@@maddib1723 im so sprry to hear that; mine said he would pun(h me in my stomach and k** my kid so i wouldnt complain about cleaning the house. They he said he would k** me if i left. I pray to God to save me and he got arressted and has been in j@il ever since. Its been 4 years now. Jesus save me. He will save you too.
Ladies, if a mother warns you about her son, count your blessings (and leave) because some of us didn’t get a heads up. We had to figure out he was useless or sketchy after he got comfortable.
My ex narc mom who is a narc herself used me as well, borrowed money, told me stories about other couples who stayed together in a dv situation. Finally, she told me to love myself n leave him…smh this was almost 5 years later!! By then I was a shell of who I used to be 😢 Now going on 7 months no contact n SUPER happy
That’s what I’m doing!! And voice recording!!! It’s a manipulation tactic, and they will confuse you and have you doubting and second-guessing yourself and questioning yourself. Did this really happen or trying to confuse you by questioning if you recall the situation correctly or deny that it happened!!! Very manipulative!!!
20:29 "cheated on me with a 13 year old" is a crazy way to make this statement tbh. Like, what?! She wasn't "the other woman" that's a child... a minooorrrrrrrrrrrrr. "He's a pdf file" would have been sufficient... and the start and end of any list of reasons to leave... and... you... stayed 😮 I just remembered this part as I typed this, which makes it more horrifying...
I just wrote a long list of things my ex did and I still stayed. You’re right, it’s very healing. I wa just redisgusted at him and myself for putting up with such madness. The shame, I could die from it. Never again.
It's okay to feel the emotions Sis...I also felt so angry listening to myself speak 😭 but that's how you know you're doing better because the new version of you would never.....
My guess you look at that list and think how did I let someone do this to me. At least hope that is what you are thinking. Use that to help set some boundries and learn to walk away when they are crossed. Many time when we go to a store and there is a product in tons of colors we tend to try a bunch of them. But with men we are willing to go out with someone just because they asked. We put more though buy a t-shirt then going out with someone the first time. Yet we think as women we did something wrong when we could not mold into the insane expectation some of these men expect in a relationship,
First off people in the comments. These ladies already lived their experiences and telling you a story so you don't go down the same road. Stop saying what she should have done, it's done, just don't do what they did and shut up. Listen
I liked this video for the girl who said: she will never get lip filler or a boob job because she will do the opposite of what men are telling her to do! ❤
Well any man who made a comment about my body, would get something like "so when do you plan on getting a pen*s enlargement. It is so much better being single then being in a abusive relationship or a relationship you feel trapped in. The sad thing so many young women drop everything to get married. My suggestion is not to get married or have kids until your very late 20's or 30's. First of all your brain does not even finish growing until the age of 25 years old. Also waiting allows you to finish your education and establish a career. Unless you are marrying a rich man then you want that cushion of choices if thing go wrong. What may happen, may have nothing to do with a bad relationship either. Your partner my get hurt or die and if you do not have things in order before something happen you will have a lot of struggles to go though.
These men ain’t shit, please know and believe that. Small and morally bankrupt people will do whatever they can to diminish you and bring you down and it’s a reflection of their lack of integrity and I commend all the women who find the strength to get out, it’s not always easy and I know it can take time to build yourself back up, but you are so worth it and I just wanted to say that for all the girlys here ❤️ much love to everyone
When you value a relationship more than ur own self. I'm glad they can laugh now and share to spare others. Sometimes we learn the hard way. Worse when we don't have a blue print to follow. The level of cruelty is mind blowing.
These girls are what set the standard for men treating women badly! Have some self respect and self worth to walk away! Dont let men get away with this stuff so the next girl has to deal with. 😢
This video helped solidify my theory that the women who get chosen for marriage are the women who are willing to tolerate abuse. So in other words, all of the women in this video could/would have been chosen for marriage by these guys if they had simply been willing to tolerate his outrageous abuse.
When parents shelter their daughters this is also what happens these girls are not able to read extreme danger when it’s right in their face Scary The blonde girl and the girl before her are so pretty it’s obvious the guys are jealous of them so scary
I really hope that guy that cheated on her with a 13 year old went to jail especially since he also impregnated in 16 year old!!! The 13 year old one is insane though! It's gross either way but in some places they have consent laws at 16. But there's no way with the 13 year old! I hope this guy is rotting in prison
Thank you to all these brave women that make other women feel less alone when they stay in a bad relationship. These men are so idiotic and don't even realize that they are wasting their own time and emotional energy with women they don't even want to be with.
