3 Things: Man cheats on wife and she leaves, Man grips woman's neck during kiss, Woman wants advice
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ย. 2024
- The Tale of Matthew and Steph: He cheated. She left. They both shared their sides on Reddit.
"Do I give a second date to man who gripped and squeezed my neck during first kiss?"
"Boyfriend makes me feel guilty for wanting a LDR while I'm doing clinicals in graduate school."
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“A broken home is not good for a child”? Then why did you break it, sir?
Exactly! 🎯 Bravo 👏
The equation is not equationing
Touche'!
Thank you 👏👏👏
And that he cannot answer.
I love when people tell you, don't throw away a marriage over infidelity. No, no, no the cheater threw it away when they started sneaking and sleeping around.
All of this. THIS!!!!! 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
FACTS👏👏👏💯
🎯That marriage was already cheated into the trashcan, you are just taking it out.
EXACTLY ‼️
That alone is what led me down the path to not only admitting but accepting that individuals that push that/protect that type of thought process protecting abusers (cheating is abusive straight the fuxx up IDC IDC) & then victim-blaming/shaming are DEFINITELY demons running around here in human lab-created meat suits 🫢 just trying to cause chaos/unaliving/misery/destruction 💀
I'm partially kidding, but seriously though those "people" cannot convince me they have anything other than coverted malice in their hearts & don't have any morally upright intentions IN SIGHT 😮💨😞
Facts!
Ha! Matthew thought he had her trapped. He didn’t realized he married a woman that stands on business 😂😂 love that for him
Love that for her too 👍🏻💜
@@ShalomDove I love it for her most. It speaks to her self-love and resilience. That’s a huge protective factor against so many awful things in the world
Just the thought of him not caring for his baby's health , is beyond despicable. He didn't care if the baby got an infection, or anything. Wow 😢. He still didn't take any responsibility. He blamed her for being on bedrest , whilst pregnant. Like her pregnancy was messing up HIS life . She did the right thing . 😂🎉
So wait. She told you what her boundaries and deal breakers were and you tapped danced on them now you're shocked she left 😂 WILD
Exactly! my ex was shocked when I left too and he knows why I left he trashed his duplex and now they have to move him at the end of the lease because I didn't want to be on his lease anymore why did she leave? Why did you destroy our house? These are questions grown men can never seem to answer and they claim they built all this shit too.
Not tap danced 😂. That made me lol
@@unicorn73212 and ain't even built a Lego house in their lives.
They will literally test your boundaries by doing the exact thing that u told them not to do then get shocked when u leave. wish more women did this…the min he does it just leave
So the husband cheated because he was lonely…..lonely! Where was his mama at when he was so lonely.
Ooooh, now THIS COMMENT!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Where was his dad too? Daddy won't take him back?
"She wasn't feeling well enough to act like a wife" is sub speak for "my wife was going thru a medically challenging period and she was too selfish(by my standards) to power thru the pain and have xes with me. The level of selfishness that these men are needs to be studied. I think a woman could be vomiting blood and bleeding from her eyes and ears, but the man's first thought would be how this would affect his meal times and xes.
I remember seeing this man got cold and left his wife(or cheated , I can't remember) because she wouldn't give him head after giving birth to their child
Stuff like this gives me cosmic astronomical levels of ICK to the point I feel nauseous
They don't care about amything except food and scx.
It's worse than that. She WAS having sex with him. He just wanted MORE than his PREGNANT, vomiting, wife could give during that time. She said he admitted sleeping with them both in succession. So he wasn't even "going without." He's just sooooo selfish that ANY inconvenience to him gives him an excuse to tap out. Wild.
And the thing is he WAS getting sex from her. Like you’re lucky you’re even touching her while she’s sick and pregnant most women would be like don’t even come near me 😅 this man isn’t built for monogamy and doesn’t deserve a family because he has no integrity and can’t even make minimal sacrifices like “less sex”. Utterly disgraceful.
