5 Little Ways I Was Sabotaging Myself Without Realizing It
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 เม.ย. 2023
- Join us on Patreon! Click here to get access to exclusive videos, our members-only book club, office hours with Chelsea, and more! / financialdiet
In this video, Chelsea shares the tiny habit changes that vastly improved her life, from leaning into her natural energy cycles to letting go of unrealistic expectations.
Source links:
• A Very Personal Messag...
www.tiktok.com/@faganchelsea/...
www.tiktok.com/@faganchelsea/...
www.theguardian.com/lifeandst...
professionalleadershipinstitu...
www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
Join this channel to get access to perks:
/ @thefinancialdiet
The Financial Diet site:
www.thefinancialdiet.com
Facebook: / thefinancialdiet
Twitter: / tfdiet
Instagram: thefinancia... - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
The morning people topic reminds me of the busy life topic. I was raised to believe that the busier you are, the better you are. And if you aren’t busy with work/school/cleaning/organizing/volunteering/caretaking, then you are lazy. I decided years ago that I hate being busy and I like down time. I need down time. I’m not going to be on the go 24/7. I will have time to just watch tv or nap.
Yes!! I’ve had the exact same experience. It’s so frustrating that people act like you need to be extremely busy to be happy, when that just makes me stressed and burned out. I love down time. I used to think that was so wrong, but eventually I’ve really come to peace with it and learned to love my rest and downtime. Tbh one thing that helped me a lot was looking at Jewish and Christian ideas of Sabbath. As someone who has grown up Christian, it’s so refreshing to know that in our religion, literally even God took a rest day, and that one of the top 10 rules God had for society was that everyone needs to take a rest day. As a person who is connected with my faith, I just find that so encouraging. No worries if you’re not religious or if you associate with a different religion, just wanted to share that because I’ve found it so encouraging as I allow myself to be a person who rests
I highly agree. I appreciate my days or moments when I can relax and have nothing to do because I was busy prior and don’t like to stretch myself out too thin. Plus, there are people who use busyness as a distraction from serious matters that need to be addressed.
Sadly, the world revolve around morning people. As a fellow night owl, forced to start work at 8;30, my misery is immense till around noon.
I was a night owl, I changed and feel immensely better.
@@cabayern9416 good for you. But some people have a harder time to change how their body adapt
@@cabayern9416 that's great that you were able to reset your system but not all of us can. I have tried a lot of things to make mornings easier but I'm still a night owl and I always have been since I was a little kid.
I can relate so much
I used to think I was not a morning person, but it turns out I just don't like studying/working in the morning. On work days, I absolutely despise myself and everyone else between the hours of 6-10am and my brain is next to useless. But on weekends or no-work days, I still wake up at 6 but I feel great and get so much done in terms of my hobbies
#1: 3:40 Judging Myself On The Process Rather Than The Outcome
#2: 7:18 Having Very Unhealthy Following Habits
#3: 10:05 Sharing Things Before I'm Sure About Them
#4: 12:40 Holding People to the Standards I Created for Them
#5: 14:43 Overvaluing The Opinions Of People Who Don't Matter
THANK YOU 🙏
Thank you!
Thank you so much🙏...I have no patience for intros any more...
THank you :))))
Im SO glad that you mentioned the morning thing! As a neuroscientist and researcher, I'm baffled that this even happens in labs, since we KNOW (or should know) that there are scientific publications showing that most people are NOT build to do that, and that in no way should be a marker of success or superiority. Thank you!
neuroscience really be cutting edge in all disciplines
As a fellow biochemist in the first undergraduate years, I saw that a lot with my collegues and it drices me nuts.
The last one hits different. I made a list of people whose opinions I care about a while ago and, more recently, I realized how important it can be to refine that list. I go to my mom for a LOT of opinions on things - I love her dearly, and she's lived a rich life full of experiences that I can learn from. But as I've gotten older, I realized that there are aspects of my life where her opinions should carry much less weight for me. Specifically, in terms of my career. My mom is a Career Woman and is fully willing to go to work sick, to deal with sexual harassment, and will stay in a terrible situation rather than get a new job because it "looks bad" to switch jobs. I've stayed in really toxic situations because I've taken her advice, and as I get a better footing when it comes to "adulting", I've realized that you have the power to be (and SHOULD be) selective, even in relationships with people whose opinions you value and trust on many other fronts.
