When marriage of girls are delayed : جب بچیوں کی شادی میں تاخیر ہو جائے
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 พ.ย. 2024
- Video Title: When Marriage of Girls is Delayed in Subcontinent Culture
Description:
In this insightful video, Professor Dr. Javed Iqbal explores the social, cultural, and psychological challenges faced by families in the subcontinent when the marriage of girls is delayed. He addresses the societal pressures, stigmas, and emotional toll on both parents and daughters, highlighting how traditional norms and expectations shape these experiences.
Dr. Javed dives deep into the reasons behind delayed marriages, including education, career priorities, and evolving cultural dynamics. He also offers practical advice on how families can navigate these challenges with patience, understanding, and a focus on emotional well-being.
This video aims to spark a meaningful conversation about balancing cultural values with modern realities while fostering an environment of support and empathy for young women.
Join the discussion by sharing your thoughts, and don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more valuable insights on societal issues!
انتہائی حساس موضوع اور بہترین اور موثر انداز گفتگو ❤
اللہ کرے ہمارے بیٹوں کو یہ بات سمجھ آجائے اور وہ جہیز کے خلاف عملی اقدامات کرنے لگیں
@@shaguftabhatti1087 sb 1 kaam sy suntay or dusray sy Nikal dyty hyn koi aisa chahy b to hmara so called muaashra ye krne nh dyta
Amen!
True, agreed. Two factor are also important. We are Muslim because we born as Muslim. Moreover, Hindu culture overcomes over Muslim culture.
1000% correct, aj dahej itna common ho gya k hm haram or halal nikah le farq hi bhul gye
Really impressive.... Appreciated.... You are absolutely right jab larkon ki tarbyat ki jae Tau aisi ki jae k unk under yeh gairat honi chahaye or unko pata ho k baiti jiger ka jaan ka tukra Hoti ha ju di jati apko is say barh k or kia ho Sakta
I think the most important is emotional support towards both spouses for one another. Then they can co-op with any matter in life together.
Wah Doctor Saab You are a real practical Human being and Muslim.
You are a real role model.
جہیز کو سنت کہنا محض جہالت ہے - پیارے آقا نے جو جہیز دیا وہ مہر کی رقم سے خریدا گیا تھا جو مولا علی نے پہلے ادا کر دیا تھا
drust
Aap sahi bol rahe hai, Indirect jahez mangte hai
بس قسمت کی بات ہوتی ہے،ضروری نہیں کہ جہیز کا مسئلہ ہو ،ہاں یہ ضرور ہے کہ زہنی طور پر ایک باشعور لڑکی یہ چاہتی ہے کہ وہ ایک باشعور شخص سے شادی کرے ،میری عمر تقریباً پچاس سال کے قریب ہے صرف اس لیے شادی نہیں کی کہ کوئی ہمہ جہت شخصیت نہیں ملی
Allah hum sub par rehem farmae
Agreed
Bad nasseb
@@critics1156 gunah kar liya
Dil khush kar deya sir aap ne....sir aesay hi social issues par videos banaya
You're absolutely right doctor saab. You're giving exactly true reasons for that
It was an honor to have you on our podcast sir.
Aapke andaaz mein koi bhi nahin sochta aaj❤
376 views in just 10 minutes. MashaAllah
Sir Great talk.bless you.
A sensible man can speak like this.
Very right!
جزاک اللہ خیر جی ڈاکٹر صاحب بہت خوبصورت باتیں کر رہے ہیں
asal mai aj kal ki mothers ki demands or thoughts badal gyi hai hr ek maah apny bety k liye srf khubsurat larkiyah dhonti hai jis ki wajha sai bht sari larkiyah unmarried reh jati hai
200 percent
Bahut achchhi baat farmayi hai aapne,
بہت ہی عمدہ خیالات، کیا بات ہے
علاج
72 فرقوں سے نکل کر 1 جماعت بن جانے کا وقت آگیا ہے
ملت/امت میں شامل ہو جاو
خلیفہ وقت کی اطاعت میں ہی برکت ہے اور پاکستان/ اسلامی ممالک کی بقا ہے
علماء سو سے بچیے/ نام نہاد لیڈروں سے بھی
اسلام = امن و سلامتی
فلاحی ریاست
اللھم' لبیک
پاکستان زندہ باد
72 فرقے جھوٹی ہے
آپ کا ہر ہر فقرہ بہت ہی عمدہ ہے
Jazak Allah, boht khoob.
