But power also corrupts almost absolutely because most humans are too impressionable and easy to manipulate except for a small few, and those that don't want power are usually always the best leaders to choose because they don't want it.
Psychopathic narcissists are getting toasted in all fields, due to understanding and education. Thank you Richard for such a great work, your input is legendary 🙏
Agreed! I thank him in my thoughts all of the time--where I'd be without his guidance and hard work--I don't believe I'd be here without--his wisdom and expression of it speaks so clearly about a very convoluted subject. In the light, they don't have so much of a chance of success in getting their way
Two years out and I can clearly see the critical attitudes. Combative and Jealous. Comparing my family to his. My condo to his house. My friends to his friends. Excessive drama, Always an issue with this or that. I could actually see him drowning in the quiet and peacefulness of my home. Whereas at his place he played heavy metal music, had buddies in and out, constantly talking about his neighbors. WoW thank you Richard, by the way that's his name, for this refresher and reminder what an A.hole I was dealing with.... So much PEACE now. And you've given the name Richard, to me, a Resurrection.... you're humor is Awesome...
CON-TROLLING. I think this sums up the bored, empty narcissist, looking for meaning and purpose in an otherwise sad, and empty life. Trolling, and creating conflict, to ameliorate their chronic anxiety, makes them feel alive, worthy, and important, which obviously fells better than the alternative!
I’m seeing they enjoy screaming and yelling as a way to gain power and control . Than they make excuses as to why they have to yell . It’s very evil to watch .
I just posted the following, on another related video: More often, than not... the narc (and/ or psychopath) will use "projection," to induce 'splitting...' and 'cognitive dissonance,' then utilize "reactive abusive" on say their children, or a younger sibling, for example... in order to get THEM (the one/s generally 'split...' then projected upon, gaslit, guilt- tripped, blamed and shamed, etc.) to then say: "See, you ARE... the problem! You act like a 2, 3, 4 year old!!" Narc mothers and fathers routinely do THIS... to their children! Then the older (and/ or perhaps also younger?) sibling/s would in turn 'repeat' this tactic, in order to "scapegoat" the 'targeted' individual/s! I see this even with a friend of the family's older and younger sister, against the middle one... and she is now, 78! (The mother was a 5- 6/6 NPD neglectful, gaslighting, etc. covert narc school teacher who taught the 4th grade for decades... then treated her own daughters, horribly... so the other two became covert narcs, as well !)
Narcissists feel depleted, weak & ashamed unless they can experience intense anger, conflict & a powerful sense of righteousness which allows them to dish out disproportionate & extreme performative punishment. This feeds them for a short time until they again need to manufacture further conflict to release rage to overcome feelings of weakness & shame.
Hey buddy, been following since street fight days, before conspiracy theory caught up and became conspiracy reality. Ah, the good ‘ol days lol… anyways, just want to say hi and my wife now listens to you as well. A few yrs ago we went no contact with her parents after her mom tried to get our kids taken from us. Everything worked out but it sent my wife on a journey to figure out her past and place within her family unit. She was, of course, the black sheep. Thanks for all the info over the yrs and hope u r well buddy👍💪👍💪👍💪
Oh this helps explain an online interaction I had recently. Where I was like "wtf where is this combative energy coming from?" I'll just block in future when someone does that.
Here's a good one I read. Say this to see if someone is a narcissist. "You will get what you deserve." A good and decent human will appreciate the thought. A narcissist will not. Because they know all of the harm they have deliberately caused.
Hello Richard you brilliant, gorgeous bastard. Observing how your appearance has changed over the years, and enjoying how articulate, focused and spot on you are with regard to the topics you deconstruct, made me seek out a nutritionist, medical doc then endocrinologist. For TRT. At 46, I never could have fathomed just how utterly _oblivious_ I was and had always been to the fact of how much better I could have felt. Unbelievable. I've much respect for your presentation and for the way you interact with your guests on your philosophy channel. Not to mention the content. 🧠. Many thanks.
Oh my freaking gosh thank you about the trolling. 👏🏻 I used to think it was funny and harmless, and maybe in certain contexts it can be, but MY GOD does it get ugly quick. This was one of the most brutal aspects of my own experience, not just because of how hurtful people became towards me, but because I found myself acting the same way in response. Which was fking with my SOUL, and I could feel it!! 👎🏻 Meanwhile, Dr. Destructo kicks back and revels in the glorious chaos and vitriol being spewed as a result of his triangulation. On the flip side, because the damage was SO extreme, it became super obvious to me (over time) that the environment had become a toxic wasteland and I was able to see my exit as an exodus rather than exile. ☺️ Love that you brought this up!! 🗣
Thank you so much. I think the way the world is being led at the moment, over the last four years etc seems to have given me PTSD. I just felt like I was, or am in an abusive relationship, but it is with the government, the media, the pharmaceutical companies and the food companies.... It all feels so overwhelming to be fair. So when anyone actually talks about it, how I am feeling it, it gives a moment of reprieve x
And it’s not just the narcissists anymore. Many of the ‘empaths’ and codependents that the narcs traumatised haven’t healed, so they get triggered and hostile at the drop of a hat thinking vitriolic like ‘I’ve seen this before!’ and go to war where they could just keep scrolling or walk on.
I literally have no words! You have answered the one most puzzling question I’ve always had about my NEX!!! He used to troll (and control) people online and I came across some of it and thought WTF. I have never been so jaw dropped. confused, boggled, stunned in my life at the WHY. Why would he attack people online. What for. Thank you thank you thank you for giving my mind peace!
