I used hello fresh when I first gave birth and it was a life saver! (Not to mention I gave birth in the worst part of the pandemic lol) I would recommend it to anybody with a new baby
Hey Hannah, I've been watching your videos for months now, but somehow never subscribed. Having mentioned your goal, you can now count yourself one more subscriber closer to that 100k. 😉 One way that putting your goals put there *can* help you achieve them! ❤
My mom and I have often told each other, in times of intense uncertainty and stress, "Don't worry, it will all work out, it always does," and it generally does work out. We do this as a way to relinquish anxiety about things we can't control so we can move forward. It helps us have the courage to move on in the face of uncertainty, not manifest vacations in tropical locations.
I just had this same conversation with my mom this weekend! Sometimes when you’re facing tough shit, you need to say “we’ll get through it” just to hear that hope out loud. But then we buckle down and find ways to make it work, not just high-five and think the problem’s solved.
I had a few very, very hard years, lost a person I loved, my house, discovered some really nasty things about someone I trusted... and when someone asks me how I dealt with all that, my answer is always the same "I just repeated to myself that someday it would go better, it always does"
My friend and I were just talking about using positive thinking to get through times of high stress. I'm a recently diagnosed narcoleptic so I look back at what I've used positive thinking to get through and use those times to help me push through my new understanding of my hardships.
Right! It seems like we're jumping to the extreme opposite now and denying the benefits of a positive mindset. Being positive has never once done me wrong. At best, I get what I want; at worse, I'll be in a positive mindset regardless. Being negative, however... Never once served me
Red car theory is also really similar. If you focus on red cars, there are a lot of red cars. If you focus on being lucky, you suddenly see really small lucky things that you wouldn't have noticed previously.
So true, I once did an experiment where I tested the superstition of good luck happening if your top eyelid shakes and bad luck if it’s the bottom eyelid. My eyelids have never shaken more since😂😂😂😂😂
So true!! This happened to me while I was pregnant, all of a sudden in every corner I saw a pregnant woman or a woman with a baby and then I thought "How come everyone is having babies at the same time?" But then I realized that it was just that my mind was focusing more on that because it was something I was experiencing. I've also been told by people who are lonely that they see couples all the time, it's just what your mind selectively searches for.
It’s so toxic because there’s *nothing* wrong with thinking positive thoughts/doing things that make you feel hopeful, but you can’t get so obsessed with ~manifesting~ that you make yourself feel like it’s your fault when things don’t always fall into place, or that people who have a hard time deserve it.
+AND you can’t be so into manifesting that you do nothing to actually make the good things happen to you. Like, it’s fine to have affirmations about how good things will come, but if you do nothing to make them happen, or if you try and it still doesn’t work out, it can devolve into a really unhealthy obsession.
For real, I'm all for good vibes and prayers and mantras, but that kind of stuff has to inspire you to actually act as a force for good in your life and in the lives of those around you. Just expecting to be lucky won't actually do anything good.
RIght like I believe in ‘manifestation’ to the degree that I think that the energy and attitude and vibes you bring with you affect the people around you and how they treat you and how you interpret the things that happen. Like when I’m in a good mood, getting caught in the rain is fun instead of annoying. But like it’s not magic and bad stuff can still happen that has nothing to do with you and your vibes. There is no frequency of vibration that will prevent structural oppression or bad people who don’t give a fuck about your wellbeing doing bad things to you. Like have a good attitude and work towards your goals, but don’t think that you’re immune from the bullshit.
Honestly, there is merit in reframing your experiences into a positive and cultivating gratitude for when small things go your way. I bet if the restaurant those girls went to was closed, they would have found something else to eat and found a reason that “everything works out for me.” Additionally, not worrying about things you CAN’T control can reduce distress. Can it be toxic? Absolutely. If you’re so positive that you can’t recognize you’re in a bad situation, that’s dangerous. All things in balance ❤
It also breeds a complete lack of empathy for other people who truly don’t have great luck or who are doing everything right but bad things happen anyway
@@Chels-fz5uqcame to say that. Too many times this mentality ends up evolving in some form of "I got xyz and you don't, so I'm rubbing it right in your face". No thanks.
It's this same mindset that is used against people with disabilities particularly those with invisible disablilties that if we thought more positively then our illnesses would go away. We are blamed for our disabilities because we have a "negative" attitude when in reality we are exhausted and resentful of navigating an ableist and inaccessible world that finds us expendable because of our inability to generate capital at the same level as abled people.
Or being told “Just be happy!” as a cure for mental health. Like no Karen, I have clinical depression. And you telling me to “just be happy” is not making me feel any better.
This is me with undiagnosed ADHD. I have been labeled lazy, unmotivated, undisciplined, and ungrateful ever since I was young. I struggled with maintaining focus while I was still in school and have had a lot of trouble finding and maintaining employment ever since, and this has caused me to develop anxiety and depression on top of ADHD from having my self-esteem get crushed repeatedly over the years.
I have ehlers danlos and I do as much work in the home that I can. My attitude and drive is good but my body is not consistently good enough for consistent work. I look healthy, fit, and slim. I can't manifest my body to keep up with my work ethic. And I still hear comments that I have to "get out there" and "just try a job". I've had a job and college before, trying to meet deadlines, and I have never felt more disabled in my life. I completely overworked my body trying to do what others expected of me.
Lol if I had a better attitude my Crohn’s would magically go away 😂😂 damn! I’d better tell my other friends with terrible intestines. I’ll keep my drugs/exercise/diet/therapy thanks ❤
4:38 this made me think of one of my favorite quotes by Sir Terry Pratchett from The Wee Free Men: "If you trust in yourself... and believe in your dreams... and follow your star... you'll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren't so lazy."
I don't think this is necessarily true BUT most common because I often think of people who were just scouted to become a star or met the right person - I think it's important to also not discredit how much luck plays a part in success. It is a necessity and you can create your own luck through hard work but you may still be beaten by someone who was simply lucky. That's life too. Of course after a lucky encounter you have to put in the hard work but not everyone fully does or is talented. I'm rambling but basically YES hard work but ALSO YES good luck. I think a lot of people buying into this lucky girl syndrome do lean too hard towards wanting things to fall into their lap but it stems from deeper issues of feeling like the world is out of their hands and helplessness.
I'm reminded of a lyric from a Starkid musical that's basically a Disney parody. "If you're good and you're attractive, no need to be proactive. Good things will just happen to you." It feels like there's also an element of privilege to Lucky Girl Syndrome without having to acknowledge that privilege. That's what feels slimy to me. Maybe everything doesn't work out for other people, not because of their mindset, but because the institutions we live in systemically disadvantage those people.
Well you shouldn't think about the other girl. You should believe you'll reach your goals, you shouldn't care about the obstacles, whether the obstacles are other girls or something else.
Reminds me of that scene from the first episode of friends when Ross says “I want to be married” and Rachel walks in in a wedding dress then Chandler says “and I want a million dollars!”
I agree with you. Like, I used to be homeless a few years back, and when I was living in the shelter, I met people who had been in that situation for at least a DECADE, if not longer. Most of them desperately wished for life to be better and worked their butts off trying to make it so, but were severely depressed because nothing was working. Because disability, because discrimination, because the system simply failed them. "Manifestation," also known as wishful thinking, can't save you in that situation or create any major changes. Only action will, which means not only working hard, but also working to change this extremely broken/dysfunctionally designed system.
@atiqamir2039 they aren't. That's ... That's the whole issue as discussed in the video. The fact that mental "manifestation" is just wishful thinking is the entire reason that these trends are so dangerous. The only way to factually manifest something is to do the work to make it happen. Mental manifestation, like these "lucky girls", is bogus New-Age manipulation
One thing about these mindsets like lucky girl syndrome and law of attraction that really gets me is: what do they think happens when two people’s desired outcomes are in direct conflict? What if two people who are trying to get the same job or apartment both tell themselves that they’re so lucky and they’ll get what they want? What decides which person’s “luck” is more important? Major loophole in my opinion
What saddens me is that the Law of Attraction (what the Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on) does work when understood and done properly, but it's been oversimplified and sold as something ridiculous. At its core, it's simply some form of self-hypnosis that shifts your limiting beliefs and reduces your tendency to self-sabotage. Because unconsciously, we only accept opportunities that we feel we're worthy of. That's why you often see people ruining promising relationships because they don't feel they're worthy of being happy. Or they believe that "relationships are hard work'. LOA is also related to concepts like the placebo effect, mirror neurons, etc. I've used it a lot to build my self worth and it's worked great. But obviously, it's only an addition to concrete actions and deep self work.
Yes And it is not the same as saying we won’t move ourselves towards that direction we want to see either. People usually JUMP into that conclusion when you have faith in something/someone will bless you, being you the good things or opportunities you want to see happening to you. But it is WAY easier to plan and execute when we are not carrying a mountain of doubt, fear, shame, low self worth and limiting beliefs. It’s like they get bother when we take strength and inspiration from a religion or philosophy, to the point of trying to scorn you about it. But when you are speaking negative things over your ambitions and dreams, that is too hard, too unlikely, those people don’t put that same energy to motivate us and give as a better perspective.
There's a real hubris in believing that everything you want, at whatever stage you are in your life, is what is actually the best thing for you just because you wanted it.
Same.... And now 268K. Imo, there can be a nice union of hard work, positive thoughts and true belief that good things are absolutely possible, even probable in life
I don't know but I just discovered you, Hannah, last March and I cannot stop watching your vids. I only follow vloggers who put so much intellect, effort, and concern towards their followers. I admire your way of speaking and the realized you are a teacher and discovered the answer as to why you are so articulate!!!! Thank you for creating these highly informative contents!!! Vloggers like you are the ones who should earn on TH-cam. Kudos!
Affirmations do have a place in life, such as a reminder to notice the good stuff, but they don't "manifest" stuff. Affirmation just draws attention to more positive and comfortable thoughts. In my opinion as a therapist who does use affirmations with people.
The thing I hate about things like the Secret and Lucky Girl Syndrome is that there is an emphasis on changing all of your subconscious thoughts because those negative thoughts are why your life sucks. I have horrible intrusive thoughts and have had to learn how to manage them by letting them pass over me and not ruminating on them like I used to. It's so hard. Stuff like this emphasizes that if anything bad were to happen to me it would be my fault for these negative thoughts and even more my fault if I ruminate on them.
I hardly think the problem with today’s teen girls is excessive happiness. I would much rather there be an excess of striving for cheerful gratefulness than anything else on offer out there.
@@searose6192 While I do think focusing on the positive & practicing gratitude are hugely helpful, being told "Your negative thoughts / the fact that you're upset about this is why nothing works out for you" is not going to lead to excessive happiness.
