Ive stood on 10 toes saying for decades THEY NEED TO TEACH ALL "TYPES OF ABUSE " IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. Meaning - neglect is a form of abuse. Ignoring peoples needs, letting them starve, not checking on them, financial abuse- i didnt realize the depth of abuse i had that im sure my parents didnt realize was a bad thing. That first woman had my jaw on the ground. Unbelievable.
I keep saying this too!! I mean wtf. Every grade should have to go through different types of abuse classes and then follow up classes on how to navigate life after you have been abused, let’s teach our children what to look for and who to tell.
I promise you, I was never a pushover at a young age. I dated an older man, and never was a time he could get over on me. This has to do with how people are raised. My mom never took this kind of treatment from men. I also know my worth, too. I don't like drama and misery. I avoid it like the plague.
These poor women were manipulated and ab*sed. Most of us have been through similar situations. I understand when you’re in the moment you can’t see how bad it really is. Men gaslight women and make us feel guilty for calling them out.
I had a friend who was in an abusive relationship. He hated me and made her hate me. The entire time they were married I saw her 4 times and I would stay for some of the festivities and make some excuse to leave. We are both widows, her being the first. To date she didn't like my husband because he wasn't cute and although we had disagreements, we were never physical. I honestly think she was jealous because I wasn't abused. I still wish her well to this day.
I live your life. He says I’m here so he has no one else to yell at. He was upset that he married the wrong twin. The less attractive one. That I’m simple. Stupid. How do I even survive in this world. I always sit tensely on the couch grit my teeth. He slept with over 30 women and made me hear all about it. It was my fault bc I’m a horrible wife!! I am the best! I do everything for him and more bc I hate to be punished. He said if I leave he’ll kill himself with the gun his son used to kill himself and he won’t have to pay alimony or half of the house. It all comes down to.
Yep but you will never win. You just have to hope you with a man who can be humble, and admit when they are wrong. Women just naturally have the ability to adjust to create a sense of peace. That is part of what make women different than men. 🤷🏽♀️
An ex of mine once said " im an asshole but you're better at it." You know why he said that!! Because he'd do stupid shit so I'd up him. Give me the silent treatment for a couple of hours for no reason..im doing it back for longer. 😂😂😂
When you grow up seeing these things happening, and your parent or parents are emotionally immature this kind of treatment is normal to you. You don't know that adults are not supposed to behave that way.
I was adopted into a horrible home with alot of abuse n emotional instability my adoptive father being a therapist and pastor but It clear that it was all messed up and I know its not normal I may have dealt with it from my exes but I still knew it was wrong i just was too attached to leave so I don't think to everyone its oblivious but most of us do have a hard time not letting it happen if our parents normalized it
@ he left because I found out with indisputable evidence that he was indeed cheating. He tried to lie his way out of it or course. Then said he could no longer trust ME 😂. He’s now with his cousin’s wife amongst the others that he’s been sleeping with.
We make the mistake of believing that men are with us because they like us. It's a hard pill to swallow to realize a lot of them are just there to use, abuse, and scapegoat us. You have to learn the lessons, recognize the warning signs, and not make those mistakes again.
My ex started telling me all the things I couldn't have and couldn't do even before we married. He even made me give away my precious treasured bird and change my bedtime routine to suit his schedule. He was already breaking my heart and I should have ended it right then but I went ahead with the marriage. He moved me away from all my family and friends but promised we would travel the 10 hours multiple times every year. Of course, that didn't happen. He told me about the sheer number of girls he slept with in college and even pointed out which dorm hall these things happened when we passed that college many years later. He was threatening divorce even before we married. Ultimately, after just under the 10-year mark, he abandoned me halfway across the country with only few clothes and no money and told me he'd already filed for a divorce. It was a horrible experience and I feel sorry for the next person he does this with
All honor and respect to the victims of these monster men. That's what they are. I was with a malignant narcissist and they know what they are doing. I believe (hope, anyways) that our sacred feminine creator will continue to whisper in our ears, via each other on platforms like this, for example. I know that I'm done with the nonsense and I'm spilling all the tea. These men don't get away with anything! Peace and love, Sister!
