I love how measured Dr. Grande is with his wording. "If you're standing next to someone who's wanted for murder, that's not always a safe place to be."
@N Silva *Must* you bring your ridiculous gender politics into a serious discussion like this? As a crisis counsellor, I assure you that I hold all lives as equal, and all murders as equally heinous. You obviously need some therapy yourself to deal with your issues of anger toward women and low self-esteem.
When I was about 13 y.o. I started having problems at school, so the school sent me to talk to a psychologist. She promised me she wouldn't tell anybody whatever I'd tell her. So I told her I was having a hard time figuring things out because I had realized I was gay. A few weeks later I found out she had told the Principal, and the Principal told my parents. The lesson I've learnt was: if you can not keep your very secret, don't expect strangers to keep it.
When I was 12 I became depressed, my parents took me to a psychologist. I knew she would tell my parents any secrets I had. I held on for months of appointments until she gave up.and figured I was just a depressed teen.
I not sure where you live. But here in Australia that shit is not allowed! My son has seen a child psychologist, and anything my son told the psychologist was confidential. The only loophole would be if he told them anything in regards to hurting himself or others, or if someone was hurting my son, that would be only circumstances where confidentiality would be void.
It’s not “super easy to break”. Remember all those papers you sign at the bottom of? These tell you exactly where confidentiality begins & ends. There is always a list of crimes you can’t admit to without having to be reported that you’ll see... unless you skipped over them like a Terms Of Service while installing new software
Thank you for pointing out how important the clinician's safety is. The difficulty is when a client makes ambiguous statements which seem threatening...but not in an explicit manner. This seems a rare event...but...who knows? Thank you for discussing this topic with such clarity.
The true danger is dealing with mental disease. It's why therapists have 10x sluicing risk. Though that's hard to statistically separate from somewhat unusual individuals attracted to study this field in the first place
He meant suicidal but he’s wrong either way. Psychiatric doctors have the highest suicide rate of any mental health professional, and I couldn’t find any statistics related to counseling increasing anyone’s suicidal tendencies.
I have been in this situation. Even after their confession to the police in my presence (they wanted to meet me at the police station saying that they had something they wanted disclose in an open case) I wasn't sure what to do. People were asking me questions I didn't know if I could or should answer so I didn't. The detectives informed me that in this case, it was not protected information. I even asked them (the client) if they understood their rights and that they can have an attorney present and that they should. They said they understood and continued to disclose information. They were arrested at that time and currently awaiting trial.
I asked this same question to my shrink and she gave me a funny look and said, "Yes, of course I would have to report it!" (She knew I was asking more due to my fascination with true crime than anything personal, haha.)
When I was a teenager, a psychiatry told me that too. She said "whatever you tell me I'm going to tell your mom" so I said what's the point then, she wrote me prescriptions for three different drugs and sent me out. I was 15yrs old
@@MsSwitchblade13 this makes me glad I wasn’t able to see a psychiatrist until I was 25 (due to not having health insurance). I can’t imagine being that young and dealing with that
@@MsSwitchblade13 it’s shitty but at that age we had no ability to legally consent to any treatment without an adult’s knowledge. The paperwork would’ve looked real different just a few years later, but sometimes people 18+ still get tricked into signing a release so their parent hears everything and I imagine that feeling is the same - “so what’s the point?”
This is exactly why I decided to switch my majors. I'm a DV survivor and changed my major first to radiology after leaving my abuser in 2017, and now thanks to covid which popped up literally right when I was healed enough to go back to finish my degree (covid definitely triggered my hypochondria, OCD, and comorbid ASD) I've once again switched majors, this time away from health care all together. Project management, here I come! 🤣 Good luck to you, LMPHs are the unsung heroes in our world.
@@louissanderson719 well it’s hard to just assign unanimous decision like right or wrong because there are usually hundreds if not thousands of factors that go into it. In general. I don’t think I’d have much problem defending a murderer but I draw the line at people who have done things to kids and that’s about it. But even than say the kid was trying to rob an old man and the old man shot and killed the kid. I’d still defend that old man. But I ain’t defending some child molester or something.
Several months ago I had an incident with my girlfriend which culminated in me trying to put my hands around her neck. She managed to pin me down so I didn't cause any damage, but I was still horrified afterwards when I realised what I had just tried to do. I've never tried to do anything like that in my life otherwise. A couple weeks ago I told my university counselor about this incident in an attempt to figure out ways to deal with my anger. She ended up telling me that if I didn't put some distance between me and my girlfriend for a couple weeks she would have to report me to the university or the police, despite the incident having taken place over half a year ago. For better or worse I had some family matters to attend to anyway, so I had to visit my parents for a week. But the remaining faith I had in counselors (which was already low due to previous bad experiences) was wiped out after that.
Well yeah. You commited an assault and battery and you’re surprised she wasn’t going to say “oh okay totally fine no problem?” If you can’t stop from putting your hands around someone’s neck then you need to be single until you have attained a level of self control that you no longer do so. Period. Full stop. Seeing as how you should have done jail time I’d say you can call yourself pretty dang lucky. If I was your girlfriend you’d have a felony record now.
I have mixed feelings about this because the OP went for help so obviously they were remorseful and wanted to figure things out. The counsellor was obviously concerned and needed to provide some guidance here as well. I agree with Rebecca though that if I was the girlfriend there would be an assault charge but the poster really didn’t explain the incident either so we don’t know who the aggressor is in the situation. I’m not sticking up for abusive people at all but it’s not always obvious what happened from a very short narrative. Hence mixed feelings.
@@rebeccashields9626 assault and battery very rarely lead to actual jail time if there isn't grievous bodily harm present. And if the attack of the original commenter was incompetent enough to not cause harm to his girlfriend it would likely be charged just as an assault.
If someone confessed to me that they got away with murder, rape, or molesting a child I would turn them in because a victim getting justice is more important to me than a career.
I would also not be able to live with myself having that knowledge, but you saying that this person told you that is not enough proof if there isn't any evidence and of course, they'll deny doing it. They might still get away with it. They weren't caught because there wasn't any evidence against them
It’s not just about ending your career. You could also face large fines and even jail time due to HIPAA violation. It’s different if they tell you they have harmed a child/ elderly person or plan to harm someone. Duty to warn or duty to protect may apply. As Dr Grande stated many times, it is important to seek supervision. These situations are not black and white. There are so many variables that may impact the way you act. As clinicians we have a duty to treat our clients. If for whatever reason we feel we cannot then we must refer them to the most appropriate service/clinician.
Steamy Senpai yeah except “someone using their voice for them” is not going to achieve justice. That isn’t enough evidence to have someone tried or convicted of anything.
Superb, as always. I was put in an uncomfortable position of this nature as a clinical intern and subpoenaed to court. Fortunately I had another superb supervisor who counseled me. It helped me in my work those 35 years ago and modeled for me when I reached the supervisory level myself.
Here's something even worse than a client confessing to a murder, what happens when a client confesses to listening to Nickelback? What happens to the client at that point? What about the therapist? Does (s)he have to get decades of therapy at that point?
@@pixieonthemoon8633 Yes. It seems like, regardless of the law, if a counselor didn't warn and a person reoffended---Dang! Can you imagine living with that on your conscience?
I'd bet that's mostly complaints addressed at a medical board who can then give the mental health clinician a slap on the wrist or in extreme cases revoke their license. Maybe civil suits could be a possibility too but I doubt state or federal indictments would be made in cases like that unless we're talking extreme negligence (like an active serial killer confessing to his psychiatrist and not be reported to the police).
Thank you for doing this video. Seems like a lot of people on here have different ideas. As an intern I heard from a supervisor who had a client confessed to murder. They did not ask any questions about it. I thought that clinicians would know not to report.
