I needed this so much. As a young 21 year old woman,I put myself through way too much pressure seeing peers far further than I am in life on social media. Thank you for these conversations, I've learned to be grateful for what I have because I'm not willing to sacrifice anything for a bag.
You're a smart young lady and as long as you're on the right path, you'll end happier and further in life than any of those that are busy selling themselves ❤️ 😘.
The hunger is on a different level… As a junior attorney hungry for success and growth. The sadness of senior advocates at times wanting to take advantage of that, it’s even scary to ask for help these days
@@simphiwexashe1182 oh haibo Sim there was no need kodwa cause clearly you not familiar with practice. In practice Attorneys and Advocates interact all the time in matters. Usually when an advocate is briefed in a matter most law firms would prefer the junior attorney to work with advocate. What I relayed in that comment was a personal scanerio not even limited to me alone. Now you have me having to explain myself. Wow
I do have a legal qualifications just like you and I didn't want you to explain yourself it's just that normally I would hear that junior attorneys are ill treated by their seniors in law firms, but I get what you said regarding the briefs. Sorry for your experience I do sympathize with you
Thank you so much for this conversation. The moment you can't figure out what these people do to get to where they are, its the moment depression kicks in,the self doubt...and by the way you don't learn anything from pictures of nice breakfast, the vacations except being envious. From now on I am going to be more intentional with my social media.
Oh Jackie,you're such an intelligent woman.I never get tired to listen to your interviews.I wish I could afford young girls an opportunity to listen and learn from you.Ill never forget your book launch in Portshepstone
I love this conversation because it gives a deeper insight into this issue. I think you should expand it to the impact it has on children born from these types of relationships.
Yoh you just tapped into something that we don't take note of, the kids born from these transactional relationships. Yoh, I'd love to hear conversations around it we never hear of such
Umjolo has openly become a trading system, yes mostly a transactional somewhat supply and demand basis-game. When as a man, lust is a main attraction to a women, she has all the rights to also get what would be a suitable remuneration for her which is in truly speaking, money and the spoils that comes with it.
1st time watching this podcast. As a man I can honestly say it's very insightful hearing this topic from females perspective Thank you so much. I do feel that Jackie was so invested in her narrative she couldn't entertain the question of unpacking why the blessers and that behaviour even exists in the 1st place, these timers are broken as well, but I accept that its a whole other topic in of itself. Fantastic from the ladies
They really opened my eyes to a lot growing up and helped instil vital life lessons till this date. I am always looking for good programming for my kids now to ensure that these conversations continue to be opened up in the home
The line isn’t blurry though, it’s purely transactional. What gives rise to these conversations is buyers/sellers remorse. At what point does “help” become “control”? Everybody should take accountability for the relationships and transactions they enter into, don’t change the narrative or claim manipulation after the fact. And most importantly, think for yourself don’t be a follower.
I find that it’s usually people who are no longer able to engage in the system they helped to propel that comeback and criticise the very system, for instance a young pretty girl who has aged and not as “desirable” or the guy that losses all his money and is also not longer “desirable “ and feel some type of way about not having access
Sho, this speaks to a lot of our societies dysfunction, esp the last part of the convo. 80's kids us, were raised by very sick very strict parents who taught us taught us to keep our heads down and work in our little corner, we inherited and developed other illnesses - lack of confidence etc- that we are now raising our 2000 kids with. It all comes to a head because ma 2000 live in a very fast paced info age that the 70's & 80's parent is constantly catching up on. Mind you all the while each generation gets better at hiding these ills and things that matter and even better yet at being rebellious and loudly outlandish. It's a mutating cancer. However; by being self aware, teaching emotional restraint, meditation, therapy and such we can allow for vulnerability and conversation about the traumas we carry and slowly begin to heal our little corners to impact the greater canvas. We see it in social media where the admission of one's fears etc heaves a massive global sigh that 'hey me too' and open conversations begin on any topic.
you uploaded this 3 days after my birthday. I found your channel tonight and im in love with the depth of topics, nuanced intellect in conversation, and most importantly the grace and poise you carry with your voice, gaze and body language. in the most non-weird way, I could stare at you for hours cuz the way you speak is intensely attractive and not to mention you're pleasant to look at... I think im in love with you 🤣
And we need more circular programmes, because those few that exist are mainly religious based and are very judgemental, that's why it's hard for men to open up.
