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YOU DA best!! Your energy is comendable. I have been focusing on me over a year ago after listening to you . The silent treatment is still on going by the narcisst wife. 32 yr marriage .after looking up answers , I ended up quora, your daily videos were so my pillars. we still don’t speak to, I started night school, volunteering at PGA and LPGA international also, if I get the spot that I wanted in tournaments , I would fly and made up my mind I am not going back to the narcisst wife . They have no life of their own. These days I am learning Spanish 150 hrs with teacher . The winters will be in Mexico and summer at home in Vancouver . The zero empathy stuck in my head and I always thought of her as a 5 year , baby. And with those projections , it gets easier .. Good luck !!!!
It is baiting.They cast a strong hook.Then their hook comes back empty, and they are enraged.Self in care and focus.Moving on and self purpose.Be value oriented ❤❤
I need to practice, yup, ok, gotta go. To disconnect when he is looking for attention. It’s painful for me, I feel like I’m being mean or rude. Crazy thing is when he talks over me or ignores me when I’m talking mfo doesn’t feel the slightest tingle. I’m not out yet due to money. Working on my self my goals for sure.
Thank you Rebecca! After the research and the findings and the pain I decided to give it all to God Himself to fix this for me! I forgave them and hopefully can keep my mouth shut since I gave it to God!
We are attracted to those who bear the same wounds. Compounding the cycle of abuse is ultimately the damage it causes to your very identity, making the picking up of the pieces all the more arduous.
I rent a studio apartment next to a house that's being rented out. I think the people renting it could be highly narcissistic. The woman there gives me bad vibes. She always wears a black dress every day and I think she may be into witchcraft. When I've talk to her I get nervous because my gut is telling me to run. There's a laundry machine next to my apartment that can be annoying if used too much. Her nephew moved from Montana to her house in California. He started doing laundry at 1am in the morning. Then she started doing laundry at 5:30am in the morning. I asked her about 3 times to stop doing the laundry in the middle of the night. Now she's doing laundry 8 hours a day. The only people in the house right now is her, her husband, and their daughter. She started doing 3 hour laundry cycles for 1 load of laundry after I complained and she's running her dryer when she never used her washing machine. I think this is her being passive aggressive to try and bother me, but jokes on her because she's wasting money and I have a way to block out the noise. She told me she doesn't have a laundry business, so I don't see why 3 people would need to do 20 loads of laundry in a week. It's psychopath behavior too because if I walked outside and I saw a person using an air horn to scare a cat in a cage, I would think 'what a psychopath.' My studio apartment is a box and I have a psycho who's making noise at it for hours a day all because she didn't like me telling her to not make noise in the middle of the night next to my apartment. It shows a lack of empathy, passive aggressive behavior, and an attempt for narcissistic supply.
@@rwdchannel2901 I have a daughter who does this and God forbid I say anything about it because I’ve tried and of course get excuses and fury in my face. All on my dime. She’s gone soon, but she doesn’t know 😁
My Boundaries technique consists of folks not having access to me like before and not communicating w/individual on a regular basis. If I don’t want to attend an event I don’t and do not explain why…everything is what I want to do. Others opinions don’t count and I’m a happy camper. #independent 😊💕
Yes my only child is one my husband was one but my son is far worse. I'm 79 and 53 yrs in total have suffered. Only finding out now this week what I been going through. Narcism, wish I knew earlier.
My former narc manager's retaliatory behavior violated equal protection and pay laws. I plan to file suit and will reveal some of the narc's dirty deeds. I now understand the depth of the narc's vindicativeness. He has the a senior leader in his pocket so i am afraid there will be unexpected repercussions in suing the narc and the company I worked for.
17:52 sustained grey rocking can induce an extinction collapse and super nova. It isn’t pretty. For the first year afterward, the narc was a white dwarf. Now it is a black hole. If I was to fall in again (I won’t) it’ll restore itself to red giant.
As far as gaslighting, my last ex tried telling me that something that didn't happen 2 weeks ago happened. I knew it didn't happen but I had to fuck with her head because she was trying to fuck with mine. I told her that that conversation didn't take place 2 weeks ago. It was 3 weeks ago and she changed her mind. And I asked her why she's changing her mind again. You should've seen the stupefied look on her face. That's how you call out a gaslighter and give them a WTF moment.
I've dealt with more than one narcissist. You just render me of something Rebecca. Setting boundries and enforcing them are very important. I'm also ganna say that what's safe for me isn't ganna be safe for others because I know how to fight. I've done more than 20 years training in martial arts and other combative systems. I've been in situations where my training allowed me to come out on top. I've also spent a little over 4 years studying narcissism, gaslighting, and a few other elements of dark psychology. Rebecca is absolutely right when she says to not put yourself in danger. She's absolutely right. I can fight a black eyed monster though. Rebecca, you wanna hire me?
