GRWM | My Minimal Makeup Application & Thoughts on People Telling Me (and Women) to Smile...
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- GRWM | My Minimal Makeup Application & Thoughts on People Telling Me (and Women) to Smile...
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I'm applying foundation and a natural lip color while discussing my thoughts about people telling me (and women in general) to "smile!" or that I should have animated facial expressions for no reason. To me, this is odd. I don't smile unless I have a reason. But beyond that I think it's indicative of a broader topic and how women, in particular, are perceived or expected to present ourselves to the public.
It makes me laugh whenever someone asks why I'm not moving my face while doing my skincare routine, for instance--I always want to ask whether that person moves THEIR face while cleansing & applying lotions... (Perhaps they do?!? Maybe some people do contort their features while washing themselves.) I really don't know, but what I do know is that I'm content; my not having a fixed smile on my face at all times doesn't mean that I'm discontent. People express themselves how they do, and not everybody is the same way. I'm going to continue being who I am. There is boundless strength in being exactly who YOU ARE. Always be who you are. xx
Exactly! I always comment on videos how society finds it their business to comment or feel the need to control how a woman dresses, expresses herself, her weight, her face, etc. When I have a daughter, I'll teach her early on to say fuck off to those type of people.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic 💜
Which foundation u used and shade no?
Omg I feel the exact same way! When I see myself on my own videos I feel like I also don’t move my face much. I agree it shouldn’t be necessary to over exaggerate facial expressions, but I can also see it from other people’s perspective. It almost looks like I’m trying not to move my face on purpose lol ... but it’s just how my face is!!! I also agree that less expressive faces age better. 🤷🏻♀️
Jennifer Myers finally a strong woman with character on youtube ! honestly don't know what people see in fake smiles just for videos. you go girl ! its a breath of fresh air to see a real woman on YT.
When a man in public tells me to smile, I respond “No, you smile.” And they often look confused but they leave me alone haha
I have done this lol. I say, "Why don't you do it for me?" And they look at me like I have 9 heads.
Jennifer Myers 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉
Great idea! I'll try that next time I'm told (by a complete stranger) to "smile".
That's awesome! I'm going to steal this.
@@rayradiance666 that is awesome
Ladies please don’t feel pressured to smile especially by a man who doesn’t walk around 24/7 with a smiley face himself!
Simple rule : anyone who doesn't wanna move their face, don't move your face. Those who have a problem with someone not moving their face, try moving YOUR eyes somewhere else! 🙄
Such good comment
I agree love the comment
I’m so glad you addressed this! My husband is a high functioning autistic professor and never gets told to smile. But me, a younger woman with MS who has a lot of discomfort and depression, gets told by both men and women to “smile, hun!” It must also be cultural. I have a friend who is Japanese and has told me showing teeth or smiling widely is considered gross. I wish people would just let us be who we are and concentrate on themselves.
It's cultural for sure. I grew up with relatives who only smiled if there was a legitimate reason.
I'm high functioning also and get told to smile a lot. It's very annoying. I would never even think to say that to someone.
One time I was shopping in a department store and a woman gave me a strange look and said you really need to lighten up and smile. I said my father just died and I'm looking for clothing to wear to the funeral! (yes, it was true) She gave me a look and said oh, sorry.
I totally agree with you. I have had men (who are total strangers just standing in a grocery check out line) tell me to smile... I’m thinking I don’t know you, and you’re telling me to smile on demand like I’m a pet for your pleasure!!! How rude and base. I’m a happy person and I don’t need to prove it to anyone but me. We visit you here because you’re you Jennifer.
If you’re reading this, you WILL be successful one day💕keep grinding!
Yes!!!
I literally just glanced down and read your comment
Wow!!
Impeccable timing.. I’m so on my way
Ps .. Long time in the making
Thank you!
The emotionally labile “personalities” on social media are exhausting. From crying to laughing hysterically, waving their hands, overly-dramatic, “don’t forget to like this video and hit that subscribe button” - ad nauseam. Every body out there eating a bean and drinking 10- gallons of Starbucks every day, giving tours of their new, way too expensive clothes in their closet, in their new, way too expensive house with fancy dogs they don’t even bathe themselves because “ewwwww”... Naw. In the words of Bishop Bullwinkle, HELL to the naw. You’re great, that’s my opinion. Authentic is rare. Folks aren’t used to that, but most of all, there will always be those folks that are so threatened by the real, they have to make unnecessary remarks. You are SO appreciated and I know you’re one of my favorite PEOPLE here on the Tube.
