"I'm Not Like Other Girls"
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- Let's analyze the "not like other girls" phenomenon! so different. so quirky!!
#internetanalysis #notlikeothergirls
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0:00 - intro
2:30 - traditional gender roles & stereotypes
3:57 - blame the PATRIARCHY!
4:23 - "there are two types of girls"
5:48 - we compare ourselves to other girls
6:24 - I'm QuIRkY !!
7:22 - aside from memes, these "notlikeothergirls" girls do exist
9:34 - is being called "not like other girls" a compliment?
12:16 - "Cool Girl"
12:36 - all my friends are guys, I'm one of the boys
13:46 - "not like other girls" can also be used as an insult
14:23 - INTERNALIZED MISOGYNY!! plus my stories of internalized misogyny
19:39 - girls need female role models!
20:47 - more reasons to call yourself "not like other girls"
21:59 - enneagram moment! I'm a type 4 (the individualist) and this is relevant lmao
24:31 - individualistic cultures - we want to fit in but we also want to stand out
25:51 - we're ALL like other girls
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You don't need to degrade my gender to compliment me as a person
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Yes!
Emma Mohring PREACH
Well said
Emma Mohring I think it goes the same for girls that say this about themselves
Feminism is overcoming your hatred of pink and realising it’s a nice colour
Melissa Travers yess that’s kinda true though
There’s truth to this I used to be an “other girl” / “one of the boys”, so I acted like I hated pink cause it’s a girly color. I secretly loved it, and I now wear my love for pink on my sleeve.
It's still not my favorite color but I claimed to absolutely hate it when I was younger, wouldn't even wear it. Now I admit I look good in pink and will wear it semi-often
Yup. I realized I can be a badass and wear a shit ton of pink
YES.
It is completely normal to do all these things that “typical girls” don’t do. Video games, books, sports, doesnt like makeup, hangs out with boys, ect. The things is, “not like other girls” girls act like its a personality trait.
Makeup is uncomfortable. I don't care who you are or where you're from. Makeup dries out skin, it's expensive, and takes hours to apply. If people don't like it I totally understand. If people do like it, I get that too. It feels good to feel gorgeous.
Yes exactly, and people also don't realize you can like multiple things at once
Like for God's sake, you can play games and also like makeup and fashion
One thing doesn't erase the other
Funny thing is those activities areas basic as they can get
@@lais9670 yep. Sadly this reminds me of those workplaces where women wearing makeup is a necessity
etc.
I hate the phrase “You lost to a girl” or “How did you lose to a girl” etc. like c’mon😐
I HATE THAT PHRASE TOOOO AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
its so loaded
Would a girl date a guy she perceived as inferior to her? Please be honest.
@@juanpablosaenz9037 Yea but "how did you loose to a girl" is used when a guy looses in something to a girl and its implies that girls are weak and bad at everything so if you loose to a girl you're REALLY bad at that thing. Nobody is gonna date someone they see inferior, not just girls and not just guys. I'd hope people value themselves more when compared to a junkie who doesn't do anything.
FRRR it's backhanded to women because it assumes they can only succeed by luck and not through hard work + it insults the capabilities of men and perpetrates toxic masculinity by making them feel emasculated
People saying “boys don’t start drama” honestly never had a single History class
Lol amazing
Yeah but Eve made a deal with the devil so....checkmate
I’m not even religious and that story seems legit 🤣🤣
S.M. That’s probably because you clicked on this video to annoy people in the comments
+S.M. you mean Adam being not able to think for himself and just blindly following rules of a male he considered “his leader” regardless of the fact that that leader tried to keep him as ignorant as a child? Yeah, does sound legit tbh
sourgreendolly it’s a joke....
People aren't sims. You don't just have 3 traits that define you.
Damn. That was perfect.
Nailed it
sims 3 can't relate
Omg I love this
Sophie Scherk or they just don’t have SNAKE ARMS
My sister still acts as if she’s “not like other girls” and she literally reminds me of how I used to act... And I feel bad because she was probably influenced by my behavior towards others back then. I bought a nice t shirt the other day and she just looked at me weirdly like “since when do you care about how you look? Are you becoming like those popular girls?” And it does NOT help my mum encourages it. Whenever my sister talks about how she’s into anime she’s always like “some of us like anime in my class so we just sorta talk among ourselves away from the popular girls” and my mums all like “yeah forget those popular girls, just stick to the geeky lot” like noooo people shouldn’t be put into boxes like “the populars” and “the geeks” as if that’s their entire personalities. I love anime, but I still talk to what my family would call “popular basic girls” because they’re really nice.
How does she act now
My sister is like that too. When she was young and now she is like i'm not liker other girls and MOMs. Its a bit strange sometimes
@@yanderellaflowerqueen1167 that is even worse since it not a phase but a lifestyle
Im 10, im none of these..im a sport girl and I mostly spend The time wiht bruh girls talking about memes
@@nojustauser9872 I was one of you!😯
I'm a girl. I love dressing up, wearing make up, hanging out with my girls, dancing. I'm a nerd. I'm a fangirl. I play games. I love sports. I love to bake. I enjoy chicklit. I laugh at 'chickflicks'. I love math & physics. I'm a doctor. & on top of all that, I'm an introvert. Why do we have to fit into a stereotype? We're human beings. We're supposed to be different. Each & every one of us.
& TH-cam, why do I find this video when it's already 1 year old?
Exactly. With maturity and growing out of the phase, I think I started to realize how complex people are and how they really can't be boiled down to interests or appearance. I don't think we as individuals can be defined. Especially since we are constantly changing, learning and acquiring new tastes, perspectives, etc. All people are so beautiful and have something to offer, I think. I am so glad I look at other girls with love now instead of judging them if their interests didn't match mine. Because it's beautiful to find interest and passion in something you love! And I love seeing other people doing that and being happy. In doing so, I've been able to heal my internalized misogyny and accept and love the feminine aspects of who I am. Frick yeah people are awesome, love the girls and guys and whoever else, we in this together heh. Bless you, sorry for the rant, lol. I hope you're finding happiness in whatever you pursue :))
@@avriebrown3652 thanks for the rant 😁 feels good to find like-minded people with maturity. Hope you have a peaceful life being your honest self, with all the diversity and imperfections and everything.
What does it matter if the video is a decade old, I seriously don't care about being "late" to a video.
@@blacksheep5821 ayeooo thank ya you as well. All the best 🫡
mrs girl really said all of the above /no hate tho
When a guy says “you’re not like other girls” it clearly shows how little he thinks of other women.
@@QHaq-oh5oe why wouldn't it be?
when you expect less and think the worst, you can't be disappointed only pleasantly surprised
that goes for interactions with anyone, not just women
Rachel Carlin - women think even less about other women.
By that logic, Tiffany herself thinks little of men, given she told her boyfriend he's "not like other guys".
