Want to be Successful? Be Delusional
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Have you ever met someone who had both a raging sense of entitlement and delusional levels of confidence - who get everything they want. In the meantime, you’re questioning if you’re good enough at your job, ready for the next level, and constantly reality checking yourself about the lifestyle you deserve to live.
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*Locus of control
Omfg 🤦🏼♀️ I've been studying this for 20 years, my script has it right and my brain has it right... And I even proof read text because Apple autocorrect kept going off. And this happens. Thank you for pointing it out. I can't edit the text on screen but I'm gonna go ahead and pin your comment
@@JenniferBrick no stress! Just thought I'd point it out, thanks for the video!
that's not very delulu of you to point that out 🤫
Looks like being delusional didn’t help lmao.
Exactly, when I started convincing myself 'why I could' do the job and not why I couldn't, I started making connections as to why my experience was relevant, which in turn has given me the confidence to apply.
I love that perspective shift! It's subtle but so powerful.
@@JenniferBrick😂 so is this a sign I should major in accounting finance instead of business administration 🙃 I keep telling myself I can't do math
If you can do basic arithmetic then you can do accounting. It's more about rules than about math, a bit like law. It's also considered more technical and practical knowledge than some of the other financial majors, so people like seeing it on a resume. I would say to go for it. I suck at math too but got a degree in accounting. Just make sure to study well and. you'll see if you have any interest or potential in the subject from your first accounting class.
I was just telling my sister yesterday that I want to practice being more delusional. Delusional people seem to have a better life lol.
“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.” -Charles Bukowski.
Since I started being delulu about my own skills and achievements, some people started being jealous of me even though I wasn’t achieving that much. I just realized that I was faking it while I was making it, and people around me actually believed that I’m better/more competent than them. It’s crazy
Yeah who cares? Are you actually better than them? Are you stronger then them?
Can you beat them in a fight?
@@RekhaSankar-c6nwhy are you so salty in these comments
In many ways, this also explains high school clicks. The queen bee is also delusionally confident they are all that. Everyone is drawn to them, even if you hate them.
aren't they also usually rich? lololol
when you said "Being delulu about you you" I subscribed 😂
Haha yay! Welcome!
Break every big goal into 10 small steps. Only look at the step that is next.
Can you do this one step? Yes!
Great tip!
I used to be delulu. Coming from a middle income family and a poor country, I used to believe I could travel the world. Not even being the best student, I got 2 scholarships (one at 16 and other at 18) and I was able to travel to Europe and Asia.
Somewhat in some stage of my life i became the total opposite. I'm not negative but I'm "realistic". I believe that the risk of having that much self-confidence is that when you start to fail, you fall to the conclusion that everything you tought about yourself was wrong and you were wrong to dream above your expectations. That you must not dream too high because you fall harder. I know this is not a good mentality, but it's so hard to get out of there! Especially when your material situation tells you the opposite 😢
Me going delulu: I’m going to be a successful writer and filmmaker. My goals to become that I am working towards has zero impact or anything to do with my current job.
The toxicity in my workplace is bombarded by those with unchecked egos. I have coping skills to skate through each shift, however, my patience is running thin as of late.
Am in a good place now, which has a potential to make my writing and filmmaking process full time. In the meantime, I will continue to project positive energy throughout my work day, knowing that my days to work on making my dreams come true are nearer.
She’s very right. I was super dululu during covid and basically made an 180 on my career. Turns out I’m good at this new thing and loves it.
That said, if I wasn’t delulu…I’d probably stay put at my old job with no growth lol
We have to have confidence to take those risks and bet on ourselves. I'm so happy it enabled you to step into the next version of you!
omg chad is reminding me so much of my ex crushes. especially this one guy, i used to not like him, and think he was so cocky, but i think i was also a bit jealous of how sure of himself he seemed 😭😭
Good Morning Jennifer ! All my life , when I have had success I have visualized it. I might not actually have a ton of actual self confidence but I project it amongst my peers at work or & in general interactions. I try to be prepared to deal with calmly & firmly any situation. That preparation comes in handy. Have a wonderful day !
Hope you have a great day too, David!
This is hard to unpack like I have low self esteem and deep self hatred it's hard to be successful when I actually have a really great job. I struggle so much and it has a lot to do with my confidence. I really needed to see this
I subscribed just bc of this video! Delulu all 2024
It's my word for the year
Dreaming big, not judging the part of you that dreams big, while counting your blessings in the present. Hard combo to stay on track with, but it does improve outlook on life. I always find it helpful to write down what success means to me every year or so, because that definition can change a lot too.
