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If the internet, youtube and Richard Grannon had existed when I was in my 20's, I wouldn't have wasted the majority of my life trying to please or help abusive people. I would have learned how to live my own life for me. I was born into a narcissistic family, and unconsciously continued my programming until my late 40's when I stumbled onto this kind of valuable information. I've spent the last 15 years growing up, recovering and learning how to take care of me.
I am 63 years old and my son says the same things you do about all this. Now I get it! Thanks for being transparent and not covering anyone- even yourself. Very good information.
My favorite line from Labyrinth is when Jennifer Connelly looks at David Bowie and simply says "you have no power over me." A perfect line, especially when dealing with toxic people.
If I start commenting, I could go on and on... so, . Trust in God. He has a good plan. Not to harm, to prosper you in your future. Evil wants you to be confused... ❤
He breaks it down so clearly. I love how he doesn’t hold back and is passionate when talking about what we all go through in these toxic relationships. It’s refreshing to just see someone talk about this with so much feeling. He knows what we are going through and what we have suffered. He gets us ❤!
@@gillianfrances yes he is hehe 😉. What I want to know if there are actual places for victims of narc abuse to like meet in person, share experiences, and form bonds. I feel so alone with my experience. I feel so alienated at times because barely anyone around me understands or has experienced what us victims have 😔.
My therapist always told me, can you change any of it, is it in your power to change this person. Eventually that led me to realize over time that I can only change myself and have to have boundaries, so I can protect myself from harm and the shortest distance to go to protect myself against evil people is not letting them in. Or at first letting them be. It took some time to come back to myself and make me the priority. Thanks Mr Grannon, you helped tremendously in staying....or becoming sane and more focused than I ever was. The inner process is still and will be in progress, but it becomes easier with all the peace and quiet you acquired from enforcing healthier boundaries
I was trolled for a year over the phone about how wonderful my retirement in the dungeon would be..."come here, work from home" First year, strange, figured it was simply an adjustment period for me. Then the monster showed up. I learned there was no reasonable conversations or solutions allowed. I saw the satisfaction in the monsters face when they'd rage & scare me. Because my resources were zero. I could only pack quietly & pray. It was a beautiful clean escape. The rants were 🎯🎯🎯 I'm glad I can laugh now.
I can't believe how those experiences are similar to my situations. It has been pure scary horror film and the narc is still living in that world. I was very tempted to talk to the narc if he was aware that those videos were talking exactly about what they were. If they were not the real narcissist, they would be able to watch those videos but unfortunately the real narc refuse this video. They will ignore and start accusing people who talk about him or this type of video, condemning they are useless, cursed, all kinds of accusing words they can use. I am so relieved to see the other people who understand what I had gone through.
Shameless prey on the "shamed" who are vulnerable having been driven from the family/tribe/et al, for trying to live according to the doctrines of human decency. Bafflement sets in early and leads eventually to despair/hopelessness which becomes learned helpless behavior which will crystallize into neuroses along the neurotic spectrum, ultimately ending in self destruction trying to end the pain. Those who know how to get free show the way or go back under. Help is everywhere once you say ENOUGH. WE are the resistance. ❤
When your soulmate becomes your cellmate ..and you experience ...... gas lighting ,cognitive dissonance, projection, blame shifting ,disloyalty ,pathological lies . I finally escaped my Machiavellian Sociopath.
It helps to hear others stories about being sucked in by a narcissist, then realizing the insanity of it and then ending it and doing the best you can to not give up on yourself for allowing it to happen or repeating it over again. I remember asking my husband at one point why he didn't find someone like himself instead of destroying me, his answer was oh no he didn't want anyone like him. Good God! That told me everything I needed to know! Thanks for the chatter LOL
It's because if he meets someone worse than him it could lead to an ego death and they're terrified of what that could do because they're used to living this way for years.
Peace through Forgiveness. “Forgive and you shall be Forgiven.” God Saved me from the Narc I married..before I knew such thing. He divorced me and married someone else. I was Safe and Free! 😊❤
I remember once in a conversation with the narc director I felt this intense sense of self hatred and I knew in this moment that was his own hate of his self. It was so thick around them, like a dense black cloud. It was something else. I don't envy them.
F**king brilliant video, RG! 😂 The hardest thing for me has been accepting that my mother (covert narcissist, imo) didn’t love me 😢 I've come to understand how her childhood caused her to become the way she is, BUT, I'll never understand how she could treat a little child the way she treated me! Cold, cruel, self-centred b*tch! 🤬 Is it any wonder I believed the loving words & gestures (lies) & glitter-rolled bs an ex "soul mate" (😉) showered on me? The marriage proposal, amazing sex, etc etc. Any little girl's dream come true, right? I didn’t walk into a cold, dark dungeon. Before I entered, I fantastically gave the place a full light, bright reno and cheerfully bestowed a crown upon his head & handed him the keys to my heart & our magical future together! 😜 Uuugh! 🤦♀️ I've literally recently had to yell at myself, as you said, "Stop abandoning yourself!" It's what I've done all my life.
I have been in the narc's dungeon for decades and didn't know that it was so I was extremely frustrated. As he mentioned, it was exactly true that the narc 'programmed' me to choose his dungeon over heaven. They are like first class CIA agent who knows how to manipulate people. They can hypnotize you so that you make decision that you enter their dungeon and stay there and believe it is real. Now I know their script, I am almost out from it! It is one of the best things that I am going through recently.