Stephanie stood on Big Business and I love it.
These men don’t realize what a woman goes through during pregnancy and childbirth to bring their child into the world. I agree with this woman and I understand where she is coming from.
My daughter’s father “had to work” the day after I gave birth to our child. About a week after I came home with our baby I found out he actually used that opportunity to go meet up with woman and cheat. That he did not have to work.
The fact that he had watched me struggle to bring our baby into the world and used our hospitalization as an opportunity to cheat was the ULTIMATE BETRAYAL for me. I knew I would never get over it.
I’m sorry that happened, these dudes are fckin disgusting.
I’m so sorry that’s horrible I hear it happens slot even Gwen stefanis man went to go see his side thing will she was giving birth . They don’t deserve us
Glad you & baby are OK. Keep posting your story everywhere. We have to normalize women leaving the FIRST time men cheat . # first = only = LAST # b/c we are gone # fafo 😅
1. Sorry to hear that one of the most important moments of your life was tainted with a betrayal on that level. I hope that you're in a much better place!
2. I've come to realize that whenever women give birth (including being pregnant, and after birth), they are THAT much closer to the grave. Sounds morbid but it's the truth. Their partners should acknowledge that.
I stg, I really think they shouldn't get to reproduce. If they're seriously that delulu about how much their wives go thru, the genes shouldn't be passed along I stg 😂
You know what blows my mind the most?
How pathetic these dudes are when they realize their actions ACTUALLY have profound consequences... That ✨ SHOCKER ✨ you really can lose the love of your life &/or people that are VERY hard to find thus leaving an even bigger gaping black hole in your heart leading you to creating videos & advocating later in life pleading with young men to wake up because they will end up alone dying either in a nursing home or in your empty place of residence & nobody even knowing You've expired until neighbors call about a smell because ain't nobody was looking for you.
I am so glad we have the words betrayal trauma to identify this wound
Cause their mama never taught them any different. I've said it once and I'll say it again. The real enemy are pickmes. So long as they are cranking out man babies, this generation of men and the next are gonna find themselves all alone with no legacy🤣🤣🤣
Yep. It’s because they ARENT used to ppl ESPECIALLY women holding them accountable. So when it happens they are BLINDSIDED.
On a side note, i have also read on abuse stats that choking can be a gateway act to actual murder. Same way punching the walls next to you or breaking stuff leads to them actually beating you eventually.
Yeah, choking wouldn’t work for me. The minute anyone touches my neck, I start screaming. I have no idea why, but it freaks me out and I can’t control my reaction. Maybe I was strangled in a former life.
But something I noticed the last time I was having sex, which was years ago, all of a sudden men were doing things like strangling during sex or trying to push me into anal sex. Not a chance with either one. This was one of the things that pushed me into celibacy. Guess what I discovered?
Men are getting this shit from watching porn. Virtually EVERY sexual encounter involves strangulation and anal sex. I’ve seen things I didn’t even know were possible. I thought I was reasonably adventurous in bed, but now? It’s a brand new world and I have no desire to be part of it.
Maybe some women enjoy strangulation or anal sex, but I’ve never met one who did. I could be wrong, but both of those kinks are medically harmful to women and pretty much for male gratification. Apparently it’s not fun unless the man puts the woman in danger. Count me out.
Yep, we need to put no neck stuff in the prenup I think. Or he lies and claims fetish if she dies, the Guardian covered this trend of BLAMING THE WOMAN for her OWN DEATH.
and a LOT of men act like it's normal and if there's no violence it's okay???
like no?
it's scary and if he's doing that, why is he not throwing stuff at you instead? when is he? WHY is he ANGRY ENOUGH to throw stuff, punch wall etc etc? even yelling??? TO THE ONE YOU LOVE
it might be my view of relationship or how I am, but I barely get angry, and being angry enough to throw stuff and punch things? only happened in my childhood, during an intense fight of flight, and I only hit myself
How do we keep mathews from dating another woman again? He’s gonna lie to be with the next woman.
