When I was 14 I suffered from SEVERE depression and anxiety. I was moody and withdrawn, so instead of my dad and his wife asking me what waa wrong... they accused me of having a "demonic presence" in me. After I tried to put into words my feelings, they continued to berate me and accuse me of needing to "take accountability" for inviting this "demonic presence" in my life. At church, instead of getting me in touch with my pastor or a counselor, they paraded me in front of the whole church to be prayed for. I had to repent and allow the "demonic presence" to be removed. It was traumatic and only exasperated the feelings I had. So, thank you so much for sharing these videos and sharing your perspective with us ❤️
Ugh. I am so sorry they did that to you. How awful. When I was a newborn, my mom took my to church for the first time, and one lady got up and told the church I was "born with a spirit of fear". When I was older and started having anxiety, my mom confidently told me it was Satan. She then told me that story of the lady prophesying over me. So...I didn't get any help. Just guilt.
@@AvendaleFurtick’s net worth is 60 million dollars. The church purchased the land at well under market value. The house is 16,000 sq ft. It is worth well more than 2.5 million dollars.
One of the reasons I stopped paying tithes and offerings was because I didn't see how they were helping the community. They are pressuring people who are already struggling financially to give. Homeless people are still sleeping outside in extreme weather.
Grew up christian (pentecostal) , believed ALL of it. After a really bad accident, I now suffer from PTSD, anxiety, depression, derealization. I do take medication and did go to a TON of therapy. it has helped me SO, SO MUCH But before that, you know what DIDN'T WORK? prayer. I prayed, prayed, prayed and prayed more, I let everyone else lay hands on me and "cast out" whatever, you know? and, to NO ONE'S surprise, there was nothing to come out., lol... Kristi, keep your vids going! they're INCREDIBLY helpful to a LOT of people.
Yes! this video is spot on! They terrify you and then shame you for being terrified. It is a sick form of mental torture and then they make you give them money for it. Its sick.
I realized this 40 yrs ago, and while I still believe, I no longer attend church or listened to pastors. This little video gave me a lot of anxiety when I had none before I turned it on😂
@@ruthhamilton4882 If you think its true thats respectable, i respect your not an ignorant fundamentalist, people dont realise how real mental health is and the abuse people instill in God's name, they dont care about mental illness/conditions until they experience it themself.
This is group masochism and these folks like it. Masochism:From The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language "The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself." Sick and twisted.
My grandmother blamed my older sister's neatly fatal OCD on my mother daring to marry my mostly First Nations and Christian Universalist father instead of someone who was just as White, Irish, and Catholic as the rest of the family. This was also her explanation for my autism and my brother's hemifacial microsomia. There's a reason my my entire immediate family and an increasing percentage of my extended family are no longer Catholic. Jesus never helped with my anxiey or depression. You know what did? Counseling, learning coping mechanisms, SSRIs, and perhaps most importantly and effectively getting to the root of things and getting on HRT. I actually enjoy being alive now. It's as wonserful as it is surreal.
Yes - I've heard Catholicism described as something akin to a mental disease by a guy who was raised Catholic - but hey - my mother's side of the family was Catholic, too! Yeah - they're the great masters of the guilt trip...
@@naiman4535I was raised Catholic, and my mother liked to project her own guilt and shame onto me when I was a teenager. She told me what a bad person I was, even though I was a really good teen. I just recently went to a Catholic funeral and saw again how the Catholic church controls its people with a lifetime of guilt and shame. Of course, they state that they are the one and only true Christian church, so only Catholics could take communion. The sermon was boring, shaming and putting people down. I left the Catholic church at 16-years-old. I am now 68-years-old. It hasn't changed.
@@PB-dq9gi Thanks for your reply, PB! In my mother's Catholic side of the family, my aunt Lilyan, who had given up her own life and plans to marry in order to take care of her aging parents, was held up as a kind of sinless paragon of virtue. My sister and I could both sense the crazy guilt trip involved, and rebelled against the whole thing. It is often said that every Catholic family tries to send one of its sons or daughters into the priesthood, or into a convent - perhaps to get right with God in some way. Anyway, my aunt Lilyan was kind of like a vicarious or substitute nun.
Same here. I never realised exactly how much anxiety the Church and Christianity caused in my life. The constant fear of being left behind, the constant feeling of not being good enough, the constant fear of disappointing God..... It was excruciating, and I never realised the damage it did until recently.
@abilioneto6366 Don’t agree with you. If you believe in mythology, sure, then there might be, for you. But then, which mythology do you actually believe in, because they all are similar and borrow stories? Ah, no need to answer, I know which one. Still doesn't change the fact that it is a bunch of borrowed stories.
@@pinky9440 you just making it too simple, read Bertrand Russel, Read Nietzsche and what he said about moral genealogy, God is not just a "Myth", is not simple as that, Immanuel Kant have showed the same thing, even sartre talk about how much difference can a human life being different comparing someone who believe in God and someone who dont, is not simple as that.
I think he explained to have no fear is to have no anxiety. Don't believe the thoughts about worries. Stand up and go through the fire. This pastor did not say too much, just added the act for entertainment.
When God gets pissed off at humans, his creation, what does he do? Destroys entire cities, kills the first born, or even floods the entire planet. When God gets mad at his creations of angels or demons what does he do? Gives them an entire world to do as they please with no repercussions. God created anxiety too.
Do not offend sky daddy, when angered he tosses his lightning bolts and thunderbolts around. His favorite treat is to flood the earth and kill everyone.
"Just tell anxiety to go away when it attacks." Tell me you've never had an anxiety attack without telling me you've never had an anxiety attack. When they hit, they don't just go away when you want them to, no matter how hard you tell them to. Maybe next time I have one, I'll just ROAR at it really loud and try to scare it away....
ATHEISTS, AGNOSTICS, and FANATICS of RELIGIONS KNOW THAT THEY DON'T VALUE THEIR OWN LIVES and DIGNITIES, KNOW THAT THEY WILL NOT LIVE and LAST on EARTH FOREVER Jehovah's Witnesses, SDAs, Mormons, Catholics, Baptists, Pentecostals, Born Again Christians, Buddhists, Muslims, Hindus, and fanatics of all kinds of Religions who are filling the world with the lies, deceptions, false teachings and claims of their anti-Christs Pastors and Leaders about "Trinity", "heaven and hellfire", "rapture", "Armageddon", and "reincarnation" KNOW that they will never be glorified in their make-believe and fairy tale Heaven nor tortured for eternity in their invented and fictional Hell but just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths. Atheists and Agnostics who are filling the world with their lie and false claim that the Creator is worthless, useless, and undeserving to be honored and respected as the Most High and Sovereign God KNOW that they will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths The CREATOR and HIS CHRIST VALUE THE LIVES and DIGNITIES of HUMAN BEINGS, KNOW THAT HUMAN BEINGS WILL LIVE AND EXIST ON EARTH FOREVER Jesus Christ KNOWS that all imperfect, suffering, and dying human beings who honor and obey him as their Heavenly Master and King and believe his teachings about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" are definitely bringing upon themselves the Creator's favor and reward of ETERNAL LIFE and existence without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness and death on a safe, secure, and peaceful earth without arrogant, cruel, disrespectful, and merciless persons, without liars, slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, traitors, terrorists, criminals, and murderers. The Creator KNOWS that the teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is his guarantee that all his worshippers and believers of his Christ who died recently and thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Job, Ruth, Naomi, King David, Isaiah, Daniel, Martha, Mary, Lazarus, and many others will not remain as worthless dusts on earth forever, instead in the right and proper time, he will let his Christ resurrect them back to life so they can all happily and abundantly live and exist on earth forever as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" or His Kingdom and fully enjoy his and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, goodness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings for eternity under the loving and kind rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ as his Chosen King and Ruler of the heavens and the earth.
SATAN IS THE ORCHESTRATOR OF SINS NOT GOD. THE BIBLE SAYS “THE DEVIL PROWLS LIKE A ROARING LION SEEKING WHOM HE MAY DEVOUR.” “THE DEVIL COMES TO KILL, STEAL AND DESTROY”. “THE DEVIL IS THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION” and the person that runs this channel and those that support it are as confused as it get.
It's like they never read their own idiotic book: Isaiah 45:7 “I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the lord do all these things.” Amos 3:6 “Shall a trumpet be blown in the city, and the people not be afraid? Shall there be evil in a city, and the LORD hath not done it?”
Once when I was going thru a major depression I went and told my mom about it. She turned into the Church lady and went off telling me all I needed was Jesus. I think all I needed and wanted was a hug from my mom and for her to say things will be ok. Telling her I was depressed was the worst thing I could have done.
It’s a self perpetuating vicious cycle. It’s normal to get that kind of response from people, even good, kind people, raised and taught to believe that Jesus fixes every problem. That’s why education, actual education not indoctrination, is so important. There’s still too little awareness and too much stigma attached to mental health.
whenever I'd mention anxiety or depression around my mom she'd say I just need to "serve others and trust jesus"... how helpful now that I've left the church it's because I'm "following the devil"... never mind that I've dealt with it all along...
I also hate when people tell me that God loves me. What about you? How do you feel about me, Mom? Woman who birthed me? I can't remember the last time I had a hug from my mom. I live with my mom.
Wow, this video really reflects my early adolescence experience. At 9 years old I was a happy kid full of hope and excitement. I was writing my own stories, drawing, studying music, just doing all kinds of creative things I loved. Then… yep, you know it, we joined an Assembly of God Pentecostal church… and by age 11, I had become an anxiety ridden kid filled with worry about the end times, Hell, demons and all the rest of it. I thought it was my desires holding me back and letting Satan into my life, so I threw away most of my drawings and books and things that had previously inspired me… It took a long time to escape that mental prison I was in. And that earlier passion never came back. The flame was snuffed out by preachers, youth leaders and well-meaning family members. But at least I’m not in that world anymore…
Church: "The devil is targeting you specifically!" "The rapture is going to happen any day and you might get left behind!" "You might die today, get saved now!!" Me: *anxious mess* Church: that's a sin.
Just like telling you that god hates you if you’re in the lbgtq community and you’re going to hell and that you’ve let the Devil in you and to cast him away
My Pastor growing up did these same kinds of sermons. He even recommended going to the 12 step program in our church for anxiety "addiction". It hurt me and a lot of other people in the congregation who had anxiety disorders. These are more than just ridiculous trash takes from the church. These sentiments hurt people. Thank you for continuing to talk about these things.
When I was in evangelicalism we were instilled with the fear of demonic possession. When I was 20 I was so afraid of demonic possession that I was afraid to drive by a palm reading business on my way home from college. I used to take an alternate route to avoid driving by that place for fear demons from there would attack me. Unbelievable!
@@FinHammer Age 20 was a loooong time ago for me. I have been around the world, married a lady from the Philippines and have been a fully productive software engineer for decades. And yes, I walk by fortune telling shops without giving it a second thought. I don't fall for the superstitions that evangelicalism tries to scare people with.
I was raised with the same beliefs and taught that demons lurked behind every second hand candle or rock album. After I left the religion for a few years and started becoming comfortable with my deconstruction, I actually bought and read The Satanic Bible. Weird, nothing happened. Dumb book, by the way. Then I hung a picture of Baphomet, and nothing happened. Later I bought a statue of Baphomet. I don't believe in any spiritism at all, but I like the fact that some of this imagery flips the bird to all of my previous beliefs with zero consequences. It's very comforting.
Yes, I was scared of listening to certain music, my mom mutes prayers from different religions on the tv, I didn’t wanna read books with other religions or ideas apart from god. Very real!
I'm 46 and still believe in some form of higher power, but I quit being Christian when I was 32. I relate to your videos. I was raised feeling so guilty for my witchy/pagan beliefs. I felt guilty for loving Halloween so much. Whew! I'm so glad to not be in all of that anymore.
Blessed be, fellow witch. You’re not alone in this. I’ve actually had to call on the spiritual protection of Artemis, Thor, and Athena who told me to ask my sister to help me find a therapist.
And keep in mind he's supposed to be one of evangelicalism's best and brightest. That's the best they have to offer, the cream of the cream of the crop. And it's still somehow worse advice than most of what you'd find in the self-help section at Barnes and Nobles, much less what you'd get from an actual licensed and certified therapist.
I remember in the 60s watching newsreel footage of Graham blessing bombs that were being loaded onto airplanes to be dropped on the Vietnamese. Prince of a guy.
I’m so sorry you had to hear that from someone we all grew up to respect… he was wrong and didn’t know it. The pain we inflict out of ignorance is overwhelming.
@@c.a.t.732 And people wonder why Frankie is such a trainwreck of a human: look who raised him. He's not a downgrade from the original, he's just the original minus the personality cult sheen.
When I was a christian, I was jealous of people who "heard" from god and had conversations with him. I wondered why it was such an empty wind tunnel when I prayed. What was I doing wrong? Did god not like me? I never once heard any voices in my head. One day, somebody told me to "just" open the bible randomly and whatever I read was god's message to me. That seemed So Random and some of the results were absurd, laughable even. The best thing I ever did for myself was to give myself permission to look at things honestly. Turns out I wasn't an unworthy stepchild. It was that god was an unworthy concept that wasn't even real. I like your work. I wish you had been around when I was deconverting.
Yes this MADE UP PSYCHO MANIAC YWH and his Spawn. People don't notice the GENOCIDE, SLAVERY. Any kind of SLAVERY, Plagiarism, Contradictions, False Promises, Filth, Lies, YWH is a PSYCHO MANIAC and people and people ignore it or justify it
This man found a good barber, grew a beard, and did a lot of pushups. His glow-up is the true miracle that should be evaluated. That's the only thing I'll take notes from him on.
@@jillianb1744 you have to see the older pics....I bet you he didn't have as many followers then. His followers must go to look at him....and maybe get the word while they there.
This guy: "I've come before you thousands of people today to tell you that I am the most humble of God's servants. I have personal conversations with the trans-galactic super being that created and monitors all of the huge universe. And he depends on ME personally to bring you his message. Silver Surfer has nothing on me. I'm so humble that the trans-galactic super being that is at war with the one I serve PERSONALLY comes after me to prevent me from telling you what my super-being has to say. And just for hearing what I have to say, you will be a target for trans-galactic magic forces. Booga-booga. Stop being so anxious or I will publicly make fun of you and your weakness because I am nothing more than a humble multi-millionaire servant of a trans-galactic super-being."
