Solution 11:13 1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds 2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused 3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement My extra tip: fear dishonors yourself and your self esteem. Keep confronting fear head on. Practice will help you relearn a healthier habit. Live a life free of self limits.
Princess: Your extra tip is very wise and beautifully formulated. If we let our fear determine or define our lives we really are its slave. But if we challenge and face our fears eye to eye, then we are free.
I don’t know if this will always work because ...some of the more everyday things that you’re fearful of aren’t very exciting! or something to look forward to. Like if you have a few people coming to the house to do a job for you. Your anchor thought is I’m excited to get the job done but I don’t really I’m not excited about trades people coming to my house so what about that. I find it difficult with people I don’t know around my own own space and get very anxious about heaps of just normal things unfortunately
@@annab5961 i think for that, simply trade fear and excitement with anxiousness and anticipation. think about it, anxiousness is just a low key form of fear where, instead of absolute dread, you're just, quietly roasting yourself with a pessimistic awaiting of what's to come. so what's the opposite? anticipation, quietly building yourself UP with a optimistic outlook of what's to come! try it, bet you'll be surprised!
This is great, and much of this has been overcome through the years, and I'm 50, being born in 1971. However, I grew up in an abusive household, and we were a family that moved frequently (14 times while I was going through school). I never got to settle down to make friends, and developed anxiety in the process. My parents just loved living in various small towns in northern Minnesota. If I questioned a move, or said no to one, I got a beating. Schools have incredible challenges dealing with frequent movers, because they get defiant and confrontational. I experienced that at home growing up. Nothing was ever good enough, unless my parents had control of what I did. This is no sensible way to live. it is living a lie by trying to satisfy someone else's ideal of how they think you should be. It's a subversive, but very dangerous, form of abuse.
I had to change schools several times a year, due to moving/hiding from our abusive father. He passed when I was 11. When I was able to decide what I wanted to do, I used the city bus to go to the school I had started high school in, there were no restrictions then. At least I got to graduate high school, nevertheless I wasn't able to develop friends. I was very shy. Different things that happened even as I was older caused me not to be able to trust with out really a big effort/reason. I didn't really have fear of heights, traveling, flying, boating, etc as when I had a really bad occasion with child when he was 14, I began to lose my confidence and these things I enjoyed turned to fears. I am so glad to hear about the 5-second count down and the pre-planned anchor. Thank you Mel! Thank You my Father God!
“If you make your internal life a priority, then everything else you need on the outside will be given to you and it will be extremely clear what the next step is.”
Extremely grateful that I got to find this video from my suggestion. I have been struggling with crippling paralyzing fear for so long. Thank you so much for this ❤
First video in a long time I have found on youtube that actually says something new about fear and anxiety. This insight that fear and excitement are essentially the same thing and how to covert fear to exitement is both simple, useful and deep.
This isn't saying to 'calm down'. You should still feel shaky, sweaty, tense etc. But If you can find a reason to be excited instead of anxious, your mind will accept it because your body is already in that physical state.
Once my dad and I were in Vietnam. These scooter taxi dudes were harassing us to tack a ride with them. I was a little pissed off and told him it wasn't going to happen. He started screaming " you calm down, you calm down "in a thick vietnamese accent. My dad and I started laughing, it was so ironic and filled with passionate comedy, that we ended up getting a ride with them. Nowadays it's a family joke between us that if either of us start getting testie we are reminded in vietnamese accent to " you calm down!".
I was a bag of nerves and your video and technique has literally got me through the test of my motorbike, I felt like I had no tools to cope and change the way I was feeling but this is so simple yet works Thank you x
Basic NLP: pattern interrupt and reframe. She presents such simple concepts; though, is so successful and 'lovable'/'relatable' due to presentation. This woman makes one hell of a saleswoman. Ziglar would be proud.
And me! I'd love to know. Also fear that my car will be stolen. Does anyone know how that is excitement? I'm excited my car will be stolen? I'm excited I'll have to pay for damages? I'm excited to crash (these things have all happened to me you see). Help in reframing would be appreciated
Thank you very much for the video. Honestly, it was the first time I heard that fear and excitement are the same physical reaction. Today I went to the interview for a new job for the first time in 22 years. And with your technique, I changed fear into excitement. Before I left, I made a positive vision of them telling me at the end of the conversation that I had passed. And I did. Thank you. Greetings from Serbia
This is so genius! My intuition was hinting at this concept all my life when I perform (I'm a musician). Thank you for clearly articulating on this I will use this trick!
I saw her other video and saw people's comments that went 'Mel you're the best! Before my life was a mess and now that I've watched your video my life is the best!' I totally thought it was sarcasm, but now I see I was wrong
I purposely found this video because I am going through fear right now. I’m afraid of interviewing and getting a new job because of my fear of what my current place will think. I’m afraid that I am not good enough even with my experience. I am definitely going to try and use this method!
What sort of "experts" say that fear isn't real? Way to set a bar low. If FEAR=EXCITEMENT, I guess I was excited for my biopsy results. Imagine how pumped I am for further tests now!
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love and peace all over the world . I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind?. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Amazing. The feeling is always valid, but we can modify our reaction by changing the thought associated with it And therefore transform the experience all together
Thank you I have been having alot of anxeity n fear out of know where lately. It has been holding me back...from moving forward...thank you for sharing this...❤blessings to you.
My number a time back when I just started driving .. I had to travel 60 miles on the highway and I was definitely afraid.. and I pray to Jesus... To help me ease my anxiety and fear. And I had to make this trip back and forth for several weeks... And I had a couple incidents.. why I moved until the other lane on my blind side and was almost wiped out.. second incident.. state trooper stopped somebody about a couple miles up and everybody slammed on their brakes and I came about 4 ft behind this woman's car .. in my calipers were smoking I was shaking my ass off . But Jesus got me through he's the best weapon in the world x🙏
Thank you You really helped me today. I had to do a public speaking and i have a lot of feat of that. And then i used your trick And my teacher said that i did amazing Thank you so much really :)
I’m disabled, I’ve had major surgery re-constructing my foot and for the past nine months or so I’ve been trying to walk and I’m scared of going out because of the fear. Well this method work the same way
I agree with the comments that said ‘you lost me at lie to your brain’ I have severe work anxiety, I feel anxious before work every day, but not for no reason, my first job, my first employer, my first ever manager and my first set of colleagues traumatised me so much, aged 18-20 that even though I have had 2 other jobs since then I still go back to the state I was in when I was younger. I’m 25 now, haven’t had that job for over 5 years, but the anxiety it has caused me has stayed every single day. I know exactly why I feel the way I do and unfortunately lying to my brain and pretending I’m excited it’s going to do much to help. I’ve tried therapy 3 times and it hasn’t helped, I still have to work, deal with criticism, judgement, every day. This technique will definitely not work for me.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love and peace all over the world . I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind?. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Have to tell this story. My wife and I were on a flight and hit turbulence and the plane did a slight drop. This cute little girl screamed out, “ mommy, that was fun!!!” Instant calm as well as laughter came over that plane. I will never forget that and think of that little girl when I hit turbelance.
Hello Mel Robbins. Great insights and thank you for sharing it. Quite true, if too excited can't settle for a goods nights sleep, too much adrenaline is pumping. The same when my brother and niece fell urgently ill at the same time, my niece passed away. The adrenaline kicked in, no time to get tired. When it was all over, family members like myself just flopped into bed, exhausted. Thank you for the insight Mel Robbins, an inspiration.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks which appear very often and I have no control when they show up. Usually the anxiety increases because of anxiety which is now twice as much and so on... Angry that I am not in control.. What is an anchor thought that I can apply when this fear rears its head. Can I say that I am excited about my life, or picture a pleasant thought connected to my life, or a landscape. How can I transform this information so that my brain gets it and transforms the fear into excitement. Would be very happy to hear your comments about this if possible. Thank you so much for sharing once again.
My anchor thought is knowing my life is in Gods hands, he knows my life from the beginning to the end and what’s meant to be is what’s meant to be. fully trust him!❤️❤️❤️
What happens or what do you do when fear is not perceived, and you are worried about somebody physically coming after you. That very familiar with calming down the nervous system as I have been doing that for a very long time. But it’s not too often that I think about a lot of people, don’t have the ability or the desire to communicate about things like adults, we live in a world of violence is what most people turn to. When I really want to know how to do besides self-defense is to calm that fear when somebody approaches me physically.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love and peace all over the world . I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind?. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Fear gives a body sensation of heart palpitation, the same feeling when one is excited. So how do you trick the brain to embrace the excitement as good, without getting the annoying bad palpitation which may escalate into fear or panic? Tia.
