Hi, I am a new subscriber to this channel. I'm 45 and just figured out I'm on the spectrum over the summer, so I'm currently self-diagnosed and going to be seeking formal diagnosis in the coming months. RE: stimming. I didn't really notice that I flap my hands when I'm excited about something until I realized I'm autistic. My non-verbal autistic eight-year-old son does, too. One evening, within the last couple of weeks, I flapped my hands in front of him for the first time. Oh, his face just lit up. He hummed and grinned and rocked a little bit. When I stopped, he reached over and lifted my arms as if to urge me to keep flapping. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life 🙂
Ok I got chills when I read this!! Thank you so much for sharing this precious moment with me! And welcome to the channel! Please let me know if there are any specific topics I could cover that might be helpful to you.
I hope life will get better for my son now that I know I'm like him. Having said that, there are specific challenges to being an autistic parent to an autistic child who needs a higher level of support than I need. I'm learning, for example, that my son's reasons for not being able to initiate a trip to the potty might be the same reasons why I struggle with being able to prepare a home-cooked meal. But I'm having the same executive function fail when it comes to initiating his trips to the potty, too, and he remains untrained. I was wondering if there are any tips on how to deal with that sort of thing. If not, that's okay 🙂
@@sueannevangalen5186 Good question! I will try and provide some resources on executive function and potty training. It took my youngest a long time to get potty trained. Every says they will eventually be ready in their own time, and even though that can be frustrating to hear, it has proven true for us. Sorry to hear you're having those struggles! I'll see what I can do to provide some resources on that topic. Thanks for the suggestion.
1:08 "you don't have to share your diagnosis." I find its easier to share _symptoms_ rather than diagnosis. Like, "let's go somewhere else, since I don't like loud crouds of people." People are much more understanding, accepting and accommodating of your specific symptoms.
I was just diagnosed as an AuDHDer at the age of 40. With regard to not sharing a diagnosis, I absolutely agree. However, saying to people, “I am neurodivergent,” is a way to explain how you have trouble communicating, interacting, etc. without directly having to say, “I am Autistic,” or, “I have Autism,” or anything similar.
I’m 43 and got diagnosed today. I brought in your list of autistic traits in women (of which I checked off nearly everything) and the assessor loved your list so much and said she may start sending those out to other women with their pre-assessment questionnaire packs.
I got diagnosed yesterday at the age of 56. I thought I had researched autism a lot, maybe even too much, I thought, for going for my assessment. Turns out there are some things I didn't know about and had no idea how other people experienced them differently from me!
As I am also about this age, I thought I'd suggest that: the reason is we've been able to cope so far _has been in an unsustainable way_ and many of us find around this age that we have autistic burnout, and can't seem to cope in the ways that worked before. So we seek medical support. But....sadly, there really isn't a diagnosis for autistic burnout, much less support. Add to that skills regression due to the diagnosis and readjustment to our understanding of ourselves and the world. But the un-copable burnout is due to a lifetime of masking in an unsustainable way. Looks like mid-50's is a common turning point.
I agree with this analysis @Kikijewel. 👏 I think there has to be a re-training to not mask all the time, only in certain appropriate situations. Our world needs to be trained to be more accommodating of differences in people. Intolerance in the workplace except in certain safety applications is unacceptable and many intolerant companies/managers are crushing these people and could benefit in amazing ways from these often highly intelligent and capable people on the spectrum simply because of that Intolerance. In the Netherlands they have a different concept of work life balance that could very easily help people on the spectrum be successful in their lives! I hope that all people with autism will be able to have a place of balance, joy and peace! ❤
I’m a female on the autism spectrum, and I have complex PTSD. I really enjoy sensory toys and equipment. I also love music. CPTSD on top of autism can be hard. I won’t go too deep into what my CPTSD was from, but I’ll say it was for almost 10 years of nonstop craziness. I try to mask my CPTSD more than my autism.
Goodness. Sounds like you've been through a lot. Thank you for sharing part of your experience here and for watching. Please let me know if there are any specific topics I could cover that might be helpful to you! Sending you well wishes!
@@siennaprice1351 I am an 38 year old male who is the same as you. Lately I’ve just been processing my whole life of not knowing or understanding. I am still processing but these videos have been helping. Wish you the best of luck.
Thank you. The idea of accomodations instead of resistance has changed my life in a week. "Resistance is futile", and masking it all the time is hard, hard work, which requires too much energy. Here are a few things in myself I am accepting and even accomadating when i am alone, that i fought against a week ago: Repitition, repitition, repitition. Stimming when alone. No lights. Low volume, soft music. Phones off. Outbursts of cussing and flayling when irritated. Loud, uncontrolled outbursts of laughter. Talking to myself out loud. Admitting and noticing how much the littlest things can annoy me. Wearing soft pajamas all day, in a dark room, with AC on. Unintelligible baby talk to my dog. Long bathes in candle light with epson salts, and Eric Satie with red, red wine. By giving myself an Autistic Adult free zone when alone, I have more energy to mask effectively, and focus on the needs of others.
I'm 70, and your chart of autistic traits in women has made me self-diagnose as being on the spectrum. I actually met 3/4 of the traits listed! It explains a lot about my life experiences. I don't find it disturbing, but rather strangely comforting. My brother is ADHD, which is no surprise considering his life experiences. I also think our mom may have been on the spectrum as well.
I so needed this! I got my diagnosis 2 months ago and I'm still struggle sometimes wrapping my head around it. I thought everyone was just better at dealing with daily stress and anxiety, I didn't realize that I experience the world differently than the average person. I really appreciate your positivity, thanks for sharing!
I still fall into this way of thinking every day. I keep trying to live "normally" without realizing it and then trying to remind myself that I'm just different and I kind of have to pave the way for myself in terms of what that looks like. And hearing y'alls experiences helps too! Thanks for the comment. Hope you're doing well, Whitney.
Yes! My experience exactly!! And I just figured it out one week ago! I am still in shock. Mind blown… It is incredibly helpful information and I am looking at my entire life with new understanding. I’m 52. :)
Your videos and online community are literally saving my life right now. I hope I have the opportunity to meet you someday so I can thank you in person.
Thank you for your videos. I was recently diagnosed with Autism and ADHD at 55 years old and am still processing what it means and how I frame my past experiences in light of it.
I've felt very different from other people for a good chunk of my life. I do have depression and anxiety, and have felt that there was more to that. For many years I've wondered what else I could be dealing with, but was too nervous to go find out. After having a major depressive episode/shutdown, I finally decided to get help with that. It was a few months later that my therapist suspected that I was on the spectrum. I had mixed feelings about getting evaluated, and then realized I had to know. I had my evaluation two months ago, and was officially diagnosed a month later with ASD and ADHD at the age of 41. When I got the diagnoses, I pretty much shrugged and thought to myself okay then, now I know. It certainly has been an eye opening experience, and things started to make sense. My mom has been very supportive. My brother doesn't really believe that these conditions are real, and I haven't yet told him of my official diagnoses. about II
Thanks so much for sharing your experience! Please let me know if there are any specific resources I could create or share with you that might be helpful.
