damn, this is perfectly timed for me. The negative self-talk and all-or-nothing type of mindset are really hard to maintain, this is probably a nice change of pace. Appreciate talking about the marathoning and binging aspect of it as well.
Hey, this reminds me of some episode in the HealthyGamerGG channel, where Doctor K explained that all-or-nothing mentality is basically our brain's way of trying to trick us into a self-sabotaging behavior. Why? In the brain's POV, it wants to conserve as much energy as possible and do less work. So, by creating an all-or-nothing mentality the brain ensures we choose nothing most of the time and thus it has to work less. This actually makes sense and hopefully knowing this helps me get around the brain's trick.
A bit of struggle for people like me “a perfectionist” one day of FAP creates a domino effect to the next other day. It’s like “yeah, I failed why not enjoy the next other day” which I think it’s getting harder for me to get back on track. It requires a full motivation and that’s the thing harder for me to revive the day I’m dedicated to do so.
You gotta commit for it in order to work not half assed it all the way I also got in that trap but I managed to stop it when I think about the longer term being more important than the short term so would you rather have a happy life that is permanent or exchange it for a quick temporary pleasure?
I realized my mindset towards sticking with nofap was what was hindering me on completing my goals. The percentage based mindset is what I came to the conclusion of not that long ago. I've gone from doing it everyday (sometimes multiple times in a day). To not even thinking about it for a week or two at a time.....Remember nofap isn't just quitting completely but giving our brain time to reset and get back to normal. If you fail, get up and go again. If you last 1 week of nofap THATS PROGRESS! If you last 3 days of nofap THATS PROGRESS!!! There was a day you did it everyday. now you're doing it every 3 or 4 days. KEEP MAKING THAT TIME OFF LONGER UNTIL YOU DONT NEED TO DO IT ANYMORE! Progress is progress and that in itself is something to be proud of. The ones who lose are the ones who quit. Don't quit and keep working towards your goals!
As a woman with a healthy relationship with porn, I’m not quite sure how I ended up here, but my heart really goes out to all the men that struggle with this. I had no idea how extreme porn addiction can get and seeing all the men in the comments that are really having a tough time because of it is really eye opening. Keep fighting guys!!!
@@kiki-qp7jx exactly，for me, I always want to quit porn for almost two years since I has been aware of the harm of masturbating. But at present I still do that stuff 2-3 times a week... kind of sad. But I will never give up, now I deside to learn the underlying principle of all this stuff and be nofap for a long time until I overcome it!
This is correct. It may take years of applying yourself to quitting any addiction. Eventually the relapses will have larger gaps between them until those gaps are months long, and honestly, once you're that far in you'll probably have a flatline anyway and won't even feel desire to go back because you'll be too depressed. You get better at not doing it the longer you abstain. Also, if you look into any literature on addiction the common factor of quitting is usually finding a spiritual purpose. Which I actually believe semen retention can naturally lead to, as your mind and body quickly start seeking a new source of "comfort" when your primary one is taken away which usually leads to seeking out knowledge or like-minded people to bond with.
I REALLY appreciate how instead you try to say a statement you say "I believe" wich lets the viewers decide what they think themselves instead of forcing your way of thinking onto them
I think it’s also important to exercise. The reason why many people come back to it is because they use it as a work out when the gym is better. Your body would adjust to burning energy at the gym than the other way. I recommend it. It helped me a lot!
All Addictions can be super compulsive so i always found the “30 day nofap” streak to be a no for me. Instead I’m overcoming my addiction gradually and in a scheduled way, this helps make the impulsive urge weaker
I made a perfect 96 day hardmode streak and I was obsessed with going to 6 months. Best believe I took I hard. That mentality of I might as well now that I failed almost always happened. But just as you are saying I adopted a new belief that the only came after proving to myself that could at least do 90 days. That is the goal is to become the next version of yourself and that is only attainable trough improving yourself everyday and the result is a compounding effect. Today I’m on something I call nofap life where my goal is to not count days but making them count. If someone was wondering you do still have a hunch on what day you’re on but that’s it it doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that you live it now, like you have already achieved freedom and challenge your reality now to make sure it comes true. I say to all of you the failing is part of the process we simply fail our way to success.
Honestly, I didn’t feel that different. I was working on getting there for so long that I changed how I view the challenge. It became part of my life style so getting to 90 was just another day in the life. My best tip is finding something you really want to do in life and work toward it. And then ask yourself if this something you would do if you were the person you want to be. And keep on going. Fail but never give up. It is only failure if you stop trying to be better. Learn and move on. Eventually you will know how your body works and what trigger you and even when you’re about to have a nocturnal emission. And after a while you will feel free to do it if you want but you won’t have that desire. You will want to do many other thing instead. Like growing you business or learning a skill or just improve your relations. Best of luck and enjoy the journey of life everyone. Sounds cliche but what doesn’t kill you will definitely make you stronger so stay at it. If your going through hell. Just keep going and you find it to be better and better haha.
Another important thing is when you hit your "boss battle" day. This is like your minimum streak before you even get any urges. I've been able to push it to 4 days before the actual challenge begins. Don't give up!
YES! Been doing that last month, you focus on your progress not the times you fall. It gave me motivation to keep going. Today reached 8th day without JOing, it feels amazing. Failing is part of the process, keep it strong people!!
Thank you for sharing this video. I relapsed on a 2-week streak and I was pissed off at myself, but this video makes me feel better and still feel like I’m innit to win it. You’ve earned a sub. 👍🏿
In my life for a long time the biggest benefit I felt from NoFap was that of my own self-love and accceptance of myself that I stumbled upon as I was being disciplined around NoFap. And the reason it sucked so much at one point when I relapsed was not because of the relapse itself but the fact that the self-love that I was giving myself for performing well went straight out the window with it. It was me beating myself up that was negative about my "failures". Cause the beat down and worrying that came after changed my emotional state from empowered to piece of shit on an unconscious level every time I "failed". The problem for me was never porn, but the poor self-worth I had that lead me to get stuck in this cycle of needing to peform to allow myself to feel self love or worthy or w/e.I know it sounds cliché but self love was the real power for me and I know it is for many others too, with it your life changes.