Rational thinking. Everybody dies. You are not alone. Your birth was fatal - if you were born, you will die. Nobody copes successfully with death. Nobody survives it. We just go, no good or bad way. We don't succeed or fail. Maybe, throwing a tantrum will keep your mind busy until it is over and finished, but fear and worry are 100% useless. The only control we can have is to decide when, where, and how. Then end life ourselves, like euthanasia for terminal illness. Religion has let me down many times in many ways, so I see no hope there. Like some things in life, we just have to accept it, no matter how difficult it can be. The brave die bravely, the meek die meekly, the cowards die cowardly. There is no difference in the outcome. Enjoy your life, I will see you on the other side when it is time. We will have an interesting conversation then.
As far as I understood the anchor thought is very SPECIFIC to the situation at hand once accomplished (having flown or having made that speech) - whereas "positive thinking" is more general and may produce a less powerful outcome....
love what you do thank you, my right hand starts to shake when I start doing something like screwing a nut onto a bolt in front of a customer. I work in Hardware. The minute I stop doing the action it stops shaking if i try again it starts shaking again. for me the worst thing is signing a Document in front of someone. can I use your five second rule to stop this....
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love and peace all over the world . I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind?. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Twice now I have tried twice to convert nervous energy to excited energy with no change in results. Is It because i have an anxiety disorder and don't have a default relaxed state. Relaxing is the exception for me rather that the rule.
Ok I totally understand what you’re saying. How about fear of speaking to my ex. We were married for 28 years and I found out last year that for the last 5 years he betrayed me in every way. He gaslit me all the time. He still tries. I say tries because I do the 5,4,3,2,1 in my mind. It helps me to focus on being calm. It helps me not tell him what a complete AH he is. The anchor thought so my brain will accept it is?? My fear is that he won’t provide me the money we agreed upon during the divorce. The fear is his irresponsibility hurts my credit score AGAIN. I’ve been told I have PTSD about money because he lied & betrayed me so much. So I end up nervous to even have this confrontation. I try to say what if it all works out & it helps but today for example, my fear became reality. He’s not going to make his payment to me because he said he’s closing on a house. I’m better at handling his lies AND controlling my fear of losing everything. That fear already happened. He cheated & emptied the bank accounts. I had to sell my dream house that I created and poured my heart and soul into. My dog died ..so I lost almost everything. It already happened so why do I have such anxiety? I tell myself I can handle whatever comes my way. It’s true because I have been handling everything for almost 2 years now and I do it better than he ever did. My question is what kind of anchor thought should I have? Ty Mel. I am so glad I found you. There’s just something so reassuring about you and your videos really help me. 🥰🥰🥰
IDK about this. What if it's fear that stems from PTSD and panic attacks are a common experience. Or the fear is actually related to the possibility of a threat?
I see how this can certainly help in many situations, but not in my current state. So if anyone can help me translate that trick to my current fear.. "Ok, I'm excited my dad is going to be mad at me! I'm excited my dad is mad at me! I'm exited to be a disappointment !".. Ehmm..
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, love and peace all over the world . I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust so as time goes on it will bring something great for us in the future, hope you don't mind?. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
I'm gonna have a maths test and I always have panic attacks during maths test because once my teacher literally started humiliate me and saying that I wasn't capable of doing that freaking thing in front of my hole class. I'm so nervous and afraid about what's going to happen in 3 hours. I'm gonna try your trick and then I'll tell if it works or not for me. But tysm either ways. 🤍
I used to have a chronic fear of flying. Then I saw a slogan for a parachute school that said "Knowledge dispels fear". I applied this to flying, sat down and tried to learn everything I could about flying and aviation. Flying is now my greatest passion in life and I am training to be a pilot. Knowledge DOES dispel fear.
+brad zatar bc it's a gimmick and it's not true. The chemicals released in your brain are different with fear or excitement. That's why they feel totally different. Anticipation of sex feels different than someone car jacking you. That's why you're not thinking "fight or flight" when you're a about to have sex. It's just sad that this many ppl are lost enough to believe this. It may help some ppl. But it's no solution. It's a psychological band aid basically.
I watched this video a year ago and following Mel’s advice I lost my fear of travelling alone, i traveled and now live in a different part of the country and I’m so happy. Now I’m about to start my own business and I am experiencing that same fear as one year ago. Completely forgot about this video and it just popped up at the perfect time. Thank you so much for helping me in my journey to a new life. ❤️❤️❤️
Blucat. Youre not giving yourself credit for your ability to face your fears. Unless you were born into money., you seem to have been able to afford yourself a comfortable livin enough to travel. To get where you are w/o being a trust fund baby means fear at some time, was not an option.
The whole point of what Mel is saying, is this., Your brain can only have one linear thought at once. A fear comes from the creative, right side of your brain. It thinks it can predict an outcome and dwells on that outcome. Obsessive thinking. By counting down from 5, you are instantaneously accessing the logical left side of your brain. Breaking the obsessive thought. Think of a hysterical person getting a glass of water thrown in their face and being told to, Snap out of it! In a less shocking way, counting down from 5 has the same affect. If you are not getting it with the countdown, try this experiment. The next time you find yourself feeling anxious or fearful, do the math. Randomly pick 4 or 5 multiplication or division problems and calmly do them in your head. No one has to know. 6x8=48, 9x7=63, 24/3=8 etc. Accessing your left brain detaches you from obsessive thoughts. The second part is Instantly think of the future positively. Ex. Fear of flying. After doing your math, in detail think of everything you are going to do when the plane lands. I'm going to get my bags, get the car, drive to my destination, greet friends and family, or check in hotel, grab a pina colada, sit on a beach chair and watch the sunset... Now tell me. After reading all that I just wrote. How often did you think of the fear? If it's still there. Add some of your senses. See the smile of friends or family, taste the icy cold pineapple and rum sliding down your throat, the sand between your toes...get as descriptive as possible. Rinse and repeat.
John Vas This is great advice, thank you! I get these panic attacks when my daughter (19) goes out partying, it's time for her to call and say she's on her way back (around 3am) but she doesn't call. It could only be 5 minutes, but during those 5 minutes I start shaking and sweating, my heart races, my stomach starts acting up and sends me to the bathroom immediately and I can't stop thinking something happened to her. How can I apply all these recommendations when I live in a dangerous city - Bogota (Colombia) and my mind is "certain" something must have happened? Help please! I'm driving my daughter crazy!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.larks I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I was fearing to go to a new job and having to start over and relearn everything from what I was used to , until I saw this video. I’ve turned that fear into excitement ! I’m ready to start a new beginning. I’m ready to face something unfamiliar. Why be afraid brain? Be excited about this ! 😮🎉
I was with you all the way until you said "I tell myself that I'm excited." I have done this for years (I'm a neurotherapist so this isn't new for me). Here's the problem, you are speaking of simple fears. Someone whose fear is not complicated by other associations. So for the minority of people who fear public speaking for no other reason than they fear public speaking, this will work well. However, for someone whose fears are complicated by, say, a history of public shame or humiliation, or public ridicule in childhood for instance in a classroom, this fear is more complex. The more associations, the more complex. While your technique will still have some impact, it won't likely "fix" the situation, and for some may even backfire as in all the studies the demonstrate how positive affirmations can make symptoms worse because you're lying to your brain and your brain knows it. This is a great technique for some, but for most more is needed.
SAME! The video lost me in the "I tell myself I'm excited". I've tried that hundreds of times and it usually just makes me feel worse because deep down I KNOW I'm not excited, I know I actually just want to run away
@@nathmartins3154 ofcoure but just talking to ur self that in excited will not work for u .bcz u said here whenever u r saying it it makes u more worst why bcz ur brain accepted that ur not exited but u are anxious so here is what u want to do is before saying to ur self do a breathing alteast for 10 minutes n create a feeling u are confident u are smart etc.. Keep practice untill u achieve it but u hv to practice everyday at least 10 mins in each hour n one more when u doing this nvr doubt ur self why its not working im still anxious no nvr think so u will get the result slowly positive affirmation will nvr makes ur anxiety worse i'm a great eg I was a person like I was always in anxiety unknown fear but after practicing breathing n positive affirmation gradually changed me still I hv anxiety fear but I can control myself now for me it's a huge achivment I hope it will work for u all the best
I agree!!!! I am afraid of driving over freeway over passes. I live in Houston and I avoid them like the plague. I have forced myself to drive over high over passes and I have after started being afraid of driving over normal that I was able to drive freeway over pass. I know is irrational but I am to the point that I just can't. I am 57 and after I go thru an episode of encountering a high overpass like if I am on the freeway and I am not that familiar with the freeway..I force myself to drive ..have no choice I sm already there..I feel chest pains..even after hours..I still feel the pain..it takes a little bit for me to be calm..and what happens is I make a notation and I don't drive or go to that area again!!! I am afraid because I don't want to cause an accident so is better if I don't put myself in those situations. Now if someone else is driving I don't care I am fine.
