Modern Family Gets Therapized
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ส.ค. 2022
- Modern Family Gets Therapized //
How do you talk to your kids about sex? And what do you do if you find out one of your kids is sexually active? Watch this video as Phil from Modern Family gets therapized.
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One thing I like is that Phills dislike for his kids having sex is equal. He also isn't thrilled when Luke starts to become active. So it is not a gendered thing with Phil. Which it often is for others like "No my daughters can't have sex and oh cool go ahead son have sex!"
Like many loving parents, he just wants his precious little munchkins to remain his precious little munchkins forever. Loosing their virginity is an undeniable sign that they are not anymore, like it or not they're growing up.
I love Phil with all my heart. He is one of my all time favorite characters and I hope to one day find a man like that to start a family with. Someone to keep life light and fun.
Exactly!! Phil is my favorite TV dad. There are exactly zero double standards between his daughters and his son. Double standards were something that bothered me in all of the mainstream sitcoms; According to Jim, Rules for dating my teenage daughters, and a lot of shows I can't remember the names of.
@@marcellacassab4331 lol yea Phil is so cute
Yes I love Phil for that for him it’s not about gender it’s about his kids not being kids anymore they are growing up
@@marcellacassab4331but it’s important to remember they aren’t any less the as they were
my dad slapped me in the face four times when he found out i had lost my virginity. a few weeks later, i told my aunt that i wasn't a virgin anymore and her first question was if my boyfriend was respectful, then if we used protection and then she told me that i could always count on her if i ever needed anything. i cried so much when she told me those things. i had never gotten that kind of support. punishing me didn't stop me from having sex again, it only added a lot of guilt, shame and complicated my relationship with sex.
That’s really terrible! There is a lot of internalized shame around sex especially for women and a history of men controlling women’s sexuality but it is changing! Wishing you lots of healing and a path towards a shamefree, empowering and healthy sex life! You deserve it!
Omg that is awful
Has your father ever recognized what he did was wrong? Or did he just make excuses? Did he ever apologize?
You don’t have to answer I’m just curious
@@ginza_animatex4083 he apologized, but in a generic way, since this wasn't the only time he hit me. so he did say he was sorry for all the times he hit me, but we never had a real conversation about any specific time.
@@jade5862 wow. I’m so sorry
Therapy is so beneficial, especially for families. I love how Alex actually sought out therapy herself when she's going through a stressful time, leading for Phil to remark that she's a "Self Cleaning Oven." Most sitcoms wouldn't even entertain the notion of getting professional help.
With my parents, sex is like Bruno. We don’t talk about it.
Same
Same. I had to get it from a mentor friend.
Don’t talk about the Bruno,no no😂
Same. And now I'm asexual good for them I guess XD
Same
I love how emotionally intelligent Haley is. She can be really dumb but she was so in sync with phill
One of the BEST talks I got about sex was from my dad when I was 14 (this is 2001 when there was still a HUGE taboo around talking about it, and either subconscious or *very* conscious pushes for abstinence, and when fathers were a lot less willing to have these convos with daughters).
My dad said to me to make sure I’m ready and make sure the only reason is because I want to, BUT to not mix “wanting to” with “feeling like I have to.” He told me it should be “biological urges” (which at the time made me go “ew Dad!”) and not because I think it will make someone like me, or I’m afraid my partner is gonna dump me, or because all my friends are doing it, things like that. And of course to use protection and respect boundaries.
To this day, that is still the best sex talk I think I’ve EVER heard from anyone, and something I want to emulate when I have children.
w dad
So happy for you ✨
"I trust you" might be the single most positively impactfull thing a parent can say.
Phil might be a doofus (and ye gawds, there are some glaring issues with the dumb dad trope), he is a good man.
He is the middle aged guy version of Rose from Golden girls
You should do dating, relationships, and "the one" with "How I Met Your Mother". Each character is a whole lot of therapy.