Years ago before going on a 3 month streak, the previous month I allowed myself to slip up once every 8 days. Like I would be able to slip up on Monday, next week on Tuesday, then Wednesday, you got the point. The percentage thing really does work
I feel like the biggest problem with porn addictions is that most people nowadays don’t really consider it to be an addiction. This has hurt me personally because most of my peers don’t recognize porn to be a bad thing that hurts you. This makes it difficult when you’re trying to stop and most people around you push it off as if it’s completely okay when it’s not.
Btw, this is what you should consider "after" you've just relapsed, so it would prevent you from binging. While on a streak, you can't let any doors open for you to relapse. Like, "I'm not gonna lose all of my progress. It'll just go from say 96% to 93%. Might as well sneak a quick nut in since I'm feeling like it" There you go, another relapse. If you adopt this system, your brain WILL use this loophole when it gives you urges in order to get you to relapse. All I'm saying is, don't follow these kinda vids blindly. Find your own path, and follow it no matter what
I believe you hadn't watched the whole vid before you made this comment, because he made it clear: doesn't work for all but it is a strategy that might work
@@paradox7830 you need to use it as fuel for fucking growth. Let it make yourself better. A tough person is made through tough times! Stay fucking hard my bro's 💪🏼
I had a 60+ day streak going and went on a massive binge one day. Clicking on just about every video I could see.. I felt back to zero or even below, honestly. Binging is the worst!
Currently on a 12 day streak, and tbh I don't know if I can stick to the all or nothing strategy. However, I'm also worried I may slip up multiple times a day if I break it now, but regardless progress is being made! I'm going to look at things more positively now :) Stay strong everyone
Hey! I am recently started NoFap, and was slipping everyday after a 3 day progress, however started again and today I am on day 4! Also, make sure that you don't try to slip up, don't take slipping once as an excuse for your subconscious to fap again, you see, we do not fall on purpose, we just do. So the strategy in this video is good for those who might have fap without realising it. Anyways Good luck on your journey ✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧
@@amayyaduvanshi2706 It was getting really bad on day 12 for me, but I pushed through and the urges have become like non-existent! I don't intend on slipping up now, I think it helps since I've been telling people what I'm doing. You got this man! NNN is just around the corner, lets complete it together :)
2021 and 2022 I was gonna do NNN, but both times my High School's online gradebook opened during the first week of November. What's more is that on the day they opened, it always gave trouble to sign in and brought up a screen similar to getting locked out of it due to failing 3 or more subjects. I remember I was panicking so much because of my strict mother so I ended up "driving the stick shift" both times to let off steam and calm down. By the time I was done I'd not only feel calmer but the stupid gradebook would start working to show I had nothing to worry about. Because I had the idea of a streak of No Fap I figured "I already failed so their is no point" and went back to daily "rides". This semester I'm trying to better myself so I'll be sure to give the percentage idea a go sometime in the future when I'm not struggling with other impulses and bad habits.
Don't let this mindset make you fall into the trap of, "Oh yea just one day not a big deal" because with that mindset you're bound to mess up... It needs to be more like, "I can't mess up but if I do I can't fuck up even more".
This is one of the best advice I've heard in 8 years of nofap Indeed thinking about it from a percentage view changes everything keep it up guys you can do it. progress is progress you will thank yourself for it, and don't take the slips too hard. Thank you for enlightening us 🙏💜
There's a flaw in your idea. You're forgetting that a single relapse even after months of being clean causes a chasing effect where the person's resistance to further relapses is extremely low or sometimes even non existent. Basically one relapse makes you extremely vulnerable. If you ask most people you'll find that for porn addicts, when they relapse it takes a while before they get back to a stable nofap challenge. This is an experiment I and many others I've spoken to have tried in the past and the chances of success are very very slim.
Yea you make a valid and I understand where you coming from, but at the time I think you missing the point he trying to make. Cause basically what he was trying to say is don’t give in or give up just because you slip up one’s or twice and you making slow progress. All long as you are consistent and don’t lose your reasoning for starting, than you will win. It just like falling down and get right back up. It hard but not impossible.
Yes, because it's in your sub conscious. But you have to take it lightly, the more you feel guilty you will be addicted again. Just think about previous streaks' early days.
This is great advice. I've just set up an excel spreadsheet to keep track of my percentage. Type in Column A the dates of the year, or however long you want to record for. Column B is your Nofap or fap column. Put either 1 or 0 next to the relevant date; 1 if you successfully no-fap or 0 if you had an oopsie. Next those two columns, in Column D Row 1 you want 1 cell which has the AVERAGE formula, with all the cells in Column B selected up until the cell next to the end of your time period in column A. Then set the data format in cell D1 to show as percentage. Voila, you have a percentage record that will automatically update as you gradually fill in Column B with (many) 1s and (very few) 0s.
I am on day 3. Saw your earlier videos on nofap the other day and immediately decided to turn the 90 day challenge into a goal. Hope I can maintain discipline.
As of today i've started the NoFap challenge and seeing this video has given me a new mindset going into this challenge. As someone who has an extreme addiction, I'm gonna need all the help I can get
After 4 years of struggle I came to a very easy and pretty effective solution: just do it on Saturdays only. It prevents from too much consecutive "oopsies" AND it does not make you feel bad because of them, because, well, you still stick to the strategy so it cannot be considered as failure
Sounds great, most of the time moderation is the best way to go about things. Same with sweets, cutting them out for the rest of your life may be too hard. So you say I can only eat them once a week. Way easier to manage.
having a calendar to mark the days that i fell or not was worst than not having. when i dont focus about marking and having a streak, ironically, is when i do bigger progress.