Robert Sander she did say that was wrong too. Nice try
I feel like “not like other girls” is the “nice guys” of the women’s world
Underrated
Yet different from the "Nice Girls" tag… never thought about this, but it does make sense 🤔
I was just thinking this because both are cringy in similar ways. They both use these phrases to try to guilt the other party after getting rejected.
mary downs I agree! And just like “not like other girls” being called a “nice guy” or “not like other guys” can have some positive or negative implications
Poetic Progenitor true I think those labels can be positive, but only when coming from someone else, not usually when when said about oneself.
In some cartoons the "mean girl" is often represented as feminine but also superficial,stupid,selfish and stuff.
This is probably one of many reasons why little girls(including me before tbh) think it's bad to be feminine.
I tried to be more masculine because of my little shit of a brother.
I think it’s media being behind culture by about a decade. I am sure in the 80’s-90’s the girly cheerleader WAS the popular girl, and goth/masculine girls WERE bullied relentlessly. I think it’s important not to be overly judgmental so we can stop this dumb cycle of shame.
Not a cartoon but legally Blonde is a good example that's the opposite of that stereotype, Elle Woods was the definition of the feminine blonde girly girl
In pink, but she was actually kind, nice to others while it was the law school students who were mean and judgmental to her
Honestly when I was about 8 years old, I one day went to school and started being like -UGH I HATE PINK
I actually liked it, I was just trying not to be like “other girls”
Now I absolutely love it and understand how stupid i used to be, and how misogyny gets to young girls
Im 9 years old and im proud to say that most of my room is pink
Same
same
I like the color pink just not when its burning my eyes. But other than that I like the color and it looks good when I wear it
@@ilovemycatthoughheisfat8968 I love ur name
“I’m not like most girls, I eat dirt.”
-Kurtis Conner
Same tbh
Fellow citizen of Kurtistown!!!
LuckyOrangeTabby08 Yee Yee 🤠🤟
gotta love him *folks*
Folks! Glad other people watch him!
I read somewhere once that when a woman says she likes a guy with a sense of humor, she means a guy who can make her laugh. When a guy says he likes a girl with a sense of humor, he means a girl who laughs at his jokes! The social expectation is very much that man should amuse and woman be amused. To be amusing is to capture the attention of the room, so a funny woman is threatening to the kind of men who are insecure.
K R
Yepppppp.
That is such an interesting point, I have never thought of it this way
That's why I just say I like girls who are funny to avoid the misconception
I cannot tell you how many times ive heard men say VERBATIM "women aren't funny"
K R it’s also important to have a SIMILAR sense of humor.
I wish you would talk more about how toxic this ideology of "if you like anything that's not girly - you're automatically a pick me not like other girls" because if people even mention online on liking music or tv shows that aren't girly they're automatically categorized as a cringey "not like other girls" girl... even if they still like typically girly things like makeup or fashion.
Categorised by whom? And would they care of that person’s opinion?
@@KaterynaM_UA Categorized by people on the internet who are so indoctinated with the "not like other girls" meme, that they forget that not all girls who don't like all "girly" stuff are doing it to please men or to seem different. It's pushing a very sexist and misogynistic belief. Sure, some do it just to seem "cool" or "different," but when you're so indoctrinated with this ideology it's actually pushing towards the opposite direction you want your movement to go in. I don't know what the second question has to do with anything though, because people should care if they care about real feminism other than the "feminists" who post "not like other girls" crap instead of just ignoring it, and letting the problem get worse.
Yes definitely, I don’t like jewelry but I also don’t hate jewelry and don’t judge anyone for wearing it. But I never say it because I feel like people will call me a pick me girl or “not like other girls”
Yeah that also happens a lot. Although I feel I come off more as pretentious and annoying whenever I mention that I like opera and classical music rather than pick me 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well once a group of girls turned on me in school and said I'm trying to be special by being into boys music. I'm 27 and still listening and creating metal
I literally don't understand what the society wants •́ ‿ ,•̀
society is just too indecisive, **insert pensive emoji**
I love the kaomoji :0
Right just be yourself at this point lmao let's stop trying to be something for society
They want everything but also nothing
Society can't want anything.
Only people can want something.
*moral of the story: stop putting others down to make yourself feel better*
AMEN!
well that is a masculine trait to put others down so it sort of makes you not like other girls if you do it.
women are very collectivist and do not enjoy domination.
preach it!
I'm amazed this comment doesn't have more likes.
gractendo Nope, because a lot of acknowledge we were like this at one point in our lives, and how cringed it is when you look back on it. We hope to see this trope less or at least for authors to have the characters get some self-awareness. The characters in most of those kinds of books /shows/movies never out grow that phase.
*ENJOYING FOOD IS NOT A PERSONALITY TRAIT*
i said at work today when someone thanked me for letting them eat, sleep might be optional but food isn't. the phrases are, sleep is for the weak and i'll sleep when i'm dead. no one says that about food, food is non-negotiable.
I think it is bc I just don't enjoy eating/food Actually friends remind me to eat something. I don't get hungry easily or cravings.
Yali Bravo you just aren’t qUiRkY enough! /s
It’s a thing because women are encouraged to not eat and skinny girls think it’s cute to eat like a pig publicly because they’re metabolism is good so
Yali Bravo wouldn’t that be your biology. Like you really think that’s part of your personality? I can almost promise you’re more interesting
This reminds me of the annoying “Introduce yourself as why girls hate you” Tiktok trend
They always go back to "I'm friends with guys" which I suspect is a roundabout way of saying they can tell you might try to sleep with their boyfriend 🧐
@@i.b.640 Okay-first of all- it’s not sexist to make a legitimate observation about behavior that some women engage in. I am obviously a woman, and not against women. It’s fine to have guy friends and I’ve had many. I’ve even had many guy ‘best friends’ that I ended up dating. A lot of girls see friendship as a gateway to a relationship, and there isn’t even anything wrong with that. I’m specifically talking about the girls that
a) take pride in the fact that other girls don’t like them
b) have inappropriate boundaries with their male friends that are in relationships
Girls like this make a lot of girls suspicious of female friends in general. That’s sad, and I’m sorry that you’ve lost friends over that. You should really let go of the idea that other women are commonly being sexist or personally attacking you, however. I also went through a period where I felt like that, and it doesn’t help you. There is real
sexism and calling it out where it isn’t makes men take us less seriously when it does occur.
I had the same experience growing up. “I can’t like pink because it’s too girly” “I don’t go to parties because I’m not that *party girl*” “I’m going into STEM because I will be that girl among *the guys*”. These thoughts/actions were not red flags to me until 3 years ago. This was a great video to help me reflect more on this topic
I hope you still went to pursue STEM, not to be “one of the guys” but because it was fulfilling, well-paying, and a way of breaking patriarchal dominance in the field.
“I’m not like other girls”
in other words
“I’m really likable to boys, boys like me better, please boys, like me”
So true
Whatever works to get a leg up 😂 because people don’t like to be ignored or invisible. If a gal can’t compete with girly girls, she’d wear the I Am Not Like Other Girls facade to get chummy with male sex as a form of acceptance and social recognition.
