You might want to reconsider dating this type of Filipina...
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What are your Philippines dating goals and preferences? This vid is just one perspective of many things to consider...
This is quite off-topic but I have to ask :D What skin care do you use? Your skin is so good. I couldn´t stop thinking about that and really had to ask. Feel free to ignore this rather intrusive question.
There's basically 2 types of filipinas:
1- Wants a baby.
2- Already has one.
A man has to decide what he's looking for.
Yes this is a good point and guys definitely need to figure that out what they're OK with and looking for when it comes to kids
There are more and more young women not wanting kids at all now.. catching up with the west slowly
2 types and many sub-categories ;-)
Never raise someone else's orgasm. By definition you are a cuckold if you go for option #2.
You hit the nail on the head.... professional/career-oriented filipinas have very little time for a relationship. It could be frustrating for an expat, who has so much time to kill. Potentially bad match. The commute to/from work, working through the night (as many do) is really hard and leave them no time for dating. They work so hard and so many people count on them.
Not all professional, career oriented, working women are the same. It depends on the person.
It's a matter of setting up priorities and time management. Some women are busy working but still have quality time with their significant other.
I work on night shift and on ldr but I take time to talk via VC minimum 2hrs after my work.
There are people who never experience boredom.
I’m not implying that we are “special” in any way, just that we don’t get bored.
I have never needed to be “entertained” by anyone and am perfectly content in my head.
That may well explain the relationships that you, yourself (as someone who experiences boredom), are unable to comprehend.
Yes, I'm fine/good. Be alone!
@@bradleymiller7375 My apologies for not explaining myself well enough to be more easily understood.
My comment was in response to Chad’s bewilderment of “odd” couples, who do not appear to have anything in common and lack the ability to be able to communicate verbally without limitations, leading to his boredom comment.
They may well be perfectly content.
"Bored people are boring." ~ unknown .... You may be content in your head due to the fact that you've got some things upstairs to keep you occupied, conversely, "she" is forever bored because she has ZERO upstairs. The average IQ here is in the very low 80's, and they age like milk. Be very careful before hitching your wagon to any of these fine ladies.
A 73 year old man with a teenage bride what could possible go wrong
I'm so glad I have a older Filipina school teacher who is not the bread winner for her entire family, she has 2 professional brothers that are in the government and her parents were also professional,.. the easiest woman ive ever had 👍🏾🇨🇿
You're much better off with an older Filipina. However, that's not what most guys are looking for when coming to the Phillies.
Hi Chad. David here. Fellow single, professional Canadian living in Japan, approaching retirement age, but super active in sports, fitness and hobbies and contemplating a move to the PHs. As you have discovered, meeting the ‘ideal’ Filipina is not necessarily as simple as we are led to believe. Of course, ideal differs for each of us. I have been thinking of some of the exact same issues. I have not been to the PHs yet, but I can easily imagine what you’re talking about. I enjoy intelligent conversation and even require it at least occasionally. My imaginary, ideal Filipina is motivated in both her career and personal life. Not having a ‘career’ is not necessarily a deal breaker. Being able to relate to each other on different levels is important to me. Ultimately, I wish to meet someone who will enhance my life. I’m not interested (at the moment) in acquiring a dependent that needs rescuing or taken care of, but perhaps that’s our role as men that has been lost over the decades in the west due to the women’s liberation/feminist movement (?). Lots to consider.
@northern-BC, well said, and there's so many different Filipinas in the Philippines! U need to go to the Philippines and start meeting them, there everywhere! Sorry thats all i got, but I met mine online, but i also met hundreds and more! It's very frustrating going through all the ladies! I almost quit a couple times! But I finally had success!
Very well said.
