So about those children who down through time wore natural fabric or whites etc. I hardly think they were hindered because of it. And actually they were more talented & smarter than our children are today. Now I personally have no skin in the game at all. But I have to say what is more concerning is the electronics programs music anything external that denies a child of learning without all the frame rates? I dont know who came up with the notions that flashing colors black & white contrast objects were going to increase a child potential but I call hogwash. I realize there is an entire industry built around children but as I stated earlier children from earlier times were smarter more talented than we see in our children who are indoctrinated into the world of electronics etc. I hate beige btw. Lastly making children fit into your world is not parenting..................Selfish entitled self absorbed bores....
@@illusionary5951 I agree with your points. What is the best stimuli to children? Keep them close to parents and siblings! Not alone in the strollers. I highly recommend to read: Jean Liedloff's book - The Continuum Concept: In Search of Happiness Lost
It's giving "I want a child but I want them to be exactly how I want them to be and to fit perfectly into the rest of my life how I want it" aka an accessory.
These people tend to also be 'mummy vloggers' so it makes perfect sense that they want a child as an accessory to show the masses and earn money from it, sadly.
@@nicoler5713exactly. And the reason she only sees it in first time moms of babies and toddlers is that the children don't play ball and reality strikes their lives
exactly why i’m not going to have kids, i‘m just no the type for it and im not letting society and even my family pressure me into having one. i just finished two and a half years of therapy b/c my upbringing was just like you describe.. i was an accessory.
I remember seeing a video of a goth mom where most of her house was black/dark colors, but she had the brightest, most colorful nursery/playroom so her kid could still get their fun toys and learn about colors and stuff.
Reby Hardy?? Her house is gorgeous. THe actual nursery is victorian gothic, but there's a hidden playroom behind a bookshelf that is SOOOOOO bright and fun and the baby clearly thrives in it
this was my life growing up. people sometimes didn't believe that I, a blonde girl during her pink princess phase, belonged to my goth mom. she said she loved going out with other goths and their kids, because the adults wore their fanciest dresses and people gave them strange looks, while the kids were colorful balls jumping around them, not even noticing that their parents were different. my room was a barbie wonderland, i can't imagine growing up only having addams family and tim burton merch..
@@jenksjax makes me think of the OG TV Addams family. The original Goth Family, with a "black" home but because it was shot in B&W the set was varying degrees of bright pink so that it looked black and grey on TV (black and grey didnt translate well on b&w grainy tiny sets) so your mum snd you were keeping up the very best of Addams Family Values!! Embracing the differences and being equally supportive of being all in black or all in pink!!
Even Kim Kardashian, who’s the biggest beige ambassador ever, has curated her whole house to be beige but left her kids’ rooms to be full of colour because it’s their own space and she recognises kids need colours 🤦🏻♀️
Why are toys suddenly considered to be decor? They are toys, the majority are only kept for a few years because kids grow up and no longer play with them.
Not all kids are conceived with the mothers consent... Please REMEMBER that.... But you can switch the rooms around...you yourself having a neutral bedroom/office/bathroom...and the colours everywhere else...I did that ,with my 5 kids
And since we are being super concise now, I have kids but not tiktok or much money. There is where I personally identified with this comment. Absolutely hilarious. God bless you mama.
Prioritizing aesthetic over your childs development is crazy. Those interiors are understimulating even for me, an adult thats sensitive to overstimulation.
Sad beinge moms: "Nature is muted and beige" Me: point to deep green trees, vibrant blue skies, obnoxiously yellow dandelions, blood red roses, orange koi fish in the pond, high contrast multicolour ducks, metallic blue dragonflies, literal effing rainbow right there Them: "but but but what about this rock?"they say about a beige pebble they picked from a pile of grey, green, white, pink, orange, golden yellow, black, and rich chocolate brown rocks laying on the ground, half of them covered in blue, green, yellow, and orange lichens. 😅😅😅😅😅😅
Another issue I potentially see from the sad beige trend is if a young kid lacks sensory stimulation in the real world, then someone puts an iPad in their hands, how much worse will their screen addiction become?
I saw someone say in a comment that this is better because these colors are natural and super bright colors aren't common in nature and i was like???? Have you seen flowers??? A cardinal???? A monarch butterfly??????
My mother's favourite colour was beige; she owned a lot of beige clothes, and she got me a lot of beige when I was a kid. By far, however, it was not the only colour in her wardrobe or mine, and she's part of how I developed my love of patterns, as well.
I want to preface this with I agree colorful toys are best, but not all colorful plants are healthy. Poison berries are pretty colors too. Poison animals also tend to be colorful as well.
When I paint the room of my child last year, the reaction of the staff at the place I bought my paint was truly memorable. The young man called everyone to come and see my choice. Everybody was excited, like if it was a big party. I asked why they react so intensly, and he said " no one never choose such colors, it always beige". It was 4 colors : turquoise, lime pink, purple.
Those sound gorgeous! I used to work at a hardware store, and the most adorable paint sale we had was a family who brought in their daughter's favorite color crayon to color match. We had her thoroughly color a square, then she was riveted as we made her paint and she was *overjoyed* when she saw a whole can of her favorite color.
I was designing tiny bathrooms in the market in 2006. All beige. 4 a day. To survive I was adding crazy color rugs, mugs and ceiling, or changing tiles color with client ;-). But most people wanted it beige, because it is neutral for fashon kaleidoscope, and they were poor.. Previously was pink bathroom trend, then become grey era. Now they seems to have ceramic plant prints on beige and remodeling task every few years. Beige is nice only on the cofe ice cream, otherwise it is a color of poo. No wonder everybody is depressed, or on the black mirror screens. Also, I want to paint all my room bluesky, because I miss that sky color, and for now I painted one wall, and already feel grounded more and love spending time next to it. I strongly believe in coloroterapy with lamps. Only in the desert is beige, in lively garden we all admiring, there is always lot of color, and beige is sign of upcoming winter death. Think about that.
My mom let me splatter paint my bedroom as a teenager those exact colors plus black! I had matching beaded curtains purple floor cushions a lime green couch and purple rope lights under my black loft bed. It was so fun!
Morticia addams : “You have gone too far. You have married Fester, you have destroyed his spirit, you have taken him from us. All that I could forgive. But Debbie... pastels?”
I don't have a problem with pastels per se as they make vivid colour pastels which is nice and colourful. Like the 1950s inspired colorful kitchens. Are they still called pastels though? 🫣
so i grew up with a mom that wasn't sad beige but was equally strict about the aesthetics of the house. and, to put it shortly, i grew up feeling like i was not allowed to be a person. i was an accessory to the house, not a human. because my tastes were automatically insulted and dismissed, i still now as an adult struggle to develop ideas and tastes in a way that doesn't cause me anxiety.
I’m so sorry that was your experience-you should have been allowed to be your own person and develop your own style ❤ my partner had a similar experience and is rediscovering the joy of colors and self-expression. Wishing you all the best on your self-exploration journey!!
@@Anna-dd4rh thank you so much for your kind words!! i'm learning to develop my sense of self a bit more everyday so i think it'll be okay eventually :) i wish all the best to you and your partner as well!
It's giving "I want a child but don't want them to take up space" vibes. Child is an accessory in that case, not a separate being with their own likes, wants etc. Even my dog takes up more space with all the quirky toys he happens to like.
What a fucking nightmare. It's UNREAL that mothers don't love their children. At all. They can't even muster to do the most basic things correctly. Selfish and absolutely disgusting.
Not sure what they are thinking. “I’m worried about toxins, so I’m going to spray paint all my kid’s plastic toys.” I wonder if the spray paint manufacturers have any warnings on the cans to discourage this behavior.
I get buying the beige items but when they spray painted the naturally colorful toy into beige I felt so pissed like WHAT ARE YOU DOING ISN'T PAINT TOXIC?! I wasn't allowed to be in a room that was recently painted that was my bedroom and the place smelled like paint for a week, how could she just let her kid play and breath in the freshly wet spray painted hoop?
That was honestly the primary concern for me. Even the special plastic formula spray paint will come off. It's designed for outdoor furniture, not kids toys.
If their kid got sick after eating this spray paint, who are they going to sue? The paint manufacturer? If so, then pretty soon we might see: "not suitable for making kids' toys sadder" warning on the can.
As a therapist, here is my two cents. It’s not the lack of color that is concerning to me, children will see colors everywhere else than home. It’s the importance that those moms give to perfection and projecting perfection. This has the potential to be extremely hurtful for the children long term. (Sorry if they are syntaxe mistakes, my first language is french 😊) EDIT: I see some comments about de development of the eye. I just wanted to add that if those children only saw beige, of course, that would be a big problem. BUT, those children will see other colors. They will see different eye and hair colors, clothes of people visiting, mom’s or other visitor’s makeup, food they eat, colouring books and crayons, and they just have to look outside the window to see plenty of colors. They will also go outside and go at other people’s houses, etc. ❤️
Oui 😅 kids will learn colors from life anyway (seeing orange carrots and red cars ) it's more about always having the newest trending toy that's the issue and always photo perfect for social media
Finally someone rational on the internet, someone who says what I think too. My daughter got a "said beige colors" rainbow when she was born. HOW CAN A RAINBOW CAN BE BEIGE??? It's so far from reality.
As a car painter what grinds my gears the most is the spray painting everything without any research about what’s safe and when. You CANNOT use toxic paint on unprepared baby/toddler toys that WILL end up in their mouths, making them ingest harmful chemicals. EDIT: thank you for acknowledging the danger of it all, omg. Just cause a bottle says „sticks to plastic“ it literally means nothing. Some plastics aren’t even able to be painted in a way that’ll last for a long time…
Aside from developmental issues, the beige mom trends concern me most because it is teaching children that nothing is theirs. Nothing really belongs to them. It sets a tone that a child’s interests or taste are not important if they do not fit mom’s aesthetic. I couldn’t imagine being a child and feeling like a guest in my own house or my own room.
My daughter has a giant rainbow in super bright colours above her bed. She chose the colours herself and the size of it and I spent days painting it for her. I don't love it, but it's her bedroom and she gets a say in it, we don't always agree on the way it looks, but I need to respect her likes and dislikes, as long as it's not harmful to her. She was 5 when she asked for the rainbow 🌈.
I was thinking along the same lines but specific to influencers. Their poor babies are going to grow up as decor items. So, not only guest in their own home, but object in the home. Just ew.
I wasn’t a sad beige baby but there was definitely some disdain over what I liked growing up. It’s worse than being a guest in your own home, it’s like being an intruder.
I grew up in one of those boring beige homes back in the 90s and let me tell you, I inherited my childhood home and I put every color you can think of in my home. I HATE beige and neutrals aside from black. The more color the better.
You are my spiritual buddy with the whole "give me all the colors" thing. I'm an illustrator and colorist for a living and I SURROUND myself with vibrant color. Color makes you happy! And black makes colors pop even more! When I sell my work at trade shows and such, every display tool in my booth is either silver or black because not only does it drive attention to my work, it makes the vibrant color in my work pop even more, like I already said. I hate this beige trend with the fire of a thousand suns. 🤮
Same! My mother's place is all white, beige and bleached wood. I hated (and still hate) it with a passion. At sixteen, she finally allowed me to choose the paint for my room's walls, and I chose vivid crimson. Needless to say, she wasn't happy about it, and repainted the walls as soon as I moved out at 18. Now, at 32, I look like a clown and my apartment is my circus. I NEED all the colors of the rainbow all the damn time. I'm willing to bet that many of those poor kids will also hate beige and their childhood homes.
The biggest issue isn’t so much the “lack” of color but the fact that these moms basically view their kid and motherhood overall as an accessory for social media clout. This can very much enter territory of control and abuse in the future where the kid will be expected to fit into mom’s aesthetic
@@pupawupagus what your dream is to live in a beige home which deprives any child of the needed physical stimulation. I sure as hell want to destroy that dream. A child’s needs always come first especially over a dream to follow a certain aesthetic. How shallow self absorbed do you have to be to have that as a dream. Yuk!
That lady spray painting kids toys made me feel so uneasy. Toy companies work hard to make these baby toys safe to put into mouth and this tiktok lady just destroyed them with paint that is propably not healthy to consume... I hope it was just a ragebait video and her babies didn't play with that.
In about 25-30 years there will be a Netflix special featuring these kids talking about how gloomy and depressed the kids felt growing up. Also, how overbearing and abusive their mothers were because the kids feelings didn’t matter.
It's proven that kids need colour to help their brain grow. Even in the pediatric ward, they tend to paint it with different colours and different pictures to make the baby's brain active. I think that these influencer parents should be educated on that and I'm glad Hannah finally spoke about it.
I have an aunt that was a sad beige mum before it was super populised/media advertised (she liked everything to look nice and clean, and had nice rugs and couches all neutral toned) and I remember as a child being afraid to do anything in her house because it was scary to risk messing up her perfect house by simply sitting on the couch or moving the rug slightly at the cost of her getting super angry at us (my siblings and I).
Another example of "classy if you're rich, trashy if you're poor"! I grew up in apartments, my parents were always afraid of not getting their security deposit back so I always had landlord special white/beige walls growing up. I HATED IT! I always dreamed of being able to paint my walls whatever color I wanted. We also didn't have money for "themed" decor but whatever we could get on sale which was often boring, solid neutrals. I laugh now at the beige moms because in the 90s/00s their aesthetic would've been seen as "poor" but now they're trying to hard to signal "rich".
what they dont realize is that it still makes them look poor. like idk who told them that a spray-painted toy basketball hoop looks 'aesthetic' and not like they picked it up off someone's front lawn. that wouldnt be a problem for normal humans but i think these people would have a mental breakdown if they knew how this looked lmao
For me it's opposite. As a kid I disliked those obnoxious , chuncky toys. With loud colors. I always preferred more calming, cute , sleek, sophisticated and intricate designs like adults had. But unfortunately kids toys and accessories are all about being loud and on your face. So I am not much concerned with kids not seeing colors bcs it's also adults who decided kids love obnoxious things and flooded everything with that mentality. When in reality every kids can be different like I was. Some kids might end up liking the calm and serene look of Beige so it entirely depends on kid. Hence, no worries that they can't see colors and it's not stimulating enough. However what concerns me about these sad baige moms is whether they will let the kids be themselves and not enforce their preference over them. Their obsession of being perfect can be very toxic towards their kids if they had very different taste.
Older mum here. No matter how expensive or aesthetically pleasing a baby product may be, children would rather play with the cardboard box they come in. 😂😂😂
I really truly believe that the "sad beige" trend simply boils down to this: Status Symbol. The rich and "classy" have clean, neutral homes, furnished with simple, expensive, clean décor and toys. Most of the beige toys and clothing are SO EXPENSIVE compared to the rainbow, gaudy counterparts, even within the same brand name. Rainbow toys are cheap, and easily accessible at any Walmart, but usually you have to seek out the beige, neutral toys from somewhere like Target(yes, at my class level--AKA: poverty--Target is considered expensive) or purchase online for a markup. Most of my childrens' toys are hand-me-downs or yard sale finds, and they are whatever color they happen to be, I'm just happy my children have toys at all. It's all an act of looking higher class and neat. (In my opinion.) Edited to say: I hope this doesn't come off as judgmental of those who can afford the more expensive toys. I am so happy for them!! I'm talking in terms of the trend trying to push the idea that beige is better.