🌸 Summary: 1. 5 Second Rule ( to disturb your mind and change the focus from fear to the anchor thought) 2. Anchor Thought ( an image that makes you excited about what will happen after you do the thing that you're gonna do) 3. Reframe fear into excitement ( and this happens directly after applying step number 2)
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As a human living with anxiety/depression and several other issues, I've learned that I thrive and in a higher state of happiness when I have "something to look forward to." Even when I'm not thinking about that "something," I'm still in a generally better mood and can accomplish more. So this makes perfect sense to me.
Had anxiety for years, got to the point where it is so exausting to do everyday things. This is so good, one video that actually helps. Thank u Mel tons...genious stuff.
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I can’t sit in a quiet car, cinema, classroom, just any quiet place because I get so anxious of my stomach making noises…sounds weird ik, but it has ruined so much for me and I’m so exhausted of it. Starting school soon and I just don’t want to feel the anxiety of my stomach making noises 24/7…
I have been seen as clueless, empty-brian and stupid by people who seemed to respect me for what they knew about me, thanks to fear. I hope this would help me.
I have a fear of people judging me even though I get along with pretty much everybody. Sometimes when I talk to people, when they make facial expressions, my mind automatically goes into "this person is thinking I'm an idiot" thoughts.
How do you know that they are judging you this is mind reading thoughts The problem is that you think of yourself that you are an idiot The problem is this if you think good about yourself then no matter what other people are thinking
Thank you for the 5 second rule....it have literally changed my life. I have been using it for the past 6 months , testing it on things I have never been able to conquer and trying to make the rule fail. It has never.....never failed. I am in control on my life, I do things that I never even would have tried a year ago. I don’t procrastinate any more, I don’t say no to things I have never tried, I just forge ahead as if I have done them a million times. The sad part to this is I am 68 years old and it took me all this time to find out about the 5 second rule. Think what I could have achieved if I had known it at 25?? But nothing will stop me now...I’ll just need to make up for lost time. Again Thank You. You have made a difference in my life for the best. I now control my life not let other people or situations control it. You’re the Best!!
So glad for you! When God comes to take His children home, we will have eternity to do and enjoy ALL things we can't even imagine now. This is my anchor thought! We will even get to explore this Earth that we were born in! Thank You, my Father God!
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
I wouldn't say you fear everything or certain type of thing. I think being in your 70s plus you paid your dues growing up. You did what your body was able to but now you're older and know your limits. That's why ppl retire is to live their best moments. Your not in your teens or even 40s anymore. I know the feeling. I know my limits my body or the law will let me get away with lol.
Just means to be excited about the other side or about that bucket list you have a few weeks to do lol. Not like the money in your savings matters anymore.
Not funny Mr Hennigan. My wife got the terminal news and recovered enough after the initial shock to enjoy her last remaining days. But no, she didn’t say “OMG lol ….” But I think an “anchor thought” is quite useful for fears that assail us in the process of living and facing day to day stresses. I enjoy some really funny TH-cam comments, but I must call out yours as not one of them.
I can’t thank you enough. I was terrified of doing a speech in front of my colleagues yesterday and nothing was helping me. I felt completely revved up and afraid. It was horrible. I then listened to your advice and kept saying to myself that what I was feeling was excitement, not fear and that’s when I even started smiling as beforehand I was withdrawing and wanted to run away. I did really well in my speech. I kept on chatting and smiling with my colleagues beforehand so by the time I needed to present, I was nowhere near as revved up as I thought I was going to be. Thank you so much. ❤
This is genius. I was nervous for something I must do for school tomorrow, but nah! I’m hella excited! I know I’m good at this and I’m passionate about this. I’m so ready to show off my amazing skills and to change the lives of others for the better with my knowledge!!! I got this!!
Daamn YES THATS WAY TO DO IT, sometimes ive had these thoughts when i do something that is anxiety producing and afterwards i feel like the shit, now with this i will put it into PRACTICE WHEN I GET BAK OHT THERE BABYY
im gonna try this with driving, i get so nervous and my heart rate gets up to 160 bpm which is crazy! but i always had that vision of going to my favorite places in town and be fully present and so grateful for this little ride. wish me luck
I used to feel the same few years ago but had made a lot of progress. You should watch some youtube videos: How to overcome the fear of driving. Good luck!
How are you doing, I'm currently afraid of driving right now. Don't know what exactly triggered it but I'm not exactly happy about it. I feel like it's affecting my everyday life.
@@natnatalie1517 I’m still trying to get better, thank you for asking! But the best strategies i found so far is to drive at off-peak hours since it will give you the freedom to drive with very few cars around. I also just found out that i have caffeine sensitivity which makes my symptoms and my anxiety so much worse when driving so i must avoid it at all cost. And i keep taking very short trips at least once a week as an “exposure therapy” and it actually boosts my confidence every time. I’m not sure if my fear is due to a past event, but what I’m sure about is my main fear of driving with cars around, i get very self conscious when i see how they’re illegally over-speeding while i’m driving just at the speed limit or a bit less and I get scared of making them mad because I’m driving “slow”. I know I’m doing everything right and i shouldn’t be too stressed out like that, maybe i need to be conscious of my negative self talk or my inner thoughts in general. I hope we will overcome it this year! Let me know for any updates, i would love to share our progress every now and then.
@@zouzoufilghorba2150 I hope you're doing oka now - Im facing a similar situation - it's partly PTSD from a panic attack I got on a Highway once three years ago. Have not driven on an open road since.
Tony, I have dealt with social fear most of my life. I have found that using my body, AKA, exercise and hard physical work help to calm me down. Also , right now I am working with a hypnotherapist on creating positive outcome images in my mind. Good luck,,, I feel that we are here to learn lessons and to grow and become better people,, AKA, learning to love oneself and others as well. Bill
@@billp4380 b.s. I'v been having this for 30 year now. Together with depression. It's the point in the same part of the brain that is not right. You can love all you want to, it will not help you one bit when you have this. And I've been living with it for 30 years. I've had every therapy and treatment known to man. And it didn t help me one bit. Just trying to life with it.
So I wake up in the middle of the night with a anxiety attack starting, and I tell myself I'm excited. That seems weird to me. I wish I could control my brain like a normal person.
I overcame this issue by doing two things. I bought a weighted blanket which immediately reduces my anxiety. I thought the idea of them as silly at first, until I found out it helps a lot of people. The second thing is more difficult and will take a while to master. Before when I went to bed with thoughts of something that made me anxious I would think about it over and over which only made it worse. I called it "circular thoughts" and it always prevented me from getting a good night sleep. So after learning to meditate half way decently, I started a new approach to deal with my issues falling asleep. First, I take in several deep breaths and slowly exhale. Then I count down from 20 and when I get to zero I try not to have any thoughts at all. I know this sounds impossible, but with practice it can be learned. Once I have muted the voice in my head random thoughts will come along and I acknowledge them and release them and quiet my mind again. Before it often took me hours to fall asleep and now it takes about 15 minutes. I hope this can be helpful to other people.
i'm currently going through a similar experience and i deal with them by counting, like Mel said, but i count to 100 or even 200 and then i think about how i'm going to be peaceful when the panic attack stops and how i'm going to overcome it again and how i'm going to be able to control it more and more everyday and it actually helps and i'm getting better day by day! i hope this helps :)
I find this video while having severe anxiety attack few times since morning but this technique really calm down myself. Thank you very much for guidance 🙏
well you just mentioned anxiety in your comment, Sorry for replying but i want to explain something very important about anxiety, As you may have faced or experienced so many times that a fear which seemed to happen to you but that never happened and never existed. It only waisted your time and just it kept your brain constantly thinking and picturing the worse seen which was gong to be existed. Like you had some problems with one of your close friend and you were thinking that my friend can reject or quit me. But that never happened. So never over think or pre-think let the things come the way they are. Thank you
Well I'm very afraid of flying. So I took your 5 4 3 2 1 tool and your anchor idea. I managed a 3 hour flight. Thank you so much for this inspiration and insight. There are no words to describe how grateful I am.
I know all too well what it's like to be emotionally paralyzed by fear. As suggested here I also found that reframing my fear into something positive helped me to completely transform my life. Now I'm able to face fearful situations without nearly as much trepidation. Fantastic video.