And religious people say the grooming of this comes from secular narrative which I kind of agree not put one the point you make that as a person of faith myself I do agree that religion does close doors of communication regarding such issues.
Jackie is very intelligent, straight to the point, powerful lady and that's what makes her very seriously sexy too. Controversial isn't her, I thought she was. She's just a beautiful human being.
As a homosexual young female🥺, I relate.. Because the pressure of being the funder of the relationship is weighing me down and makes me feel like I am not trying enough. I'm just 21 and I am student funded by NSFAS for heaven's sake. Sometimes makes me feel like love is an expense😢
The saddest thing that I see from this whole culture is that these people who are doing these things are women who are suppose to be goddesses that raise a nation of children kodwa just look at what is important to these women? Imagine how thier kids will be? Imagine the principles that they are learning and picking up from this culture? We are creating such a sick society just because of materialism its really disgusting. There are so many more important things in life kodwa ke everyone makes their bed they will sleep in it. As a woman who is a blesses you should expect that your daughter will one day date someone who is 20yrs their senior and there will be nothing you can do because you feed her the posion.
I hate !!!! that fact that we need to listen and learn these things. I hate it because these things are so basic, just basic morals, and people are talking about a greyline. Anyway let listen because we are parents and we must understand why people do such madness.
There's something I am struggling to understand on the point of our men suffer from the things that happened in the past. What about the men from Dubai what's the story there? Are also suffering history to treat women this way. I think humanity all over the world is somehow the same. Who is responsible to rehabilitate?
Eish bafwethu...the era of modern family, where now certain lifestyles are imposed on the kids at home by the parents or relatives...oh and social media
As a Zambian lemme just state that the dating culture in South Africa is extremely inflated and outragously materialistic. Out here as a 29 year old guy I can manage to easily get into a relationship and hardly spend anything on my partner other than the occasional dates and birthday reasonable gift.
I needed this so much. As a young 21 year old woman,I put myself through way too much pressure seeing peers far further than I am in life on social media. Thank you for these conversations, I've learned to be grateful for what I have because I'm not willing to sacrifice anything for a bag.
We are so glad you could take away something from the episode! You’ll one day be where you want to be ❤️
Keep it like that chile! It’s not worth it
Your path is different my skat...trust God
I came to the comments to type out this exact comment. I have now subscribed. I need more of this energy from women in my life. Thank you ladies ❤❤
You're a smart young lady and as long as you're on the right path, you'll end happier and further in life than any of those that are busy selling themselves ❤️ 😘.
The hunger is on a different level… As a junior attorney hungry for success and growth. The sadness of senior advocates at times wanting to take advantage of that, it’s even scary to ask for help these days
You don't want to say Junior attorneys and Senior attorneys?
@@simphiwexashe1182 oh haibo Sim there was no need kodwa cause clearly you not familiar with practice. In practice Attorneys and Advocates interact all the time in matters. Usually when an advocate is briefed in a matter most law firms would prefer the junior attorney to work with advocate. What I relayed in that comment was a personal scanerio not even limited to me alone. Now you have me having to explain myself. Wow
I do have a legal qualifications just like you and I didn't want you to explain yourself it's just that normally I would hear that junior attorneys are ill treated by their seniors in law firms, but I get what you said regarding the briefs. Sorry for your experience I do sympathize with you
This lady is so deep in every conversation.
A year later and this is still such a wholesome conversation ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this conversation. The moment you can't figure out what these people do to get to where they are, its the moment depression kicks in,the self doubt...and by the way you don't learn anything from pictures of nice breakfast, the vacations except being envious. From now on I am going to be more intentional with my social media.