Just saw this today, I was diagnosed a couple of years ago. I am 70. You had me when you said you also had ADHD and your interests included piano,and crocheting. Thanks, I also cycle through those along with reading, writing, and crafts😂 nice to know there is another person out there with similar interests ❤
I'm 74 and just recently began to recognize my autism symptoms. Apparently I have "AuDHD", and have understood the ADHD part for years, but there was always something a bit off until I began researching autism characteristics. I'm currently back in therapy to explore this further. It is very comforting to have all this validation of my experience and that there are others who have shared traits. I feel less "walled off" from others now. Even at this age, and high masking and even fairly successful, it's always been that feeling of separation from other people. Now, not so much!
My mom was so excited to tell me she learned that AuDHD was a new "thing" that fit me. It makes sense. Total sense. Im 48 and finally making sense of all my challenges. Btw i love how fast you deliver info in this video. I usually speed up videos, but not this one. My mom is always asking me to make it normal speed so she can understand what's being said and it sounds like super slow mo and stresses me out / gives me anxiety. Your speed is perfect. ❤
My least favorite thing people say to me, "You would be really good at (insert activity here)! You should try it out!" Not realizing that I have like 5 special interests that consume all my free time already. That can be overwhelming just thinking about it, but they all make me happy when I put energy into them. Just thinking about the person's suggested activity makes me twitch and it is all I can do to politely say no when I really want to have a meltdown. If they only knew ...
I am 39 and newly diagnosed Level 1. Your videos were instrumental in giving me the understanding I needed to express my ‘quirks’ to my therapist and get an assessment. Your videos have also been a huge comfort in better understanding myself, when so many other resources lean on outsider observations rather than the experience of those living with Autism. Thank you for all you do!
Your content has been immeasurably helpful! I'm 48 and for 3+ years I've been searching a doctor in my area who will assess an adult female new patient for autism, with no luck. I recently found someone in your big autism resource guide and have started the evaluation process. Thank you for what you do! 😊
I know I'm late on this video but I just got diagnosed with inattentive adhd and autism level 2. I told my mum and cried to her about how I was feeling and she has gone and told her partner and I mean I would have told him bet I feel horrible because it wasn't my choice so thank you for saying it's up to me who gets to know my diagnosis
I appreciate you making this video. I got an unofficial ADHD diagnosis and was told I’m likely on the spectrum. I feel like this diagnosis is pretty accurate and have been like “now what”. All the articles on Google weren’t as helpful as this video was. Thank you
As I sit here (0:23), twirling and managing my facial hair, you're playing with Thinking Putty. I had the not infrequent thought: "Why do so many people have fidgets, Nee Doh cubes, etc., and I've never needed them?" Duh. Because I have a moustache.
Thanks a lot for this. I don’t have a diagnosis (yet) but I met a psychologist yesterday and he made some tests with me, just to find out the ground water and for both of us to get to know eachother and he told me that I shine out on all the autism tests! Hit me like a baseball bat because it really never occurred to me that this could be the case why I struggle so much and just with this half diagnosis I already feel like a huge weight goes off my chest because I treated myself very unfairly and suffered needlessly because I didn’t meet my expectations. So I started to look I to what autism really is and I found this video. Really helpful stuff :)
My “stemming” is the absolute destructive act of skin picking. I’ll be doing it without thinking then catch myself yet unable to quit till it’s picked-off. With the exception of smoking that I quit 25 years ago, no other repetitive activity has successfully replaced this god awful obsession-or damn addiction!!
Just got my official diagnosis this month! I’ve always had huge problems with my hands not working and very low finger dexterity. My Mom knitted constantly and played piano and hooked rugs etc and she tried for years to teach me and it was frustrating and basically impossible. Those were HER stims. But my large motor function and balance are off the charts high…and dance is my major stim and live music my special interest!! I get into a flow state spinning in circles out on the dance floor. I know it looks weird but I really don’t care. I need to do it and I embolden people like myself to get up there and dance weird and be joyful…and when I get a bunch of other autistic people up there it’s great cuz NOBODY touches anybody else! Yay!
It is so wild being able to understand my life after all this time at age 37. I really don't know how everyone missed it but I did do stuff like go to school and I've always been one of the smartest people others know so I think my flat affect makes people think I'm way more normal than I really am lol. It's so awesome to know why I think the way I do and why I think people are mad at me and stuff. I thought it was paranoia but it's actually that I cannot read people.
I so wish I saw your video before my diagnosis. I was just diagnosed in June with Autism, ADHD and PTSD at the age of 58. Sad thing is I’m not even sure what level which is upsetting and I keep asking, but it seems I can’t get a clear answer. I made the mistake telling my manager at work, I thought I could trust her, but my work life has gotten worse to the point I feel they are trying to push me out. I’m trying to read watch and learn how I can help myself.
I’ve got 2 daughters. One is autistic and one isn’t. I had no idea that I was autistic until she was diagnosed at 3. My world flipped. Idk who I am ❤ Parenting is such an eye opener!
I was just diagnosed and I’m 23. So many things in my life make sense now…I can’t believe I never had an inkling I was autistic. I always thought every was going through a sensory meat grinder too you know?
Im still awaiting my autism assessment but I find delving into my interests a great way to lessen my anxiety as well making time for myself, especially as I am a uni student and the uni environment is often very overwhelming e.g. lots of people around socializing, the busyness of campus etc.
I wish there was more information about autism and the college experience. So many brilliant people on the spectrum and navigating the entire college process with ideas for helpful accommodations would be an awesome gift for making the student experience a positive one!
Hi, new subscriber on this channel. Recently diagnosed. Your advice is absolutely wonderful. It also helps me mother my own son, who is autistic. Thank you.
Yeah, while things are still unconfirmed both in the same week just a week ago both the bmed doctor and my therapist both told me after my second time being in bmed in 2 months due to the DV situation I am in that there is a fairly high probability that I have undiagnosed autism. And honestly for me apart from having no clue what that even meant, like "ok let's assume you are right, what does that even mean?" after being told to look into it it makes so many things make so much more sense that honestly assuming it isn't something else that looks similar it is kind of a relief knowing "hey this is why I function this way and this is why I have such a hard time with things that should be easy while having an easy time with things that should be hard".
Thank you so much for this video! Having been newly diagnosed, I really appreciated it. :) You make me feel normal in a world that makes me feel like I'm not!
