That was my choice and I’m sticking to it….the few times I let my guard down and dated a guy.,,he was worse then the previous…I know it’s me that’s causing it….so I’ve been working on knowing my value and not accepting the bs any longer…simply standing up for myself and saying no earned me the worst a$$ kicking I’ve been in which landed him in prison….now he’s out and I’m dealing with his flying monkeys harassing me…I pretend like I don’t even notice them
@@w8what575 that's very insightful of you to understand that we need to look at ourselves when we attract these kinds of people and relationships.... Empathic people attract narcissists until they learn to heal their inner wounds and traumas and to really love and honor themselves.... It's an extremely painful lesson.... But it's from dealing w a narcissist that I've learned these things.... I didn't understand any of this before... But now I've learned to look within when dealing w certain people and situations because changing one's life starts from inner healing and all that fun stuff.... Stay strong! You got this! 💪
They can say all that but a woman says any little thing and they're crying that women are soo brutal in their words and they deserve abuse for it... they can never take what they dish out.
In the very first clip if anyone would ask, "what did she do to deserve him saying those things?" I have an answer to that from personal experiences. If you try in any way just to stand up for yourself, enforce your boundaries, ask for any accountability for their rude or inconsiderate actions, or any kind of request that would involve an emotionally intelligent conversation those are the types of abusive responses toxic men give in order to shut you down because they have no remorse for how their actions affect others.
That's because toxic men consider it abusive if you assert your boundaries or stand up for yourself. I know it's insane sounding right, but I've lived this for years and I'm traumatized and will never look at a man the same again. Usually abusive people don't come on platforms pretending to be victims, they usually only pretend to be the victim with the person they're abusing. You would have to live it to fully understand but I hope you never have to experience it though.
That’s true. Men don’t like when women stand up for themselves. That’s why when I have to stand up for myself the first time I leave. If I have to defend myself because I’m being attacked I will not give a man a chance to do it a second time.
There was a guy I was in the military with. Out of nowhere, we are just all hanging out, having fun, listening to music, etc, about 15 of us and he tells me I am the ugliest woman he has ever seen and starts critiquing me. This is a man that with looked like one of those clown shaped punching bags (google it) and was not attractive at all. He also was extremely weird and something was off about him. I let people know that this was the same guy who asked me out and I rejected him, but he kept coming around.
When I was in the Army and had just gotten to Fort Bragg, I was going on my first airborne mission there, and this other lieutenant was making fun of me and talking crap whilst we were all lying down with our parachutes on waiting to load up in the C-130. So I didn’t say a word but got my Jumpmaster nyfe out of its sheath then started cleaning underneath my fingernails with that nyfe and giving him the look of d3@th. He got scared, apologized, and acted like my best friend for the next 4 years.😂
I got yall. I got in a car accident and my face was affected (my ex boyfriend was driving) and had to nerve to imply that I should learn to do my makeup.. 😮💨 ✋🏿 it gets worse.. after a year of healing! I had to learn to walk and started practicing my makeup “that’s too much” or “that doesn’t look right” followed up by a “you are only pretty in pictures” once I learned to do it correctly.. (hater lmao) After we broke up, I met a “sponsor” who paid to get my face and BODY fixed. I looked like a refreshed younger version of myself. WITH MUA skills thanks to him comment. This was 14 years ago and I am NOW more confident than I could have ever imagined. Took a while to accept compliments because I didn’t believe since family/friends mentioned how I am pretty because of surgery.. (like I wasn’t disfigured 🙄). Today those comments won’t faze me because I don’t care how I got “attractive” b**** I’m here 😌😂 . Did some inner healing and the world has opened up to me. ✨
@@mskabue no thank you ! If these videos or channels like this existed back then I would have healed sooner. So many lessons to learn and from different perspectives. 🌎❤️
@@AmberBrooklyn24 too be fair he wasn’t the cause of the accident but he was there ! Like how dare you 🤧. I’ve had the surgeries years ago but the confidence was 100% earned in my 30s.
Chile, I told the guy I was dating, my mother thinks you're using me. She thinks you're going to dump me when you get tired of me. He got this smirk on his face and said. You should always listen to your mother 😭
I think the reason people ask, “Why didn’t she leave?”, rather than, “Why is he treating her that way?” is, because the only person that she can control, is herself.
Even some young women call other females "dude" and "bruh." It is utterly vile. I am realizing it is a pervasive problem pertaining to ineloquence. I used to work with someone, a female, who regularly called everyone "dude" and I grew to LOATHE her (for a multitude of reasons). I wish everyone in American society could elevate their language.
@23:05 A man once said to me that his ex-wife who he was married to for about 20 years said to him that he's never changed, and he said to me that he's the same person he was when they got married, thinking he was making a good point. I remember staring at him like he was going to catch what he said and him looking like he was proud of himself. 20 years and he didn't change, grow, or anything. 20 years. That was the first and last date.
I guess I hit the jackpot I was wearing old pajamas hair messy my husband kissed me and said you get more beautiful every day I have been married 47 year btw
So then why are u on here trying to convince us u cheap pick me? U were miserable for most of those years. What did you have to suffer and put up with to stay falsely miserably nowhere married for that long? Go search the clown’s phone and see who he’s cheating on you with.
