This one was a hard video to listen to. I was the guy in this situation. I never made her a priority and I neglected her needs. I made this mistake again and again and again, until she walked away. She’d had enough, and honestly I don’t blame her. I never thought she would actually leave, and let me tell you not only did it hurt, it completely changed my life and my approach to relationships. This break up was last year and she still won’t talk to me. I’ve worked hard on myself. I really mean it. I listen to Craig’s videos DAILY, I study them after work, I purchased the workbooks, I’ve understood my mistakes, I’ve worked hard to better myself, I’ve understood my attachment and trauma issues that caused me to be the way that I was.. the list goes on. I’ve reluctantly reached out to her a couple of times trying to explain my remorse and how hard I’m working to fix my mistakes. Each message has been ignored. Let me tell you, the guy in this video is lucky. Getting a reply from your ex in this situation is rare and I hope he understands that. My ex has stood her ground and cut me out completely. She’s not giving me another chance. This has genuinely been one of the hardest periods of my life I’ve ever encountered. I know that I would make it work 100000% if she just opened herself back up to me, and this anxiety and guilt eats me up every single day. It’s extremely difficult. So, a message to all of those avoidants out there.. don’t even think your partner won’t leave you if you neglect their needs. Because one day they will, and let me tell you, the pain is like no other when you realise how badly you fucked up. Trust me.
That's good on you for coming to the realization snd doing the work. She was your karmic lesson in life. Karma simply means action that will share that there is a man who kept trying to get me back after mistreatment. I will NEVER take him back. There is one man I would consider giving another chance, but it would be a slow process. Acceptance that they may not ever return is key. That way whether they return or not, you're on your path.
For such a long time, all I wanted was for her to come back & for us to be a family again. After 18 months, I can now say that I wouldn’t even consider taking her back if she tried, which she won’t. It was her decision to cheat with a wealthy guy & destroy our family. Btw, that rich guy dumped her after 12 months. KARMA!!
My ex pulled exactly the same stunt as this guy...but at 60 years old! No reach out, but after 8 months I have moved on with a better partner. I would still like an apology, but I have heard my ex is suffering. That will have to do for now.
Me too. Same happened and I'll be 60 in 2 weeks 😔 Its really hard when you're older and don't want to die alone. I have to watch the "desperate ' thing.
I wouldn’t give her the chance to apologize. Don’t give her the excuse to think she has any class. She doesn’t deserve you in any way, even you receiving an apology from her. She deserves your back , no response and blocked. Glad you found a better partner.
Let karma do the job. Good thing I walked out with a smile after being mistreated and disrespected. Felt toyed and taken for granted 🍏'31 I need to heal
I don’t think I’ll hear from her again. She’s seeing someone new just days after telling me she needs to take a step back from talking or seeing each other. Now I’m in “how do I get over her and move on” phase.
I just reached out after 4 months to get my stuff and maybe closure. Told her im moving on just please send my stuff back. Then came the switch and anger towards me. Whatever, she used me and that's it. She says she had guilt but i doubt it, you can't hurt someone like she did and have guilt.
The example that you’re talking about in this video is really resonates my ex behavior but the sad & at the same time funny thing is that my ex was in his mid 50s!!! Not early 20s… unfortunately some people never grow up… :)
My ex invaded my privacy. Went through my diary. My phone. Another year passed and I stepped up as a partner to alleviate their insecurities. Despite that, it wasn’t enough. It was never going to be enough and that isn’t my fault. If I’m not appreciated then I deserve to at least love myself. These videos are so helpful. Thank you.