So true
Oh Jackie,you're such an intelligent woman.I never get tired to listen to your interviews.I wish I could afford young girls an opportunity to listen and learn from you.Ill never forget your book launch in Portshepstone
I love this conversation because it gives a deeper insight into this issue. I think you should expand it to the impact it has on children born from these types of relationships.
Yoh you just tapped into something that we don't take note of, the kids born from these transactional relationships. Yoh, I'd love to hear conversations around it we never hear of such
Umjolo has openly become a trading system, yes mostly a transactional somewhat supply and demand basis-game.
When as a man, lust is a main attraction to a women, she has all the rights to also get what would be a suitable remuneration for her which is in truly speaking, money and the spoils that comes with it.
1st time watching this podcast. As a man I can honestly say it's very insightful hearing this topic from females perspective Thank you so much. I do feel that Jackie was so invested in her narrative she couldn't entertain the question of unpacking why the blessers and that behaviour even exists in the 1st place, these timers are broken as well, but I accept that its a whole other topic in of itself. Fantastic from the ladies
Jackie you have answered the questions I've had ukuthi why why is our society super dysfunctional the way it is...lack of rehabilitation 😢😢
Keep up the good work Jackie your truely an inspiration 👏
No wait, who's the girl with the short hair and red lippie? Mama you're so pretty🥺🥺❤️
Her name is Ursula Mariani.
Ke Ursula, bontle ba gae bo distractfy hle.
I really miss shows like home affairs..
They really opened my eyes to a lot growing up and helped instil vital life lessons till this date. I am always looking for good programming for my kids now to ensure that these conversations continue to be opened up in the home
Not me watching this 2 years later. I read Bare when I was 17 and God as a then 17 year old I had a lot of questions. Insightful conversation 🙌🙌🙌
Very interesting conversation, educational, inspiring, insightful and informative video. 👌👌
You put light on so much.... Thank you...
The line isn’t blurry though, it’s purely transactional. What gives rise to these conversations is buyers/sellers remorse. At what point does “help” become “control”? Everybody should take accountability for the relationships and transactions they enter into, don’t change the narrative or claim manipulation after the fact. And most importantly, think for yourself don’t be a follower.
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I find that it’s usually people who are no longer able to engage in the system they helped to propel that comeback and criticise the very system, for instance a young pretty girl who has aged and not as “desirable” or the guy that losses all his money and is also not longer “desirable “ and feel some type of way about not having access
Mara Ursula, just to add my two cents. O montle bathong. Moriri of ne moriri. You are beautifully created ❤️ ♥️
Sho, this speaks to a lot of our societies dysfunction, esp the last part of the convo. 80's kids us, were raised by very sick very strict parents who taught us taught us to keep our heads down and work in our little corner, we inherited and developed other illnesses - lack of confidence etc- that we are now raising our 2000 kids with. It all comes to a head because ma 2000 live in a very fast paced info age that the 70's & 80's parent is constantly catching up on. Mind you all the while each generation gets better at hiding these ills and things that matter and even better yet at being rebellious and loudly outlandish. It's a mutating cancer. However; by being self aware, teaching emotional restraint, meditation, therapy and such we can allow for vulnerability and conversation about the traumas we carry and slowly begin to heal our little corners to impact the greater canvas. We see it in social media where the admission of one's fears etc heaves a massive global sigh that 'hey me too' and open conversations begin on any topic.
you uploaded this 3 days after my birthday. I found your channel tonight and im in love with the depth of topics, nuanced intellect in conversation, and most importantly the grace and poise you carry with your voice, gaze and body language. in the most non-weird way, I could stare at you for hours cuz the way you speak is intensely attractive and not to mention you're pleasant to look at... I think im in love with you 🤣
You are so beautiful hle ausi☺️❤️
This was a great conversation, thank you 💟
We really need rehabilitation as men.
And we need more circular programmes, because those few that exist are mainly religious based and are very judgemental, that's why it's hard for men to open up.
