I generally dislike what I would describe as an obsession in society with putting these labels on different types of personalities. However, when you break it down the way you do you make it interesting even to me.
Aragorn is the ultimate Sigma chap (so I once read). He lives a life as a ranger and develops resilience and resourcefulness, yet respects and is tuned in with his environment, Furthermore he is selffless (a healer) and does not shrink from responsibility when he is called upon, A paragon of a fellow. Great vid, Ash. Spot on x
Agree with most everyone here - an excellent, informative video. SIGMA according to the definition you provided. As a young U.S. Marine (1968) I became aware of of what we are now calling SIGMA as compared/contrast to my fellow USMC. I just thought of it as 'similar but different' and called it resolved. I enjoy your videos very much, Ash.
Interesting that Clint Eastwood is mentioned as a classic Sigma male. Only the other day I watched an interview with one of his fellow actors. Apparently, when directing, he would never shout "ACTION!" like so many other directors, he would just say "Go ahead!" quietly.
After being out of office this week your video really were spot on on my thought. I have tried to build my character by seeing, talking and praising them around me that can be a bit invisible like janitors, maids, bartenders and servers. When done genuine I have made great connections that any alfa male going to miss out of. Respect, acknowledgement and just being a peer goes so long. So again, thank you Ash for this great video.
I truly value this talk this morning. I fall in line with the sigma perspective as described and happy about my understanding of the concept. Thanks again for sharing.
From what I've learned about the "Sigma Male" so far he's closer (and the proximation is the operative idea here) to the Nitzchean definition of the Übermensch - defining his own morality and operating along his own lines. I personally hold myself to standarts of morality and conduct that I define as apropriate and decent and most of all polite - In essence I try (and sometimes fail, that's normal I think) to combine the values I deem a chap should hold with an open mind and the morality modernity requires (I don't judge, or care about, anyones sexual preferances e.g.). Mostly I try to be polite unless openly confronted in an aggressive way... here's the point I'm always in danger of loosing it, but there's a rather complicated interplay between my physical state and morality at work here. And I will be honest here: I *despise* the machistic definition of the "Alpha" (aside from the fact the alpha *animal* is the one that takes care of the *Group* first and foremost...) and to me it's nothing less than a complete failure in being decent and.... oh... *human* because as a cultured animal we strife to operate in harmonious groups... the toxic loner eventually fails. It's politeness and selflessness for the group that makes us better, makes us human. And proponents of toxic egocentrism may excell in some fields, but they die alone. Best regards Raoul G. Kunz
An opinion but not necessarily a valid one. Alpha males tend to be assholes, seeking praise when they don’t deserve it. I’m a Sigma male and I can see through an Alpha within seconds. Alphas are the true losers in this world, unfortunately they don’t seem to realise it!
Good talk Ash. I enjoyed your thoughts. I tend towards sigma myself I think. Not really big on pigeonholing but I always try to be well rounded and open minded. I love a logical debate but won't waste my time with narcissists who don't want to have a civil discussion. I am respectful to others but won't let someone disrespect me or my wife or friends. Cheers Ron
I think the term alpha is misapplied to people like Tate. In an animal sense he's more beta. Loud, always about puffery and asserting his own interests as loudly as possible. In wolf packs or groups of gorillas, the alphas are quite quiet and chill. They assert their authority when needed, but otherwise quiet and observant. And no one needs to be told who the boss is. The betas are the ones causing trouble and making noise, trying to become the alpha.
@@SirVicc Thank you! I am so annoyed by the pop-cultural misunderstood Alpha - the Alpha ought to lead by auctoritas ("charisma based authority") and has no need to deploy imperium ("the power to compel"). Best regards Raoul G. Kunz
In my humble opinion anyone who labels himself as an Alpha Male is anything but. There are alpha males out there for sure, self-assured charismatic leaders. But anytime I see or hear or even read something from people like Andrew Tate I can´t help but cringe, his constant need to "dominate" everyone around him makes me think he can´t be very sure in himself. Not to mention he seems to be a sh*t human being. Not an alpha but a yapping dog at best.