Maybe make it a thing to meet someone's exes? Or stop trusting men when they say their exes are "crazy" or the cheaters? (I know that sometimes it happens just don't trust it at face value)
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could tattoo warning labels on them?
Never move in with a man that needs you to maintain his lifestyle especially before marriage
That selfish “man” in the LDR story could easily get a roommate if it’s a money thing. Or , actually SUPPORT HER and pay all the bills. He’s unwilling to give up ANYTHING.
Even knowing he would lose his bang maid if she left and only benefit from her on the weekends. He’d rather try and guilt her into running herself into the ground for HIS NEEDS/WANTS.
Poor sad little guy would have to run home so mommy can cook and clean for him.🙄
What an AH, she’s dodging a bullet and I hope she starts therapy so she doesn’t just find another AH. To be fair, they’re a dime a dozen 😑
I really think we women should stop living with men before marriage.
Hell, even after!
Get a roommate to split expenses with. Wait for marriage (not just a proposal unless the wedding date is set and he’s helping you plan the wedding) too many of us are forever GF’s or forever Fiancé’s.
marriage has always been a tool that males use against women... they are listening and watching. They will adapt. Women need to recognize these "relationships" are a risk no matter if they lead to marriage or not.
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At this point “look”, “listen” and “run” in the opposite direction!
@@GardensFlowers-f7k I've always known marriage wasn't for me since a young girl. And that I didn't want children without a father. So long to that. I do love how society is no longer dragging women like me as old spinsters tho. If that aint evolution.
The last story...
Girl, move out. Move in with your mother, get your degree, don't even focus on trying to visit him with your vehicle.
Turn that around. Would he be so willing to do the same for you? It does not appear like he would.
Leave!!! ❤🎉
Seems the entire thing is him trying to maintain control. If he wanted to spend any time with her he would want her to live with her mom but because he doesn't, it makes me think he just wants the power of having some control over the place she's staying and doesn't want to let her have a break from the gaslighting so it doesn't lose it's effect
She did.
It was HER acting like a wife that got her bedridden
Grad school girl needs to wake up and realize she’s being used. His response wasn’t I’ll miss you or I’m concerned about our relationship, it was I can’t afford rent on my own.yikes.
He doesn’t care about her only what he needs. They aren’t even married. She shouldn’t neglect herself especially for a boyfriend.
If he wanted her to stay he would have stepped up and proposed that he take on more financial responsibility to ease her burden. He’s selfish.
He's a hoboseggsual.
This. If he really loved her, he would support her in her endeavors.
He is forcing her to chose between her education and him
If she’s smart, she will chose education. Every time
If he hadn’t met her he’d have to be an adult and pay the entire rent on his own. Her being there or not being there shouldn’t make a difference in HIS finances.
Do men have to make a difference in women's finances?
He is going to miss half of the rent, free sx, maid services.. soooo i guess he was just looking after his neeeeeeds unlike her!!!
Girl better leave asap to her momas house and do her own thingsss.
She is wasting time and energy in this situation imo.
Him trying to keep her from going to live with her mother is one step. The next step is “accidentally” getting her pregnant so she’s trapped. I know it’s not easy to leave someone you love, or THINK you love. But it’s pretty obvious to me that instead of being supportive, he’s using guilt and gaslighting and trying to put stumbling blocks in her way. He’s perfectly willing for HER to work herself into such exhaustion and stress she might have to drop out. The only person he’s thinking about is himself. OP is a baby, she has so much time to find someone else. She shouldn’t even bother trying to have a relationship until after graduation and once she’s practicing her profession.
The crazy thing about this situation is when it’s a man going through clinicals, not only is the woman highly supportive, often she’s working two jobs to keep them afloat. Somehow, when it’s a woman, all the man does is complain about money and not enough sex or attention. Of course there are exceptions. But if it was rare, Congress wouldn’t have passed a law penalizing men for dumping their wives or girlfriends as soon as they graduated. Women who have supported their husbands through medical or law school are now entitled to half their salary throughout a period of the husband’s working life.