Despite the control over your mind, with a strong body and good coordination you can raise the tolerance for the well-aware state. It's not that you won't be afraid of a rollercoaster anymore, if you were before. But with a stronger body it's much less of an effort to keep tension. Less effort means less stress for your brain and you wont feel as frightened. If your body gets used to a state of agitation the signal to your brain might be so weak that it get's ignored as long as you don't bother too much.
OMG! I am literally crying because I just used your technique and it actually worked. Me and my mom we’re thinking that I was having panic attacks or developing anxiety but we didn’t know from what. I’ve been sick from school for nine days and I’ve been nervous about going back and I don’t know why and I found your video and I tried your technique and it’s a miracle. Thank you!
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Solution 11:13
1. 5 second rule - countdown from 5 seconds
2. Anchor thought - create a contextual thought to keep you focused
3. Reframe thought from fear to excitement
My extra tip: fear dishonors yourself and your self esteem. Keep confronting fear head on. Practice will help you relearn a healthier habit. Live a life free of self limits.
i agree with that , mind needs to be trained if you want to think positive in every situation such as doing medidation
Princess: Your extra tip is very wise and beautifully formulated. If we let our fear determine or define our lives we really are its slave. But if we challenge and face our fears eye to eye, then we are free.
@@MindVersusMisery yes, accurate. We need to change the story we tell ourselves to a positive one. Optimism is a key too.
I don’t know if this will always work because ...some of the more everyday things that you’re fearful of aren’t very exciting! or something to look forward to. Like if you have a few people coming to the house to do a job for you. Your anchor thought is I’m excited to get the job done but I don’t really I’m not excited about trades people coming to my house so what about that. I find it difficult with people I don’t know around my own own space and get very anxious about heaps of just normal things unfortunately
@@annab5961 i think for that, simply trade fear and excitement with anxiousness and anticipation.
think about it, anxiousness is just a low key form of fear where, instead of absolute dread, you're just, quietly roasting yourself with a pessimistic awaiting of what's to come. so what's the opposite?
anticipation, quietly building yourself UP with a optimistic outlook of what's to come!
try it, bet you'll be surprised!
This is great, and much of this has been overcome through the years, and I'm 50, being born in 1971. However, I grew up in an abusive household, and we were a family that moved frequently (14 times while I was going through school). I never got to settle down to make friends, and developed anxiety in the process. My parents just loved living in various small towns in northern Minnesota. If I questioned a move, or said no to one, I got a beating. Schools have incredible challenges dealing with frequent movers, because they get defiant and confrontational. I experienced that at home growing up. Nothing was ever good enough, unless my parents had control of what I did. This is no sensible way to live. it is living a lie by trying to satisfy someone else's ideal of how they think you should be. It's a subversive, but very dangerous, form of abuse.
Sorry to hear about your upbringing. I had a very similar childhood, albeit with divorced parents and alcoholism.
Best of luck to you!
I had to change schools several times a year, due to moving/hiding from our abusive father. He passed when I was 11. When I was able to decide what I wanted to do, I used the city bus to go to the school I had started high school in, there were no restrictions then. At least I got to graduate high school, nevertheless I wasn't able to develop friends. I was very shy. Different things that happened even as I was older caused me not to be able to trust with out really a big effort/reason. I didn't really have fear of heights, traveling, flying, boating, etc as when I had a really bad occasion with child when he was 14, I began to lose my confidence and these things I enjoyed turned to fears. I am so glad to hear about the 5-second count down and the pre-planned anchor. Thank you Mel! Thank You my Father God!
@@jerryanddiannedennison5644 was a same life to me but melrobbins has relieved!
“If you make your internal life a priority, then everything else you need on the outside will be given to you and it will be extremely clear what the next step is.”
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Love this ❤️🦋🌍
Agreed!!!!🎉🎉
Extremely grateful that I got to find this video from my suggestion. I have been struggling with crippling paralyzing fear for so long. Thank you so much for this ❤
This cured my panic attacks
First video in a long time I have found on youtube that actually says something new about fear and anxiety.
This insight that fear and excitement are essentially the same thing and how to covert fear to exitement is both simple, useful and deep.
Never in the HISTORY of Calming down, has ANYONE calmed down by being TOLD to Calm down.
RIGHT ON 👍
This isn't saying to 'calm down'. You should still feel shaky, sweaty, tense etc. But If you can find a reason to be excited instead of anxious, your mind will accept it because your body is already in that physical state.
But this one works she's the goat of calm relaxing and meditation
Once my dad and I were in Vietnam.
These scooter taxi dudes were harassing us to tack a ride with them.
I was a little pissed off and told him it wasn't going to happen.
He started screaming " you calm down, you calm down "in a thick vietnamese accent. My dad and I started laughing, it was so ironic and filled with passionate comedy, that we ended up getting a ride with them.
Nowadays it's a family joke between us that if either of us start getting testie we are reminded in vietnamese accent to " you calm down!".
D Holland I’m sorry but that statement was soo funny 😂😂😂 but true
I was a bag of nerves and your video and technique has literally got me through the test of my motorbike, I felt like I had no tools to cope and change the way I was feeling but this is so simple yet works
Thank you x
Basic NLP: pattern interrupt and reframe.
She presents such simple concepts; though, is so successful and 'lovable'/'relatable' due to presentation. This woman makes one hell of a saleswoman. Ziglar would be proud.
So if she complicated them, few could benefit...so by explaining so most can benefit, we all benefit
Thanks Mel . Your 5 second rule helped me a lot in my daily life specially in my fear of driving.
Can u message me I have a fear of driving too🤗❤️
And me! I'd love to know. Also fear that my car will be stolen. Does anyone know how that is excitement? I'm excited my car will be stolen? I'm excited I'll have to pay for damages? I'm excited to crash (these things have all happened to me you see). Help in reframing would be appreciated
Fear has held me back for 50 years. It always and will always win for the next 20.
Thank you very much for the video. Honestly, it was the first time I heard that fear and excitement are the same physical reaction. Today I went to the interview for a new job for the first time in 22 years. And with your technique, I changed fear into excitement. Before I left, I made a positive vision of them telling me at the end of the conversation that I had passed. And I did. Thank you. Greetings from Serbia
This is so genius! My intuition was hinting at this concept all my life when I perform (I'm a musician).
Thank you for clearly articulating on this I will use this trick!
I saw her other video and saw people's comments that went 'Mel you're the best! Before my life was a mess and now that I've watched your video my life is the best!'
I totally thought it was sarcasm, but now I see I was wrong
I purposely found this video because I am going through fear right now. I’m afraid of interviewing and getting a new job because of my fear of what my current place will think. I’m afraid that I am not good enough even with my experience. I am definitely going to try and use this method!
I don’t get the ‘I can always control what I think’ part. I have never been able to control what I think. My brain out-smarts me everytime.
I learned this is my public speech class years ago and my life (for real) never been the same! This REALLY works! Thank you Mel for this video
What sort of "experts" say that fear isn't real? Way to set a bar low.
If FEAR=EXCITEMENT, I guess I was excited for my biopsy results. Imagine how pumped I am for further tests now!
Exactly it depends why and what the fear is About
I have them both shy n fear of public speaking. It started when I was young n now I am grown up person and It is still there.
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Amazing. The feeling is always valid, but we can modify our reaction by changing the thought associated with it And therefore transform the experience all together
When I transmute fear and anxiety into excitement I feel myself being impulsive and out of control
Thank you I have been having alot of anxeity n fear out of know where lately. It has been holding me back...from moving forward...thank you for sharing this...❤blessings to you.
My number a time back when I just started driving .. I had to travel 60 miles on the highway and I was definitely afraid.. and I pray to Jesus... To help me ease my anxiety and fear. And I had to make this trip back and forth for several weeks... And I had a couple incidents.. why I moved until the other lane on my blind side and was almost wiped out.. second incident.. state trooper stopped somebody about a couple miles up and everybody slammed on their brakes and I came about 4 ft behind this woman's car .. in my calipers were smoking I was shaking my ass off . But Jesus got me through he's the best weapon in the world x🙏
I agree... My opinion it just makes it worse and actually pisses you off...
Thank you
You really helped me today.
I had to do a public speaking and i have a lot of feat of that.
And then i used your trick
And my teacher said that i did amazing
Thank you so much really :)
I’m disabled, I’ve had major surgery re-constructing my foot and for the past nine months or so I’ve been trying to walk and I’m scared of going out because of the fear. Well this method work the same way
I agree with the comments that said ‘you lost me at lie to your brain’ I have severe work anxiety, I feel anxious before work every day, but not for no reason, my first job, my first employer, my first ever manager and my first set of colleagues traumatised me so much, aged 18-20 that even though I have had 2 other jobs since then I still go back to the state I was in when I was younger. I’m 25 now, haven’t had that job for over 5 years, but the anxiety it has caused me has stayed every single day. I know exactly why I feel the way I do and unfortunately lying to my brain and pretending I’m excited it’s going to do much to help. I’ve tried therapy 3 times and it hasn’t helped, I still have to work, deal with criticism, judgement, every day. This technique will definitely not work for me.
