Therapist Reacts RAW to TV Breakups

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  • @auroramichael1110
    @auroramichael1110 2 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    “Maybe we’ll have more realism from The Vampire Diaries.”
    10 sec later
    “Never had that situation in therapy.” 😳

  • @twinstarssystem2857
    @twinstarssystem2857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +473

    I think the point made about how "there is love the noun and love the verb" is very true... in Norwegian, there are two different words for love depending on the action vs the feeling and I think that is a better way of doing it.

    • @reikun86
      @reikun86 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      That's a really good way of looking at it.

    • @mallorycarpinski1160
      @mallorycarpinski1160 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Like the dcTalk song 😄

    • @jonhinson5701
      @jonhinson5701 ปีที่แล้ว

      What are these words? And is this a Scandanavian thing or uniquely Norwegian?

    • @twinstarssystem2857
      @twinstarssystem2857 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jonhinson5701 not sure i only speak norwegian haha
      å elsker and kjærlighet

  • @FulcanMal
    @FulcanMal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +317

    "I need someone who will kill for me, and that's just not you."
    The Vampire Diaries is my guilty pleasure show, and you have no idea how sadly accurate that line is. Also yeah, the CW is like on a mission to promote toxic relationships. (PS I would LOVE for you to react to the psychology of Sarah from Chuck on Cinema Therapy)

    • @LudmilaT.
      @LudmilaT. ปีที่แล้ว

      The entire premise is that there are vampires. Since vampire do not really exist, none of it can be compared to real life.

  • @lolawhiterabbit
    @lolawhiterabbit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    “Brace yourself Stefan”
    “I need someone who will kill for me, and that’s just not you”
    “But you know, if you wanted to win me back. A disembowelment would go a long way”
    “Decapitation and torture would also help.”
    Omg 🤣 this had me weak! Definitely a whole mood for VD

  • @Walls2008
    @Walls2008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +498

    Alan you are just such a treat to watch; "Lets see if we can get more realism out of the Vampire Diaries" needs to be on a tshirt. Thank you for this video, a great watch as always.

    • @mallorycarpinski1160
      @mallorycarpinski1160 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I loved that comment from him (Jonathan) too 😁

    • @reinapanda6852
      @reinapanda6852 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I literally died laughing when he said that. Like do u really think a show called Vampire diaries would be MORE realistic.

    • @eddis6283
      @eddis6283 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Psst, that's Jono!

    • @Walls2008
      @Walls2008 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@eddis6283 ... I am the worst.

    • @jakeschmitt820
      @jakeschmitt820 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      That’s Jonathan. Not Alan

  • @carpelibrarium8522
    @carpelibrarium8522 2 ปีที่แล้ว +277

    I was hoping at least one of the Chidi:Simone break ups from The Good Place would make it into the reel.
    CHIDI: We need to break up, but here's a puppy.
    SIMONE: Aww! Wait, what?
    CHIDI: He's a puppy, it's over between us, and he's cute.
    SIMONE: Do you think I don't hear the bad parts of these sentences?
    CHIDI: His name is Martin, I need my keys back, and he's a puppy!

    • @irinakl441
      @irinakl441 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yes!! Or Janet and Derek! Lol!

    • @FrancesW-
      @FrancesW- 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      That whole sequence could probably spark some good conversation about what is good or bad strategy for a break-up. Well, maybe not the part where Eleanor inserts herself.

    • @DirtyPrancing
      @DirtyPrancing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      That entire show was so good. They probably didn't want to reveal the secret that is how many amazing things Kristen Bell is a part of

    • @hwoonDeurim
      @hwoonDeurim 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I wish for his reaction to the whole show! There’s just endless topics to learn and to think about and talk about from The Good Place !!

    • @eddis6283
      @eddis6283 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh the complete opposite end of break-ups, you have the parting of the ways between Eleanor and Chidi when he's the only one rebooted which results in very genuine grief and difficulty it would be cool to see Jono react to!

  • @jericahenrichsen8159
    @jericahenrichsen8159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    "I can't change" is denying the existence of agency, denying the existence of the ability to make choices. Always remember that you have a choice. That's what makes us human.

  • @Tinybeequeen
    @Tinybeequeen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Literally everyone on Buffy needs a therapist.

  • @Tinybeequeen
    @Tinybeequeen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    Seeing Nina Dobrev in the thumbnail already had me cackling 😂😭 ooo this is gonna be good
    “It’s not too late” I’m in tears 😂😂😂😂
    Caroline deserves so much better than she gets, though I think Bonnie gets the shortest straw on that show.