Hundreds of thousands of women have been dumped by their husbands only to find that for all the years they were working, thinking they were a team, the husband was cheating on them. Usually with a classmate who he plans to marry after his divorce, because “we have more in common”.
Rather than be supportive, men will sabotage their wife or girlfriend. Everything from keeping her awake and exhausted so she fails her tests, deleting her papers on her laptop, sabotaging birth control to outright domestic violence or calling her school/job and say she’s quitting. Most common is causing so much emotional turmoil, the woman has a nervous breakdown.
Even sicker, women who pull these stunts generally have personality disorders. Men who do this are just being men. No personality disorder needed.
@@jezebelle57 is that law gender neutral?
@@jezebelle57 Thiiiiiiis 👏🏼
If you're afraid to fo back and get your stuff, get somebody to go with you. Get a police escort. Don't put yourself in a place where you can be talked out of your future.
Or permanently silenced & stripped of any sort of future 😞💔
She should take her mom
Which dummy told you you could get her back lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooo-you tested her and you failed -F!! Your toooo easy bro lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
He is ran thru😂😂😂😂
Shoulda chose better 😂
And having cats is a problem...
And why is there a lonely man crisis???? What could it be
No, but dying alone is a problem for most men.
Did you hear a public statistics 📈 of XY unclaimed bodies in state morgu&
No one wants to pay for their funeral& even 😅
I do not even like cats that much I'm a dog woman, but I'd take a cat over a human male any day of the week girl
😂🤣
Dudes are out here trying S&M activities WITHOUT consent and NO foundation of trust, on the FIRST date?!? Who does that? They are crazy!
obedience test, a PUA in japan was doing it in public to women, some white man
Yup, have experienced this often. Men are so spoilt by pron they would also think that these are normal practices when sleeping together for the first time.
@@anetak.9494 brain damaged* you mean, hypofrontality
No way either they're in the BDSM community either. It's full on consent back there, a lot of people into your average stuff are criticising it but someone made a good point : they know more about consent, and when they ask to be respected, THEY ARE. No nonconsensual r*pe because he wanted to. They respect your pleasure. The bottom is the one WITH ALL THE POWER.
They're just using it for their little power fetish which will probably quickly turn to abuse. (BDSM people are already thought as freaks so why would they do it willy nilly anyways?)
Maybe im skittish but I aint getting into a truck with a man Im still getting to know.
My ex tried to "play" strangle me. I stopped that and put a clear boundary up. Later on he has DV charges with his next girlfriend.
Obedience test.
“Wasn’t acting like a wife” it’s giving me my washing machine or coffee machine broke. What a child this guy is, I appreciate her resolve to forgive so easy
It amazes how men expect their gf or wife to go along with them when theres a job move but when it's HER turn, she's the selfish one. That man makes $65k a year and is complaining about $1200 rent! He needs to manage his finances better. I was paying $1500 rent making $56k a year and wa still able to put a little bit in saving twice monthly. I really hope that young lady grows a backbone and moves in with her mom AND dumps him. What a prick.
Exactly! At $65K, he should EASILY be able to afford the $1200/month rent. Even based off the net, it would leave him over $2700/month for other bills and miscellaneous expenses. He isn’t managing his finances right.
Dude 1 didn't ''make a mistake'', as he puts it. He had a pattern of behavior that was toxic to the marriage. Now he is reaping the rewards of that. He thought cause she was pregnant that she would have to take him back, or single mother the baby. It's better to be a single mom than in a miserable marriage 24/7.
The 3rd OP made the right decision.
