Getting Serious With A Younger Filipina - What You Need To Know
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Great video, Reekay! I hope life is treating you well in the Philippines.
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First of all I absolutely detest people that judge on age difference because it's none of their business. I am retirement age and my last Asian partner was 28 years younger. Many of the men don't even realize, they have choices, and need to make up their mind what they want for change. Not what some over-aggressive Western woman is forcing down their throat. You are the man. Many men also have not realized the ratio of young women in the 20-30 range they are most abundant, and most Asian women feel they're starting to age oh, so they are motivated to have a real committed relationship. And last but not least good Lord guys decide if you want to have children don't just let it Fly and see what happens, why would you want an accident why don't you plan for your future. I would have to disagree you're saying that a forty-year-old woman has more experience and is worldly, my old Thai girlfriend was a sales manager in a large company and still could not even book her own airline flights. Didn't know her way around Bangkok after years living there. She was however very good at acting in manipulating men. That brings me to the final thought which is younger women probably has not turned into a manipulating man eater, still retaining some of that innocence and simple goodness. Decide what you want and act like you know what you want🙏🙏
I'm 55 and my GF is 26 years. We live together and are happy. I think this video is spot on. This age gap relationship is not for a selfish man. I personally enjoy exposing her to new positive experiences while her care free loving attitude keeps me smiling!
i can totally relate. yes, we each bring something to the relationship the other needs. it's a healthy, productive exchange.
but you have to stay there
You have found the Fountain of Youth!!
Same here every mans experience is different you really go know if you have a keeper if God forbid one of you get sick will u take care of her , and will she take care of you. My wife is fillipina her sisters husband is 55 yo she's 25 he had a stroke unfortunately she bailed out. Good luck to both of us That don't happen
@@Lifebeyondthesea Completely agree with you guys. You've become one of my favorite listens lately about the Philippines and Filipinas. Real alfa content. Just pure wisdom and intelligence; it's refreshing to hear! Continued success on the channel.
Best Pinay advice in Philippines on youtube. He REALLY knows what when where and who. Very well done.
I was married to my beautiful Filipina wife, three years my senior, for 41 years. I have learned just as much from her as she has from me. We retired here in the Philippines in 2014. She passed away shortly after we got settled down here from cancer. She was a two-time survivor. She was also my caregiver. She was my nurse when I was medivaced to Cubi Point in the 1970s; we were both in our early 20s and grew up together. After her death, I knew I couldn't survive on my own because of my disabilities. I hired a caregiver to help me, but she would get my medications wrong and was aggressively mean. She was in her mid-fifties and tried to take over my banking. She moved her family into my house, even her grandchildren. They stole my late wife's jewelry and one of my credit cards that they used to order things online. They destroyed my car and left it at the scene of the accident. I never knew about it until the police came to my door and told me. I told the police what was going on, and he went to our barangay, They came to my house, and with my permission, they threw them all out. The barangay told me that the house next door had two nurses and five caregivers living there. He asked them if they could assist me. They said they could not because the contract they have forbids them from working another client out of the company's system. One of the nurses said that a caregiver recently resigned because the company wouldn't let her go to her mother's funeral. They called her, and she agreed to work for me. When i first saw her, I was shocked at how much she reminded me of my late wife in our younger years. I was surprised at how she did everything correctly, almost like my late wife, even her cooking. I knew at that point that I did not want to lose her. So after a year, I asked her to marry me. She said yes and that she felt attracted to me when she first saw me. I got her a B-1 Visa and took her to Las Vegas, where we got married. Today my grief has subsided because I see and feel my late wife in her. We have a 30 year age gap.
BRAVO 👏 ❤
Beautiful. This would go down so well as a ‘white pill’ story !
Think you meant K1 visa. Awesome story. Feels good to get a second chance in life when you feel you lost any chance.
How difficult was the B1? From my experience, it is a mixed bag. Some have no issues and others are denied right away. Did you hire a service or did it yourself? Thanks
You're not only teaching us about Philippines, these are life lessons. 👍
Very good insight.
Thanks for this video.