My grandmother started educating me early about sex and she always said, “You can talk to me when you become sexually active.” However, when that time came, she cried, she guilted me and made a huge deal about it. I was nineteen and honestly her thoughts about sex, especially for women, were very backwards and outdated. Her ideas about sex were not at all inline with what I experienced.
That feels kind of diabolical. Like a well thought out plan that she had that was years in the making. Knowing that you would seek her out before you did anything so she could then talk you out of it and make you feel terrible for having natural urges.
@@lisarodriguez6966 My grandmother has her issues, that’s true. I think it was more of an internal conflict. She knows what it looks like to have a healthy sex life but I think sex also played a traumatic role in her life. We definitely don’t have the healthiest of relationships but she’s not a bad person.
@@emptycarousels3950 of course not, and I am so sorry that my comment implied that she was not a good person. I'm sure she had many experiences of her own that formed how she viewed sex and particularly how you should view sex for your own mental well-being and safety overall. And if it was a long-term plan, I think it was incredibly ingenious of her. For good or bad it worked like a charm.
this is actually very close to my experience with my mom. always felt comfortable talking about sex with her but when I told her that I'd actually had sex and wanted to go on birth control, ALL the judgment and emotions came out. I think it's like, having the best intentions, but you just don't know how you're going to feel or react until the moment actually comes.
I see this kind of inner conflict with my grandma all the time. It‘s heartbreaking sometimes.
I hope you were able to cope with her reaction and that it got better.
Im 26 and I constantly want to know how parenting should be done. I do not have kids but videos like this burn hope in me that there are good, understanding, caring people out there
I think I learned more about sex from the internet than I did from any people 🤣 Even to this day talking about it is extremely uncomfortable unless I'm talking to my partner
My parents were always super open about every kind of topics and I’m so grateful for that. When I lost my virginity I was 19 and I told my parents the next day. My dad just said “did you use protection? Was he respectful?” And my mom said “welcome to the club. We’re gonna go the doctor later” 😂. I’m glad and grateful to have a good relationship with them ❤️
wow i have a good relationship with my parents too but couldn't imagine just doing the deed then telling my parents of all people the next day, no disrespect since it clearly works for you, but man would that be weird/awkward for me
My 6yo son just got super curious about it and asked his dad a lot of detailed questions about how babies are made. So he ended up explaining it fully, and my son just laughed and asked me "Do you like it, mom? I wanna try!"😂 I just love that he can be so comfortable with the topic! His 8 yo sister has been happy with a more abstract explanation for now, I think it’s very individual what they are ready to hear. But keeping that conversation open is so valuable! I wish I had that growing up.
I would've liked to be a fly on the wall for the follow up discussion on/with your son wanting to try.
Yeah my sister (6 or 7 at the time, me 21 at the time) asked me in front of our parents how babies were made and i diverted the question to my parents. They told me nothing about sex growing up so I wasn't sure what they'd say. They asked me what I should tell her, so I searched on TH-cam for "sex education for 6 year olds" and showed her the video. It ended up being more...graphic... Than intended and a lot of "P3nis in vag1na" talk... But it's been a few years and she hasn't asked since.
I do wish my parents talked me to me more about it because I don't think either methods (silence or diverting to a video) where particularly helpful. And even though I'm a lot more open with things than my parents, I don't see my sister wanting to come to her older brother with sex advice. It's a tricky situation but if I ever have kids I will want to encourage them to come to me and ask any questions they may have. I wouldn't "teach them too early" unless they asked specific questions. Their discovery is guided at their own pace imo.
Telling children all about sex isn’t a good idea how can you trust he won’t turn around and try it with his sister
I didn’t get a talk.. when my parents found out, they didn’t speak to me for a week straight.. I now know what to do with my children. I will not make them feel ashamed for doing something that is normal and something that is part of life.