@@jonmarchilgers384 Thanks! I am definitely a thinker and make an effort to often analyze all aspects of a situation. It comes from my scientific/analytical/engineering background. I’m planning on marketing myself as a freelance writer in the not-to-distant future. I’m hoping to get some remote, online work that way + perhaps teaching in person and online. Amping, David.
it's not hard to find a Filipina you can trust and who knows how to handle money lot of stores and small businesses,a lot of girls running those places, and they are already trusted among the Filipinos but of course if the family is lazy, and drinking Tanduay all-day and she have 8 siblings. stay away.. but a girl from a such family wouldn't get the job in the first place
A very good observation Chad about typical Filipinas. But you’re right, there are many Filipinas too who are career oriented and exposed to Western culture. Of course when you go to the rural communities that there are those who think that foreigners are their shining armours who could scoop them out from poverty. Your videos just caught my attention and started smiling to myself by listening to your perspective about Filipinas and interviews with foreigners marrying and settling to the Philippines.
Excellent and extremely well-done video and covering many possible situations and fits all the research that I have and this a good concise summary !!!
Always...and I mean always protect yourself (as in assets, etc. do a pre-nup).
Just because she is a traditional, conservative pinay whom you would think "She will never leave me, she loves me so much !!! because I love her too, and she knows it"
You bring her over to the west. She links up with the Pinoy community there. Has alot of conversations with them (most assuredly behind you back).
At the 2 year mark into your marriage, she divorces and dumps you like a bad habit. (new immigrants into the USA must stay married a minimum 2 years, [i think] in order to stay in the country)
She then immediately starts dating a man of higher socio-economic status than you, and later marries him.
Pretty much and many younger guys make way more money than old guys in retirement age. Why be with a boring old guy anyway
That's a given, its Expat Knowledge 101...if you are an older fella, and married to a young Pinay, DONT bring her back to the USA.
I AM talking about younger men who make average salaries (modest assets), and bring her back to the USA. There is always a chance she will monkey branch to a higher level man.@@jacked6
It's like bringing a kid to a candy store with no limits. Most of them are "upward mobile" and will have plenty of opportunity to trade up. On top of that, our divorce laws reward her with half of everything you've worked for. Pre-nups are NOT a sure-fire way to protect your assets as they're often challenged in court. If her attorney or the judge thinks that your pre-nup wasn't "fair", it'll get thrown out.....
It's always a tricky subject to tactfully comment and generalize about another culture. I did come to a realization about the Philippines and it was that people seemed to just cruise along and not be particularly ambitious, but happy to do that. In lot's of ways that's what makes the Fils fun for the westerners I guess. We can go there with our money and be seen as this saviour type and leave our work work world behind. I think the problem comes when you start thinking " well, if they were just a bit ambitious and this and that" if they were they'd have a different culture and it probably wouldn't be that much fun for us anymore.
Hey there thanks for watching and I appreciate the comment. Yeah I agree I hear what you're saying it is a tough thing to tactfully explain, main thing is it's not one type of person here there is a wide variety that's what I was trying to get across and there's something for everyone and everything has pros and cons Just as it would anywhere in the world depending on what you're looking for. And I guess it's a mix of being objective with some of my subjective thoughts mixed in. I didn't mention it in this video but the group that I was describing as being non-ambitious tends to be the group that are money focused and more selfish often not as wholesome and I think most foreigners are looking for someone a bit more wholesome, caring and looking for a quality connection of give-and-take. I'm doing a follow up to this video to go into more detail about it with an Expat here who is married to share his thoughts on this. Anyway thanks again, my goal is to try and help share some insight to those who are just looking into doing something like this but I'm always learning and want to provide solid info to help people in a positive way that's my goal anyways... and of course without spreading negativity or anything like that (about the culture) I was worried about that a little bit with this video.
@@ChadFosterExplores Well said! Watch out for the non-ambitious "money focused" girls. They are usually great actors and storytellers. The focus is to extract as much money out of you as they can and kick you to the curb once you're broke. Beauty and youth is their main asset and many foreigners fall for illusions. There are many variations of the "long-game". Many want to go to "your country" so they can "grow" with you. Often, a foreigner winds up as a stepping stone to a better life. Once they arrive in a "first-world country" they have options they've never dreamed of. It's like a kid in a candy store without limits. On top of that, you'll be in constant competition with other guys who're lusting after your girl. She'll have plenty of options to "trade up" and western divorce laws allow her to be rewarded for dumping you....I've seen it happen too many times.