Great video. Thank you
Wise words. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for listening
Thanks for the video. I could not survive on my money in the US even as I was living alone. I moved to the Philippines now I live like a king and have a young beautiful kind wife who takes great care of me. All I do now is work on my YT channel and enjoy life! BTW I'm 65 she is 33
very happy for you both! :)
so much discernment and rational being spoken here. listened to a few of your other videos and great to see you found your perfect woman. sounds like a win-win and we all deserve to be happy. best wishes to both of you! 🙂
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY AMAZING. YOUR ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS ARE INVALUABLE. YOUR CHANNEL IS THE BEST. THANKS A LOT.
Wow, thank you!
I'm 58 retired from California & my educated Filipina from Subic js 26 = we've been Happily 2gether 4 yrs & 4 mos. She's absolutely the Best of many women I have ever been with !!
so happy for the both of you. :)
Great video, I am amazed at how you learned these life lessons in the Philippines. Well, yeah I know you've been there for a while, but you really know how to put it all together. I think you give the best advice on YT for a proper relationship in the Philippines for a single guy, that's REALLY looking for the right girl. I can appreciate how you teach with the Filipina's interest in mind also. Too many guys out there that are just self-serving. You are a great mentor. TY
Thanks for being so frank and open on a very personal and touchy subject ! 👍
My pleasure!
Always great life advice Reekay. Well thought out and meaningful.
Great video Henry!!!! 2 thumbs up my friend!!!!
Glad you enjoyed it
you have been given good content. I hope expats and older men are taking notes. Good stuff
Great advice, Rekay
A very heartfelt and factual audio-video that is my philosophy directly and do what you can to be happy as you can in this short life no matter the age and race and culture even. Always do think with your biggest head in all cases and vet her as much as you can until you are proof positive to invest it. We have to do things for ourselves...Not the world! On that, i want to mention...You video collage of beautiful Filipinas is what draws here to your message too! Peace
Happiness knows no age, race, or culture. You've got to trust your gut and dig deep when checking things out. It's all about putting ourselves first, not the whole wide world. Can't please everybody. ha!!
What I have learned from My Angel Pinay is deep love. Sounds corny but the truth is there is only a small percentage in the entire world that have deep love for each other. I also learned from her what to look for in a partner. Raised right with the right morals values and court them for 4 to 5 years to make sure that there isn't any bad qualities that can ruin everything. I think a year is too soon. I learned from my 1st marriage of 32 years. If you see a bad quality ask yourself many times what will this look like in 10 to 15 years down the road ??????????
Such an accurate and mature take on the opportunity, and associated responsibilities. I commend you sir.
A nother great video and addvice. I am dating a young filipina woman and I want to teach her and let her grow as a beautiful filipina woman .great addvice..thank you and take care always 😊
Beautiful 🙏🥰
Good Video Reekay 😊.
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Awesome, thank you!
Several people in the comments have chosen partners very close to the half your age plus 7 years rule.
Good food for thought.
My friend is planning on coming looking for a wife. This video is perfect for him.
It is not the rest of her life.
It is the rest of your life.
You will die and she will deal with it.
This my dream to help a younger woman grow
To me there are 2 distinct elements to forming a lasting relationship.
First is finding the rght woman. That's something that shouldn't be rushed. As an older guy with divorce in the past I want to take time getting to know my partner. I don't want to have a failed relationship.
The second element has to be the age gap. As you point out dating a filipina who is considerably younger is going to present additional challenges. I think the mentor approach is a good idea.
I do agree with you about making her grow as a person. But we all know there are a lot of choices in America and generally speaking if you take a girl home to America, chances are she can and will most likely replace you for a younger person whom has more in common with her. Sure we can always find a bunch in common. But, chances are the guy that is 55 or older usually don’t want to go to night clubs and go dancing until 2 am. I am 55 and certainly don’t want that as I go to bed for 9 pm every night for 30 years now. If you want a hot Filipina, go there and stay there, don’t bring her home. Not all of course, but a large majority of them won’t stay with you for long if you are a lot older. Just saying.
Youre totally on point and the bottom line really is... Who cares as long as 2 people are happy together. I prefer a woman 35-40 years old, but I still respect the guys who know what they want and like and go out there to get it. Be someone who helps her to grow and mature. This will only add to her respect and love for you and your overall happiness.