I used to have anxiety and it always came when I was getting ready for bed. Id be laying down praying then my mind always wondered to all the people i know who was going to hell and i would beg God to change his ways. Every night this occured. And i would cry so much. Anyway thank you Kristi you play a big part in my deconstruction 😊
The "devil" is the scorpion constellation, watch out for him. He is also called Satan, Father of Lies. Before going to bed, make sure he is not hiding under your bed.
When I went to church they made me feel so guilty about my depression and anxiety that I attempted suicide thankfully I'm still here I would wish the feeling I had on anyone
I watched your "Lot was a righteous man" video then this one. My (x) stepfather was abusing my sister. My mother went to the pastor of our church at that time... the pastor counselled her that divorce was a sin. This became the wedge that eventually broke me from the church. No matter how I tried to rationalize it, I couldnt. At that point I realized that religion was flawed. My x as a young adult was also abusive. It was a slow burn, where the abuse increased over time. After leaving that relationship, I dived into studying narcissistic and emotional abuse as part of my healing. I didn’t want a repeat. I didn’t think I would survive it because I barely did that time. The more I learned the more I realized that there was a solid experience I endured within the church for every emotional or narcissistic abuse tactic. Especially the subtle ones. Part of my healing was deprogramming the inherent shame I felt about myself... the inherent inability to trust my instincts... the inherent urge to abdicate my happiness and choices to someone deemed 'an authority.' After some time I could not deny how, from an early age, I had been conditioned for accepting emotional and narcissistic abuse. I had been primed for being used. I can't describe how it hit, other than this immense heavy sadness. When the peices fell into place, it was a picture I needed to see, but didn’t want to see for so long... I grieved myself. I grieved the loss of everything I ever knew. My security, my youth, all those years of self-determination denied... all gone. This was a decades long journey for me. I have a wonderful partner now and a happy life that I built myself, with my own choices and talents. Its not perfect, but it is a genuine sense of joy that comes from within myself. The only downside is that now I'm outside of the glassbox... with my beloved family members still on the inside. I keep pounding on the glass... hoping they'll notice. And I just watch them get hurt, over and over, because they are also programmed to accept abuse as I was. And they don't know why, just as I did. And it breaks my heart. How I wish they could find emotional wellbeing and happiness that isnt dependent on a sermon, but founded within themselves.
I'm sorry yaall went through that. It shouldn't tolerated When I was 8yrs old I was taken to the church basement by an elder and told me I was the devils child. Still to this day, decades later. It still affects me
Taking Asthma medication (Like I do) for over 40 years(I am 46), has side effects and one of them is anxiety and until you experience it, you will not understand it. I was not a believer in anxiety until it happened to me... Pasters can cause more damage if they are uneducated, and lots are!!! I have panic disorder and i am now doing batter. It was totally subconscious and nothing it could THINK or DO would make it better. I went to the hospital and thought i was having a heart attack, i could not breath and the doctors did all these tests and they found nothing. I was a teacher for 10 years always had no trouble speaking in front of people, now when I am in a room and someone closes the door, my heart will race. Again, this is nothing i can control and it SUCKS! I never understood Claustrophobia, did not believe it was real, well it started to happen to me. When i hear pasters or people say Anxiety is not a real medical condition, they are fools and i lose respect for them.... Our brains are very complex and if something is off like a chemical imbalance, Anxiety can be a side effect.
I too have had chronic asthma all of my life. I love animals but I'm allergic to all furry animals. I always have to ask people if they have a dog before go to their house or I get into their car because even if the animal is not in there at the time, if it's been in there before I will have an asthma attack. The doctor say it is their dander that is Left Behind and in the air that causes it. It creates a tremendous amount of anxiety always having to be on guard so I don't end up in the hospital! People think they can put the dog in another room and I'll be fine but it doesn't work that way and nobody understands that even after I have explained it.
@@adam2aces Get a Green Cheek or Sun conure and I have 4 birds and they are amazing animals! Smart, some talk, but if you get a hand raised from a breeder parrot, they will bond to you and when they do, they are your best friend for life, and they can live for 30 years. Just if you get one never cook or clean in the same room, and throw out all non stick pots and pans. The non stick coating can kill them because when it gets hot it releases a molecule that binds to their lungs and turns them off, we had that happen because we did not know our stove had a non stick lining... Anyways check out small parrots like sun and green cheek conures!!! amazing animals!
I feel bad for all this people that been brain washed like I was … till I came back to reality.let’s wake up and stop this fools running our life’s! Much love to everyone . This is how they control people and it’s been working for thousands of years! I’ve been a Christian till Ive done my research and came out of depression till I found out the real truth.shout out to kristi Burke keep up what your doing! 👍👍👍
I remember it so vividly when I was 11. I believe now that I had broken down with an anxiety attack and asked God to save me. I prayed every night days/weeks for God to save me from hell because I didn’t feel any different afterward. I still felt scared, anxious, and lost.
I was seven years old when I was traumatized by a church elder. I was doing something that the elder thought was wrong that required my hand to be placed on the metaphorical hellfire and brimstone stove top. She had said, "Don't do that or the devil might think you like him." In the scheme of things, what she said was mild compared to more serious trauma children have gone through and I won't say that what I went through was just as traumatic. But it was nonetheless traumatic for me. And I buried that trauma because I thought that was what was expected of me - out of sight out of mind you know. Doing that though only turns that trauma into something far worse. Today, I am 46 years of age and I have depression, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, OCD, uncontrolled negative thoughts and a few other things. In my time, I have run across people who have said to me - what that woman did to you should be celebrated because she taught you how hot the stove can actually get. When I tell them that I prayed and prayed for peace from this Hell I'm in and get nothing they tell me that I'm not praying correctly or that I'm doing something wrong or that I should quote the sinners prayer and be whammed, bammed, thank you sir for that instant salvation. When I turned the big four oh I decided that I was going to get help. Im on medication and I go to counseling and even though Im still in a dark place I am no longer at a point where suicide was imminent for me. What was the thing she didnt like that I was doing? I was drawing a picture of an alien monster called the space devil.
I'm a sociopath and I suspect that we have a far better deal than you guys (normal people) do. I've never experienced anxiety/ depression/ suicide ideation/ etc... Furthermore, I've never heard of a sociopath (or a psychopath) who has/ does suffer from such ailments. I suspect that it's all related. What makes me a sociopath (flat affect or almost flat affect) is also a saving grace when it comes to depression, etc... I'm glad I'm a sociopath. It seems like it would take a LOT of effort to care about everyone and everything and if I had to do that, I'd probably want to kill myself, too!
Thanks for dismantling that repulsive, gaslighting sermon. 👍 And now that my Xanax has kicked in and my anxiety has subsided, I'm going to listen to some soothing ASMR and go back to sleep 💤 (it's still about an hour before sunrise 🌅 here in Australia 🇦🇺).
When I tried to discuss my severe depression, anxiety and panic attacks over twenty years ago with a famous female Christian singer after a concert, she told me to "Be free in Jesus!" I felt no compassion Instead, it seemed flippant and her words did not reduce my suicidal thoughts and feelings.
I’m a therapist who is an ex-AG Pastor. I also left the faith. I almost facepalmed just seeing the thumbnail for this video. This joker has no business addressing anxiety disorders. I’d respect him if he brought a professional he could interview and discuss how there might be appropriate spiritual integration without compromising evidence based treatments.. He would help his congregation soooo much more, but I agree with you that his aim isn’t to help people suffering as much as keeping the seats filled
@@Mar-dk3mp I'm godless and I'm not alone, or lonely, and my life is quite happy and full. Perhaps it is you that is struggling and trying to feel better about your life by criticizing someone who has made a career of trying to help people. Maybe you should try reading your Bible more (Matthew 7:1-3), there are some nuggets of wisdom in there after all.
@@Mar-dk3mp My life is awesome without your imaginary monster. I have a loving wife and a wonderful daughter. My wife and I play DND every other weekend with our friends. We can both work from home, which means we have all the time in the world for each other. But hey, according to you, I'm living a sad, empty life. Please tell me more how I should change my life and become a mindless sheep following con men. And tell me more how I should view my wife and daughter as inferior to me because your vile book says they are. I'm good without your hateful religion, thanks.
@@Mar-dk3mp Ironic that you say that, learning more about God is what made me feel isolated and alone than when I was godless. I have good friends and family, I had two good friends (bless their souls, they both died before they could even turn 21) who I constantly fear never seeing again. I fear losing myself because of how devoted I am to my interests and to the people around me, just living life as what feels right to me. Then the second I studied Religion and "God's Word" is when I became paralyzed by fear and insecurity. I felt alone, and I felt condemned. And yes, I do fear Hell, as well as Purgatory, but I fear God an equal amount, not because of some "wisdom" or "seeing the error of my ways", because I felt like I was being denied that love and happiness that I felt just following my heart and conscience.
As someone with rampant, diagnosed anxiety & OCD I am so very thankful to be out of christianity and a much happier atheist. The claims this man makes is just a slap in the face about mental illness, much like many pastors who preach this harmful, incorrect rhetoric. Thank you Kristi for constantly putting this all in words I can never muster within my own thoughts.
i have severe anxiety, a few months ago i could barely leave the house and i was having panic attacks every day, and i can promise you i was not prideful. i hated myself and thought i was weak. i tried praying and read the Bible, but none of that worked for me. that’s part of what made me lose my faith
I grew up in a southern baptist church in which it was assumed that people experienced mental health issues like depression, anxiety, etc. because they had some kind of spiritual problem. So of course the solution to the depression or anxiety was also spiritual (being prayed over, being urged to "get right with God", etc.). Unfortunately, this kind of destructive mentality is still very pervasive in Christianity, as this guy's sermon shows.
I grew up Seventh Day Adventist. My childhood was CONSUMED with fears of the End Of Times and the period of tribulation. In those times they taught about the dreaded Sunday Blue Laws. Which they've since gotten away from. To be fair the laws do exist state level in some regard. But they do not have the intent that we were taught. Most of them are to discourage secular behavior on Sundays. Like buying alcohol, going to strip clubs etc. Just like many small towns in the Midwest that slow business to a crawl on Sundays. Far cry from forced worship and persecution. We were taught that the government would create laws making it illegal to worship on the 7th day. Constant anxiety and conspiracy theories about the laws already being proposed. Told that Canada already had such laws that weren't being enforced. Which would in time force us to leave the cities and go into hiding in the mountains. We were taught that all other churches would attack or turn us in to the authorities. For not worshiping on Sundays. That close friends and family would betray us to save themselves. The anxiety was thick. I had constant nightmares as a child. Revelations was a TERRIFYING book that I didn't read until deconstruction. Just horrible what churches do to people.
@@undrwatropium3724 Thank you so much. I worked through it thankfully. But it did inform a lot of my childhood and teenage years. Stunted would be an understatement.
I was obsessed with survivalist skills because I was taught the same. Only difference is we would have to go live in the deep swamp to hide from the evil government (southern state)
Kristi, Thank you for the video, I have had anxiety since I was a child. In my 30s I woke up one morning with electric shocks going down my arms, I spent two days in the hospital and then 1 and a half years in therapy. The therapist really helped me put my life in order and greatly reduced the anxiety. I would highly recommend finding a board certified therapist who treats anxiety. I noticed the preacher did not bring up Christ's sacrifice on the cross when talking about the devil attacking Christians. I had thought Christ had defeated the devil. Interesting how preachers manipulate their sermons to fit the situation, to manipulate the congregation.
Yeah, my father in law was a pastor. He once gave a sermon about depression. It was bad. He basically said the Abe Lincoln beat depression with his faith and we can too. You don’t need a therapist, you just need the Bible, a good friend to talk to, and a closer walk with God. Hate to tell him Lincoln didn’t exactly beat depression. He actually took medication for his melancholy that he hated because it made him feel worse. He masked his depression. Not that they knew what it was back then. Meanwhile I am battling MDD and severe social anxiety, and both my kids have anxiety and ADHD. But we don’t tell the in law’s because we didn’t want a sermon about or become part of one. As is my daughter got tired of the youth group trying to pray away her relatively invisible genetic disorder.
Victim-blaming is one of the biggest problems in christianity. If you hold the belief that the universe was created by god, who is all good and all loving and perfect, then you have to explain away ALL suffering in a way that puts ALL of the blame on people. Also, having empathy can be hard but it’s especially challenging for insecure people who feel they need to put others down to feel better about themselves.
ATHEISTS, AGNOSTICS, and FANATICS of RELIGIONS KNOW THAT THEY WILL NOT LIVE and LAST on EARTH FOREVER Jehovah's Witnesses, SDAs, Mormons, Catholics, Baptists, Pentecostals, Born Again Christians, Buddhists, Muslims, Hindus, and fanatics of all kinds of Religions who are filling the world with the lies, deceptions, false teachings and claims of their anti-Christs Pastors and Leaders about "Trinity", "heaven and hellfire", "rapture", "Armageddon", and "reincarnation" KNOW that they will never be glorified in their make-believe and fairy tale Heaven nor tortured for eternity in their invented and fictional Hell but just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths. Atheists and Agnostics who are filling the world with their lie and false claim that the Creator is worthless, useless, and undeserving to be honored and respected as the Most High and Sovereign God KNOW that they will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths The CREATOR and HIS CHRIST KNOW THAT HUMAN BEINGS WILL LIVE AND EXIST ON EARTH FOREVER Jesus Christ KNOWS that all imperfect, suffering, and dying human beings who honor and obey him as their Heavenly Master and King and believe his teachings about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" are definitely bringing upon themselves the Creator's favor and reward of ETERNAL LIFE and existence without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness and death on a safe, secure, and peaceful earth without arrogant, cruel, disrespectful, and merciless persons, without liars, slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, traitors, terrorists, criminals, and murderers. The Creator KNOWS that the teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is his guarantee that all his worshippers and believers of his Christ who died recently and thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Job, Ruth, Naomi, King David, Isaiah, Daniel, Martha, Mary, Lazarus, and many others will not remain as worthless dusts on earth forever, instead in the right and proper time, he will let his Christ resurrect them back to life so they can all happily and abundantly live and exist on earth forever as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" or His Kingdom and fully enjoy his and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, goodness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings for eternity under the loving and kind rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ as his Chosen King and Ruler of the heavens and the earth.