Salem Tovar went over that this is definitely a don't be poor trend. It also started though, something like 10 years ago, when there were a whole bunch of toy recalls. A lot of plastic toys were found to have problematic levels of things like BPA if they were chewed on or brought into a car. There were so many choking hazards. Paint kept having random toxins in it, which could harm kids, again, if placed in their mouth. So people started gravitating to unpainted wooden toys to avoid toxins. Then it caught on with influencers and took on a new life. As I understand it, there are not as many recalls now. Fewer kids seem to be choking to death on Nickelodeon's toy of the year. Spray painting something beige seems so much more toxic than those plastic toys I grew up with that probably gave me a toxic load of ten different chemicals.
I absolutely agree. Kids are inherently messy. Beige says, “Our home isn’t touched by mess, we’re perfect and can afford a clean and consistent aesthetic at all times.”
I think that's one aspect, but I think there's a lot of reasons people gravitate to it. Some people are chasing the trappings of wealth, some feel overstimulated, some feel chaotic and are trying to feel soothed, and plenty of other reasons. I have a theory the reason Kim has a house that looks like a crazy person's is one of three reasons. Either the managers of her life wanted something completely neutral so you can project yourself onto it, they were selling the house, or if she has any say over her house, her life is so out of her own hands that this made her feel like she had control.
that colorful walker at 16:44 was the bane of my existence when I worked at a daycare LMAO. when you sang the song it gave me flashbacks! the kiddos were obsessed with it though, so I would play with them and pretend to take phone calls from across the room. if I ever have kids of my own, I’ll probably try to get something similar! my friends and family all know that I don’t like to wear loud colors, most of my clothing are muted shades or just straight up browns and grays. but supporting your childrens’ development is the bare minimum, and if that means buying colorful toys n decorations and listening to annoying jingles, I’m all for it
if plastic toys (surface) were toxic, there would be a scandal and they wouldn't be around for so many decades. this whole "plastic is toxic, wood isn't" debate is laughable, especially since wood can have a toxic layer, too.
@@alliwhite3941 i think a lot of these ultra beige parents have a bad habit of forgetting that they themselves were once kids who most likely played with plastic toys...and they came out "fine". i'm more worried about plastic toys being more harmful for the environment than "toxic" tbh
None of these mothers have a clue about eyesight development and its saddening. Babies need strong, bright contrastinf colours because newborns cannot see nuanced colour gradients. And they need to experience colour for brain development. (Or the fact that humans will become psychotic if deprived of all greens. No, really. NASA did research on the need of plants in your environment (if not needed for food). And people will experience psychosis if deprived of all plants for a prolonged period of time. Green colours are soothing to our brains. Colours impact our psychology. Even of tiny babies)
Yes! Love your comment. Thank you for stating so well exactly what my old brain was thinking. Grandma and mama of many here. Our eyes and brains naturally crave the colors of our beautiful world. 🌎 🌲🌾🍄🌼🌿🌈🍇🏕️
@@Weissguys6 i'm a millenial m9m myself: my son is 2 and our daughter is due april/may. We got bombarded with the sad beige, and it's actually hard to find affordable baby clothes of good quality that aren't muted colours or shades of beige and grey. It's rather frustrating. I'm all for usinf natural materials (we try to keep plastic to a minimum ourselves, as wood is also often nore durable) but absolutely go for colour. Parenting is all about your child's needs over your wants. Children need colour
@@jordanlunsford9214 the plant thing was an example on how colour affects our psyche. Not that they don't have any plants at all. We have different but similarly strong psychological ties to other colours as well
I haven't watched the entire video yet, but I'm already going on my baby registry and replacing some of the more muted color items with colorful items. I'm so glad you brought in the child development perspective to the video. I am a high school teacher, so sometimes I forget about that aspect, but I 100% appreciate it. Thank you!
I took a child development class in college and I seem to remember being told that high contrast was important for infants. It can be black and white, but they do better with things that are easier to differentiate for young eyes. I worry that there could be acual repercussions of everything being so similar in tone.
I was thinking the same thing. I read something saying that the older you get the less vibrant color is. Obviously color could be a huge stimulant with a child’s development. Probably why kids’ toys are brightly colored.
I recently took a professional development course on playground design for childcare centers, and even there it mentioned this, but as a safety issue. If the playground and the flooring are similar in color, they can have trouble differentiating between the equipment and the floor, which can lead to more playground injuries as kids trip over things. With the "beige everything" stuff, the kid's toys aren't going to contrast enough with the ground, so they won't notice they're stepping on a toy until it's too late. Or if the equipment blends into the flooring like the slide at 19:50, they might be focused on getting something on the other side of the room, and in their excitement forget that there's a slide in the way and trip over it.
Agreed. I think it would be most sensible to to have two spaces, namely a playroom and nursery room or spaces. The playroom can be stimulating and colorful for activities. And the nursery can be for sleep and more muted, soothing and less stimulating. It even allows the kid some agency because they can choose what space they want to be in and thus if they want more or less stimulation.
We had child development as part of our home ec class. Yes, in the 70's, we actually had classes that taught cooking, sewing and yes, childhood education. So even I know this. WHAT do they teach kids in high school these days?
wouldn't all that spray paint on the sad christmas tree be very TOXIC? 😮 The original product, aside from being more visually stimulating, was specifically designed to be baby proof in terms of safe materials. This is beyond idiotic
Yes, it 1000% is. They WILL consume chips of the paint. There’s a reason us car painters have to take so many safety measures when working with paint in any way.
yep, as a plastics engineer this made me physically uncomfortable. Stop spray painting children's toys!!! Also wouldn't recommend doing this indoors and with no personal protective equipment, maybe they've done that once too often..
Honest answer? It's made of plastic. By definition it is not safe, lol. If you want a safe version, use a real tree or a toy-tree made of real wood. That's it.
Yeah she literally says in the original video that only a little bit of the paint chipped but it was okay cause she fixed it and that's like immediately after painting
When my daughter was growing up, our home looked like a circus exploded in a phone booth. She was happy, and she played, she dressed up the cat, and we laughed. My home was never a showplace, I worked while she was little (but after a great company with flex hours). I was the opposite of these sad bright moms - maybe I was tacky loud mom? Yeah, I like that actually. She's 20 and in college now and is home every weekend. We play video games together, and watch You Tube and Tiktok... and we still laugh so much. Our home is so much more tidy, less circus colors. The time just flew by!! I'm so grateful for her and how we enjoyed her childhood. There's a time for everything. When the kids are little, maybe it's THEIR time to color your world.
Perhaps loud tacky moms are getting their kids ready for the real world of chaos... or perhaps it's b/c I have a fondness for loud and tacky when dealing with curious kids and sparking their creativity.
I love what you said it's so true. When I had 3 small ones everybody said it would fly by and to enjoy. I heard it so much I wish I would have paid a little more attention, because it did! Now I realize just like nature, life is full of seasons. Enjoy them all ❤
I don't have fb, Instagram, tik tok, etc. because I think it's crazy, so every single influencer topic you bring up is crashing my brain and confirming my original assessment, lol. Wow. It's nuts out there.
I think it's telling from a sociological perspective, too. We often hear them talk about how "calm, comfy, relaxed and chill" they want the space to feel. On top of it, children are loud and full of energy as they grow, which is totally normal. We are overstimulated as a society and people want to try balancing that out in a space they control. I think this trend is indicative of the Millennium generation's sense of impending dread, loss of control over much of our environment, stress as we should be at the height of our careers/lives, but often feel like we are struggling to get through each day. Beige is so neutral that is invokes a sense of comfortable nothingness. It's there, but at the same time, it's not. Everything becomes background. The parent's are doing it as a soothing action, but are not understanding how limiting that is for a child who is new to the world.
I also think that not all, but a lot of the beige moms genuinely didn't want children and were pressured into having children by relatives. They often do not want their child to do normal child activities, which I find evident. I was told my whole life that even though I have pathological sensitivity to sound, maaaayyybe my baby will be of a silent variety, completely disregarding that it would be fairly abnormal behaviour and the chance of it is very low, as baby's only way of communication is crying. I get a feeling that a lot of beige moms were fed that lie and similar ones.
That's such an interesting take on this phenomenon! I also feel the same way about them not only don't actually want a child, they also just feel like they have to go against the society norms of a mom that dedicate and change her whole lifestyle catering to their child. It's like their way to reclaim/ retain the life they have before pregnancy and/or childbirth. Woman before and after childbirth are so different, many had shared that they felt like they lost themselves, they became a completely new person.
So very well said. People definitely want a sense of control in a increasingly senseless world but at what detriment to babies and small kids who NEED to be exposed to colors and other new things. Surroundings and decor certainly influence our moods and thoughts.
@@adish1401 I think it compares to what a "quiet" baby is it's not that they won't cry but will cry when they "have" too where sometimes baby's will seem to cry for no reason, there was also a study in mice where if they ate one type of berry they would get zapped the baby's that were born from them then avoided the "bad" berries also what you eat go's into the milk you produce so if you were to eat peanuts your milk would contain peanuts
My concern isn't just the developmental possibilities of a lack of color, but also that these kids are growing up in a home where the priority is looking good for a bunch of strangers on the Internet. How many other (independently small) ways is this going to affect the child's environment and experience? I have friends who grew up in extremely image focused homes in the 90's who are in therapy to deconstruct some of what they learned now. I can't imagine it will be better for these kids. That said I also tend to believe and hope that the majority of parents are doing their best for their kids, based on their knowledge and experience. I hope that remains true with these parents and helps to mitigate some of the potential harm.
That’s such a great point. It’s also likely that these moms won’t allow the normal messes kids make while playing. I had a friend as a 10 year old whose mother wouldn’t even let her bring friends into the house because she wanted a picture perfect home. Yikes!
This is what I was thinking too. These kids may start to feel like their wants and needs aren't as important as making sure everything looks nice, even though I also believe and hope the parents want the best for their kids and would never want to make them feel that way. Since kids are still learning how to understand their environment and social situations, they can leap to conclusions you might not expect and even things that seem small to an adult could have an unintended impact on kids' self esteem and how they see their role in their family.
This speaks to the greater trend of children as accessory instead of their real purpose. You should talk about all these women in due date groups saying how depressed and upset they are to be having a boy instead of a girl because they want a “mini” or a “bestie”. They want an accessory.
all i can think of is just damn, gender role enforcement starts early huh. like my primary worry is for trans and/or intersex kids, but even dycis children dont always adhere to those tastes. my cister (sic) sure didnt! and my parents were sensible and respected that. as if their sons would never want to play dressup, or their girls couldnt climb trees. ugh
@@gwennorthcutt421That's.... Unfortunately not really the point here anyway. No matter the gender or association of the child, no child deserves to be nothing more than an *object* to the parent. Is what OP and these repliers are saying. These moms/parents seem to acknowledge that all they want out of a child is a lil trophy to flaunt around for bragging rights, instead of treating them like a human being. It has nothing to do with gender roles. It has everything to do with ethics and humanity.
I always think about a tiktok I saw from a goth mom. Their whole house was black/grey but the babys room was like an explosion of colour 😊 she was very conscious about the need of colour in babys development 😊
Omg my goth sim family got that same treatment! I made the house fully goth except for the kids room wich was very colorful and magical. Ppl that pressure children into some dumb aesthetics for internet clout shouldn‘t be allowed to have kids.
Im one of those. My house was all black and gray, when i got pregnant, everything turned i to dino explosion. Ive still got skulls everywhere, but weve added a ton of color to the house and his room is like pre k jurassic park. Ive even started *wearing* more color because i wabt him to be happy.
@@JilTheReal I don't know the account name, but most of her videos start with something like "Another day in the life of a goth baby" so I'm sure if you search for goth baby they'll pop up!
wanted to go down that path with my 2nd child. The beige nursery aesthetic was just getting started and seemed very appealing. My daughter VERY clearly loved bright colors everywhere, the more the better. 😂 😆 she won 🤗 it makes her happy and it's an easy yes for me.
The sad beige also sends a message that you’re wealthy enough to buy everything new. Babies need a lot of stuff, especially if you’re a first-time parent, and most people depend on hand-me-downs and gifts which are inevitably not all going to match perfectly. At my old job, when someone got pregnant, you better believe at least one person was coming in with a trash bag or 2 of their kid’s old clothes to pass on. It makes me wonder what these people did with all their baby shower gifts, because I have doubts that your second cousin is going to spend $300 on a beige and sage wooden block set for you.
Babies don't need that much stuff but we're collectively lead to believe they do... You're absolutely right that you got to be rich to get all the brand new trendy stuff for your kids supposedly well-being.
Or you can just refuse gifts like my cousin and his wife did. It really hurt my mom who had crocheted several things with personal touches and they just refused to have them off her
As a Montessori teacher: please don't buy expensive "sad beige" stuff on Dr. Montessori's account. Baby needs to hear speech plenty and often, practice face-to-face time, explore their five senses (including colorful sights and sounds!) and enjoy age-appropriate freedom of movement. The other stuff is just "gravy."
And it's not like Montessori schools/toys are devoid of color (same with Waldorf which I have more experience with and has similar stuff). Wood is popular but it's often painted, paired with colorful fabric, etc. Don't forget the abundant crayons and colored pencils either. "Natural" doesn't have to mean bland.
I went to a Waldorf school as a kid and it was COLOURFULL. There was not a single white/gray/beige wall in the entire school. The classrooms had different colours depending on the ages of the students (younger kids had warm colours like red, orange and yellow, older kids had colder colours like purple, blue and green), we did LOTS of arts and crafts, and the toys were painted in all sorts of colours with natural, water based paint. We had montessori toys too and they were not sad beige at all. They were sort of minimalistic (to encourage the imagination), but they were made with naturally dyed materials. We even learned how to dye wool yarn with different plants to make different colours! A Waldorf/Montessori childhood is VERY colourful, and it makes me sad to see these influencer parents use these labels to justify their children's sad beige lives.
The montessori schools I went to when I was younger definitely had the opposite look of what these beige moms are desperately aspiring for. My first school was a renovated, traditional Filipino house that was renovated to accommodate for grades K to 6, and the classrooms were so colorful. I remember my classroom specifically being green and white with patterned tile floors, and montessori-style tools of all colors to help students retain interest. Going to high school at a different campus but still montessori, the classrooms for our age range were far less colorful but there was still an effort to keep things visually interesting while we learned, and the pre-k students still had the most colorful tools in their part of the school. Montessori learning doesn't want aesthetics, it needs a balance between natural tools and efficient learning, which I feel its succeeded at far better than spray-painting your kids' toys beige to "be less overstimulating and pretty"
When you said you had a bachelors in education it clicked. I always feel informed like I do in one of my respiratory therapy lectures. I feel taught by a reliable source when I listen to you. Like I’m in good hands and actually learning something. Makes sense now lol
This makes me so sad. Early Childhood educator here... studied for a long time to be able to be bossed around by toddlers all day. But - early childhood education is my passion and having studied deeply into child development... this is so wrong. These poor kids probably cannot tell the difference between many of those colors, most likely don't even see clear lines for a while, and all the things that you stated. I don't love how chaotic kids toys can be but they still need it. They need high contrasting colors, realistic items.. I could go on and on. The highest early childhood accreditations would never pass any of the sad beige mom curated rooms as a high level of learning.
I’m also a qualified early childhood educator and worked in the sector for almost 2 decades, I completely agree. I’m now a full time sahm, I’m so glad I’m not raising my kids like this. My home is that a home for my family not the atheists of modern beige trends.