She should have said , " I'm sexy, I'll forever be attractive " or say " I have gotten way better guys than you, I just settled for your desperate a** cause I'm bored "
IDK if it’s cause I got divorced after 17 years so I’m noticing it more. but I’m finding lately that there seems to be a lot of divorces that happen between the 16-19 year mark. And often it’s due to the husbands actions too.
😳 I can't believe your ex wrote that. I don't trust these men...I cannot! Wow. Even when you're married to them. You saw what happened to Gisele Pelicot. The devil can be in anyone but it is strong in a lot of them.
Wow this was so enlightening because I knew I was healing from 11 yrs in a very abusive relationship. I isolated myself to just my mother duties and work and I cry and feel in my spare time. This crying and feeling process has taken 4 yrs and almost 3 of the 4 yrs has included celibacy and spoiling myself. Getting my exes negative voice out my head has been an uphill struggle.🕊️
I was an investigator and had a lot of dv cases. Now heres my thing about that first video, this might be abuse, and honestly, it probably is. But it could also be reactionary abuse. So in this video, she is secretly filming and also doesn't seem upset at all. Now, this could be because she is trying hide that she is upset to protect herself, but ive also seen a lot of cases where people who are the actual abusers, will say or do something to their victim until they snap, then they'll film them to shame them publically, or accuse them of abuse.
You're not prepared for how manipulative abusers are and how sometimes law enforcement aids them. Yet when you find out 40% of abusers are police officers, it all makes sense.
When someone else complement me and say that I was beautiful, my ex man was seeing for a couple days and then he said what if you’re not beautiful that day just out of the glue and I told him I’m beautiful every motherfucking day. He couldn’t wait to talk to me about it, but he didn’t talk to the dude who said I was beautiful.😊
He is jealousy of you -- in a mean girl kind of way. A lot of women don't realize that men can get with a woman because he is jealous of her and want what she has for himself. If he is possessive, he would've said something along the line of "are you still thinking about that guy who gave you the compliment?" -- but no, he just straight up mean-girled you. He wanted that dude to compliment him sis, not you 😂
Abusers are groomers. They will start small, its like a small run on a stockings, it gets bigger overtime. The problem is victims usually let small things slide so often before you know it they are fully programmed to let the worst things slide in the end. I know i was a survivor of DV. So if you ever get into a relationship. NEVER let anything slide. The first offense, kick him on the curve and if he doesnt change walk away and do not explain. I promise you ladies. You CANNOT CURE AN ABUSIVE MAN. Dont try to be a hero, you will end up a victim.
The first story. After hearing that so many times, when you finally say it back (because abusive Narcs are actually the ugly, repulsive ones in the relationship,) they will run to everyone they know telling them you are abusing them. Sir if you were the victim why have you made it impossible to leave but now youre here in my face losing your mind while Im minding my own business 🤨 We need to normalize leaving the first time we see a switch up.
He said when I was looking after the children - I am feeding you! So, I am looking after your kids and doing a variety of other things helping you. I thought it was so rude at the time.
He laughed at me when I asked him if our relationship was over "If girls are like you I want nothing to do with girls" Right after he totaled his brand new car with me inside, blaming me for him driving recklessly all because I called out his constant disrespect towards me. He got with a girl a month later. I stayed single for 2 years after that relationship.
Oh boy ..have we all experienced this or something similar? I know I have. More times than I can count. Not just from one man in my life, but from many different men over the years...to varying degrees.
Soon as i said no or stood up for myself, the narcissist is quick to insult me. The misogynist came out. They start to emotional blackmail and try to break me down.
I don't get the lady who doesn't mind her friends calling her out of her name but not from her partner. Why is disrespect okay from people you're even platonically close to? Your (scummy) partner will see that and not understand why others are allowed to disrespect you but they can't. I think it's important to be consistent with how we allow ourselves to be treated by others. Intentionally inviting bad behavior from anyone shows a lack of self respect in general.
That's why I'm single for almost 11 years now and not planning to change that any time soon. I've dealt with that kind of abuse so many times that enough is enough.
I just mistakenly trusted a guy on match by telling him i had found it difficult to settle into the city as a new person ( yorkshire uk) and he was from here works here , mummy and daddy from here, and he just told me i was drama and negative and to,d me to leave the city after previously telling me how kind he was
The first woman is on POINT! I can't stand when someone especially another woman would say "I'd never let someone do that to me"... yeah wait until you are in that position. I hope you don't have to experience what my children and I went through with their bio father
My ex-husband said he cheated multiple times because I ‘bought his affection’…..he didn’t work a day of our 4yr marriage, yet spent money like he did. This was only to avoid child support on the secret kids he had. Yet had the nerve to say the reason he cheated was because he didn’t feel truly loved. The most confusing statement I ever heard.
I'm 41. Thank you for putting up this video to help me confirm that I need to keep my long, beautiful hair. And to stay single at my age. Dam the split ends and cost to keep all of it looking as good as it does. It's mine, and that's final. I don't care what a guy's 🍆 thinks about my looks! I know in their eyes I'm only a "7", and that's good enough for me!
