I think every girl wants a guy at least a couple inches taller. There no way I’m dating a man smaller then me I’m 5’4 there no way lol I don’t think women really need a super tall man they just want someone who a little taller make u feel like a women
When some people get tired of being lonely or waiting on God to send them someone; they will lower their standards for someone they prefer. That's a horrible mistake and its not worth it.
Hi Tony, please do a short video about vetting men specifically. Other than taking it slow and observing, what are the right questions to ask that will provide the information we as women are seeking? Obviously men lie like a sidewalk, so we can't ask certain questions because the answers will just be all lies. Thanks!
I understand about letting go of my height preference and income preference, but he lives with his parents. That to me does not represent security or financial stability.
"We see them for who they are not what they can become" thank you Tony because I'm doing the work and I hope someone can see me for what I will become.
Quality people with good character is what’s most IMPORTANT. Both of you WILL change, trust me. That’s what happens in the real world. Are they a person of integrity with good qualities. Do they serve the same God you do. That’s what’s important, for the long haul.
Wow‼️‼️Thanks Tony for this video & actually explaining the difference in the 2. This was a very good & much needed video👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 & I had to laugh at the 3 6’s & how they ended up with a devil on their hands🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for always keeping it real Tony👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Tony, I appreciate that you acknowledge those who many may not consider when they’re discussing general topics like: those with special needs and disabilities. We often look at things from one lens and totally forget that there are people who may have other difficulties/traits we may not. It’s important to be mindful and aware of the different backgrounds anyone may come from. Even if you only mention them once, it still shows a bit of consideration to different perspectives.
How do you find the balance between finding someone who is looks compatible with you and settling on your preferences? I’m asking because I used to give men chances who did not meet my looks preferences and that I was not attracted to but I wanted to see if they had the character to make up for it. These men always ended up becoming controlling jealous and insecure because deep down they knew we were not on the same level. They would also try to tear down my self esteem to control me. That is why I don’t give men who I know are not looks compatible with me chances anymore. But I also wonder how do I know if I am being too picky? I don’t focus on numbers or specifics.
To me it's more about not being shallow. A man can be handsome, but doesn't have perfect skin. Or has a little pudge on him. If you don't find him attractive at all then you should keep it moving. You don't wanna date someone but feel you're better than him or can do better, nor should he want to date a woman who feels that way about him. We also have to look at ourselves and recognize our own shortcomings and flaws that we want a man to overlook.
I love your question and here's a tip. What you truly want you need have it within first and then it appears.When you live from ego, scarcity, fear etc..things never amounts to much. You are the key, literally. Hope this helps
Just make sure that on your side, your conscious, your value and self respect for Yourself are all Healthy! Make sure there is no sign of unhealed trauma within you. Pray that God take any cloud off your eyes, and let the Holy Spirit guide you to really see beyond any man that you will meet. Most of the time we go back to the same clown in different shoes because of this major reasons. So as long as you got your part right you should be fine. I would say be with someone that at least you are attracted to physically, and then the package unfold and complete it 🤍
You always bring a new perspective and something to think about. Never thought of it like that how someone who is up here can go down and someone who is down here can go up, but when you really analyze it that’s true. Great video Tony!
I pray that my future husband doesn’t curse. I was with men who cursed, but the last one cursed like two sailors lol, my soul would cringe and spirit ached every time he cursed.
When I told others that my standard was to not have someone who curses a whole lot like a sailor, some is ok to me, I was told well lot of people curse. I just feel like if it's done regularly it will get in my spirit and it will rub off. Or the person will hold back around me, not being themselves.
I have couple of shortcomings like my height at only 5' 4 just a small bundle of fun ,I always dated men few inches taller but the man I actually married was 6 foot plus ,I couldn't take the neck ache lol , there is someone just right for someone , me I have always been subservient in my relationships, now that could never happen I made those choices, but what it taught me what I don't want .I will always compromise but not at the expense of losing me . Blessed day Tony Gaskin and family
@@nathalie8497 just being honest queen ,but I also think if they treat us right we will endure certain things ,even at our own discomfort, I to grown for that kinda compromise now bless
This 👏 is really appreciated Tony. Many times unfortunately people don't understand that they aren't at all the same. We need to remain teachable, we definitely absolutely MUST HAVE the Wisdom of GOD. I Praise the LORD for Tony and his Wife and their testimony.