Also, I don't think I saw a single children's book in this video. It's basically never too early to start reading to a baby/toddler. I still remember grabbing my little books from a low shelf and bringing them to my mother to read when I was like 4 or 5, or just flipping through them looking at the illustrations. If there are any picture books (which are almost always colorful) around, they're probably in a cabinet or something where these kids won't think to interact with them because they're out of sight or reach.
I don’t know that the trend is necessarily harmful; bright paints commercially available are really a post-Victorian thing. Most homemade dyes were pretty muted until just before then, too, and humanity has turned out fine. But intentionally eschewing color when you have the ability to have it seems strange. I guess you could argue that I’m a monochrome pink mom; but at least our rainbow toys are actually rainbow!
I’m really curious to know what your opinion on children playing with spray paint covered toys is? Young kids put so much in their mouths and I can’t imagine all that spray paint is good for them
@@nobodynohow8039 Fair point, but one thing this all-beige aesthetic really lacks is contrast (which is especially important for newborns who don't really see color yet and are most likely to not be leaving the house and seeing color elsewhere). Even before bright colors were common, there were still dark and light, shiny and dull, etc. Anyways, this color thing is not exactly a health crisis but the attitude that's it's fine or even aspirational to purposefully deny a baby stimuli is worrying IMO.
I study psychology in Italy and I've had the chance to visit a montessori school, it is NOTHING like how the tiktok beige moms make it out to be. The classrooms had so many sensorial material and it was filled with bright colours alongside the neutral colours. There was a perfect balance.
Exactly! I went to a montessori school for 3 years in primary, my classrooms were so colourful, so vibrant. It was all about interactive learning, not the aesthetics, so pretty much everything was colourful and filled with life.
Yes! I went to a Montessori school as a child and worked at one as an adult. There's lots of color. But they've thought about everything. Think about the iconic pink tower. It's all pink so that the child can focus on the shape itself instead of different colors. Every item needs to be clear in its goal and is self regulating (I don't know if that's the correct word. What I mean is that the child can instantly know what the goal is and there's no interference of an adult needed to explain.)
This trend is just so sad. I'm a 30-year-old and I've been complaining for years (before this sad beige thing had a name) about how as adult, it's so hard to find furniture and decor options that are not neutral colors -- and anything colored is a "muted" version of itself, like a dark navy or a pale green like the paint that lady sprayed the tree with. When I go to IKEA, my favorite section by far is the kids' section. It is bright and colorful and full of life. I can't help but feel that even as adults, we must lose something positive when we start thinking of bright colors as a bad (or unaesthetic) thing. I think a significant portion of the blame has to be placed at the feet of HGTV renovation shows. Everyone wants white walls and grey floors because they look good staged (and unlived in) on television. In the meantime, I'll keep driving my bright yellow car in a town full of white and grey vehicles!
Hard agree. I loved deep vivid jewel tone colors. So you can imagine my frustration. Dinnerware and serve ware options make me genuinely cranky at their often lacking range.
The trick is to use white/soft beoge walls as a canvas for creativity. Maximalism needs a comeback. This is what happens when Minimalism goes out of hand.
I personally don’t really like brightly colored furniture or bright colors in general (more of a pastel, sad beige person lol) but I do feel the same way when it comes to other items, like stationery or kitchen accessories, being “sad” and way too serious when they’re meant for adults. I live in Japan and there’s so much cute stuff for adults too and it makes me so happy! Things like pastel-colored dinner ware, cat-shaped kitchen items, scissors with cute animals on them, cute and pastel-colored pens and notebooks. Every time I go back to my country in Europe, I find everything to be so dull. I can be a responsible adult even if I own cute items!!! (edited for clarity)
This! There's a post about throwback electronics that used to come in bright funky colours, and they were so good. It made me so nostalgic. Like, why can't I get a mobile phone in fire truck red or royal purple???
Yup I've been thinking that for years, BRING BACK THE 60-70'S INTERIOR DESIGN!!! When I watch Clockwork Orange or Space Odyssey, I can't help but marvel at fun and whacky shapes and colors that were so dominant in the interior trends at that time
These moms would hate our Christmas tree. We basically throw coloured lights, tinsel, none of the ornaments match and all are quirky and colourful! It’s a joy to behold.
It's giving --people who stack their books backwards to show the pages instead of the spine, where the title and author and all identifying information about your books is. Bizarre.
Yes I find that such a weird trend. Or people buying books because of the color of the spines. I'm sorry but I actually like to have books that are interesting to me LOL.
I wish expecting moms would put down TikTok and pick up a book about infant development. Newborn 101 - newborns do not have well developed eyesight upon birth. They need high-contrast colors and shapes to help them focus and stimulate vision development. It’s concerning that people are more worried about how the nursery looks than learning about how to care for the new life they are bringing in to the world.
@kyliecross2156 You didn't ask, but I'm sharing anyway! I was super nervous about effing everything up for my kids. So, I took every crash baby care and early development course through the hospital I could, audited as many of the online university courses on child development and education as I could possibly pay attention to, and consumed as many written articles and books until things stopped making sense. ... I am dyslexic and have an attention deficit. This was a hyper-focus topic, but I still hit my processing limits.
@@jessicope the fact that you cared enough to make the effort to learn about how to care for your child and support their development, despite the challenges you had to overcome, makes you a very good mom in my book! Bravo! 🎉
My mom wasn't a beige mom, but she was definitely a minimalist and not a fan of spending money on anything she deemed unnecessary. Most kid stuff was unnecessary, so everything I owned was basic and practical. No joke I spent five years begging her for one of those big carry everything zippered three ring binders and nope. Regular binders were fine. I bought one in high school out of spite with my first paycheck and it went to college with me until it fell apart. 😂 My brother, bless his malicious little heart, apparently realized this and bought me every Lisa Frank thing he could find and sent me home with them from summer visits with him and my dad every year for ten years. To my mom's credit, she didn't get mad about it or try to stop it, just rolled her eyes and started sending me to visit with an extra suitcase. She's almost 70 now and is now entering her "I lived long enough to stop giving a fuck" phase and I'm living for it. Colorful clothes, dyed hair, a brightly colored cat enrichment structures all over her house for the two small terrorists she adopted last year. She's still a minimalist but a minimalist in full rainbow aesthetic.
It's fascinating how our parents may change, isn't it? My mum was always afraid of dogs and did not let us have one, as a family. When we were adults and my dad passed away she adopted a dog. My parents were also very strict with what toys we children should or could get. No toys, unless it was Christmas or birthday, was a constant rule. Later on she liked to splurge with her money when she entered the "I don't give a fuck" phase. One of my last and greatest memories of her was when I asked her to come to a Madonna concert, although she could never stand Madonna when I was a child. And guess what, she danced all concert through, feeling the music and knew all the lyrics :). Shoutout to your mom and all the moms out there.
@ApricusInaros it really is. I know the events that made my mom who she was and, even though she did do her damage to me, I can't hold it against her. She's genuinely a saint and did the best she could with the information and abilities she had. My grandma was a victim of it, too, and I saw her do the same thing in her 80s after my grandpa died. I still remember her calling me up one afternoon when I was on my way to class and proudly declaring that she, a sweet little schoolteacher from Minnesota who never said a bad word about anyone, had called her horrible stepdaughter a bitch to her face. I can count on one hand the numbers of times in my life I heard that woman swear and she was just so proud of herself. She had a lot of trouble understanding me when I wa young but we really bonded after the fuck it all kicked in.
@@raptor_reddI think what may be happening is she expressed herself when maybe before she didn’t. I think that’s good. I don’t think cussing is necessarily needed to do that but we also shouldn’t repress. It’s nice to keep it classy :) This world has gone so much the other route of ‘don’t give a f@&* and I don’t know, in my opinion it’s nice to keep some class and elegance to uphold. We can still express without vulgarity.
😂 the favorite "toys" my 3 year old niece likes are the sparkliest most colorfull jewelry I own and my make up ,is like her dreams come true bright colorful things and textures to "play" with I let her play but only if I am watching her. So making a toddler only play with sad beige toys is not good for them they like colorful things.
@imitationporcelain , yes, very young children are attracted to bright colors. That's why a lot of children's educational toys are in bright colors like red and yellow. It's also why a lot of book covers for children and adults are colorful. Even now, when I'm shopping I am often immediately drawn to bright colors. I keep a healthy balance in my inside decor, but my garden is an explosions of colorful flowers, tomatoes, pumpkins and other fruits and vegetables. It's delightful. Life is colorful.
@Ab3ndcgi, a lot of what you are saying applies to older kids. But babies, who can't even sit up yet, also benefit from color. For example, it can help develop their eyesight, among lots of other important things. Also, children of all ages spent a lot more time outside back in the day, surrounded by color. And the world in general was more colorful than we realize. A lot of stuff that survives from previous centuries has faded over time, so we imagine everything was drab and dull. But when you see depictions of how some things actually looked back when they were originally made, it can be shocking how colorful things actually were. Personally, I think if experts are telling you playing with brightly colored toys will benefit your child, and not playing with such toys has even the tiniest chance of hurting them, why in the world would you not give them some brightly colored toys?
@Ab3ndcgi Before plastic, paint and dye were used. However, for poorer kids, their toys wouldn't be carefully preserved, and so the dye would fade and paint would chip off. If we look even at the middle ages, we see a wide variety of toys like balls and marbles and dolls and carved figures, usually all quite colorful. Hollywood's idea of drab, earth toned medieval peasants is very wrong. Take a look at illuminated manuscripts, even preserved clothing we have, and it's all richly dyed in the brightest colors possible. Even if a peasant couldn't afford kermes (a red dye) they could afford madder root (another red dye). There are so many ways to dye fabric, and even change that color depending on your methods and mordants. Life was very colorful, for everyone.
When my son was born, this trend was on the up and up. I was really hung up on not giving my kids "overstimulating" toys. I did do high contrast black and white items but I tried to use really simple, open ended, earth tone, toys. He didn't care for them. My MIL had toys at her house that were the typical noisy, light flashy, bright colored obnoxious toys and he LOVED them. Played for a long time with them and was so happy. I was furious lol I can laugh about it now but it mentally wrecked me for a bit.
So the "official" Montessori books (Montessori Baby and Montessori Toddler) DO say: "Whenever possible, choose toys and containers for your children that are made from natural materials such as wooden toys and woven baskets." - I think the sad beige moms just heard "Natural materials" and said "OK. Brown wood stuff. Bet."
Similar with Waldorf, but at the same time, colors are highly encouraged!!! Maybe not plastic meins, but rich greens, bricht yellows, warm reds and deep Blues, something being made out of wood does not mean it cant be painter with safe colors
@@SingingSealRiana Oh absolutely! The entire idea is that nature is FULL of every color in the rainbow, go figure! 😂 'natural materials and textures' doesn't automatically equate to just 'brown woven baskets!' ffs. 🤦🏻♀
Hi 👋🏼 converted sad beige mom here! I bought lots of woods, neutrals, and didn’t have a ton of color for my son when he was born. But around 1 year old her started to show more interest in those types of toys and toys gave in. I didn’t think it was fair to force my child to play with things I liked when he clearly had a desire for the bright colorful toys. My daughter came around and there’s no rules on color in this house anymore. I never even thought of the developmental aspect but I’m glad I gave in for my children’s sake 🤍
Good job on paying attention to your child's wants. I love color (beige included) but I always am curious what makes you gravitate to the neutrals? I've heard a lot of answers and always appreciate when people share
@@dismurrart6648So, I prefer neutrals and muted colors as well, and it is because it’s not as overstimulating. It’s less distracting, thus easier to focus on working and learning, and it’s easier to stay calm. I do have colors, also some bright ones, but they are only accents and I try not to have so many in places in which I need to concentrate, like my desk or my kitchen.
My husband is colorblind. All of those beige colors would look identical to him. He only learned to differentiate certain colors by seeing them saturated. He hates pastels and earth tones - they make him physically uncomfortable. I can’t imagine him growing up in this kind of environment.
16:23 My granddaughter loves this thing and I love hearing my daughter, her mother, sing along with it! 18:08 It is so wonderful hearing a child at the zoo pointing to the zebra and saying “Zebra!” because of the toy zebra they have at home!
It looks like this beige sad moms don’t even understand why the seasonal depression exist. It’s SAD to live in a world where everything is just white, brown, white, grey and dark green. We are all just happy with spring because the colors are back in nature and our life!!
Well, seasonal depression actually has a lot more to do with daylight time variation, during spring the days get consecutively longer. The colours do bring a lot of happiness though, not gonna argue that haha
anecdotally i agree with you (hate overcast days for this reason) but sad is actually linked to the reduced daylight hours in the winter. that's why a commonly used treatment for sad is a uv lamp - makes your brain think its getting more daylight.
@@gabrielaribeiro6155 I feel like it's a little bit of both. I agree, moreso to do with the daylight, but there are some recent studies that show green in nature also helps your mood (lowers blood pressure and decreases anxiety). Personally, I have moved from a state where everything died in the winter and it was all grey and my seasonal depression was a lot worse than in my new state where it still gets overcast and still somewhat cold but there's evergreens and other greenery still around. Arguably, state #1 was a lot colder (getting down to 0F) and thus I also didn't go out as much but idk, I still think the greenery helps. I missed it so much while in state #1
Montessori Teacher here! None of the classrooms I've ever been in, even when training, were beige or even beige leaning. There are tons of colors in Montessori classrooms! Maybe not the loud plastic rainbow crap talked about in your wonderful video, but still, lots of color. Because we teachers also know that color is important for brain development! Looking at colors is literally what helps babies see! Great video by the way!
Exactly this. Color is important but so many of the colorful toys nowadays have colors that don't even exist in nature and can be extremely overly stimulating. Especially if it flashes or talks/ plays music none stop
Yes! I love the colourful Grimm's toys. We have the blocks and my son loves them. We're not Montessori but the toys are just so beautiful and exciting!
@@francoiselafferty-hancock5112 you’re comment made me look those up and thats exactly what I like! I like color but not that non natural plastic color, those toys look great!
Children in their first couple of months of life NEED contrasting colors. They see in a grey scale. Everything being shades of the same don't engage the brain. They need these huge contrasting colors to help them with their eye control and focus.
So they grow up feeling like there’s no room for quirks, mismatching, mistakes, clutter.. they are going to raise perfectionists who don’t know how to relax
A pediatric audiologist friend of mine BEGS everyone to please cover their kid's toy's speakers with Scotch tape. You'll still hear the sound but it is usually FAR too loud for baby's ears (and it's better for Mom and Dad too lol)
@@daphnereal3129 she never touched it. It was strong enough tape. It blended in and then she never seemed to notice. She could enjoy her toy without it being shockingly loud.
I'm fully qualified to teach preschool and in my ECE classes they said that bright colors were actually crucially important for infants' visual development, kids are born with pretty bad eyesight and the high contrast and bright colors helps them with focus and adjustment. Sound helps their little brains developing literally from before they're even born, color helps their eyes begin to do their part in that process as soon as their eyes are open. They need the visual stimulation for their cognitive development AND physical development. This trend is honestly deeply concerning if you know anything about early childhood development.
That's what I was wondering, if it would actually affect brain development for vision especially if they didn't leave the house much. As someone with a visual impairment you can only get so much back later.
The saddest thing for me is that these people are selling the idea that their kids are, at best, accessories that need to be styled into their life or, at worst, that they are a hindrance and an imposition to their lifestyles that needs to be whitewashed into the background.
My partner peeked over my shoulder as I was rewatching this and commented that these toys and playrooms are for zombie kids. . . .you know the parents who want their child perpetually quiet and still. It's restrictive and over controlling.