Tommy gibstain we aren’t saying that’s the problem it’s calling YOURSELF that
Tommy gibstain I didn't that if I wear makeup,I wont be more able to talk about a lot of things
pick me!!
I had internalized misogyny for years, I always thought 'femininity=weakness' until I met one of my college professors, a wonderful and feminine (She wore a full face of makeup, acrylic nails, and traditional feminine clothing) civil engineer with 20 plus years of experience in concrete design and construction, who had her own company, she is driven and smart, but she also is very kind and loving. She is one of the people I admire the most.
Learning and being taught how powerful and awesome and diverse and special femininity is is life changing!!!!
That woman is powerful
My grandma's aunt told me since I was a little girl I didn't have the need to have a male by my side. She was a single mother, worked for a big company when she was young, always dressed like a top class lady, behaved properly and had a very magnetic personality. Being femenine isn't being weak. Being weak is being weak, having no energy, complaining constantly, being sad and having anxiety because there are bo more avocados to buy on the supermarket around the corner, being unable to take responsability of anything... None of that has to do with being feminine.
I agree!!!
@Reddead Redemtion read the end
When I was younger, boys would say that I was not like other girls. I would say duh, I’m autistic and have clinical depression, you probably haven’t met a lot of girls like me, but we exist.
I am an other girl and I am a neurodivergent person :D
Hahahahaha savage!!!
literally same with the autism and depression😭
I’m glad you grew out of that person
I feel like pretty much everyone around me is a “not like other girls” lately... Everyone I know wears hoodies constantly, eats pizza, goes around with no makeup... You know, typical stuff everyone does. It’s like everyone’s so obsessed with not being like “the other girls” that those other girls are just fading away. Ands it’s actually sad, sometimes I want to wear makeup but I feel awkward about it because everyone is so against girly girls. I’ve never worn makeup in my life because I grew up with the whole “not like other girls” mindset... but I actually want to be a bit more feminine now and it’s weird that I feel so... ashamed, and awkward about it? Like I feel like I’d be judged, that’s how much the mindset has kinda spread I guess
I feel you
I grew out of that mindset. Go and put on a skirt and just exist around the house. Trust me, it's awesome.
I went through this I like to put on make-up and I feel super weird because my friends talk about how they don't put on make-up
Dress = more airflow= way more happy day
Right, like first wearing hoodies, sweat pants, no makeup, and eating junk food was looked down upon and now everyone wants to do it??!! Can't we just all be ourselves like dayum 😵
Girls who like “girly” things like makeup, shopping and skirts shouldn’t be shamed and neither should girls who like boyish things! People should be encouraged to be themselves!
True
^^^This^^^
yeah and the same goes for guys who like feminine stuff
THANK YOU! I always feel like I'm pressured to either be feminine or masculine (especially while growing up in an African household), but whatever I choose always results in me being judged.
amber Yeah, my little brother loves Disney princesses and wearing dresses, crowns, and high heels. He’s pretty little, so for now people laugh but sometimes we get weird looks as we live in a very conservative area. Honestly even if he still likes it as an adult I don’t really care. He is who he is and it doesn’t make me love him any less.
Back in the day people weren’t quirky they were “random”
XD
XD SO RANDOM
LOL I’m so random
Rawr... xD
Rawr XD so random
I’m not like other girls
_I have committed several war crime in Russia_
Wow 😂 my favorite 😻 definitely isnt like other girls thats some next level s***
**W A R C R I M E S I N R U S S I A S K Y R O C K E T**
*Oh no I've done it again*
@Yay Yay **chugs vodka**
Rasputin?
A lot of girls grow up being singled out as different by adults, too. If you were a “tomboy” you’d be familiar with the well-being anxiety of adults around you worrying when you were going to “grow out of it.” No wonder they thought they weren’t like other girls when their own parents and aunts were telling them just that.
Yes! "She's gonna change someday." That's something I heard a lot and I was so freaking annoyed and felt like they rejected my identity and invalidate my feelings.
I didn't change and stay this way.
Also, I thought I was a tomboy my whole life, but turns out I'm non-binary. It was pretty shocking.
I’m not like other girls. In fact, I’m not like other people, bc I am not human, I’m an alien. Please come save me at Area 51. They have my family and I hostages and we are trapped. If you Naruto run, they won’t be able to catch you
In 24 hours you will be set free sis. I gotchu! ✌🏾
Oof i'm not like other girls because i am an undercover guard, i think i saw you some time ago
And make sure once you get inside, to run around scooby doo style through multiple doors in a hall so you won't get caught during the rescue mission.
Now I'm thinking of the Key and Peele "Check that shit out" sketch.
I'm reptilian, I don't save aliens, I bring them to my underground free masons lair!
“It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry about.” -Amy Poehler
Edit: wow tysm for all the likes 😊
Audrey Zimmerman this is such a true, great quote tbh
facts. thank goodness we are getting more woke about these issues and addressing these comments. As a Gen-Z sometimes I see these trends among us but then again theres so many young girls who are so woke and work on selflove and self approval not based on other factors
I say sorry all the time sometimes people tell me to stop saying sorry then I reply with “sorry”
jrseahorse I can relate. Wish I could stop it for a second.
@gjaddajg easy for you to say, good sir
all the insta comments like 'girls arent funny' literally makes me RAGE
Or those "jokes" that are like:
Girls: *insert misogynistic "All girl like is fashion and makeup" joke here*
Boys: *Doing things that many women also enjoy*
I hate those ones and I wish it'd die out.
@@manifestationsofasort or those memes of girl vs boys
Example
Girls wallpaper: flowers
Boys wallpaper: that amog us meme
Those memes are 1 of the reason why so many girls become nlog in the the first place
They haven't met so many women!
I was looked down on in 3rd grade because I was “girly” then in 7th I arm wrestled a boy and won and all of a sudden I’m a “man” and I have “man arms” they even went as far as to call me “transgender” scars me till this day 😀
“She wears high heels
I wear t-shirts
She’s cheer captain and
I’m on the bleachers”
Was that in a Taylor Swift song? I swear to God that it was in a Taylor Swift song.
@@goodolmeplant5809 yes that lyric is from You Belong With Me, the music video is very 'i'm not like other girls"
Technically it's the cheer captain who is more unique in this scenario lol
But it’s funny because she’s playing both parts in the music video. And also she’s hating on herself more
and there's this comic that has that same lyrics and some drawings of the girls and ends up being gay, what a pleasant plot twist pics.me.me/cheer-shes-hgh-heels-and-in-on-the-bleachers-dreaming-10866107.png
I used to say I don't get along with other girls but then I realized I'm just really bad at making friends.
MOOD
Haha! Same, then I realized I just didn't like people much.
That... that hit home hard
Me! I used to say that I hated everybody and then I realized my bad attitude made people not like me.
