It is so comforting to see a woman who doesn't make it look like motherhood is heaven 😅 I still don't know whether I "want" children..I feel way too weak for it. You give me a new perspective, not just "be a perfect capable mother or don't do it at all". Thank you, you are such a strong woman ☺️
Oh gosh. I couldn’t even take care of myself! During covid I was so lazy I would just starve bc I didn’t wanna get up and make food. And now I have a baby and let me tell you, it made me a better person and I’m SO HAPPY. With that being said, motherhood isn’t for everyone. Hope you figure it out Liana ❤
Left the house crying after being home all week and all day on Saturday with my 2 under 2. Here I am in my car in a Walmart parking lot, parked under a tree, and this video is in my subscriptions. Talk about a coincidence. Today and this past week has been so hard. My 2 year old is sick. My 9 month old is coming down with it too and my husband is working overtime. I just want to get a hotel room and sleep.
I go for a drive and sit in my car too as my “me time.” And I have often wished to be able to go to a hotel alone for the night. I have an 8 week old and a highly spirited 2.5 year old so I know how exhausting it is. I hope you’re feeling better soon. Motherhood is so exhausting and all consuming.
My daughter turns 13 months old tomorrow and I have a baby coming in less than 3 months. This was so helpful and encouraging! You have a special way of communicating honestly without being depressing. Thanks for this!!
I am expecting my second baby in 2023, and my son just turned one. So I will have two under two and I have been trying hard to wrap my head around what my life is going to be like! I LOVED your video! You did such a great job at making some of those stressful moments laugh worthy! Thanks for that!
My son was 6 months old (conceived via IVF) when I found out I was pregnant again. It’s another boy. 2 boys 15 months apart, and a 9 year old girl. I needed this video!!
I just found you and I gotta say you’re like my soul person. I’m a new mom and I absolutely love hearing another mom be honest and say motherhood isn’t their best quality but yet give so much positivity at the same time… I feel this. And your tips are 💯
So many strong points here! One that stuck with me (as I found I also needed this) is decluttering/getting rid of clothes that dont fit or to make dressing easy. For me, choosing all nautrals really helped me match and feel put together. Appreciate your "real-ness"
Every video you release comes out at the perfect time. I will be having my second in January and my son will be 13 months at that point. I'm the worst mom ever, doing the best I can, and I adore my kids.
I love your tidbit on the loss of one-on-one time. There will be less of that than what the first child got, but now they have the gift of each other! True true true.
Oh my god. The last one about being angry and going for a run. That has been my biggest struggle postpartum. I remember when I was about 3-4 weeks postpartum it was like 5am and I was laying in bed awake (baby and husband both asleep) and I was shaking I was so angry. I wish I would have thought to go for a run. Thank you for your videos, they are so incredibly meaningful and helpful to me. Thank you. I also got my husband a #1 dad shirt from very good mother’s club and he loves it :)
Hi this video has truly made me feel more confident and comfortable having 2 under 2, I found out I was pregnant with my son last year when I was 16 years old, I had him when I was 17 and now 7 months later im pregnant again and I was honestly so in shock because I had an iud and I was in no place to have another baby but after talking with my significant other we decided to push through and have this baby since our son and this new baby will be so close in age we thought they would grow up together and be close with each other which is something both me and my significant other didn’t really have as kids. But anyways I just wanted to say this video is helping me a lot I’m 6 weeks with my second❤️🤞🏻
I remember my daughter was 3 weeks old and not sleeping, like AT ALL. And, I was pumping. My husband was very sick and couldn't really do anything. I had to go to walmart and I was convinced the day was never going to end. I was convinced the day was going to go forever. And, it wasn't even 2pm. 😂😂😂😂
Jess, your videos helped me so much during both of my pregnancies. I'll be forever grateful for your sincerity and transparency! Thank you, kisses from Brazil 🥰
Thank you so much for this. I had my second babe, when my first was 20 months. It’s been a crazy 3 months so far, and I’ve been hard myself thinking I should be doing more by now… but I’m just exhausted all the time. Thanks for the reminder that’s it’s just hard ❤️ Here’s to the last month of officially having 2 under 2 ❤️
Thank you for these videos. They have helped me SO much. I’m pregnant with #2 and will have 2 under 2 as a single mom anddddd I want to cry every day lol. But you’ve helped me so much. Thank you endlessly
My kids are 15 months apart I'm 5 days postpartum. I have gotten maybe over 20 hours of sleep in 5 days. I am convinced that I must not be human if I'm going on this amount of sleep and still taking care of them.
Oh my gosh you are incredible. How can we get you more sleep? I hope you have help. Cheering for you. Our bodies are amazing.. and so are our kids .. and also .. so is sleep haha I hope you guys get to sleep soon!
I love your attitude, especially that “negative” tidbit about only being able to go up. I’ve been freaking out about having 2 under 2 pretty much ever since I found out I was pregnant again, and this has been the only thing to calm me down ❤
Thank you so much for the encouragement Jess. I have a 12 month old, and a little one due in February. I am so thankful for both my babes but I am definitely overwhelmed thinking of how I will manage it. Your tips and the encouragement about how to prioritize and not focus on being perfect are a great comfort to me.