I never get women's obsession with height. As a woman I like handsome men too but from observation and experience I prefer to go for a man's character. That's the first thing I look and I haven't met men that were repulsive to look at. I think some people are stuck to preferences so that they look like they scored big to others, idk.
@Sarah825 ok i get him being at least taller. But on so many shows women want 6ft something, nothing less. Like will they miss out on a great guy because he has less inches? Lol
Yes! I tend to not judge men by their looks anymore at all. I'm older so I guess I've matured out of the more superficial things. Now, I find a man with God's heart who knows how to treat a woman and has no mental or personality disorders extremeeeeely attractive.😂😊
Happy Wednesday! I definitely had to work on my thoughts about height some years ago, being 5'9 myself. Even though the last one I gave a chance was shorter and it didn't work, I'm open to it being maybe he'll not be as short. However he absolutely can't smoke.
Wow, your wife sounds like me and I’m in deep like with a guy that’s on paper not at all what I would have gone for but I enjoyed how compatible we were. Now I think it’s a situation where I’m not fitting the image he’s used to. He mentioned he usually dates tomboys. Which is the complete opposite of me. But he mentioned how he like my bubbly personality. We’ll see what happens. I’m currently working my 3Bs 😊
Love your content bro. I don't know if you was implying you came up with the topic but someone probably 100s of years ago probably said it 1st. We all learn from each other. Continue to allow God to use you. Much love no disrespect intended
Tony, I wonder if you could do a video on this subject. I recently came across this video on TH-cam titled "I overheard my husband say I'm not attractive". It's sorta of going viral and the same lady that called the show posted on Reddit as well. I believe she's black, dark skinned and the husband has a lighter complexion. Basically the husband feels like he settled in the looks department when he married her. I would love to know what you would've told her.
Tony what about people who curse like a sailor? Every other word is a curse word. I believe that is a standard for me not to have someone like that. I know it's normal but doing it that much is too much to me and I think it will rub off on me. Or the person will try to adjust to be like you but it's not really them. Some is ok like if something happens or on occasion but I can't deal with that 24/7.
If you don’t have what you are asking for, then work on that. I have dated men who wanted things from me that they themselves never gave me. That’s delusional. Ex: my ex wanted my attention and my time but when I needed him, he was rarely there. In addition, he would shame me for wanting it. That is not fair.
Good video. God will put the right person in your life regardless of height or weight. I use to worry about my weight. When I lost the weight before the doctor said that I was sick. Then he put me on medication that made me gain the weight.
very true.❤🙏🏽❤ so true, love motivates. I'm 5'4 my boyfriend is 6'4 . to me it's about character, morals, and ethics. same foundations and beliefs. so true, about opposites attract and letting love in.🧑🏻🦱👩🏽🦳
You are on a Black man's page vomiting racism... you are a wicked bigot, and you will receive the just due of your evil in due time. @Tony Gaskins... should you see this, you might want to visit over here with the block ministry...
I think every girl wants a guy at least a couple inches taller. There no way I’m dating a man smaller then me I’m 5’4 there no way lol I don’t think women really need a super tall man they just want someone who a little taller make u feel like a women
When some people get tired of being lonely or waiting on God to send them someone; they will lower their standards for someone they prefer. That's a horrible mistake and its not worth it.
Most men like the fact that I don't....smoke , drink, eat meat, social media, curse, but they do.....the nerve 😂😂😂😂😂 boy bye ✌
Amazing how some people want someone who brings values to the table they don't have! The nerve!
@@lafemme8 IKR....shame 😱
Hi Tony, please do a short video about vetting men specifically. Other than taking it slow and observing, what are the right questions to ask that will provide the information we as women are seeking?
Obviously men lie like a sidewalk, so we can't ask certain questions because the answers will just be all lies.
Thanks!
I understand about letting go of my height preference and income preference, but he lives with his parents. That to me does not represent security or financial stability.
Thank you so much for addressing this from a place of wisdom. So many people are absolutely lost. This will help.
"We see them for who they are not what they can become" thank you Tony because I'm doing the work and I hope someone can see me for what I will become.
Quality people with good character is what’s most IMPORTANT. Both of you WILL change, trust me. That’s what happens in the real world. Are they a person of integrity with good qualities. Do they serve the same God you do. That’s what’s important, for the long haul.
