMoo-uf2nyyeah, they got a weird gait/walk. They are posers. They try hard, but often goes over the top.
@SillyMoo-uf2ny I stomped around too to let him know I knew what he was doing. I think it freaked him out lol
Very very true!
A very abusive childhood caused me to fight every single day of my childhood for my own safety, protection and life. I did so with the trauma based survival skills that C-PTSD uses over it victims as well as being an Empath.
When I was an adult married to a narcissist, he would come up to me out of the blue as I’m doing laundry, dishes, putting clothes away, etc… and he would say ridiculous things to me.
EX: All your friends are lowlifes.
I replied, “Hummmm I don’t think Tom, Donna, Belinda, Joe, Levy, Mike, Bev, etc… will appreciate you calling them lowlifes”. He just walked away without making a sound.
He hated me helping other people and acted like I needed his permission. So he was really mad because I was going to help someone and he didn’t want me to. A couple days later he came to me and said, I forbid it! As in he was forbidding me from helping someone. I coughed sarcastically and asked him to repeat what he just said because I know I misunderstood him. Silence. I said, I’m sorry, you for-what-me? Please say it again, im sure I heard you incorrectly. Silence. Yea I thought so. I’ll pretend you experienced momentary episode of insanity. I added that he knew exactly who I am and knew I don’t ever do orders or demands, I make my own decisions and choices and nobody controls me but me. He never said a word and walked away speechless yet again.
Another time while I’m putting laundry away, he came out of the blue to tell me I am an embarrassment to him causing him to be humiliated at his company parties because I am inappropriate. I asked him to tell me how I am inappropriate causing him embarrassment. He said you don’t behave in an acceptable way. I asked that he tell me what I do that is inappropriate. He says I don’t know how to describe your behavior. I say okay, give me an example of one party where I behaved in an embarrassing way. He got mad and yelled that he can’t give me an example on the spot! I told him whenever I bring something up that he does and causes me discomfort I always have many examples that support what I’m referring to. He got even more frustrated and snapped, not everyone can come up with examples on the spot like you do. I replied I didn’t need an example from everyone, I just needed one from him. I don’t have one! We’ll take your time, think about it and the moment you come up with one example of a situation when I was embarrassing you come back and tell me. Until then your complaint of my embarrassing behavior holds no water and is considered unfounded and without merit. Walked away speechless again and he never came back with that example.
Not one of his attempts to rattle me with completely false attempts at character assassination ever worked on me.
But I love to apply logic, reasoning and rationale thought process in debating illogical, unreasonable and irrational people. So I got A LOT OF PRACTICE in that marriage before divorcing the narcissist.
He walked away because you showed logic and not emotional pain telling him my friends won't like you saying this instead of how can you say this about my friends and act hurt as if he hurt you. If he sees weakness he tries to hurt you even more but not other people that he does not live with.
It’s too much to be on a relationship with a narcissist. It’s not worth it . Leave, don’t look back . Love YOU
I've only dealt with two narcs in my 60 years, one was a guy I dated after my husband passed away, and the other more recently was a friend. The one I dated was constant chaos, I had no idea what was going on, my late husband was super secure so I had no exposure to mind games, chaos, triggering, exploiting reactions, the demands and ultimatums....that didn't last long but still came out of it confused, then educated myself on narcs. The friend had been jerking me around for his entertainment....so I just cut him off, blocked email, etc. That was about 18 months ago, he hasn't tried any other contact. Don't put up with other people's crap, stay strong, nobody needs that nonsense in their life.
Thank you for this excellent video. You have been such a blessing. I found that I had to control myself! If I went shopping I found myself thinking I should buy this or that for the narc! Always thinking or noticing things they would like.I had to STOP myself. I had gotten them out of my life but not out of my head. Same thing for negative thinking, their voice of constant criticism. So in the mornings I take a little time to think of MY accomlishments, not theirs. Before I go to sleep I ennumerate what I accomplished this day, not them. These narcs are like ghosts we have to banish, interrupt our own thoughts. I actually say "Stop It!" out loud when I start this. Being mindful is really important bcs the thoughts just arise. When dealing with people there are no more second chances. I am never rude, I have far fewer " friends" but I am much happier and healthier. This takes time and mental energy, so I try not to push myself to perfection like I used to. Nobody loves you any more if you are a doormat. Much love and appreciation❤️
Same here, I used to buy things I know they would like, but no more !