I don't understand how any woman could remain in a toxix relationship where disrespect ran rampant. Maybe I've never been in love because I can't imagine tolerating this level of disrespect. Actually, I never loved a man more than I love myself.
It's a very slow process, they are only telling examples from the middle and end. Not the little "weird" things that only increased with time. They drive you crazy and then your surroundings tell you things like, "Don't be so sensitive, that's just men!" These abusive men have a ton of enablers, and many inly unmask once you have kids with them.
@ I was thinking that because the parents should have told them, mostly the first girl, that it wasn’t normal. My son is 13 and I know if someone threw a plate at a wall, he’d be like “😳WT?!” So, it makes me question the environment where she grew up. I think your parents can be great and you still end up with a trash spouse, but your reasoning for staying won’t be that high thought it was normal.
Chrissy, abusers go "WTFFF" when they get a taste of their own medicine all the time. That's not a litmus test. Also, we will see how your son turns out. Lots of mommies think their little boys can do no wrong. As we can see, that is rarely the case.
@ I hope he never throws a plate against a wall. That’s a good point though. I can’t even imagine my son abusing anyone. I’m definitely going to talk to him about it. That’s all you can really do as a parent. But I know that he isn’t growing up in an environment where he thinks it’s “normal”. That was my point. A lot of people are abused and abusers, but to think it’s normal means you grew up in an environment where it’s normal.
My ex husband thought that because we were married he could beat me when he wanted. ( I got married at age 21 and he was 20. )He tried to keep me barefoot and pregnant! But I fought back. Toxic whew.
Facts my last relationship was worse than my ex husband and he was a nasty evil piece of work but my last ex he is a demon and was always on that demon time hence why he is an ex I refuse to be treated like that again by anyone since splitting up with him I have never felt better I can live in peace pray in peace read my bible in peace and just do me if my soul mate is out there then great if not oh well I'm still gonna be OK 😊
I didn't get a hubby until 2015. I believe these lyrics "kiss me and I kiss you back. Hit me and I hit you back and kick you out. Come back I had baseball bat. My hubby courted me and was my best friend first. He's gone to prepare our heavenly place and when time comes he promised to be there. And I believe him. Never dated again and no regrets. ❤
It's not because you fight. It's because you haven't been in a disadvantaged position to the degree that many women have. And I'm not just talking about money. Let's try to not blame victims anymore.
6:03 he was your biggest opp Sis… we have all been there - and don’t blame yourself for someone else projecting their inferiority complex on to you… it’s not you Sis… 8:17 and this girl is blaming herself for not seeing this- we are socialized to abandon and gaslight ourselves…
The Amish do this and call it “shunning”.Psychologically this is called “stonewalling.” This has been done to me & enrages me. It shows a stunted emotional development on their part.
I'm glad I'm single and abstinent. The onslaught of the never-ending parade of pics of happy xmas families posing in matching pajamas really messed with my head this year but it's ok.
I know how you feel. Then I remember that every guy I went out with that stuffed me around, has done the look me up on Facebook to connect even when they are now married with children. Saying how sorry they were about treating me like crap. They are never happy.😊 I'm ecstatic that one went off with a total daddy's girl, who gained 20 + kilos, moved him overseas to a republican state and now he does everything in the house and raising the kids and works full time. Karma is real honey.
I related to the first lady so much. My first husband did exactly the same. And I did all the things she did. I got goosebumps when she said she always knew where his stuff was so he wouldn't yell at her. I wish I could share stories with her.
Husband no. 1 should sit in prison for child endangerment. Don't say nobody could do this to you. So many "strong" women were slowly worn down by a man that appeared soft and submissive. There's an abusive lid to every pot.
I mean when you've been with A toxic person (in my case a Narcissist) when you're like no its YOU cuz no one else is bothered by me but by YOU, you realize the things they do are frustrating but then you laugh cuz they're so childish and stupid. Its so comical, the moment I SAW (once I see I CANT UNSEE AND I CANT STAY) I STARTED MAKING FUN OF HIM and laugh about it with my bestie wed both laugh so hard especially when I ghosted him because he cheated. It was 4 months but it did affect me. So now I'm taking my time healing and loving myself😍💛
Yeah NEVER thought the weird toxic behaviors were normal. They were definitely weird and then I realized they were more than just weird..they were TOXIC.