Theists do it out of fear that more and more of the world are starting to recognize their mythology is nonsense and are moving on without it. You can't have a rational discussion with people that have their minds set on believing in the irrational, especially not about anything related to those beliefs. They will defy logic, ignore reason, no matter what you tell the,
That of course only raises the guestion, why did god then create such imperfect beings in the first place, assuming he could have done literally anything else. Making creatures that cause pain doesn't help paint a picture of a loving and capable god.
the combination of “all good comes from god” and “all evil is because of human sin” is the perfect recipe for anxiety. everything good about you is because of something outside of yourself, and everything bad about you is an inherent part of your human nature. and any barrier between yourself and this external source of goodness is your fault in some way. how could you have anything other than an anxious, panicky, depressed view of yourself and everything around you?
He’s so aggressive and ignorant, a scary combination! Your sensitive and thoughtful approach to discussing anxiety was really soothing between clips of this terrible sermon, thank you:)
@@fightthegoodfight-mc3uk meditation: 1: to engage in contemplation or reflection 2: to engage in mental exercise (such as concentration on one's breathing or repetition of a mantra) for the purpose of reaching a heightened level of spiritual awareness prayer 1: an address (such as a petition) to God or a god in word or thought said a prayer for the success of the voyage 2: a set order of words used in praying 3: an earnest request or wish I am not sure how you see that they are the same or that one is a subset of the other. Meditation has nothing to do with a deity, worship, request or wish. You might try for the "for the purpose of reaching a heightened level of spiritual awareness" but I think that fails the test as well. Taking to yourself, claiming that you are conversing with a deity, seems to be the complete lack of awareness.
@@Cuffsmaster,"For medical problems go to a medical doctor not a witch doctor." This is what is called a non sequitur since it has nothing to do with the post you replied to.
@@triplejazzmusicisall1883, "Meditation may help reduce it for a very short period of time but it will not solve the problem." You may note that the author said, "can reduce anxiety." He did not claim that it cures an anxiety disorder. We all have experienced anxiety without having the disorder. Stopping and reflecting on why you feel anxious can help quite a lot. "You need to see a Medical expert and probably take necessary medication." Yes, if you suffer from anxiety disorder. But that was not what the author said. Three replies and three strawman arguments!
My mom had severe mental illness (we are guessing bipolar, anxiety, and borderline from her behavior)) and she never sought out treatment but was incredibly devout (Southern Baptist). I wish she would have gotten help. I wish I would have gotten some help before my late 20's.
I don’t suffer from anxiety attacks but my granddaughter does. Thankfully she is seeing a therapist regularly and is taking a prescribed medication. Yes, they are helping her cope with her condition. Kristi, thanks for speaking out on how people with anxiety attacks can really receive help.
Less than a year ago my father asked me to give a Biblical counselor a chance. I obliged. And the shit that came out of his moth did NOT help. He told me my anxiety was a sin. He said he couldn’t tell me no matter how much information I give him that he had no say in whether I was going to hell or heaven. He said said some typical things you’d expect a southern baptist to say on the LGBT as well. Needless to say, that was one of the big starters to my Deconstruction.
The irony is that some pastors preach that the only freedom is to be found in Christ, that the shackles of the world/sins can be undone by surrendering to god and that one can be made whole In Christ. I never felt so free and complete as the day I found the key to the prison which I identify as Christianity. Decades of bondage to what has been the product of the human mind. Don't get me wrong tho. Religion has it's use and there are good things to be found in the Bible, but it needs to be seen for what it is: a product of human evolution trying to deal with reality, with the need to fill up human needs (that still holds true today btw, hence why religions are still so big)
I'm a combat vet and I've got severe PTSD from my tour in Baghdad. Talking about anxiety attacks and how they sneak up on you, I have some "tells" as my anxiety builds but it's taken me nearly twenty years to recognize that they were there and how to deal with it when I notice it. I've also been in therapy for going on 17 years now so I've had quite a bit of help. His rhetoric is all over the board and quite dangerous, which is why it seems these evangelists tend to be a bit on the wacky side, they'd rather get their mental health treatment from their clergypeople instead of trained mental health professionals. Kinda like how they get their health advice from the facebooks and not a damn doctor...
I am one of the millions of children that lived through WW2 and ended up with PTSD. I was about 80, before I finally realized this, and was able to admit it. Now that I'm 90, I am doing very well and it helps that I can talk about the past and its problems.
@Fritz999 A lot of people did get it from that period. Even in the UK, where the ground fighting wasn't going on. Children living in London were separated from their parents and evacuated to homes and schools in the countryside. Even to the USA. That meant too many children in some of these rural schools. For some children, they ended up with a better family or got a taste of country life. People had to carry a gas mask wherever they went. There was food rationing. You had to buy black out curtains and put them up. You couldn't put the light on at home without closing the curtains first. For children they wouldn't have known any different so it didn't affect them as much as it affected adults unless they were evacuated, lost a father or brother fighting in the war or bombed out of their home. Then the next generation was brought up and/or taught in school by these traumatised people.
Thank you for your service. My uncle is in a similar boat though his PTSD seems very bad. I feel for him after all he’s done. Just wanted to say thanks for your service and I agree with your comments!
Anxiety is a mental illness that someone neverr chooses i was raised a christian and going through aniety and depression i did pray and i only got a lot worse that is when i gave up on religion tearphy and medication are usually are the best churches like this are so so dangerous. This message is going to increase anxiety awesome video kristie love you're channel
Christian here, I have currently been questioning my faith and this is a big topic for me, I was born again in Christ last October and I suffered from bipolar and night terrors that settled around that time and I assumed that it was because of that, but at the same time I was getting a promotion to manager, graduating high school and getting settled down instead of living the unpredictable life like I was, but recently I have been going through deep sadness and seeing false prophets and pastors who preach a false gospel but at the same time I have been taking action as a man to better my life, without leaning on God as much and I’m doing just as well if not better now, thank you for reading God bless you all💛
As a Christian, I always get confused on “just lean on God, you don’t need to do anything”. Like sleeping in bed all day and “doing nothing” is not going to solve anything. It’s weird. But I hope you’re doing better now!
God tells us to test the spirits(it means to compare the teachings of earthly pastors,priests to Gods word) We live in a fallen world just like you mentioned false prophets,it’s a spiritual battle between the evil of this world and Gods word. Read from the Bible,and hopefully you can find a church that speaks the truth. Trust the word of God before man’s false teachings
I encourage you to consider fully deconstructing and deconverting. Question everything, assume nothing - engage in critical thinking. Free yourself from religious bondage.
As an Ex-Christain, not an atheist. I believe in life after death without any doubt. God of the bible, is God of many men that created him. NDE's and Past lives... made everything I experienced as a kid make sense. I have no more fear!
Thank you for this video...I've struggled with anxiety for my entire life and through medication and an amazing therapist, I now have answers and know that religious trauma was at the root of my anxiety...40+ years of prayer to the father never took it away because he was the one who caused it...Cut the puppet strings and be free...Keep asking questions.. Never let anyone silence you and take away your ability to think...
I really love these kinds of videos, Kristi! love how you point out their manipulating and blaming (and mocking) tactics. There was absolutely no sympathy, compassion or empathy in this sermon or his delivery. If I had been in that congregation, I would have stood up and walked out right in the middle of it. Clearly you did more homework for this video than that pastor did. His sermon certainly did not help anyone except feed his own ego.
@@roncurilla6991 Yup. This is one of the MANY reasons why I stopped attending church services about 15 yrs ago. Currently deconstructing and trying to find healing after suffering much abuse by the church for most of my life.
Actually, Kristi, I think that your advice and videos can be helpful for atheists, agnostics, and even those of various faiths because we all need to think for OURSELVES. Don’t let ANYONE dictate your experience or your path. Thank you very much!
'...dictate your path.' You mean like what Christianity does? Believe or else... Fear, Sin, Satan, Demons and Devils. Kristi is helping those that believe in Christianity, that we are being deceived and lied too. I'm thankful for her.
I swear, having anxiety, I hate when people tell me I’m over thinking something. My response is either, “what’s the right amount of thinking?” or “No, you’re just not thinking enough.” And then I promptly worry and overthink the interaction the rest of the day.
They'll never understand. I'm sorry you have to deal with it too. It will continue to frustrate you, but hopefully over time you will learn to just blow off their suggestions as lack of understanding. And no, that doesn't mean the frustration will go away. At some point you just get better at saying f* it, you have no clue what you're talking about(don't mean actually saying that; even though sometimes you probably should).
From one anxiety sufferer to another; I’m so sorry. They’ll never understand what we endure. How can they when they appear to glide through life and I’m sitting here with chest pains watching the world get worse & feeling helpless.
Dear Kristi, thank you for your effort and patience to show how wrong and in fact dangerous this pastor is. I saw many of your videos, and I am grateful, that you point so many things out, which are so harmful in religion. I have been a Christian for decades, in the end in a Christian high control group. I just left 8 months ago. Your videos are very helpful to deconstruct from the harmful faith. And you are presenting it so friendly, its a always a pleasure to watch. Please keep up the good work! Thank you from Germany!
He freely admits that he has no clue or qualifications about the subject matter but a whole congregation sits through it and cheers him anyway. The literal definition of stupidity.
Don't call them that, they just don't know yet. They are being taken advantage of because humans start out inherently good and they are flat out lying to them about the goodness of the god they serve bc theyve also conveniently made all the most evil people rich and the good ones broke so none of them actually have time to sit down and read an entire 1500 page book and let go of everything they believe in which has taken people years. The fault is not on the victims, It is the pastors that did this evil ahss shite to them.
For many reasons. One of them is growth. Evil spirits serve as resistance to make the children of God stronger, like weights and gravity make muscles stronger. They are here also so that the children of God can learn how to fight; by this I mean, that without an enemy you would not have hands on experience. They also serve to show all creation that light will always overcome even when it seems it's about to be snuffed out by the darkness. Demons also trigger the sinful tendencies in the people and cause them to come up to the surface, so that the people can learn to surrender those to God and have the impurities purged from their hearts. God wants His children to grow. He doesn't want them to stay immature forever. As they grow and overcome the challenges, they are elevated to higher spiritual positions, and are given more authority and power. Once they overcome the challenges, they are more prepared to help others. This is one of the reasons for suffering and pain. The reason for the temptations, the tests and challenges is so that people can be promoted and can receive rewards for being victorious. Rewards include authority or rulership over nations or areas of creation such as planets, star systems, galaxies, dimensions or universes. There are other rewards, but those are just some examples. God is accomplishing multiple purposes simultaneously. So there isn't only one reason for which He does things. There are many reasons.
Thanks again Kristi!! I have had anxiety since I was 5 and it almost derailed my life at 25. I heard all of the same things you talked about, and until I went to Psychiatrist and started taking medication I was completely lost by it all. Even then, it was very very hard, and came back viciously several times because I needed a lot of fine-tuning with the medication, and with the Cognitive Therapy side. It is a dangerous myth that any religious education at all will help in the least. To anyone out there I say, GO TO A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL!!
Anxiety and mental health issues are still a very new issue for a lot of people and even those in the church. A lot ministers don't know how to address it. There are Christians and even Ministers who have committed suicide. You made a lot of good points Kristi.
Well it’s still no excuse to be unforgivably cold & rude about it!! This whole jUsT pRaY mOrE or cHeCk yOuR sAlVaTiOn mAyBe yOu r Not rEaLLy sAvEd or mUsT bE a DeMoN COME ON. It’s not okay!
I have been unemployed for two years, fighting with depression for almost my entire adult life, have experienced panic attacks few times, tried ending my life few times, feel miserable and useless everyday and the last thing I would need is a multi millionaire pastor disregard my battles and tell me to just REJECT the hurt. It is easy for these people to give these "empower yourself" speeches when they don't know how it feels to go to sleep feeling worthless. I have tried so many times to humble myself and trust that things will get better and I am still the same depressed mess I was yesterday. These pastors have the audacity to tell people like me my mental battles are easy to overcome when the battles they face consist of choosing between the scarlet red or turquoise blue porsche.
Hi Kristy, your videos almost exactly describes the Jehovah's Witnesses. So so accurate with the spiritual warfare, fear, threats, anxiety and so much more. I was imprisoned by that cult for 50 years ! This guy is a nutter. Thanks for all your hard work. Hope you are happy and are fulfilled now. x
Coming from someone who took medication from anxiety has mild autism breathing heavily social awkwardness no friends obsessive paranoia taking the intiuative and drive and trying to better my life realizing im in control saved my life
My anxiety feels like constant adrenaline. Just like you feel in a car accident just a little bit lower than that. my dr says im in a constant state of fight or flight. Its no way to live and its hard to find treatment. All the prayers and baptisms didn't help at all. I kept waiting for something inside me to change after people prayed over me but it never did. Medication and therapy did help.
There is no end to it, only solutions. The saying goes: depression is worry about past, anxiety is worry about future. The only right place is the present. In other words 🎵 "It's a long way to the top if you wanna rock and roll" 🎶
@@jasfan8247no. I don't worry about anything. I have a good life and few problems. I have a mental health problem where my body produces too much adrenaline. Like I explained I'm my comment, you know how if you are In a car accident your system is flooded with adrenaline? Im like that ALL THE TIME.
