I so needed this. I was in a 25 yr marriage and went numb for the last 5 years..suffered from chronic sickness. I walked away right before the pandemic in 2020 and feel amazing. I'm single, living as I want, took up new hobbies and love my life. Best thing I did and this video and the speakers really helped me believe I did the right thing as I've often wondered "what if". He's already remarried. Broken meets broken.
@@kimturner9309 well, I took up gardening and fly fishing..I live in AK and did some traveling in the winter. I also moved out to a tiny home in a remote area but have internet. Everything to furnish other than the bed matress and linens is 2nd hand and then I built some rock gardens and grew veggies and planted flowers. Also learning about wild edibles and took up making natural teas and remedies from plants I find, like labrador, old man's beard, dandelion, currants..and I read, I work and also got a puppy (German Shepherd) on Valentines Day. She's my fishing and camping partner. If you ever want male attention, just go fishing.
@Animalfarm I will..and you can do it. You may lose everything but will find yourself. It's never too late. I started over by couch surfing with friends and focused on my work, health, mind, body and spirit. I still cry but it can be done
he is so right about 2 broken people who have not healed coming together like an empath and narcissistic relationship the narc will never change but empaths should learn about themselves and heal so they do not choose a narc
I would adjust your language slightly, and therefore your understanding on dysfunctional behaviour. Better to say someone with empathic behaviours meeting someone with narcissistic behaviours. These behaviours don't define identity. And Narcissistic behaving people can heal and change, it's possible. And Empathic behaving people aren't really that empathic, they are anxious obsessed with the other so they can feel better themselves, which makes them also narcissistic in their behaviours.
@@simeonmorris1774 yesssssss! We all have a bit of everything sprinkled in. It's funny how the only time you hear about "narcs" is when a self professed "empath" pours out their story of how they were so hard done by. No one loves talking about themselves more than an "empath".
@Rhona 'Rho' Bennett It could be, yes. I think that narcissistic behaviour is really just toddler behaviour; It’s a person acting as a 4 year old. So, a co-dependant relationship will contain narcissistic behaviour certainly. Any time a person acts as if there is no-one else in the relationship, they are acting narcissistically, so both sides of a co-dependant relationship will be acting narcissistically at times, in my opinion.
I adore her for saying that you don’t need to fix yourself alone, you fix/find self love with people around you…or at least that’s how I took it. And I’ve always lived that way but I’ve always been been stuck between those two worlds.
Yes exactly, it's an important idea. It goes against the New Age ideology of everything being your own responsibility. I am absolutely for choosing supportive company that can enhance the best in you or rather allow you to be the best you can be, and you help eachother together.
Yes, I loved that statement she made. We are not perfect and probably will not become better people without having a partner who teaches us and shows us who we are.
You know, I agree with this. But at the same time I am horribly un-attracted (dis-attracted?) to men who act as if I am their mother, as the person who listens, understands, etc, etc, while they fix themselves, or not. For that reason I think people need to fix themselves, and not expect their partner to become their therapist. It's unfair on the partner, and it doesn't fix whatever issues you have. It's like, if I have issues with trust, is a man going to teach me how to trust? No. I have to learn to trust, myself, by myself.
The second speaker is ON point, about women. I feel a lot of men are socialised to invalidate women in general, not just disregarding feelings, but treating everything she says as secondary to their logic. If a man says it, it's valid, like if a man says, I don't feel safe right now, it would be immediately valid. But if a woman says it, it has to be validated against their 'logic'. It isn't valid by itself. This causes a lot of problems in relationships because you're not just another person she's talking to, you're supposed to be on her side, you're her ally. And if you're not, if you're treating her like she needs to defend herself, now you're an enemy in her camp. You are far more dangerous than someone she might be arguing with out there, because you are 'in the house'. So it's really important to be supportive of your wives, girlfriends. Like he says, if she's good to you, just, be on her side. Forget about logic. That's not the point. You want logic, date a software program.
As a wife, soooo very well said. If you can't show understanding for MY feelings and viewpoint, I can't treat your logical views as being on 'my' side and so I have to defend myself against your logic, making me feel defensive and then I naturally treat you as the 'enemy'..
Your words are right on. And as women we are unconsciously conditioned to accept the man's judgment even though that makes us all wrong. And . . . an appropriate response on the part of the man could be to acknowledge that the woman may know something he doesn't. I believe that women are much more closely connected to their instincts. Finally, a man who has empathy and knows women will understand that the world is a much more threatening place for women. We are prey to many people.
Well, more than the gender (of a person) its about the individual's sensibilities toward other, it can be other way around too, when a man gets emotional or expresses feelings and is invalidated by the other person (not gender)
I wish the man I loved would seek out videos like this. It's so hard to make it work when you're the only one wanting to go the extra mile to find out what makes things work or why the opposite sex is the way they are.
This woman is awesome! She quotes the other people I respect and pulls it all together. Thx @Lewis Howes. She is emotionally brilliant and speaks on my vibration
John Gray wrote a best selling book in the 90s called “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. He then wrote other best sellers with similar titles. It was all about marriage and he did the TV talk show circuit. His ex wife Barbara De Angelis also wrote a best selling marriage advice book and did the TV talk show circuit. Only one problem….they both blamed one another for the divorce. My point is…..Those that can’t do, teach.
@@theredboneking I read most of John Grays book and Barbara DeAngelis as well. She always seemed weak and him very much in touch with hos feminine side.
Awesome precise reading to the best of your abilities .Many thanks.There are five million people in New Zealand and can the world work with that many opinion on a matter. Opinions are differentiating . Everyday of a calender month is different in a week.Planets in the atmosphere changes , causing chaos in people's lives , but what can people do.If have to go with the flow and do the best we can . That's all to it.Too many people want poke their nose in other people's lives and relationships , looking for their own advantage , trying to manipulate and control. They need to be told to mind their own frigin business.
After my spiritual awakening, re-birth, burning the past, whatever ones calls it. I have completely cut off all that was not doing me any good. I’m here to uplift, encourage, give hope. When I see others that are doing the seemly opposite I just observe and walk away. Don’t waste your energy on those guys. Do where and what you can on your own turf. Make and live by your own choices.
@@contr4dixion hugs are okay if you need the other to validate. Self-awareness and Self-love is key. If you don’t love all your flaws and imperfections, you can not heal your spirit. People in pain or struggling thinks they lost that part of themselves. How does one think they lost that part of themselves, it’s bc they weren’t being conscious of themselves and their actions. When was the last time you hugged yourself.
At 1:47 Esther hits the nail on the head. She’s basically saying the notion that we all have to make sure you work on yourself and work on yourself and work on yourself and be near perfect and then you might be ready for a relationship. She says a mouthful when she says that we learn in the context of a significant other, parents, friendships and so on.. What she saying is correct and rarely said.