And religious people say the grooming of this comes from secular narrative which I kind of agree not put one the point you make that as a person of faith myself I do agree that religion does close doors of communication regarding such issues.
I agree! I really think that's where the healing and reform of our societies lie. There's a huge gap here!
Great show Ursula... So proud of you my honey.
Been a minute missed these conversations
just got introduced to Jackie. love these conversations especially as a new uni student
Loving the channel.Brain stimulating.😍
We are sad as human beings...we as a COUNTRY are 💔
Wow Jacky I'm learning so much.
Haybo why I am only discovering your channel now? 🥺🥺🥺
you are such a great host. Definitely subscribing to your chanel
I finally found your channel 😍😍😍😭❤️🙌
Welcome hun 🤍
I found it today...have subcribed as well.
Having a blesser is selling your soul to the devil ,giving in then expecting in return ( especially material things )😢
The is also a " Ghost lady " speaking as well 😂😂....
Anyway great talk👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I am hear for Jackie ♥️
Yoh Jackie 🌺
Jackie is very intelligent, straight to the point, powerful lady and that's what makes her very seriously sexy too.
Controversial isn't her, I thought she was. She's just a beautiful human being.
As a homosexual young female🥺, I relate.. Because the pressure of being the funder of the relationship is weighing me down and makes me feel like I am not trying enough. I'm just 21 and I am student funded by NSFAS for heaven's sake. Sometimes makes me feel like love is an expense😢
How does one connect to Jackie's publishing company?
Info@jackiephamotse.com
Thank you very much. Have a blessed year
The saddest thing that I see from this whole culture is that these people who are doing these things are women who are suppose to be goddesses that raise a nation of children kodwa just look at what is important to these women? Imagine how thier kids will be? Imagine the principles that they are learning and picking up from this culture? We are creating such a sick society just because of materialism its really disgusting. There are so many more important things in life kodwa ke everyone makes their bed they will sleep in it. As a woman who is a blesses you should expect that your daughter will one day date someone who is 20yrs their senior and there will be nothing you can do because you feed her the posion.
This Jackie lady is quite in intelligent
I love this channel.
You're very pretty. Im cutting. My hair tonight. Jack she is the best in Africa. I like her.
I hate !!!! that fact that we need to listen and learn these things. I hate it because these things are so basic, just basic morals, and people are talking about a greyline. Anyway let listen because we are parents and we must understand why people do such madness.
Sick generation
Dope🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
In the UK, a sugar daddy is what she describes a blesser to be
There's something I am struggling to understand on the point of our men suffer from the things that happened in the past. What about the men from Dubai what's the story there? Are also suffering history to treat women this way. I think humanity all over the world is somehow the same. Who is responsible to rehabilitate?
Dubai is a fundamentalistic Arab nation built on male chauvinism thus what's happening with Dubai...it's basically a heaven 4 patriarchy
Eish bafwethu...the era of modern family, where now certain lifestyles are imposed on the kids at home by the parents or relatives...oh and social media
What’s wrong with ricoffy and jacobs 😂😂😂
Apparently it's too cheap😂😂😂😂🥴
@@musamoomooschemistry1526 The pressure 😂😂😂
Entry level 😂
😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That lady commenting behind the scenes needs to know not to speak louder than the guest.
she's so irritating
I was thinking about that. Uyaphapha
I wish I can get a bleser. But I'm a celebern
What is celebern? Or you mean celibate?
As a Zambian lemme just state that the dating culture in South Africa is extremely inflated and outragously materialistic. Out here as a 29 year old guy I can manage to easily get into a relationship and hardly spend anything on my partner other than the occasional dates and birthday reasonable gift.
I blame capitalism
Siess!
Her idea/definition of sugar daddy is wrong. It's well documented. Maybe in a South African context you can argue for it but even then its a stretch
You look like zandi nhlapho
She does.
It creates delusion, sad generation 😢😢😢
p̷r̷o̷m̷o̷s̷m̷ 💘
Can the lady who is the host not talk too much we need to hear her guest telling the story
Sick generation 😢
I like girls today are just scary