These are such awesome tips, going through 2 under 3 right now and I find these tips helpful, one that I did not expect but find super helpful is lowering your expectations! It definitely gave me a newer perspective to look at my situation right now.
Im 19 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby my 1st is one yr old today and I'm freaking out 😔💕 I don't have much help at ALL im a stay at home mom and my nerves are all over the place! Thank you for the advice I really needed this video in my life, makes me feel better that other moms have made it through this!!!! Gives me hope lol
Thank you for all the tips! I am 32 weeks pregnant with a 20 month old, and I am terrified! I’m also terrible at asking for help! Lol! But still looking forward to everything that is to come.
Totally agree with the simplifying your life, my mind was blown when I discovered the “no fold” laundry method for kids. Now I’m not stressed out about getting the clean clothes in the dressers lol genius!!
I’m here in 2024😬 My oldest was recently 4yo when my second was born and I found out that I was pregnant again at 4m postpartum. I’m due in December with my 3rd. I’ll have a 5yo and a 1yo by the time this little girl comes. I’m trying to prepare myself entirely
I don't know why, but I'm 8 min into the video, you haven't yet given any tip and I'm already feeling like everything is going to be alright in this 2under2 journey. I don't know what part of you makes me feel that way. But there is an inspiring jenesaisquoi going on !!!
My babies are 2 under 3 (Thursday my youngest turned 1) and it's sooo hard. I don't have any family to give me a break so it's definitely weighing on my mental health. My 2 year old is special needs but he's helpful with laundry and has loads of energy. I just got a double stroller and so excited to take them out in it!
Keeping it real. It's also ok to just have one child. I personally knew 2 would be too much for us. We are very happy with one child. It seems everyone HAS to have 2 or 3 kids because society tells us to.
My son is 13 months and my second is coming in about 6 months! I’m so nervous because my son is EXTREMELY attached at me. Pretty big separation anxiety and trying to work on that with him. These are really nice tips! I’m trying to setup family members to bring my son on outings and to play while I tend to a newborn. I’m expecting to feel overwhelmed and for things to be a little hectic at first, but I’m still nervous nonetheless!
🤣🤣🤣I love that you say "I quit breastfeeding Wilson while I was pregnant" as if like you quit smoking. Idk that just struck me as so funny. I'm about to do the same thing and being pregnant and nursing it does feel like "oh yeah it's time to kick this habit" 🤣
My mom is currently pregnant with twins (unplanned), and the youngest will be ~18 months! So we’ll have 3 under 3, it’ll be a hard task but we’ll be okay! (she’s 17w5d, we have to wait for a while)
I only have one baby and I love her so much and spending time together with her but my depression existed before her and it is so hard to get myself out of the house. I also feel super lonely because my husband is on the military and we are away from everyone we know. My family pretty much disown me even though they adopted me since I was a baby. So yeah... pretty much my daughter and husband are the only things that keep me going.
@@kaitlinmilbourn8653 it was rough the first few weeks trying to balance the attention but the first two weeks I had a lot of support. It gets stressful to juggle both sometimes but they’re the best of friends and love each other. My almost 2 year old loves to give kisses and hugs my almost 1 year old. And they play so good together. Biggest thing is keeping #1 away from #2 till they can crawl or sit up. I got a huge playpen on Amazon that my son could play in so he couldn’t get to the baby.
@@breevestrand thank you so much for the update! I’m so glad to hear this ❤️ I’ve been eyeing a playpen for awhile but your advice has one in the cart now! I’m so happy to hear those sweet kiddos love each other!!
Awesome video thanks! Something I'm doing to simplify is to have 7 comfortable sets of clothes rolled together including undies, just to grab in the morning. Keep it separate from the rest of your clothes (that you'll probably not be wearing in mama survival mode) and all darks so they can be washed together. It's abit of an investment to get this many similar things, charity shops would be great to find stuff. And you can even do it with your kids clothes. I'll be a single mama of 2 under 2 when I'm due in a month so desperately trying to find ways to keep me sane and stay on at college!
I'm in my 3rd trimester with my 1st, but I like watching videos about 2 under 2, because we plan to have the 2nd one (hopefully) close together. just trying to be prepared LOL
Right now, I have a 22 month old and a newborn (2 week old), but this situation will only last 2 months. I doubt it will look much different when my oldest turns 2 in those 2 months though, lol. I've heard 2 under 3 is still difficult. I've had my slip ups, but I am trying to stay cool. I love both of my children. I want to be the best mom I can be for them.
Thank you so much for this video, I must say your video is the only one that popped up for me related to surviving 2 kids under 2! And I appreciate so much for doing this video. It feels like you are speaking directly to me as if I were in the room and into my situation exactly haha really needed this today thank you so much again! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I currently 28 weeks with my second (unplanned) child and my son is 18 mos. I’m having a LOT of big feelings about this pregnancy. So happy that we got pregnant so easily and without medical intervention (it took much more effort with our first) but also very sad that I won’t have more 1:1 time with my son. I feel resentful that I didn’t plan for this pregnancy and change in life and it feels like my autonomy has been taken away in a lot of ways. I have been missing out on things I would have engaged in and enjoyed had I not been pregnant. Looking forward to being done with diapers once this next baby is out of them, can’t wait to watch them play together, happy that our family will be complete. And also, so scared. So so scared of what this life will look like with two young kiddos.