35:55 And here, if he never actually asked her to be his girlfriend and never clarified that they are in the relationship, one month of talking doesn't automatically mean they can't see anyone else. These things have to be discussed and clarified before assuming.
I’m just on the first girl and I’m pissed. There is no way. I put up with some things in my marriage because we had kids. But never anything that attacked me personally. They still suck though
They probably are young and immature. Gag is though, I bet you they learned these tactics from older men (just as I wrote this last sentence the second girl said her ex's mother told her he learned his behavior from his father).
"He forced me to do this", "he made me do that..." No, you ALLOWED these creatures to treat you that way. He nade a demand and you obeyed out of your own fear of losing this trash excuse of a man.
Some of us are conditioned from childhood to obey toxic people or even put everyone else's needs before our own. That conditioning needs to be broken for people to realise they HAVE a different choice.
It's not that they hate themselves, it's that pretty much every culture teaches women from day one that having a man is the ultimate life goal. It's brainwashing and many of us grew up around these kinds of men so the behavior is normalized and expected.
32:05 I don’t think it’s not loving self enough a lot of theee girls are very very young or young minded. Where are the parents in this? Do they hover and intervene in the relationship if the girl lives at home? A lot of girls are naive and inexperienced in the world and peoples actions. So I think it’s more inexperience and naivety not self love.
This video reinforces why I'm 17 years since having a husband, and don't know if I ever want to go down the aisle again. Men can be so rude, scathing with their words, and cruel. And they act clueless when you call them on their b*ll$hit.
8:02 I actually think if you are begging your partner to stay and promising to change, that's your responsibility. All people have boundaries in a relationship, and they can leave for any reason that makes them unhappy. If alcohol was such a big deal breaker for her boyfriend, she should have either let him go or actually not drink if she gave him such a promise. That's on her.
Almost every man I have dated have been nothing but controlling red flags. I guess I can see this better then other women from seeing how my Mom was treats by my Dad. He was horrible and so verbally abusive and I vowed no one treat me like that. Then I went into the Army as a officer for 20 years. Of course most men hear what I did in the past and never call back. That is fine. I had one guy on the first date had my whole life saving planned on how he wanted to spend it. I was suppose to sell my paid off home, so I could pay off his home and in kindness he would let me stay there. I spit out my water, I was laughing so hard. Oh he did not believe in marriage. Then had this other guy who would purposely fight over the tinest things. When I asked why he did it, he admitted he knew it was annoying me and thought it was cute and funny. Well I did not know I was dating a 5 year old. Now men just think you should give them sex for going out to Applebee's and paying a $20.00 lunch. These men are so insulting and they think women should put up with that. Nope I love my cat a lot more then these loser. Life is so much easier without a permanent 40 year old baby in the home. Since I did not pay $300k to raise my kid, I have a nice retirement. The $300k is the average cost to raise one child today to the age of 18 year old. Ladies do not let a bunch of people you need kids so you will not die alone. We all die alone. No walks with us though the process once you pass. Someone my hold your hand. But what is more painful is when you have children and there is no promises they will be there for you. You should not be having children just to have someone care for you in old age. Instead save your money so you can hire the help and invest you energy in real friendships.
I am going to something that is very obvious, but to many women are missing the boat. MEN TREAT WOMEN LIKE THIS, BECAUSE YOU ALLOW IT. You allow it because you think you need a man to care for you. No you need a good job so you are not depending on others, you need to believe that you of worthy to being loved instead of abused, Finally not everyone will find a fitting partner and that is OK. Do not settle with less when it comes to relationships just so you can say you have a boyfriend. Who you date etc is really no one business anyway. You either have good relationship or you do better on your own. Also just because someone is in the room with you does not mean you cannot be lonely. A man is not a plan. Take of your career and work on your reliance and resiliency. You need to have your boundies and when someone breaks them, leave. There behavior will not get better the longer you stay. The longer you stay and make excuse to you being abused the more you will tolarate it and let it happen until you are the shell of the person you were and for what?
Curious...what is the redeeming factor that made them stay? How is it possible that they did that much 😳 and it didn't occur that they did not like them.
@@lightoverdarkness3078 Women are obsessed with being able to tell society/other women that they "have a man". Many have learned to centre their whole world, sense of happiness and self worth around (chasing) male approval.