I met a person who was a clinician at a residential, and this 15/16 year old said that he was planning to run away (from the residential), the clinician then said she had to report that and then apparently he grabbed a pair of scissors and tried to stab her with it. He was charged with Attempted Murder but was charged as a juvenile not an adult
I’m in Canada but thanks for this discussion it really has me thinking, especially about risk to myself, which hadn’t occurred to me as a psychotherapist. Been enjoying your videos for a while now and especially your sense of humour.
So, the murderous person can't seek help. Our law enforcement system seems based on situations getting out of hand first before enforcement happens. Is there a way to estimate how many murders could be prevented with professional intervention?
Dr. Grand, I've enjoyed your channel for some time but only discovered your clinical video topics. Thank you for your clear explanations of mental health disorders.
Very off topic but can you do a video on selena quintanilla and the person that killed her, it is very interesting how their friendship went from one thing to another.
Reminds me of a case in america with 3 friends ,one of the friends called skylar was stabbed to death by shoaf and Eddie ,very strange case indeed and very sad
I think its really sad if someone is actively trying to become a better person by seeing a therapist twice a week but then has to keep things to himself... He can't really be present in the situation and the therapy is really going nowhere. I think you should be able to trust your therapist 100%, otherwise what's the freaking point. And by avoiding therapy the person has no chance of improving and might commit more crimes.
Therapists can’t always treat people who use drugs with psychotherapy until the client makes a commitment to quitting, of course relapse is possible. But the same is for people committing crimes. You can’t do a crime and pardon your burden by unloading on a therapist and expecting to go out and do the same thing… that’s counterproductive
That’s actually a really bad idea. Your lawyer can’t help you unless they know everything. If you don’t tell them exactly what happened, they won’t know how to defend you, and you could be completely blindsided in court. If you’re concerned about that you’re better off representing yourself.
@@Hannah-zw9ow it depends on the circumstances. If they don't got anything on me and its circumstantial then I aint telling him shit and he just does his thing. If they got alot of evidence on me then I guess it doesn't really matter
I don't know anything about this myself, but saw someone mentioning underneath another video that your lawyer apparently can't put you on the stand if they know you're guilty? So it may be better to not tell your lawyer.
foxylee I’m an Australian and we’ve only had one case like this ever happen and it was a huge scandal with a royal Commission to follow. The case of “lawyer X”. There’s strict laws and regulations prohibiting legal council from sharing information with the defence that could convict a client. They wouldn’t be able to practice law again and they could be fined or jailed. There’s literally no reason not to tell your lawyer everything.
The abduction, rape and murder of Sheree Beasley (6yo girl) was one instance where the only non-circumstantial evidence against the perp was a confession made to his psychotherapist (although he later also confessed to a cellmate). The courts ended up accepting the evidence, which wasn't great jurisprudence, but at least had the benefit of locking up a POS for the rest of his life. I personally thought that an acquittal followed by a lynching would have been a better outcome for all. She was abducted less than a mile from where I now live, and her body was dumped in a spot that I've driven past many many hundreds of times - the area used to be farmland, but it is now quite a trendy winery.
Such an interesting video Dr. Grande. The conflict between the duty of confidentiality and the duty to protect the public is an interesting one. Thank you for explaining the Tarasoff case, definitely one of the California Supreme Court's most important and well-written decisions ⚖
Client confidentiality must always be paramount. Counsellers KNOW that being party to distasteful or unpleasant secrets is a part of their job. And with that professional aspect of the job, goes the unspoken implication that in such a situation, they are personally responsible for bending those rules. Rules are there to maintain the profession's integrity, whilst protecting any individual professional who is burdened by this dichotomy of conscience over consequence.. Work it out, people. Rules are there to get people to stop and think. If you think you need to bend or break those rules, do it. Just do it in a way that allows you enough plausible deniability to remain inviolate, but still be able sleep at night.
This unfortunately didn't really answer my question. My friend is apprehensive about going to counseling because he doesn't want a paper trail. He's worried, what if something happens in the future and a counselor testifies? What if they have notes about his anger problems and narcissism? He saw a counselor last week who said "you don't want to be diagnosed a narcissist, you don't want that on your record." Now he won't go to counseling...
If there is any doubt whatsoever, it’s best not to tell a counselor. If he just wants to get some things off his chest, I’ve found the best person to tell is a prostitute.
Thank you , for addressing this going to grad school for MS Clinical Mental Health Counseling -Substance Abuse and Addictions. we've been told so far to report on abuse , abuse of a child , sexual and exploitation .
I am a masters level social work student and had a previous placement in a high school I was told some concerning things a student had done in their past. It was implied but the person left acts coded or implied. But I stopped them a little bit in to make sure they understood limits of confidentiality, they could continue to talk to me but they need to decide their own words in how and what they describe to me. I felt this person was at risk of retaliation and went immediately to process with my field instructor…who laughed and suggested perhaps the student had a “fictitious disorder”. This person felt scared and caught up in something and I was sought and told by them as much, and the FI says they have to be lying….the student had not opened up to them so there was no way they opened up to me…this was a theme during my time there. My relationships with students were undermined constantly. The FI called the university and said she didn’t want me there anymore. I agreed because the foundation of trust was non existent due to situations like I just mentioned, lack of supervision or taking me to a bar during a pandemic watching her throw back 3 beers by 4pm and telling me to mark it as supervision… I am paying for this “education” and I deserve better. The university wouldn’t listen to my concerns at all, and I feel like I have no advocate or support systems which is another story in itself…I still think of and worry for my students to this day. I seek out input elsewhere, which is why I’m watching this! Thank you.
Interesting. When I was doing my masters placement a couple of my supervisor’s clients told me a bunch of things that they hadn’t told her and my supervisor was surprised. I kind of think it was a personality difference as she was very uptight and proper and I’m more laid back and open. I also wonder if simply the change in counsellor allows them to do that, like it’s easier to confess to a stranger than someone you know?
Dr. Grande-I'm curious about different behavior traits/norms of people from varying parts of the world. For example: I've had a man in my life for a number of years. His family is Italian, though he was born in the U.S. He can be extremely charming, loving, and charismatic. However, he can also be quite volatile, angry, demonstrative, and loud. I've heard it said-jokingly- if you tie the hands of an Italian man behind his back, he'll be unable to speak :) As I've talked with other people of Italian descent, they have confirmed that most Italians do everything "large." They love and laugh large, and their negative emotions are equally large. Is there any evidence to support that certain ethnic groups are more prone to any given set, or types, of behaviors? My ancestry is largely English, Swedish, and German. My relatives seem to have a much calmer overall demeanor, though pretty stubborn and driven! Is it nature over nurture, nurture over nature.....or a combination of both?? I'd appreciate any insights you have into this topic. Thanks for all you do. I appreciate your work so very much! Kind Regards~
Barb, I too am German, British Isles and Swedish + Finnish. My family can be very negative. But then, my mom is a covert narcissist so that's probably a big part of it. Anyway, we'll criticize each other to death but not usually in a loud way. More of a matter of fact way. It's annoying as hell. It would be interesting to hear about how ancestry might affect behavior. However, I think that this is a politically incorrect mine field. Stereotyping people from different countries/ancestry is likely taboo in psychiatry.
Here in the UK the part of the Counselling contract is to make the client aware of the rules of breaking confidentiality.Harming themselves, others or the Government/ country. However this does affect how honest a client can be in the therapeutic relationship but it must be stated in the beginning so the client is fully aware of the consequences of what they tell the Counsellor.
