There's definitely not enough (mainstream) healthy examples of relationships in media. Although most of us can distinguish fiction from reality, when you're younger and watching these toxic relationships being glorified, it can subconsciously stick with you and you carry those beliefs with you into your dating life. I really wish there were a lot more healthy relationship role models in media-not just for romance, but friendships and other common relationships too.
It would be good to see a video of examples that do exist. I thought the two married characters on White Collar had a healthy relationship. It's been too long since I saw the show but it was the FBI guy and his wife who ran an art museum, I think.
Ghost whisperer had a good couple. In fact that was one of the reasons people continued to watch it. It was such a breath of fresh air from the other couples in shows.
My ex husband threatened to kill himself if I left. And when I did leave either he or one of his friends or family members emailed the company I was working for at the time, posing as a veteran and stated a cussed them out at a gas station with my work badge on. Fortunately, my boss knew what was going on, figured it for the hoax it was, and I wasn't fired.
I've been the "crazy ex" because MF manipulated and gaslighted me through the whole relationship into thinking I was the "crazy ex", when he was, in fact, the crazy one all along. Man leaves "crazy exes" behind him like a serial killer. Look if ONE "crazy ex" comes up to you, new GF, and says "I'm not crazy, he is a monster, and he'll do it to you too", maybe take that with a grain of salt, but if 2-3 different women have the same story, the commonality is the dude.
I'm glad I was raised by two people who love each other and taught me to have self-respect. I never really believed romantic relationships were necessary. Especially when it happens nowadays and there's all this toxicity being encouraged. My last ex attempted to make me feel sorry for him when I told him he did not have my consent to be in a polyamorous relationship, mostly because I wouldn't engage in certain activities with him. When his tears didn't work in private conversation, he tried to do it in front of other people and talk about his childhood abuse. I told him I was perfectly fine with breaking up if he didn't want to be with me. He wanted to stay with me and then told people I "tore his heart out and stomped on it" after the breakup. There was no dignity or honor. Don't give in to someone's demands just because you feel obligated to. If they cross a boundary, let them know. If they get offended, then they don't love and respect you. They don't want to work for it. If they make an effort not to do it again, then they care. The same goes for respecting their boundaries. Never walk with someone who is violent either. No one can truly call themselves "peaceful" unless they are capable of great violence. If they are not capable of violence, they're not peaceful, they're harmless.
My mother is co-dependent. Growing up with knowing she NEEDS to have a man in her life has made me realize it's not healthy. There's a difference between NEEDING someone and WANTING someone!
I've always thought that most couples seem to be manufactured homes. They are two halves that, when put together right, make a beautiful home. But if a tornado comes along and rips one half away, the half home is no longer a functional unit. I'd rather we be a duplex. If a tornado takes half, even though scarred, there is still a complete, functional unit. I never want to be responsible for "completing" someone. I want a person who is complete in themselves, who doesn't "need" me, just honestly wants to be with me.
I view it A little differently. I've always liked to refer back to the Greek with their mythos is that man and woman were one and then they got separated(Not saying gay couples can't exist). We're just looking for our other half, someone who can help, love and support you while you help, love, and support them. Your explanation of a duplex would be more like living with someone but not being with someone. Instead of the tornado coming through and completely wrecking the house the house is able to stand stronger because it's built with twice as strong material. The duplex would shred apart. Leaving half of it. No longer the complete home you had before. I like seeing bits of myself and my husband scattered along the house. It reminds that even though we've been through some tornadoes, our house still stands strong, together.
There was a guy I dated very briefly. I think we'd gone on maybe a couple of dates when I got my wisdom teeth out. I was sore, very swollen, and didn't feel up to hanging out with anyone. He kept trying to persist and say things like: Oh I could just be in the same room as you. Like no, I am not up for company, at all. Fast forward months, we are no longer dating, but he actually seemed ok to be friends. EXCEPT when we planned to see a movie together and just a couple days beforehand he says: I gotta be honest, I'm hoping this will rekindle our romantic relationship. We never had a relationship, we briefly dated, he showed himself to be very moody and I regret letting it go on as long as it did. I shut it down then, though.