Don't automatically assume in the first clip the guy is the narcissist, it could be reactive abuse. A narcissist will goad you for days/weeks/months until you have a 10 second tolerance of their BS, then deliberately provoke you to get a reaction so they can play the victim and make you look like a monster in front of others. There is only so much abuse you can take before you fight back.
I’m sorry, maybe I’m slow but the lady who was talking about the 20 lb. weight gain, I didn’t hear what the insult was from him she just said he noticed her stomach and began telling her the things she does that he cares about more than her gaining 20lbs. Not sure that is an insult. I am confused.
You're not slow because I was wondering why he's an ex? What he said was compassionate and loving. I think she made a mistake and she never forgets based on the losers she's dating.🤔
That first one sounds like shes the narcissist and hes fed up with her shit yet. She could be the abuser yet trying to embarrass him online to make him seem like he is smdh.
The girl who was loghtening her hair and got annoyed when the man asked if she had gone darker..he had noticed you were lightening your hair but you hadn't noticed him
Why do people think that there's something you could do about their problems? I hate when people tell me their problems. I certainly don't tell them mine because I know there's nothing they could do about it!
The intro clip... Sounds to me like he's sick of her. Who knows, she probably is exactly what he says he is. Narcissists love to rile people up then record their reactions and play victim. Just leave her dude
Once I was at the store with my ex, and he was being so cruel and verbally abusive for no reason. It was so bad that I couldn’t keep myself from crying, and he got so angry about it! He said that every guy we passed saw me crying and was looking at him like they wanted to kick his a**! Then he said that I better stop my boo hooing bs or I was going to get him beat up, and it would be all my fault. I was so irritated hurt and just done that I wanted to be away from him, so I just turned and walked off as far as I could away! He was pushing the cart following after me yelling for me to slow down and get back here! He had trouble catching up with me, but when he did he started screaming at me for not doing what he said, and that I shouldn’t have been able to walk away so fast because I’m too f-ing fat! He also wrote on my body with a Sharpie when I was asleep , so that when I looked in the mirror I could see what he wanted me to change!
3 months after giving birth, my ex said to me if I needed bigger boobs for the shirt I was wearing. It was a dress, not a shirt and I dressed nice for him, but this was his answer. It was hurtful.
For those of you dismissive folks out there, some cases are men expressing how they feel as a result of being treated and some cases are actual abuse. So keep cherry pickin and looking at a small portion of the bigger picture.
If you don't get offended easily, why are you airing your views on social media for other people's opinions? I think too many of us get manipulated by the mind altering words or actions of another. Sometimes we just have to focus more on our inner beliefs than what someone else said or did to try to diminish our self worth.
i been told i am ugly my whole damn life by everyone especially men. my heart is broken. the only men i can get to date/be engaged/ marry are abusers some were narcs and sociopaths and psychopaths. then on top of abuse not only did the abusers blame me anyone i tried to get support from or they learned about the abuse told me i was dumb to be w/ these asshole cult leader acting jerks. and told me to leave them w/no damn money. why are women blamed for abuse by some dude or any person? why? no one has the rt to treat anyone male or female like shit!! i am empath, hsp and infp and i care a lot for peop, i stand up for the rts of anyone male or female. God said in bible that women are created to be helpmates of men not the help mate of other women. women are created to be wives and mothers. but the problem is there is no dudes out there worth shit to be w/. i never met not one dude that is kind and is following God. I meet men who think they are god. I have had peopl and men tell me I am beautiful but i have had many tell me i am ugly. no one should tell someone they think they are ugly, no one is ugly everyone has their own beauty. it makes me sick to see how men and women blame abused women for being abused. why did i let him do this to me or talk to me this way etc or why did I stay.? um why don't u ask the assholes who abused us why they did that shit to us huh? why? bc these peop never get in trouble for abusing women then they continue to abuse bc no one confronts them. its useless to call police bc they do not care. dv hotlines tell women to leave and are rude and uncaring. where are women supposed to go? shelters are full. there is no shelter in my town. i had lease w/damn last piece of shit i left fake husband. i had no money he was not helping me pay rent and bills. he moved his satanic demon possessed friend in house w/o telling landlord and then we could have been evicted then his friend lied on me and sexually harassed me and my fake husband told me i was lying about it . he treated his friend like they were gay lovers and treated me like shit. he let this man take over our house and do whatever he wanted. they had pet names for each other. so i freaking left w/no place to go. i was homeless and i made the mistake of going to live w/a so called friend just so she and her demon possessed mom can abuse me. so now i am in dump of house w/sewer spill in damn back yard and landlords gaslighting me about it and not repairing home bc they are slumlords and do not clean up all sewer and fumes are making me sick. i am going to tell u how it is i been abused since i was born starting w/ me parents and peop at school etc. i am sick of this shit. i am not mean person. i am not perfect. but i am going to tell u this truth that it drives women to suicide and if i can find a way to kill myself believe me i would. i been suicidal