    • @thandondlovu5392
      @thandondlovu5392 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Agreed Caroline deserved better and Bonnie deserved The World

    • @anayaspencer9930
      @anayaspencer9930 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      They purposely treated Bonnie character like that cause they were being racist to the actor she played that’s why Bonnie died so many times

  • @larissabrewington9065
    @larissabrewington9065 2 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    The acidic sarcasm delivered gently, is HILARIOUS.

  • @ThisIsMaiAccount
    @ThisIsMaiAccount 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "man, I am CW'ed out, folks"
    what a MOOD

  • @lilalakritzengel
    @lilalakritzengel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    "Is that a boundary or is it an ultimatum?" - PLEASE make some content about that!!
    I have maaaaaaaaaaajor issues with setting boundaries and somehow they always come out as ultimatums, if I try... please make something about the differences and how to communicate boundaries in a healthy way. thank you!

    • @ravengray3095
      @ravengray3095 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I’m definitely not a professional, but this is my take: a boundary is “I can’t handle this” and an ultimatum is “if you do this” one is about your limits and the other is about controlling someone’s actions. Again, not a professional or taught in anything about this, and this is just based on my own personal experiences

    • @lilalakritzengel
      @lilalakritzengel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ravengray3095 Yes but with the "bad things" the boundary continues like "i can't handle this, if this continues I have to end it here". And that ALWAYS makes it come off as an ultimatum / controlling. Or am I just too used to gaslighting??

    • @ForeverFashionGirl21
      @ForeverFashionGirl21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      A boundary usually is not a wall- it is a door. For example, you could have the boundary that you don't hang out with friends on week nights. Boundaries usually aren't relationship ending in themselves but if the boundary is crossed then you have communicated the consequence. To me a boundary is more about yourself than them as someone else said. It is like if someone hurt your feelings you are supposed to say "I" statements instead of "you" statements. Focusing on how you felt rather than accusing them. If someone disrespects your boundaries is that really someone you want in your life?

    • @ForeverFashionGirl21
      @ForeverFashionGirl21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      For Tyler & Caroline she is saying "if you take one more step we are done- no more excuses no more surprises- "honestly it kinda feels like the powers are reversed- she is putting the ball in his court when it really should be in hers. She is making him decide rather than deciding for herself. She should have just ended it herself knowing she deserves better. Neither was wanting to definitively end it which is why she gave the ultimatum and he just walked away thus giving his answer but neither one ended it themselves. I think it showed that both couldn't muster the strength to say the words and let the other go. They each made their choice. Honestly one of the worst/saddest ways to break up. They couldn't even face each other or the truth. They can both say they gave up and ended it. Her with the ultimatum and him walking away. A boundary is having the ball in your court and owning up to it- saying this is my door while an ultimatum puts everything in their court with you still having the power. It is always a loose loose situation if you get to that point. Either resentment or regret.

    • @duskmare0000
      @duskmare0000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I think boundaries are a meeting of feelings. When each person in the relationship states how they feel about certain things and let each other know their beliefs and values. If those values conflict then that's where you have an issue and should work together to come to a compromise, or break up if compromise isn't possible.
      An ultimatum doesn't take into account the other side. It's just a flat "This is how I feel and it WILL go my way." There's no space for negotiating or compromising, it's just "this or nothing".
      Perhaps a good analogy is that boundaries are like countries having borders. They're not necessarily at war with each other but there's a clear line where the ideals (laws) of one stop and the ideals of the other begin. If their ideals align enough (think EU) then they can have open borders and that facilitates a 'healthy relationship' between the countries. More in terms of trade and transport when talking countries, but it translates to giving and receiving the love/support etc in a relationship.
      Ultimatums are more like threats. It's like a country demanding that it's neighboring country surrender and live by the same laws, otherwise they're going to nuke it. They don't mutually meet at the borders and agree to get along, one country tries to encompass the other within it's border. Essentially making it a controlling, manipulative strategy, as Johno pointed out.

  • @eddiebanks3583
    @eddiebanks3583 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    “I feel like I’m missing a lot of good stuff not watching vampire diaries”
    By that I think we mean he’s missing a lot of material to dissect and I would be okay with that

  • @sarafrolander2266
    @sarafrolander2266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    The neck ripping thing made me lol so hard 🤣

  • @sarahhilkmann2953
    @sarahhilkmann2953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Willow and Tara from Buffy was the most gut wrenching break up for me! So many tears from teenage me 😭

  • @Luubelaar
    @Luubelaar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    7:57 - I totally agree. My husband and I celebrate our 22nd anniversary this weekend. There have definitely been times that were hard and needed a lot of effort, but the vast majority of the time has been "it just works". He knows what I need, I know what he needs, and we manage to give each other those things, and barely even realise we do so. I guess that's how we've been together as long as we have.
    Some wise words I was told: love is like a fart. If you force it, it'll end up shit.