Hey Alexis Unicorn! Love the name! Thanks for commenting and for watching. You are definitely not alone! Please make yourself at home on the channel and in the comments. There are a lot of great people here.
Thank you! 31 with 2 kids and freshly diagnosed with AuDHD, so your videos are really helpful in navigating the new light I see myself under, and helping me define what are the accomodations that I should be discussing with my husband.
Hello! Thank you for the information, it's very helpful especially on the stimming! I want to tell you that you are already very beautiful, and this is just my opinion of course, but I think to ideally flatter your features, you could do thicker eyeliner that extends further over your eyes, and I think that you could also draw your eyebrows to extend a bit closer in so that they frame your eyes better? I could be wrong, but maybe you are interested in experimenting sometime and see if you agree with me. :)
This was useful i am just startingh to really get the gifts now man its been and is and i think will continue to be a process but so much learning... I hope I can share some of this soon.
Hoihoi! First off, I love your channel! So far, most of your videos have been more focused on ASD in a way that clicks with me. I don't personally have a formal diagnosis for Autism but in the last year or so, I've been on an intense psychological and emotional journey that lead me to see that I'm more likely on the spectrum. I'm a 30 year old female...so yeah, it's been a struggle lol. But the main reason I'm commenting right meow is that you of course mention getting plenty of rest, and just overall sensory overload issues. On top of (likely) being on the spectrum, I have several chronic illnesses that overload me all the time; specifically fibromyalgia, chronic migraine, and endometriosis... I guess I'm asking (if I haven't ran across a video of it yet) if you have or would cover ASD and chronic illness (especially pain disorders) and how to cope. Fibromyalgia makes it almost impossible to get enough rest...and my hormones have the same effect. I'm always on the verge of meltdown so I'd be so grateful if there was something out there that really discussed this topic!
Thank you for this topic suggestion! The only thing I have on that right now that might be helpful is my video on Spoon Theory: th-cam.com/video/aBzy6cx4R8I/w-d-xo.html
I feel that. I was telling my husband last night that I really want to be the type of person that can open my home to anyone and everyone, but it is exhausting to me and requires a lot of recovery time. It makes me sad but I'm also learning it's ok.
Thank you so much for this, I recently discovered how many autistic traits I have, researching has shown me just how many. You're videos help so much. Thanks for sharing your videos
From the description of the video i literally thought there was a starter kit for newly diagnosed autistics. I was diagnosed 6 months ago, still waiting from the regional center to set up my 6 month personal plan review. 6 months and only been contacted 1 time from my case worker. Frustrating. Anyway. Thanks for your insight. I don't take time for myself. I work too much. Ryan.
Wishing you well on this leg of your journey! Thank you for sharing this part of your experience with me. Please let me know if there are any specific topics I could cover that might be helpful to you.
I'm 43 and VERY recently professionally diagnosed. I also have Alexithymia pretty badly. I don't feel anxiety or deep depression, or if I am "feeling" it, I don't know what it is, as it is just mild sensations. For this reason, stimming doesn't seem to do much for me, but I may not have found the right one. My oldest daughter who I am 99% sure is also autistic, does suffer from anxiety. I'm hoping it helps her. I won't know what level I am on the DSM-V scale, as they are still working on the report. They only (nice of them) told me I am autistic, but will have to wait for the detailed report. Since I still have about 2 weeks left to wait for said report, I'm waiting to tell my daughter and also trying to figure out the best way to break it to her.
I do this! I never actually understood why until I looked more into vocal stimming. I talk to my cat about nonsensical things like i'm giving an important speech. I like to watch her facial expressions and imagine she's actually interested in what i'm saying.
Thank you for this video! Have you or will you do a video on explaining/sharing what autism is to a neurotypical child. My daughter is 6 and she's starting to pick up on that I'm different. I'm not sure how to navigate it.
I like being by myself but I have family around me who think that if I be myself and not go out I will end going crazy, it’s been 3 years, I am getting forced to go on these really long walks and when I speak up and have days where I don’t want to go out I get shouted it’s overwhelming at times.
@@Alba-pc6bz Nice to know that and good luck to you too, I am guessing that from the tone of your comment you are young and haven’t hit that age yet where as an adult you are placed with a responsibility where you need to start caring for an elderly family member and regardless of whether you want to or not and whether you get on with that particular individual you still have to do put aside your differences and just think about your responsibilities. What’s worse is when that responsibility is not something that you choose but another family member chooses it for you and expects you to stick to it regardless of how you are feeling.
I’m not legally diagnosed with autism but I believe I have it because of my last autism evaluator says that she was about to diagnose me with autism then changed her mind and diagnosed me with 3 other diagnosis’s one of which was confirmed wrong. All I know is that I am neurodivergent in some way, multiple people have told me that.
Watching this video stimming with my "Star Dust Thinking Putty!" One of my favorites! (It glows in the dark😀) Excellent advice! As always thanks for posting.
Man I just looked on Amazon for a link to thinking putty to put in my description and I’m always AMAZED how many varieties they have!!! They have scented stuff now. And totally clear putty. And putty you sort through to find beads. I want all of it!
@@bryanmerton5153 Yes Bryan but get this: the actual process of creating it is much too intolerable for us!! 😂We did try making something called Oobleck which is solid when you strike it and liquid when untouched. SO WEIRD. That was pretty cool but again the mess was very upsetting to us! We tried! haha.
I shared with my family and they’ve been so nasty with me since. I’ve been struggling for 27 years and just got this figured out. Do I need to just cut them out completely? They were a huge cause of my shame over my symptoms, was punished for experiencing them, and now I feel like I’m a kid again when they shit on me.
Im considering getting one of those small trampolines for myself some nayone else have one ir use one just to let out steam or use for stimming when at home?
I self diagnosed about 10 years ago. Recently I was sorta diagnosed. Problem is I'm using veterans heath care, and the dr. told me VA doesn't really have autism experts, they deal more with war trauma and mental illness. He went though the DSM and diagnosed me in about 25 mins. I was hoping for more guidance, but he said he could work on symptoms like anxiety. He tried to put me on an SSRI, but i refused, because I know a pill isn't what I need. So i'm just learning all I can from the internet and youtube because the VA isn't much help.
I feel defective I don't have an interest maybe that's why I'm not balanced. Maybe it's adhd related too or that any interest I tried I was worse at than everyone I knew ... urg lots of thinking but you helped already! Thanks
Im betting you HAD a special interest but someone told you it was stupid or childish or that you can’t make money doing it…or you just weren’t good enough. Think back… maybe you were forced to give up the something you loved to do as a kid. I love to dance. Its my passion and my stim. I was told at age 12 “you are too fat to be a ballerina” and gave it up. But as an adult I’ve done African dance, jazz dance, belly dance, swing dance and I excel at all of them. Then I taught Zumba for 8 years. My parents told me there was “no way to make a career out of dance”. They were wrong.