Wow. Minute 14:00>> ...I needed that heart pounding trigger. Dungeon master indeed. Jesus Christ I can hardly believe I'm here and not there. Thank you. Sincerely. ❤
The heartbreak morphs into resolve and then steel which reinforces the will and purpose driven behavior unlocks confidence and right action. If you do your work you WILL change the world in ways you need not know but will feel. Thus peace becomes possible for more and more and more... Meaningful work.☮️
Do you ever stop and think how unprecedented it is to finally have the tools to see narcissism? I don't think the world has ever been in this position before, with millions of people discovering and discussing personality-caused suffering (finally!!!) 👍❤
yes! It is unbelievable in a way that these people who have been abused by the narcs are coming out and can share their experiences. I thought I was very attached and so close to the narc but it was series of scary events and curses. I needed escape in desperate state and I came to those channels. The time of the narc being 'most superior' and 'intelligent' might be over because those people who are aware of who they are are stronger than ever. We will not be fooled by their dirty tactics any longer. This video is so on point, exactly what I needed to hear!
Yes, NPD said to me, ‘All you ever wanted was for me to love you.’ That was my clarity which catapulted me into healing big time. I’ve watched your TH-cam channel for years Richard and the transformation you’ve gone through is so inspiring. Thank you so much 😊 It’s a different world now, I bloody brilliant one 😀
I dont know what I would do without you and your courage and intellegence to analyse this from so many angles and be funny too. Its a process, living ! All the influences we have and then meeting other people and thier conditioning. I am learning how to be different in my attitudes. Im signing up for more therapy because Im beginning to be able to look round the corners of the problems I have.. Thankyou
I believe all people have an internal sense of right and wrong. There is no excuse to be cruel to others for any reason. I feel we all have a right to defend ourselves, but not to be intentionally cruel. It’s inexcusable. Cruelty is evil in action. We all make choices and are in charge of our own behavior. Our personal behavior is our own personal responsibility. Narcs are evil in action.
Walking away from my ex narc partners was easy even though at the time I had never heard the word narcissism I was in a cycle of if I’m not happy I’m out of here . But walking away from my own mother was hard and took me many years of my life until I realised what she was then it was necessary for my mental health and to me that came first .
A covert narcissist seeks help for her anxiety, depression and feelings of shame. Will then her therapist 1) identify her as a C.N. ? and if so 2) inform/confront her about it? My cnex's therapist identified her as a "high sensitivity person". Out now since about a year. Thank you Richard for speaking publicly about narcissism. This topic is not enough discussed publicly.
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"An oubliette - a world that gets smaller and weirder..." Spot on metaphor, this is EXACTLY how I have defined the nature of the dynamic in the relationship with a Narc. My EX Person is a diagnosed ASPD person.
I remember, out of the nearly 3 decades I was in a marriage with a toxic person, who had a terrible childhood and I always gave him that as "Excuse" for his treatment me, I was slowly realising in the ladt decade, that I really needed to get out. I went to a pyschic fair with my girlfriends at a winery, and there was a lady who had a one card tarot reading you could do. The deck was the fairy tarot, and the card she drew was "Phooka". She looked at me, and said with all seriousness, "You have a VERY negative male energy around you and you need to get out, or this energy will destroy you". I knew it was true. But yet I stayed. 7 years later, he punched me in face bc the dog shit on the floor and he was mad. This wasnt the first time he had been physical with me, but it was the worst, up to that time. I called the cops on him, he was arrested, and I moved out, finally. It took him punching me in the face, to get me to leave. And my life keeps getting better every day! 🙏 Thank you for your cheeky humour and intelligent discussion of relationships with danaged people snd what it does to us ❤️
Narcissism can so easily be confused with other mental illnesses, which is why it's so confusing. For example, my ex and his mother told me that he suffered from depression. His mother felt so sorry for him and thanked me for making him so happy. So- his moodiness I had attributed to depression. Because I was supplying him with love, support, and so forth- he was elated- happy and loving back to me. So when he was "moody"- it registered as depression. This is how we are so easily confused. I'm sure his mother is confused still. I got out years ago- but the damage persists. I'm feeling very happy and like myself- but you never really understand what was real and what was false. It takes years to not think about the narc. Thankfully- I've had many days where he doesn't enter into my mind, but for years it was constant rumination and trying to make sense of things.
Nice brother...I was trapped in that "what if it's not her fault" trap, while being stabbed in the back after being punched in the face for almost a year...halas
Limited selfworth drives the whole thing. So the empath takes fake love because he is so afraid of being not loved at all when this "compromise" is rejected. The empath takes this "impossible " love as a task to become an even "better person". The parents who lay that ground early on are a huge part of it still, unfortunately - even if people go no contact- the "programming" is not easy to resolve.
Thank you. I chose the shorter , intense pain (to the point of feeling like I’m dying) after the breakup , it was hell for 5 months and then it quickly began to ease off. It’s the most difficult thing to realize and make yourself accept that you’ve spent two decades living in a weird dream state and it was all a lie.
