Ive done this once in my life. She wasnt interested so I had to move on. Sucks because I was really into her but luckily we were able to keep it professional and now its like nothing ever happened. Remember guys, ONE STRIKE RULE!!! If you ask and she says no, move on. If she changes her mind she'll approach you! If you push it you'll be out on your ass!
The more charming you appear to be the worst... Because if you are charming they are going to say you are doing it deliberately, so charming, no-charming the same
At the risk of showing my age, I dated a co-worker 27 years ago. Twas a train wreck from the word go. I later resigned - not because of her but because I got a better offer from a competitor (where I still am today).
I've been at my job for 9 years and I've been flirted with twice. My sister started here 2 weeks ago and she's been asked out by 3 guys. Believe me when I say you're not the only one trying to get with a girl you like at work (or anywhere for that matter)
There's this coworker of mine (older than me) and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me herself, she ignores my hand for a handshake and instead wants to throw herself at me for a damn hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and this time she ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha
I wouldnt approach someone at work anymore. I had a little crush on a chick at work that showed some signs of interest but when asking her out she said no cause she is done with guys "supposedly". After that day everytime we would cross each other she would say hi how am i doing and i would reply simple and cold like" im good thank you" without asking her how she was. After a month she stop saying hi to me and we dont talk at all. It just feels awkward everytime i see her and whenever we cross paths and honestly uncomfortable too. But i dont regret my decision on answering cold after the rejection knowing my self worth. Im moving on but its hard to move on when you keep seing her. Ill probably transfer soon. Know your worth.
You realize this has the exact opposite effect you want it to have right? Lol. You come off as butthurt and it makes you like you have little to no experience with women (which is probably the case)
You don’t know your worth.. you’re here thinking that specific woman was suppose to be obligated to be into you. What were her signs of interest? Smiling and being nice? Something every female coworker would do lol. You got hurt and in your feelings because she told you the truth she wasn’t interested. You took it personal and that’s weak. You should never try to mess with coworkers unless you have enough game for that.
I was asked to comment on this topic due to my previous experience. For men, you have so much more to lose if things go wrong. All she has to do is complain to HR that you harassed her, and you’re gone! Guys, I have seen this happen so many times. Be careful, this is a huge gamble. Even if she flirts and initiates it first, the man will be fired if she complains. Sometimes the complaint might not even come from her, a third party complaint from another woman, who is jealous that guys don’t hit on her. Doesn’t matter - the man will be fired!!
I usually don't do this but a co-worker and I have become seriously attracted to each other. I don't think either one of us planned for this. I asked her out a week ago. I had to because I didn't want to look like the scared wimp afraid t ask her out. We'll be going out soon. I think the best way to do it is to take it slow and have plan if it succeeds or fails. If it succeeds we can have our friendship at work and our romantic life outside of work. We were somewhat friendly at work so if it fails we can go back to that. I wouldn't really care because I'll find someone else.
@@NoName-zb1gm There's this older coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me, she never wants to shake my hand. She instead wants to throw herself at me for a hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and and this time, she ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha....Then again, I'm sorry that female at your workplace did you like that 🤦♂🤦♂ Not cool
Oh man, I’m in a similar spot now except this one has a bad boyfriend. We’ve become so close to each other and she only opens up to me, she works on ours, so I wore a shirt that said “permanently tired” today. She wore a coffee brand hoodie in 100° because I’m extremely addicted to coffee. She says her situation is “very complicated”, and she definitely likes me. But who knows man? I needed to see this, she could go into complete denial mode.
Yeah no. If a woman approaches you at work, immediately email yourself and HR and report her. Immediately make a record because I’d you reject her later, she will report you for sexual harassment. Do not initiate any relationship at work.
after seeing my coworkers 5,6,7 times a day i am tired of looking at her and dont really want to see her outside of work and by friday i am really tired of looking at her to the point i am really disgusted
The best way to do it is to plan an after hours hangout as a group where you invite multiple people so it’s not such a forward advance. If she’s in a relationship she might bring a date but if not you’ll know she’s single. If she is excited to go then that’s a good sign. Then look for typical signs of attraction since your outside of work where she’s not stuck in a room with you and is trying to be nice to pass time and get paid but is actually getting to know you by choice in her free time. It’s way more acceptable to ask more personal questions since it’s a laidback setting. If she breaks off into conversation with you and your coworkers seem to give you two space then it’s an even better sign. Then suggest hanging out 1 on 1. If she says no then be cool about it and don’t push any further
Tthere's this older coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me, she never wants to shake my hand. She instead wants to throw herself at me for a hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha . You'd be surprised of my workplace. The people don't care about the rules, and get away with it a lot of times. Even one of our bosses started getting involved with a females much younger than he is and no one says anything lol
Hooked up lots of times at work. Always laid down the ground rule that we wouldn't try to get eo fired if it didn't work. Worked just about every time...