@cammieopre9197 nope not for me I was encouraged to do anything but there wasn't a thing 🤷🏽♀️ but I love that you found yours in the end! And now help others with it! 😀
Hello, I recently came across your channel - and have enjoyed the material thus far, but I have to point out something - the audio levels are all over the place. one video I hear really well, the next one in the que looks interesting, and when it starts to play - I can't hear you. please don't take it personal - as I'm pretty much a self-diagnosed autistic myself - and audio - is a thing for me. just wanted you to be aware -
I have what I thought was a tic but I’m wondering if I am stimming. A few years ago it started as excessive lip licking and gradually turned into lip popping. All the time when awake. Can that be stimming when I do in constantly?
I'd like to learn HOW to organize. I find I have more organizers than actually being organized. How do you learn this? I used to live in an RV and it was so easy, it's all laid out for you, in an RV. Now I have an apt unit, or should I say storage unit, with a comfy chair and laptop...Can you do a vid on how to learn skils?
Hi I’m newly diagnosed & I wonder if anyone else stims , but not because they are highly sensitive. I’m (mostly) the opposite of highly sensitive, I dont notice things that I should - such as when I’m hungry, thirsty, hot, cold, have to use the bathroom or shower and lots of other things. My alarm goes off right next to me and I just let it go on and on cuz I’m not registering it I guess. I think it’s called hyPOsensitivity (?). I don’t notice or realize emotional feelings as well. Does anyone relate to this? I’m new to this community but haven’t heard anyone talk about this side of sensitivity
I do this but I was doing it when going through periods of depression. Now I'm learning it's stimming. My usual stimming is toe and foot circling. When I think back a few people have pointed it out since my teens and I only just learned what it was this week at age 56! 😂
How about someone who was diagnosed with pddnos which is now considered part of autism spectrum disorder and that same person is technically is autistic but haven't been diagnosed with asd
Lol the silly putty sound and hand movements - sound sensitivity and trouble with visual repetitive movements - can’t watch very easily 😂 but really great tips! I do have a soft squishy animal plush on my desk for the same purpose as the putty but nobody can see or hear it working remotely on virtual meetings 😀
4:09 you saw something move across the room. Spotting a leaf fall from a load of trees my vision can pick up. Probably hear it land, too. I tend to do a lot of people watching out in public these days since doing all the self-diagnostic tests for AuADHD and the liberation from it. That’s why I’m spewing out what I’m thinking reet now. My brain has just registered that what I’ve written isn’t even pertinent to this video *facepalm*.
So here’s my question, since we are neurologically different, anyone besides me have any UNUSUAL NEUROLOGICAL EXPERIENCES? AKA - “NON NATURAL” experiences - aka “SUPERNATURAL” experiences? It has occurred to me that maybe I have a brain tumor & there is not an Angel that literally saves my bacon every now and then…… or that sudden whiff of Shalimar is not my long gone mom, or that ‘person’ in the crowd that looked exactly like my friend’s dead husband who spoke to me in my head 3 times & told me a joke only they knew about….. it goes on & on…… Anybody? Just kinda starting to wonder what’s up in my head! Thanks for your great channel, the videos w your husband a cute & great for sharing! Keep up the good work! 😎
yessssss. I am noticing that many of us on the spectrum are empaths. We feel and experience things that happen to others like they're happening to us. You might be interested in a Reddit thread called Empaths. Once when I was younger, my then boyfriend, now husband, and I were signed up for a river rafting trip. I woke up early that morning feeling like I was going to be sick and was so upset. I walked down to the concierge and changed our reservation to a later time. When the bus drove us to the river, we were passed by ambulances and found out that on the trip we were supposed to be on earlier that morning, the rafts had overturned and several people drowned. Incredibly sad story but I'll always remember how strongly I sensed the danger before it even happened.
Yes! In my experience I feel like males will typically be more straightforward in their communication and not tiptoe around what they want/need in a conversation. There is a lot less guesswork and that makes it easier to be friends
Hi, I am a new subscriber to this channel. I'm 45 and just figured out I'm on the spectrum over the summer, so I'm currently self-diagnosed and going to be seeking formal diagnosis in the coming months. RE: stimming. I didn't really notice that I flap my hands when I'm excited about something until I realized I'm autistic. My non-verbal autistic eight-year-old son does, too. One evening, within the last couple of weeks, I flapped my hands in front of him for the first time. Oh, his face just lit up. He hummed and grinned and rocked a little bit. When I stopped, he reached over and lifted my arms as if to urge me to keep flapping. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life 🙂
Ok I got chills when I read this!! Thank you so much for sharing this precious moment with me! And welcome to the channel! Please let me know if there are any specific topics I could cover that might be helpful to you.
Thank you for the warm welcome. This channel is helping me feel less alone.
I hope life will get better for my son now that I know I'm like him. Having said that, there are specific challenges to being an autistic parent to an autistic child who needs a higher level of support than I need. I'm learning, for example, that my son's reasons for not being able to initiate a trip to the potty might be the same reasons why I struggle with being able to prepare a home-cooked meal. But I'm having the same executive function fail when it comes to initiating his trips to the potty, too, and he remains untrained. I was wondering if there are any tips on how to deal with that sort of thing. If not, that's okay 🙂
@@sueannevangalen5186 Good question! I will try and provide some resources on executive function and potty training. It took my youngest a long time to get potty trained. Every says they will eventually be ready in their own time, and even though that can be frustrating to hear, it has proven true for us. Sorry to hear you're having those struggles! I'll see what I can do to provide some resources on that topic. Thanks for the suggestion.
Thanks, Tay 🙂
1:08 "you don't have to share your diagnosis." I find its easier to share _symptoms_ rather than diagnosis. Like, "let's go somewhere else, since I don't like loud crouds of people." People are much more understanding, accepting and accommodating of your specific symptoms.
Ahhh, that is a good point. Will remember it.
I was just diagnosed as an AuDHDer at the age of 40. With regard to not sharing a diagnosis, I absolutely agree. However, saying to people, “I am neurodivergent,” is a way to explain how you have trouble communicating, interacting, etc. without directly having to say, “I am Autistic,” or, “I have Autism,” or anything similar.
I’m 43 and got diagnosed today. I brought in your list of autistic traits in women (of which I checked off nearly everything) and the assessor loved your list so much and said she may start sending those out to other women with their pre-assessment questionnaire packs.
I got diagnosed yesterday at the age of 56. I thought I had researched autism a lot, maybe even too much, I thought, for going for my assessment. Turns out there are some things I didn't know about and had no idea how other people experienced them differently from me!