I've only ever seen intolerance from the day i popped out at the start of the 1990s lol even when that was a much better time it was still there otherwise so many of us still wouldn't be living with our parents in our 30s and 40s right about now. Literally in the review i made of my local college i said "there is so much intolerance to different ways of thinking".
For example: The W. Hollywood and SFO Bay Area (the thinly masked "undertone," and intuitive "impression" is most definitely "effeminate." (And I'd also venture to say at least 80% "Cluster B?") Until 2017ish, I got MANY thumbs- up from them(selves) for pointing this OUT... before YT (i.e. the N$AI = Alphabet "intel insider") E$G / police, began ghosting and redacting ALL related comments, like everything else... that doesn't "FIT, their false 'reality' paradigm, Cluster Ber mind controlled but faltering... Matrix!
I knew something wasn't right when she would sit in the garden with her two mates, laughing loudly and cooking huge pots of awful looking soup, late at night.. She would deliberately provoke arguments by wearing a riduculous tall pointed hat whenever we went out. She played mind games by hiding the broom when she went to work. The final straw came when she ignored my birthday and stayed out all night on October the 31st. If only I had joined the dots and realised that she was pain in @£&= earlier.
i got to hear about half of the jolly heretic epidode, then had to leave for work. Wasnt shocked that it was gone by the time i returned😆 i am american and it was interesting to hear how our politics look to other people, i liked the honesty! Refreshing.
Though I'm not your constant "follower", thank you very much I just got up this morning with similar questions and wonderings in my head about it... And your video was right on time for me (I live in Jerusalem, Israel)... You put some very important points to what I felt, but I had no words yet to express it.... And you gave me some additional information to think about it... I hope it will be useful for me.... Thank you
This is the best video you've ever done Richard our kid, I don't need to say why cos the video speaks for itself. Keep fighting the good fight. God bless you. Saint Anger
This has reminded me of the statement made by Michael Caine's character, Alfred when he says to Bruce Wain in 'The Dark Knight' Batman film of the Joker's motivations: "Some people just like to watch things burn". I know someone who is happier in conflict and drama, he over-reacts to minor disagreements, such as me not wanting to watch a film he is watching, and would then accuse me of loving the drama when I stood up for myself in the face of his rage. His emotional dysregulation was off the scale to such an extent I thought I was going mad just for expressing my likes and dislikes and expressing my needs. I know what a healthy relationship is and could see that wasn't it, so I ended it, he tells people he ended the relationship, SO much projection and delusion by him, not to mention paranoia, self-centredness, etc, etc. Feel so much calmer without him in my life, I can well understand why people in such relationships develop auto-immune disorders. Thanks for your videos, using humour and making them human, after such an experience grounding is essential.
That’s a reason why we use Sanskrit . No or less preconceived ideas on the word but there’s just the meaning. Thanks for your ideas. You’ve helped so much
A narcissist knows nothing else of life other than but to exist is hostile. To them existence IS hostile. They know nothing else, so to live in hostility is natural. For some people, calm, peace, and silence brings absolute discomfort - a feeling like the other shoe will drop at any moment. It's unbearable. Narcissists feel like this without hostility - they require it to not be more (anxious, troubled, etc) than they already are. It's as if hostility, and the creation of it in their environs, not only restores their equilibrium, it feeds them.
That's why I believe people like Jordan Peterson are so obsessed with suffering. The world is hostile, so suffer upwards through it no matter what and try to reach this ideal heroic representation of what we think perfection looks like (Christ, some Greek God etc.). An ideal which is unattainable which will give us meaning and invigorates our will to suffer even more. Because the snakes are waiting and you better have your sword ready. This mindset always irked me a bit. And now, I can see why. There is this grandiosity which is involved in it. "I am doing God's work". "My path is the path of a hero". "Others are NPC's, I am the only real character in this game". All really narcissistic attitudes to have. It is no wonder to me that this grandiosity and appearance of nobility attracted lots of young men who lack any kind of initiation ritual and want to be somebody. Those narcissistic messages will stick like glue within such a vacuum. The question I asked myself is why this showmanship around it? I can't imagine a more peaceful person than a person silently meditating on a cushion and not talking about it. Is a person constantly yapping about meditation peaceful? The same with nobility. Is attaching your ego to a noble cause and broadcasting it worldwide actually noble? Doesn't nobility require some sort of letting go of that concept? What do I mean? Am I being noble if I help another person to feel better about myself, to tell all my friends about it and to make social media posts about it, or, and that's the worst, to gain more power in the world? Or is it not better if I don't care about these grandiose ideas and just help because I am a decent human being and have empathy for others? Isn't just being human and exchanging a simple smile a better and more truthful way to go? What really gets me are the justifications around this mindset of constant hostility and suffering. The notion is that we are constantly victimised, a narcissistic view of the world. And that means that people have no choice other than embark on this journey filled with grandiosity and heroism. In other words, they are helpless victims. Peterson has no choice other than say all these outrageous things because he is victimised and the hero's journey is one of suffering meaning that any resistance towards him is a sign of that heroic suffering everybody is talking about. What I learned from Buddhism is that if you constantly get bitten by snakes, it's your fault. You lack wisdom. You don't need to hate snakes, you don't need to bring weapons or burn the forest down; just walk around them. Alright, the path isn't straight anymore but that's life. These people seem to see heroism in wanting shortcuts in life, getting bitten by snakes and then creating grandiose stories out if it by applying this mindset of constant suffering and being a strong person in the midst of getting bitten by snakes while refusing to abandon the shortcut. While all this mess is going on, some people in some Buddhist monestary are just peacefully meditating and smiling in the morning when the sun comes up. Isn't this absurd?