This also applies to parents who dress their children like small adults. Not even about the plain colors, but even the style & fits. It’s just so unnecessary. They’ll have all of their adult life to wear that, let them wear fun, colorful clothes. They’re gonna look back & cringe. I have a new appreciation for my Barney shoes that I loved as a child.
It's true. It's actually sad that as the children get older the clothing options available get less cute and colorful. I wear colorful clothing as an adult and it's nice when your child can look at your clothing and actually identify colors, not just dull, neutral tones.
The one thing I do like is that clothing isn't as gender conforming/extreme as it was before. My kid is 15 and she was a baby at the beginning of this change and it was annoying that the only clothing I could find was bright pink sequins, bows and ruffles. It was so limiting because she didn't like that stuff.. So I like that it's not as extreme now but I definitely disagree when parents won't let their kids express themselves or wear character clothing and instead make them wear boho muted adult clothing. It's weird because when I was a kid in the 90s, it wasn't that extreme like it was for my kid. In all of my photos, I was wearing jeans, Jean jackets, 101 dalmatian shirts.. At some point it all became extremely gaudy.
Yes, so true. The clothes my daugther is choosing are not stylish or chic. Do I sometimes prefer the cute little outfit I choose over the dress with a lot of glitter she chooses? Yes. Do I think she looks like a little raspberry because of all the pink? Yes. Am I asking myself if this elsa phase will ever pass? Also yes. But I am proud of her, that she already knows what she likes and what not. And as long as it is warm enough, she can choose. But I have to say I am a little bit stricter with dressing up. Dressing up is something you play and she can do whenever there is time for. Getting ready in the morning is something different. So there are no fairy wings or princess dresses when we leave the house.
Yep! I know a very wealthy couple with 3 kids under age 6 and their son and daughters are always in real KID styles. The girls have pigtails. They wear bright colors and functional sneakers. I've heard a couple of other adults talk about how "weird" this is that the kids are not in those hip trendy styles but I personally think it's so refreshing that they are able to be kids.
I'm a kids therapist and I have had a few parents of my clients be like this. One child's room was themed pink and white as that's her mums favourite colours but her favourite colour is purple. She was a young teen with significant anxiety and had to hide some of the regulatory tools we made in therapy as they didn't match her mum's asthetic
I am so happy you made this video. I’m a preschool teacher and my sister-in-law had only grey-scale or beige-scale toys and clothing on her baby registry. Even the books were beige! I joke that these kids are going to grow up thinking they are color blind
I know these are young moms without a lot of life experience but I feel like any DIY-minded teenager can tell you how well spray painting over high-touch plastic items will work out for you in the long run. Which is not at all. There's the peeling, but there's also the smell, the stickiness, the look of it after a tiny bit of wear. It's just not a good option for plastic toys.
I recently saw a reel that suggested that a craving for neutrality and a “calm” home might be a symptom of postpartum anxiety, which was super interesting to me. I used to have a home that was all teals and oranges, and in the past couple years I’ve found myself drawn to neutrals and nature-inspired decor. I also definitely had undiagnosed postpartum anxiety. In case anyone is worried, I have all the loud brightly colored toys because despite everything I ended up with a construction vehicle kid, and we embrace him for who he is.
I remember when the kid's tree tiktok came out, and a lot of people were concerned about the paint. The mom insisted her 18 month old puts nothing in her mouth... I was a teacher too. Safety, color, entertainment, are all so important. I hate the sterile beige rooms with hardly any toys.
Babies and even toddlers learn by putting things in their mouths. If her child doesn't do that, it sounds like a lack of curiosity or reluctance to interact with her world and that can be a sign of a developmental issue. I know it's a hassle, but you actually WANT your kids to put toys in their mouths when they're little.
@@reginakeith8187 yeah it sounds like the woman already stifled her child's learning process by draining it of anything interesting. If a small child isn't attracted to something visually, they often won't engage with it or at least not for very long. That's why kid's toys are so brightly colored- the first goal is to grab their attention. That's generally done by sight and can be done on TV (which can grab interest before the kid even knows what all it does) or in person, up close or from across the room. No kid alive sees a Beige ball or blocks from 10 feet away and runs for it.
I am an early childhood educator who has spent literally decades working with children under the age of 5. Boy, do I have thoughts on this! Infants’ vision develops throughout their first 12 months. Initially young infants focus on high contrast and bright colors because they are the easiest for them to see. This preference persists as their eyes and vision develop during the first 12 months. A sad beige mom to a young infant who insists on that aesthetic could be delaying their child from being able to see, and thus learn about, a large portion of their world. Having said that, I do believe that highly colorful environments(think this-looks-like-a-rainbow-vomited-all-over-this-place) can also be overstimulating to young children. Bright colors should be present, but having neutrals is also beneficial. Some examples: have many colorful toys and natural material neutral toys as well. Forego the bright rainbow plastic storage bins and use neutral fabric baskets. Paint your child’s bedroom a muted neutral, but introduce color through linens, wall hangings, rugs, etc. It is all about balance -avoid the extremes. And as an educator, I cannot end this comment without saying to all parents read to your child early and often! And please, please, please don’t “sad beige mom” your book selections.
I too, hate the good 'ol 90s rainbow vomit trend. My favorite decorating "trend" is making the walls, furniture, appliances, and flooring neutral colored, which allows interesting objects to be pops of color, so your eyes are drawn to them, like toys, books, food, houseplants, disposable supplies, etc.
Early educator teacher here as well. I have my room so full of color and the kids LOVE it. It definitely plays a huge part in not only their development but mood as well.
Exactly! I think the discussions here about Montessori (natural materials with plenty of primary colors) pretty much nail it...realism!! Like you said, balance! And the needs of the child for visible, contrasting colors. What colors are the world? Seasonally ever-changing blue sky, white clouds, green plants, brown wood, spots of colorful flowers, fruits, vegetables. Natural is generally peaceful, but displays a great variety of colors; only in very hot, desolate, dry places is it ever just plain beige.
Wow the color game with the tree was such a simple but easy way to explain and showcase just how much we rely on color and stressed the importance even more that kids will need it developmentally.
And that is the real Montessori way! we all have fallen in the trap, but if you want to go Montessori, open the tupperware drawer and mybe a wooden spoon and let the magic start :-)
Something I learned that reminds me of the color thing is inmates who did a lot of time in prison. After being in a colorless environment, once released, it causes major anxiety. This guy was saying he went into Walmart and he freaked out so bad that he had to leave. He specifically said the colors were too much causing him to panic
Every color gets the same amount of dirty. It’s just that some colors show the dirt more so then you’re forced to clean it more often rather than just leaving it dirty.
YOU are a real one. Ty for your content! At the end of the day the influencers are entertaining…but not at the cost of their kids’ development. I personally have not been influenced enough to be like “Omg I neeeeeed that” but I can see how ppl wld be. It makes me glad there’s ppl like you to disbunk some of this garbage 🙏🏻
Yeah ..spray painting your kid's toys is a VERY bad idea! It's really infuriating that we're living in an era that's so performative. It's all about looks with very little substance. 😞
With how bad their eyesight is, most babies probably couldn't tell anything apart. They would just be laying in a beige void, not knowing what's close to them or far away. Not knowing where one beige splotch ends and the other begins. Even their own parents' faces blend in with their beige surrounding. Hellscape.
As a currently very pregnant early twenties gal, I see it as a class thing. I’m taking whatever I can get. If someone wants to buy me something then I can’t complain, bc i can’t afford to buy every single thing I want, let alone have it fit any sort of “aesthetic”. I got hand me down clothes for my baby which I’m a million times over the moon grateful for because now they have clothes! If I was so stuck in my ways that my baby’s wardrobe/toys needed to look a certain way then rent wouldn’t be paid. Influencer looks can only happen seamlessly with influencer money.
Same! I've been blessed with so many hand me downs for our kid's clothing, and we rarely buy them any toys because they get plenty for their birthdays from family! This does mean I have to lower my standards for how picture-perfect they are going to look every day. It helped me become aware that I was viewing my first kid as an accessory on some level because I cared so much what people thought of how he looked. Our kids are having their childhood. They're not models and I wouldn't want them to be.
If you begin to follow things like Montessori groups, please have in mind that most of that content is actually misunderstanding the point. Montessori is not about colourless toys, it's about giving every child the same opportunity (and simple tools were originally the way to achieve that). So try to focus on the important things (follow the child's interests, enjoy everyday activities together etc).
1:21 that beige rainbow 🥺🌈 I was told babies actually really enjoy bright contrast because it’s easier for their eyes to take in, all beige is definitely not contrasting enough. And what about natural moments to learn color while playing with your kid going “what color is this/look at this beautiful blue”. Kid will come to school thinking the color wheel consists of greige, beige and tan
I’m obsessed with the influencer insanity series. It has seriously rewired the way I consume content. I’m so thankful and applaud your dedication and commentary on social media content because it is a REAL and SERIOUS issue. Again thank you!
I honestly noticed this trend start right after Kim Kardashian showed her home that had literally nothing and all beige or white, but even then she showed her kids rooms and playrooms and they had so much color.
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So about those children who down through time wore natural fabric or whites etc. I hardly think they were hindered because of it. And actually they were more talented & smarter than our children are today. Now I personally have no skin in the game at all. But I have to say what is more concerning is the electronics programs music anything external that denies a child of learning without all the frame rates? I dont know who came up with the notions that flashing colors black & white contrast objects were going to increase a child potential but I call hogwash. I realize there is an entire industry built around children but as I stated earlier children from earlier times were smarter more talented than we see in our children who are indoctrinated into the world of electronics etc. I hate beige btw. Lastly making children fit into your world is not parenting..................Selfish entitled self absorbed bores....
@@illusionary5951 I agree with your points.
What is the best stimuli to children? Keep them close to parents and siblings! Not alone in the strollers. I highly recommend to read: Jean Liedloff's book - The Continuum Concept: In Search of Happiness Lost
I thought those wellness shots were the worst. Actually they should be the next ep in this series
little hero's
words spark interest and big topics are talked about, great work.
@@elbookish2912 lol damn, that was a very smooth call out. Sometimes we say and do things that are hypocritical and we need people to call us out.
It's giving "I want a child but I want them to be exactly how I want them to be and to fit perfectly into the rest of my life how I want it" aka an accessory.
These people tend to also be 'mummy vloggers' so it makes perfect sense that they want a child as an accessory to show the masses and earn money from it, sadly.
Yep, that's what I get from it too. The sad beige moms are just the social media evolution of those parents who try to make their children a mini me.
This. I feel like these kids' lives are going to be stifled in so many ways, and not just color.
@@nicoler5713exactly. And the reason she only sees it in first time moms of babies and toddlers is that the children don't play ball and reality strikes their lives
exactly why i’m not going to have kids, i‘m just no the type for it and im not letting society and even my family pressure me into having one. i just finished two and a half years of therapy b/c my upbringing was just like you describe.. i was an accessory.
Putting spray paint on a child’s toy that they will probably put their mouth on is idiotic .
Yeah, like did we not learn from kids getting lead poisoning from eating chipped paint off their toys?
Worse than that, it's negligent.
Very
yup. comfortable with their kid eating spray paint flakes just for the sake of beige and internet points. so weird
The way she didn't even spray paint it right....that thing will not dry properly and will continue to smell for months with the fumes.
I remember seeing a video of a goth mom where most of her house was black/dark colors, but she had the brightest, most colorful nursery/playroom so her kid could still get their fun toys and learn about colors and stuff.
that’s so cute 😭😭
I love goth baby! Her parents are doing it right.
Reby Hardy?? Her house is gorgeous. THe actual nursery is victorian gothic, but there's a hidden playroom behind a bookshelf that is SOOOOOO bright and fun and the baby clearly thrives in it
this was my life growing up. people sometimes didn't believe that I, a blonde girl during her pink princess phase, belonged to my goth mom. she said she loved going out with other goths and their kids, because the adults wore their fanciest dresses and people gave them strange looks, while the kids were colorful balls jumping around them, not even noticing that their parents were different. my room was a barbie wonderland, i can't imagine growing up only having addams family and tim burton merch..
@@jenksjax makes me think of the OG TV Addams family. The original Goth Family, with a "black" home but because it was shot in B&W the set was varying degrees of bright pink so that it looked black and grey on TV (black and grey didnt translate well on b&w grainy tiny sets) so your mum snd you were keeping up the very best of Addams Family Values!! Embracing the differences and being equally supportive of being all in black or all in pink!!
Even Kim Kardashian, who’s the biggest beige ambassador ever, has curated her whole house to be beige but left her kids’ rooms to be full of colour because it’s their own space and she recognises kids need colours 🤦🏻♀️
That is the thing that needs to be appreciated , because you shouldn't impose your interests on them
Describing Kim Kardashian as the biggest beige ambassador has me CACKLING
So these so-called moms are trying to 1-up her.
Why are toys suddenly considered to be decor? They are toys, the majority are only kept for a few years because kids grow up and no longer play with them.
That’s a great point!!
I fear these kids are more props than anything. To purposely stifle brain development for Instagram likes is wild
Also, I remember having to put my toys away... you could 100% get a cabinet with a door
I suppose part of the problem is that a lot of kids have so many toys that they take over the house.
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spraying toxic paint on your children's' toys, is a guarantee way to get that full Victorian era experience.
😂
And maybe a bowl of lead paint flakes on the side.
@@davidcox3076 "I should have saved some paint chips for Wednesday"
Lol bro said Victorian era experience 🤣🤣🤣
Well they certainly knew a thing or two about aesthetics that were... to die for😏
Don't have kids, don't have TikTok, and my poverty makes me immune to influencer culture. This series is fascinating.
😂 I share the same immunity… for the same reason
Not all kids are conceived with the mothers consent... Please REMEMBER that.... But you can switch the rooms around...you yourself having a neutral bedroom/office/bathroom...and the colours everywhere else...I did that ,with my 5 kids
“Don’t” was not an imperative. I’m sure they were saying “I” don’t have…
Seeing that they used “my” and “me”
And since we are being super concise now, I have kids but not tiktok or much money. There is where I personally identified with this comment. Absolutely hilarious.
God bless you mama.
Thinking poverty keeps you immune from influencer culture is a blindspot
Prioritizing aesthetic over your childs development is crazy. Those interiors are understimulating even for me, an adult thats sensitive to overstimulation.
Super sick of people claiming that colourless is “natural.” The natural world has a tremendous variety of colours and lots of bright and deep tones.
Sad beinge moms: "Nature is muted and beige"
Me: point to deep green trees, vibrant blue skies, obnoxiously yellow dandelions, blood red roses, orange koi fish in the pond, high contrast multicolour ducks, metallic blue dragonflies, literal effing rainbow right there
Them: "but but but what about this rock?"they say about a beige pebble they picked from a pile of grey, green, white, pink, orange, golden yellow, black, and rich chocolate brown rocks laying on the ground, half of them covered in blue, green, yellow, and orange lichens.
😅😅😅😅😅😅
Imagine life without the beautifully vibrant colours of a sunset.
Like gender neutral life. How boring.
Those living in denial of reality are rejecting the beautiful gifts God has given us.❤
THIS
@@sillyjellyfish2421 even neon colors in fish.
Another issue I potentially see from the sad beige trend is if a young kid lacks sensory stimulation in the real world, then someone puts an iPad in their hands, how much worse will their screen addiction become?
Great point!!!
Would not have thought of this but very good point
Good point!
