I love that you're honest,unlike many other avian youtubers that act like they don't make these mistakes and they are superior to you as a bird keeper. I raised 4 baby birds when I was 13 and I gotta tell you,it was a crazy process. I made a bunch of mistakes,but I've learned from them. Now this November,my birdies are gonna be 2 years old. All 4 of them are healthy birds with ALOT of personality. They're so mean sometimes, but when they aren't grumpy,they are very funny,cute,and loving. Thankyou for not being condescending like other pet youtubers are. Loved this video and your bird. By the way, Dewey (one of my birds) loved this video too. She just got done taking a bath and she was sitting on my shoulder watching this with me. She likes your bird.
You are a wonderful bird keeper, everyone makes mistakes. Being willing to admit you made mistakes and to do better is what counts. I love your honesty. 🥰🥰🥰
@@sandraroobinson4914 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).
Update ^-^ 8 months later and my lovebird really likes me and even flies to my hand on his own :D he doesn't really like cuddles but he lets me play with him yaay
@@YourFriendlyShapeShifterFriend Tbh my bird don't bite me, I just got them on Wednesday. They open their cage and fly around but they don't particularly like me being to close. I've gotten bitten, maybe once or twice but it was when I was feeding them sunflower seeds. They didn't even bite to hard, just a little nibble like they mistook my finger for a seed and they stopped almost immediately. Most of the time they open their mouths as warnings to me but I always just make it aware I know they're upset and provide them with more treats and they calm down. It could be an issue with how they where raised with their previous owner/shop.
it makes me feel relieved that im not the only person who has made mistakes with my birds. And im not a bad person, Im simply alive and so is the bird. Thankyou
A better thing to do to your lovebird if he bites you really hard is to apply a little bit of pressure on his beak but not hurting him. This will give him a negative reaction to biting. Also I respect you for recognizing a mistake of hitting your bird. Your a good man sir
I think the best thing to do if any type of bird bites you, set it down on the floor and leave the room. This shows the bird that if it bites you, it will understand that it won’t get any attention if it bites you. So the conclusion is your bird will stop biting you.
Haha, while I was watching your video my lovebird came over to the computer screen and tried talking to you! This is a good video, as a bird owner I liked how you mentioned that patience is key! It takes a while but you really have to be observant to understand the birds needs and personality.
I really appreciate your honesty and willingness to admit that you’ve made some mistakes. Your companion parrots are very lucky to have you as their human companion. I would love to see you make a video about what you feed your birds. I would imagine that lovebirds have some different nutritional needs than other parrots including your cute budgie. I have subscribed to your channel and I look forward to seeing more of your videos in the future. I also think you were delightful young man!
Ok so I never and I mean never, make comments on TH-cam. However, I gotta give this guy props man... it's really hard to admit your mistakes, but telling it on TH-cam takes some balls. I have a lot of respect for that kind of honesty...kudos to you young man!
😂😂😂😂😂love how honest you are ❤❤❤❤❤❤ love your accent and the information you put out. Make more videos. You are like the only main lovebird channel and I’m trying to learn so much
I actually like you a lot! I've been trying to find a reliable youtuber to help me tame a lovebird when I get one if i get one and I quite like you! You admit your mistakes like a pro and I'm honestly really proud of you and I want to watch you more!
you are a good person :) And hey, you can help your bird overcome their fear of hands by training them and teaching them that hands is where the treats come from! Also I subbed hehe
I’m so happy to watch these videos. I have had my parrot for 4 months now and i make discoveries of his cute and not so cute behaviours every now and then and it melts me. I honestly grew a unique and immense love and connection with him and is such a blessing! Thanks for sharing this !!!
Love anyone who is willing to admit AND share they made mistakes! I agree, my bird liked the loud noises I made when he bites...so we avoid it now... but biting is also how they communicate- bites are part if the relationship imho. We also keep our cage up high- our Monk is very territorial and he loves his own space. Thanks for sharing!!
Tysm for making this. It honestly makes me feel so much better. I just got my cockatiel 4 days ago. He hates me, but at least he's willing to eat infront of me!