I sometimes get the impression that inside their heads is nothing but negativity and feelings of insults form their past. They blame the people in their present for it. They cannot live with all the slights and insults they have lived with over the years so they need to take it out on people in their present. Many of those slights and insults were probably inferred rather than real.
@@Antonocon yes, my own dad asked me "what are you scared of out there?" When referring to why I don't just get up and travel. I'm not scared, I medically can't drive. It's not that easy to get around. It takes a lot of planning and I struggle with that part and kept asking for help from the wrong person clearly.
This was my grandmother, who was living with us as I was growing up. If things were going too peacefully in the family and everybody else was happy for too long (more than 2-3 days), she would deliberately go around and provoke other family members with intrusive questions or random accusations, until one of us finally broke and gave her the screaming match she was actually looking for. Reassured in her belief that everyone was utterly mean to her, she would then sulk with relish for hours, until she finally snapped out of it and everyone had to pretend that nothing ever happened, or else. Rinse and repeat every few days. I always used to think: "That woman cannot stand peace, not if her life depended on it." My parents kept living with her long after I moved out, and they never stopped taking her emotional baits, until she died at the age of 98, when my parents themselves were almost retired.
Love your content Richard. I followed you for years. I've been away from watching videos about narcissism but once in a while I want to hear something intelligent and intertaining. This did not disappoint 😂
The channel is really for people looking to heal narcissistic abuse, we went too far away from that this time. I appreciated your support in the comment section.
@@RICHARDGRANNON well those ideologically infected ones that complained I doubt are in that category... they just like to police peoples speech and it works unfortunately.
@@RICHARDGRANNON Richard, I understand your concern, yet humor is the best medicine... maybe continue these conversations with Ed on your philosophy channel. Additionally, I'm GenX too (and a woman) and definitely agree on that we're replaying old issues from the 80s and 90s that we as a society long ago overcame. Division tactics being utilized once again. Don't let the Narchons get you down! Richard, please keep up the brilliant work!🔥
@@KrystalVortex42 "NARChons?" I LOVE it! (I thought I'd coined "NARCopaths," until I saw it was used prior, to describe Socios, vs. Narcissistic Psychos!) And that is completely "appropriate," if one understands what the Narconosphere PTB (IH$ cult) mind Matrixster TEMPLAR$ were heavily "influenced" by! (Gnosticism, and the Assassins, as two examples!!)
Hi Richard.....getting the silent treatment from my mom again!.....what a bore, and now my aunt has stopped contacting me....years later and still the same games...she will never heal, ticks too many criteria checks for npd....time to grey rock again. Oh well, got a solo trip to Tuscany planned soon to recalibrate :-)
After a broke up a year go, still being accused at the german police station(of course false accusations), but the police has to do their jobs.... today received an Instagram follow request of his newq supply. The combative aspect is real and scary. I feel like i should hide, but there's no secure place in this sick world 😢😢😢
I'm seeking dual citizenship--leaving the country may help--I hope it will at least. My NPD has the police furious he's not in jail; but, bc paying off a narcissistic court worked twice, I'm not even allowed to file a police report while bloody, made me realize I've got little choice here.
I love when you do the mocking tone. I use it on myself when I start seeing myself doing that action. Even if the action is just in my head. Helps me to stop acting that way.
I too am the rarest, (even more rare for a female), on the Meyers-Briggs test. No wonder I feel you get me, Richard! I'd wondered that actually, when I took it in 2018 & around that same time started to watching/listening/reading your content...
Narc across the road Getting thier mail sent to my house no mistake number very different Grandson knocked on my door he said do u mind if my parcel comes to your house I said send it to your house not mine?
Who can om the loudest? like in x factor trying to find out who can hold the longest and highest note. Can you imagine what that sounds like in meditation?😂and whoever is impressed by that is far too easily impressed.
I know! Thought the same thing! What is it? "...who can 'sit in silence' the longest"?? Total bullshit! Hell! Maybe they roll people's brain under a P.E.T. scan, and "view" who's maintaining a theta state of mind the longest? It's sick!
I thought we could avoid delete but... for a while now we've all been learning about them, experiencing being controlled by them all our lives. We must know and stand and be able to negotiate , with the potential to break the curse they've had over our world.
From what i saw in the education system especially during the last course i did at my local college that i will ever do anywhere directly in that system, they make things so complicated and hard on purpose, like they had us write down literally everything and then the questions on the worksheets were worded in such a way that made it difficult to understand and take you 30 mins or more until someone pulls you aside and reads it out for you a few times, if it ever happens. Then they use this to undermine, label, and ostracized by trying to say because you don't understand 1 question that isn't at all written in plain english then you must have some sort of developmental disability or just straight up demented. How on earth is that allowed to be used as a basis for disabilities or anything else?. I once even tried to suggest an online app that simplifies text and the lecturer came back and said "it's cheating" because no doubt her bosses wouldn't allow it and made her say that. There was even an article about my local college about how students used sites like this to change the questions into plain english making it out like they were big time cheating, when it doesn't matter. It's the same question and saves a lot of time and how the questions should really be posed when you've never done it before we're a noob at it, so why isn't it?. They don't want you saving time they want you to sit there fumbling over yourself and to not progress and my local college doesn't let people take anything home either which is a major red flag again and if you ask it's complete distrust again saying "it's cheating because you'll probably go online and cheat" meanwhile they let us search things online in class under their supervision, am i in a cult now? lol. I'm permanently thrown into disabilities classes because of this happening all the time in primary school and high school before that and the worst is english classes that really makes you deconstruct everything, but why should i be made to fight harder than anyone else?. I couldn't go back anyway not that i want to because somebody has made sure to give this impression that i have some kind of developmental disability and nobody will see me any differently. They would have also seen the report i did a test that included a Rorschach test during my last year of primary school where the lady finally asked "is it possible she could be on the higher iq?" the only person who ever asked. But even after that nobody would acknowledge it and carry on with the story i could be developmentally disabled instead. Why did i stay in that for 18 years? i couldn't tell you exactly i guess just hope and still believing the promises of gaining something from it. So you have to be 100% aware of this anywhere and this taught me if someone refuses to explain something in plain english only in complicated tongues then they're trying to undermine. The whole system is setup that way and it's all about "how can i trick the system?" but that shouldn't be a basis of how our world functions or how we as humans function but it's giving people no choice in various ways to do that. One of the things i learned to do was how to explain things in plain english so everyone can understand it doesn't change who i am and it isn't just done to make things easy for people to understand but it's also the honest and right thing to do. The moment i understood that is when i got why jack o'neill in stargate is always written to say out loud "hello! plain english?" lol he acts numb but hmm far from it, oh yes he understand but it wouldn't be fair not to would it? and i think i'm going to put that to great use there's always room for a bit of that me thinks. I take it that's why we started seeing all the "transparency" stuff but i still don't understand, indeed it's always being combative and trying to get you to be very combative back to them.
