I'm actually reading How to win friends and influence people right now, but I was already doing this beforehand- I just write names down on a certain app and where I know that person from/ a fact about the person it allows me to connect with people better. I hear it too often "I'm not good with names" it's a problem that people regard as not being that big of a deal but it is. You never hear someone say "I'm good with names" or have the solution to that problem, so it's great to see when people learn how to do this.
I too make a habit of remembering peoples names. I am also very comfortable asking "please remind me of your name" or "nice to see you again I'm Jennifer, I've forgotten your name" Always friendly and with a smile its never awkward and I believe it comes across as being very important to me ,which it is.
You make a good point. Despite our best efforts, we still may encounter people whose names we’ve forgotten, perhaps before we started using these techniques. Totally OK to politely ask for a reminder, and then make absolutely sure to commit it to memory for next time
00:00 🧠 Fully engage when someone shares their name; it's crucial for building relationships. 02:03 🗣 Use repetition and immediate application of a person's name to reinforce memory. 03:12 🤔 Create associations with names to aid in memory retention, even if they're nonsensical. 04:37 📝 Maintain a name list with brief descriptions for long-term recall and social confidence. 06:41 👋 Subtly remind others of your name if needed; it's polite and helps avoid awkward situations.
I’ve long used the technique you mentioned of saying their name back to them when given to you, but your idea about actually writing down names, and even organizing them based on places you visit frequently, is brilliant! It’s touches like these that take somebody from polite to refined
May i add a suggestion to your third method - i always add a persons detail to the Microsoft Outlook App and then check their profile on linked in (or facebook if in a social setting) i then download their picture to Outlook - so if i am ever unsure of their name i can check it against the photo - this has saved me on many occasions
These are *all* very good methods, writing down their names and facts about them, too. "Would you mind spelling that?" I sometimes use. My working life is usually in foreign countries, and after meeting people, I rehearse imagined conversations with them afterwards. Owning up early if you've forgotten can be done with grace, better than dodging it.
I’m one of those people that’s “bad with names,” and I’ve found myself writing them down too, usually as soon as I can after meeting them. I usually try to write the name, where they are from if they are from out of town, and what they do. So like “John, barista at X, from Scotland.”
James, what are you wearing in the Thumbnail?!?!! That's such a sharp look. 48yo Husband/Dad here. Love your channel, and am grateful there are young Men like you encourging the next generation to be more than just "Boys that can shave"!
Great video. Whenever I go into a restaurant that i visit regularly I always get the name of the owner or individual greeting me. So that I know who they are the next time I come. It’s amazing to go into a restaurant and walk up that person, same their name, shake their hand and say hey how are you Joe, Harry whatever good to see you again. They always remember you afterwards.
If I try to remember by association the girl's name, and it’s Amanda, I'm just gonna start singing : « Babe, tomorrow's so far away There's something I just have to say I don't think I can hide what I'm feelin' inside » Same if her name is Delilah: « I saw the light on the night that I passed by her window »
Whenever I call or visit a business, I introduce myself by my first name, but very often, later in the interaction, the representative will ask for my name again, seemingly completely forgetting that I had already given it to them. On the other hand, when somebody gives me their first name, I greet them by that name immediately and make a point to remember it for later. Forgetting somebody’s name when they just gave it to you can really sour an otherwise positive interaction. It just says that you don’t really care
I have a different but related problem: I have difficulty recognizing faces. I find that I often have to meet someone multiple times before I can recall that I have met them before. THEN I can worry about their name. I used to work in industrial sales, where I would travel to our clients’ place of work. I remember one time visiting a customer for the second time. I had the call report from our first meeting a few months earlier and so I knew the guy’s name and what we had talked about. I walked into the office and there were 4 men sitting there… and NONE of them looked familiar. It was quite embarrassing to try to address them and scramble to figure out which of them was the one I should already know.
Interesting quote from Joan Crawford (Mommie Dearest). All I can think of when I see her name is the scene in “Mildred Pierce,” where Joan calls the police. Btw, for me this was the best video you’ve made. Job well done
In a pervious life, my one up had a real problem with names when making introductions. He was at a party with his wife and during an introduction he forgot his wife's name. They divorced some time later.
I like the way you don’t just drag out your videos to get to 10 minutes to get TH-cam benefits. I subscribe because I like your content. When you start making them all 10 minutes minimum I will unsubscribe. Keep up the good work.
I'm actually reading How to win friends and influence people right now, but I was already doing this beforehand- I just write names down on a certain app and where I know that person from/ a fact about the person it allows me to connect with people better.
I hear it too often "I'm not good with names" it's a problem that people regard as not being that big of a deal but it is.
You never hear someone say "I'm good with names" or have the solution to that problem, so it's great to see when people learn how to do this.
The next level is remembering a client's children's names. In business, it cements a relationship.
I agree. In fact, remembering people's children is often even more impactful than remembering things about them.
yes, and it is a game changer if they can't remember they have children in the first place.
I too make a habit of remembering peoples names. I am also very comfortable asking "please remind me of your name" or "nice to see you again I'm Jennifer, I've forgotten your name" Always friendly and with a smile its never awkward and I believe it comes across as being very important to me ,which it is.