What you said is completely relatable to how I feel and I finally figured it out because it has led to a lot of health problems from being in that adrenaline state all the time. I tried multiple churches and talking to countless people to find “spiritual” support and was left even worse off when I had already thought I was at rock bottom to begin with. I’m working on it as well, it’s a process but I’m in a better place. Sending my hope for your continued recovery and happiness as well ❤
@@undrwatropium3724 That's good! All is well as long as you stay productive. I'm just learning trying to slow down. I never heard your description, it's good and I see what you mean. All the best (drive safe)
About "pride"; if a child accomplishes something difficult, an appropriate response for the parent is to say "I am proud of you". Instilling pride is a positive thing, a way of building the child's self-esteem and confidence, and setting them on the path to becoming a stable and happy adult. . (Pride is NOT to be confused w/ narcissism, they are NOT the same thing!)
@Kristi: Thanks for this video! As a person who has generalised anxiety disorder, I get anxious over the smallest things. This pastor is the kind of person who's attitude drove me away from christianity. Its great to see that I'm not the only one who feels that this attitude is poisonous. Most people who don't have anxiety problems cannot see how dangerous this pastor's rhetoric is.
What is horrible about this, is he really does not care about the emotional well-being or mental health of anybody. It's just a bunch of ignorant, egotistical B.S. that he is spouting. Shame on him!
Hi Kristi, I'm new to your videos and this one just drew me in because I'm someone who suffers, not only from really bad anxiety, but also from Thanatophobia. I did not grow up in a religious household, but my parents are of Muslim origin. We used to live our lives normally and just pick our own paths to walk. I say used to because recently I've been having frequent episodes of anxiety attacks from the PTSD of losing two friends within the past 4 years (I'm only 20 years old, so I've still got life ahead of me). I started to get curious and wonder about God and the Afterlife because I wanted some sort of comfort in "Death is not the end", so I went and researched both Religion and NDEs.... That's when I started to become afraid of God. Being empathetic in nature, I felt this painful throbbing coming from the core of my being that if I didn't live a certain lifestyle, if WE didn't choose a certain path in life, then one of two things would happen: 1. God would send us to Hell (or just not let us into heaven and we'd cease to exist, either way no pleasant afterlife) 2. If God really is all-loving and all-forgiving, then He would allow us into Heaven, but we'd have to forsake our interests of things on Earth (Art, Reading, Writing, Video Games, etc. Especially anything that has to do with fiction because in my mind that just wouldn't be accepted in Heaven, or at least that's what I've been led to believe) I have a deep appreciation for the things I love: friends, family, and fiction. The triple Fs... Ever since listening to accounts from other people (especially in the NDEs), it didn't feel like God was all-loving anymore... Because in my eyes, those people seemed normal compared to me. It felt like they were being shown that stuff because they were just going about reality accepting everything as normal and living life normally while I was living in a "fantasy land". I know that if I try to talk to someone who's heavily religious, they would tell me something along the lines of "You're just being selfish. This is food for your ego... Blah blah blah." I don't have an ego, I don't claim to be perfect, but to lose my loved ones or my life to have no meaning anymore.... It kills me all over again. Your videos have brought me a sense of comfort in a way that I can't really put into words. Even if the anxiety doesn't fully go away, it's nice to see someone who's still somewhat sane. Thank you.
One of the main things that brings me comfort about my years as a youth minister was my extensive focus on mental health and my openness about my own struggles with anxiety and depression. I honestly think that's one of the biggest reasons that some of the most supportive people in my coming out years later were my former youth. Thank you so much for your content, and especially your willingness to be open and vulnerable about your story, Kristi. You're not just one of my favorite ex-christian content creators, you're one of my favorite content creators of any type.
Thank you for this video Kristi. I had very similar anxiety growing up. I’d ask my mom to help explain to me what’s going on, and her best response was to pray, read bible, and rely on god. Obviously this never worked for me. So when I dumped the religion bs, I was able to finally feel comfort and internal peace for once. When I explained this to my mom she said that it was my pride preventing me from getting closer to god. According to her, if something doesn’t go the bible way, then it’s my fault and I need to change myself. Pretty much exactly what you summed up in your video.
What the sermon suggested to me, was that we should change the spelling of anxiety, so “i” is not in the middle, and thereby dispense with this problem forever, for all English speaking people. Cult of personality.
Saying that anxiety is pride is the stupidest thing I ever heard. Anxiety is fear, regret and overall not feeling well. Sometimes the boss is overworking you and sometimes you're underperforming because you don't feel well but you can't afford a sick day.
One time in church the speaker asked people to come to the front so he could pray their illnesses (physical and mental) away and my mom tried to get me (an atheist) up there so he could pray away my anxiety (disorder) to but I refused cause what was that gonna do💀
Too many pastors suggest that dealing with the stresses of this messy life is always about putting one's faith to the test. Not only is that unscriptural, but it is also unhealthy. I suppose they would also have berated Jesus for his blood-stained Gethsemane prayer.
@@HighspergamyI feel like that's a running theme in Christianity. Everybody's God is basically them. God is just your conscience. maybe that's just me. I could never wrap my mind around God.
@sarag1158 I "get" the concept of God, but I'm a lot more loosey goosey with the synthesis of ideas than most people are. I see God as the existence of an objective reality... this understanding being necessary for healthy relationship.... Even healthy relationship between the components of your psyche. It isn't much fun being in a relationship with a true solopsist.. But this idea is only beneficial in symbiotic companionship with the other realization... That objective reality is out of our reach... That its existence can be intuited, but no one can take hold of it...
I’ve always found the idea that losing a battle to an entity who is out to get you, a master of deception, and both more clever and cunning than you is considered a moral failure to be wild.
When I was in very deep distress at work, I had to take a few. When I prayed in the rawness of my thoughts to God, I truly felt instant peace that transcended anything of this world. Mind you I was crying and felt I had no where and no one to go to, I got on my knees, closed my eyes and prayed.
(34:08) So because "anxiety" and "pride" both have an "i" in the middle then that somehow shows that anxiety is caused by pride? 🤨 Words like "faith" and "spiritual" have an "i" in the middle so they must be caused by pride as well...🤔
My expectations for the real-world relevance of the pastor's advice were pretty low to start. I'm afraid it was even worse than I expected. Keep up the good work, Kristi. cheers from cloudy Vienna, Scott
You will often hear many preachers, pastors etc, who will say "hey, just keep your mind fixed on Jesus, focus on him and nothing else". The problem is, what exactly is it that we're supposed to focus on? None of us has ever met this Jesus face to face, we don't know what he looks like or what it's like to be in the presence of this being (if he really exists) so how are we supposed to focus on him? Shall we try to think of some blond-haired, blue-eyed man on a cross like the Hollywood Jesus Christ movies depict?? Or some Middle Eastern man with dark skin and dark frizzy hair? Or shall we try to think of some great divine, heavenly being glowing in light?? There is nothing to focus on, is there? Aside from just making it up that is 🤣🤣
What exactly are we supposed to do while “focusing on Jesus”. Are we supposed to not do anything else? Do we just pray and worship all day? Not go to work? Not have any other goals?
People who have never truly had an anxiety attack, will never really understand it. It get's old and frustrating when people assume they understand it and try to tell you what you need to do. I believe they just associate it with fear. Yes, that's part of it; but it's more overwhelming than they will ever imagine. Mostly I'm thankful that people who don't have to deal with it, don't understand it. There are times I wish they could only feel it for a second. The problem with wishing that is the fear of them getting stuck in the same rut. Basically damning someone to our same illness. Anxiety feeds itself. You know what I mean if you deal with it...
@@JustADudeGamer it use to be worse for me, it was more the impending death type feeling(heart feeling like it's gonna explode and hard to breath). Now its mainly the mental part of it, feel like you're going crazy(this use to be a part of it also, but it's the more prevalent now). I also suffer from agoraphobia now, which is tied to the panic attacks. Yea, it sucks. Sometimes the dice doesn't roll your way. You try to show the ones you love, the love you can, and deal with it. It's the only thing that keeps ya on this side sometimes. Thanks for the words...
@@JustADudeGamer yea, a lot of it has to do with your boundaries and then slowly pushing them. I had come a long ways myself, but then some things happened in my life and basically I got consumed by it again. For me there was never really a relief, but more learning to live with it. There was almost always that tension and never feeling easy. You get better at faking it, but I was never really able to have the relationships I had pre-panic attacks. I just couldn't have the same concentration in the conversations or relaxation because the tension that laid in the background. I miss it... But heh, guess that's life...
@@JustADudeGamer I don't know your situation and it's probably better if you don't let it hang out as much as I have. It was just a rare time I talk about it a bit more. Personally I have chronic anxiety, so I can only speak for that. I imagine there are folks that treatment suffices or maybe combination with drugs, eventually being able to get off. I think the reason treatment is so hard is because we all have different experiences that shape our thoughts. It's like a paper shredder, even if the inputs are the same the pieces don't fall in the same way. So really you are dealing on two levels, your experiences and then how your mind packs it all together. Basically an infinite combination of things that lead you to where you are. Plus on top of that, there could be possible slight chemical imbalances. If you chronically suffer, I hope you can find your way out of it. Well even if you're not, I still hope you find your light. I dealt with it a lot like you suggested, keep your mind on something else or goals. I was still struggling, would say was operating at about 75% to 80% of what my life once was. Then got hit with a bag of bricks and everything started backsliding. Like I said, it's mainly mental now and not so much the physical effects(heart racing/feeling like something is standing on your chest). Learned over the years to mainly deal with that(even though there are situations I could put myself in to have those issues). Thanks for the convo and hope you find your light...
I never realized how superstitious these things sounded until YOU say it. I think I HEAR it because you were raised in this culture like I was and you retained that sweet, calm, churchy (not in a bad way), Bible study delivery manner that I recognize. Idk - I am not explaining myself well. Maybe it is the trauma bond. Either way, thank you for your channel. Yours and many others are helping me deconstruct. ❤ Sidenote: this process of deconstruct os helping my anxiety and sadness I've carried in my life to leave.😊
When I was 14 I suffered from SEVERE depression and anxiety. I was moody and withdrawn, so instead of my dad and his wife asking me what waa wrong... they accused me of having a "demonic presence" in me. After I tried to put into words my feelings, they continued to berate me and accuse me of needing to "take accountability" for inviting this "demonic presence" in my life. At church, instead of getting me in touch with my pastor or a counselor, they paraded me in front of the whole church to be prayed for. I had to repent and allow the "demonic presence" to be removed. It was traumatic and only exasperated the feelings I had.
So, thank you so much for sharing these videos and sharing your perspective with us ❤️
Ugh. I am so sorry they did that to you. How awful.
When I was a newborn, my mom took my to church for the first time, and one lady got up and told the church I was "born with a spirit of fear". When I was older and started having anxiety, my mom confidently told me it was Satan. She then told me that story of the lady prophesying over me. So...I didn't get any help. Just guilt.
This guy sleeps in a 2.5 million dollar house. No more questions, your Honor.
Joel Osteen lives in a mansion worth 12M
Kenneth Copeland has one worth about 8M
Nobody listens to a homeless guy, oh right Jesus was homeless.
@@AvendaleFurtick’s net worth is 60 million dollars. The church purchased the land at well under market value. The house is 16,000 sq ft. It is worth well more than 2.5 million dollars.
One of the reasons I stopped paying tithes and offerings was because I didn't see how they were helping the community. They are pressuring people who are already struggling financially to give. Homeless people are still sleeping outside in extreme weather.
Monkey Boy Furtick dresses like a teenage girl
Grew up christian (pentecostal) , believed ALL of it. After a really bad accident, I now suffer from PTSD, anxiety, depression, derealization. I do take medication and did go to a TON of therapy. it has helped me SO, SO MUCH
But before that, you know what DIDN'T WORK? prayer. I prayed, prayed, prayed and prayed more, I let everyone else lay hands on me and "cast out" whatever, you know? and, to NO ONE'S surprise, there was nothing to come out., lol...
Kristi, keep your vids going! they're INCREDIBLY helpful to a LOT of people.
Yes! this video is spot on! They terrify you and then shame you for being terrified. It is a sick form of mental torture and then they make you give them money for it. Its sick.
I realized this 40 yrs ago, and while I still believe, I no longer attend church or listened to pastors. This little video gave me a lot of anxiety when I had none before I turned it on😂
@@ruthhamilton4882 If you think its true thats respectable, i respect your not an ignorant fundamentalist, people dont realise how real mental health is and the abuse people instill in God's name, they dont care about mental illness/conditions until they experience it themself.
This is group masochism and these folks like it.
Masochism:From The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language
"The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself."
Sick and twisted.
Christianity will drive a person insane
'Humility' and 'Obedience' are the core demands of every religion - and every cult.
My grandmother blamed my older sister's neatly fatal OCD on my mother daring to marry my mostly First Nations and Christian Universalist father instead of someone who was just as White, Irish, and Catholic as the rest of the family. This was also her explanation for my autism and my brother's hemifacial microsomia. There's a reason my my entire immediate family and an increasing percentage of my extended family are no longer Catholic.
Jesus never helped with my anxiey or depression. You know what did? Counseling, learning coping mechanisms, SSRIs, and perhaps most importantly and effectively getting to the root of things and getting on HRT. I actually enjoy being alive now. It's as wonserful as it is surreal.
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Yes - I've heard Catholicism described as something akin to a mental disease by a guy who was raised Catholic - but hey - my mother's side of the family was Catholic, too! Yeah - they're the great masters of the guilt trip...
@@naiman4535I was raised Catholic, and my mother liked to project her own guilt and shame onto me when I was a teenager. She told me what a bad person I was, even though I was a really good teen. I just recently went to a Catholic funeral and saw again how the Catholic church controls its people with a lifetime of guilt and shame. Of course, they state that they are the one and only true Christian church, so only Catholics could take communion. The sermon was boring, shaming and putting people down. I left the Catholic church at 16-years-old. I am now 68-years-old. It hasn't changed.
@@PB-dq9gi Thanks for your reply, PB! In my mother's Catholic side of the family, my aunt Lilyan, who had given up her own life and plans to marry in order to take care of her aging parents, was held up as a kind of sinless paragon of virtue. My sister and I could both sense the crazy guilt trip involved, and rebelled against the whole thing. It is often said that every Catholic family tries to send one of its sons or daughters into the priesthood, or into a convent - perhaps to get right with God in some way. Anyway, my aunt Lilyan was kind of like a vicarious or substitute nun.