@@comdrive3865 A depressed person does not necessarily need to specifically seek out another depressed person. Assuming a depressed person is under the care of a physician, getting medication and or talk therapy they might mention they struggle with depression to a significant other or someone they are interested in. It doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a dealbreaker. It depends on how depressed. Is the person suicidal? If that were the case, that person may not be in a good position to begin a relationship.
The problem is getting stuck on perfection there is beauty and fertility in imperfection. As long as the values align and most of your childhood trauma (we all have it) has been resolved the potential for a relationship to flourish is there. Anyone looking for everything to perfectly align or for the perfect person will have short lived relationships because perfection does not exist.
Important point to make. It's so difficult to see where to draw the line thoughfor me - what just needs work and commitment, and what is just too much to take on?
Also, as I tell my single best friend “The only problem with you waiting for the perfect woman is that she will want the perfect man as well…and you are not him”
Stephen Speaks! The word you couldn't find is "validation". We just want our feelings to be validated. It's ok if you don't feel the same way, maybe we are even glad you don't feel the same way, but just validate our feelings.
Marriage is what nowadays? Not the one thing that helped my grandparents to survive in the world war times and create environment that has opportunity for love. Like they said in FreshandFit podcast , 1960ies things started changing and somewhere in time marriage became just romantic story that sells well and has little to do with necessary things of being a human being. We as creatures need connection..so people invent a new name, new idea to live for ..what ever.. it is biologically written into both men and women to have connections. Women use marriage since god knows how long allready to get money from men even tough they are free to live life as they want and make money in career..go for it. Just do not bring your traps in marriage to get stuff from men since we are free of traditional meaning of marriage. Marriage can work if it means sharing and building life together without expecting materials or money in return. Just find a way for boys to have a role model father of a man that makes connection with women/woman without destroying/being destroyed.
@@redbetta2191 Marriage is a wonderful thing for the right people. If we marry selfish, mean-spirited people, then we can't blame the "institution of marriage". We have to take responsibility for our choices. However we shouldn't blame ourselves for the wrong that others do; it reflects their bad character not yours.
The older I get (60 now) I’m so glad I have an abiding friendship with my husband. Just celebrated our 34th. It hasn’t all been easy or smooth sailing, but we’re committed to working together on the issues, which we ALL have. I don’t think marriage gets easier with time. I think our threshold for annoyances gets shorter, or, you just stop caring . It’s a mixed bag. I think it’s more difficult for those whose spouse isn’t their friend.
I've been married over 30 years. I have great kids, but there's no reason to be married to do that. Both my wife and I greatly regret getting married. Its one of the dumbest things people do.
@@FFE-js2zp Are you serious? Marriage IS NOT the "dumbest" thing people do. Apparently you never understood the PURPOSE of marriage. I can only imagine the wasted time and happiness you and your spouse experienced in an unforfilled relationship. Apparently you were unable to build and nurture your marital union, and give it the special care it needed to endure for a lifetime. Marriage isn't for everyone. But, don't knock the institution of marriage because of your lack of understanding in marriage. A person can be involved in a seious auto accident. Should they say " buying cars and driving is the dumbest thing people can do; there are other means of transportation". That's how you sound..
@@van182 Nothing you said can't be done better without a paper contract that says you promise to financially ruin each other if you no longer wish to stay. It is childish and asinine.
Janet.. It is the ladies the abandon or break their relationships not the guys. The ladies end 95% of all relationships and file for divorce 80% of the time, primarily for economic reasons. Your generation raised girls that grew up to be horrible girlfriends and very bad wives and their generation took it to the next level. This next generation looks like they may be the final tombstone for the practice of marriage all together. But you know what it is not all bad. If you are making over 6 figs and have a cool life style like me you can get laid very easily and with no effort. I can't believe I was a romantic in my 20s, I would not trade this for any one girl...
@@PAIP_Studio Totally agree. I don't blame women for consistently chasing genetic variety, it is mother natures plan. Clearly they have been given the equipment and the mandate to always search for the best DNA to build the future human race. They SHOULD ditch their last dude for the best they can find in the present. Nature couldn't care less about the last guy's "feelings." Suck it up and move out to pasture men, your job is done.
Really Really like Devon... he's so emotionally intelligent. I love when men can express themselves...a mind is the most beautiful thing a person can possess 😍
I love this video I had to learn by leaving a marriage of 14 years to a narcissist and it took 2 years to get him to think it was his idea to leave me. After that I saw my reality and I was surrounded by narcissist and lots of reading and watching videos. And owning my part and his part to get the whole picture. There's so much learning I would type way to much. Today I have mastered forgiveness and I would never change any part of my life because today I'm finally understand what my part was and are taking the steps to heal because I refuse to go through that again. I also would never want to get in a relationship and cause pain because I wasn't healed. But it takes reflecting self behavior and owning your part then taking the steps to heal yourself. I today love my ex and hope he can find happiness. I found it within me and everyday I get better and better. Hopefully I will be ready to have a healthy loving relationship. But I know that I will be learning until its time for me to leave the planet. I will share this video with everyone because it will help with all relationships. Great job guys.
@@ericaawake9503 most of them are with several mental issues, refuse to seek treatment and rage or run to MAMA.. grown man running to latch to her boobs..
My bf and I do not necessarily have the same values, yet I do have confidence in myself to respect him & to accept his beliefs and encourage his individuality. I believe if you allow people to be themselves without criticizing, they're more open to conform to what you believe. I think allowing people the time to develop a willingness to adapt to your needs is better than condemning someone to love or leave.
Bella Kim....Your bf is fortunate to have you in his life. You speak with such wisdom, knowledge and understanding. It would benefit him to mirror some of your attributes. I hope you two the best in your future personal and relational endeavors. If he loses you, he will lose a precious jewel, not easily replaced.
Your mindset will change once children come into play.. I’ve seen it happen every time. Which values are you going to encourage, who decides etc, etc... I think it’s sweet of you but naive at the same time.
@@milicamarshastefanovich3312 How could a couple not be proactive and not discuss parenting styles before the child is conceived? How about perhaps getting to know a person's values, wants & needs before shacking up or walking down the aisle. Could that not prevent so many ends to many relationships? People spend more time researching a car to see if it could fit their lifestyle than they do their partner in life. Thank you your comment, yet I feel naive is nowhere near my front door.
Everyone was very interesting, marriage either gets worse or way better. Everyone must take responsibility and has the power to change the direction of their marriage. We choose!
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It's indeed sad when your partner is not the right package. Cheers to creative couples who help each other grow in inspiring ways, facing life and relationships with much spunk. 🙏 ❤️🔥
I’m sadly realizing after doing some self-healing how incompatible my husband and I really are. It’s quite tragic, because we are compatible on other levels, but on an emotional and intimate level we’re basically dead. For him it’s okay, I’m suffering.