This is very real. My mom & my relationship here was interesting, because she also stayed in awful work situations, for what sounds like similar reasons. But when I grew up and dealt with those same situations, she was FURIOUS. I was willing to stay even when I was hurting and miserable, and she was the one who pushed me to get out. I think it made her reckon with the things she put up with in her career when she realized she couldn’t watch me go through the same.
Though from a different vantage point than yours, I know I've had to develop a similar selectiveness in terms of what I reach out about from people I care about, mostly with family. I sometimes ask about a situation in which I think being autistic plays a role and am met with advice that might work for neurotypicals. I'm pretty savvy about this now, but I know I had to hone this skill going into adulthood.
This resonates with me. My parents always taught me you have to stay with toxic people because "it's just what you do, life is hard". I'm career-oriented but I've realized a career should never come at the cost of your wellbeing.
The morally superior morning person thing is so true! I’m naturally an early sleeper and riser and in college one of my roommates was a natural night owl… she would go to the library around 11pm when I was going to sleep and would come back around 2-3am everyday. She had planned her class schedule around her sleep pattern and it was never an issue for my sleep pattern BUT every weekday morning she would set her alarm for 8:30am, snooze it for an hour and then finally wake up around 9:30am COMPLETELY stressed! It was hard to watch because even though she had set up her schedule to accommodate her needs, didn’t miss out of any social activities because of her sleep pattern, and got good grades, she still felt really guilty that wasn’t a morning person.
Immediately liked when you said "that should be illegal" lol our classes also started in high school at 7:20 am. INSANE.
Mine started at that exact time not right
My first class of the day, at 7:20, was CALCULUS. 😅
Same and then I became a HS TEACHER. Leaving the career after 15 years and this is a part of it. I won’t lie
In my school the first lesson started at 7:10 am. And I had to commute about 30 mins to get there. Just how much do you learn while you are still half asleep?
ours started at 7am, and I had to get up at 5:30am to be able to make it to the 6:10 bus.
...and this was in elementary and middle school. -_-
Part-time university lecturer here. This video helped me realise that I was doing the same thing: pressuring myself to work in the mornings I don't have classes, even when all of my stuff is prepared, and feeling badly about myself for not doing anything more "productive." Maybe my "Coffee and Contemplation" mornings are the most sanity-saving (and therefore productive) thing I can do.
This a great video. My husband is similar to you, he’s more productive later in the day after going to bed around 12-1:00am. After a sleep study, it found his REM sleep to be in the early morning hours. I know someone, who uses the “morning person” thing to judge others. I find it actually cruel. We are all not the same and should not be judged in such a trivial way.
It's crazy how we can be our own worst enemy without even realizing it. Thanks for being transparent about it!
This was so well timed for me. Im a night owl and I have been trying desperately to figure out how to get up early and do things and then feel like shit when I can't. I'm now going to shift those expectations and do those things at night before I go to bed instead. Thank you for posting!!
In many ways, our modern capitalist world seeks to shut down diversity.
And not just about the marketability/ respectability of gender, ethnicity, or sexuality which are the usual diversity hot topics.
We don’t make room for diverse family situations, diverse sleep preferences, diverse eating habits, etc. Capitalism has turned most of us into “products” that are purchased for labor power. And all products must be reliably identical and predictable.
Humanity SHOULD be diverse for obvious reasons. (It helps cavemen to have a few people in the tribe happy to stay up, keep guard, and make art/tools all night long while everyone else sleeps.)
One thing for me was the pressure to read books! I am not a reader and have never enjoyed reading and used to beat myself up over the fact that I didn’t like reading but then I just started listening to audio books instead and now I love books!
I also completely shifted my entire social media and made it a point to favourite 50 accounts that promote self healing, positivity, and balanced living and unfollow and toxic gossip pages.
I also deleted every other social media and only use TH-cam, Instagram, and Reddit, and sometimes LinkedIn for professional stuff. All the other apps were mind numbing
OFFTTTT number 4 hit hard. Immaculate advice, as always.
1. Judging self on the process rather than the outcome
2. Very unhealthy following habits (social media)
3. Sharing things before I’m sure about them
4. Holding people to the standards YOU create for them
5. Overvaluing the opinions of people who don’t matter
As a former high school teacher, I agree 100% with you about the mornings. It was one of the many, many reasons I left the profession. I was exhausted all the time. The students were miserable. The first block of classes were worthless because half my students were asleep or low functioning. It is insane that they make students do that. During Covid, they even made us come in earlier. I had to check in by 6:15am. My own kids who are both teenagers suffer because of the early hours. High school early start times is one of the most ridiculous things our society does. It's shooting ourselves in the foot.