Interesting about the negative self talk that these demons park in our minds. I like the command “Stop it”. Seeking ways of how to toss these strong holds.
I have given myself to the Lord and he has healed all my hurt and anger and keeps me safe. After 60 yrs of marriage and betrayal I realize that he at 84 will never change, only get worse. I am happy, very careful and do not let his evilness effect me anymore. For decades he has been prisoning my food to keep me docile and have had some very suspect accidents which have caused serious injury. My family are aware of all this and support me as well as my medical team .
All truth, I'm still try to fight out financially. The last phase is the hardest. They keep trying sabotaging you as long as they can. Distract you to concentrate, you know it when see the patterns but to break the trauma feelings and thoughts is very hard. I don't give up but I'm not sure if I become fully free.. be blessed you all❤
I let the beast play out itself. They are blind but I see more dimensions, I can move in, dwell in, operate from...
Wow 😳 Thank you ❤
Yes, you are right, thanks!👍
Me too! Definitely the best strategy, because they will be the one to "cut you off" and then you never have to deal with them again
Being raised by a narcissist came in handy years later when I encountered my narcissistic boyfriend:
1. During the first few months with these people please listen to how they talk about their exes, their stories are usually confessions.
2. Give any new relationship a probation period and observe any changes in behavior, the devaluing incrementally increases over time but may start quite early on.
3. Have a dealbreaker offense, mine was Gaslighting, once he did that it was a wrap...(the relationship lasted a solid 3 months, all in all I had a lucky escape) ❤
Everything said is true. The narcs return after 4 years was a piece of cake.. they tried everything to convince me that we are just made for each other. Nothing about them has changed, I called them out, shut them down and reminded them plenty of times how awful they are. I knew how to play the game they started from the first time I met them. She would listen very closely to what I had to say and it was like she liked it but in a vampire type way.. kinda spooky. I ignored her for almost a week then she reached out questioning why I’m being silent. Telling me how she realizes that I “balance” her out and how much we are made for each other. I blocked her the next day 😂 I don’t want anything to do with that ever again in my life. Don’t play yourself
That's true. I am a sigma empath and I have the gift of reading people like open books. I only need a few minutes to see through the narcissist's intentions. I often meet them on my way and amazing situations arise from these meetings. I often end up confronting them with their true selves and leaving them angry and surprised. the brutal truth is refreshing although I don't believe it would change their behavior. but they avoid me like the plague. the awakened empath is enemy number 1 for narcissists. my advice to empaths. connect with nature. its gentle loving energy will bring you closer to your heart and from there it is a short way to being on the right path and full protection against individuals such as narcissists and other such individuals.✌️🙏❤️
We took my narcissistic neighbors to court because of their abuse and control. They lost control of our property because I called them out, and it ended up costing them thousands of dollars (13,000) in arbitration. The court will conclude the case once they recieve the arbitrators report. I suspect my neighbor will loose this as well, again costing them thousands of dollars due to not following court orders or the rules of court.
What did they do? Mine claims the property line is half way into my yard and when I get the grass he called the law and I got a warning for trespass.
@@Jessica-J.ones. Did you get my last messages?
@@gailhare790 no I didn't. I only see where you asked if I have.
@@Jessica-J.ones. Get a qualified property survey done. File it as a matter of public record.
@@pamelalynn5955 thankyou. I appreciate you for this information. I'm assuming it means have the property surveyed? I was wondering if I went to the courthouse if I could veiw property line/surveys? I don't know much about this. If it's been surveyed before why would it need to be surveyed again? Surely there is a line that hasn't changed. I don't understand these things.
You are doing an Excellent job, plus you are, very brave & you always hit the nail on the head. You know what, I think I am one of those Super Empath. No joke.
Thank you Thank you Thank you soooooooo much danish
Savings this video ❤❤❤❤❤
Bless you
Please make more videos on how to be a super empath tips and tricks. And how to apply this in examples. ❤❤❤
Thank for making videos bite sized. I don't have hrs and hrs. To the point, right for me, oive this, thank you much.