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Have to tell this story. My wife and I were on a flight and hit turbulence and the plane did a slight drop. This cute little girl screamed out, “ mommy, that was fun!!!” Instant calm as well as laughter came over that plane. I will never forget that and think of that little girl when I hit turbelance.
Thank you Mel, I will start today ❤
Hello Mel Robbins. Great insights and thank you for sharing it. Quite true, if too excited can't settle for a goods nights sleep, too much adrenaline is pumping. The same when my brother and niece fell urgently ill at the same time, my niece passed away. The adrenaline kicked in, no time to get tired.
When it was all over, family members like myself just flopped into bed, exhausted. Thank you for the insight Mel Robbins, an inspiration.
Thank you dear friend
Thanks for sharing such valuable information, I think it really gonna workout😊❤❤❤❤❤.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks which appear very often and I have no control when they show up. Usually the anxiety increases because of anxiety which is now twice as much and so on... Angry that I am not in control.. What is an anchor thought that I can apply when this fear rears its head. Can I say that I am excited about my life, or picture a pleasant thought connected to my life, or a landscape. How can I transform this information so that my brain gets it and transforms the fear into excitement. Would be very happy to hear your comments about this if possible. Thank you so much for sharing once again.
My anchor thought is knowing my life is in Gods hands, he knows my life from the beginning to the end and what’s meant to be is what’s meant to be. fully trust him!❤️❤️❤️
What happens or what do you do when fear is not perceived, and you are worried about somebody physically coming after you. That very familiar with calming down the nervous system as I have been doing that for a very long time. But it’s not too often that I think about a lot of people, don’t have the ability or the desire to communicate about things like adults, we live in a world of violence is what most people turn to. When I really want to know how to do besides self-defense is to calm that fear when somebody approaches me physically.
This is incredible! Thank you!
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Thank you. I'm grateful for what you're sharing!🥰
What if your fear is so serious that you faint out of fear? when does one faint out of exitement?
Coming back after one month to share results. For me it's work that makes me too anxious.
❤❤❤❤ LOVED THIS.. THANK YOU MEL !!!!!
I have this fear of public speaking. Thanks for this
Great advice. Thanks, Mel
Fear gives a body sensation of heart palpitation, the same feeling when one is excited. So how do you trick the brain to embrace the excitement as good, without getting the annoying bad palpitation which may escalate into fear or panic? Tia.
Thank you madam
How do you go about fear of death using this techniques?
Rational thinking. Everybody dies. You are not alone. Your birth was fatal - if you were born, you will die. Nobody copes successfully with death. Nobody survives it. We just go, no good or bad way. We don't succeed or fail. Maybe, throwing a tantrum will keep your mind busy until it is over and finished, but fear and worry are 100% useless. The only control we can have is to decide when, where, and how. Then end life ourselves, like euthanasia for terminal illness. Religion has let me down many times in many ways, so I see no hope there. Like some things in life, we just have to accept it, no matter how difficult it can be. The brave die bravely, the meek die meekly, the cowards die cowardly. There is no difference in the outcome. Enjoy your life, I will see you on the other side when it is time. We will have an interesting conversation then.
Thank you but how about when the fear is suddenly and I have no anchor sentence prepared?
What's the differences between an anchor thought and positive thinking?
As far as I understood the anchor thought is very SPECIFIC to the situation at hand once accomplished (having flown or having made that speech) - whereas "positive thinking" is more general and may produce a less powerful outcome....
Mel, you should add subtitules, more people will be able to learn from you
love what you do thank you, my right hand starts to shake when I start doing something like screwing a nut onto a bolt in front of a customer. I work in Hardware. The minute I stop doing the action it stops shaking if i try again it starts shaking again. for me the worst thing is signing a Document in front of someone. can I use your five second rule to stop this....
I literally get paralyzed with fear. My brain yells at my body but it won’t move. I’m trying to learn to skateboard but too afraid to fall
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Do it with fear, but just do it. Your thoughts are holding you back. Visualize yourself skateboarding/doing the trick etc, but not falling.
Thank you...😊
Twice now I have tried twice to convert nervous energy to excited energy with no change in results. Is It because i have an anxiety disorder and don't have a default relaxed state. Relaxing is the exception for me rather that the rule.
love you Mel
Ok I totally understand what you’re saying. How about fear of speaking to my ex. We were married for 28 years and I found out last year that for the last 5 years he betrayed me in every way. He gaslit me all the time. He still tries. I say tries because I do the 5,4,3,2,1 in my mind. It helps me to focus on being calm. It helps me not tell him what a complete AH he is. The anchor thought so my brain will accept it is?? My fear is that he won’t provide me the money we agreed upon during the divorce. The fear is his irresponsibility hurts my credit score AGAIN. I’ve been told I have PTSD about money because he lied & betrayed me so much. So I end up nervous to even have this confrontation. I try to say what if it all works out & it helps but today for example, my fear became reality. He’s not going to make his payment to me because he said he’s closing on a house. I’m better at handling his lies AND controlling my fear of losing everything. That fear already happened. He cheated & emptied the bank accounts. I had to sell my dream house that I created and poured my heart and soul into. My dog died ..so I lost almost everything. It already happened so why do I have such anxiety? I tell myself I can handle whatever comes my way. It’s true because I have been handling everything for almost 2 years now and I do it better than he ever did. My question is what kind of anchor thought should I have? Ty Mel. I am so glad I found you. There’s just something so reassuring about you and your videos really help me. 🥰🥰🥰
Very good content.
IDK about this. What if it's fear that stems from PTSD and panic attacks are a common experience. Or the fear is actually related to the possibility of a threat?
I am not afraid of nothing, but justice matters
Thanks ❤
I see how this can certainly help in many situations, but not in my current state. So if anyone can help me translate that trick to my current fear.. "Ok, I'm excited my dad is going to be mad at me! I'm excited my dad is mad at me! I'm exited to be a disappointment !".. Ehmm..
Thank you ❤🇲🇾
Love you mel❤
Fear is enemies trick to ruin people of God.
I’ve tried watching this twice and cannot retain any of it 😩 I hate ADHD!!
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I'm afraid of driving...I wish your method could help me,but that's a terrible fear for me. Can you suggest me an anchor thought to win my fear?
Yes!
I'm gonna have a maths test and I always have panic attacks during maths test because once my teacher literally started humiliate me and saying that I wasn't capable of doing that freaking thing in front of my hole class. I'm so nervous and afraid about what's going to happen in 3 hours. I'm gonna try your trick and then I'll tell if it works or not for me. But tysm either ways. 🤍
I used to have a chronic fear of flying. Then I saw a slogan for a parachute school that said "Knowledge dispels fear". I applied this to flying, sat down and tried to learn everything I could about flying and aviation. Flying is now my greatest passion in life and I am training to be a pilot. Knowledge DOES dispel fear.
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Very great insight! THANKS.
That's actually pretty damn crazy. Hope your pilot training is going well
Thank you for this great quote!😍
Blessing from Taiwan! 😇
Did you have a fear of flying...or a fear of falling. Maybe by learning to fly you put your mind at ease about falling.
this is really inspirational. thank you for sharing :)
Fear=Excitement. That is mind blowing. Never thought of it before.
Do people really believe this?
Dee Gee why wouldn't they!? this is fool proof!
+brad zatar Are you joking?
ofc not, why don't you believe it!?
+brad zatar bc it's a gimmick and it's not true. The chemicals released in your brain are different with fear or excitement. That's why they feel totally different. Anticipation of sex feels different than someone car jacking you. That's why you're not thinking "fight or flight" when you're a about to have sex. It's just sad that this many ppl are lost enough to believe this. It may help some ppl. But it's no solution. It's a psychological band aid basically.
I am tricking my brain by my brain. Oh poor brain! I am losing brain..
Erkhes Maddox lol. :-D
Erkhes Maddox lol 😁
Erkhes Maddox lol
Erkhes Maddox lol, u r so funny.
Hahahaha I'm going to say that to my self next time I have anxiety. That comment helped me control my thoughts.
I'm excited to have a panic attack!
Lol!! This is great! 😍🤣
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So great..I’m with you..