My thinking is that it's best to understand and know yourself, and live your life from the inside out. Evaluate yourself on how well you can learn, master what you learn, and be able to share your findings and talents with others. Be a knowledgable, competent, and compassionate man. That can look a number of ways to the world, and it does not matter where you fit on someone's triangle model. The world is always trying to define you, and put you in a box (or triangle). Be able to define yourself and live accordingly. You do this very well Ash, and the world's a better place for it regardless of classification hierarchy.
Excellent video, Ash! I've heard about Alpha and Beta Males, but never of a Sigma Male. While watching your video I delved into my own soul too and I think I am pretty close to a Sigma Male. And I'm not unhappy about it :)
A nice summation and parallel of these 2 'categories'. I've always walked my own path and only recently hearing of the 'Sigma male', I was interested to see the similarities in my own values, views, and way of being. So without trying, I can see a close fit with how I see myself and how I live.
Great video Ash. The sigma male in my mind has all the traits of a true gent. Everything you’ve described as a sigma is what I practice myself, and hope to perfect along my journey. You mentioned David Bowie I myself have been a big fan of David Bowie for many years and I must agree with your choice when including him in your list of sigma males. A true intelligent gentleman.
The greatest victory a person can achieve in his life is his victory over his needs and whims. His need for others and his need to satisfy his animal instincts. The free man is a solitary being and prefers isolation without feeling distressed or in need of others, just like a predatory falcon that soars high and watches from afar.
Confirmed sigma male. I'm at the top of my profession yet very much fit into the sigma male description. The idea of independence is fundamental. It is a life lived with sincerity. Quiet and composed.
The socio-sexual hierarchy is a very popular topic for men nowadays. It’s similar to the “old money/quiet luxury” concept in that we’re bombarded with it. (Also, the two often connect.) I was hesitant to watch this at first but I knew there’d be more than the usual hype surrounding the topic. Maybe it’s simply because I gel with The Chaps Guide but this is definitely worth a watch and blows all that other crap out of the water. Men need other men to learn from and not some AI generated video spouting quotes from Marcus Aurelius. Thanks for this Ash.
Ash, I’m definitely a Sigma and I work my way through life in my own way. I don’t need the praise of others. Life is a journey of experiences, not seeking praise from so called peers. It is always a case of trying to minimise the ego and learning from what life has to offer, not thinking that I am the centre of the Universe as Alphas tend to do. Great video Ash.
A friend of mine is part of the punk culture in Amsterdam. He has all the tattoos, metalwork, and had a mohawk (until he went bald) now has a horn of hair which is usually orange. He in no way dresses or presents himself as a gentleman. However, he is one of the gentlest man I’ve known. If someone needs help he will be the first there. You would think your granny would cross the road to avoid him. He would help her across! I would fight for his freedom to be like that. You and me,Ash, could probably swap wardrobes and people wouldn’t notice. Like you say it isn’t about that, it is 100% about being the best version of you that you can be.
Thanks & great job! I identify as sigma. I want a healthy relationship with myself, others & the universe. I'm not desperate to "fit in" or dominate others (narcissist?). Don't settle guys. Break the cycle. Rebel. We got this. Let's go! 😉
Interesting topic! - I’ve always kind of gone my own way. I’ve made career choices not because of some strategic plan, simply because I found the job interesting. When I quit enjoying it, that’s when I walk away. Others in my line of work find it very odd.
Hello Ash, there are many things to say about that topic but I try to summarize it. Sigma is about beeing and Alpha is about having. Different old teachings e. g. Zen or Vedata say that happiness can not be found outside of ourselves. The Alpha is very dependant and can be manipulated. Greetings. Satoshi
i actually identify as santa claus. nevertheless, you don't need a label to be a decent man. likewise, you don't need to walk over anyone, never liked bullies.
It was a great video Sir! My opinion is as same as yours: most of the gentlemen are in the grey area between alpha and sigma. I would love a video from you describing the other male types viz. Beta, Gamma, etc if convenient. Cheers!
Sorry I’m late, but that’s life. The novelist John Fowles published a book entitled “The Aristos,” Greek for “the best that can be accomplished under the circumstances,” this being a book of sayings he put down at random over the years, one of which was “The world needs people who aren’t joiners.” The more you think about that the more profound and truer it gets. And I’ve always found it comforting for numerous reasons. And btw the term “alpha” was coined by wolf biologist Dave Mech, who now regrets that he did, once he realized that wolf packs were basically just family groups, and the reason for the LACK of lethal violence within packs is that when it’s time to hunt a moose it’s “all hands on deck.” On the other hand packs stake out territory and when packs happen to meet at the boundary it’s war. The chance of a wolf being killed by another wolf is about 50%. It ain’t easy being predatory. It gets lonely on top.