My friend said that if you're trying to stop don't have a ruitine just stop until slip up even of that's less cause its easier to improve while if you have a routine You're more convinced to stay where you are and it works.
I was 34 days streak when i did an oopsie. But that's not making me sad, i feel proud of my self because that streak is my personal record. I feel more control of my self since then.
So, I just "slipped up", I was on a 20-25 day streak and before that I was on a 100+ day streak!!!. I'm going to start again, thanks for the video It really motivated me, I'm not gonna feel depressed now.
Hi improve,, you really have had an impact on my mind. I saw your dopamine detox video and that was a start for me. I believe of all the people who I want to make proud you are one of them. Thank you
Thing is people who fap a lot are depressed, no social life, hardly taking to friend or family in day or maybe a week and they are struggling in their lives. It's not good addiction to have and not bad like drugs and other kinda stuff. My point is it's ok to fap for some time with some control. If it makes you feel happy for even a short time and help to make life little easy then you shouldn't regret it to doing it.
This is by far the best video on explaining about what is nofap should be like. Relapsing is not bad the bad thing is returning into your bad habit. Some other guy said in the video that if you have sex with opposite gender your progress will be cut of and you will return to day 1 and that is absurd
I saw your no fap challenge video from forever ago and then I chose to watch this video for more advice. I'll definitely be back for more advice and tips in everything, not just no fap. Keep it up my guy.
Thanks for this video. I'm gonna try even harder this November to no stop, but I'm not gonna let one or two slip ups get me down. I hope you have a splendid last couple days of the month and enjoy your NoFap journey🥂.
@@sooraj6689 you.... Take an excel sheet.... And you turn it into a calendar. Or you download one. And then you just click on the single fields and colour them in XD
okay so i just had an oopsie yesterday and then today this video shows up. i looked at the upload time and its a year ago. bro thank you for making content. your words def cleared out all that negative self talk. gonna check out more of your content for sure
I couldn't agree more. I think that there's a brain fog of dangerously aggravated frustration that could literally make a person feel pissed off, empty and hopeless in life if there isn't a slip up...and down...every once in a while. I say don't plan for it. If it's been more than 60 days you're probably there tho & it'll make every other pointless nut you resisted, so.. so... worth it..value increase by +1000%! I've been on the same journey even though I am a female because I literally had to or I was gonna get knocked up.... again😒. (Im a 3x champ including once while on hard-core birthcontrol) Which basically turned into me going female nofap from learning about it here... because basically 😐 mom-bligations were going downhill fast and It was like do I get to the bus stop on time??? or am I gonna be one more timing it and then running down the road as I get dressed in shame...the life I wanted to be living 24/7 vs. My actual real life. So now I can go days and weeks and then. Everything stops. Literally i become depressed. Notice new wrinkles. Wanna die. And as long as I make it super fast with an absolute time limit and refuse//100% restrict myself from doing it again the next day (a trick high functioning drug addicts use...but it works when you're addicted to humping too)...I can forgive myself for being human and tell myself no.. I am not sorry for having sexual needs in a healthy and safe, responsible balanced way. I give myself that permission to be a happy, healthy, nonviolent mentally stable and fully functioning productive and focused nonskanky mom lady person again. If you're feeling guilt or shame for one time.....even after regaining self control and reinstating confidence in your ability to resist..m there's a deeper underlying issue that requires therapy, so re-self evaluate & gain serious new levels of rationalizing human primal needs, nonsexual self love, healing and self acceptance. So Keep your heads up men, the world needs you!!!! Especially if you are the high quality men that are emotionally intelligent enough to even attempt no fap!!! Y'all are my favorites 😆 Ladies is pimps too. But Stay focused. One love. XoXoX
@@vaibhavrakheja5719 yeah. Don't let yourself get crazy. 21 days to build a new habit....that you stick with. Idk Christmas lights make me wanna hump soooo I'm trying to behave too lol
Changing the mindset from " I've lost my streak " to "I've dropped in success percentage a little bit " definitely helps with noFAP journey , I my self was on a streak for 25 days untill I made an "oopsie" but the benefits of noFAP for nearly a month didn't just vanish and I still felt the confidence and the desire to meet other women that I felt in this 25 days , so if you've ever made an "oopsie " don't give up just yet !
i slipped once on fri then started once a week process. controlled till 3 weeks now. feeling limited detoxification but still better. And I get to excite for pre weekend days like a teeny boy who just has discovered it after a long time.
Thanks man, i got a little motivation because of your tips. Sometimes I just felt so upset whenever I do relapse. But you said its not relapse but only a an accident hehe. Its almost look like a stock price movement graphic, amazing idea. Then I'll follow your tips,
Thanks for posting this. You give great insight and I’ve been thinking a lot about the pros and cons of tracking every single day. I’m the person who slips up and then throws the rest of the day away. So this is really a great way to be sure to get back up after you get knocked down. I really appreciate you saying “in my opinion” and “from what I’ve found” There isn’t a definitive “cure all” when it comes to no fap. Everyone’s journey is different, so not all advice is applicable to everyone. Thanks for sharing yet another tool to use while I’m building my new life. If you’re here reading this then know that you’re not alone my friend, there are thousands of people out there like you and me growing and changing to become better people. I love you! Every failure is another step closer to success.
This will help me improve my nofap journey. Thank you so much. Ive been doing the streak thing and when I slip up it really felt terrible like I didnt have a progress at all.
Before, I would fap 3-4 times a week. It was awful. After discovering Nofap, I used the streaks method for years. I even made it to 90 days 3 separate times. I would really beat myself up for relapsing, and I thought I landed back at square one. But now I think, "I used to be a 4 faps per week addict. I've come a long way from the person I was 5 years ago." Now, I don't even bother with streaks but just put my slip up days in my calendar. It's so encouraging to see fewer and fewer fap days as the months go on.
With this method most would be more prone to relapse, its not a good way to recover your brain. Just don't do a negative self talk after relapse, accept, forgive yourself, learn from the experience, and continue.