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I watched this video a year ago and following Mel’s advice I lost my fear of travelling alone, i traveled and now live in a different part of the country and I’m so happy. Now I’m about to start my own business and I am experiencing that same fear as one year ago. Completely forgot about this video and it just popped up at the perfect time. Thank you so much for helping me in my journey to a new life. ❤️❤️❤️
Travelling alone is cool you learn to be really confident and live with your decisions character building exciting
Blucat. Youre not giving yourself credit for your ability to face your fears. Unless you were born into money., you seem to have been able to afford yourself a comfortable livin enough to travel. To get where you are w/o being a trust fund baby means fear at some time, was not an option.
DOLLAR SHOULD RISE
This is what I’m about to do! I would love to know how you used this to travel alone :)
i prefer to travel alone
The whole point of what Mel is saying, is this., Your brain can only have one linear thought at once. A fear comes from the creative, right side of your brain. It thinks it can predict an outcome and dwells on that outcome. Obsessive thinking. By counting down from 5, you are instantaneously accessing the logical left side of your brain. Breaking the obsessive thought. Think of a hysterical person getting a glass of water thrown in their face and being told to, Snap out of it! In a less shocking way, counting down from 5 has the same affect. If you are not getting it with the countdown, try this experiment. The next time you find yourself feeling anxious or fearful, do the math. Randomly pick 4 or 5 multiplication or division problems and calmly do them in your head. No one has to know. 6x8=48, 9x7=63, 24/3=8 etc. Accessing your left brain detaches you from obsessive thoughts. The second part is Instantly think of the future positively. Ex. Fear of flying. After doing your math, in detail think of everything you are going to do when the plane lands. I'm going to get my bags, get the car, drive to my destination, greet friends and family, or check in hotel, grab a pina colada, sit on a beach chair and watch the sunset... Now tell me. After reading all that I just wrote. How often did you think of the fear? If it's still there. Add some of your senses.
See the smile of friends or family, taste the icy cold pineapple and rum sliding down your throat, the sand between your toes...get as descriptive as possible. Rinse and repeat.
John Vas This is great advice, thank you! I get these panic attacks when my daughter (19) goes out partying, it's time for her to call and say she's on her way back (around 3am) but she doesn't call. It could only be 5 minutes, but during those 5 minutes I start shaking and sweating, my heart races, my stomach starts acting up and sends me to the bathroom immediately and I can't stop thinking something happened to her. How can I apply all these recommendations when I live in a dangerous city - Bogota (Colombia) and my mind is "certain" something must have happened? Help please! I'm driving my daughter crazy!
Thanks for Logical explanation
Great explanation...thank you...
Thank you for the awesome advice. I suffer with anxiety before taking off and after landing too. I will try your suggestions.
thank you. you saved me 12 minutes of my time.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.larks I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.larks
I was fearing to go to a new job and having to start over and relearn everything from what I was used to , until I saw this video. I’ve turned that fear into excitement ! I’m ready to start a new beginning. I’m ready to face something unfamiliar. Why be afraid brain? Be excited about this ! 😮🎉
Yessss🎉🎉🎉
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Same here. New job anxiety after a 23 year career where I had no fear lol.
me to
Starting over here. I had to relocate to my sons home. Now finding a new place to live. And paying more money. Be excited about this. 54321 let’s go
Happy this wasn't a scam to get me to buy something. Thank you.
It may not be a scam but it does SUGGEST you buy her book "The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence With Everyday Courage".
@@timwolf5742 Where in the video does she promote her book?
Sorry but this doesnt work against social stress induced by low self asteem induced by lack of love from parents, family friends, society.
I was with you all the way until you said "I tell myself that I'm excited." I have done this for years (I'm a neurotherapist so this isn't new for me). Here's the problem, you are speaking of simple fears. Someone whose fear is not complicated by other associations. So for the minority of people who fear public speaking for no other reason than they fear public speaking, this will work well. However, for someone whose fears are complicated by, say, a history of public shame or humiliation, or public ridicule in childhood for instance in a classroom, this fear is more complex. The more associations, the more complex. While your technique will still have some impact, it won't likely "fix" the situation, and for some may even backfire as in all the studies the demonstrate how positive affirmations can make symptoms worse because you're lying to your brain and your brain knows it. This is a great technique for some, but for most more is needed.
Totally agree with you about “lying” to your brain! Anxiety can be so much more complicated.
SAME! The video lost me in the "I tell myself I'm excited". I've tried that hundreds of times and it usually just makes me feel worse because deep down I KNOW I'm not excited, I know I actually just want to run away
@@nathmartins3154 ofcoure but just talking to ur self that in excited will not work for u .bcz u said here whenever u r saying it it makes u more worst why bcz ur brain accepted that ur not exited but u are anxious so here is what u want to do is before saying to ur self do a breathing alteast for 10 minutes n create a feeling u are confident u are smart etc.. Keep practice untill u achieve it but u hv to practice everyday at least 10 mins in each hour n one more when u doing this nvr doubt ur self why its not working im still anxious no nvr think so u will get the result slowly positive affirmation will nvr makes ur anxiety worse i'm a great eg I was a person like I was always in anxiety unknown fear but after practicing breathing n positive affirmation gradually changed me still I hv anxiety fear but I can control myself now for me it's a huge achivment I hope it will work for u all the best
I agree. As a neurotherapist, what do you do or suggest?
I agree!!!! I am afraid of driving over freeway over passes. I live in Houston and I avoid them like the plague. I have forced myself to drive over high over passes and I have after started being afraid of driving over normal that I was able to drive freeway over pass. I know is irrational but I am to the point that I just can't. I am 57 and after I go thru an episode of encountering a high overpass like if I am on the freeway and I am not that familiar with the freeway..I force myself to drive ..have no choice I sm already there..I feel chest pains..even after hours..I still feel the pain..it takes a little bit for me to be calm..and what happens is I make a notation and I don't drive or go to that area again!!! I am afraid because I don't want to cause an accident so is better if I don't put myself in those situations. Now if someone else is driving I don't care I am fine.
To the person reading this, remember that everything begins with you. You are Light, You are Peace, You are Harmony.
Thank😊you!
Thank you 🙌👏🙏
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Fear=failure, fear =control, fear is not your God, peace is the answer, faith
@@GameRunnerd nice,
🌸 Summary:
1. 5 Second Rule ( to disturb your mind and change the focus from fear to the anchor thought)
2. Anchor Thought ( an image that makes you excited about what will happen after you do the thing that you're gonna do)
3. Reframe fear into excitement ( and this happens directly after applying step number 2)
THE GOSPEL OF THE WORD OF ALMIGHTY GOD "the last age in which God saves man from the destruction of this old world"
"WHAT is the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS?". ... (The so-called "influence of darkness" is the influence of Satan's deception, corruption, bondage, and control over people; Satan's influence is an influence that threatens death. How can you escape from the influence of darkness after can you have faith in God? When you pray sincerely to God, you turn your heart completely to Him, and at this point the Spirit of God touches your heart. If people cannot put into practice the words of God, if they are always trying to deceive Him, acting indifferent to Him, and not believing in His existence--all these people are living under the influence of darkness. Those who are not liberated, who are always controlled by some things, and are unable to give their hearts to God those who are under the bondage of Satan who live with imminent death. Those who are careless and not serious in their practice of truth, and do not seek to meet the will of God, instead only seeking to satisfy their own flesh, are also people living under the influence of darkness, shrouded by death. All those who cannot sincerely love God, who do not seek to attain the truth, and who do not focus on changing their dispositions are people who live under the influence of darkness.)
The Almighty said
The SO-CALLED "influence of darkness" is the INFLUENCE of DECEPTION, CORRUPTION, BANDAGE, and CONTROL of SATAN on PEOPLE; SATAN'S INFLUENCE is an INFLUENCE that heralds DEATH. ☀️😪
ALL WHO LIVE UNDER SATAN'S COVERAGE WILL CERTAINLY DIE. ☀️
HOW CAN YOU ESCAPE from the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS AFTER YOU HAVE FAITH in GOD? When you PRAY SINCERELY to GOD, you TURN YOUR HEART COMPLETELY to Him, and at this point GOD'S SPIRIT TOUCHES your HEART.🙏
You become READY to GIVE YOURSELF COMPLETELY to Him, and at this MOMENT, you have ESCAPED from the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. If EVERYTHING a MAN does is that which PLEASES GOD and is in ACCORDANCE with His REQUESTS, he is a MAN WHO LIVES by His WORDS of GOD and UNDER His CARE and PROTECTION. ☀️🙏
If people can't put God's words into practice, if they always try to deceive Him, act without enthusiasm for Him, and don't believe in His existence---all these people are living under the influence of of darkness ☀️
People who have not received God's salvation live under Satan's control; that is, they all live under the influence of darkness.