Yeah, I frequently see particularly American stuff, but not exclusively, of people struggling with the basics of relationships. But also worldwide, the whole concept of healthy relationships between humans (and us in connection with other species) need some urgent very serious work! There's a ton of very ugly and very unnecessary, very trauma based hurt going on there!
I don't even believe any tiktoks are real anymore anyway. Probably most if not all of these are set up. Like that lock thing, probably sponsored ad. Dumb.
I had an ex who didn’t want to escalate the relationship. I was ok that he didn’t want to move ahead as that just meant we were looking for different things in a relationship. The breakup was me saying that we are looking for different things, and that’s ok, but I’m no longer interested in anything with him. This was after I stated my intentions and desires and almost 6 months of no progression. I was getting nonstop calls and texts. I had to block him from contacting me. Ended up I had to block on every social media I had. I never replied. I knew he was the type of person if I replied once he would have taken it as still being interested.
I had an ex who fell in love with me fast. Like really fast, I was told by my friend (also an ex’s friend, which I didn’t know) that this guy (my ex) likes me a lot. I was like, who and how it’s possible? Because I never heard of this guy. She told me that he saw me during lunchtime ( during school). She showed me what he looked like by pointing at him across the table. When I first saw him, I was like, uh, he seems my type, but I don’t feel attraction. He was handsome (many girls wanted to talk to him). Even though I wasn’t attracted to him physically, I went for it because I was curious about him. We met, and we were dating months into two years. During dating, I noticed how he kept saying “I love you” a lot and tried to get physical with me. He would try to kiss me (by the way, that was in the early stage of the relationship). He was moving super fast. He acted rude when I had a guy friend. He was a very jealous guy and also selfish. I didn’t notice until he punched my guy friend. I remember I was so mad and told him to stop. I told him that I’d stop talking to him. After that happened, I found out he had two girlfriends. I was laughing because I never knew a few red flags about this ex. My parents warned me about him. Even now, he tried to get with my best friend. I warned her about him. The narcissist pattern has repeated. My best friend told me he loved her in the early stages, too. I laughed because he hadn’t changed at all. I feel bad for him because I don’t think he understands what love is. No wonder every girl broke up with him.
Talk about crazy ex - my ex-fiancee who... Let's say it was extremely toxic... Hasn't moved out of my flat, my parents' house, the place I was raised in and as far as it seems doesn't plan to. And my parents are acting as though everything is normal. Invited him for Christmas. Act as though it's buiseness as usual to the point where family coming to my parents' place, act extremely confused and surprised when I casually use the word ex to describe him, where my mother usually is the gossip queen of the family. I physically cannot move out, due to finances and my pets I am unable to find a flat, and thanks to putting myself on the back burner my whole life I have basically no education, so I am unable to find a better job. I am trying to finish studying, but it's extremely hard since the financial aspect is... Heavy. Even if we ignore the fact that I have trouble focusing and sustaining information in this environment. Sooooooooooooo... Yeah. Sorry had to vent.
I've been the pitiful, clingy ex.(I would call him and want to hang out.) I've also been the one who (from my perspective) calmly and quietly broke up with the guy... He didn't seem to realize we weren't dating anymore, for several months. Then one night, he started a huge argument that got us both in tears. Only then did he acknowledge that we were done. I do not need that kind of drama!
8:50 “it’s gonna be real cool when you’re dead” has to be borderline psychopathic to say to anyone, I’d be really careful with these unstable and unhealthy people, especially if you’re gonna embarrass and highlight their behavior on social media
Jono: "I was stalked once. We never kissed we never dated and turned down their advances. We now run a youtube channel together called Cinema Therapy."
"being alone is better than being with someone who mistreats you!" Thanks, Jono! I need this reminder! not dating, but I'm a people-pleaser when it comes to friendships.