I don’t think I ever had ‘the talk’ from my parents or at least I can’t remember having one but when my dad found out he asked if we were being safe and asked about if I’d looked at different forms of protection and even asked if I wanted him to come with me when I got my implant put in. It was actually quite a relief because it felt like I can go to my parents to talk about anything without being worried
This is so important! I want to add though that part of "the talk" should include that it's equally ok to be asexual (not experience sexual attraction). It can be really hard getting through the sex talk when you don't experience that type of attraction and are navigating whether or not you are interested in becoming sexually active.
When I did not show intrest in boys, may parents really fast and without prompting switched to future boy or girl... No problem at all ... But the fact I still show no interest at all does bother them. Like gay, straight bi all OK, but things like ace or trans are to freaky for them...
@@SingingSealRianatrans are Still boy or girl lol
7:00 I agree with this. I grew up in a country where sex is often discouraged and always portrayed as a sin. So, when I hit puberty, I learned sex education on my own which did not start well.
I'm a mother of 3 girls. We adopted our oldest at 13 lived with us mostly since she was 9. Her mom got pregnant at 15. She was way more "worldly" so to speak then my younger daughter. I knew I needed to head off any issues that could come. So I had multiple conversations with them together and sperate. I wanted them to not be shamed but knowledgeable. As a single mom at the time it was hard. Now me and my husband have a young daughter (6), and just answer any questions at her level and will continue to remind her that even hard questions can be brought to me or Daddy.
"No, she's broken."
I know that line is supposed to be over the top and funny, but it hit me so hard. My dad alienated me when he heard that I spent the night with a guy and decided that I was no longer a virgin (which I was). Although he "got over it" and we're on good terms now, we never had a healthy conversation about it and I have no indication that he doesn't still believe that I'm broken. Knowing that the person who used to be proud of you, who you used to trust your life with, believes that your broken, or dirty, or irreversibly ruined; it's really hard to ever feel safe with that person again, and my relationship with my dad has never been the same. Parents, your kids may disappont you, but please be careful what you say in the heat of the moment. Even if things get smoothed over they may never move past a few spoken words that you've long forgotten.
My parents never talked to me about it. I'm 23, and I remember that I had a lot of shame and guilt because I didn't understand what was happening. All the information I had was from school, the internet, and other kids...I eventually felt more comfortable with it, but I still have issues I am trying to confront. It is an uncomfortable topic, but you have to talk about it. Don't let your kid go through something that is completely natural, but also scary if you dont know what it is, alone.
I was also incredibly lucky to have a parent that was completely open for any discussion regarding sex. And from a very young age, she always referred to body parts by their given name and not some goofy slang.
My mom was perfect in our communication about sex, but I was still assaulted and abused by my first boyfriend anyways. I waited a long time to tell her everything because it was difficult for me to process and I knew she’d take it personally, saying things that would hurt me while I was still trying to heal. Sometimes I feel guilty for that
This is such a great show. My comfort show. My mom and I talked a lot about this subject when I was a teenager. I could talk to her about anything. My dad a little, because I was his little girl it was different. He heard stories from other dads about there 14 or 16 years old having sex.
The one thing my parents told me, be with someone you love. I also knew about contraception, got the birth control pil and my boyfriend got condoms and talked to him mom about it. We had gotten to know each others bodies before sex. It was very natural and well thought out for our first time ever. I had a very good experience.
My dad and I had a high five moment when I told him: "I am almost 3 years older then you when I lost my virginity". He laughed, we high fived. He was happy. Why you may ask, my dad was 22 when he lost his virginity and I was almost 25😄👍
This is better and different than the usual stereotypical gross high five that certain kinds of dads so with their sons as kind of a weird celebratory slap on the back "go get em, tiger" kind of thing.
Aw, that's adorable xD
My dad used to volunteer for a children helpline. They had always brochures lying around and he would bring them home. I learned everything about contraception, sexual orientation, peer pressure, drugs and STDs from there. They were especially for kids/teenagers. Some were made up as a comic or as a diary so they weren't boring. I especially appreciated the "everybody has their own pace" message. I think I prefered them to to talking with my parents. I was very well informed for my age.