    • @nothingnowhere2358
      @nothingnowhere2358 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I love those wise words 😂😂
      So deep and philosophical, truly

    • @eviebradney2068
      @eviebradney2068 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Omg I wasn't expecting that last part 😂

  • @echosharky9840
    @echosharky9840 2 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    I love seeing how Buffy and Angel develop past their break up and in later seasons they’re just friends. By the time they get to the 7th season I think there’s a balance between them which you don’t have when Buffy is younger

    • @D.M.S.
      @D.M.S. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thats why they kissed in season 7?

    • @naimasophie
      @naimasophie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do friends kiss each other when they each other and still hope for a romantic future together? Damn 😂😂😂 you got a twisted vision of friendship bro

  • @bast713
    @bast713 2 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    Eve and Lucifer's breakup from Lucifer was really good, if you ever decide to do more of these.
    Vampire Diaries pretty much thrives on toxic relationships. And I'm counting the time they introduced Elena's manipulative vampire doppelganger that sired Damon and Stephan years back but had been though dead. Both of the brothers were head over heels for her too. Yeah, it's the CW.

    • @downhomesunset
      @downhomesunset 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah, but I don’t think Luci wanted to be with Eve. He was madly in love with Chloe and he just had to admit it.

    • @learnbydoinghomeschool7813
      @learnbydoinghomeschool7813 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      yeeeees

    • @SparkleDramaQueen93
      @SparkleDramaQueen93 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      YES! Eve and Lucifier's breakup was very well written

    • @madnessarcade7447
      @madnessarcade7447 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not all the relationships were toxic
      Stephan and elena
      Caroline and Stephan etc

    • @LudmilaT.
      @LudmilaT. ปีที่แล้ว

      @@madnessarcade7447 Damon and Elena once they became human
      Alaric and Jo

  • @helenc1027
    @helenc1027 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I was hoping Schitt's Creek's Ted and Alexis would end up in this, that was such a healthy example of a breakup between two people who still love each other and it broke my heart

  • @Kayjee17
    @Kayjee17 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    You would be a blast to watch Vampire Diaries with! I'd love to see you analyze Katherine or Klaus.

  • @May-qb3vx
    @May-qb3vx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Lolol. Jono’s comments on the Elena/Stefan breakup. Little did he know that Stefan is the Ripper of Monterey and literally has ripped so many people apart. More than Damon has anyway. Damon’s killing looks tame in comparison to Stefan switching off his humanity switch. Stefan is the sweetest person when he lets himself feel, but he also goes off the deep end quick.

    • @ElvisRose_
      @ElvisRose_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Plus, there's also how Damon could feed without ripping heads off. Although, I always liked it when Stefan was switched off because Paul Wesley played it to perfection in the same way that Silas to perfection.

    • @D.M.S.
      @D.M.S. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They are both killers

  • @tai26273
    @tai26273 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    You should definitely react to more Vampire Diaries character interactions! There's a lot to unpack with a lot of their storylines and the way they behave emotionally. A really dynamic character is Klaus Mikaelson!

  • @LBullockPW
    @LBullockPW 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    “Switch at Birth” is so good. The scenes done in sign language are common in the show. I really love the follow up episode to the breakup. It shows Bay (the female) dealing with the aftermath and her feelings and it’s such a real portrayal of that process. I love it.

  • @natashak5159
    @natashak5159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    That response to seeing Chuck and Sarah on screen though?? Loved it. And honestly, same. What a great show to look at!

  • @Lina_TheAnimeArtist
    @Lina_TheAnimeArtist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I think the one in Veronica Mars was what I'd call a healthy breakup. No screaming, no interrupting each other, no drama; just rational adults business. If I were ever to go through a breakup, I'd like someone who'd rationalise things with me the way that guy did.

  • @FatimaMarques0890
    @FatimaMarques0890 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Johno: You have no business being in the same scene with Shailene Woodley. None, whatsoever!
    Me: My thoughts exaaaactly!!!
    Johno: Let's see if we can get more realism out of Vampire diaries.
    Me: That better be sarcasm

  • @koivunen2489
    @koivunen2489 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Bly Manor has a really good tear-jerker of a breakup. It's not a conversation scene but visuals and voice-over. But because it's a breakup out of love, and it's really well done, IMHO.