You are so funny and interesting!
Great comment
ugh this
Lmao! This is so funny and 100% true. Victoria Beckham has been trolled too for her none smiling capacity. It's just stupid. I don't smile. I just don't give a f***k.
Real is the new rare.
There's beauty in simplicity is it
You don't have to fake a smile, in fact maybe that's the reason I feel relaxed watching you, because you are like any other human being irl, it's not like we all smile 24/7 but when we want to, even with friends of course we will laugh so hard if we were joking but there will be a time that we will talk normally. You are natural that's why it's fun/relaxing to be here 💞
When there's appropriate cause, I do smile and uncontrollably, too! But not just for the sake of it; never. Why would I...that, to me, would be the equivalent of wearing a frowning/scowling expression when I'm not actually disgusted by something. There's no point. I guess the "point" of smiling without reason is to present as friendly...non threatening...I don't know; to appease others. I'm not interested in doing that.
My feelings as well.
I have what they call "resting sad face" I usually get asked, "Are you alright? You don't look ok." Damn just let me be 🤣🤣🤣
Same!
love how unapologetic you are. totally on board with everything you said. don't get why some people i guess don't seem to understand not everybody is super expressive through facial expressions, etc. if anything, people are faking it too on social media by being so 'smiley' (for lack of a better word)!. i don't see much about people every discouraging that! p.s. as a man, i have never received this comment and i literally consciously try not to move my forehead or nasal labial folds.. lol
I think it's different for men. I thank you for commenting. I try not to raise my eyebrows. Sometimes, I find they have a mind of their own LOL
Thank you for addressing this. I'm Asian Canadian, and the few times I've been to the US, I noticed when I get introduced to people at parties, most women would use an unnaturally high pitched voice paired with a broad smile and say "Nice to meet you!" in an overly enthusiastic tone but with no emotions in their eyes and the conversation would usually last for less than half a minute (there are obviously exceptions).
This is something I noticed American women doing a lot. Funnily, American men aren't that different from other men in this regard.
I myself am not a smiley person and have been told that I look serious, but never got told to smile except for my orthodontist when I was a teenager. I truly believe it's the constant reminder that women should smile that created so many seemingly "fake" people, because they're told to have to act a certain way in order to be accepted by the society, and in the process, lose their authenticity.
I have rbf too. The scientific literature on this topic says both genders are capable of exhibiting it in equal measure. Unfortunately, only one side of the gender binary can wield it with impunity. What I've observed in my personal life is that the people who urgently feel the need to tell me to smile, or feel threatened by my neutral facial expression are the most fragile people in the room. They use me as the locus onto which they may subconsciously project their deeply held insecurities. Then they get angry that I'm not more accommodating or gratifying to that threatened part of themselves. Secure individuals are capable of employing logic and realizing I haven't actually said or done anything that would warrant a legitimate negative response on their part. Ultimately, I love my rbf because it (mostly) keeps the creeps away, and lets me know which people I should invest my time and relationships in.
I feel relaxed watching your videos because you do not emote unnecessarily. It’s natural and so refreshing on TH-cam.
as a Latina I always get told that I'm too serious. My boss (who is Brittish) almost punched a guy for saying that on a meeting haha then he told me: we are not bloody clowns, why would we smile always
I love your attitude and I agree 100%. I was once told by a male coworker to smile and I said « I don’t smile on command », he didn’t speak to me after that. I believe I intimidated him 😸. I also get told that at the gym by men. I just don’t understand who does reps and smiles in the mirror ...
Jennifer, i know, this is a bit shallow but you have one of the prettiest faces I have ever seen. 🦋
Thank you for the butterfly. Nice to see you again :-)
I was told that I had a stoic and snobbish facial expression. I grew up in a culture where being all "smiley" especially towards boys would be considered flirtatious and frowned upon. As an adult, I am smiley when I am in a good mood and/or as a gesture of being polite, but I hate it when I'm told to "smile more" just to appear friendly and warm.
I love your demeanor is so calming that you're not overly fake expressive. My gurl ! you do you. I think it comes of as someone who is very real and straight forward while also very calm and collected.