Oof... yeeeeah... I can see that being an actual problem.
That's an excellent point
Nature isn’t beige for good reason! Colorful plants are healthy for you, and kids need color to look at as much as they need to eat vibrant plants.
I'm guessing these beige moms aren't big into gardening, either.
I saw someone say in a comment that this is better because these colors are natural and super bright colors aren't common in nature and i was like???? Have you seen flowers??? A cardinal???? A monarch butterfly??????
Things like venomous snakes are beige/khaki/tan/brown... 🤦♀️
My mother's favourite colour was beige; she owned a lot of beige clothes, and she got me a lot of beige when I was a kid. By far, however, it was not the only colour in her wardrobe or mine, and she's part of how I developed my love of patterns, as well.
I want to preface this with I agree colorful toys are best, but not all colorful plants are healthy. Poison berries are pretty colors too. Poison animals also tend to be colorful as well.
When I paint the room of my child last year, the reaction of the staff at the place I bought my paint was truly memorable. The young man called everyone to come and see my choice. Everybody was excited, like if it was a big party. I asked why they react so intensly, and he said " no one never choose such colors, it always beige". It was 4 colors : turquoise, lime pink, purple.
Those sound gorgeous!
I used to work at a hardware store, and the most adorable paint sale we had was a family who brought in their daughter's favorite color crayon to color match. We had her thoroughly color a square, then she was riveted as we made her paint and she was *overjoyed* when she saw a whole can of her favorite color.
I was designing tiny bathrooms in the market in 2006. All beige. 4 a day. To survive I was adding crazy color rugs, mugs and ceiling, or changing tiles color with client ;-). But most people wanted it beige, because it is neutral for fashon kaleidoscope, and they were poor.. Previously was pink bathroom trend, then become grey era. Now they seems to have ceramic plant prints on beige and remodeling task every few years.
Beige is nice only on the cofe ice cream, otherwise it is a color of poo. No wonder everybody is depressed, or on the black mirror screens. Also, I want to paint all my room bluesky, because I miss that sky color, and for now I painted one wall, and already feel grounded more and love spending time next to it. I strongly believe in coloroterapy with lamps.
Only in the desert is beige, in lively garden we all admiring, there is always lot of color, and beige is sign of upcoming winter death. Think about that.
My mom let me splatter paint my bedroom as a teenager those exact colors plus black! I had matching beaded curtains purple floor cushions a lime green couch and purple rope lights under my black loft bed. It was so fun!
That sounds like a fun color combo. ❤
Sounds lovely and like a lot of fun!
Morticia addams : “You have gone too far. You have married Fester, you have destroyed his spirit, you have taken him from us. All that I could forgive. But Debbie... pastels?”
This right here ^ exactly
I don't have a problem with pastels per se as they make vivid colour pastels which is nice and colourful. Like the 1950s inspired colorful kitchens. Are they still called pastels though? 🫣
I like pastel too but for child really bother me😮
This is the BEST Comment!
#Legend
so i grew up with a mom that wasn't sad beige but was equally strict about the aesthetics of the house. and, to put it shortly, i grew up feeling like i was not allowed to be a person. i was an accessory to the house, not a human. because my tastes were automatically insulted and dismissed, i still now as an adult struggle to develop ideas and tastes in a way that doesn't cause me anxiety.
I’m so sorry that was your experience-you should have been allowed to be your own person and develop your own style ❤ my partner had a similar experience and is rediscovering the joy of colors and self-expression. Wishing you all the best on your self-exploration journey!!
@@Anna-dd4rh thank you so much for your kind words!! i'm learning to develop my sense of self a bit more everyday so i think it'll be okay eventually :) i wish all the best to you and your partner as well!
Sorry for that. Your mom missed the best part of being a parent, how crazy creative a kiddo can be!
I’m so sorry. You are enough and matter. ❤
When I grew up my mom had orange carpet and a green refrigerator and I hated it. But I was just glad I had carpet and a refrigerator.
It's giving "I want a child but don't want them to take up space" vibes. Child is an accessory in that case, not a separate being with their own likes, wants etc. Even my dog takes up more space with all the quirky toys he happens to like.
Spot on.
you nailed it!!!!!
What a fucking nightmare. It's UNREAL that mothers don't love their children. At all. They can't even muster to do the most basic things correctly. Selfish and absolutely disgusting.
Yes! It’s the definition of narcissism!
Right! Sometimes there's dog toys all over my floor lmao
Toddler coming home from first day at Kindergarten: “Mom, you won’t believe what’s out there!!! That world is not colourless like ours !!!”
Not sure what they are thinking. “I’m worried about toxins, so I’m going to spray paint all my kid’s plastic toys.” I wonder if the spray paint manufacturers have any warnings on the cans to discourage this behavior.
I get buying the beige items but when they spray painted the naturally colorful toy into beige I felt so pissed like WHAT ARE YOU DOING ISN'T PAINT TOXIC?! I wasn't allowed to be in a room that was recently painted that was my bedroom and the place smelled like paint for a week, how could she just let her kid play and breath in the freshly wet spray painted hoop?
That was honestly the primary concern for me. Even the special plastic formula spray paint will come off. It's designed for outdoor furniture, not kids toys.
If their kid got sick after eating this spray paint, who are they going to sue? The paint manufacturer? If so, then pretty soon we might see: "not suitable for making kids' toys sadder" warning on the can.
Right? How has she not heard of the bad things that happened to kids in the past with eating paint chips?
i have some here and there is a "suitable for toys di 71-3" label on it. my guess is there are different ones?
As a therapist, here is my two cents. It’s not the lack of color that is concerning to me, children will see colors everywhere else than home. It’s the importance that those moms give to perfection and projecting perfection. This has the potential to be extremely hurtful for the children long term. (Sorry if they are syntaxe mistakes, my first language is french 😊)
EDIT: I see some comments about de development of the eye. I just wanted to add that if those children only saw beige, of course, that would be a big problem. BUT, those children will see other colors. They will see different eye and hair colors, clothes of people visiting, mom’s or other visitor’s makeup, food they eat, colouring books and crayons, and they just have to look outside the window to see plenty of colors. They will also go outside and go at other people’s houses, etc. ❤️
Very well put! I know a little French and you did well
@@ketameanii ☺️ thank you!
Oui 😅 kids will learn colors from life anyway (seeing orange carrots and red cars ) it's more about always having the newest trending toy that's the issue and always photo perfect for social media
Exactly this.
This!!!
I love that she cosplayed as a beige mom for this video. The slicked back hair, small gold earings, beige zip-up fleece. It's the details.
I was about 5mins into the video when I realized that! 😂
This!
Ya. That disappinted me in a way...
Came here to comment this!! 😂
@@unknownperson-qd1xt lmao what why
Finally someone rational on the internet, someone who says what I think too. My daughter got a "said beige colors" rainbow when she was born. HOW CAN A RAINBOW CAN BE BEIGE??? It's so far from reality.
As a car painter what grinds my gears the most is the spray painting everything without any research about what’s safe and when. You CANNOT use toxic paint on unprepared baby/toddler toys that WILL end up in their mouths, making them ingest harmful chemicals.
EDIT: thank you for acknowledging the danger of it all, omg. Just cause a bottle says „sticks to plastic“ it literally means nothing. Some plastics aren’t even able to be painted in a way that’ll last for a long time…
It really goes to show how tunnel visioned into the aesthetic she was. Having a good surface is like spray paint 101.
Won't spray paint even degrade some plastics? That's great for your kid.
Good point
Aside from developmental issues, the beige mom trends concern me most because it is teaching children that nothing is theirs. Nothing really belongs to them. It sets a tone that a child’s interests or taste are not important if they do not fit mom’s aesthetic. I couldn’t imagine being a child and feeling like a guest in my own house or my own room.
My daughter has a giant rainbow in super bright colours above her bed. She chose the colours herself and the size of it and I spent days painting it for her. I don't love it, but it's her bedroom and she gets a say in it, we don't always agree on the way it looks, but I need to respect her likes and dislikes, as long as it's not harmful to her. She was 5 when she asked for the rainbow 🌈.
I was thinking along the same lines but specific to influencers. Their poor babies are going to grow up as decor items. So, not only guest in their own home, but object in the home. Just ew.
Very Ruby Franke
@@anaalves3658reminds me of when my 8 yo daughter asked for bright pink walls in the first home we purchased. We let her pick the color 😊
I wasn’t a sad beige baby but there was definitely some disdain over what I liked growing up. It’s worse than being a guest in your own home, it’s like being an intruder.
I grew up in one of those boring beige homes back in the 90s and let me tell you, I inherited my childhood home and I put every color you can think of in my home. I HATE beige and neutrals aside from black. The more color the better.
You are my spiritual buddy with the whole "give me all the colors" thing. I'm an illustrator and colorist for a living and I SURROUND myself with vibrant color. Color makes you happy! And black makes colors pop even more!
When I sell my work at trade shows and such, every display tool in my booth is either silver or black because not only does it drive attention to my work, it makes the vibrant color in my work pop even more, like I already said.
I hate this beige trend with the fire of a thousand suns. 🤮
Yeah, my mom turned our (mine and sister's) bedroom beige, I moved to living room and ruined my back sleeping on couch 💀
Same! My mother's place is all white, beige and bleached wood. I hated (and still hate) it with a passion.
At sixteen, she finally allowed me to choose the paint for my room's walls, and I chose vivid crimson. Needless to say, she wasn't happy about it, and repainted the walls as soon as I moved out at 18.
Now, at 32, I look like a clown and my apartment is my circus. I NEED all the colors of the rainbow all the damn time.
I'm willing to bet that many of those poor kids will also hate beige and their childhood homes.
I have so many colors too. I can't stand the beige life. It looks super depressing to me.
I should have read your comment before leaving my own, I feel the same - all of the colors now, please.
The bulbs on that christmas tree is the saddest thing I have seen all week!
The biggest issue isn’t so much the “lack” of color but the fact that these moms basically view their kid and motherhood overall as an accessory for social media clout. This can very much enter territory of control and abuse in the future where the kid will be expected to fit into mom’s aesthetic
imagine having the only kid in kindergarten that can differentiate ecru, eggshell, buff titanium, almond, etc!!
@@pupawupagusbut they won’t because they will only be able to see bright colours until they are 4+
They just will live n a sad monochrome world.
@@dianeshelton9592 usually kids are at least five before kindergarten, no? listen lady, don’t crush mothers’ dreams ok
Bruh…
@@pupawupagus what your dream is to live in a beige home which deprives any child of the needed physical stimulation. I sure as hell want to destroy that dream. A child’s needs always come first especially over a dream to follow a certain aesthetic. How shallow self absorbed do you have to be to have that as a dream. Yuk!
That lady spray painting kids toys made me feel so uneasy. Toy companies work hard to make these baby toys safe to put into mouth and this tiktok lady just destroyed them with paint that is propably not healthy to consume... I hope it was just a ragebait video and her babies didn't play with that.
In about 25-30 years there will be a Netflix special featuring these kids talking about how gloomy and depressed the kids felt growing up. Also, how overbearing and abusive their mothers were because the kids feelings didn’t matter.
Oh definitely. These mums have no idea. I give my daughter all the choice of colours in the world and she's so happy.
And it will show those kids' homes as grownups and how they have decked them out over the top with bright colors 😅
@@TigerLilly4495 Right! In all the brightest rainbow colors! Their house is gonna look like a Lisa Frank painting.
It's proven that kids need colour to help their brain grow. Even in the pediatric ward, they tend to paint it with different colours and different pictures to make the baby's brain active. I think that these influencer parents should be educated on that and I'm glad Hannah finally spoke about it.
I think in about 10 years they will be on TikTok complaining about their childhood, just like the teens making TikToks about their Almond Moms xD
I have an aunt that was a sad beige mum before it was super populised/media advertised (she liked everything to look nice and clean, and had nice rugs and couches all neutral toned) and I remember as a child being afraid to do anything in her house because it was scary to risk messing up her perfect house by simply sitting on the couch or moving the rug slightly at the cost of her getting super angry at us (my siblings and I).
Another example of "classy if you're rich, trashy if you're poor"! I grew up in apartments, my parents were always afraid of not getting their security deposit back so I always had landlord special white/beige walls growing up. I HATED IT! I always dreamed of being able to paint my walls whatever color I wanted. We also didn't have money for "themed" decor but whatever we could get on sale which was often boring, solid neutrals. I laugh now at the beige moms because in the 90s/00s their aesthetic would've been seen as "poor" but now they're trying to hard to signal "rich".
yes my mom didnt even let me put up posters on my wall because she was scared the tape would remove the paint.
what they dont realize is that it still makes them look poor. like idk who told them that a spray-painted toy basketball hoop looks 'aesthetic' and not like they picked it up off someone's front lawn. that wouldnt be a problem for normal humans but i think these people would have a mental breakdown if they knew how this looked lmao
@Imbatmn57 "unclenched about my choice"🤣
For me it's opposite.
As a kid I disliked those obnoxious , chuncky toys. With loud colors. I always preferred more calming, cute , sleek, sophisticated and intricate designs like adults had.
But unfortunately kids toys and accessories are all about being loud and on your face.
So I am not much concerned with kids not seeing colors bcs it's also adults who decided kids love obnoxious things and flooded everything with that mentality.
When in reality every kids can be different like I was.
Some kids might end up liking the calm and serene look of Beige so it entirely depends on kid. Hence, no worries that they can't see colors and it's not stimulating enough.
However what concerns me about these sad baige moms is whether they will let the kids be themselves and not enforce their preference over them.
Their obsession of being perfect can be very toxic towards their kids if they had very different taste.
@@Vor567tezthis!!!!
Older mum here. No matter how expensive or aesthetically pleasing a baby product may be, children would rather play with the cardboard box they come in. 😂😂😂
so basically like cats. :D
That grounding feeling 😂 I get you
Oh yes! Lol my boy’s best toy was an Amazon box or empty containers 😂
Haha straight up facts!
I thought the same thing.
I really truly believe that the "sad beige" trend simply boils down to this: Status Symbol.
The rich and "classy" have clean, neutral homes, furnished with simple, expensive, clean décor and toys.
Most of the beige toys and clothing are SO EXPENSIVE compared to the rainbow, gaudy counterparts, even within the same brand name. Rainbow toys are cheap, and easily accessible at any Walmart, but usually you have to seek out the beige, neutral toys from somewhere like Target(yes, at my class level--AKA: poverty--Target is considered expensive) or purchase online for a markup.
Most of my childrens' toys are hand-me-downs or yard sale finds, and they are whatever color they happen to be, I'm just happy my children have toys at all.
It's all an act of looking higher class and neat. (In my opinion.)
Edited to say: I hope this doesn't come off as judgmental of those who can afford the more expensive toys. I am so happy for them!! I'm talking in terms of the trend trying to push the idea that beige is better.
@@lauralaforge558 I agree. Also a lot of older toys were built more sturdy and last longer, so they can be enjoyed for so much longer!
Exactly this👆🏾
Salem Tovar went over that this is definitely a don't be poor trend. It also started though, something like 10 years ago, when there were a whole bunch of toy recalls. A lot of plastic toys were found to have problematic levels of things like BPA if they were chewed on or brought into a car. There were so many choking hazards. Paint kept having random toxins in it, which could harm kids, again, if placed in their mouth. So people started gravitating to unpainted wooden toys to avoid toxins. Then it caught on with influencers and took on a new life.