  • @atinyevil1383
    @atinyevil1383 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    All of the Chuck and Sarah troubles hurt. I’m going through the show with my SO and he wants them together so bad and keeps getting mad when things happen and then they break up. He’s going to be really angry at the end.

    • @MendedLight
      @MendedLight  2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Oh man, the ending broke me for a few days. It was beautiful, but it wasn't the clean and simple happy ending I needed, lol.

    • @atinyevil1383
      @atinyevil1383 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@MendedLight yeah. There may be a reboot and idk how to feel about that.

    • @mschrisfrank2420
      @mschrisfrank2420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’d just skip the last season

    • @andreamiller3578
      @andreamiller3578 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Although the ending wasn't perfect for Chuck and Sarah (what were the writers thinking?), I just know deep down that her memories will come back after he tells her their story and she asks him to kiss her. It's Chuck after all. How could they not get their happy ending?! And even if it's not instant, she WILL fall in love again and get her memories back. 1. Chuck is an adorable man. 2. The show was just too optimistic for it to be meant to be sad. River and roads ....

    • @atinyevil1383
      @atinyevil1383 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@andreamiller3578 my head cannon is that Chuck found something his dad was working on to restore someone back to the way they were before they had the intersect. Chuck finished it, perfected it on Morgan, and then used it on Sarah.

  • @butterflyinthesky3568
    @butterflyinthesky3568 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I was with you until the last Vampire Diaries one, where you proceeded to say - as Elena - that all Stefan needed to win you back was some throat ripping, maybe some disembowlment...
    I was dying of laughter then!!

  • @arbieWA
    @arbieWA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    You have a good point about couples who start ripping each other's clothes off right after screaming at each other. Doesn't work that way in real life. But I've known a few people who think it does. Not to that extreme, but people who want to come up and hug me when we're still in the process of the argument..... nope. Just nope.

    • @arbieWA
      @arbieWA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      PS: Don't ever grab me by the arm as I'm walking away.

  • @SolKaras
    @SolKaras 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Jonathan: A disembowlment would go a long way
    Captions: A decent bye would go a long way
    good job youtube captions XD

  • @flawlix
    @flawlix 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    One of my favorite breakup scenes is the Ross and Rachel one from Friends, of all things. I’m not a huge fan of that show, but I think that episode captures the raw emotions of breaking up with someone you still love very well.

  • @DirtyPrancing
    @DirtyPrancing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Veronica Mars!! Yay!! That relationship could have its own whole episode it's so complex. Especially in season four when they're adults and he's trying to change the toxic dynamic but for some reason she won't let him

    • @manug20dt3
      @manug20dt3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Haha, I was like S4?! There’s only 3. Then I remembered. I blocked it out because of that bullshit ending. F you Rob Thomas, forever

  • @Idaho1989
    @Idaho1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I wish One tree hill was included, Brooke and Lucas break up in season 4 was so good.

    • @Idaho1989
      @Idaho1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The scene at the wedding reception (after she finds out about the kiss) is probably even better 🤔

  • @marie-evest-germain3179
    @marie-evest-germain3179 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The Ted Lasso break up scene in season 1 is one of the most sincere, loving and relatable break up scene I ever saw.

  • @carolinatelona6156
    @carolinatelona6156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    OH MY GOD, I absolutely love the show CHUCK and their breakups really hurt and play with mah emotions 😭❤️

    • @thandondlovu5392
      @thandondlovu5392 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I loved Chuck but The Ups and Downs in his relationship with Sarah gutted me.

  • @LouiseLillith
    @LouiseLillith 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Even as a +40 adult, Buffy and Angels break-up still tears me apart. >__< As It did when I first watched it as a teen.

  • @chrismccaffrey8256
    @chrismccaffrey8256 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The sign language one is from the tv series "Switched at Birth". Good watch and pretty good, if slightly unfulfilling ending.

  • @meganswistak1144
    @meganswistak1144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I think Caroline was just tired of playing second fiddle to his quest for revenge. (“I made him choose. Me or his stupid revenge fantasy. He chose wrong.”) Maybe it’s an ultimatum or maybe it’s a boundary. It’s hard to tell IMO.

  • @toristeveson
    @toristeveson 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I saw the thumbnail, and my first thought was- surely he loves chuck. I was right!!!

  • @purplemind93
    @purplemind93 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    9:20 scene was sad, I had the same experience as the girl and was totally confused by that "shift" and him not even saying it but blaming it on other things. Which meant I myself had to be the one to figure it out. Letting someone down gently is not preferred in my book, that's cowardly. Thanks Jono for sticking up for her.