“I was only thinking about myself” HE’s
the one thinking about HIMSELF. He was getting unlimited xes, cooking, cleaning and half the rent. Now he’s mad cause the gig is up. If he makes 65K a year he shouldn’t have an issue paying $1200 a month. He was projecting and gaslighting her the entire time. 😕
Exactly. If he saw a future with her he would gladly offer to take over the bills during the clinicals to have his significant other with him. He could also propose and get engaged to give it more weight. None of this seemed to be an alternative being discussed. She is probably his Barbara the builder girlfriend prone to be replaced anyway.
There goes his hopes of alimony!
The fact that the last guy tried using his mental health to manipulate and guilt her into not pursuing a future is so shitty. He will never want her to better herself independently. 1200 is nothing with a 65k salary. Logically, her idea was the best for their relationship. She can see him every weekend and he wouldn’t have to work. He wants her to work on clinicals, school work AND work. He wants her to struggle so she’ll be willing to be dependent on him. He’s just shitty.
The fact that there is a Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention is WILD. And that stat is terrifying.
Never sacrifice your career for a man. I hope this women continues with her studies and move on. Love yourself enough to do what's best for you.
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That 2nd story - I'm not into having my neck squeezed for NOTHING. that's a turn off for me.
Sex games are not the same as what that dude did. He is violent. He doesn't care about consent. This isn't a game to him and it should be for her either. Dear God ladies, don't turn off your brain before you even fall in love. I am am not saying that I am any better, but we have to remind each other to have high standards and to weed out the bad ones.
obedience test for later abuse
Absolutely, he wanted to see if he could violate her, which would confirm that she could be abused.
Men leave their families behind all the time to pursure their education. Why is it a problem when WE do it.
I’m 26. The other day, my mother gave me advice on men that I not only didn’t agree with, but it was shocking and sad, made me realize how much more healing she needs to do and how low her standards are. I realized I’ve come farther than she did when she was my age. With that being said, I want to thank you for all the advice you give, you help keep me level headed on things that my mother isn’t able to do due to her own lack of healing. When I watch your videos, I feel like I’m getting precious advice from an auntie. Thank you. ❤
Thank you for this comment!! This is precisely what my mission is for!!
Ladies, when your car or their car breaks down on the way to meet them for the first date, it is a sign from God! Do NOT date this man! This happened to me and I wasted years in a bad marriage and just recently got out.
It truly is no way in getting a tow and still going out... follow the signs.
That also happened to that Reesa lady!
@@eurekamreum5458 yes i know, that’s when i started thinking that this is happening to many women and it’s definitely a sign
When you got to the part where he says if he can do anything for her to forgive him I literally busted out laughing! 😂😂😂
"What can I do to save our relationship?"
"Unfuck the people you ran off and cheated on me with"
The boyfriend of the woman considering where to do clinicals is using her. He's hiding something regarding his financials.
The choking story is crazy because when I was with an ex once he got upset at me while I was peeing and I don’t really remember but I guess he choked me, I woke up to him crying and screaming for me to please wake up because he thought he killed me. At the time I didn’t even see it as abuse but things got worse. Being a woman is such a strange experience because just much as we are desired, we are in danger. Men do whatever they want to us with no regard and then cry victim when things hit the fan.
attempted murder?
I would divorce my husband for having his mommy call me to try to get him out of trouble with me, regardless of what it was I was pissed about in the first place.
That grabbing the neck thing sounds like something the red pillers would tell me to do as a test to see how easy she is to abuse.
Whatever it was, it sounds like a technique learned online that creep couldn't wait to try out on her- manipulative, calculating and definitely not worth any further contact.
The third guy is a 50-50 user. Please leave and learn the lessons. Do not be so *desperate* for a relationship that you sign up for future of aboose or your social network looking at you with pity
a white guy in japan was grabbing girls' necks in the STREET
@@TheMiss600 a PUA in japan was doing it in public
I’m definitely glad the second redditor asked Reddit so that she could change her mindset about that
I'm glad the1st lady divorced that cheating man child. 2nd story - No second dates for him. As for the 3rd story - I'm happy she stood her ground against her bully of a bf.
