I very much applaud you for getting out of the Amish life young. I would expect there's a lot of simmering anger among the women, given the way their opinions and wisdom count for little. In some ways your description of growing up mirrors what I experienced in my non-Amish household--children were to be seen and not heard; my parents made me feel invisible, useless and worthless throughout my years with them. Anyway, long story short--when I left home the impact from how I was treated as a child was deep and I'm still shaking it off decades later. It plunged me into a depression that included multiple suicide attempts, and required more than a decade of therapy so far. I'm finally coming out from under I think. All the best to you.
Hi Emily my name is John Stoltzfus I am from Lancaster County, now I live In Ga. With my daughter after 74 years in Lanc. very glad to hear the truth about the Amish ,This is the first that I found you . Keep up the good work. Thank you John!!!!
19:05 What a scary way is this to confront a young Lady like that???? Unbelievable. When I watched this video you got 3.4k Subscribers and this video was watched by more than 10k people! And none of them was forced or argued in to do so. We all watched it because we loved to hear what you got to say. Marketing works totally different these days and social media and especially TH-cam has changed so much. You can no longer live after standards who were current in 1795... Your parents should have all reasons to be proud of you... I am so happy to be born at that place I was born. I always asked questions and I use the internet to find answers. And - thank you a lot for providing me the chance to watch behind the stage of a live you went through.
I literally just found your TH-cam channel last night and I watched every video! You are incredibly strong and courageous. As you said in one of your answers, you did learn to have a strong work ethic. I was happy to hear you say that, because I had the same thought as I was watching each video and I wondered if you would see it that way. I don’t think you would have made it to where you are if not for that fact! I find it interesting that one of the concepts of the community you were raised in is one of the reasons for your success! I was raised Southern Baptist and I felt that if I was having fun, I was probably committing a sin. I realize now that It wasn’t the religion or culture that created that feeling in me, it was my family. Because I was fortunate in that the church I was raised in taught that God loves us and is forgiving of our sins (playing cards, dancing, etc.), if we ask.
I am real estate developer. When she says that men make all the rules I had a different experience. I worked with an Amish contractor for thirty years and we became close friends. I went to his families weddings and attended many funerals. We had meals together and even vacationed together once. He talked in a very loving way about his wife and I remember him telling me "I run the farm and business but Fannie runs the house. Many times I saw him defer to his wife when she disagreed with the way he wanted to do something in regards to the children or their home. He showed a very high level of respect for her opinion. She past of cancer a few years ago and I watched as her passing took a great toll on him. A few months after her death he called me and said "I noticed you had taken pictures from time to time. I would appreciate very much if you could send me any of Fannie" I was clear he loved her very much.
You will not see what goes behind close doors if you don't live in the community. 1. Why is it that the men get to choose what they do but the women don't? 2. Regardless of how much you think you know what goes on inside of the community it's not always the way it seems.
I'm proud of you, so few people have the strength and courage to take control of their lives. You're such an inspiration and such an amazing message encouraging others to take the steps to better their lives with such positivity. So even though I'm just some random Aussie girl on the other side of the world, I'm so proud to see what you've achieved purely with your own strength and courage. Love your videos
Thanks for doing this video. I've recently taken an interest in the Amish culture. I've finished watching a documentary series called "Breaking the Silence" where the host, a former Amishman, goes behind the scenes into their culture and that there is so much fear to do as the church wants. It was very eye-opening. It was great to hear your story about leaving the Amish and this Q&A session. It seems like there are some great aspects of the culture, but there are many not-very-good parts of it.
This was a very fun and informative video. Finally someone who has confirmed that most of those television shows about The Amish are not even true. lol Thank you.
Hi, Emily, thank you for sharing! KIND of weird, that we only get a picture of the Amish and other cults from people who left and who are of course kind of bitter. It’s all based on fears. They make god very small, believing that he’s so intolerante and petty. We all want to belong to others, so we tend to compromise as long as we can stand it. So hard for you to first come 'from the rain into the eaves' (vom Regen in die Traufe kommen-as we say in Germany). I’m glad you can wear dresses again😉👗… Love from Germany, Monika❣️
@@EmilyAdams_ I fear for the women in Afghanistan .The Taliban is an example of a medieval extremist cult that takes fundamentalist to the nth degree. They rule by terror and the women are nothing more than chattel .Obviously the Amish are not extremists like the Taliban but there are some similarities. Especially in education and rules for women .If you leave the Amish culture they might shun you but the Taliban will brutally kill you. Sometimes I think that religion is the scourge of mankind.