Plz try to make videos on other topics of lovebird as their are really very less videos of TH-cam about love birds... I also have two Fisher love birds.. So I want more videos like this... 😁
I have important few words to say, you need to know... "You are amazing and very honest man"!! I love the way you deliver your message. Very educational too. I keep watching many of your blogs!!
I just got a lovebird and watching these videos have been awesome. I am 3 yrs late to the bird world but hey. Better late than never. Thanks for the educational content!
Cute video. Takes guts to admit mistakes. Lovebirds are SO intelligent and require lots of attention and care. People do not realize it sometimes before getting one. We raise them and it takes a lot of time to raise a tame and well adjusted pet lovebird.
Thank you so much for you honesty. I too have made several mistakes with my birds, once my bird flew away and I chased her around the neighborhood for 4 hours until she got tired and let me catch her. Then a few months later I was cleaning her cage and assumed she would stay at the top when I took the bottom part to dump out but when I came back from throwing it away, my dogs had gotten to her ): it was the worst thing to ever happen. Then a few months later with my new bird, I was playing with her all morning and we were still working on bonding bc she was wild and I left some millet in her cage so she would go back in since I couldn’t catch her and I walked away and fell asleep for 30 min and when I came back she too was gone. It turns out my dogs had kicked open the back door. It’s crazy to me they could even catch her considering it would take me 20 minutes to capture her. It was all terrible but this kind of thing won’t happen 3 times, I have learned to be vigilant about ensuring that my dogs are locked away any time I have my future birds out.
Thank you so much for your honesty, I am looking after my neighbours birds & this was very helpful. So many people show you the "Instagram" version when I really needed the full honest picture!
U read all ur comments (almost all) and I had a bird I used to shake their kages and now u taught me how to train our birds I really appreciate it thank u and I miss going to be getting a new bird soon and thank u again
Great video man and very cute birds 💯 I just bought a couple of lovebirds and I'm trying to learn about them. This channel is what I need and you're too funny sometimes. 😂 I just subscribed to your channel. Good luck and thanks for all these informations
The birds didnt even flew away the whole video which is really cute.i love birds .i will get a fischers lovebird from a breeder next week or more, this helped me alot.
Screaming when the bird bites you is also a mistake. It will keep biting just to get that sound out of you like out of a squeaky toy. It’s better to leave it a bit so that it understands by biting it’s gonna lose your attention.
I know I’m late but that’s actually not true. Lovebirds in flocks when one bites the other screams and flys away, they understand then that they hurt the other bird and shouldn’t do it again. Which is what I ended up doing. So whenever my lovebird bites me I Yelp and walk away. He understands that he hurt me and no longer bites. It’s not gonna work right away but with time he’ll no longer bite you
@@joesr31 each bird is different, lately I’ve learned that they can respond in the most creative ways to the same approach, so maybe the best thing is to adjust to the bird :)
We all love the honesty because a lot of us do the same things we don't have the balls to admit it if we just let our shame control us will never really connect
I read on some sub reddit about parrot training to tap the beak, and then later I read to NEVER tap the beak or physically strike the bird because they learn to fear you, and also they say not to yell because it reinforces bad behavior. The board certified avian vets I've read the literature of say that ignoring them after they do something naughty, gently removing them and putting them in the cage, is best.
Wow! There are lots of secrets about birds I didn’t know thank you so much I have been having trouble with my bird and it had been 3-2 weeks since I got it I will try not to be rough... also I subbed and liked :)
Thank you so much for sharing this. I just got my lovebirds for a month, they are 5 months old now. Today I screamed and locked them in the cage because they bite my fingers. they bite because I tried to get them off from my purse which they tried to destroy... until now they climb to my shoulder and sleep there everyday, but they don't wanna be touched at all. they can be kissed sometimes, depends on their mood, sometimes they'll bite my lips also...
I just got my first lovebird today. He is a Fischers Lovebird and actually looks just like yours. Thank you for the videos. I have alot to learn. I want my lovebird to be sociable with me. The breeder did clip his wings for me, so that I can train him better. Right now he is in his cage - I got him 2 hours ago and he is sleeping alot.... when should I start trying to get him to go on my finger?