When girls at work at other departments where interaction or run-ins in the hallway are rare acts weird for no reason, I get weirded out, and I make an effort not to run into them. Even if we leave the office and walk out to the parking lot at the same time, I leave a few minutes later, to avoid looking like that guy following her out to her car. Stay smart. Stay safe.
Whatever you do don't get married. Because women become unhappy and sexless no matter how much you give them or do for them. Trust me on this. Don't find out the hard way.🚩
Wrong. As long as you don't persist & go over the line there is NO LAW in Any State against it. The only exception is if the company Explicitly says so ( which very few do)
yup, for guys, men, its an option or choice, voluntary, if they want to get better at interacting with women or know how to, not the other way around though
I asked my Co Woker for a coffee on her off day, but she went to my boss and told that I asked for a date. I was upset for while with her but now again, she starts talking smiling when I see her. This situation makes me crazy. How I have to understand her feeling on me. Please suggest.
I’m in sort of the same situation. She didn’t say we could be friends but said she’s dating someone else at the moment. I’ve kinda moved away but I notice the same. Keeps looking at me etc. I don’t want to be mean but what’s the point. I’m still being cordial and hello and hi. But what else is there to do
She’s looking at you because the attention we were putting on her has now gone. She doesn’t know what’s going on in our minds so she naturally looks at us to try to figure this out.
Hey, I like a female coworker. We did spend some time alone on the way to work plus other colleague of hers was trying to set us up in front of her. I do have a feeling she likes ( she is flirty, teasing, touchy, lights up when she sees me). I did ask her out 10 days ago for last weekend - she said she doesn’t know yet, then her kid got sick ( she is a single mother) so it could not happen. I was in vacation at the time of asking her out. Now two days at work things are like before - she jokes and laughs at my jokes. But due to the work we did not have much time to talk. I want to ask her out but should I do it now, next week is her birthday, or wait more and see how the things are. Plus they will be moving her to another place at some point in the future.
Great video. I did this last week and she said “I can be your friend”. So how do I behave around her now that she’s said no. I’ve distanced myself and she asked me “are we not talking anymore”. So it’s been really distant other than saying good morning and that’s it. Also I notice her looking at me, why is she looking at me?
In my experience - distant yourself in mind, like, don't push yourself away in physical world. Imagine yourself in her shoes: "a cool guy approached me, it's fun to be around him, but I don't see him in romantic way and now it feels weird that after all this communication he's suddenly so distant" IMO it's a common courtesy to keep it cool even after getting your "no", because we all need to maintain healthy climate in our surroundings (workplace, in this case) I personally been in a situation like that - on prev-prev job - and distancing away was a big mistake since it made things even more sloppy, awkward and uncomfortable. Thankfully, me and that girl talked it out and kept "friendly colleauges" type of behaviour.
Mr Guile - thank you for sharing your experience. Blaine a lot of guys have this experience maybe you could do a video on how to keep things friendly whilst not being into her.
Is there a possibility that a female coworker is interested in me if she asks me what I’m doing after work? (I’m interested in her) or is she just trying to have a conversation so she can get to know me better?
@Reznor CSG she gave me her number and agreed to hang out but apparently just as friends cause she claimed that she wasn't interested in having a boyfriend at the moment
@@Villlian666 there's this older coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me, she never wants to shake my hand. She instead wants to throw herself at me for a hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha
I'm a remote worker that occasionally goes to the office. I ran into my office crush and made it a point to chit chat with me. She told me to let her know the next time I'm in the office so she could come too. Should I ask her out to lunch? I don't want to be overly aggressive.