I know I'm late here but I just wanted to say, as a 22 year old who has been with their partner for 7 years I don't know how to be alone. There have been a few times that I'm so stressed, overwhelmed and anxious that I call him sobbing to come home from work because I physically cannot calm myself down. I don't know if this is me just leaning on my partner during a particularly difficult time or if its unhealthy dependency (again this isn't a common occurrence.) There have also been periods of time where I'm hyper independent and aside from telling him what's going on, I don't emotionally lean on him at all until I break. It sounds ridiculous but I don't know how to balance these things because every time I talk about my problems it feels like I will just breakdown and I don't want to put that emotional burden on him. And believe it or not this is an IMPROVEMENT from how it used to be.
Your words reminded me of something I was thinking about recently. I saw a question on a personality test that asked how you would use magic a, b, c, d,... and one option was to make someone fall in love with you. I realized that, even subconsciously, I want someone I love to be happy, even if that means they're not with me.
Seeing all this makes me a thankful that I'm single and don't settle for less and be reminded myself that I'm a grown-ass person and these people are all children. And as for the woman who decided to answer the video call and then keep ignoring the guy, if a man continues to call me bro and dude, that is not a romantic relationship I want to be in. But also using passive aggression on an individual can be incredibly infuriating!
Yep been there done that, had an ex or two that i had dealt with a while back that didnt work out at all. One ex we kept going back and forth with breaking up getting back, part of it was me, part her. Then out of nowhere we both agreed that it didnt work out and we both split after everything. But with that also, kept coming back because she couldnt stop thinking about me, just wanted me, wanted to stay in contact with me (despite her own issues). Another was so obsessed with me that they just kept bargaining with me saying "Ill try harder, be better", etc. Which with her i just said hey you know what, thats cool but we tried this long and im mentally done with it all, just done. Sadly the person didnt get the hint and for both of them i just blocked them because for everyones sake, if we stayed together any longer it would just turn to either of us being depressed. A lot of it was obsession, and being needy, and i found out the hard way, through my own stupidity, even if my intentions were good, being a people pleaser, it all just needed to stop. Yes i did take them back a couple times due to one and i having a long history together and being friends, the other due to being the hopeful person..and because they used suicide as a way to keep me. But after a long time the above happened and i blocked them. I did learn a lot though with myself because small parts of the issues were with me, that i am person that has to be with someone, being alone forever scares me, i dont like seeing people upset, and im a neat freak. But with that i learned that even though i am a people pleaser, the number one person I have to look out for at the end of the day is me. That i am the one person i have to put my foot down with, and if no one vibes, or can meet me half way then peace. And with that to, im ok being by myself, ive been meeting goals because i was single for a while, i got a better job (lowes), and i finally got my license. And im now with a person that im good with, and i dont feel ashamed or anything to be with them. TLDR: The number one person you have to look out for is you and yourself, there are plenty of fish in the sea and the right one will come your way.
when I was a freshman in high school a friend of mine set me up with his girlfriend's cousin and we hit it off. we were together for a while and I didn't see anything wrong with our relationship till I got grounded for a few months and was forced to take a step back from the relationship. while reviewing our previous texts with each other I realized that we were unhealthily attached to each other and reliant on each other for our own self-worth to a toxic degree. once I was able to talk to her again without the rose-colored glasses I realized that our relationship was held together by an unhealthy attachment to each other that I wasn't comfortable with. I eventually broke up with her but not long after that, she has her cousin tell me that she killed herself because of me, just to try to hurt me. they also tried to turn my friend against me but I managed to clear that up with a single conversation and by the end, he broke up with his girlfriend for her part in the whole situation.
I would never smack someone for trying to wake me up and no one deserves to be smacked.... but a deeper part of me still thinks he deserved it a little.
