I heard Vanessa speak at the Global Leadership summit in 2022 to over 200K people around the world. She is even more impactful in person. She demonstrates everything she shares. Great job!
Omgosh thank you! I came here to say the same thing. I can’t stand people using introversion and shyness interchangeably. They have nothing to do with each other. I’m introverted and have zero shyness. And when smart podcasters get this wrong it just continues the misunderstanding. I tell people I’m introverted and they laugh, because they think if I’m not shy then I must not be introverted and I’m joking. Can we please just get this right? Introversion has to do with how you get your energy, that’s it. It has nothing to do with assertiveness or shyness. Anyhow this is a huge pet peeve for me and I’d hoped that Mel would get it right, or her guests would. But since the majority of humans are extroverts, they don’t even begin to comprehend introversion, but just talk about it from an outside perspective. I particularly dislike it when people ask if I want to just talk one on one since I’m an introvert. That’s a nightmare for an introvert! I’d MUCH rather be in a large group where I would have to contribute less and pay attention less attentively, than talking with one person, one on one. Going for coffee one on one can drain an introvert for an entire week! Anyhow, thanks for speaking up for the rest of us introverted minority ❤️ Whenever a specialist guest starts saying introverts are shy etc. I stop listening. So I don’t actually know the rest of what was said in this interview lol
Indeed! In fact today I was talking to a friend about how introverts choose the conversations they make and don’t just keep chattering their way out. Being a serial chatterbox, I would love to acquire this skill! ✨
@14:50 Gosh this is making so much sense. This is confirming some things for me and reinforcing my belief in myself which I have come to struggle with over the years. Not trying to toot my own horn or anything but I use to be popular in high school but never really knew why... Looking back, I use to be that guy that addressed everyone by name, waving at others in the distance, and made sure to acknowledge everyone in my path one way or anything. I was friends with everyone. So everybody knew me. I wasnt even that cute lol. But now watching this, it's making a lot of sense. I give credit to my grandparents who raised me to be this way. So grateful to have these principles in me. Working on believing in myself more and more.
I live alone and work remotely. I get no social interaction during the week and do more on the weekends. ANY social interaction is good for me. I like it when I take a walk and someone waves at me.
I like interactions, too, but I have a real problem being around people who are constantly staring at their phones and not talking to me or others. It's tricky being out in public.
14:46 Proverbs 18:24, which reads: "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly" - meaning if you want to have friends, you must also be friendly towards others.
Damn. This was a great edition! So much actionable goodness! Introvert here….reporting my actions taken as an immediate result of listening to this podcast. Thank you, thank you!!! 1) updated the names of my calendar meetings to prime my day 2) bought Vanessa’s latest book 3) took copious notes to help me be better equipped for social settings
I like both of you. I like the way Vanessa smiles. I like the way Mel listening attentively to Vanessa. I like Mel's strategical placement of Vanessa's books on the shelves. I am honest about my likes.
Mel and Vanessa didn't know how much this podcast helped me and encouaged me. This is my favorite episode and I come here and listen from time to time to be reminded of everything you say. THANK YOU SO MUCH
2 my favorite motivational women speakers in one room ❤❤ love you both! Great energy and tips before networking event that I am attending in just a few hours 🎉
Wonderful podcast. Now about likeability. I like people and I'm nice to everyone all the time! I do things to elevate them. but I don't get anything in return. I know love and like unconditionally but... Seriously it's jaded and one-sided now that I prefer to be alone and like myself. Idk honestly dunno. I wish I can find my kinda people maybe. Would love to hear someone's take on this matter. All in all a fab podcast. Thanks so much Mel and Vanessa❤
It's disappointing if it isn't reciprocated. There needs to be give and take. You seem like a good person but maybe don't try so hard. If someone mistreats you, stand up for yourself: they will respect you more. Good luck!
You could be sending a subconscious message of neediness, too. People pick up on it even when we aren’t aware and it pushes them away. I have had to do a lot of work in this area because of trauma wounding causing me to seek acceptance and approval. I’ve read both her books and they are outstanding, but the tools work best when combined with deep work on our subconscious programming.