I'm gonna stick to the streak method cause I don't think that I'm prone to binging but thank you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Opsie is absolutely fucking beautiful.
Point is, when you fail, remember to reflect on what's improved when you abstained. Sure, you need to reflect on what makes you fail, but remember that, for instance, you have lessened the frequency, you have learned what triggers you, or what new habit/hobby/passion you have developed that helped you both abstaining and improved your life. Also remember leniency is not an excuse or free pass. If you start thinking that way, something is wrong with your method.
my man this is the first video im watching of und thku for the tip it has helped me properly nd i have been clean for more than a year now thks to u my mood nd mind has been proper since i stopped nd thks to u for making it easier
Well, initially when I started no fap I too relapsed oops slipped in pretty frequently. But with the effects of PMO like brain fog decreasing I could really feel the change that it had given me. Out of all of the No FAP challenge I find that it is not that one enticing video topic in mind that harms but it is the minds ability to give some lame excuse to watch it. I mean my mind just cooks up things like "You couldn't talk to her properly today maybe you just need to be more manly" or "I have had a very bad day today why not relieve myself a bit" . It is this kind of self talk that ruins my streak and make me want to binge watch such stuff but just by noting a 5 sec of talking about it consciously I can kind of make myself to close that tab and it goes a long way while maintaining the winning streak. :)
This can be activated in social media problem too, like you can set the time limit for social media and if you will pass the limit you will loose 10 % from 100% and that 10% can be reached back only by another 1 week of detox, so nothing will be easy and you will be hungry and motivated to go for 100%...maybe it is up to you. It is very smart tactic.
gonna start this today with a friend, we're both having our backs on this fight and that may help us a lot. i'll be back in one month with some results!
The fact that nobody talks about the book NoFap Rebirth Project, speaks volumes about how people are stuck in life.
just do push-ups when ever you feel like doing it, works for me all the time
same here
Doesn't work anymore when you give in to despair.
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same
the gains i will make will become un measurable
damn, this is perfectly timed for me. The negative self-talk and all-or-nothing type of mindset are really hard to maintain, this is probably a nice change of pace. Appreciate talking about the marathoning and binging aspect of it as well.
Relapse is part of the process! Sharper and stronger
to me tho
@@bettermanchannel770 oopsie*
Me too it’s like TH-cam knows what to recommend
Hey, this reminds me of some episode in the HealthyGamerGG channel, where Doctor K explained that all-or-nothing mentality is basically our brain's way of trying to trick us into a self-sabotaging behavior. Why? In the brain's POV, it wants to conserve as much energy as possible and do less work. So, by creating an all-or-nothing mentality the brain ensures we choose nothing most of the time and thus it has to work less. This actually makes sense and hopefully knowing this helps me get around the brain's trick.
Love how there are new metas being introduced within the NoFap community
A bit of struggle for people like me “a perfectionist” one day of FAP creates a domino effect to the next other day. It’s like “yeah, I failed why not enjoy the next other day” which I think it’s getting harder for me to get back on track. It requires a full motivation and that’s the thing harder for me to revive the day I’m dedicated to do so.
Truly
I'm like you bro
Same here. I've been stuck in that for like 3 years
You gotta commit for it in order to work not half assed it all the way
I also got in that trap but I managed to stop it when I think about the longer term being more important than the short term so would you rather have a happy life that is permanent or exchange it for a quick temporary pleasure?
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I realized my mindset towards sticking with nofap was what was hindering me on completing my goals. The percentage based mindset is what I came to the conclusion of not that long ago. I've gone from doing it everyday (sometimes multiple times in a day). To not even thinking about it for a week or two at a time.....Remember nofap isn't just quitting completely but giving our brain time to reset and get back to normal. If you fail, get up and go again. If you last 1 week of nofap THATS PROGRESS! If you last 3 days of nofap THATS PROGRESS!!! There was a day you did it everyday. now you're doing it every 3 or 4 days. KEEP MAKING THAT TIME OFF LONGER UNTIL YOU DONT NEED TO DO IT ANYMORE! Progress is progress and that in itself is something to be proud of. The ones who lose are the ones who quit. Don't quit and keep working towards your goals!
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Im sorry but i stil accomplish my goals and finish my work and i still fab like it's not a big deal dont be ashamed of yourself
Started NoFap and I exactly know I can do this, good luck everyone for overcoming this shit
Its not even November yet bro
@@Hunter-ip4zd I don't care about November, fapping kills
Yes, it's one month for me since I started nofap
@@Rajat-Thermite And? Something changed in your life?
@@PizzoLab You're less addicted..
As a woman with a healthy relationship with porn, I’m not quite sure how I ended up here, but my heart really goes out to all the men that struggle with this. I had no idea how extreme porn addiction can get and seeing all the men in the comments that are really having a tough time because of it is really eye opening. Keep fighting guys!!!
You’re a special and rare one for making a comment like this! I respect you and greatly appreciate you! Thank you!
These videos are targeting very normal men who don't have any addictions. They're predatory and farming views off of low self-esteem teenagers.
@@HommeGallium ok but the way that it may take some people a LOT of self control just to not watch porn is definitely an addictive mentality
@@kiki-qp7jx exactly，for me, I always want to quit porn for almost two years since I has been aware of the harm of masturbating. But at present I still do that stuff 2-3 times a week... kind of sad. But I will never give up, now I deside to learn the underlying principle of all this stuff and be nofap for a long time until I overcome it!
Day 269 of nofap : Can see John Cena and smell what the Rock is Cooking
lol
😂😂😂😒😐😐😐😐😐😐
see who?
@@shrimpfriesriceHe's an 'invisible' wrestler, I think he's just a myth tbh
Did you make it to day 469?
This is so perfectly timed, I just lost my 70 streak and needed this motivation to show I’ve still got +70 clean days 👍😅
This is correct. It may take years of applying yourself to quitting any addiction. Eventually the relapses will have larger gaps between them until those gaps are months long, and honestly, once you're that far in you'll probably have a flatline anyway and won't even feel desire to go back because you'll be too depressed. You get better at not doing it the longer you abstain.