Jazak Allah khair
Dr. Sahab,
Hope that people will understand and rethink .
In sha Allah, your efforts will also be counted for elimination of Dowry demands from society.
Thanks
You are my great leader 🎉🎉🎉🎉
AsalamO Alykum. Agreed with you. V.sensible point of view.
i love this man . pehli dafa kisi admi ko positivity phelatay huay dekha aurton ke liay
great uncle great uncle javed
A practical observation
You are right 👍
very well said sir...but aj kl k lrkon ki mothers boht hi ajeeb or narcissist type k lrkon ki prwarish krny me msroof hain.... agr aj kl ki mayein beton py b betiyon k brabr tawajah dain or apny standards thoray km kr lein to behtr rhy ga
Sir great
Boys in our society are rendered incapable by their families,especially mothers due to undue pampering. They don’t let boys get serious in life,hence they don’t get matured enough and are not ready to take on life challenges. Whereas Women are performing better than men, they are matured and are serious about life,in short there is no compatibility between our carelessness mama’s boys and matured girls.Wives have a lot of duties towards the husbands and if men don’t come to the standard of being responsible husbands and fathers,girls abstain from marrying them.
😂😂 Facebook graduate
Jazakallah Sir.
Well said... I agree with yu
You're a practical Muslim ❤
Dr sahb our culture has made marriage a luxury instead of necessity ,it is very hard for a struggling man to get married nowadays due to very high expectation from girls side, media has polluted minds of people. zina is easier to get now. unfortunately we call ourselves muslim but our practises are just to keep beard and offer prayers but no inculcate true values. however in west i have seen muslims more focusing on true values than in pakistan. we want to look pious but our character/values are flawed.
V well said
Bilkul
Exactly, same situation in India as well
@@Ilmseeker844 is ma kch larka nhi chahty krna ..ka paisa kama kr kry ...kch larkian chahty paisy bht Kamata howa chahyey ..kch parents khty ...mil kr ya situation bn jatay
@@bntihawa2795
Exactly it wary from situation to situation and people to people, you can not just put blame on one gender.
Masha Allah great sir😊❤❤❤❤❤
Professor sahab aap MBBS ke level ka har subject ka lecture series baniye. This will be best intellectual contribution to the future generations.
Exactly Dr sb you must do this for the help of medical students
Sir i proud of u❤
Agree 100 pcnt.
Zabrdast ♥️
The professor sb is currently making some remarkable points, and there are very few individuals in Pakistan who not only talk about such issues but also embody these values in their actions. This particular issue is such a significant evil that even religious scholars and clerics have not managed to address it effectively. However, those with unwavering and living faith are able to practice it with relative ease.
In our households, the greatest curse when it comes to arranging relationships, especially in the context of marriage, is the curse of dowry. While on an individual level, we can find examples like the professor sb who stand against it, at a societal level, liberation from this curse seems far from sight.
The thing is nowadays education and job is required before getting married and that is right
Sir it's a huge issue. Boy's parent should responsible for their mature behavior
Well done sir
Allah hr lrki ka naseeb acha kray
Aap jaisy educated person hi aurat ki izzat kar sakta hai. Aaj ki Susitese main bilkul mukhtalif ho raha hai.
Sir, I have the same questions that you describe in this video.