@@grantgeorgia1 I asked her out to lunch about two weeks ago when I told her I would be in the office. It went well. We had some good conversation. It was the first time talking about stuff other than work. We got to know about each other's interests, hobbies, etc. Our personalities are totally different though. She is an extrovert and I'm an introvert. There is some common ground between us as we both love to travel. Another layer of complexity is that she is the cousin of my boss. I think I will reach out to her again in a few weeks for lunch. I will take things slowly and see how things go. I'd advise you to take that plunge and ask your co-worker out for lunch! If a one on one lunch is too intimidating for you, perhaps plan a lunch outing with other co-workers and include her.
@jadeitemoon2446 Thanks for the details, hope all works out! So the key differences in my situation are 1) I left the company so she's an ex-coworker 2) I live 2.5 hours away 3) She works in a different group, so we never worked on any projects together, but I've chit-chatted for 2 years in-person when I'm in the office every few months. About 2 weeks after my last day with the company, she sent me a LinkedIn connection request. I accepted and messaged her to let me know when she's in my city and we could catch up over coffee. She agreed and even reciprocated by asking me to let her know when I'd be back in her city. Some light flirting/teasing from her ensued and I also got her number. I suppose I need to visit her city in the next month for a date, but she can't know she's the reason I'm visiting until date #2 at least (if it gets that far).
@@jadeitemoon2446 Thanks and good luck! In my situation, there are a few differences 1) I live 2.5 hrs from the office 2) I left the company, so she's now an ex-coworker. I sent a farewell message to about 20 colleagues and included her, but no response. About 2 weeks after my last day with the company in April, she sent me a Linkedin connection request. I accepted and slid into her dms that we should catch up over coffee when she's in town. She agreed and reciprocated by asking me to tell her when I'm in her town. There was light flirting and eventually we exchanged numbers. I start my new job next week and am planning a visit to her city in early June, but I can't tell her that she's the reason I'm in town (until the 2nd date).
I admitted to my coworker back in January that I have feelings for her but she told me that she wasn't interested in having a boyfriend at the time. It's now April and she's been giving me mixed signals lately by greeting me every time she sees me (hey whenever I clock in for work and bye whenever I leave work), laughing at every time I make a joke whether it's a funny joke or corny/lame joke, offering to help me out around the store, playfully poking me in my arm, and offering to wear my hat (which she looked really cute wearing). Are these possible signs that she may be starting to like me or am I accidentally reading too much into these actions and have the wrong idea and she's just being friendly?
Thank you for this video, Blaine! I followed these steps in my recent affair - had a bad crush on a coworker, thankfully I read your article about that on your site! Although it worked great on paper (we talk like friends, she comes to my office to slack and laugh and complain about her duties haha, we go to dinner together, met at the bar on friday etc), she doesn't want us to be anything more than friends with benefits. So I'm stuck in some sort of a limbo here. One-strike rule applied, but we both seek intimacy. It's also kinda hard to catch her off-work and strike a date, since I know I'm not a priority at this point. Your guides and my brain tell me to move on, but I have hard time coping with my feelings. :( Which brings me to these questions - what is your opinion on Friends With Benefits? Can it develop into proper relationship? Is it true that some girls fall in love after sex? Thanks in advance, Your faithful student
Thanks for sharing that here. Different women have different views. She may or may not fall in love. Friends with benefits is totally fine as long as both parties agree on the same thing. If you agreed to never catch feelings while being on this situation.. And you found yourself going on that direction, I suggest you stop it ASAP.
Met my first wife started as a single coworker. Cheated on me years later with a coworker at a different job. Then I was single for years. During that time. One coworker cut the tag off her bra and gave it to me to prove to me how big her breasts were. Another always took her lunch break same time as me to hang out with me. Both situations they were married women. I was into both but never did anything because I was not loosing my job to cheaters. Met my second and current wife on a dating website. We have 3 year old daughter.
I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. Thanks for sharing your story. That says a lot about your character. I'm glad to hear the new relationship worked out for you.
It's a hell no! Don''t even spend anytime alone with a female co-worker. Keep at arms length. I don't even supervise female co-workers except on zoom. False accusations are as common as weed in my garden (not that kind).
Yeah this isn't helpful at all. Nothing insightful here and women do all these things when they don't like you as well. When you're dealing with potential harassments charges and losing your job, you really need advice that helps beyond random chance. I understand shes coming from a place of female mega-privilege in which dating is 100% easy mode, but its really not this simple and men need insight that works so they dont get thrown out of work or put in jail.