Same age, same thoughts. I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I’m working towards it.
I am newly (self) diagnosed at 56 as well, although my counselor is in agreement.
As I am also about this age, I thought I'd suggest that: the reason is we've been able to cope so far _has been in an unsustainable way_ and many of us find around this age that we have autistic burnout, and can't seem to cope in the ways that worked before.
So we seek medical support.
But....sadly, there really isn't a diagnosis for autistic burnout, much less support. Add to that skills regression due to the diagnosis and readjustment to our understanding of ourselves and the world.
But the un-copable burnout is due to a lifetime of masking in an unsustainable way.
Looks like mid-50's is a common turning point.
I agree with this analysis @Kikijewel. 👏 I think there has to be a re-training to not mask all the time, only in certain appropriate situations. Our world needs to be trained to be more accommodating of differences in people. Intolerance in the workplace except in certain safety applications is unacceptable and many intolerant companies/managers are crushing these people and could benefit in amazing ways from these often highly intelligent and capable people on the spectrum simply because of that Intolerance. In the Netherlands they have a different concept of work life balance that could very easily help people on the spectrum be successful in their lives! I hope that all people with autism will be able to have a place of balance, joy and peace! ❤
I’m a female on the autism spectrum, and I have complex PTSD. I really enjoy sensory toys and equipment. I also love music. CPTSD on top of autism can be hard. I won’t go too deep into what my CPTSD was from, but I’ll say it was for almost 10 years of nonstop craziness. I try to mask my CPTSD more than my autism.
Goodness. Sounds like you've been through a lot. Thank you for sharing part of your experience here and for watching. Please let me know if there are any specific topics I could cover that might be helpful to you! Sending you well wishes!
@@MomontheSpectrum do you think you could do a video on autism andPTSD?
@@siennaprice1351 That's a great idea. I know they can be closely related. I will add it to my list and do some research. Thanks for the suggestion.
@@siennaprice1351 I am an 38 year old male who is the same as you. Lately I’ve just been processing my whole life of not knowing or understanding. I am still processing but these videos have been helping. Wish you the best of luck.
Thank you. The idea of accomodations instead of resistance has changed my life in a week. "Resistance is futile", and masking it all the time is hard, hard work, which requires too much energy. Here are a few things in myself I am accepting and even accomadating when i am alone, that i fought against a week ago: Repitition, repitition, repitition. Stimming when alone. No lights. Low volume, soft music. Phones off. Outbursts of cussing and flayling when irritated. Loud, uncontrolled outbursts of laughter. Talking to myself out loud. Admitting and noticing how much the littlest things can annoy me. Wearing soft pajamas all day, in a dark room, with AC on. Unintelligible baby talk to my dog. Long bathes in candle light with epson salts, and Eric Satie with red, red wine. By giving myself an Autistic Adult free zone when alone, I have more energy to mask effectively, and focus on the needs of others.
I'm 70, and your chart of autistic traits in women has made me self-diagnose as being on the spectrum. I actually met 3/4 of the traits listed! It explains a lot about my life experiences. I don't find it disturbing, but rather strangely comforting. My brother is ADHD, which is no surprise considering his life experiences. I also think our mom may have been on the spectrum as well.
You said rest is essential! This is prime advice I wish my past self had taken to heart.
I so needed this! I got my diagnosis 2 months ago and I'm still struggle sometimes wrapping my head around it. I thought everyone was just better at dealing with daily stress and anxiety, I didn't realize that I experience the world differently than the average person. I really appreciate your positivity, thanks for sharing!
I still fall into this way of thinking every day. I keep trying to live "normally" without realizing it and then trying to remind myself that I'm just different and I kind of have to pave the way for myself in terms of what that looks like. And hearing y'alls experiences helps too! Thanks for the comment. Hope you're doing well, Whitney.
Yes! My experience exactly!! And I just figured it out one week ago! I am still in shock. Mind blown… It is incredibly helpful information and I am looking at my entire life with new understanding. I’m 52. :)
@@bethanyreid6655 glad you were able to figure it out! Welcome to the cool kids club! 😎 💞
@@whitneymason406 Thanks, Whitney!!
Hi there, I've just been diagnosed at 43 AUDHD, yep feels right!!! Explains alot!!!
Your videos and online community are literally saving my life right now. I hope I have the opportunity to meet you someday so I can thank you in person.
Thank you for your videos. I was recently diagnosed with Autism and ADHD at 55 years old and am still processing what it means and how I frame my past experiences in light of it.
I've felt very different from other people for a good chunk of my life. I do have depression and anxiety, and have felt that there was more to that. For many years I've wondered what else I could be dealing with, but was too nervous to go find out. After having a major depressive episode/shutdown, I finally decided to get help with that. It was a few months later that my therapist suspected that I was on the spectrum. I had mixed feelings about getting evaluated, and then realized I had to know. I had my evaluation two months ago, and was officially diagnosed a month later with ASD and ADHD at the age of 41. When I got the diagnoses, I pretty much shrugged and thought to myself okay then, now I know. It certainly has been an eye opening experience, and things started to make sense. My mom has been very supportive. My brother doesn't really believe that these conditions are real, and I haven't yet told him of my official diagnoses.
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Thanks so much for sharing your experience! Please let me know if there are any specific resources I could create or share with you that might be helpful.
Just saw this today, I was diagnosed a couple of years ago. I am 70. You had me when you said you also had ADHD and your interests included piano,and crocheting. Thanks, I also cycle through those along with reading, writing, and crafts😂 nice to know there is another person out there with similar interests ❤
I'm 74 and just recently began to recognize my autism symptoms. Apparently I have "AuDHD", and have understood the ADHD part for years, but there was always something a bit off until I began researching autism characteristics. I'm currently back in therapy to explore this further. It is very comforting to have all this validation of my experience and that there are others who have shared traits. I feel less "walled off" from others now. Even at this age, and high masking and even fairly successful, it's always been that feeling of separation from other people. Now, not so much!
My mom was so excited to tell me she learned that AuDHD was a new "thing" that fit me. It makes sense. Total sense. Im 48 and finally making sense of all my challenges. Btw i love how fast you deliver info in this video. I usually speed up videos, but not this one. My mom is always asking me to make it normal speed so she can understand what's being said and it sounds like super slow mo and stresses me out / gives me anxiety. Your speed is perfect. ❤
My least favorite thing people say to me, "You would be really good at (insert activity here)! You should try it out!" Not realizing that I have like 5 special interests that consume all my free time already. That can be overwhelming just thinking about it, but they all make me happy when I put energy into them. Just thinking about the person's suggested activity makes me twitch and it is all I can do to politely say no when I really want to have a meltdown. If they only knew ...