You make a good point. Despite our best efforts, we still may encounter people whose names we’ve forgotten, perhaps before we started using these techniques. Totally OK to politely ask for a reminder, and then make absolutely sure to commit it to memory for next time
One time I forgot a guy’s name. I just said hi and called him you. All of a sudden he seemed to be very happy. His name is Yu
All of this info here is absolutely spot on...
Thank you
00:00 🧠 Fully engage when someone shares their name; it's crucial for building relationships.
02:03 🗣 Use repetition and immediate application of a person's name to reinforce memory.
03:12 🤔 Create associations with names to aid in memory retention, even if they're nonsensical.
04:37 📝 Maintain a name list with brief descriptions for long-term recall and social confidence.
06:41 👋 Subtly remind others of your name if needed; it's polite and helps avoid awkward situations.
I’ve long used the technique you mentioned of saying their name back to them when given to you, but your idea about actually writing down names, and even organizing them based on places you visit frequently, is brilliant! It’s touches like these that take somebody from polite to refined
Thank you Gent.Z.
Great tips
May i add a suggestion to your third method - i always add a persons detail to the Microsoft Outlook App and then check their profile on linked in (or facebook if in a social setting) i then download their picture to Outlook - so if i am ever unsure of their name i can check it against the photo - this has saved me on many occasions
Great suggestion! Social media definitely helps with remembering names. I find it's also hard to forget a name once you've exchanged Instagrams
I don’t know. At some point this starts to border on a little excessive and even creepy. Ha
These are *all* very good methods, writing down their names and facts about them, too.
"Would you mind spelling that?" I sometimes use.
My working life is usually in foreign countries, and after meeting people, I rehearse imagined conversations with them afterwards.
Owning up early if you've forgotten can be done with grace, better than dodging it.
if I can't remember someone's name, I just call them 'Legend'.
Master of diplomacy 😅👍
I call them Bossman for that extra charm
Legend.
Genius😂
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I’m one of those people that’s “bad with names,” and I’ve found myself writing them down too, usually as soon as I can after meeting them. I usually try to write the name, where they are from if they are from out of town, and what they do. So like “John, barista at X, from Scotland.”
Excellent video. I have so many problems remembering names, but your tips in this video are gems. Thanks!
James, what are you wearing in the Thumbnail?!?!! That's such a sharp look.
48yo Husband/Dad here. Love your channel, and am grateful there are young Men like you encourging the next generation to be more than just "Boys that can shave"!
Great video. Whenever I go into a restaurant that i visit regularly I always get the name of the owner or individual greeting me. So that I know who they are the next time I come. It’s amazing to go into a restaurant and walk up that person, same their name, shake their hand and say hey how are you Joe, Harry whatever good to see you again. They always remember you afterwards.
I needed this. Thank you.
Nice posters. I’m terrible at this so I appreciate this video. Thanks.
“They just haven’t watched this video yet.” (Great! I love that…my favorite statement from this video).
If I try to remember by association the girl's name, and it’s Amanda, I'm just gonna start singing : « Babe, tomorrow's so far away
There's something I just have to say
I don't think I can hide what I'm feelin' inside »
Same if her name is Delilah: « I saw the light on the night that I passed by her window »
Whenever I call or visit a business, I introduce myself by my first name, but very often, later in the interaction, the representative will ask for my name again, seemingly completely forgetting that I had already given it to them. On the other hand, when somebody gives me their first name, I greet them by that name immediately and make a point to remember it for later. Forgetting somebody’s name when they just gave it to you can really sour an otherwise positive interaction. It just says that you don’t really care
This was very helpful thank you. Ive always struggled with names and hated it
@Gent.Z Do a video about how to inspire modern suits with a touch of the zoot suits.
I have a different but related problem: I have difficulty recognizing faces. I find that I often have to meet someone multiple times before I can recall that I have met them before. THEN I can worry about their name.
I used to work in industrial sales, where I would travel to our clients’ place of work. I remember one time visiting a customer for the second time. I had the call report from our first meeting a few months earlier and so I knew the guy’s name and what we had talked about. I walked into the office and there were 4 men sitting there… and NONE of them looked familiar. It was quite embarrassing to try to address them and scramble to figure out which of them was the one I should already know.
What is the name of the piano piece played in the intro? I really like it.
Interesting quote from Joan Crawford (Mommie Dearest). All I can think of when I see her name is the scene in “Mildred Pierce,” where Joan calls the police. Btw, for me this was the best video you’ve made. Job well done
In a pervious life, my one up had a real problem with names when making introductions. He was at a party with his wife and during an introduction he forgot his wife's name. They divorced some time later.
i just use Dude, mate, bro, and so on, it works fine
So I can't just call everyone "Bro" when I forget their name anymore?? 🤣
No,you should not call no one bro.
Denny Crane 😁
Ahhhh, what did you just talk about?.........LOL.
I like the way you don’t just drag out your videos to get to 10 minutes to get TH-cam benefits. I subscribe because I like your content. When you start making them all 10 minutes minimum I will unsubscribe.
Keep up the good work.
Whats your name Bubba?