One of the best pieces of sdvice i have heard on youtube. Great advice!
Wow, thanks!
Excellent video and great advice that will help me when I get there in February
spot on, great content
Chad, thank U for this one,, I have watched alot of Philippines 🇵🇭 Blogger and U are one of them,, BUT THIS video really was very insightful for my journey of over 2 & half years now that's been very hard but I now have alil better understanding on how to go at this alil better because of U since I been wrecking my brain with this topic and more + the language barrier. Can U do one on how to deal with the Language barrier of most Filipinas/Foreign relationships because alot of them that don't have any Foreign to practice there English on or with b4 meeting one and then trying to understand her even with English being its there 2nd language in school etc + most are embarrassed to talk or push themselves to learn being some want to leave the Philippines. Thanks & many more Blessings to U, Ur Platform and future Ur endeavors.🙏🏾
Life is a change anywhere you are been to the Philippines once where I went it was like stepping back in time that was amazing
Another good video, Chad! I spent many hours going through girls online, many! I finally found one one-and-a-half only! She works and has little time. Just like u said and I hadn't learned patience, cuz i wanted all her time, and darn she has 8 year-old daughter who is my daughter now, so I learned how to share, mommy! We had problems at first because I was selfish, but thank God I changed! We are building a sari Sari store, and added room for my Princess! So happy she has ambition! Like u said many on there dating site waiting for Priness on white horse! Can't count how many I went through but I did find my Beautiful, Gorgeous Filipina! Just got to wade through, and don't be in a hurry because there's so many Filipinas out there! I had Help, my Lord, so i prayed regarding my issues! Ask and He will Help!
You're talking about online relationships.....That being said, have you ever met your Princess in person or are you just financing her dreams in a "Long-distance relationship"?
@garyzies3486 absolutely we have met! That's kind of insulting! U should apologize! Yet I know u won't because ur one of them knows it all. Trolls!
GTH !
I'd like to see a video about men who make a baby with a young Filipina and then separate. What are the laws and typical child support issues?
The biggest mistake I see men make is they don’t explore SE Asia before they decide where they want to live. There are beautiful traditional or beautiful career oriented SE Asian women in many countries - some countries have much better infrastructure and less drama - but most men go to Phillipines and complain of infrastructure when they don’t know they have good choices. I’m a slow traveler and fully enjoy the experience of cultural richness and variety of choices available.
But your point is?
Yeah, who wants a career oriented woman? I want a wife, not a competitor.
But those other countries don't speak 'Merican.
Good Video Brother 😊
Good advice.
You're definitely telling the men the right things!!! i respect you're information its 100% truthful keep doing the good job informing the less educated men it takes time and years to learn this knowledge and even getting hurt a few times if you're unlucky
If you're looking for a wife find a Filipina who does not belong to the poorest of the poor or if she is know her background well especially her family and personal values. I came also from a poor family but my parents taught us well to be financially independent so I will not be a burden to someone else. I studied hard to achieve my dreams, so as my siblings.
Find someone who is at least a middle class, who has an education(including her siblings), a Filipina from a family of professionals, someone who has a career. That way you will not feel that her family is a burden. There are tons of quality Filipina out there, and most of us want good relationship than money.
Great comment thanks for sharing!
Great general valid points which cover most of South East Asia regarding the women folk and their personality types when intially dating them!