I’m definitely introspective and have never followed the crowd. I’m also calm in a real emergency where i tend to take charge when chaos reigns. However I definitely have some alpha traits too but not to mad extreme of that social media personality. I think most of us are a mixture but I would definitely like to be more sigma than I am.
Interesting video Ash. I wonder if it's more a case of having a major and minor so to speak eg Sigma with Alpha tendencies, Beta with Sigma tendencies etc. We're rarely just one or the other I think. Different moods, situations, life phases reveal different parts of ourselves.
excellent conversation about who is a alfa of deigns, for my is about about a true líder even for his family or Bussines. A true family Bussines man doesn’t care about immediate satisfaction he cares about legacy. Same as you are doing for your next generation.
I don't believe it's binary, I think we pass through stages of development with the 'volume' of our traits and personality being tuned constantly through the journey of life. The older a person becomes, the more sigma (read characterful, introspective, individual) they become. The forge of personality is time and experience.
You are absolutely right sir. Sigma is a personality type and not a philosophy or mindset. There is no 100% alpha or sigma persons in the real life. But there is a dominant personalty type. So a person can be 40% alpha, 25% beta and 35% delta. His dominant personality type will be alpha, but in real life he won't be an alpha male.
Great analysis Ash. While I do not subscribe to the idea that you can easily pigeon-hole people into a mere handful of "types" I feel like the "alpha" (taken from the animal kingdom) typically takes care of his pride or herd by protecting and nurturing, not something you'd accuse the Tates et-al of doing.
My own opinion is that an alpha male in the modern vernacular represents someone who is inherently insecure; they feel a need to dominate because deep down they need validation.
Good topic. If ever I hear anyone describe themselves as alpha, it is a monstrous red flag. I would go out of my way to avoid; alpha is ignorant and arrogant. Rolex watches can be associated with toxic alphas. Ostentatiousness is not gentleman like.
I like many of the ideals of the SIGMA - but the isolation/solitude part concerns me a little. While a Gentleman does enjoy quiet solitude some, or even notable parts of the time, they also enjoy engaging in some social activities, getting out with others, and attending worthwhile events which help them grow and learn. My fear is that the SIGMA movement might reinforce the issues we have with young men isolating from society, their communities, and relationships.
A question for you, Ash: are Holzkern watches - with their eccentric use of materials - chappy or unchappy? I quite like the idea of needing to apply furniture-polish to a watch.
Fancy that. Based on these traits, turns out I'm a Sigma and never even knew it. There's a caveat though. To live life on your own terms, one has to transcend the requirement to trade time for money. By it's very nature, this practice means you're always beholden to someone that "controls the purse". From a Maslow perspective, the Sigma man has attained, or is attaining self actualization. Not needing to report to a boss, company or office is a luxury. Then again you have those that just work to accumulate as much as they can.
The only issue I have with the term "sigma" is that it might lead you to be overly reclusive or withdrawn through indifference to others' opinions. It's better than being pointlessly competitive though.
Really interesting piece. I keep seeing the term sigma male but until now had no idea what it is. What am I? I'm a pretty normal human being with both good points and many imperfections. In terms of any hierarchy, I don't know what I am and really don't care. I don't see myself as either superior or inferior to others. I feel that I'm in a pretty good place in general and recognise that a lot of that is down to luck, and I'm very comfortable with that.
@@TheChapsGuide But luck of birth is in itself such a big thing. I was lucky enough to be born and grow up in a country that provided me with a good, free education. That education provided the foundations to everything that I have done and achieved in my life. That I was able to access this education was a matter of luck. What I was able to do was make decisions that enabled me to take advantage of opportunities that presented themselves to me - often simply because I happened to be in the right place at the right time. I am sure that there are millions of people of my generation around the world who are far more intelligent, far more diligent, far more creative or otherwise talented than I am who have not been able to achieve what I have or to lead a life anything like mine simply because they were born into circumstances - for example being born somewhere where they did not have access to even basic education, people who simply haven't had the luck that I have enjoyed. I am absolutely proud of what I have achieved in my life and that is, of course, partly down to me and the decisions I have taken. But I am not too ashamed to recognise the role that luck has played in enabling me to take advantage of the opportunities that luck presented.