Don’t take them back ladies , they wouldn’t take you back if you cheated….give them the same energy
Cheating is a deal breaker for many reasons including the risk to health from diseases.
It's not just about the obviously broken trust.
and religion, adultery is a capital crime
I've read where that was a crime & punishment but I've never seen where it was applied to men, only to women
She MADE THE RIGHT CALL the audacity
Imagine using all of your God given strength to birth a human being. Performing the most trauma inducing act the body can ever endure, and then your husband being irritated when your body actually needs heal, because you can’t be the wife he needs. Woooow! Smh.
And this man makes $65K a year, with a $1,200 rent in a 1 bedroom and he won’t be able to afford rent with his girlfriend’s student paycheck? So he was only paying $600 and splitting bills, I’m sure. Yeah, she needs to run and run FAST!
That one where the guy came to get her car out of the driveway? Yeah that snow was a sign. Shoulda stayed snowed in
Matthew deserves what he got. He never should have cheated. His whole post shows a disgusting lack of concern for her well being. Proof she was right to walk away. Cheaters always want to blame someone else for their bad decisions.
Choking lady: R U N N N N *immediately*
Choking can be part of nookie but it's not something you just do with no warning. You have to talk about it first and set boundaries. Don't go back to a partner who puts their hands on you in a violent way. I can tell she is traumatized by how she doesn't even feel as shook as she should be.
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I wonder how many men watch your channel, and how many of those men watch it to learn how to be better?
Burb must have those statistics🤔
I doubt they would watch to be better, they would watch to learn how to get around woman’s boundaries or learn to hide their 💩 better.
Maybe a few are watching this with good intentions, but I’m sure that there are others that are watching with bad intentions.
Do not tell him and just move! If he truly loves he will understand! You are not there to support him!
Matthew F**ked around and found out didn’t he?!! 😂😭💀
See ladies!! Standards and boundaries!! Always have standards and boundaries and enforce them!!
Matthew should just be single and cheat in peace
They know women don't want divorced dads.
@@seabreeze4559Exactly.
*Last Post- I am glad that she chose herself!! 😊
I’m sure that man definitely cheated way more times. his wife was sick and couldn’t even help her so he goes out and cheats instead of staying home to make sure she’s ok. Smh, happy she’s leaving him
for the post about the choking during the first date , i’ve experienced this exact situation and don’t do it. the fact that these men feel so comfortable doing that without asking for a FIRST KISS is a massive reg flag on so many levels
It’s an obedience test.
He's going to miss her part of the rent,that's it. She's just been with him long enough to know how to guilt her.
I wish i was like the first wife and left the first. I did try to leave, but then he got violent. I felt so stuck.
Does anyone remember the memes going around and everyone talking about choking? It’s a thing in porn and I’ve met several men who try to do it to me because either they are I to it or they think I am. I’ve never liked it and not into the act of trying to end me for sexual pleasure. No thank you.
Story 2: tw Strangulation and hitting.
im so proud of her for opening up and asking/talking about it. Its so important that we have these convos. Strangulation is actually more legally "serious" than hitting in most usa states. The difference is because hitting doesnt necessarily block the airways. But Strangulation always blocks the airways.
it's always attempted murder
First woman should ask him if he would go to therapy and not break up the family if she cheated too. He wouldn't be so agreeable then. 😂
I'm absolutely floored. Dude is worried about breaking a home. He broke the home the moment he set his eyes on his coworker with intent to move his hands... These same males will complain about bitter and broken women. How do women get bitter? How to women get broken? How does anyone? By giving your heart and soul and all to someone only to have them crush it under their foot.
I wish I could give the woman in the first story a huuuuuge hug and blessings. Inspiring. Truly. You are my hero.
Being single is better than being with a guy who will strangle you on the first date. He will do it again and the next time you might fall unconscious and maybe dead. A child should not grow up in a broken home? You cheated various times, those if us who grew up in broken homes because our father cheated would rather our mother respected herself and left instead of having no boundaries and continuously take him back. To that lady please keep your boundaries, shame on the mother for supporting him in this.