That’s right girl. Stay true to who you are. When creating content viewers often want to make you into who THEY want you to be. If your face is frozen then don’t watch. If you don’t smile enough then don’t watch. It’s that simple! Keep up your great work and I’m glad you’re doing well. Thanks for sharing
People ask me the same! I also keep a relaxed facial expression and try not move my face too much! I do smile of course but it is a good trick to prevent wrinkles ;)
Fans of the UK show Coupling may remember this classic line from Sally (who is also not very emotive):
"Remember, every morning your face has slipped a little bit more. Since thirty, I've had to put a daily limit on facial expressions. I only ever smile at single men as I can justify the loss of elasticity." I think the episode was called "Flushed".
@@schatzip LMAO love it
There is a pressure to always be positive and inviting to everyone, being a woman. I’ve experienced the same comments and it’s very frustrating to be seen as out of the ordinary if I’m not smiling and putting on a certain facade for others. Women are less likely to say something to me, but working in retail before I have experienced many men telling me I need to smile. It’s quite annoying.
I completely agree with you. You're the only youtuber I have turned on my notifications for! You're my role model.
Richa, that's so nice. I thank you for turning on notifications for me. That makes my day!
@@JenniferMyers ❤️
I’ve been told to smile, brush my hair, paint my nails. I highly doubt men get these same sort of comments.
I love combining a lip liner with chapstick or healing ointment! It's a really good trick and doesn't dry out your lips!
Me too, and it's natural-looking, too!
I think you're so cool🌸 You're so practical & honest. It's tiring watching other people try so hard to put on a persona on TH-cam. When I watch your videos, I can relax and feel comfortable. Men definitely aren't told to smile more. It's insane that even in person, women will be told by male strangers on the street to smile! They don't deserve our smiles. There's no reason to smile at them.
I imagine nothing to be more exhaustive than perpetually pretending to be someone you're not.
@Rachel
I guess i'm the exception then because i've been told to smile pretty much all my life for the reasons being more inviting, approachable and actually not look like i am going to murder someone (yes i have been told that many times that my resting face looks like that lol)
It had come to a point where sometimes i would feel self conscious if i didn't smile to people. However i feel like random women and men alike should not feel the pressure of smiling at each other for no reason or even smiling back if they don't feel like it. On the side note where i live(western europe) i'm glad that i have never ever encountered stranger men telling women to smile that idea just seems very strange to me. My two cents on this is to just smile whenever u feel like it.
Take care 🙏🏼
@@JenniferMyers
Next to it being exhausting i believe that people who will feel the pressure of pretending to be someone else will become phychically ill by putting up a fake persona literally all the time. All behaviour that you'll cast upon yourself will come with positive or negative consequences i believe.
There won't be a minute passing by where u will feel the inner peace which has dire consequences for not only the person who does that but others too(butterfly effect) That is why taking care of all dimensions of yourself is so dammn important. Taking care of yourself is also taking care of each other i believe.
P.S. Love you're content🙏🏼😁
I really love your face :) I am also really pale and have dark hair/brows and brown eyes. That "High contrast aesthetic", unfortunately isn't very appreciated nowadays in western countries. So I grew up hating my pale skin, being unable to tan and wanting lighter hair. Seeing you embracing your natural beauty is making me so happy and motivating me to love and accept the features god has blessed me with. Thank you for being you.
Thank you, Sato. That's so thoughtful of you to say. Always be yourself. You cannot lose when you embrace who you are and walk through life in alignment with that.
I dislike being told to smile in public by men. It usually happens when I’m grocery shopping or just going about my life, then I’m reminded that there are men who think my only purpose is to please them in some way. I’m not a person getting food or resources for myself, I’m just an ornament in these men’s lives.
Grocery shopping, yes! The aisle(s) of doom LOL
I would go a step further and say that not only do some men feel like we are an ornament to please them, but that what they are truly asking for is positive feedback. It feels to me that these men are asking me to provide them with attention; notice them. And why IS the grocery store the defacto hunting ground for the vapid male? (Disclaimer-i’m the proud mom of two amazing men so I do not mean to generalize.)
Don't bother what people say. I never thought that you didn't smile. It didn't even cross my mind at all. I just feel that you are always vibrating your natural beautiful authenticity and that is what refreshing and attractive.