Yes.
Dear Danish, I really enjoyed watching this video. I have learned a lot. I am a Super Empath and you thought me a lot about my self to understand myself. ❤❤❤
Thanks Danish for this video and the tips you've shared with us so that we can continue on our healing path😊💖😇🙏.
You are brilliant 😄 I have been in this marriage for over 30 yrs and have tortured myself for not knowing why i have done so. You have explained so much. I am a fighter, of sorts, and have always been the first one to pin him up against the wall if he wad wrong. I have had to heal and learn while still in this relationship.
Currently Iam setting things up so that I can file for divorce and move out. Its not easy to do because I am epileptic and live 14 miles from town. Regardless I am determined and my youngest son , whos 18, is with me.
Thank You 🙏
I just started therapy to start healing. The realization that I was with one for years if very fresh.
I already had CBT for a year so I’m a bit more self aware.
So, what really hit the most that you mentioned about healing is
Really searching deep down who you are”
Thanks, now I have a lot of processing to do.
There was a time after he was gone that Universe asked me if I would want him back is he was ‘fixed’, so to speak, and I said yes. So Universe told me that he would encounter a female who would treat him as he treated me. That was years ago and I have been following his unfortunate life. I don’t know if/when he might come back but I sure learned to trust the universe. 🙏🏼
Thank you, Danish. This was very helpful.
I did this to my husband, he got angry & ran out the front door!
How did you do that please explain me
My husband narc
Yep mine took off and left. Snuck out, in fact, as if I would've bothered to stop him.
@@fatimaahmed445 see grey-rocking, it's about giving the smallest reply necessary, and also not reacting emotionally (fighting back) with them
I directly address their actions. Stick to the facts. Don't allow them to derail the topic of discussion towards something that isn't about the topic of discussion. Don't allow them to shift the blame on you. Stand strong in your boundaries. Don't show any emotional reactions. Stay calm, don't defend yourself. Truth needs no defense. Don't be afraid and don't allow gaslighting. Don't take anything personally. I have learned every narcissistic trick and tactic through experience. Being a healed super empath i have grown to understand and realize that their actions aren't my fault. Remember it's not your fault. Trust what you see not what you hear from them. You cant help them heal, they must want to do that for themselves. Stay strong, always remember your stronger than them.
I need a play book. Thanks.
Thanks for your sharings, I don't really know the super empath but it doesn't matter if we experience it, we recognize it and what you describe is mirror mine as I worked a lot on knowing myself at a point that i recognize others and love, compassion and wisdom that i received heal my own wounds and see others wound clearly.But i don't go chasing them, they want to compete because they think competition is how we show our strength and a lot of people don't understand that life is not a field of battle but a life force of inner peace to master,no one can have peace if not inside.Thanks.
😂 He used no contact to manipulate me into "coming back". This no contact thing TH-cam propagates I used properly by my solicitor, telling him he couldn't come anywhere near me any more. I recommend it by the time you are absolutely sick and tired of them.
Thank you for sharing this constructive information, I nearly had a heart attack, since I met him he has been taking and taking as if I owe him money, he showed no remorse of taking, I felt sorry for him with his manipulating stories .
Thank you, now I am off the hook for you good teachings and constructive advises
Thanks a million
Thank you Danish and
God bless you.
From JANESVILLE, WI
Currently stuck in a narcissistic relationship. Trying to get the strength to get out, so keeping a diary. This is my 4th narcissistic relationship, including my mother. Your videos help. Thanks Danish.
Thank u Danish u r helping us to save our life
I absolutely LOVE YOU! Thank you thank you
We are Super Empath🦸🚀 💥
Very helpful! Thank you.
Every thing you said is true. We go Super Nova when pushed to far. Not a pretty site once a Empath has had enough. I am a super empath
This is me. Not only in my personal life but also in my work environment and even with some of my customers. I honestly believe it helps narcasists heal a little in order to place an impenetrable boundary against the b.s. narcissists can only harm those of us who allow it. Those are the ones who came from abuse and learned to tolerate it in order to survive. Once we heal and learn self love and the tools to build true boundaries in order to tell the world how to treat us and love us, we can at the least find a peaceful loving relationship and at most reach others to find the tools as well, including narcasists. I'm not advising to seek this out because it will come naturally. It is better to keep yourself from unnecessary stress and pain, rather than seeking to focus on actively impacting others.