Here in Canada, we’ll at least the province of Ontario, consent is supposed to be an ongoing discussion, for example in a later session a client sounds like they’re about to divulge a questionable secret we are supposed to remind them of the confidentiality limits again before they say it. And then document our behinds off.
My great uncle was a psychiatrist. He would never tell me any stories but he did say that one time when he was watching the news there was a certain list of the top 10 most wanted criminals in our city and 4 of them were his patients.
I told a counselor of sexual abuse by a bunch of ppl when I was growing up and how i myself as a kid took advantage of other kids my age. I didn't know better and was just doing what I was taught. The counselor disappeared and i havent heard from him again. Not sure if a 8 year old is breaking the law with another 8 year old but ..he wasnt comfortable obviously.Someone deleted everything said in the on line session where you can go back and review the conversations and it wasnt me who deleted it .
I've always kept in mind the "mandated reporter" status of professionals and always assumed that ALSO meant if someone confesses a crime to a therapist, that therapist would HAVE to report that.
Mandated reporters are required to report abuse or suspected abuse related to children. That’s it. It doesn’t cover anything else. You probably should form your understanding based on facts, not just a one-sided decision that makes sense to you.
Dear Dr G, In Australia as a trial Lawyer our first duty is to the Court. So if the client for example says they did not receive specific correspondence and this is important in their matter. Then for example they show you this correspondence, they either have to give you permission to put that before the court or accept that you resign if there is no consent to such. If it is somehow found out that you did not put a fact that the matter relies on before the court and you had that info you will be struck of. In Australia that means struck of in all states and territories. All the time and money that went into your career is lost.
Here in the UK best practice involves having a discussion with the client (as part of the initial contract), that there are limits to confidentiality. Simple.
Personally I'd work with the client to try to motivate them to report themselves. If that didn't work, well it's definitely a muddy situation. I would probably staff it with other professionals as well as contact my licensing board for guidance. Lets say it is something serious (murder?) I'd want to make sure I followed the appropriate protocol and leave my personal feelings out of it. That's where having good solid professional support really comes in handy.
I've always wondered how this scenario plays out with a priest in a confessional booth. Don't they have a similar rule of confidentiality? Perhaps less strict and official?
Probably less strict because it would be like if you told your friend, they’re not obligated to tell. A priest isn’t like a legally titled therapist, they don’t have the same obligations. Also I think that in their opinion confessing to them is like going straight to god, so I’m their opinion the highest authority (God) knows now. Plus they’re supposed to forgive you of the sins, Gods courtroom is different than the legal justice system. God forgave murderers. I’m not implying you have to believe in the religion, just explaining how they believe (I was raised religious)
This happened at a local AA meeting. I didn't happen to be there that night, but a guy told about how he had left a body in the trunk of a car at the local junkyard. Needless to say, he didn't sleep at home that night.
Yikes, that's more interesting than my meetings. Something important to remember about 12 step recovery meetings is that the confidentiality you expect there is informal, and there are no legal protections for disclosures made in such a setting. Best to think of it as discussing your problems with a group of friends.
@@uptown3636 Yes! Remember that teenager that had her boyfriend kill the girl he slept with as a fling, and then they were both accepted into the military; it was like at least a year later, and she confessed to some friends in military school, and that's the only reason the pair were caught. They probably would have gotten away with it forever if she didn't crack. Makes you wonder how many people out there keep secrets like this forever. It would probably get easier as time went by, IDK. She must have known they would tell on her!
I have been close friends with a priest for many years. I asked him several years ago this same question pertaining to someone going to confession in a Catholic church and confessing to a murder. Strict confidentiality is the rule for a priest hearing confession. This priest told me (this occurred in Oregon several years ago) that the only crimes a priest must report is those involving child abuse or elder abuse. In standard confession the priest doesn't actually see the confessor because of the screen in place and I've never heard of a priest jumping up and throwing open the door to the confessional room so I'm not sure how this would work. ??
So it all boils down to whether the client is still an active threat to either himself or those around him? It's a tricky situation to be in when someone is having homicidal urges. Many probably don't even know if they should bring it up. It's not like you can just tell the psychiatrist that: "Hey, so it's been really tempting to just go out and murder some random people lately" I'm sure that would raise all kinds of alarms.
3 questions. Can a client ask to be treated anonymously where you, as the DR., doesn’t even know his name? Is it ethical to tell a troubled client we DO NOT discuss murder, rape, child assault etc.? Can you set up boundaries? Could you immediately stop a client if he starts to divulge heinous crimes?
This happened to a psychologist friend of mine but not in a formal counseling situation. The murder was particularly brutal and the individual had murdered before. After discussion it became apparent he was racked with guilt and simply wanted to hand himself in. He felt he would murder again and was danger to society. The hand over to the police was done smoothly. The police said the case would never have been solved without the confession, as by dint of luck it was the perfect crime. The brutality of the murder left seasoned officers shocked and its details were never published. I had passed the individual in the hall way a number times and was always left with a feeling I could not explain.
There are certain things that I will never understand or accept. In some cases the psychiatrist make a report saying that the offender is pretending is a crazy one to avoid the real jail, but the judge toss all the psychiatrist work and send the fake crazy to those mental instituition, or can be vice versa. The doctor can say the person is crazy, and the judge does not accept it and make different trial decision. My faith on human and on the system is almost zero. I don't know if the system is incompetent or cruel or both together.
I‘m going to have a question regarding counceling. I live in a german speaking country. In german you have two forms of „you“ when talking to another person. A „polite/formal-you“, considered the official form of talking to someone, like, let‘s say, your boss, an elderly person, a teacher… Someone who is of higher status than you, or who has to be respected. I am pretty sure people working in business companies still use it too. Beside that there‘s a „daily-you“ which people use in day-to-day life. Especially younger generations skip the formal form. Now. In counceling it‘s recommended to the councelor to use the formal form of „you“. It‘s said to make sure to keep a formal distance to the client. Which should be helpful for the therapist and the client. It should set boundaries and make sure the person seeking counceling doesn‘t mistake their councelor for a friend. In my case, I suffered from abuse from a bunch of people up to that point. Mostly people who needed to be respected. After many sessions I noticed I had problems of opening myself up to her. I didn‘t feel comfortable, felt pressured, felt judged. I noticed that it had to do with the form of „you“ I had to use. I asked her about changing to the informal form of you. Especially when telling stories. She refused. In the end talking to her just started to feel wrong and I quit therapy. It wasn‘t possible for me to build any form of connection to that woman. What would you recommend to therapists in different situations like that? Could the rules be bent? Would it have been useful to bend the rules? I‘m especially interested in the question how a non german speaking therapist would see that topic, especially because you don‘t have this language twist to set boundaries. How does an outsider look into that topic? There have to be more ways of setting boundaries.
Dr. Grande is up on current events and made references to the Jussie Smollett and OJ Simpson scenarios my observation which is entertainingly delicious. Dr. Grande your praiseworthy to say the least. Kudos!
I'm kind of suprised that that sort of thing doesn't come up very often. The violent crime rate was so high when I was young, so I guess there are a lot of people taking secrets to their graves.
If people are in a horrible court case do Psychiatrists ever tell the defendant to say they are homicidal to end the case? If mean to give false witness against themselves?
My nephews were sexually molested at 11 by a 14 year old. I was told by my sister , their grandmother told me. The family was broken about telling the police. I talked about it to my social worker and she told me she was required to report since they were only 11. So the other boy was in trial, they found him guilty. He was put on a type of parole. He was supposed to be put on Sex Offender list when he turned 18. That didn't happen. After my nephews came forward other young children said he molested too. My nephews had to change schools because they were taunted and bullied so they were sent to school in another town. Same for high school the perpetrator's father was coach of the hockey team, and they were hockey players. It has effected them with the rest of their lives they are now 21. Occasionally they have panic attacks, don't ever feel safe. I was happy my social worker dimed him in. I see my nephews struggle with what happened to them and want to hurt that kid badly have him on the Sex Offender roles and acknowledge his crimes. Very frustrating. Very much anger producing .