My brother's crazy ex stalked him and reused to leave our house when he finally left her crazy abusive ass. M brother didn't feel safe to unpack his truck until the cops forced her to leave. Only to find out that she stole his hamper full of his clothes! She stalked him at work to the point he had to get a restraining order against her. At the hearing, she tried to amber heard him until he provided the saved voicemails and texts she bombarded him with. Thankfully he is a professional IT guy and had his ducks in a row because the judge almost believed her. And you know it's bad when my criminal addict uncle was the one to call the cops on her! Some of these clips reminded me of her.
My crazy ex used to break into my house and clean my kitchen and water my plants. UGH! He knew it triggered me so much too! I would repeatedly tell him not to touch or clean anything and not water my plants. A-hole would kill my plants because they did not need water and he would over water them. It was this totally passive aggressive thing where to everyone else it looked like he was being nice, but I knew different. I had lived in a DV shelter for 8 months because of him.
I just watched the video that you recommended at the end (about the parents breaking their childrens personal things). There should be a trigger warning and much more than that with that video... I read all the comments and many of your loyal followers were as shocked as myself. I am really disappointed in this video. I am kind of hoping or expecting from you, that you will read all those comments that clearly explain, why what we saw in these videos was much more severe and concerning than you made it seem and I really hope you will correct this, film a statement or at least comment here or take the video down. As a daughter of an emotionally unstable parent, books, movies and things like that gave me a possibility of escaping her toxic energy. It literally saved my life growing up. I wouldn't have been able to survive miy childhood and teenage years without all things that helped me escape the reality and find a safe place in different worlds and storiesnfar away from all the stress. If my parent decided to take these things away from me, it would have been unsafe for me and my nervous system wouldn't have been able to cope. Phantasy was my best coping strategy. If she had destroyed my things in a violent way I would have forever been severely traumatized. I really hope that you will reconsider this video and your reaction. Please also read all the other comments under the video, so many people share similar stories about their childhood.
This whole topic about insecurity and needing someone to love you just reminds me of the lyrics from this Des Rocs song 'Here comes the rapture for this lonely heart that bleeds How's anyone else gonna love you, if you don't love you too? I'll figure it out, but for the moment just use me like you do'
I Appreciate your advice ,sir.Thanks for helping folks like me who have no one .But i am confused sir. •]Are we not supposed to form attachment early on in a relationship or dating •} what are healthy ways to move on ,when the other person is not interested!!!
I love my ex & because he needs a break I fully support him in that. He’s still my best friend & I’m trying to help him find better ways to cope with things than he currently does. It’s nothing unmanageable, he just needs some perspective
There's definitely not enough (mainstream) healthy examples of relationships in media. Although most of us can distinguish fiction from reality, when you're younger and watching these toxic relationships being glorified, it can subconsciously stick with you and you carry those beliefs with you into your dating life. I really wish there were a lot more healthy relationship role models in media-not just for romance, but friendships and other common relationships too.
The fact is, normal, healthy relationships playing out don't get views :/
It would be good to see a video of examples that do exist. I thought the two married characters on White Collar had a healthy relationship. It's been too long since I saw the show but it was the FBI guy and his wife who ran an art museum, I think.
Ghost whisperer had a good couple. In fact that was one of the reasons people continued to watch it. It was such a breath of fresh air from the other couples in shows.
Completely agree. And if we keep showing that’s what we want, then eventually they will listen
5:01 “they don’t seem like exes they seem like an adorable…physically abusive couple” 😂😂
Jono please I’m cry laughing
“We ARE together”
“That’s not an accurate statement”
Perfect objective wording.
Laughing at him not realizing how many of these are fake 😂
Frfr 😂
I love the earnestness 🥹🫶🏽 it’s endearing
My ex husband threatened to kill himself if I left. And when I did leave either he or one of his friends or family members emailed the company I was working for at the time, posing as a veteran and stated a cussed them out at a gas station with my work badge on. Fortunately, my boss knew what was going on, figured it for the hoax it was, and I wasn't fired.
are u okay and safe now
@@samiaosmanoriginal I am! Thanks for asking. It was almost 10 years ago.