It’s fun to be watching this a year after you made it and hear you talking about hoping for 100k subscribers, now that you’ve flown past that goal. Good job manifesting all that success out of thin air! 😂
No that’s not how it works. The universe gives you whatever you need. If in a past life there was a situation that you have to fix before you’re able to leave earthskde that could be a reason . Y’all believe in your fairy tale Bible but not this lol
@@kadeelacayo4806 Who said that I believe in the bible? I believe in evidence-based science and not a book translated to whatever is needed at that point in time
@@kadeelacayo4806 This is toxic. The universe hasn’t given me a cure for my pain condition. So in a past life I must’ve done something wrong so it’s my fault? Sorry but fuck right off with that.
Ha! See, I consider myself a lucky girl because I've had so many near-death experiences and horrible things happen to me, but I'm *STILL ALIVE.* Any other mortal human would be 6 feet under by now. I mean, I'm battered and damaged and I've got some organs that aren't mine and I'm missing a couple vertebrae and I'm covered in scars at 35, but I can still do most of the things I love and I'm otherwise remarkably healthy.
its a great stress reliever tbh especially during tough times ... its like when someone points out a yellow car even though there is only one car but you start seeing several ... its a great outlook.
Well, it is not necessarily a non-MLM video. In order to join an MLM you need to suspend your critical disbelief. You need to overrule logic, dismiss alternative explanations and simply hope. This is why so many MLMs are working hard to convince you that sucess is down to mindset because without blind faith you won`t stick to what is blatantly a business model that doesn`t work for most.
@stephanychocolate6227 but tiktok is by far the worst. There's still terrible stuff on there with terrible people, and nothing is done about it since it's mainly operated by ai at this point
I am the luckiest woman, but it all was because of hard work, failing, and trying again, and never stop loving my friends and family who help me day in and out!
Based on experience, I’d say that one danger of telling yourself that you’re lucky or in a lucky streak is that it primes you to leap at “opportunities” or potential romantic partners who seem to pop up movie style, looking shiny and new. Maybe the job or the person is as free of flaws as you want to think and maybe not, but feeling lucky should not make you skip the critical thinking and investigation.
Had to stop the video to come here and say: you made it! A year ago you were excited and thinking about the possibility of reaching 100k subs and now you have 482k and amounting! That’s awesome! Proud of you and love your videos!
I love how that $300+ check had to be cut and mailed days before she received it, but she credits her wishful thinking for its existence. Girl! It was already in the mail!
If she'd stopped before adding "they even gave me money for how long it took" I would have believed it but ain't no way anyone is paying you extra because they're THAT sorry.
She's straight up lying. It's only missing something like "and then the CEO of the bank showed up, announced that I'm a queen of the world now and I'm able to prosecute the scammer and then everybody clapped"
Honestly, I love hearing your perspective on things and you always thoroughly research and educate yourself about whatever topic you're speaking on. By all means, I would adore more commentary type video such as this as long as you're comfortable and interested in making it
To be honest with you, I really believe that the mindset can change a lot of things in your life. I used to have social anxiety, and then I met someone who never judged others and he himself was not scared to be judged. And I said to myself, if he can do it, then why can't I? And then my whole self-confidence got a boost, and my anxiety decreased to almost 0. I was much more open with others, starting conversations with people I was not close with, never had awkward moments, and I had a whole new mindset of: I can do this. I'm not saying that the lucky girl syndrome is correct, because of course you need to be in control of what is happening to you, but I do believe that a strong and positive mindset can change your life for the better. Mostly because the same things happen to you, but you just view them differently and in a more positive way. And that's what matters
The trend seems to be very naive. Their "luck" is either a common sense or coinsidence. It's all also connected to a privilege to be more "lucky" than others. The noodle video was hard to watch because of eating and talking over each other.
I love your point about how there is a certain privilege to this lucky girl mindset, because there are many people in disadvantaged situations who can’t just wish themselves out of it and it’s so harmful to have people telling them “oh, just wish it better!” 🙄
@@JaimeLeighArt Yeah, I feel like it's really telling that the people I've seen going on about "lucky girl syndrome" tend to be young, thin, and conventionally pretty. Yeah, of course things probably tend to work out okay for them. People tend to be nicer to you if you fall into those categories, cause, y'know, ageism and fatphobia are things. It is literally privilege.
There is a fraction of truth in "lucky girl syndrome". A positiv outlook and mindset will grant you more opportunities than a pessimistic outlook and mindset, granted equal amounts of work. It's pretty simple, no one wants to be around someone always complaining about every tiny annoyance, I definitely wouldn't.
Lol! My thought was that she mentioned $10K in sales. Cool. And what is your PROFIT? Because if you're not factoring in operating costs and taxes, that number is going to sound way higher than it actually is.
I feel bad for all my fellow OCD sufferers who fall into this thought trap. I literally JUST talked to my OCD therapist last week about how toxic this idea on social media can be especially for anxiety and OCD sufferers. It definitely was for me.
I have OCD and agree. I feel so guilty because the last year I put in practice this trend and others like subliminals for manifesting/LAO all that kind of stuff, the results was a high increment of anxiety and depression with horrible thoughts. This type of practice it's not for me and I feel bad for believe in that.
Yup, as a person with OCD my "manifestation" era (4+ years ago at this point) was very stressful and painful. It got real crazy when I caught myself thinking I was literally keeping my loved ones alive by "protecting" them with my thoughts
It started out as more of a count your blessings movement. At the end of each day looking back and saying out loud , " this thing happened today I am so lucky" like I got a free coffee or whatever
My husband & I are gonna start saying we are so lucky, everything works out for us consistently for a few weeks. I'll let you guys know if his cancer or paralysis disappears 😂😂😂
This kind of gives "I prayed that God would allow me to find a parking spot at the mall and one opened up, but he didn't help that kid who was praying to stop being abused"
Which is totally nonsense as the Bible says that bad things can happen to us ALL. Prayer for such personal things and benefits doesn’t work as they don’t align with Gods purpose. I know this from Bible study 😂😅
I have worked on changing my mind frame But I AM doing the WORK SO the universe can allow me to ACHIEVE the things I see for myself, NOT being"Lucky" but working hard and staying positive
The idea of manifestation ended up sending me spiralling from OCD recently! While homeless, I got really fixated on this idea that if I was too hopeful about something I’d lose out and be really disappointed, but if I wasn’t hopeful enough I’d be manifesting bad energy and lose out because of that - it was an absolutely horrific spiral and triggered by a friend who posts a lot of this positive mindset manifestation stuff
I'm so sorry to hear that, sometimes we tell ourselves that it's all our fault because at least that's better than not being in control at all. I hope you're doing better! ❤
Seeing this a year later and you’re talking about working so hard to reach 100K subscribers - and here you are zeroing in on 500K! You deserve all the success!
19:48 how did this girl who said she was sick of struggling financially suddenly afford her dream apartment, open a clothing store, and have the funds to start traveling???
I think by believing you're inherently lucky you overcome the fear of trying new things, like starting your own business, because according to your new belief there are no risks, and if you try there's a chance you will succeed. and that's probably the only way this might have worked for her and for everyone who believes in this. Also she sells those ideas.
@@ayahlinMight depend in your starting point. An overthinker with no trust in themselves may need that leap of faith to actually start doing and not losing faith if failing.
I’m all for a mantra and this is one I’ve loved saying this year. It helps me reframe my thought pattern. However, I don’t think that just repeating a sentence is going to make things happen for you. For me, it’s just a way of reminding myself that no matter what, everything is always working out for me exactly how it’s supposed to.
Precisely. It’s a believing you deserve xyz and you’ll work for it. If you don’t believe you deserve it or it will be too hard, but still try with a negative thought pattern, you may feel stuck.
Me too. I struggled for a long time with negative thought patterns and sometimes believing I deserve something is just a little out of reach. Adopting this mindset lets me start out my day or activity with the attitude that, by chance and without me having to be anxious about it, I'll have a good time. I can recognize that experience, education, work, and resources still go into achieving my goals while still living my life in a way that lifts my spirits without trying. Sometimes actively trying is too much for me that day! Of course it has the possibility of becoming toxic if taken too far, but so does literally everything else.
@@jennamagdalena6608 100% I relate. Keep thinking positive thoughts, because you do deserve a good life. And those positive thoughts make inspired action a little easier ❤️
Hi there, I've been binge watching your videos lately. I've discovered your channels a few days ago and I have subscribed. Just wanted to tell you that you are doing an amazing work. Also, you are super well enunciated, so it's a big plus for non native English speakers like me. Best!
Thank you for this dose of sanity, Hannah! The flip side of Lucky Girl Syndrome is that if you are unlucky, you just didn't want good things hard enough. If someone gets laid off, develops a serious illness, or has any other misfortune, is that their fault? Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on the idea that our desires control the universe. It's not only ridiculous, but insulting to suggest to someone who is struggling that all they need to do is be positive-- or buy someone's course-- in order to fix their real problems.
I remember people who told me after I had lost several pregnancies that, "well, manifestation is real so you just need to think more positively next time!" So toxic and SO cruel.
I never realized people were actually taking this seriously. As someone who struggles with anxiety, my personal take away was always “hey, I’ve done all that I can with this situation and I can’t let myself fixate and worry about it anymore, it’s out of my hands.” Which is more of a therapeutic technique I’ve been using for years to help my anxiety.
It feels like the mirror image of 'i got everything through hard work, no luck or privilege or anything whatsoever'. imo most successful people are somewhere in the middle: some hard work ~and~ some good luck.
The dopamine rush I get with a new Hannah video 🥰 Also, I "lucky girled" this video into existence... or maybe this is your routine video release schedule 😆😉
I don't hate this trend at its core. I used to study psychology so I have a smudge of knowledge on this topic. This way of thinking could reframe one's experiences and seems to be the antithesis of the "only bad things happen to me"-mindset, which is linked to learned helplessness and depression. As one of the girls mentioned: she used to believe that she wouldn't manage certain tasks (aka "jinx it") and that seemed to impact her motivation poorly. Thinking "hey, I *am* lucky and this *will* work" could help your motivation and reduce stress. The lucky girl syndrome sehr adjacent to positive psychology, which has many wonderful qualities. However, just like positive psychology, there can be some downsides. From what I learned at uni, the ideal way of thinking would be positive and believing one is in control - as Hannah says, you can't just sit back and do nothing. People without credentials selling courses/books/etc. on mental health will also always be a big red flag. But all in all, believing that good things will happen to you and treating the world and yourself accordingly (aka with kindness and enthusiasm) seems nice and a good break from hustle culture
Thank you, Hanna, for the quality of your service. I seldom consume social media content, usually only tube videos (generally documentaries, some old Italian 50’s films and entertaining stuff) but you’ve got me twined with this socio/anthropological study of yours. The lucidity of your thoughts and criticism, the choice of the contents and your analysis is very helpful to understand what’s going on out there in this mad world. Also, your propriety of language is pretty stimulating into learning more and dive into English language. Keep up the good work! I have the feeling we are surrounded by people who has too much time and too less consistency and you are quite opposite for what I can see. Thanks again. All the best. Silvia P.S.: greetings from the Alps!