The black guys will date a woman in a heart beat. But the white men in upper Management are a bit more challenging to crack. I have a huge crush on a tall, white, professional man but he's married 😢
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Ive done this once in my life. She wasnt interested so I had to move on. Sucks because I was really into her but luckily we were able to keep it professional and now its like nothing ever happened.
Remember guys, ONE STRIKE RULE!!! If you ask and she says no, move on. If she changes her mind she'll approach you! If you push it you'll be out on your ass!
100% Agree. Definitely 1 strike rule in the workplace
If things work out you are a charmer.
If they don’t your charm will be labelled as Harassment by HR.
Never get a Honey, where you get money.
The more charming you appear to be the worst... Because if you are charming they are going to say you are doing it deliberately, so charming, no-charming the same
Spoken like a true virgin
At the risk of showing my age, I dated a co-worker 27 years ago. Twas a train wreck from the word go. I later resigned - not because of her but because I got a better offer from a competitor (where I still am today).
what is the purpose of the revealing the last sentence..
My co-worker crush is a manager in HR. Not joking.
ABORT. I REPEAT, ABORT!
I've been at my job for 9 years and I've been flirted with twice. My sister started here 2 weeks ago and she's been asked out by 3 guys.
Believe me when I say you're not the only one trying to get with a girl you like at work (or anywhere for that matter)
There's this coworker of mine (older than me) and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me herself, she ignores my hand for a handshake and instead wants to throw herself at me for a damn hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and this time she ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha
So did your sister go out with any of them? You're leaving the story hanging.
I wouldnt approach someone at work anymore. I had a little crush on a chick at work that showed some signs of interest but when asking her out she said no cause she is done with guys "supposedly". After that day everytime we would cross each other she would say hi how am i doing and i would reply simple and cold like" im good thank you" without asking her how she was. After a month she stop saying hi to me and we dont talk at all. It just feels awkward everytime i see her and whenever we cross paths and honestly uncomfortable too. But i dont regret my decision on answering cold after the rejection knowing my self worth. Im moving on but its hard to move on when you keep seing her. Ill probably transfer soon. Know your worth.
I hope you stood your ground. You can find someone else.
She played herself and didn't expect that reaction from you, but that's much better than her going to HR and saying she's uncomfortable
I’m not trying to offend you man but if you “know your worth” how come you let her rejection upset you so much? Doesn’t really make sense to me
You realize this has the exact opposite effect you want it to have right? Lol. You come off as butthurt and it makes you like you have little to no experience with women (which is probably the case)
You don’t know your worth.. you’re here thinking that specific woman was suppose to be obligated to be into you. What were her signs of interest? Smiling and being nice? Something every female coworker would do lol. You got hurt and in your feelings because she told you the truth she wasn’t interested. You took it personal and that’s weak. You should never try to mess with coworkers unless you have enough game for that.
I was asked to comment on this topic due to my previous experience. For men, you have so much more to lose if things go wrong. All she has to do is complain to HR that you harassed her, and you’re gone! Guys, I have seen this happen so many times. Be careful, this is a huge gamble. Even if she flirts and initiates it first, the man will be fired if she complains. Sometimes the complaint might not even come from her, a third party complaint from another woman, who is jealous that guys don’t hit on her. Doesn’t matter - the man will be fired!!
What about a girl at work that always seems to be awkward around me not to sure if she likes me
I usually don't do this but a co-worker and I have become seriously attracted to each other. I don't think either one of us planned for this. I asked her out a week ago. I had to because I didn't want to look like the scared wimp afraid t ask her out. We'll be going out soon. I think the best way to do it is to take it slow and have plan if it succeeds or fails. If it succeeds we can have our friendship at work and our romantic life outside of work. We were somewhat friendly at work so if it fails we can go back to that. I wouldn't really care because I'll find someone else.
Update?
@@grantgeorgia1 Yeah not good 2 weeks later she changed her mind kind of pissed me off. She's screwed everything up.
@@NoName-zb1gm There's this older coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me, she never wants to shake my hand. She instead wants to throw herself at me for a hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and and this time, she ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha....Then again, I'm sorry that female at your workplace did you like that 🤦♂🤦♂ Not cool
Oh man, I’m in a similar spot now except this one has a bad boyfriend. We’ve become so close to each other and she only opens up to me, she works on ours, so I wore a shirt that said “permanently tired” today.