Wow‼️‼️Thanks Tony for this video & actually explaining the difference in the 2. This was a very good & much needed video👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 & I had to laugh at the 3 6’s & how they ended up with a devil on their hands🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for always keeping it real Tony👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I love your sense of humor! I miss it when I take the classes, you are very professional.😊
“ Instead of trying to control it, let love do what it does”.
I think people do try to help fix up others. The issue is when is too much enough.
Big bruh you changing lives. To God be the Glory! Free Game right here. Im boutta get my ex back
Tony, I appreciate that you acknowledge those who many may not consider when they’re discussing general topics like: those with special needs and disabilities. We often look at things from one lens and totally forget that there are people who may have other difficulties/traits we may not. It’s important to be mindful and aware of the different backgrounds anyone may come from. Even if you only mention them once, it still shows a bit of consideration to different perspectives.
How do you find the balance between finding someone who is looks compatible with you and settling on your preferences? I’m asking because I used to give men chances who did not meet my looks preferences and that I was not attracted to but I wanted to see if they had the character to make up for it. These men always ended up becoming controlling jealous and insecure because deep down they knew we were not on the same level. They would also try to tear down my self esteem to control me. That is why I don’t give men who I know are not looks compatible with me chances anymore. But I also wonder how do I know if I am being too picky? I don’t focus on numbers or specifics.
The Holy Spirit will give you discernment
To me it's more about not being shallow. A man can be handsome, but doesn't have perfect skin. Or has a little pudge on him. If you don't find him attractive at all then you should keep it moving. You don't wanna date someone but feel you're better than him or can do better, nor should he want to date a woman who feels that way about him.
We also have to look at ourselves and recognize our own shortcomings and flaws that we want a man to overlook.
I love your question and here's a tip. What you truly want you need have it within first and then it appears.When you live from ego, scarcity, fear etc..things never amounts to much. You are the key, literally. Hope this helps
Just make sure that on your side, your conscious, your value and self respect for
Yourself are all Healthy! Make sure there is no sign of unhealed trauma within you. Pray that God take any cloud off your eyes, and let the Holy Spirit guide you to really see beyond any man that you will meet. Most of the time we go back to the same clown in different shoes because of this major reasons. So as long as you got your part right you should be fine. I would say be with someone that at least you are attracted to physically, and then the package unfold and complete it 🤍
You should go for looks. Men never downgrade on looks when it comes to women. Never
Great topic. Thanks for giving me hope with men! God bless you & your beautiful family!
You always bring a new perspective and something to think about. Never thought of it like that how someone who is up here can go down and someone who is down here can go up, but when you really analyze it that’s true. Great video Tony!
Thank you, Mr. Gaskinns, well spoken, and well taken. I've dated from 5' 4 to 6'4!!
I pray that my future husband doesn’t curse. I was with men who cursed, but the last one cursed like two sailors lol, my soul would cringe and spirit ached every time he cursed.
When I told others that my standard was to not have someone who curses a whole lot like a sailor, some is ok to me, I was told well lot of people curse. I just feel like if it's done regularly it will get in my spirit and it will rub off. Or the person will hold back around me, not being themselves.
Tony always dropping nuggets of wisdom
I have couple of shortcomings like my height at only 5' 4 just a small bundle of fun ,I always dated men few inches taller but the man I actually married was 6 foot plus ,I couldn't take the neck ache lol ,
there is someone just right for someone , me I have always been subservient in my relationships, now that could never happen I made those choices, but what it taught me what I don't want .I will always compromise but not at the expense of losing me .
Blessed day Tony Gaskin and family
I really understand you , the neck ache I don't want it at all
@@nathalie8497 just being honest queen ,but I also think if they treat us right we will endure certain things ,even at our own discomfort, I to grown for that kinda compromise now bless
This 👏 is really appreciated Tony. Many times unfortunately people don't understand that they aren't at all the same. We need to remain teachable, we definitely absolutely MUST HAVE the Wisdom of GOD. I Praise the LORD for Tony and his Wife and their testimony.
Hey Tony! I appreciate all you do.
I never get women's obsession with height. As a woman I like handsome men too but from observation and experience I prefer to go for a man's character. That's the first thing I look and I haven't met men that were repulsive to look at. I think some people are stuck to preferences so that they look like they scored big to others, idk.