Shout out to all the girlys who found their worth and made it out alive
He wanted to dump me in a river while I was pregnant and leaving him.. he still threatens me to this day be careful who you fall pregnant to
@@maddib1723 im so sprry to hear that; mine said he would pun(h me in my stomach and k** my kid so i wouldnt complain about cleaning the house. They he said he would k** me if i left. I pray to God to save me and he got arressted and has been in j@il ever since. Its been 4 years now. Jesus save me. He will save you too.
I appreciate these beautiful women telling their stories.
Wow! This video proves that physical attractiveness has NO relationship with self-esteem.
We all had to learned the hard way
My jaw is on the floor. These women are so gorgeous.
You're not accounting for inexperience. Young women are very impressionable.
It's actually often fragile because the attractiveness triggers outside admiration and that self-esteem fades as soon as the attractiveness fades.
Or good treatment
After a few failed relationships i realized men cannot make me happy & i need to be single & look after myself. They will never treat me right
A lot of us are on the same page
Facts 👌🏾
Ladies, if a mother warns you about her son, count your blessings (and leave) because some of us didn’t get a heads up. We had to figure out he was useless or sketchy after he got comfortable.
My ex narc mom who is a narc herself used me as well, borrowed money, told me stories about other couples who stayed together in a dv situation. Finally, she told me to love myself n leave him…smh this was almost 5 years later!!
By then I was a shell of who I used to be 😢
Now going on 7 months no contact n SUPER happy
Whenever you feel off about something he does WRITE IT DOWN somewhere private. That way he cannot gaslight you into believing it didn’t happen.
Very good advice!❤
That’s what I’m doing!! And voice recording!!! It’s a manipulation tactic, and they will confuse you and have you doubting and second-guessing yourself and questioning yourself. Did this really happen or trying to confuse you by questioning if you recall the situation correctly or deny that it happened!!! Very manipulative!!!
20:29 "cheated on me with a 13 year old" is a crazy way to make this statement tbh. Like, what?! She wasn't "the other woman" that's a child... a minooorrrrrrrrrrrrr. "He's a pdf file" would have been sufficient... and the start and end of any list of reasons to leave... and... you... stayed 😮 I just remembered this part as I typed this, which makes it more horrifying...
This one was so insane! He graped a child and she still stayed. What the actual F***?! Pickmes are dangerous.
She didn't even leave until another minor got pregnant 😭
I think they were in high school at the time but it's still pdf-elia
We don’t know how old he was at the time.
Staying out all night is a big red flag in my relationship. Either come home at a decent time or don't come back. My former ex has that bad.
I just wrote a long list of things my ex did and I still stayed. You’re right, it’s very healing.
I wa just redisgusted at him and myself for putting up with such madness. The shame, I could die from it.
Never again.
It's okay to feel the emotions Sis...I also felt so angry listening to myself speak 😭 but that's how you know you're doing better because the new version of you would never.....
My guess you look at that list and think how did I let someone do this to me. At least hope that is what you are thinking. Use that to help set some boundries and learn to walk away when they are crossed. Many time when we go to a store and there is a product in tons of colors we tend to try a bunch of them. But with men we are willing to go out with someone just because they asked. We put more though buy a t-shirt then going out with someone the first time. Yet we think as women we did something wrong when we could not mold into the insane expectation some of these men expect in a relationship,
First off people in the comments. These ladies already lived their experiences and telling you a story so you don't go down the same road. Stop saying what she should have done, it's done, just don't do what they did and shut up. Listen
Thank you very much for your comment.
It's so incredibly dismissive when Women do that to each other.
@SonjaElizabethTeal they complain about men doing that, then they go do it to other women, it's annoying
@@CrAzYiNsAnEBaRbiE1987 The problem is, most women refuse to learn and focus on themselves.
The first one was dating the devil
I agree. That was straight up Satan.
Yess! He asked her to ask another girl what she does at the gym, so she could look like her...wtf
I was screaming stand tf up girl you too tender the whole time 😂😂😂
Honestly Satan might have been a better gentleman
Absolutely
I liked this video for the girl who said: she will never get lip filler or a boob job because she will do the opposite of what men are telling her to do! ❤
Loved that too
Well any man who made a comment about my body, would get something like "so when do you plan on getting a pen*s enlargement. It is so much better being single then being in a abusive relationship or a relationship you feel trapped in. The sad thing so many young women drop everything to get married. My suggestion is not to get married or have kids until your very late 20's or 30's. First of all your brain does not even finish growing until the age of 25 years old. Also waiting allows you to finish your education and establish a career. Unless you are marrying a rich man then you want that cushion of choices if thing go wrong. What may happen, may have nothing to do with a bad relationship either. Your partner my get hurt or die and if you do not have things in order before something happen you will have a lot of struggles to go though.