since i was a kid bc of abuse. i cannot go live w/.my demon possessed parents who abused me. my parents are crazy. my job is not paying me enough. i just i have no options. rent is sky high. i have so called controlling friends blowing up my ph trying to stalk me and control me i had to block them. i am all alone. it was offensive one person in video said never take u make up off in front of dude. men are not perfect they get fat too and old and what society considers unattractive, but no one says shit to them no only to us women. i have had women abuse me and bully me all my life. too. i have had men tell me other women are prettier then me. i have peop do all kinds of shit to me. i am heterosexual person and i have tried all my life to find rt dude to marry and have family w. and i will die alone bc no dude wants me. i am going to end up homeless bc no income and cost of living. women attack women its unbelievable when we should all act like sisters and have each others backs to support one another but instead we say oh do not take u make up off in front of dude bc he will think u are too ugly to stay with which is something my 1st ex husband said. thats repulsive that even another woman would tell a woman that she is ugly w/o make up. that is cruel. make up has toxins in it that cause skin to break out. peop gain weight male or female bc of toxins in food and water we consume. our whole society has toxins that make us not feel good and look our best. no one is perfect looking we all have flaws. love is about excepting each other for who we truly are not some fake person. i am not trying anymore to find rt dude bc they do not exist. my heart is beyond broken. i needed to vent. bc this video reminds me why i stopped trying find rt dude. i am not going to try to even find friends bc everyone since i was kid has been cruel to me. i asked a potential landlord on zillow questions about a house and i told him i cannot afford the amt of deposit he told me on messages and he was so rude to say next time fully read the listing before bothering him. the listing did not say how much was needed move in. the house does not have ac and heat and its 2 bd 1 bath. how is he asking 1000 for it? peop are struggling to buy freaking food and rent is higher then what we make. peop are getting laid off and cannot find jobs. i was laid off and i just put in another position. but i went on interviews and cannot get hired for jobs i am qualified for, peop are really evil. i am domestic abuse survivor i am doing best i can to stay alive and fend for myself. my ex husbands never loved me yet their lives are wonderful as evil as they are. they are not struggling financially and they have family, friends and women they are w/, while men diss me and act like i am ugliest person alive. then peop wonder why peop commit suicide. what is there to live for?
i forgot to add both my ex husbands regretted marrying me they said to my face. um well i told them i regretted the day i ever met them assholes, they pursued me and i do not act or look any different then when we got married. all the dudes i was engaged to abused me to but they were controlling they never said i was ugly or regretted getting engaged to me. i left all these dudes bc i am not going to be hurt anymore. everyone male or female deserves the love God said we are supposed to have in His bible. i will accept nothing less.
Dumb pick me women are created to be bosses, educated, independent, and do way better than men. The bible is written by incel men to brainwash your dumbass. Women should be helping other women, men needs forever help so your pick me self will be Barbara the builder lol. Single and childfree is the way to go.
Why don’t you post positive relationship stories on YOUR channel? You have a youtube. Be the change you want to see. Easy to criticize hard to CREATE 😅
Toward the middle of this video it became clear many of the women were narcissists and cringe in their behavior. It must be a TikTok thing to talk to us while doing your makeup. I don’t mind when it’s a makeup tutorial, but umm this was not. 🤦🏽♀️
Im halfway through thia video and i think that if this is the worst youve ever heard you,ve had an easy life. That is not to say any of those things are nice but ive received many many worse experiences of ( verbal) abuse from men in my life.
A lot of us have….send the ugly one home! Or she’s the ugly sister…or gross why are u talking to me!! When just being polite….or being made fun of for the symptoms of a pretty bad autoimmune disorder that potentially ends the life much earlier then expected…a red chicken neck and everyone in the room starts laughing and looking at u….their inside joke…but it does no good to dismiss what others have been through by comparing ur own experience as worse….thats a form of abuse too…not a good idea to do to others who have been through the same sort of thing….should learn to be more compassionate and empathize with others with out the self comparison…what u commented is actually a narcissistic trait….not a good thing around people who suffer with echoism
When the second lady said "this happened about 5 years ago so I was about, I don't know 54/55 years old." I automatically didn't believe her. There's no way she's currently 60. Lolol 😂
@ikeameltdown8012 I apologize for not making note of this in my comment. I didn't think I needed to, but just so we're clear, I was using sarcasm to make a joke. What I meant to say, in other words, is that she was stunning and youthful. I didn't believe that anyone would take what I said so literally. I didn't actually mean that this lady was a liar. ...Fucking obviously.
@ikeameltdown8012 I'm not sure why you automatically assumed I was insulting this lady rather than complimenting her. Weird. I was making a sarcastic joke. Implying that she must be younger. It was a compliment speaking to how stunning and youthful she appears. I didn't think I needed to specify that. Jokes and sarcasm aren't witty or funny if you explain them immediately after you say them. But that's why we use emoji's. So that there is no confusion about tone in text. Also, I already responded to this. It got deleted?