@Sarah825 that’s what I’m saying, I just want a 5’9 man 🥲
@Sarah825 ok i get him being at least taller. But on so many shows women want 6ft something, nothing less. Like will they miss out on a great guy because he has less inches? Lol
I dated short or tall many years ago. I just don't date anymore. My great grandma was 4'11 and married a man 6' and inches man. It didn't stop them.
Thanks Tony. God bless you
This was so awesome! 👏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽
Truth, Mr. Tony
Be blessed Sir!
Yes! I tend to not judge men by their looks anymore at all. I'm older so I guess I've matured out of the more superficial things. Now, I find a man with God's heart who knows how to treat a woman and has no mental or personality disorders extremeeeeely attractive.😂😊
Three sixes and end up with a devil on they hand.... you better preach Tony!!! 🗣
I love this, thank you for this enlightenment
Happy Wednesday! I definitely had to work on my thoughts about height some years ago, being 5'9 myself. Even though the last one I gave a chance was shorter and it didn't work, I'm open to it being maybe he'll not be as short. However he absolutely can't smoke.
Wow, your wife sounds like me and I’m in deep like with a guy that’s on paper not at all what I would have gone for but I enjoyed how compatible we were. Now I think it’s a situation where I’m not fitting the image he’s used to. He mentioned he usually dates tomboys. Which is the complete opposite of me. But he mentioned how he like my bubbly personality. We’ll see what happens. I’m currently working my 3Bs 😊
The Mathematics of Dating ! So true Tony. Gotta solve those equations.
This is a great topic
Just got my gym membership! Honestly i care more about face than body. I will not settle in the face department
A builda bear 🐻🤦🤣🤣🤣
Very important message!!!!
Thanks 😇
Love your content bro. I don't know if you was implying you came up with the topic but someone probably 100s of years ago probably said it 1st. We all learn from each other. Continue to allow God to use you. Much love no disrespect intended
Tony, I wonder if you could do a video on this subject. I recently came across this video on TH-cam titled "I overheard my husband say I'm not attractive". It's sorta of going viral and the same lady that called the show posted on Reddit as well. I believe she's black, dark skinned and the husband has a lighter complexion. Basically the husband feels like he settled in the looks department when he married her. I would love to know what you would've told her.
Don’t forget some of these abs were surgically refined too lol 😂
Opposites compliment each other.
Tony what about people who curse like a sailor? Every other word is a curse word. I believe that is a standard for me not to have someone like that. I know it's normal but doing it that much is too much to me and I think it will rub off on me. Or the person will try to adjust to be like you but it's not really them. Some is ok like if something happens or on occasion but I can't deal with that 24/7.
What’s about age gap? Is age requirements considered preferences or standards?… eg. over 10 years age gap
Preference
Them 3 Sixes 😂 18:27 😈
Checking in 👋🏽
I don’t know why how many times I’m trying to listen to your videos on my headphones I can’t hear it I have the volume all the way up
If you don’t have what you are asking for, then work on that. I have dated men who wanted things from me that they themselves never gave me. That’s delusional. Ex: my ex wanted my attention and my time but when I needed him, he was rarely there. In addition, he would shame me for wanting it. That is not fair.
Nice video
I agree with all standards but am only 5'3",I would like someone a little taller than I am😁
It’s a huge mistake because it’s then based upon assumptions of insecurity.
I love you Tony
GOAT!!!!
It’s so weird that I prefer short men over tall men but I guess because I’m short too. I’m 5’0.
Good video. God will put the right person in your life regardless of height or weight. I use to worry about my weight. When I lost the weight before the doctor said that I was sick. Then he put me on medication that made me gain the weight.
Facts!
Hi Tony 👍
very true.❤🙏🏽❤ so true, love motivates. I'm 5'4 my boyfriend is 6'4 . to me it's about character, morals, and ethics. same foundations and beliefs. so true, about opposites attract and letting love in.🧑🏻🦱👩🏽🦳
Awesome
As long as he's taller then her it shouldn't matter
Present
In here ✋
Give a chance to most people with simple rule, no black no trans.
You are on a Black man's page vomiting racism... you are a wicked bigot, and you will receive the just due of your evil in due time.
@Tony Gaskins... should you see this, you might want to visit over here with the block ministry...
So basically it is not ok for a Christian to date a Muslim ...
absolutely not ok!
Basically no..
Okk
Nope... what the one believes about Jesus is blasphemy to the other...
@@hymnodyhands Thank you