@@asdf7711 thankyou I'd definitely stand up for myself and I'm not a people pleaser. So these people i mentioned are my close friends and family. So yeah it sucks a bit but... Okay. I'm practising self love and trying to just let them be as Mel says. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you have a wonderful week
@@akm17178 Dunno about that. It would be nice to be appreciated back. These are my people. My friends and family to begin with. But yeah. Maybe not. Maybe they only wanna put in meagre effort and I'm overly zealous and loving. I've been told I'm too kind/compassionate by strangers. Maybe it's just my nature now.
Wow❤ one of prophet Muhammad advice's ..if you love (like)some one ..go and tell him or her . We are not talking romance here though 😊I like you both ❤
I like Vanessa reminds me of how I will like to be. At work I say hi to everyone I come across and for some reason everyone knows my name and I felt awkward now I know better. I was raised to greet people and be kind to people around me which is not very common in the uk. I felt stranger when I moved here when people see you and walk pass without saying hi. I really like Vanessa
This is the BEST episode I’ve ever heard! Thank you Mel, thank you Vanessa I needed to hear some of this not only to remind myself how well I’m doing but to know what more I CAN do
This is quite possibly one of the most interesting and helpful podcast I have listened to. It’s so good that I sent it to my boss and asked if we can have a team building activity with others on our team. I especially liked the part about how to be more productive and I plan on using it going forward.
Great information!!! Can't tell you how many times folks have said that these body ques were "bad", "too much" , etc... Now I wonder what their motivation for shutting people in their team down, by trying to undue this positive body language.
Authentic question about vulnerability: How do you reconcile being vulnerable and authentic when there are people, like narcissists, who exploit vulnerability? You might open up, thinking the other person is genuine, only to later realize they were putting on an act to manipulate you. I’ve had experiences where I thought someone was kind and genuine, and I let my guard down, being my authentic self, only to find out they had ulterior motives and ended up using and hurting me. How do you navigate vulnerability in a world where some people have hidden agendas?
what an amazing podcast. THank you! I agree with you,Mel. Venessa is a relly interesting research! I just jumped from hopelessness to the gratification❤❤❤
Thank you Mel! Thank you Vanessa! I admire Vanessa she is very well at explaining things. Looking back at how she was before her career change it is inspiring 💕
Yes!! I have designated open and closed door hours in my office. Some of my colleagues snub their nose at the idea. However, I can get work actual work done without feeling drained!
@mel I am driving and listening.. and keeping up. Please STOP interruptig Vanessa to de describe the same thing she just did. (Power pose, steepling) just let her talk! We ARE getting it!
Vanessa!!!! Omfg!!!! You just confirmed something I observed in patients for 20 years!!! Our mindset and world orientation is contagious!!!! I have watched this occur in patients at the hospital and nursing home 💯 and I have observed this in my spouse and my children!!! Really excellent tips today!!!! I need to figure out what my A work is....
That’s why Mel is so likable, because she is so authentic and doesn’t pretend to be perfect 👍🏼
I heard Vanessa speak at the Global Leadership summit in 2022 to over 200K people around the world. She is even more impactful in person. She demonstrates everything she shares. Great job!
Hi Alyssa! Oh thank you for your kind words! That means a lot to me! 🥺🥰
Introverts can be very assertive. Introversion isn't shyness; it's an inward focus of energy and attention.
Omgosh thank you! I came here to say the same thing. I can’t stand people using introversion and shyness interchangeably. They have nothing to do with each other.
I’m introverted and have zero shyness. And when smart podcasters get this wrong it just continues the misunderstanding. I tell people I’m introverted and they laugh, because they think if I’m not shy then I must not be introverted and I’m joking. Can we please just get this right? Introversion has to do with how you get your energy, that’s it. It has nothing to do with assertiveness or shyness.
Anyhow this is a huge pet peeve for me and I’d hoped that Mel would get it right, or her guests would. But since the majority of humans are extroverts, they don’t even begin to comprehend introversion, but just talk about it from an outside perspective.
I particularly dislike it when people ask if I want to just talk one on one since I’m an introvert. That’s a nightmare for an introvert! I’d MUCH rather be in a large group where I would have to contribute less and pay attention less attentively, than talking with one person, one on one. Going for coffee one on one can drain an introvert for an entire week!
Anyhow, thanks for speaking up for the rest of us introverted minority ❤️ Whenever a specialist guest starts saying introverts are shy etc. I stop listening. So I don’t actually know the rest of what was said in this interview lol
Indeed! In fact today I was talking to a friend about how introverts choose the conversations they make and don’t just keep chattering their way out.