I SOOO relate to all of these feelings. I had them too. I'm sorry for the painful feelings but know you aren't alone. Thank you for articulating what so many of us have felt. As someone who was feeling these feelings not long ago and is now on the other side of it know that it is going to be better than you imagine.
I definitely feel every bit of this comment. My second is unplanned as well, and my daughter is almost 3. I feel so sad that my eldest daughter that had all my time and attention suddenly was fading away and I just could not stop crying.
@@katiemcsweeney4248 a lot of work! my newest slept great, and my oldest didn't react badly to him, but it was still super hard. I almost remember it as being easier in the beginning because he slept 19 hours a day, but dunno. When they both were in daycare it got harder because they kept being sick. Especially hard during vacation, when we had to go away from our routines. But it's all looking up now that all of us get to sleep 8 hours a day!
@@Rooskwa thanks for the reply! Do they interact much with each other now or are they both still too small? In my head 2 under 2 will turn into best buddies but that might just be wishful thinking!!
@@katiemcsweeney4248 they do! they play a lot and they have a lot of conflicts too. It's cute, and nice, I used to feel bad that I didn't have the energy to play with my daughter all day, but now that she plays with her sibling too, I have energy for when she wants to play with me. Way more rounded you know?
I just found out I am pregnant and my son is only 10 months old! I am planning on putting my son in day care before the new baby gets here to kinda help and I’m kinda freaking out honestly!!
Wow it’s nice to know that I’m not crazy for feeling all that I felt having 2 under 2. I can totally relate to everything you are saying. Thank you for making this video! You are an Amazing Mom!❤
I really needed this I am a full time working mom with a 2yr old and a 3 month old. I’ve been just feeling like I don’t know how to do this. I had postpartum dep with my 1st and 2nd. Since I work all the time I feel like I don’t really get to see my kids. They’re always with my mother in law. Most times I feel like a failure of a mom because my MIL is always taking care of them. I also feel like a failure because I get anxiety when I have to be with my two kids alone because I feel like I don’t know how to do it all with them. I just don’t know how to get my big baby to sleep while my little one always needs me. It’s just hard. I always compare myself to my MIL. How can she do this and I can’t.
OOOOOOOOO what double stroller is that?!!? We are expecting our second, 6 months PP.......not planned for and we are trying to figure out what we need equipment wise for 2 babies. If you have that video, that would be great!
Just found out I’m pregnant and I have a 9 month old. I’m trying to prepare myself to survive cause I have 7 year old too. 😅 lawd help me. We have to get a new car. Cause mt husband old truck seat doesn’t come up so I can’t drive it 🤦🏽♀️ and my personal car is Beetle so I can’t tote 3 kids in it 😭😭😭😭😭 send help.
Do you know what? Any woman even here watching this video is an ACE! Because that means we actually give a shit! Most of the things you said I already knew but the laughing for 10 seconds challenge accepted because I used to do that but only for a couple seconds but if it’s 10 seconds sister I’m gonna freaking do it. I have a teenager(ha you don’t even know the ride with THAT!ha), a one-year-old, and a two month old. I’m riding the wave and it’s hard but in the end there’s so many women across the world that wish they could reproduce and they can’t so I smacked my face and carry on. Oh and Wine helps. ;) We are in this together sisters!! Oxoxo
This is very helpful. But I still get so worried.. I have my one year old and am 33 weeks pregnant with his sweet brother. He will be a winter born baby in Colorado and we live in a 2 bedroom 900sq apartment. :/
I am due to have my second boy in December and my current baby will be 18 months old when his baby brother comes home. I’m so excited but super nervous because my son right now is so glued to me which i absolutely love and I just hope that we can all learn to share our time together and my son can love sharing my time and his own time because as a one year old they don’t understand time they just understand mom I want to play with this toy right now and that’s what I want. And having to adjust to yes I want this toy now but mom is with my brother and that’s okay will be a test of patience to say the least lol
My kids are only going to be 2 under 2 for 2 months, so I'm hoping it will be much less intense than having them so close... but probably not hahaha, my older one is a spitfire and still doesn't sleep well so I am really looking forward to being sleep deprived for another 18 months once the next one comes along!
You're so right, it is NOT easy! I think having a solid daily routine was the biggest thing that helped me survive. It was also nice to get the oldest out of diapers as soon as he turned 2. But you did it, you made it through, wahoo! It's not impossible lol Thanks for sharing your experience :)
I have a 2 years old (since last week) and an 8 months and one thing that is making it very hard is that my 2 year old does not want to engage with the baby at all. No cuteness here 😔
Some really good ideas in this video. But I just felt a little discouraged with the first tip being to hire help or put a kid in daycare. That would be nice if I could afford it. I don’t even have grandparents who are available to watch a kid for more than an hour or two MAYBE once a month.