I can tell the blonde woman with the purple background is a terrible person. Nothing justifies men approaching you unwarranted especially when you make it clear that you are avoiding them but she also just sounds really fkd up towards the end. I dont care who comes in my DMs. if Im attracted to them or not, its never a bad feeling to get a compliment or be desired by anyone. Dont speak for everyone else
My ex told me birth control dont make you fat. Your just lazy, he is 400 pound neckbeard mama body. I was only 159 pounds under depo which is very dangerous birth control that makes you gain way too much weight. Theres a lawsuit on it now😂
That first clip with the man on camera does not at all prove that he's abusive, or the real narcissist in that relationship. It just proved he went off, but odds are he was only acting like a normal, good person pushed way past his limits by nonstop horrible behavior by her. Show me what lead up to that point in the argument, and you might have proof, but as it stands, you most certainly do not. Either he is abusive, or she is and she's sitting back acting like she doesn't deserve and hasn't obviously earned every word he's saying. I've yelled at my narc 81 year old grandmother worse than this. Several times worse, and I'm not abusive, she is. The fact she's female doesn't give her or that woman an out. Neither does her age. It just means that at her age, she knows better than to push someone over the edge with her hateful words. Don't think you wouldn't talk like that man eventually if you were in a narc relationship, because I can assure you, you would, if they did certain things. Like poison my dog repeatedly like my grandmother did, and tell me to kill myself by eating two year old mold that I even got her to verbally admit she knew could kill me. Good people go straight the hell off every day on their horrendous abusers, just like he did. It's very suspicious she purposefully did not show what lead up to that part where he was reacting that way. Duh. Good people yell at their narcs. They even throw things. They scream. They lose their shit and their temper. They do so many things the abuser claims is proof they're the unstable or mean spirited, hateful one. Don't think he's the guilty just because he's said those things or in that tone, I've told my fake nice granny a million times to go burn in hell because it's exactly where she belongs. And if you think you're above acting like that man under abusive circumstances, you're delusional or arrogant.
I would rather be single for the rest of my life than deal with this behavior.
Facts 👌 same here
Same!
Same here Sis... These dudes seem like too much of a headache to deal with
That was my choice and I’m sticking to it….the few times I let my guard down and dated a guy.,,he was worse then the previous…I know it’s me that’s causing it….so I’ve been working on knowing my value and not accepting the bs any longer…simply standing up for myself and saying no earned me the worst a$$ kicking I’ve been in which landed him in prison….now he’s out and I’m dealing with his flying monkeys harassing me…I pretend like I don’t even notice them
@@w8what575 that's very insightful of you to understand that we need to look at ourselves when we attract these kinds of people and relationships.... Empathic people attract narcissists until they learn to heal their inner wounds and traumas and to really love and honor themselves.... It's an extremely painful lesson.... But it's from dealing w a narcissist that I've learned these things.... I didn't understand any of this before... But now I've learned to look within when dealing w certain people and situations because changing one's life starts from inner healing and all that fun stuff.... Stay strong! You got this! 💪
They can say all that but a woman says any little thing and they're crying that women are soo brutal in their words and they deserve abuse for it... they can never take what they dish out.
Yes they could never take even half of what they dish out
😏😏😏😏😏😏 yea right. Yll lie to yourselves too much it is funny. And most of the comments are American women😂
@@Obaratuyaayaawhos unaliving who for petty reasons cause they are emotionally unstable? Oh thats right you males so hush up
@@Obaratuyaayaathis is why nobody loves you
In the very first clip if anyone would ask, "what did she do to deserve him saying those things?" I have an answer to that from personal experiences. If you try in any way just to stand up for yourself, enforce your boundaries, ask for any accountability for their rude or inconsiderate actions, or any kind of request that would involve an emotionally intelligent conversation those are the types of abusive responses toxic men give in order to shut you down because they have no remorse for how their actions affect others.
Plz it sounds like she's the abuser trying to make it seem like he is once he is finally fed up with her shit
That's because toxic men consider it abusive if you assert your boundaries or stand up for yourself. I know it's insane sounding right, but I've lived this for years and I'm traumatized and will never look at a man the same again. Usually abusive people don't come on platforms pretending to be victims, they usually only pretend to be the victim with the person they're abusing. You would have to live it to fully understand but I hope you never have to experience it though.
That’s true. Men don’t like when women stand up for themselves. That’s why when I have to stand up for myself the first time I leave. If I have to defend myself because I’m being attacked I will not give a man a chance to do it a second time.
@@Rosemary46840 Please it sounds like you're a delulu pick-me.
@@Rosemary46840I felt that too
If he hates her why doesn't he leave her 🫤 ?
Come on now 😂
I wish she had of said “b**** walk then. But only if it is safe to do so
He wants a target.
Men stay with women they hate to take advantage of their free labour and everything else women offer
@@Tulipsaki target 🎉🎉🎉
There was a guy I was in the military with. Out of nowhere, we are just all hanging out, having fun, listening to music, etc, about 15 of us and he tells me I am the ugliest woman he has ever seen and starts critiquing me. This is a man that with looked like one of those clown shaped punching bags (google it) and was not attractive at all. He also was extremely weird and something was off about him. I let people know that this was the same guy who asked me out and I rejected him, but he kept coming around.
Yeah! It's always Somebody who don't look worth sh*t call 🤙 somebody out about their appearance but they be the main ones who look a hot mess
Undiagnosed autism. No filter. Who would say something like that??