Also, if you look into any literature on addiction the common factor of quitting is usually finding a spiritual purpose. Which I actually believe semen retention can naturally lead to, as your mind and body quickly start seeking a new source of "comfort" when your primary one is taken away which usually leads to seeking out knowledge or like-minded people to bond with.
Thanks for this comment. Latter half was insightful, and gave me a clue that I was looking for.
Depressed huh?
There was i think a few times I've lost time and I didn't do that for 1 or more weeks
“The best activities for your health are pumping and humping” - Arnold Schwarzenegger
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My respect you have acquired
Day 3 and I've noticed that I'm feeling better about myself and I'm thinking of a brighter future for myself. Thanks for the help
I REALLY appreciate how instead you try to say a statement you say "I believe" wich lets the viewers decide what they think themselves instead of forcing your way of thinking onto them
This might be one of the few times I’ve seen a serious deep-dive into this subject, and I really do appreciate your seriousness.
I think it’s also important to exercise. The reason why many people come back to it is because they use it as a work out when the gym is better. Your body would adjust to burning energy at the gym than the other way. I recommend it. It helped me a lot!
Yes it is, the day I didn't exercise due to some reasons, I relapsed that day.
Exercise is suppose to help you not like a drug dopamine
What happens when its 3 pm and you already exercised, what happens
@mohammedjafer9265 your body releases dopamine when you workout
Doesn't apply to Adult Creators tho. They exercise AND fap to make their living lol
All Addictions can be super compulsive so i always found the “30 day nofap” streak to be a no for me. Instead I’m overcoming my addiction gradually and in a scheduled way, this helps make the impulsive urge weaker
I made a perfect 96 day hardmode streak and I was obsessed with going to 6 months. Best believe I took I hard. That mentality of I might as well now that I failed almost always happened. But just as you are saying I adopted a new belief that the only came after proving to myself that could at least do 90 days. That is the goal is to become the next version of yourself and that is only attainable trough improving yourself everyday and the result is a compounding effect. Today I’m on something I call nofap life where my goal is to not count days but making them count.
If someone was wondering you do still have a hunch on what day you’re on but that’s it it doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that you live it now, like you have already achieved freedom and challenge your reality now to make sure it comes true.
I say to all of you the failing is part of the process we simply fail our way to success.
What r the changes u felt after 90 days??
@@nc-pf3qm what this guy said
You're a real mentor bro!!!
Insanely encouraging message
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Honestly, I didn’t feel that different. I was working on getting there for so long that I changed how I view the challenge. It became part of my life style so getting to 90 was just another day in the life. My best tip is finding something you really want to do in life and work toward it. And then ask yourself if this something you would do if you were the person you want to be. And keep on going. Fail but never give up. It is only failure if you stop trying to be better. Learn and move on. Eventually you will know how your body works and what trigger you and even when you’re about to have a nocturnal emission. And after a while you will feel free to do it if you want but you won’t have that desire. You will want to do many other thing instead. Like growing you business or learning a skill or just improve your relations. Best of luck and enjoy the journey of life everyone. Sounds cliche but what doesn’t kill you will definitely make you stronger so stay at it. If your going through hell. Just keep going and you find it to be better and better haha.
Another important thing is when you hit your "boss battle" day. This is like your minimum streak before you even get any urges. I've been able to push it to 4 days before the actual challenge begins. Don't give up!
YES! Been doing that last month, you focus on your progress not the times you fall. It gave me motivation to keep going. Today reached 8th day without JOing, it feels amazing.
Failing is part of the process, keep it strong people!!
*Failing is part of the process*
Thanks for this phrase changed my thinking !!
Thank you for sharing this video. I relapsed on a 2-week streak and I was pissed off at myself, but this video makes me feel better and still feel like I’m innit to win it. You’ve earned a sub. 👍🏿
In my life for a long time the biggest benefit I felt from NoFap was that of my own self-love and accceptance of myself that I stumbled upon as I was being disciplined around NoFap. And the reason it sucked so much at one point when I relapsed was not because of the relapse itself but the fact that the self-love that I was giving myself for performing well went straight out the window with it. It was me beating myself up that was negative about my "failures". Cause the beat down and worrying that came after changed my emotional state from empowered to piece of shit on an unconscious level every time I "failed". The problem for me was never porn, but the poor self-worth I had that lead me to get stuck in this cycle of needing to peform to allow myself to feel self love or worthy or w/e.I know it sounds cliché but self love was the real power for me and I know it is for many others too, with it your life changes.
Love yourSelf...don't make love to yourSelf.
@@tanginicholls207 that was a nice one😂
Years ago before going on a 3 month streak, the previous month I allowed myself to slip up once every 8 days. Like I would be able to slip up on Monday, next week on Tuesday, then Wednesday, you got the point.
The percentage thing really does work
Thanks! I slipped up 3 days ago after a 42-day streak and this video was just what I needed!
I feel like the biggest problem with porn addictions is that most people nowadays don’t really consider it to be an addiction. This has hurt me personally because most of my peers don’t recognize porn to be a bad thing that hurts you. This makes it difficult when you’re trying to stop and most people around you push it off as if it’s completely okay when it’s not.
Really needed one on this topic ❤
Kachigga my Squigga
"It ain't about how hard you hit , it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done !" - Rocky Balboa
Btw, this is what you should consider "after" you've just relapsed, so it would prevent you from binging. While on a streak, you can't let any doors open for you to relapse. Like, "I'm not gonna lose all of my progress. It'll just go from say 96% to 93%. Might as well sneak a quick nut in since I'm feeling like it"
There you go, another relapse.
If you adopt this system, your brain WILL use this loophole when it gives you urges in order to get you to relapse.
All I'm saying is, don't follow these kinda vids blindly. Find your own path, and follow it no matter what
The loophole thing is real, man. I have been there too.