My school mostly talked to me about sx. My mom didn't have the best basis to talk to me about it but she really really tried. And she was always open and honest with me. She wasn't taught about her period so she researched and brought me library books and talked me through absolutely everything she could because she wanted me to have the least confusing experience with navigating my body that she could facilitate. She never tried to shame me for anything that happened to me or for anything I chose to do or not do. When I moved, my mom helped me pack all of my books and did not question my sxual health collection. Just packed them into boxes like there wasn't anything educational or graphic there. She is loving and accepting and really tried her best with me.
As a former teen mom, I have been talking about this pretty early with my kid. I also took a human sexuality course in college and was surprised how much kids know and try to discover at early ages. Every year I would expand a little more based on what was age appropriate. Thankfully my teen’s HS had a really good health program and not only did they discuss sex Ed but also body autonomy, consent and healthy v toxic relationships (either romantic or not). I’ve never said that waiting til marriage is something I believe in but if it happens great (they may not even get married who knows) but I said you should have this experience when your mind and body are truly ready and should strive for your partner to be the same. I’ve always explained that sex can be complicated as far as mentally and physically but it’s normal and if they are ever in trouble I would want to be the first person they came to. That’s the best we can do.
That episode always been my favorite. It shows a beautiful relationship between Phil and his kids
I unfortunately grew up in a single mom Christian home. So I learned everything from the internet and the school bus. I watched a lot of porn in my younger years, got caught and was told “it’s wrong, don’t do that” but NEVER got the sex talk. Surprisingly I still didn’t have sex for the first time until I was 18.
I use to want to wait until marriage but I know that’s only cause that’s what the church wanted us to believe in. I do think I’d have been better off if my mom would have talked to me about sex and periods at a younger age. I was so unprepared for it all. She still did her best though.
My dad also gave me the talk when I had my first bf, super casual while we were driving somewhere. It ended with "as long as your safe" - that I feel is a good sentiment.
I did the same thing as your dad. I started slowly every few years talk to my daughter about sex and bodies..and I also got "Eww", and "Ok, thanks mom, you can stop now" =) When she started dating in her older teenage years, I walked up to her with a condom...and told her to never be without one. I didn't think I was a cool mom...I was just a scared mom. How could I keep her safe? That was foremost my thought. If she could realize that I would talk about anything and it wouldn't faze me, and that hopefully she would come to me. But I wasn't dumb. At her age I was sexually active...but I didn't have a condom in my pocket.
When you are from a place where being sexually active, let alone be talking about sex is seen as if you are a characterless person and doesn't deserve anything good, this episode made me cry so much. It was so beautiful to watch how Phil dealt with it. He is an amazing dad
Virginity is an over rated social construct. Are you fundamentally different after you eat a new food for the first time? No…just more experienced. Same thing with sex.
Follow up and a bit of backstory as it’s possible I’m just jaded. It took till I was 32 for my parents to ask when my “first time” was. I was 14 and didn’t even know that sex in that form was possible and therefor didn’t list it when talking to him about what I was and wasn’t comfortable with. I would have included it had I known. As is he assumed my lack of mentioning was a yes and while fooling around didn’t clarify. By the time I stopped him it was “too late” per standard. So then I felt I was broken for years and couldn’t and didn’t want to discuss with my parents who felt it was a sin to have sex before marriage. This also lead me to marry the first person that asked even though he was all wrong and is now an ex. I’ve done a lot of work since then. Please talk to your kids. Please let them know (by action) that no matter what you will love them. My parents did what they could but I couldn’t talk to them about that till they asked last year.
Yeah. I know for me personally, it didn't feel like I'd "lost" something, if anything it felt like I'd gained something. I'd taken a step forward in my life that I'd been looking forward to for a long time.