She wore a coffee brand hoodie in 100° because I’m extremely addicted to coffee. She says her situation is “very complicated”, and she definitely likes me. But who knows man? I needed to see this, she could go into complete denial mode.
She works odd* hours. Her mood around me is incredible too, I love seeing it
Crossing that line is like walking into a hurricane. I’d rather meet someone at the gym or a running event. I stay professional at work.
Yeah no. If a woman approaches you at work, immediately email yourself and HR and report her. Immediately make a record because I’d you reject her later, she will report you for sexual harassment. Do not initiate any relationship at work.
@Ianthrowshands He definitely wasnt someone's crush..
Your mistake is not everyone mistake 😂
I can definitely see this happening. If you’re someone who doesn’t, must be nice having good looks.
You’re a loser lol
Loser
after seeing my coworkers 5,6,7 times a day i am tired of looking at her and dont really want to see her outside of work and by friday i am really tired of looking at her to the point i am really disgusted
Damn, u must be gay 😂
AYOOOO! 😂 relatable ASF
Literally got sick of her face yesterday 😂
😭😭😭😭😭 I’m dead
This is just the video I was looking for.
Glad you found it :)
The best way to do it is to plan an after hours hangout as a group where you invite multiple people so it’s not such a forward advance. If she’s in a relationship she might bring a date but if not you’ll know she’s single. If she is excited to go then that’s a good sign. Then look for typical signs of attraction since your outside of work where she’s not stuck in a room with you and is trying to be nice to pass time and get paid but is actually getting to know you by choice in her free time. It’s way more acceptable to ask more personal questions since it’s a laidback setting. If she breaks off into conversation with you and your coworkers seem to give you two space then it’s an even better sign. Then suggest hanging out 1 on 1. If she says no then be cool about it and don’t push any further
Tthere's this older coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me, she never wants to shake my hand. She instead wants to throw herself at me for a hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha . You'd be surprised of my workplace. The people don't care about the rules, and get away with it a lot of times. Even one of our bosses started getting involved with a females much younger than he is and no one says anything lol
Hooked up lots of times at work. Always laid down the ground rule that we wouldn't try to get eo fired if it didn't work. Worked just about every time...
When girls at work at other departments where interaction or run-ins in the hallway are rare acts weird for no reason, I get weirded out, and I make an effort not to run into them. Even if we leave the office and walk out to the parking lot at the same time, I leave a few minutes later, to avoid looking like that guy following her out to her car. Stay smart. Stay safe.
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Whatever you do don't get married. Because women become unhappy and sexless no matter how much you give them or do for them. Trust me on this. Don't find out the hard way.🚩
Don't date people you work with or people who live in your apartment complex
I agree 100%.
Yes all true but still 😂
@@cardfreak8925don’t shit where you eat bro
Dont listen to her . If you are dating within the chain of command.....you WILL be in front of HR.
Wrong. As long as you don't persist & go over the line there is NO LAW in Any State against it. The only exception is if the company Explicitly says so ( which very few do)
@@GolfChef99 go ahead if you want to.
yup, for guys, men, its an option or choice, voluntary, if they want to get better at interacting with women or know how to, not the other way around though
I asked my Co Woker for a coffee on her off day, but she went to my boss and told that I asked for a date. I was upset for while with her but now again, she starts talking smiling when I see her.
This situation makes me crazy. How I have to understand her feeling on me. Please suggest.
Don't try to understand women. Ignore them and be happy with your life.
Run far away from her my friend, she already told on you once!
Run for the hills. She is playing games with you.
I’m in sort of the same situation. She didn’t say we could be friends but said she’s dating someone else at the moment. I’ve kinda moved away but I notice the same. Keeps looking at me etc. I don’t want to be mean but what’s the point. I’m still being cordial and hello and hi. But what else is there to do
She’s looking at you because the attention we were putting on her has now gone. She doesn’t know what’s going on in our minds so she naturally looks at us to try to figure this out.
Ah shit, im going through this right now and she checked all the boxes...
Years ago I use to have a girlfriend and a year latter we both worked at the same restaurant fulltime we never had any problems back in 1997.