It has taken me many years of growth and understanding myself to get to place where a relationship is an added bonus to my life. I just don’t know if I want a relationship in my life. I love being me. I am still learning.
I am generally not impressed with folks talking on relations ....but this lady is really on point and accurate and real about it .....very useful to hear her ...thanks
I strongly believe in putting my faith, hopes and expectations on my Papa God and not on humans, cuz as humans we will always in one way or another let each other down because we are uniquely imperfect/ and perfect in our own ways. Accepting and respecting each other for who we are, learning from the differences we bring into a relationship and compromising are important keys to practice.
You can clearly see how Stephan speaks fantasies (healing first, what you "should" be to have a realationship, etc), because he is not experienced in relationship himself. And you can see Ester - burned and invilved in relationships herself and sharing real truth about relationships (not needing to heal yourself first, being who you really are with true values, etc).
Please edit the title or description as it is in fact a series of wonderful professionals speaking the truth about love and relationships. I want to share these insights with my husband, imagine his reaction when what I’m trying to share all of this wonderful advice. Thanks so much! Wonderful work.
Wanting two people together being happy,experiencing happiness,no we can not make others happy but,two people who are together that are happy at the same time is wonderful.
Thank you to the professionals who put this on and precipitated ... My wife and I are listening now and going through a very complex time in our lives. Much ablidged very helpful.
Exactly ... being honest ... open and creative with your partner ... dropping down CONTROL in form of putting high expectations on your partner .... BUT everything takes practice and good communication ... also trying not to RUNAWAY from "it" when we feel vulnerable ... JUST LOVE IT 🤗🤗🤗
I feel we are moving out of a Romatic era and more into Realism. Not less beautiful, actually has even more potential to really connect us when we are able to love people as they are
Romance in a way is beautiful because you love people for all they can be, but reality is also beautiful because you learn to love people for who they really are.
I’m not actually convinced of that. I think the generation today is more susceptible to succumbing to much more trivial pressures in relationships. I think the idea of romanticism is sought after by many young people today, by going after it with a ‘shopping list’ approach. Also, many young couples put themselves under pressure to portray the picture of a happy relationship on social media, and that in many cases, that becomes the sole focus in their real life and in their digital life. There is in my opinion, nothing real about that. These days, we have much more opportunities to learn about ourselves and about other people, but our priorities have to be right in order to be open to receiving, learning and applying that information. My parents are 42 years married, they worked, got a mortgage, had kids, paid bills, put food on the table and gave us the best life they could. Let me tell you, much of that realism and practicism is definitely lacking in today’s world. Neither eras can be compared, then and now, because it’s totally different.
@@xxpollypocket Thats very true. I guess I was just thinking about the wider philosophies, what relationship experts are saying. There will always be people within society who are not there yet and work towards impossible ideals, but I feel the goal post is moving towards realism. Realism can also appear as romanticism, e.g. loving someone "warts and all", accepting our perfect imperfections etc.
@@stephcampbell9277 totally agree…definitely the world as a whole is becoming more open minded and open to learning. Hopefully we can help to keep steering the younger generation in teaching them that romanticism needn’t wear out in trivial matters, rather they may need to learn to see beyond the rose tinted glasses and be open to accept as you say ‘warts and all’. Thanks for the positive interaction! 🌞🙂
Sadly the vision of people can change with time. You can enter marriage expecting and wanting he same things and one spouse can drift apart and change what they want for themselves and their life.
In the old countries, they used Astrology to betroth young children. Why? If 2 people have complimentary Venus/Mars, or Sun/ Moon you will have the same goals; you will be able to argue & forgive, & grow old together. Nowadays, people marry for romantic attraction alone, which can be over in 7 years (a Saturn cycle/7 year itch).
This episode was f*#king AMAZING! Lewis was on FIRE with his questions in these clips! This episode should be required listening AND studying for anyone who is in a relationship or even thinking about getting into a relationship.
This is by far one of the BEST AND MOST CANDID videos I have ever seen as it relates to marriage and all it encompasses (the highs, the honeymoon phase, the lows, the pitfalls, the betrayal, the forgiveness, the divorce etc etc etc) As a divorcee myself (married for nearly 12 years and divorced for nearly 8 years, I resonated with nearly everything the interviewees stated. This video was awesome.
@@MrStudGuy Yes I did this for years as well. Realizing the root cause was validation from my Father plus all the wounds he gave me. So I worked on forgiving him. I think acceptance is probably the biggest healer. Also realizing you are free and you don’t need to be attached to that longing for things to be right. Your right just being who you are. Set free independent release and protect.
Yes Esther. we do gain insight and understanding by our interactions with others but the deepest levels of self understanding and inner connection are reached in solitude,where there is enough stillness and silence ,with no distractions. to listen and hear the quietest inner voice of your spirit and soul.
It's all about being other centred instead of self centred. Communication is key to a good relationship. Any conflict can be resolved with good communication skills!
I’m sadly realizing after doing some self-healing how incompatible my husband and I really are. It’s quite tragic, because we are compatible on other levels, but on an emotional and intimate level we’re basically dead. For him it’s okay, I’m suffering. We’ve been together for almost eight years and married for 1,5.
There’s no such thing as a relationship with yourself. Relationships is how you interact with and get along with at least one more person or entity. Knowing yourself and being in healthy relationships with people are both equally important.
It has to be both people that want to learn and change and understand. Not only one person trying to seek understanding looking at this video and the partner will not.
I have finally come to understand because of videos like this what healing is actually like in relationships. Even in the conflict you handle people with respect, you come to the center if both of you want to and you actually work it out and make changes. It is not going over the same issues without changes year after year. I am learning to listen to my gut a lot quicker now. It isn't easy or fast in my case but it is worth healing with a strong foundation.
Wow, I only get this off sites on Spirituality and Growth. This lady's got it on her fingertips. She's obviously helped many people with her neutral yet caring analysis and support. I love it 🙏🌹
Some relationships are not meant to last. It doesn’t mean they aren’t worth having. I think it’s good to cherish your relationships whether or not they have longevity.
I respect that she's more practical & objective in her approach. I would narrow that down to 3 areas to match on. The practical, the physical & the wave length.
Be curious: “how come you don’t feel safe? What can I do or say to help you feel safe?” Is a place to start communicating. But seriously, guys, I appreciate hearing a group of men talking about things that are deeper than the superficial stuff.
@@christianpulisic7784 Hello Christian.. I came from Manila, Philippines .. I hope you are enjoying your moments with your family. Have a blissful Sunday ..
@@TabooRevolution13 it wouldn't matter, I would do it if it my man wasn't being a brat 😂 I have to warn him that not everyone looks amazing with a shaved head. A woman with a certain face can pull off a shaved head or pixie style haircut the best. I think there are plenty things that one would sacrifice for their loved ones beyond how they look. I'm not really sure why you brought up hair as an example or why someone would measure love by that example. Also relationships are at different stages over the years, it's not linear.