At my last job I woke up one day and immediately was engrossed in a feeling of dread that the day was not going to be a good one. When I got to work it was just that, so much happened and it was terrible. I was telling a coworker how I had a strong feeling the day wasn’t going to be good and she told me that I manifested the toxicity 🙄
It feels like this could be a good thing for mental health if you flipped things around and had the affirmation AFTER the good thing, instead of trying to have it BEFORE. If you're someone who experiences depression or mood issues, then it can be really good to consciously recognise when good things happen to you - to stop and acknowledge them and reflect on them. So if you had a positive affirmation that you say to yourself after you experience good things (even if they are as mundane as the noodle place being open) it can help keep you from obsessing over everything that ever goes wrong in your life. The problem is trying to imply causality and suggesting that saying these magic phrases will MAKE the good stuff happen.
For sure! My therapist recommended that after something good happens, it’s nice to remind yourself that you put in the effort to help the good thing along.
Anything can become negative if critical thinking is not applied to it. Affirmations are about saying the things you want out loud until they become true, and a lot of hard work goes into both saying those things out loud and working hard to make them happen. Every person who's looked in the mirror and told themselves they're beautiful, for even a week will tell you that these things make a real difference. When I'm down and something good happens, even like finding a good parking spot, I tell myself I'm the luckiest girl in the whole world and it honestly changed how I approach every single aspect of my life. Sometimes I get lucky, but saying these things to myself has taught me to see a lot of things in my life as new opportunities and now I make my own luck. And it's taken a really long while and a lot of hard work to get here. Words just help and they're free!
I started doing something “similar” to this because I had seen some manifest videos, but i literally just thought it was changing your mindset to look for the good in life instead of the bad all the time. So whenever I started getting angry or upset about things I start going through a list of things I’m thankful for in my life and why I’m so blessed and lucky.
I just got a new job. I was under qualified but applied anyway, not because I'm "so lucky and get what I want", it was closer to "well I have nothing to lose and they won't call me anyway." But I worked hard on my interview, and I've worked hard in school to get to where I am so even though right now I don't have the qualifications, I will. This isn't me being lucky, it's work paying off.
Your reaction to these videos on TT is hilarious. You're calling them out but in the most polite, logical way and I love that. "She's not just sitting Criss Cross Apple Sauce in the middle of a room manifesting....." HAHAHA
There's just a good feeling that comes with positive affirmations. There's no harm in this practice. In fact, if you continue to work and do the hard part, then when the results are evident, you can say good stuff happens. I don't think you replace the work you do with the affirmations, you use them both to remain positive.
My favorite podcaster talks about this. She would be considered to be in the manifestation world. I love her because she talks about manifestation is nothing if you don’t take actual action steps. The universe (or whoever you believe in) is a co creator with you. You have to work together. Affirmations also help me when I am feeling down and unworthy.
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11❣✝
Exactly. That's one of the most important markers of a decent teacher - they don't tell you that there won't be challenges and that you can forever be idle. You still have to do things, but with a different mindset
I haven't finished the video yet but I want to put my two cents in anyways. "Everything works out in the end" is my mantra too because, in my life, that's how it goes. That does not mean I don't work for what I have and want; I do and it's hard but worth it. It's more of a reassurance for the difficult times: everything might not be okay right now, but if I keep working and going towards what I want, I'll get there. I'm not lucky but everything works out in the end because I work my ass off for it. Saying it just reminds me of how much things have changed for the better and how much they will in the future.
As someone who believes in, and is struggling with, positive affirmations, this was well thought out and explained. Thank you. Also, you mention your goal of 100k followers in the video. 1 year later and now at 436k. Congrats on quadrupling + your goal... you lucky girl.
My apartment has been declared uninhabitable six months ago and i am so closed to being kicked out living on the street. I search for a new apartment for four hours every day ( i have a full time job and do a PhD on the side), make plenty of phone calls in a language i don't really speak. Every day i am like "okay, today's the day". But no. I get more desperate and stressed every day and everything just seems to get worse (like my aunt and father dying within a month). So what is this syndrome called and why don't i deserve the "lucky syndrome"?
I struggle with my mental health regularly, so I have adopted the practice of mindfulness and gratitude. It can be very helpful, but Lucky Girl Syndrome sounds like a path to ignoring your feelings, denying reality, and avoiding action. Acceptance of experiences and emotions and taking action is a huge piece that's missing. You need to put effort into what you want.
This reminds me of when Harry wins the Liquid Luck elixir in Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince! In the movie Harry pretends to pour the liquid luck into Rons drink the morning of a very important Quidditch match, to calm his nerves and make him believe that he is now magically lucky, and will manage anything he puts his mind to. And Ron kills at the match and they win. While lucky-girl syndrome may have some percieved effects, i think this is mainly from making them stop second guessing themselves, lowering anxiety and stress and just giving them the confidence that they may have lacked. HOWEVER.. how sad is it to attribute all that to some mysterious magnetizing frequency instead of what it actually is: themselves taking action and utilizing whatever skills and ability they themselves have! Ron played that match all by himself, and the resourceful, intelligent women in this video made changes all on their own. I find it incredibly disempowering to place the results of hard work, determination and general personal skill onto some fleeting idea of «liquid luck».
Reminds me of a former friend of my mother, struggling single mom. My mom would say- let’s put together an interview outfit, look at your resume and go through the job ads. Nope- she just wanted to manifest a job from thin air, that someone was just going to knock on her door and offer her her dream job(or money would just magically fall from the sky). It was so frustrating. Her situation never got better.
love your videos! ❤ i’m surprised that none of the videos you showed claimed that lucky girl syndrome can heal cancer or other diseases. because i have read that about the law of attraction and it is SO dangerous
This would work for me-not because the universe would “gift” me things, but because it would make me more likely to take risks. That’s it. That’s the secret. You put yourself into a mindset to take risks because you believe you’re lucky. Pay me now, thanks. ❤
There are a few realities at play that are totally separate from luck but are a real result of mindset and emotions. If someone is more positive and more confident, they do tend to get more opportunities. They may get promoted at work, or get a date, etc because positive and negative emotion affect the way we act and speak. Ultimately, the way we act and speak affects how those around us interact with us. Pure cause and effect, not luck.
I'm glad to see you do a video on this. As someone recovering from evangelical religious trauma and having adopted some pagan ideals all the way back in 2009. With the surge recently of witchy and pagan stuff I was excited that I might find some more resources and contacts and "my people." So, a couple of years ago I started looking on twitter and ... it was honestly the same type of stuff as I was raised with in my parent's religion. A lot of prosperity gospel and this, say what you want and it will come to you. I haven't finished your video yet, so I don't know if you say this but the worst part for me is: IF IT DOESN'T WORK FOR YOU, IT IS YOUR FAULT. This is the same thing the church taught me with praying. I was taught to ask god "in Jesus's name" and you'll get it. But if you don't it is because either A) god decided you weren't ready or worthy, or B) the devil is stopping you and it is because either you let him in by doing something wrong, or it is what you need to do in life and you need to work harder and ask harder to get it. Either way it all comes down to, if you get what you want it is because you are good enough in god's eyes. That is the same thing here. If you didn't get it, you didn't affirm right and you have some sort of negativity that is blocking you from it. It is all rooted in the same ideals, especially putting it onto girls and women, that if you have any negativity in your life be it emotional or otherwise, you will not get what you want. This is a long comment, sorry to anyone who reads it.
Yessss!!!! This! I grew up with a strong Muslim influence and was always told to have faith and that not doing so meant I didn't believe enough or properly and that it was an insult to God's power and love etc. This is reminding me of that but they just removed God from the equation basically. Same energy though.
@@TheYazmanian exactly! Its just a secular version of the same grift. Especially, in Christian evangelism prosperity gospel. They taught us if we wanted to have a big financial boon we had to donate to the church or tithe on a regular basis and proclaim "money cometh" and we would get rich. My parents who were scraping by were giving 15% of their income to multi millionaires in the hopes of getting rich.
Exactly, it’s a way to explain away why something good doesn’t happen when you manifest/pray for something and it doesn’t happen. It’s the whole ‘it can’t possibly be the system/god it must be you, it’s your fault that it didn’t happen’ so toxic and victim blaming.
I’m so glad you posted this, it was not too long. As someone who spent years (like since I found the LOA in 2015), thinking it was MY FAULT, I developed a very pessimistic, “I’m doomed to never get what I want” mindset. Hannah’s video and reading about your experience have finally helped me realize the fallacy of this attitude, and release some of the shame I’ve had for years. ❤
I hate the way she uses the word delusional.. like actually being delusional isn’t fun?? It sucks and even if its a “fun” delusion you eventually have to learn it was never real and its heartbreaking
Mindset does work - in that it helps to do the things that cause change. If ones inner monologue is "It doesn't matter what I do, nothing works out", you don't bother looking for that new job, new apartment or put the effort into tik tok. Telling yourself that you will succeed (essentially what this is) puts someone in the mindset that they are willing to try. So no, it isn't as simple as "you will magically get what you want if you have lucky girl syndrome" but it can change your mindset so you attempt the things you want and one is certianly more likely too get what they want if they try. This is fairly well known. Sure, they're explaining it very badly and in a way I would say is not helpful (especially the first 2 girls) but ignoring the place of mindset in success is foolish. Manifesting is dumb but mindset has a huge place in many peoples success.
As someone who was DEEP in an MLM for 5 years, they love to push this “lucky girl, manifestation woowoo” crap. Although I believe that having a healthy and positive mindset can be beneficial, falling into this type of “lucky girl syndrome” territory can lead to so many negative effects. I’ve seen first hand this toxic positivity lead to the belief that I wasn’t good or “lucky” enough to succeed despite all my hard work in an MLM. Thank you for touching on this subject Hannah!
My now ex believed he should get whatever he wanted. If he didn't, for example being a big time sales person in real estate, he blamed me as not being positive. It abrogates personal responsibility.
I saw this a couple months back and I kind of interpreted and utilized it on a different way. The positive self-talk definitely made me feel good which gives me boost to work on the things I need to work on. I didn't think that things will magically happen, it's the same as manifesting when you try to ground yourself when you were having the panic attacks. But for me, it was more of a starting point to act on the things I should be doing to get what I want. Never will I ever think that saying and imagining things will give me the results that I want and it will be an insult to attribute my success to me just saying things. It's always a variety of factors, it's just sad that it's being oversimplified.