Also, there's lots of firsts when it comes to sexual activity. Limiting sexual identity and experience to whether or not you've had vaginal intercourse at least once leaves out EVERYTHING ELSE people can do with each other's bodies. You can still have firsts even if you've been active for years if you just keep exploring and learning. I don't think sexual experience is an either-or thing. I think it's a cumulative thing.
Now that there is protection and if you use it correctly for sure. I mean if you see it historically I totally get why it was so important. Nothing more life changing than a teen pregnancy.
@@sebastiang7394 was this on the right thread? Feels rather off topic for this one but regardless yes good birth control options for both sexes are very needed and need to be readily available options
@@kristibunny1620 No I agree. I was just saying that the concept historically made sense, because birth control wasn't reliable. But as with many things that historically made sense they become tradition and values and stick around even when they are not useful anymore.
Great video! Since you guys are in the therapizing sitcom families mode, can I suggest Boy Meets World if you've seen that? I feel like the way that the show portrays attachment issues as a result of past trauma in some episodes surrounding Shawn's character resonated with a lot of people . Another route would be to look at Cory and Topanga's relationship - people kind of herald it as a gold standard for relationships but I always wondered if they were really as healthy as people made them out to be.
When I was 10 years old my mom talked with me about the subject, openly and freely any question I had. Because my dad is not a person you can talk with, and in school we had sexual education but they didn't allow us to ask questions. As if this subject is something shameful and it's not. Shameful and horrific is to do something with anyone in force. That is what my mom always told me iron rule- Any sexual act is okay to do only when your partner agree to it, no means no. And I guarded on the rule anytime I came in contact with a girl in my life. I will keep doing so as long as I can do something. And I will say these words to my kids "free will only." I will not be like my father, my kids will be able to talk with me.
Good mom.
@@Siures Thank you. And you are right
I LOVE that you encourage parents to talk to their kids from early ages on! :) It's so important!
The phrase "they need to not be shamed" hits hard just remembering how my mom shamed me and forced me to tell my dad to his face 🤦
My dad said the exact same thing right before I turned 18 and he really respected it
Thank you for this episode. I think there was at least a bit of healing for me thanks to your words.
loved this, beautiful (underrated) episode and analysis. please please do more modern family!!! there’s so much amazing and very real content in there to “therapize”
Yeah, my mom did EVERYTHING wrong when it came to discussing sex. Her only thoughts on the subject were don't do it until marriage. I (female) wasn't allowed to date or have any kind of social life until college, and when I got my first boyfriend, my mom started calling me a slut even before we started having sex. Not to mention she always invaded my privacy by opening my mail, listening in on my phone calls, & going thru my room. I never could trust her or wanted to confide in her after all that, but she didn't comprehend why.
This was lovely and healing. Love your content
Yessss! Finally Modern Family ☺️ So excited! It's such a gold mine, that you could probably do a tone of videos on them (and I really hope you do haha). Thanks for this reaction! Brilliant, thoughtful and educational as always!
As a member of the curch who chose tô bem baptized at 24th, This is amazing, is mercy, love, Trust, respect, all with Quality information and a healthy aproach. Bravo!
We need more Modern Family on this chanel😍
My mom was always uncomfortable with having those conversations with me and my dad was definitely not one to feel comfortable having those conversations. I definitely got my information from other sources, but I waited until I was 17 (although it was not a good experience) and I think a few months after I told my mom. She reacted I think the best way she could, which was “thank you for telling me, yes we can get you into the doctor and get you birth control”. We didn’t really talk about it after that, but knowing she knew gave me a lot of relief. I don’t know when my dad found out I was sexually active or if he just assumed I was after moving in with my now husband. I will say that I wish I had an adult to talk to about it with before hand and I hope that I can be that for my kids when they’re older.