When I was in the Army and had just gotten to Fort Bragg, I was going on my first airborne mission there, and this other lieutenant was making fun of me and talking crap whilst we were all lying down with our parachutes on waiting to load up in the C-130. So I didn’t say a word but got my Jumpmaster nyfe out of its sheath then started cleaning underneath my fingernails with that nyfe and giving him the look of d3@th. He got scared, apologized, and acted like my best friend for the next 4 years.😂
Not me googling clown shaped punching bags and getting a blast from my past 😂😂😂 I forgot all about those
This is hard to watch 😢ladies never take abuse from anybody especially a man who claims to love you. Run don't walk.❤
It's best to block and disappear on these jerks. Some men won't let you break up with them.
I got yall. I got in a car accident and my face was affected (my ex boyfriend was driving) and had to nerve to imply that I should learn to do my makeup.. 😮💨
✋🏿 it gets worse..
after a year of healing! I had to learn to walk and started practicing my makeup “that’s too much” or “that doesn’t look right” followed up by a “you are only pretty in pictures” once I learned to do it correctly.. (hater lmao)
After we broke up, I met a “sponsor” who paid to get my face and BODY fixed. I looked like a refreshed younger version of myself. WITH MUA skills thanks to him comment.
This was 14 years ago and I am NOW more confident than I could have ever imagined. Took a while to accept compliments because I didn’t believe since family/friends mentioned how I am pretty because of surgery.. (like I wasn’t disfigured 🙄). Today those comments won’t faze me because I don’t care how I got “attractive” b**** I’m here 😌😂 . Did some inner healing and the world has opened up to me. ✨
Wow he was an asshole smh And he was the one that caused your injury. I’m glad you’re better than ever and that you left him in the dust!
Proud you overcame babe 😘😘
@@mskabue no thank you ! If these videos or channels like this existed back then I would have healed sooner. So many lessons to learn and from different perspectives. 🌎❤️
@@AmberBrooklyn24 too be fair he wasn’t the cause of the accident but he was there ! Like how dare you 🤧. I’ve had the surgeries years ago but the confidence was 100% earned in my 30s.
POS !!!! They say men are loyal they always run when women get sick, overweight , or change somehow in appearance !
She said she was in her 50's(55)!!!! Holy crap. Wonder how old she is now. She looks so young.
Chile, I told the guy I was dating, my mother thinks you're using me. She thinks you're going to dump me when you get tired of me. He got this smirk on his face and said. You should always listen to your mother 😭
Dump him.
Wow wow 😮. Did get out of there quick fast
I think the reason people ask, “Why didn’t she leave?”, rather than, “Why is he treating her that way?” is, because the only person that she can control, is herself.
I can't stand how young guys call women "dude". It's disrespectful.
It really is.
😮is it?! But y?
Every time I hear it I'm usually aggravated on their behalf...it's so annoying I'd lose my shit...
Or “Bro” 😒
Even some young women call other females "dude" and "bruh." It is utterly vile. I am realizing it is a pervasive problem pertaining to ineloquence. I used to work with someone, a female, who regularly called everyone "dude" and I grew to LOATHE her (for a multitude of reasons). I wish everyone in American society could elevate their language.
@23:05 A man once said to me that his ex-wife who he was married to for about 20 years said to him that he's never changed, and he said to me that he's the same person he was when they got married, thinking he was making a good point. I remember staring at him like he was going to catch what he said and him looking like he was proud of himself. 20 years and he didn't change, grow, or anything. 20 years. That was the first and last date.
Sounds like you were dating my ex 😂. It scrambled my head when I realised it
No excuse for treating someone like trash
I guess I hit the jackpot I was wearing old pajamas hair messy my husband kissed me and said you get more beautiful every day I have been married 47 year btw
You HAVE hit the jackpot !!
So then why are u on here trying to convince us u cheap pick me? U were miserable for most of those years. What did you have to suffer and put up with to stay falsely miserably nowhere married for that long? Go search the clown’s phone and see who he’s cheating on you with.
“You’re pretty, but you’ll never be beautiful” 😢💔 I can’t right now. “You’re going to tell them you were moving furniture” gave me chills. 😢
Does that mean she was bruised and injured andnmovong furniture does that?
She should have said , " I'm sexy, I'll forever be attractive " or say " I have gotten way better guys than you, I just settled for your desperate a** cause I'm bored "
That one girl who said the whole “you will change; he never will.” She ate 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯
My ex last words were “you’re not even pretty “ ok then bye narc good riddance bro 😂
Well...seems he didn't have taste lol...koz how do you date SB knowing they're not pretty lol...these men are sth else
@ exactly the funny thing is he is bald and 10 years older than me but for some reason because I’ve gained weight I’m not pretty anymore .
" I'm not pretty but I'M GORGEOUS" 😊
IDK if it’s cause I got divorced after 17 years so I’m noticing it more. but I’m finding lately that there seems to be a lot of divorces that happen between the 16-19 year mark. And often it’s due to the husbands actions too.