There are tons of people like this in Hawaii. I have always wondered why they think they can just float through life like a feather in the wind, no responsibility, & actually get anywhere. And they think they do. I mean, they're living in paradise, they're surviving. However, it always seems like mommy and daddy send them money quite often for a 35 year old.
First time commenting in a while but I truly agree with you. Hustle culture and the overwhelming world of TIK TOK was why I had to delete it. Although yeah I don't get a lot of jokes or whatever going around in college, it is such an overwhelming platform and like you said, definitely worrying and a treadmill. Great video. 😊
I’m a year late (just discovered your page), but i totally agree with everything you mentioned. I do think that your mindset can make a slight difference in the way you experience certain things, but I also cant stop thinking about if we can really manifest certain things, it kind of also means that we attract the ‘bad’ things (illnesses for example) and that things that are completely beyond our reach are now our own fault. It feels like a very privileged way of thinking.
I can’t be a “lucky girl”… because I’m a grown ass woman. I find women calling themselves “girls” really gross. “Girl dinner” “lucky girl” “girl boss” gross 🤮 Can we PLEASE stop infantilizing ourselves?
so true. I´m "only" 27, but I don´t get that "girly" terminology either. I am a woman, I have a job, a family of my own and responsibilities. A girl has none of these things.
100% I have never gotten, on a mature adult level, why any woman would want to be called a girl or chick. Though herd followers and attention seekers tend to allow a lot of things I don't find acceptable. Though, that is one of the main ways I can tell how much of a real man (emotionally mature adult and actually respects women) a male is or is not, just by if they use girl or chick, and if so often.
I hate the term "ladies" too. It implies a way women are supposed to behave. Every email I get that starts with "hello ladies" I just want to delete instantly. I'm a woman.
@@francoiselafferty-hancock5112 as someone who uses ladies in a desperate attempt to override my super informal habit of saying "ya'll" pls give em grace they're probably only doing what was drilled in their heads as being more acceptable Anyone got any alternatives? Hey women or hi women just doesn't sound right and good morning females is even worse
To be honest, this is exactly how I feel when I hear people thanking god for the good things that happen in life. Maybe it could be, but there is no objective proof, and the more likely reason is because of people’s hard work or focus on the things they want in life. Lucky girl syndrome doesn’t account for the bad things that happen, and similarly, believers usually don’t hold god accountable for the bad things that happen either. Maybe a controversial view, but they kinda feel the same to me in that respect.
God's creations do not have the right to "hold him accountable " for anything, we answer to him, He doesn't answer to us. As a Christian, we thank God for the good times and trust him through the hard times. Yes, he is in control in both situations, and no, following Christ does not mean you will never go through difficult things. Just wanted to give my point of view
As a certified therapist, in my opinion Lucky Girl Syndrome will not address the underlying issues that people have. Tying your self-worth and confidence to ONLY manifestation can lead to disappointing and even harmful experiences. Improving your mental health steadily (with a variety of methods so that if a method fails you, then you can adjust) is healthier imo. You have to make a plan to achieve your goals, you have to do SOMETHING in order to create a reaction. This reeks of “I’m not like other girls and am above working for the good things in my life because I just believe in myself.”
I came back to this video and noticed when you were saying "If I hit 100k subs am I a lucky girl?" You have almost 600k now, just ONE year later. You earned this!!! 🎉
As someone who is chronically ill, disabled, and autistic but didn't realize it until my adult years, this really hit hard because I can't imagine how burnt-out these poor girls must be trying to manifest good things for themselves. I unfortunately have kind of a pessimistic view because life has been so unfair to me and I don't really have any control over so many outside circumstances that make my life miserable. It's just so sad to see these poor women hoping and wishing that just having a positive attitude will make their lives better because they don't actually have control
same plus abusive family/teachers as a child and am transsexual. the first life lesson i learned as a kid is that "never expect anyone to do anything short of horrible abuse to you; life is a curse; nobody will ever understand you; expect to die tomorrow; it will only get worse from here" actually that exact realisation at age 4 or whatever is exactly why I am still alive. I expect absolutely nothing. every day i don't die from my still-undiagnosed illnesses feels like a lottery win. now that i have medically transitioned and my QOL has gone from 0/10 to 1/10, I feel like I am in heaven. I have never known better. the mere concept that something better is even possible is incredible to me.
But they do have control over one thing and that is their attitude and that’s the point. If you have clean water, a roof over your head, electricity, than you are already better off than some people in this world and that shouldn’t be taken for granted. They are appreciative of everything they have and that *does* make life better.
As you said, these are affirmations for people who tend to anxiety, worst-case scenarios, etc. to counteract the opposite talk from their inner critic. There is also something called pronoia, the "irrational conviction that everything in the universe conspires in your favor", which is more of an outlook on life which you decide to take, knowing very well that crap happens. ❤ No affirmation can change systemic racism, systemic inequality, lack of privilege or real world consequenses.
The thing is, we live in a social stew. The woo woo bits about magnetism and “energy” can be dismissed as nonsense, but the fact that changing your mindset has social effect, including ones that benefit you and clear the path towards what you want to accomplish….that is observably true….and not because of woo woo stuff, but because we are social creatures and the people we interact with respond to the social signals we send out. If those signals are “I’m a sad disaster just waiting to fail again” people tend to not pull you into their fold, if you signals are “I’m s cheerful optimist looking for my next opportunity” people tend to gravitate towards you and want to help you succeed. That goes for jobs, apartments, dating, etc.
So, what happens when a "lucky girl" ends up in the wrong place at the wrong time and something terrible happens?? Did she "manifest" that terrible thing? This kind of thinking is so unbelievably toxic.
I feel from my prospective as a young girl who was following the trend , this is just a way to feel more confirmation bias forwards things going your way. The more you say, the more you notice/ appreciate things going your way. I’m saying this as a college student w two jobs, who definitely falls victim to grind culture
It’s been relatively recently that I learned the term “Toxic Positivity”. I think of it a bit like water toxicity in that Positive thinking can be important and useful, but if you overuse it, it will make you “sick.” Positive thinking can help us be willing to try something new or hard, but too much of it can cause us to ignore red-flags or prevent us from proactive behavior.
I have mixed feelings about this. One thing I've noticed with this trend is that it seems to feature almost exclusively white, conventionally attractive, (presumably) financially privileged women. Like, the fact that things work out for you isn't because you're lucky, it's because you have the privilege of a strong support network and financial stability without needing to worry about working too hard to achieve what you desire. However, I do think the underlying message has some validity. Sometimes it's good to relinquish control and trust that things will work out the way you hope. Often anxiety and worry does not serve us, and I don't think that message is toxic. I don't find that message toxic at all.
As a Christian this reminds me of prosperity gospel, which basically teaches that if you believe in God, you will have a happy and prosperous life. There is a lot of focus on monetary gain. It's prominent in American Christianity, but I wouldn't say mainstream. I could go on for a while about why I don't like it!
Haven’t watched yet I’m just beginning. I follow a creator named Allie that talks about spiritual psychosis and how dangerous this “lucky girl syndrome” can be. She also mentions how starving kids in the world don’t choose to be starving so how can you just Will your life better. You can’t
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@@ericatucker2683 Or toddlers, honestly! those trips to the store....
Hey Hannah, I've been watching your videos for months now, but somehow never subscribed. Having mentioned your goal, you can now count yourself one more subscriber closer to that 100k. 😉
One way that putting your goals put there *can* help you achieve them! ❤
My mom and I have often told each other, in times of intense uncertainty and stress, "Don't worry, it will all work out, it always does," and it generally does work out. We do this as a way to relinquish anxiety about things we can't control so we can move forward. It helps us have the courage to move on in the face of uncertainty, not manifest vacations in tropical locations.
I just had this same conversation with my mom this weekend! Sometimes when you’re facing tough shit, you need to say “we’ll get through it” just to hear that hope out loud. But then we buckle down and find ways to make it work, not just high-five and think the problem’s solved.
I had a few very, very hard years, lost a person I loved, my house, discovered some really nasty things about someone I trusted... and when someone asks me how I dealt with all that, my answer is always the same "I just repeated to myself that someday it would go better, it always does"
"This, too, shall pass."
My friend and I were just talking about using positive thinking to get through times of high stress. I'm a recently diagnosed narcoleptic so I look back at what I've used positive thinking to get through and use those times to help me push through my new understanding of my hardships.
Right! It seems like we're jumping to the extreme opposite now and denying the benefits of a positive mindset. Being positive has never once done me wrong. At best, I get what I want; at worse, I'll be in a positive mindset regardless. Being negative, however... Never once served me
Red car theory is also really similar. If you focus on red cars, there are a lot of red cars. If you focus on being lucky, you suddenly see really small lucky things that you wouldn't have noticed previously.
right, that ties into confirmation bias
Very true!
So true, I once did an experiment where I tested the superstition of good luck happening if your top eyelid shakes and bad luck if it’s the bottom eyelid. My eyelids have never shaken more since😂😂😂😂😂
So true!! This happened to me while I was pregnant, all of a sudden in every corner I saw a pregnant woman or a woman with a baby and then I thought "How come everyone is having babies at the same time?" But then I realized that it was just that my mind was focusing more on that because it was something I was experiencing. I've also been told by people who are lonely that they see couples all the time, it's just what your mind selectively searches for.
Yes! This is actually a wholesome trend for the most part. If you find happiness in the most simple thing, then you are happier everyday
“Everything works out for us” as their phone falls off the dash 😂
That's the same thing I said too lol! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I really thought those two in the noodle video were taking the piss out of the whole thing. Can't believe they were serious!😂
My thoughts exactly
It’s so toxic because there’s *nothing* wrong with thinking positive thoughts/doing things that make you feel hopeful, but you can’t get so obsessed with ~manifesting~ that you make yourself feel like it’s your fault when things don’t always fall into place, or that people who have a hard time deserve it.
+AND you can’t be so into manifesting that you do nothing to actually make the good things happen to you. Like, it’s fine to have affirmations about how good things will come, but if you do nothing to make them happen, or if you try and it still doesn’t work out, it can devolve into a really unhealthy obsession.
Right? there is no way this won't lead to very unhealthy coping mechanisms. even if this does 'work', their mental health is fucked long term.
For real, I'm all for good vibes and prayers and mantras, but that kind of stuff has to inspire you to actually act as a force for good in your life and in the lives of those around you. Just expecting to be lucky won't actually do anything good.
RIght like I believe in ‘manifestation’ to the degree that I think that the energy and attitude and vibes you bring with you affect the people around you and how they treat you and how you interpret the things that happen. Like when I’m in a good mood, getting caught in the rain is fun instead of annoying. But like it’s not magic and bad stuff can still happen that has nothing to do with you and your vibes. There is no frequency of vibration that will prevent structural oppression or bad people who don’t give a fuck about your wellbeing doing bad things to you. Like have a good attitude and work towards your goals, but don’t think that you’re immune from the bullshit.