My high school forced us to take our advanced math classes in the morning because it was "better for us" somehow
That point about not setting expectations for friends/relationships in terms of how you'd change them, that really spoke to me but not for the obvious reason.
I lost a friendship because I wasn't in a place where I could change to be what she wanted/needed and she felt it was healthier for her to cut me out rather than accept me for who I was and what I was going through at the time. I miss what I thought our friendship was dearly but therapy has helped me immensely.
Still makes me sad when I look back but she also wanted me to be someone I'm not and that's a her problem, not me.
Thank you for sharing Chelsea & team!
Loved this video. Can second the point about social media. Can’t tell you the number of times I was asked “did you see such-and-such’s post?” and answered “no, I mostly follow dog accounts.” I only follow accounts that make me feel good nowadays, and it’s been great for my mental health.
Night owl here and every time you talk about I'm 👏👏👏👏. Thank you!!!
I always appreciate the honesty in these conversations! Also, congrats on reaching 1 million TFD followers!!
I can't believe I'm watching this, sitting on the couch, having procrastinated everything I wanted to do today. Well, at least I procrastinated with sewing and embroidering
That reminds me I nees to catch up with my knitting..
Number four! I'm very aware that I do this, they say awareness is the first step towards change so I'm hopeful. You spoke about it so well and I really appreciate your candor.
Number 1's a big one for me. I also have delayed sleep phase onset/night owl tendencies and diurnalism can suck a lot when 12 am-8 am/2 am-10 am are my preferred sleeping hours. It plays a part in why I vie for self-employment, but I understand that most people and businesses run on an earlier clock and that can be a trade-off with sleeping and waking at later hours.
Chelsea, thank you so much for this video. I’m in the midst of a quarter life crisis and your wisdom has provided some much needed comfort.
I’m obsessed with this video! I find that social media has caused so many people to put themselves into boxes and contort themselves to fit within a specific niche, thus causing so much unnecessary pressure. I feel lucky bc I got 2 college degrees in communication and consume media from a distanced lens while being fully aware that this is in fact JUST CONTENT that someone put online and likely has no real impact on your quality of life. But so many people deal with the unnecessary pressures of thinking they have to emulate what some random person online calls “adulting” or” productivity” and then criticize themselves because they can’t sustain the same routine (that the creator likely doesn’t practice themselves on a daily basis!). I hope more people - women especially - come across videos like this and realize that the highest form of adulting is organizing and executing a routine that works for them, allows them to thrive as an individual, and helps them experience peace and joy in their daily lives.
This is so relatable! Especially on the morning person and sugar points. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks for sharing these!! We appreciate the transparency SO much! 😍
Funnily enough a few of these line up with my new years life adjustments. 1) adjust my expectations of people and events (both up and down) depending on situations 2) look for more opportunities for intrinsic motivation.
For the fashion question, I grew up homeschooled and frankly pretty frumpy in hand-me-downs. It took me a while to figure out my fashion, but finding celebrities whose clothes I liked help me a lot and so did spending a lot of time wandering around Goodwill, trying stuff on and seeing what jumped out at me.
Number 5 is a big one. Went back and listened to that one for my own wellbeing
Helpful video, great advice. Chelsea, thank you so much for this video. We appreciate the transparency very much.
Wow this video shot right to the core of the internal self work I’ve been doing (in therapy - go therapy!). Thank you for sharing this - I need to remember these lessons
Good point when it comes to social media. Plenty of decent people with blind spots when it comes to their sharing habits. To mute is to love.
I also left secondary school with meh grades, but in the UK how many GCSE's you have (subjects you pass) still haunts you 5, 10 , 20 years later when youre trying to get a job. It's like, i was severely depressed and sleep deprived when I took those exams, not to mention a child...and yet I'm a fully adult woman still having to answer for her medicority lmaoo
It compounds as well because people who did well and breezed through to get higher and higher degrees don't have their GCSEs paid much attention, but someone who left education then or after a-levels is treated as if those are the sole indicators of their ability.
I really needed to hear this, thank you. 💜
Wow I am so glad I watched this, I was making notes while watching. Many golden rules in there that more people should know about, thanks
Love what you said about judging others. I admire people in my life what are honest and don’t kid themselves. I love the reminder about accepting others just as they are ❤
Studies in multiple cities have shown that when school time starts later there is a drop in all cause mortality. This is specifically related to teenage driving deaths
My high school also started first period at 7:17am. During certain parts of the year the bus would get to school before the sun came up
One of your best, thank you.