Some of these vids are most likely not real or are just skits, but I do like his input on these vids
I've been the "crazy ex" because MF manipulated and gaslighted me through the whole relationship into thinking I was the "crazy ex", when he was, in fact, the crazy one all along. Man leaves "crazy exes" behind him like a serial killer. Look if ONE "crazy ex" comes up to you, new GF, and says "I'm not crazy, he is a monster, and he'll do it to you too", maybe take that with a grain of salt, but if 2-3 different women have the same story, the commonality is the dude.
I'm glad I was raised by two people who love each other and taught me to have self-respect. I never really believed romantic relationships were necessary. Especially when it happens nowadays and there's all this toxicity being encouraged. My last ex attempted to make me feel sorry for him when I told him he did not have my consent to be in a polyamorous relationship, mostly because I wouldn't engage in certain activities with him. When his tears didn't work in private conversation, he tried to do it in front of other people and talk about his childhood abuse. I told him I was perfectly fine with breaking up if he didn't want to be with me. He wanted to stay with me and then told people I "tore his heart out and stomped on it" after the breakup. There was no dignity or honor.
Don't give in to someone's demands just because you feel obligated to. If they cross a boundary, let them know. If they get offended, then they don't love and respect you. They don't want to work for it. If they make an effort not to do it again, then they care. The same goes for respecting their boundaries. Never walk with someone who is violent either. No one can truly call themselves "peaceful" unless they are capable of great violence. If they are not capable of violence, they're not peaceful, they're harmless.
My mother is co-dependent. Growing up with knowing she NEEDS to have a man in her life has made me realize it's not healthy. There's a difference between NEEDING someone and WANTING someone!
I've always thought that most couples seem to be manufactured homes. They are two halves that, when put together right, make a beautiful home. But if a tornado comes along and rips one half away, the half home is no longer a functional unit. I'd rather we be a duplex. If a tornado takes half, even though scarred, there is still a complete, functional unit. I never want to be responsible for "completing" someone. I want a person who is complete in themselves, who doesn't "need" me, just honestly wants to be with me.
I view it A little differently. I've always liked to refer back to the Greek with their mythos is that man and woman were one and then they got separated(Not saying gay couples can't exist). We're just looking for our other half, someone who can help, love and support you while you help, love, and support them.
Your explanation of a duplex would be more like living with someone but not being with someone. Instead of the tornado coming through and completely wrecking the house the house is able to stand stronger because it's built with twice as strong material. The duplex would shred apart. Leaving half of it. No longer the complete home you had before.
I like seeing bits of myself and my husband scattered along the house. It reminds that even though we've been through some tornadoes, our house still stands strong, together.
There was a guy I dated very briefly. I think we'd gone on maybe a couple of dates when I got my wisdom teeth out. I was sore, very swollen, and didn't feel up to hanging out with anyone. He kept trying to persist and say things like: Oh I could just be in the same room as you. Like no, I am not up for company, at all.
Fast forward months, we are no longer dating, but he actually seemed ok to be friends. EXCEPT when we planned to see a movie together and just a couple days beforehand he says: I gotta be honest, I'm hoping this will rekindle our romantic relationship.
We never had a relationship, we briefly dated, he showed himself to be very moody and I regret letting it go on as long as it did. I shut it down then, though.
Yeah, I frequently see particularly American stuff, but not exclusively, of people struggling with the basics of relationships. But also worldwide, the whole concept of healthy relationships between humans (and us in connection with other species) need some urgent very serious work! There's a ton of very ugly and very unnecessary, very trauma based hurt going on there!
I don't even believe any tiktoks are real anymore anyway. Probably most if not all of these are set up. Like that lock thing, probably sponsored ad. Dumb.