Whatever you put into the universe is what will come .
Honestly, there is merit in reframing your experiences into a positive and cultivating gratitude for when small things go your way. I bet if the restaurant those girls went to was closed, they would have found something else to eat and found a reason that “everything works out for me.” Additionally, not worrying about things you CAN’T control can reduce distress.
Can it be toxic? Absolutely. If you’re so positive that you can’t recognize you’re in a bad situation, that’s dangerous.
All things in balance ❤
Came here to make a similar comment. Having a positive outlook can be a good thing but like you said, it’s about balance.
Yes, this is what I wanted to say. You just said it better 💁♀️
100% agree! This was an incredibly well thought out and worded response!
It also breeds a complete lack of empathy for other people who truly don’t have great luck or who are doing everything right but bad things happen anyway
@@Chels-fz5uqcame to say that.
Too many times this mentality ends up evolving in some form of "I got xyz and you don't, so I'm rubbing it right in your face".
No thanks.
Watching this in August 2024 when Hannah already has over 400k subscribers 🎉 you go girl!!!
It's "The Secret" repackaged. This manifestation stuff is completely ridiculous and seems to recycle in some form every couple of years.
I was thinking the same. They sold it to the boomers and there selling it to gen z now to.
My thoughts as well. It just keeps going around in a different guise.
Right I was thinking this is just new age BS repackaged
There’s also a really clear link between times of financial struggle and rises in new age mysticism !
It's just gnosticism and the belief that you're a god.
It's this same mindset that is used against people with disabilities particularly those with invisible disablilties that if we thought more positively then our illnesses would go away. We are blamed for our disabilities because we have a "negative" attitude when in reality we are exhausted and resentful of navigating an ableist and inaccessible world that finds us expendable because of our inability to generate capital at the same level as abled people.
Preach!
Or being told “Just be happy!” as a cure for mental health. Like no Karen, I have clinical depression. And you telling me to “just be happy” is not making me feel any better.
This is me with undiagnosed ADHD. I have been labeled lazy, unmotivated, undisciplined, and ungrateful ever since I was young. I struggled with maintaining focus while I was still in school and have had a lot of trouble finding and maintaining employment ever since, and this has caused me to develop anxiety and depression on top of ADHD from having my self-esteem get crushed repeatedly over the years.
I have ehlers danlos and I do as much work in the home that I can. My attitude and drive is good but my body is not consistently good enough for consistent work. I look healthy, fit, and slim. I can't manifest my body to keep up with my work ethic. And I still hear comments that I have to "get out there" and "just try a job". I've had a job and college before, trying to meet deadlines, and I have never felt more disabled in my life. I completely overworked my body trying to do what others expected of me.
Lol if I had a better attitude my Crohn’s would magically go away 😂😂 damn! I’d better tell my other friends with terrible intestines. I’ll keep my drugs/exercise/diet/therapy thanks ❤
This kinda reminds me of Scientologists using Thetan Power to get good parking spots and make street lights change to green.😂😂
4:38 this made me think of one of my favorite quotes by Sir Terry Pratchett from The Wee Free Men: "If you trust in yourself... and believe in your dreams... and follow your star... you'll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren't so lazy."
Love sir T P...May he rest in peace
love that, thanks for that quote.
It makes me think of a very simple version of this "practice beats talent if talent doesn't practice"
Lol excellent 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
GNU Terry Pratchett
I don't think this is necessarily true BUT most common because I often think of people who were just scouted to become a star or met the right person - I think it's important to also not discredit how much luck plays a part in success. It is a necessity and you can create your own luck through hard work but you may still be beaten by someone who was simply lucky. That's life too. Of course after a lucky encounter you have to put in the hard work but not everyone fully does or is talented. I'm rambling but basically YES hard work but ALSO YES good luck. I think a lot of people buying into this lucky girl syndrome do lean too hard towards wanting things to fall into their lap but it stems from deeper issues of feeling like the world is out of their hands and helplessness.
I'm reminded of a lyric from a Starkid musical that's basically a Disney parody. "If you're good and you're attractive, no need to be proactive. Good things will just happen to you."
It feels like there's also an element of privilege to Lucky Girl Syndrome without having to acknowledge that privilege. That's what feels slimy to me. Maybe everything doesn't work out for other people, not because of their mindset, but because the institutions we live in systemically disadvantage those people.
Maybe if we make everyone a princess, they’ll all be lucky girls…
Omg. Thank you. Yikes with this delusional trend. 🫣🙃🫠
Fully was gonna say , I see pretty privilege- that’s what is LUCKY for them. 😏
It's all about changing your thought processes, cognitive behavioral therapy. There's no "luck" to it. Thank you for deep diving into this!
Imagine if two "lucky girls" come together with conflicting interests, who will win 😂
The luckiest, of course
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@@lisarighetti5385 well how can you measure smth that doesnt exist
Well you shouldn't think about the other girl. You should believe you'll reach your goals, you shouldn't care about the obstacles, whether the obstacles are other girls or something else.
@@90yasamin And If the other girl is also thinking the same? 🤷🏽♀️
Reminds me of that scene from the first episode of friends when Ross says “I want to be married” and Rachel walks in in a wedding dress then Chandler says “and I want a million dollars!”
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I agree with you. Like, I used to be homeless a few years back, and when I was living in the shelter, I met people who had been in that situation for at least a DECADE, if not longer. Most of them desperately wished for life to be better and worked their butts off trying to make it so, but were severely depressed because nothing was working. Because disability, because discrimination, because the system simply failed them. "Manifestation," also known as wishful thinking, can't save you in that situation or create any major changes. Only action will, which means not only working hard, but also working to change this extremely broken/dysfunctionally designed system.
manifestation and wishful thinking are two completely different things lolol
@atiqamir2039 they aren't. That's ... That's the whole issue as discussed in the video. The fact that mental "manifestation" is just wishful thinking is the entire reason that these trends are so dangerous. The only way to factually manifest something is to do the work to make it happen. Mental manifestation, like these "lucky girls", is bogus New-Age manipulation
One thing about these mindsets like lucky girl syndrome and law of attraction that really gets me is: what do they think happens when two people’s desired outcomes are in direct conflict? What if two people who are trying to get the same job or apartment both tell themselves that they’re so lucky and they’ll get what they want? What decides which person’s “luck” is more important? Major loophole in my opinion
this is such a good take on it that I have never thought about!
Nonon, no one decide which one have the better luck ; the one who get the job is the one who wanted its the most
True @@irina-ty1336
There is a philosophy believe is that we don’t live in the same reality as others, it seems like we are in the same world but we are not
Universe has the answer.I don't believe in coincidences ,i also believe there is a reason behind everything even if we don't see it, realise it.
As someone who’s been accused of having lucky girl syndrome, I agree when you say it negates the hard work behind your accomplishments.
What saddens me is that the Law of Attraction (what the Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on) does work when understood and done properly, but it's been oversimplified and sold as something ridiculous. At its core, it's simply some form of self-hypnosis that shifts your limiting beliefs and reduces your tendency to self-sabotage. Because unconsciously, we only accept opportunities that we feel we're worthy of. That's why you often see people ruining promising relationships because they don't feel they're worthy of being happy. Or they believe that "relationships are hard work'. LOA is also related to concepts like the placebo effect, mirror neurons, etc. I've used it a lot to build my self worth and it's worked great. But obviously, it's only an addition to concrete actions and deep self work.
Yes!!! So true 😊
Your so correct 💯
Yes
And it is not the same as saying we won’t move ourselves towards that direction we want to see either. People usually JUMP into that conclusion when you have faith in something/someone will bless you, being you the good things or opportunities you want to see happening to you.
But it is WAY easier to plan and execute when we are not carrying a mountain of doubt, fear, shame, low self worth and limiting beliefs.
It’s like they get bother when we take strength and inspiration from a religion or philosophy, to the point of trying to scorn you about it.
But when you are speaking negative things over your ambitions and dreams, that is too hard, too unlikely, those people don’t put that same energy to motivate us and give as a better perspective.
It should basically be work hard and stay positive. There is no magic, it boils down to hard work. But the RIGHT work.
You’re communing with demons. 🙏
There's a real hubris in believing that everything you want, at whatever stage you are in your life, is what is actually the best thing for you just because you wanted it.
I agree completly!
I am watching this in April 2024 and she is at 218k subs. Congratulations Hannah!! Hard work pays off 😊 Well deserved!
Me too - talk about self fulfilling destiny!
Just luck... 🤡
261k!!
@@JesusisliterallyHim 267k!!!
Same.... And now 268K. Imo, there can be a nice union of hard work, positive thoughts and true belief that good things are absolutely possible, even probable in life
I don't know but I just discovered you, Hannah, last March and I cannot stop watching your vids. I only follow vloggers who put so much intellect, effort, and concern towards their followers. I admire your way of speaking and the realized you are a teacher and discovered the answer as to why you are so articulate!!!! Thank you for creating these highly informative contents!!! Vloggers like you are the ones who should earn on TH-cam. Kudos!
Affirmations do have a place in life, such as a reminder to notice the good stuff, but they don't "manifest" stuff. Affirmation just draws attention to more positive and comfortable thoughts. In my opinion as a therapist who does use affirmations with people.
True. They’re almost acting like it’s magic. It can be a positive tool for sure but it’s not a predictable spell. Lol
@@KacieOrtiz-ho4ql it’s definitely magical . Whatever energy you put out you get in
The thing I hate about things like the Secret and Lucky Girl Syndrome is that there is an emphasis on changing all of your subconscious thoughts because those negative thoughts are why your life sucks. I have horrible intrusive thoughts and have had to learn how to manage them by letting them pass over me and not ruminating on them like I used to. It's so hard. Stuff like this emphasizes that if anything bad were to happen to me it would be my fault for these negative thoughts and even more my fault if I ruminate on them.
@@tiryaclearsong421yup. It's the worst kind of victim blaming.
It is literally impossible to remain happy all the time and be positive all the time it's just not realistic we are not machines
I hardly think the problem with today’s teen girls is excessive happiness. I would much rather there be an excess of striving for cheerful gratefulness than anything else on offer out there.
It’s an exhausting expectation
Exactly. Feelings of sadness, inadequacy etc are necessary for normal emotional growth
Yup it's toxic positivity no? I hate that stuff
@@searose6192 While I do think focusing on the positive & practicing gratitude are hugely helpful, being told "Your negative thoughts / the fact that you're upset about this is why nothing works out for you" is not going to lead to excessive happiness.