Agreed! We have time for healing journeys. We want so badly to heal everyone we come into contact with for the purpose of lifting ourselves out of this predicament. It is not fair to remain inside of confusion when we were meant to rise above it all. Being here and sharing together our plight is paramount. Parents not having the ability to express love AND on top of that a presumed partner (going on 7 years) adds to the injury as we keep filling it with temporary soothing agents that actually deepen the pain. Things are improving with time. Trying out a new treatment such as growing a knowledge base has been of true benefit. We know the next steps…life is for growth. Ditch the habit of repeating the hurts! Become a warrior you were meant to be. Stop with watching movies and bring your inner child to the party. Know you were meant for greatness. In fact, God made you perfect in every way. The blinders are coming off. Now that feels real and fits us like a glove. Stand up tall and deliver your messages. Live in the right. Pledge to yourself that you have it in you. Social media will not allow for your new self to be released without you doing your part. Thanks to Richard Grannon and so many others for revealing it ALL. Transformation is taking place in leaps and bounds. Join the masses who won’t be denied their birthright. THE TIME IS NOW❤
Ah, still can’t believe it took me 5 years to ask him to leave… nobody would believe the childish and malevolent stuff endured, I’ve accepted that it’s enough that I know in my own mind what went down. God bless you for sharing Richard, so helpful 🙏
Omg. Mine made a script from so many comments like these. He told me I was a narcisscist! That sent me down the TH-cam rabbithole. After I got over the shock of seeing that he was playing this out TO A TEE (?)!, phase 2 was psychological fascination (short lived😅), phase 3 telling our therapist that I abused him!😮?!?!?, dramatic discard, phase 4 anger at myself for being duped, phase 5 forgiving myself and loooooooooong healing road, clearly still on it as I am here.
I was always told that I wasn’t normal. I was “un normal”. Every time I thought to myself, that isn’t even a word, but it still effected me greatly. My children weren’t normal either. In the beginning of recovery, I actually wrote lines over and over saying, “you are normal”, because that line, “you’re not normal”, played relentlessly in my head for at least a year post. And ironically, before him, I was, like a lot of people, proud of my individuality and not being “normal”. (ie: not like everyone else)
I get this all the time from people "you're so weird you're such a freak you aren't normal" literally said behind my back, right there whispering to each other, or right to my face from a lot of messed up people. I even had a new girl that was deaf in high school call me a bitch for not learning sign language for her when frankly i didn't understand much back then. These people love picking on neurodivergent people because they know we're more vulnerable not being able to "fit in" so well so less allies to run to and get help from. It's always been difficult being neurodivergent but people believe all kinds of preconceived notions and biases that are so false. If you're on the "gifted" spectrum they believe we can look at something just once and magically understand it all when frankly even someone with photographic memory sure... they can remember what they saw right away but doesn't mean they understand what they saw there's a difference between seeing and understanding. But apparently not to a lot of other people out there because they've believed in that idea of us for so long that anything we tell them must be us lying to them and trying to sabotage them so they could never be that, which is crazy because you can't just decide to be that so the jealousy is completely baseless and unfounded, clearly we go through struggles when there's THAT going on with people but they just say we're just complaining and should feel lucky. No i don't feel lucky when i'm met with people like that when i've had to learn to understand it all by myself because nobody would explain it to me on purpose so they could abuse me and whack me over the head with what i don't know or understand. I wouldn't change it for the world either though because of how frequently i even surprise myself and those are some of the best moments and the depth at which i can understand things is amazing. So no matter what anyone does never feel bad about being neurodivergent in whatever way you are no matter how people perceive it you know they're crazy.
57/58 mins in spot on ! Thanks Richard. In the dungeon , reminds me of the Stevie Nicks video , I can't wait. We freed ourselves, and we found this crazy online community/outlet. My step mother once said you can't live somebody else's life for them. Keep well everybody.
Funny how many of us refer to it as escaping. I see so many people posting the time frame of their escape, like they do at alcohol support meetings. 3 months escaped, 6 weeks escaped, 10 days escaped etc ... It really does feel like a dungeon prison with no release date.
lol happy to see this is new. Nice rants with the extreme truths in between. :D Do. Not. Stop. Laughing. Also, your dungeon is pretty interesting and entertaining.. dangerous. Lucky you keep the door off the hinges and are handing out universal keys. ;) All kidding aside, the point you made about how it's none of our business what the narcissist went through, etc., when it comes to being mistreated, is golden. Keep on rockin in the free world.
Discovering who they really are it’s possible to evolve in a crazy mental state but you are giving us good advice to avoid Madness . Changing the narrative of the story is the key.
JP actually helped me to find what is important in life You help me to understand narcissistically sick people, in order to avoid/manage them We all need each other
Thank you for finding some humor in such a dark topic. I haven't laughed in awhile. Watching this video actual made me laugh out loud as you were sharing your experience. You are such a precious soul.
Everything you've said in the last month or 2 has absolutely freakin saved me.. so for that I thank you sir ❤ I've escaped the dungeon and with my sense of humor in tact.. you're totes hilar 😂
What makes the NPD so evil is his complete mockery, invalidation, and disregard of my core self, which comes from God. There is no feasible excuse for his behavior. Yes, he will have to answer to the light. Sucks to be him.