I are with you Richard Many people I know are aware how sick the powers that be are and how much chsnge is needed...from indoctrination within our US educational system to how politics are a game that's played....
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Hey Richard, I asked a question about inversions last night on live. What I am experiencing is the negative mirror of his thoughts put on to me and pressured by gaslighting with questions of insane stupidness, coming across as 'I need to understand him that he does not understand me' He also plays the game of asking me what I said to make me repeat so he can interrupt and change the format. He orchestrates everything, ghosts, moans, lies continually, I have lost my nerves with him. ANy advice. I am on the healing journey and acknowledge the mirroring. He is my mum in child hood. Very, very bitchy. With out any doubt he is a vulnerable N. I have died here and revived again and again and again. Thank you for last night, listening now and learning always.
Yeah their energy, behaviors, and emotions get transferred into you and start to sort of mirror them because they're so dysregulating and overwhelming all the time, so you can't feel yourself under it and only feel all that they're giving off on top of how they treat you and gaslight all the time, they know the effect they have on people. The only way to stop any of this is just to leave and end that relationship because there's no changing them when they never want to change themselves. There's just nothing anyone can do for them.
With healing you can look at their behaviour and not be hurt by it. The scars remain but that difficult pain dulls. And then they can still try stuff and it doesn’t hurt. I knew I had healed when my ex could try to inflict pain through a new email and I could read it without even feeling anything. Instead I could think, ‘that’s projection’ or ‘that’s baiting’. Unfortunately he did then notch it up as I was immune to him so he made our son (who lived in my house most of the time) take on his behaviours. Not hugged our son for 2.5 years and I’m even learning slowly to heal from that.
I’m living with someone with narcissistic rage daily. This is really helpful. Thanks Richard
You've just explained why my father's family would have bitter, rage-filled arguments about what ketchup is for.
excellent Richard! Thank youuuuu and all here creating a healthy interdepent humanity
Richard you are hysterical ! Love it ❤
Man, you just blew me away with the statement about how mature compassionate humans could run a better planet.
But power also corrupts almost absolutely because most humans are too impressionable and easy to manipulate except for a small few, and those that don't want power are usually always the best leaders to choose because they don't want it.
Psychopathic narcissists are getting toasted in all fields, due to understanding and education.
Thank you Richard for such a great work, your input is legendary 🙏
Agreed! I thank him in my thoughts all of the time--where I'd be without his guidance and hard work--I don't believe I'd be here without--his wisdom and expression of it speaks so clearly about a very convoluted subject. In the light, they don't have so much of a chance of success in getting their way
Ty Rich .... we are living through the strangest times 🤔🌿
YES Richard, please keep using the voice you found @48:00, loved seeing your humour
It is indeed sadistic. This validates exactly how i feel about what going on this planet.
@@neveragain733 💯
Two years out and I can clearly see the critical attitudes. Combative and Jealous. Comparing my family to his. My condo to his house. My friends to his friends. Excessive drama, Always an issue with this or that. I could actually see him drowning in the quiet and peacefulness of my home. Whereas at his place he played heavy metal music, had buddies in and out, constantly talking about his neighbors. WoW thank you Richard, by the way that's his name, for this refresher and reminder what an A.hole I was dealing with.... So much PEACE now. And you've given the name Richard, to me, a Resurrection.... you're humor is Awesome...
It's surreal how dysfunctional it's become.
CON-TROLLING. I think this sums up the bored, empty narcissist, looking for meaning and purpose in an otherwise sad, and empty life. Trolling, and creating conflict, to ameliorate their chronic anxiety, makes them feel alive, worthy, and important, which obviously fells better than the alternative!
I agree !!!
They make their life sad and empty by not having any substance or backbone. They create destruction cause it fuels them. Real life vampires
Agreed! You don't need Freudian language to describe a narcissist anymore than you need a veterinary degree to describe dog poo.
Useful and funny at the end! Thank you. Laughter is the best medicine
Richards brilliant sense of humor is a nice balance for the intensity of the material he talks about. Funny AND smart AF!
The author of confusion is working overtime. Spiritual warfare is real.
Daily warfare❤
So effing wild. Saw this stuff beginning in the 90s and early 2000s, but never imagined this.
Correct.
Satan's on the rampage, which means he's getting desperate.
Bless you.
@@andthnwat for sure.
Huh? Are you actually criticizing Richard? If not you should be more discerning with your comments
I always miss your live Q&A. I have so many questions for you. Thank you for all these insightful, helpful videos. You’ve saved my mental health.