Being a serial chatterbox, I would love to acquire this skill! ✨
@14:50 Gosh this is making so much sense. This is confirming some things for me and reinforcing my belief in myself which I have come to struggle with over the years. Not trying to toot my own horn or anything but I use to be popular in high school but never really knew why... Looking back, I use to be that guy that addressed everyone by name, waving at others in the distance, and made sure to acknowledge everyone in my path one way or anything. I was friends with everyone. So everybody knew me. I wasnt even that cute lol. But now watching this, it's making a lot of sense. I give credit to my grandparents who raised me to be this way. So grateful to have these principles in me. Working on believing in myself more and more.
This is my favorite pod cast. It’s an extremely a valuable addition to life’s tool belt.
I live alone and work remotely. I get no social interaction during the week and do more on the weekends. ANY social interaction is good for me. I like it when I take a walk and someone waves at me.
I’m waving at you and smiling at you through the internet. I hope this comment brings you a moment of ❤
I like interactions, too, but I have a real problem being around people who are constantly staring at their phones and not talking to me or others. It's tricky being out in public.
👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼♥️🇨🇦🫶🏻❤️🌸🍁Have a wonderful day
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14:46 Proverbs 18:24, which reads: "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly" - meaning if you want to have friends, you must also be friendly towards others.
Damn. This was a great edition! So much actionable goodness! Introvert here….reporting my actions taken as an immediate result of listening to this podcast. Thank you, thank you!!!
1) updated the names of my calendar meetings to prime my day
2) bought Vanessa’s latest book
3) took copious notes to help me be better equipped for social settings
I like both of you. I like the way Vanessa smiles. I like the way Mel listening attentively to Vanessa. I like Mel's strategical placement of Vanessa's books on the shelves. I am honest about my likes.
Ohhh wow! Thank you so much! 🥰💛
I like your comments (see what I did there!)
Thanks!
Mel and Vanessa didn't know how much this podcast helped me and encouaged me. This is my favorite episode and I come here and listen from time to time to be reminded of everything you say. THANK YOU SO MUCH
Mel! You have helped me so much! Much love to you! Thank you for being YOU!
This lady Vanessa is fabulous. I've been binge watching podcasts of her stuff.
I was listening the podcast and then I stopped to jump in TH-cam to see you both. I Loved! Amazing! Beautiful! 😊
Yay! That's heartwarming to know! Thank you so much! 💛
This woman’s information and research references are profound!!! Fantastic interview!
“Really fun people mask, they are fun but they aren’t actually having fun” - realist realization ever
Is that lilke women who fake orgasms?
2 my favorite motivational women speakers in one room ❤❤ love you both! Great energy and tips before networking event that I am attending in just a few hours 🎉
You said the right thing @weronikakunka! 🥰 In one room! Lucky us… It was fantastic!!
U r my motivation😅
I love them!!
Me too
I love Vanessa! When I figured out that I am a recovering SA from her it was life changing!! 🙌🏼❤️
That's amazing!!! Thank you so much!! 😍🥰🥰🥰
Sorry, what is an SA?
@@brynne77socially awkward person
This is one of my favorite guests/episodes/ so helpful! Thank you! 🎉
Love this. Shes adorable and could listen to these two all day!
Aww Thank you so much! 🥰
Vanessa is powerfully, passionately and positively contagious! ✨✨✨Thank you Mel for spreading such GOOD stuff!
Wow, I needed this confidence tip- for years!!!!!!!!!!
She's really good, she has a lot of stuff on things like socialising, reading body language and stuff.
Wonderful podcast. Now about likeability. I like people and I'm nice to everyone all the time! I do things to elevate them. but I don't get anything in return. I know love and like unconditionally but... Seriously it's jaded and one-sided now that I prefer to be alone and like myself. Idk honestly dunno. I wish I can find my kinda people maybe. Would love to hear someone's take on this matter. All in all a fab podcast. Thanks so much Mel and Vanessa❤
It's disappointing if it isn't reciprocated. There needs to be give and take. You seem like a good person but maybe don't try so hard. If someone mistreats you, stand up for yourself: they will respect you more. Good luck!
You could be sending a subconscious message of neediness, too. People pick up on it even when we aren’t aware and it pushes them away. I have had to do a lot of work in this area because of trauma wounding causing me to seek acceptance and approval. I’ve read both her books and they are outstanding, but the tools work best when combined with deep work on our subconscious programming.