I am 39 and newly diagnosed Level 1. Your videos were instrumental in giving me the understanding I needed to express my ‘quirks’ to my therapist and get an assessment. Your videos have also been a huge comfort in better understanding myself, when so many other resources lean on outsider observations rather than the experience of those living with Autism. Thank you for all you do!
Your content has been immeasurably helpful! I'm 48 and for 3+ years I've been searching a doctor in my area who will assess an adult female new patient for autism, with no luck. I recently found someone in your big autism resource guide and have started the evaluation process. Thank you for what you do! 😊
I know I'm late on this video but I just got diagnosed with inattentive adhd and autism level 2. I told my mum and cried to her about how I was feeling and she has gone and told her partner and I mean I would have told him bet I feel horrible because it wasn't my choice so thank you for saying it's up to me who gets to know my diagnosis
I appreciate you making this video. I got an unofficial ADHD diagnosis and was told I’m likely on the spectrum.
I feel like this diagnosis is pretty accurate and have been like “now what”. All the articles on Google weren’t as helpful as this video was. Thank you
As I sit here (0:23), twirling and managing my facial hair, you're playing with Thinking Putty. I had the not infrequent thought: "Why do so many people have fidgets, Nee Doh cubes, etc., and I've never needed them?" Duh. Because I have a moustache.
Thanks a lot for this.
I don’t have a diagnosis (yet) but I met a psychologist yesterday and he made some tests with me, just to find out the ground water and for both of us to get to know eachother and he told me that I shine out on all the autism tests! Hit me like a baseball bat because it really never occurred to me that this could be the case why I struggle so much and just with this half diagnosis I already feel like a huge weight goes off my chest because I treated myself very unfairly and suffered needlessly because I didn’t meet my expectations.
So I started to look I to what autism really is and I found this video. Really helpful stuff :)
My “stemming” is the absolute destructive act of skin picking. I’ll be doing it without thinking then catch myself yet unable to quit till it’s picked-off. With the exception of smoking that I quit 25 years ago, no other repetitive activity has successfully replaced this god awful obsession-or damn addiction!!
God same. Thank god i found out im AuDHD and finally have vlosure that it is a destructive stim
Just got my official diagnosis this month! I’ve always had huge problems with my hands not working and very low finger dexterity. My Mom knitted constantly and played piano and hooked rugs etc and she tried for years to teach me and it was frustrating and basically impossible. Those were HER stims. But my large motor function and balance are off the charts high…and dance is my major stim and live music my special interest!! I get into a flow state spinning in circles out on the dance floor. I know it looks weird but I really don’t care. I need to do it and I embolden people like myself to get up there and dance weird and be joyful…and when I get a bunch of other autistic people up there it’s great cuz NOBODY touches anybody else! Yay!
It is so wild being able to understand my life after all this time at age 37. I really don't know how everyone missed it but I did do stuff like go to school and I've always been one of the smartest people others know so I think my flat affect makes people think I'm way more normal than I really am lol. It's so awesome to know why I think the way I do and why I think people are mad at me and stuff. I thought it was paranoia but it's actually that I cannot read people.
I so wish I saw your video before my diagnosis. I was just diagnosed in June with Autism, ADHD and PTSD at the age of 58. Sad thing is I’m not even sure what level which is upsetting and I keep asking, but it seems I can’t get a clear answer. I made the mistake telling my manager at work, I thought I could trust her, but my work life has gotten worse to the point I feel they are trying to push me out. I’m trying to read watch and learn how I can help myself.
It's sad the way your boys is treating you. You're still the same person. It's a month since you posted, has it improved?
I had my autism assessment last week! I'm just waiting on the results now!
Good for you! That process can be daunting!
I’ve got 2 daughters. One is autistic and one isn’t. I had no idea that I was autistic until she was diagnosed at 3. My world flipped. Idk who I am ❤ Parenting is such an eye opener!
I’m 33!
I was just diagnosed and I’m 23. So many things in my life make sense now…I can’t believe I never had an inkling I was autistic. I always thought every was going through a sensory meat grinder too you know?
Im still awaiting my autism assessment but I find delving into my interests a great way to lessen my anxiety as well making time for myself, especially as I am a uni student and the uni environment is often very overwhelming e.g. lots of people around socializing, the busyness of campus etc.
Absolutely!
I wish there was more information about autism and the college experience. So many brilliant people on the spectrum and navigating the entire college process with ideas for helpful accommodations would be an awesome gift for making the student experience a positive one!
Hi, new subscriber on this channel. Recently diagnosed. Your advice is absolutely wonderful. It also helps me mother my own son, who is autistic. Thank you.
Yeah, while things are still unconfirmed both in the same week just a week ago both the bmed doctor and my therapist both told me after my second time being in bmed in 2 months due to the DV situation I am in that there is a fairly high probability that I have undiagnosed autism. And honestly for me apart from having no clue what that even meant, like "ok let's assume you are right, what does that even mean?" after being told to look into it it makes so many things make so much more sense that honestly assuming it isn't something else that looks similar it is kind of a relief knowing "hey this is why I function this way and this is why I have such a hard time with things that should be easy while having an easy time with things that should be hard".
Love the new hair colour and pigtails! Rockin’ it ❤
Thank you so much for this video! Having been newly diagnosed, I really appreciated it. :) You make me feel normal in a world that makes me feel like I'm not!
Hey Alexis Unicorn! Love the name! Thanks for commenting and for watching. You are definitely not alone! Please make yourself at home on the channel and in the comments. There are a lot of great people here.
Ditto!! Words don’t always work for me. This comment said what I wanted.
Thank you! 31 with 2 kids and freshly diagnosed with AuDHD, so your videos are really helpful in navigating the new light I see myself under, and helping me define what are the accomodations that I should be discussing with my husband.
Hello! Thank you for the information, it's very helpful especially on the stimming! I want to tell you that you are already very beautiful, and this is just my opinion of course, but I think to ideally flatter your features, you could do thicker eyeliner that extends further over your eyes, and I think that you could also draw your eyebrows to extend a bit closer in so that they frame your eyes better? I could be wrong, but maybe you are interested in experimenting sometime and see if you agree with me. :)
This was useful i am just startingh to really get the gifts now man its been and is and i think will continue to be a process but so much learning... I hope I can share some of this soon.
In the holidays I put out a tray of Fidget Toys for my kids to play with when they're sitting on the lounge.
Hoihoi! First off, I love your channel!
So far, most of your videos have been more focused on ASD in a way that clicks with me.
I don't personally have a formal diagnosis for Autism but in the last year or so,
I've been on an intense psychological and emotional journey that lead me to see that I'm
more likely on the spectrum.
