How to Avoid Marrying a Narcissist
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2024
- In this video, Dr. David Clarke will teach you how to avoid marrying a narcissist and protect yourself from toxic relationships. Watch now for crucial tips and red flags to watch out for!
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LMBO at “you might as well marry a couch.. at least it’s good for something!” 😂
Theres been a wedge in our marriage since day 1
I love your straight talk and your content. It is so helpful! I was stuck in a marriage for 30 years with a Narc and finally got away and have had peace for the past 5 years!! Thank you, Jesus. I was the spiritual leader and I saw all the red flags you mentioned and should have never married him. Wish I knew then what I know now.
It's been 6 years since I left and I still question myself. 3 more years of co-parenting and then hopefully I never see him again (short of the kid's weddings.) I don't date even though I'm a very loving person....just way too damaged from it all.
After a 30 year marriage to a man who fooled me, my family and friends. The one thing I keep going back to as a 22 yr old young woman is he would make “blonde jokes”, then look to see my reaction. I now see that I was like a caged animal, he was prodding me to test me. He was making fun of me and laughing it off as joking. Should have been my No. 1 red flag.
I didn’t date him initially, he began going to church with my family, then I saw him go through the motions and even ask me, how to know the Lord like I did. That was No. 2, he wanted to Chameleon himself into my life and family.
After 30 years he now hates my God loving family, mostly because he thought he had convinced them he was so holy and I was the horrible one.
The mask came off and he revealed himself completely, a true Narcissist and sociopath.
I would tell you my nightmare to divorce him but you’ve heard the same story because this is now an epidemic.
I am Free from him and the demons he brought with him, now I am taking authority over the generational curses so my sons will be Godly, fear of God, honest, loving, attentive spouses.
Keep going, ask God to search you so he can expose the enemies schemes, then walk in Freedom sisters. God has not seen or forgotten you, trust in His word. Oh, and Praise your way to peace, allow the Lord to teach you and He will!!
yes! The testing of the sense of humor is important, and I'm still learning. My now ex would say "ooooh is that your boyfriend?" whenever my phone would ding, and I'd show him who it is, and he'd then say "oh I was just bugging you". Let's keep talking about that. Ways to have fun without making fun of people, or teasing sensitive areas, etc
So sorry u experienced that. Thank you for sharing your story.
I was married to a narc, not a Christian, divorced him, then married a "Christian " narc. I left him and stayed celibate, not dating for fourteen years. He now filed for divorce. I never filed because he said he'd never give me one. I didn't know at the time that I could file and it would go through without his signature. Well, he just filed.
Thanks to watching videos, I realized now, after fourteen years of separation, I realized that he is a narc. Any feelings I had left for him immediately left. Now I can't wait for it to be final.
Dr. Clarke this was an excellent video!! So helpful. I very much appreciate your directness. We all need to be aware & know these RED FLAGS for ourselves & those we care about! We need more Christian men like you who tell it like it is. Excusing bad behavior is enabling! Your T-shirt says it all 👍
My narc was covert,like a wall
It is unbelievable.How all of the list is my husband every single thing.... But I believe you
This is great advice even if the person you are dating is not a narc…therefore a video like this may be confusing to a listener.
Dr. Clarke…I think when you give good general marriage advice like this with that kind of video title we may come to the wrong conclusion about our marital situation.
For example, we might think…my future spouse is talkative and not an immigrant or alcoholic so therefore I will NOT be marrying a Narc.
This is so good. Just discovered your channel
Here's a few I saw in my last boyfriend that I wonder are red flags. When less than a minute after your last message he asks "are you ignoring me?" or "obviously you don't want to talk to me". Also, watch what he says, and journal. He says something once, and later on says something that contradicts that. And then when I called him on it says he doesn't remember.(at 50+ I do wonder if it eventually will be written off as senior moments?) And please confirm that "love at first sight" is bull-oney. As for the custody battle, is it just better, in the situation of divorce, to wait until the custody is settled, or until the last child comes of age?(well, as a 50-something the latter is usually the case anyway) I'll wait for more comments. God bless you Dr David E Clark
My first ex-husband did the love at first sight thing. I always told him that I don't believe in that and that love at first sight is just lust.
Worst decision of my dam life
My door is refinished. It is old. I even waxed it... spit shined, old, not perfect, yet I cared enough to try to make it better. I will not hug it, metal is not my thing. God didn't make me a carpenter, he made me a mom and grandmother.
Exactly. Been four years in a longs distance relationship. He is a monster narcissist!
i would change my number and move further away
stay away from a selfish pastor and change your phone number and move away to another town , city and to DC near Arlington Virginia near the George mason university
Semper prophetic
Do you know how many times you use the word narc? One more thing... I do not think remarriage is a solution. The family is very important and I would be suggestion that the family be taken care of with much love and care. I think you have much potential however you jump from divorce to another marriage. God intended us to be beautiful parents and role models. It's nice seeing you. Strings
and more. I remember reading about a 3-month rule. What do you think about refusing to consider yourself in a relationship until you've known each other at least 3 months? Or, to not have any physical contact for 3 months, or at least not kiss until then? Also please address the "sexual compatibility" thing; a number of men declare that they need to see how each other's bodies fit together before marrying. And sexual frustration. Many men have rationalized an early proposal based on 1 Corinthians 7:9. I look forward to future videos about that
Pre marital sex is not Biblical, so that’s says it all.
I think the 3 month rule sounds like a good idea! I’m gonna do that! Helps you see a person more clearly. I personally want to truly be friend first before officially dating, so at least 3 months sounds good.
”But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.“
1 Corinthians 7:9 NASB1995
Ummm, if they can’t control themselves before marriage, I’m not gonna feel safe after marriage. He needs to prove he has self control or I’m moving on. If he doesn’t have it with me, then he won’t have it when we are married and going through hard times and temptation comes walking by.
Up to you if you wanna live with that. I don’t.
Hope it’s ok I shared my thoughts! Take them or leave them!
Stay strong!! Better to be single than yoked to the wrong man. 🤙🏽
@@oceancameron Thank you for your thoughts. Yes, I was dating someone who kept on pushing physical limits. In fact, the first time his lips touched mine was "lip rape". At one point, after I pulled away after his hand got under my clothes, and I told him we need help, or else we can't do this. His response "let's just get married, that should solve it". I share this so others can be aware of it. I hope Dr Clark does a video on this as well. Like to read "Honey We Need to Talk" before the first kiss? Let's see. Be blessed in our God today
I was never married to my dumbass husband HIS MOM is!
Very correct.
What do you think about trick or treaters?
uncontrollable rage and anger is not attractive for a partner or a spouse Disney fairytales are deceptive like stockholm syndrome like Disney beauty and the beast
Oh except he is a citizen
Yeah...thats me...over and over again...but no more in Jesus name!!!