Going through this right now, he broke up with me again two days ago fourth time in three weeks… I keep going back !, what is wrong with me? He’s 50 years old and I started crying because directly after being intimate and him telling me how much he loves me….. he says get alll of you s#’+ and get the f out , 😮 he had picked me up the week prior so he had to drive me home. The fifteen minute drive home I was sobbing asking him why?, what is going on etc. (I have no idea what was wrong) he turned the music up so loud (so he didn’t have to hear my annoying crying) and laughed the whole way home . Slams on the brakes, tosses my stuff out shoves me out and speeds off🤨. My holiday work party is in four hours and I am stuck in bed crying…. Unbelievable, the things I’ve allowed … scrubbing the floor on hands and knees, cleaning his messes and getting yelled at about those and everything else I did because nothing. Did was ever good enough or done well enough. EVERYTHING I mean EVERYTHING I did was wrong. I keep thinking the person I first met and dated will come back. Sweet sending flowers telling me how beautiful I am and how lucky he was to have me. That I’m completely out of his league and etc etc etc. He bought my kids a tv for Christmas and told me to tell them Santa got it for them ( they’re older teens) so I did and when he decided to call it off AGAIN three days ago he said to pay him back for the tv like I should ( huh?!) leave it in his mailbox and he’ll think about staying with me. Wait? What? I’m a widowed mom making 12 an hour. He literally makes 75 an hour. The gas lighting makes me feel like I’m crazy! Saying he never said I didn’t need to pay him back. One week ago today we were looking at homes to upgrade to so we can all (blended family) live in the same home. I literally asked him a week ago to be brutally honest with me and he said he definitely wants a future with me and he told me he wants to get married… it was a very serious conversation and I actually believed him , put my rear on the line and applied for a loan this week… I’m sitting here wondering what in the world is happening.. getting out of these relationships is not easy. I’m here checking my phone every five minutes wondering if he is going to get in touch and reunite like the last three times, this is the longest he’s gone. I’m feeling pathetic , confused and humiliated. I don’t even want to go to my holiday party. This comment is jumbled because I am not okay right now… js it’s really hard to explain the duplicity of my thinking…. Typing it , it seems evident. Sitting here alone thinking I feel like I must have done something really wrong, I hope I can fix this. It must be my fault etc 🥺 sorry this s is such an unclear text. I’m venting between tears and anxiety. 😞
Is this normal dating in your 20s, because all this happened to me… So why would I wanna go back in my 20s, no thank you. Not to mentioned that you’re broke too.
Im sorry but im DUMBFOUNDED on how this first woman thought any of what her disgusting husband was doing was normal. Like ive been thru alot of abuse so i know what can happen n how u normalize alot to protect urself n im not shaming her or blmin her but just how could u see most of that as normal as another human like what? Even growing up ina horrible toxic abusive environment i still know those things arent normal so im just so boggled. Throwing plates of food at the wall is disgusting animal behavior like you had kids did they do that? No so why is it u think ur husband doing it was fine. That's what had me the most confused
In my & my friends experience it’s always the unattractive, short, financially unstable ones who have the most audacity & disrespect. They know ur above their league so they constantly put u down & try to get u to their level of insecurity. It’s the attractive ones too tbh but the worse ones are the average & under. I think it’s worse bc instead of appreciating u for giving them a chance regardless of their looks, financial stability or social status they end up literally resenting u & in a constant state of insecurity that u will leave which makes them either push u away or cheat with someone that “makes them feel like a man again” or like I said, do all they can to bring u to their perceived level…it basically emasculates them by u being out of their league. They also realize they can never match ur energy or give u what u truly deserve & are used to, which they also take out on u instead of just leaving? It’s why these dynamics rarely work. It’s why women laugh at the “nice” “good” guys who claim we just need to give them a chance…because most of us have & it was the worst experience out of all of them. Men run on ego. So the most unpleasant (&even dangerous) men to date are the ones with a fragile broken ego..