As I understand it, there are not as many recalls now. Fewer kids seem to be choking to death on Nickelodeon's toy of the year. Spray painting something beige seems so much more toxic than those plastic toys I grew up with that probably gave me a toxic load of ten different chemicals.
I absolutely agree. Kids are inherently messy. Beige says, “Our home isn’t touched by mess, we’re perfect and can afford a clean and consistent aesthetic at all times.”
I think that's one aspect, but I think there's a lot of reasons people gravitate to it. Some people are chasing the trappings of wealth, some feel overstimulated, some feel chaotic and are trying to feel soothed, and plenty of other reasons.
I have a theory the reason Kim has a house that looks like a crazy person's is one of three reasons. Either the managers of her life wanted something completely neutral so you can project yourself onto it, they were selling the house, or if she has any say over her house, her life is so out of her own hands that this made her feel like she had control.
that colorful walker at 16:44 was the bane of my existence when I worked at a daycare LMAO. when you sang the song it gave me flashbacks! the kiddos were obsessed with it though, so I would play with them and pretend to take phone calls from across the room. if I ever have kids of my own, I’ll probably try to get something similar!
my friends and family all know that I don’t like to wear loud colors, most of my clothing are muted shades or just straight up browns and grays. but supporting your childrens’ development is the bare minimum, and if that means buying colorful toys n decorations and listening to annoying jingles, I’m all for it
"beige toys are just calming, clean, and nontoxic" *sprays rainbow toys with TOXIC beige spray paint*
@ren.x - well said! The toxic spray paint, peeling off the plastic tree was disconcerting
if plastic toys (surface) were toxic, there would be a scandal and they wouldn't be around for so many decades.
this whole "plastic is toxic, wood isn't" debate is laughable, especially since wood can have a toxic layer, too.
@@alliwhite3941 i think a lot of these ultra beige parents have a bad habit of forgetting that they themselves were once kids who most likely played with plastic toys...and they came out "fine". i'm more worried about plastic toys being more harmful for the environment than "toxic" tbh
I’m sure the spray paint will be organic and vegan 😂😂😂
I don’t even care what my kids toys look like
None of these mothers have a clue about eyesight development and its saddening. Babies need strong, bright contrastinf colours because newborns cannot see nuanced colour gradients. And they need to experience colour for brain development.
(Or the fact that humans will become psychotic if deprived of all greens. No, really. NASA did research on the need of plants in your environment (if not needed for food). And people will experience psychosis if deprived of all plants for a prolonged period of time. Green colours are soothing to our brains. Colours impact our psychology. Even of tiny babies)
Yes! Love your comment. Thank you for stating so well exactly what my old brain was thinking. Grandma and mama of many here. Our eyes and brains naturally crave the colors of our beautiful world. 🌎 🌲🌾🍄🌼🌿🌈🍇🏕️
@@Weissguys6 i'm a millenial m9m myself: my son is 2 and our daughter is due april/may. We got bombarded with the sad beige, and it's actually hard to find affordable baby clothes of good quality that aren't muted colours or shades of beige and grey. It's rather frustrating.
I'm all for usinf natural materials (we try to keep plastic to a minimum ourselves, as wood is also often nore durable) but absolutely go for colour. Parenting is all about your child's needs over your wants. Children need colour
Thisssss
I just.. most “sad beige moms” have a lot of plants in their house so idk about this.
@@jordanlunsford9214 the plant thing was an example on how colour affects our psyche. Not that they don't have any plants at all.
We have different but similarly strong psychological ties to other colours as well
"Your home has the aesthetic of a dentists office and the comfort level of an airport lounge"
I haven't watched the entire video yet, but I'm already going on my baby registry and replacing some of the more muted color items with colorful items. I'm so glad you brought in the child development perspective to the video. I am a high school teacher, so sometimes I forget about that aspect, but I 100% appreciate it. Thank you!
I took a child development class in college and I seem to remember being told that high contrast was important for infants. It can be black and white, but they do better with things that are easier to differentiate for young eyes. I worry that there could be acual repercussions of everything being so similar in tone.
I was thinking the same thing. I read something saying that the older you get the less vibrant color is. Obviously color could be a huge stimulant with a child’s development. Probably why kids’ toys are brightly colored.
I recently took a professional development course on playground design for childcare centers, and even there it mentioned this, but as a safety issue. If the playground and the flooring are similar in color, they can have trouble differentiating between the equipment and the floor, which can lead to more playground injuries as kids trip over things.
With the "beige everything" stuff, the kid's toys aren't going to contrast enough with the ground, so they won't notice they're stepping on a toy until it's too late. Or if the equipment blends into the flooring like the slide at 19:50, they might be focused on getting something on the other side of the room, and in their excitement forget that there's a slide in the way and trip over it.
Agreed. I think it would be most sensible to to have two spaces, namely a playroom and nursery room or spaces. The playroom can be stimulating and colorful for activities. And the nursery can be for sleep and more muted, soothing and less stimulating. It even allows the kid some agency because they can choose what space they want to be in and thus if they want more or less stimulation.
We had child development as part of our home ec class. Yes, in the 70's, we actually had classes that taught cooking, sewing and yes, childhood education. So even I know this.
WHAT do they teach kids in high school these days?
@@seameology I had a class like this in high school called “Home Economics” and that was around 2005. I wonder if they still have that class?….
wouldn't all that spray paint on the sad christmas tree be very TOXIC? 😮 The original product, aside from being more visually stimulating, was specifically designed to be baby proof in terms of safe materials. This is beyond idiotic
Yes, it 1000% is. They WILL consume chips of the paint. There’s a reason us car painters have to take so many safety measures when working with paint in any way.
Absolutely! I wouldn't use spray paint on anything for my pets and they give it to their babies.
yep, as a plastics engineer this made me physically uncomfortable. Stop spray painting children's toys!!! Also wouldn't recommend doing this indoors and with no personal protective equipment, maybe they've done that once too often..
Honest answer? It's made of plastic. By definition it is not safe, lol. If you want a safe version, use a real tree or a toy-tree made of real wood. That's it.
Yeah she literally says in the original video that only a little bit of the paint chipped but it was okay cause she fixed it and that's like immediately after painting
When my daughter was growing up, our home looked like a circus exploded in a phone booth. She was happy, and she played, she dressed up the cat, and we laughed. My home was never a showplace, I worked while she was little (but after a great company with flex hours). I was the opposite of these sad bright moms - maybe I was tacky loud mom? Yeah, I like that actually.
She's 20 and in college now and is home every weekend. We play video games together, and watch You Tube and Tiktok... and we still laugh so much.
Our home is so much more tidy, less circus colors. The time just flew by!! I'm so grateful for her and how we enjoyed her childhood.
There's a time for everything. When the kids are little, maybe it's THEIR time to color your world.
I love this
I'll never be a mom but your comment brought me to (good) tears. My mom has always been like this and I'm so grateful. She never got mad at messes
Perhaps loud tacky moms are getting their kids ready for the real world of chaos... or perhaps it's b/c I have a fondness for loud and tacky when dealing with curious kids and sparking their creativity.
I love what you said it's so true. When I had 3 small ones everybody said it would fly by and to enjoy. I heard it so much I wish I would have paid a little more attention, because it did!
Now I realize just like nature, life is full of seasons. Enjoy them all ❤
Very well put. When we bring kids into the world it’s their turn to color OUR world.
I don't have fb, Instagram, tik tok, etc. because I think it's crazy, so every single influencer topic you bring up is crashing my brain and confirming my original assessment, lol. Wow. It's nuts out there.
I think it's telling from a sociological perspective, too. We often hear them talk about how "calm, comfy, relaxed and chill" they want the space to feel. On top of it, children are loud and full of energy as they grow, which is totally normal. We are overstimulated as a society and people want to try balancing that out in a space they control. I think this trend is indicative of the Millennium generation's sense of impending dread, loss of control over much of our environment, stress as we should be at the height of our careers/lives, but often feel like we are struggling to get through each day. Beige is so neutral that is invokes a sense of comfortable nothingness. It's there, but at the same time, it's not. Everything becomes background. The parent's are doing it as a soothing action, but are not understanding how limiting that is for a child who is new to the world.
I also think that not all, but a lot of the beige moms genuinely didn't want children and were pressured into having children by relatives. They often do not want their child to do normal child activities, which I find evident.
I was told my whole life that even though I have pathological sensitivity to sound, maaaayyybe my baby will be of a silent variety, completely disregarding that it would be fairly abnormal behaviour and the chance of it is very low, as baby's only way of communication is crying.
I get a feeling that a lot of beige moms were fed that lie and similar ones.
That's such an interesting take on this phenomenon! I also feel the same way about them not only don't actually want a child, they also just feel like they have to go against the society norms of a mom that dedicate and change her whole lifestyle catering to their child. It's like their way to reclaim/ retain the life they have before pregnancy and/or childbirth. Woman before and after childbirth are so different, many had shared that they felt like they lost themselves, they became a completely new person.
So very well said. People definitely want a sense of control in a increasingly senseless world but at what detriment to babies and small kids who NEED to be exposed to colors and other new things. Surroundings and decor certainly influence our moods and thoughts.
All they need are those new Apple glasses and they can check out altogether.
@@adish1401 I think it compares to what a "quiet" baby is it's not that they won't cry but will cry when they "have" too where sometimes baby's will seem to cry for no reason, there was also a study in mice where if they ate one type of berry they would get zapped the baby's that were born from them then avoided the "bad" berries also what you eat go's into the milk you produce so if you were to eat peanuts your milk would contain peanuts
My concern isn't just the developmental possibilities of a lack of color, but also that these kids are growing up in a home where the priority is looking good for a bunch of strangers on the Internet. How many other (independently small) ways is this going to affect the child's environment and experience? I have friends who grew up in extremely image focused homes in the 90's who are in therapy to deconstruct some of what they learned now. I can't imagine it will be better for these kids. That said I also tend to believe and hope that the majority of parents are doing their best for their kids, based on their knowledge and experience. I hope that remains true with these parents and helps to mitigate some of the potential harm.
That’s such a great point. It’s also likely that these moms won’t allow the normal messes kids make while playing. I had a friend as a 10 year old whose mother wouldn’t even let her bring friends into the house because she wanted a picture perfect home. Yikes!
This should be called Sad Moms Put Their Babies in Beige Prison.
This is what I was thinking too. These kids may start to feel like their wants and needs aren't as important as making sure everything looks nice, even though I also believe and hope the parents want the best for their kids and would never want to make them feel that way. Since kids are still learning how to understand their environment and social situations, they can leap to conclusions you might not expect and even things that seem small to an adult could have an unintended impact on kids' self esteem and how they see their role in their family.
This speaks to the greater trend of children as accessory instead of their real purpose. You should talk about all these women in due date groups saying how depressed and upset they are to be having a boy instead of a girl because they want a “mini” or a “bestie”. They want an accessory.
This comment should be higher up on this list.
This! Completely agree and that's so sad.
all i can think of is just damn, gender role enforcement starts early huh. like my primary worry is for trans and/or intersex kids, but even dycis children dont always adhere to those tastes. my cister (sic) sure didnt! and my parents were sensible and respected that. as if their sons would never want to play dressup, or their girls couldnt climb trees. ugh
dycis? @@gwennorthcutt421
@@gwennorthcutt421That's.... Unfortunately not really the point here anyway.
No matter the gender or association of the child, no child deserves to be nothing more than an *object* to the parent. Is what OP and these repliers are saying.
These moms/parents seem to acknowledge that all they want out of a child is a lil trophy to flaunt around for bragging rights, instead of treating them like a human being. It has nothing to do with gender roles. It has everything to do with ethics and humanity.
Social media is a disgrace to humanity
B.E.S.T. Comment ever!!! 👍🏻🥳
Thank you...
I always think about a tiktok I saw from a goth mom. Their whole house was black/grey but the babys room was like an explosion of colour 😊 she was very conscious about the need of colour in babys development 😊
Omg my goth sim family got that same treatment! I made the house fully goth except for the kids room wich was very colorful and magical. Ppl that pressure children into some dumb aesthetics for internet clout shouldn‘t be allowed to have kids.
Im one of those. My house was all black and gray, when i got pregnant, everything turned i to dino explosion. Ive still got skulls everywhere, but weve added a ton of color to the house and his room is like pre k jurassic park. Ive even started *wearing* more color because i wabt him to be happy.
Can you share her @? Would love to support that mom!
@@JilTheReal I don't know the account name, but most of her videos start with something like "Another day in the life of a goth baby" so I'm sure if you search for goth baby they'll pop up!
wanted to go down that path with my 2nd child. The beige nursery aesthetic was just getting started and seemed very appealing. My daughter VERY clearly loved bright colors everywhere, the more the better. 😂 😆 she won 🤗 it makes her happy and it's an easy yes for me.
The sad beige also sends a message that you’re wealthy enough to buy everything new. Babies need a lot of stuff, especially if you’re a first-time parent, and most people depend on hand-me-downs and gifts which are inevitably not all going to match perfectly. At my old job, when someone got pregnant, you better believe at least one person was coming in with a trash bag or 2 of their kid’s old clothes to pass on. It makes me wonder what these people did with all their baby shower gifts, because I have doubts that your second cousin is going to spend $300 on a beige and sage wooden block set for you.
Babies don't need that much stuff but we're collectively lead to believe they do...
You're absolutely right that you got to be rich to get all the brand new trendy stuff for your kids supposedly well-being.
Or you can just refuse gifts like my cousin and his wife did. It really hurt my mom who had crocheted several things with personal touches and they just refused to have them off her
As a Montessori teacher: please don't buy expensive "sad beige" stuff on Dr. Montessori's account. Baby needs to hear speech plenty and often, practice face-to-face time, explore their five senses (including colorful sights and sounds!) and enjoy age-appropriate freedom of movement. The other stuff is just "gravy."
And it's not like Montessori schools/toys are devoid of color (same with Waldorf which I have more experience with and has similar stuff). Wood is popular but it's often painted, paired with colorful fabric, etc. Don't forget the abundant crayons and colored pencils either. "Natural" doesn't have to mean bland.
@@omreee686especially since nature has brought colors like tree leaves, flowers, and animals like butterflies
What about the steiff teddy bear, gold rattler, gold/platinum baby pacifier. I am in a great position to buy nice things for my future baby.
I went to a Waldorf school as a kid and it was COLOURFULL. There was not a single white/gray/beige wall in the entire school. The classrooms had different colours depending on the ages of the students (younger kids had warm colours like red, orange and yellow, older kids had colder colours like purple, blue and green), we did LOTS of arts and crafts, and the toys were painted in all sorts of colours with natural, water based paint.
We had montessori toys too and they were not sad beige at all. They were sort of minimalistic (to encourage the imagination), but they were made with naturally dyed materials. We even learned how to dye wool yarn with different plants to make different colours!
A Waldorf/Montessori childhood is VERY colourful, and it makes me sad to see these influencer parents use these labels to justify their children's sad beige lives.