I hear you. Im sorry. In my area there is a YMCA that offers special financial assistance for their daycare/preschool, i wonder if there is anything near you to support families in your situation. Wish i was nearby to take the little ones while you have some time for yourself.
I have a 12 year old and 7 month old and am feeling like I definitely want a 3rd. My heart feels conflicted because I don't want my oldest to feel left out since she'd been an only child for so long. Anyone have large age gaps or similar situations?
I am currently on 2 under 3. I have very little to no support at all, my husband works overtime and I am home alone 2 weeks days and 2 weeks nights 🥺😭 my eldest is almost 3 and the newborn is 1 month old. I still am having a difficult time to accept my second baby ( I know I feel like a bad mother everyday) I cry every night thinking about this. No one is here to support regardless covid or not so I have to do it all on my own. My second one doesn’t breastfeed well and wants to be held all the time compared to my first. My first and I were so close and I feel like our relationship is getting more and more strained because I find it hard to balance because she is very active. I feel like I baby wear all day and my newborn also hates the car seat so it’s hard to travel and have some family time with husband and eldest. 😭
Im so sorry i wish we were on the same place so i could help. You could consider joining our parenting support group and maybe friends in your area could help!
@@jess_hover Thank you so much. Just hearing that I wasn’t the only one like this makes me feel like I am still have some sanity. I feel too ashamed to ask my friends for help as they are busy with work, some of my friends are busier with multiple kids than I am. Husband is busy with 12 hrs shifts so I feel like I should pull the rest of the weight around the house.
Yes 9mo pregnant with an 18mo old and I'm dying here and I don't even have 2 yet! And delta is messing w my birthplans. I need more real moms saying real things.
Thank you for this video! My kids will be 21 months apart, so technically I’ll only have 3 months of 2 under 2, but it is still a bit scary, also with my older baby the first 2 months were a literal nightmare (reflux, colics and 24/7 fuzziness didn’t help and deciding to give birth in my hometown hence spending that time at my parents home with my husband didn’t either). I can’t wait to do things differently this second time around. Your approach to motherhood and faith are really inspiring to me Jess! Thanks again
So basically if you have no support to help with the older child, better not having one? That's what I got in the beginning of the video and I stopped in there because I have no one to help besides my husband
No, that’s not my conclusive point. Depending on the age gap the need for help will vary. Lots of couple manage two kids without support, but if that’s the case then I would recommend a virtual community of emotional support (like FaceTiming loved ones or joining a mom group) to help you stay well during the transition to two kids. Having more than one child is really wonderful and though it can be a big transition it’s so special to see them bond. Plus you adore the second baby, like with the first. Eventually they play without you and that’s great too. If you end up choosing to stick with one child then awesome, but I did not say it is better not to have another baby if you don’t have help.
Thank you so much for this video.i have a one year old and an two month old baby...doing this alone...it's really hard not having anyone around to help me but I will hack this Can someone gift me a stroller please and baby clothes?
Tips start at 9:40 😊
It is so comforting to see a woman who doesn't make it look like motherhood is heaven 😅 I still don't know whether I "want" children..I feel way too weak for it. You give me a new perspective, not just "be a perfect capable mother or don't do it at all". Thank you, you are such a strong woman ☺️
That means so much to me thank you. ❤️ i appreciate you watching and taking the time to write me. So much love to you ❤️❤️
You will be fine when it's time, women make it happen and so will you!
Oh gosh. I couldn’t even take care of myself! During covid I was so lazy I would just starve bc I didn’t wanna get up and make food. And now I have a baby and let me tell you, it made me a better person and I’m SO HAPPY. With that being said, motherhood isn’t for everyone. Hope you figure it out Liana ❤
Left the house crying after being home all week and all day on Saturday with my 2 under 2. Here I am in my car in a Walmart parking lot, parked under a tree, and this video is in my subscriptions. Talk about a coincidence.
Today and this past week has been so hard. My 2 year old is sick. My 9 month old is coming down with it too and my husband is working overtime. I just want to get a hotel room and sleep.
I go for a drive and sit in my car too as my “me time.” And I have often wished to be able to go to a hotel alone for the night. I have an 8 week old and a highly spirited 2.5 year old so I know how exhausting it is. I hope you’re feeling better soon. Motherhood is so exhausting and all consuming.
Ugh I'm so sorry. I wish I could hug you and help carry some of your load. You are a hero, hang in there.
My daughter turns 13 months old tomorrow and I have a baby coming in less than 3 months. This was so helpful and encouraging! You have a special way of communicating honestly without being depressing. Thanks for this!!
I am expecting my second baby in 2023, and my son just turned one. So I will have two under two and I have been trying hard to wrap my head around what my life is going to be like!
I LOVED your video! You did such a great job at making some of those stressful moments laugh worthy! Thanks for that!
My son was 6 months old (conceived via IVF) when I found out I was pregnant again. It’s another boy. 2 boys 15 months apart, and a 9 year old girl. I needed this video!!