It’s fun to be watching this a year after you made it and hear you talking about hoping for 100k subscribers, now that you’ve flown past that goal. Good job manifesting all that success out of thin air! 😂
"I went looking for confirmation bias and I found it" syndrome
This feels like the " You must have done something wrong to get cancer as a young adult" argument but the other way around
Exactly!! Toxic af.
No that’s not how it works. The universe gives you whatever you need. If in a past life there was a situation that you have to fix before you’re able to leave earthskde that could be a reason . Y’all believe in your fairy tale Bible but not this lol
@@kadeelacayo4806 Who said that I believe in the bible? I believe in evidence-based science and not a book translated to whatever is needed at that point in time
@@kadeelacayo4806 This is toxic. The universe hasn’t given me a cure for my pain condition. So in a past life I must’ve done something wrong so it’s my fault? Sorry but fuck right off with that.
Ha! See, I consider myself a lucky girl because I've had so many near-death experiences and horrible things happen to me, but I'm *STILL ALIVE.* Any other mortal human would be 6 feet under by now.
I mean, I'm battered and damaged and I've got some organs that aren't mine and I'm missing a couple vertebrae and I'm covered in scars at 35, but I can still do most of the things I love and I'm otherwise remarkably healthy.
its a great stress reliever tbh especially during tough times ... its like when someone points out a yellow car even though there is only one car but you start seeing several ... its a great outlook.
A non-MLM video?! Girl, I love this for you!
Im here for it!!
Right!!!!!
I agree, i love hearing hannah’s takes on many things
I feel it doesn't matter what the subject is if Hannah is presenting it.
Well, it is not necessarily a non-MLM video.
In order to join an MLM you need to suspend your critical disbelief. You need to overrule logic, dismiss alternative explanations and simply hope.
This is why so many MLMs are working hard to convince you that sucess is down to mindset because without blind faith you won`t stick to what is blatantly a business model that doesn`t work for most.
“TikTok…is a cesspool for toxic trends of all kinds.” Someone said it. 👏🏻
TikToxic…
I mean all social media is pretty toxic. Instagram and reddit are just as worse as TikTok
It's twitter for illiterate people.
Hmm i disagree. If you know how to use them, IG and Reddit are far less problematic in my opinion...@@stephanychocolate6227
@stephanychocolate6227 but tiktok is by far the worst. There's still terrible stuff on there with terrible people, and nothing is done about it since it's mainly operated by ai at this point
I don’t think I’ve ever met someone with my exact beliefs on this subject as a whole and what I feel is real/Imagined. Nice to meet you, Hannah.
I am the luckiest woman, but it all was because of hard work, failing, and trying again, and never stop loving my friends and family who help me day in and out!
Based on experience, I’d say that one danger of telling yourself that you’re lucky or in a lucky streak is that it primes you to leap at “opportunities” or potential romantic partners who seem to pop up movie style, looking shiny and new. Maybe the job or the person is as free of flaws as you want to think and maybe not, but feeling lucky should not make you skip the critical thinking and investigation.
Had to stop the video to come here and say: you made it! A year ago you were excited and thinking about the possibility of reaching 100k subs and now you have 482k and amounting! That’s awesome! Proud of you and love your videos!
I like that in all of your video you ask the logical question and also reveal truth. It's a service I appreciate.
I love how that $300+ check had to be cut and mailed days before she received it, but she credits her wishful thinking for its existence. Girl! It was already in the mail!
And she got interest! Yea that didn't happen.
If she'd stopped before adding "they even gave me money for how long it took" I would have believed it but ain't no way anyone is paying you extra because they're THAT sorry.
or she was lying
@@masteringfibromyalgiaa genuine possibility
She's straight up lying. It's only missing something like "and then the CEO of the bank showed up, announced that I'm a queen of the world now and I'm able to prosecute the scammer and then everybody clapped"
Honestly, I love hearing your perspective on things and you always thoroughly research and educate yourself about whatever topic you're speaking on. By all means, I would adore more commentary type video such as this as long as you're comfortable and interested in making it
This means a lot to me, thank you for your support!!
i agree!
I'm sick of hearing people get complained about but thank you for talking about this.
To be honest with you, I really believe that the mindset can change a lot of things in your life. I used to have social anxiety, and then I met someone who never judged others and he himself was not scared to be judged. And I said to myself, if he can do it, then why can't I? And then my whole self-confidence got a boost, and my anxiety decreased to almost 0. I was much more open with others, starting conversations with people I was not close with, never had awkward moments, and I had a whole new mindset of: I can do this.
I'm not saying that the lucky girl syndrome is correct, because of course you need to be in control of what is happening to you, but I do believe that a strong and positive mindset can change your life for the better. Mostly because the same things happen to you, but you just view them differently and in a more positive way. And that's what matters
The trend seems to be very naive. Their "luck" is either a common sense or coinsidence. It's all also connected to a privilege to be more "lucky" than others. The noodle video was hard to watch because of eating and talking over each other.
Dummies
I love your point about how there is a certain privilege to this lucky girl mindset, because there are many people in disadvantaged situations who can’t just wish themselves out of it and it’s so harmful to have people telling them “oh, just wish it better!” 🙄
@@JaimeLeighArt Yeah, I feel like it's really telling that the people I've seen going on about "lucky girl syndrome" tend to be young, thin, and conventionally pretty. Yeah, of course things probably tend to work out okay for them. People tend to be nicer to you if you fall into those categories, cause, y'know, ageism and fatphobia are things. It is literally privilege.
They triggered my misophonia so bad! Either talk, or eat, but don't shove a load of noodles in your gob and then try to talk.
@@Acquilla7 totally agree!
There is a fraction of truth in "lucky girl syndrome". A positiv outlook and mindset will grant you more opportunities than a pessimistic outlook and mindset, granted equal amounts of work.
It's pretty simple, no one wants to be around someone always complaining about every tiny annoyance, I definitely wouldn't.
I would bet money that the “clothing company” the first girl talked about is an MLM.
Lol! My thought was that she mentioned $10K in sales. Cool. And what is your PROFIT? Because if you're not factoring in operating costs and taxes, that number is going to sound way higher than it actually is.
Ether that or just a Redbubble account or similar.
I'm guessing dropshipping bs actually
💯. I immediately didn’t believe her that she actually has companies 😂. There’s no way.
I feel bad for all my fellow OCD sufferers who fall into this thought trap. I literally JUST talked to my OCD therapist last week about how toxic this idea on social media can be especially for anxiety and OCD sufferers. It definitely was for me.
I have OCD and agree. I feel so guilty because the last year I put in practice this trend and others like subliminals for manifesting/LAO all that kind of stuff, the results was a high increment of anxiety and depression with horrible thoughts. This type of practice it's not for me and I feel bad for believe in that.
I was thinking while watching that this “lucky girl” mindset lends well to magical thinking
Yup, as a person with OCD my "manifestation" era (4+ years ago at this point) was very stressful and painful. It got real crazy when I caught myself thinking I was literally keeping my loved ones alive by "protecting" them with my thoughts
Ocd girl here. I hear you ❤
It’s like words of affirmations and then concentrating on the things that are good in your life.
"Good luck" is a mindset. If you're in a car accident, you're either A: lucky you weren't hurt or B: unlucky the accident happened; for example
It started out as more of a count your blessings movement. At the end of each day looking back and saying out loud , " this thing happened today I am so lucky" like I got a free coffee or whatever
My husband & I are gonna start saying we are so lucky, everything works out for us consistently for a few weeks. I'll let you guys know if his cancer or paralysis disappears 😂😂😂
I hope he gets better.
@jdelacruz1058 thank you!!! Oddly enough, we learned his Leukemia is in remission yesterday!!! Still in the wheelchair though. Lol
@@paigeharms1991That’s such great news!!!
@Alaeryn thank you!!! Hopefully this time it will last!!!
Keep a brotha posted 😂
This kind of gives "I prayed that God would allow me to find a parking spot at the mall and one opened up, but he didn't help that kid who was praying to stop being abused"
Which is totally nonsense as the Bible says that bad things can happen to us ALL. Prayer for such personal things and benefits doesn’t work as they don’t align with Gods purpose. I know this from Bible study 😂😅
God is not Santa.
He does both
And people who pray think is is totally different lol. I just can't... 😂
Praying doesn't work that way
I have worked on changing my mind frame But I AM doing the WORK SO the universe can allow me to ACHIEVE the things I see for myself, NOT being"Lucky" but working hard and staying positive
The idea of manifestation ended up sending me spiralling from OCD recently! While homeless, I got really fixated on this idea that if I was too hopeful about something I’d lose out and be really disappointed, but if I wasn’t hopeful enough I’d be manifesting bad energy and lose out because of that - it was an absolutely horrific spiral and triggered by a friend who posts a lot of this positive mindset manifestation stuff
I'm so sorry to hear that, sometimes we tell ourselves that it's all our fault because at least that's better than not being in control at all.
I hope you're doing better! ❤
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you" (1. Peter 5:7)✝🤍
Seeing this a year later and you’re talking about working so hard to reach 100K subscribers - and here you are zeroing in on 500K! You deserve all the success!
19:48 how did this girl who said she was sick of struggling financially suddenly afford her dream apartment, open a clothing store, and have the funds to start traveling???
😅 you described me
I think by believing you're inherently lucky you overcome the fear of trying new things, like starting your own business, because according to your new belief there are no risks, and if you try there's a chance you will succeed. and that's probably the only way this might have worked for her and for everyone who believes in this.
Also she sells those ideas.
you're more likely fail by believing risks don't exist than someone who takes measures to avoid the same risks
@@ayahlinMight depend in your starting point. An overthinker with no trust in themselves may need that leap of faith to actually start doing and not losing faith if failing.
She’s a content creator
I’m all for a mantra and this is one I’ve loved saying this year. It helps me reframe my thought pattern. However, I don’t think that just repeating a sentence is going to make things happen for you. For me, it’s just a way of reminding myself that no matter what, everything is always working out for me exactly how it’s supposed to.
Precisely. It’s a believing you deserve xyz and you’ll work for it. If you don’t believe you deserve it or it will be too hard, but still try with a negative thought pattern, you may feel stuck.
Me too. I struggled for a long time with negative thought patterns and sometimes believing I deserve something is just a little out of reach. Adopting this mindset lets me start out my day or activity with the attitude that, by chance and without me having to be anxious about it, I'll have a good time. I can recognize that experience, education, work, and resources still go into achieving my goals while still living my life in a way that lifts my spirits without trying. Sometimes actively trying is too much for me that day! Of course it has the possibility of becoming toxic if taken too far, but so does literally everything else.
@@jennamagdalena6608 100% I relate. Keep thinking positive thoughts, because you do deserve a good life. And those positive thoughts make inspired action a little easier ❤️
Hi there, I've been binge watching your videos lately. I've discovered your channels a few days ago and I have subscribed. Just wanted to tell you that you are doing an amazing work. Also, you are super well enunciated, so it's a big plus for non native English speakers like me. Best!