NOBODY has a right to invade your privacy and space narcissist do stuff like that because they need to have control and dirt to try to destroy or blackmail you later trust me you dodged a bullet for real and you don't need people like that in your life heal and work on yourself so you don't attract those type of people in your life eventually much better will come along good luck
We broke up I reached out 6 months later … we met again .. he talked about he almost married another girl he saw for only 2 months after we broke up … I cried he said he doesn’t want anything serious with me …but he kissed me and is calling me baby and stuff … no we had a messy break up again cause I can’t be just friends
Exactly what I'm doing for the first time in my life. Putting myself first and working on myself. You've been an inspiration and my guiding light in a massive storm. Thank you for all the work you do. As a researcher and a writer, I know the massive hours that go into making these short videos. They are a life saver to so many. I appreciate your work and that of Victoria and will always be grateful that you connected with Margaret when you did. She was a great lady and I wish I could've met her. Thank you for all that you do.🙏
When you do meditation, you practice breathing, but after the time, the breath will start breathing you. If you start doing a sport, or exercise after a time you don't exercise the sport, but the sport is exercising you. The same is true with love, after you find love, everything seems easy, you don´t have to chase the love anymore the love as a feeling start to breathe you, the love starts to chase you. It becomes natural because of your lifestyle.
Can you do videos on people in their 40s? 20s is such a volatile time in many ways- what about those who are already deep in careers but still have issues?
I don't think my ex will come back. He heard to his helicopter parents and toxic friends and broke up with me. I've seen him last Saturday and I saw he's not doing well, he lost much weight, and there I felt "Schadenfreude"... but a part of me still hopes that he did a big mistake and talk to me again...
Yep, I know. I have left two avoidant guys, I am FA. And they were both completely blindsided. They thought I would never leave, but FA’s do leave. I am working on myself. However cheating, lying about intentions is just overboard. First guy I almost had children with, and the other guy I found out at 6 months. So the first guy and the next was similar. So I knew how to find out his intentions before it got too serious.
Make sure she falls in love with your lifestyle, not necessarily just with your looks, because your lifestyle is part of your charisma, looks may change over time, but charisma rarely changes, good lifestyle rarely changes for worse. but looks may change for better if you exercise and makes you look healthy etc For example, if you are a kind guy who likes people and humor and helps people, and has a bunch of friends, It's called lifestyle, you share advice about sports, music arts, and culture with friends. Charisma is part of lifestyle and lifestyle is part of charisma. She falls in love with it much more than just with looks. If she sees he helps his friend or colleague with something, she sees his priorities. The spiritual priorities and his humility, which is an attractive thing. Maybe therefore long-term relationship works with people who work in the same industry, for example, music, playing violin or instrument. So she feels safe because all the people colleagues around him feel safe, and she will feel safe with all those people. For example musicians, and athletes. Except if she is the kind of person who wants to live in isolation from people or doesn't have time for them.
Good video but I gotta be honest - I was broken up with for not pleasing my ex - since then I’ve been doing my work to improve myself. She seems very content doing her own life and casually breadcrumbing me a basic text here or there. I don’t push her for more but do believe we could start anew. How do I begin to get to anew, if she barely answers, dayssssss later, one text sent to her?
Sometimes I worry due to the nature of my non-monogamous breakup there's too many women to really feel my loss or any consequences. Maybe I wasn't special to him the way he was to me. I can't control that though so I'll pray for him & wish him well & continue caring for me & prioritizing my peace.
Where to meet decent men as a working parent? I’m looking for a long term/marriage and dating apps are awful. I don’t go out much because I’m a parent.
Lol.. my 49 yr old ex did that when he started hanging out with a guy 17 yrs younger than him!!! He has 3 kids and doesn't see his oldest 2 because of his behavior.. but even blames that on everyone else 🙄🤷♀️🤣
Thank you Coach Craig, this video was very helpful. Ive been looking for the others you speak of but the only ones popping up on my feed are about no contact? Im looking for more depth n communication etc.
Karma is just a belief . It's not a fact or scientific. The most probable things will happen. If we work for something, we could make it happen. That's all.
Mine immidietly found another guy. She blamed me for being toxic, but irl she was as bad. I still think we are meant, we just have issues we needed to work on. It sucks.
The person Who played whit me is a narcissistic Charakter. People arround me narcissistic people not feel regret. I really wish that him regret and coming Back for a new commited relationship. It seems impossible.. I did everything wrong. Reach out, tryung to communicate, revenge whit some ugly/funny gestures...