@@EmilyAdams_ As a freshman in university 15 years ago I had a math professor that was a PHD and chair of the dept. I later learned that her son was also a freshman in computer science .I learned she had grown up Amish in Pennsylvania and had left the Amish culture .When I was working on my masters degree I met her husband. I guess leaving her family (Amish) had made her a very bitter woman and she became quite an alcoholic. I can't imagine being shunned and never seeing her parents and siblings again. This university was in nova scotia canada ,where I live.
You are absolutely a beautiful and brave person with an amazing smile. There is nothing but happiness coming from you,, I am so glad you got out and you are living your life the way you choose to…. ❤️❤️❤️
This is well elaborated, very interesting I had zero clue about it. As much as you talked about why it got into your nerves and you left, you didn't forget the good life skills your parents tought you that came in handy. Sadly the controlling and dominance from the people isn't pleasing as also most religions practice it today. Glad I learned something new and in depth ☺️🙂
New viewer here. Looking to introduce an ex-Amish character to my stories. As a writer I like to see representation for every culture. Glad I found you
thank u for being trustful I don't have any questions but my 1 uncle marriage aunt. the Amish did live pretty close to the area that I grew up Berne,Indiana and Shipw ,Indiana that you for your information about video I hope that get your books tell the guys I know some Amishs. enjoy there them to. a Friend always
My father became Jehovas Witness a few years ago and they also do shunning as a form of punishment for sex outside marriage, divorce... For me it is the most unchristian thing to do. Did not Jesus visit the sinners, the outcasts…?
@@EmilyAdams_ I do! OK Amish men have beards when they get married, so everyone knows they are married - but what about women? How does everyone know if an Amish woman is married or taken/engaged?? If you know how i would like to know, thanks!!
@@gwainknight4907 good question. There is no way of knowing that. And you wouldn't know. Some communities require you to have beards when you become a member of the church too.
@@EmilyAdams_ Thanks, i guess they all will not wear rings then either, alright it seems a little strange they make guys have beards when joining the church too, thanks for the info!! Take it easy Emily.
This is very off topic, but after hearing your story, I think you’d greatly enjoy reading the Harry Potter books(skip the movies) because there’s a character who I think you’d relate to- Sirius Black.
Thanks for the Q and A. I would love to hear another one. My question would be how did you rebuild your relationship with your parents and what is that relationship like now? I heard you say on one of your videos you have a good relationship with them now. What do you mean by good? Thanks so much for all of your sharing.
If you don’t born in a Amish family you wouldn’t be this talented. You are like a plant seed growing on a rock. Not going to affect by any hurricane. Proud of you.
Hi Miss Emily, love the channel! I live just a few miles north of Kalona Iowa, a large Amish Colony. I have always been fascinated by the culture. My Ancestors were Dunkards, or Brethren, I'm wondering, is there any crossover with the two Communities? Did you ever have any contact with that culture? Anyways I'm so proud of you for following your instinct, and questioning authority. Your living up to who you were meant to be! Keep it up🤗
I know, you must be sick and tired by commenting me. But - you are such a wonderful young Lady! I do understand why they keep the education to a minimum. = less dangerous question. You are supposed to follow. Not to question things and even start thinking by yourself! If the Amish would be able to travel to those places, where their ancestors came from, they would get a heart attack... In some region the catholic church is quite strong in Germany. But there are also many people, who have left the church because of disatisfaction.
Hello! I have a question which may seem like a weird question but I was always curious. I do spend time around Amish and I go to auctions and things like that. Why do the younger Amish stair at me? We were always taught not to stair. Just curious!💛
Thank you so much for this. I don't understand what all of these "rules" have to do with our relationship to Jesus Christ???? Also, what do the Amish think of gay & lesbian relationships? Michele in Yokohama, Japan
Very interesting! Thanks for sharing and for responding. I'm curious when you left , what did you do for money and how did you get documents such as ID, birth certificate and social security number?