These men ain’t shit, please know and believe that. Small and morally bankrupt people will do whatever they can to diminish you and bring you down and it’s a reflection of their lack of integrity and I commend all the women who find the strength to get out, it’s not always easy and I know it can take time to build yourself back up, but you are so worth it and I just wanted to say that for all the girlys here ❤️ much love to everyone
I watch these when I feel bad about being single.
Me too, Friend!!!!❤
@ girl🫠😭😂 I’m happy they found their way out of these relationships but goddamn!
It’s literally my favorite singles activity 😂😂
@@heymsparker2816 may a “love” like this NEVER find us friend😭😂
Same i wish the girls the best but i thank them for sharing the worst so i wont feel bad about having boundaries in life.
When you value a relationship more than ur own self. I'm glad they can laugh now and share to spare others. Sometimes we learn the hard way. Worse when we don't have a blue print to follow. The level of cruelty is mind blowing.
We've all gone thru way too much trauma from relationships🥺
These girls are what set the standard for men treating women badly! Have some self respect and self worth to walk away! Dont let men get away with this stuff so the next girl has to deal with. 😢
This video helped solidify my theory that the women who get chosen for marriage are the women who are willing to tolerate abuse.
So in other words, all of the women in this video could/would have been chosen for marriage by these guys if they had simply been willing to tolerate his outrageous abuse.
The very pretty girls are receiving the worst behaviors - most likely jealousy they need to be careful
Dear ladies,
This is one example why dating is so hard for you- your competition is very dumb and desperate.
I enjoy your videos so much! Thank You! I love strong women - hats off to all of us for surviving men's bs
Glad you like them! 😊
I will keep saying this: LADIES LEAVE THE FIRST TIME SOMEONE DISRESPECTS U!!
Be aware of these prettyboys (very handsome men) in particular! They know that they could have anybody and they would cheat and lie like crazy!
These behaviors are DSM worthy especially the blonde girl who got her head slammed in car
This is frightening
When parents shelter their daughters this is also what happens these girls are not able to read extreme danger when it’s right in their face
Scary
The blonde girl and the girl before her are so pretty it’s obvious the guys are jealous of them so scary
I really hope that guy that cheated on her with a 13 year old went to jail especially since he also impregnated in 16 year old!!! The 13 year old one is insane though! It's gross either way but in some places they have consent laws at 16. But there's no way with the 13 year old! I hope this guy is rotting in prison
Thank you to all these brave women that make other women feel less alone when they stay in a bad relationship.
These men are so idiotic and don't even realize that they are wasting their own time and emotional energy with women they don't even want to be with.
35:55 And here, if he never actually asked her to be his girlfriend and never clarified that they are in the relationship, one month of talking doesn't automatically mean they can't see anyone else. These things have to be discussed and clarified before assuming.
I’m just on the first girl and I’m pissed. There is no way. I put up with some things in my marriage because we had kids. But never anything that attacked me personally. They still suck though
Sad to see girls way prettier than me getting played lol no hope for me then 😂😂😂😂
It’s about inner self worth and so no it’s not a reflection on you.
1st girl was his maid and free transportation so the next girl would want him.
All of these guys sound really young immature but surprisingly a lot of them don't actually grow up
Yup and the old ones are just as immature and stupid...
They probably are young and immature. Gag is though, I bet you they learned these tactics from older men (just as I wrote this last sentence the second girl said her ex's mother told her he learned his behavior from his father).
But they could easily be 30-50 yr old men.
@@VanessaThomas-o4j Why is that "suprising"? Women are so clueless about men.
@@VanessaThomas-o4j Why is that still "suprising" to you women? Don't you ever pay attention to male behaviour/psychology?
This is triggering and ridiculous
Excellent work! Much needed❤
I'm so glad you enjoyed it Sis 😌
I'm too mean for any of this stuff!! These menz be running for the exit! Bye weaklings!! 😅❤
Oh my lanta...
This is inspiration to stay single.
"Singlspration"
I can't watch this
"He forced me to do this", "he made me do that..." No, you ALLOWED these creatures to treat you that way. He nade a demand and you obeyed out of your own fear of losing this trash excuse of a man.
Exactly. Clean his house just to be with him.....AND disrespectful.
Manipulation is complicated
Some of us are conditioned from childhood to obey toxic people or even put everyone else's needs before our own. That conditioning needs to be broken for people to realise they HAVE a different choice.