P.S.: I am also not from the US though ;)
Im 34 and have been told by men since I was a young teenager to smile. I guess my neutral face isn't cheerful enough.... it's funny how I dont think I've ever been told once by a woman that I should smile but it has literally been hundreds of men throughout my life. I've never once thought to say to a stranger what kind of face they should be making. It really is an issue because it's proof of the way women are EXPECTED to behave a certain way
Jennifer, I appreciate you for who you are! People just don’t get not everyone is the same. Some of us are more energetic, talk, smile or laugh all the time, some of us are more quiet, more even-tempered and so on. It’s as simple as that! This variety makes the world so much more interesting.
I think so too; it's what makes humans so special.
I think you are a breath of fresh air! And I completely agree! Thanks for your videos, I truly enjoy them so much!!!
One of the reasons why I like to watch your videos is because you show you as you are. Personally I don't like to watch people that are putting on a fake face or smile, because it really shows through! By showing you as you are is signalizing integrity and self-esteem to me.
I actually never noticed that you don't make facial expressions. because I do see that you make expressions.
Love your attitude. Thank you for encouraging being yourself and not pleasing random people for nothing.
Please dont take the weird things ppl on the internet feel they have a right to say personally. On the internet ppl like to say the worst things sometimes and i personally love the person you show because you seem sincere and that is pretty cool 😊
I appreciate that, Angelica.
I completely agree. This is why I have grown to love mask wearing in public. No strange men telling me I should smile... as they can barely see my face.
The mask mandate has been serving multiple purposes!
I honestly adore the way you express yourself and talk! It's very relaxing and interesting, your personality is awesome
I actually LOVE your personality and o love that you are not fake, you are so lovely and I find that watching your videos they are very calming and I just really enjoy your content.
I like seeing someone like you on social media. You are being yourself. Love it
Your eyebrows are so beautiful!!! Teach us how to have that perfect form🙏🏽
People are impossible to please. So please yourself! I enjoyed this video. Thank you, Jennifer! 🌷🌸🌻
Love the simple and minimal of your makeup routine, cause it still shows your natural beauty!💛
I am sorry that people are telling you those comments, but those people need ro realized and understand that not everyone is going to smile. Like when I used to work at this restaurant, one of my coworkers asked me if I can take a customer's order. I didn't know why a customer asked to have another cashier, but after I found out why because apparently my coworker's has the "bitch" face look (but she is one of the nicest coworker to be with and that is her calm and neutral look). Ugh, some people will never understand.
Hope you have a great one Jennifer 😊🌻🌵💛
I realize that a smile is indicative of happiness in the moment (as a reactive expression)...but what I dislike is that NOT wearing a smile, or not having the tendency to have "perma smile" is somehow indicative of unhappiness or being grouchy. I'm oftentimes very content and straight-faced; stoic. Is that so problematic? I'm not bothered, but it does seem that OTHERS appear to be...bothered. I observe this not only in myself but reactions towards others I see who aren't walking around smiling...they're treated like, "what's the matter with that person??" Are we not allowed to rest our faces and keep a stoic expression? Apparently not lol. It's ok. It was just on my mind, as I said.
This is why I love to watch your videos: It is so relaxing and calming to NOT see a 24/7 smile in videos because everyone else does. You are wonderful the way you are. :-)
😊 thank you
I love YOU for YOU. You’re authentic, which is very rare. Love this video so much.
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Thanks Kitty. Each of us should be afforded the inherent right to be exactly who we are; and we need to celebrate that.
Exactly, Jennifer Myers!! I love your confidence & outspokenness on important issues. Love you so much, you beautiful soul.
💋💋💋💋
Always appreciated your authenticity and personality!!! Quite refreshing!!! Love from Trinidad!!!
You’re my role model. From the way you take care of yourself to your mentality, truly an amazing, admirable woman! ❤️
I just found your channel when looking for super simple routines with tretinoin. I like the way you are so authentic. Two funny things. One is that I do my makeup exactly like you, I just use a simple serum foundation with (additional) spf and lip liner to fill my lips, topped by some healing ointment. The other thing is that I smile often, it is my natural expression - but I have been told many times that I smile too much. People (mainly men in the business environment) think I am not serious enough, just because I smile. That's how different things can be perceived depending on who you talk to and in what environment you are. In the end, I do what you do...I remain true to myself - and smile 😀
I really like your personality. It’s very soothing and you come across very genuine.