I would wait until the bird comes out on his own. Leave the cage door open, offer him treats (like millet) and just spend time going about your normal routine. He'll come out eventually once he learns where the treats are! Also, consider clicker and target training to start. This will build trust and positive experiences, while also protecting your fingers form getting bit ;). Once the target training is going well, start step up training. This is a slow process, have him eat from your hand (without annnnyyyy force) and then move toward stepping up. This is just a suggestion since every bird is different.
All you need is patience. If you hold your finger long enough in front of his knees, he will eventually step up and realize its not bad. After he starts to get on your shoulder, don't stop walking. Walking while he is on your shoulder will teach him that you are a nice place to sit on since our bodies have natural balancing so he doesn't have to work to balance himself. Also keep him in 2 hands and gently glide over his feathers like you would pet a dog but a lot more gentle. Eventually he will fall asleep on your hand. At that point you got his heart
Youre funny 😂😁😆😅 Yes they always bite me when they have company their own species but if the love bird alone ... he the love bird will try to be your friend and entertain you as a friend without biting . -- i have experinced this .
I have a black masked love bird, it's a baby and I've had him for 2 months and every time I walk by his cage he runs and hides in his triangle tent. He won't let me hold him so I stopped trying. He will eat millets from my finger until it drops. BUT I wonder if he will ever be comfortable and with me and my kids.
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Let's appreciate how he still told us his mistakes even if some of us might bash him
I love that you're honest,unlike many other avian youtubers that act like they don't make these mistakes and they are superior to you as a bird keeper. I raised 4 baby birds when I was 13 and I gotta tell you,it was a crazy process. I made a bunch of mistakes,but I've learned from them. Now this November,my birdies are gonna be 2 years old. All 4 of them are healthy birds with ALOT of personality. They're so mean sometimes, but when they aren't grumpy,they are very funny,cute,and loving.
Thankyou for not being condescending like other pet youtubers are. Loved this video and your bird.
By the way, Dewey (one of my birds) loved this video too. She just got done taking a bath and she was sitting on my shoulder watching this with me.
She likes your bird.
My god you're so right, other bird owner videos are so patronising and holier-than-thou art.
this good th-cam.com/video/36U26dIZkwo/w-d-xo.html
dewey has a TH-cam crush 😳
You are a very good person in life
@@angelxroblox1932 nah, I got alot of problems.
The way this dud talks is making me feel better
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You are a wonderful bird keeper, everyone makes mistakes. Being willing to admit you made mistakes and to do better is what counts. I love your honesty. 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you!
Me 2, honest guy and hey we all make mistakes. Learn from them . X
This guy is awesome!!! Being honest and clear. Humble guy humble bird
Please make a video on diet
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).
@@sandraroobinson4914 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).
I am not bad person, I am just stupid... this made me laugh so hard.
Thanks for this great video, that's cute as well as very helping.
aw i hope my lovebird can like me one day how cute ... he almost chewed my thumb off yesterday
Update ^-^ 8 months later and my lovebird really likes me and even flies to my hand on his own :D he doesn't really like cuddles but he lets me play with him yaay
@@naeday6614 aww congcrats!
Also,how long you gain your birds trust?
Cause my hand got bited 3-5 times perday
@@YourFriendlyShapeShifterFriend Tbh my bird don't bite me, I just got them on Wednesday. They open their cage and fly around but they don't particularly like me being to close. I've gotten bitten, maybe once or twice but it was when I was feeding them sunflower seeds. They didn't even bite to hard, just a little nibble like they mistook my finger for a seed and they stopped almost immediately. Most of the time they open their mouths as warnings to me but I always just make it aware I know they're upset and provide them with more treats and they calm down. It could be an issue with how they where raised with their previous owner/shop.
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Man you're not only honest but you correct your mistakes. only respect for you in learning and preparing for a little friend.
it makes me feel relieved that im not the only person who has made mistakes with my birds. And im not a bad person, Im simply alive and so is the bird. Thankyou
A better thing to do to your lovebird if he bites you really hard is to apply a little bit of pressure on his beak but not hurting him. This will give him a negative reaction to biting. Also I respect you for recognizing a mistake of hitting your bird. Your a good man sir
I think the best thing to do if any type of bird bites you, set it down on the floor and leave the room. This shows the bird that if it bites you, it will understand that it won’t get any attention if it bites you. So the conclusion is your bird will stop biting you.