Spot on Richard! Thank you!
I’m seeing they enjoy screaming and yelling as a way to gain power and control . Than they make excuses as to why they have to yell . It’s very evil to watch .
I just posted the following, on another related video: More often, than not... the narc (and/ or psychopath) will use "projection," to induce 'splitting...' and 'cognitive dissonance,' then utilize "reactive abusive" on say their children, or a younger sibling, for example... in order to get THEM (the one/s generally 'split...' then projected upon, gaslit, guilt- tripped, blamed and shamed, etc.) to then say: "See, you ARE... the problem! You act like a 2, 3, 4 year old!!"
Narc mothers and fathers routinely do THIS... to their children! Then the older (and/ or perhaps also younger?) sibling/s would in turn 'repeat' this tactic, in order to "scapegoat" the 'targeted' individual/s! I see this even with a friend of the family's older and younger sister, against the middle one... and she is now, 78! (The mother was a 5- 6/6 NPD neglectful, gaslighting, etc. covert narc school teacher who taught the 4th grade for decades... then treated her own daughters, horribly... so the other two became covert narcs, as well !)
Narcissists feel depleted, weak & ashamed unless they can experience intense anger, conflict & a powerful sense of righteousness which allows them to dish out disproportionate & extreme performative punishment. This feeds them for a short time until they again need to manufacture further conflict to release rage to overcome feelings of weakness & shame.
Well said!! Thank you!
Hey buddy, been following since street fight days, before conspiracy theory caught up and became conspiracy reality. Ah, the good ‘ol days lol… anyways, just want to say hi and my wife now listens to you as well. A few yrs ago we went no contact with her parents after her mom tried to get our kids taken from us. Everything worked out but it sent my wife on a journey to figure out her past and place within her family unit. She was, of course, the black sheep. Thanks for all the info over the yrs and hope u r well buddy👍💪👍💪👍💪
Oh this helps explain an online interaction I had recently. Where I was like "wtf where is this combative energy coming from?" I'll just block in future when someone does that.
Here's a good one I read. Say this to see if someone is a narcissist. "You will get what you deserve." A good and decent human will appreciate the thought. A narcissist will not. Because they know all of the harm they have deliberately caused.
I used to say that, until he paid off the court's prosecutor and judge...
Hello Richard you brilliant, gorgeous bastard. Observing how your appearance has changed over the years, and enjoying how articulate, focused and spot on you are with regard to the topics you deconstruct, made me seek out a nutritionist, medical doc then endocrinologist. For TRT. At 46, I never could have fathomed just how utterly _oblivious_ I was and had always been to the fact of how much better I could have felt. Unbelievable. I've much respect for your presentation and for the way you interact with your guests on your philosophy channel. Not to mention the content. 🧠. Many thanks.
Thank you for this message.
I appreciate you SO much!!
Oh my freaking gosh thank you about the trolling. 👏🏻 I used to think it was funny and harmless, and maybe in certain contexts it can be, but MY GOD does it get ugly quick. This was one of the most brutal aspects of my own experience, not just because of how hurtful people became towards me, but because I found myself acting the same way in response. Which was fking with my SOUL, and I could feel it!! 👎🏻
Meanwhile, Dr. Destructo kicks back and revels in the glorious chaos and vitriol being spewed as a result of his triangulation.
On the flip side, because the damage was SO extreme, it became super obvious to me (over time) that the environment had become a toxic wasteland and I was able to see my exit as an exodus rather than exile. ☺️
Love that you brought this up!! 🗣
Excellent video and thought process
Thank you so much. I think the way the world is being led at the moment, over the last four years etc seems to have given me PTSD. I just felt like I was, or am in an abusive relationship, but it is with the government, the media, the pharmaceutical companies and the food companies.... It all feels so overwhelming to be fair. So when anyone actually talks about it, how I am feeling it, it gives a moment of reprieve x
And it’s not just the narcissists anymore. Many of the ‘empaths’ and codependents that the narcs traumatised haven’t healed, so they get triggered and hostile at the drop of a hat thinking vitriolic like ‘I’ve seen this before!’ and go to war where they could just keep scrolling or walk on.
Hearing a Brit nail the California valley accent is top tier. *chef’s kiss* 👌🏻
No woder we in the Caribbean still follow the British❤.Always thought he was Russion😂😂😂😂😂.lol.
I literally have no words! You have answered the one most puzzling question I’ve always had about my NEX!!! He used to troll (and control) people online and I came across some of it and thought WTF. I have never been so jaw dropped. confused, boggled, stunned in my life at the WHY. Why would he attack people online. What for. Thank you thank you thank you for giving my mind peace!
Very thankful that I've woken up to many levels of the Narcissistic relationships not to mention self awareness.
So true for myself.❤
26:25 " Everybody is talking tolerance and doing none of it."
I've only ever seen intolerance from the day i popped out at the start of the 1990s lol even when that was a much better time it was still there otherwise so many of us still wouldn't be living with our parents in our 30s and 40s right about now. Literally in the review i made of my local college i said "there is so much intolerance to different ways of thinking".
Richard. Thank you for sharing your strenght. It mean alot for me.
Lmao at the slightly effeminate Californian-American narcissist impression. 😂
For example: The W. Hollywood and SFO Bay Area (the thinly masked "undertone," and intuitive "impression" is most definitely "effeminate." (And I'd also venture to say at least 80% "Cluster B?") Until 2017ish, I got MANY thumbs- up from them(selves) for pointing this OUT... before YT (i.e. the N$AI = Alphabet "intel insider") E$G / police, began ghosting and redacting ALL related comments, like everything else... that doesn't "FIT, their false 'reality' paradigm, Cluster Ber mind controlled but faltering... Matrix!