@@lunaredelvour2972 uh
at this point the stereotypical feminine girls are more “not like other girls”
I used to be sooo afraid of being girly. I would wear baggy clothes and a just a little make up. Now I don't care. I like 'non girly things' and 'girly' things. I'm just gonna do what I want to
When a guy gives you the "you're not like other girls" and then as an insult will say "wow I thought you were different" or "you're just like the other girls"
@The Earth Is Dying Because Of You i mean everyone is special in their own way and everyone wants a different kind of person... the problem here is the sexist assumption that a stereotypical cohort of "other girls" exists and that not liking typically feminine things makes you somewhat superior and to be taken more seriously than these "other girls"
Omg i got the "I thought you were different" insult last year and it really hurt! But i told him off and he retracted it.
Other girls are Queens and beautiful and the some of the strongest people I know so being "just like them" is self-improvement in my book
@The Earth Is Dying Because Of You foolish girls? ok dude
lol the comments about uniqueness are just something that people happen to only say in a positive light. no one says "you're not like other girls, i fucking hate your guts!"
The typical "I don't get along with girls! there's sooo much drama" sis just admit you had toxic friends and go
Or maybe she was the toxic one in the girl squad.
@@iloveyou-pm4tj true!
omg i've been telling one of my friends that for ages,,,, like girl,,, you're at an all-girl sleepover but you're gonna complain about how girls suck?? k
Or they need to admit their own character flaws that made every other female relationship fail. I’m like, “everybody can’t be wrong, sis. Maybe it was you.” 😂
Sometimes they're the toxic friend 😂😂😂😂
I was bad about this in high school. In a cooking class, a girl in my group was crying over a breakup while another girl comforted her. To myself, I rolled my eyes and thought “we’re all too young to know what love is, now help me with this task we have for class.”
I also felt “not like other girls” for not going to parties or dating. Turns out I’m introverted and anxious in such settings.
Best ones I’ve heard recently is variations on “I’m not like other girls, I’m actually three raccoons in a trench coat.”
Society: don’t be basic
Also society: what a loser she’s trying too hard to be different
dont ever go with what society says. go with you.
Also they're different ppl of mentioned society making sure to put down anyone for fitting in or not into a category... it's never the same group of ppl... So you'll feel like you can't satisfy everyone...ever.
Trying to be different or trying to feel superior than everybody else ?
@@GitanAnimex trying to stress that you're different because you've been conditioned that being similar is undesirable
@@blendingwitch6206 you can try to be different without bashing the others this is the topic of this video the pickme bash others and use that to "show" how they are different aka. better than the rest
As a boy, I can definitely say I’m not like other girls
😂
LMAO
Favourite comment 😂😂😂
I have achieved Pp
Based?
I got really into sewing during lockdown and I'm trying to unlearn the idea that fashion is a vain or vapid thing to be interested in. I love fashion, and I've really enjoyed making my own clothes, I designed and made a dress all on my own! I'm proud of that! and I am never going to feel bad about that again :)
One thing that i think is also really important to this discussion is the intersection of queerness and being "not like other girls". I have seen SO many stories from people being like "i used to be so proud of myself for not being boy-obsessed like all those 'OTHER GIRLS🙄🙄' but i actually was just a lesbian/asexual lol" or the case that i also experienced of being a "tomboy" and hating girly things, and priding yourself on how not dainty and feminine you are and how you hate the color pink (which is a lovely color btw), and then ending up being trans!! And while the internalized misogyny is still FLAMING in this scenario, there's also the possibility of some of it also coming from what was probably unrealized gender dysphoria. And it definitely does originate from like you mentioned, growing up in a very cis-heteronormative society, where the answer is NEVER queerness and instead just an odd cishet girl who's "just a little different!!" and then feeling like you have to defend yourself for these inherent differences that maybe even YOU don't understand. I didn't realize I was trans until probably around two years after finally getting out of that toxic not like other girls mindset. And because you're a "girl" the only logical way to do that and to validate yourself in the eys of society is to be the ideal form of a girl. And to put down other girls is the only way to achieve that top position.
YES! I'm a trans guy, and back then the only way I could have verbalized that was by saying that "I'm not like other girls". However, I never related to the depictions of girls not being like other girls either, and was so scared people would take me as meaning the same things I saw when people talked about not being like other girls rather than trying to explore with me what that meant to me, so I just never talked about it.
Mine was gender dysphoria as well. Soon as I came out non binary I felt okay with pink and 'girly' things mixed with my dorky 'boy' hobbies.
There's also how ADHD or Autistic women often don't feel 'like other girls' and often are penalized and isolated in social and work settings for not being the right kind of feminine or whatever
This annoys me so much. Bringing down other girls for wearing makeup, liking “basic” things and being themselves doesn’t make you quirky.
exactly!! there is nothing wrong with that.
Layla M like if half the population isn’t basic then they’re still basic statistically
Human beings naturally want to feel superior to others... So people label and put people in groups and find something in that group to put people down. There is something my English teacher in middle school said who probably gave the best advice... No one is actually unique lol 😂
@@greeneyesgirl467 that's some real words there.
She's not though...
This video kinda quirky doh. It’s not like other videos
its funny cause it actually isnt hehehehe
😂😂😂😂
Nicholas Nelson 10/10 comment
LMAO
XD
I'm not like other gi- SORRY I JUST DIED I CANT EVEN MAKE THE JOKE IRONICALLY
Can you make a video talking about separating by sex in school systems. In ELEMENTARY school our gym classes were separated by boys and girls, ikr. I remember thinking as an 8 year old how this wasn't right, heck the entire class of 8-year-old girls felt similarly, kids aren't that dumb btw. The boys would get to play scooter soccer and other creative games, while the girls played musical hoops every day. This really opened my eyes at a young age to the different treatment we received and it definitely contributes to the "not like other girls" phenomenon by making girls feel inferior in some way.
We had seperated sport class up until 10th grade and then sport was mostly shit because it was no fun playing with the girls who did not want to be there and they could not play. The boys also needed to be less agressiv when playing because the girls started crying all the time. Seperated sport is way better
Same in my school, but only on gym lessons - the ones in the swimming pool were divided by skill level and not sex. To be honest, I hated it at first but then grew to like, since girls' activities were much more varied (boys just played football every single time). Plus there were only six girls, and thus lessons were more individual.
It’s such a breath of fresh air when u mature and realise... it’s okay to be a girl that likes ‘basic’ things.
Especially when guys don't have the same expeditions... and they are all basic ass bitches haha 😂
This whole vsco girl thing, everyone's apparently "so over with stereotypes," yet we can't let a girl wear a scrunchy n feel cute?
Your username 😗💜
Relatable af
They’re widely appealing! That’s the whole deal!
Another problem I have is when things like cooking, sewing etc are portrayed as feminine. They have nothing to do with gender. These are basic, technical, practical life skills that everyone should have at a very basic level (no need to be a chef or master tailor, but you have no be able to mend your clothes and cook yourself a meal).