He told me recently. I am God…. In response to my returning to my catholic roots… “God sent me to you!”…then taking on the Power role as he has me “hooked.” It’s the physical he needs to feed off AND never show that he is capable of not hurting me. It is called spewing out word salad and confusion the $&ck out of my longing for his love to be reciprocated. I abandon myself each time (so spot on!) in order to rescue the Covert Narc. Practice walking out of this performance with that final curtain! It is getting easier…they have a fear of being caught and a greater fear of death. News flash: I am paying back taxes for not reporting -deficiency-because the power played out was to stay hush!!! No way! I am not donating to our government because of the spell I was under. Getting my things in order is the only path left today. Tomorrow will be another breakthrough.
I always remembered a line from my dad, a whole life ex-military guy, that sometimes the only way out of something is to go right into it. I like to visualise how surfers go under waves to get through them & out to the back when paddling out 😎
I always blamed myself for being an idiot and repeatedly getting into these relationships. But when watching horror movies about posession- I never blame the possessed only the demon who possesses them. My narc is my demon. I am not an idiot, I am possessed and he is my demon.
What's really nice is when you realize you no longer care. Then you get to the point you go weeks and don't even think of them...then it turns into years.
Same! 13 years. Mines never had any family contact her.. I believe they may have disowned her. Still have no idea if she really was who she told me she was.
Richard, I remember waxing poetic about how I felt like I was wandering blind through an unpredictable labyrinth, looking for treasure that might or might not exist. My person told me that was the best thing they had ever heard… Chilling
lol you hash tag triggered me into a memory right at the same time … my mother kept me in her underworld and convinced me. Wa having the best time of my life
Submitting to the reality that it was never real, it was all a big act and you were just an extra wandering the set, not the main or supporting actor. But you still exited stage left by getting hooked around the neck with that long cane thing😂
Richard, NOT my Name but ex narc husband called me Crazy Carly throughout the marriage. It was hurtful and he just laughed about it. I tried to make the Divorce a Conscious Uncoupling while he hid all of the money. I am elder, this is his punishment for me after numerous other punishments over time. I wish I could have protected my finances better so life would be easier now. You are accurate about these cruel con artists / psychopaths.
This was excellent, thank you for your service to everyone. Love all of it, but now in England as for the legalities, I’ve heard it’s changed a lot (and all western developed nations)
The narcissists are going to hate this one! 😇
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@@RICHARDGRANNON yes…lack of “spammyness” confirmed. Thank you for your time and thoughts
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@@pickle9753Excellent! Spammyness is icky. No me gusta! 😊
u make me laugh 😂🙌🏼
If the internet, youtube and Richard Grannon had existed when I was in my 20's, I wouldn't have wasted the majority of my life trying to please or help abusive people. I would have learned how to live my own life for me. I was born into a narcissistic family, and unconsciously continued my programming until my late 40's when I stumbled onto this kind of valuable information. I've spent the last 15 years growing up, recovering and learning how to take care of me.
It is painful to realize the time you wasted trying to please someone who is only there to take.
I hear you 🤗
35 years for me.
@@gypsyruth6336 Same
Me too!
I am 63 years old and my son says the same things you do about all this. Now I get it! Thanks for being transparent and not covering anyone- even yourself. Very good information.
It never ceases to amaze me how formulaic the narcissist’s behavior is. It is like watching the same mystery movie plot over and over again.
My favorite line from Labyrinth is when Jennifer Connelly looks at David Bowie and simply says "you have no power over me." A perfect line, especially when dealing with toxic people.
A very good line to remember & repeat.
I look at the narcissist I was with & can't believe I ever gave away my power to such an awful, funny little creature who now reminds me of Gollum.
If I start commenting, I could go on and on... so, . Trust in God. He has a good plan. Not to harm, to prosper you in your future. Evil wants you to be confused... ❤
Trust in the Narc in Chief? Lol
You are saving lives Mr Grannon. I thank you for providing this valuable knowledge that answers my suspicions. ❤❤❤
He breaks it down so clearly. I love how he doesn’t hold back and is passionate when talking about what we all go through in these toxic relationships. It’s refreshing to just see someone talk about this with so much feeling. He knows what we are going through and what we have suffered. He gets us ❤!
And he's very funny too.I love that.
@@gillianfrances yes he is hehe 😉. What I want to know if there are actual places for victims of narc abuse to like meet in person, share experiences, and form bonds. I feel so alone with my experience. I feel so alienated at times because barely anyone around me understands or has experienced what us victims have 😔.
My therapist always told me, can you change any of it, is it in your power to change this person. Eventually that led me to realize over time that I can only change myself and have to have boundaries, so I can protect myself from harm and the shortest distance to go to protect myself against evil people is not letting them in. Or at first letting them be. It took some time to come back to myself and make me the priority. Thanks Mr Grannon, you helped tremendously in staying....or becoming sane and more focused than I ever was. The inner process is still and will be in progress, but it becomes easier with all the peace and quiet you acquired from enforcing healthier boundaries
I was trolled for a year over the phone about how wonderful my retirement in the dungeon would be..."come here, work from home"
First year, strange, figured it was simply an adjustment period for me.
Then the monster showed up. I learned there was no reasonable conversations or solutions allowed. I saw the satisfaction in the monsters face when they'd rage & scare me.
Because my resources were zero. I could only pack quietly & pray.
It was a beautiful clean escape.