Hallo Emily! I just discovered your channel and find your story really interesting. I'm from Germany and I teach German to non-German adults. So naturally my questions to you are related to your languages. 😁 You said at home you spoke in a German dialect. Can you tell which one? And you told that in school you've learned High German. Can you speak some sentences in your German dialect and some in High German? I'm so curious how it sounds from your mouth!!!! 😅 You speak English very well, so my next question is: when did you learn it and how much English is spoken in your Amish community? Did you learn to write it in school? Liebe Grüße aus Norddeutschland. 😊
Thank you for engaging and sharing! I speak Pennsylvania Dutch German, I can't speak high German but can understand it. I did learn this in school. Amish speak primarily German.
Hi, You mentioned that you are no longer in corporate America, what is currently your job? Did you take classes to pass the GED test? What was your major at Purdue? Self love is something we all have to find on our own. One Love 💘 ❤ 😍
I do business coaching and consulting. Yes I had to take classes to pass my GED and my major was Business with Organizational Leadership and Supervision. Self Love is something that we have to find but at the same time we need to start educating those that don't understand.
@@EmilyAdams_ Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions!! You explained something to me and had no idea. When I go to the Dutch Farmers Market, the women (aged 15 to 20 maybe) never have a conservation with me. Mama Bear doesn't converse except for telling me the price. I used to think it was rude, your explanation has completely changed my opinion. ONE LOVE 💘 ❤ 😍
In some of your other videos you talk about how your family said if you leave or the way you were acting you could not be forgiven and go to he'll or be accepted back. I read in a few book that as long as you have not joined the church and been baptized then you can be forgiven and would not be shunned. What about Rumspring (sp) Can you address this please.
That's not necessarily true. Some Amish shun and put you in the ban either way. I address Rumspringa in this video if you watch the whole thing. 🙂 After watching the whole thing let me know if you have questions and I'll do another video over it.
Has anyone else in your family (siblings etc) leave the Amish community? In your experience would you say that most amish teens take part in Rumspringa?
They don't come see me but I do go see them. Our relationship is growing but at the same time we have a lot of differences so it's like we agree to disagree.
I used to feel that way but I was able to do a lot of inner work and healing where it got me out of the victim mentality and now I can see the bigger picture of things.
Guess how most Amish live, it would be like in the early 1800s Germany with them speaking German dialects, very very strange behaviour particularly how women and children are treated,
Found your channel very informative I have a question of do the Amish get to vote in like General government elections. And Also why do they not wear jewelry when they marry? And what is Rumspringa?
@@EmilyAdams_ So your house had a gas boiler that you manually lit and the heat went up through the radiators? If not you had fireplaces all over? I bet the living room had a big wood or cole stove.
@@EmilyAdams_ Wow how cool! There’s actual buildings and houses that have heated floors like that. Sorry for so many questions. There’s just so much I’m curious about.
Hi Emily, I'm just curious to know whether or not you were subjected to any kind of child abuse for you to have left the Amish culture. I came from a family of domestic violence and kicked out of home at 16, just because I signed myself out of High School and being told you should have been dropped down the s##thouse(long drop - out house) head first the minute I was born, has never left my memory. My life was probably the complete opposite of yours. Trying to make a life for myself in this world full of greed and no natural affection wasnt easy, let me tell you! 😢 I knows whose life I would have preferred. This world has gone to the pack! Oh, the old Love of money hey! It cant buy health, genuine friends, love and most of all a loving family. We all have a story to tell, some worse than others, but GOD is now living in my heart moreso than ever before. May GOD watch over you and your boys 🙏
I was not physically abused but there is a lot of abuse in the culture. I'm sorry to hear you had to experience that and I'm glad to hear you were able to get out of it!