That is means can shift majorly! That's a great practice to annually check-in and have intentionality to it.
You are so right and lot of people don't get this.
Excellent video. I see it more as a radical form of self-love. You love yourself so much that you end up infecting yourself with that positivity, and because of that, you also infect others with the same form of positivity. This can explain why these people are pleasant to be around - even if we look at them as kind of "delulu". If anything, we all need this delusion in our lives. We need to believe in ourselves.
Records are meant to be broken. Everyone says it's impossible until it's been made possible, then suddenly, everybody wants to achieve it. Break down the word impossible and it just means "I'm possible". So, when someone says it's impossible I'll just go "thank you, I know I'm possible" and smile.
I have understood this concept for a long time, but my biggest question is...how can one achieve this and still keep their integrity, honesty, and morals? If you are dishonest with yourself, you will also be that way with others. Believing I'm yourself is one thing, but to get lost in delusion is another. It will bleed into your personal life, and not create true happiness.
My ex was delusionally confident, and everyone would believe his lies because of how confidently he said them. He was great at sales, but avoidant in reality and our relationship. I left him because he couldn't be real with me anymore or himself, and ultimately got lost in the delusions he told himself.
This is an awesome video! I totally agree, I've been living like this for awhile. People say I live in my own bubble (in a negative way) but I'm succeeding in a lot of things I do.
I have been a delulu type person for a couple of decades now. I agree with everything you said about having self belief and then working towards your goals with all the self confidence and vision of your better self. I have achieved great things with this and hope to continue to achieve more of my goals and dreams. Right now I am delulu that I will be a successful, well paid artist and content creator. Is this my current reality? No, but I can see it and feel it and believe it will happen. You can call me delusional but I don’t care. I believe the universe has my back and that I can achieve almost anything I want. It is a happier way to exist.
Yes!🍀✨💕
I work for my self as an artist and lately I had been in a bit of a rut. I watched this video and it inspired me to start filling out grant and residency applications to give me more opportunities for growth. As a traditional artist I need to be more delusional. Thanks!
I freaking love your channel! You go girl!
Thanks friend!
LOL...."Jennifer, you're a youtuber!" Girl this video is AWESOME!
But seriously... I expect a nomination.
I have to rewatch this , wow, so deep.
I’m so excited to see what content you make now! This was great. I used to watch your videos every morning as I cried getting ready for work. Now, I’ve quit my job and I’ve been working for myself for 1 years now! I needed this video because I need to be delusional, I talk myself down too much!
My confidence mainly stems from: If I botch this [date, job interview, opportunity, position, etc] there are 1 million targets around me to aim for next.
I frequently question my own competence & I view that as a good thing. It lets me reflect if Ive achieved success in a similar endeavor previously, remember what I did wrong last time, and evaluate what additional things I need to learn to succeed. Then I go for it. Knowing new opportunities are infinite, I readily give myself permission to fail. I don't want to fail, I will do my best not to fail, but if I do... oh well
Great tip
I don't know about this...I've tried that earlier in my career but haven't been successful. When I started getting more realistic but playing smart, then I broke a glass ceiling. You need to know what you bring to the table and keep your standards high and dont settle. That is what works.I have seen people who were so delusional that they even said they had a job title that they didnt have. It reads as pathetic and weird. I think that being a realist and knowing your worth is what actually makes you successful. Not being delusional and thinking you have traits or skills that you dont have or are at a level that you are clearly not.
I think we're talking about the same thing - I qualify a few times in this video I'm not talking about being delusional in terms of disassociation from reality, but about being delulu. This venacular is really about being fully self aware and building confidence in a way that feels beyond yourself in your previous self-identity. For many of the people I've worked with, they have felt delulu when they admit all their accomplishments and acheivements, and especially when they talk about them. When we're upgrading our self identity there is a lag in our mental model to get there, so we need to embrace that it seems delulu until we embody it (and rightfully so!).