1:Whenever we got into an argument. Change we to when I caused an argument. First red flag goes to her. 2: Preoccupation with self, preening herself whilst talking, gossip, nails, needing validation, mask etc. big red flag to her. 3: a mouth like a sailor. I would bye stuffed animals for her to talk to, so that she would not speak to me. He saw a message that he should stay together with Satan? Don't think so. 4: Red flag, filter. What is so wrong with normal voice? She confusing this with OF? What is she suggesting to us talking from her bed? That's me done. Heads done in after 4
Ive stood on 10 toes saying for decades THEY NEED TO TEACH ALL "TYPES OF ABUSE " IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. Meaning - neglect is a form of abuse. Ignoring peoples needs, letting them starve, not checking on them, financial abuse- i didnt realize the depth of abuse i had that im sure my parents didnt realize was a bad thing. That first woman had my jaw on the ground. Unbelievable.
Funny, for me- my mouth was firmly shut tears welling in my eyes and my head was involuntarily nodding.
Right alongside diseases
If schools taught this, many children would not return back. Too much illumination.
I agree and they should also teach how to get out of those situations and prevent enabling the abuser as well
I keep saying this too!! I mean wtf. Every grade should have to go through different types of abuse classes and then follow up classes on how to navigate life after you have been abused, let’s teach our children what to look for and who to tell.
And these males wonder why we'd rather stay single.
This is straight abuse. My God. Hubby and I been petty but hell no, best they separate and divorce. Ugh. 😣 🤦🏽
"But you just need to choose better!" /s
@@SoramimiKeiki The sequel to "Just give him a chance!" 🙄
As a man, likewise. Everyone has lost their minds.
Right, being with a male is like waiting in a lion's den to be devoured.
This is exactly why some men prefer younger women. They tolerate shit behavior because they don’t know yet.
Literally it. Also grooming
We are all.younger than some males. One 72 year old tries to abuse me recently. 😅I nipped it in the bud.
🎯
I promise you, I was never a pushover at a young age. I dated an older man, and never was a time he could get over on me. This has to do with how people are raised. My mom never took this kind of treatment from men. I also know my worth, too. I don't like drama and misery. I avoid it like the plague.
Right! And back in my day guys would get mad at females for “Being immature” lol… they literally know NOT What they want!
These poor women were manipulated and ab*sed. Most of us have been through similar situations. I understand when you’re in the moment you can’t see how bad it really is. Men gaslight women and make us feel guilty for calling them out.
You right
I had a friend who was in an abusive relationship. He hated me and made her hate me. The entire time they were married I saw her 4 times and I would stay for some of the festivities and make some excuse to leave. We are both widows, her being the first. To date she didn't like my husband because he wasn't cute and although we had disagreements, we were never physical. I honestly think she was jealous because I wasn't abused. I still wish her well to this day.
First Lady was with a terrible narcissist
All
Poor baby
I live your life. He says I’m here so he has no one else to yell at. He was upset that he married the wrong twin. The less attractive one. That I’m simple. Stupid. How do I even survive in this world. I always sit tensely on the couch grit my teeth. He slept with over 30 women and made me hear all about it. It was my fault bc I’m a horrible wife!! I am the best! I do everything for him and more bc I hate to be punished. He said if I leave he’ll kill himself with the gun his son used to kill himself and he won’t have to pay alimony or half of the house. It all comes down to.
The best thing i learned from my ex is to match his energy.
Yesssssssssssssssssssss😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Always!
Yep but you will never win. You just have to hope you with a man who can be humble, and admit when they are wrong. Women just naturally have the ability to adjust to create a sense of peace. That is part of what make women different than men. 🤷🏽♀️
This😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
An ex of mine once said " im an asshole but you're better at it." You know why he said that!! Because he'd do stupid shit so I'd up him. Give me the silent treatment for a couple of hours for no reason..im doing it back for longer. 😂😂😂
First lady had a child, not a husband.
A spoiled brat one 😢
@samanthasophia7647 Right smh
Makes one wonder what her parents were like. Ironically, she didn't make that connection.