Perhaps both you and I are Sigma males, independent and with an inner strength and self-sufficiency. Is this the same as the Renaissance man? Interesting video, I think you at your best.
I’ve never run into a self-described beta male. Everyone says they are an alpha male. Or the new buzz word, a “high-value male.” Whatever. I’m not buying into these popular beliefs. Even the sigma male stuff sounds a little fantastic as described in other places.
We can perceive traits in ourselves and attempt to self aware but this is always a biased opinion. The important thing less how we perceive ourselves, it’s how others perceive us. If we aspire to be the best version of ourselves it’s then for others to decide if they see us as Alpha, Sigma, or anything else
John Wick , much like James Bond is simply a character. However Keanu Reeves does exist and lives outside of the Hollywood Star lifestyle , goes about his life mingling on the trains and streets with everyday folk .
Alphas got a bit of a bad reputation here, I see. Don't forget that being dignified, generous, loyal, honest and strong in character are also alpha traits. The difference lies a bit deeper. But the potentially negative sides you listed can also be present in an alpha type, and those ones will be most often avoided by sigmas. But they have their negative sides as well: higher neuroticism, higher sensitivity to negative emotion, also can be a bit indecisive at times, also a bit hard to truly befriend them, because they build trust slowly. But so far as being a gentleman... I think both types can be, although they will turn out to be quite different :) Authenticity is key here. To be unapologetically yourself, whether an alpha or a sigma, or for that matter, a beta type.
The point is how you treat others and how they feel coming away from interacting with you.
Ash, that was the best explanation, I’ve seen or heard of a Sigma male.. spot on .. 1st class .
Agreed. Great video, Ash!
I generally dislike what I would describe as an obsession in society with putting these labels on different types of personalities.
However, when you break it down the way you do you make it interesting even to me.
Aragorn is the ultimate Sigma chap (so I once read). He lives a life as a ranger and develops resilience and resourcefulness, yet respects and is tuned in with his environment, Furthermore he is selffless (a healer) and does not shrink from responsibility when he is called upon, A paragon of a fellow. Great vid, Ash. Spot on x
Agree with most everyone here - an excellent, informative video. SIGMA according to the definition you provided. As a young U.S. Marine (1968) I became aware of of what we are now calling SIGMA as compared/contrast to my fellow USMC. I just thought of it as 'similar but different' and called it resolved. I enjoy your videos very much, Ash.
YES!! this is the video I have been waiting for
I have never heard about this. I try to be the best version of myself every day and try to be better the next day than on the previous day.
A great ideology to follow.
Interesting that Clint Eastwood is mentioned as a classic Sigma male. Only the other day I watched an interview with one of his fellow actors. Apparently, when directing, he would never shout "ACTION!" like so many other directors, he would just say "Go ahead!" quietly.
"Go ahead, make my day..."
After being out of office this week your video really were spot on on my thought. I have tried to build my character by seeing, talking and praising them around me that can be a bit invisible like janitors, maids, bartenders and servers.
When done genuine I have made great connections that any alfa male going to miss out of. Respect, acknowledgement and just being a peer goes so long.
So again, thank you Ash for this great video.
I truly value this talk this morning. I fall in line with the sigma perspective as described and happy about my understanding of the concept. Thanks again for sharing.
From what I've learned about the "Sigma Male" so far he's closer (and the proximation is the operative idea here) to the Nitzchean definition of the Übermensch - defining his own morality and operating along his own lines.
I personally hold myself to standarts of morality and conduct that I define as apropriate and decent and most of all polite - In essence I try (and sometimes fail, that's normal I think) to combine the values I deem a chap should hold with an open mind and the morality modernity requires (I don't judge, or care about, anyones sexual preferances e.g.).
Mostly I try to be polite unless openly confronted in an aggressive way... here's the point I'm always in danger of loosing it, but there's a rather complicated interplay between my physical state and morality at work here.