Congratulations! I’m please; that you recd your GED & College Degree! To work in an Large Employer, at lease before the horrible Pandemic An GED is Req. I’m please that & you work long enough, invest instead of a College Loan Stay Safe, I hope you got your Vaccinated! You look well! Stay Safe! & Take Care of yourself & your Boy Friend (Husband)
@@EmilyAdams_ glad to hear it. Still I wonder how you handled it all. I am showing your story to my Girlfriend. How to get thru from hardship. Amazing 👏
Thank you for respon dr ing. You are a woman of strong will to have made it this far and you are thriving. I couldn't live like the Amish do. They hold their children and women back. Children need education. Just high school diploma gets them places. You are a woman with so much sense.
@@susangenry6497 thank you for engaging and watching! If any.of it resonates or you know someone that needs to hear the message please share it with them 🙂
You seemed to indicate from another video that you do see your sister? DId she never cut you off? ALso, you seemed to indicate that you do have a relationship with your parents now. Can you share how that came about...and do they realize now that their lack of being willing to listen to your feelings just made things worse between you?
They have never acknowledged that. My sister ended up leaving the Amish culture as well. My parents started having a relationship with us when there was grandkids involved.
@@EmilyAdams_ Have you ever explained to them how the whole thing made you feel? Have you been able to share your "past feelings" with them? Also, do they tell you they love you, and are they able to "accept" all that has happened?
@@PilgrimHymns I have voiced a few things and set certain boundaries with them. I tell them I love them and my mom tells me she loves me but that's still a work in progress.
@@EmilyAdams_ Thats good your mother ytells you she loves you. Im not amish or my family but my mother and father never told me that they loved me. Nor my brothers.
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I very much applaud you for getting out of the Amish life young. I would expect there's a lot of simmering anger among the women, given the way their opinions and wisdom count for little. In some ways your description of growing up mirrors what I experienced in my non-Amish household--children were to be seen and not heard; my parents made me feel invisible, useless and worthless throughout my years with them.
Anyway, long story short--when I left home the impact from how I was treated as a child was deep and I'm still shaking it off decades later. It plunged me into a depression that included multiple suicide attempts, and required more than a decade of therapy so far. I'm finally coming out from under I think.
All the best to you.
I am proud of you for going through therapy!!
What happened as a child?
Hi Emily my name is John Stoltzfus I am from Lancaster County, now I live In Ga. With my daughter after 74 years in Lanc. very glad to hear the truth about the Amish ,This is the first that I found you . Keep up the good work. Thank you John!!!!
Thank you for your kind words! If you have any questions feel free to send them to me and I will answer them for you.
19:05 What a scary way is this to confront a young Lady like that???? Unbelievable.
When I watched this video you got 3.4k Subscribers and this video was watched by more than 10k people! And none of them was forced or argued in to do so. We all watched it because we loved to hear what you got to say.
Marketing works totally different these days and social media and especially TH-cam has changed so much. You can no longer live after standards who were current in 1795...
Your parents should have all reasons to be proud of you...
I am so happy to be born at that place I was born. I always asked questions and I use the internet to find answers. And - thank you a lot for providing me the chance to watch behind the stage of a live you went through.
Your welcome...glad it resonates with you.
I literally just found your TH-cam channel last night and I watched every video! You are incredibly strong and courageous. As you said in one of your answers, you did learn to have a strong work ethic. I was happy to hear you say that, because I had the same thought as I was watching each video and I wondered if you would see it that way. I don’t think you would have made it to where you are if not for that fact! I find it interesting that one of the concepts of the community you were raised in is one of the reasons for your success! I was raised Southern Baptist and I felt that if I was having fun, I was probably committing a sin. I realize now that It wasn’t the religion or culture that created that feeling in me, it was my family. Because I was fortunate in that the church I was raised in taught that God loves us and is forgiving of our sins (playing cards, dancing, etc.), if we ask.
I hope you have found freedom 💞
I don't know how the algorithm picked you up but this is awesome. I love studying psychology and cultures
Your meant to watch it I guess 🙂
Thank you so much for all the answers. I am a avid reader of Amish novels.
Your welcome! If you have any other questions feel free to let me know.
I'm learning about the Amish. Can you recommend any good books to read?