Come from the heart and total authenticity.
@@asdf7711 thankyou I'd definitely stand up for myself and I'm not a people pleaser. So these people i mentioned are my close friends and family. So yeah it sucks a bit but... Okay. I'm practising self love and trying to just let them be as Mel says. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you have a wonderful week
@@akm17178 Dunno about that. It would be nice to be appreciated back. These are my people. My friends and family to begin with. But yeah. Maybe not. Maybe they only wanna put in meagre effort and I'm overly zealous and loving. I've been told I'm too kind/compassionate by strangers. Maybe it's just my nature now.
Wow❤ one of prophet Muhammad advice's ..if you love (like)some one ..go and tell him or her . We are not talking romance here though 😊I like you both ❤
I like Vanessa reminds me of how I will like to be. At work I say hi to everyone I come across and for some reason everyone knows my name and I felt awkward now I know better. I was raised to greet people and be kind to people around me which is not very common in the uk. I felt stranger when I moved here when people see you and walk pass without saying hi. I really like Vanessa
Love this episode. Have just reserved one of Vanessa’s book from my library can’t wait for it to come!!
Oh thank you so much!!! That's exciting! Hope you'll enjoy the book too! Share it with us via instagram! we'd love to hear from you! 😍
This is the BEST episode I’ve ever heard! Thank you Mel, thank you Vanessa I needed to hear some of this not only to remind myself how well I’m doing but to know what more I CAN do
❤ it is so true. Work energy is drowning me, thank you! This Pod Cast just pin point and answer the question I ask myself . What am I doing wrong?❤🙏
This is quite possibly one of the most interesting and helpful podcast I have listened to. It’s so good that I sent it to my boss and asked if we can have a team building activity with others on our team. I especially liked the part about how to be more productive and I plan on using it going forward.
Wow! I just downloaded this episode 8 minutes in. This is so helpful!
Such a valuable podcast. I am going to actively like people from now on.
Yay! 🧡🧡🧡🧡
Great tips! I need to listen more than once. Don't want to miss anything! She's a fast, fast speaker and I grew up in the fast speaking midwest. 😊
Mel, you have such a great speaking style. I love your energy and compassion!
Fantastic interview!!!! Life changing. Love your channel Mel. Thanks for sharing all this knowledge 🖤
Great information!!! Can't tell you how many times folks have said that these body ques were "bad", "too much" , etc... Now I wonder what their motivation for shutting people in their team down, by trying to undue this positive body language.
This has been my favorite episode I think I’ve ever seen… thank you I appreciate you so much
Aww Thank you so much! 😍
I LOVE THIS PODCAST! IT'S SO REAL! LOVE YOU MEL! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!❤🎶❤️🎶
Oh yas!!! I love this collab Mel! Super enjoyed it! 😍
❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for making me feel more normal and comfortable crying and then laughing while watching this beautiful episode 😂
I love it.
And I would like to hear about how to embrace imperfections in order to be happier, specially when you have a physical disability.
Authentic question about vulnerability: How do you reconcile being vulnerable and authentic when there are people, like narcissists, who exploit vulnerability? You might open up, thinking the other person is genuine, only to later realize they were putting on an act to manipulate you. I’ve had experiences where I thought someone was kind and genuine, and I let my guard down, being my authentic self, only to find out they had ulterior motives and ended up using and hurting me. How do you navigate vulnerability in a world where some people have hidden agendas?
what an amazing podcast. THank you! I agree with you,Mel. Venessa is a relly interesting research! I just jumped from hopelessness to the gratification❤❤❤
This interview was amazing! Great video, congratulations for both women.
wow wow wow i learned sooooo much 🌸🌸 great video and im gonna share it with people who want to level up🙏🙏
You're one of the people that turn on lamps in my brain with the way you think and the amazing people that you host🎉🎉
Thank you❤❤
I found this extraordinarily interesting and insightful. Loved it. Send love hugs two you both. Thank you
You are amazing Mel and Vanessa! Oh my Goodness… I’m impressed with your empowerment and knowledge. Thank you girls ! ❤❤
you are right. I listened to this on the way to work today and now on you tube. So much better!!!!! Great Stuff
Thank you Mel, I enjoyed the podcast with you and Vanessa, and I don’t just like you both I also Love you Mel and Vanessa and I mean it 💋👍🏻❤️🙏🌹
Thank you Mel! Thank you Vanessa! I admire Vanessa she is very well at explaining things. Looking back at how she was before her career change it is inspiring 💕
Wow. So many good takeaways. I have some homework I'm looking forward to doing!!