I Continue to learn about the different types of lures that narcissists can carry in their tackle-box to hook their victims and reel them inn . Lure implies a drawing into danger , evil , or difficulty through attracting and deceiving . Here are some of the different types of lures and their names the narcissist might try to use . They may use that Lure called ( ENTICE ) which is used for ; drawing by artful or adroit means . They may also try using the ( INVEIGLE ) Lure ; which is used for enticing by cajoling or flattering . And let us not overlook that they may have a ( DECOY ) in that tackle-box for luring someone into entrapment by artifice . So watch out for the ( TEMPT ) Lure ; which is used in the presenting of an attraction so strong that it overcomes the restraints of conscience or better judgment . And let us not leave out that Lure called ( SEDUCE ) that with which they use for ; A leading astray by persuasion or false promises . PS . Just think about it . That's just some of the Lures that we may find in a Narcissist's tackle-box .
Dear Rebecca my son is in a pickle with his narcissist X Wife how can he stop her from not answering his solicitor about her spending she is lying about how much she spends on everything but when she’s asked for proof her solicitor comes back with non sense so my son is paying all the mortgage and child support and spousal maintenance she’s claiming she can’t afford anything and she’s just been to Florida for 2 weeks wish you were in the UK ❤
Using grey rock worked best for me. After I got divorced he continued to be abusive at child exchanges and in text. Eventually I researched narcissism and found out he had borderline personality disorder from his mom and it all made sense. I used grey rock and his frequency of outbursts lessened. Now he has somehow gotten disability and wants to take more parenting time so he can get more food stamps and other government benefits. He whines that his current situation is unsustainable and needs to find a way to fix it. He is all about the oh poor me and wanting that attention. I cannot see any physical disability and have no idea what his issue is. He is now taking me to mediation to change the custody arrangement. Funny thing is around the time he got disability he bought a third 90s era truck and now he is getting new windows on his house but he needs more parenting time so he can get more government assistance to survive.... Makes no sense. I have taken to doing research on how to deal with him again. Documentation was also very important to me to deal with the gaslighting. It helped me see what the truth is and not have that shaken by him. I think him seeing me not react to his nonsense affected him the most.
I'm 79 and he has a wife to back him up I have no one he bought a house half with me and then abandoned me and left me with all financial issues and now I'm penniless and he denies everything. I can't sell the house unless he signs and I think he and wife waiting 33 yrs for me to die. He worms his way escapes signing
REBECCA can narcism be inherited from parents. Or is it maybe learnt from narcist parent? As my husband abused me emotionally 25 yrs. I've only found out about narcism now and I've had 33 yrs from my only child a son this terrible narcism, neglect, abandonment and now in financial mess. All alone no help
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YOU DA best!! Your energy is comendable. I have been focusing on me over a year ago after listening to you . The silent treatment is still on going by the narcisst wife. 32 yr marriage .after looking up answers , I ended up quora, your daily videos were so my pillars. we still don’t speak to,
I started night school, volunteering at PGA and LPGA international also, if I get the spot that I wanted in tournaments , I would fly and made up my mind I am not going back to the narcisst wife . They have no life of their own. These days I am learning Spanish 150 hrs with teacher . The winters will be in Mexico and summer at home in Vancouver . The zero empathy stuck in my head and I always thought of her as a 5 year , baby. And with those projections , it gets easier .. Good luck !!!!
Learning to let go emotionally after 61yrs
You’ve got this! It’s hard, but you will be ok. Wish you the best and that you find PEACE and JOY.🌺
It drives them nuts so well, they amp up their rebuff, even interrupt over your voice so they can't hear your calm.
I refuse to take the bait. I refuse to take the bait. I refuse to take the bait.
They push my buttons they like to tear down my boundaries and peace
right they never own up to anything. But they tear you limb from limb for the slightest thing.
I have adopted a grey rock approach to talking to conversation. Grey rock conversation style.
I shut down the gaslighting. I shut down the gaslighting. I shut down the gaslightlighting.
It is baiting.They cast a strong hook.Then their hook comes back empty, and they are enraged.Self in care and focus.Moving on and self purpose.Be value oriented ❤❤
Bingo ✅️
They used to love to torture me
They love to scapegoat me n I'm the goodie girl in the family...
I pray my kids don't end up with these kinds of people. They deserve a "good/better", healthy, thriving kind of life, instead. Every person does.
I pray the same thing for my boys.