  • @stellaoltre3572
    @stellaoltre3572 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You like chuck and have watched both buffy and angel. You might be the only therapist worth listening to.

  • @johnrea8173
    @johnrea8173 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sometimes I get so annoyed at break ups on shows, but then I always try to think about if its bad writing, bad acting, or maybe they're teenagers. Sometimes I forget what it was like at that age.

  • @KCallia
    @KCallia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The Vampire Diaries is something special and unapologetically CW. They get points for Damon saying it's a toxic relationship, how many shows do that?
    IIRC the cast were instructed to not indulge any shipping inquiries, whether it was online (social media) or interviews.

  • @KxNOxUTA
    @KxNOxUTA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Breakups just suck, but there's also an instance of it where you can experience the depth of love if love is the reason you break up. When it's the very core of it! When your regard for both of you runs so deep, that you wouldn't stand for leaving the both of you in a place of misery to the point where the only way out is through building up enough contempt and turning ugly in your own and each other's (and everyone's) eyes.
    It's empowering to have been able to seperates in love. There's honor in a realistic retreat and acceptance of defeat after having tried your best as fighting for common ground.
    When that is not how we separate, then we've either never had love and regard or we are way way way to late in confirming our reality. And that happens. It's not like we're born with these skills. They're discovered, studied and practiced, refined and further developed and practiced some more. And sometimes disintegrated and fully replaced, closing and opening the cyclical spiral motion of life.
    Thank you foe your honesty and for telling what is not talked about often enough. The deference between our feelings and thoughts versus our actions, choices, moral integrity. There are instances that simply exist and are to be seen and accepted. And other instances that are choice. Not "regardless" but "in consideration of" what's inside. And really, if you can feel happy and sad at the same time, why shouldn't you be able to form actions of integrity at all times. It's all you, so the only question is which "you" do you place in the driver's seat.

  • @elodiepollock7326
    @elodiepollock7326 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "I need someone who will kill for me, and thats just not you"
    oh boy how are you so accurate knowing nothing about the show o.O

  • @tiggerbuttdelove
    @tiggerbuttdelove 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    'There might be some neck rippers out there who need my help' oh god, I just died. Let's really hope not!

  • @katherinerinck3722
    @katherinerinck3722 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Let's see if we can find more realism in The Vampire Diaries." Made me lol 😆

  • @meadowsong8560
    @meadowsong8560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was 15 when that episode of Buffy first aired. My mom and I both cried!

  • @st__pt
    @st__pt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really wish a therapist would watch The Vampire Diaries and fully and talk about it. it's so big among teens and young adults

  • @ayagodes5618
    @ayagodes5618 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This makes me realize I never got to have a face to face breakup. All of them were by text. The last one was just pure ghosting out of the blue
    I have to wonder what it says about me, or the men I picked to love. Been knowing them for months if not years yet I never even got a call when I was told it was over. No convo. No reason. Nothing.

  • @counterintuitive7406
    @counterintuitive7406 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I remember when my first love/long-term boyfriend broke up with me. I was 24...it was 17 years ago and I remember the heartbreak felt in that moment and in months/years afterwards. I had just witnessed my best friend get mercilessly dumped with an admission of cheating and being in love with another girl. I watched her beg for him not to leave her even after he told her all of that. I told myself right then that I would never beg ANYONE to stay with me if they expressed a wish to separate/breakup. I literally had NO fight in me even though inside I was devastated...so it was probably the saddest, most anger free breakup ever. We both cried. It was very hard for both of us. But it's what was best. We remain friends to this day ♥️ I eventually married and had 2 beautiful children and he found the perfect woman for him. What's beautiful is that we are glad to see the other so happy in life. Honestly though, he's one of my only exes that I have that with. Admittedly, n my opinion, he is my most important ex. What we had was very very real and an important stepping stone in learning how to unselfishly be in a committed relationship

    • @ForeverFashionGirl21
      @ForeverFashionGirl21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yeah my first break up from my first love and long term boyfriend was excruciating and took over a year to get over. We are not friends. Nothing like the first.

    • @counterintuitive7406
      @counterintuitive7406 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ForeverFashionGirl21 I don't think you can truly say you've lived if you haven't experienced the heartbreak of a love lost or unrequited. As painful as it is, it teaches a very important lesson.