Kids leaving for college or just an age to “ handle” the divorce
Listening to these comments makes me realize how free I really am.
This gave me horrible flashbacks. Leave them! I managed to leave after 25 years and then 3 years. Now single forever and HAPPY!
😳 I can't believe your ex wrote that. I don't trust these men...I cannot! Wow. Even when you're married to them. You saw what happened to Gisele Pelicot. The devil can be in anyone but it is strong in a lot of them.
Yes he did...it's sickening 😭 sometimes I'm scared for my life tbh
that guy at the start, just one word. PROJECTION
That's why women shouldn't date anyone less attractive than them. I know the guy wasn't cute.
Thank you exactly 💯
My ex told me "I never loved you, you were just a paycheck." After five years.
Wow 🤯 I’m sorry 😢 that’s awful
The only way to deal w a narcissist is grey rock and leave, get and stay away from them... There's no other way....
Wow this was so enlightening because I knew I was healing from 11 yrs in a very abusive relationship. I isolated myself to just my mother duties and work and I cry and feel in my spare time. This crying and feeling process has taken 4 yrs and almost 3 of the 4 yrs has included celibacy and spoiling myself. Getting my exes negative voice out my head has been an uphill struggle.🕊️
My high school sweetheart once said, while dating me, a teenage girl, "I dont want to date girls anymore."
That makes no sense ?
@Rosemary46840 he was bisexual.
He’s gay. Finally coming out.
@@Rosemary46840 🌈
I mean was he.... Gay?
This is gross... I hope she's not still with that guy at the beginning.
I was an investigator and had a lot of dv cases. Now heres my thing about that first video, this might be abuse, and honestly, it probably is. But it could also be reactionary abuse. So in this video, she is secretly filming and also doesn't seem upset at all. Now, this could be because she is trying hide that she is upset to protect herself, but ive also seen a lot of cases where people who are the actual abusers, will say or do something to their victim until they snap, then they'll film them to shame them publically, or accuse them of abuse.
His reaction tells me the latter based on relationships I've seen.
Exactly, two wrongs don't make a right and there are a lot of relationships where both partners have abusive qualities.
Yeah, it’s almost how I felt after months of abuse and gaslighting. They poke til you react to look unstable
You're not prepared for how manipulative abusers are and how sometimes law enforcement aids them. Yet when you find out 40% of abusers are police officers, it all makes sense.
When someone else complement me and say that I was beautiful, my ex man was seeing for a couple days and then he said what if you’re not beautiful that day just out of the glue and I told him I’m beautiful every motherfucking day. He couldn’t wait to talk to me about it, but he didn’t talk to the dude who said I was beautiful.😊
He is jealousy of you -- in a mean girl kind of way. A lot of women don't realize that men can get with a woman because he is jealous of her and want what she has for himself.
If he is possessive, he would've said something along the line of "are you still thinking about that guy who gave you the compliment?" -- but no, he just straight up mean-girled you.
He wanted that dude to compliment him sis, not you 😂
Abusers are groomers.
They will start small, its like a small run on a stockings, it gets bigger overtime. The problem is victims usually let small things slide so often before you know it they are fully programmed to let the worst things slide in the end. I know i was a survivor of DV.
So if you ever get into a relationship.
NEVER let anything slide. The first offense, kick him on the curve and if he doesnt change walk away and do not explain.
I promise you ladies.
You CANNOT CURE AN ABUSIVE MAN.
Dont try to be a hero, you will end up a victim.
The first story. After hearing that so many times, when you finally say it back (because abusive Narcs are actually the ugly, repulsive ones in the relationship,) they will run to everyone they know telling them you are abusing them. Sir if you were the victim why have you made it impossible to leave but now youre here in my face losing your mind while Im minding my own business 🤨 We need to normalize leaving the first time we see a switch up.
He said when I was looking after the children - I am feeding you! So, I am looking after your kids and doing a variety of other things helping you. I thought it was so rude at the time.
If you give someone the power to feed you…you give them the power to STARVE you.
He sounds vile
He laughed at me when I asked him if our relationship was over
"If girls are like you I want nothing to do with girls"
Right after he totaled his brand new car with me inside, blaming me for him driving recklessly all because I called out his constant disrespect towards me.
He got with a girl a month later.
I stayed single for 2 years after that relationship.
I asked my ex husband (jokingly) if he would die for me and he said he never would because he is a better person than I am.
Oh boy ..have we all experienced this or something similar? I know I have. More times than I can count. Not just from one man in my life, but from many different men over the years...to varying degrees.
Soon as i said no or stood up for myself, the narcissist is quick to insult me. The misogynist came out. They start to emotional blackmail and try to break me down.
“You’re pretty. And that’s it.”
Me? (Just confirming 😂 Sis, I'd never want to miss it if it was meant for me)
@ oh, I should have clarified! An ex said that to me. 😅
I don't get the lady who doesn't mind her friends calling her out of her name but not from her partner. Why is disrespect okay from people you're even platonically close to? Your (scummy) partner will see that and not understand why others are allowed to disrespect you but they can't. I think it's important to be consistent with how we allow ourselves to be treated by others. Intentionally inviting bad behavior from anyone shows a lack of self respect in general.