I just found you and I gotta say you’re like my soul person. I’m a new mom and I absolutely love hearing another mom be honest and say motherhood isn’t their best quality but yet give so much positivity at the same time… I feel this. And your tips are 💯
Aw thank you :) what an honor for me. So happy you’re here
So many strong points here! One that stuck with me (as I found I also needed this) is decluttering/getting rid of clothes that dont fit or to make dressing easy. For me, choosing all nautrals really helped me match and feel put together. Appreciate your "real-ness"
Love that :) the neutrals definitely make it easier to get ready!
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Every video you release comes out at the perfect time. I will be having my second in January and my son will be 13 months at that point. I'm the worst mom ever, doing the best I can, and I adore my kids.
Same! I’m due on January 7th with my 2nd boy! And my baby boy will be 13/14 months old!
@@gypsyqueen4455 we can do it!
Your best is good enough and I’m sure your kids are beyond lucky to have you💓💓
I love your tidbit on the loss of one-on-one time. There will be less of that than what the first child got, but now they have the gift of each other! True true true.
I teared up watching this, you seem so genuine and loving, thanks for making this video, I have a 5 month old & im pregnant, I’ll be having 2 under 1
Oh my god. The last one about being angry and going for a run. That has been my biggest struggle postpartum. I remember when I was about 3-4 weeks postpartum it was like 5am and I was laying in bed awake (baby and husband both asleep) and I was shaking I was so angry. I wish I would have thought to go for a run. Thank you for your videos, they are so incredibly meaningful and helpful to me. Thank you. I also got my husband a #1 dad shirt from very good mother’s club and he loves it :)
Hi this video has truly made me feel more confident and comfortable having 2 under 2, I found out I was pregnant with my son last year when I was 16 years old, I had him when I was 17 and now 7 months later im pregnant again and I was honestly so in shock because I had an iud and I was in no place to have another baby but after talking with my significant other we decided to push through and have this baby since our son and this new baby will be so close in age we thought they would grow up together and be close with each other which is something both me and my significant other didn’t really have as kids. But anyways I just wanted to say this video is helping me a lot I’m 6 weeks with my second❤️🤞🏻
Needed this, have a 3 week old and 18 month old. 3 week old has pretty bad reflux. Have def cried everyday so far.
I remember my daughter was 3 weeks old and not sleeping, like AT ALL. And, I was pumping. My husband was very sick and couldn't really do anything. I had to go to walmart and I was convinced the day was never going to end. I was convinced the day was going to go forever. And, it wasn't even 2pm. 😂😂😂😂
Jess, your videos helped me so much during both of my pregnancies. I'll be forever grateful for your sincerity and transparency! Thank you, kisses from Brazil 🥰
Crying because I am scared and grateful both … I have a seven month old and am nine week pregnant . Thank you for this video
Thank you so much for this. I had my second babe, when my first was 20 months. It’s been a crazy 3 months so far, and I’ve been hard myself thinking I should be doing more by now… but I’m just exhausted all the time. Thanks for the reminder that’s it’s just hard ❤️ Here’s to the last month of officially having 2 under 2 ❤️
Thank you for these videos. They have helped me SO much. I’m pregnant with #2 and will have 2 under 2 as a single mom anddddd I want to cry every day lol. But you’ve helped me so much. Thank you endlessly
Me too, it's so daunting but we got this mama! One day at a time x
My kids are 15 months apart I'm 5 days postpartum. I have gotten maybe over 20 hours of sleep in 5 days. I am convinced that I must not be human if I'm going on this amount of sleep and still taking care of them.
Oh my gosh you are incredible. How can we get you more sleep? I hope you have help. Cheering for you. Our bodies are amazing.. and so are our kids .. and also .. so is sleep haha I hope you guys get to sleep soon!
incase you see this, how is everything now?
I love your attitude, especially that “negative” tidbit about only being able to go up. I’ve been freaking out about having 2 under 2 pretty much ever since I found out I was pregnant again, and this has been the only thing to calm me down ❤
Aw thank you! I appreciate you watching & totally believe in you ❤️
Thank you so much for the encouragement Jess. I have a 12 month old, and a little one due in February. I am so thankful for both my babes but I am definitely overwhelmed thinking of how I will manage it. Your tips and the encouragement about how to prioritize and not focus on being perfect are a great comfort to me.
These are such awesome tips, going through 2 under 3 right now and I find these tips helpful, one that I did not expect but find super helpful is lowering your expectations! It definitely gave me a newer perspective to look at my situation right now.
Thank you. This video was just what I needed. I am due in March with an 18 month old currently! Following your channel now!
Im 19 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby my 1st is one yr old today and I'm freaking out 😔💕 I don't have much help at ALL im a stay at home mom and my nerves are all over the place! Thank you for the advice I really needed this video in my life, makes me feel better that other moms have made it through this!!!! Gives me hope lol
How's life now?♡
Thank you for all the tips! I am 32 weeks pregnant with a 20 month old, and I am terrified! I’m also terrible at asking for help! Lol! But still looking forward to everything that is to come.
Just came across your channel and I LOVE your personality 😊
You have awesome energy. Thanks for keeping it real! 🤟
i came here ready to cry with a heavy heart and left laughing and smiling ❤ thank you 😭 im definitely going to try these tips
I love this comment ❤️ thank you!