You're so authentic! I'm really inspired by you because I had a phase where I just wanted to please everyone and fit in. But in the process I completely lost myself. I didn't know who I was anymore.
I also love the way you talk. You don't scream at us viewers :D
Why would I scream at you? That would just be entirely ludicrous and uncalled for.
@@JenniferMyersIkr! A lot of people on youtube are really hyper which is sometimes appealing for the audience I think.
i literally love u so much and hope u upload forever i love that youre not fake and preformative and i think ur just the sweetest most wholesome person ever and u have SUCH good values and i just wanna hear ur thoughts everyday. love u !!!!
Thank you, Rachel!
I actually didnt know how I would answer to someone who made the comment about not smiling because the question itself is condescending and patronising. I probably would ignore it altogether. But then i heard your explanation and thought - wow, a spot on answer. You are wonderful in any way possible and yes, stay truthful to your own beliefs. I wish more women were like you.
Good for you for sticking up for your genuine emotions. I never was effusively smiley, but I got tired of being told I have an rbf, and being made to feel uncomfortable for it. So, I have caved in and am now just going along with people’s expectations.
It just brings me a peace of mind hearing you share your thoughts. Could you please share more on how to strengthen sense of the self?
Your talk about people telling you to smile reminds me of a picture of a men's bathroom that said: do epic sh!t and women's that said: smile you're losing weight. So ridiculous.
Oh my.
I've been watching you for quite some time and I think you smile and express a lot with your eyes. It's subtle but it's not something I would call "cold" or no emotion.
I think you are beautiful just the way you are! You DO smile when it's appropriate, and it's lovely. I admire how you don't feel obligated to be someone that you are not. I am actually just the opposite. I try to please people all the time, and I don't like that about myself. It's very draining. I've been watching your videos, trying to learn from you how to be more of who I am and less of who I think others want me to be. So, I just would like to encourage you to please continue to do what you do! I love your videos! :)
I really like your personality, so calming and agreeable
Your videos are so refreshing and wonderful, they always lift my mood! Thank you so much ❤️ may you be blessed
Bless you, Ray.
You're gorgeous! Can't stop saying this ❤
Hey Jennifer,
I am a male and quite similar to you concerning facial expressions. I never smile when i do not feel like it. It feels so unpleasant to me to smile when i do not genuinely feel the urge to, which indeed probably makes me smile less than the average person. On the contrary you will always know that my expressions are frank and not fake.
I have been told to smile more throughout my life, even now that I am 21, on numerous occassions. May it be job interviews or social interaction with acquaintances or even close friends. I too find that rather annoying and sometimes even upsetting, just let me be the way I want to be. But with the years I care less and less. Just wanted to share that :)
I think it spooks some men if they can't make a girl smile jus by being there, so many women smile out of awkwardness, keep on intimidating;)
It’s always a pleasure to watch your videos Jennifer! You get a smile from me every time💕
Thanks, Emanuela. That's a beautiful name.
@@JenniferMyers Thank you so much!
I love smiling. 🙃 It makes me feel better as a person. To me it’s not fake because I generally feel happy inside so it comes out.
I love people so much and it’s beautiful to see the light sparkle in the eyes of the elderly as well as the younger children when you share a smile of the happiness that is in your heart with them. To me it’s worth the wrinkles.
Your smile is genuinely a beautiful expression of your beauty, but I totally respect your reserved stance. This is who you are, and that’s truly authentic, which is lacking in this time.
I love your honesty! I think you are so beautiful!!😍😍😍
I appreciate your sharing about being encouraged to smile. It's an interesting topic to reflect on.
I don’t really emote and I think about wrinkles too! 😂 I had a lady tell me to smile when I was in the grocery store once and I did a small smile to make her happy but went back to a blank expression when she walked away. I wish I didn’t but idk I guess I have a soft spot for old ladies. I also just don’t like the way my face looks when I smile. I find my relaxed expression to be prettier.
LOL
You’re so beautiful and I think you’re perfect just the way you are! Love that you embrace yourself ❤️ in 23 and on my tretinoin journey, 2 months in. I hope I can get skin like you some day !