Same... i got cheated early on in the talking stage(sexting) me being who I am I said let's work on it, we can do this, somehow she discarded me and started hanging out with a new guy "freind" when she said she wanted to focus on herself yet she even posted him on her ig story
That pissed me off, she never ever posted not even me, i called her names cause the pain because that's crazy disrespectful,grabbed my stuff from her house and that was the last time I spoke with her on the phone, I was being taken for granted, was always there for her That was the last time we spoke, I apologized briefly on the phone but I wish I got more time to say everything and how it made me feel, but let's be honest, everyone and her family know why I'd react like that
I went forward with friendship offer day after she broke up with me, and its been 1,5 month. We are going to met at the airport (we bought ticekts to rome before breakup) and i wonder if i should tell her that "i had time think and friendship is imposible, becasue i still care about you and would like to make things work, so if you change your mind my doors are open and you know how to reach me" or should i just say nothing about that? (in NC since 27.08 as she wished me Bday)???
Interesting thing about that though, for those experiencing karmic consequences - is it even karma if they don’t recognize it as comeuppance? Or if you’re not around to recognize it as such?
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I know my ex won’t come back- but it’s ok. I’m putting myself first now. Accepting the situation and moving forward.
This one was a hard video to listen to. I was the guy in this situation. I never made her a priority and I neglected her needs. I made this mistake again and again and again, until she walked away. She’d had enough, and honestly I don’t blame her. I never thought she would actually leave, and let me tell you not only did it hurt, it completely changed my life and my approach to relationships. This break up was last year and she still won’t talk to me. I’ve worked hard on myself. I really mean it. I listen to Craig’s videos DAILY, I study them after work, I purchased the workbooks, I’ve understood my mistakes, I’ve worked hard to better myself, I’ve understood my attachment and trauma issues that caused me to be the way that I was.. the list goes on. I’ve reluctantly reached out to her a couple of times trying to explain my remorse and how hard I’m working to fix my mistakes. Each message has been ignored. Let me tell you, the guy in this video is lucky. Getting a reply from your ex in this situation is rare and I hope he understands that. My ex has stood her ground and cut me out completely. She’s not giving me another chance. This has genuinely been one of the hardest periods of my life I’ve ever encountered. I know that I would make it work 100000% if she just opened herself back up to me, and this anxiety and guilt eats me up every single day. It’s extremely difficult.
So, a message to all of those avoidants out there.. don’t even think your partner won’t leave you if you neglect their needs. Because one day they will, and let me tell you, the pain is like no other when you realise how badly you fucked up. Trust me.
That's good on you for coming to the realization snd doing the work. She was your karmic lesson in life. Karma simply means action that will share that there is a man who kept trying to get me back after mistreatment. I will NEVER take him back. There is one man I would consider giving another chance, but it would be a slow process. Acceptance that they may not ever return is key. That way whether they return or not, you're on your path.
For such a long time, all I wanted was for her to come back & for us to be a family again. After 18 months, I can now say that I wouldn’t even consider taking her back if she tried, which she won’t. It was her decision to cheat with a wealthy guy & destroy our family. Btw, that rich guy dumped her after 12 months. KARMA!!
Omg!!!!!
Karma...I, at least, love to see it...
My ex pulled exactly the same stunt as this guy...but at 60 years old! No reach out, but after 8 months I have moved on with a better partner. I would still like an apology, but I have heard my ex is suffering. That will have to do for now.
Me too. Same happened and I'll be 60 in 2 weeks 😔 Its really hard when you're older and don't want to die alone. I have to watch the "desperate ' thing.
I wouldn’t give her the chance to apologize. Don’t give her the excuse to think she has any class. She doesn’t deserve you in any way, even you receiving an apology from her. She deserves your back , no response and blocked. Glad you found a better partner.
@@TraciDoering-hw8hu thank you. I appreciate your kind thoughts. It still hurts but I have forced myself to push past the ordeal. Hugs.