I am real estate developer. When she says that men make all the rules I had a different experience. I worked with an Amish contractor for thirty years and we became close friends. I went to his families weddings and attended many funerals. We had meals together and even vacationed together once. He talked in a very loving way about his wife and I remember him telling me "I run the farm and business but Fannie runs the house. Many times I saw him defer to his wife when she disagreed with the way he wanted to do something in regards to the children or their home. He showed a very high level of respect for her opinion. She past of cancer a few years ago and I watched as her passing took a great toll on him. A few months after her death he called me and said "I noticed you had taken pictures from time to time. I would appreciate very much if you could send me any of Fannie" I was clear he loved her very much.
You will not see what goes behind close doors if you don't live in the community.
1. Why is it that the men get to choose what they do but the women don't?
2. Regardless of how much you think you know what goes on inside of the community it's not always the way it seems.
I'm proud of you, so few people have the strength and courage to take control of their lives. You're such an inspiration and such an amazing message encouraging others to take the steps to better their lives with such positivity.
So even though I'm just some random Aussie girl on the other side of the world, I'm so proud to see what you've achieved purely with your own strength and courage.
Love your videos
Thank you for your kind words and I will continue to show up and serve in any way I can
Thanks for doing this video. I've recently taken an interest in the Amish culture. I've finished watching a documentary series called "Breaking the Silence" where the host, a former Amishman, goes behind the scenes into their culture and that there is so much fear to do as the church wants. It was very eye-opening. It was great to hear your story about leaving the Amish and this Q&A session. It seems like there are some great aspects of the culture, but there are many not-very-good parts of it.
Yes there are some great aspects of it. Thank you for watching and engaging!
"I'm the parent and I'm right..." gave me flashbacks to when I'd question my parents when their words and actions were not congruent.......
Something I will never do with my children
This was a very fun and informative video. Finally someone who has confirmed that most of those television shows about The Amish are not even true. lol Thank you.
Your welcome! If you have anymore questions feel free to let me know and I'll do another video.
@@EmilyAdams_ I just found your videos, and have been looking for part 2 of your story...is there one?
@@jensaks here's the link
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Hi, Emily, thank you for sharing! KIND of weird, that we only get a picture of the Amish and other cults from people who left and who are of course kind of bitter. It’s all based on fears. They make god very small, believing that he’s so intolerante and petty. We all want to belong to others, so we tend to compromise as long as we can stand it. So hard for you to first come 'from the rain into the eaves' (vom Regen in die Traufe kommen-as we say in Germany). I’m glad you can wear dresses again😉👗… Love from Germany, Monika❣️
The culture is based on fear.
@@EmilyAdams_ I fear for the women in Afghanistan .The Taliban is an example of a medieval extremist cult that takes fundamentalist to the nth degree. They rule by terror and the women are nothing more than chattel .Obviously the Amish are not extremists like the Taliban but there are some similarities. Especially in education and rules for women .If you leave the Amish culture they might shun you but the Taliban will brutally kill you. Sometimes I think that religion is the scourge of mankind.
@@x98ccj I understand your concerns and I know the fear that I felt and I pray each of those women find a way to break away safely.
@@EmilyAdams_ As a freshman in university 15 years ago I had a math professor that was a PHD and chair of the dept. I later learned that her son was also a freshman in computer science .I learned she had grown up Amish in Pennsylvania and had left the Amish culture .When I was working on my masters degree I met her husband. I guess leaving her family (Amish) had made her a very bitter woman and she became quite an alcoholic. I can't imagine being shunned and never seeing her parents and siblings again. This university was in nova scotia canada ,where I live.
@@x98ccj if you don't do the healing work to heal from trauma then yes you will be bitter.
Very interesting. I'm glad you had that spark in you from a young age and you're obviously happy now x
Thank you for your kind words 💖
Hello, I am so glad you made the Choice for yourself and made the leap TO LIVE!! GOD loves you and continue to bring the Truth to Light.
Thank you!
You are absolutely a beautiful and brave person with an amazing smile. There is nothing but happiness coming from you,, I am so glad you got out and you are living your life the way you choose to…. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words.