For the second lady, anything that is NOT A YES IS A NO. If you have to ask Reddit, it's a RESOUNDING NO.
Any men named Matt/Matthew = 5 automatic red flags lol
"I know couples stay and work through this ”NO! WOMEN STAY AND WORK THROUGH IT!!! IF it the script was flipped MEN would drop you and out look back!!!
Act like a wife!!!!! These menz are something else
Girl - do what you need to do to finish your degree...
You can't 'fix' cheating. Whatever is done is done.
Why would a man cheating be a woman’s failure?
He is the one controlling his equipment
I always made it clear upfront. Don’t cheat, don’t beat. And you have to work. It’s not rocket science 🙄
I ve seen videos from a man who suffered abuse from his father, he studied narcissists gestures towards their victims. He says narcissists induce humans fear of death in order to make them submit, this is a natural instinct to save your life.
name? how to find?
A mistake is leaving milk on the cabinet out overnight. It's not PURPOSEFULLY sleeping with someone else.
Girl who wants to live with her mum: he's a real jerk for putting his mental health on her. Very manipulative.
Story 1: Stanning on bidness
I’m so happy that women are talking about these things. Back in the day we didn’t have this or it was just limited to friends and family. Women are learning about all these things that men do and say. It’s great and will help women keep safe.
I wonder if there’s a Reddit thread for abusers anonymous…. where go in and justify their abuse ‘cuz they really think they’re in the right.
Their mommy is ALWAYS the most toxic enabler and these folks all run on the same script.
I love that you’re being shown Levi’s ads :)
Lucky you. I get trump bobblehead ads.
The choking thing is a kink. If that is his thing he definitely should have known to ask consent. He knows there needs to be a level of trust. That’s definitely a red flag
17:37 Of course he wants you to stay...He would have to pay the full rent and won't have extra money.
The smartest is to move in with your mom and make it easier on yourself because it's giving financial abuse.
That woman is an absolute boss. He's a POS.
Normalize leaving on the first date!
Matthew is a damn clown who doesn’t care about his wife. Period. The last girl needs to worry about herself. If the gaslighting started already, imagine 10 years down the road…
No, he doesn't care about his wife talking about "I'll buy you anything you want" like a bauble is going to fix his indiscretion.
I would call my aunt and friends and use them as sounding boards.
Great story picks Burbs.
just wasn’t feeling well enough to act like a wife…
Shoulda chose better Matthew 😕🤷🏾♀️
I saw a comment a couple years ago from a former escort from San Diego that had a client come see her after dropping his family off at the gate at legoland and was supposed to be finding parking
Wow , the last man is # typical. If she does what's best for HER , it will be bad for HIM . And , he can't have that, of course . How dare SHE put HERSELF, before HIM 😅? Ladies, these stories solidifies the fact # most men can't afford to live on their own . That's why they ALWAYS try to use women , to upgrade THEIR lives . Leave those men in their Moms' basements. 😅
That's the thing tho.. he easily can afford to live on his own. He could easily afford to pay for them both while she went through clinicals. He's not a provider. He's a leach.
Sharing these stories are so educational and life saving. Thank you so much BurbnBougie!!! I appreciate your videos and insights so much!! ❤❤❤🌻🦋💗😊
Testing of boundaries leads to breaches. Never EVER ignore your intuition. Seek support to regain understanding of your bodies wisdom then trust it. It is going to save your life.
On my way to pick up my cat 🐈 cuz these fools…..😮
Second story: I’ve had that same thing happen to me. A guy choked me hard on our first kiss. 2 years later I remember being on a date and a guy wanted a hug. I don’t like kissing on first dates because guys get aggressive. It seems to be common so I set that boundary now. Only hugs. He tried so hard to kiss me and I turned sideways. He sucked my neck and grabbed my ass. I was so disgusted. I never saw him again and immediately blocked him. The men be SA women on day 1. They really think this is okay and it’s not.