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Respect for being 100% honest, despite the obvious potential for internet backlash. We're human after all!
Haha, while I was watching your video my lovebird came over to the computer screen and tried talking to you!
This is a good video, as a bird owner I liked how you mentioned that patience is key! It takes a while but you really have to be observant to understand the birds needs and personality.
Nine came and bite my ear😅
I really appreciate your honesty and willingness to admit that you’ve made some mistakes. Your companion parrots are very lucky to have you as their human companion.
I would love to see you make a video about what you feed your birds. I would imagine that lovebirds have some different nutritional needs than other parrots including your cute budgie.
I have subscribed to your channel and I look forward to seeing more of your videos in the future. I also think you were delightful young man!
Ok so I never and I mean never, make comments on TH-cam. However, I gotta give this guy props man... it's really hard to admit your mistakes, but telling it on TH-cam takes some balls. I have a lot of respect for that kind of honesty...kudos to you young man!
I appreciate that
😂😂😂😂😂love how honest you are ❤❤❤❤❤❤ love your accent and the information you put out. Make more videos. You are like the only main lovebird channel and I’m trying to learn so much
I actually like you a lot! I've been trying to find a reliable youtuber to help me tame a lovebird when I get one if i get one and I quite like you! You admit your mistakes like a pro and I'm honestly really proud of you and I want to watch you more!
Your sincerity is greatly appreciated! Thank you for taking your time to share what you’ve learned. It helps US… so much
Glad it was helpful!
thank you for your honesty and sharing your mistakes to help other bird/human relationships
you are a good person :) And hey, you can help your bird overcome their fear of hands by training them and teaching them that hands is where the treats come from!
Also I subbed hehe
You are so kind
I’m so happy to watch these videos. I have had my parrot for 4 months now and i make discoveries of his cute and not so cute behaviours every now and then and it melts me. I honestly grew a unique and immense love and connection with him and is such a blessing! Thanks for sharing this !!!
Love anyone who is willing to admit AND share they made mistakes! I agree, my bird liked the loud noises I made when he bites...so we avoid it now... but biting is also how they communicate- bites are part if the relationship imho. We also keep our cage up high- our Monk is very territorial and he loves his own space. Thanks for sharing!!
Tysm for making this. It honestly makes me feel so much better. I just got my cockatiel 4 days ago. He hates me, but at least he's willing to eat infront of me!
Don't change anything about your videos. you are funny, informative it is entertaining and honest. Keep going!
Sue
Thank you! I needed to hear this. Moral talking is rarely constructive. But this - honestly- is.
This was very helpful ❤️
Plz try to make videos on other topics of lovebird as their are really very less videos of TH-cam about love birds...
I also have two Fisher love birds.. So I want more videos like this... 😁
Thank you for your honesty. I've learned a lot from this.
I have important few words to say, you need to know... "You are amazing and very honest man"!! I love the way you deliver your message. Very educational too. I keep watching many of your blogs!!
Thank you so much 😀
Brilliant at least he's bloody honest. It is hard to be patient, I have told them to shout up😭 but no never would I hurt them, NEVER.
OMG that is me and my cocktil and my love bird
Love your honesty and accent. Thanks for sharing your mistakes
I just got a lovebird and watching these videos have been awesome. I am 3 yrs late to the bird world but hey. Better late than never. Thanks for the educational content!
Your videos are the best I’m getting 3 buggies and when I watched your vids they were so help full so thanks
Cute video. Takes guts to admit mistakes. Lovebirds are SO intelligent and require lots of attention and care. People do not realize it sometimes before getting one. We raise them and it takes a lot of time to raise a tame and well adjusted pet lovebird.
This dude gives such good information
oh my god! thanks so much i improved so much !!!!!!!!!
Who are the 104 people who thumbs downed this video? Shame on you! It’s obvious he loves his birds and they are comfortable with him.
OMG you made me realize to not force a Bird to do things thank you
Thank you so much for your honesty. I really appreciate it and will keep these tips in mind. 👍
You are so sweet. I love your honesty. Yes please make more videos about how to care for a love bird.