Like the topic ❤
Great sir
اے کاش سب آپ کے جیسا سوچتے۔ اتنا کچھ باپ نے دیا بس عزت دار سسرال نہ دے پائے۔
ہم نے اپنی بہن کی شادی کی تھی قرض لے کر جہیز لیا تھا دو سال سے وہی قرض ادا کر رہے ہیں ۔ کیا اسلامی معاشرے ایسے ہوتے ہیں؟؟ میں ہمیشہ سوچتی ہوں جو مرد اپنی بیٹیوں اور بیوی کو باہر پرھنے نہیں دیتے ، کام نہیں کرنے دیتے اور پردے کے بغیر باہر نہیں جانے دیتے کہ میری غیرت اجازت نہیں دیتی وہ کس غیرت کے ساتھ بیوی کا جہیز استعمال کرتے ہیں.. ہمارے مفتیوں کو بھی وی پی این تو غیر شرعی لگتا ہے لیکن جہیز پر زبان کبھی نہیں کھولتے۔۔
Well said✌️✌️
السلام علیکم ورحمتہ اللہ وبرکاتہ ۔
اس طرح کے معاملات میں ہر انسان کو زندگی میں کچھ نہ کچھ سمجھوتے کرنے ہی پڑتے ہیں ۔۔۔ اور کرنے بھی چاہئیں کیونکہ اس دنیا میں پرفیکٹ کوئی بھی نہیں ہے ۔۔۔۔ جہیز مسئلہ نہیں ہے ۔۔۔ ان معاملات میں پرفیکٹ شخصیت کے انتظار میں ، عمر کے انمول سال گنوانا سب سے بڑا مسئلہ ہے ۔۔۔
Agreed 💯
Girls do mature faster than boys but they stop maturing around 18-19 years of age. After that they have the same maturity level throughout their lives , even in their forties or fifties . Men mature much slower than girls but they keep maturing well into their later adult years.
Is this a fact😮
lol boht hi Fazool baat ki wisdom age aur experience se ati women at 30 can be more intelligent as compared to
Men at 40
What a chauvinistic point of view!😂
@@tahiraahmed2191girls mature faster than boys but their maturity grows all through their lives. This is a false perception that people had for centuries. Women can grow stronger than man too if they work out 🏋️. Women can bear pain more than men as men can’t bear the child birth pain at all.
Madam a 40 year old woman not same as 20
Me khud jaheez k khilaf hun or humne jaheez k lie mana kia tha bhabiyun k ghar walo ko.
or hum bachpan se sunte arahe the k jaheez susral walo k lie hota he but asal me aisa ni hota jab mere bhaiyun ki shadi howi tab mujhe pata chala wo log jo dete he apni beti ko dete he uske saman pe susral walo ka koi haq ni or meri bhabia to apne saman ko hath bh ni lagne deti.
Agr jaheez pe susral walo ka haq ni hota he shariyat me kisi jaga ye bh ni likha k larkiya susral walo ka saman use kare or upar se toore bh or kharab bh kare Jan bojh k.
ماشاء الله تبارك الرحمن بهترين خوب
Alhamdulilah pakhtoon culture me jaheez naam ke cheez nahe, larka sb cheeze arrange krega
ماشاءاللّٰه
4:50 can you please talk more about the prevalence of Cousin marriage in our country especially from a medical stand point and your opinions about it.
Thank you
Mashallah ❤❤❤
Perfect ❤
Meri sister ha 34 sal ki
Allah ka kram ha sb kuch ha mean parents shadi afford kr skty ha lkin shadi nhi krty Abu
Un sy choty Bhai ki shadi 3 sal pehly ho gye ha ...