  • @ariellebro
    @ariellebro 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Vampire Diaries has some of the best breakup scenes. Pure gold 🤌

  • @aggelikhzt8014
    @aggelikhzt8014 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Love that even though he hasn't seen the Vampire Diaries he understood that Elena picked drama and toxicity over a healthy relationship with Stefan just by their breakup scenes

    • @ShipperTrash88
      @ShipperTrash88 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He hadn't seen the entirety of either relationship on TVD. Stelena was not exactly healthy either, but who cares anyway. We watched it to be entertained

    • @ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld
      @ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Stefan was a thousand times healthier than Damon

  • @Buffy8Fan
    @Buffy8Fan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Ever since day one of knowing his channel(s), I have wanted to know what he thought about Buffy and Angel's _The Prom_ breakup. I could watch him dissect the whole Buffyverse, episode by episode (pipe dream, I know). So far, this and _The Body_ will have to do. They were good moments to have him react to.

    • @MendedLight
      @MendedLight  2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Once More, With Feeling coming soon!

    • @Buffy8Fan
      @Buffy8Fan 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MendedLight 👍

    • @mallorycarpinski1160
      @mallorycarpinski1160 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MendedLight That's so exciting to me!! Also, when did you do The Body?? That's such an amazing do episode!

  • @Kwistoweeish
    @Kwistoweeish 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The tongue in cheek advice to the Vampire Diaries characters is my favorite part of this analysis!

  • @Zaddy-Lu
    @Zaddy-Lu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "You have something face" I snort laughed at that

  • @catherinepoteat
    @catherinepoteat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My favorite breakup scenes are actually from Avatar: Legend of Korra. Mako is just so dump-able. If you could react to the Asami-Mako break up scene, and the Korra-Mako break up SCENES that'd be swell!

  • @pngvnskn
    @pngvnskn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I lost it on "Brace yourself Stefan" haha That was hillarious!

  • @amandaforrester7636
    @amandaforrester7636 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Were any throats ripped out is what I want to know" lol vampire diaries.

  • @anxen
    @anxen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Jono salt commentating over relationship TV clips should be a regular feature. 🤣

  • @KCDay-eu1iq
    @KCDay-eu1iq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Mom of 5 here. I have a very healthy relationship with my hubby, but the line "The sex is so good I just put up with it" is one of the biggest myths and worst statements ever uttered in existence. There is no such thing as "The sex is so good I just put up with it." No, the sex is not "that good", it's just something people tell themselves to justify why they stay. If you're staying in a relationship for the sex, then you are in it for the wrong reason to begin with. That's why we have so many divorces, sex is supposed to be this cure all for everything. I love John's statement in another video that if you start out a relationship with sex, it gives you a false sense of love, and that is sooo true! Sex greatly enhances an already good relationship, but you can't base a healthy relationship off if it.

  • @coletteroyer5353
    @coletteroyer5353 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Buddy and angel was the saddest one :( I love them

  • @l.g.2888
    @l.g.2888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am dying to see you react to more Vampire Diaries! Truly so good and bad.

  • @eilishmclennan6546
    @eilishmclennan6546 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE react to more vampire diaries, its so ridiculous what happens around them but the love triangle WOOF, especially the scene where damon tells elena he loves her then compels her to forget, and when she loses him so she gets someone to make her forget

  • @sunnicorran9244
    @sunnicorran9244 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    thank you so much for this. It was fun seeing you react to one of my favourite couples, Delena, plus Amy and Ricky in Secret Life.

  • @kayisfish
    @kayisfish 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    OMG you would *LOVE* Veronica Mars!!!

  • @gugumasondo192
    @gugumasondo192 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel like the characters of Stefan and Elijah wouldn't exist without Angel. The self loathing that this characters do is immense

  • @tell-me-a-story-
    @tell-me-a-story- ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "I've been so selfish because I love you so much."
    Bull.
    Love is the opposite of selfishness the way wet is the opposite of dry.

  • @snowflower7494
    @snowflower7494 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m so amazed to see Wildfire on this list. Such an underrated show that ended too soon. Wildfire was so good, just enough drama to add spice and cheese lol, and then all the heart and soul of meaningful relationships/family dynamics, add in some horse racing. *chefs kiss*

  • @mschrisfrank2420
    @mschrisfrank2420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It makes me laugh that so many of these couples are endgame.

    • @mediatorraptor3349
      @mediatorraptor3349 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wait so most of them get back together despite their being problems in their relationship

  • @MelissaDiaferia
    @MelissaDiaferia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Was not expecting Chuck and Sarah to be included!! So many people overlook this show, but it’s so good! Chuck and Sarah have an interesting relationship, I’d love for you to therapize Chuck and Sarah’s relationship overall 💯

  • @ishajac3637
    @ishajac3637 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I only clicked on this because Elena was in the thumb nail.
    Dude, you should REALLY watch The Vampire Diaries. Years and years of subject matter to wade through. Ooo, if you do, no spoilers, but I'll definitely subscribe just to hear your take on Damon's psyche.