But anyways, 😂 basically i do treat everyone the same. If the is a wealthy guy showing off a fancy car or a fancy watch. I understand that he has probably gotten a lot of comments on those "things". So i make a point to ignore it, and focus on a normal interaction with them as a person. Over time as my customers come back, i noticed them leaning less on these items for a confidence boost. I have more stories but this comment is long enough as it is 😂
Dear Danish, I always enjoy watching your videos, they helped me a lot in life, therefore thank you for. We are very lucky to have people like you in this toxic world. ❤❤❤
I left my familie because of familie scapegoat abuse. Narcisist who are also alcoholic. I am grandmother, they abuse me in front of the grandchilderen. Also one of them hit me in the face and broke my glasses in my face. All the fysieke problems. They offend me and bulli me with 5 persons when i come for a birthday. And also the silenttreatment. I am broken, the people i love the most abused me for years .Thank you ,you saved my life ,my body could not take it anymore . I live in Holland en wich you love .❤
I am so sorry 😢 I can’t imagine how much that hurts. Please take care of yourself 🤍
@@dylans0630 Thank you .
I’m the youngest and been abused my whole life . Was the scapegoat and my older sisters did everything together . My father ignored everyone and my mother was over bearing and yet they tore him apart but kisses his ass . Now my sisters control both of them and leave me out of everything . Trash my name but of course blame me
Thank you 💜💪🏾
I have implemented it all and it works 100% , Empathy is power but should be allowed to be Mis used , not any more - “Developmentally stunted child “ in an adult body with a fragile ego - perfectly defines them - Thank you Danish - I am sorted with no intent of destroying anyone let karma take over that bit - just need sometime to claim my own self , God bless you !!
Took me ten years to fully destroy a covert narcissistic person being my ex fiancé trying so hard to figure out how to escape him by destroying his ego and I discarded him because he kept avoiding me and I felt lonely and I knew I deserved better. I’m a super empath. My biological father is also a narcissist. I destroyed his ego and now he wants nothing to do with me. I destroyed a third narcissistic persons ego. I’m an ego killer. When someone treats me like shit I won’t take no shit from anyone and I am not afraid to call them out. I literally call myself Karmas little sister because I help her destroy narcissistic people and other toxic people.
I’m learning everything now. Thank you so much! (Honestly, I had no idea such bastards existed)
I have done all these- 👍👍👍 I first discovered & honed my divine qualities.
For that , I saw life as a mirror.
A mirror reflects 2 things .
1.. it shows you, who you are on the surface
2… who you are in actuality . Your inner qualities. ( which only can be seen through the inner lens. ).
Then it’s a matter of time to turn the mirror on the narc . 🎉 and see the fun.
I have found out, that all kinds of somatic exercises are really valuable and efficient to get a feel for your body and also to get the feeling for your body back. And from my experience, the feeling for my body is really important, to pick up on alll kinds of sensations, especially emotional ones. Because being able to pick up on the emotional sensations is necessary to act and react upopn the emotional sensations to give them an adequate expression.
The best way to heal urself & become a super/healed empath , is through meditation , Pranayam & Yoga
I am so happy to hear that I’m on track with all 5 ways a super empath uses these methods to stay true to themselves when dealing with a narcissist.
A very granular and detailed documentation about their brain patterns 😂, that was a winning move and i got her to reveal her true intentions 😂
She tried for 18 years to break me but being able to empathize with her allowed me to see the vulnerabilities hidden behind the behaviour to understand the intent of her actions.
This is VERY helpful! Thank you, Danish.🙂
I'm an empath. No doubt about it. Super empath - I'm working on it. Working on healing. Working on being kinder to myself in my thought patterns.
I ignore all that a narcissist says. I just don't acknowledge them or validate them.
Thank you 🙏🏼
LOVE THIS SO MUCH !
Thank you..