Im so glad i found ur channel,now i see that im not crazy if i dont laugh all the time,if i dont wear make up always,if im more loner enjoying my time with my self...love watching ur videos☀️
Your eyes and eyebrows are so naturally beautiful
It depends. I am a guy, and in the past, I have been through periods of prolonged poor mood, and I have gotten one-off comments of "you should smile more" from random people who saw me sporadically. For context, I normally laugh and smile at anything, but when I dealt with severe depression or periods of rage and stress over school and work, it was plastered on my face. Even my neutral resting face showcased dissatisfaction or tedium on some level.
And I have been on the other end of it too as I have casually mentioned to my old close friends (male and female alike) that one of the things I love the most about them was their uninhibited laugh and ear-to-ear grins or soft, gentle smiles. They came off as jovial in that case whereas their stern professional looks or facial expressions during events that they didn't care for were off-putting subconsciously.
I think there's a natural inclination to want to see others smiling because it can convey so many different things. A lovely smile acts not only as a proxy for expressing happiness (even if you're actually suppressing tears) but also displays levity and humor. It is inviting and welcoming, not necessarily in a sexual way (for any gender), but more in the "I am clearly relaxed enough to indulge in a smile and don't mind your presence in my general vicinity" sense. It puts others at ease as it can show warmth and caring. It can also signal enjoyment of the present moment, be passing evidence of a blip of nostalgia or wonder, and encapsulate deep appreciation and gratitude for the subtle things in life, or despite tragedy.
Of course, if you're not in the mood, forcing a smile is a contrived act, but it can also change your state sometimes. I think that's part of what's happening: people perceive that one is in an off state if one rarely emotes or has an apparent scowl on, which may or may not be the case, and may wish to see one smile to make sure that it's nothing serious and chronic.
I feel like the expectation to smile a lot is more of a US thing. In Europe people don’t smile unnecessarily, and if you smile too much they think you’re fake or disingenuous. I also agree that the expectation to smile more is weighed more heavily on females. I often get told to smile more and it annoys the crap out of me.
I have Russian neighbors who are some of the warmest people I've ever known; I don't think I've seen either of them smile, ever lol. It's kind of funny.
I was going to tell you to be who you want to be and express when it’s natural, but I don’t need to tell you. I appreciate and admire your authenticity. Ignore the unkind comments. I love your calm nature! ❤️
Telling someone to smile is just as annoying as being told, "you looked tired" when you're simply not wearing makeup. It's men who usually tell me both of these. It's rare when a woman tells me one or both.
My go-to responses are:
"No."
"Don't tell me what to do."
"You're not a reason to smile."
You are incredible and inspiring. I admire your strength of character and agree that you should always be true to yourself. I personally think that you smile plenty, and your eyes are extremely expressive. Love how you advocate the importance of beauty coming from within. Why do people feel that is okay to tell other people how they should behave? If we could only focus more on ourselves and our personal growth we would be a better society for sure.
I just think you are so sweet. I am not a constant smiler either and when I do I have a million wrinkles. I love to smile but only when I feel like doing so. Good for you for being true to yourself. I do the same with my lip liner
Good for you. I love when people can be themselves. There is a lot of pressure on women to not love who they are.
Thank you for this video. It gave me a few chuckles
Laughter is the best medicine.
Thank you for another beautiful video Jennifer. Thank you for being such an inspiration to me. I also get frequently asked why I don't smile, and people always ask me if I'm angry at them, I only smile when it's needed, I don't want so seem fake and smile when it's not really needed (also I'm a guy) I'm 21 years old and I started using tretinoin this year, thank you for sharing your skincare routine with us. I went to my local drugstore and got all the products you use, and they really do work so well with my skin. What foundation are you using in this video? Thank you for all your videos, I also changed my diet and incorporated bone broth and collagen and EFA's into my diet, my skin and hair never looked this good and healty. Thank you Jennifer, you are a beautiful person. x
I'm glad I find such a genuine person on TH-cam.