I m on day 7 today. Feeling productive and confident
I believe you hadn't watched the whole vid before you made this comment, because he made it clear: doesn't work for all but it is a strategy that might work
@@Rikarwb he said that the strategy should only be applied after the first slip, he wasn't saying the strategy doesn't work.
@@Westside_69 i never said that he said that the strategy never worked
Thank u, i fell down yesterday (17 days streak) but im here again and focused again. Sorry for my bad english, im argentinian.
I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
tough times dont end
@@paradox7830 yep u right
@@paradox7830 you need to use it as fuel for fucking growth. Let it make yourself better. A tough person is made through tough times!
Stay fucking hard my bro's 💪🏼
Amen
Thanks. I really needed that
I had a 60+ day streak going and went on a massive binge one day. Clicking on just about every video I could see.. I felt back to zero or even below, honestly. Binging is the worst!
Currently on a 12 day streak, and tbh I don't know if I can stick to the all or nothing strategy. However, I'm also worried I may slip up multiple times a day if I break it now, but regardless progress is being made! I'm going to look at things more positively now :) Stay strong everyone
Hey! I am recently started NoFap, and was slipping everyday after a 3 day progress, however started again and today I am on day 4! Also, make sure that you don't try to slip up, don't take slipping once as an excuse for your subconscious to fap again, you see, we do not fall on purpose, we just do. So the strategy in this video is good for those who might have fap without realising it. Anyways Good luck on your journey ✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧
@@amayyaduvanshi2706 It was getting really bad on day 12 for me, but I pushed through and the urges have become like non-existent! I don't intend on slipping up now, I think it helps since I've been telling people what I'm doing. You got this man! NNN is just around the corner, lets complete it together :)
im going through the rough stretch rn... day 16. i was the type to maybe do it 2-3x a week before i tried this
How you doing, king?
2021 and 2022 I was gonna do NNN, but both times my High School's online gradebook opened during the first week of November. What's more is that on the day they opened, it always gave trouble to sign in and brought up a screen similar to getting locked out of it due to failing 3 or more subjects. I remember I was panicking so much because of my strict mother so I ended up "driving the stick shift" both times to let off steam and calm down. By the time I was done I'd not only feel calmer but the stupid gradebook would start working to show I had nothing to worry about. Because I had the idea of a streak of No Fap I figured "I already failed so their is no point" and went back to daily "rides". This semester I'm trying to better myself so I'll be sure to give the percentage idea a go sometime in the future when I'm not struggling with other impulses and bad habits.
Don't let this mindset make you fall into the trap of, "Oh yea just one day not a big deal" because with that mindset you're bound to mess up... It needs to be more like, "I can't mess up but if I do I can't fuck up even more".
falling into the delusion of perfectionism can prove even worse imo. It’s ok to mess up, it’s not ok to stay messed up.
@@theflyingnegro5063 thats basically what I'm saying. But I dont think you should take it lightly also
@@theflyingnegro5063 dont use this video as an excuse not to try though, you should still try your best not to fap
I like this idea. Will implement. You're totally right, one slip on the streak method leads to a week long binge.
This is one of the best advice I've heard in 8 years of nofap
Indeed thinking about it from a percentage view changes everything
keep it up guys you can do it. progress is progress you will thank yourself for it, and don't take the slips too hard.
Thank you for enlightening us 🙏💜
I rlly like the analogy of “slipping up” over “relapsing”
There's a flaw in your idea. You're forgetting that a single relapse even after months of being clean causes a chasing effect where the person's resistance to further relapses is extremely low or sometimes even non existent. Basically one relapse makes you extremely vulnerable. If you ask most people you'll find that for porn addicts, when they relapse it takes a while before they get back to a stable nofap challenge. This is an experiment I and many others I've spoken to have tried in the past and the chances of success are very very slim.
In my case when I started I relapsed after a week and after that I did after 3 so idk
Yea you make a valid and I understand where you coming from, but at the time I think you missing the point he trying to make. Cause basically what he was trying to say is don’t give in or give up just because you slip up one’s or twice and you making slow progress. All long as you are consistent and don’t lose your reasoning for starting, than you will win. It just like falling down and get right back up. It hard but not impossible.
@@mike_mike108 true
Guess I didn't look at it like that
Bro i was on a long streak of 6 months, and i relapsed, now im experiencing the chaser effect
Yes, because it's in your sub conscious. But you have to take it lightly, the more you feel guilty you will be addicted again. Just think about previous streaks' early days.
This is great advice. I've just set up an excel spreadsheet to keep track of my percentage. Type in Column A the dates of the year, or however long you want to record for. Column B is your Nofap or fap column. Put either 1 or 0 next to the relevant date; 1 if you successfully no-fap or 0 if you had an oopsie. Next those two columns, in Column D Row 1 you want 1 cell which has the AVERAGE formula, with all the cells in Column B selected up until the cell next to the end of your time period in column A. Then set the data format in cell D1 to show as percentage. Voila, you have a percentage record that will automatically update as you gradually fill in Column B with (many) 1s and (very few) 0s.
I am on day 3. Saw your earlier videos on nofap the other day and immediately decided to turn the 90 day challenge into a goal. Hope I can maintain discipline.
As of today i've started the NoFap challenge and seeing this video has given me a new mindset going into this challenge. As someone who has an extreme addiction, I'm gonna need all the help I can get
How’s it going with you now
Best tips - stay busy, sleep before 11:30, do exercises, start doing martial arts and play games. Don't give up boisss 💪💪💪
aur bhai ki haal chaal... streak wagera chalu?
@@ruzainpatel5993 yah chal raha hai
Hora
I am into this one counting percentage as well as counting days. It works
After 4 years of struggle I came to a very easy and pretty effective solution: just do it on Saturdays only.
It prevents from too much consecutive "oopsies" AND it does not make you feel bad because of them, because, well, you still stick to the strategy so it cannot be considered as failure
Can't hate a person that's trying to better themselves but just read the easypeasy method, it saved me.