@@Protectedbikelanes Women need their hair to attract other men. They also want to be masculine... they want to get rid of the father and fill the role of both mother and father. Might as well shave your head ladies!
I enjoyed reading and can relate to many of the comments here. I am 70 years old and have been married and now divorced, knowing it was 100% the right thing for both. I just wonder if it is time to rethink equating long-lasting marriages with success, and is being married for a lifetime a relic of the past when people died in their 40s and life options were limited? At what price maintaining a marriage is the right thing to do? Just wondering!
1.07.15.... the answer I've been searching for weeks during a new dating I wasn't convinced about, but I couldn't pin point exactly the reason why.. thank you SO MUCH !!
Lewis, thank you for this amazing compilation. All the the speakers were phenomenal and your questions were spot on for every speaker. I’m a fan of this channel forever ☺️
@@alexisortiz6182 Incredibly sexist comment, that I’m a man - correct Just Wow! This is 2021 I didn’t realise that all women need men still like it’s 1821 You’re comments are very patronising
@@paulbyerz2188 I meant it very playfully I think you misunderstand me. Did you know most communication is non verbal. It’s easy to read a text in a manner that was not the intention. Every woman I know personally does want a relationship with a man but that’s just my experience and perspective. If you know woman who do want to have a relationship with a man that’s your perspective and that’s valid. I just haven’t come across that yet and that’s just not my perspective at all. I hope you feel better as I have no attention to attack anyone but just really appreciated this interview. I feel my energy is best spent on encouraging people then tearing people down.
@@alexisortiz6182 Totally fine Lexi, maybe I read your context as patronising, it’s often when people put Lol after a sentence it’s generally meant as spiteful. Yes I know a few women who don’t want to be in a relationship and are quite comfortable being in themselves and or with another woman that’s my perspective, maybe I move in wider circles or travelled more and yes it’s a great interview. Esther is amazing with her insight and wisdom
Spot on Lewis. So helpful and its given me alot to think about. I love when you mix the best bits like this, its a great reminder of all the greatness combined ❤
Traveling outside of our country is a harder process. We do travel between our states frequently though.. and it can sometimes feel like a foreign country!
Thanks Lewis.One of the best compiled versions of intrapersonal and interpersonal connection.The relation on the outside and the relationship within being in constant interaction. The understanding of the conscious thoughts/ behaviours and the subconscious that influences most of our decisions. A wealth of wisdom shared here.😊🙏
Of greater importance is the ability to be observant re: others actions and reactions. Many times we spend way too much time trying to fix a relationship that is unfixable.
I so needed this. I was in a 25 yr marriage and went numb for the last 5 years..suffered from chronic sickness. I walked away right before the pandemic in 2020 and feel amazing. I'm single, living as I want, took up new hobbies and love my life. Best thing I did and this video and the speakers really helped me believe I did the right thing as I've often wondered "what if". He's already remarried. Broken meets broken.
I was left for another after 39 years of marriage and trying to reinvent myself. Would you mind sharing what kind of hobbies you picked up?
@@kimturner9309 well, I took up gardening and fly fishing..I live in AK and did some traveling in the winter. I also moved out to a tiny home in a remote area but have internet. Everything to furnish other than the bed matress and linens is 2nd hand and then I built some rock gardens and grew veggies and planted flowers. Also learning about wild edibles and took up
making natural teas and remedies from plants I find, like labrador, old man's beard, dandelion, currants..and I read, I work and also got a puppy (German Shepherd) on Valentines Day. She's my fishing and camping partner. If you ever want male attention, just go fishing.
@@BC-dm5bi thank you for your lovely answer! I adopted a dog after my divorce. He’s a chihuahua mix. Wonder how he would do at fishing?😝
good luck on your path, you're brave!
@Animalfarm I will..and you can do it. You may lose everything but will find yourself. It's never too late. I started over by couch surfing with friends and focused on my work, health, mind, body and spirit. I still cry but it can be done
he is so right about 2 broken people who have not healed coming together
like an empath and narcissistic relationship
the narc will never change but empaths should learn about themselves
and heal so they do not choose a narc
@@ericaawake9503
I did same
I would adjust your language slightly, and therefore your understanding on dysfunctional behaviour.
Better to say someone with empathic behaviours meeting someone with narcissistic behaviours. These behaviours don't define identity.
And Narcissistic behaving people can heal and change, it's possible.
And Empathic behaving people aren't really that empathic, they are anxious obsessed with the other so they can feel better themselves, which makes them also narcissistic in their behaviours.
@@simeonmorris1774 yesssssss! We all have a bit of everything sprinkled in. It's funny how the only time you hear about "narcs" is when a self professed "empath" pours out their story of how they were so hard done by. No one loves talking about themselves more than an "empath".
@@simeonmorris1774 what you’re describing about the empath could be more about codependency than narcissism.
@Rhona 'Rho' Bennett It could be, yes. I think that narcissistic behaviour is really just toddler behaviour; It’s a person acting as a 4 year old. So, a co-dependant relationship will contain narcissistic behaviour certainly. Any time a person acts as if there is no-one else in the relationship, they are acting narcissistically, so both sides of a co-dependant relationship will be acting narcissistically at times, in my opinion.
I adore her for saying that you don’t need to fix yourself alone, you fix/find self love with people around you…or at least that’s how I took it. And I’ve always lived that way but I’ve always been been stuck between those two worlds.
Yes exactly, it's an important idea. It goes against the New Age ideology of everything being your own responsibility. I am absolutely for choosing supportive company that can enhance the best in you or rather allow you to be the best you can be, and you help eachother together.
Yes, I loved that statement she made. We are not perfect and probably will not become better people without having a partner who teaches us and shows us who we are.
You know, I agree with this. But at the same time I am horribly un-attracted (dis-attracted?) to men who act as if I am their mother, as the person who listens, understands, etc, etc, while they fix themselves, or not. For that reason I think people need to fix themselves, and not expect their partner to become their therapist. It's unfair on the partner, and it doesn't fix whatever issues you have. It's like, if I have issues with trust, is a man going to teach me how to trust? No. I have to learn to trust, myself, by myself.
Yes, as long as the person wants to heal and work on themselves.some people refuse to heal, unfortunately. I 💜her.
@@ebbyc1817 1000% in agreement with you. Individuals can only fix and love themselves first before one can radiate all that goodness to other's.
The second speaker is ON point, about women. I feel a lot of men are socialised to invalidate women in general, not just disregarding feelings, but treating everything she says as secondary to their logic. If a man says it, it's valid, like if a man says, I don't feel safe right now, it would be immediately valid. But if a woman says it, it has to be validated against their 'logic'. It isn't valid by itself. This causes a lot of problems in relationships because you're not just another person she's talking to, you're supposed to be on her side, you're her ally. And if you're not, if you're treating her like she needs to defend herself, now you're an enemy in her camp. You are far more dangerous than someone she might be arguing with out there, because you are 'in the house'.