It’s very important for parents to be open about it, because it’s a very important part of life. You can’t have an honest relationship with your children without being able to talk about sex. My mom and I always talked about things, but when I started dating I also started to hide things from her because she got scared and treated me differently. Later, I came back home from an exchange and I told her I had sex with someone, she was very understanding and we could have trust again. If you don’t have trust then something could be up about their sex health or life and they would be all alone not knowing what to do because they can’t talk to you about it and seek help.
My parents were very standoffish about sex, they didn't like talking about it at all, the only sex talk I got was a book literally called "where babies come from". I came to my mum in my late teens to ask her about a medical issue related to sex and just got shamed for even trying which messed me up a lot. However! I made sure that my younger brother always felt comfortable coming to ask me questions about sex and relationships so he wasn't in the same position I was.
This made me cry. When my dad found out about me becoming sexually active he ignored me for weeks.
I’ve waited for modern family to be there for soooo long !!!! 😁😁😁😁
I’m hoping you’ll do more !
I absolutely love this show. I hope you do more.
1:17 the face acting is absolutely STELLAR.
I let this video auto play and didn't expect it to hit me so hard. I had a very different reaction from my parents. I will one day be on the other side of it so thank you for this video. It helps a lot.
This is why I pester my daughter before she gets older. I get protective and want her to be happy
U make me feel safe, thank you
I only recently started watching your videos, and I have to say, I enjoy them so much. I think it’s great how you explain everything so calmly and in depth and without judgment 😊
Ps I don’t know if you appreciate request in the comments, if not, sorry😬, but I would be so interested in seeing you analyse Outer banks, and especially Kiara’s relationship with her parents. It’s one that really struck a note with me and I have yet to see a good (non-biased) analysis of it.
I wish my mom could hear your advice when I was a teen
Glad ur doing 📺
Ahh one of my favourite shows. I literally just binged watched season 6 again, and then came on TH-cam and one of my favourite TH-camrs posted a reaction to it. 🙃
My mom kicked me out when I was 19 when she found out I was sexually active, (and called me a lot of terrible names)...
it damaged our relationship. I'm. 41, and we still haven't fully recovered. I'm still working through the deep abandonment wounds from that ordeal. And she's never taken responsibility for her actions, so I struggle to forgive.
"who goes to their parents with sex questions?"
Me, or not questions, but i needed to share with my mom that i went thrugh some shit and needed to go a professional because i cant have it physically anymore.. i felt it a hughe burden to go thrugh it alone, so i talked with her about it..
Love the video, I also feel like Alex is really relatable. Curious, if we could get a valuation of jinxs mental health from arcane
YES! Awesome! Thank you for doing one for this show. I started watchig recently. Its both awesome and terrible. What particularly irks me is Jay, and the realtionship between gloria and her son, and just Manny himself.
Absolutely love these always interesting to see different character dynamics broken down. Was wondering if it would be possible to cover one of the more toxic couples, Cam and Mitch?
Different but related topic. This isn't a show I normally watch but it was just on in the background. It was the oldest daughter unexpectedly getting pregnant and it was Jay helping Phil come to terms with that. It was shortly after I had my unexpected pregnancy. It was so random yet helpful.
I'm a biology teacher in Germany and we give quite good sex education here I think. I believe that it is okay to be not so comfortable in having long conversations about sex with your children. I believe that you can also tell them where they get further information after you told the basics.
I'm just waiting to hear the deed has been done any day now, but in the mean time... I've talked to my children from a young age about their own bodies, self pleasure, exploration, consent, and all that stuff because they're vulnerable and the more they know about what is right and wrong means they can better protect themselves and feel hopefully comfortable to come to me for help.
My 11yo daughter randomly asked me about breastmilk this week which lead me down the sex talk and STD and condom road. Interesting before bed chat anyway
Loved this and would love for you to react to Burt and Kurt from glee having the talk season 2, episode 15. Throughout glee, their dynamic is amazing.
My parents' strategy was to give me 5 books about the topic (I read a lot). They said it was important I looked into those and feel free to ask them any questions if I had them.