Those who do not believe in God live under Satan's domain: Even those who believe in the existence of God may not be living in His light, because those who believe in Him may not really live according to His words nor be able to submit to God. ☀️
Man is limited in believing in God, and because he knows nothing about God, he still lives according to old rules, in empty words, in a life that is dark and uncertain, without being completely purified by God nor did He fully possess it.
In fact, although it goes without saying that those who believe in God may still be under its influence, because they do not have the work of the Holy Spirit. ☀️
Those who have NOT RECEIVED GOD'S GRACE or MERCY and those who CANNOT SEE the WORK of the HOLY SPIRIT ALL LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, and MOST, so are PEOPLE who ONLY ENJOY GOD'S GRACE but do NOT KNOW Him . IF a PERSON BELIEVES in GOD but SPENDS MOST of his ENTIRE LIFE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, this PERSON'S EXISTENCE has LOST SIGNIFICANCE---and why even mention people who don't believe that God exists ?
ALL those who CANNOT ACCEPT GOD'S WORK, or ACCEPT GOD'S WORK but CANNOT RESPOND to HIS REQUESTS, are PEOPLE WHO LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Only THOSE WHO DESIRE to OBTAIN the TRUTH and can RESPOND to GOD'S REQUESTS will RECEIVE BLESSINGS from Him, and only they will ESCAPE from the influence of DARKNESS.
Those who are NOT FREE, who are always CONTROLLED by some THING, and who CANNOT GIVE THEIR HEART to GOD are PEOPLE UNDER SLAVERY to SATAN who LIVE with imminent DEATH. ☀️😪
Those who are NOT FAITHFUL in their OWN DUTIES, NOT FAITHFUL to GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS, and DO NOT PERFORM their DUTIES in the CHURCH are PEOPLE WHO LIVE in the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Those who deliberately INTERFERE with CHURCH-LIFE, who deliberately START STRICT BETWEEN their BROTHERS, or FORM SMALL GROUPS PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN THE DEEPER INFLUENCE OF DARKNESS, in SLAVERY to SATAN. 😪
Those who do not have a NORMAL RELATIONSHIP with GOD, who always have DEADLY DESIRE, who always WANT TO DELAY, and NEVER ASK TO CHANGE THEIR DISPOSITIONS are PEOPLE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. Those who are CARELESS and NOT SERIOUS in their EXERCISE of the TRUTH, and do NOT SEEK to RESPOND to the WILL of GOD, INSTEAD ONLY SEEK to PLEASURE their OWN FLESH, are also PEOPLE LIVING UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS, OVERWHELMED by DEATH. 😪☀️
Those who commit perversion and deception when working for God, who are hasty in dealing with God, who deceive God, and who always plan for themselves are people who live under the influence of darkness. ALL THOSE WHO CANNOT LOVE GOD SINCERELY, WHO DO NOT SEEK to ACHIEVE the TRUTH, and do NOT FOCUS on CHANGING their DISPOSITIONS are PEOPLE who LIVE UNDER the INFLUENCE of DARKNESS. ☀️🙏
From "Flee From the Influence of Darkness, and God Will Gain You"
Fulfillment of "When I looked up, someone handed me a book wrapped in a scroll. I opened it and I read on both sides the prayers, lamentations, and curses." (Ezekiel 2:9-10). ... "His garment was stained with blood. He was called the "Word of God" (Rev. 19:13).
The kingdom He brought down and set up in the highest in the sky so that it can occupy His creation in the universe and engrave on it the entirety of His Holy name "THE CHURCH OF ALMIGHTY GOD" 💐 fulfillment of (Mat. 16:18) "And I say as for you, you are Peter, on top of this rock I will build my Church, that even the power of death will not prevail over it.". ... and "The Letter to the Church in Philadelphia" (Rev. 3:7-13). ... And fulfillment of "The New Jerusalem" 💫 "The Spirit enveloped me, and the angel led me to the top of a very high mountain. He showed Me Jerusalem, the Holy City, coming down from heaven from God." (Rev.:7-13). ... " For the time has come in the house of God for the beginning of judgment in the house of God." (1 Peter 4:17). ... It is fulfilled that God Himself is our Pastor in (Rev. 7:17) 💐
"For the Lamb in the midst of the throne will be their PASTOR. He will lead them to springs of life-giving water; and God will wipe away the tears from their eyes"
📩 Calling and leading the sheep of God to His glorious Throne "THE CHURCH OF ALMIGHTY GOD"💐 to submit again to His authority so that He will continue to teach, guide and protect even in plague, famine and wild animals will not be moved by it and completely win this final battle with the big red dragon!
"They say with a loud voice, "Salvation comes from the Lamb, and from our God who sits on the Throne!" (Rev.7:10). ... and it will be fulfilled that will be established above the sky/TH-cam in (Isaiah 2: 2 / 9:6) "On the Last Day, the mountain on which Jehovah's temple stands will stand out above all the mountains. All nations will flock there. " . . . "For a baby boy is born to us. The rule will be given to him; and he shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Almighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace." 💌📨
Thanks for the synopsis
what about fear of vomiting?
@@abbyyung3098 hypnosis is a good tool for vomiting phobia
what if you have aphantasia?
Oh, boy, I am so excited for the Coronavirus pandemic!
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Hecc?
Bruce Wayne ......😂😂😂
Me too
If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realise that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key.
I agree with you mate. Investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity. And not just any investment but an investment with guaranteed return.
"To earn more you are required to have a multiple diversified means of income", which is why Investment is an avenue of making more money once it's profitable.
Most failures and loss on Investment usually happens when you invest without proper guide and the analysis of the profit and risk percentage of the Investment.
@@kombuchafigo7701 So how do you get your proper guide and the analysis you mentioned? Because I have incurred huge losses while investing by myself
@@bandilempho1627 it's safe to have an investment manager who has vast knowledge about Investment, to make you profits from your Investment on your behalf while you monitor the Investment growth.
As a human living with anxiety/depression and several other issues, I've learned that I thrive and in a higher state of happiness when I have "something to look forward to." Even when I'm not thinking about that "something," I'm still in a generally better mood and can accomplish more. So this makes perfect sense to me.
True its with me too
Love listening to mel.she helps me so much.
I like how you said "as a human" like we're going to think you're an alien
@@i_exist1872 I guess I said that because I know that animals (of the furry kind) also experience anxiety.
@@kathykaura7219 This is very true for me as well.
Had anxiety for years, got to the point where it is so exausting to do everyday things. This is so good, one video that actually helps. Thank u Mel tons...genious stuff.
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Keep on practicing you might need a low grade med before it all gets better or there’s up and downs to panic and anxiety
@Christina Megan what nonsense.🤣🤣🤣
Try read the bible! Maby it helps u mentaly making u stronger
I can’t sit in a quiet car, cinema, classroom, just any quiet place because I get so anxious of my stomach making noises…sounds weird ik, but it has ruined so much for me and I’m so exhausted of it. Starting school soon and I just don’t want to feel the anxiety of my stomach making noises 24/7…
#Believe :)
What the f*** you are doing here man?
I've been studying how to overcome fear of driving and discovered a great resource at Roys Quick Fix (google it if you are interested)
The nicest guy on TH-cam 💗
I have lived a life full of fears. Tears are flowing in my eyes now.
I have been seen as clueless, empty-brian and stupid by people who seemed to respect me for what they knew about me, thanks to fear.
I hope this would help me.
Same😭😪
Hope your tears are wiped away friend
Tears for fears..
This is so amazinggggg
I really love eeet
I have a fear of people judging me even though I get along with pretty much everybody. Sometimes when I talk to people, when they make facial expressions, my mind automatically goes into "this person is thinking I'm an idiot" thoughts.
How do you know that they are judging you this is mind reading thoughts The problem is that you think of yourself that you are an idiot The problem is this if you think good about yourself then no matter what other people are thinking
Thank you for the 5 second rule....it have literally changed my life. I have been using it for the past 6 months , testing it on things I have never been able to conquer and trying to make the rule fail. It has never.....never failed. I am in control on my life, I do things that I never even would have tried a year ago. I don’t procrastinate any more, I don’t say no to things I have never tried, I just forge ahead as if I have done them a million times. The sad part to this is I am 68 years old and it took me all this time to find out about the 5 second rule. Think what I could have achieved if I had known it at 25?? But nothing will stop me now...I’ll just need to make up for lost time. Again Thank You. You have made a difference in my life for the best. I now control my life not let other people or situations control it. You’re the Best!!
Thank you for this review! I'm glad to hear that it's working for you. I'm going to start implementing this in my life.
Remember, It’s never too late to do the right things.