So it's really important to be supportive of your wives, girlfriends. Like he says, if she's good to you, just, be on her side. Forget about logic. That's not the point. You want logic, date a software program.
THIS!
As a wife, soooo very well said. If you can't show understanding for MY feelings and viewpoint, I can't treat your logical views as being on 'my' side and so I have to defend myself against your logic, making me feel defensive and then I naturally treat you as the 'enemy'..
Your words are right on. And as women we are unconsciously conditioned to accept the man's judgment even though that makes us all wrong. And . . . an appropriate response on the part of the man could be to acknowledge that the woman may know something he doesn't. I believe that women are much more closely connected to their instincts. Finally, a man who has empathy and knows women will understand that the world is a much more threatening place for women. We are prey to many people.
@Ebby C:
You are brilliant! Thank you for speaking truth to 'power'.
Well, more than the gender (of a person) its about the individual's sensibilities toward other, it can be other way around too, when a man gets emotional or expresses feelings and is invalidated by the other person (not gender)
I wish the man I loved would seek out videos like this. It's so hard to make it work when you're the only one wanting to go the extra mile to find out what makes things work or why the opposite sex is the way they are.
Talk to him in different ways. TRY to motivante him to do it. Sometimes peoples brains are fed up
This woman is fantastic. Her wisdom is so holistic! She this about all stages of life and all cultures!
I love her non 'me' center approach and showing that life is not fireworks. Lots of relashionship guru sell unrealistic vision of marriage.
NoooAdriana, you will still be miserable.....I am sure ...you better ask me.
"Love is not enough. You need compatibility."
A bolt of electricity just went through my brain.
This woman is awesome! She quotes the other people I respect and pulls it all together. Thx @Lewis Howes. She is emotionally brilliant and speaks on my vibration
Yeah but I find a weird when a women of such wisdom speaks on a man 👨
John Gray wrote a best selling book in the 90s called “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. He then wrote other best sellers with similar titles. It was all about marriage and he did the TV talk show circuit. His ex wife Barbara De Angelis also wrote a best selling marriage advice book and did the TV talk show circuit. Only one problem….they both blamed one another for the divorce.
My point is…..Those that can’t do, teach.
@@theredboneking I read most of John Grays book and Barbara DeAngelis as well. She always seemed weak and him very much in touch with hos feminine side.
@@theredboneking I read a couple of John gray books 📚 he speak languages of man an women
Awesome precise reading to the best of your abilities .Many thanks.There are five million people in New Zealand and can the world work with that many opinion on a matter. Opinions are differentiating . Everyday of a calender month is different in a week.Planets in the atmosphere changes , causing chaos in people's lives , but what can people do.If have to go with the flow and do the best we can . That's all to it.Too many people want poke their nose in other people's lives and relationships , looking for their own advantage , trying to manipulate and control. They need to be told to mind their own frigin business.
After my spiritual awakening, re-birth, burning the past, whatever ones calls it. I have completely cut off all that was not doing me any good. I’m here to uplift, encourage, give hope. When I see others that are doing the seemly opposite I just observe and walk away. Don’t waste your energy on those guys. Do where and what you can on your own turf. Make and live by your own choices.
that sounds so sad
@@ForChiddlers so many sad things in life already. I don’t plan on being one of those. 👍
Hugs.... That's usually the case with most awakening
@@contr4dixion hugs are okay if you need the other to validate. Self-awareness and Self-love is key. If you don’t love all your flaws and imperfections, you can not heal your spirit. People in pain or struggling thinks they lost that part of themselves. How does one think they lost that part of themselves, it’s bc they weren’t being conscious of themselves and their actions. When was the last time you hugged yourself.
Ann Eone I think that you are just getting old and on your way to become a crazy cat lady.
At 1:47 Esther hits the nail on the head. She’s basically saying the notion that we all have to make sure you work on yourself and work on yourself and work on yourself and be near perfect and then you might be ready for a relationship. She says a mouthful when she says that we learn in the context of a significant other, parents, friendships and so on.. What she saying is correct and rarely said.
@@comdrive3865 A depressed person does not necessarily need to specifically seek out another depressed person. Assuming a depressed person is under the care of a physician, getting medication and or talk therapy they might mention they struggle with depression to a significant other or someone they are interested in. It doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a dealbreaker. It depends on how depressed. Is the person suicidal? If that were the case, that person may not be in a good position to begin a relationship.
The problem is getting stuck on perfection there is beauty and fertility in imperfection. As long as the values align and most of your childhood trauma (we all have it) has been resolved the potential for a relationship to flourish is there. Anyone looking for everything to perfectly align or for the perfect person will have short lived relationships because perfection does not exist.
Beautifully stated! Wish more people understood this.
Important point to make. It's so difficult to see where to draw the line thoughfor me - what just needs work and commitment, and what is just too much to take on?
Also, as I tell my single best friend
“The only problem with you waiting for the perfect woman is that she will want the perfect man as well…and you are not him”
Yes it does. I'm perfect.
Stephen Speaks! The word you couldn't find is "validation". We just want our feelings to be validated. It's ok if you don't feel the same way, maybe we are even glad you don't feel the same way, but just validate our feelings.
to avoid hurt, have a relationship with yourself. Others should be secondary. it works for me. I am done with heartache
Have you watched the video for, at least, 8 minutes? She said something exactly about that.
Esther has incredible insight into relationships and is so sharp. What an amazing woman!
I have been listen to Esther Perrel since long time ago. She is always right Happiness is not from marriage.
Exactly. Make YOURSELF happy
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Marriage is what nowadays? Not the one thing that helped my grandparents to survive in the world war times and create environment that has opportunity for love. Like they said in FreshandFit podcast , 1960ies things started changing and somewhere in time marriage became just romantic story that sells well and has little to do with necessary things of being a human being. We as creatures need connection..so people invent a new name, new idea to live for ..what ever.. it is biologically written into both men and women to have connections. Women use marriage since god knows how long allready to get money from men even tough they are free to live life as they want and make money in career..go for it. Just do not bring your traps in marriage to get stuff from men since we are free of traditional meaning of marriage. Marriage can work if it means sharing and building life together without expecting materials or money in return. Just find a way for boys to have a role model father of a man that makes connection with women/woman without destroying/being destroyed.
marriage is a bad deal for men. women gets everything man has and then kick him to the curb when she sees the greener grass on the otherside
@@redbetta2191 Marriage is a wonderful thing for the right people. If we marry selfish, mean-spirited people, then we can't blame the "institution of marriage". We have to take responsibility for our choices. However we shouldn't blame ourselves for the wrong that others do; it reflects their bad character not yours.
Boom! Love Esther, calibration-life story vs love story - healing in healthy environment- self realization - perspectives- growth.