The anxiety that Christianity instills is very real. As an adult I have only now realised the extent to which it affects me.
Same here. I never realised exactly how much anxiety the Church and Christianity caused in my life. The constant fear of being left behind, the constant feeling of not being good enough, the constant fear of disappointing God..... It was excruciating, and I never realised the damage it did until recently.
Yep religious trauma syndrome we'll documented.
@@pinky9440 there are a way more anxiety and a way more reasons to be depressed out of the church istead in it.
@abilioneto6366 Don’t agree with you. If you believe in mythology, sure, then there might be, for you. But then, which mythology do you actually believe in, because they all are similar and borrow stories? Ah, no need to answer, I know which one. Still doesn't change the fact that it is a bunch of borrowed stories.
@@pinky9440 you just making it too simple, read Bertrand Russel, Read Nietzsche and what he said about moral genealogy, God is not just a "Myth", is not simple as that, Immanuel Kant have showed the same thing, even sartre talk about how much difference can a human life being different comparing someone who believe in God and someone who dont, is not simple as that.
Fear of hell increases anxiety.
I think he explained to have no fear is to have no anxiety. Don't believe the thoughts about worries. Stand up and go through the fire. This pastor did not say too much, just added the act for entertainment.
YESSS ... I don't believe it and still fear it.
Hell has "el" in it because it's Elohim that puts you there
@@magenta53 no 😁 do a research and find out where the name comes from
This is why we need science and education instead of religion.
Amen to THAT!
Facts.
that way we could be moving on more effectively towards the ideal civilization 😀
When God gets pissed off at humans, his creation, what does he do? Destroys entire cities, kills the first born, or even floods the entire planet. When God gets mad at his creations of angels or demons what does he do? Gives them an entire world to do as they please with no repercussions. God created anxiety too.
Seems so strange that God would give special treatment to demons 🫠
Do not offend sky daddy, when angered he tosses his lightning bolts and thunderbolts around. His favorite treat is to flood the earth and kill everyone.
You’re making a really great point…
@@harveywabbit9541 He seems to like fires now.
@@rafsandomierz5313
Don't mess with mother nature.
"Just tell anxiety to go away when it attacks."
Tell me you've never had an anxiety attack without telling me you've never had an anxiety attack. When they hit, they don't just go away when you want them to, no matter how hard you tell them to. Maybe next time I have one, I'll just ROAR at it really loud and try to scare it away....
It is amazing how much blame is put on so-called sins, and Satan, but nothing put on the orchestrator of it all.
ATHEISTS, AGNOSTICS, and FANATICS of RELIGIONS KNOW THAT THEY DON'T VALUE THEIR OWN LIVES and DIGNITIES, KNOW THAT THEY WILL NOT LIVE and LAST on EARTH FOREVER
Jehovah's Witnesses, SDAs, Mormons, Catholics, Baptists, Pentecostals, Born Again Christians, Buddhists, Muslims, Hindus, and fanatics of all kinds of Religions who are filling the world with the lies, deceptions, false teachings and claims of their anti-Christs Pastors and Leaders about "Trinity", "heaven and hellfire", "rapture", "Armageddon", and "reincarnation" KNOW
that they will never be glorified in their make-believe and fairy tale Heaven nor tortured for eternity in their invented and fictional Hell but just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths.
Atheists and Agnostics who are filling the world with their lie and false claim that the Creator is worthless, useless, and undeserving to be honored and respected as the Most High and Sovereign God KNOW
that they will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths
The CREATOR and HIS CHRIST VALUE THE LIVES and DIGNITIES of HUMAN BEINGS, KNOW THAT HUMAN BEINGS WILL LIVE AND EXIST ON EARTH FOREVER
Jesus Christ KNOWS
that all imperfect, suffering, and dying human beings who honor and obey him as their Heavenly Master and King and believe his teachings about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" are definitely bringing upon themselves the Creator's favor and reward of ETERNAL LIFE and existence without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness and death on a safe, secure, and peaceful earth without arrogant, cruel, disrespectful, and merciless persons, without liars, slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, traitors, terrorists, criminals, and murderers.
The Creator KNOWS
that the teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is his guarantee that all his worshippers and believers of his Christ who died recently and thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Job, Ruth, Naomi, King David, Isaiah, Daniel, Martha, Mary, Lazarus, and many others will not remain as worthless dusts on earth forever, instead in the right and proper time, he will let his Christ resurrect them back to life so they can all happily and abundantly live and exist on earth forever as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" or His Kingdom and fully enjoy his and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, goodness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings for eternity under the loving and kind rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ as his Chosen King and Ruler of the heavens and the earth.
SATAN IS THE ORCHESTRATOR OF SINS NOT GOD. THE BIBLE SAYS “THE DEVIL PROWLS LIKE A ROARING LION SEEKING WHOM HE MAY DEVOUR.”
“THE DEVIL COMES TO KILL, STEAL AND DESTROY”.
“THE DEVIL IS THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION” and the person that runs this channel and those that support it are as confused as it get.
realigiousrayne - In a Christian understand that would be because we don’t believe God orchestrates evil. We do.
“well god is omniscient, omnipresent, and benevolent! Sin and human suffering were created by man!”
It's like they never read their own idiotic book:
Isaiah 45:7
“I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the lord do all these things.”
Amos 3:6
“Shall a trumpet be blown in the city, and the people not be afraid? Shall there be evil in a city, and the LORD hath not done it?”
Once when I was going thru a major depression I went and told my mom about it. She turned into the Church lady and went off telling me all I needed was Jesus. I think all I needed and wanted was a hug from my mom and for her to say things will be ok. Telling her I was depressed was the worst thing I could have done.
It’s a self perpetuating vicious cycle. It’s normal to get that kind of response from people, even good, kind people, raised and taught to believe that Jesus fixes every problem.
That’s why education, actual education not indoctrination, is so important. There’s still too little awareness and too much stigma attached to mental health.
Typical 🙄 very ignorant, like killing witches in the Middle Ages
whenever I'd mention anxiety or depression around my mom she'd say I just need to "serve others and trust jesus"... how helpful
now that I've left the church it's because I'm "following the devil"... never mind that I've dealt with it all along...
I also hate when people tell me that God loves me. What about you? How do you feel about me, Mom? Woman who birthed me? I can't remember the last time I had a hug from my mom. I live with my mom.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that. My parents aren't that great either
Fun fact: resisting an anxiety attack turns it into a panic attack
Yeppppp 😭
I only once had a panic attack and it made me a believer... holy snap. That is not something I want to ever experience again.
Wow, this video really reflects my early adolescence experience.
At 9 years old I was a happy kid full of hope and excitement. I was writing my own stories, drawing, studying music, just doing all kinds of creative things I loved. Then… yep, you know it, we joined an Assembly of God Pentecostal church… and by age 11, I had become an anxiety ridden kid filled with worry about the end times, Hell, demons and all the rest of it.
I thought it was my desires holding me back and letting Satan into my life, so I threw away most of my drawings and books and things that had previously inspired me…
It took a long time to escape that mental prison I was in. And that earlier passion never came back. The flame was snuffed out by preachers, youth leaders and well-meaning family members.
But at least I’m not in that world anymore…
I'm glad you made it out.
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End times, in biblespeak, is simply the end of a calendar year.
So glad that you're now free and have seen the light. 👌
You can get it all back. But it does need some work.
Have at it, you can do it!!!
Church:
"The devil is targeting you specifically!"
"The rapture is going to happen any day and you might get left behind!"
"You might die today, get saved now!!"
Me: *anxious mess*
Church: that's a sin.
This this this!!! 💯💯💯This is what I can’t stand. They literally cause the crushing anxiety & say wHy aRe yOu sO dEpReSSEd
Just like telling you that god hates you if you’re in the lbgtq community and you’re going to hell and that you’ve let the Devil in you and to cast him away
This was cathartic to read
Exactly
FR though!
I had so much anxiety throughout life that was untreated. This guy triggers my anxiety.
My Pastor growing up did these same kinds of sermons. He even recommended going to the 12 step program in our church for anxiety "addiction". It hurt me and a lot of other people in the congregation who had anxiety disorders. These are more than just ridiculous trash takes from the church. These sentiments hurt people. Thank you for continuing to talk about these things.
A pox on your Pastor 😡. He really must have hurt people tremendously. 👎
What criminals people like that are, and what damage they do, while being proud of it.
@@Amazing_Mark Um anxiety is of the devil and Jesus will deliver you but you gotta go to Him because He’s not going to force you.
@@Fritz999 Anxiety is sin. Period.
Avoid 12 step programs altogether. Even if you are an alcoholic or drug addict.
When I was in evangelicalism we were instilled with the fear of demonic possession. When I was 20 I was so afraid of demonic possession that I was afraid to drive by a palm reading business on my way home from college. I used to take an alternate route to avoid driving by that place for fear demons from there would attack me. Unbelievable!
How are you doing nowadays? These dangerous thoughts can leave us mentally unstable for a loooong time 😢
It's weird. God killed millions of humans including children TWICE but couldn't kill Satan.
Really shows you how he feels about humans
@@FinHammer Age 20 was a loooong time ago for me. I have been around the world, married a lady from the Philippines and have been a fully productive software engineer for decades. And yes, I walk by fortune telling shops without giving it a second thought. I don't fall for the superstitions that evangelicalism tries to scare people with.
I was raised with the same beliefs and taught that demons lurked behind every second hand candle or rock album. After I left the religion for a few years and started becoming comfortable with my deconstruction, I actually bought and read The Satanic Bible. Weird, nothing happened. Dumb book, by the way. Then I hung a picture of Baphomet, and nothing happened. Later I bought a statue of Baphomet. I don't believe in any spiritism at all, but I like the fact that some of this imagery flips the bird to all of my previous beliefs with zero consequences. It's very comforting.
Yes, I was scared of listening to certain music, my mom mutes prayers from different religions on the tv, I didn’t wanna read books with other religions or ideas apart from god. Very real!
FAITH also as an I in the middle, which tells us that people with Faith are also full of PRIDE.
The logic logics.
I'm 46 and still believe in some form of higher power, but I quit being Christian when I was 32. I relate to your videos. I was raised feeling so guilty for my witchy/pagan beliefs. I felt guilty for loving Halloween so much. Whew! I'm so glad to not be in all of that anymore.
Blessed be, fellow witch. You’re not alone in this. I’ve actually had to call on the spiritual protection of Artemis, Thor, and Athena who told me to ask my sister to help me find a therapist.
I'm bipolar and I read a old book by billy graham were he said mental illness was a sin.
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And keep in mind he's supposed to be one of evangelicalism's best and brightest. That's the best they have to offer, the cream of the cream of the crop. And it's still somehow worse advice than most of what you'd find in the self-help section at Barnes and Nobles, much less what you'd get from an actual licensed and certified therapist.
I remember in the 60s watching newsreel footage of Graham blessing bombs that were being loaded onto airplanes to be dropped on the Vietnamese. Prince of a guy.
I’m so sorry you had to hear that from someone we all grew up to respect… he was wrong and didn’t know it. The pain we inflict out of ignorance is overwhelming.
@@c.a.t.732 And people wonder why Frankie is such a trainwreck of a human: look who raised him. He's not a downgrade from the original, he's just the original minus the personality cult sheen.
It's absolutely crazy how unhealthy some christian messaging can be. Thank you for this!
Yes it’s all the same messages to. Just all cult shit.
When I was a christian, I was jealous of people who "heard" from god and had conversations with him. I wondered why it was such an empty wind tunnel when I prayed. What was I doing wrong? Did god not like me? I never once heard any voices in my head. One day, somebody told me to "just" open the bible randomly and whatever I read was god's message to me. That seemed So Random and some of the results were absurd, laughable even. The best thing I ever did for myself was to give myself permission to look at things honestly. Turns out I wasn't an unworthy stepchild. It was that god was an unworthy concept that wasn't even real.
I like your work. I wish you had been around when I was deconverting.
whats so funny about this practice that it is literal witchcraft and divination known as bibliomancy
Yes this MADE UP PSYCHO MANIAC YWH and his Spawn. People don't notice the GENOCIDE, SLAVERY. Any kind of SLAVERY, Plagiarism, Contradictions, False Promises, Filth, Lies, YWH is a PSYCHO MANIAC and people and people ignore it or justify it
This man found a good barber, grew a beard, and did a lot of pushups. His glow-up is the true miracle that should be evaluated. That's the only thing I'll take notes from him on.
😅 *googles Steven furtick before*
I snort laughed at this! 😂 “glow up” lol!
@@jillianb1744 you have to see the older pics....I bet you he didn't have as many followers then. His followers must go to look at him....and maybe get the word while they there.
😂😂😂
He’s the peacock with the ladies,he’s the only one I’d be afraid of coming behind and then they’re an Andrew Tate replica
This guy: "I've come before you thousands of people today to tell you that I am the most humble of God's servants. I have personal conversations with the trans-galactic super being that created and monitors all of the huge universe. And he depends on ME personally to bring you his message. Silver Surfer has nothing on me. I'm so humble that the trans-galactic super being that is at war with the one I serve PERSONALLY comes after me to prevent me from telling you what my super-being has to say. And just for hearing what I have to say, you will be a target for trans-galactic magic forces. Booga-booga. Stop being so anxious or I will publicly make fun of you and your weakness because I am nothing more than a humble multi-millionaire servant of a trans-galactic super-being."
I used to have anxiety and it always came when I was getting ready for bed. Id be laying down praying then my mind always wondered to all the people i know who was going to hell and i would beg God to change his ways. Every night this occured. And i would cry so much. Anyway thank you Kristi you play a big part in my deconstruction 😊
I relate to this so much.
The "devil" is the scorpion constellation, watch out for him. He is also called Satan, Father of Lies.
Before going to bed, make sure he is not hiding under your bed.
@@harveywabbit9541its funny because I never got anxiety over the devil it was always about my family going to hell.
@@sevenblessed2543
Hell aka Pluto/Hades/Vishnu/HaShem, is the Jewish Heaven. The land of Canaan = Scorpio thru Pisces.
@@harveywabbit9541What medication are you on? I want to know so I can avoid it.