Sounds great, most of the time moderation is the best way to go about things. Same with sweets, cutting them out for the rest of your life may be too hard. So you say I can only eat them once a week. Way easier to manage.
another method is once a week instead of a specific day. It prevents your brain from making a schedule out of it
I prefer to get a 100% streak lol
@@gabeznl3591 nah U gone overthink it fr. Just analyze and break ts down. Baby steps fam always baby steps
having a calendar to mark the days that i fell or not was worst than not having. when i dont focus about marking and having a streak, ironically, is when i do bigger progress.
My friend said that if you're trying to stop don't have a ruitine just stop until slip up even of that's less cause its easier to improve while if you have a routine
You're more convinced to stay where you are and it works.
Thanks man. This helps a ton. Been struggling with this for years. Some excellent advice to try and get my motivation back that I do dearly miss.
*Rip to people that break streaks*
Fr
😫 11 Days
to 2-3 times a day
@@TheUnbotheredTexan 20 days broke last night bro 😔
@@goverload4923 Ohh man, i hope it would be alright as long as you'll stop now and tomorrow.
What a nice video to watch after just doing it.
I was 34 days streak when i did an oopsie. But that's not making me sad, i feel proud of my self because that streak is my personal record. I feel more control of my self since then.
So, I just "slipped up", I was on a 20-25 day streak and before that I was on a 100+ day streak!!!. I'm going to start again, thanks for the video It really motivated me, I'm not gonna feel depressed now.
Im'ma try that out, great concept of slipping as it wouldn't stress up a lot like the words relapse as it sounds like the world ended 😝
Hi improve,, you really have had an impact on my mind. I saw your dopamine detox video and that was a start for me. I believe of all the people who I want to make proud you are one of them. Thank you
Thing is people who fap a lot are depressed, no social life, hardly taking to friend or family in day or maybe a week and they are struggling in their lives. It's not good addiction to have and not bad like drugs and other kinda stuff. My point is it's ok to fap for some time with some control. If it makes you feel happy for even a short time and help to make life little easy then you shouldn't regret it to doing it.
This is by far the best video on explaining about what is nofap should be like. Relapsing is not bad the bad thing is returning into your bad habit. Some other guy said in the video that if you have sex with opposite gender your progress will be cut of and you will return to day 1 and that is absurd
We gain the strength of the temptation we resist. Keep trying guys, it's worth it! 💪
I saw your no fap challenge video from forever ago and then I chose to watch this video for more advice. I'll definitely be back for more advice and tips in everything, not just no fap. Keep it up my guy.
I was on a 1 year streak and actually failed and did it more often now, this video helped me a lot
1 year ? you're an alpha male, sir.
@@ilaoilao3321 🤣😂
I was feeling like doing it. Then this video popped up in my recommendeds. Don't know what I watched to get this, but I'm so glad I did.
Thanks for this video. I'm gonna try even harder this November to no stop, but I'm not gonna let one or two slip ups get me down. I hope you have a splendid last couple days of the month and enjoy your NoFap journey🥂.
This random video on my list is exactly what i need
Behavior change is rarely linear and requires patience and self-love.
This is an EXCELLENT TIP. Our mind magnifies what we focus on. If we focus on our % of success we magnify that victory!
Keep pushing gentlemen!
I've actually seen this tip before, lol.
Some guy suggested to not use a streak to measure the progress but an excel spreadsheet
Hey , can you give me detail on how to do that please?
I really need it :(
@@sooraj6689 you.... Take an excel sheet.... And you turn it into a calendar. Or you download one. And then you just click on the single fields and colour them in XD
"It's okay to mess up
As long as you keep trying your best"
- Endou Mamoru
Improvement Pill, You always & always upload the videos I want always.
Thank You so much for these videos helps me a lot. 😊
okay so i just had an oopsie yesterday and then today this video shows up. i looked at the upload time and its a year ago. bro thank you for making content. your words def cleared out all that negative self talk. gonna check out more of your content for sure
I couldn't agree more. I think that there's a brain fog of dangerously aggravated frustration that could literally make a person feel pissed off, empty and hopeless in life if there isn't a slip up...and down...every once in a while. I say don't plan for it. If it's been more than 60 days you're probably there tho & it'll make every other pointless nut you resisted, so.. so... worth it..value increase by +1000%!
I've been on the same journey even though I am a female because I literally had to or I was gonna get knocked up....
again😒. (Im a 3x champ including once while on hard-core birthcontrol)
Which basically turned into me going female nofap from learning about it here... because basically 😐 mom-bligations were going downhill fast and It was like do I get to the bus stop on time??? or am I gonna be one more timing it and then running down the road as I get dressed in shame...the life I wanted to be living 24/7 vs. My actual real life. So now I can go days and weeks and then. Everything stops. Literally i become depressed. Notice new wrinkles. Wanna die. And as long as I make it super fast with an absolute time limit and refuse//100% restrict myself from doing it again the next day (a trick high functioning drug addicts use...but it works when you're addicted to humping too)...I can forgive myself for being human and tell myself no.. I am not sorry for having sexual needs in a healthy and safe, responsible balanced way. I give myself that permission to be a happy, healthy, nonviolent mentally stable and fully functioning productive and focused nonskanky mom lady person again. If you're feeling guilt or shame for one time.....even after regaining self control and reinstating confidence in your ability to resist..m there's a deeper underlying issue that requires therapy, so re-self evaluate & gain serious new levels of rationalizing human primal needs, nonsexual self love, healing and self acceptance. So Keep your heads up men, the world needs you!!!! Especially if you are the high quality men that are emotionally intelligent enough to even attempt no fap!!! Y'all are my favorites 😆
Ladies is pimps too.
But Stay focused.
One love.