I don't think I would be able to even date him!
"Men" like this shouldn't be taken seriously
When you grow up seeing these things happening, and your parent or parents are emotionally immature this kind of treatment is normal to you. You don't know that adults are not supposed to behave that way.
Exactly
I was adopted into a horrible home with alot of abuse n emotional instability my adoptive father being a therapist and pastor but It clear that it was all messed up and I know its not normal I may have dealt with it from my exes but I still knew it was wrong i just was too attached to leave so I don't think to everyone its oblivious but most of us do have a hard time not letting it happen if our parents normalized it
The internet is a blessing.
It can be. The actual blessing is TRUTH which the internet can show
👏👏👏👏👏👏@@nmc1859
Isn't it? I just wish I had discovered these kind of videos decades ago.
@@elisavh7 I wish they were there decades ago, but they were not.
It really is, everything is out there
Sometimes there are so many red flags, one can think it’s red silk sheets 😂
This is HELL I couldn't imagine allowing anyone to treat me this way, so sad.
I'm enraged just imagining it...I can't even fathom it
I left and never looked back.
DIP baby dip!! It took two weeks for him to come looking for me where he thought I still lived.
Listening to these women’s experiences, further lets me know I was with the devil. So glad he left.
Same
Same
How did you get him to leave? They usually want to stay and torture you indefinitely. A lot of times, the woman has to leave or escape, even.
@ he left because I found out with indisputable evidence that he was indeed cheating. He tried to lie his way out of it or course. Then said he could no longer trust ME 😂. He’s now with his cousin’s wife amongst the others that he’s been sleeping with.
The people who say “that could never be me!” Have literally been through it 😂 guiltiest be the loudest
exactly!
At this point I’d be shocked if any girl over 25 says she hasn’t been through it.
I was very young. I was guilt tripped to stay he had a tbi. It didn't last long. I had to get a ppo. Brain injury or not. I was gone
We make the mistake of believing that men are with us because they like us. It's a hard pill to swallow to realize a lot of them are just there to use, abuse, and scapegoat us. You have to learn the lessons, recognize the warning signs, and not make those mistakes again.
My ex used to yell at me all.the time too. I would try to talk to him calmly but, not matter what I did he would turn it into a fight
My ex started telling me all the things I couldn't have and couldn't do even before we married. He even made me give away my precious treasured bird and change my bedtime routine to suit his schedule. He was already breaking my heart and I should have ended it right then but I went ahead with the marriage. He moved me away from all my family and friends but promised we would travel the 10 hours multiple times every year. Of course, that didn't happen. He told me about the sheer number of girls he slept with in college and even pointed out which dorm hall these things happened when we passed that college many years later. He was threatening divorce even before we married. Ultimately, after just under the 10-year mark, he abandoned me halfway across the country with only few clothes and no money and told me he'd already filed for a divorce. It was a horrible experience and I feel sorry for the next person he does this with
Why the heck did you marry him?
It seems like you must have liked it in some way!
The ones with voices switched were hard to listen to. Good info in the video. The internet is a true blessing.
All honor and respect to the victims of these monster men. That's what they are. I was with a malignant narcissist and they know what they are doing. I believe (hope, anyways) that our sacred feminine creator will continue to whisper in our ears, via each other on platforms like this, for example. I know that I'm done with the nonsense and I'm spilling all the tea. These men don't get away with anything! Peace and love, Sister!
Constant state of setting boundaries with them. Exhausting.
😠😠😠😩😩😩💔💔💔 Hate this and I'm only on the 1st woman's video
I’m honestly too embarrassed to admit the shameful shit I put up with
"When the truth wants to reach you, it will reach you".... I was dead. I love it. So hilarious.
I feel bad they all went through this but I feel less alone lol
I don't understand how any woman could remain in a toxix relationship where disrespect ran rampant. Maybe I've never been in love because I can't imagine tolerating this level of disrespect. Actually, I never loved a man more than I love myself.