This is well elaborated, very interesting I had zero clue about it. As much as you talked about why it got into your nerves and you left, you didn't forget the good life skills your parents tought you that came in handy. Sadly the controlling and dominance from the people isn't pleasing as also most religions practice it today. Glad I learned something new and in depth ☺️🙂
Thank you for watching and engaging,🙌🏼
New viewer here. Looking to introduce an ex-Amish character to my stories. As a writer I like to see representation for every culture. Glad I found you
Thank you for watching and I'm always happy to have a conversation 🙂
thank u for being trustful I don't have any questions but my 1 uncle marriage aunt. the Amish did live pretty close to the area that I grew up Berne,Indiana and Shipw ,Indiana that you for your information about video I hope that get your books tell the guys I know some Amishs. enjoy there them to. a Friend always
I’ve never understood how a parent could turn their back’s on their kids, but I was never raised in that culture either
It took me a long time to understand it too..
My father became Jehovas Witness a few years ago and they also do shunning as a form of punishment for sex outside marriage, divorce... For me it is the most unchristian thing to do. Did not Jesus visit the sinners, the outcasts…?
@@Siures I agree with you 💯! It's very fear based and coming from a place that isn't love.
That was a great Q&A
Congrats on getting out ❤️🧡💙 you’re really brave 🤗
Thank you!
That was interesting, thanks :)
Your welcome! If you have any other questions feel free to comment below with them and I'll answer them.
@@EmilyAdams_ I do! OK Amish men have beards when they get married, so everyone knows they are married - but what about women? How does everyone know if an Amish woman is married or taken/engaged?? If you know how i would like to know, thanks!!
@@gwainknight4907 good question. There is no way of knowing that. And you wouldn't know. Some communities require you to have beards when you become a member of the church too.
@@EmilyAdams_ Thanks, i guess they all will not wear rings then either, alright it seems a little strange they make guys have beards when joining the church too, thanks for the info!! Take it easy Emily.
@@gwainknight4907 no they don't wear rings or any jewelry at all
This is very off topic, but after hearing your story, I think you’d greatly enjoy reading the Harry Potter books(skip the movies) because there’s a character who I think you’d relate to- Sirius Black.
I'll have to check it out! Thank you 🙂
Thanks for the Q and A. I would love to hear another one. My question would be how did you rebuild your relationship with your parents and what is that relationship like now? I heard you say on one of your videos you have a good relationship with them now. What do you mean by good? Thanks so much for all of your sharing.
I will do another Q&A and cover this.
If you don’t born in a Amish family you wouldn’t be this talented. You are like a plant seed growing on a rock. Not going to affect by any hurricane. Proud of you.
Thank you for your kind words!
Hi Miss Emily, love the channel! I live just a few miles north of Kalona Iowa, a large Amish Colony. I have always been fascinated by the culture.
My Ancestors were Dunkards, or Brethren, I'm wondering, is there any crossover with the two Communities? Did you ever have any contact with that culture?
Anyways I'm so proud of you for following your instinct, and questioning authority. Your living up to who you were meant to be!
Keep it up🤗
Thank you for your kind words!
I know, you must be sick and tired by commenting me. But - you are such a wonderful young Lady!
I do understand why they keep the education to a minimum. = less dangerous question. You are supposed to follow. Not to question things and even start thinking by yourself!
If the Amish would be able to travel to those places, where their ancestors came from, they would get a heart attack... In some region the catholic church is quite strong in Germany. But there are also many people, who have left the church because of disatisfaction.
Hello! I have a question which may seem like a weird question but I was always curious. I do spend time around Amish and I go to auctions and things like that. Why do the younger Amish stair at me? We were always taught not to stair. Just curious!💛
Probably the same reason we stare at them. 👀
How can the Amish do this with school? I homeschool and we have lots of regulations.
We homeschool and it depends on your state. Here in Texas we really have no regulation. In Oklahoma pretty much nothing when we lived there.
Thank you so much for this.
I don't understand what all of these "rules" have to do with our relationship to Jesus Christ????
Also, what do the Amish think of gay & lesbian relationships? Michele in Yokohama, Japan
YOU AREGREAT, AMAZING THANK YOU
Very interesting! Thanks for sharing and for responding. I'm curious when you left , what did you do for money and how did you get documents such as ID, birth certificate and social security number?