Totally agree with the simplifying your life, my mind was blown when I discovered the “no fold” laundry method for kids. Now I’m not stressed out about getting the clean clothes in the dressers lol genius!!
I’m here in 2024😬 My oldest was recently 4yo when my second was born and I found out that I was pregnant again at 4m postpartum. I’m due in December with my 3rd. I’ll have a 5yo and a 1yo by the time this little girl comes. I’m trying to prepare myself entirely
I don't know why, but I'm 8 min into the video, you haven't yet given any tip and I'm already feeling like everything is going to be alright in this 2under2 journey.
I don't know what part of you makes me feel that way. But there is an inspiring jenesaisquoi going on !!!
My babies are 2 under 3 (Thursday my youngest turned 1) and it's sooo hard. I don't have any family to give me a break so it's definitely weighing on my mental health. My 2 year old is special needs but he's helpful with laundry and has loads of energy. I just got a double stroller and so excited to take them out in it!
WE HAVE THE SAME BIRTHDAY!!!!!!! HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY 🥳 Love your Channel it’s such a feel-good channel, it’s like a warm sweater🤓!
YAYYY happy birthday!! Haha i love that this channel is like a warm sweater. That's one of the best compliments the channel has ever received :)
Keeping it real. It's also ok to just have one child. I personally knew 2 would be too much for us. We are very happy with one child. It seems everyone HAS to have 2 or 3 kids because society tells us to.
My son is 13 months and my second is coming in about 6 months! I’m so nervous because my son is EXTREMELY attached at me. Pretty big separation anxiety and trying to work on that with him. These are really nice tips! I’m trying to setup family members to bring my son on outings and to play while I tend to a newborn. I’m expecting to feel overwhelmed and for things to be a little hectic at first, but I’m still nervous nonetheless!
Your videos always make me lol I wish I knew you in real life because we’d be best friends. Thank you for your content. It brings me joy.
Finally someone who is relatable !
🤣🤣🤣I love that you say "I quit breastfeeding Wilson while I was pregnant" as if like you quit smoking. Idk that just struck me as so funny. I'm about to do the same thing and being pregnant and nursing it does feel like "oh yeah it's time to kick this habit" 🤣
My mom is currently pregnant with twins (unplanned), and the youngest will be ~18 months! So we’ll have 3 under 3, it’ll be a hard task but we’ll be okay! (she’s 17w5d, we have to wait for a while)
I'm a mum of one 3 month old and so much of this is still so relevant to me. Thank you!
I only have one baby and I love her so much and spending time together with her but my depression existed before her and it is so hard to get myself out of the house. I also feel super lonely because my husband is on the military and we are away from everyone we know. My family pretty much disown me even though they adopted me since I was a baby. So yeah... pretty much my daughter and husband are the only things that keep me going.
If all goes to plan I’ll be having #2 4 days after #1’s first birthday sooo this video was very much needed!!! 🤪
Please update me! Because I’m having #2 4 days after my #1 first birthday too (in 12 days!)🤣🤪
@@kaitlinmilbourn8653 it was rough the first few weeks trying to balance the attention but the first two weeks I had a lot of support. It gets stressful to juggle both sometimes but they’re the best of friends and love each other. My almost 2 year old loves to give kisses and hugs my almost 1 year old. And they play so good together. Biggest thing is keeping #1 away from #2 till they can crawl or sit up. I got a huge playpen on Amazon that my son could play in so he couldn’t get to the baby.
@@breevestrand thank you so much for the update! I’m so glad to hear this ❤️ I’ve been eyeing a playpen for awhile but your advice has one in the cart now! I’m so happy to hear those sweet kiddos love each other!!
Awesome video thanks! Something I'm doing to simplify is to have 7 comfortable sets of clothes rolled together including undies, just to grab in the morning. Keep it separate from the rest of your clothes (that you'll probably not be wearing in mama survival mode) and all darks so they can be washed together.
It's abit of an investment to get this many similar things, charity shops would be great to find stuff. And you can even do it with your kids clothes.
I'll be a single mama of 2 under 2 when I'm due in a month so desperately trying to find ways to keep me sane and stay on at college!
How’s it going mama
I'm in my 3rd trimester with my 1st, but I like watching videos about 2 under 2, because we plan to have the 2nd one (hopefully) close together. just trying to be prepared LOL
Right now, I have a 22 month old and a newborn (2 week old), but this situation will only last 2 months. I doubt it will look much different when my oldest turns 2 in those 2 months though, lol. I've heard 2 under 3 is still difficult. I've had my slip ups, but I am trying to stay cool. I love both of my children. I want to be the best mom I can be for them.
Thank you so much for this video, I must say your video is the only one that popped up for me related to surviving 2 kids under 2! And I appreciate so much for doing this video. It feels like you are speaking directly to me as if I were in the room and into my situation exactly haha really needed this today thank you so much again! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’ll be there in Feb with two under two and I’m doing my research! So that my mental state is as prepared as it can be! Jesus take the wheel lol
Thank. You. for this video. I am just so consoled. Thank you Jess!