The older I get (60 now) I’m so glad I have an abiding friendship with my husband. Just celebrated our 34th. It hasn’t all been easy or smooth sailing, but we’re committed to working together on the issues, which we ALL have. I don’t think marriage gets easier with time. I think our threshold for annoyances gets shorter, or, you just stop caring . It’s a mixed bag. I think it’s more difficult for those whose spouse isn’t their friend.
I've been married over 30 years. I have great kids, but there's no reason to be married to do that. Both my wife and I greatly regret getting married. Its one of the dumbest things people do.
@@FFE-js2zp Are you serious? Marriage IS NOT the "dumbest" thing people do. Apparently you never understood the PURPOSE of marriage. I can only imagine the wasted time and happiness you and your spouse experienced in an unforfilled relationship. Apparently you were unable to build and nurture your marital union, and give it the special care it needed to endure for a lifetime. Marriage isn't for everyone. But, don't knock the institution of marriage because of your lack of understanding in marriage. A person can be involved in a seious auto accident. Should they say " buying cars and driving is the dumbest thing people can do; there are other means of transportation". That's how you sound..
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Nothing you said can't be done better without a paper contract that says you promise to financially ruin each other if you no longer wish to stay. It is childish and asinine.
Janet.. It is the ladies the abandon or break their relationships not the guys. The ladies end 95% of all relationships and file for divorce 80% of the time, primarily for economic reasons. Your generation raised girls that grew up to be horrible girlfriends and very bad wives and their generation took it to the next level. This next generation looks like they may be the final tombstone for the practice of marriage all together. But you know what it is not all bad. If you are making over 6 figs and have a cool life style like me you can get laid very easily and with no effort. I can't believe I was a romantic in my 20s, I would not trade this for any one girl...
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Totally agree. I don't blame women for consistently chasing genetic variety, it is mother natures plan. Clearly they have been given the equipment and the mandate to always search for the best DNA to build the future human race. They SHOULD ditch their last dude for the best they can find in the present. Nature couldn't care less about the last guy's "feelings." Suck it up and move out to pasture men, your job is done.
Really Really like Devon... he's so emotionally intelligent. I love when men can express themselves...a mind is the most beautiful thing a person can possess 😍
that body eh! 👀
I love this video I had to learn by leaving a marriage of 14 years to a narcissist and it took 2 years to get him to think it was his idea to leave me. After that I saw my reality and I was surrounded by narcissist and lots of reading and watching videos. And owning my part and his part to get the whole picture. There's so much learning I would type way to much. Today I have mastered forgiveness and I would never change any part of my life because today I'm finally understand what my part was and are taking the steps to heal because I refuse to go through that again. I also would never want to get in a relationship and cause pain because I wasn't healed. But it takes reflecting self behavior and owning your part then taking the steps to heal yourself. I today love my ex and hope he can find happiness. I found it within me and everyday I get better and better. Hopefully I will be ready to have a healthy loving relationship. But I know that I will be learning until its time for me to leave the planet. I will share this video with everyone because it will help with all relationships. Great job guys.
all women claim their ex is a narcissist. seems to be human
@@ericaawake9503 my was as well ! So hard to learn about it !
@@ericaawake9503 most of them are with several mental issues, refuse to seek treatment and rage or run to MAMA.. grown man running to latch to her boobs..
My bf and I do not necessarily have the same values, yet I do have confidence in myself to respect him & to accept his beliefs and encourage his individuality. I believe if you allow people to be themselves without criticizing, they're more open to conform to what you believe. I think allowing people the time to develop a willingness to adapt to your needs is better than condemning someone to love or leave.
Bella Kim....Your bf is fortunate to have you in his life. You speak with such wisdom, knowledge and understanding. It would benefit him to mirror some of your attributes. I hope you two the best in your future personal and relational endeavors. If he loses you, he will lose a precious jewel, not easily replaced.
So true
@@piotrekmajkowski5422 lol, yes, that's the million dollar question.
Your mindset will change once children come into play.. I’ve seen it happen every time. Which values are you going to encourage, who decides etc, etc... I think it’s sweet of you but naive at the same time.
@@milicamarshastefanovich3312 How could a couple not be proactive and not discuss parenting styles before the child is conceived? How about perhaps getting to know a person's values, wants & needs before shacking up or walking down the aisle. Could that not prevent so many ends to many relationships? People spend more time researching a car to see if it could fit their lifestyle than they do their partner in life. Thank you your comment, yet I feel naive is nowhere near my front door.
Woman: “I feel unsafe now”
Man: Is this a ‘you need me to fix this’ situation or a ‘you want me to acknowledge you and give you a hug’ situation?
Then they hit you with “figure it out” 🤕
I don't think you need to have similar interests for your relationship to work. Similar values is what counts.
Everyone was very interesting, marriage either gets worse or way better. Everyone must take responsibility and has the power to change the direction of their marriage. We choose!
@📌pinned by Lewis Howes 6yFäst kopierade textavsnitt om du inte vill att de raderas efter en timmeFäst kopierade textavsnitt om du inte vill att de raderas efter en timme
It's indeed sad when your partner is not the right package. Cheers to creative couples who help each other grow in inspiring ways, facing life and relationships with much spunk. 🙏 ❤️🔥
I’m sadly realizing after doing some self-healing how incompatible my husband and I really are. It’s quite tragic, because we are compatible on other levels, but on an emotional and intimate level we’re basically dead. For him it’s okay, I’m suffering.
I love what she said: Are you looking for a love story or Life story?
It has taken me many years of growth and understanding myself to get to place where a relationship is an added bonus to my life.
I just don’t know if I want a relationship in my life. I love being me. I am still learning.
I live in Asia & understand completely the unrealistic expectations of western relationships! & this lady is very very intelligent
I am generally not impressed with folks talking on relations ....but this lady is really on point and accurate and real about it .....very useful to hear her ...thanks
I strongly believe in putting my faith, hopes and expectations on my Papa God and not on humans, cuz as humans we will always in one way or another let each other down because we are uniquely imperfect/ and perfect in our own ways. Accepting and respecting each other for who we are, learning from the differences we bring into a relationship and compromising are important keys to practice.
Honestly
Lovely comment.
You sound hurt
I'm 58 and still single after several relationships. This video finally explained why I let the good ones get away. Damn.
Can you say why please?
You can clearly see how Stephan speaks fantasies (healing first, what you "should" be to have a realationship, etc), because he is not experienced in relationship himself. And you can see Ester - burned and invilved in relationships herself and sharing real truth about relationships (not needing to heal yourself first, being who you really are with true values, etc).
This is the most spot on conversation I've seen about relationships.
Please edit the title or description as it is in fact a series of wonderful professionals speaking the truth about love and relationships. I want to share these insights with my husband, imagine his reaction when what I’m trying to share all of this wonderful advice. Thanks so much! Wonderful work.