The rants were 🎯🎯🎯 I'm glad I can laugh now.
I can't believe how those experiences are similar to my situations. It has been pure scary horror film and the narc is still living in that world. I was very tempted to talk to the narc if he was aware that those videos were talking exactly about what they were. If they were not the real narcissist, they would be able to watch those videos but unfortunately the real narc refuse this video. They will ignore and start accusing people who talk about him or this type of video, condemning they are useless, cursed, all kinds of accusing words they can use. I am so relieved to see the other people who understand what I had gone through.
You have an amazing talent for painting extremely accurate depictions of what we go through in these relationships. Thank you so much.
Absolutely. Reminds me of my first marriage. It took years to realize he was a covert narcissist.
Shameless prey on the "shamed" who are vulnerable having been driven from the family/tribe/et al, for trying to live according to the doctrines of human decency. Bafflement sets in early and leads eventually to despair/hopelessness which becomes learned helpless behavior which will crystallize into neuroses along the neurotic spectrum, ultimately ending in self destruction trying to end the pain.
Those who know how to get free show the way or go back under.
Help is everywhere once you say ENOUGH.
WE are the resistance. ❤
When your soulmate becomes your cellmate ..and you experience ...... gas lighting ,cognitive dissonance, projection, blame shifting ,disloyalty ,pathological lies . I finally escaped my Machiavellian Sociopath.
It helps to hear others stories about being sucked in by a narcissist, then realizing the insanity of it and then ending it and doing the best you can to not give up on yourself for allowing it to happen or repeating it over again. I remember asking my husband at one point why he didn't find someone like himself instead of destroying me, his answer was oh no he didn't want anyone like him. Good God! That told me everything I needed to know! Thanks for the chatter LOL
It's because if he meets someone worse than him it could lead to an ego death and they're terrified of what that could do because they're used to living this way for years.
Both my parents are like that, cannot handle it, cannot run away, unbearable
Peace through Forgiveness. “Forgive and you shall be Forgiven.” God Saved me from the Narc I married..before I knew such thing. He divorced me and married someone else. I was Safe and Free! 😊❤
I remember once in a conversation with the narc director I felt this intense sense of self hatred and I knew in this moment that was his own hate of his self. It was so thick around them, like a dense black cloud. It was something else.
I don't envy them.
F**king brilliant video, RG! 😂 The hardest thing for me has been accepting that my mother (covert narcissist, imo) didn’t love me 😢 I've come to understand how her childhood caused her to become the way she is, BUT, I'll never understand how she could treat a little child the way she treated me! Cold, cruel, self-centred b*tch! 🤬 Is it any wonder I believed the loving words & gestures (lies) & glitter-rolled bs an ex "soul mate" (😉) showered on me? The marriage proposal, amazing sex, etc etc. Any little girl's dream come true, right?
I didn’t walk into a cold, dark dungeon. Before I entered, I fantastically gave the place a full light, bright reno and cheerfully bestowed a crown upon his head & handed him the keys to my heart & our magical future together! 😜 Uuugh! 🤦♀️
I've literally recently had to yell at myself, as you said, "Stop abandoning yourself!"
It's what I've done all my life.
Oh wow I can so relate to this.
Spot on! Whole life lived: past. Now: open book and ready for transformation. Thanks so much for your message❤❤❤❤
For the first time I've laughed about it. Thank you Richard. Humor is the sugar in the medicine. God bless.
I have been in the narc's dungeon for decades and didn't know that it was so I was extremely frustrated. As he mentioned, it was exactly true that the narc 'programmed' me to choose his dungeon over heaven. They are like first class CIA agent who knows how to manipulate people. They can hypnotize you so that you make decision that you enter their dungeon and stay there and believe it is real. Now I know their script, I am almost out from it! It is one of the best things that I am going through recently.
You break the addiction of unavailable people by being whole, in and of yourself.
Being yourself and not who narcissists demand will dispel and repel narcissists.
Wow. Minute 14:00>> ...I needed that heart pounding trigger. Dungeon master indeed.
Jesus Christ I can hardly believe I'm here and not there.
Thank you. Sincerely. ❤
The heartbreak morphs into resolve and then steel which reinforces the will and purpose driven behavior unlocks confidence and right action.
If you do your work you WILL change the world in ways you need not know but will feel.
Thus peace becomes possible for more and more and more...
Meaningful work.☮️
Thank you for your rant today - really appreciate your take on things ~ I actually feel so much better knowing I’m not alone 😉
This reminded me of the earlier years. You said what most of us are thinking. Thanks for being you, Richard. 😊
Do you ever stop and think how unprecedented it is to finally have the tools to see narcissism? I don't think the world has ever been in this position before, with millions of people discovering and discussing personality-caused suffering (finally!!!) 👍❤
yes! It is unbelievable in a way that these people who have been abused by the narcs are coming out and can share their experiences. I thought I was very attached and so close to the narc but it was series of scary events and curses. I needed escape in desperate state and I came to those channels. The time of the narc being 'most superior' and 'intelligent' might be over because those people who are aware of who they are are stronger than ever. We will not be fooled by their dirty tactics any longer. This video is so on point, exactly what I needed to hear!
Yes, NPD said to me, ‘All you ever wanted was for me to love you.’
That was my clarity which catapulted me into healing big time.