I already had those documents with me and borrowed money from a friend until I could get a job.
Hallo Emily! I just discovered your channel and find your story really interesting.
I'm from Germany and I teach German to non-German adults. So naturally my questions to you are related to your languages. 😁
You said at home you spoke in a German dialect. Can you tell which one? And you told that in school you've learned High German.
Can you speak some sentences in your German dialect and some in High German? I'm so curious how it sounds from your mouth!!!! 😅
You speak English very well, so my next question is: when did you learn it and how much English is spoken in your Amish community? Did you learn to write it in school?
Liebe Grüße aus Norddeutschland. 😊
Thank you for engaging and sharing! I speak Pennsylvania Dutch German, I can't speak high German but can understand it. I did learn this in school. Amish speak primarily German.
Hi,
You mentioned that you are no longer in corporate America, what is currently your job? Did you take classes to pass the GED test? What was your major at Purdue? Self love is something we all have to find on our own. One Love 💘 ❤ 😍
I do business coaching and consulting. Yes I had to take classes to pass my GED and my major was Business with Organizational Leadership and Supervision.
Self Love is something that we have to find but at the same time we need to start educating those that don't understand.
@@EmilyAdams_ Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions!! You explained something to me and had no idea. When I go to the Dutch Farmers Market, the women (aged 15 to 20 maybe) never have a conservation with me. Mama Bear doesn't converse except for telling me the price. I used to think it was rude, your explanation has completely changed my opinion. ONE LOVE 💘 ❤ 😍
@@Ms.Opinionated they are not one to have a lot of conversation with if you are not Amish
Do you have contact with your parents now a days ? Did they cut you off ? You’re so incredible for over coming all of these things !
I do somewhat have a relationship with them now. For a few years I didn't talk to them.
In some of your other videos you talk about how your family said if you leave or the way you were acting you could not be forgiven and go to he'll or be accepted back. I read in a few book that as long as you have not joined the church and been baptized then you can be forgiven and would not be shunned. What about Rumspring (sp) Can you address this please.
That's not necessarily true. Some Amish shun and put you in the ban either way. I address Rumspringa in this video if you watch the whole thing. 🙂 After watching the whole thing let me know if you have questions and I'll do another video over it.
Has anyone else in your family (siblings etc) leave the Amish community? In your experience would you say that most amish teens take part in Rumspringa?
I explain Rumspringa in this video. My two sisters left after I did.
@@EmilyAdams_ oh sorry i commented prematurely and apparently got distracted at work and didnt finish listening. Will watch the rest now. Thanks.
@@Lemonade_Stand_ no worries 🙂
@@Lemonade_Stand_ no worries!
Do they come to see you? Do you go back "home" and see them? What kind of relationship do you have now?
They don't come see me but I do go see them. Our relationship is growing but at the same time we have a lot of differences so it's like we agree to disagree.
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Do you have contact with your family? Do you visit and/or communicate in any way?
Do you and Eli Yoder know each other? I only ask because I found your videos because I was watching his videos. 😊
I don't know him.
Do you struggle with feeling like god has punished you for leaving ? Every time something went wrong I would think god was mad at me.
I used to feel that way but I was able to do a lot of inner work and healing where it got me out of the victim mentality and now I can see the bigger picture of things.
Guess how most Amish live, it would be like in the early 1800s Germany with them speaking German dialects, very very strange behaviour particularly how women and children are treated,
Found your channel very informative I have a question of do the Amish get to vote in like General government elections. And Also why do they not wear jewelry when they marry? And what is Rumspringa?
They do get to vote but they choose not too and jewelry is to worldly. Rumspringa varies on community to community
Very interesting. I have never heard of a gas refrigerator before. Did you have a wood stove gas fireplace or something else to heat your home?
We used wood, coal and then gas heat as well.
@@EmilyAdams_ So your house had a gas boiler that you manually lit and the heat went up through the radiators? If not you had fireplaces all over? I bet the living room had a big wood or cole stove.
@@ryanm7249 we used water lines that heated the floors.
@@EmilyAdams_ Wow how cool! There’s actual buildings and houses that have heated floors like that. Sorry for so many questions. There’s just so much I’m curious about.
