Why Are We Willing to do Anything in Limerence?
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Hello there!
My name is Fenna van den Berg, I am a certified coach and counselor. I have worked in the mental health field for over 25 years.
Having been through episodes of Limerence, I have "earned my stripes" to help others with their recovery. I understand the obsession and suffering of Limerence. My passion is being able to share with you, and all limerents, a guided-way forward on your journey of healing. We do this through discovering and practicing self-love and compassion. As someone who has suffered through limerence, I have developed effective coaching for people with limerence. My Coaching has helped countless have a more purposeful life, and I want to help you. We will work together, so that you may have a life more in line with your values and integrity.
Together, we are blossoming a community of friendly people with the same debilitating feelings and experiences of Limerence. Here, we share with, support, and nurture each other in giving love to ourselves, perhaps for the first time.
When you’re ready to end your pain and suffering from seeking the "Other," I’m here to guide you in recognizing your true lovable self, with compassionate teaching, counseling and also private coaching.
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The best thing about my current limerent episode: it helped me uncover my primary attachment trauma, and how I've spent years in isolated terror as a small child. I had no idea, but my limerence hurled my body way back into that era - and now I can't unsee it. Quite the price to pay to uncover this insight, but I'm grateful I know now (and that there is content about limerence in the first place - so glad I discovered the term and this channel)
So true !! Limerence is a gateway a mirror it forces us to have a look into the mirror and sometimes turn every stone
I went through the same journey and even if it was the most painful time in my life I'm grateful because I found myself 🎉
I’ve had 3 limerent episodes back to back that have created have nearly ruined my life. Two of those people I dated, the other was a fitness instructor that I never spoke to at the gym. I am still having unwanted intrusive thoughts with no end in sight.
I'm so sorry to read this, I wish you all the luck.
I am very glad that I have survived my limerent episode after I was nearly starving myself to death. My skin and my eyes were so bad from crying. Crying for years, several times, night and day. I totally lost myself. At the moment I am feeling very good cause I am far away from home and my LO is out of reach. I wished I could stay away from home. LO is still a dangerous drug.
I'm sooo happy you feel better, and yes the crying, the endless crying
Thank you Fenna ❤ After my father died and my marriage ended within a few months of each other, I fell into two limerent episodes. Like you’ve said, each lasted 3 months. Years later, I love myself and my life so much! I am so appreciative of your channel! I had no idea why I had acted so crazy. You’ve helped me eliminate the shame and guilt ❤
Thank you for sharing this Tinkershell, yes limere
nce feeds on grief. Im happy you feel better!
A study I read on limerence said most limerence starts within 2 years of the death of an close family member.
Thank you Fenna, Im sorry i missed the live chat, next time!
Next week, same time!
I need your videos. I am traveling along in my recovery. Thank you Fenna.
I'm happy you found me! ☺️
Really appreciate you Fenna! And I agree with you about Alan Robarge - I actually believe that man is a genius!
I wish Alan was my brother :D 😀.
Thank you for your comment 🙏
Great video, your words are solace for us in hard times.
I have experienced that narcissists know all about limerance and some actually intentionally stoke limerance to obtain powerful sadistic supply.
Im happy to give some solace FroggyF.
Do you think limerence is wake up call to take care of ourselves and souls? I was neglected as a child and I didn’t love myself enough. I was projecting all the love I wanted in life on one person my LO . It takes a lot of power to let go :( thank you Fenna
well any crisis is fertil soil for growth, healthier choices and reflection, so in that case yes. We also heal old wounds in a crisis, not only our own but also from earlier trauma running in our family history.
our battle in this world according to the Bible, is not against flesh and blood, but against demonic powers which do indeed lead to actually selling our souls to the devil. Read Ephesians chapter 6 on how to avoid getting sucked in!
I've heard that life is the C between the B and the D. C= choices we make B= birth D= death. May we learn to make healthy choice that put us in good places...
Yes! Amen to that Eriku
ILY Fenna 😘
Thank you Gwen, that gives a lot of energy to keep going
How hard is it to be so open and honest? As the SO of someone in limerence, it all strikes home just how destructive it is.
Is your partner still in limerence Mick?
@followingfenna pretty sure she has a new one that's not going to well. Not enough suply.
The live chat was fun.
I loved it Benjamin
Thank you, again! But what if the answer is: "Who knows if we could date" . When the answer is not a yes or no. A maybe.
Thank you Fenna.
Very helpful. Thank you!!
Thank you for the comment Eric
Wow, this was a good video Fenna. Thank you very much. My soberness and awareness is good now. Thanks to you. I hope you have a good day.
I'm having a great day thanks to all these nice comments.
Thank you Fenna. I watched it again today because I was possibly in limerence to someone maybe. I am OK now. @@followingfenna
Awesome first live chat, Fenna! I enjoyed!!
Me too Ms! Next time I will do a 40 minute video LOL so we can chat some more.
Sounds good bc the live chat cut off abruptly 😆 haha @@followingfenna
I thought he was a demon a sent by the devil to suck me in! To destroy my relationship with God.
I can’t find Ellen Rober on TH-cam please send me link please fena xx
It's Alain Robarge :)
in adolescene we boys referred to some girls as being "boy crazy". Are females more susceptible to limerence?
Good question, Not that I see in my work, I have as much male clients as female. We all attach as humans.
F are allowed to show more vulnerable emotions, other than m. But INSIDE the attachmentdrama is for every gender real. I saw my father 2y in bed while my parents divorved