Allah unki jald az jald shandaar shadi krey
Brother Apna Abu ko bta dy ka unho ny BHi marna hai uska baad usko kon support kra ga Apna maa or baap ko Samjho bewakofi naw kra or jaldi Shadi krwa dy
Sir baki batien apki bilkul thek hain bus research kar k baat kea karien , google abhi apko bata deta k duniya mein mard 1% ziada hain aurton se, aurtien abhi bhi kaam hain,
Assalamualaikum! Dr. Aap ki videos bohot motivational hoti Hain. Or in videos se bohot Kuch seekhny ko milta hai. Dr. Aik question tha k main apny 8 - 9 saal tk ki age k bachon ko konsi PC educational game introduce krwaon? Guide kr dain. Kion k merey bachy Roblox khely Hain apny screen time main Jo k on ko milta hai. Sirf 30 minutes allow hoty Hain in ko Lekin main Roblox games se satisfied nhi hon. Wesy to abcya or Khan academy games bhi mojood hain Lekin adventure or explore krny k liye koi game Jo aap k ilm main ho bta dijye. JazakAllah
Dr sahab plz 1 video force marriage pr b bna dain…
Larkiyan khud bhttt settled larka aur family dekhti
Aur then jahz zberdasti lati sath
Ta ky susaral mai in future tana na dena pary
Isme larki ka kia kasoor usko pta hai kl ko tane milengen wo mazbor hai
Ham to bina dahez ke hi shadi karege lekin ladaki nahi mil rahi (cross -28 yr)i m well educated, i have own business,and i think i will joint as soon as possible in railway
Assalam alikum Dr jawed mera bata 16.5 years old ka ha is kpichaly 2 sal zaya ho gaye in ko bio science group main 1 st year ma admission lena tha regular collage ma mera aap sy sawwal ha kaya acchi position klaye regular collage main admission lena zarori ha ya government collage main bhee acchi position aati ha
Aslam o Alaiqum Dr sahib . Beautiful message. I think intellectual like you guys should take over the matters of Pakistan and definitely you guys can better handle our country in Shaa Allah. Can I please speak to you please. I know you’re coming to Sydney but I am not sure the dates please
Mazrat ke sath ,,apko or gehrai me or haqeeqat me jan-ne ki zarorat hai...aj kal larki wale degrees ka comperison krty hain..job..scale ..ka krty hain. Even wo well settle ho ye paksitan society ki girawat ki intha hai...and larke wale jaheez na bhi lein..but larki ke maa baap..or larki khud jaheez le kr jTi hai
As of January 2024, the population of Pakistan was 49.6% female and 50.4% male.
But educated mature males ka ratio bohat kam hee as compared with females.
Including you
@@critics1156 hahaha.. I'm in 50.4 immature 🙃
@90rafay but by the look of your comments seems like someone who's new on network
@@critics1156 From your comment it is clear that you are unmarried boy feeling bad after looking lesser no of female percentage 😁😁. But that figures are from census conducted in 2023.
I hope you will get a life partner but you need to work on you knowledge and tone otherwise they poor lady will suffer
@@90rafay yes lesser female girly like you.
Sir yeh bohat complicated topic hy aap ko iss per lambi baat kerny chahiay thi
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Bohat aala guftagu hoti hy Dr sb ki but mufti shaid koi hu ga warna Ulama e Haq tau dunya ke chand staray hain
In one of the videos you mentioned concerns about cousin marriage medically. I believe your daughter is married to her first cousin too , kindly elaborate that topic further
😂😂
First cousin se shadi glt nhi ha medically.jab first cousin se shadi aik generation se hoti aarhi ho tu problem hoti ha .
Baba, aap khud keh rahe hain ke betiyaan behtar hoti hain aur unka match milna chahiye... phir aap hi keh rahe hain ke she should marry married men? It may be in the religion but not everyone is comfortable with polygamy. And the most important thing is that it's not financially feasible for most men to sustain more than one household. With all due respect, in the modern world we live in, the practicalities and reality are very far from this idealistic solution. We need to encourage single people to not host pity parties, to start seeing the hikmat in the delay. This period is excellent for focusing on personal growth and healing, enhancing quality of life and enjoying hobbies etc. There is a lot of cheating going around already, it's not healthy to encourage women to pounce on married men. It rarely works for the better and that's the truth of the matter. Allah hasn't asked us to become blind to ground reality, that's dictatorship, certainly not the way of the Most Rehman and Most Rahim.
P.S. I didn't expect you to give this Zakir Naik style answer, aap toh khud mukhtari aur danishmandi ki baatein karte haina. Sorry if I overstepped but I had to counter this.
so ultimatly, you're denying that ruling mentioned in the Quran?. Dr sb referred to the Quranic teaching not his wishes.
Baje is he talking for your match type if in the society there is no man who is not your match than either you are to select a man who is higher than you and who is already married or be single your entire life alone. If you think you can live alone your entire life without a husband and children then it's fine. If you are not comfortable it's okay but I see it's natural for woman to have man who has more wife's or girlfriend than one.