I’ve watched your TH-cam channel for years Richard and the transformation you’ve gone through is so inspiring. Thank you so much 😊
It’s a different world now, I bloody brilliant one 😀
I dont know what I would do without you and your courage and intellegence to analyse this from so many angles and be funny too. Its a process, living ! All the influences we have and then meeting other people and thier conditioning. I am learning how to be different in my attitudes. Im signing up for more therapy because Im beginning to be able to look round the corners of the problems I have.. Thankyou
it's like a haunted maze they take you to and you're left there alone
Very accurate analogy.
What a hoot!!! 😂 i haven’t laughed that hard for ages. I would happily sit through a whole video of Richards Rants 🎉🎉🎉😂❤
I was going to suggest that too!
I believe all people have an internal sense of right and wrong. There is no excuse to be cruel to others for any reason. I feel we all have a right to defend ourselves, but not to be intentionally cruel. It’s inexcusable. Cruelty is evil in action. We all make choices and are in charge of our own behavior. Our personal behavior is our own personal responsibility. Narcs are evil in action.
Walking away from my ex narc partners was easy even though at the time I had never heard the word narcissism I was in a cycle of if I’m not happy I’m out of here . But walking away from my own mother was hard and took me many years of my life until I realised what she was then it was necessary for my mental health and to me that came first .
A covert narcissist seeks help for her anxiety, depression and feelings of shame. Will then her therapist 1) identify her as a C.N. ? and if so 2) inform/confront her about it?
My cnex's therapist identified her as a "high sensitivity person".
Out now since about a year. Thank you Richard for speaking publicly about narcissism. This topic is not enough discussed publicly.
That was a jolly good time😂
ATTENTION ALL WOKE NARCISSISTS AND PSYCHOPATHS: Cease and desist all death threats, chemical, political, spiritual warfare using malicious AI and energy weaoons: US Woke military, governments, Asia, Korea, China, Iran and Russia. I am not your property
"An oubliette - a world that gets smaller and weirder..." Spot on metaphor, this is EXACTLY how I have defined the nature of the dynamic in the relationship with a Narc. My EX Person is a diagnosed ASPD person.
They'll get everyone to say you're crazy. This is their modus operandi. Operendi😂
I remember, out of the nearly 3 decades I was in a marriage with a toxic person, who had a terrible childhood and I always gave him that as "Excuse" for his treatment me, I was slowly realising in the ladt decade, that I really needed to get out. I went to a pyschic fair with my girlfriends at a winery, and there was a lady who had a one card tarot reading you could do. The deck was the fairy tarot, and the card she drew was "Phooka". She looked at me, and said with all seriousness, "You have a VERY negative male energy around you and you need to get out, or this energy will destroy you". I knew it was true. But yet I stayed. 7 years later, he punched me in face bc the dog shit on the floor and he was mad. This wasnt the first time he had been physical with me, but it was the worst, up to that time. I called the cops on him, he was arrested, and I moved out, finally. It took him punching me in the face, to get me to leave. And my life keeps getting better every day! 🙏 Thank you for your cheeky humour and intelligent discussion of relationships with danaged people snd what it does to us ❤️
Narcissism can so easily be confused with other mental illnesses, which is why it's so confusing. For example, my ex and his mother told me that he suffered from depression. His mother felt so sorry for him and thanked me for making him so happy. So- his moodiness I had attributed to depression. Because I was supplying him with love, support, and so forth- he was elated- happy and loving back to me. So when he was "moody"- it registered as depression. This is how we are so easily confused. I'm sure his mother is confused still. I got out years ago- but the damage persists. I'm feeling very happy and like myself- but you never really understand what was real and what was false. It takes years to not think about the narc. Thankfully- I've had many days where he doesn't enter into my mind, but for years it was constant rumination and trying to make sense of things.
Nice brother...I was trapped in that "what if it's not her fault" trap, while being stabbed in the back after being punched in the face for almost a year...halas
I love listening to the channel
Thank you ❤ 🙏🥰
The absolute gaslighting in my psychology degree about climate change is outrageous! The system is conditioning hard!
We've been driven to be bloody psychotherapists.
Narcissists' goals are to destroy others without others' realization. Learn to become immune to narcissists' devious deception.
Have been following you for a month now. Thank you for your insights.
ha ha .. you are so funny ... Your sense of humor and comedy relief is brilliant.. Cheers
Limited selfworth drives the whole thing. So the empath takes fake love because he is so afraid of being not loved at all when this "compromise" is rejected. The empath takes this "impossible " love as a task to become an even "better person". The parents who lay that ground early on are a huge part of it still, unfortunately - even if people go no contact- the "programming" is not easy to resolve.
Thank you. I chose the shorter , intense pain (to the point of feeling like I’m dying) after the breakup , it was hell for 5 months and then it quickly began to ease off. It’s the most difficult thing to realize and make yourself accept that you’ve spent two decades living in a weird dream state and it was all a lie.