That's wonderful to know 🥰
Another great video! I learned so much thank you Mel and Vanessa!
Thank you, Mel & Vanessa for this insightful & applicable content! ❤
You're most welcome! 🥰
This was such a beautiful conversation. I took away an incredible amount of inspiration.
Thank you for the wonderful interview and the information you provided.
You're most welcome! 🥰
Fabulous Mel
One of the best!!!!
5 pages of notes!!!! Lol
Hilarious re excel sheet- SAME!!!🎉🎉
ABCD love it!!!!
You guys rock
Love you Mel❤
Lovely interview. Thank you so much for this one.
Loved this episode so much!!!
Glad you did! Thank you for listening! 🙌
Great podcast. Love you both, Mel and Vanessa
Oh thank you so much!!! 😍
Mel, I’m obsessed with your podcast. I love your energy ❤
Marry don't be silly
I am so happy to see you two ladies together.
Thia was an amazing podcast!! One of my favorite !! Thanks Mel!!
I absolutely love this lady!
This was really good. Made some mental notes to myself
I do the steeple with my hands when I am in my extended staff meetings and it feels great!
Two great ladies together.... can't wait to watch this....thank you in advance ❤❤❤
You are more than welcome!!! Hope you'll enjoy the whole podcast! 😍
@@ScienceOfPeopleI'm sure i will....if it's possible consider doing a podcast with Brene Brown... another great lady!
Mel you used perfect word for her. she is adorable❤
I love these two ladies!
Oh thank you so much!!!
My two idols ❤❤ Thank you Mel! I love this episode so much! 😍
Great podcast. Where can I find the first podcast with Vanessa Van Edwards is in that Mel is referring to? I'd love to see it too. I couldn't find it.
Thank you Mel, I appreciate this. 💚
Love this episode, thank you Mel ❤
What an incredible episode!!! Can't wait to share it!!!
Oh thank you so much!!!
Yes!! I have designated open and closed door hours in my office. Some of my colleagues snub their nose at the idea. However, I can get work actual work done without feeling drained!
OMG love you both!! Thank you for this session!!
Wow she is brilliant and she seriously inspires me!
Thank you !! I needed this today❤
Yay! 🧡
Love this❤ Thank you Mel❤
This was awesome..gave me goose flesh....
Too good! Love this episode a lot. Learned a lot!
Oh my God! I LOVE YOU BOTH. Thank you❤
Fantastic interview!! Loved this episode!!
The best episode ever!!!!
Love love love this - helpful in so many ways
Highly inspirational and informative! ❤
Love this!,
thanks Mel and Vannesa!!
You're more than welcome!!! 🥰
I love Vanessa. You are so fun to watch. Love your books but I think it would be a greater video book LOL I wonder if you coach Kamela Harris. :D
I love you Mel, Vanessa!!!
Soooo good, Mel Robbins!!❤
The best vídeo ever!! ❤❤
first time i took notes listening to your podcast 🤩
Amazing, thank you Mel and Vanessa❤❤❤❤❤
R u jullie rodrix
Thank you Vanessa and Mel.
Great information! Introvert IT geek that is now in Tech Pre-sales. Holy Guac! Thanks ladies!! 😆
I love this!! Thank you!!
@mel I am driving and listening.. and keeping up. Please STOP interruptig Vanessa to de describe the same thing she just did. (Power pose, steepling) just let her talk! We ARE getting it!
Mel send you hugs from Cuba, I love you! 🥰
Amazing interview full of helpful tips! Thank you 😊 🙏 ❤️ 😍 💖
Vanessa!!!! Omfg!!!! You just confirmed something I observed in patients for 20 years!!! Our mindset and world orientation is contagious!!!! I have watched this occur in patients at the hospital and nursing home 💯 and I have observed this in my spouse and my children!!!
Really excellent tips today!!!!
I need to figure out what my A work is....
Her closing comments made me emotional ❤
love how you hooked us with the pod snippet
Wish I'd taken notes! What an amazing guest ❤