I had something like this happen at a narcotics anonymous meeting. A man admitted to being forced into adding lethal chemicals to some meth and selling it to another guy to settle a drug debt by killing him. Said he saw the guy shoot up and die in front of him.
I feel like it depends on the context. Like if he said “I had to do this because my addiction drove me to this point, it haunts me every day and that’s why I’m getting clean” I wouldn’t say anything. But if he was like.... proud of it and seemed like he’d do it again I would call the police
@@Hannah-zw9owHe seemed remorseful, and said he was threatened with a gun to be shot if he didn't do it. Shocking stuff though. I stopped going to NA meetings after that.
I have always been curious about this topic. Thank you, Dr.! I found your channel today, love the videos I've seen and subscribed. I haven't seen them all yet lol so forgive me if you've done this topic: How do counselors avoid burnouts and depression? Who's there for you? I can imagine sessions become heavy and then you also have a personal life. I've always wondered this...
Normally they have supervision, you know when and if their own personal issues are brought into play or they sense manipulation going on - they always have trusted and respected psychiatrists/counsellor to talk to:)
There was a SF attorney named Bob Tarbox with an office on Montgomery Street who noticed a man standing outside his door just before closing one evening in 1972. The attorney gestured for the man to come in. The man said that he wanted a legal consultation and paid a fee of $50. The attorney locked the office so that they would not be interrupted; the client had presented as ID his merchant mariner's card, and the attorney expected the man was about to outline a Jones Act (injury at sea) case. Instead, the client confessed to the Zodiac crime spree! Tarbox told this story in a letter to the Vallejo Times-Herald in 2007, when the David Fincher film had re-ignited interest in the Zodiac case and the popular suspect o Arthur Allen. "Having seen photographs of Mr. Allen," Tarbox wrote, "I can state unequivocally that he is not the man who confessed to me!"
Dr. Grande, can you make a video about the justifications for/against having empathy for psychopaths? This is something I wonder about a lot as a budding psychiatrist.
2:20 If someone is going to harm other people that can be an exception to confidentiality. Then then you say if a child, elderly or disabled are being harmed. Do they get special protection above everyone else that is being harmed?
Sounds like the “limit of confidentiality,” is fairly loose. It can be broken at any time if there is any form of harm that was conducted by the client or potential harm/threat the client plans to exercise
The worst would be if an innocent person was convicted of their crime and was rotting away in jail while the real perp (your client) went free. I feel like I would have to say something.
Dr. Grande Would you talk about Mindy McCready, I just recently read about her life and I would love to hear what you have to say about her life and troubles. I listen to you everyday, thoroughly enjoy it ALL! Thank you CF
I had a roommate casually confess to two murders he got away with. He’s since moved out and under police investigation, but it’s unlikely he’ll be convicted unless hard evidence emerges
I love how measured Dr. Grande is with his wording. "If you're standing next to someone who's wanted for murder, that's not always a safe place to be."
Cuestar Exactly you'd have to be nuts to tell a therapist the truth anyway
He's just perfect!
"measured." That is the perfect term.
@N Silva *Must* you bring your ridiculous gender politics into a serious discussion like this? As a crisis counsellor, I assure you that I hold all lives as equal, and all murders as equally heinous. You obviously need some therapy yourself to deal with your issues of anger toward women and low self-esteem.
Measured is a perfect description! Love Dr Grande's objective approach :)
When I was about 13 y.o. I started having problems at school, so the school sent me to talk to a psychologist. She promised me she wouldn't tell anybody whatever I'd tell her. So I told her I was having a hard time figuring things out because I had realized I was gay. A few weeks later I found out she had told the Principal, and the Principal told my parents. The lesson I've learnt was: if you can not keep your very secret, don't expect strangers to keep it.
When I was 12 I became depressed, my parents took me to a psychologist. I knew she would tell my parents any secrets I had. I held on for months of appointments until she gave up.and figured I was just a depressed teen.
I not sure where you live. But here in Australia that shit is not allowed! My son has seen a child psychologist, and anything my son told the psychologist was confidential. The only loophole would be if he told them anything in regards to hurting himself or others, or if someone was hurting my son, that would be only circumstances where confidentiality would be void.
I would say that the "psychologist" was a first-class jerk. Not only unprofessional but also by common morals bad.
@Giacomo Rossi: There's a circle in Hell reserved for those kind of people . . .
good lesson
taught you not to trust anyone i bet
Bottom line, patient confidentiality is super easy to break, never tell a psychologist anything you wouldn't be comfortable telling the police.
That’s not true lmfao unless you’re looking to continue your bad behavior and aren’t actually looking for help then sure thing.
It’s not “super easy to break”. Remember all those papers you sign at the bottom of? These tell you exactly where confidentiality begins & ends. There is always a list of crimes you can’t admit to without having to be reported that you’ll see... unless you skipped over them like a Terms Of Service while installing new software
@@patrickburton1401 So you are actually saying it IS true.
@@DutchmanAmsterdam then why would you be seeking professional help to being with
If you are in the situation in which you have to listen to this bit of advice, you should turn yourself in.
Thank you for pointing out how important the clinician's safety is. The difficulty is when a client makes ambiguous statements which seem threatening...but not in an explicit manner. This seems a rare event...but...who knows? Thank you for discussing this topic with such clarity.
The true danger is dealing with mental disease. It's why therapists have 10x sluicing risk.
Though that's hard to statistically separate from somewhat unusual individuals attracted to study this field in the first place
@@blahsomethingclever Sluicing risk? What is that?
@@MichelleMyBelle2.0 I think he meant suicidal
He meant suicidal but he’s wrong either way. Psychiatric doctors have the highest suicide rate of any mental health professional, and I couldn’t find any statistics related to counseling increasing anyone’s suicidal tendencies.
I have been in this situation. Even after their confession to the police in my presence (they wanted to meet me at the police station saying that they had something they wanted disclose in an open case) I wasn't sure what to do. People were asking me questions I didn't know if I could or should answer so I didn't. The detectives informed me that in this case, it was not protected information. I even asked them (the client) if they understood their rights and that they can have an attorney present and that they should. They said they understood and continued to disclose information. They were arrested at that time and currently awaiting trial.
Great job helping 👏 👏 clap
40% of murders unsolved?! Yikes
In Brazil is 90%
@@KhalerJex I wonder about Mexico.
That’s just the ones that are reported too I assume (as in likely excluding prostitutes, etc.).
Funny, my thought was, hmm, a four in ten chance I wouldn’t get caught? Nope, the odds aren’t in my favour, lol.
@@spiritmatter1553 It's way easier to get away with murder in rural areas compared to cities ;)
I asked this same question to my shrink and she gave me a funny look and said, "Yes, of course I would have to report it!" (She knew I was asking more due to my fascination with true crime than anything personal, haha.)
When I was a teenager, a psychiatry told me that too. She said "whatever you tell me I'm going to tell your mom" so I said what's the point then, she wrote me prescriptions for three different drugs and sent me out. I was 15yrs old
@@MsSwitchblade13 this makes me glad I wasn’t able to see a psychiatrist until I was 25 (due to not having health insurance). I can’t imagine being that young and dealing with that
...so you say!😂🤣👍
@@MsSwitchblade13 it’s shitty but at that age we had no ability to legally consent to any treatment without an adult’s knowledge. The paperwork would’ve looked real different just a few years later, but sometimes people 18+ still get tricked into signing a release so their parent hears everything and I imagine that feeling is the same - “so what’s the point?”