When I went to church they made me feel so guilty about my depression and anxiety that I attempted suicide thankfully I'm still here I would wish the feeling I had on anyone
I'm happy you're still here 🫶
@@jezebelvibes thank you
I watched your "Lot was a righteous man" video then this one. My (x) stepfather was abusing my sister. My mother went to the pastor of our church at that time... the pastor counselled her that divorce was a sin.
This became the wedge that eventually broke me from the church. No matter how I tried to rationalize it, I couldnt. At that point I realized that religion was flawed.
My x as a young adult was also abusive. It was a slow burn, where the abuse increased over time. After leaving that relationship, I dived into studying narcissistic and emotional abuse as part of my healing. I didn’t want a repeat. I didn’t think I would survive it because I barely did that time. The more I learned the more I realized that there was a solid experience I endured within the church for every emotional or narcissistic abuse tactic. Especially the subtle ones.
Part of my healing was deprogramming the inherent shame I felt about myself... the inherent inability to trust my instincts... the inherent urge to abdicate my happiness and choices to someone deemed 'an authority.'
After some time I could not deny how, from an early age, I had been conditioned for accepting emotional and narcissistic abuse. I had been primed for being used.
I can't describe how it hit, other than this immense heavy sadness. When the peices fell into place, it was a picture I needed to see, but didn’t want to see for so long...
I grieved myself. I grieved the loss of everything I ever knew. My security, my youth, all those years of self-determination denied... all gone.
This was a decades long journey for me. I have a wonderful partner now and a happy life that I built myself, with my own choices and talents. Its not perfect, but it is a genuine sense of joy that comes from within myself.
The only downside is that now I'm outside of the glassbox... with my beloved family members still on the inside. I keep pounding on the glass... hoping they'll notice. And I just watch them get hurt, over and over, because they are also programmed to accept abuse as I was. And they don't know why, just as I did. And it breaks my heart. How I wish they could find emotional wellbeing and happiness that isnt dependent on a sermon, but founded within themselves.
I'm sorry yaall went through that. It shouldn't tolerated
When I was 8yrs old I was taken to the church basement by an elder and told me I was the devils child. Still to this day, decades later. It still affects me
Taking Asthma medication (Like I do) for over 40 years(I am 46), has side effects and one of them is anxiety and until you experience it, you will not understand it. I was not a believer in anxiety until it happened to me... Pasters can cause more damage if they are uneducated, and lots are!!! I have panic disorder and i am now doing batter. It was totally subconscious and nothing it could THINK or DO would make it better. I went to the hospital and thought i was having a heart attack, i could not breath and the doctors did all these tests and they found nothing. I was a teacher for 10 years always had no trouble speaking in front of people, now when I am in a room and someone closes the door, my heart will race. Again, this is nothing i can control and it SUCKS! I never understood Claustrophobia, did not believe it was real, well it started to happen to me. When i hear pasters or people say Anxiety is not a real medical condition, they are fools and i lose respect for them.... Our brains are very complex and if something is off like a chemical imbalance, Anxiety can be a side effect.
so sorry you've experienced that! I wish more people would understand the complexities of anxiety.
@@jezebelvibes Thanks!!!!
It is like a runaway train that just has to run out of steam and leaves you fatigued, which feels better than panic of course, but sucks all around.
I too have had chronic asthma all of my life. I love animals but I'm allergic to all furry animals. I always have to ask people if they have a dog before go to their house or I get into their car because even if the animal is not in there at the time, if it's been in there before I will have an asthma attack. The doctor say it is their dander that is Left Behind and in the air that causes it. It creates a tremendous amount of anxiety always having to be on guard so I don't end up in the hospital! People think they can put the dog in another room and I'll be fine but it doesn't work that way and nobody understands that even after I have explained it.
@@adam2aces Get a Green Cheek or Sun conure and I have 4 birds and they are amazing animals! Smart, some talk, but if you get a hand raised from a breeder parrot, they will bond to you and when they do, they are your best friend for life, and they can live for 30 years. Just if you get one never cook or clean in the same room, and throw out all non stick pots and pans. The non stick coating can kill them because when it gets hot it releases a molecule that binds to their lungs and turns them off, we had that happen because we did not know our stove had a non stick lining... Anyways check out small parrots like sun and green cheek conures!!! amazing animals!
I feel bad for all this people that been brain washed like I was … till I came back to reality.let’s wake up and stop this fools running our life’s! Much love to everyone . This is how they control people and it’s been working for thousands of years! I’ve been a Christian till Ive done my research and came out of depression till I found out the real truth.shout out to kristi Burke keep up what your doing! 👍👍👍
A pastor speaking above his understanding. Imagine that.
They’re actors. Nothing more.
Money making scheme! This guy is rich I bet!
@@kerynl.sanchez9891Net worth: 60 million dollars.
@@kerynl.sanchez9891 Aren't they all?
Gullibility is key to money making artists. Kristi you are the key to the real truth. I love you❤❤
Kristi is helping set people free 👌.
I remember it so vividly when I was 11. I believe now that I had broken down with an anxiety attack and asked God to save me. I prayed every night days/weeks for God to save me from hell because I didn’t feel any different afterward. I still felt scared, anxious, and lost.
I was seven years old when I was traumatized by a church elder. I was doing something that the elder thought was wrong that required my hand to be placed on the metaphorical hellfire and brimstone stove top. She had said, "Don't do that or the devil might think you like him." In the scheme of things, what she said was mild compared to more serious trauma children have gone through and I won't say that what I went through was just as traumatic. But it was nonetheless traumatic for me. And I buried that trauma because I thought that was what was expected of me - out of sight out of mind you know. Doing that though only turns that trauma into something far worse. Today, I am 46 years of age and I have depression, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, OCD, uncontrolled negative thoughts and a few other things. In my time, I have run across people who have said to me - what that woman did to you should be celebrated because she taught you how hot the stove can actually get. When I tell them that I prayed and prayed for peace from this Hell I'm in and get nothing they tell me that I'm not praying correctly or that I'm doing something wrong or that I should quote the sinners prayer and be whammed, bammed, thank you sir for that instant salvation. When I turned the big four oh I decided that I was going to get help. Im on medication and I go to counseling and even though Im still in a dark place I am no longer at a point where suicide was imminent for me.
What was the thing she didnt like that I was doing? I was drawing a picture of an alien monster called the space devil.
Holy shit!!! Dude I'm so sorry. No one should have to be guilty for being a kid. No one!
I'm a sociopath and I suspect that we have a far better deal than you guys (normal people) do. I've never experienced anxiety/ depression/ suicide ideation/ etc...
Furthermore, I've never heard of a sociopath (or a psychopath) who has/ does suffer from such ailments. I suspect that it's all related. What makes me a sociopath (flat affect or almost flat affect) is also a saving grace when it comes to depression, etc... I'm glad I'm a sociopath. It seems like it would take a LOT of effort to care about everyone and everything and if I had to do that, I'd probably want to kill myself, too!
At least you ain't like me, burning my hand twice on a stove and I suffer from suicidal thoughts and depression too
Thanks for dismantling that repulsive, gaslighting sermon. 👍
And now that my Xanax has kicked in and my anxiety has subsided, I'm going to listen to some soothing ASMR and go back to sleep 💤 (it's still about an hour before sunrise 🌅 here in Australia 🇦🇺).
Thanks for exposing the issue of anxiety so clearly!!! It is so sad to see the so called pastors feeding off their victims.
When I tried to discuss my severe depression, anxiety and panic attacks over twenty years ago with a famous female Christian singer after a concert, she told me to "Be free in Jesus!" I felt no compassion Instead, it seemed flippant and her words did not reduce my suicidal thoughts and feelings.
😢 She did not know what to say. She simply repeated the message "Be free in jesus"
What was the name of the singer?
I’m a therapist who is an ex-AG Pastor. I also left the faith. I almost facepalmed just seeing the thumbnail for this video. This joker has no business addressing anxiety disorders. I’d respect him if he brought a professional he could interview and discuss how there might be appropriate spiritual integration without compromising evidence based treatments.. He would help his congregation soooo much more, but I agree with you that his aim isn’t to help people suffering as much as keeping the seats filled
@@Mar-dk3mp I'm godless and I'm not alone, or lonely, and my life is quite happy and full. Perhaps it is you that is struggling and trying to feel better about your life by criticizing someone who has made a career of trying to help people. Maybe you should try reading your Bible more (Matthew 7:1-3), there are some nuggets of wisdom in there after all.
@@Mar-dk3mp My life is awesome without your imaginary monster. I have a loving wife and a wonderful daughter. My wife and I play DND every other weekend with our friends. We can both work from home, which means we have all the time in the world for each other.
But hey, according to you, I'm living a sad, empty life. Please tell me more how I should change my life and become a mindless sheep following con men. And tell me more how I should view my wife and daughter as inferior to me because your vile book says they are.
I'm good without your hateful religion, thanks.
@@Mar-dk3mp Ironic that you say that, learning more about God is what made me feel isolated and alone than when I was godless.
I have good friends and family, I had two good friends (bless their souls, they both died before they could even turn 21) who I constantly fear never seeing again. I fear losing myself because of how devoted I am to my interests and to the people around me, just living life as what feels right to me.
Then the second I studied Religion and "God's Word" is when I became paralyzed by fear and insecurity. I felt alone, and I felt condemned. And yes, I do fear Hell, as well as Purgatory, but I fear God an equal amount, not because of some "wisdom" or "seeing the error of my ways", because I felt like I was being denied that love and happiness that I felt just following my heart and conscience.
As someone with rampant, diagnosed anxiety & OCD I am so very thankful to be out of christianity and a much happier atheist. The claims this man makes is just a slap in the face about mental illness, much like many pastors who preach this harmful, incorrect rhetoric. Thank you Kristi for constantly putting this all in words I can never muster within my own thoughts.
i have severe anxiety, a few months ago i could barely leave the house and i was having panic attacks every day, and i can promise you i was not prideful. i hated myself and thought i was weak. i tried praying and read the Bible, but none of that worked for me. that’s part of what made me lose my faith
I'm 53 and devoted most of my life to religion, I have come to the realization that what I was taught isn't so. Thank you for speaking out.
I grew up in a southern baptist church in which it was assumed that people experienced mental health issues like depression, anxiety, etc. because they had some kind of spiritual problem. So of course the solution to the depression or anxiety was also spiritual (being prayed over, being urged to "get right with God", etc.). Unfortunately, this kind of destructive mentality is still very pervasive in Christianity, as this guy's sermon shows.
I grew up Seventh Day Adventist. My childhood was CONSUMED with fears of the End Of Times and the period of tribulation. In those times they taught about the dreaded Sunday Blue Laws. Which they've since gotten away from. To be fair the laws do exist state level in some regard. But they do not have the intent that we were taught. Most of them are to discourage secular behavior on Sundays. Like buying alcohol, going to strip clubs etc. Just like many small towns in the Midwest that slow business to a crawl on Sundays. Far cry from forced worship and persecution. We were taught that the government would create laws making it illegal to worship on the 7th day. Constant anxiety and conspiracy theories about the laws already being proposed. Told that Canada already had such laws that weren't being enforced. Which would in time force us to leave the cities and go into hiding in the mountains. We were taught that all other churches would attack or turn us in to the authorities. For not worshiping on Sundays. That close friends and family would betray us to save themselves. The anxiety was thick. I had constant nightmares as a child. Revelations was a TERRIFYING book that I didn't read until deconstruction. Just horrible what churches do to people.
That must be very hard. Very frightening. I hope you find peace.
@@undrwatropium3724 Thank you so much. I worked through it thankfully. But it did inform a lot of my childhood and teenage years. Stunted would be an understatement.
I was obsessed with survivalist skills because I was taught the same. Only difference is we would have to go live in the deep swamp to hide from the evil government (southern state)
Kristi, Thank you for the video, I have had anxiety since I was a child. In my 30s I woke up one morning with electric shocks going down my arms, I spent two days in the hospital and then 1 and a half years in therapy. The therapist really helped me put my life in order and greatly reduced the anxiety. I would highly recommend finding a board certified therapist who treats anxiety.
I noticed the preacher did not bring up Christ's sacrifice on the cross when talking about the devil attacking Christians. I had thought Christ had defeated the devil. Interesting how preachers manipulate their sermons to fit the situation, to manipulate the congregation.
I was never religious, but your insights help me to be more empathetic to those that were. Thank you.
Yeah, my father in law was a pastor. He once gave a sermon about depression. It was bad. He basically said the Abe Lincoln beat depression with his faith and we can too. You don’t need a therapist, you just need the Bible, a good friend to talk to, and a closer walk with God.
Hate to tell him Lincoln didn’t exactly beat depression. He actually took medication for his melancholy that he hated because it made him feel worse. He masked his depression. Not that they knew what it was back then.
Meanwhile I am battling MDD and severe social anxiety, and both my kids have anxiety and ADHD. But we don’t tell the in law’s because we didn’t want a sermon about or become part of one.
As is my daughter got tired of the youth group trying to pray away her relatively invisible genetic disorder.
Victim-blaming is one of the biggest problems in christianity. If you hold the belief that the universe was created by god, who is all good and all loving and perfect, then you have to explain away ALL suffering in a way that puts ALL of the blame on people. Also, having empathy can be hard but it’s especially challenging for insecure people who feel they need to put others down to feel better about themselves.
ATHEISTS, AGNOSTICS, and FANATICS of RELIGIONS KNOW THAT THEY WILL NOT LIVE and LAST on EARTH FOREVER
Jehovah's Witnesses, SDAs, Mormons, Catholics, Baptists, Pentecostals, Born Again Christians, Buddhists, Muslims, Hindus, and fanatics of all kinds of Religions who are filling the world with the lies, deceptions, false teachings and claims of their anti-Christs Pastors and Leaders about "Trinity", "heaven and hellfire", "rapture", "Armageddon", and "reincarnation" KNOW
that they will never be glorified in their make-believe and fairy tale Heaven nor tortured for eternity in their invented and fictional Hell but just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths.