HAHAHAHA I can't stop laughing he made my stress go away
It’s true :))
Thank you so much for you honesty. I too have made several mistakes with my birds, once my bird flew away and I chased her around the neighborhood for 4 hours until she got tired and let me catch her. Then a few months later I was cleaning her cage and assumed she would stay at the top when I took the bottom part to dump out but when I came back from throwing it away, my dogs had gotten to her ): it was the worst thing to ever happen. Then a few months later with my new bird, I was playing with her all morning and we were still working on bonding bc she was wild and I left some millet in her cage so she would go back in since I couldn’t catch her and I walked away and fell asleep for 30 min and when I came back she too was gone. It turns out my dogs had kicked open the back door. It’s crazy to me they could even catch her considering it would take me 20 minutes to capture her. It was all terrible but this kind of thing won’t happen 3 times, I have learned to be vigilant about ensuring that my dogs are locked away any time I have my future birds out.
getting a love bird tomorrow. you’re a big help man
This video made me feel so much better! Thank you for being honest and sharing this!
Love your honesty! And appreciate your info
My pleasure!
Thank you so much for your honesty, I am looking after my neighbours birds & this was very helpful. So many people show you the "Instagram" version when I really needed the full honest picture!
Thanks for this! I Didn't really know i was making some of the mistakes when training my lovebird
Thank you for your honesty and fun attitude. I can see you have been doing this youtube thing for a while. How are things going now?
Hey, I’m awesome at the moment. Never felt so cool in my life. Thank you.
U read all ur comments (almost all) and I had a bird I used to shake their kages and now u taught me how to train our birds I really appreciate it thank u and I miss going to be getting a new bird soon and thank u again
You’re so funny… I do learn a lot from you. Thanks for sharing your story, bro 😎
I’m glad it helped. You’re welcome ☺️
We all make mistakes! The most important is to learn from them and take accountability ❤
when my budgie and lovebird met they fought straight away 😂😅
I loved watching your videos. Wish to see your video soon.
This is the best video i have seen in my entire life.
I'm glad you liked it :)
Great video man and very cute birds 💯 I just bought a couple of lovebirds and I'm trying to learn about them. This channel is what I need and you're too funny sometimes. 😂 I just subscribed to your channel. Good luck and thanks for all these informations
I loved the insight in this video. You’re outstanding
The birds didnt even flew away the whole video which is really cute.i love birds .i will get a fischers lovebird from a breeder next week or more, this helped me alot.
That's awesome!
I might be getting a love bird and all I watch is your vids
Screaming when the bird bites you is also a mistake. It will keep biting just to get that sound out of you like out of a squeaky toy. It’s better to leave it a bit so that it understands by biting it’s gonna lose your attention.
I used to literally hide under a blanket to get away from my lovebird for exactly this reason XD
I know I’m late but that’s actually not true. Lovebirds in flocks when one bites the other screams and flys away, they understand then that they hurt the other bird and shouldn’t do it again. Which is what I ended up doing. So whenever my lovebird bites me I Yelp and walk away. He understands that he hurt me and no longer bites. It’s not gonna work right away but with time he’ll no longer bite you
@@KarlaLopez-bz3to yeah but that’s a bird on a bird, we’re human
what if this will train them to bite you if they want you to leave?
@@joesr31 each bird is different, lately I’ve learned that they can respond in the most creative ways to the same approach, so maybe the best thing is to adjust to the bird :)
Good video thanks for the help.3 weeks I'm getting a small one can't wait
I love ur eyes.....and i love loki also
Best bird channel ever
Really helpful tips! I just got two 3 month old lovebirds
I love the way you explain
We all love the honesty because a lot of us do the same things we don't have the balls to admit it if we just let our shame control us will never really connect
Nice video brother
Keep it up
Love from India
Thank you😊 I really love your honesty.
I am thinking about getting a love bird of my own and your experience is valuable. 👏😘
Thanks for the tips i will try that when they hatch their eggs to start over
I read on some sub reddit about parrot training to tap the beak, and then later I read to NEVER tap the beak or physically strike the bird because they learn to fear you, and also they say not to yell because it reinforces bad behavior. The board certified avian vets I've read the literature of say that ignoring them after they do something naughty, gently removing them and putting them in the cage, is best.