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I enjoyed watching the video and your perspective on dating someone much younger in the Philippines. I wonder how difficult it must be for a Filipina to have to chose between being with an older man verse having a child. I know how family oriented Filipinas are I can't imagine asking her to not have children on my behalf. I wonder how can a 20-24 year old know how she is going to fell about children in seven years. Especially when all her girlfriends her age are sharing their experiences of being pregnant and having children with the men they love. Tough choice for a young Filipina to make and live with. I can see how attractive the mentor role could be and the benefits of having a younger Filipina mate but I don't know If I could live with seeing her look at children (which are everywhere) and press down the nature instinct to be a mother. I believe relationships should be about compromise and sacrificing for each other and having no regrets. Just my two cents.
yes. for a young woman who is still conflicted that would be quite the quandry. however, i have met and dated women in their mid-30s (filipinas) who are confident in their decision to not have kids. they pursued travel and career instead. those women are the 'safest' candidates. under-30... it's a roll of the dice.
of course she's making a choice. nobody has a gun to her head. she doesn't "have to" stay in a relationship with anyone.
people "sacrifice" when they have no other choice or no choice in the matter at all. that doesn't apply to a young (or older) woman (or man) who chooses to stay with someone of their own free will.
Wouldn't be one of the reasongs to marry a girl in her 20s because she still can have kids? If You don't want kids better date 30+ I would say.
@robwor3129 you are simply wrong, the issue of kids was discussed in the first days of our meeting. before any emotional ties had been built. you are speaking as if i threw this condition on her after a few years. so where is this "gun to her head" that you speak of? it doesn't exist.
it's also insulting to her that you say that at age 22 she's incapable of making her own decisions when you yourself were making your own decisions at age 18.
Great content Reekay. I heard you say this before I began going to SE Asia. I have been a mentor for 35 years. I really like the qualities of generously sharing life knowledge and insights to younger, early 20’s SE Asian women. You’re right. They are very mature for their age. I treat them with respect and it’s reciprocated. They learned responsibility from taking responsibility in their family. I really like the synergistic energy of my older experience in combination with her open minded young loving playful spirit. It took some time getting used to it and getting away from the US judgement that it was wrong. Once I accepted nothing it wrong, it’s my presence. I will return soon and eventually find a young Filipina taking time to get to know her. I think one year is the minimum living together to know someone as well. Great point in regards to what is the young Filipina changes her mind and wants children. Be grateful for the years together. Another great video.
How would you compare the early 20’s to a Filipina in her 30’s. Do you have a video with that content? Thank you 🙏🏼
i've covered each separately (20's and 30's).. i'll try to cover both together soon.
@@Lifebeyondtheseayou are very thorough and have unique Helpful content. Your communication is great. Thank you
girls with difficult lives who have had a lot of responsibility from a very young age, are more mature. This makes them more attracted to old men. This is simply a biological fact.
@@suzannahoffman-he3yjlikely more a financial fact. You don’t see 20 y/o Filipinas married to 65 year old Filipinos.
@@suzannahoffman-he3yj How do you know that?
In the USA women bitter with age starting around 27 then it only gets worse I'm 60 my wife 30 it works well we live well on $ 1400 per month famley of 3 no loans credit cards no problems when i was single in the USA I was homeless on the same money
Congratulations 🎉
so 1400 is plenty?
$1400 usd per month is fine for a single man in the ph on most smaller islands, even in cebu city. but not in makati or boracay.
@@Wade82900 Okay well said. I'm fine living in a smaller place and my budget would be 15-1600. Hope that's enough, plus I'll have about another 150G banked
@@Lifebeyondthesea Thanks. Will try to bump it up more, as I have no desire to be a poor expat there
Great subject Reekay, but I wanted to comment on the beautiful photo series you use as background. Fantastic models, perfect light and creamy bokeh. Today it hit me: Are they AI generated?
yes, i've been very happy fusing together a combination of ChatGPT with Midjourney for the results. i began with AI tools around february, really interesting stuff even beyond just graphics.
@@Lifebeyondthesea Impressive!
It's one thing teaching them everything in the Philippines, its another thing live in California and teaching them everything, the risk of making them very independent when you're living in California is they're going to get westernized and eventually be out the door, whether it benefits them or not ,I've seen many times where it doesn't benefit them,they listen to everybody to round them and made their life worse.
I appreciate the perspective shared about a younger woman changing her mind in desiring children after saying initially no. I also would want her to know that you might change your mind later about having another woman other than her in the future.
