Thank you for your brilliant observations Darren. You can’t win with those people, the only way is out and no contact or low contact with total indifference. They walk the planet thinking they are Napoleons 😂
It's funny now but my ex she would phone me and talk about herself so much, never asked about me ever. Anyway, she was ranting away and I couldn't get a word in so I went a done the dishes and came back after 20 mins and she was still ranting away and never even noticed I had gone downstairs. Oh they are the star of their own show. Finally deleted entire email account and now changed phone number so she can't hoover me ever again.
So that's where low resolution thinking come from. Paranoia. Fear. Sad when there is no cause for either. Truly dangerous when low resolution thinking applies to so called leaders 😮
Scapegoats are usually empaths. There are more chances to become a narcissist when the child is spoiled and make them think they are above others and all their siblings. That's usually the golden child. Your explanation has lots of holes.
My covert narcissist sister told me that I had said something offensive about her late husband and then took a comment I made about my lack of skill at a task as a put down of him. I told her that I did not make the comment about her former partner but I could not stop her from inventing things to upset herself about. She phoned me three hours later and said she had checked with her source and it was another one of our siblings who had made the remark and not me and that she owed me an apology. You could have knocked me over with a feather as she Never apologizes!
Thanks Darren. They're yet another narcissist. I definitely attract them but I now spot even the covert ones. Your insight is I think invaluable. Thank you
Hi Darren, I have been in therapy for many years due to anxiety, major depression, and awful treatment from some of my family members and having serious permanent physical injuries deeming me totally disabled. I have seen three therapists, the first two were licensed psychologists that retired so I started seeing my current therapist in 2020 who is a L.P.C. and she was frank enough with me to say that my daughter is a narcissist, and the other two therapists didn't just come out and say this, so it makes me wonder for many years of she for sure is a narcissist? I know you can't just give diagnosis over messages especially when you don't even know my daughter, but I'm wondering if you would help me figure out if she really is, or if it's just dysfunction and alienation? I am estranged from my daughter since mid 2019 right after my grand daughter turned 8 and my grandson was 10, so I'm also alienated from my grandkids. In 2019 she told me during a phone call that they were moving to Florida so she could be by the Ocean to be happy, so I asked her about staying in touch and if I could do video calls with them and she just said she wasn't doing this with me and the line went dead. I've tried to call her and leave a message twice since then but have got no reply. Please help me sort this out, would you please?
There are videos and links on the internet that list all their traits and you can check the boxes to get an idea but that would help only if you are objective which is hard due to your relationship. Anyway, you can't force anyone to have a relationship with you and radical acceptance is the first step for healing. Easier said than done. Maybe you can ask your therapist to help you letting them go because that's the only thing you can do. I say it because during my whole life I thought I could change others and that has been a constant misery to my life and my self esteem and respect.
Hi Darren, love the channel! I was wondering if those with BPD/EUPD can ever be afraid or avoidant of confrontation? I know people often think of Narcissists and Borderlines are high conflict but having been diagnosed myself and speaking with others with the disorder we have a fear of conflict because we know how angry we can get and are more afraid of embarrassing ourselves in public or infront of loved ones! Have you ever witnessed this in Borderlines?
Thank you Dr, you have helped me a lot. Hugs from Mexico City.
No contact is the way to go. ⭐
I agree. The only way to go!
Thank you for your brilliant observations Darren. You can’t win with those people, the only way is out and no contact or low contact with total indifference. They walk the planet thinking they are Napoleons 😂
It's funny now but my ex she would phone me and talk about herself so much, never asked about me ever. Anyway, she was ranting away and I couldn't get a word in so I went a done the dishes and came back after 20 mins and she was still ranting away and never even noticed I had gone downstairs. Oh they are the star of their own show. Finally deleted entire email account and now changed phone number so she can't hoover me ever again.
Been there 😉 done that 👍
So that's where low resolution thinking come from. Paranoia. Fear. Sad when there is no cause for either. Truly dangerous when low resolution thinking applies to so called leaders 😮
Low resolution and rigid thinking often go together
As children they were blamed for everything, their body and mind told it is who they are, their true selves not allowed to be seen. Its no mystery.
That seems really extreme. How do you know that?
Scapegoats are usually empaths. There are more chances to become a narcissist when the child is spoiled and make them think they are above others and all their siblings. That's usually the golden child.
Your explanation has lots of holes.
My covert narcissist sister told me that I had said something offensive about her late husband and then took a comment I made about my lack of skill at a task as a put down of him. I told her that I did not make the comment about her former partner but I could not stop her from inventing things to upset herself about. She phoned me three hours later and said she had checked with her source and it was another one of our siblings who had made the remark and not me and that she owed me an apology. You could have knocked me over with a feather as she Never apologizes!
Saving you for further enabling
I have had the same situations but no one came up to me saying they were wrong...ever.
Thanks Darren. They're yet another narcissist. I definitely attract them but I now spot even the covert ones. Your insight is I think invaluable. Thank you
Why did the chicken cross the road?
why did the narcissist cross the road? s/he thought it was a boundary :)
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@@caroleminke6116 no point even asking the narc as they will deflect and rage and turn it on you and make themselves the victim.
Hi Darren, I have been in therapy for many years due to anxiety, major depression, and awful treatment from some of my family members and having serious permanent physical injuries deeming me totally disabled. I have seen three therapists, the first two were licensed psychologists that retired so I started seeing my current therapist in 2020 who is a L.P.C. and she was frank enough with me to say that my daughter is a narcissist, and the other two therapists didn't just come out and say this, so it makes me wonder for many years of she for sure is a narcissist? I know you can't just give diagnosis over messages especially when you don't even know my daughter, but I'm wondering if you would help me figure out if she really is, or if it's just dysfunction and alienation? I am estranged from my daughter since mid 2019 right after my grand daughter turned 8 and my grandson was 10, so I'm also alienated from my grandkids. In 2019 she told me during a phone call that they were moving to Florida so she could be by the Ocean to be happy, so I asked her about staying in touch and if I could do video calls with them and she just said she wasn't doing this with me and the line went dead. I've tried to call her and leave a message twice since then but have got no reply. Please help me sort this out, would you please?
There are videos and links on the internet that list all their traits and you can check the boxes to get an idea but that would help only if you are objective which is hard due to your relationship.
Anyway, you can't force anyone to have a relationship with you and radical acceptance is the first step for healing. Easier said than done.
Maybe you can ask your therapist to help you letting them go because that's the only thing you can do.
I say it because during my whole life I thought I could change others and that has been a constant misery to my life and my self esteem and respect.
@Lyrielonwind Thank You! I have let go of most of them, however my only daughter and grandkids is super hard
Hi Darren, love the channel! I was wondering if those with BPD/EUPD can ever be afraid or avoidant of confrontation? I know people often think of Narcissists and Borderlines are high conflict but having been diagnosed myself and speaking with others with the disorder we have a fear of conflict because we know how angry we can get and are more afraid of embarrassing ourselves in public or infront of loved ones! Have you ever witnessed this in Borderlines?
There is a subtype of BPD known as quiet borderline, I made a video on that a while ago if that would be of any interest?
Perfect! Thank you Darren!@@DarrenFMagee