I appreciate your calmness and refusal to be anyone but yourself at all times 💙
Thank you phantomb
Just to be you. I think when people don’t smile the assumption is they are depressed. It’s funny when I started following you I always thought the reason you weren’t overly smiling was due to preventing wrinkles. Smiles come naturally and if it is not happening for you on the TH-cam videos then I’m sure your followers will understand. Just be you, you have so much to offer🥰
When I was younger around my adolescence years. My mom’s friend noticed that I always had a serious face with no expressions sometimes. She thought that I looked like a snob or I looked like I wasn’t friendly or approachable. My mom told me about it and explained to me the purpose of a smile, you smile whenever you feel it, if for instance we were walking or met people that we knew. Smiling helps ones opinion of another person towards you to think you are a good person. But you don’t have to smile at people all the time and be fake. You can smile or not be forced to do it, just to please other people. We smile whenever we want to, its an action we base on what we see, what we do and what we are thinking. Please do not force a person to do this, do that, especially just to satisfy one’s opinion. We act according to what we feel at the moment. Please spread love and positivity! We should not be judgmental of others. Thank you Jennifer for addressing and explaining your side. Thank you for all the advice and tips you always share with us. Be safe always and stay healthy everyone.😘❤️😍
I’ve never commented on a video before but this struck a chord with me. Although I generally pretty emotive, when I’m not in conversation with someone, I must tend to have a more serious expression on my face. It’s these times where I typically hear “Smile!” from someone, and it’s mostly a comment from men. This comment makes me want to flip the other person off (I don’t, of course...well only mentally) rather than smile. I do think there is some kind of strange societal perception that women are required to be bubbly and happy all the time in order to be valued. I have two younger brothers and many male friends and I have never heard anyone tell them to smile or suggest they smile more. I’m sure that is probably indicative of the male population as a whole. Personally, I don’t feel that I need to change to conform to that kind of silly societal norm and I’m glad to see that you don’t either. Stay strong sister, and continue being you. 😉👍
When a man tells me to smile, I usually say, "why don't you do it for me." And I get looked at like I'm even stranger than merely someone who doesn't wear a perma-smile lol. Some laugh, though, which is always funny for us both. And then I really do smile LOL
Jennifer , you're so pretty , so authentic , so pure ..I can't even take my eyes off you . I'm 27 , a lonely woman, was struggling over these years with my low self esteem and confidence but when I found you here on youtube , I started living and loving myself more and more by your influences. Please come on insta if you like , btw, love you and your contents ..love from India ❤
Jennifer, you’re not alone. I am like that too. I don’t make many facial expressions.
BeYoutiful!! I agree with what you just said and find it annoying when ppl tell others they should do this or that. Always be you!!
I really like how true to yourself you are...Smile or no smile...you’re a beauty 😐😁
Beautiful! 😍
The smiling thing brings something else to mind - requesting that you take off your glasses. I've only had men request it too. It's so creepy and annoying. We don't owe these men anything!!
Omg yess lmao they think we're dolls
Nowadays the same goes with masks. I had men asking me to remove my mask to see my face as I was serving them at a restaurant
what....
My ex boss was a female. She also asked me to take off my sunglasses. She didn't believed me when I told her that without them I can't see. I needed somebody else's help to make her understand. She, somehow, believed that I am rude. I find it rude to ask me to take off my sunglasses. I don't wear them to look cool. I wear them to be able to see properly. Just like other people use their "normal" eyeglasses. You don't ask a person to take off their prosthetic just because you think it's just some whim.
Wow!! I am not generally a commenter of videos, but I had to stop right at 1:43 and say what the hell with the why don’t you smile more?? What is wrong with people? I love your videos because you are a thoughtful, eloquent women who provides practical information and pearls of wisdom, YES you also happen to be very beautiful. I have never thought, this women doesn’t smile enough 🙄 ok ..I’m going to finish the video now 😂
I happen to think I smile a rather "normal" amount... lol whatever "normal" means.
So glad you are making TH-cam content more regulary now.
Oh, and I must mention the fact that you are gorgeous. Greetings from Croatia!
Hi Jelena, thank you
I like your voice and how calm you are, makes me feel so relaxed
I feel the same way. Facial expressions are just that , they are meant to signify / express emotions that you are experiencing or feeling.
Smiling is one of them, it must be present if it has meaning.
love love ur brows !!
Thank you.
i just discovered this channel and i love your content, you are so inspiring and naturally beautiful.
I’m here for the no bs calming voice and great skin tips. So thanks for being a non-conformist.
You are so right, in so many ways 🙏💋
I watch your videos because I genuinely feel your honest and real. I am sorry you get such heat about nonsense when you are the one opening up your world to us....people will always have something to say. I am sorry about remarks and statements that are plain inconsiderate. 💚
I think it's inspiring that you know where you stand. Don't let the bastards grind you down.