Wanting two people together being happy,experiencing happiness,no we can not make others happy but,two people who are together that are happy at the same time is wonderful.
Thank you to the professionals who put this on and precipitated ... My wife and I are listening now and going through a very complex time in our lives. Much ablidged very helpful.
Appreciate you! 🙏
Exactly ... being honest ... open and creative with your partner ... dropping down CONTROL in form of putting high expectations on your partner .... BUT everything takes practice and good communication ... also trying not to RUNAWAY from "it" when we feel vulnerable ... JUST LOVE IT 🤗🤗🤗
Yes
Running away is best!
I feel we are moving out of a Romatic era and more into Realism. Not less beautiful, actually has even more potential to really connect us when we are able to love people as they are
Romance in a way is beautiful because you love people for all they can be, but reality is also beautiful because you learn to love people for who they really are.
I’m not actually convinced of that. I think the generation today is more susceptible to succumbing to much more trivial pressures in relationships. I think the idea of romanticism is sought after by many young people today, by going after it with a ‘shopping list’ approach. Also, many young couples put themselves under pressure to portray the picture of a happy relationship on social media, and that in many cases, that becomes the sole focus in their real life and in their digital life. There is in my opinion, nothing real about that. These days, we have much more opportunities to learn about ourselves and about other people, but our priorities have to be right in order to be open to receiving, learning and applying that information. My parents are 42 years married, they worked, got a mortgage, had kids, paid bills, put food on the table and gave us the best life they could. Let me tell you, much of that realism and practicism is definitely lacking in today’s world. Neither eras can be compared, then and now, because it’s totally different.
@@xxpollypocket Thats very true. I guess I was just thinking about the wider philosophies, what relationship experts are saying. There will always be people within society who are not there yet and work towards impossible ideals, but I feel the goal post is moving towards realism. Realism can also appear as romanticism, e.g. loving someone "warts and all", accepting our perfect imperfections etc.
@@stephcampbell9277 totally agree…definitely the world as a whole is becoming more open minded and open to learning. Hopefully we can help to keep steering the younger generation in teaching them that romanticism needn’t wear out in trivial matters, rather they may need to learn to see beyond the rose tinted glasses and be open to accept as you say ‘warts and all’. Thanks for the positive interaction! 🌞🙂
And hurting ppl , hurt ppl, b/c of unresolved challenges each are still experiencing.
Sadly the vision of people can change with time. You can enter marriage expecting and wanting he same things and one spouse can drift apart and change what they want for themselves and their life.
In the old countries, they used Astrology to betroth young children. Why? If 2 people have complimentary Venus/Mars, or Sun/ Moon you will have the same goals; you will be able to argue & forgive, & grow old together. Nowadays, people marry for romantic attraction alone, which can be over in 7 years (a Saturn cycle/7 year itch).
@@myramedicinewindkay813 very interesting
@@myramedicinewindkay813 What countries? I’m curious about this.
@@Jocelyn_Jade India, China, Tibet, Korea, Japan, & many more.
This is exactly right, especially when you come together at a young age. Nobody is the same person at 45, that they were at 25.
Yes, as a single person I dated the wrong ones and stayed in them when I should have left.
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Sorry for.all.that
Yes its all a learning experience you learn from it.
This episode was f*#king AMAZING! Lewis was on FIRE with his questions in these clips! This episode should be required listening AND studying for anyone who is in a relationship or even thinking about getting into a relationship.
This is by far one of the BEST AND MOST CANDID videos I have ever seen as it relates to marriage and all it encompasses (the highs, the honeymoon phase, the lows, the pitfalls, the betrayal, the forgiveness, the divorce etc etc etc) As a divorcee myself (married for nearly 12 years and divorced for nearly 8 years, I resonated with nearly everything the interviewees stated. This video was awesome.
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When you validate yourself and are not seeking outside of yourself for validation is when you find peace.
@@MrStudGuy Yes I did this for years as well. Realizing the root cause was validation from my Father plus all the wounds he gave me. So I worked on forgiving him. I think acceptance is probably the biggest healer. Also realizing you are free and you don’t need to be attached to that longing for things to be right. Your right just being who you are. Set free independent release and protect.
Amen... listen even if it doesn't make sense... hold space for us quietly.
Yes Esther. we do gain insight and understanding by our interactions with others but the deepest levels of self understanding and inner connection are reached in solitude,where there is enough stillness and silence ,with no distractions. to listen and hear the quietest inner voice of your spirit and soul.
It's all about being other centred instead of self centred. Communication is key to a good relationship. Any conflict can be resolved with good communication skills!
I’m sadly realizing after doing some self-healing how incompatible my husband and I really are. It’s quite tragic, because we are compatible on other levels, but on an emotional and intimate level we’re basically dead. For him it’s okay, I’m suffering. We’ve been together for almost eight years and married for 1,5.
The most important relationship we can have, is with our Self.
True
@@knowthyself8233 use
There’s no such thing as a relationship with yourself. Relationships is how you interact with and get along with at least one more person or entity. Knowing yourself and being in healthy relationships with people are both equally important.
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It has to be both people that want to learn and change and understand. Not only one person trying to seek understanding looking at this video and the partner will not.
Esther is so insightful and articulate!!!
This lady is a genius! You want a love that gives each other respect and space and will build a life with you.
This lady is awesome. So many good points that I was going through in my relationship, things just got clear and clear as she spoke.
All she says rings true. Values friendship and life goals are so much more important than romanticism
I love how this woman thinks!
"No more tears and lonelyness !!!!!!"
I have finally come to understand because of videos like this what healing is actually like in relationships. Even in the conflict you handle people with respect, you come to the center if both of you want to and you actually work it out and make changes. It is not going over the same issues without changes year after year. I am learning to listen to my gut a lot quicker now. It isn't easy or fast in my case but it is worth healing with a strong foundation.
Thanks for being here!
Wow, I only get this off sites on Spirituality and Growth. This lady's got it on her fingertips. She's obviously helped many people with her neutral yet caring analysis and support. I love it 🙏🌹
Finding and knowing who we really are and who we meant to be is a chocolate. Then people who come to love that true self of us is a wonder and a gift.
Love this lady’s wisdom on relationships…
wise compassion for friend is "love" much more loving is truth way.....
small dosage...loving her
Some relationships are not meant to last. It doesn’t mean they aren’t worth having. I think it’s good to cherish your relationships whether or not they have longevity.
I agree that it is through others we learn about ourselves. The problem comes when it's warped mirrors we look into. There lies the damage.
Love this woman, listening to someone without agenda is really learning. ✨
I wish I would listen to miss Esther years ago, I'm supper glad I found her.
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♥️Esther Perel!!♥️The most insightful vlog about relationships I’ve ever listened too. Thank you!! Lewis.
I love 💕 how he listens to her. The First speaker.