I'm a 30 year old female...so yeah, it's been a struggle lol.
But the main reason I'm commenting right meow is that you of course mention getting plenty of rest,
and just overall sensory overload issues.
On top of (likely) being on the spectrum, I have several chronic illnesses that overload me all the time;
specifically fibromyalgia, chronic migraine, and endometriosis...
I guess I'm asking (if I haven't ran across a video of it yet) if you have or would cover ASD and
chronic illness (especially pain disorders) and how to cope. Fibromyalgia makes it almost impossible
to get enough rest...and my hormones have the same effect. I'm always on the verge of meltdown so I'd
be so grateful if there was something out there that really discussed this topic!
Thank you for this topic suggestion! The only thing I have on that right now that might be helpful is my video on Spoon Theory:
th-cam.com/video/aBzy6cx4R8I/w-d-xo.html
i have been diagnosed since i was 8 but in therapy i was told to mask till i got home so im trying to embrace my autism
Never seen this channel before, you seem so nice 😊
Thank you, all your videos are so precious. You're really helping me.
About the alone time I love it, but sometimes I'd like to have a choice.
I feel that. I was telling my husband last night that I really want to be the type of person that can open my home to anyone and everyone, but it is exhausting to me and requires a lot of recovery time. It makes me sad but I'm also learning it's ok.
Thank you so much for this, I recently discovered how many autistic traits I have, researching has shown me just how many. You're videos help so much. Thanks for sharing your videos
thanks for this video. I just got diagnosed today and this will be helpful :)
You’re welcome! Glad you’re here.
From the description of the video i literally thought there was a starter kit for newly diagnosed autistics. I was diagnosed 6 months ago, still waiting from the regional center to set up my 6 month personal plan review. 6 months and only been contacted 1 time from my case worker. Frustrating. Anyway. Thanks for your insight. I don't take time for myself. I work too much. Ryan.
Wishing you well on this leg of your journey! Thank you for sharing this part of your experience with me. Please let me know if there are any specific topics I could cover that might be helpful to you.
I'm 43 and VERY recently professionally diagnosed. I also have Alexithymia pretty badly. I don't feel anxiety or deep depression, or if I am "feeling" it, I don't know what it is, as it is just mild sensations. For this reason, stimming doesn't seem to do much for me, but I may not have found the right one. My oldest daughter who I am 99% sure is also autistic, does suffer from anxiety. I'm hoping it helps her. I won't know what level I am on the DSM-V scale, as they are still working on the report. They only (nice of them) told me I am autistic, but will have to wait for the detailed report. Since I still have about 2 weeks left to wait for said report, I'm waiting to tell my daughter and also trying to figure out the best way to break it to her.
That’s so cool that you can zone out playing piano:) you can stim and make music haha
Can you stim through speech? Like speaking nonsense or just chattering to yourself without saying anything?
I do this! I never actually understood why until I looked more into vocal stimming. I talk to my cat about nonsensical things like i'm giving an important speech. I like to watch her facial expressions and imagine she's actually interested in what i'm saying.
@@lindseycassella3015well she probably is. Must love the quality time and attention. ❤
that is stimming!!
Thank you for this video! Have you or will you do a video on explaining/sharing what autism is to a neurotypical child. My daughter is 6 and she's starting to pick up on that I'm different. I'm not sure how to navigate it.
I was diagnosed last year and would like tips on relationships and dating.😊
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I’m new and loving your videos.
I was diagnosed 2 1/2 weeks ago so thx
you're welcome! sending you good vibes post-diagnosis. I know there can be a lot of emotions to sort through!
The popping and snapping sound of the putty is a big sensory overload for me. This is as always however excellent information here, thank you so much.
Love the pigtails!❤❤❤
I like being by myself but I have family around me who think that if I be myself and not go out I will end going crazy, it’s been 3 years, I am getting forced to go on these really long walks and when I speak up and have days where I don’t want to go out I get shouted it’s overwhelming at times.
Wow good luck with that ! I have à very present family myself, but i do get my time alone and it s a LIFE savior.
@@Alba-pc6bz Nice to know that and good luck to you too, I am guessing that from the tone of your comment you are young and haven’t hit that age yet where as an adult you are placed with a responsibility where you need to start caring for an elderly family member and regardless of whether you want to or not and whether you get on with that particular individual you still have to do put aside your differences and just think about your responsibilities. What’s worse is when that responsibility is not something that you choose but another family member chooses it for you and expects you to stick to it regardless of how you are feeling.
I appreciate this channel so so much
I’m not legally diagnosed with autism but I believe I have it because of my last autism evaluator says that she was about to diagnose me with autism then changed her mind and diagnosed me with 3 other diagnosis’s one of which was confirmed wrong. All I know is that I am neurodivergent in some way, multiple people have told me that.
Watching this video stimming with my "Star Dust Thinking Putty!" One of my favorites! (It glows in the dark😀) Excellent advice! As always thanks for posting.
Man I just looked on Amazon for a link to thinking putty to put in my description and I’m always AMAZED how many varieties they have!!! They have scented stuff now. And totally clear putty. And putty you sort through to find beads. I want all of it!
@@MomontheSpectrum Hey have you and your kids discovered making slime? Its super easy and loads of fun!
@@bryanmerton5153 Yes Bryan but get this: the actual process of creating it is much too intolerable for us!! 😂We did try making something called Oobleck which is solid when you strike it and liquid when untouched. SO WEIRD. That was pretty cool but again the mess was very upsetting to us! We tried! haha.
I shared with my family and they’ve been so nasty with me since. I’ve been struggling for 27 years and just got this figured out. Do I need to just cut them out completely? They were a huge cause of my shame over my symptoms, was punished for experiencing them, and now I feel like I’m a kid again when they shit on me.
Im considering getting one of those small trampolines for myself some nayone else have one ir use one just to let out steam or use for stimming when at home?
Thank you so much!
I self diagnosed about 10 years ago. Recently I was sorta diagnosed. Problem is I'm using veterans heath care, and the dr. told me VA doesn't really have autism experts, they deal more with war trauma and mental illness. He went though the DSM and diagnosed me in about 25 mins. I was hoping for more guidance, but he said he could work on symptoms like anxiety. He tried to put me on an SSRI, but i refused, because I know a pill isn't what I need. So i'm just learning all I can from the internet and youtube because the VA isn't much help.
I feel defective I don't have an interest maybe that's why I'm not balanced. Maybe it's adhd related too or that any interest I tried I was worse at than everyone I knew ... urg lots of thinking but you helped already! Thanks
Im betting you HAD a special interest but someone told you it was stupid or childish or that you can’t make money doing it…or you just weren’t good enough. Think back… maybe you were forced to give up the something you loved to do as a kid. I love to dance. Its my passion and my stim. I was told at age 12 “you are too fat to be a ballerina” and gave it up. But as an adult I’ve done African dance, jazz dance, belly dance, swing dance and I excel at all of them. Then I taught Zumba for 8 years. My parents told me there was “no way to make a career out of dance”. They were wrong.