The montessori schools I went to when I was younger definitely had the opposite look of what these beige moms are desperately aspiring for. My first school was a renovated, traditional Filipino house that was renovated to accommodate for grades K to 6, and the classrooms were so colorful. I remember my classroom specifically being green and white with patterned tile floors, and montessori-style tools of all colors to help students retain interest. Going to high school at a different campus but still montessori, the classrooms for our age range were far less colorful but there was still an effort to keep things visually interesting while we learned, and the pre-k students still had the most colorful tools in their part of the school. Montessori learning doesn't want aesthetics, it needs a balance between natural tools and efficient learning, which I feel its succeeded at far better than spray-painting your kids' toys beige to "be less overstimulating and pretty"
When you said you had a bachelors in education it clicked. I always feel informed like I do in one of my respiratory therapy lectures. I feel taught by a reliable source when I listen to you. Like I’m in good hands and actually learning something. Makes sense now lol
This makes me so sad. Early Childhood educator here... studied for a long time to be able to be bossed around by toddlers all day. But - early childhood education is my passion and having studied deeply into child development... this is so wrong. These poor kids probably cannot tell the difference between many of those colors, most likely don't even see clear lines for a while, and all the things that you stated. I don't love how chaotic kids toys can be but they still need it. They need high contrasting colors, realistic items.. I could go on and on. The highest early childhood accreditations would never pass any of the sad beige mom curated rooms as a high level of learning.
I’m also a qualified early childhood educator and worked in the sector for almost 2 decades, I completely agree. I’m now a full time sahm, I’m so glad I’m not raising my kids like this. My home is that a home for my family not the atheists of modern beige trends.
Also, I don't think I saw a single children's book in this video. It's basically never too early to start reading to a baby/toddler. I still remember grabbing my little books from a low shelf and bringing them to my mother to read when I was like 4 or 5, or just flipping through them looking at the illustrations. If there are any picture books (which are almost always colorful) around, they're probably in a cabinet or something where these kids won't think to interact with them because they're out of sight or reach.
I don’t know that the trend is necessarily harmful; bright paints commercially available are really a post-Victorian thing. Most homemade dyes were pretty muted until just before then, too, and humanity has turned out fine. But intentionally eschewing color when you have the ability to have it seems strange. I guess you could argue that I’m a monochrome pink mom; but at least our rainbow toys are actually rainbow!
I’m really curious to know what your opinion on children playing with spray paint covered toys is? Young kids put so much in their mouths and I can’t imagine all that spray paint is good for them
@@nobodynohow8039 Fair point, but one thing this all-beige aesthetic really lacks is contrast (which is especially important for newborns who don't really see color yet and are most likely to not be leaving the house and seeing color elsewhere). Even before bright colors were common, there were still dark and light, shiny and dull, etc. Anyways, this color thing is not exactly a health crisis but the attitude that's it's fine or even aspirational to purposefully deny a baby stimuli is worrying IMO.
I study psychology in Italy and I've had the chance to visit a montessori school, it is NOTHING like how the tiktok beige moms make it out to be. The classrooms had so many sensorial material and it was filled with bright colours alongside the neutral colours. There was a perfect balance.
Exactly! I went to a montessori school for 3 years in primary, my classrooms were so colourful, so vibrant. It was all about interactive learning, not the aesthetics, so pretty much everything was colourful and filled with life.
Yes! I went to a Montessori school as a child and worked at one as an adult. There's lots of color. But they've thought about everything. Think about the iconic pink tower. It's all pink so that the child can focus on the shape itself instead of different colors. Every item needs to be clear in its goal and is self regulating (I don't know if that's the correct word. What I mean is that the child can instantly know what the goal is and there's no interference of an adult needed to explain.)
This trend is just so sad. I'm a 30-year-old and I've been complaining for years (before this sad beige thing had a name) about how as adult, it's so hard to find furniture and decor options that are not neutral colors -- and anything colored is a "muted" version of itself, like a dark navy or a pale green like the paint that lady sprayed the tree with. When I go to IKEA, my favorite section by far is the kids' section. It is bright and colorful and full of life. I can't help but feel that even as adults, we must lose something positive when we start thinking of bright colors as a bad (or unaesthetic) thing. I think a significant portion of the blame has to be placed at the feet of HGTV renovation shows. Everyone wants white walls and grey floors because they look good staged (and unlived in) on television.
In the meantime, I'll keep driving my bright yellow car in a town full of white and grey vehicles!
Hard agree. I loved deep vivid jewel tone colors. So you can imagine my frustration. Dinnerware and serve ware options make me genuinely cranky at their often lacking range.
The trick is to use white/soft beoge walls as a canvas for creativity. Maximalism needs a comeback. This is what happens when Minimalism goes out of hand.
I personally don’t really like brightly colored furniture or bright colors in general (more of a pastel, sad beige person lol) but I do feel the same way when it comes to other items, like stationery or kitchen accessories, being “sad” and way too serious when they’re meant for adults. I live in Japan and there’s so much cute stuff for adults too and it makes me so happy! Things like pastel-colored dinner ware, cat-shaped kitchen items, scissors with cute animals on them, cute and pastel-colored pens and notebooks. Every time I go back to my country in Europe, I find everything to be so dull. I can be a responsible adult even if I own cute items!!! (edited for clarity)
This! There's a post about throwback electronics that used to come in bright funky colours, and they were so good. It made me so nostalgic. Like, why can't I get a mobile phone in fire truck red or royal purple???
Yup I've been thinking that for years, BRING BACK THE 60-70'S INTERIOR DESIGN!!! When I watch Clockwork Orange or Space Odyssey, I can't help but marvel at fun and whacky shapes and colors that were so dominant in the interior trends at that time
These moms would hate our Christmas tree. We basically throw coloured lights, tinsel, none of the ornaments match and all are quirky and colourful! It’s a joy to behold.
It's giving --people who stack their books backwards to show the pages instead of the spine, where the title and author and all identifying information about your books is. Bizarre.
People do that?! 😦
At least that doesn't hurt anyone else
Omg I hate that not only is it weird af but also impractical like how do you find a book?!
Yes I find that such a weird trend. Or people buying books because of the color of the spines. I'm sorry but I actually like to have books that are interesting to me LOL.
Ugh! I hate this trend too!
I wish expecting moms would put down TikTok and pick up a book about infant development. Newborn 101 - newborns do not have well developed eyesight upon birth. They need high-contrast colors and shapes to help them focus and stimulate vision development. It’s concerning that people are more worried about how the nursery looks than learning about how to care for the new life they are bringing in to the world.
That part! 💯
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@kyliecross2156 You didn't ask, but I'm sharing anyway!
I was super nervous about effing everything up for my kids. So, I took every crash baby care and early development course through the hospital I could, audited as many of the online university courses on child development and education as I could possibly pay attention to, and consumed as many written articles and books until things stopped making sense.
... I am dyslexic and have an attention deficit. This was a hyper-focus topic, but I still hit my processing limits.
@@jessicope the fact that you cared enough to make the effort to learn about how to care for your child and support their development, despite the challenges you had to overcome, makes you a very good mom in my book! Bravo! 🎉
I’m a preschool teacher, and it breaks my heart to see moms limiting their child for their own aesthetics.
“neutralize the tree” sounds like she is unaliving it 😭 😂
She definitely unalived those poor ornaments.
She sort of did 😅
My mom wasn't a beige mom, but she was definitely a minimalist and not a fan of spending money on anything she deemed unnecessary. Most kid stuff was unnecessary, so everything I owned was basic and practical. No joke I spent five years begging her for one of those big carry everything zippered three ring binders and nope. Regular binders were fine. I bought one in high school out of spite with my first paycheck and it went to college with me until it fell apart. 😂 My brother, bless his malicious little heart, apparently realized this and bought me every Lisa Frank thing he could find and sent me home with them from summer visits with him and my dad every year for ten years. To my mom's credit, she didn't get mad about it or try to stop it, just rolled her eyes and started sending me to visit with an extra suitcase.
She's almost 70 now and is now entering her "I lived long enough to stop giving a fuck" phase and I'm living for it. Colorful clothes, dyed hair, a brightly colored cat enrichment structures all over her house for the two small terrorists she adopted last year. She's still a minimalist but a minimalist in full rainbow aesthetic.
It's fascinating how our parents may change, isn't it? My mum was always afraid of dogs and did not let us have one, as a family. When we were adults and my dad passed away she adopted a dog. My parents were also very strict with what toys we children should or could get. No toys, unless it was Christmas or birthday, was a constant rule. Later on she liked to splurge with her money when she entered the "I don't give a fuck" phase. One of my last and greatest memories of her was when I asked her to come to a Madonna concert, although she could never stand Madonna when I was a child. And guess what, she danced all concert through, feeling the music and knew all the lyrics :). Shoutout to your mom and all the moms out there.
I don't know why I love this so much. But I do. Cheers to your mom for loosening up!
@ApricusInaros it really is. I know the events that made my mom who she was and, even though she did do her damage to me, I can't hold it against her. She's genuinely a saint and did the best she could with the information and abilities she had. My grandma was a victim of it, too, and I saw her do the same thing in her 80s after my grandpa died. I still remember her calling me up one afternoon when I was on my way to class and proudly declaring that she, a sweet little schoolteacher from Minnesota who never said a bad word about anyone, had called her horrible stepdaughter a bitch to her face. I can count on one hand the numbers of times in my life I heard that woman swear and she was just so proud of herself. She had a lot of trouble understanding me when I wa young but we really bonded after the fuck it all kicked in.
@@raptor_reddI think what may be happening is she expressed herself when maybe before she didn’t. I think that’s good. I don’t think cussing is necessarily needed to do that but we also shouldn’t repress. It’s nice to keep it classy :) This world has gone so much the other route of ‘don’t give a f@&* and I don’t know, in my opinion it’s nice to keep some class and elegance to uphold. We can still express without vulgarity.
@@krystiesolfyre5340lighten up. Lol Grandma can say Bitch if she wants to.
In a few years, these moms are going to be wondering “why is my 6-year-old sitting in front of the wall, drooling?!” 🤣💀
😂 the favorite "toys" my 3 year old niece likes are the sparkliest most colorfull jewelry I own and my make up ,is like her dreams come true bright colorful things and textures to "play" with I let her play but only if I am watching her. So making a toddler only play with sad beige toys is not good for them they like colorful things.
@imitationporcelain , yes, very young children are attracted to bright colors. That's why a lot of children's educational toys are in bright colors like red and yellow. It's also why a lot of book covers for children and adults are colorful. Even now, when I'm shopping I am often immediately drawn to bright colors. I keep a healthy balance in my inside decor, but my garden is an explosions of colorful flowers, tomatoes, pumpkins and other fruits and vegetables. It's delightful. Life is colorful.
@Ab3ndcgi, a lot of what you are saying applies to older kids. But babies, who can't even sit up yet, also benefit from color. For example, it can help develop their eyesight, among lots of other important things.
Also, children of all ages spent a lot more time outside back in the day, surrounded by color. And the world in general was more colorful than we realize. A lot of stuff that survives from previous centuries has faded over time, so we imagine everything was drab and dull. But when you see depictions of how some things actually looked back when they were originally made, it can be shocking how colorful things actually were.
Personally, I think if experts are telling you playing with brightly colored toys will benefit your child, and not playing with such toys has even the tiniest chance of hurting them, why in the world would you not give them some brightly colored toys?
@Ab3ndcgi Before plastic, paint and dye were used. However, for poorer kids, their toys wouldn't be carefully preserved, and so the dye would fade and paint would chip off. If we look even at the middle ages, we see a wide variety of toys like balls and marbles and dolls and carved figures, usually all quite colorful. Hollywood's idea of drab, earth toned medieval peasants is very wrong. Take a look at illuminated manuscripts, even preserved clothing we have, and it's all richly dyed in the brightest colors possible. Even if a peasant couldn't afford kermes (a red dye) they could afford madder root (another red dye). There are so many ways to dye fabric, and even change that color depending on your methods and mordants. Life was very colorful, for everyone.
Yeah lead paint poisoning
When my son was born, this trend was on the up and up. I was really hung up on not giving my kids "overstimulating" toys. I did do high contrast black and white items but I tried to use really simple, open ended, earth tone, toys. He didn't care for them. My MIL had toys at her house that were the typical noisy, light flashy, bright colored obnoxious toys and he LOVED them. Played for a long time with them and was so happy. I was furious lol I can laugh about it now but it mentally wrecked me for a bit.
So the "official" Montessori books (Montessori Baby and Montessori Toddler) DO say: "Whenever possible, choose toys and containers for your children that are made from natural materials such as wooden toys and woven baskets." - I think the sad beige moms just heard "Natural materials" and said "OK. Brown wood stuff. Bet."
It also talks about the importance of high contrast and color.
This comment made me chuckle. But in a good way!
Similar with Waldorf, but at the same time, colors are highly encouraged!!! Maybe not plastic meins, but rich greens, bricht yellows, warm reds and deep Blues, something being made out of wood does not mean it cant be painter with safe colors
@@SingingSealRiana Oh absolutely! The entire idea is that nature is FULL of every color in the rainbow, go figure! 😂 'natural materials and textures' doesn't automatically equate to just 'brown woven baskets!' ffs. 🤦🏻♀
Hi 👋🏼 converted sad beige mom here! I bought lots of woods, neutrals, and didn’t have a ton of color for my son when he was born. But around 1 year old her started to show more interest in those types of toys and toys gave in. I didn’t think it was fair to force my child to play with things I liked when he clearly had a desire for the bright colorful toys. My daughter came around and there’s no rules on color in this house anymore. I never even thought of the developmental aspect but I’m glad I gave in for my children’s sake 🤍
"Converted sad beige mom" made me giggle! I'm right there with ya!
All that's left to do is to convert that sad grey heart at the end :)
Good job paying attention to what your child wanted! The aesthetic route is a nice idea, but the development is so much more important.
Good job on paying attention to your child's wants.
I love color (beige included) but I always am curious what makes you gravitate to the neutrals? I've heard a lot of answers and always appreciate when people share
@@dismurrart6648So, I prefer neutrals and muted colors as well, and it is because it’s not as overstimulating. It’s less distracting, thus easier to focus on working and learning, and it’s easier to stay calm. I do have colors, also some bright ones, but they are only accents and I try not to have so many in places in which I need to concentrate, like my desk or my kitchen.
My husband is colorblind. All of those beige colors would look identical to him. He only learned to differentiate certain colors by seeing them saturated. He hates pastels and earth tones - they make him physically uncomfortable. I can’t imagine him growing up in this kind of environment.
Huh! My husband is color blind too.. I've got to ask him about this!
Now imagine the child is color blind. You would wonder if its blind because it could not see his toys or grab for them. Horrible thought 😮
16:23 My granddaughter loves this thing and I love hearing my daughter, her mother, sing along with it!
18:08 It is so wonderful hearing a child at the zoo pointing to the zebra and saying “Zebra!” because of the toy zebra they have at home!
It looks like this beige sad moms don’t even understand why the seasonal depression exist. It’s SAD to live in a world where everything is just white, brown, white, grey and dark green. We are all just happy with spring because the colors are back in nature and our life!!
Well, seasonal depression actually has a lot more to do with daylight time variation, during spring the days get consecutively longer. The colours do bring a lot of happiness though, not gonna argue that haha
anecdotally i agree with you (hate overcast days for this reason) but sad is actually linked to the reduced daylight hours in the winter. that's why a commonly used treatment for sad is a uv lamp - makes your brain think its getting more daylight.
@@gabrielaribeiro6155 I feel like it's a little bit of both. I agree, moreso to do with the daylight, but there are some recent studies that show green in nature also helps your mood (lowers blood pressure and decreases anxiety). Personally, I have moved from a state where everything died in the winter and it was all grey and my seasonal depression was a lot worse than in my new state where it still gets overcast and still somewhat cold but there's evergreens and other greenery still around.