I learned & love the full sentence of 'No'. Powerful and I don't repeat myself. No is a full sentence.
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You're so helpful and appreciated
I need to practice, yup, ok, gotta go. To disconnect when he is looking for attention. It’s painful for me, I feel like I’m being mean or rude. Crazy thing is when he talks over me or ignores me when I’m talking mfo doesn’t feel the slightest tingle. I’m not out yet due to money. Working on my self my goals for sure.
Thanks foe feed back when they're degrading me
Thank you Rebecca! After the research and the findings and the pain I decided to give it all to God Himself to fix this for me! I forgave them and hopefully can keep my mouth shut since I gave it to God!
I can do this. I will not be controlled.
I'm trying to recover from this and it's hard sometimes
It takes a long to
"Got It"🎉❣️
We are attracted to those who bear the same wounds. Compounding the cycle of abuse is ultimately the damage it causes to your very identity, making the picking up of the pieces all the more arduous.
I rent a studio apartment next to a house that's being rented out. I think the people renting it could be highly narcissistic. The woman there gives me bad vibes. She always wears a black dress every day and I think she may be into witchcraft. When I've talk to her I get nervous because my gut is telling me to run.
There's a laundry machine next to my apartment that can be annoying if used too much. Her nephew moved from Montana to her house in California. He started doing laundry at 1am in the morning. Then she started doing laundry at 5:30am in the morning. I asked her about 3 times to stop doing the laundry in the middle of the night. Now she's doing laundry 8 hours a day. The only people in the house right now is her, her husband, and their daughter. She started doing 3 hour laundry cycles for 1 load of laundry after I complained and she's running her dryer when she never used her washing machine. I think this is her being passive aggressive to try and bother me, but jokes on her because she's wasting money and I have a way to block out the noise. She told me she doesn't have a laundry business, so I don't see why 3 people would need to do 20 loads of laundry in a week.
It's psychopath behavior too because if I walked outside and I saw a person using an air horn to scare a cat in a cage, I would think 'what a psychopath.' My studio apartment is a box and I have a psycho who's making noise at it for hours a day all because she didn't like me telling her to not make noise in the middle of the night next to my apartment. It shows a lack of empathy, passive aggressive behavior, and an attempt for narcissistic supply.
@@rwdchannel2901 I have a daughter who does this and God forbid I say anything about it because I’ve tried and of course get excuses and fury in my face. All on my dime. She’s gone soon, but she doesn’t know 😁
Move. you have choices. God will lead if you pray 🙏
My Boundaries technique consists of folks not having access to me like before and not communicating w/individual on a regular basis. If I don’t want to attend an event I don’t and do not explain why…everything is what I want to do. Others opinions don’t count and I’m a happy camper. #independent 😊💕
I claim this. Many narcissists in my life, including my children.
Yes my only child is one my husband was one but my son is far worse. I'm 79 and 53 yrs in total have suffered. Only finding out now this week what I been going through. Narcism, wish I knew earlier.
Do u think it's passed from mother or father to child
My former narc manager's retaliatory behavior violated equal protection and pay laws. I plan to file suit and will reveal some of the narc's dirty deeds. I now understand the depth of the narc's vindicativeness. He has the a senior leader in his pocket so i am afraid there will be unexpected repercussions in suing the narc and the company I worked for.
I'm focusing on me🎉
Have used I will not argue. And mean it. If they follow you yelling, pretend they are not there or take a video if you have your phone.
You can only handle. You will feel so wonderful.
Wow the love addict concept is so relatable
Thank you for your effort, your time.
They know my weakness
17:52 sustained grey rocking can induce an extinction collapse and super nova. It isn’t pretty. For the first year afterward, the narc was a white dwarf. Now it is a black hole. If I was to fall in again (I won’t) it’ll restore itself to red giant.
I really should keep my toxic friends at bay lol
As far as gaslighting, my last ex tried telling me that something that didn't happen 2 weeks ago happened. I knew it didn't happen but I had to fuck with her head because she was trying to fuck with mine. I told her that that conversation didn't take place 2 weeks ago. It was 3 weeks ago and she changed her mind. And I asked her why she's changing her mind again. You should've seen the stupefied look on her face. That's how you call out a gaslighter and give them a WTF moment.
"Got it" "I'm focusing on me"
It's hard to erase them from my life it's been crazy l wasn't living right years ago l took the bait that's because l needed somewhere to live
I've dealt with more than one narcissist. You just render me of something Rebecca. Setting boundries and enforcing them are very important. I'm also ganna say that what's safe for me isn't ganna be safe for others because I know how to fight. I've done more than 20 years training in martial arts and other combative systems. I've been in situations where my training allowed me to come out on top. I've also spent a little over 4 years studying narcissism, gaslighting, and a few other elements of dark psychology. Rebecca is absolutely right when she says to not put yourself in danger. She's absolutely right. I can fight a black eyed monster though. Rebecca, you wanna hire me?