Let karma do the job. Good thing I walked out with a smile after being mistreated and disrespected. Felt toyed and taken for granted 🍏'31 I need to heal
You'll be healed ❤
❤️✌️
Same very difficult to heal😢
@soumya4689 love yourself first. Give yourself priority now ✨️ 😌 you are healing
@@bulletinvidtq
I don’t think I’ll hear from her again. She’s seeing someone new just days after telling me she needs to take a step back from talking or seeing each other. Now I’m in “how do I get over her and move on” phase.
I just reached out after 4 months to get my stuff and maybe closure. Told her im moving on just please send my stuff back. Then came the switch and anger towards me. Whatever, she used me and that's it. She says she had guilt but i doubt it, you can't hurt someone like she did and have guilt.
The example that you’re talking about in this video is really resonates my ex behavior but the sad & at the same time funny thing is that my ex was in his mid 50s!!! Not early 20s… unfortunately some people never grow up… :)
My ex invaded my privacy. Went through my diary. My phone. Another year passed and I stepped up as a partner to alleviate their insecurities. Despite that, it wasn’t enough. It was never going to be enough and that isn’t my fault. If I’m not appreciated then I deserve to at least love myself. These videos are so helpful. Thank you.
NOBODY has a right to invade your privacy and space narcissist do stuff like that because they need to have control and dirt to try to destroy or blackmail you later trust me you dodged a bullet for real and you don't need people like that in your life heal and work on yourself so you don't attract those type of people in your life eventually much better will come along good luck
We broke up I reached out 6 months later … we met again .. he talked about he almost married another girl he saw for only 2 months after we broke up … I cried he said he doesn’t want anything serious with me …but he kissed me and is calling me baby and stuff … no we had a messy break up again cause I can’t be just friends
Exactly what I'm doing for the first time in my life. Putting myself first and working on myself. You've been an inspiration and my guiding light in a massive storm. Thank you for all the work you do. As a researcher and a writer, I know the massive hours that go into making these short videos. They are a life saver to so many. I appreciate your work and that of Victoria and will always be grateful that you connected with Margaret when you did. She was a great lady and I wish I could've met her. Thank you for all that you do.🙏
Facts 😁🤝💯💯💯
@@Justin11897 🙏🙂
Did Margaret pass away?
@@nicolehill5201 yes, unfortunately.
Working on yourself is the best.
When you do meditation, you practice breathing, but after the time, the breath will start breathing you.
If you start doing a sport, or exercise after a time you don't exercise the sport, but the sport is exercising you.
The same is true with love, after you find love, everything seems easy, you don´t have to chase the love anymore
the love as a feeling start to breathe you, the love starts to chase you. It becomes natural because of your lifestyle.
Can you do videos on people in their 40s? 20s is such a volatile time in many ways- what about those who are already deep in careers but still have issues?
I don't think my ex will come back. He heard to his helicopter parents and toxic friends and broke up with me. I've seen him last Saturday and I saw he's not doing well, he lost much weight, and there I felt "Schadenfreude"... but a part of me still hopes that he did a big mistake and talk to me again...
I have other influences interfering. Thanks for doing this video.
I love your channel! I watch all of your videos and I’m married lol. Thank you for helping people.
Thank u 😊
Yep, I know. I have left two avoidant guys, I am FA. And they were both completely blindsided. They thought I would never leave, but FA’s do leave. I am working on myself. However cheating, lying about intentions is just overboard. First guy I almost had children with, and the other guy I found out at 6 months. So the first guy and the next was similar. So I knew how to find out his intentions before it got too serious.
Make sure she falls in love with your lifestyle, not necessarily just with your looks, because your lifestyle is part of your charisma, looks may change over time, but charisma rarely changes, good lifestyle rarely changes for worse.
but looks may change for better if you exercise and makes you look healthy etc
For example, if you are a kind guy who likes people and humor and helps people, and has a bunch of friends, It's called lifestyle,
you share advice about sports, music arts, and culture with friends.
Charisma is part of lifestyle and lifestyle is part of charisma. She falls in love with it much more than just with looks.