I always find it weird when people act like men are unable to do stuff like cooking/sewing/.., it really seems pretty degrading to me to assume that all men are unable to perform even the most basic practical skills that might even save them money. I'm pretty glad that my parents never really bought into these stereotypes; they can both cook, both can sew and both have also fix stuff in the house. It's really stupid that men "should" be dependent on their mothers/wives/girlfriends for really normal everyday tasks and the same is also true the other way around.
Ironically, chefs and tailors are associated as male proffesions
I know right? What’s bad about knowing how to mend your own clothes I will never know.
yeah!!!,like,just beacuse he's a guy doesn't mean he can't or shoudn't do things like that!
Yeah, even though my grandma did most of the sewing it was because she was a seamstress; my grandpa did a lot of the cooking. It’s stupid to assign genders to activities.
i may be wrong but i feel like everyone has a “not like other girls” phase/moment. and it’s probably because the ideal or trope or whatever you want to call it is so ingrained in our society.
a lot of the female characters/protagonist in tv and film are portrayed as being not like other girls. and these girls usually are the hero or the love interest. thus portraying the idea that being different or quirky will earn you male attention. at its core i feel like the “not like other girls” trope is built on internalized misogyny.
and oftentimes when the female protagonist isn’t like other girls she is considered superior. this is often why hyper femininity or traditionally “girlie” characters are demonized or considered shallow. and why girls who are considered or consider themselves different look down on people they view as being like other girls.
examples of “not like other girls” protagonists:
-Rory Gilmore (Gilmore Girls)
-Cady Heron (Mean Girls)
-Kat Stratford (10 things I Hate About You)
-Lindsay Weir (Freaks and Geeks)
-Gracie Hart (Miss Congeniality)
and many more
Wait how is cady a “not like other girls”? She acted and wore outfits that were like the popular girls at school
@@heythere3288 even though she did that she always viewed herself as above regina. she thought regina was vapid and shallow but she never saw that she was being hypocritical. she did the same things but she viewed herself as morally superior
There’s one song I can credit to me leaving the NLOG phase in my early teens ‘Like Other Girls’ from Mulan II. It made me think and go “what I do does not make me different, special or superior, I just want to feel normal” and that eventually lead me to think “I wanna be like other girls!” So the message I got from the song is for one I should be greatful I even have the choice, and that I should always be willing to try a different interests on for size, except this time I don’t let to define me, it’s a part of who I am at that moment not forever.
omg i remember that song!
Honestly I hate the "im not like other girls" or "you're not like other girls". Like my friend its the "girly" girl, wears make up, reveling clothes, small, blonde, everything. While I'm the "boyish" girl baggie clothes, short hair, no make up, likes sports. And we're often confronted with " how are you two friends?" like I'm supposed to hate her bc we're different?
underrated comment.
You just described me and my best friend too :))) she is tall and blonde and likes sweet, designer clothes and makeup and perfume, im not even gonna go into shoes and bags, me im 160cm dark brown hair, and mostly just sneakers jeans and tshirt. It takes a special ocassion to make me put on bbcream and mascara.
but what if she has SNAKE ARMS
Tyler McCaw what the hell is snake arms?
arroz ;; y brownies I’m disappointed
Have you heard of asdfmovie?
"I'm not like other girls" = "Hey look men! I'm mysognistic too!"
"I'm not like other girls" = "I have SNAKE ARMS"
I’m not like other girls= boys chose me! (Which is pick-me behaviour)
Liza Johnson I hate it 😭😭
@Liza Johnson Is it still seen as unusual for a woman/girl to enjoy video games?
There’s so much variety in video games that it would be unusual for someone (not women but like people in general) to not find something they enjoyed unless they couldn’t afford a computer and/or a console and games, or they were actively trying to avoid video games for some reason.
Well, there ain't nothing wrong
With the way she moves
Or scarlet begonias or a
Touch of the blues
And there's nothing wrong with
The look that's in her eye
I had to learn the hard way
To let her pass by
Let her pass by
Im my first teenage years, I didn't feel like I fit in. I was made fun of a lot, and didn't have many friends, so I did feel "not like other girls" in the sens of "inferior". I would have liked going to partys and staying out with a group of friends on the weekend, but I couldn't. So I unconscously turned this into " those things are so stupid, I'm so much better because I stay home reading and I like studying and I don't drink... I'm not like That, I'm better."
I think what most people think “other girls are like” its really just the media image of what girls are like (high-maintanance, loves fashion, always looks flawless, always watching her weight, guys find her attractive, loves gossip, etc,etc…) when probably noone on earth fits this stereotype 100% of the time, but we are bombarded with this image and thats why it creates this reaction of rejection when we cannot fit with that
I’m a woman in STEM, studying human bio and physiology, and was told by a male colleague that “bio isn’t really science” and it’s “easier, that’s why girls do it”. Oof. Last time I checked, we go to the same school my guy.
Historically, men have always said that about certain professions until women started being involved and productive in them. Etc; writing was thought to be only for the "intelligent, thoughtful man" until women began writing novels and now suddenly it's perceived as a simple, deadbeat career. :/ Same goes for art, and for biology - when more women began working as nurses and doctors. Ever since women started getting their rights and becoming educated and productive in certain professions, those were suddenly seen as "easy" or "not a real science". It's so gross.
Damn what a prick
@@nine-vi7rw Wow, that's so true. My dad wants me to go on a male-dominated field because they make more money and lack traits that women typically have. (So the field would benefit from more women) But I'm just so tired of this race of trying to prove men we're equal. They'll always find the next thing that women do and claim it's easy and lower the pay.
Young women in Finland are high-achievers, work harder, put more effort to look better and have better social skills than young men, but still they are more represented in low-tier jobs, masters' that don't lead to a job, and female-dominated high education jobs have smaller salaries. Women have to be more experienced and proper for the same job. Young Finnish women take more antidepressants and have a higher suicide rating among European women, than men take or have among European men. We put so much effort in order to "make it". It feels like a fight we can't win. Men are just so dim that they don't realize we're equal even if we're way past that. It doesn't seem to matter what we do.
Nana I don’t think art has been a more profitable profession before our time. It’s been studied and admired post the artists’ death, but acting was seen as being equal to prostitution, painters, even masters like Rembrandt, died penniless and abused, writers were often censored, mostly singers and musicians were the ones taken most seriously, and even then, it was the select few. Painting lost its meaning when Picasso painted the shit he did and called it “Art”, spawning generations of people throwing colors on a canvas and calling themselves “artists”, until painting has stooped to such a ridiculous low, nobody takes a painter seriously until they see the work. Notice how nothing had much to do with genders. But never before have artists made the money they can make now, especially through popular media.
You tell me, I'm studying industrial engineering and it's my male professors who say women aren't made for engineering :/
"Not like other girls" is such a funny phrase. Like, yeah, you're not like other girls because you are a human and therefore a unique individual. Just like literally every other human. Congrats.