And I will be honest here: I *despise* the machistic definition of the "Alpha" (aside from the fact the alpha *animal* is the one that takes care of the *Group* first and foremost...) and to me it's nothing less than a complete failure in being decent and.... oh... *human* because as a cultured animal we strife to operate in harmonious groups... the toxic loner eventually fails. It's politeness and selflessness for the group that makes us better, makes us human. And proponents of toxic egocentrism may excell in some fields, but they die alone.
Best regards
Raoul G. Kunz
Addendum: I don't care about sexual preferances of people as long as they're SSC of course.
An opinion but not necessarily a valid one. Alpha males tend to be assholes, seeking praise when they don’t deserve it. I’m a Sigma male and I can see through an Alpha within seconds. Alphas are the true losers in this world, unfortunately they don’t seem to realise it!
Definitely an interesting topic. When you said Roger Moore I immediately thought of Simon Templar (the Saint).
This channel keeps getting better and better. Great topic.
Good talk Ash. I enjoyed your thoughts. I tend towards sigma myself I think. Not really big on pigeonholing but I always try to be well rounded and open minded. I love a logical debate but won't waste my time with narcissists who don't want to have a civil discussion. I am respectful to others but won't let someone disrespect me or my wife or friends. Cheers Ron
Absolutely right on the money. Sadly a lot of guys are following the alpha-male profile and do get into trouble along the way....
I think the term alpha is misapplied to people like Tate. In an animal sense he's more beta. Loud, always about puffery and asserting his own interests as loudly as possible. In wolf packs or groups of gorillas, the alphas are quite quiet and chill. They assert their authority when needed, but otherwise quiet and observant. And no one needs to be told who the boss is. The betas are the ones causing trouble and making noise, trying to become the alpha.
@@SirVicc Thank you!
I am so annoyed by the pop-cultural misunderstood Alpha - the Alpha ought to lead by auctoritas ("charisma based authority") and has no need to deploy imperium ("the power to compel").
Best regards
Raoul G. Kunz
In my humble opinion anyone who labels himself as an Alpha Male is anything but. There are alpha males out there for sure, self-assured charismatic leaders. But anytime I see or hear or even read something from people like Andrew Tate I can´t help but cringe, his constant need to "dominate" everyone around him makes me think he can´t be very sure in himself. Not to mention he seems to be a sh*t human being.
Not an alpha but a yapping dog at best.
HUGE THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO! 🙏🏻
My thinking is that it's best to understand and know yourself, and live your life from the inside out. Evaluate yourself on how well you can learn, master what you learn, and be able to share your findings and talents with others. Be a knowledgable, competent, and compassionate man. That can look a number of ways to the world, and it does not matter where you fit on someone's triangle model. The world is always trying to define you, and put you in a box (or triangle). Be able to define yourself and live accordingly. You do this very well Ash, and the world's a better place for it regardless of classification hierarchy.
The Sigma Male Concept reminds me of Stoicism and Taoism.
Excellent video, Ash! I've heard about Alpha and Beta Males, but never of a Sigma Male. While watching your video I delved into my own soul too and I think I am pretty close to a Sigma Male. And I'm not unhappy about it :)
Quietly confident in your own sphere, that’s me.
Very well done sir
Thanks, great video Ash! In the classic movie-star realm, I'm thinking, Cary Grant, Fred Astaire, and James Stewart were Sigmas. What do you think?
Definitely
A nice summation and parallel of these 2 'categories'. I've always walked my own path and only recently hearing of the 'Sigma male', I was interested to see the similarities in my own values, views, and way of being. So without trying, I can see a close fit with how I see myself and how I live.
Very well described 👍
Great video Ash.
The sigma male in my mind has all the traits of a true gent. Everything you’ve described as a sigma is what I practice myself, and hope to perfect along my journey. You mentioned David Bowie I myself have been a big fan of David Bowie for many years and I must agree with your choice when including him in your list of sigma males. A true intelligent gentleman.
Great seeing so many insightful thoughts in the comments about this topic. The opposite of toxic!
The greatest victory a person can achieve in his life is his victory over his needs and whims. His need for others and his need to satisfy his animal instincts. The free man is a solitary being and prefers isolation without feeling distressed or in need of others, just like a predatory falcon that soars high and watches from afar.