I didn't have any questions. I understood my period when it came and knew exactly what to do. Our public school system is also very clear and thorough at explaining this topic every year in science class. My family doctor also kept an eye out for my puberty and our public Healthcare system has a full program to advise teens on this.
I am a fully grown woman now, sex is a great and important part of my life, I have zero complexes and no issues with it on any front.
Education is key.
My grandmother was always very open about sex. About everything. So I was always able to go to her about anything and she talked about it like it was nothing to be ashamed about. It’s important to have someone like that in your life. And I still talk to my grandma about sex all the time. It’s a natural thing. And I’m glad she was there for me always 💜
I never talked to my parents about sex (or drugs or alcohol), it just didn't come up, I also think she always trusted me to do the right thing, I know that because there are things she didn't trust me to do right and she would not keep quiet about those, still doesn't and I'm 38. I learned about in sex ed class, which my mom signed off on when I was in middle school, and also from my older siblings.
THIS IS EVERYTHING TO ME😍😍
My parents had told me everything about how sex worked and how to be safe etc. since I was pretty young but I'll never forget the day I told them I had started dating someone (I was 18) and my dad said: I know you know everything so do whatever you want, but I don't want to be aware of it if everything goes right.
I had the similar talk with my mum at 8 or 9. But this early one ended up being super important because it's not just about sex with another person...but what changes are happening in your body. Because I very unexpectedly got my period before I hit puberty at 10...I freaked out but I had already had the talk...and I knew it was normal even if it was happening at the wrong time (for my body...some people this is totally normal). Not only did I have an idea of what was happening...through sudden weight gain, debilitating pain and just my body deciding 'yeh nah you're,just gonna bleed from now on. Be careful going swimming cause you can't use tampons. Cool that you just learned to climb a tree to ride a bike...should learned those at 8 cause you're an adult now'. (It's just what it felt like at the time). My mum talked me through every insecurity, there for me through every painful period and trip to the hospital...she was amazing. But yeh the basics was such an important talk and the ongoing support stopped me from absolutely spiralling
Modern family is great! Do more if possible 🙂
The potential is there. He could honestly 'theropise' each member of the Dunphy and Pritchitt family. I hope he does. They're a beautiful mess.
As someone who is about to become a parent but was raised in a very religious household where, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" was the extent of the emotional discussion about intercourse. My parents were great at explaining mechanics but very shame filled when it comes to the emotional side. It lead to me staying in unhealthy relationships because I worried no one else would want me.
I want to try to do better with my kid but admittedly freeze and get very embarrassed at talks about sex. Going to do what I can to work through it so my kid can be powered to make healthy choices.
I never needed to get that talk because I'm asexual and I was never interested in that but I am having fun reading the comments.
Throughout this video i recognises some interesting thought about myself. I have emotionally invaluable dad. We haven't ever talked about sex, or, in fact, many-many more important stuff. I'm now in my 20's, but i still can't start conversations like this, it feels extremely unnatural. However, i love talking about feelings and psychology - i do it all the time with other people. Anyway, i know i have this need, this hole, from absence of this kind of connection. And your videos help me close it. I feel guidness, i feel understood by safe older male figure. I feel a lot more calm and fulfilled. Thank you very much.
I hope some day I'll have the courage to change the behavioural pattern with my dad. Or at least I'll be a better parent myself.
Yea!!!!! I'm so happy to hear that someone was able to talk to their parent, especially their father, about sex as they got older. I think is so terrible that people avoid doing that.
This is SO mild from what I got to hear. I got a quadruple whammy. I was in shock, but I kept saying I love you.
I led a pretty sheltred life and when I went to college one the classes I had to take was sexual humanities. Our textbook was "The Guide to Getting It On." It wasn't the Encycopedia Britannica but damn was that a hell of an introduction into sexuality lol.
I mean most cases were finding out parents (men and women) know little about sexual health and relationships even from what they were taught from their parents or peers and school.