I had an ex who didn’t want to escalate the relationship. I was ok that he didn’t want to move ahead as that just meant we were looking for different things in a relationship. The breakup was me saying that we are looking for different things, and that’s ok, but I’m no longer interested in anything with him. This was after I stated my intentions and desires and almost 6 months of no progression. I was getting nonstop calls and texts. I had to block him from contacting me. Ended up I had to block on every social media I had. I never replied. I knew he was the type of person if I replied once he would have taken it as still being interested.
I had an ex who fell in love with me fast. Like really fast, I was told by my friend (also an ex’s friend, which I didn’t know) that this guy (my ex) likes me a lot. I was like, who and how it’s possible? Because I never heard of this guy. She told me that he saw me during lunchtime ( during school). She showed me what he looked like by pointing at him across the table. When I first saw him, I was like, uh, he seems my type, but I don’t feel attraction. He was handsome (many girls wanted to talk to him). Even though I wasn’t attracted to him physically, I went for it because I was curious about him. We met, and we were dating months into two years. During dating, I noticed how he kept saying “I love you” a lot and tried to get physical with me. He would try to kiss me (by the way, that was in the early stage of the relationship). He was moving super fast.
He acted rude when I had a guy friend. He was a very jealous guy and also selfish. I didn’t notice until he punched my guy friend. I remember I was so mad and told him to stop. I told him that I’d stop talking to him. After that happened, I found out he had two girlfriends. I was laughing because I never knew a few red flags about this ex. My parents warned me about him.
Even now, he tried to get with my best friend. I warned her about him. The narcissist pattern has repeated. My best friend told me he loved her in the early stages, too. I laughed because he hadn’t changed at all. I feel bad for him because I don’t think he understands what love is. No wonder every girl broke up with him.
Talk about crazy ex - my ex-fiancee who... Let's say it was extremely toxic... Hasn't moved out of my flat, my parents' house, the place I was raised in and as far as it seems doesn't plan to. And my parents are acting as though everything is normal. Invited him for Christmas. Act as though it's buiseness as usual to the point where family coming to my parents' place, act extremely confused and surprised when I casually use the word ex to describe him, where my mother usually is the gossip queen of the family.
I physically cannot move out, due to finances and my pets I am unable to find a flat, and thanks to putting myself on the back burner my whole life I have basically no education, so I am unable to find a better job. I am trying to finish studying, but it's extremely hard since the financial aspect is... Heavy. Even if we ignore the fact that I have trouble focusing and sustaining information in this environment.
Sooooooooooooo... Yeah.
Sorry had to vent.
i love that you take all of these at face value, even when some of them are staged😂
I've been the pitiful, clingy ex.(I would call him and want to hang out.) I've also been the one who (from my perspective) calmly and quietly broke up with the guy... He didn't seem to realize we weren't dating anymore, for several months. Then one night, he started a huge argument that got us both in tears. Only then did he acknowledge that we were done. I do not need that kind of drama!
8:50 “it’s gonna be real cool when you’re dead” has to be borderline psychopathic to say to anyone, I’d be really careful with these unstable and unhealthy people, especially if you’re gonna embarrass and highlight their behavior on social media
Most of these seem very fake, but as showcases for what can happen it is good to use as example
Being an aroace person this is so fascinating to me
"Why is she even there" my guy at lot of these are skits 😂😂😂
Jono: "I was stalked once. We never kissed we never dated and turned down their advances. We now run a youtube channel together called Cinema Therapy."
"being alone is better than being with someone who mistreats you!" Thanks, Jono! I need this reminder! not dating, but I'm a people-pleaser when it comes to friendships.
I know I'm late here but I just wanted to say, as a 22 year old who has been with their partner for 7 years I don't know how to be alone.
There have been a few times that I'm so stressed, overwhelmed and anxious that I call him sobbing to come home from work because I physically cannot calm myself down. I don't know if this is me just leaning on my partner during a particularly difficult time or if its unhealthy dependency (again this isn't a common occurrence.)
There have also been periods of time where I'm hyper independent and aside from telling him what's going on, I don't emotionally lean on him at all until I break.