Hey Chad, nice video. I spent 3 months in Negros talking with hundreds of people and I observed the same dynamics you are talking about; the most successful couples I've seen are the one where the young Filipina enter completely the frame of the older foreigner, no doubt about it. The reality is that very often, these younger women have nothing much in common with the older gentlemen for all sort of reasons; often the socialising is done in private set ups like homes or public venues like bars or restaurants where the foreigners and their girlfriends talk to each other in their own language. Personally I will try hard to have my gf sharing my same hobbies but I would facilitate her meeting with other girls as well
Any bored girl anywhere in the world is Play Dough (pun intended but respectfully) for a HVM... they can easily be molded and groomed to fit your frame if you care to do the work. Are you Active or Passive. Make life fun, engaging, meditative, and a challenge... and they will be bored no more (phone for down time - Cultural Zeitgeist). Or sit on your butt and passively consume life that way, while she scrolls her phone all day, it's your retirement. -- One Exception regarding this Episode: Why did you leave out the Other Massive Time Sucker that afflicts a significant percent of the girls... I'm guessing Baby Mama is the next episode. Peace and Love, B GOAT
Too bad it didn’t work for you, maybe you are expecting too much. Remember there’s a huge difference in culture between Asians and westerners, I myself being a Filipino although I have adapted to the culture where I’m living right now, if you really are up to courting a Filipina you have to also understand our way of living.
Most Asians are not like Filipinos. Filipino culture is unique and hence why it is so attractive to western guys and other Asians
clear view from an expert obviously
I would like to comment on about the professional woman Western more like mentality. Most of the career woman focus on their job because of the scarcity of great opportunities we have a gratitude that we have decent job that's why in return we will do our job the best we can. Some of the career woman are sacrificial when they have a family they are willing to give up their career. Sometimes also it deals with a family upbringing. Some are encourage that they should a career the time when will she has a family she may able to help her husband for family finances. Well I can't speak the total Filipina population but that's my personal experience.
Good point did not see the difference until you mentioned it.
Hey Chad. Another Cdn here. Happily married. Retired. For some reason during covid, I got hooked on PH retirement and relationship videos. I'll probably never go there even though I've been all over SE Asia, but the place intrigues me for some reason! First saw you on Paul Old Dog and thought you made a lot of sense so am a relatively new subscriber. Looking forward to following your journey. Btw, l love your shirts! Don't see that 'cowboy' style with the snaps very much any more. All the best!
Guess I might have gotten lucky.
My better half is educated, just finishing the last year of her law degree.
But she is traditional enough that I had to get approval from both of her parents, and both of her brothers. The family has invited me into the fold, and it's really nice. Her uncle owns a customs clearing house, so in the new year she will be working for him. Heading over to Cebu again in March.
Saw you on old dogs channel, you seem like a normal guy like me
Great topic! For me, my main concern is spending quality time together with the girl….at the same time I want someone who is motivated and can converse with me deeply….sure an unemployed bored girl will have all the time ….no one is perfect so there should be a balance between all these qualities….everyone wants to spend quality time together but no one just wants a pretty face unmotivated gold digger 😅
It's like finding a needle in a dozen haystacks!
can I place a bid on that shirt you are wearing?
I dont no your status ? But how i look at life , you gotta have faith ? Dont look for it ? Have patience and he will provide ! Just like the movie , FOOLS RUSH IN
All you said is true
Hi Chad!
Are meds for mental health issues available there?
Like for anxiety or depression?
To be honest I'm not sure. I believe it was Watsons pharmacy I had reached out to via email on the website prior to coming to ask about different meds and they were able to answer those kinds of questions... it just took a while for them to respond
Women from the province are mostly educated and career-oriented first reason is to lift the financial status of the family.
Good stuff, thanks. Rather than search for a girlfriend, maybe the solution is to hire a girl to run my household.
Like your determination to find a filipina to marry in the Philippines. Goodluck!
Well said Chad! Remember the communication is very important and talk, talk. And try to find out the definitions, because its their second language! I never thought about that b4! And we had trouble and split! I didn't communicate! I fell in love with this Filipina who i thought was trying to scam me f9r build a sari sari store, i left b7t like i said i fell in love and again went back to dating site with many scammers and even U.S. females! This Filipina i was in love with sent me new friend request.(i was going to try and mend our relationship!) And glory we found each other again! And now we talk about everything and she will be my bride along with her daughter whos mine also!