Sometimes when you're in captivity you don't realise it until it's all done
It's a very slow process, they are only telling examples from the middle and end. Not the little "weird" things that only increased with time. They drive you crazy and then your surroundings tell you things like, "Don't be so sensitive, that's just men!" These abusive men have a ton of enablers, and many inly unmask once you have kids with them.
The girl in the white robe around 8 minutes in had me crying of laughter. She genuinely sounded so fed up with herself and it’s so relatable 😂
I feel like some of the women should blame their parents.
And why is it the parents fault? They are grown and should know better by now themselves no?!
@ I was thinking that because the parents should have told them, mostly the first girl, that it wasn’t normal. My son is 13 and I know if someone threw a plate at a wall, he’d be like “😳WT?!” So, it makes me question the environment where she grew up. I think your parents can be great and you still end up with a trash spouse, but your reasoning for staying won’t be that high thought it was normal.
@@Misandrist777
People learn by example.
Chrissy, abusers go "WTFFF" when they get a taste of their own medicine all the time. That's not a litmus test. Also, we will see how your son turns out. Lots of mommies think their little boys can do no wrong. As we can see, that is rarely the case.
@ I hope he never throws a plate against a wall. That’s a good point though. I can’t even imagine my son abusing anyone. I’m definitely going to talk to him about it. That’s all you can really do as a parent. But I know that he isn’t growing up in an environment where he thinks it’s “normal”. That was my point. A lot of people are abused and abusers, but to think it’s normal means you grew up in an environment where it’s normal.
My ex husband thought that because we were married he could beat me when he wanted. ( I got married at age 21 and he was 20. )He tried to keep me barefoot and pregnant! But I fought back. Toxic whew.
Facts my last relationship was worse than my ex husband and he was a nasty evil piece of work but my last ex he is a demon and was always on that demon time hence why he is an ex I refuse to be treated like that again by anyone since splitting up with him I have never felt better I can live in peace pray in peace read my bible in peace and just do me if my soul mate is out there then great if not oh well I'm still gonna be OK 😊
The voice changing ones are annoying 😂😂😂
Right?!!
Wtf!? I fight too much to put up with the foolishness. 😊
❤
I didn't get a hubby until 2015. I believe these lyrics "kiss me and I kiss you back. Hit me and I hit you back and kick you out. Come back I had baseball bat. My hubby courted me and was my best friend first. He's gone to prepare our heavenly place and when time comes he promised to be there.
And I believe him.
Never dated again and no regrets. ❤
It's not because you fight. It's because you haven't been in a disadvantaged position to the degree that many women have. And I'm not just talking about money.
Let's try to not blame victims anymore.
May that youtube channel be successful, so you don't have to do laundry by hand anymore.❤
Yes! Thank you!
Healed and happy🙏🏿🥰
Well as they say in Jamaica duppy know who fi frighten!
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Thank you, I love listening to your recap, you're so funny. Hope you enjoyed your Xmas
Glad you enjoyed it! 😌 Happy holidays to you to💝☃️
6:03 he was your biggest opp Sis… we have all been there - and don’t blame yourself for someone else projecting their inferiority complex on to you… it’s not you Sis…
8:17 and this girl is blaming herself for not seeing this- we are socialized to abandon and gaslight ourselves…
You share serious wisdom but you have me laughing so much 😂 never again sis!! We leave those guys in the trash ❤
Silent treatment that long all ground levels for divorce
I would make them keep that same energy until I left the relationship! Who has that kind of time for such foolishness? 😅
The Amish do this and call it “shunning”.Psychologically this is called “stonewalling.” This has been done to me & enrages me. It shows a stunted emotional development on their part.
This is so difficult to hear or comprehend.😢
I'm glad I'm single and abstinent. The onslaught of the never-ending parade of pics of happy xmas families posing in matching pajamas really messed with my head this year but it's ok.
I know how you feel.
Then I remember that every guy I went out with that stuffed me around, has done the look me up on Facebook to connect even when they are now married with children.
Saying how sorry they were about treating me like crap.
They are never happy.😊
I'm ecstatic that one went off with a total daddy's girl, who gained 20 + kilos, moved him overseas to a republican state and now he does everything in the house and raising the kids and works full time.
Karma is real honey.