“Of course I would have to report it”-she said nervously as she glances to a cabinet containing a gun
you must work hard getting all these videos out! thank you so much for them. they are so educational and interesting. Thank you, Dr. Grande!!
As someone who wants to be a therapist (mixed specialties), this was very interesting/informative. Thank you!
How many and which specialties were you thinking of achieving pls? Curious... 🏴
Being a butcher nd a psychiatrist
This is exactly why I decided to switch my majors. I'm a DV survivor and changed my major first to radiology after leaving my abuser in 2017, and now thanks to covid which popped up literally right when I was healed enough to go back to finish my degree (covid definitely triggered my hypochondria, OCD, and comorbid ASD) I've once again switched majors, this time away from health care all together. Project management, here I come! 🤣 Good luck to you, LMPHs are the unsung heroes in our world.
One of the most thorough analyses I’ve heard. Outstanding and extremely nuanced.
As lawyers like to say, "It depends".
I cant imagine the stress of being a lawyer with knowing all the loopholes. The career I'm going for does require me to be in court tho sometimes oof
My engineering professors say the same thing. "It depends" really applies to everything it seems.
@@SeanKula yep. That’s usually the experts view on things!
@@louissanderson719 well it’s hard to just assign unanimous decision like right or wrong because there are usually hundreds if not thousands of factors that go into it. In general. I don’t think I’d have much problem defending a murderer but I draw the line at people who have done things to kids and that’s about it. But even than say the kid was trying to rob an old man and the old man shot and killed the kid. I’d still defend that old man. But I ain’t defending some child molester or something.
@@AlexCass1515 I agree. I wasn’t being sarcastic or anything
Several months ago I had an incident with my girlfriend which culminated in me trying to put my hands around her neck. She managed to pin me down so I didn't cause any damage, but I was still horrified afterwards when I realised what I had just tried to do. I've never tried to do anything like that in my life otherwise.
A couple weeks ago I told my university counselor about this incident in an attempt to figure out ways to deal with my anger. She ended up telling me that if I didn't put some distance between me and my girlfriend for a couple weeks she would have to report me to the university or the police, despite the incident having taken place over half a year ago. For better or worse I had some family matters to attend to anyway, so I had to visit my parents for a week. But the remaining faith I had in counselors (which was already low due to previous bad experiences) was wiped out after that.
Well yeah. You commited an assault and battery and you’re surprised she wasn’t going to say “oh okay totally fine no problem?” If you can’t stop from putting your hands around someone’s neck then you need to be single until you have attained a level of self control that you no longer do so. Period. Full stop. Seeing as how you should have done jail time I’d say you can call yourself pretty dang lucky. If I was your girlfriend you’d have a felony record now.
I have mixed feelings about this because the OP went for help so obviously they were remorseful and wanted to figure things out. The counsellor was obviously concerned and needed to provide some guidance here as well. I agree with Rebecca though that if I was the girlfriend there would be an assault charge but the poster really didn’t explain the incident either so we don’t know who the aggressor is in the situation. I’m not sticking up for abusive people at all but it’s not always obvious what happened from a very short narrative. Hence mixed feelings.
@@rebeccashields9626 assault and battery very rarely lead to actual jail time if there isn't grievous bodily harm present. And if the attack of the original commenter was incompetent enough to not cause harm to his girlfriend it would likely be charged just as an assault.
Out of all the people who asked this question, I wonder how many ended it with, “Asking for a friend”?
If someone confessed to me that they got away with murder, rape, or molesting a child I would turn them in because a victim getting justice is more important to me than a career.
th1smomentisfate sometimes a victim cannot speak up, and someone using their voice for them is far more responsible than staying quiet.
I would also not be able to live with myself having that knowledge, but you saying that this person told you that is not enough proof if there isn't any evidence and of course, they'll deny doing it. They might still get away with it. They weren't caught because there wasn't any evidence against them
It’s not just about ending your career. You could also face large fines and even jail time due to HIPAA violation. It’s different if they tell you they have harmed a child/ elderly person or plan to harm someone. Duty to warn or duty to protect may apply. As Dr Grande stated many times, it is important to seek supervision. These situations are not black and white. There are so many variables that may impact the way you act. As clinicians we have a duty to treat our clients. If for whatever reason we feel we cannot then we must refer them to the most appropriate service/clinician.
Steamy Senpai yeah except “someone using their voice for them” is not going to achieve justice. That isn’t enough evidence to have someone tried or convicted of anything.
Mariam M what do you think anonymous reports are for
Thanks for giving us an inside view of what it's like for the mental health clinician.
Superb, as always. I was put in an uncomfortable position of this nature as a clinical intern and subpoenaed to court. Fortunately I had another superb supervisor who counseled me. It helped me in my work those 35 years ago and modeled for me when I reached the supervisory level myself.
he broke the formula by saying
"Todays question is"
instead of
"Todays questions asks"
He wanted to see if someone noticed.
I have always wondered about this. Awesome topic 😊 Amazing discussion as always. Thank you for putting out such interesting topics with education.
This is so interesting and honestly also terrifying. I couldn’t imagine being a counselor and that coming up with a patient
Whats terrifying in that? The murder is in past and unless patient discloses he plans to kill therapist, no worries.
"Protective privilege ends where public protection..." Can't remember the rest but that was a real tongue twister x
One person's rights end where another person's begins.
That's basically the stipulation our rights in the US.
I don't know how this guy releases so many decent content in short succession. Keep it up is all I can say.
Here's something even worse than a client confessing to a murder, what happens when a client confesses to listening to Nickelback? What happens to the client at that point? What about the therapist? Does (s)he have to get decades of therapy at that point?
I'm dead lmaooo
Most underrated comment ever. Come on, people now, people now, come on. Shld be at least 1k likes
Lmaoo
Imagine going to therapy for months being absoulutely silent through each session then one day: "i have a confession... I listen to nickleback"
@@grantrogers1858 "I'm sorry but we're going to have to hospitalise you. This is not rational behaviour"
Can a counselor be charged if he knows that a person is dangerous, doesn't tell, and the person reoffends?
Duty to warn is law in a lot of states
@@pixieonthemoon8633 Yes. It seems like, regardless of the law, if a counselor didn't warn and a person reoffended---Dang! Can you imagine living with that on your conscience?
not charged, but one california dr. was sued half a million.
I'd bet that's mostly complaints addressed at a medical board who can then give the mental health clinician a slap on the wrist or in extreme cases revoke their license. Maybe civil suits could be a possibility too but I doubt state or federal indictments would be made in cases like that unless we're talking extreme negligence (like an active serial killer confessing to his psychiatrist and not be reported to the police).
I've wondered about this and how it works. I learn something new with each of your videos! I like your mind Dr. Grande :)
Watching this a year after Dr. Grande posted it, I can see how far he has come in his speaking. Always interesting, but he’s come a long way!
Thank you for doing this video. Seems like a lot of people on here have different ideas. As an intern I heard from a supervisor who had a client confessed to murder. They did not ask any questions about it. I thought that clinicians would know not to report.
I met a person who was a clinician at a residential, and this 15/16 year old said that he was planning to run away (from the residential), the clinician then said she had to report that and then apparently he grabbed a pair of scissors and tried to stab her with it.
He was charged with Attempted Murder but was charged as a juvenile not an adult
I’m in Canada but thanks for this discussion it really has me thinking, especially about risk to myself, which hadn’t occurred to me as a psychotherapist. Been enjoying your videos for a while now and especially your sense of humour.