It sounds ridiculous but I don't know how to balance these things because every time I talk about my problems it feels like I will just breakdown and I don't want to put that emotional burden on him. And believe it or not this is an IMPROVEMENT from how it used to be.
Lol I was definitely a desperate ex... in my 20s... 😅
Your words reminded me of something I was thinking about recently. I saw a question on a personality test that asked how you would use magic a, b, c, d,... and one option was to make someone fall in love with you. I realized that, even subconsciously, I want someone I love to be happy, even if that means they're not with me.
Jonathan Decker makes me want to get my degree in psychology lol
I mean, do you really think those tiktokers are for real? It feels like a lot of "This is all staged for content"
I know this is a weird request... But I would love to see you comment on Hades and Persephone's relationship on the musical Hadestown
Gradually eroding my faith in humanity xdddd
Please react to The Crown - the relationship between Prince Charles and Princess Diana.
Seeing all this makes me a thankful that I'm single and don't settle for less and be reminded myself that I'm a grown-ass person and these people are all children. And as for the woman who decided to answer the video call and then keep ignoring the guy, if a man continues to call me bro and dude, that is not a romantic relationship I want to be in. But also using passive aggression on an individual can be incredibly infuriating!
Yep been there done that, had an ex or two that i had dealt with a while back that didnt work out at all. One ex we kept going back and forth with breaking up getting back, part of it was me, part her. Then out of nowhere we both agreed that it didnt work out and we both split after everything. But with that also, kept coming back because she couldnt stop thinking about me, just wanted me, wanted to stay in contact with me (despite her own issues). Another was so obsessed with me that they just kept bargaining with me saying "Ill try harder, be better", etc. Which with her i just said hey you know what, thats cool but we tried this long and im mentally done with it all, just done. Sadly the person didnt get the hint and for both of them i just blocked them because for everyones sake, if we stayed together any longer it would just turn to either of us being depressed.
A lot of it was obsession, and being needy, and i found out the hard way, through my own stupidity, even if my intentions were good, being a people pleaser, it all just needed to stop. Yes i did take them back a couple times due to one and i having a long history together and being friends, the other due to being the hopeful person..and because they used suicide as a way to keep me.
But after a long time the above happened and i blocked them. I did learn a lot though with myself because small parts of the issues were with me, that i am person that has to be with someone, being alone forever scares me, i dont like seeing people upset, and im a neat freak. But with that i learned that even though i am a people pleaser, the number one person I have to look out for at the end of the day is me. That i am the one person i have to put my foot down with, and if no one vibes, or can meet me half way then peace. And with that to, im ok being by myself, ive been meeting goals because i was single for a while, i got a better job (lowes), and i finally got my license. And im now with a person that im good with, and i dont feel ashamed or anything to be with them. TLDR: The number one person you have to look out for is you and yourself, there are plenty of fish in the sea and the right one will come your way.
The 3 video with the black eye was a filter on Snapchat
That was painful 😬
React to King of the Hill! There's tons of healthy (and unhealthy) ways that the characters deal with their relationships.
6:24 🎉❤ I love this advice! Thank you for explaining and help
4:43 POV: My dog wants to go pee at 3am.
when I was a freshman in high school a friend of mine set me up with his girlfriend's cousin and we hit it off. we were together for a while and I didn't see anything wrong with our relationship till I got grounded for a few months and was forced to take a step back from the relationship. while reviewing our previous texts with each other I realized that we were unhealthily attached to each other and reliant on each other for our own self-worth to a toxic degree. once I was able to talk to her again without the rose-colored glasses I realized that our relationship was held together by an unhealthy attachment to each other that I wasn't comfortable with. I eventually broke up with her but not long after that, she has her cousin tell me that she killed herself because of me, just to try to hurt me. they also tried to turn my friend against me but I managed to clear that up with a single conversation and by the end, he broke up with his girlfriend for her part in the whole situation.