The way she just said “attempted to shoot up a school” like that doesn’t make him a domestic terrorist and a criminal is diabolical work.
First lady was with a narc. Thats how awful they are, and they dont ever care. Thank god she left.
Yea he was a D.L. man
Ocean eyes had me weak at the end of hers but this is not funny… I’m thankful to God for the ones who have walked away from this hurt.
I related to the first lady so much. My first husband did exactly the same. And I did all the things she did. I got goosebumps when she said she always knew where his stuff was so he wouldn't yell at her. I wish I could share stories with her.
21:07 I get it… you are not alone. This is abuse.
Husband no. 1 should sit in prison for child endangerment.
Don't say nobody could do this to you. So many "strong" women were slowly worn down by a man that appeared soft and submissive. There's an abusive lid to every pot.
Poor girl at 29:44 , she went through a lot. Glad she got away from him.
Cannot with that VOICE!!!
I mean when you've been with A toxic person (in my case a Narcissist) when you're like no its YOU cuz no one else is bothered by me but by YOU, you realize the things they do are frustrating but then you laugh cuz they're so childish and stupid. Its so comical, the moment I SAW (once I see I CANT UNSEE AND I CANT STAY) I STARTED MAKING FUN OF HIM and laugh about it with my bestie wed both laugh so hard especially when I ghosted him because he cheated. It was 4 months but it did affect me. So now I'm taking my time healing and loving myself😍💛
Yeah NEVER thought the weird toxic behaviors were normal. They were definitely weird and then I realized they were more than just weird..they were TOXIC.
Going through this right now, he broke up with me again two days ago fourth time in three weeks… I keep going back !, what is wrong with me? He’s 50 years old and I started crying because directly after being intimate and him telling me how much he loves me….. he says get alll of you s#’+ and get the f out , 😮 he had picked me up the week prior so he had to drive me home. The fifteen minute drive home I was sobbing asking him why?, what is going on etc. (I have no idea what was wrong) he turned the music up so loud (so he didn’t have to hear my annoying crying) and laughed the whole way home . Slams on the brakes, tosses my stuff out shoves me out and speeds off🤨. My holiday work party is in four hours and I am stuck in bed crying…. Unbelievable, the things I’ve allowed … scrubbing the floor on hands and knees, cleaning his messes and getting yelled at about those and everything else I did because nothing. Did was ever good enough or done well enough. EVERYTHING I mean EVERYTHING I did was wrong. I keep thinking the person I first met and dated will come back. Sweet sending flowers telling me how beautiful I am and how lucky he was to have me. That I’m completely out of his league and etc etc etc. He bought my kids a tv for Christmas and told me to tell them Santa got it for them ( they’re older teens) so I did and when he decided to call it off AGAIN three days ago he said to pay him back for the tv like I should ( huh?!) leave it in his mailbox and he’ll think about staying with me. Wait? What? I’m a widowed mom making 12 an hour. He literally makes 75 an hour. The gas lighting makes me feel like I’m crazy! Saying he never said I didn’t need to pay him back. One week ago today we were looking at homes to upgrade to so we can all (blended family) live in the same home. I literally asked him a week ago to be brutally honest with me and he said he definitely wants a future with me and he told me he wants to get married… it was a very serious conversation and I actually believed him , put my rear on the line and applied for a loan this week… I’m sitting here wondering what in the world is happening.. getting out of these relationships is not easy. I’m here checking my phone every five minutes wondering if he is going to get in touch and reunite like the last three times, this is the longest he’s gone. I’m feeling pathetic , confused and humiliated. I don’t even want to go to my holiday party. This comment is jumbled because I am not okay right now… js it’s really hard to explain the duplicity of my thinking…. Typing it , it seems evident. Sitting here alone thinking I feel like I must have done something really wrong, I hope I can fix this. It must be my fault etc 🥺 sorry this s is such an unclear text. I’m venting between tears and anxiety. 😞
I also dated a guy for nearly 5 yrs! And he also lied and said his dad is dead...why on earth will someone do that?
The sound distortion voice over is really off putting 😢
I had to skip it. I couldn't stand it.