I currently 28 weeks with my second (unplanned) child and my son is 18 mos. I’m having a LOT of big feelings about this pregnancy. So happy that we got pregnant so easily and without medical intervention (it took much more effort with our first) but also very sad that I won’t have more 1:1 time with my son. I feel resentful that I didn’t plan for this pregnancy and change in life and it feels like my autonomy has been taken away in a lot of ways. I have been missing out on things I would have engaged in and enjoyed had I not been pregnant. Looking forward to being done with diapers once this next baby is out of them, can’t wait to watch them play together, happy that our family will be complete. And also, so scared. So so scared of what this life will look like with two young kiddos.
I’m totally with you on this one ☝️💛
28 weeks along with 18month old too! We share same fears sister 🙏🏻
I SOOO relate to all of these feelings. I had them too. I'm sorry for the painful feelings but know you aren't alone. Thank you for articulating what so many of us have felt. As someone who was feeling these feelings not long ago and is now on the other side of it know that it is going to be better than you imagine.
I definitely feel every bit of this comment. My second is unplanned as well, and my daughter is almost 3. I feel so sad that my eldest daughter that had all my time and attention suddenly was fading away and I just could not stop crying.
Perfectly timed, my due date was two days ago, and my first is 17 months old. We have 7 months of two under two ahead of us.
How was it????
@@katiemcsweeney4248 a lot of work! my newest slept great, and my oldest didn't react badly to him, but it was still super hard. I almost remember it as being easier in the beginning because he slept 19 hours a day, but dunno. When they both were in daycare it got harder because they kept being sick.
Especially hard during vacation, when we had to go away from our routines.
But it's all looking up now that all of us get to sleep 8 hours a day!
@@Rooskwa thanks for the reply! Do they interact much with each other now or are they both still too small? In my head 2 under 2 will turn into best buddies but that might just be wishful thinking!!
@@katiemcsweeney4248 they do! they play a lot and they have a lot of conflicts too. It's cute, and nice, I used to feel bad that I didn't have the energy to play with my daughter all day, but now that she plays with her sibling too, I have energy for when she wants to play with me. Way more rounded you know?
aaannndd I'm back watching this because my son is a year old now and I'm ready for the second baby. :)
I just found out I am pregnant and my son is only 10 months old! I am planning on putting my son in day care before the new baby gets here to kinda help and I’m kinda freaking out honestly!!
Happy belated birthday, Jess! 🎉🧁💗
Wow it’s nice to know that I’m not crazy for feeling all that I felt having 2 under 2. I can totally relate to everything you are saying. Thank you for making this video! You are an Amazing Mom!❤
Wow thank you so much! I appreciate your words and send you love in this beautiful and totally crazy time! ❤️
This video opened my eyes to what I'm getting into 😅 My kiddos will be 15 months apart. I'm a little scared but excited too!
The whole fake laugh thing really does work. Or fake smiling.. it's like it reminds your body that it is possible!
I really needed this I am a full time working mom with a 2yr old and a 3 month old. I’ve been just feeling like I don’t know how to do this. I had postpartum dep with my 1st and 2nd. Since I work all the time I feel like I don’t really get to see my kids. They’re always with my mother in law. Most times I feel like a failure of a mom because my MIL is always taking care of them. I also feel like a failure because I get anxiety when I have to be with my two kids alone because I feel like I don’t know how to do it all with them. I just don’t know how to get my big baby to sleep while my little one always needs me. It’s just hard. I always compare myself to my MIL. How can she do this and I can’t.
OOOOOOOOO what double stroller is that?!!? We are expecting our second, 6 months PP.......not planned for and we are trying to figure out what we need equipment wise for 2 babies. If you have that video, that would be great!
Just found out I’m pregnant and I have a 9 month old. I’m trying to prepare myself to survive cause I have 7 year old too. 😅 lawd help me. We have to get a new car. Cause mt husband old truck seat doesn’t come up so I can’t drive it 🤦🏽♀️ and my personal car is Beetle so I can’t tote 3 kids in it 😭😭😭😭😭 send help.
Just found my little joy right here 🤣
Do you know what? Any woman even here watching this video is an ACE! Because that means we actually give a shit! Most of the things you said I already knew but the laughing for 10 seconds challenge accepted because I used to do that but only for a couple seconds but if it’s 10 seconds sister I’m gonna freaking do it.
I have a teenager(ha you don’t even know the ride with THAT!ha), a one-year-old, and a two month old. I’m riding the wave and it’s hard but in the end there’s so many women across the world that wish they could reproduce and they can’t so I smacked my face and carry on. Oh and Wine helps. ;)
We are in this together sisters!! Oxoxo
This makes me feel better about my only 😅
This is very helpful. But I still get so worried.. I have my one year old and am 33 weeks pregnant with his sweet brother. He will be a winter born baby in Colorado and we live in a 2 bedroom 900sq apartment. :/
I am due to have my second boy in December and my current baby will be 18 months old when his baby brother comes home. I’m so excited but super nervous because my son right now is so glued to me which i absolutely love and I just hope that we can all learn to share our time together and my son can love sharing my time and his own time because as a one year old they don’t understand time they just understand mom I want to play with this toy right now and that’s what I want. And having to adjust to yes I want this toy now but mom is with my brother and that’s okay will be a test of patience to say the least lol
I love you !!! So helpful Thank tou ❤️
Thanks Jess, I’m about to have my second baby: 22m gap!