Having confidence when having a platform on social media is incredible. People are brutal on line in a way then would never be IRL. I catch myself wanting to be like by people who are toxic and cruel. I kind of slap myself and remind myself they are not nice people. It is an amazing skill to learn whose opinions you take on board and consider and whose are not worth the time of day. As is get older my mantra is life is to short for this.
I just discovered your videos and now I am a big fan ❤
Australia school starts 8.45am.
Pls, Chelsea, make a video with social commentary on Love is Blind. It would be such a treat! 😊
Great advice, I wish I'd learned this perspective sooner ❤
as a morning person, I can assure you that I have no morning ritual besides waking up, washing my face and eating breakfast. the only reason I love waking up early is because I am more productive from 7am to 11am. after clock strikes 1pm, I'm letarghic, no exception.
i never understood people who wake up early and create elaborate morning rituals - good on them, but I could never.
Hey Chelsea! I haven’t seen you in so long! Thanks for being here.
I'm a naturally more nocturnal person and love that I now have a career where I mostly start and end my day later, which works so much better for me, my productivity, and effectiveness 🤗🙏🏽
Thank you for getting a patreon. I didn’t want an additional account attached to TH-cam but as someone who uses patreon this is a much easier decision
I've the exact same circadian rhythm 2am bed, 10am wake up
Having grown up in a Military family, I feel like "discipline and order" were a double-edged sword. Sometimes it gave you the structure, but sometimes the excessive "rules for no reason" (like: be sure to make your bed with hospital corners) just got in the way. When. I grew up, I essentially had to "de-program" myself of a lot of assumptions and beliefs that were just plain inapplicable to my situation and that were not helpful for me.
I really need to do the social media thing, that would probably help me mentally.
Side note, I love your necklace! Where is it from?
I’m what I call a reluctant night owl. My body prefers to stay up and sleep in, but I’ve noticed that my mood is better when I’m up early after a good night’s rest. I no longer feel as guilty for being a night owl, but I kind of resent that my favorite time of day is often missed because my body won’t cooperate.
I love this. Also very curious where your collared print shirt at the end is from?
I am gobsmacked that you started school at 7.15. There are studies showing that teenagers need more sleep and later starts and when implemented there is less truancy and higher grades. I was always a night owl but more recently have discovered that magic quiet peaceful time early in the morning. The reality is when I allow myself to naturally adjust I like waking 7 to 7.30.
hey! my school, was the same thing!
I liked it though. I'm one of those morning people
Night owl visibility! Morning people force their lifestyle on the rest of us. I feel judged by my family for getting up at 9/10 but I work until 1am most nights.
This is a great video
God I hated school starting so early because I almost always had a math class within my first three class periods where I was still too tired to stay awake. I barely passed those classes, but the few times I had an afternoon math class, my grades were so much higher.
Number 3 hits me hard!
5:56 I started having early morning work the past 2 months. So I would have to be up by 7am. I would do it. Because I had to. I was also very proud of myself for being up so early. But now that I think about it. It was hard for me to fall asleep early and get up early. But it was just morning culture making me feel like I was living my best morning person life.
I feel like one thing that Chelsea only quickly alluded to, but didn't really elaborate on, was when you have people in your life who have power over you who you have to listen to, but you don't willingly allow in your life, such as your employer or other specific types of professional connections. It's possible that she might not even be particularly good at addressing that, since she's a long-time entrepreneur, but I would like to hear more perspective on managing feedback and opinions from places where you don't have a (meaningful) choice but to listen. (Of course, you can "just quit" your job, but I tend to not be that flippant with suggesting that, since I'm not the one who has to pay their rent or put food on their table.)
And this excellent point 7:18 is why I left FB and IG years ago! Best decision ever!
I’ve set app limits on my phone for social media - the two of them get 30 minutes a day and that’s it. It’s been great for me. (Although the past week or so, I have ignored the app limit to read all the Love Is Blind tweets, which has been SO ENTERTAINING 😁)
"objectively deranged" hahahaha --I have totally related to people like that earlier in my life. So many reasons for this (including growing up in a Christian cult where that behavior is promoted), but with maturity and longer term relationships I grew to accept and enjoy people as they are. Thanks for sharing this, though, it just puts it into rather stark relief in a good way :)
When you make more money you can delegate things to others you trust or outsource the work. That creates an environment for you to then choose what’s important and most crucial for you and your family.