I’m glad you have made a difference in your life.
So glad for you! When God comes to take His children home, we will have eternity to do and enjoy ALL things we can't even imagine now. This is my anchor thought! We will even get to explore this Earth that we were born in! Thank You, my Father God!
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
At first I have fear on leaving comments on TH-cam videos
but after I watched this I am now excited to leave comments!
Thank you
I wish my fears were this little, no offense in glad for you tho
What kind of fear that is😂😂
same fear i too had
I'm 73 and I used to be fearless. Now, I fear everything, every situation.
What caused the change in both of you?
I wouldn't say you fear everything or certain type of thing. I think being in your 70s plus you paid your dues growing up. You did what your body was able to but now you're older and know your limits. That's why ppl retire is to live their best moments. Your not in your teens or even 40s anymore. I know the feeling. I know my limits my body or the law will let me get away with lol.
Are you listening to Fox News?
@@ogeo.8966 Prescribed drugs, sorry, medications. Benzodiazepines.
@@suziegriffith ?????????
DR: Sorry, it’s not good news, it’s terminal.
Me after watching this video: OMG lol exciting🤩
Just means to be excited about the other side or about that bucket list you have a few weeks to do lol. Not like the money in your savings matters anymore.
Not funny Mr Hennigan. My wife got the terminal news and recovered enough after the initial shock to enjoy her last remaining days. But no, she didn’t say “OMG lol ….” But I think an “anchor thought” is quite useful for fears that assail us in the process of living and facing day to day stresses. I enjoy some really funny TH-cam comments, but I must call out yours as not one of them.
@@MadnSad well said..and my condolences to you Sir.
Am I the only person whose body does NOT feel the same when I am excited as it does when I experience fear?
Me too
I can’t thank you enough. I was terrified of doing a speech in front of my colleagues yesterday and nothing was helping me. I felt completely revved up and afraid. It was horrible. I then listened to your advice and kept saying to myself that what I was feeling was excitement, not fear and that’s when I even started smiling as beforehand I was withdrawing and wanted to run away. I did really well in my speech. I kept on chatting and smiling with my colleagues beforehand so by the time I needed to present, I was nowhere near as revved up as I thought I was going to be. Thank you so much. ❤
Well done! :)
This is genius. I was nervous for something I must do for school tomorrow, but nah! I’m hella excited! I know I’m good at this and I’m passionate about this. I’m so ready to show off my amazing skills and to change the lives of others for the better with my knowledge!!! I got this!!
yayyyy . Did it go well ?
roseskyschmolesky yes! It went amazingly well. I got an “outstanding” on BOTH of my evaluations! I’m so happy!!!
Would it work for a real scary situation !not so sure ?
Yay
Daamn YES THATS WAY TO DO IT, sometimes ive had these thoughts when i do something that is anxiety producing and afterwards i feel like the shit, now with this i will put it into PRACTICE WHEN I GET BAK OHT THERE BABYY
im gonna try this with driving, i get so nervous and my heart rate gets up to 160 bpm which is crazy! but i always had that vision of going to my favorite places in town and be fully present and so grateful for this little ride. wish me luck
I used to feel the same few years ago but had made a lot of progress. You should watch some youtube videos: How to overcome the fear of driving. Good luck!
Hope everything worked out for you and all went well .
How are you doing, I'm currently afraid of driving right now. Don't know what exactly triggered it but I'm not exactly happy about it. I feel like it's affecting my everyday life.
@@natnatalie1517 I’m still trying to get better, thank you for asking! But the best strategies i found so far is to drive at off-peak hours since it will give you the freedom to drive with very few cars around. I also just found out that i have caffeine sensitivity which makes my symptoms and my anxiety so much worse when driving so i must avoid it at all cost. And i keep taking very short trips at least once a week as an “exposure therapy” and it actually boosts my confidence every time.
I’m not sure if my fear is due to a past event, but what I’m sure about is my main fear of driving with cars around, i get very self conscious when i see how they’re illegally over-speeding while i’m driving just at the speed limit or a bit less and I get scared of making them mad because I’m driving “slow”. I know I’m doing everything right and i shouldn’t be too stressed out like that, maybe i need to be conscious of my negative self talk or my inner thoughts in general.
I hope we will overcome it this year! Let me know for any updates, i would love to share our progress every now and then.
@@zouzoufilghorba2150 I hope you're doing oka now - Im facing a similar situation - it's partly PTSD from a panic attack I got on a Highway once three years ago. Have not driven on an open road since.
Fear is so real to me it has literally destroyed me
Same …
Tony, I have dealt with social fear most of my life. I have found that using my body, AKA, exercise and hard physical work help to calm me down. Also , right now I am working with a hypnotherapist on creating positive outcome images in my mind. Good luck,,, I feel that we are here to learn lessons and to grow and become better people,, AKA, learning to love oneself and others as well. Bill
Trying to save myself
@@billp4380 b.s. I'v been having this for 30 year now. Together with depression. It's the point in the same part of the brain that is not right. You can love all you want to, it will not help you one bit when you have this. And I've been living with it for 30 years. I've had every therapy and treatment known to man. And it didn t help me one bit. Just trying to life with it.
It gets better. My severe panic attacks went away completely.
So I wake up in the middle of the night with a anxiety attack starting, and I tell myself I'm excited. That seems weird to me. I wish I could control my brain like a normal person.
Boy oh boy can I relate.
I overcame this issue by doing two things. I bought a weighted blanket which immediately reduces my anxiety. I thought the idea of them as silly at first, until I found out it helps a lot of people. The second thing is more difficult and will take a while to master. Before when I went to bed with thoughts of something that made me anxious I would think about it over and over which only made it worse. I called it "circular thoughts" and it always prevented me from getting a good night sleep. So after learning to meditate half way decently, I started a new approach to deal with my issues falling asleep. First, I take in several deep breaths and slowly exhale. Then I count down from 20 and when I get to zero I try not to have any thoughts at all. I know this sounds impossible, but with practice it can be learned. Once I have muted the voice in my head random thoughts will come along and I acknowledge them and release them and quiet my mind again. Before it often took me hours to fall asleep and now it takes about 15 minutes. I hope this can be helpful to other people.
For every fear comes strength maybe u not afraid maybe u just uncomfortable to accept change
Change Ur mind set and the very thing u fear won't mind
i'm currently going through a similar experience and i deal with them by counting, like Mel said, but i count to 100 or even 200 and then i think about how i'm going to be peaceful when the panic attack stops and how i'm going to overcome it again and how i'm going to be able to control it more and more everyday and it actually helps and i'm getting better day by day! i hope this helps :)
I find this video while having severe anxiety attack few times since morning but this technique really calm down myself. Thank you very much for guidance 🙏
Me too...my panic attack will happened during morning...
well you just mentioned anxiety in your comment, Sorry for replying but i want to explain something very important about anxiety, As you may have faced or experienced so many times that a fear which seemed to happen to you but that never happened and never existed. It only waisted your time and just it kept your brain constantly thinking and picturing the worse seen which was gong to be existed. Like you had some problems with one of your close friend and you were thinking that my friend can reject or quit me. But that never happened. So never over think or pre-think let the things come the way they are. Thank you
May I ask what your anchor though is for panic attacks?
wow you are one of the great self help gurus other than tony ,ferris and a few more who really want to help everyone Thanks
Well I'm very afraid of flying. So I took your 5 4 3 2 1 tool and your anchor idea. I managed a 3 hour flight.
Thank you so much for this inspiration and insight.
There are no words to describe how grateful I am.
Anastasia WOW!!!!!!
Incredible. Youll make through it
It didnt work for me when I flew.
That’s great. Happy for you
DOLLAR SHOULD RISE
I know all too well what it's like to be emotionally paralyzed by fear. As suggested here I also found that reframing my fear into something positive helped me to completely transform my life. Now I'm able to face fearful situations without nearly as much trepidation. Fantastic video.
Despite the control over your mind, with a strong body and good coordination you can raise the tolerance for the well-aware state.
It's not that you won't be afraid of a rollercoaster anymore, if you were before. But with a stronger body it's much less of an effort to keep tension. Less effort means less stress for your brain and you wont feel as frightened.
If your body gets used to a state of agitation the signal to your brain might be so weak that it get's ignored as long as you don't bother too much.
I'm fighting fear too
@@MrHaggyy thank you
OMG! I am literally crying because I just used your technique and it actually worked. Me and my mom we’re thinking that I was having panic attacks or developing anxiety but we didn’t know from what. I’ve been sick from school for nine days and I’ve been nervous about going back and I don’t know why and I found your video and I tried your technique and it’s a miracle. Thank you!