If she sees he helps his friend or colleague with something, she sees his priorities. The spiritual priorities and his humility, which is an attractive thing.
Maybe therefore long-term relationship works with people who work in the same industry, for example, music, playing violin or instrument.
So she feels safe because all the people colleagues around him feel safe, and she will feel safe with all those people. For example musicians, and athletes.
Except if she is the kind of person who wants to live in isolation from people or doesn't have time for them.
Good video but I gotta be honest - I was broken up with for not pleasing my ex - since then I’ve been doing my work to improve myself. She seems very content doing her own life and casually breadcrumbing me a basic text here or there. I don’t push her for more but do believe we could start anew. How do I begin to get to anew, if she barely answers, dayssssss later, one text sent to her?
Sometimes I worry due to the nature of my non-monogamous breakup there's too many women to really feel my loss or any consequences. Maybe I wasn't special to him the way he was to me. I can't control that though so I'll pray for him & wish him well & continue caring for me & prioritizing my peace.
Where to meet decent men as a working parent? I’m looking for a long term/marriage and dating apps are awful. I don’t go out much because I’m a parent.
Stop looking. 😢
Lol.. my 49 yr old ex did that when he started hanging out with a guy 17 yrs younger than him!!! He has 3 kids and doesn't see his oldest 2 because of his behavior.. but even blames that on everyone else 🙄🤷♀️🤣
Thank you Coach Craig, this video was very helpful. Ive been looking for the others you speak of but the only ones popping up on my feed are about no contact? Im looking for more depth n communication etc.
THANKS TEACHER.
Needed this💔💔💔
Mine was 63 this year so when does he mature
Karma is just a belief . It's not a fact or scientific. The most probable things will happen. If we work for something, we could make it happen. That's all.
Mine immidietly found another guy. She blamed me for being toxic, but irl she was as bad. I still think we are meant, we just have issues we needed to work on. It sucks.
She still thinks about me and keep tabs but doesnt show any interest. Its been 8 months now
Back together or moved on?
The person Who played whit me is a narcissistic Charakter.
People arround me narcissistic people not feel regret.
I really wish that him regret and coming Back for a new commited relationship.
It seems impossible..
I did everything wrong. Reach out, tryung to communicate, revenge whit some ugly/funny gestures...
We stop here dear i delete my google chat i dont know who i am im lost this is not fare treating me like this no contact.... i dont know
what if theyre the one who played with my heart and then left me?
Same... i got cheated early on in the talking stage(sexting) me being who I am I said let's work on it, we can do this, somehow she discarded me and started hanging out with a new guy "freind" when she said she wanted to focus on herself yet she even posted him on her ig story
That pissed me off, she never ever posted not even me, i called her names cause the pain because that's crazy disrespectful,grabbed my stuff from her house and that was the last time I spoke with her on the phone, I was being taken for granted, was always there for her
That was the last time we spoke, I apologized briefly on the phone but I wish I got more time to say everything and how it made me feel, but let's be honest, everyone and her family know why I'd react like that
I hurt badly my ex, will he come back ever?
Have you sincerely apologised?
@@countdowntorevolution9986 I hurt him with words.
And I sincerely apologized to him.
I went forward with friendship offer day after she broke up with me, and its been 1,5 month. We are going to met at the airport (we bought ticekts to rome before breakup) and i wonder if i should tell her that "i had time think and friendship is imposible, becasue i still care about you and would like to make things work, so if you change your mind my doors are open and you know how to reach me" or should i just say nothing about that? (in NC since 27.08 as she wished me Bday)???
What happened?
👌
I do not believe in karma.
Interesting thing about that though, for those experiencing karmic consequences - is it even karma if they don’t recognize it as comeuppance? Or if you’re not around to recognize it as such?
Especially since the worse things seem to happened to the best pple. And the worse pple seem to get their way. It's like opposite karma.
I don’t call it karma. As a Christian I call it reaping what you sew.
@@julzluvzdollz Another name for it is Natural Law. It's real.
And it's a fact there is a law in the earth what goes around comes around and that's a fact.