I disagree. I accepted a job I wasn't fully qualified for. But I learnt how to do some stuff and I upgraded my skills to complete the project. And the project was successful at the end. I was surprised by myself. Everyone thought I was doing that for so many years😅😅
Thank you for this video
I love to paint, and thought I'll share it online when I'm good enough, yet i saw artist on the same caliber as mine proudly show their artwork, and sell it at prices that got me choke on m coffee... and I asked myself, "What do they have that I don't? I can paint that! And I hit me, they believe in themselves enough to proudly share it. So I'm starting to be delulu, and sure enough, I had commissions requests, and I am loving it! I still have to work on my skills, but I decided not to wait to be "there" cause I might never get there if I don't push myself!
Just came accross your channel and I'm sooo obsessed, especially with this topic. Because yes, we're soo taught to underlay pur achievements in order to be "socially accepted." But is only ends up costing us our self confidence and ability to manifest more financial success by keeping us constrained to the corporate ladder. Thank you for sharing this. Now I know I'm not alone...
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Welcome new friend 💜
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Love it- thank you, Jennifer! Always a fan of your videos. My last performance review listed courage/confidence as my main area to improve in. This helps!
It stings to hear that on a performance review - I really hope there was some perspectives in here that help you!
Being delulu is the solulu
Entering my DELULU era as of 2day… THANK YOU !! 😚😚😚😚
Every time she doubles her cell phone screen, My brain goes right to the Rick and Morty episode 'Bethic Twinstinct' ❤️😁💯🔥😝🥰
Woohoo hearing your accomplishments at the end 🎉🎉 you go girl!
I love this video and will be rewatching it to take notes! I want to see more content like this from you ❤
Yesss for taking notes! I'm so glad you're enjoying the new format 💜
I love the title and message!
Love this ❤
Really helpful perspectives-thank you!
Does anyone agree about the metal music though? It just seemed natural in my head.
Yes that is the music I’d imagine Chad listening to 😂
@@Ria.x8889 I'm glad it's not just me lol
@@JenniferBrickWatch Metal Motivator?
Whew... Didn't know I needed this wakeup call.
I LOVE IT
YOU VIDEO
IT´S LIKE I REALLY NEEDED TO WATCH SOMETHING LIKE THIS
I FINALLY I DID IT
Awesome channel 😊
7:33 same goes for desire to start a TH-cam channel. I’ve found myself studying and learning for years to create a really informative video while at the same time a person who wasn’t really into the topic I live for creates a video in 2 days not really digging deep 🤦♀️🤦♀️ And people watch it, and they consider him and video interesting. Not to mention he used AI.
I knew it, I knew it, I was questioning rather to be delusional and if it was a good thing, and I knew it.
Oh, Jennifer, I'm so sorry to have to say this, but it's "Locus of control," not "Locust of control."
Locus means "place" in latin (think of the words local, location, located), and it refers refers to from *where* (which place/locus) the control is originating. A locust is just a bug. ☺️ Hope this helps.
I have been studying this for 20 years. My brain knows it. My script knew it. I literally say locus multiple times. But Final cut pro autocorrect decided to spice it up 🤦🏼♀️ So the definition of two well know words isn't helpful, but your effort to correct my fuck up to clarify for others is.
How delusional am I. Just relocated to a new city after getting released from my job with no job. Do people call me delusional, I call it not giving a F*** and follow your dreams. In all honesty I would be doing the same thing if I stayed at home.
the amount of people I saw growing up that bullshitted their way through jobs, basically were more confident than competent while I was sitting here being too humble about my competence and minimising my efforts - who do you think was more successful and got where they wanted to be even if they weren't the best? it certainly wasn't me.
This is amazing, Jennifer. Nobel Peace Prize for you. Hit at the right time. There's this guy I really like, and for the first time in my nearly 36 years, I'm like "this is the one." I'm not the person to do that, but how many married people say, "when you know you know?"
As an optimistic and independent young woman, I was not taught to believe in myself. I was taught that I couldn't do anything. In my head I said that I can't be a housewife. Yet today, I remembered how much I loved cooking as a little kid, how I watched 15 small children weekly in a house alone when I was 13, and very successfully. Sure, I still struggle with a few things, but I had so much potential to be that person.
I get so nervous about this. I feel weird saying how I feel about this guy, especially after being rejected by maybe hundreds of guys for one reason or another. Talking to him recently, I accidentally said something very harsh. It really hurt him. I have the harshest tongue on the planet, and I'm not exaggerating. I realized that I have to stop that, or I'll never get what I want.
And then your video pops up. In the spirit of delulu, it was meant to be. I'm trying my best to hold my head up and believe. It is a force that weighs on people, that to think of a positive outcome fills you with terror and makes you want to cry.