Hey u gotta talk about everything and no damn secrets!
Love ur content and well thought out videos! Please kept them coming!😅
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Hey there thanks for the message, either safety wing which I have a link to in the description, or Heymondo.
In my book the women simply can´t be younger than 25, thats my bottomline. She has to be somehow involved in a role of responsibility, taking care of family or gardening or even work/ study. I just don´t want to meet someone lazy. I might throw some books her way to find some topics we can talk about. Even if it´s book that I don´t like but I need conversations on a weekly basis where we can share our views. In my opinion it´s impossible to know someone without discussing on two opposite fronts. Disputes on a harmless topic can improve the relationship ( not just romantic relationships).
I am 31 right now and are starting to travel into the PH at the age of 35 and see for how good it feels. Hopefully the PH are exactly what I am expecting it to be :P
What happens likeeAustraluan, cant have more kids,not rich, retired early on medical problems ptsd ans weak legs, noonewould want me😢 would need them towork us share expenses share love and care 😮❤❤
What does David Bond say about this matter?
David's Angels. That guy thinks that he is Charlie Sheen.
give her money baby.
Foreigners can relate better if they speak some Tagalog and if they adapt to Filipino culture quickly. It is also important to do some background check before getting in a relationship with a Filipina.
So which category did Rosie fall in??
Fair question, I’d say.
New subscriber the only woman i will take care of is my daughter , im not marring or dating what i call a pretty bum
90% of foreigners who traveled there are just player and not really looking for a serious relationship.
Hay Chad. I am just starting to talk with a few girls now on a dating site. I will be in the Philippines early March. The girls that seem interested range from early 20s up. I am a very healthy and a good condition 67 years old. I am a runner so stay in great shape. But my concern is if the girl is too young, will she stick around when I am in my 80s or 90s. I am almost thinking someone in there late 30s or even early 40s may be a better long term fit. Can you go too young? WOW a couple of these young ones are smoking and seem pretty mature for there age.. But kinda scarry.
Hey there thanks for the message and yeah that's a dilemma for sure, there's a lot of factors that go into it obviously each person is different and you can base it on some signs you're getting from that person as to their intention, honesty values etc. generally speaking I think if they are really young and really hot You're rolling the dice big time but it doesn't mean it can't work. The other thing to consider is most younger girls want to have kids, it's actually a good way to build that sustainable connection but most older retired guys aren't looking to do that. I made a video recently about a guy who married a 19-year-old and they have a child and she's very supportive of him even after a stroke. My recommendation is older not going too young someone with the more maturity and compatibility etc.
You find many 60+ windowed Filipinas too. Many of them are available and would give you all the love and care. As someone who just turned 40 I can say we don't have much in common with people aged 60+. Most of our parents are your age.
You will be a prime target for gold-diggers and scammers. Many of them are on dating sites and are licking their chops for guys like you....trust me! Be super careful and don't think with your little head!
@@garyzies3486 Im heading there in March to run a marathon and then it might be better to meet women face to face rather than a dating site. Its just too hard to tell chatting online. Im not worried about getting scammed for money, just the intent of the woman to be in a long term committed relationship. I have narrowed my interest to women from about 38 yrs to 45 yrs. Loads online so in person when I am there it shouldnt be hard to meet some.
@@douggilmore6355 It's ALWAYS best to meet face to face! How long are you going to stay?
What the heck are you people wasting your time together.......nothing in common. I think that's the point you were making Chad. That is the reality that guys have to think about. I like 70s music. How many 22 year old Filipinas care for that music. I am always telling my 18-year old to stop looking at his phone during breakfast. Would I enjoy a younger Filipina doing the same? Probably not. Your point are well taken. The fantasy and reality can be two very different things and guys have to think critically about their choices, and also consider the quality of life for the girl who might not be finding real happiness. Financial arrangements can be the road to unhappiness.
Philapeno and black ladys man ! No wife ,no kids , no problems ...
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