Awesome video Chelsea. Thanks for sharing. Also, I hope whoever had the growly tummy at the end was able to get some grub quickly after this vid lol
Can you make a video on how you made all that changes to your social media use and also how to cut down on your screen time?
My ideal, sleep at 10pm and wake 630. As I matured I did move from night owl to morning person. Also enjoy sugar and do not worry about it as I live in Europe and too much to enjoy.
uffff that first one. Our school (Switzerland) started at the same time (7.20) and I wasn't even able to get the certificate to go to uni because I am a morning person. I had to go back to evening school when I was 21 to get it and was only able to start Uni at 24. I'm not dumb, it just wasn't my schedule. .
Your philosophy with clothes is so similar to Daria Andronescu from the wonder wardrobe. I would actually love to see her being interviewed
Your chronotype is the same as mine. It’s so hard having a 9-5 then also kids. During when I’m my most productive I’m busy feeding putting kids to bed. Shrug.
Night owls unite! My whole life I’ve always been more productive later in the day. I refuse to schedule work meetings (when I’m leading) before 10:00am. It’s frustrating feeling the pressure to be an early bird. The only time I can wake up at the butt crack of dawn without feeling sick to my stomach is to catch a red eye to vacation. 🏝️
Seven-figure company -- good for you! I remember when the channel was smaller 😁
I think with social settings it is reversed that night owls are seen more positive.
E.g. If you don't want to go clubbing until 3 in the morning you are seen as lame.
Going to bed at 21:30 is seen wierd
My high school bell rang at 6:50 SHARP. if you weren't in home room by then you were marked as "late" if you were late three times, you had dentition. Let's just say, I'm permanently a morning person.
I went through my social media accounts earlier this year and streamlined who/what I was seeing on my feed. I found myself comparing my life to people I didn’t even know. And let’s be honest, most of what we see isn’t even real.
I work in the afternoon - early night. I am never home before 10.30 to 11 pm and some still judge me because I don't wake up early (I naturally wake up between 9 and 10am). If I do wake up early, I am so tired by 7 pm I am not as efficient in my job. I hate this concept that later sleepers = lazy people
I’m so excited you launched a Patreon! No offense but I’ve been super frustrated with TH-cam membership portal. It’s just bad UI from TH-cam, but absolutely love TFD. Will be making the switch asap
Same here!
Thank you for supporting us despite the frustration!! Hope to see you over on Patreon!
The following habit 💯💯💯
Please elaborate how the Patreon membership is different from the membership here on youtube!
Hi there! Patreon members will get access to everything available to the $4.99 tier members here on YT, plus priority in Chelsea answering Society member questions, exclusive voting access for the book club, and a weekly newsletter with curated advice to member questions from team TFD (for the $12 tier). Hope that answers your question!
Starts at 03:40
Seriously have to agree with the sleep schedule comments! I have the like basically latest you can be without being on a graveyard shift sleep rhythm naturally. My body generally wants to go to be between 3/4am and get up by around 10am (yes, my body kind if maxes out at 6/6.5 hours, often I feel my absolute best on 4.5-5 hours 🙃) and even though I worked nights through college my family would tell me I was "sleeping in" if i didn't get up before 9:30 after going to bed between 4 and 7am depending on how long it took to unwind. A roommate of mine was known to mock me over it too 😒
I don't understand how people couldn't just do the math on things. I've definitely decided that as I move forward in my career I'm going to be carving out space for my sleep schedule and making people have to adjust to a slightly delayed timeline. If they can moralize their biological sleep patterns then damnit so can I.
Hannah Louise Poston made a good video about finding personal style and the advice applies irrespective of style preferences
The external/internal validation piece needs to be said loud and often. We need both and it’s a continuum, not binary. Amen Chelsea!!!
You should make a video about how important is to be childfree for personal development (I know that's something you've talked about previously but I just think that's the capstone to make it all) besides, that's a topic that cannot be stressed enough
I had zero hour in HS and had to be there at 6:40am and you're right I used to fall asleep in class. Though I will say my current scenario is awful because I keep waking up at noon (which my job doesn't have set hours) but I'm trying to find a good balance between early AM because once you wake up too late it feels like half the day is gone, but otherwise I agree not everyone is made to be morning people and I called BS on people who get 4 hours of sleep per night, I feel like people do that 3-4 nights per week then crash hard or have times to nap during the day. Anyway I think the HS thing is why I'm absolutely fine with later school start times which literally only got set because of adult jobs so parents could drop their kid off at school, but we need a compromise.