Oh my god! 🎉this is such a necessary topic! Thank you so much for creating this video! It has such an important message and i think it's not the delusional thinking but about humility and the fact that most of us are afraid to show off our achievements because don't wanna come across as bragging about our own success so we minimize ourself because that's the norm. We don't want people to feel envy for our success. I have been to a leadership training at a previous company where i used work and i remember the trainer said that success is dependent on 3 key points: your confidence level, self-expression (how you are able to show the world what you can do and what you have achieved) and professionalism (your knowledge and experiences). He said that without higher selfworth and confidence and without strong self-expression ( speaking, writing, online and offline) you will come across as incompetent most of the time even if you have the perfect knowledge and experiences. But still many companies expect people to be humble and stay small and we wonder why aren't we successful after a decade of woking our ass off at jobs and why did'nt they give us the raise we desired to get. It's because of humility and the image of incompetence. Whoever read this, wish you lots of success!
Being delusional is gonna cause a lot of people to be real disappointed lol
But how does this fit with the well-established Dunning Kruger effect?? Doesn't being delusional conflict with the effect?
Old seal song craxy just make sure its the good crazy not the stuff that will hurt you.
Being delusional about your own ability works better if you are already rich, or get lucky, and get hand picked by the already rich. In any other case, you'll just crash and burn.
Believing in yourself is not the same thing. For example Rachel "thinking every man wants to marry her" is delusional, but Rachel thinking that a high percentage of men will seek her attention, is probably right on target. Of course, Rachel may have doubts because she "isn't conventionally attractive," or doesn't have a "bubbly personality," etc. However, if someone is smiling while talking to you, they're telling you with their body language that whatever you are doing is attractive to them (not necessarily romantically, but it is a door opener). You don't need to be detached from reality, you just need to see the half full side of the glass better.
Testimony: I have been delusional (told I was delulu) and gotten what I wanted.
If the people who make the rules don't play by there own and will you lose by playing theirs, then what is the point of playing by there rules??
🔥 This girl reminds me Melissa Joan Hart.
Omg best compliment ever! Thank you!
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In my family it’s a disgrace to not have a job but shameful to tell other people WHEN you’re successful. I could never win
Needed this! Great video.
delulu is such a cute word, de-lulu
Love this video. Key takeaway: Don't be mad at Chad, be more like him!😂😂
This was great
I'm delulu and proud now. Hehe.
i was overconfident and got fired XD but i think they were promoting people based on who kisses ass most in that company. They also fired a lot other people
This is why the world is like it is. Psicopaths and bullshiters are at the top of everything
My bipolar was onto something🎉
He that would perfect himself in any art
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confusion rather than learning
How long do you recommend coasting in a job? In April I make 2 years and ive been coasting even when someone retired and had to take on the job of 2. I think my managers know that I’m to valuable to lose but they are not giving any compensation and keep saying “please don’t leave us” I haven’t even applied to other jobs yet but now I am contemplating. I am so comfortable in my current job and I really like the flexibility but in the long run I know this is not good and it will be harder to find a new job if I stay too long.
Is illusion bias why toxic bosses micromanage and stalk?
Micromanagement stems of insecurity and a lack of self trust that is being projected outwards.
@@JenniferBrick I have the feeling management knows this more then they speak of it.
Girl. You read me for filth in this video 😂
I too can be a Chad.
That thumbnail 😂
That’s why religious people are happy
I wish you had 1Million followers😊
We'll get there 💜
OMG, I work with exact that Rachael :D and yeah, I'm better at my job, but was raised to be humble, so she pisses me off big time :D
I've been frustrated with Rachel in the past. An interesting question to reflect on is, 'why is she bothering me so much.'
yasss,
Didn’t even include the Intro music you butchered in the description...
that’s ok no one does here, thanks anyway.
[String Arpeggios By Boris Skalsky] 🎻🥺
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I’ve found my tribe of fellow delulu’s 😂
Welcome 💜
I hope the creator sees this. Listen being delusional is great and all but it only works on stupid or experienced people. I have found myself being UNDERCONFIDENT for the past five years. I spent time sucking ass in my career, being humble but NEVER giving up. Listen, once you get in a room with people who are truly and genuinely confident from YEARS of experience, they are going to see right through your bullshit, or worse, call you out on it.