Your advice is top notch
thank you :)
@@DatingByBlaine Never
Hey, I like a female coworker. We did spend some time alone on the way to work plus other colleague of hers was trying to set us up in front of her. I do have a feeling she likes ( she is flirty, teasing, touchy, lights up when she sees me). I did ask her out 10 days ago for last weekend - she said she doesn’t know yet, then her kid got sick ( she is a single mother) so it could not happen. I was in vacation at the time of asking her out. Now two days at work things are like before - she jokes and laughs at my jokes. But due to the work we did not have much time to talk. I want to ask her out but should I do it now, next week is her birthday, or wait more and see how the things are. Plus they will be moving her to another place at some point in the future.
Good advice 💯.
Great video. I did this last week and she said “I can be your friend”. So how do I behave around her now that she’s said no. I’ve distanced myself and she asked me “are we not talking anymore”. So it’s been really distant other than saying good morning and that’s it. Also I notice her looking at me, why is she looking at me?
In my experience - distant yourself in mind, like, don't push yourself away in physical world. Imagine yourself in her shoes: "a cool guy approached me, it's fun to be around him, but I don't see him in romantic way and now it feels weird that after all this communication he's suddenly so distant"
IMO it's a common courtesy to keep it cool even after getting your "no", because we all need to maintain healthy climate in our surroundings (workplace, in this case)
I personally been in a situation like that - on prev-prev job - and distancing away was a big mistake since it made things even more sloppy, awkward and uncomfortable. Thankfully, me and that girl talked it out and kept "friendly colleauges" type of behaviour.
@@mrguile6391 I agree with you!
Mr Guile - thank you for sharing your experience. Blaine a lot of guys have this experience maybe you could do a video on how to keep things friendly whilst not being into her.
Is there a possibility that a female coworker is interested in me if she asks me what I’m doing after work? (I’m interested in her) or is she just trying to have a conversation so she can get to know me better?
That’s a big sign
@Reznor CSG she gave me her number and agreed to hang out but apparently just as friends cause she claimed that she wasn't interested in having a boyfriend at the moment
@@Villlian666 there's this older coworker of mine and i don't know if she is into me because whenever she sees me, she always wants to approach me. Whenever she walks up to me, she never wants to shake my hand. She instead wants to throw herself at me for a hug. Then one time, I was minding my own business and trying to ignore her when she kept calling my name. she walked straight to me and ran her hand all over my ab area after she wrapped me in her arms. I was like "whoa lady wtf?" Lol ..And I regret not doing vice versa running my hand "behind" there to see if she liked it, if not then she should keep her hands to herself. Haha
I'm a remote worker that occasionally goes to the office. I ran into my office crush and made it a point to chit chat with me. She told me to let her know the next time I'm in the office so she could come too. Should I ask her out to lunch? I don't want to be overly aggressive.
Yes, do it brother.
Can you provide an update? I'm in a similar situation.
@@grantgeorgia1 I asked her out to lunch about two weeks ago when I told her I would be in the office. It went well. We had some good conversation. It was the first time talking about stuff other than work. We got to know about each other's interests, hobbies, etc. Our personalities are totally different though. She is an extrovert and I'm an introvert. There is some common ground between us as we both love to travel. Another layer of complexity is that she is the cousin of my boss. I think I will reach out to her again in a few weeks for lunch. I will take things slowly and see how things go. I'd advise you to take that plunge and ask your co-worker out for lunch! If a one on one lunch is too intimidating for you, perhaps plan a lunch outing with other co-workers and include her.
@jadeitemoon2446 Thanks for the details, hope all works out! So the key differences in my situation are 1) I left the company so she's an ex-coworker 2) I live 2.5 hours away 3) She works in a different group, so we never worked on any projects together, but I've chit-chatted for 2 years in-person when I'm in the office every few months. About 2 weeks after my last day with the company, she sent me a LinkedIn connection request. I accepted and messaged her to let me know when she's in my city and we could catch up over coffee. She agreed and even reciprocated by asking me to let her know when I'd be back in her city. Some light flirting/teasing from her ensued and I also got her number. I suppose I need to visit her city in the next month for a date, but she can't know she's the reason I'm visiting until date #2 at least (if it gets that far).