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I'm in between the bible and the narcissist l really need to be drauma free it's hard sometimes l know everything isn't always going to smooth sailing
I Continue to learn about the different types of lures that narcissists can carry in their tackle-box to hook their victims and reel them inn .
Lure implies a drawing into danger , evil , or difficulty through attracting and deceiving .
Here are some of the different types of lures and their names the narcissist might try to use .
They may use that Lure called ( ENTICE ) which is used for ; drawing by artful or adroit means .
They may also try using the ( INVEIGLE ) Lure ; which is used for enticing by cajoling or flattering .
And let us not overlook that they may have a ( DECOY ) in that tackle-box for luring someone into entrapment by artifice .
So watch out for the ( TEMPT ) Lure ; which is used in the presenting of an attraction so strong that it overcomes the restraints of conscience or better judgment .
And let us not leave out that Lure called ( SEDUCE ) that with which they use for ; A leading astray by persuasion or false promises .
PS .
Just think about it .
That's just some of the Lures that we may find in a Narcissist's tackle-box .
Excellent information 💯💯💯 thank you ☺️
I'm focusing on me
Got it!! 🎉.
Got it!
I was working around them and was little bit toxic they like to thrive
One stretch out hand with [f]ive fingers; ■ "Stop." M
It's hard sometimes
Got it Grey rock
Im in control
I should respect myself
I'm trying to heal it's hard sometimes
They can be such a PITA at times! 🤯 RUN!!!!
Absolutely
I hope I got it
I'm just fine some of my neighbors really having some issues they can't control😊
Dear Rebecca my son is in a pickle with his narcissist X Wife how can he stop her from not answering his solicitor about her spending she is lying about how much she spends on everything but when she’s asked for proof her solicitor comes back with non sense so my son is paying all the mortgage and child support and spousal maintenance she’s claiming she can’t afford anything and she’s just been to Florida for 2 weeks wish you were in the UK ❤
Im focusing on me
It’s hard because I still care for her. Damn it . She was the best and the worse . What’s wrong with me . 😢
Ask what’s wrong with her?
Im dealing with me ...
Totally
Don't want to stoop. Teflon still sounds good, though.
Using grey rock worked best for me. After I got divorced he continued to be abusive at child exchanges and in text. Eventually I researched narcissism and found out he had borderline personality disorder from his mom and it all made sense. I used grey rock and his frequency of outbursts lessened. Now he has somehow gotten disability and wants to take more parenting time so he can get more food stamps and other government benefits. He whines that his current situation is unsustainable and needs to find a way to fix it. He is all about the oh poor me and wanting that attention. I cannot see any physical disability and have no idea what his issue is. He is now taking me to mediation to change the custody arrangement. Funny thing is around the time he got disability he bought a third 90s era truck and now he is getting new windows on his house but he needs more parenting time so he can get more government assistance to survive.... Makes no sense. I have taken to doing research on how to deal with him again. Documentation was also very important to me to deal with the gaslighting. It helped me see what the truth is and not have that shaken by him. I think him seeing me not react to his nonsense affected him the most.
I see this!!
Got It
I got this😮
got it
I'm 79 and he has a wife to back him up I have no one he bought a house half with me and then abandoned me and left me with all financial issues and now I'm penniless and he denies everything. I can't sell the house unless he signs and I think he and wife waiting 33 yrs for me to die. He worms his way escapes signing
Got it😢
How to threaten exposing them?
How?
I'm doing way better now
Can this NARCISM be passed from parent to child or learnt behaviour?
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Rebecca i am 70 and am married and we take care ofmy greatgrand children and own our home im retired and i just have too indure. The meaness
REBECCA can narcism be inherited from parents. Or is it maybe learnt from narcist parent? As my husband abused me emotionally 25 yrs. I've only found out about narcism now and I've had 33 yrs from my only child a son this terrible narcism, neglect, abandonment and now in financial mess. All alone no help
I need baby steps
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They used to love to go fishing with me
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Not a very consice presentation. Just a mix of advertising and spliced content to seem like it is refreshed. 1.5 hours to convey 5 points?
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She needs God. Eternity is more important. ✝️✡️🛐💟🏳️
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Racheal you kinda sound like the narcisist.
I know better to take the bait 😉
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I know better to take the bait lol
Go(t it!!...
They know my weakness
I'm focusing on me
Got it!
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