I find it very ironic that you are trying to emulate chads are techbros. You know they are delusionaly confident even if they did not put in the work to be there. So you wanna be like them? You wanna get to that spot that they are in so that other people can look up and you and be like “damn this person is just an overconfident jackass”? I’ve seen this happen to so many managers before where they get positions that they did not earn by being delusional and absolutely everyone knows that they should not be there, but no one says anything. Sure that’s good shorterm but long term? Don’t you truly want to be a master of your craft by ACCURATELY comparing yourself to your competition?
I think too many people nowadays are too overconfident which is why social media is a thing. Idk you do you though. I’d rather take the long route and suck for a long time rather than be delusional and get caught up second guessing myself. I got to where I am today not by faking it till I made it or by being delusional, I got here because I’m undeniably nice at what I do. I want people to look up to me and understand that I am good at what I do.
Again that’s just me.
I’m suddenly more aware of the Chads and I’m not a fan at all! but I respect their strategy 😅
lol same.
awesome video
What achievements? I have no achievements :(
I should be a billionsire if thats all it takes 😅😅😊😊
My Trumper boss is losing it. He is moving out of the country this year to retire. Far away from Trump. Hes been telling me i should apply for his job. That I can do it. Then recently he told me that he and upper mgmt discussed how im not ready and how im a save the world liberal. Im in the center yet i dont even vote in the wash dc show of repulsively rich actors. They also supposedly made fun of 2 irrelevant past jobs of mine. Now he is playing like he is forgetful and back to pumping me up. Too late. I saw the real him. Glad i have not been breaking my back to get mgr position. Ive been thru this lie before so i know not to get too hopeful. Im just naturally a bit hyper and like to get work done. Im seen as a dummy just for being me but atleast i understand it now. No need for any boss to feel control over my wanting to work by creating the promotion delusion. I love these videos. They are the best on yt regarding employment
How long would it be reasonable to be away from work when you are burntout?
Also, doesn't this only apply to cis white men - like the We Work guy? Women who exude overconfidence are often attacked and dismissed.
Dude, what do I do? I thought I was really good at manifesting And now I’m just like sitting rejected in my house because I thought I went to a lake magical place on my birthday I thought I was gonna move to a place I thought it was all like nice people and it was all like sex traffickers like no one told me
so is this a sign I should major in accounting finance instead of business administration 🙃 I keep telling myself I can't do math
@@aena5995 I don’t know look up Sammys mermaid gang those people saying that they manifested being good at stuff you just have to do a mental diet
I understand the point you’re trying to convey however I feel like using the word delusional to replace “confident” is ableist and rude.
@@AirGee Okay, none of that changes the fact that it’s just ableist … Delusion and confidence are quite literally not the same
@@AirGee people with delusion disorder are targeted. Pretending and delusion aren’t the same thing either.
@sativaprincess Well , That's Just Like You're Opinion Man .. ✌️
@@AirGee I didn’t say it’s an attack I said it’s insensitive and ignorant
@@davidellis5141 Good for you
Great. Another nonsensical, non-word being used to describe something that’s already been said over and over again. Not new news amiga. This is regurgitation.
This is remarkably stupid…as a business leader self awareness is key vs overconfidence. Most tech bros crash and burn. There is one Zuckerberg
so is this a sign I should major in accounting finance instead of business administration 🙃 I keep telling myself I can't do math
Is there necessarily a contradiction between being self-aware and being delusional? Knowing that your knowledge that you'll succeed is a delusion, because you can only assume sucess, is self awareness.
I know just cause you think highly of yourself don't mean shit
LOCUS of control, not locust. The word “locus” is Latin for “place,” the place of control. “Locust” is an insect. I want to watch your video; I think you have something important to say, but this is an unnecessary distraction. It detracts from an otherwise professionally offered message.
Unbelievable you people are Unbelievable
ur voice is so exhausting
Not as exhausting as your internalized misogyny 🤷🏼♀️
@@JenniferBrick What is that?
I don't find it exhausting, it's a regular woman's voice. And I also don't see it as misogyny, since some people, women and men have exhausting voices.
I was delulu and applied for a job i had no experience in and got rejected but i feel happy still rejection is redirection!
I used to base my self worth on my job and realised i’m just self sabotaging myself and my job doesn’t define me i define my job
I made my resume sound good and experienced even though i’m not that experienced my idea is fake it till you make it.
I’m so delusional but my family and friends aren’t and more realistic and logical and keep trying to humble me and i can’t find people who get my delulu views on life