Ash sir, is absolutely right,
Confirmed sigma male. I'm at the top of my profession yet very much fit into the sigma male description. The idea of independence is fundamental. It is a life lived with sincerity. Quiet and composed.
This channel is so good..
The socio-sexual hierarchy is a very popular topic for men nowadays. It’s similar to the “old money/quiet luxury” concept in that we’re bombarded with it. (Also, the two often connect.) I was hesitant to watch this at first but I knew there’d be more than the usual hype surrounding the topic. Maybe it’s simply because I gel with The Chaps Guide but this is definitely worth a watch and blows all that other crap out of the water. Men need other men to learn from and not some AI generated video spouting quotes from Marcus Aurelius. Thanks for this Ash.
Great video!
Ash, I’m definitely a Sigma and I work my way through life in my own way. I don’t need the praise of others. Life is a journey of experiences, not seeking praise from so called peers. It is always a case of trying to minimise the ego and learning from what life has to offer, not thinking that I am the centre of the Universe as Alphas tend to do. Great video Ash.
Ash, Thank you this was a great talk, I enjoyed this topic and find myself in the Sigma male group. Joe
A friend of mine is part of the punk culture in Amsterdam. He has all the tattoos, metalwork, and had a mohawk (until he went bald) now has a horn of hair which is usually orange. He in no way dresses or presents himself as a gentleman. However, he is one of the gentlest man I’ve known. If someone needs help he will be the first there. You would think your granny would cross the road to avoid him. He would help her across!
I would fight for his freedom to be like that. You and me,Ash, could probably swap wardrobes and people wouldn’t notice. Like you say it isn’t about that, it is 100% about being the best version of you that you can be.
Thanks & great job! I identify as sigma. I want a healthy relationship with myself, others & the universe. I'm not desperate to "fit in" or dominate others (narcissist?). Don't settle guys. Break the cycle. Rebel. We got this. Let's go! 😉
🇬🇧👍🏾 Once again, excellent Ash! BRAVO and a Happy Festive Season to you.
Same to you!
Interesting topic! - I’ve always kind of gone my own way. I’ve made career choices not because of some strategic plan, simply because I found the job interesting. When I quit enjoying it, that’s when I walk away. Others in my line of work find it very odd.
Hello Ash, there are many things to say about that topic but I try to summarize it. Sigma is about beeing and Alpha is about having. Different old teachings e. g. Zen or Vedata say that happiness can not be found outside of ourselves. The Alpha is very dependant and can be manipulated. Greetings. Satoshi
i actually identify as santa claus.
nevertheless, you don't need a label to be a decent man.
likewise, you don't need to walk over anyone, never liked bullies.
Well said.
It was a great video Sir! My opinion is as same as yours: most of the gentlemen are in the grey area between alpha and sigma.
I would love a video from you describing the other male types viz. Beta, Gamma, etc if convenient. Cheers!
Excellent video, this one, Ash - thanks!
Would like to think of myself as somewhat sigma, in between the alphas around me.
Sorry I’m late, but that’s life. The novelist John Fowles published a book entitled “The Aristos,” Greek for “the best that can be accomplished under the circumstances,” this being a book of sayings he put down at random over the years, one of which was “The world needs people who aren’t joiners.” The more you think about that the more profound and truer
it gets. And I’ve always found it comforting for numerous reasons.
And btw the term “alpha” was coined by wolf biologist Dave Mech, who now regrets that he did, once he realized that wolf packs were basically just family groups, and the reason for the LACK of lethal violence within packs is that when it’s time to hunt a moose it’s “all hands on deck.” On the other hand packs stake out territory and when packs happen to meet at the boundary it’s war. The chance of a wolf being killed by another wolf is about 50%. It ain’t easy being predatory. It gets lonely on top.
Great show and great subject. As a gentleman ....... The autenticity is the way captures my interest. You catch more flies with honey than a gun.
I’m definitely introspective and have never followed the crowd. I’m also calm in a real emergency where i tend to take charge when chaos reigns. However I definitely have some alpha traits too but not to mad extreme of that social media personality. I think most of us are a mixture but I would definitely like to be more sigma than I am.