Atheists and Agnostics who are filling the world with their lie and false claim that the Creator is worthless, useless, and undeserving to be honored and respected as the Most High and Sovereign God KNOW
that they will just become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever after their natural deaths
The CREATOR and HIS CHRIST KNOW THAT HUMAN BEINGS WILL LIVE AND EXIST ON EARTH FOREVER
Jesus Christ KNOWS
that all imperfect, suffering, and dying human beings who honor and obey him as their Heavenly Master and King and believe his teachings about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" are definitely bringing upon themselves the Creator's favor and reward of ETERNAL LIFE and existence without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness and death on a safe, secure, and peaceful earth without arrogant, cruel, disrespectful, and merciless persons, without liars, slanderers, deceivers, hypocrites, traitors, terrorists, criminals, and murderers.
The Creator KNOWS
that the teaching of Jesus Christ about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is his guarantee that all his worshippers and believers of his Christ who died recently and thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Job, Ruth, Naomi, King David, Isaiah, Daniel, Martha, Mary, Lazarus, and many others will not remain as worthless dusts on earth forever, instead in the right and proper time, he will let his Christ resurrect them back to life so they can all happily and abundantly live and exist on earth forever as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" or His Kingdom and fully enjoy his and his Christ's eternal love, kindness, goodness, generosities, compassions, favors, and blessings for eternity under the loving and kind rulership, guidance, and protection of Jesus Christ as his Chosen King and Ruler of the heavens and the earth.
Theists do it out of fear that more and more of the world are starting to recognize their mythology is nonsense and are moving on without it.
You can't have a rational discussion with people that have their minds set on believing in the irrational, especially not about anything related to those beliefs. They will defy logic, ignore reason, no matter what you tell the,
I can relate! My Christian parents put me down on regular basis to build themselves up and it resulted in a lot of anxiety and depression.
That of course only raises the guestion, why did god then create such imperfect beings in the first place, assuming he could have done literally anything else. Making creatures that cause pain doesn't help paint a picture of a loving and capable god.
the combination of “all good comes from god” and “all evil is because of human sin” is the perfect recipe for anxiety. everything good about you is because of something outside of yourself, and everything bad about you is an inherent part of your human nature. and any barrier between yourself and this external source of goodness is your fault in some way. how could you have anything other than an anxious, panicky, depressed view of yourself and everything around you?
He’s so aggressive and ignorant, a scary combination! Your sensitive and thoughtful approach to discussing anxiety was really soothing between clips of this terrible sermon, thank you:)
I can only imagine how his family feels
Meditation can reduce anxiety. A prayer will suppress.Hello from Germany and Thank you for your Videos! Much love!
Imagine writing this while thinking that prayer is not meditation! Your understanding of meditation needs to be updated!
For medical problems go to a medical doctor not a witch doctor.
@@fightthegoodfight-mc3uk meditation: 1: to engage in contemplation or reflection 2: to engage in mental exercise (such as concentration on one's breathing or repetition of a mantra) for the purpose of reaching a heightened level of spiritual awareness
prayer 1: an address (such as a petition) to God or a god in word or thought said a prayer for the success of the voyage
2: a set order of words used in praying
3: an earnest request or wish
I am not sure how you see that they are the same or that one is a subset of the other. Meditation has nothing to do with a deity, worship, request or wish. You might try for the "for the purpose of reaching a heightened level of spiritual awareness" but I think that fails the test as well. Taking to yourself, claiming that you are conversing with a deity, seems to be the complete lack of awareness.
@@Cuffsmaster,"For medical problems go to a medical doctor not a witch doctor." This is what is called a non sequitur since it has nothing to do with the post you replied to.
@@triplejazzmusicisall1883, "Meditation may help reduce it for a very short period of time but it will not solve the problem."
You may note that the author said, "can reduce anxiety." He did not claim that it cures an anxiety disorder. We all have experienced anxiety without having the disorder. Stopping and reflecting on why you feel anxious can help quite a lot.
"You need to see a Medical expert and probably take necessary medication."
Yes, if you suffer from anxiety disorder. But that was not what the author said.
Three replies and three strawman arguments!
My mom had severe mental illness (we are guessing bipolar, anxiety, and borderline from her behavior)) and she never sought out treatment but was incredibly devout (Southern Baptist). I wish she would have gotten help. I wish I would have gotten some help before my late 20's.
I don’t suffer from anxiety attacks but my granddaughter does. Thankfully she is seeing a therapist regularly and is taking a prescribed medication. Yes, they are helping her cope with her condition. Kristi, thanks for speaking out on how people with anxiety attacks can really receive help.
The way you broke this down was excellent
Less than a year ago my father asked me to give a Biblical counselor a chance. I obliged. And the shit that came out of his moth did NOT help. He told me my anxiety was a sin. He said he couldn’t tell me no matter how much information I give him that he had no say in whether I was going to hell or heaven. He said said some typical things you’d expect a southern baptist to say on the LGBT as well.
Needless to say, that was one of the big starters to my Deconstruction.
The irony is that some pastors preach that the only freedom is to be found in Christ, that the shackles of the world/sins can be undone by surrendering to god and that one can be made whole In Christ.
I never felt so free and complete as the day I found the key to the prison which I identify as Christianity. Decades of bondage to what has been the product of the human mind.
Don't get me wrong tho. Religion has it's use and there are good things to be found in the Bible, but it needs to be seen for what it is: a product of human evolution trying to deal with reality, with the need to fill up human needs (that still holds true today btw, hence why religions are still so big)
Kristi you are awesome!!!!! I luv you....keep up the good work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes!
I'm a combat vet and I've got severe PTSD from my tour in Baghdad. Talking about anxiety attacks and how they sneak up on you, I have some "tells" as my anxiety builds but it's taken me nearly twenty years to recognize that they were there and how to deal with it when I notice it. I've also been in therapy for going on 17 years now so I've had quite a bit of help.
His rhetoric is all over the board and quite dangerous, which is why it seems these evangelists tend to be a bit on the wacky side, they'd rather get their mental health treatment from their clergypeople instead of trained mental health professionals. Kinda like how they get their health advice from the facebooks and not a damn doctor...
I am one of the millions of children that lived through WW2 and ended up with PTSD. I was about 80, before I finally realized this, and was able to admit it.
Now that I'm 90, I am doing very well and it helps that I can talk about the past and its problems.
@Fritz999 A lot of people did get it from that period. Even in the UK, where the ground fighting wasn't going on. Children living in London were separated from their parents and evacuated to homes and schools in the countryside. Even to the USA. That meant too many children in some of these rural schools. For some children, they ended up with a better family or got a taste of country life.
People had to carry a gas mask wherever they went. There was food rationing. You had to buy black out curtains and put them up. You couldn't put the light on at home without closing the curtains first. For children they wouldn't have known any different so it didn't affect them as much as it affected adults unless they were evacuated, lost a father or brother fighting in the war or bombed out of their home.
Then the next generation was brought up and/or taught in school by these traumatised people.
Thank you for your service. My uncle is in a similar boat though his PTSD seems very bad. I feel for him after all he’s done. Just wanted to say thanks for your service and I agree with your comments!
@@Fritz999 The Lord Jesus (the real one, not the trendy false one) can save you and heal you...
well... it is bad that you dont Belive in God. May God help you, amen.
Thank you so much for all your work on the tube. Pastors like this need to be exposed for the harm they do to my fellow man
Anxiety is a mental illness that someone neverr chooses i was raised a christian and going through aniety and depression i did pray and i only got a lot worse that is when i gave up on religion tearphy and medication are usually are the best churches like this are so so dangerous. This message is going to increase anxiety awesome video kristie love you're channel
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Christian here, I have currently been questioning my faith and this is a big topic for me, I was born again in Christ last October and I suffered from bipolar and night terrors that settled around that time and I assumed that it was because of that, but at the same time I was getting a promotion to manager, graduating high school and getting settled down instead of living the unpredictable life like I was, but recently I have been going through deep sadness and seeing false prophets and pastors who preach a false gospel but at the same time I have been taking action as a man to better my life, without leaning on God as much and I’m doing just as well if not better now, thank you for reading God bless you all💛
As a Christian, I always get confused on “just lean on God, you don’t need to do anything”. Like sleeping in bed all day and “doing nothing” is not going to solve anything. It’s weird. But I hope you’re doing better now!
God tells us to test the spirits(it means to compare the teachings of earthly pastors,priests to Gods word) We live in a fallen world just like you mentioned false prophets,it’s a spiritual battle between the evil of this world and Gods word. Read from the Bible,and hopefully you can find a church that speaks the truth. Trust the word of God before man’s false teachings
I encourage you to consider fully deconstructing and deconverting. Question everything, assume nothing - engage in critical thinking. Free yourself from religious bondage.
@@Amazing_MarkHaha, free your self from xanax "bondage". Faith is free!
As an Ex-Christain, not an atheist. I believe in life after death without any doubt. God of the bible, is God of many men that created him. NDE's and Past lives... made everything I experienced as a kid make sense. I have no more fear!
Thank you for this video...I've struggled with anxiety for my entire life and through medication and an amazing therapist, I now have answers and know that religious trauma was at the root of my anxiety...40+ years of prayer to the father never took it away because he was the one who caused it...Cut the puppet strings and be free...Keep asking questions.. Never let anyone silence you and take away your ability to think...
I really love these kinds of videos, Kristi! love how you point out their manipulating and blaming (and mocking) tactics. There was absolutely no sympathy, compassion or empathy in this sermon or his delivery. If I had been in that congregation, I would have stood up and walked out right in the middle of it.
Clearly you did more homework for this video than that pastor did. His sermon certainly did not help anyone except feed his own ego.
That is why I never attend any church services anymore. I would probably walk out.
That is why I never attend any church services anymore. I would probably walk out.
@@roncurilla6991 Yup. This is one of the MANY reasons why I stopped attending church services about 15 yrs ago. Currently deconstructing and trying to find healing after suffering much abuse by the church for most of my life.
100%
Actually, Kristi, I think that your advice and videos can be helpful for atheists, agnostics, and even those of various faiths because we all need to think for OURSELVES. Don’t let ANYONE dictate your experience or your path. Thank you very much!
'...dictate your path.' You mean like what Christianity does? Believe or else... Fear, Sin, Satan, Demons and Devils. Kristi is helping those that believe in Christianity, that we are being deceived and lied too. I'm thankful for her.
@@razony Ahem cuzinz
@@archbishoprichardforceginn9338
What?
Thanks Kisti ,for able to debunk all the bs.
I swear, having anxiety, I hate when people tell me I’m over thinking something. My response is either, “what’s the right amount of thinking?” or “No, you’re just not thinking enough.”
And then I promptly worry and overthink the interaction the rest of the day.
They'll never understand. I'm sorry you have to deal with it too. It will continue to frustrate you, but hopefully over time you will learn to just blow off their suggestions as lack of understanding.
And no, that doesn't mean the frustration will go away. At some point you just get better at saying f* it, you have no clue what you're talking about(don't mean actually saying that; even though sometimes you probably should).
From one anxiety sufferer to another; I’m so sorry. They’ll never understand what we endure. How can they when they appear to glide through life and I’m sitting here with chest pains watching the world get worse & feeling helpless.
I mean… It’s not called a rational response attack. You can’t just reason your way out of it.
I love your responses!
Overthinking is focussing too much on the wrong aspect of a thought. That is how I see it.
Dear Kristi, thank you for your effort and patience to show how wrong and in fact dangerous this pastor is.
I saw many of your videos, and I am grateful, that you point so many things out, which are so harmful in religion. I have been a Christian for decades, in the end in a Christian high control group. I just left 8 months ago.
Your videos are very helpful to deconstruct from the harmful faith. And you are presenting it so friendly, its a always a pleasure to watch.
Please keep up the good work! Thank you from Germany!
Aa I mentioned earlier, Kristi is helping to set people free.
And congratulations on breaking free from your indoctrination. 👏
He freely admits that he has no clue or qualifications about the subject matter but a whole congregation sits through it and cheers him anyway. The literal definition of stupidity.
He certainly has them brainwashed.
That’s how cults work.
And arrogance
Don't call them that, they just don't know yet. They are being taken advantage of because humans start out inherently good and they are flat out lying to them about the goodness of the god they serve bc theyve also conveniently made all the most evil people rich and the good ones broke so none of them actually have time to sit down and read an entire 1500 page book and let go of everything they believe in which has taken people years. The fault is not on the victims, It is the pastors that did this evil ahss shite to them.
“Why would God put evil spirits here to battle it out with humans?”, is a very good question.
I really need to know as well. Especially if hell actually exists.
Zeus works in mysterious ways.
For many reasons. One of them is growth. Evil spirits serve as resistance to make the children of God stronger, like weights and gravity make muscles stronger. They are here also so that the children of God can learn how to fight; by this I mean, that without an enemy you would not have hands on experience. They also serve to show all creation that light will always overcome even when it seems it's about to be snuffed out by the darkness. Demons also trigger the sinful tendencies in the people and cause them to come up to the surface, so that the people can learn to surrender those to God and have the impurities purged from their hearts. God wants His children to grow. He doesn't want them to stay immature forever. As they grow and overcome the challenges, they are elevated to higher spiritual positions, and are given more authority and power. Once they overcome the challenges, they are more prepared to help others. This is one of the reasons for suffering and pain.
The reason for the temptations, the tests and challenges is so that people can be promoted and can receive rewards for being victorious. Rewards include authority or rulership over nations or areas of creation such as planets, star systems, galaxies, dimensions or universes. There are other rewards, but those are just some examples.
God is accomplishing multiple purposes simultaneously. So there isn't only one reason for which He does things. There are many reasons.
@@a.b.2405 Please read my response to tylertucker2608, below your comment.
It's odd - as a parent I didn't think it was wise to let a snake loose in the kids playroom. Guess that's why I'm not a god.
Thanks again Kristi!! I have had anxiety since I was 5 and it almost derailed my life at 25. I heard all of the same things you talked about, and until I went to Psychiatrist and started taking medication I was completely lost by it all. Even then, it was very very hard, and came back viciously several times because I needed a lot of fine-tuning with the medication, and with the Cognitive Therapy side. It is a dangerous myth that any religious education at all will help in the least. To anyone out there I say, GO TO A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL!!