I'm 64 .. my lovely province girl is 24 .. from the start I decided never to hold her down .. I don't need to ask her where she's been or who with .. I trust her 100% .. she is the one who told me how she thinks .. and I'm happy with what she said and who she is .. she had one Filipino bf .. he cheated on her .. I've known her for 5 years .. I'm happy with her
that is awesome.
I don’t think the Philippines has Social Security. In most Asian societies the children take care of their parents when they get old and can’t work so the more children you have the more likely you will be cared for. I agree with your premise that you should pass on your knowledge so if you leave them they should be better than when you met them.
Not my case I’m 28 and my Filipina wife. Is 25 we are an unusual couple
Ich denke, wenn wir mit einer sehr jungen Frau zusammenkommen, bekommen wir nicht nur eine Freundin oder Frau, sondern auch eine fast erwachsene Tochter, die beim weiteren Erwachsenwerden noch Unterstützung braucht. Wo man sehr viel Geld benötigt.
Yes, and under no circumstances should orders and obedience be enforced like in the military. This will inevitably lead to breakups and sadness. Only the frugal, patient person is successful
Ja, wenn ein Mann sich wünscht, eine jüngere Frau zu haben, liegt es an ihm, geduldig zu sein und zu erkennen, dass er ihr helfen muss, in allen Bereichen ihres Lebens zu wachsen und reifen.
Im not the teacher type. I prefer a spouse that is educated, independant and can think on her feet, but most importantly someone who shares the same interest and passion as me. 20 year old girls mostly dont fit that catagory for me, especially in the Philippines. To me, they are just pretty to look at and fun to take to a night club ... thats all.
The one common reason most expats get togeather here is because they cannot have an indeapth conversation with there spouse or girlfreind. So l wonder ... why would they hook up with them?
I am new to your channel but l see you have been around for a while. I dont know if you are a serial dater or you are actually looking ... for the one. I would suggest you leave your options open and dont be fixated on a particular age.
Are you able to find what you're looking for because I'm here in America and I cannot find a stable normal articulate woman that can have decent conversations.
Everyone's different looking for different things in a relationship but overall I think guys like a younger woman ,it brings back spark and fun into relationship , and there's nothing wrong with that . Reekay is not a serial dater.
Thai's and Filipinas when the reach their early 30's, is when they get the most hottest. The most gorgeous Asians, do not hit their most beautiful peak, until their 30's. So if you're older, don't bother with the younger women. Elevate your company to a more mature, better looking Asian with life experience. But, as said, they also hit their 'peak' in their 30's and get baby fever.
As a man could you answer this question with honesty? What are the main reasons an old man might want to date a young girl who's not yet mature?
lol
several reasons;
she has a fresh, outgoing perspective on life. this is so welcome to an older man who may have gotten a bit cynical after so many years seeing how the world works.
she is full of passion, energetic and in her sexual prime. most men dread the post-menopause loss of passion in an older woman.
a younger woman doesn't have the emotional baggage an older woman twice-divorced has.
@@Lifebeyondthesea he asked about a girl who is not yet mature....not everyone mature is cynical, frigid, etc,
the answer is the same... she has less baggage romantically and less to 'unlearn' about life.
the skin the not time to get fat the easy smile and the fact it is possible
Shouldn t her dad, uncle or other male family member guide her threw life and making sure she is picking the right spouse
You are complicating things, just enjoy your days with her and if she decides to leave wish her best of luck and find another one
that is what i stated at the end of the video. you must have missed that. as for the other items, using forethought is not complicated. it benefits a man to think things through first.
She's willing to live a life without kids, you can't ask that from her.
you are limiting yourself. of course you can ask. i've met quite a few filipinas in their 30's who decided early they do not want kids.
remember, there is no "all". not all filipinas want kids.
@@Lifebeyondthesea of they didn't want any to begin with that's fine, but otherwise they'll regret the decission later.
If you listen to them they will tell you who they are ..
I’m 63 and I won’t date a woman under 40 because I want to allow her the chance to find someone to have children with. And I really don’t want the drama associated with raising another man’s child. (Mom has final say in how HER child is raised. And shared parenting, etc.)
Also, I find that a mentor role is very one sided. Maybe a 23 year old does have things she can teach me, besides her language. But, that’s not been my experience. I dated a 28 year old when I was 48 and found that our different stages of life left little common ground to connect on. Plus, her friends who were her contemporaries were boring, high or just partiers.