Watching these stories has started to make me physically ill. Idk if I can take much more of it honestly. I can relate to a lot of these stories but also hearing how evil men are to fellow women makes me sick. It's starting to affect my mental health.
Please take a break. Don't let these posts impact you. If you wanna support, just hit like or watch a different video
For the first story - you know if the players were reversed (wife was the one who cheated), you know full well that the husband wouldn’t forgive her, AND he would put her through h-e-double hockey sticks about the kids. She handled it CORRECTLY, especially after the insulting “not acting like a wife” statement. Cheating is a dealbreaker, and it needs to be treated as one. Not only is it a lack of respect, but it puts your health in jeopardy.
For the second story - I think she knows the answer to that. In case she doesn’t - NO!
For the third story - GTFO! The man only wants her for her resources. If he really loved here, he would support her endeavors. Move in with mom, do the clinicals in her hometown so she can focus on her future and not mess things up by doing the clinicals and working to pay bills.
That second story… all I can say is this is why I carry a knife.
21:22 I want to say to this young lady, "Giiiirl, you're gonna be a HOT DOCTOR! ANY SANE man would want a piece of that!😂 I know it's scary to let go of a first love that doesn't serve you anymore, but it's even worse to let go of your dreams to serve a man who would never appreciate your sacrifice and who doesn't appreciate you doing what you need to do to make those dreams come true. He's only standing in your way, boo. Gather strength from your momma, and push him aside. You're going to be okay. ❤🎉" 😢❤🎉😊
What are these people?
All of this! I need men to think of it like this...cheating is taking resources out of the household. Resources such as money (buying hotels, dates, trips, etc. for the other person), time (that time you put into planning these events to cheat instead of trying to make things better for your actual family), & other things besides emotions. I think if we break it down like that then men will realize why women leave or divorce because they like to throw the 80% of divorces are filed by women & act like it's for no reason🙄.
Now the girl w/ clinicals...he pretty much stated that you're his roommate & he needs your help to pay rent. He really doesn't care because you won't be home anyway to be around him if you do decides to stay & if he really care he would try to find a way so it won't be hard on you.
I know relationships have their ups and downs but cheating is not part of them ups and downs ok, he cheats you leave period he don't care about your health he has no self respect or self control, yall need to be like these men and leave if you get cheated on ain't no talking.
First story, Matt just walk, it's over.
The second story: Girl, run. He didn't even talk to you about whether you're into that. That means in the future, he will do things without your consent. Unfortunately, you're not supposed to cut off air when doing that. If he had cut off air, it means he doesn't know what he's doing which is worse. Either way, if he doesn't know what he's doing he's dangerous.
Third story: Girl, if he really wants to make it work, he'd be going to you. Why do you have to do the work? This would be his time to shine by showing you his commitment to you and your future. He just wants the easy life, guaranteed that he's always going to do what's best for him.
Men know what attempted murder is.
What a selfish man.
Even Jesus, the religious leader who preached that marriage is sacred, and spouses should stay together no matter what, felt that cheating was so repulsive that it justified divorce. He was like “what God has put together, let no man put apart. Unless your spouse cheated, of course.”
So for the 2nd story I’d say she should have went for the long distance relationship for career purposes. If it is something that she wants and believes that it could benefit the both of them then so be it. The boyfriend doesn’t seem supportive because he made it all about him. You should be able to choose your own career paths whether you are single or not. Two people should be in a relationship where they love and support one another as long as they are not hurting anyone. People change all the time so she should be able to be self sufficient.
That's how I kiss men.. with a little choke 😂 I wonder if anyone thought I was some psycho killer. I like those kinds of kisses. But I can see how it can be scary
The last story, first of all she made a mistake by moving it with him for four years. He just using her until he finds the right woman he wants. Women should never get up their dreams and inspiration for a man because he will never do it for you. A lot of men are great con artists.