Interesting video Ash. I wonder if it's more a case of having a major and minor so to speak eg Sigma with Alpha tendencies, Beta with Sigma tendencies etc. We're rarely just one or the other I think. Different moods, situations, life phases reveal different parts of ourselves.
excellent conversation about who is a alfa of deigns, for my is about about a true líder even for his family or Bussines. A true family Bussines man doesn’t care about immediate satisfaction he cares about legacy. Same as you are doing for your next generation.
The name James Hadleigh (aka Gerald Harper) springs to mind
A Gentle Man. It's that simple. Not defined by clothes or watches or in fact any material thing.
Hummm.. at least cleanliness and some level of grooming.
Then, what is the minimum or where to stop, that is the question.
Not really. A tramp might be a gentleman and a Prince might not. I can think of several examples!
I have never heard the term Sigma Male, but it was an interesting discussion. Thank you.
I suppose it could describe me.
I don't believe it's binary, I think we pass through stages of development with the 'volume' of our traits and personality being tuned constantly through the journey of life. The older a person becomes, the more sigma (read characterful, introspective, individual) they become. The forge of personality is time and experience.
You are absolutely right sir. Sigma is a personality type and not a philosophy or mindset. There is no 100% alpha or sigma persons in the real life. But there is a dominant personalty type. So a person can be 40% alpha, 25% beta and 35% delta. His dominant personality type will be alpha, but in real life he won't be an alpha male.
Great analysis Ash. While I do not subscribe to the idea that you can easily pigeon-hole people into a mere handful of "types" I feel like the "alpha" (taken from the animal kingdom) typically takes care of his pride or herd by protecting and nurturing, not something you'd accuse the Tates et-al of doing.
I can think of someone who was both Alpha and Omega! This is the best Way.
So Frank Spencer was a sigma? 😛
Glad to see the camp fire went well. If fire had gone out half way through the filming would a sigma man retake or plough on regardless?
God bless.
My own opinion is that an alpha male in the modern vernacular represents someone who is inherently insecure; they feel a need to dominate because deep down they need validation.
Good topic. If ever I hear anyone describe themselves as alpha, it is a monstrous red flag. I would go out of my way to avoid; alpha is ignorant and arrogant. Rolex watches can be associated with toxic alphas. Ostentatiousness is not gentleman like.
Great informative video Ash.would you describe Daniel Craig’s role as James Bond the perfect sigma male?
Quite possibly
I wish I was more sigma, but I know I am not.
Two characters I can see as sigmas are Sherlock Holmes and Tommy Shelby (Peaky Blinders).
I like many of the ideals of the SIGMA - but the isolation/solitude part concerns me a little. While a Gentleman does enjoy quiet solitude some, or even notable parts of the time, they also enjoy engaging in some social activities, getting out with others, and attending worthwhile events which help them grow and learn. My fear is that the SIGMA movement might reinforce the issues we have with young men isolating from society, their communities, and relationships.
A question for you, Ash: are Holzkern watches - with their eccentric use of materials - chappy or unchappy? I quite like the idea of needing to apply furniture-polish to a watch.
I am unfamilar with the brand, bit looking at their online shop, they look a touch gauche for my tastes
Hahaha... Just sold my old land rover. My IT job doesn't give me enough time to work on it any more 🤣
Ash, I've seen some of your older videos and noticed you tie a very nice 4 in hand knit. I think you mention that you prefer a half Windsor.
I use a 4-in-hand on knitted/woven ties and thicker material ties, on silk I usually opt for half-Windsor. Has worked well for 40+ years so far.
@@TheChapsGuide excellent choice 👍
Fancy that. Based on these traits, turns out I'm a Sigma and never even knew it. There's a caveat though. To live life on your own terms, one has to transcend the requirement to trade time for money. By it's very nature, this practice means you're always beholden to someone that "controls the purse". From a Maslow perspective, the Sigma man has attained, or is attaining self actualization. Not needing to report to a boss, company or office is a luxury. Then again you have those that just work to accumulate as much as they can.
The only issue I have with the term "sigma" is that it might lead you to be overly reclusive or withdrawn through indifference to others' opinions. It's better than being pointlessly competitive though.