These women hate themselves, that's the only explanation for taking such blatant disrespect and malicious treatment from a man. I'm lost for words.
I am dumbfounded.
It's not that they hate themselves, it's that pretty much every culture teaches women from day one that having a man is the ultimate life goal. It's brainwashing and many of us grew up around these kinds of men so the behavior is normalized and expected.
Oh HELL NO
32:05 I don’t think it’s not loving self enough a lot of theee girls are very very young or young minded.
Where are the parents in this? Do they hover and intervene in the relationship if the girl lives at home?
A lot of girls are naive and inexperienced in the world and peoples actions.
So I think it’s more inexperience and naivety not self love.
It’s more worrying that they are now mature men and without healing, they’ll be even worst males than when they were a younger version !!😮
This video reinforces why I'm 17 years since having a husband, and don't know if I ever want to go down the aisle again. Men can be so rude, scathing with their words, and cruel. And they act clueless when you call them on their b*ll$hit.
I feel so bad for all these women. Women do a better job at taking care of women.
ok i'm convinced that all schools should be mandatory to have a relationship class in middle school
Part 2 please 😊
No way sis literally 😂
8:02 I actually think if you are begging your partner to stay and promising to change, that's your responsibility. All people have boundaries in a relationship, and they can leave for any reason that makes them unhappy. If alcohol was such a big deal breaker for her boyfriend, she should have either let him go or actually not drink if she gave him such a promise. That's on her.
He is gaslighting her, he doesnt achtally care
It was probably a fibroid/cyst not a miscarriage.
Oh my god her ex had a video of his own sister undressing on his phone?? 😨 Girl noo 😭
Time spam
Almost every man I have dated have been nothing but controlling red flags. I guess I can see this better then other women from seeing how my Mom was treats by my Dad. He was horrible and so verbally abusive and I vowed no one treat me like that. Then I went into the Army as a officer for 20 years. Of course most men hear what I did in the past and never call back. That is fine. I had one guy on the first date had my whole life saving planned on how he wanted to spend it. I was suppose to sell my paid off home, so I could pay off his home and in kindness he would let me stay there. I spit out my water, I was laughing so hard. Oh he did not believe in marriage. Then had this other guy who would purposely fight over the tinest things. When I asked why he did it, he admitted he knew it was annoying me and thought it was cute and funny. Well I did not know I was dating a 5 year old. Now men just think you should give them sex for going out to Applebee's and paying a $20.00 lunch. These men are so insulting and they think women should put up with that. Nope I love my cat a lot more then these loser. Life is so much easier without a permanent 40 year old baby in the home. Since I did not pay $300k to raise my kid, I have a nice retirement. The $300k is the average cost to raise one child today to the age of 18 year old.
Ladies do not let a bunch of people you need kids so you will not die alone. We all die alone. No walks with us though the process once you pass. Someone my hold your hand. But what is more painful is when you have children and there is no promises they will be there for you. You should not be having children just to have someone care for you in old age. Instead save your money so you can hire the help and invest you energy in real friendships.
4:15 your mom did what?????!!!!!😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
these men are pitiful
I am going to something that is very obvious, but to many women are missing the boat. MEN TREAT WOMEN LIKE THIS, BECAUSE YOU ALLOW IT. You allow it because you think you need a man to care for you. No you need a good job so you are not depending on others, you need to believe that you of worthy to being loved instead of abused, Finally not everyone will find a fitting partner and that is OK. Do not settle with less when it comes to relationships just so you can say you have a boyfriend. Who you date etc is really no one business anyway. You either have good relationship or you do better on your own. Also just because someone is in the room with you does not mean you cannot be lonely. A man is not a plan. Take of your career and work on your reliance and resiliency. You need to have your boundies and when someone breaks them, leave. There behavior will not get better the longer you stay. The longer you stay and make excuse to you being abused the more you will tolarate it and let it happen until you are the shell of the person you were and for what?
5:20 her bf hilarious😂🤣
The lady he’s talking about @30:45 women in men’s fields.
😑
Why does the first one seem like she’s just making 💩 up? 😆
If you a that low down in high school going to prom.. then you not any good too nobody because that starts from home!
Right
Curious...what is the redeeming factor that made them stay? How is it possible that they did that much 😳 and it didn't occur that they did not like them.
@@lightoverdarkness3078 Women are obsessed with being able to tell society/other women that they "have a man". Many have learned to centre their whole world, sense of happiness and self worth around (chasing) male approval.