  • @prue9123
    @prue9123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    great video! I love the Vampire Diaries and Buffy. it's my guilty pleasure! I loved when you said Edward did that to Bella too. lol

  • @cindilouwho8681
    @cindilouwho8681 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Jono’s comment on Vampire Diaries is hilarious. Yes, it IS terrible, but you still feel compelled to binge it, for some reason 😂😂

  • @samf.s8786
    @samf.s8786 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Jono despite the fact that you ruined every TV show I've ever watched for me, I am indebted to you (And to Alecia because she does bring out the good in you). You made me unlearn some very toxic tropes that I had internalized and hoped would apply to real life.
    It helped me grow as a person. Thank you!

  • @belaydevice8695
    @belaydevice8695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love those Vampire Diaries reacts. 🤣

  • @kirstencosta8010
    @kirstencosta8010 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I loved your facial reactions during the vampire diaries 😂!

  • @brendarobles7670
    @brendarobles7670 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Here's the context if the first Vampire Diaries clip. Damon will usually go do something horrible( like kill one if her friends and/or brother) every time Elena breaks up with him. He'll do it to get her attention and she takes him back every time. There summed all up

  • @iamharrypotter03
    @iamharrypotter03 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Vampire Diaries is the delicious drama you never knew you needed.

  • @summer_the_rae
    @summer_the_rae ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If you ever do one of these again, I recommend watching Finn and Rachel's break up in "The Break-Up" an episode of Glee. Lea Michele's acting is phenomenal, it's so heartbreaking.

  • @cy_bels
    @cy_bels ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm suprised there are not more clips of you reacting to vampire diaries and/or veronica mars. Both of those shows need therapy so bad! 😂😂

  • @Meggymiyeko
    @Meggymiyeko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If you watched the whole secret life scene , it’s actually super emo bc she really changed his whole view on love, forgiveness and all that. He was so broken, abused, distrustful of others. They had a kid, didn’t fall in love til years later, wanted to get married but learned to love each other and not be in love. They never trusted the other, but knew at the end of the series they could with everything. Amy left knowing John was in good hands bc Ricky, from the instant John was born, did everything for his son. And at least we get the satisfaction of knowing the end up together as adults LOL.

  • @MagdalenaMantler
    @MagdalenaMantler 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can absolutely relate to what you said: Tell the truth, no matter how hard it hurts. Because i was broken up with without an explanation whatsoever and it took me around a year or so to stop asking myself, why and if I did something wrong and was able to just accept it and that I will never get an explanation.
    Gladly in this time a had good support and put much time into nurturing and being good to myself.
    If I did not had that time for me, I don't know if I would be over it now.
    It means respect to be honest with the one you are breaking up and telling whatever is the truth. So the other person can close with it sooner and better.
    You can ALWAYS heal from such a thing without the partner being honest whatsoever - it just may take a bit longer. Just wanted to add this. Because some think for very long that they only can heal if the other person helps them in any way. That is not true. You can always heal on yourself. It just may take some more time (but can be different of course too).

  • @camillaabreu1967
    @camillaabreu1967 ปีที่แล้ว

    OMG, the fact that there was a scene from Switched at birth in there made me so happy, I LOVED that show

  • @julianacristinacunico9765
    @julianacristinacunico9765 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It would be fun to see you analysing "Love is Blind" couples

  • @RPGgoddess25
    @RPGgoddess25 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't get so I don't know classic lol, thanks so much for doing the vampire diaries one. Needed a quick dose of Damnon today, lol

  • @red4679
    @red4679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Lets see if we get more realism out of Vampire Diaries"
    Sir I hate to break it to you but-

  • @milomazli
    @milomazli 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this dear Jonathan! Thank you for doing this! I found this soooo interesting. I wonder what was the reason you and that ex -girlfriend were breaking up. Because she didnt want to have kids? Thats my greatest fear. Being left because I dont want to have kids...

  • @Book_Dragon2562
    @Book_Dragon2562 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    You’re not missing anything by not watching Vampire Diaries, in my opinion. You said what I have always felt about Damon and Elena. I loved the throat ripping comment though.
    I love Chuck and Sarah, I’m so glad they made the list!
    Bay and Emmett’s breakup was painful but necessary.
    I especially loved what you said about you can’t choose the emotion but you choose what to do with it!
    All in all, great episode! I really enjoyed it.