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Yeah. Well better later than never. Waking up is painfull but its worth it. It takes time but we have some ;)
Agreed! We have time for healing journeys. We want so badly to heal everyone we come into contact with for the purpose of lifting ourselves out of this predicament. It is not fair to remain inside of confusion when we were meant to rise above it all. Being here and sharing together our plight is paramount. Parents not having the ability to express love AND on top of that a presumed partner (going on 7 years) adds to the injury as we keep filling it with temporary soothing agents that actually deepen the pain. Things are improving with time. Trying out a new treatment such as growing a knowledge base has been of true benefit. We know the next steps…life is for growth. Ditch the habit of repeating the hurts! Become a warrior you were meant to be. Stop with watching movies and bring your inner child to the party. Know you were meant for greatness. In fact, God made you perfect in every way. The blinders are coming off. Now that feels real and fits us like a glove. Stand up tall and deliver your messages. Live in the right. Pledge to yourself that you have it in you. Social media will not allow for your new self to be released without you doing your part. Thanks to Richard Grannon and so many others for revealing it ALL. Transformation is taking place in leaps and bounds. Join the masses who won’t be denied their birthright. THE TIME IS NOW❤
I could watch Richard do this every day. So funny, but helpful at the same time.
Ah, still can’t believe it took me 5 years to ask him to leave… nobody would believe the childish and malevolent stuff endured, I’ve accepted that it’s enough that I know in my own mind what went down.
God bless you for sharing Richard, so helpful 🙏
Omg. Mine made a script from so many comments like these. He told me I was a narcisscist! That sent me down the TH-cam rabbithole. After I got over the shock of seeing that he was playing this out TO A TEE (?)!, phase 2 was psychological fascination (short lived😅), phase 3 telling our therapist that I abused him!😮?!?!?, dramatic discard, phase 4 anger at myself for being duped, phase 5 forgiving myself and loooooooooong healing road, clearly still on it as I am here.
Thanks
Richard Grannon is a genius
"Youre so ungrateful" omg that was my every day reality for years whilst trying to get my dungeon keeper to agree that it was indeed, a dungeon 😬🤣
This is so sobering to hear.
I was always told that I wasn’t normal. I was “un normal”. Every time I thought to myself, that isn’t even a word, but it still effected me greatly. My children weren’t normal either. In the beginning of recovery, I actually wrote lines over and over saying, “you are normal”, because that line, “you’re not normal”, played relentlessly in my head for at least a year post.
And ironically, before him, I was, like a lot of people, proud of my individuality and not being “normal”. (ie: not like everyone else)
I get this all the time from people "you're so weird you're such a freak you aren't normal" literally said behind my back, right there whispering to each other, or right to my face from a lot of messed up people. I even had a new girl that was deaf in high school call me a bitch for not learning sign language for her when frankly i didn't understand much back then.
These people love picking on neurodivergent people because they know we're more vulnerable not being able to "fit in" so well so less allies to run to and get help from. It's always been difficult being neurodivergent but people believe all kinds of preconceived notions and biases that are so false. If you're on the "gifted" spectrum they believe we can look at something just once and magically understand it all when frankly even someone with photographic memory sure... they can remember what they saw right away but doesn't mean they understand what they saw there's a difference between seeing and understanding.
But apparently not to a lot of other people out there because they've believed in that idea of us for so long that anything we tell them must be us lying to them and trying to sabotage them so they could never be that, which is crazy because you can't just decide to be that so the jealousy is completely baseless and unfounded, clearly we go through struggles when there's THAT going on with people but they just say we're just complaining and should feel lucky.
No i don't feel lucky when i'm met with people like that when i've had to learn to understand it all by myself because nobody would explain it to me on purpose so they could abuse me and whack me over the head with what i don't know or understand. I wouldn't change it for the world either though because of how frequently i even surprise myself and those are some of the best moments and the depth at which i can understand things is amazing. So no matter what anyone does never feel bad about being neurodivergent in whatever way you are no matter how people perceive it you know they're crazy.
57/58 mins in spot on ! Thanks Richard. In the dungeon , reminds me of the Stevie Nicks video , I can't wait. We freed ourselves, and we found this crazy online community/outlet. My step mother once said you can't live somebody else's life for them. Keep well everybody.
Funny how many of us refer to it as escaping. I see so many people posting the time frame of their escape, like they do at alcohol support meetings.
3 months escaped,
6 weeks escaped,
10 days escaped etc ...
It really does feel like a dungeon prison with no release date.
Was informative. Thanks for sharing!
Glad it was helpful!
Invaluable, this should be heard by everyone, at 6 pm on a Sunday. Seriously, it really should. Great stuff Richard, thanks
lol happy to see this is new. Nice rants with the extreme truths in between. :D Do. Not. Stop. Laughing. Also, your dungeon is pretty interesting and entertaining.. dangerous. Lucky you keep the door off the hinges and are handing out universal keys. ;) All kidding aside, the point you made about how it's none of our business what the narcissist went through, etc., when it comes to being mistreated, is golden. Keep on rockin in the free world.
😆😅🤣😂I SO NEEDED THIS 😂THE TRUTH WILL SET US FREE😂😅🎉❤
Thank you for your persistence. Please keep doing what you’re doing. Love and hope, sir.
Thanks Richard - great reality check! Bless you :)
Discovering who they really are it’s possible to evolve in a crazy mental state but you are giving us good advice to avoid Madness . Changing the narrative of the story is the key.
Great message as always. Thanks Richard
You are the Best!!! Hands down ❤❤❤ Thank you, with my whole heart 💖💖💖
😂This made me laugh and then get more motivated…So authentic and real.