Women are not unique they are all prety similar and those who are not are shamed and bullied.
guys are exactly opposite where you being average means fate close to death you must be different than everyone at all cost or else women will ignore you and you will be treated like shit.
@@deltaxcd women are all similar. Okayyyy...
Not that I only think like that I can observe that. as of course not everyone is the same, but women are extremely similar while men are way more diverse.
and this is an absolutely evident fact because if you take any kind of deviance, no mater what kind you will find many times more men there than women.
like a prison- majority of men, homeless- majority or men, scientists- the majority of men, businessmen- the same. people who dress in chicken costume then have sex with bicycles while barking like a dog -the absolute majority of men.
You will have a super hard time to find some unique woman on earth because whatever deviance you will find there will be 10 times more men like that
@@deltaxcd are you a man
@@chloechloe12345
How is that relevant to the topic?
Although philosophically speaking no am not a man because of the extreme diversity of men we can't even define what is a man besides their genitalia. besides that I have very little common with most other men and even less common with women who are like beings from another planet
Last year: "I'm not like the other girls."
Now: *watches this video and reads the comments* Oh... 😶🤔
But to be honest, I had some reasons as to why I said that phrase. ☹️ Thankfully, I'm learning from this. ✨ 21:30 is what I would also say as to why I said, "I'm not like the other girls" before. I guess being a girly girl isn't so bad afterall. ♥️
Growth is beautiful
There's nothing bad about being a girly girl. But you shouldn't feel forced to change your personality to become a girly girl if you're not one 🙂 There is also nothing wrong with NOT being girly. This video is wrong to suggest that if you're 'not like other girls' you're just doing it for attention - you do not have to be the same as everyone else and having different interests does not make you an attention-'seeker.
Actually i would be hella offended if a male called me " one of the boys " lol
same wtf, who wants to be one of the boys when you can be one of the girls??
I love other girls. Other girls are great. I am very gay.
Kate same tho
me
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LMAO same
cant argue with this
Why do all of these “quirky girls” think loving food is a defining trait lmao
Edit: Wow thanks everybody for the sociological analyses lmao. I know why girls feel the need to do it. It was a rhetorical question. I made the original comment because by claiming that loving food is “quirky” you are just reinforcing the ridiculous convention that girls should be skinny/eat very little. You are basically throwing other girls under the bus for the sake of saving face.
@@futuristiccat5636 wow you are so quirky
neptuneblissfish i cringed so hard while reading that
neptuneblissfish I hope you were being sarcastic
Right? Its actually the oposite. In reality there are more Girls who eat a lot than the oposite
It might come from the fact that some girls limit their diets a lot or starve themselves to be skinny. It may be harmfully viewed as them being caught up in their looks instead of it being an eating disorder or that they need help. Liking food may be a way that they tell people that they’re not going to go such lengths to be “beautiful” unlike “other girls” who are said to worry too much about their looks.
You put it so well! When I was in my teens in the early 2010’s I was such a huge ‘I’m not like other girls’ girl. I’m so grateful for the experience of unlearning and continuing to unlearn toxic ideologies. I’ve gained SO much in adopting the mindset that other women are these amazing, talented, wonderful goddesses that I aspire to be more like than I ever did thinking that girls are dramatic, superficial and competition. In the end, I think a strong sisterhood is way more valuable than the approval and attention from a few men.
I love being a girly girl! I love being a woman! growing up I was naturally a tomboy I had a hard time understanding makeup and matching clothes it was so hard for me! I always wanted to be that glamorous lady and now I am her and I'm proud. I love painting my nails and getting my eyebrows to perfection. crafting a new outfit, my rigorous Beauty routines, 2 hour baths! I love everything.
Yes, love this. I used to “hate pink” for this reason, and as I got older, I love pink because I don’t care about the stereotype anymore
For me it was I use to be a tomboy now I just feel really feminine well not feminine but def more
I still don't care to wear it personally, but I definitely appreciate it a lot more too
yeah, like my hair is pink, and when i painted, the girls from my class always said stuff like “your hair looks pretty but would look better blue so won’t be too girly”
Same.
@Richa Priya Paradox lel.
Some guy: wow you’re not like other girls
Me: I am an amalgamation of every single girl I have ever thought was cool
I will use this
i saw a tweet just like this ahaha
Jesse Stilwell HA! PERIOD
@@WildArtistsl guys/people talk to you?!
Brilliant
I was the social outcast in school and I guess I was “not like other girls”, I never wore makeup or girly clothes, but because I didn’t like them (I still never wear makeup). When I started college a girl approached me. We had messaged in a forum before but I didn’t recognize her. She was super girly, pretty, wore a lot of makeup and a super nice outfit. And I thought “ugh” cause she was clearly one of “those girls” and tbh I wanted her to leave me alone.
She became my closest friend in college, we went on vacation together and studied abroad together, we’ve known each other for over 10 years now. I’m a bit ashamed that it took me until the ripe old age of 19 to realize that no girl is like other girls cause we’re all unique. My friend may love makeup and shopping and high heels, but she also hikes a lot and collects mushrooms and speaks 7 languages and is great at tennis and super smart. Great people, as well as shitty people, come in all shapes and sizes. Don’t judge a book by its cover and all that
Oh I'm a guy now btw
Just discovered your channel. As a 44 year old mother of 4 daughters ranging from19 to 12, this is so relevant. We are all so different, but the important thing is appreciating and supporting each other. You brought up so many excellent points. Thank you for your content. 😊
When I was little, I got teased by tomboys because I was too girly. While at the same time, I’m sure tomboys got teased because they were tomboys. Can’t please everyone so just be yourself.
J U S T
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I always hated the tomboy term, actually. It pretty much implies that wearing hoodies, liking sports or comic books is a defining "boy" trait, when it's really not. Every human being is allowed to wear whatever clothes make them comfortable, allowed to enjoy the feeling of adrenaline or to admire and relate to characters like Batman or Iron Man.
@@aceash459 ikr
It's always with the undertone of claiming a woman would be less of a woman if she does/likes x
It's always about strangers trying to tell you how you have to be in order to be called a woman
And even if these people call you a woman they automatically claim you wouldn't excel as good in man dominated areas.
I could write essays about it as a woman in tech that's not typically "nerdy" looking (not that looking nerdy would be bad obviously, I just prefer a different clothing style for myself, I am neither better or worse than my nerdier dressing girl friends, clothes are supposed to be fun! ❤️)
@@aceash459 tomboy is not about wearing stupid hoodies or worshiping some capitalist propaganda merchandise.
tomboy Is when you come back home all bruised and beaten with your clothes torn in pieces and threaten your mom with premature death because of neverending stress since she does not know if you will even come back in one piece today. This is because you are interested in explosives and guns and other deadly dangerous stuff. like real boys rather than playing safe like typical girls.
Nobody cares to what characters you relate if you are a crybaby coward
@@prisle
well when people refer to the woman they refer to female stereotype, if you are different then obviously you are not a stereotypical woman but maybe you more resemble a stereotypical man.