Thank you for this dose of sanity, Hannah! The flip side of Lucky Girl Syndrome is that if you are unlucky, you just didn't want good things hard enough. If someone gets laid off, develops a serious illness, or has any other misfortune, is that their fault? Lucky Girl Syndrome is based on the idea that our desires control the universe. It's not only ridiculous, but insulting to suggest to someone who is struggling that all they need to do is be positive-- or buy someone's course-- in order to fix their real problems.
Exactly this!
Yes, it's blaming the victim.
I remember people who told me after I had lost several pregnancies that, "well, manifestation is real so you just need to think more positively next time!" So toxic and SO cruel.
@@jillk4461 what an awful thing to tell you!
I never realized people were actually taking this seriously. As someone who struggles with anxiety, my personal take away was always “hey, I’ve done all that I can with this situation and I can’t let myself fixate and worry about it anymore, it’s out of my hands.” Which is more of a therapeutic technique I’ve been using for years to help my anxiety.
Agreed. I use similar mantas for positive reframing of what already exists in my life. Hopefully that’s what most people use this for.
It feels like the mirror image of 'i got everything through hard work, no luck or privilege or anything whatsoever'.
imo most successful people are somewhere in the middle: some hard work ~and~ some good luck.
The dopamine rush I get with a new Hannah video 🥰 Also, I "lucky girled" this video into existence... or maybe this is your routine video release schedule 😆😉
I don't hate this trend at its core. I used to study psychology so I have a smudge of knowledge on this topic. This way of thinking could reframe one's experiences and seems to be the antithesis of the "only bad things happen to me"-mindset, which is linked to learned helplessness and depression. As one of the girls mentioned: she used to believe that she wouldn't manage certain tasks (aka "jinx it") and that seemed to impact her motivation poorly. Thinking "hey, I *am* lucky and this *will* work" could help your motivation and reduce stress. The lucky girl syndrome sehr adjacent to positive psychology, which has many wonderful qualities.
However, just like positive psychology, there can be some downsides. From what I learned at uni, the ideal way of thinking would be positive and believing one is in control - as Hannah says, you can't just sit back and do nothing. People without credentials selling courses/books/etc. on mental health will also always be a big red flag.
But all in all, believing that good things will happen to you and treating the world and yourself accordingly (aka with kindness and enthusiasm) seems nice and a good break from hustle culture
Thank you, Hanna, for the quality of your service. I seldom consume social media content, usually only tube videos (generally documentaries, some old Italian 50’s films and entertaining stuff) but you’ve got me twined with this socio/anthropological study of yours. The lucidity of your thoughts and criticism, the choice of the contents and your analysis is very helpful to understand what’s going on out there in this mad world. Also, your propriety of language is pretty stimulating into learning more and dive into English language. Keep up the good work! I have the feeling we are surrounded by people who has too much time and too less consistency and you are quite opposite for what I can see. Thanks again. All the best.
Silvia
P.S.: greetings from the Alps!
At my last job I woke up one day and immediately was engrossed in a feeling of dread that the day was not going to be a good one. When I got to work it was just that, so much happened and it was terrible. I was telling a coworker how I had a strong feeling the day wasn’t going to be good and she told me that I manifested the toxicity 🙄
More like you felt it coming 😂👌🏻
😂
Or the toxicity finally got to you.
That is more likely, in my opinion at least
It feels like this could be a good thing for mental health if you flipped things around and had the affirmation AFTER the good thing, instead of trying to have it BEFORE. If you're someone who experiences depression or mood issues, then it can be really good to consciously recognise when good things happen to you - to stop and acknowledge them and reflect on them. So if you had a positive affirmation that you say to yourself after you experience good things (even if they are as mundane as the noodle place being open) it can help keep you from obsessing over everything that ever goes wrong in your life. The problem is trying to imply causality and suggesting that saying these magic phrases will MAKE the good stuff happen.
For sure! My therapist recommended that after something good happens, it’s nice to remind yourself that you put in the effort to help the good thing along.
Totally agree
Exactly! Like affirmations aren't magic spells they're mindsets
Anything can become negative if critical thinking is not applied to it. Affirmations are about saying the things you want out loud until they become true, and a lot of hard work goes into both saying those things out loud and working hard to make them happen. Every person who's looked in the mirror and told themselves they're beautiful, for even a week will tell you that these things make a real difference. When I'm down and something good happens, even like finding a good parking spot, I tell myself I'm the luckiest girl in the whole world and it honestly changed how I approach every single aspect of my life. Sometimes I get lucky, but saying these things to myself has taught me to see a lot of things in my life as new opportunities and now I make my own luck. And it's taken a really long while and a lot of hard work to get here. Words just help and they're free!
I started doing something “similar” to this because I had seen some manifest videos, but i literally just thought it was changing your mindset to look for the good in life instead of the bad all the time. So whenever I started getting angry or upset about things I start going through a list of things I’m thankful for in my life and why I’m so blessed and lucky.
I just got a new job. I was under qualified but applied anyway, not because I'm "so lucky and get what I want", it was closer to "well I have nothing to lose and they won't call me anyway." But I worked hard on my interview, and I've worked hard in school to get to where I am so even though right now I don't have the qualifications, I will. This isn't me being lucky, it's work paying off.
Your reaction to these videos on TT is hilarious. You're calling them out but in the most polite, logical way and I love that. "She's not just sitting Criss Cross Apple Sauce in the middle of a room manifesting....." HAHAHA
There's just a good feeling that comes with positive affirmations. There's no harm in this practice. In fact, if you continue to work and do the hard part, then when the results are evident, you can say good stuff happens. I don't think you replace the work you do with the affirmations, you use them both to remain positive.
My favorite podcaster talks about this. She would be considered to be in the manifestation world. I love her because she talks about manifestation is nothing if you don’t take actual action steps. The universe (or whoever you believe in) is a co creator with you. You have to work together. Affirmations also help me when I am feeling down and unworthy.
What's the podcast called?
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11❣✝
Exactly. That's one of the most important markers of a decent teacher - they don't tell you that there won't be challenges and that you can forever be idle. You still have to do things, but with a different mindset
I haven't finished the video yet but I want to put my two cents in anyways. "Everything works out in the end" is my mantra too because, in my life, that's how it goes. That does not mean I don't work for what I have and want; I do and it's hard but worth it. It's more of a reassurance for the difficult times: everything might not be okay right now, but if I keep working and going towards what I want, I'll get there. I'm not lucky but everything works out in the end because I work my ass off for it. Saying it just reminds me of how much things have changed for the better and how much they will in the future.
This
Watch the video
This exactly
As someone who believes in, and is struggling with, positive affirmations, this was well thought out and explained. Thank you. Also, you mention your goal of 100k followers in the video. 1 year later and now at 436k. Congrats on quadrupling + your goal... you lucky girl.
My apartment has been declared uninhabitable six months ago and i am so closed to being kicked out living on the street. I search for a new apartment for four hours every day ( i have a full time job and do a PhD on the side), make plenty of phone calls in a language i don't really speak. Every day i am like "okay, today's the day". But no. I get more desperate and stressed every day and everything just seems to get worse (like my aunt and father dying within a month). So what is this syndrome called and why don't i deserve the "lucky syndrome"?
I struggle with my mental health regularly, so I have adopted the practice of mindfulness and gratitude. It can be very helpful, but Lucky Girl Syndrome sounds like a path to ignoring your feelings, denying reality, and avoiding action. Acceptance of experiences and emotions and taking action is a huge piece that's missing. You need to put effort into what you want.
This reminds me of when Harry wins the Liquid Luck elixir in Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince! In the movie Harry pretends to pour the liquid luck into Rons drink the morning of a very important Quidditch match, to calm his nerves and make him believe that he is now magically lucky, and will manage anything he puts his mind to. And Ron kills at the match and they win.
While lucky-girl syndrome may have some percieved effects, i think this is mainly from making them stop second guessing themselves, lowering anxiety and stress and just giving them the confidence that they may have lacked. HOWEVER.. how sad is it to attribute all that to some mysterious magnetizing frequency instead of what it actually is: themselves taking action and utilizing whatever skills and ability they themselves have!
Ron played that match all by himself, and the resourceful, intelligent women in this video made changes all on their own.
I find it incredibly disempowering to place the results of hard work, determination and general personal skill onto some fleeting idea of «liquid luck».
Reminds me of a former friend of my mother, struggling single mom. My mom would say- let’s put together an interview outfit, look at your resume and go through the job ads. Nope- she just wanted to manifest a job from thin air, that someone was just going to knock on her door and offer her her dream job(or money would just magically fall from the sky). It was so frustrating. Her situation never got better.
love your videos! ❤
i’m surprised that none of the videos you showed claimed that lucky girl syndrome can heal cancer or other diseases. because i have read that about the law of attraction and it is SO dangerous
This would work for me-not because the universe would “gift” me things, but because it would make me more likely to take risks. That’s it. That’s the secret. You put yourself into a mindset to take risks because you believe you’re lucky.
Pay me now, thanks. ❤
There are a few realities at play that are totally separate from luck but are a real result of mindset and emotions. If someone is more positive and more confident, they do tend to get more opportunities. They may get promoted at work, or get a date, etc because positive and negative emotion affect the way we act and speak. Ultimately, the way we act and speak affects how those around us interact with us. Pure cause and effect, not luck.
I'm glad to see you do a video on this. As someone recovering from evangelical religious trauma and having adopted some pagan ideals all the way back in 2009. With the surge recently of witchy and pagan stuff I was excited that I might find some more resources and contacts and "my people." So, a couple of years ago I started looking on twitter and ... it was honestly the same type of stuff as I was raised with in my parent's religion. A lot of prosperity gospel and this, say what you want and it will come to you. I haven't finished your video yet, so I don't know if you say this but the worst part for me is:
IF IT DOESN'T WORK FOR YOU, IT IS YOUR FAULT.
This is the same thing the church taught me with praying. I was taught to ask god "in Jesus's name" and you'll get it. But if you don't it is because either A) god decided you weren't ready or worthy, or B) the devil is stopping you and it is because either you let him in by doing something wrong, or it is what you need to do in life and you need to work harder and ask harder to get it. Either way it all comes down to, if you get what you want it is because you are good enough in god's eyes. That is the same thing here. If you didn't get it, you didn't affirm right and you have some sort of negativity that is blocking you from it. It is all rooted in the same ideals, especially putting it onto girls and women, that if you have any negativity in your life be it emotional or otherwise, you will not get what you want.
This is a long comment, sorry to anyone who reads it.