Dude... the end! Lol 🤣❤
I knew something wasn't right when she would sit in the garden with her two mates, laughing loudly and cooking huge pots of awful looking soup, late at night.. She would deliberately provoke arguments by wearing a riduculous tall pointed hat whenever we went out. She played mind games by hiding the broom when she went to work. The final straw came when she ignored my birthday and stayed out all night on October the 31st. If only I had joined the dots and realised that she was pain in @£&= earlier.
i got to hear about half of the jolly heretic epidode, then had to leave for work. Wasnt shocked that it was gone by the time i returned😆 i am american and it was interesting to hear how our politics look to other people, i liked the honesty! Refreshing.
I started it but then it was gone. Where can I hear it, I wonder 🤔
Though I'm not your constant "follower", thank you very much
I just got up this morning with similar questions and wonderings in my head about it... And your video was right on time for me (I live in Jerusalem, Israel)...
You put some very important points to what I felt, but I had no words yet to express it.... And you gave me some additional information to think about it... I hope it will be useful for me....
Thank you
Praying for you and yours, dear.
😂😂I I’m crying those last minutes Richard I try for bbbrreeaaathhhing😂bless u❤
Wow. This was a great listen. So true! Hits home.
Last 15 minutes were pure gold 😊
Richard... you are brilliant. And a hoot!!😂
This is the best video you've ever done Richard our kid, I don't need to say why cos the video speaks for itself.
Keep fighting the good fight.
God bless you.
Saint Anger
This has reminded me of the statement made by Michael Caine's character, Alfred when he says to Bruce Wain in 'The Dark Knight' Batman film of the Joker's motivations:
"Some people just like to watch things burn".
I know someone who is happier in conflict and drama, he over-reacts to minor disagreements, such as me not wanting to watch a film he is watching, and would then accuse me of loving the drama when I stood up for myself in the face of his rage.
His emotional dysregulation was off the scale to such an extent I thought I was going mad just for expressing my likes and dislikes and expressing my needs.
I know what a healthy relationship is and could see that wasn't it, so I ended it, he tells people he ended the relationship, SO much projection and delusion by him, not to mention paranoia, self-centredness, etc, etc.
Feel so much calmer without him in my life, I can well understand why people in such relationships develop auto-immune disorders.
Thanks for your videos, using humour and making them human, after such an experience grounding is essential.
Wow, thank you, Richard
I am learning so much. I feel you are spot on! Most scary. Therefore, they are born this way. God bless you
Ive never seen you this funny before Richard. You really make me feel my sence of sanity again.
That’s a reason why we use Sanskrit . No or less preconceived ideas on the word but there’s just the meaning. Thanks for your ideas. You’ve helped so much
A narcissist knows nothing else of life other than but to exist is hostile. To them existence IS hostile. They know nothing else, so to live in hostility is natural. For some people, calm, peace, and silence brings absolute discomfort - a feeling like the other shoe will drop at any moment. It's unbearable. Narcissists feel like this without hostility - they require it to not be more (anxious, troubled, etc) than they already are. It's as if hostility, and the creation of it in their environs, not only restores their equilibrium, it feeds them.
That's why I believe people like Jordan Peterson are so obsessed with suffering. The world is hostile, so suffer upwards through it no matter what and try to reach this ideal heroic representation of what we think perfection looks like (Christ, some Greek God etc.). An ideal which is unattainable which will give us meaning and invigorates our will to suffer even more. Because the snakes are waiting and you better have your sword ready.
This mindset always irked me a bit. And now, I can see why. There is this grandiosity which is involved in it. "I am doing God's work". "My path is the path of a hero". "Others are NPC's, I am the only real character in this game". All really narcissistic attitudes to have. It is no wonder to me that this grandiosity and appearance of nobility attracted lots of young men who lack any kind of initiation ritual and want to be somebody. Those narcissistic messages will stick like glue within such a vacuum. The question I asked myself is why this showmanship around it? I can't imagine a more peaceful person than a person silently meditating on a cushion and not talking about it. Is a person constantly yapping about meditation peaceful? The same with nobility. Is attaching your ego to a noble cause and broadcasting it worldwide actually noble? Doesn't nobility require some sort of letting go of that concept? What do I mean? Am I being noble if I help another person to feel better about myself, to tell all my friends about it and to make social media posts about it, or, and that's the worst, to gain more power in the world? Or is it not better if I don't care about these grandiose ideas and just help because I am a decent human being and have empathy for others? Isn't just being human and exchanging a simple smile a better and more truthful way to go?
What really gets me are the justifications around this mindset of constant hostility and suffering. The notion is that we are constantly victimised, a narcissistic view of the world. And that means that people have no choice other than embark on this journey filled with grandiosity and heroism. In other words, they are helpless victims. Peterson has no choice other than say all these outrageous things because he is victimised and the hero's journey is one of suffering meaning that any resistance towards him is a sign of that heroic suffering everybody is talking about. What I learned from Buddhism is that if you constantly get bitten by snakes, it's your fault. You lack wisdom. You don't need to hate snakes, you don't need to bring weapons or burn the forest down; just walk around them. Alright, the path isn't straight anymore but that's life.
These people seem to see heroism in wanting shortcuts in life, getting bitten by snakes and then creating grandiose stories out if it by applying this mindset of constant suffering and being a strong person in the midst of getting bitten by snakes while refusing to abandon the shortcut. While all this mess is going on, some people in some Buddhist monestary are just peacefully meditating and smiling in the morning when the sun comes up. Isn't this absurd?