I worked evenings and overnights in healthcare for several years and people judge it as lazy I’m not functional before 8. Well, there was shift differential and there was less stress working evenings. Someone had to do it. Overnights were the worst though. People would act like I could just do a nap.
Chelsea - have you done a fashion video before? I love this shirt.
My body probably works around the same sleeve schedule that works for chelsea. But I find myself staying up even later simply because I don't want to get up at 6:00
As relatable as this video was, the most relatable part was the horror when a Love is Blind person whips out an instrument 😂
Girl, how are you optimizing (i feel disgusting just writing that word) your time? I constantly struggle with crashing right after work at 5 and that's if am working from home that day or else I'll be sleeping on the train 😂. I would like to start a TH-cam channel that will hopefully bring in some income but just for fun and learn new things. I have the topics I want to talk about but am struggling to stick to leaning the video editing software even though I feel i got the basics but i constantly feel like i need to learn more before i actually start editing the clips for the videos and that then discourages me
Chelsea spoke at length on the magic of a Google calendar, I would assume it plays a very large role in this harmony
I noticed that managing energy is way more helpful than managing time. Just because you make time to do something, does not mean you have the energy or headspace to actually do it. And sure, you can push through being tired, but only for a limited time before burnout.
@@happytofu5 i had that same thought last night while working out. I almost injured my back thinking about what else I could be doing with my time. I realize i have a need to constantly fill my time with something and because there is so much i want to do, am lacking focus and burning myself out trying to do too many things that i don't have the energy to do.
@@CaraMarie13 Sending you a hug! Look out for yourself. You need rest to be healthy. Make sure you build your youtube channel sustainably!
@@happytofu5 thank you
Honestly I feel very frustrated to with how society is set up around morning people as well. I also fall asleep around 12 or 1 and until.I started working from home I was coming into work on 5 hours of sleep. I may still not be on my natural cycle of sleep even now (still waking up an hour or so earlier than my body likes but it's much better than 3 hours earlier), but being closer to it has helped immensely.
What is with all these wannabe singers on every single trash reality dating show? It is to the point where if anyone mentions that they sing, wrote a song, or pulls out a guitar I fast-forward.
They tryna get fame hence the going on reality shows
I get why an aspiring singer would go on the show, all publicity is good publicity or whatever, but after the fifth tone-dead loser, why are the editors, camera crew, or producers of reality tv including them singing in the show? It has never once made for an interesting story or a successful singing career
@@AlicedeTerre Look, it was a rhetorical question. I understand in a literal sense why they do it. I just desperately want them to stop.
Pov: it's 2006 and you see an ad for new Love Is Blind CDs pop up on your TV.
I’ve heard that scientifically more creative people tend to be night owls, than early birds. I’ve also heard that critical thinking is more easily done in the morning and more creative thinking, is done in the afternoon when our brains have kind of warmed up and loosened up for the day. I think understanding our own biological rhythms, and figuring out what works best for ourselves is fascinating. I think many people, though think that they are night owls just because they have a bad habit of going to bed too late and not being able to get up because of the cycle of poor sleep.
🫤 no, I really feel like the protestant work ethic culture beat people down for literal centuries so we call "poor sleep habits" what is actually a sleep rhythm that is different than what the puritans saw as moral 400 years ago.
One of the downfalls of social media is how easy it is to create an echo chamber. We grow when we listen to and tolerate different ideas. Allowing other opinions to exist, without casting judgement, is a marker of well adjustment. I challenge you to engage with the content that brings something up for you. Ask why. Try to see what you can learn from the other perspective
Thank you for calling out the far end of the "I don't care what people think" spectrum. It always bothers me to hear that advice. We should care what SOME people think, especially if they have good insights we cant see like an editor, or an expert who can guide is on a better way of doing things. I like how you framed it as caring about what people think, but people who have value in your life
I go by the 5 ingredients or less for what i buy. Together with the autophagy my body was able to heal from a complete sugar burning metabolism to metabolic flexibility
I have always carefully created my social media but is anyone else finding it hard when the algorithms decide what they want me to see rather than what I want?
7:17am?!?!!!! 😱😱😱🫠