Yessss!!!! This! I grew up with a strong Muslim influence and was always told to have faith and that not doing so meant I didn't believe enough or properly and that it was an insult to God's power and love etc. This is reminding me of that but they just removed God from the equation basically. Same energy though.
@@TheYazmanian exactly! Its just a secular version of the same grift. Especially, in Christian evangelism prosperity gospel. They taught us if we wanted to have a big financial boon we had to donate to the church or tithe on a regular basis and proclaim "money cometh" and we would get rich. My parents who were scraping by were giving 15% of their income to multi millionaires in the hopes of getting rich.
Exactly, it’s a way to explain away why something good doesn’t happen when you manifest/pray for something and it doesn’t happen. It’s the whole ‘it can’t possibly be the system/god it must be you, it’s your fault that it didn’t happen’ so toxic and victim blaming.
I’m so glad you posted this, it was not too long. As someone who spent years (like since I found the LOA in 2015), thinking it was MY FAULT, I developed a very pessimistic, “I’m doomed to never get what I want” mindset. Hannah’s video and reading about your experience have finally helped me realize the fallacy of this attitude, and release some of the shame I’ve had for years. ❤
I hate the way she uses the word delusional.. like actually being delusional isn’t fun?? It sucks and even if its a “fun” delusion you eventually have to learn it was never real and its heartbreaking
Mindset does work - in that it helps to do the things that cause change. If ones inner monologue is "It doesn't matter what I do, nothing works out", you don't bother looking for that new job, new apartment or put the effort into tik tok. Telling yourself that you will succeed (essentially what this is) puts someone in the mindset that they are willing to try.
So no, it isn't as simple as "you will magically get what you want if you have lucky girl syndrome" but it can change your mindset so you attempt the things you want and one is certianly more likely too get what they want if they try.
This is fairly well known. Sure, they're explaining it very badly and in a way I would say is not helpful (especially the first 2 girls) but ignoring the place of mindset in success is foolish.
Manifesting is dumb but mindset has a huge place in many peoples success.
As someone who was DEEP in an MLM for 5 years, they love to push this “lucky girl, manifestation woowoo” crap. Although I believe that having a healthy and positive mindset can be beneficial, falling into this type of “lucky girl syndrome” territory can lead to so many negative effects. I’ve seen first hand this toxic positivity lead to the belief that I wasn’t good or “lucky” enough to succeed despite all my hard work in an MLM. Thank you for touching on this subject Hannah!
It's great that you got out and can now recognize the signs.
My now ex believed he should get whatever he wanted. If he didn't, for example being a big time sales person in real estate, he blamed me as not being positive. It abrogates personal responsibility.
I saw this a couple months back and I kind of interpreted and utilized it on a different way. The positive self-talk definitely made me feel good which gives me boost to work on the things I need to work on. I didn't think that things will magically happen, it's the same as manifesting when you try to ground yourself when you were having the panic attacks. But for me, it was more of a starting point to act on the things I should be doing to get what I want.
Never will I ever think that saying and imagining things will give me the results that I want and it will be an insult to attribute my success to me just saying things. It's always a variety of factors, it's just sad that it's being oversimplified.
There are tons of people like this in Hawaii. I have always wondered why they think they can just float through life like a feather in the wind, no responsibility, & actually get anywhere. And they think they do. I mean, they're living in paradise, they're surviving. However, it always seems like mommy and daddy send them money quite often for a 35 year old.
First time commenting in a while but I truly agree with you. Hustle culture and the overwhelming world of TIK TOK was why I had to delete it. Although yeah I don't get a lot of jokes or whatever going around in college, it is such an overwhelming platform and like you said, definitely worrying and a treadmill. Great video. 😊
I’m a year late (just discovered your page), but i totally agree with everything you mentioned. I do think that your mindset can make a slight difference in the way you experience certain things, but I also cant stop thinking about if we can really manifest certain things, it kind of also means that we attract the ‘bad’ things (illnesses for example) and that things that are completely beyond our reach are now our own fault. It feels like a very privileged way of thinking.
I can’t be a “lucky girl”… because I’m a grown ass woman. I find women calling themselves “girls” really gross. “Girl dinner” “lucky girl” “girl boss” gross 🤮
Can we PLEASE stop infantilizing ourselves?
so true. I´m "only" 27, but I don´t get that "girly" terminology either. I am a woman, I have a job, a family of my own and responsibilities. A girl has none of these things.
100% I have never gotten, on a mature adult level, why any woman would want to be called a girl or chick. Though herd followers and attention seekers tend to allow a lot of things I don't find acceptable. Though, that is one of the main ways I can tell how much of a real man (emotionally mature adult and actually respects women) a male is or is not, just by if they use girl or chick, and if so often.
I hate the term "ladies" too. It implies a way women are supposed to behave. Every email I get that starts with "hello ladies" I just want to delete instantly. I'm a woman.
This is how I feel towards those "I'm just a girl" videos
@@francoiselafferty-hancock5112 as someone who uses ladies in a desperate attempt to override my super informal habit of saying "ya'll" pls give em grace they're probably only doing what was drilled in their heads as being more acceptable
Anyone got any alternatives? Hey women or hi women just doesn't sound right and good morning females is even worse
To be honest, this is exactly how I feel when I hear people thanking god for the good things that happen in life. Maybe it could be, but there is no objective proof, and the more likely reason is because of people’s hard work or focus on the things they want in life. Lucky girl syndrome doesn’t account for the bad things that happen, and similarly, believers usually don’t hold god accountable for the bad things that happen either. Maybe a controversial view, but they kinda feel the same to me in that respect.
God's creations do not have the right to "hold him accountable " for anything, we answer to him, He doesn't answer to us.
As a Christian, we thank God for the good times and trust him through the hard times. Yes, he is in control in both situations, and no, following Christ does not mean you will never go through difficult things.
Just wanted to give my point of view
As a certified therapist, in my opinion Lucky Girl Syndrome will not address the underlying issues that people have. Tying your self-worth and confidence to ONLY manifestation can lead to disappointing and even harmful experiences.
Improving your mental health steadily (with a variety of methods so that if a method fails you, then you can adjust) is healthier imo. You have to make a plan to achieve your goals, you have to do SOMETHING in order to create a reaction. This reeks of “I’m not like other girls and am above working for the good things in my life because I just believe in myself.”
I came back to this video and noticed when you were saying "If I hit 100k subs am I a lucky girl?" You have almost 600k now, just ONE year later. You earned this!!! 🎉
As someone who is chronically ill, disabled, and autistic but didn't realize it until my adult years, this really hit hard because I can't imagine how burnt-out these poor girls must be trying to manifest good things for themselves. I unfortunately have kind of a pessimistic view because life has been so unfair to me and I don't really have any control over so many outside circumstances that make my life miserable. It's just so sad to see these poor women hoping and wishing that just having a positive attitude will make their lives better because they don't actually have control
same plus abusive family/teachers as a child and am transsexual. the first life lesson i learned as a kid is that "never expect anyone to do anything short of horrible abuse to you; life is a curse; nobody will ever understand you; expect to die tomorrow; it will only get worse from here"
actually that exact realisation at age 4 or whatever is exactly why I am still alive. I expect absolutely nothing. every day i don't die from my still-undiagnosed illnesses feels like a lottery win. now that i have medically transitioned and my QOL has gone from 0/10 to 1/10, I feel like I am in heaven. I have never known better. the mere concept that something better is even possible is incredible to me.
@@reidleblanc3140 wishing you a steadily rising number! Congrats on your transition 🏳️⚧️
But they do have control over one thing and that is their attitude and that’s the point. If you have clean water, a roof over your head, electricity, than you are already better off than some people in this world and that shouldn’t be taken for granted. They are appreciative of everything they have and that *does* make life better.
As someone who is chronically ill, you're underestimating the impact mindset has on you.
As you said, these are affirmations for people who tend to anxiety, worst-case scenarios, etc. to counteract the opposite talk from their inner critic. There is also something called pronoia, the "irrational conviction that everything in the universe conspires in your favor", which is more of an outlook on life which you decide to take, knowing very well that crap happens. ❤ No affirmation can change systemic racism, systemic inequality, lack of privilege or real world consequenses.
The thing is, we live in a social stew. The woo woo bits about magnetism and “energy” can be dismissed as nonsense, but the fact that changing your mindset has social effect, including ones that benefit you and clear the path towards what you want to accomplish….that is observably true….and not because of woo woo stuff, but because we are social creatures and the people we interact with respond to the social signals we send out. If those signals are “I’m a sad disaster just waiting to fail again” people tend to not pull you into their fold, if you signals are “I’m s cheerful optimist looking for my next opportunity” people tend to gravitate towards you and want to help you succeed. That goes for jobs, apartments, dating, etc.
So, what happens when a "lucky girl" ends up in the wrong place at the wrong time and something terrible happens?? Did she "manifest" that terrible thing? This kind of thinking is so unbelievably toxic.
I feel from my prospective as a young girl who was following the trend , this is just a way to feel more confirmation bias forwards things going your way. The more you say, the more you notice/ appreciate things going your way. I’m saying this as a college student w two jobs, who definitely falls victim
to grind culture
It’s been relatively recently that I learned the term “Toxic Positivity”. I think of it a bit like water toxicity in that Positive thinking can be important and useful, but if you overuse it, it will make you “sick.” Positive thinking can help us be willing to try something new or hard, but too much of it can cause us to ignore red-flags or prevent us from proactive behavior.
It’s called self confirmation bias, and looking for the good. Gratitude is awesome but “lucky girl syndrome” is toxic.
I have mixed feelings about this. One thing I've noticed with this trend is that it seems to feature almost exclusively white, conventionally attractive, (presumably) financially privileged women. Like, the fact that things work out for you isn't because you're lucky, it's because you have the privilege of a strong support network and financial stability without needing to worry about working too hard to achieve what you desire. However, I do think the underlying message has some validity. Sometimes it's good to relinquish control and trust that things will work out the way you hope. Often anxiety and worry does not serve us, and I don't think that message is toxic. I don't find that message toxic at all.
If you have read the book "power of your subconscious mind" , it is very interesting... but labeling it lucky girl syndrome is just 🤮🤮🤮
I’d love to see you do more commentary content! And this goes along with the mindset they preach in MLMs so they definitely go together!
100% agree with you, they do go hand in hand.
As a Christian this reminds me of prosperity gospel, which basically teaches that if you believe in God, you will have a happy and prosperous life. There is a lot of focus on monetary gain. It's prominent in American Christianity, but I wouldn't say mainstream. I could go on for a while about why I don't like it!
Haven’t watched yet I’m just beginning. I follow a creator named Allie that talks about spiritual psychosis and how dangerous this “lucky girl syndrome” can be. She also mentions how starving kids in the world don’t choose to be starving so how can you just Will your life better. You can’t
100% correct.