@@jadeitemoon2446 Thanks and good luck! In my situation, there are a few differences 1) I live 2.5 hrs from the office 2) I left the company, so she's now an ex-coworker. I sent a farewell message to about 20 colleagues and included her, but no response. About 2 weeks after my last day with the company in April, she sent me a Linkedin connection request. I accepted and slid into her dms that we should catch up over coffee when she's in town. She agreed and reciprocated by asking me to tell her when I'm in her town. There was light flirting and eventually we exchanged numbers. I start my new job next week and am planning a visit to her city in early June, but I can't tell her that she's the reason I'm in town (until the 2nd date).
I admitted to my coworker back in January that I have feelings for her but she told me that she wasn't interested in having a boyfriend at the time. It's now April and she's been giving me mixed signals lately by greeting me every time she sees me (hey whenever I clock in for work and bye whenever I leave work), laughing at every time I make a joke whether it's a funny joke or corny/lame joke, offering to help me out around the store, playfully poking me in my arm, and offering to wear my hat (which she looked really cute wearing). Are these possible signs that she may be starting to like me or am I accidentally reading too much into these actions and have the wrong idea and she's just being friendly?
If she's giving you mixed signals.. move on. A woman who does that is not worth any man's time.
Thank you for this video, Blaine! I followed these steps in my recent affair - had a bad crush on a coworker, thankfully I read your article about that on your site!
Although it worked great on paper (we talk like friends, she comes to my office to slack and laugh and complain about her duties haha, we go to dinner together, met at the bar on friday etc), she doesn't want us to be anything more than friends with benefits. So I'm stuck in some sort of a limbo here. One-strike rule applied, but we both seek intimacy. It's also kinda hard to catch her off-work and strike a date, since I know I'm not a priority at this point. Your guides and my brain tell me to move on, but I have hard time coping with my feelings. :(
Which brings me to these questions - what is your opinion on Friends With Benefits? Can it develop into proper relationship? Is it true that some girls fall in love after sex?
Thanks in advance,
Your faithful student
Thanks for sharing that here. Different women have different views. She may or may not fall in love. Friends with benefits is totally fine as long as both parties agree on the same thing. If you agreed to never catch feelings while being on this situation.. And you found yourself going on that direction, I suggest you stop it ASAP.
Women should just ask their crush out holy shit so much hoops men must go through
Yuck
Met my first wife started as a single coworker. Cheated on me years later with a coworker at a different job.
Then I was single for years. During that time. One coworker cut the tag off her bra and gave it to me to prove to me how big her breasts were.
Another always took her lunch break same time as me to hang out with me.
Both situations they were married women. I was into both but never did anything because I was not loosing my job to cheaters.
Met my second and current wife on a dating website. We have 3 year old daughter.
I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. Thanks for sharing your story. That says a lot about your character. I'm glad to hear the new relationship worked out for you.
Dear men, do not ever fraternize with your female coworkers.
1st, get her to email her interest-save it; & 2nd, get another job.😢
I could say you a very good at what you say but I sometimes feel that I want to cheat but I can't even if I have the knowledge
My prob is my boss in a small company
It's a hell no! Don''t even spend anytime alone with a female co-worker. Keep at arms length. I don't even supervise female co-workers except on zoom. False accusations are as common as weed in my garden (not that kind).
Guys never date yur coworker, you will not only lose your job but your whole career and you may also end up in jail.
I refuse to Date coworkers that spells future trouble at work.
It's female privilege to even be discussing this in 2024.
5:05, how to ask her out. Her advice is just ask her out to something lowkey. Great advice anyone who follows this deserves the rejection they get.
Quiere bija!
Jaja, si lo dice Beto...
Yeah this isn't helpful at all. Nothing insightful here and women do all these things when they don't like you as well. When you're dealing with potential harassments charges and losing your job, you really need advice that helps beyond random chance. I understand shes coming from a place of female mega-privilege in which dating is 100% easy mode, but its really not this simple and men need insight that works so they dont get thrown out of work or put in jail.
I'm sorry but you should never ever date at work. Also never ever talk to women at work about anything but work.
I will never do such thing at work. Very unprofessional.
😁 co-worker the best
Nooo..NEVER date at work.
Hell no. DO NOT DO THIS! Is your job worth it?
Don’t poor where you eat
😊
ur such a baller
Woman who is "dating coach for men" - no thank you.
Pick me ❤
Pick me
The black guys will date a woman in a heart beat. But the white men in upper Management are a bit more challenging to crack. I have a huge crush on a tall, white, professional man but he's married 😢
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