Wow! There are lots of secrets about birds I didn’t know thank you so much I have been having trouble with my bird and it had been 3-2 weeks since I got it I will try not to be rough... also I subbed and liked :)
You are amazing and thanks for your help so much! So sorry about Loki, she was so beautiful ❤️
Dude,you made me fall in love with lovebirds😂
Your bird info Has helped a lot
And I mean every single video
I like when talk and you sound like gentle boi
Thank you so much for sharing this. I just got my lovebirds for a month, they are 5 months old now. Today I screamed and locked them in the cage because they bite my fingers. they bite because I tried to get them off from my purse which they tried to destroy... until now they climb to my shoulder and sleep there everyday, but they don't wanna be touched at all. they can be kissed sometimes, depends on their mood, sometimes they'll bite my lips also...
U da best russan youtuber ever!!
Sorry not russian
You are honest and we can learn honest thinks about to train our birds! Thank you 🐥🐦🌹
Hey Iloilo, I just got a sun conure chick last night. Thanks for the video. Let me start training now 👍
Omg !your lovebird and budgie are really great friends
thank you very much your videos were very beneficial
Thanks for tip
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I really love your videos❤❤❤❤❤
I hope that one day my two lovebirds will stop biting the fingers, ears, nose, and lips.
I just got my first lovebird today. He is a Fischers Lovebird and actually looks just like yours. Thank you for the videos. I have alot to learn. I want my lovebird to be sociable with me. The breeder did clip his wings for me, so that I can train him better. Right now he is in his cage - I got him 2 hours ago and he is sleeping alot.... when should I start trying to get him to go on my finger?
I would wait until the bird comes out on his own. Leave the cage door open, offer him treats (like millet) and just spend time going about your normal routine. He'll come out eventually once he learns where the treats are! Also, consider clicker and target training to start. This will build trust and positive experiences, while also protecting your fingers form getting bit ;). Once the target training is going well, start step up training. This is a slow process, have him eat from your hand (without annnnyyyy force) and then move toward stepping up.
This is just a suggestion since every bird is different.
All you need is patience. If you hold your finger long enough in front of his knees, he will eventually step up and realize its not bad. After he starts to get on your shoulder, don't stop walking. Walking while he is on your shoulder will teach him that you are a nice place to sit on since our bodies have natural balancing so he doesn't have to work to balance himself. Also keep him in 2 hands and gently glide over his feathers like you would pet a dog but a lot more gentle. Eventually he will fall asleep on your hand. At that point you got his heart
Go to BirdTricks on yt, it’s the best channel out there
when a russian become a youtuber. i never thought it was funny
Lol😂
this is awesome, i am about to adopt a masked lovebird, and these tips will help so much!
Thank you so much for the video! Me and my girlfriend trying to buy 1 for our own. Wish us luck!
Thank you. Helpful.
Thank you for being honest! I want to havea lovebird, i never had a bird before and this help me a lot :)
also i’m interested in a video for diets for birds!!! how do i introduce my lovebird to new food correctly? (:
Youre funny 😂😁😆😅
Yes they always bite me when they have company their own species but if the love bird alone ... he the love bird will try to be your friend and entertain you as a friend without biting . -- i have experinced this .
You helped me! Thanks
You are awesome! I really appreciate your video. Bless you!
how can someone dislike this video, I feel fresh after watching your video bro hahaha keep going peace
Experience is the best teacher. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us.
~ ~" Liked & Subbed "~ ~ Really enjoyed your short & interesting Video.
So helpful bro
Keep it up
Thank you, I will
I thinking of a lovebird or cockatiel.. both awesome small parrots.
i love your bird thanks to you my parents loves (love bird) now they wants to buy one for me
Thank you for the tips! 😊
I have a black masked love bird, it's a baby and I've had him for 2 months and every time I walk by his cage he runs and hides in his triangle tent. He won't let me hold him so I stopped trying. He will eat millets from my finger until it drops. BUT I wonder if he will ever be comfortable and with me and my kids.