Arguably, state #1 was a lot colder (getting down to 0F) and thus I also didn't go out as much but idk, I still think the greenery helps. I missed it so much while in state #1
There’s seasonal depression in summer as well though, I actually thrive in cloudy shades of grey type of weather 🙈
I hate spring, but I agree kids NEED color
Montessori Teacher here! None of the classrooms I've ever been in, even when training, were beige or even beige leaning. There are tons of colors in Montessori classrooms! Maybe not the loud plastic rainbow crap talked about in your wonderful video, but still, lots of color. Because we teachers also know that color is important for brain development! Looking at colors is literally what helps babies see! Great video by the way!
Exactly this. Color is important but so many of the colorful toys nowadays have colors that don't even exist in nature and can be extremely overly stimulating. Especially if it flashes or talks/ plays music none stop
Yes! I love the colourful Grimm's toys. We have the blocks and my son loves them. We're not Montessori but the toys are just so beautiful and exciting!
Ikr? When I think of Montessori I don't think about beige. Natural good quality materials maybe, but it isn't an aesthetic.
Yes Montessori and Waldorf toys are such a great option if you don't want to over stimulate your child or home but still want to use colours!
@@francoiselafferty-hancock5112 you’re comment made me look those up and thats exactly what I like! I like color but not that non natural plastic color, those toys look great!
Children in their first couple of months of life NEED contrasting colors. They see in a grey scale. Everything being shades of the same don't engage the brain. They need these huge contrasting colors to help them with their eye control and focus.
Yeah, it's so sad when nature is the most colourful thing they'll see. And they can't see very well at all.
Even in high school I painted my walls in 4 horizontal stripes of a deep bright fuchia and a burnt orange. I absolutely loved it.
So they grow up feeling like there’s no room for quirks, mismatching, mistakes, clutter.. they are going to raise perfectionists who don’t know how to relax
Many people repeat the behavior or run away from it. The kid could rebel by being a total mess to stick it to mom.
Or the workforce will just make them that way anyway
@@intuitive_duck yeah that happens too
@@normandy2501 not always
A pediatric audiologist friend of mine BEGS everyone to please cover their kid's toy's speakers with Scotch tape. You'll still hear the sound but it is usually FAR too loud for baby's ears (and it's better for Mom and Dad too lol)
We put a large bandaid over one of the speakers on our daughters toy because it was SOO loud!
I did this! They were so dang loud, every speaker got duct tape. The toys were still loud and interactive, but they weren't absolutely overwhelming.
We did this with an Elmo "radio" toy for my oldest...it was just too startling loud.
Is the tape a choking risk? I would worry baby would peel the tape off and choke on it.
@@daphnereal3129 she never touched it. It was strong enough tape. It blended in and then she never seemed to notice. She could enjoy her toy without it being shockingly loud.
All that spray paint must smell horrible, even when it dries
Sad beige moms are worried about toxins in their kid’s toys? And then they spray every toy with spray paint! 😂
I'm fully qualified to teach preschool and in my ECE classes they said that bright colors were actually crucially important for infants' visual development, kids are born with pretty bad eyesight and the high contrast and bright colors helps them with focus and adjustment. Sound helps their little brains developing literally from before they're even born, color helps their eyes begin to do their part in that process as soon as their eyes are open. They need the visual stimulation for their cognitive development AND physical development. This trend is honestly deeply concerning if you know anything about early childhood development.
Came here to say the same thing. Wrote my comment before I saw yours :')
(Though I am not fully qualified yet, I will be eventually!)
That's what I was wondering, if it would actually affect brain development for vision especially if they didn't leave the house much. As someone with a visual impairment you can only get so much back later.
The saddest thing for me is that these people are selling the idea that their kids are, at best, accessories that need to be styled into their life or, at worst, that they are a hindrance and an imposition to their lifestyles that needs to be whitewashed into the background.
I love that she's wearing beige while talking about sad beige moms! 😄❤
Look, I love beige! 🤣 Just not for kid's toys hahaha
I thought it was cute and almost mocking the moms in a very soft way
She's in a beige room, too! 😂 Good thing the green plant is there, or I'd go insane.
I love when she points this out in the video! I also, love seeing the bright toys she has for her child!
that's all I can focus on 😂
My partner peeked over my shoulder as I was rewatching this and commented that these toys and playrooms are for zombie kids. . . .you know the parents who want their child perpetually quiet and still.
It's restrictive and over controlling.
This also applies to parents who dress their children like small adults. Not even about the plain colors, but even the style & fits. It’s just so unnecessary. They’ll have all of their adult life to wear that, let them wear fun, colorful clothes. They’re gonna look back & cringe. I have a new appreciation for my Barney shoes that I loved as a child.
It's true. It's actually sad that as the children get older the clothing options available get less cute and colorful. I wear colorful clothing as an adult and it's nice when your child can look at your clothing and actually identify colors, not just dull, neutral tones.
The one thing I do like is that clothing isn't as gender conforming/extreme as it was before. My kid is 15 and she was a baby at the beginning of this change and it was annoying that the only clothing I could find was bright pink sequins, bows and ruffles. It was so limiting because she didn't like that stuff.. So I like that it's not as extreme now but I definitely disagree when parents won't let their kids express themselves or wear character clothing and instead make them wear boho muted adult clothing. It's weird because when I was a kid in the 90s, it wasn't that extreme like it was for my kid. In all of my photos, I was wearing jeans, Jean jackets, 101 dalmatian shirts.. At some point it all became extremely gaudy.
Yes, so true. The clothes my daugther is choosing are not stylish or chic. Do I sometimes prefer the cute little outfit I choose over the dress with a lot of glitter she chooses? Yes. Do I think she looks like a little raspberry because of all the pink? Yes. Am I asking myself if this elsa phase will ever pass? Also yes. But I am proud of her, that she already knows what she likes and what not. And as long as it is warm enough, she can choose.
But I have to say I am a little bit stricter with dressing up. Dressing up is something you play and she can do whenever there is time for. Getting ready in the morning is something different. So there are no fairy wings or princess dresses when we leave the house.
Yep! I know a very wealthy couple with 3 kids under age 6 and their son and daughters are always in real KID styles. The girls have pigtails. They wear bright colors and functional sneakers. I've heard a couple of other adults talk about how "weird" this is that the kids are not in those hip trendy styles but I personally think it's so refreshing that they are able to be kids.
Hahaa yes! I had shoes like those and amongst other shoes which were so funny and funky hehe
People are using their children as accessories online. It’s insane to me. 🙄
They have kids and women struggling since years to be a mother, don't get pregnant and blessed with a kid 😢
YOU SAID IT BEST AND RIGHT‼️
fr trisha paytas is screaming
I'm a kids therapist and I have had a few parents of my clients be like this. One child's room was themed pink and white as that's her mums favourite colours but her favourite colour is purple. She was a young teen with significant anxiety and had to hide some of the regulatory tools we made in therapy as they didn't match her mum's asthetic
Wtf 💀
1:18 Fifty shades of Beige LOL😂😂
I am so happy you made this video. I’m a preschool teacher and my sister-in-law had only grey-scale or beige-scale toys and clothing on her baby registry. Even the books were beige! I joke that these kids are going to grow up thinking they are color blind
Or with attention span and behavioural issues as colour is also needed to grab kids attention
I know these are young moms without a lot of life experience but I feel like any DIY-minded teenager can tell you how well spray painting over high-touch plastic items will work out for you in the long run. Which is not at all. There's the peeling, but there's also the smell, the stickiness, the look of it after a tiny bit of wear. It's just not a good option for plastic toys.
As a crafter, this is true is you dont seal it the right way. 😂😂😂😉
Not to mention little kids will put that in their mouths
I recently saw a reel that suggested that a craving for neutrality and a “calm” home might be a symptom of postpartum anxiety, which was super interesting to me. I used to have a home that was all teals and oranges, and in the past couple years I’ve found myself drawn to neutrals and nature-inspired decor. I also definitely had undiagnosed postpartum anxiety.
In case anyone is worried, I have all the loud brightly colored toys because despite everything I ended up with a construction vehicle kid, and we embrace him for who he is.
Toys are for kids to play with, not for parents to admire. This is ridiculous.
I remember when the kid's tree tiktok came out, and a lot of people were concerned about the paint. The mom insisted her 18 month old puts nothing in her mouth... I was a teacher too. Safety, color, entertainment, are all so important. I hate the sterile beige rooms with hardly any toys.
Babies and even toddlers learn by putting things in their mouths. If her child doesn't do that, it sounds like a lack of curiosity or reluctance to interact with her world and that can be a sign of a developmental issue. I know it's a hassle, but you actually WANT your kids to put toys in their mouths when they're little.
@@reginakeith8187 yeah it sounds like the woman already stifled her child's learning process by draining it of anything interesting. If a small child isn't attracted to something visually, they often won't engage with it or at least not for very long. That's why kid's toys are so brightly colored- the first goal is to grab their attention. That's generally done by sight and can be done on TV (which can grab interest before the kid even knows what all it does) or in person, up close or from across the room. No kid alive sees a Beige ball or blocks from 10 feet away and runs for it.
If you cant sacrifice your aesthetic for your child, then are you really ready for them?
That goes for every living being you are going to take care of
(But most importantly babys!!!)
I am an early childhood educator who has spent literally decades working with children under the age of 5. Boy, do I have thoughts on this! Infants’ vision develops throughout their first 12 months. Initially young infants focus on high contrast and bright colors because they are the easiest for them to see. This preference persists as their eyes and vision develop during the first 12 months. A sad beige mom to a young infant who insists on that aesthetic could be delaying their child from being able to see, and thus learn about, a large portion of their world. Having said that, I do believe that highly colorful environments(think this-looks-like-a-rainbow-vomited-all-over-this-place) can also be overstimulating to young children. Bright colors should be present, but having neutrals is also beneficial. Some examples: have many colorful toys and natural material neutral toys as well. Forego the bright rainbow plastic storage bins and use neutral fabric baskets. Paint your child’s bedroom a muted neutral, but introduce color through linens, wall hangings, rugs, etc. It is all about balance -avoid the extremes. And as an educator, I cannot end this comment without saying to all parents read to your child early and often! And please, please, please don’t “sad beige mom” your book selections.
I too, hate the good 'ol 90s rainbow vomit trend. My favorite decorating "trend" is making the walls, furniture, appliances, and flooring neutral colored, which allows interesting objects to be pops of color, so your eyes are drawn to them, like toys, books, food, houseplants, disposable supplies, etc.
Early educator teacher here as well. I have my room so full of color and the kids LOVE it. It definitely plays a huge part in not only their development but mood as well.
I pick whatever will hide stains the best 😅
Exactly! I think the discussions here about Montessori (natural materials with plenty of primary colors) pretty much nail it...realism!! Like you said, balance! And the needs of the child for visible, contrasting colors. What colors are the world? Seasonally ever-changing blue sky, white clouds, green plants, brown wood, spots of colorful flowers, fruits, vegetables. Natural is generally peaceful, but displays a great variety of colors; only in very hot, desolate, dry places is it ever just plain beige.
Wow the color game with the tree was such a simple but easy way to explain and showcase just how much we rely on color and stressed the importance even more that kids will need it developmentally.
“She would just roll away and find something else to play with.” 😂 IDK why that’s so funny to me!
And that is the real Montessori way! we all have fallen in the trap, but if you want to go Montessori, open the tupperware drawer and mybe a wooden spoon and let the magic start :-)
Like my cats who prefer any chewed torn apart disgusting thousands years old cardboard box over their new toy 😂❤
@@AerynK ahaha exactly, like: "Bye, Im outta here" 🤣
That part got me too. Lol
Something I learned that reminds me of the color thing is inmates who did a lot of time in prison. After being in a colorless environment, once released, it causes major anxiety. This guy was saying he went into Walmart and he freaked out so bad that he had to leave. He specifically said the colors were too much causing him to panic
Wow that's really interesting!
That's so depressing. I'm not a mom (or plan to), but I assume beige stuff would get dirty SO fast with a baby.
They don’t let their kids get dirty 🤮 Not allowed to play outside or messy play
beige crayons probably@@restingwitchfacetarot605
@@restingwitchfacetarot605is this fr???
It’s hard for ME at 41 to keep anything light color clean! Let alone a baby or child!
Every color gets the same amount of dirty. It’s just that some colors show the dirt more so then you’re forced to clean it more often rather than just leaving it dirty.
YOU are a real one. Ty for your content!
At the end of the day the influencers are entertaining…but not at the cost of their kids’ development. I personally have not been influenced enough to be like “Omg I neeeeeed that” but I can see how ppl wld be. It makes me glad there’s ppl like you to disbunk some of this garbage 🙏🏻
‘Beige moms’ says it all: “my priority is my social media presence and my influence over my kid is completely beige.”
You hit the nail on the head. "It's not about me right now." Parenthood is about what is best for the children.
Yeah ..spray painting your kid's toys is a VERY bad idea!
It's really infuriating that we're living in an era that's so performative. It's all about looks with very little substance. 😞
I can’t imagine being a baby only looking at beige. Your kids development is more important than your own personal aesthetics!!
They don't care.
@@silviamagdathey really don’t. It’s like their kids are accessories to their videos.
With how bad their eyesight is, most babies probably couldn't tell anything apart. They would just be laying in a beige void, not knowing what's close to them or far away. Not knowing where one beige splotch ends and the other begins. Even their own parents' faces blend in with their beige surrounding. Hellscape.
or you can teach your kid to be asthetically pleasing
As a currently very pregnant early twenties gal, I see it as a class thing. I’m taking whatever I can get. If someone wants to buy me something then I can’t complain, bc i can’t afford to buy every single thing I want, let alone have it fit any sort of “aesthetic”. I got hand me down clothes for my baby which I’m a million times over the moon grateful for because now they have clothes! If I was so stuck in my ways that my baby’s wardrobe/toys needed to look a certain way then rent wouldn’t be paid. Influencer looks can only happen seamlessly with influencer money.
You mean 'influencer credit cards'? Because they usually don't have the cash reserves to actually sustain that lifestyle...
@@MZB80Right. So many people want to appear wealthy, but that can be faked. Having debt up to your eyeballs isn’t wealth, it’s a curse.
Same! I've been blessed with so many hand me downs for our kid's clothing, and we rarely buy them any toys because they get plenty for their birthdays from family! This does mean I have to lower my standards for how picture-perfect they are going to look every day. It helped me become aware that I was viewing my first kid as an accessory on some level because I cared so much what people thought of how he looked. Our kids are having their childhood. They're not models and I wouldn't want them to be.
If you begin to follow things like Montessori groups, please have in mind that most of that content is actually misunderstanding the point. Montessori is not about colourless toys, it's about giving every child the same opportunity (and simple tools were originally the way to achieve that). So try to focus on the important things (follow the child's interests, enjoy everyday activities together etc).
Let me further assure you that they anyway grow out of the clothes and toys so fast that there is little value in insisting on asthetics
1:21 that beige rainbow 🥺🌈
I was told babies actually really enjoy bright contrast because it’s easier for their eyes to take in, all beige is definitely not contrasting enough. And what about natural moments to learn color while playing with your kid going “what color is this/look at this beautiful blue”.
Kid will come to school thinking the color wheel consists of greige, beige and tan
I’m obsessed with the influencer insanity series. It has seriously rewired the way I consume content. I’m so thankful and applaud your dedication and commentary on social media content because it is a REAL and SERIOUS issue. Again thank you!
I honestly noticed this trend start right after Kim Kardashian showed her home that had literally nothing and all beige or white, but even then she showed her kids rooms and playrooms and they had so much color.