The reason why this matter is because stereotypical man is only interested in stereotypical woman a man does not want to be in relationship with another man
y'all say boys aren't full of drama as if lord of the flies dropped off the face of the earth
lauren ! an underrated comment
I'm dead 😂😂
Oof, you just reminded me of Piggy.
omg YES
They are not full of drama honestly
I grew up wanting to be like other girls simply because I was told I was to much a tomboy even being told I liked girls (news flash I do 🤦🏾♀️) but that mixed with a number of very problematic reasons made it hard for me to admit that I didn’t want to prove people right it also lead me to being overly feminine which just lead to being told I’m trying to hard you can’t really win
Two points
1. You can like basic things, as long as you’re not just doing it because that’s what the trendy girls do
2. Some people are actually legitimately quirky in a way, they actually genuinely like these things, and they’re not pretending. As long as you’re not just doing it to stand out
YES YES & YESSS!! UR ON POINT
uses “white” in her reasoning as to why she’s better than other girls😂😂she’s bold
Lol, pale I'd understand, but going as far as praising her whiteness 😅😅 haha okay 😅😅😅😅😅
FujoshiPeanut I feel like even pale does that hahah I would understand “keeps natural skin color” or “doesn’t fake tan” since she was making fun of people who fake tan lol
"non-orange" was probably just too much for her brain to comprehend
Lol I know I was like oop- she really went there
lol i think it was just a numbnut 14 year old who made it and thought 'white' was an ok interchangeable word for 'natural pale' skin
I hate when people think that being sensitive is a “women’s trait” and think of it negatively. Being sensitive is good! It allows you to understand situations better and get along with more people. Also that doesn’t blind you from seeing the truth or being objective in situations that require it.
Yes!
Absolutely agree - it's not like you are either empathetic or rational - it's not either-or. And then there's the 'masculine' aggressive characteristics/ machoism that men are 'supposed' to have - except that that's just being sensitive and overreacting to things also! But in a violent way. It's actually very emotional behaviour when you think about it.
No, being sensitive is not good you'll overreact/ Overthink
@@Elite_Sturmgewehr Sometimes but not always. Only if you can't control it. Being sensitive can help many things including understanding people and changing how you choose to treat someone because you anticipate how they will respond.
@@Anna-2 Speak for yourself
I love those memes at the end, they made me feel not alone. We need more of those
I just now came across this video and I was absolutely the “not like other girls” girl through middle school and high school. Most of my friends were guys, I didn’t have many girl friends because I didn’t want to be associated with the “ditzy cheerleader-types who try too hard to be cute”, I was intelligent but clumsy enough that I “wasn’t threatening” to guys, and despite my insecurities, I almost felt a sense of pride in being “one of the guys”. By the time I got to college, I realized that I had been clinging to the “not like other girls” identity because I was literally AFRAID to get close to girls. I was attracted to them, but because of my traditional Catholic “homosexuality is a one-way ticket to hell” upbringing, I refused to admit that I was queer. Another part of that was that nobody talked about anything relating to sexual preferences outside of “if you’re not straight, you’re gay”. I knew I was capable of being attracted to guys, but with no exposure to anything outside of the gay/straight binary, admitting I liked girls too would mean there was something wrong with me. And you may think, “but it’s all over the internet. How did you NOT know about other preferences and identities?” I didn’t get exposed to it because social media wasn’t a thing at time; we still had dialup when I started college in 2006.
“How dare you tell me ‘I am not like most girls’,
when those 'girls’ you refer to
are my sisters and mothers, my friends,
the very solace and the kindness I have sought
when the worst things in my life have happened?
How dare you assume
I should take that as a compliment,
and beam at you like it is praise
when you are alienating me
from the very core
of my proudly female being?
There are a thousand ways
to tell me you love me,
and making my sisters small
to make me big
isn’t one of them.
Tell me you love me, but not because I am different.
Tell me you love me, just because you do.”
‘You Aren’t like Most Girls’ | Nikita Gill
mean poutine yessss I love this.
oh wow this is extremely powerful and touches at the heart of what I was feeling exactly. Thanks for sharing it.
I love her poems. 💙
That is beautiful
Lets be honest, we were a "not like other girl" at some point in our lives
Then we realised how toxic being like that is and stopped
I was looking for this comment! I mean yeah it doesn't make us more special or more acceptable than others. we're just humans
Same, and then I realized, “Wow, Im being a dick. And this isnt right at all, why am I judging others? And bringing them down.” Society.
@@caleahrose7204 same, i Wanna slap my younger self
I swear I used to say I’m not like other girls I hate past me good thing is I know how toxic it was
YESSSSS
I had this mentality when i was younger bcuz my family praised me for it and that was the only time I was ever noticed. Took a long time to unlearn these things and come into my own. I definitely think it starts at home
I love how some of the "quirky" things they do aren't even good things to brag about but just them wanting to look edgy
It'd be like saying-
"I'm not like other girls! I eat kittens!"
i’ve never heard someone talk about how boys get laughs so much easier like this. i have been trying to bring awareness to that for ages. thank you omg!! there’s so many instances where guys can do physical humor too because their bodies aren’t sexualized. i don’t know if you see it but a boy on twitter can literally just be ass naked and it’s... funny? like ok great ur butt is out. men can bare their beer bellies and it’s silly, but women must conceal them. men can act sloppy and wiggle their body about, but women are looked at weird and shunned for the same thing. i’m so done with boys getting cheap laughs for things like that.
More like women should be able to get laughs for doing the same
This really reminds me of a video from a French (female) TH-camr. In the video, one of her male friends farts and all the other male friends laugh, and then she farts and all the male friends look at her ass. (it’s from an old video from Natoo)
Yeah... anybody claiming that "men's bodies aren't sexualized" needs to take a long hard look at any movie starring Zac Efron from the last 5 years. I'm not saying what you commented is entirely invalid, but making a broad statement claiming that men's bodies aren't sexualized is flat-out untrue and ignorant.
@ethan H3H3 klein lmaooo i love him tho
@@guadgoncalves1544 gotta love Natoo
But how can my 27 year old self @ my 13 year old self
What language is this
HONESTLY THO LMAO
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
killer kieran pretty sure that they meant : how can my 27 year old self call out my 13 year old self
Dude same 11/12 year old me was such a toxic advocate for that "all my friends are boys" shit (even though most of my friends were girls, I was just living in delusion). Thank God it wore off when I got to high school
I had my “not like other girls” phase years ago
I was right, I’m not like other girls
In fact, I’m not a girl :)
Go you!