@cammieopre9197 nope not for me I was encouraged to do anything but there wasn't a thing 🤷🏽♀️ but I love that you found yours in the end! And now help others with it! 😀
With untreatable 4:37 pain, I am constantly overwhemed. How can I handle pain when even a hair on my skin makes me crazy?
Hello, I recently came across your channel - and have enjoyed the material thus far, but I have to point out something - the audio levels are all over the place. one video I hear really well, the next one in the que looks interesting, and when it starts to play - I can't hear you. please don't take it personal - as I'm pretty much a self-diagnosed autistic myself - and audio - is a thing for me. just wanted you to be aware -
I have what I thought was a tic but I’m wondering if I am stimming. A few years ago it started as excessive lip licking and gradually turned into lip popping. All the time when awake.
Can that be stimming when I do in constantly?
I couldn't live without my weighted blanket
Thanks very much 🙏
Hey 6ou should self sooth, regardless h9w you feel about it. Do it now ,before ypu let life pass you by!
Thank you 🙏
I am an autistic adult man. I really need to marry and have children. Can I get help please. I applaud you and congratulate your journey thus far.
I'd like to learn HOW to organize. I find I have more organizers than actually being organized. How do you learn this? I used to live in an RV and it was so easy, it's all laid out for you, in an RV. Now I have an apt unit, or should I say storage unit, with a comfy chair and laptop...Can you do a vid on how to learn skils?
Try watching TH-cam “How to ADHD”. She has many videos in how to get organized that have helped me!!
Great video!!! 🙏💪👊 I recently picked up an Apollo Neuro (Bluetooth stim band for stress management) - will let you know how it goes!
Ok. Had no idea what this was but after researching PLEASE KEEP ME POSTED. 😻
I believe my son might be on the spectrum, I don’t know where to take him for an assessment he exhibits traits.
Hi I’m newly diagnosed & I wonder if anyone else stims , but not because they are highly sensitive. I’m (mostly) the opposite of highly sensitive, I dont notice things that I should - such as when I’m hungry, thirsty, hot, cold, have to use the bathroom or shower and lots of other things. My alarm goes off right next to me and I just let it go on and on cuz I’m not registering it I guess. I think it’s called hyPOsensitivity (?). I don’t notice or realize emotional feelings as well.
Does anyone relate to this? I’m new to this community but haven’t heard anyone talk about this side of sensitivity
I just tonight found out that my parents hide my childhood diagnosis and I've been underdiagnosed and unaware for the last 31 years.
Ive been letting myslef rock a bit when i sit now. I didmt allow mayelfnto so that in a public area at all before
I do this but I was doing it when going through periods of depression. Now I'm learning it's stimming. My usual stimming is toe and foot circling. When I think back a few people have pointed it out since my teens and I only just learned what it was this week at age 56! 😂
@@gardeninginthedesert I used to do just do it crying on my own! I let myself rock slightly in a chair if I need now
@@gardeninginthedesert hahah better late than never my friend! ☺️
How about someone who was diagnosed with pddnos which is now considered part of autism spectrum disorder and that same person is technically is autistic but haven't been diagnosed with asd
That's me
Lol the silly putty sound and hand movements - sound sensitivity and trouble with visual repetitive movements - can’t watch very easily 😂 but really great tips! I do have a soft squishy animal plush on my desk for the same purpose as the putty but nobody can see or hear it working remotely on virtual meetings 😀
I play with playdoah. I love squeezing it in my hands. I did not realize it was stemming.
I had no idea that futzing with a knead able art eraser was a stim.
How did you get diagnosed, like whatt kind of doctor did you see?
Is joint popping stimming?
It can be!
4:09 you saw something move across the room. Spotting a leaf fall from a load of trees my vision can pick up. Probably hear it land, too. I tend to do a lot of people watching out in public these days since doing all the self-diagnostic tests for AuADHD and the liberation from it.
That’s why I’m spewing out what I’m thinking reet now. My brain has just registered that what I’ve written isn’t even pertinent to this video *facepalm*.
I'd like to learn how to crochet
So here’s my question, since we are neurologically different, anyone besides me have any UNUSUAL NEUROLOGICAL EXPERIENCES? AKA - “NON NATURAL” experiences - aka “SUPERNATURAL” experiences? It has occurred to me that maybe I have a brain tumor & there is not an Angel that literally saves my bacon every now and then…… or that sudden whiff of Shalimar is not my long gone mom, or that ‘person’ in the crowd that looked exactly like my friend’s dead husband who spoke to me in my head 3 times & told me a joke only they knew about….. it goes on & on……
Anybody? Just kinda starting to wonder what’s up in my head! Thanks for your great channel, the videos w your husband a cute & great for sharing! Keep up the good work! 😎
yessssss. I am noticing that many of us on the spectrum are empaths. We feel and experience things that happen to others like they're happening to us. You might be interested in a Reddit thread called Empaths.
Once when I was younger, my then boyfriend, now husband, and I were signed up for a river rafting trip. I woke up early that morning feeling like I was going to be sick and was so upset. I walked down to the concierge and changed our reservation to a later time. When the bus drove us to the river, we were passed by ambulances and found out that on the trip we were supposed to be on earlier that morning, the rafts had overturned and several people drowned. Incredibly sad story but I'll always remember how strongly I sensed the danger before it even happened.
@@MomontheSpectrum IDK about that, I really flunked the EQ Test..... 🙄
@@dianeqinlv I don’t know I feel like those two things don’t necessarily go hand in hand 🤷🏼♀️
Do we purposely stim, or can it begin to happen without thinking about it?
I think it's more like we are doing it by accident, realise it helps our mental state, realise it's stim, and then do it deliberately when we need it?
I am right there with you 3:33
Not everybody stims and I'm one of them.
Level 1?
Are there levels to the game?
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thank you so much for this 💙💙💙💙
You’re welcome! Thanks for watching.
Do other females with autism find they have more male friends than female friends?
Yes! In my experience I feel like males will typically be more straightforward in their communication and not tiptoe around what they want/need in a conversation. There is a lot less guesswork and that makes it easier to be friends
We get a starter kit?! i didn't get a starter kit..
There are levels?????
middle age identity crisis: I have autism!!!
How did you go about obtaining an autism diagnosis?
My family thinis that I'm just dramatic😅😢
I'd rather just go on thinking I just suck at life.
😂😅😭 bam, feeling that. Lol