*To find yourself, think for yourself!!*
I respect that she's more practical & objective in her approach. I would narrow that down to 3 areas to match on. The practical, the physical & the wave length.
What a fabulous compilation of wisdom!
"you learn to love yourself in the context of your relationship with others.." **BOOOM, POWWW-WOWWW!!!** i love this!!! ..thank you!!!..
Be curious: “how come you don’t feel safe? What can I do or say to help you feel safe?” Is a place to start communicating.
But seriously, guys, I appreciate hearing a group of men talking about things that are deeper than the superficial stuff.
I love this woman ❤️ So eyes and mind opening. Everything she says makes sense 🙂
Every man NEEDS peace. Thank you sir! My own words here..Almost no woman can bear apathy ....in the long run
Brilliant advise!!! Other people's perspective of you, missing blindspots about yourself....those are a blessing 🙏
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My mind has been blown several times during this video. This is pure gold! 🤯
Completey agree
Wow she is so knowledgeable and breaks it down so well. Being realistic and practical is what the answers are all about.
To value this relationship between of a man and a woman is to keep the relationship open and be honest to one another ..
Donna Garcia,You look stunning 🌹🌷
@@christianpulisic7784 Good day Christian .. thanks for your kind comments .. have a blessed day
@@donnagarcia1884 You are welcome dearest 🌹🌷🌹.I am Christian from the States.You?
@@christianpulisic7784 Hello Christian.. I came from Manila, Philippines .. I hope you are enjoying your moments with your family. Have a blissful Sunday ..
Love is NOT enough, yet the purest love never fails
Love is more than enough. No women love men in our modern era. None. I can prove it...
@@TabooRevolution13 what?
@@Protectedbikelanes Ask one to shave her head for her man. See her reaction. They care more about their hair than their man for a reason!
@@TabooRevolution13 it wouldn't matter, I would do it if it my man wasn't being a brat 😂 I have to warn him that not everyone looks amazing with a shaved head. A woman with a certain face can pull off a shaved head or pixie style haircut the best. I think there are plenty things that one would sacrifice for their loved ones beyond how they look. I'm not really sure why you brought up hair as an example or why someone would measure love by that example. Also relationships are at different stages over the years, it's not linear.
@@Protectedbikelanes Women need their hair to attract other men. They also want to be masculine... they want to get rid of the father and fill the role of both mother and father. Might as well shave your head ladies!
I enjoyed reading and can relate to many of the comments here. I am 70 years old and have been married and now divorced, knowing it was 100% the right thing for both.
I just wonder if it is time to rethink equating long-lasting marriages with success, and is being married for a lifetime a relic of the past when people died in their 40s and life options were limited?
At what price maintaining a marriage is the right thing to do? Just wondering!
1.07.15.... the answer I've been searching for weeks during a new dating I wasn't convinced about, but I couldn't pin point exactly the reason why.. thank you SO MUCH !!
I honestly can't believe what huge fan I'm becoming of this program. Nice job, keep up the good work!
This so true this we’re I got and no body understands me even my partner. Need to be healed
Lewis, thank you for this amazing compilation. All the the speakers were phenomenal and your questions were spot on for every speaker. I’m a fan of this channel forever ☺️
You're welcome,thank you for being here 💜
Wow! She is so assertive!
Thank you Lewis for asking questions on behalf of us single ladies in our thirties! This was helpful.
I thought it also came across as patronising that ALL women in their 30’s need to be in a relationship… non? 🤷♂️
@@paulbyerz2188 you’re clearly not a woman lol. They all want to be in a relationship. That’s a safe assumption
@@alexisortiz6182 Incredibly sexist comment, that I’m a man - correct
Just Wow!
This is 2021 I didn’t realise that all women need men still like it’s 1821
You’re comments are very patronising
@@paulbyerz2188 I meant it very playfully I think you misunderstand me. Did you know most communication is non verbal. It’s easy to read a text in a manner that was not the intention. Every woman I know personally does want a relationship with a man but that’s just my experience and perspective. If you know woman who do want to have a relationship with a man that’s your perspective and that’s valid. I just haven’t come across that yet and that’s just not my perspective at all. I hope you feel better as I have no attention to attack anyone but just really appreciated this interview. I feel my energy is best spent on encouraging people then tearing people down.
@@alexisortiz6182 Totally fine Lexi, maybe I read your context as patronising, it’s often when people put Lol after a sentence it’s generally meant as spiteful.
Yes I know a few women who don’t want to be in a relationship and are quite comfortable being in themselves and or with another woman that’s my perspective, maybe I move in wider circles or travelled more and yes it’s a great interview. Esther is amazing with her insight and wisdom
Faaaaack. Repairing breaches in relationships. That’s a big one.
In short, there is a whole lot of questions that need to be asked when two people are getting to know each other. Marriage is nothing to rush into.
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Don't people know that?
@@kylekenan2321 no, many people don’t know that!
@@2morrow789 Then why do they if they don't know whether or not it's gonna work out or benefit them?
@@kylekenan2321 many people are not as cautious as you appear to be.
Its better to not have any expectations....its easier. Specially from people .......
Greetings from Scotland 😊 Have a wonderful day everyone 🌻 Stay safe, stay blessed everyone 🌻
Send you live from South Africa ....stay blessed
Spot on Lewis. So helpful and its given me alot to think about. I love when you mix the best bits like this, its a great reminder of all the greatness combined ❤
Very well worded..
I too believe that my surrounding the people I interact and every aspect of my circle of life helps me to create me...
Annette Gervais,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are with a good man!!
@@christianpulisic7784 actually I'm single ..
@@annettegervais9109 Oh ok dearest 🌷🌹🌹.I am Christian from the States.You?
@@annettegervais9109 Which country are you from?
In Canada Ontario
This lady is great. I understand her views
Incredible insights thank you to all the presenters
WOW!!! profane and deep answer to his question from Min 7:30
Bravo you are correct with healing!! Healing creates the energy in relationships. ❤️
i like "ideate compassion" "loving compassion"
Traveling outside of our country is a harder process.
We do travel between our states frequently though.. and it can sometimes feel like a foreign country!
True that! We're half a continent!
Simple and clear communicator. Very educational and informative. Key note expectations.
I love these mash ups nicely done absolutely live the way you ask questions and allow the guests to answer and expand.
Makes sense and also many generalisations based on gender and dependant on how you're raised (unrelatable to me).
Thanks Lewis.One of the best compiled versions of intrapersonal and interpersonal connection.The relation on the outside and the relationship within being in constant interaction. The understanding of the conscious thoughts/ behaviours and the subconscious that influences most of our decisions.
A wealth of wisdom shared here.😊🙏
Big thanks! 😊🙏
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Of greater importance is the ability to be observant re: others actions and reactions. Many times we spend way too much time trying to fix a relationship that is unfixable.
So true!