I have been nothing but kind to this person he used me he can be kind one moment after 2 days then the narcissistic begins
I never let him get me into argument..i walk away..not worth the energy...they pretend they don't know just how good you are
Once they know you know, they'll go hard. So be careful if you choose to continue to engage.
Used all 5 on someone who was starting to hurt me! He left the country and is living privately instead of publicly now. He can still hurt people but I doubt he is as dangerous as he was. I cut his ego into carpaccio.
As an empath who had a narcissistic father, narcissistic best friend, narcissistic colleagues, it's a given that I've attracted a narcissistic community.
I loved in a community home with 3 demons and 1 flying monkey for nearly 2 years. They robbed me of my time, energy and health.
How did I resolve it completely?
Tedious process but no contact. Absolutely zero. No middle ground. Middle ground or the occasional meeting means permission to continue their behaviour no matter how small.
Healing began the moment I removed these scheming parasites from my life.
Best health and body I've had in years.
I have had to stay in the same house until it sod because I did not want himto claim abandonment. I Grey yellow and stone rocked for 7 months. The house was sold and I will move in a couple of weeks. We are separated so I can leave without repercussion. I have observed the many ways he always has to comment on anything I do to make himself greater than in his min. I havebeome coldly observant and very cli I al in my observations. I have reclaimed my self and my identity. I will go back to my maiden name. I was discarded and cheated on for years. Suffered me tal and emotional criticism and abuse. He has shit on 30 years but I am growing. He will not. Goingno contact will be hardest for me so I have worked on disassociating myself from him. But I know I will stalk his social media for a while but with the move and New career I am embarking on I'm counting o this to deter me from doing so but I WILL NEVER TAKE HIM BACK IF HE HOOVERS
Oh my gosh... this is SO true!! I can't believe someone finally gets it!!
✨💯👌🏼🕯🕯🕯✨shame✨🎉🎉🎉✨
They indeed have a lot to say 😂, they document alot 😂.
This was so him, he keeps documenting irrelevant things.
I don't believe much in astrology but according to Indian Jyotish shastra everyone is devided into 3 Ganas , Dev gan , manushya gan and rakshas gan. Whenever I learn about Super empath concept and Narcissist I relate that with characteristics of all these ganas. and I noticed all the narcissistic people in my life have Rkshas gana. And I noticed they really matched with all the people in my life all narcs has Rakshas gana Me and my brother and father are never get bullied or much affected by Narcissistic people and neither they could harm our character and our Image despite their trying hard. I think my father is a real super emapth me and my brother's got inherited few of his qualities. But still we need to learn more so it helped a lot while we encountered with this my narcissistic in laws.
Absolutely they are Rakshsh.....They Have 4 emotions only Anger, Fear, jealous & Ego .... Narcissist have all
To become a super empath you need to posses a high level of self-awareness,self-introspection,and a high capacity of meditation.
Then them what’s app message if they are not giving expenses . Write messages about what is happening and try to get their acknowledgment on it .
Don’t follow their orders by ignoring their demands ( like get me water - sorry I’m busy get it yourself . ) ( making this for dinner - the kids said they want to eat something else-- ) don’t make what they want . If they want to to do something don’t do it . If they argue it yell I say why are you fighting .. I’m going in other room until and I won’t listen to you or argue with you . He is left speechless 😅
Generally I avoid talking to him at all after learning that whatever he says is a lie to trick me . If he gaslights then I firmly say I know what I said or did !
zero contact with a narcissist is best if possible tough if you share childern
You can never reach an understanding with a person that does not understand themselves.
Thanking you Love you brother ❤️❤️❤️
Well, it certainly explains how I've managed to make some many people in my life hate me - like my parents, my ex-husband and in-laws, my extended family. (Shrugs) Oh well...
very helpful
A narcisist doesnt care about your boundries. It will ignore them.
Well let's see
1. He says he married me because I wasn't afraid to tell him no and I told him no many ways over the years.
2. I called him out on his bs many times. I do not always hold the boundaries but I know when I am doing it.
3. Biggest fights...cannot let you treat others badly. He told me over and over he hates it the most when I use his words against him. 😅
4. I always called him out on projections and used the things he said as evidence he was a narcissist.
5. Of course I knew. And yes I would call him out or document it.
People asked my why? Why do I stay when I know. My vows mattered, even a narcissist is a person and can choose to change, sometimes I can see the human in there.
