S5 EP4 | LOVE YO SELF!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ก.พ. 2021
- Eli and Oscar tackle the challenging topic of self-love and contextualize it for the benefit of the modern man grappling with a concept that is often misunderstood.
Break out your laptops. It's time for us to dive in!
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References
Dr Hans Kirchner & Co-author Willem Kuyken, Professor of Clinical Psychology- University of Oxford
A New Experimental Paradigm to Study the Benefits of Self-Compassion
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Dr. Kristin Neff
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
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Horsburgh, 2009; Bleidorn et al., 2018).
positivepsychology.com
I've had similar experiences where I'd go to a place full of people and when I walk in I'd panic as hell literally loose my breath. It got soo bad I'd go cry in the washrooms. I decided to sit down with myself(sort of like meditating) and I realized the reason I always had a panic attack was because I thought I wasn't enough. So I decided to remind myself everytime I am around a large crowd that "I am worthy, I am enough, I am wanted and I belong".
There's an easy test to know how men and women generally perceive themselves. Place a camera in front of a woman and her first reaction will be 'OMG get that off me' she'll immediately see the faults on her, make up, dress or anything else. While a man infront of a camera will see how good he looks, he may even flex a bit and be like 'yep, i still got it!'
Lydia KM brought me here
Yeah same
One of Her favourite episode:)
1.Amending self-talk
2.Writing yourself a letter
3.Developing a phrase
4.Writing a gratitude list
5 Setting healthy boundaries
Thanks guys for the insight
Thanks for being here!
These days I like the episode before even watching it. That's how much I trust the quality of the content.
Keep up the good work guys! Love it ❤
First comment yaaay🤣🤣🤣
I love this opening song
Don Ruiz, in his book The Four Agreements, tells us: In your whole life nobody has ever abused you more than you have abused yourself. And the limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, you will probably stay in the relationship and tolerate it endlessly
That's why you're told to never let your mind bully your body, set boundaries with people around you and learn to make your independent opinions, we've been taught alot as we grew up but that's just the beginning go back and relearn everything seeing it from the perspective of your adult self who knows better and lastly spirituality is important it helps you tap in your unconscious mind helps you connect all parts of your body from the emotional, physical, psychological part. Thanks guys for this topic I'll definitely be checking out the pages you suggested
@@oscarmbabu8187 you're welcome 😄
This is amazing 👏
@@DJKash254 thanks for that information
It's hard to humiliated if you are humble...😯😲. Drops mic. This blows my mind,hits home too.
Selfcare is such a downplayed aspect that it’s the one underlying cause of anxiety and stress.
The school of life, Alain de Botton. Been following him ever since his interview with London Real. Very insightful.
May I say I'm inlove with y'alls intro...🔥🔥its like the start of a James bond movie!!!
An episode on Humility will do alot of GOOOD!
Absolutely love these talks as usual elevating and so engaging....there is nothing like listening to men discuss such topics and have so much depth and understanding even if you don't quite fully grasp it, the effort and willingness show. You shd definitely do those letters even if Oscar thinks he will not be good at it, his articulate nature should come in handy.....
It's the consistency for me.
I really waited for that breakfast... sadly we didn't get to see it! 😔 Lol!
Good content thou.
Yeah,like even in parenting,most mothers blame themselves for their kids' misbehaviour.
I am so blessed to have come across your podcasts. I loved the black tax one but generally your podcasts are an assurance there is something i am doing right but offering challenges in other areas. Keep doing what you are doing guys.
Very insightful. Love the way you are setting the stage for men to talk about feelings...something women talk too much about. This could bridge the gap, minimally. Kudos to you brave soldiers! 😍
Eli is so damn wise. I really needed this conversation. Thank you guys.
yeah they are both really smart men.
Today is my first time viewing your videos and I am honestly learning and enjoying....what, am grateful and I sure will keep listening and watching you guys. This is amazing and I love what am learning as I entertain myself with real conversations. Thank you and GOD bless.
I'm totally loving your content, every single episode is a learning experience. Been here since you guys had 150 subscribers and the growth is just on another level, keep up the great work guys!
A lot of guys who practice self love, from my experience, actually turn out much better than those who do not in terms of how they relate with others. And I love how you put it, self love is about knowing your worth without making a compromise and independent of other's opinions. Some may confuse self love to being selfish but in reality it makes you more open to having better relationships and also uplifting others.
As for the letter writing, I've tried a couple of times using a site called futureme.com where you write yourself a letter and it emails itself back to you after the period you've specified; like a day, week, month or year, and honestly it has helped me to be more kind and more aware of myself. You should actually try it out. And Oscar, as a fellow former Busherian, keep your word😂💪🏾💯...
Thanks Brandon.
We are dedicated to leading by example. We are happy that our growth encourages you.
#growthisimperative
I'm a fan of future me too.
"...a concept that is often misunderstood". So true! I have written a book on the topic and sometimes I feel so judged; so much so that this almost gets me to the corner of questioning myself. Learning to love myself and being deliberate at it every day however still remains the best thing I have ever done for myself; and believe it or not, for the world.
Minute 23: Damn,I just love how this conversation touched alter egos. That is the journey to self-love I believe and yeah so beautiful growing into your own name..😍😍 ♥️
You've really done your homework on this topic! And amazing deep insights you've got there.
I learned so much from this. And the 4 steps are a major key... definitely something I will practice more intentionally.
Absolutely splendid💯always looking forward to the next discussion.
These conversations bring me home. They are real and deep. Great content!
I like Eli's speech!
This is such a riveting conversation and I truly enjoyed it .I appreciate your vulnerability .You truly make the world a better place .
This idea of viewing yourself as less valuable because you have little to no appreciation for yourself has got me thinking. Take away is set boundaries that dictate how you want to be treated
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You guys are looking so smart man
Love the episode!
Great insights as usual!👏😌
amazing talk show.this is literally the best conent.
Yeeh my people 💕
The episode has been really great, loved it
From this discussion, I have a self-love issue, let me start working on it.
@Nya Mbura how is the going?
@@justmartyn5165 I am still working on it, not doing so bad now........thanks for asking.
LOVE IT
The letter bit! Wow!
Notification gang!
Great work
Great conversations👌
Great insights guys👏 Thanks
Eli, I know what event you’re talking about 😂
This is so cool
Here after Lydia KMs recommendation
Thanks!
I used to listen to Purpose podcast by Jay shetty, but I guess I will be replacing that with this channel. Supporting local quality channels all the way.
Lol...I wont write a letter . Lol
Hey bro. I need your help on creating an intro like yours