Like my "mother" and now I have it in me
I sometimes get the impression that inside their heads is nothing but negativity and feelings of insults form their past. They blame the people in their present for it. They cannot live with all the slights and insults they have lived with over the years so they need to take it out on people in their present. Many of those slights and insults were probably inferred rather than real.
@@Antonocon yes, my own dad asked me "what are you scared of out there?" When referring to why I don't just get up and travel. I'm not scared, I medically can't drive. It's not that easy to get around. It takes a lot of planning and I struggle with that part and kept asking for help from the wrong person clearly.
This was my grandmother, who was living with us as I was growing up. If things were going too peacefully in the family and everybody else was happy for too long (more than 2-3 days), she would deliberately go around and provoke other family members with intrusive questions or random accusations, until one of us finally broke and gave her the screaming match she was actually looking for. Reassured in her belief that everyone was utterly mean to her, she would then sulk with relish for hours, until she finally snapped out of it and everyone had to pretend that nothing ever happened, or else. Rinse and repeat every few days. I always used to think: "That woman cannot stand peace, not if her life depended on it."
My parents kept living with her long after I moved out, and they never stopped taking her emotional baits, until she died at the age of 98, when my parents themselves were almost retired.
Well done Richard, great video :)
The last 10 mins!😂so funny!🤣
I haven’t watched you for a while. This was very interesting and entertaining. Thank you
Love your content Richard. I followed you for years. I've been away from watching videos about narcissism but once in a while I want to hear something intelligent and intertaining. This did not disappoint 😂
"To those about to ROCK! I salute you!"
Man sorry that last one was removed, was a good discussion 🤘
The channel is really for people looking to heal narcissistic abuse, we went too far away from that this time.
I appreciated your support in the comment section.
@@RICHARDGRANNON well those ideologically infected ones that complained I doubt are in that category... they just like to police peoples speech and it works unfortunately.
@camdogtaek Agreed!💯 Was sad to see this video disappear too!
@@RICHARDGRANNON Richard, I understand your concern, yet humor is the best medicine... maybe continue these conversations with Ed on your philosophy channel.
Additionally, I'm GenX too (and a woman) and definitely agree on that we're replaying old issues from the 80s and 90s that we as a society long ago overcame. Division tactics being utilized once again.
Don't let the Narchons get you down!
Richard, please keep up the brilliant work!🔥
@@KrystalVortex42 "NARChons?" I LOVE it! (I thought I'd coined "NARCopaths," until I saw it was used prior, to describe Socios, vs. Narcissistic Psychos!) And that is completely "appropriate," if one understands what the Narconosphere PTB (IH$ cult) mind Matrixster TEMPLAR$ were heavily "influenced" by! (Gnosticism, and the Assassins, as two examples!!)
This video was so good Richard. 👋Thank you for sharing your insights. 💕
Hi Richard.....getting the silent treatment from my mom again!.....what a bore, and now my aunt has stopped contacting me....years later and still the same games...she will never heal, ticks too many criteria checks for npd....time to grey rock again. Oh well, got a solo trip to Tuscany planned soon to recalibrate :-)
Once I had friend she told" I can make same yewlery as you but I won't.".I was like what?!I knew at that point she isn't friend
Wow, that video is insightful.
Im so sorry... but OMG hahahaha i have never laughed so much. Last segment was fantastic 😂😂 Thank you, for all you do 👍👍👍
Richard, I discovered you in 2018. Keep up with making it CLEAR.
Me, too--in 2018! And thank gawd! Oh, to think of where I'd be without his imparting his knowledge, and making me laugh!
Your the best 😊✌️ and I have healed faster because of your help . Body image is my weakness from the abuse
After a broke up a year go, still being accused at the german police station(of course false accusations), but the police has to do their jobs.... today received an Instagram follow request of his newq supply. The combative aspect is real and scary. I feel like i should hide, but there's no secure place in this sick world 😢😢😢
I'm seeking dual citizenship--leaving the country may help--I hope it will at least. My NPD has the police furious he's not in jail; but, bc paying off a narcissistic court worked twice, I'm not even allowed to file a police report while bloody, made me realize I've got little choice here.
I love when you do the mocking tone. I use it on myself when I start seeing myself doing that action. Even if the action is just in my head. Helps me to stop acting that way.
Mentally picturing the Embroidery Ironwo(man) Showdown 😂
Bwhahaahaaha!
I laughed so hard when you said, "Narrrrrcissssissst." Lmao.
Perfect explanation of our media
We need more comedy with these lessons Fer sure! Even narcs will laff
Richard, I adore listening to you. Now call your sister!❤
OMG, he said "gaslit" instead of "gaslighted"
“Running the world is not that hard “😂
Chaos is their middle name 😮 lol
Cant we just split from the narcissist community and just create our own world?
It starts with infividuaks
Humility is everything.
I’ve had these EXACT thoughts about the world and the personalities of world leaders etc
13:33 Thank you.
I too am the rarest, (even more rare for a female), on the Meyers-Briggs test. No wonder I feel you get me, Richard! I'd wondered that actually, when I took it in 2018 & around that same time started to watching/listening/reading your content...
Why can't they live thier life
Why have they no life
It's bizarre
Such a trip man. Brilliant and so relatable. Grannon=Useful 3000
This society rewards dysfunction. '' The world doesn't owe you anything'' as you said, agree, if only my ex knew that, although , he may do now.
This Brit has the best American accents. I’ll allow it.
Narc across the road
Getting thier mail sent to my house no mistake number very different
Grandson knocked on my door he said do u mind if my parcel comes to your house I said send it to your house not mine?