So, the murderous person can't seek help. Our law enforcement system seems based on situations getting out of hand first before enforcement happens. Is there a way to estimate how many murders could be prevented with professional intervention?
Very good point
Dr. Grand, I've enjoyed your channel for some time but only discovered your clinical video topics. Thank you for your clear explanations of mental health disorders.
Very off topic but can you do a video on selena quintanilla and the person that killed her, it is very interesting how their friendship went from one thing to another.
I think she was a psychopath who saw that Selena could get close to her fans. I also would like to hear his opinion on it.
Reminds me of a case in america with 3 friends ,one of the friends called skylar was stabbed to death by shoaf and Eddie ,very strange case indeed and very sad
M Gray definitely not a psychopath. she had too many strong emotions towards Selena to be one. I would more so say she could be a sociopath
Yes!
I think its really sad if someone is actively trying to become a better person by seeing a therapist twice a week but then has to keep things to himself... He can't really be present in the situation and the therapy is really going nowhere. I think you should be able to trust your therapist 100%, otherwise what's the freaking point. And by avoiding therapy the person has no chance of improving and might commit more crimes.
This is the dumbest thing I heard in a long time
@@ShotaroAsakura be specific.
Therapists can’t always treat people who use drugs with psychotherapy until the client makes a commitment to quitting, of course relapse is possible. But the same is for people committing crimes. You can’t do a crime and pardon your burden by unloading on a therapist and expecting to go out and do the same thing… that’s counterproductive
If i was a murderer i wouldnt tell my lawyer lmao.
That’s actually a really bad idea. Your lawyer can’t help you unless they know everything. If you don’t tell them exactly what happened, they won’t know how to defend you, and you could be completely blindsided in court. If you’re concerned about that you’re better off representing yourself.
@@Hannah-zw9ow it depends on the circumstances. If they don't got anything on me and its circumstantial then I aint telling him shit and he just does his thing. If they got alot of evidence on me then I guess it doesn't really matter
I don't know anything about this myself, but saw someone mentioning underneath another video that your lawyer apparently can't put you on the stand if they know you're guilty? So it may be better to not tell your lawyer.
@@Hannah-zw9ow think legal eagle addressed this, and to my memory his advice was the opposite of yours.
foxylee I’m an Australian and we’ve only had one case like this ever happen and it was a huge scandal with a royal Commission to follow. The case of “lawyer X”. There’s strict laws and regulations prohibiting legal council from sharing information with the defence that could convict a client. They wouldn’t be able to practice law again and they could be fined or jailed. There’s literally no reason not to tell your lawyer everything.
The abduction, rape and murder of Sheree Beasley (6yo girl) was one instance where the only non-circumstantial evidence against the perp was a confession made to his psychotherapist (although he later also confessed to a cellmate).
The courts ended up accepting the evidence, which wasn't great jurisprudence, but at least had the benefit of locking up a POS for the rest of his life. I personally thought that an acquittal followed by a lynching would have been a better outcome for all.
She was abducted less than a mile from where I now live, and her body was dumped in a spot that I've driven past many many hundreds of times - the area used to be farmland, but it is now quite a trendy winery.
"If ,
the person standing next to you
is a murder,
you may not be safe."
On this we agree Dr.
Such an interesting video Dr. Grande. The conflict between the duty of confidentiality and the duty to protect the public is an interesting one. Thank you for explaining the Tarasoff case, definitely one of the California Supreme Court's most important and well-written decisions ⚖
Client confidentiality must always be paramount. Counsellers KNOW that being party to distasteful or unpleasant secrets is a part of their job. And with that professional aspect of the job, goes the unspoken implication that in such a situation, they are personally responsible for bending those rules. Rules are there to maintain the profession's integrity, whilst protecting any individual professional who is burdened by this dichotomy of conscience over consequence.. Work it out, people. Rules are there to get people to stop and think. If you think you need to bend or break those rules, do it. Just do it in a way that allows you enough plausible deniability to remain inviolate, but still be able sleep at night.
This unfortunately didn't really answer my question. My friend is apprehensive about going to counseling because he doesn't want a paper trail. He's worried, what if something happens in the future and a counselor testifies? What if they have notes about his anger problems and narcissism? He saw a counselor last week who said "you don't want to be diagnosed a narcissist, you don't want that on your record." Now he won't go to counseling...
If there is any doubt whatsoever, it’s best not to tell a counselor. If he just wants to get some things off his chest, I’ve found the best person to tell is a prostitute.
@@Stranger_In_The_Alps I don’t know if you’re trying to be funny or not, but it sounded a little funny in my head 😂😂
But it also makes sense 😂
@@Kalliopa0122 it’s a far better use of your money. And a prostitute won’t gaslight you like a therapist does. They just listen.
Thank you , for addressing this going to grad school for MS Clinical Mental Health Counseling -Substance Abuse and Addictions. we've been told so far to report on abuse , abuse of a child , sexual and exploitation .
I am a masters level social work student and had a previous placement in a high school I was told some concerning things a student had done in their past. It was implied but the person left acts coded or implied. But I stopped them a little bit in to make sure they understood limits of confidentiality, they could continue to talk to me but they need to decide their own words in how and what they describe to me. I felt this person was at risk of retaliation and went immediately to process with my field instructor…who laughed and suggested perhaps the student had a “fictitious disorder”. This person felt scared and caught up in something and I was sought and told by them as much, and the FI says they have to be lying….the student had not opened up to them so there was no way they opened up to me…this was a theme during my time there. My relationships with students were undermined constantly. The FI called the university and said she didn’t want me there anymore. I agreed because the foundation of trust was non existent due to situations like I just mentioned, lack of supervision or taking me to a bar during a pandemic watching her throw back 3 beers by 4pm and telling me to mark it as supervision… I am paying for this “education” and I deserve better. The university wouldn’t listen to my concerns at all, and I feel like I have no advocate or support systems which is another story in itself…I still think of and worry for my students to this day. I seek out input elsewhere, which is why I’m watching this! Thank you.
Interesting. When I was doing my masters placement a couple of my supervisor’s clients told me a bunch of things that they hadn’t told her and my supervisor was surprised. I kind of think it was a personality difference as she was very uptight and proper and I’m more laid back and open. I also wonder if simply the change in counsellor allows them to do that, like it’s easier to confess to a stranger than someone you know?
There are soldiers who believe the "killing climate" of war allows for other crimes to be excused. Enough said.
Dr. Grande-I'm curious about different behavior traits/norms of people from varying parts of the world. For example: I've had a man in my life for a number of years. His family is Italian, though he was born in the U.S. He can be extremely charming, loving, and charismatic. However, he can also be quite volatile, angry, demonstrative, and loud. I've heard it said-jokingly- if you tie the hands of an Italian man behind his back, he'll be unable to speak :) As I've talked with other people of Italian descent, they have confirmed that most Italians do everything "large." They love and laugh large, and their negative emotions are equally large. Is there any evidence to support that certain ethnic groups are more prone to any given set, or types, of behaviors? My ancestry is largely English, Swedish, and German. My relatives seem to have a much calmer overall demeanor, though pretty stubborn and driven! Is it nature over nurture, nurture over nature.....or a combination of both?? I'd appreciate any insights you have into this topic. Thanks for all you do. I appreciate your work so very much! Kind Regards~
Barb, I too am German, British Isles and Swedish + Finnish. My family can be very negative. But then, my mom is a covert narcissist so that's probably a big part of it. Anyway, we'll criticize each other to death but not usually in a loud way. More of a matter of fact way. It's annoying as hell. It would be interesting to hear about how ancestry might affect behavior. However, I think that this is a politically incorrect mine field. Stereotyping people from different countries/ancestry is likely taboo in psychiatry.