Anxiety and mental health issues are still a very new issue for a lot of people and even those in the church. A lot ministers don't know how to address it. There are Christians and even Ministers who have committed suicide. You made a lot of good points Kristi.
Well it’s still no excuse to be unforgivably cold & rude about it!!
This whole jUsT pRaY mOrE or cHeCk yOuR sAlVaTiOn mAyBe yOu r Not rEaLLy sAvEd or mUsT bE a DeMoN
COME ON. It’s not okay!
It's almost like there are those among us who feed off our anxiety.
I have been unemployed for two years, fighting with depression for almost my entire adult life, have experienced panic attacks few times, tried ending my life few times, feel miserable and useless everyday and the last thing I would need is a multi millionaire pastor disregard my battles and tell me to just REJECT the hurt. It is easy for these people to give these "empower yourself" speeches when they don't know how it feels to go to sleep feeling worthless. I have tried so many times to humble myself and trust that things will get better and I am still the same depressed mess I was yesterday. These pastors have the audacity to tell people like me my mental battles are easy to overcome when the battles they face consist of choosing between the scarlet red or turquoise blue porsche.
Hi Kristy, your videos almost exactly describes the Jehovah's Witnesses. So so accurate with the spiritual warfare, fear, threats, anxiety and so much more. I was imprisoned by that cult for 50 years ! This guy is a nutter. Thanks for all your hard work. Hope you are happy and are fulfilled now. x
Coming from someone who took medication from anxiety has mild autism breathing heavily social awkwardness no friends obsessive paranoia taking the intiuative and drive and trying to better my life realizing im in control saved my life
My anxiety feels like constant adrenaline. Just like you feel in a car accident just a little bit lower than that. my dr says im in a constant state of fight or flight. Its no way to live and its hard to find treatment.
All the prayers and baptisms didn't help at all. I kept waiting for something inside me to change after people prayed over me but it never did.
Medication and therapy did help.
There is no end to it, only solutions. The saying goes: depression is worry about past, anxiety is worry about future. The only right place is the present. In other words 🎵 "It's a long way to the top if you wanna rock and roll" 🎶
@@jasfan8247no. I don't worry about anything. I have a good life and few problems.
I have a mental health problem where my body produces too much adrenaline.
Like I explained I'm my comment, you know how if you are In a car accident your system is flooded with adrenaline? Im like that ALL THE TIME.
What you said is completely relatable to how I feel and I finally figured it out because it has led to a lot of health problems from being in that adrenaline state all the time. I tried multiple churches and talking to countless people to find “spiritual” support and was left even worse off when I had already thought I was at rock bottom to begin with. I’m working on it as well, it’s a process but I’m in a better place. Sending my hope for your continued recovery and happiness as well ❤
@@undrwatropium3724 That's good! All is well as long as you stay productive. I'm just learning trying to slow down. I never heard your description, it's good and I see what you mean. All the best (drive safe)
@@reneets5729 Have you tried "Silent Prayer" ? It's just to let thoughts pass by without thinking about it and no words. (very plain)
Thank you so much for showing the world the crazy shit these pastors are saying , it’s very comforting knowing I’m not alone in this world
Love your work and service to the community!
About "pride"; if a child accomplishes something difficult, an appropriate response for the parent is to say "I am proud of you". Instilling pride is a positive thing, a way of building the child's self-esteem and confidence, and setting them on the path to becoming a stable and happy adult. . (Pride is NOT to be confused w/ narcissism, they are NOT the same thing!)
@Kristi: Thanks for this video! As a person who has generalised anxiety disorder, I get anxious over the smallest things. This pastor is the kind of person who's attitude drove me away from christianity. Its great to see that I'm not the only one who feels that this attitude is poisonous. Most people who don't have anxiety problems cannot see how dangerous this pastor's rhetoric is.
What is horrible about this, is he really does not care about the emotional well-being or mental health of anybody. It's just a bunch of ignorant, egotistical B.S. that he is spouting. Shame on him!
Hi Kristi, I'm new to your videos and this one just drew me in because I'm someone who suffers, not only from really bad anxiety, but also from Thanatophobia.
I did not grow up in a religious household, but my parents are of Muslim origin. We used to live our lives normally and just pick our own paths to walk.
I say used to because recently I've been having frequent episodes of anxiety attacks from the PTSD of losing two friends within the past 4 years (I'm only 20 years old, so I've still got life ahead of me).
I started to get curious and wonder about God and the Afterlife because I wanted some sort of comfort in "Death is not the end", so I went and researched both Religion and NDEs.... That's when I started to become afraid of God.
Being empathetic in nature, I felt this painful throbbing coming from the core of my being that if I didn't live a certain lifestyle, if WE didn't choose a certain path in life, then one of two things would happen:
1. God would send us to Hell (or just not let us into heaven and we'd cease to exist, either way no pleasant afterlife)
2. If God really is all-loving and all-forgiving, then He would allow us into Heaven, but we'd have to forsake our interests of things on Earth (Art, Reading, Writing, Video Games, etc. Especially anything that has to do with fiction because in my mind that just wouldn't be accepted in Heaven, or at least that's what I've been led to believe)
I have a deep appreciation for the things I love: friends, family, and fiction. The triple Fs... Ever since listening to accounts from other people (especially in the NDEs), it didn't feel like God was all-loving anymore... Because in my eyes, those people seemed normal compared to me. It felt like they were being shown that stuff because they were just going about reality accepting everything as normal and living life normally while I was living in a "fantasy land".
I know that if I try to talk to someone who's heavily religious, they would tell me something along the lines of "You're just being selfish. This is food for your ego... Blah blah blah."
I don't have an ego, I don't claim to be perfect, but to lose my loved ones or my life to have no meaning anymore.... It kills me all over again.
Your videos have brought me a sense of comfort in a way that I can't really put into words. Even if the anxiety doesn't fully go away, it's nice to see someone who's still somewhat sane. Thank you.
One of the main things that brings me comfort about my years as a youth minister was my extensive focus on mental health and my openness about my own struggles with anxiety and depression. I honestly think that's one of the biggest reasons that some of the most supportive people in my coming out years later were my former youth. Thank you so much for your content, and especially your willingness to be open and vulnerable about your story, Kristi. You're not just one of my favorite ex-christian content creators, you're one of my favorite content creators of any type.
When you're on the inside of religion you can't see the manipulation. Great show.
Thank you for this video Kristi. I had very similar anxiety growing up. I’d ask my mom to help explain to me what’s going on, and her best response was to pray, read bible, and rely on god. Obviously this never worked for me. So when I dumped the religion bs, I was able to finally feel comfort and internal peace for once. When I explained this to my mom she said that it was my pride preventing me from getting closer to god. According to her, if something doesn’t go the bible way, then it’s my fault and I need to change myself. Pretty much exactly what you summed up in your video.
This is the first thing I remember being afraid of.
What the sermon suggested to me, was that we should change the spelling of anxiety, so “i” is not in the middle, and thereby dispense with this problem forever, for all English speaking people.
Cult of personality.
sounds like the perfect solution to me! lol
change it to anxyety.
@@polystrate1 But then you would be the problem
Saying that anxiety is pride is the stupidest thing I ever heard. Anxiety is fear, regret and overall not feeling well. Sometimes the boss is overworking you and sometimes you're underperforming because you don't feel well but you can't afford a sick day.
For me is doing exercise, cardio like outdoor cycling for 2-3 hours, strength exercise, running ...etc - it is the best cure for many mental states !
Most excellent advice.
Same here, exercise is a game changer for me
But... but... how can I scam money out of people with good advice that causes them to get better?!
One time in church the speaker asked people to come to the front so he could pray their illnesses (physical and mental) away and my mom tried to get me (an atheist) up there so he could pray away my anxiety (disorder) to but I refused cause what was that gonna do💀
lol you dodged a bullet!
Guess there were no amputees coming to the front?
@@milkor.Exactly. When I see "a prophet" regrow an amputee I'll believe. Until then 🥱
Too many pastors suggest that dealing with the stresses of this messy life is always about putting one's faith to the test.
Not only is that unscriptural, but it is also unhealthy.
I suppose they would also have berated Jesus for his blood-stained Gethsemane prayer.
A test for what? What's the test for? Why does it have to be a test ? So much doesn't make sense
In my experience, anxiety is connected to a lack of pride. I get more anxious when I'm ashamed and lacking confidence.
Yes keep covering these pastors lol😂
They provide never-ending content for me 😅
It's funny how the God of Steven's
prayers seems so similar to Steven.
@@Highspergamy Yes. They think identically.
@@HighspergamyI feel like that's a running theme in Christianity. Everybody's God is basically them. God is just your conscience.
maybe that's just me. I could never wrap my mind around God.
@sarag1158
I "get" the concept of God,
but I'm a lot more loosey goosey with the
synthesis of ideas than most people
are.
I see God as the existence of an
objective reality... this understanding being
necessary for healthy relationship....
Even healthy relationship between the components of your psyche.
It isn't much fun being in a relationship with
a true solopsist..
But this idea is only beneficial in symbiotic companionship with the other realization...
That objective reality is out of our reach...
That its existence can be intuited, but no one
can take hold of it...
I’ve always found the idea that losing a battle to an entity who is out to get you, a master of deception, and both more clever and cunning than you is considered a moral failure to be wild.
Kristi this was amazing!!
You shared it for WHAT IT TRULY IS!
When I was in very deep distress at work, I had to take a few. When I prayed in the rawness of my thoughts to God, I truly felt instant peace that transcended anything of this world. Mind you I was crying and felt I had no where and no one to go to, I got on my knees, closed my eyes and prayed.
(34:08) So because "anxiety" and "pride" both have an "i" in the middle then that somehow shows that anxiety is caused by pride? 🤨 Words like "faith" and "spiritual" have an "i" in the middle so they must be caused by pride as well...🤔
My expectations for the real-world relevance of the pastor's advice were pretty low to start. I'm afraid it was even worse than I expected.
Keep up the good work, Kristi. cheers from cloudy Vienna, Scott
You will often hear many preachers, pastors etc, who will say "hey, just keep your mind fixed on Jesus, focus on him and nothing else". The problem is, what exactly is it that we're supposed to focus on? None of us has ever met this Jesus face to face, we don't know what he looks like or what it's like to be in the presence of this being (if he really exists) so how are we supposed to focus on him?
Shall we try to think of some blond-haired, blue-eyed man on a cross like the Hollywood Jesus Christ movies depict?? Or some Middle Eastern man with dark skin and dark frizzy hair? Or shall we try to think of some great divine, heavenly being glowing in light?? There is nothing to focus on, is there? Aside from just making it up that is 🤣🤣
What exactly are we supposed to do while “focusing on Jesus”. Are we supposed to not do anything else? Do we just pray and worship all day? Not go to work? Not have any other goals?
Even the scribes that wrote and translated the bible were people who never met Jesus. Anonymous authors who never met Jesus. Paul never met Jesus.
Thank you, Kristi, for helping us evolve spiritually 👍😉🥰
People who have never truly had an anxiety attack, will never really understand it. It get's old and frustrating when people assume they understand it and try to tell you what you need to do. I believe they just associate it with fear. Yes, that's part of it; but it's more overwhelming than they will ever imagine.
Mostly I'm thankful that people who don't have to deal with it, don't understand it. There are times I wish they could only feel it for a second. The problem with wishing that is the fear of them getting stuck in the same rut. Basically damning someone to our same illness.
Anxiety feeds itself. You know what I mean if you deal with it...
@@JustADudeGamer it use to be worse for me, it was more the impending death type feeling(heart feeling like it's gonna explode and hard to breath). Now its mainly the mental part of it, feel like you're going crazy(this use to be a part of it also, but it's the more prevalent now). I also suffer from agoraphobia now, which is tied to the panic attacks. Yea, it sucks. Sometimes the dice doesn't roll your way. You try to show the ones you love, the love you can, and deal with it. It's the only thing that keeps ya on this side sometimes.
Thanks for the words...
@@JustADudeGamer yea, a lot of it has to do with your boundaries and then slowly pushing them. I had come a long ways myself, but then some things happened in my life and basically I got consumed by it again.
For me there was never really a relief, but more learning to live with it. There was almost always that tension and never feeling easy. You get better at faking it, but I was never really able to have the relationships I had pre-panic attacks. I just couldn't have the same concentration in the conversations or relaxation because the tension that laid in the background.
I miss it...
But heh, guess that's life...
@@JustADudeGamer I don't know your situation and it's probably better if you don't let it hang out as much as I have. It was just a rare time I talk about it a bit more.
Personally I have chronic anxiety, so I can only speak for that. I imagine there are folks that treatment suffices or maybe combination with drugs, eventually being able to get off.
I think the reason treatment is so hard is because we all have different experiences that shape our thoughts. It's like a paper shredder, even if the inputs are the same the pieces don't fall in the same way. So really you are dealing on two levels, your experiences and then how your mind packs it all together. Basically an infinite combination of things that lead you to where you are. Plus on top of that, there could be possible slight chemical imbalances.
If you chronically suffer, I hope you can find your way out of it. Well even if you're not, I still hope you find your light. I dealt with it a lot like you suggested, keep your mind on something else or goals. I was still struggling, would say was operating at about 75% to 80% of what my life once was. Then got hit with a bag of bricks and everything started backsliding. Like I said, it's mainly mental now and not so much the physical effects(heart racing/feeling like something is standing on your chest). Learned over the years to mainly deal with that(even though there are situations I could put myself in to have those issues).
Thanks for the convo and hope you find your light...
Listening to this sermon,reminds me of the fear I had before I left Christianity😢. Gosh he sounds so toxic!
I never realized how superstitious these things sounded until YOU say it.
I think I HEAR it because you were raised in this culture like I was and you retained that sweet, calm, churchy (not in a bad way), Bible study delivery manner that I recognize.
Idk - I am not explaining myself well.
Maybe it is the trauma bond.
Either way, thank you for your channel.
Yours and many others are helping me deconstruct. ❤
Sidenote: this process of deconstruct os helping my anxiety and sadness I've carried in my life to leave.😊