The last part had me cackling lmao
Meditation competitions? 😂😂😂
How would that even work?! 😂
Who can om the loudest? like in x factor trying to find out who can hold the longest and highest note. Can you imagine what that sounds like in meditation?😂and whoever is impressed by that is far too easily impressed.
I know! Thought the same thing! What is it?
"...who can 'sit in silence' the longest"??
Total bullshit!
Hell! Maybe they roll people's brain under a P.E.T. scan, and "view" who's maintaining a theta state of mind the longest? It's sick!
I thought we could avoid delete but... for a while now we've all been learning about them, experiencing being controlled by them all our lives. We must know and stand and be able to negotiate , with the potential to break the curse they've had over our world.
From what i saw in the education system especially during the last course i did at my local college that i will ever do anywhere directly in that system, they make things so complicated and hard on purpose, like they had us write down literally everything and then the questions on the worksheets were worded in such a way that made it difficult to understand and take you 30 mins or more until someone pulls you aside and reads it out for you a few times, if it ever happens. Then they use this to undermine, label, and ostracized by trying to say because you don't understand 1 question that isn't at all written in plain english then you must have some sort of developmental disability or just straight up demented. How on earth is that allowed to be used as a basis for disabilities or anything else?.
I once even tried to suggest an online app that simplifies text and the lecturer came back and said "it's cheating" because no doubt her bosses wouldn't allow it and made her say that. There was even an article about my local college about how students used sites like this to change the questions into plain english making it out like they were big time cheating, when it doesn't matter. It's the same question and saves a lot of time and how the questions should really be posed when you've never done it before we're a noob at it, so why isn't it?. They don't want you saving time they want you to sit there fumbling over yourself and to not progress and my local college doesn't let people take anything home either which is a major red flag again and if you ask it's complete distrust again saying "it's cheating because you'll probably go online and cheat" meanwhile they let us search things online in class under their supervision, am i in a cult now? lol.
I'm permanently thrown into disabilities classes because of this happening all the time in primary school and high school before that and the worst is english classes that really makes you deconstruct everything, but why should i be made to fight harder than anyone else?. I couldn't go back anyway not that i want to because somebody has made sure to give this impression that i have some kind of developmental disability and nobody will see me any differently. They would have also seen the report i did a test that included a Rorschach test during my last year of primary school where the lady finally asked "is it possible she could be on the higher iq?" the only person who ever asked. But even after that nobody would acknowledge it and carry on with the story i could be developmentally disabled instead. Why did i stay in that for 18 years? i couldn't tell you exactly i guess just hope and still believing the promises of gaining something from it.
So you have to be 100% aware of this anywhere and this taught me if someone refuses to explain something in plain english only in complicated tongues then they're trying to undermine. The whole system is setup that way and it's all about "how can i trick the system?" but that shouldn't be a basis of how our world functions or how we as humans function but it's giving people no choice in various ways to do that. One of the things i learned to do was how to explain things in plain english so everyone can understand it doesn't change who i am and it isn't just done to make things easy for people to understand but it's also the honest and right thing to do.
The moment i understood that is when i got why jack o'neill in stargate is always written to say out loud "hello! plain english?" lol he acts numb but hmm far from it, oh yes he understand but it wouldn't be fair not to would it? and i think i'm going to put that to great use there's always room for a bit of that me thinks. I take it that's why we started seeing all the "transparency" stuff but i still don't understand, indeed it's always being combative and trying to get you to be very combative back to them.
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Thanks Richard.
I are with you Richard
Many people I know are aware how sick the powers that be are and how much chsnge is needed...from indoctrination within our US educational system to how politics are a game that's played....
When the screen froze with your fun making smile at 48.29 lol, funny
At last someone is telling the truth about suffering and bs in 'spiritual' beliefs about it.
narsathaaaaaathst 🤣🤣🤣
Mysticism is the ideology behind chaos magic.....
narcs dont see others as ops necessarily. they consider their harassment as "help".
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Hey Richard, I asked a question about inversions last night on live. What I am experiencing is the negative mirror of his thoughts put on to me and pressured by gaslighting with questions of insane stupidness, coming across as 'I need to understand him that he does not understand me' He also plays the game of asking me what I said to make me repeat so he can interrupt and change the format. He orchestrates everything, ghosts, moans, lies continually, I have lost my nerves with him. ANy advice. I am on the healing journey and acknowledge the mirroring. He is my mum in child hood. Very, very bitchy. With out any doubt he is a vulnerable N. I have died here and revived again and again and again. Thank you for last night, listening now and learning always.
Yeah their energy, behaviors, and emotions get transferred into you and start to sort of mirror them because they're so dysregulating and overwhelming all the time, so you can't feel yourself under it and only feel all that they're giving off on top of how they treat you and gaslight all the time, they know the effect they have on people. The only way to stop any of this is just to leave and end that relationship because there's no changing them when they never want to change themselves. There's just nothing anyone can do for them.
You're NOT ALONE in this!
You’re on a roll today !
I am suffering with a malignant narcissistic young lawyer who is my new boss's son.
I want to resign but I need the little pay
“A house divided against itself cannot stand”
Perfect description of the DIE activists, anti-fa, woke-ism, etc.
With healing you can look at their behaviour and not be hurt by it. The scars remain but that difficult pain dulls. And then they can still try stuff and it doesn’t hurt. I knew I had healed when my ex could try to inflict pain through a new email and I could read it without even feeling anything. Instead I could think, ‘that’s projection’ or ‘that’s baiting’. Unfortunately he did then notch it up as I was immune to him so he made our son (who lived in my house most of the time) take on his behaviours. Not hugged our son for 2.5 years and I’m even learning slowly to heal from that.
So, so true .💯💌