Congratulations! It will be so so good! Excited for you!
My kids are only going to be 2 under 2 for 2 months, so I'm hoping it will be much less intense than having them so close... but probably not hahaha, my older one is a spitfire and still doesn't sleep well so I am really looking forward to being sleep deprived for another 18 months once the next one comes along!
You're so right, it is NOT easy! I think having a solid daily routine was the biggest thing that helped me survive. It was also nice to get the oldest out of diapers as soon as he turned 2. But you did it, you made it through, wahoo! It's not impossible lol Thanks for sharing your experience :)
Thank you!
Ill soon have a 2 under 2 with 4 other kids ,,, my anxiety level is rocket high
I have a 2 years old (since last week) and an 8 months and one thing that is making it very hard is that my 2 year old does not want to engage with the baby at all. No cuteness here 😔
Some really good ideas in this video. But I just felt a little discouraged with the first tip being to hire help or put a kid in daycare. That would be nice if I could afford it. I don’t even have grandparents who are available to watch a kid for more than an hour or two MAYBE once a month.
I hear you. Im sorry. In my area there is a YMCA that offers special financial assistance for their daycare/preschool, i wonder if there is anything near you to support families in your situation. Wish i was nearby to take the little ones while you have some time for yourself.
Jess i wish we could hang out!! I relate so much to all your videos. You’re doing great hun! Thanks for always being so encouraging and entertaining 😁
I wish we could too! Haha one day I hope we can do real hang outs with the people these videos bring. Thank you for the encouragement!
I have a 12 year old and 7 month old and am feeling like I definitely want a 3rd. My heart feels conflicted because I don't want my oldest to feel left out since she'd been an only child for so long. Anyone have large age gaps or similar situations?
I am currently on 2 under 3. I have very little to no support at all, my husband works overtime and I am home alone 2 weeks days and 2 weeks nights 🥺😭 my eldest is almost 3 and the newborn is 1 month old. I still am having a difficult time to accept my second baby ( I know I feel like a bad mother everyday) I cry every night thinking about this. No one is here to support regardless covid or not so I have to do it all on my own. My second one doesn’t breastfeed well and wants to be held all the time compared to my first. My first and I were so close and I feel like our relationship is getting more and more strained because I find it hard to balance because she is very active. I feel like I baby wear all day and my newborn also hates the car seat so it’s hard to travel and have some family time with husband and eldest. 😭
Im so sorry i wish we were on the same place so i could help. You could consider joining our parenting support group and maybe friends in your area could help!
@@jess_hover Thank you so much. Just hearing that I wasn’t the only one like this makes me feel like I am still have some sanity. I feel too ashamed to ask my friends for help as they are busy with work, some of my friends are busier with multiple kids than I am. Husband is busy with 12 hrs shifts so I feel like I should pull the rest of the weight around the house.
Spot on!!!
Yes 9mo pregnant with an 18mo old and I'm dying here and I don't even have 2 yet! And delta is messing w my birthplans. I need more real moms saying real things.
I had my girls 19 months apart ❤️
Thank you
The part about Jules with the Cheerios in the stroller got me! 😂 That’s hilarious and she’s just so cute. Thanks for another great vid 👏🏽
August 5th? We share a birthday! 🥳
Yay! Happy late birthday!
Hi am a mum to a 2 year old and 6 day old twins.How are you doing?
I found out im pregnant with a 6 month old... eep
Thank you for this video! My kids will be 21 months apart, so technically I’ll only have 3 months of 2 under 2, but it is still a bit scary, also with my older baby the first 2 months were a literal nightmare (reflux, colics and 24/7 fuzziness didn’t help and deciding to give birth in my hometown hence spending that time at my parents home with my husband didn’t either). I can’t wait to do things differently this second time around. Your approach to motherhood and faith are really inspiring to me Jess! Thanks again
How’s it going?
Loved this!
So basically if you have no support to help with the older child, better not having one? That's what I got in the beginning of the video and I stopped in there because I have no one to help besides my husband
No, that’s not my conclusive point. Depending on the age gap the need for help will vary. Lots of couple manage two kids without support, but if that’s the case then I would recommend a virtual community of emotional support (like FaceTiming loved ones or joining a mom group) to help you stay well during the transition to two kids. Having more than one child is really wonderful and though it can be a big transition it’s so special to see them bond. Plus you adore the second baby, like with the first. Eventually they play without you and that’s great too. If you end up choosing to stick with one child then awesome, but I did not say it is better not to have another baby if you don’t have help.
I’m just a. Kid
Thank you so much for this video.i have a one year old and an two month old baby...doing this alone...it's really hard not having anyone around to help me but I will hack this
Can someone gift me a stroller please and baby clothes?
i have twins :)
You are the real hero. I need all of your advice for how to live with twins! How do you do it? And congratulations!!
You look a lot like Sophia Bush with lighter hair!
Unnecessarily long intro😮