Will avoid them next time
Yep my ex used to give me silent treatments now I give him those
The girl that drew the pic of the bar below the earth “this is how low the bar was”💀👏🏽🤣
Caterers fell asleep while that mac n cheese was in the oven 😂😂😂😂
So true about the panic attacks! You are not crazy!
I cannot stand that AI voice, ladies please for the love of god..
I'll avoid such clips
That first poor girl, if she thought that was normal, my goodness what did she grow up watching her parents do?
Is this normal dating in your 20s, because all this happened to me…
So why would I wanna go back in my 20s, no thank you. Not to mentioned that you’re broke too.
You better believe my husband will be thrown after the plate😂
19:44 the diagram of how low the bar is!!😂😂
❤ the ending the was beautiful
@15:54 that was crazy😂😂😂
Can we all just stop using those horrible voice overs, please
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OMG! Your husband would hate me after I hid his stuff all over the neighborhood when I left. I bet he would acknowledge me then.
How did the first lady think all that is normal… like girl bffr. She’s goofy.
Im sorry but im DUMBFOUNDED on how this first woman thought any of what her disgusting husband was doing was normal. Like ive been thru alot of abuse so i know what can happen n how u normalize alot to protect urself n im not shaming her or blmin her but just how could u see most of that as normal as another human like what? Even growing up ina horrible toxic abusive environment i still know those things arent normal so im just so boggled. Throwing plates of food at the wall is disgusting animal behavior like you had kids did they do that? No so why is it u think ur husband doing it was fine. That's what had me the most confused
The woman at 8:30 I really feel sorry for her. Why did she let this happen!!!
Bmekween, I liked her positive take on this trend. So many nasty exes out there otherwise! 😮
How hot were these guys..
In my & my friends experience it’s always the unattractive, short, financially unstable ones who have the most audacity & disrespect. They know ur above their league so they constantly put u down & try to get u to their level of insecurity. It’s the attractive ones too tbh but the worse ones are the average & under. I think it’s worse bc instead of appreciating u for giving them a chance regardless of their looks, financial stability or social status they end up literally resenting u & in a constant state of insecurity that u will leave which makes them either push u away or cheat with someone that “makes them feel like a man again” or like I said, do all they can to bring u to their perceived level…it basically emasculates them by u being out of their league. They also realize they can never match ur energy or give u what u truly deserve & are used to, which they also take out on u instead of just leaving? It’s why these dynamics rarely work. It’s why women laugh at the “nice” “good” guys who claim we just need to give them a chance…because most of us have & it was the worst experience out of all of them. Men run on ego. So the most unpleasant (&even dangerous) men to date are the ones with a fragile broken ego..
How low was their self-esteem...
Looks has nothing to do with it because even the ugly ones do the same but worse!
You should have sent him a picture of a hot guy and said you would look better like this then block him
First lady… girl that was abuse
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I thought sharing location was normal?
Crazy
Bear. 🐻 I would rather the bear. I’d rather sit and deal with a wild animal that generally decapitates its prey or gorges them. Bear.
1:Whenever we got into an argument. Change we to when I caused an argument. First red flag goes to her. 2: Preoccupation with self, preening herself whilst talking, gossip, nails, needing validation, mask etc. big red flag to her. 3: a mouth like a sailor. I would bye stuffed animals for her to talk to, so that she would not speak to me. He saw a message that he should stay together with Satan? Don't think so. 4: Red flag, filter. What is so wrong with normal voice? She confusing this with OF? What is she suggesting to us talking from her bed? That's me done. Heads done in after 4
Very sad smh
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What’s up with male robot voices annoying
Will avoid such clips next time
Or permission to take a shower!
Behavior is a language. What are they telling you?
Alot of these men are gay just saying these men don't like women
I was thinking the same
Good GOD I hate that weird voiceover they be using!!! Ughhh it’s so cringe and hard for me to even listen to their stories bcuz it’s so irritating.
Secons woman has foul language - so annoying
It’s crazy and NOT funny
25:50 I love that she made a slideshow presentation lol
Shout out to the Orange Jumpsuit Women!❤❤😂😂😂😂