Never heard of it. As long as I can dress well, look healthy and attend as many concerts as we do. I really dont give an dam,
Really interesting piece. I keep seeing the term sigma male but until now had no idea what it is. What am I? I'm a pretty normal human being with both good points and many imperfections. In terms of any hierarchy, I don't know what I am and really don't care. I don't see myself as either superior or inferior to others. I feel that I'm in a pretty good place in general and recognise that a lot of that is down to luck, and I'm very comfortable with that.
I think we make our own luck - although luck of birth is outside anyone's control (as yet)
@@TheChapsGuide But luck of birth is in itself such a big thing. I was lucky enough to be born and grow up in a country that provided me with a good, free education. That education provided the foundations to everything that I have done and achieved in my life. That I was able to access this education was a matter of luck. What I was able to do was make decisions that enabled me to take advantage of opportunities that presented themselves to me - often simply because I happened to be in the right place at the right time. I am sure that there are millions of people of my generation around the world who are far more intelligent, far more diligent, far more creative or otherwise talented than I am who have not been able to achieve what I have or to lead a life anything like mine simply because they were born into circumstances - for example being born somewhere where they did not have access to even basic education, people who simply haven't had the luck that I have enjoyed. I am absolutely proud of what I have achieved in my life and that is, of course, partly down to me and the decisions I have taken. But I am not too ashamed to recognise the role that luck has played in enabling me to take advantage of the opportunities that luck presented.
Perhaps both you and I are Sigma males, independent and with an inner strength and self-sufficiency. Is this the same as the Renaissance man? Interesting video, I think you at your best.
A renaissance man is a Sigma, but is also a polymath of sorts.
Thank you Lynn. I value your opinion very highly sir.
Fantastic analysis of the Sigma. I see myself more as an Omega person (joking)...😊
Sigmas don't care about other people in the good and in the bad.
This can't be the habbit of a gentleman in a social world.
Any more am I a chap vids or “pilgrims progress” ??
Coming very soon
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I’ve never run into a self-described beta male. Everyone says they are an alpha male. Or the new buzz word, a “high-value male.” Whatever. I’m not buying into these popular beliefs. Even the sigma male stuff sounds a little fantastic as described in other places.
Agreed, it feels like astrology for men lol
Hello fellow Sigma males 👋
We can perceive traits in ourselves and attempt to self aware but this is always a biased opinion. The important thing less how we perceive ourselves, it’s how others perceive us. If we aspire to be the best version of ourselves it’s then for others to decide if they see us as Alpha, Sigma, or anything else
SIGMA = FREEDOM ?
The fact that you have no friends does not mean your a sigma
This is more of a monologue or treatise followed by comments and questions. It is less of a conversation. I enjoyed it nonetheless.
The real issue is whether Sigmas get as many women as Alphas. I don't know the answer.
Give me that arse
Can I be a what?
John Wick is the ultimate sigma.
John Wick , much like James Bond is simply a character. However Keanu Reeves does exist and lives outside of the Hollywood Star lifestyle , goes about his life mingling on the trains and streets with everyday folk .
@ I’m aware that he is fictional just like Bond. I said Wick in response to him saying Bond is the most sigma. Ironically, Wick is played by Keanu.
Has your Mrs banned you from doing your vids in the house? Lovely countryside. M
I'm a Sigma male
Jesus said the greatest among you must be the servant of all.
Omega Male baby I’m dead last
The whole idea of "alphas/betas/sigmas" etc is totally ridiculous. It's just starsigns for incels.
Alpha male is male leader. Simple as that. He needs followers.
He may be leader only only at something, sort of part-time..
Most of these gen-z terms are just memes, not to be taken seriously.
Alphas got a bit of a bad reputation here, I see. Don't forget that being dignified, generous, loyal, honest and strong in character are also alpha traits. The difference lies a bit deeper. But the potentially negative sides you listed can also be present in an alpha type, and those ones will be most often avoided by sigmas. But they have their negative sides as well: higher neuroticism, higher sensitivity to negative emotion, also can be a bit indecisive at times, also a bit hard to truly befriend them, because they build trust slowly. But so far as being a gentleman... I think both types can be, although they will turn out to be quite different :) Authenticity is key here. To be unapologetically yourself, whether an alpha or a sigma, or for that matter, a beta type.
you ever looked at mindfulness Ash? i found it very helpful for overcoming the pressures of the modern world.
Ash sir, i want to talk to you on ig??