So I found yes it’s good to start talking with them about these things early but some parents aren’t even educated in some states with proper sex Ed and continuing to this day it’s still happening so we can’t all rely on that. If parents would work with their doctors, and school boards to get proper sex Ed. Even for themselves to help their families it would all trickle down to be a healthier place.
You can def see this in real time watching doctor mama jones watch a live stream of a school board about her videos being shown in sex Ed, looking at the comment of the parents in the stream is just astounding of not just the ignorance but willing ignorance for better sexual education. That’s why kids turn to videos on TH-cam bc school, parents, and peers fail them. It’s just sad.
I don't think my parents discussed sex with any of us kids. I know most of what I learned I got from the internet, but I'm also asexual (and aromantic). I'm lucky enough to have discovered these terms in my early teenage years and when I found out what they meant, everything clicked into place.
My parents have 6 kids including me. I genuinely cannot guess which one of us is gonna give them a grandkids first (it sure as heck isn't gonna be me 😆)
My dad recently admitted that he didn't even like me anymore when he found out I was having sex with my boyfriend of the time... I'm still processing that confession. I don't know if my relationship with my dad will ever be as good as it was before... Honestly, the person I always went to about sex, or even issues with my (female) body, and the person I went to first, was my my best friend. She's always been there for me on a level my parents may never be.
i hope you could do more therapy on modern family. i want to hear your thoughts about jay
I loooved this video!! Please react to the parenting style of Captain Fantastic 😍😍
Loved the video!
Could you maybe do a video about House m.d. please? I think it would be really interesting.
My dad vandalized my stuff, forced me to take a pregnancy test and shut shamed me. Pretty sure he still stands by it. No apology. I wonder why I don't like my parents?
Can u get therapized the modern family episode where Hayley starts dating a way older guy!!! please it will be so interesting to see your take on it
My mother shamed the hell out of me when she caught me with a girl
Phil is the best boy
I still haven’t had the talk with my parents and I’m already 21. I’ve been active for years and it has never been said out loud or confirmed. It never will.
My grandma basically told us as soon as we could ask. She just never told us any other story. This was in Germany though. So basically I knew how sex works when I was 5 at least the basics. As did most kids my age. I think making such a big deal out of sex is a very American thing. It didn’t hurt us. We learned all the details about safer sex and stuff obviously later in school when we were 12. I will do the same when I get kids, why make up stories when you can just tell the truth.
My parents never talked to me and my siblings about anything. I had no idea how to or not to get pregnant. I lived in a tiny town with no resources. I listened to my boyfriend and got pregnant at 17. I didn't believe in abortion and ended up keeping my daughter. I was a good mom even being young. I had my daughter at Planned Parenthood at 15 when I found out she was sexually active. I ended up not getting married until almost 30 and my daughter was 14 when I had my second child.
i told my dad the day after that i had sex for the first time. We had several talks about sex before hand and his main thing was to tell me 1: Dont let anyone make you feel like you have to do anything you dont want to do and 2: If you are going to have sex with a partner who can impregnate you use a condom. When I told him I had sex with my boyfriend at the time he asked ne if I used protection. I told him yes and he gave me a fist bump lol. My dad never made me feel like having sex was a bad thing he just wanted me to be safe.
Please do one on oitnb there is so much to unpack
I always wondered if you’d ever consider watching Elliot and Diane from horizons monsters cause they are VERY open about it
Pls pls pls do phil and claire! I'm sort of a claire dating a phil rn and dont know how to deal with the overly sweet and sensitive aspects of a nice guy like that, but I like and care about him regardless and I really wanna work this out ♥️
Could you do a therapized video about how I met your mother? Especially about the relationship betweeen Lilly and Marshall and the triangle relationship between Ted, Robin and Barney
PLEASE react to Meredith or Cristina's story in Grey's anatomy. Or any character of the show.
I'm obsessed with your videos, thank you for existing.
please please do one video about the relationship of the main character of the edge of seveteen and her best friend