I’m currently dating a 43yo with a daughter whose father disappeared as soon as he found out he was a father. And we both have very similar parenting styles and philosophies. But, it’s long distance and not progressing at this point.
Good subject. Isn't it better to find someone who is an unmarried single mother say 22, with a 5 and 3 year Old. No rush you accept that her kids come first and you slowly get to know her over the next 15 years together without living together. You are like an uncle not a father. At least this way she has done the kid thing and won't pressure you for more.
But won't she pressure you for marriage during the 15 yrs? That is a very long time. If she is 22, she might not want to waste all those yrs on someone who might never commit. Over the 15 yrs, with your paying her an allowance, she will become more confident and perhaps educated while you will get older and older. By the time she is 37 - even if she waits faithfully - she will still be young and attractive, while you will be needing a caretaker. Not a great plan.
Yes, help her make progress in life. Teach her to fix things, resolve problems, communicate, interact, build stuff and not put your hand over your mouth while giggling about things that aren't funny. These are all important things that Filipina women need to learn. But DEFINITELY don't take her back to your country and obviously if somehow you found a little lady that's not already addicted to the phone and an online existence, celebrate it and preserve it.
absolutely.
Shameful it more than likely wil not work...
you mean.. the way at least half of same-age marriages don't work and end up in divorce.
The mentor aspect makes sense because in fact she could be the age of Your daughter and You could be the age of her dad. Which in fact is a father-daughter-like relationship psychologically, no?
But I still don't get why an early-20s girl will seek a long-term relationship with a man 20+ years older at all!?
i've asked several early 20's filipinas (that i had a relationship with) the exact same question. their reply consistently...
they view younger men (expat or local) as cheaters, not ready to marry.
younger men are not established financially.
they view older men (local or expat) as more knowledgeable about life and established financially.
@@Lifebeyondthesea I see. Thanks for Your reply.
I’m 63 and my girlfriend is 35. All of my kids are grown. Her two kids are 10(boy) 13(girl). I will help raise the kids and take them on as my own if we end up together. I say that because we only come together 2-3 times a year for 3 weeks at a time because I’m not yet ready to retire. She is married but we are working with an attorney to get a legal separation from her husband. She has been separated for 6 years and has not received a dime from the kids father.
hoping for the best outcome for your future together.
20... seems a bit young, but I'm sure there are some advantages.
it's not for everyone.
is 71 a bit old? I want one
Actually I want to have a child and reset my clock, starting all over again.
I finally disagree with you a little bit when you are talking about being a mentor around the 6:22 part about mentoring. I personally believe that most men want a foreign woman to remain simple and not westernized or why even go to a Asian nation. I mean who wants a feministic type western woman who thinks men are ATMs and have slept with 40 men=yuck. I have been married going on 15 years to a woman from Asia and have kept her simple but not totally and she has thanked me for not pushing her into western culture too fast. I have also helped some people meet foreign women from my wife's group and they are all happy. The last type of woman I would want is a liberal democrat Calitard type. Good videos as always, and factual for most part and I have been watching you for many years
i'm not advocating "westernizing" a province woman. i'm saying, help her reach her full potential. teach her the things about science she didn't learn in school. teach her how to manage a savings account and her own debit card. get her a passport. help her to learn about business if she is so inclined. if she likes gardening, buy her all the stuff she needs for that. if she wants to attend college, make it happen.
the point is, marriage is not all about the man. a man who loves a woman will want to see her own dreams come true. if that concept scares a man so that he feels insecure about teaching her anything, that man is not ready for a wife.
I was thinking you meant something else. I of course agree with what your saying and what you always say in most cases and find you to be correct based on my 25 years of dealing with the Filipino people. I am aware that many American devil women and even some Filipinas here will try to mess your woman up and even try to take you away from your woman but more likely in the coastal areas of American where traditionalism is rare. I live in the Midwest or traditional America with my wife and she loves it. My wife is 100% and a traditional family oriented woman but she was in her late 30s when I met her and I told her to go back to college and she laughed at me and went and planted a bigger garden and is happy. Keep doing good vids Reekay and I will refer people to your page always. When I return to Pilipines I would like to meet up with you @@Lifebeyondthesea
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40 years is just unhealthy.
Normally, I try and give you a contrarian view. You hit all the nails on the head in this episode.
I totally disagree.
100% agreed.
I did exactly what you're recommending ...
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