"an adorable physically abusive couple" - almost choked on my fries.
I would never smack someone for trying to wake me up and no one deserves to be smacked.... but a deeper part of me still thinks he deserved it a little.
Lol. He does know half of these are fake right?
Yes, but I saw people act that way, so his points still stand.
This guy @8:50 gave up on being with his ex and hopes she get bored and leaves him alone. We don't know who will be the crazy ex.
when I quit drinking I realized my ace tendencies and I'm so glad to be alone lol
I don’t believe 90% of these negative ones. The videos just seem too convenient
I would like to know what you think about Andrew Tate!
The majority of these are 100% fake…. Seriously please go to some acting classes before attempting to create your viral moment.
the girl getting ready didnt answer that was an answering machine
Why do people put these on the Internet?
My brother's crazy ex stalked him and reused to leave our house when he finally left her crazy abusive ass. M brother didn't feel safe to unpack his truck until the cops forced her to leave. Only to find out that she stole his hamper full of his clothes! She stalked him at work to the point he had to get a restraining order against her. At the hearing, she tried to amber heard him until he provided the saved voicemails and texts she bombarded him with. Thankfully he is a professional IT guy and had his ducks in a row because the judge almost believed her. And you know it's bad when my criminal addict uncle was the one to call the cops on her! Some of these clips reminded me of her.
My crazy ex used to break into my house and clean my kitchen and water my plants. UGH! He knew it triggered me so much too! I would repeatedly tell him not to touch or clean anything and not water my plants. A-hole would kill my plants because they did not need water and he would over water them.
It was this totally passive aggressive thing where to everyone else it looked like he was being nice, but I knew different. I had lived in a DV shelter for 8 months because of him.
I just watched the video that you recommended at the end (about the parents breaking their childrens personal things). There should be a trigger warning and much more than that with that video... I read all the comments and many of your loyal followers were as shocked as myself. I am really disappointed in this video. I am kind of hoping or expecting from you, that you will read all those comments that clearly explain, why what we saw in these videos was much more severe and concerning than you made it seem and I really hope you will correct this, film a statement or at least comment here or take the video down. As a daughter of an emotionally unstable parent, books, movies and things like that gave me a possibility of escaping her toxic energy. It literally saved my life growing up. I wouldn't have been able to survive miy childhood and teenage years without all things that helped me escape the reality and find a safe place in different worlds and storiesnfar away from all the stress. If my parent decided to take these things away from me, it would have been unsafe for me and my nervous system wouldn't have been able to cope. Phantasy was my best coping strategy. If she had destroyed my things in a violent way I would have forever been severely traumatized. I really hope that you will reconsider this video and your reaction. Please also read all the other comments under the video, so many people share similar stories about their childhood.
Aw man...after this one, I think some positivity is required! Maybe some real time reflections on something like what they post on Daily Dose?
This whole topic about insecurity and needing someone to love you just reminds me of the lyrics from this Des Rocs song
'Here comes the rapture for this lonely heart that bleeds
How's anyone else gonna love you, if you don't love you too?
I'll figure it out, but for the moment just use me like you do'
I Appreciate your advice ,sir.Thanks for helping folks like me who have no one .But i am confused sir.
•]Are we not supposed to form attachment early on in a relationship or dating
•} what are healthy ways to move on ,when the other person is not interested!!!
I love my ex & because he needs a break I fully support him in that. He’s still my best friend & I’m trying to help him find better ways to cope with things than he currently does. It’s nothing unmanageable, he just needs some perspective
I would love a reaction to the show "crazy ex girlfriend" it's awesome.
All I gotta say is that I’m so glad I didn’t grow up in this era where everything ends up on social media.
tiktok is so weird man, half of these seem pretty staged and the other half it's just so weird that they would be filming in these moments
I really want you to react to The Patient and Ginny and Georgia
Where can I get that first clip?
Loving the videos dude!!!!
❤️
That first one is fake