I left him in March. He finally went to therapy. He said he told the therapist that if it weren't for me, he would go to prison. I would tell him when something was a bad idea, he read my responses to determine if others would find it unacceptable. He trusted me enough to literally use me as his conscience. I loved him enough to do it. I could have had a better life without him, but the world would not have been a better place.
I left him in march. He is finally seeking therapy. I want to redo my early adult years. I want to be my OWN everything. I want to be my own supply.
Bless you from the one creator ❤❤
I'm a follower of Jesus married to a grandiose narcissist. He was raised in the church and became a preacher. He had already been previously married for more than 20 years when that marriage imploded. He went into a deep depression endless suicidal. I met him as he was just starting to come out of that place. The Lord definitely arranged our marriage and it was extremely difficult for two and a half years. We have now been married going on 9 years. It's been an evolution of me implementing the ways of Jesus Christ and seeing my husband transformed. I truly believe that through prayer and my example of being a godly woman the power of God and the conviction he feels by that has changed him. He is like a totally different person. Every now and then I'll see that narcissistic bent but in general he is a wonderful man. God's goodness is the only thing that can change anyone.
Are you still in the bedroom? Just curious... what is the psychology behind all that? But I love the cat! Super cool.
Yes I am kryptonite
This is helpful. Thnk you
Empaths really out here learning how to destroy people now..
Super emphaths leave narcissists without trying to be a super empath. They don't bother proving anything to the narcissist.
Also , narcissists often only end up with narcissists.
So check yourself on narcisissm.
I see those traits in you as well.
Documentation ❤
*Caution, here is also a danger. Standing up to one of these with strength will evoke their very worst behavior and often violence. Layers of cardboard under your shirt front and back can help deal with the possibility of a sneak attack. Standing up to them in public may still bring a risk. Be wise. Stand for what is right-no matter what. Their behavior is their behavior. Your response is on you.
I instinctively applied all 5 and only stayed as long cus I was able to see this fragile damaged soul. I thot damaged at 1st then learned she was demented & diabolical. Cruel beyond words yet keen ability to disguise it. Only part ways is solution. Painful experience.
Super Empath are very dangerous for Narcs, as they read them as a book, and react, DESTROY😮😮😮
Thanks
What happens when you have a family member that is a covert/s.empath narcissist, sister in law
I fighted back ..
Thx for advice and work. And i think (prey) the way you speak help nar for bcm good., bcz they see the video on narc only for find new strategy.
For me the step with narc is,
Ok i dont care, dont juge dont blame good ppl or ppl need help.
Find solution dont creat problem. Bcz they need problem for their statu. If they give help. they think like a bank. Is like u are on dept.
The last is i see ur game if u are not happy with me or certaine ppl. Just get out live alone. Or tell me why u spend somme time for ppl u dont like. Bcz they like this . Spend time with ppl they dont like bcz they love bomb and in the return they want same with no mask.
Great
I had to aggree with you instantly.
Empath are Divine Protected...
When narcissist cross That Super Empath.....times is in the side of empath...in silence..divine weapon who watch in long distance observe narcissist games .who have never access to the empath enzrgy .and knows narcissist will collapse badly slowly sadly lonely..
My ex would make me make promises because she knew I wouldn't break them. I would tell her that you can't make people make promises or it isn't sincere. Then she'd give me that look, you know the one. The look in every spoiled brats eyes when they were told 'no'. When I finally stood my ground, she said the only way she would stay married to me is if I committed myself. That was a boundary that I never thought i would have set. After 20 years of putting up with her BS, that bitch tried to commit me. Oh, the humilty. It's ok, I got better.
Any ego that calls themselves "SUPER EMPATH" is themselves a narc!
😂 you might be right. because why would one say that?
Im super empath !
I have been making plans, saving/ hiding money to fuel my getaway, getting legal advice on how best to protect myself, changing legal paperwork to protect myself, and letting my worst paranoias tell me what to guard against. So far so good . Nothing I had not predicted has happened yet…