Lmfao
yay so quirky
You are, it doesn't matter in the dogma you believe, or the delusions you experience which makes you feel like you can deny the reality of the facts. You're a female
@@uax4567 love how you assume I was born a female
I just commented on another video how a friend's girlfriend was basically telling me that we can't get along because she's "not like other girls" and how she just prefers to be friends with guys because they're so much less drama. Rich coming from a person who stabbed me in the back with another woman almost 2 years ago. I still don't know why they did it or which one came up with the idea, but I know that both of them were in on it. I was excited for our little private girl chat and how we were being girlfriends and I thought that we'd be friend forever. Maybe she has trouble being friends with other women because she treats us like shit.
I don’t like how they shame girls for trying to look presentable. Like just because a girl dresses up and wears makeup doesn’t mean she is trying to appease men and by belittling her you are in a weird way trying to appease men.
hey don't bring bums into this...as a matter of fact dont bring them into anywhere.
tharbk01 what should I say then?
tharbk01 lmao
Now you seem to removed the misogyny but you’ve replaced it with ableism. We should not have to put something down to uplift another generally because we don’t know what enabling them physically and or mentally to why the clothing hasn’t been washed.
Oh true I’m sorry I’ll edit it
I think there’s a lot of internalized misogyny in making fun of vsco girls and e girls
isn't it the same when like last year where people kept making fun of hypebeast and now eboys???
Genuine question.
@@thatoneperson8154 When you are making fun of the hegemonic group vs the marginalized group, it is inherently different due to power dynamics.
I don't really have a problem with them but the fact that vsco girls are reducing plastic waste by drinking with metal straws from PLASTIC CUPS is hypocrisy!!!!!!!
100% !!!!! all the way. "basic white girls" .... all that is definitely misogyny.
@@yukiandkanamekuran You know, as a woman of color, I've really had to evaluate my use of the term "basic white girls." I think it for me honestly comes down to an evaluation of the inherent disparity in the power dynamics of white women & (in my case) black women.
The term "basic white girl" was used not to separate myself from white girls as I am a woman, but to separate myself from them as I am a black woman.
White women get away with a lot of shit there's no way black women could get away with. The "basic white girl" became a caricature of those differences. Becky and Shanice are two different people & society at large will not let us forget it.
I've had to take a step back and reconsider my use of the term, though. No matter how I split it white women are like my cousins in the struggle. It's easy to poke fun but having actual conversations about our differences and the way we should interact with each other in light of them is much more constructive than making another "you don't season your food" joke.
I feel so glad that I opened your video because you really mentioned each and every aspect of this topic, the most subtle ones too. Thankyou so much for this!
i truly felt like im not like the other girls because i didnt fully fit in. turns out im neurodivergent :Dd
I’m a girl.
My hair is super short and dyed.
I like wearing more baggy clothing like hoodies and t-shirts.
I like reading, writing, and playing videos games.
I adore the color pink and think creating looks with makeup is a lot of fun.
I like to dress up on occasion in more conventionally girly clothes, like dresses and skirts.
I’m a girl.
Natasel this dude got 2 brain cells
MEEE
Yay! You're a person
ironically you are doing the whole "im not like other girl" by describing yourself like that
No one cares
I used to really want to be a “not like other girl” until I watched Parks and Rec. seeing a woman who loved her job, was good at it, respected but also very in touch with her feminity and female friends. Leslie Knope was smart, driven, determined, respected but also sweet, considerate, kind
Uhh so true 😭❤
She was such an amazing relatable role model
My mom is a successful scientist. She always said you can be a scientist AND love pink and Disney princesses, the two don't contradict
Yesss we stan parks and rec
I've always said leslie knope is an amazing role model. I love her.
“omg Emily your such a crackhead 🤪”
I just wanted to thank you so much for making sure this video is captioned! I can't believe in the year 2021 I'm STILL fighting for captions or better audio as a deaf viewer. It's nice to see that this was posted in 2019 and doesn't have autogenerated captions :)
I actually feel bad sometimes for being "too girly". I study software engineering, but I also like make up and fashion and other stereotypically girly things. I notice I have started dressing down more, because l fear being judged by other woman, who feel superior because they are "natural and low maintance" and whatever.
It's kinda sad. I wish we could just accept one another, whether we dress in short skirts and high heels or a sweater and flats.
Cromwell The Wombat you do do!!!!! girly things are so fun!! i go to school for civil engineering but i get my acrylic nails refilled every two weeks!!
Same sometimes I feel like other girls see me as superficial becasue of my appearance
Omg i felt myself do this at university, majority of my classmates were guys and i felt really odd coming to class all cute. I felt like they wouldn't take me seriously. Long story short my self esteem plummeted and now im trying to build myself up again.
I *feeeel* this. My office is full of women who are all about constantly reminding everyone that they love comfy clothes and no makeup. I even was told by my ceo that I can no longer wear white work pants because “other women” think they’re inappropriate. And these women never tried to have a friendship or be kind with me whatsoever.
I've noticed that it does not matter if you're stereotypically girly or stereotypically a tomboy. I myself grew up with 2 brothers and am I not girly girl. Throughout my life I've felt just as insecure and afraid of being judged by other girls as my very girly friends. We all have to learn to value the strengths we have and realize that people will judge us no matter what we dress like. It also ties in with the "dumb blonde" trope as well. It's always appearance vs the brain. The whole "you can only have one" idea is ridiculous.
It really annoys me that in order to be approved as “not like other girls” you still should be hot and thin, you just can’t be seen making any efforts to improve your appearance. This is an even more impossible standard to live up to.
That you can only be considered ‘not like other girls’ if you are hot basically🙄
Im an afab trans guy and I went through this phase HARD when I was younger. I kept wanting to separate myself from traditionally feminine things (the color pink, skirts, makeup, kept saying that i wanted to play with boys bc "girls have so much drama"). Lookin back on it now idk how I didnt figure myself out sooner, its so obvious now lmao
Lmao. Tifs are the biggest nlogs and it's so fucking funny how you never miss an opportunity to tell us that. You didn't grow out of it or have some "realisation", you simply made it your entire identity & dug in deeper
The girls who “aren’t like other girls” are exactly like the other girls who “aren’t like other girls”🤣🤣
guys i wore my hair in a messy bun today. i’m sO qUiRkY rIgHt?
quirky is being cute or rebelious in another language
i bet you looked homeless 😩
Y/n???
@@isabellapadron787 i aim for J pop punk for a rebelious side and a total cutiepie for a cutesy side
Haruhi Suzumiya what does that have to do with my comment
And some people really think there's no such thing as internalized misogyny.
Riot Grrrl It astonishes me.
I used to think it wasn’t real because extremist feminists would tell me I had it just because I disagreed with them on some things, but I’ve learned that it is real, it’s just not what I had. If that makes sense lol
@dil oreo they never said they hated feminists, just that they disagreed with them on something. i certainly disagree with feminists who believe women are superior, trans women aren't women, and that sex workers don't deserve rights. doesn't mean i hate myself
omg fellow riot grrrl in the comments!!! hi!!!
@@sunlightnskulls2060 Hi :) What bands do you like? :)
I love how you self aware....and explain things....in such a respectful way....im glad I stumbled on this....