@@ryanm7249 no need to apologize 🙂 ask away.
Doesnt the US have any truancy laws that requires kids to be educated up until a certian grade or age?
I don't know how that works or if they are exempt from that or not.
I think they are exempt.
My understanding is that the government has just decided to keep their nose out of Amish culture.
Do you have any kind of relationship with your family and do your boys?
I do now. When I first left I didn't.
Hi Emily,
I'm just curious to know whether or not you were subjected to any kind of child abuse for you to have left the Amish culture.
I came from a family of domestic violence and kicked out of home at 16, just because I signed myself out of High School and being told you should have been dropped down the s##thouse(long drop - out house) head first the minute I was born, has never left my memory. My life was probably the complete opposite of yours.
Trying to make a life for myself in this world full of greed and no natural affection wasnt easy, let me tell you! 😢
I knows whose life I would have preferred.
This world has gone to the pack! Oh, the old Love of money hey! It cant buy health, genuine friends, love and most of all a loving family.
We all have a story to tell, some worse than others, but GOD is now living in my heart moreso than ever before.
May GOD watch over you and your boys 🙏
I was not physically abused but there is a lot of abuse in the culture. I'm sorry to hear you had to experience that and I'm glad to hear you were able to get out of it!
How did you learn to speak English fluently, assuming you spoke Pennsylvania Dutch?
Going to school I learned it
Do you consider yourself a Christian? Or did you walk away from having any faith in God at all?
I still have faith in God but I don't identify with any religion.
Where are you siblings at now?
In Ohio and Indiana
What do you do for work?
I have my own business for business consulting.
I WAS RAISED ROMAN CATHOLIC
I GOT OUT
Good for you!
Hi so how is it going with you pretty lady
Congratulations! I’m please; that you recd your GED & College Degree! To work in an Large Employer, at lease before the horrible Pandemic
An GED is Req. I’m please that & you work long enough, invest instead of a College Loan Stay Safe, I hope you got your Vaccinated! You look well! Stay Safe! & Take Care of yourself & your Boy Friend (Husband)
The Amish teachers : are they women ? Do they have children ?
Some are women and some are men. It just depends on the children part. Some may have children and others may not.
Do you have contact with your mom and dad and siblings?
I do now... Originally I didn't
@@EmilyAdams_ glad to hear it. Still I wonder how you handled it all. I am showing your story to my Girlfriend. How to get thru from hardship. Amazing 👏
@@jasoncena8115 thank you for sharing with others!
Did you reconnect with your parents?
I did.
Thank you for respon dr ing. You are a woman of strong will to have made it this far and you are thriving. I couldn't live like the Amish do. They hold their children and women back. Children need education. Just high school diploma gets them places. You are a woman with so much sense.
@@susangenry6497 thank you for your kind words.
I am still watching your videos.
@@susangenry6497 thank you for engaging and watching! If any.of it resonates or you know someone that needs to hear the message please share it with them 🙂
Are there black Amish? Or are they like the FLDS which the Amish seem very similar except the Amish don’t have multiple wives. 🤷🏼♀️
There are no other race but white in the culture.
@@EmilyAdams_ you might have been to young to remember Mary Swartz, she came from Berne, stayed in east church for awhile. She was
@@terrysargent9193 I don't remember her
You seemed to indicate from another video that you do see your sister? DId she never cut you off? ALso, you seemed to indicate that you do have a relationship with your parents now. Can you share how that came about...and do they realize now that their lack of being willing to listen to your feelings just made things worse between you?
They have never acknowledged that. My sister ended up leaving the Amish culture as well. My parents started having a relationship with us when there was grandkids involved.
@@EmilyAdams_ Have you ever explained to them how the whole thing made you feel? Have you been able to share your "past feelings" with them? Also, do they tell you they love you, and are they able to "accept" all that has happened?
@@PilgrimHymns I have voiced a few things and set certain boundaries with them. I tell them I love them and my mom tells me she loves me but that's still a work in progress.
@@EmilyAdams_ Thats good your mother ytells you she loves you. Im not amish or my family but my mother and father never told me that they loved me. Nor my brothers.
@@steveday2868 that can be rough.