XoXoX
Thanks Sarah, wish you the best. You motivated me and I'm on day 5 of No fap. My highest streak has been of 21 days😞
@@vaibhavrakheja5719 yeah. Don't let yourself get crazy. 21 days to build a new habit....that you stick with. Idk Christmas lights make me wanna hump soooo I'm trying to behave too lol
"Shame & Blame will only stand in the way of true Change" 🚀📈
Thx improvement 💊!
Changing the mindset from " I've lost my streak " to "I've dropped in success percentage a little bit " definitely helps with noFAP journey ,
I my self was on a streak for 25 days untill I made an "oopsie" but the benefits of noFAP for nearly a month didn't just vanish and I still felt the confidence and the desire to meet other women that I felt in this 25 days , so if you've ever made an "oopsie " don't give up just yet !
These illustrations are CRAZY
This is actually what NoFap should be like. You won't lose your gains after a relapse.
This channel is pure gold, glad I found it!
I'm on the nofap from about one month, my life is changed now.
i slipped once on fri then started once a week process. controlled till 3 weeks now. feeling limited detoxification but still better. And I get to excite for pre weekend days like a teeny boy who just has discovered it after a long time.
Thanks man, i got a little motivation because of your tips. Sometimes I just felt so upset whenever I do relapse. But you said its not relapse but only a an accident hehe. Its almost look like a stock price movement graphic, amazing idea.
Then I'll follow your tips,
Bro this artwork is on point😂😂😂
Thanks for posting this. You give great insight and I’ve been thinking a lot about the pros and cons of tracking every single day.
I’m the person who slips up and then throws the rest of the day away. So this is really a great way to be sure to get back up after you get knocked down.
I really appreciate you saying “in my opinion” and “from what I’ve found” There isn’t a definitive “cure all” when it comes to no fap. Everyone’s journey is different, so not all advice is applicable to everyone. Thanks for sharing yet another tool to use while I’m building my new life.
If you’re here reading this then know that you’re not alone my friend, there are thousands of people out there like you and me growing and changing to become better people. I love you!
Every failure is another step closer to success.
Finally someone said it. This applies to diet, personal goals, etc
I broke my streak after 13 days, I’m gonna go for 15 next time
This will help me improve my nofap journey. Thank you so much. Ive been doing the streak thing and when I slip up it really felt terrible like I didnt have a progress at all.
Don't count the days, make the days count. 💪
Before, I would fap 3-4 times a week. It was awful. After discovering Nofap, I used the streaks method for years. I even made it to 90 days 3 separate times. I would really beat myself up for relapsing, and I thought I landed back at square one. But now I think, "I used to be a 4 faps per week addict. I've come a long way from the person I was 5 years ago." Now, I don't even bother with streaks but just put my slip up days in my calendar. It's so encouraging to see fewer and fewer fap days as the months go on.
With this method most would be more prone to relapse, its not a good way to recover your brain. Just don't do a negative self talk after relapse, accept, forgive yourself, learn from the experience, and continue.
Sometimes we focus too much on the fail and not the successes we did along the way.
"ASTRONAUGHTY" - when your naughtiness became out of this world.. 😅✌️
LOVE that video, sooo true! The title should be "A New LESSFap Strategy"
I miss improvement pill's stories. They were fun,educated and really interesting. Improvement pill please post another story.
If u agree hit like ❤
Hi
@@thoalfuqar4177 hey
I'm gonna stick to the streak method cause I don't think that I'm prone to binging but thank you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Opsie is absolutely fucking beautiful.
I'm already 6 months nofaping, many improovments, thank you for telling me about nofap
Hey are u getting the urges now aswell?
@@muhammadnajil3036 i would say no, urges are so weak and i can easily control myself, and everything is ok with getting hard also
@@arenmkhitaryan3537 when would you say the urges were the strongest?
@@jonathan-3008 first month
@@jonathan-3008 I had the same experience, the first 30 days are hell. After that controlling urges will be A LOT easier.
Point is, when you fail, remember to reflect on what's improved when you abstained. Sure, you need to reflect on what makes you fail, but remember that, for instance, you have lessened the frequency, you have learned what triggers you, or what new habit/hobby/passion you have developed that helped you both abstaining and improved your life. Also remember leniency is not an excuse or free pass. If you start thinking that way, something is wrong with your method.
I JUST lost my two months streak yesterday wtf
Tysm
"Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up." Stay strong man!
Bruh.. what made u break that streak?
@@kotresh
Nothing in particular honestly
I just couldn't think clearly all day because all I was thinking about was porn
honestly, falling in love pretty much cured me. i still get urges, but im able to endure. the thought of it feels like I'm cheating, which helps a lot
a healthy young man with an average sex drive if he's not having sex he will masturbate , porn is the real problem not masturbation itself
my man
this is the first video im watching of und thku for the tip it has helped me properly
nd i have been clean for more than a year now thks to u
my mood nd mind has been proper since i stopped
nd thks to u for making it easier
Well, initially when I started no fap I too relapsed oops slipped in pretty frequently. But with the effects of PMO like brain fog decreasing I could really feel the change that it had given me. Out of all of the No FAP challenge I find that it is not that one enticing video topic in mind that harms but it is the minds ability to give some lame excuse to watch it. I mean my mind just cooks up things like "You couldn't talk to her properly today maybe you just need to be more manly" or "I have had a very bad day today why not relieve myself a bit" . It is this kind of self talk that ruins my streak and make me want to binge watch such stuff but just by noting a 5 sec of talking about it consciously I can kind of make myself to close that tab and it goes a long way while maintaining the winning streak. :)
Perfect timing for November
That's why I'm here
One is caught up playing the impassioned protagonist in one's Subjective Narrative of Self 🎈
This can be activated in social media problem too, like you can set the time limit for social media and if you will pass the limit you will loose 10 % from 100% and that 10% can be reached back only by another 1 week of detox, so nothing will be easy and you will be hungry and motivated to go for 100%...maybe it is up to you. It is very smart tactic.
Day 1 starts here...
gonna start this today with a friend, we're both having our backs on this fight and that may help us a lot. i'll be back in one month with some results!