Its my understanding that people of Latin American descent are the same way. Very passionate in their love and hate
Barb, what a great question. I've always believed Italians are passionate in all emotions.
As an Argentinian with Italian ancestry, I can confirm, we ARE like that, to some degree at least.
Check the dominant religion of the area. Not all practice but all feel the pressures to fall in line. Could be related.
Because I think that most people who are on the run with a huge reward on their head wouldn't go in to see a counselor
Here in the UK the part of the Counselling contract is to make the client aware of the rules of breaking confidentiality.Harming themselves, others or the Government/ country. However this does affect how honest a client can be in the therapeutic relationship but it must be stated in the beginning so the client is fully aware of the consequences of what they tell the Counsellor.
Here in Canada, we’ll at least the province of Ontario, consent is supposed to be an ongoing discussion, for example in a later session a client sounds like they’re about to divulge a questionable secret we are supposed to remind them of the confidentiality limits again before they say it. And then document our behinds off.
I also think it would be wise to have sign on clinician door, dont tell me anything u dont want a court of law to know!
My great uncle was a psychiatrist. He would never tell me any stories but he did say that one time when he was watching the news there was a certain list of the top 10 most wanted criminals in our city and 4 of them were his patients.
I told a counselor of sexual abuse by a bunch of ppl when I was growing up and how i myself as a kid took advantage of other kids my age. I didn't know better and was just doing what I was taught. The counselor disappeared and i havent heard from him again. Not sure if a 8 year old is breaking the law with another 8 year old but ..he wasnt comfortable obviously.Someone deleted everything said in the on line session where you can go back and review the conversations and it wasnt me who deleted it .
Are you still here? Im curious about ur case as it happened as an 8 year old. Did he breached confidentiality?
When I start watching your videos Dr. Grande, I find that I cannot stop, very fascinating.
I've always kept in mind the "mandated reporter" status of professionals and always assumed that ALSO meant if someone confesses a crime to a therapist, that therapist would HAVE to report that.
Mandated reporters are required to report abuse or suspected abuse related to children. That’s it.
It doesn’t cover anything else.
You probably should form your understanding based on facts, not just a one-sided decision that makes sense to you.
@@yesterdayitrained that's not accurate- mandated reporting includes vulnerable adults
@@nikkih6907 I stand corrected.
I love when you open your brain and let us in.
Wandering Free this!
Dr Grande’s mind seems to be a compassionate, orderly place. 👌
This should be viewed accross the world so people know their limits on what to say and what not to say
Thank you, Dr. Grande. I've often wondered what a mental health professional is supposed to do in a situation like that.
I know this is a year old video, but it somehow escaped me! Thank you!
Great assessment. Your clients are in good hands. 👍🏻
Thank you for doing these videos. I appreciate your time and expertise in preparing for production.
Who is Watching “Monsters : The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story” right now???
Dear Dr G, In Australia as a trial Lawyer our first duty is to the Court. So if the client for example says they did not receive specific correspondence and this is important in their matter. Then for example they show you this correspondence, they either have to give you permission to put that before the court or accept that you resign if there is no consent to such. If it is somehow found out that you did not put a fact that the matter relies on before the court and you had that info you will be struck of. In Australia that means struck of in all states and territories. All the time and money that went into your career is lost.
I find it ironic that the more a client is worried about their therapist reporting them, the more reason the therapist has to actually report.
Thank you, Dr Grande. 🌹👍 I hope to never walk any of those high wires.
I would suggest any therapist in this type of bind should get an expert attorney from their licensing board. Obviously outside of active threats
Here in the UK best practice involves having a discussion with the client (as part of the initial contract), that there are limits to confidentiality. Simple.
For situations where I want to talk about breaking the law, I’ve found it’s best to talk to a prostitute instead of a therapist.
You are providing such a wonderful service with your content! Thank you!!
What a great question! As always, a well-thought out response! Gosh how I love this channel! 💜💚
Personally I'd work with the client to try to motivate them to report themselves. If that didn't work, well it's definitely a muddy situation. I would probably staff it with other professionals as well as contact my licensing board for guidance. Lets say it is something serious (murder?) I'd want to make sure I followed the appropriate protocol and leave my personal feelings out of it. That's where having good solid professional support really comes in handy.
@@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim That's
what I said "Set a trap for the
murderer, trick him into
confessing . A murderer
would never expect that."
I've always wondered how this scenario plays out with a priest in a confessional booth. Don't they have a similar rule of confidentiality? Perhaps less strict and official?
Probably less strict because it would be like if you told your friend, they’re not obligated to tell. A priest isn’t like a legally titled therapist, they don’t have the same obligations. Also I think that in their opinion confessing to them is like going straight to god, so I’m their opinion the highest authority (God) knows now. Plus they’re supposed to forgive you of the sins, Gods courtroom is different than the legal justice system. God forgave murderers. I’m not implying you have to believe in the religion, just explaining how they believe (I was raised religious)
Priests have greater protection of confidentiality than mental health practicioners because of freedom of religion.
@@bananabreadloaf God forgives murderers? Good news! Where is nearest gun store?
A lot of the times it’s not even true people like to fantasize that there some gangster or a vigilante
yes
XIV Words You'd have to be nuts to tell a therapist the truth anyway
They still have to report it though, because you never know when someones lost it enough to actually do something.
I'm never going to say anything in detail about my own little corner of the earth where I keep my treasures.
This happened at a local AA meeting. I didn't happen to be there that night, but a guy told about how he had left a body in the trunk of a car at the local junkyard. Needless to say, he didn't sleep at home that night.
Yikes, that's more interesting than my meetings. Something important to remember about 12 step recovery meetings is that the confidentiality you expect there is informal, and there are no legal protections for disclosures made in such a setting. Best to think of it as discussing your problems with a group of friends.
@@uptown3636 Yes! Remember that teenager that had her boyfriend kill the girl he slept with as a fling, and then they were both accepted into the military; it was like at least a year later, and she confessed to some friends in military school, and that's the only reason the pair were caught. They probably would have gotten away with it forever if she didn't crack. Makes you wonder how many people out there keep secrets like this forever. It would probably get easier as time went by, IDK. She must have known they would tell on her!
I learned the hard way they really have no obligation for confidentially, sometimes it's best to keep your problems to yourself
In addition to local laws, what if you are treating someone via video over the internet that lives in a different state?
In such a case the counselor is required to immediately murder the client in return, but forever keep his trap shut about it.
I have been close friends with a priest for many years. I asked him several years ago this same question pertaining to someone going to confession in a Catholic church and confessing to a murder. Strict confidentiality is the rule for a priest hearing confession. This priest told me (this occurred in Oregon several years ago) that the only crimes a priest must report is those involving child abuse or elder abuse. In standard confession the priest doesn't actually see the confessor because of the screen in place and I've never heard of a priest jumping up and throwing open the door to the confessional room so I'm not sure how this would work. ??
I heard that priests hearing confession, should report murder confessed. But that could be different now
This topic seems incredibly complex. I can't imagine being in that situation as a counselor, it would be awful.
So it all boils down to whether the client is still an active threat to either himself or those around him?
It's a tricky situation to be in when someone is having homicidal urges. Many probably don't even know if they should bring it up.
It's not like you can just tell the psychiatrist that: "Hey, so it's been really tempting to just go out and murder some random people lately"
I'm sure that would raise all kinds of alarms.
3 questions.
Can a client ask to be treated anonymously where you, as the DR., doesn’t even know his name?
Is it ethical to tell a troubled client we DO NOT discuss murder, rape, child assault etc.? Can you set up boundaries?