Some married may be far better than a batcholar . the only need is to change the mindset of women
Agr wo bewa se shadi krna chahe saath me uss k bacho ko bhi paale ya jis aurat ki age 30-35 ho gyi ho uss se kr le uss ki zindagi behtr ho jaye too kia harj ha or agr aap khilaf ha too bhai unn bewaao or mutaliq ki kafalat aap utha le.
Aslam o alkum ap ny apni betide ko jahiz dia
Man should do 2, or 3 or 4 marriages the only and best solution.
mashallah
Marriage is over rated be independent and financially stable girls empower yourself
I am also not marrying going to migrate in saudi arabia with parents. Going to adopt child
4:27❤
Sir can you please make video on why a girl should consider second marriage with someone??? Especially when her has crossed her 30s
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Dr. Sahb i want those shutters in my house,
pls help me out, from where i can purchase?
بہت خوبصورت آپ باتیں کر رہے ہیں مگر ہمارا معاشرہ بہت گندہ ہے
Sir aj kal jahaiz sy zayda job wali larki ki demand ha. Meri choti sis ki job ha to uska kia rishta lia or mera inkar kis k nahi job wali sy krni hum ny shadi
Sir aap doctr hyn you know very well phr b aap ne apni beti ki shadi cousin marriage me q krdi u know it's side effect very well
And please throw some light on the PEOPLE WHO DON'T GIVE HER HISA IN PROPERTY???
Wirasat
Cousin marriage ma side effect ka ratio bohat kam hai. Side effect tu without cousin marriage bhi hoty hein.
ایک مرتبہ سے نہیں ہوتا بار بار نہ کریں۔
@@shahidirfan2he was talking about jahaiz not inhariting .
Bohat se parents jaheaz nahi laty but larki k parents jaheaz bohat shooq se daty han
Dr sb what is gender ratio in Pakistan?
Im 31 still no chance to get married ..
Bs jo b dua krta h kehty hn mint b nhi lgna jb hony but ye 5sal se nhi aea h 😅
shaadi important hai kia meri puppy nei shaadi nahin ki hai 35+ hai awar bahot hi khush rehti hai unsei bhi zeyada khush hai jiss ki shaadi hu gai hai ... aisa nahin hai ke woh nahin karna chahti thi chahti thi but maa baap nei sai time pe nahin diya awar jab 30 ke hugai toh uss nei phir khud inkar kar diya ke shaadi ab nahin karni time gaya .....
usko dekh ke mien bhi chahti hon ke shaadi na karo apne Zindagi apni marzi sei jiu but ghar mien koi rehne nahin dega 😂😂😂
Me nahi kar rahi shadi Jane wali hu saudi arabia rehne safe country me bachche adopt kar lungi
Sir ajj kal har larki abroad settled larka talash kar rahi hai.. iss liye shadi nahi horahi… Pakistan se jaan churana chahte hain sab…
Any Topic if 100 Reasons ? If Awareness of Small 🏡, Simple lifestyle , Walking Biking tricycles, Total Haram to finish ?Gated Community its mean to close streets ?( Saamaan 100 Barass ka)Movement to painful Punishment to all ( Rishwatt khor)?
Mufti Tariq Masood has solution for this.
😂😂 like what
Boys ki shadi bh aj kl late ho rahe hai. Or bad ne 40 to 50 year old boy k liye bachiya dhondte hn unke parents isliye unje apni age ki girls bethi reh jati hn.
4 shaadiyon waali baat pai to microphone b naraz hugaya
Dahez is muashre ki sbse bdii burai hai
Hamare pyare nabi ne farmaya hai ki jab koi sakhs apke pas apki beti ke liye nikah paigam laye aur aap uski akhlaq aur deendari se mutmain hai to nikah kar diya karo nhi to jamane me fasad paida ho jayega.
Doctor sahab jab bade bade maulviyon ke kidney me itna dam nhi ko wo bol sake ki larkiyan shadi ke begair budhi ho rahi hai iski sabse badi wajah ye hai ki log apni jaat se bahar shadi nhi karte hinduon ki tarah, to aap ye kaise bol sakte hai.
Allah ki lanat ho unlogono pe jo dusron ko khud se nicha samajhte us shaitan ki tarah jiska nam iblish hai.😡😡😡😡