  • @anaismontoya6805
    @anaismontoya6805 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    The Buffy/Angel breakup is SO bad! She did chose to leave him many épisodes before that, knowing it couldn’t work. They come back together because HE is in a bad place and can’t deal with it without her (there’s a lot to say about that…). And this scene completly negates the fact that she’s the mature one on this relationship at this point and one of the main point of the show: life is about choices. Buffy always make choices. Making her say « I didn’t know I had a choice » and him choose for her was a very lame and out of character way to set Angel’s spinoff in motion.

    • @MendedLight
      @MendedLight  2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      True. Also, the ep in Angel where they get together and then her memory is erased killed me.

    • @strandedinseattle9931
      @strandedinseattle9931 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Buffy/Angel was so gross. He was 240 years old and spying on her when she was 14, then got with her when she was 16. He was an ADULT to the nth degree, he would not have the mentality of a 22 year old (which they tried to portray him as at first). Serious pedo there. Just thinking about it makes me vomit a little into my mouth.

    • @mli6976
      @mli6976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@strandedinseattle9931 As a kid, I was so into Buffy and Angel. Now, I realize how toxic they were and I’m left wondering why TF this was promoted to teens who are kids. Thank GOD Sarah MG have a healthy life and marriage with kids.

    • @Wednesdaywoe1975
      @Wednesdaywoe1975 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You forgot to mention the punching.

    • @summonsays2610
      @summonsays2610 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@mli6976 As a kid I was rooting for Spike. Talk about a toxic relationship lol.

  • @roselover411
    @roselover411 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pfffff!! Your reactions to vampire diaries clips are hysterical XD "you know if you want to win me back, a good disembowelment would go a long way"

  • @georgieeve2026
    @georgieeve2026 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Damn breakups suck. Ima need to go watch some cat videos after this to balance out the feels lol.
    We seriously need to be taught in Primary school how to do and be in relationships.

  • @themacauslands4920
    @themacauslands4920 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    May you react/analyze to the relationship between William and Jocelyn in A Knight's Tale; specifically the scene where she asks him to 'do his worst' to prove his love. Would love to see this as an episode, please and thank you.

  • @EB4714
    @EB4714 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was such a fun video to watch, a part of me hoped Magnus and Alec's breakup from the show shadowhunters would've been on the list. Maybe next time.

  • @NarutokunJB
    @NarutokunJB ปีที่แล้ว

    The thing about being upfront instead of sparing feelings is so true. My ex said we were incompatible, that we would just get on eachother's nerves and she didn't want the "amazing friendship" to be ruined. I accepted that she had the right to end it, but asked what I was doing to risk the friendship and she had the audacity to say it wouldn't be fair on me to tell me. In contrast, my now GF and soon to be fiancée is always upfront with me when she doesn't like something, as well as with what she likes, and I can adapt accordingly (sometimes easy, sometimes hard, but I work at it). And she reciprocates that as well. It's so different and almost astonishingly easy to communicate with her.

  • @amandaleecoaching
    @amandaleecoaching ปีที่แล้ว

    Wildfire was such a good show!! It started as a tv movie and then the show came from it. The first episode for the show never makes sense for a rewatch, because it just starts in the middle of the action/storyline, and you miss the real start of it. Junior and Kris ended up together, though. They’re second relationship is a lot healthier than the first one. The whole “older and wiser” thing.

  • @Cordelish
    @Cordelish 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    First, I love this series and your Cinema Therapy. I watch every video, and a few on repeat. Second, Vampire Diaries is okay, but if you want good "Guilty Pleasure" tv try The Originals. It is a spin off where the characters behave more in the mid-20's maturity range rather then High School age.

  • @MARYWTHER
    @MARYWTHER 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Seeing all these shows from the 90s, I would love to see what you think about love stories like Phoebe and Cole from Charmed. As a child, I hated them yet I cried at the end. Now I see "the angst" the writers tried to put in all of this, but I can't help but believe it was a tragically toxic relationship. Yknow, kinda like Buffy and Angel tbh.
    (and hahaha all this Vampire Diaries Angst in this video, I cannot, and that's really not the worst of it...)

  • @artman2oo3
    @artman2oo3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh dude. If you haven’t yet, can you please do “Mr. and Mrs. Smith”? I love that movie, and it’s such a weird situation, two spies trying to kill each other but they’re married and going to marriage counseling. I mean… seriously you’d have a great video there if you did that movie.