Could you immediately stop a client if he starts to divulge heinous crimes?
This happened to a psychologist friend of mine but not in a formal counseling situation. The murder was particularly brutal and the individual had murdered before. After discussion it became apparent he was racked with guilt and simply wanted to hand himself in. He felt he would murder again and was danger to society. The hand over to the police was done smoothly.
The police said the case would never have been solved without the confession, as by dint of luck it was the perfect crime. The brutality of the murder left seasoned officers shocked and its details were never published. I had passed the individual in the hall way a number times and was always left with a feeling I could not explain.
There are certain things that I will never understand or accept. In some cases the psychiatrist make a report saying that the offender is pretending is a crazy one to avoid the real jail, but the judge toss all the psychiatrist work and send the fake crazy to those mental instituition, or can be vice versa. The doctor can say the person is crazy, and the judge does not accept it and make different trial decision. My faith on human and on the system is almost zero. I don't know if the system is incompetent or cruel or both together.
Ultimately, the BEST advice “seek supervision” from someone more experienced in this kind of dilemma than you!
I‘m going to have a question regarding counceling. I live in a german speaking country. In german you have two forms of „you“ when talking to another person. A „polite/formal-you“, considered the official form of talking to someone, like, let‘s say, your boss, an elderly person, a teacher… Someone who is of higher status than you, or who has to be respected. I am pretty sure people working in business companies still use it too. Beside that there‘s a „daily-you“ which people use in day-to-day life. Especially younger generations skip the formal form.
Now. In counceling it‘s recommended to the councelor to use the formal form of „you“. It‘s said to make sure to keep a formal distance to the client. Which should be helpful for the therapist and the client. It should set boundaries and make sure the person seeking counceling doesn‘t mistake their councelor for a friend. In my case, I suffered from abuse from a bunch of people up to that point. Mostly people who needed to be respected. After many sessions I noticed I had problems of opening myself up to her. I didn‘t feel comfortable, felt pressured, felt judged. I noticed that it had to do with the form of „you“ I had to use. I asked her about changing to the informal form of you. Especially when telling stories. She refused. In the end talking to her just started to feel wrong and I quit therapy. It wasn‘t possible for me to build any form of connection to that woman. What would you recommend to therapists in different situations like that? Could the rules be bent? Would it have been useful to bend the rules? I‘m especially interested in the question how a non german speaking therapist would see that topic, especially because you don‘t have this language twist to set boundaries. How does an outsider look into that topic? There have to be more ways of setting boundaries.
Dr. Grande is up on current events and made references to the Jussie Smollett and OJ Simpson scenarios my observation which is entertainingly delicious.
Dr. Grande your praiseworthy
to say the least.
Kudos!
I'm kind of suprised
that that sort of thing
doesn't come up very
often. The violent crime
rate was so high when
I was young, so I guess
there are a lot of people
taking secrets to their
graves.
If people are in a horrible court case do Psychiatrists ever tell the defendant to say they are homicidal to end the case? If mean to give false witness against themselves?
Timely. I was just asked about this question in my ethics class. Thanks!
My nephews were sexually molested at 11 by a 14 year old. I was told by my sister , their grandmother told me. The family was broken about telling the police. I talked about it to my social worker and she told me she was required to report since they were only 11. So the other boy was in trial, they found him guilty. He was put on a type of parole. He was supposed to be put on Sex Offender list when he turned 18. That didn't happen. After my nephews came forward other young children said he molested too. My nephews had to change schools because they were taunted and bullied so they were sent to school in another town. Same for high school the perpetrator's father was coach of the hockey team, and they were hockey players. It has effected them with the rest of their lives they are now 21. Occasionally they have panic attacks, don't ever feel safe. I was happy my social worker dimed him in. I see my nephews struggle with what happened to them and want to hurt that kid badly have him on the Sex Offender roles and acknowledge his crimes. Very frustrating. Very much anger producing .
In Illinois the warning of those who may be harmed was important. We had a gang member on the psych ward no visitors were allowed.
I had something like this happen at a narcotics anonymous meeting. A man admitted to being forced into adding lethal chemicals to some meth and selling it to another guy to settle a drug debt by killing him. Said he saw the guy shoot up and die in front of him.
I feel like it depends on the context. Like if he said “I had to do this because my addiction drove me to this point, it haunts me every day and that’s why I’m getting clean” I wouldn’t say anything. But if he was like.... proud of it and seemed like he’d do it again I would call the police
@@Hannah-zw9owHe seemed remorseful, and said he was threatened with a gun to be shot if he didn't do it. Shocking stuff though. I stopped going to NA meetings after that.
Dr. Grande, how difficult is it to carry on a normal conversation with someone & not analyze them?
Somewhat difficult. It's like being a cop... you can't leave the job behind.
I have always been curious about this topic. Thank you, Dr.! I found your channel today, love the videos I've seen and subscribed. I haven't seen them all yet lol so forgive me if you've done this topic: How do counselors avoid burnouts and depression? Who's there for you? I can imagine sessions become heavy and then you also have a personal life. I've always wondered this...
Normally they have supervision, you know when and if their own personal issues are brought into play or they sense manipulation going on - they always have trusted and respected psychiatrists/counsellor to talk to:)
I’m a psychotherapist and I have a supervision group that I attend monthly and also have my own therapist I speak to monthly.
There was a SF attorney named Bob Tarbox with an office on Montgomery Street who noticed a man standing outside his door just before closing one evening in 1972. The attorney gestured for the man to come in. The man said that he wanted a legal consultation and paid a fee of $50. The attorney locked the office so that they would not be interrupted; the client had presented as ID his merchant mariner's card, and the attorney expected the man was about to outline a Jones Act (injury at sea) case. Instead, the client confessed to the Zodiac crime spree!
Tarbox told this story in a letter to the Vallejo Times-Herald in 2007, when the David Fincher film had re-ignited interest in the Zodiac case and the popular suspect o Arthur Allen. "Having seen photographs of Mr. Allen," Tarbox wrote, "I can state unequivocally that he is not the man who confessed to me!"
Wow! I would hate to be a therapist and listen to anything like that.I would never dare see them again.
Dr. Grande, can you make a video about the justifications for/against having empathy for psychopaths? This is something I wonder about a lot as a budding psychiatrist.
That would be an interesting topic for sure, especially since they don’t have empathy. But if we stoop to their level what does that say about us?
2:20 If someone is going to harm other people that can be an exception to confidentiality. Then then you say if a child, elderly or disabled are being harmed. Do they get special protection above everyone else that is being harmed?
Happy Monday Doc!
Do Health insurance companies really receive copies of Psychotherapy notes? I didn't know that.
No, they don't.
Sounds like the “limit of confidentiality,” is fairly loose. It can be broken at any time if there is any form of harm that was conducted by the client or potential harm/threat the client plans to exercise
Wow. You answer questions I have not thought to ask yet! I have wondered this about doctors, lawyers and also clergy.
The worst would be if an innocent person was convicted of their crime and was rotting away in jail while the real perp (your client) went free. I feel like I would have to say something.
Dr. Grande
Would you talk about Mindy McCready, I just recently read about her life and I would love to hear what you have to say about her life and troubles. I listen to you everyday, thoroughly enjoy it ALL!
Thank you
CF
I remembered her from her music video days, she was so pretty she looked ethereal, I was shocked to hear of her death and the circumstances around it.
Incredibly interesting video, as per usual! Love your dedication to your channel & your wealth of knowledge Dr Grande!!
I had a roommate casually confess to two murders he got away with. He’s since moved out and under police investigation, but it’s unlikely he’ll be convicted unless hard evidence emerges