This was the best! Humor and truth is how we heal.
As a therapist in the USA - you are spot on!
Keep up the good unfiltered work! 💃💃💃💃
Life is too short to put up with shitty treatment, yes.
Yes it is
JP actually helped me to find what is important in life
You help me to understand narcissistically sick people, in order to avoid/manage them
We all need each other
Thank you for finding some humor in such a dark topic. I haven't laughed in awhile. Watching this video actual made me laugh out loud as you were sharing your experience. You are such a precious soul.
Everything you've said in the last month or 2 has absolutely freakin saved me.. so for that I thank you sir ❤ I've escaped the dungeon and with my sense of humor in tact.. you're totes hilar 😂
That's a great exercise! Very telling. I'm adding this to my tool box. Thank you!
Forget Bowie’s balls….we’ve just been served some Golden Grannon nuggets here!! Thanks for the laughs!
What makes the NPD so evil is his complete mockery, invalidation, and disregard of my core self, which comes from God. There is no feasible excuse for his behavior.
Yes, he will have to answer to the light. Sucks to be him.
He told me recently. I am God…. In response to my returning to my catholic roots… “God sent me to you!”…then taking on the Power role as he has me “hooked.” It’s the physical he needs to feed off AND never show that he is capable of not hurting me. It is called spewing out word salad and confusion the $&ck out of my longing for his love to be reciprocated. I abandon myself each time (so spot on!) in order to rescue the Covert Narc. Practice walking out of this performance with that final curtain! It is getting easier…they have a fear of being caught and a greater fear of death. News flash: I am paying back taxes for not reporting -deficiency-because the power played out was to stay hush!!! No way! I am not donating to our government because of the spell I was under. Getting my things in order is the only path left today. Tomorrow will be another breakthrough.
I always remembered a line from my dad, a whole life ex-military guy, that sometimes the only way out of something is to go right into it. I like to visualise how surfers go under waves to get through them & out to the back when paddling out 😎
Indeed. The only way out is through.
I always blamed myself for being an idiot and repeatedly getting into these relationships. But when watching horror movies about posession- I never blame the possessed only the demon who possesses them. My narc is my demon. I am not an idiot, I am possessed and he is my demon.
They faked everything where they live,their family,their age I realised I had no idea who this person even was
What's really nice is when you realize you no longer care.
Then you get to the point you go weeks and don't even think of them...then it turns into years.
@@Avalonkenton me too 🤔
@@MargaretMccafferty-j4s not the same person I hope 😂
Same! 13 years. Mines never had any family contact her.. I believe they may have disowned her. Still have no idea if she really was who she told me she was.
I came here from your cptsd series, love your videos. Your humor to!
Merci 🙏🏻
Allegory of the cave, yes! Thanks for the reminder!
A crazy person wouldn’t self reflect on the fact of being crazy and try to detect reasonably if it’s true. Because that’s sane.
If only you knew in what time this video came into my life! You helped me make one of the most important decisions! Thank you so much! ❤
Lol ok I'm convinced! I'll watch your lives and stay away.from spicy foods! Thanks Legend, that was a great hour!
Shakespeare has woken up tonight again 😀 in the great summer night
Out of all the people I watch on podcasts, yt etc. Richard would be the guy I think I'd get along with the most haha
You are having far too much fun, Mr Grannon..... fantastic chat 😂😂😂❤❤
Richard, I remember waxing poetic about how I felt like I was wandering blind through an unpredictable labyrinth, looking for treasure that might or might not exist. My person told me that was the best thing they had ever heard… Chilling
lol you hash tag triggered me into a memory right at the same time … my mother kept me in her underworld and convinced me. Wa having the best time of my life
Thank you! Learnt so much from your videos. So precious!
When there are children involved it becomes more difficult to leave but more necessary in order to save your self and help them heal ❤❤
You are so entertaining and helpful❤
Thx for the humor. "A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down."
Very good!🤣🙌 I love laughing while continuing to know this is the reality!
Thankyou so much & for the humour - thankyou - you're great
Submitting to the reality that it was never real, it was all a big act and you were just an extra wandering the set, not the main or supporting actor. But you still exited stage left by getting hooked around the neck with that long cane thing😂
He admitted to me once that he wanted me to hurt the way he hurts. Also denied later but...
Excellent
Thank you
Richard, NOT my Name but ex narc husband called me Crazy Carly throughout the marriage. It was hurtful and he just laughed about it. I tried to make the Divorce a Conscious Uncoupling while he hid all of the money. I am elder, this is his punishment for me after numerous other punishments over time. I wish I could have protected my finances better so life would be easier now.
You are accurate about these cruel con artists / psychopaths.
Kept waiting for you to call out to Clarice in your taunting Hannibel Lecter voice. All this talk of creepy dungeons and prisons gives me the chills!
That was very uplifting! Thank you so much.
"The oubliette, mmm" 😂😂😂 Richard you make me howl. Having a giggle whilst delivering some serious truths is a very smart trait/skill. Ty 🙏
Thank you! Very entertaining and helpful!
This was excellent, thank you for your service to everyone. Love all of it, but now in England as for the legalities, I’ve heard it’s changed a lot (and all western developed nations)
Good talk Richard, thanks, have a good week ❤❤❤