I was called an old head milkshake and told that I look younger from a distance ❤men? And this was from men I didn’t even know
If she dont go grab a skillet im playing grit ball😂
it’s the drugs after labor also takes longer for everything to go back down its all inflamed etc
That's why I'm single for almost 11 years now and not planning to change that any time soon. I've dealt with that kind of abuse so many times that enough is enough.
Lol, he didn't make you. If Anything he sent the ingredients. But that doesn't give any parent the right to treat you that way.
I just mistakenly trusted a guy on match by telling him i had found it difficult to settle into the city as a new person ( yorkshire uk) and he was from here works here , mummy and daddy from here, and he just told me i was drama and negative and to,d me to leave the city after previously telling me how kind he was
How you dismantle men bad behavior…you leave the first time he display the behavior.
The first woman is on POINT! I can't stand when someone especially another woman would say "I'd never let someone do that to me"... yeah wait until you are in that position. I hope you don't have to experience what my children and I went through with their bio father
I have heard this, along with lots of curse words. It is time we evolve dear ladies 😌
My ex-husband said he cheated multiple times because I ‘bought his affection’…..he didn’t work a day of our 4yr marriage, yet spent money like he did. This was only to avoid child support on the secret kids he had. Yet had the nerve to say the reason he cheated was because he didn’t feel truly loved. The most confusing statement I ever heard.
2:58 she’s 59!!!! WTF SHE LOOKS AMAZING
17:00 "EW! maybe , *_don't_* notice"
🤣says mY favorite Gen Z ever 😂
Shame needs to change sides !
THAT !
Thank you for the video!!
You're so welcome 🤗
The nonchalance and the evil words are
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I'm 41.
Thank you for putting up this video to help me confirm that I need to keep my long, beautiful hair. And to stay single at my age.
Dam the split ends and cost to keep all of it looking as good as it does.
It's mine, and that's final.
I don't care what a guy's 🍆 thinks about my looks! I know in their eyes I'm only a "7", and that's good enough for me!
I'm really glad my video helped❤️❤️
Don't automatically assume in the first clip the guy is the narcissist, it could be reactive abuse. A narcissist will goad you for days/weeks/months until you have a 10 second tolerance of their BS, then deliberately provoke you to get a reaction so they can play the victim and make you look like a monster in front of others. There is only so much abuse you can take before you fight back.
I’m sorry, maybe I’m slow but the lady who was talking about the 20 lb. weight gain, I didn’t hear what the insult was from him she just said he noticed her stomach and began telling her the things she does that he cares about more than her gaining 20lbs. Not sure that is an insult. I am confused.
You're not slow because I was wondering why he's an ex? What he said was compassionate and loving. I think she made a mistake and she never forgets based on the losers she's dating.🤔
Me too!!
I took it as maybe she was a widow and comparing her current dating partners to her husband.
That first one sounds like shes the narcissist and hes fed up with her shit yet. She could be the abuser yet trying to embarrass him online to make him seem like he is smdh.
Victims of narcissists hardly ever talk like this. Usually, they are very silent and try to avoid any conflict.
Not true. I used to defend myself. It did come with consequences though. But, it didn't stop me from saying how I felt. @andreasunshine8002
Vicky.Derosa is so prettyyyy. Don't know her. But appreciate what she said
Why do we have to put on makeup to tell stories?
The girl who was loghtening her hair and got annoyed when the man asked if she had gone darker..he had noticed you were lightening your hair but you hadn't noticed him
0:38 😳 whoa!!!!
What's with the humble brag ones? They don't fit.
Exactly 💀
Why do people think that there's something you could do about their problems? I hate when people tell me their problems. I certainly don't tell them mine because I know there's nothing they could do about it!
The intro clip... Sounds to me like he's sick of her. Who knows, she probably is exactly what he says he is. Narcissists love to rile people up then record their reactions and play victim. Just leave her dude
Once I was at the store with my ex, and he was being so cruel and verbally abusive for no reason. It was so bad that I couldn’t keep myself from crying, and he got so angry about it! He said that every guy we passed saw me crying and was looking at him like they wanted to kick his a**! Then he said that I better stop my boo hooing bs or I was going to get him beat up, and it would be all my fault. I was so irritated hurt and just done that I wanted to be away from him, so I just turned and walked off as far as I could away! He was pushing the cart following after me yelling for me to slow down and get back here! He had trouble catching up with me, but when he did he started screaming at me for not doing what he said, and that I shouldn’t have been able to walk away so fast because I’m too f-ing fat! He also wrote on my body with a Sharpie when I was asleep , so that when I looked in the mirror I could see what he wanted me to change!
You still there with that
Demon
What an abusive loser narcissist. You should of shouted at the public for help.
Had almost this same thing as the first video happened to me. What’s up with their brain that they get this way towards someone they love?
Its not love, thats the trick people like that are incapable of love, first and foremost loving themselves. Ree flag, very dangerous
@9:13, "why" would she get rid of her ex, and then date men that make comments about her weight??? I don't understand?🙄
3 months after giving birth, my ex said to me if I needed bigger boobs for the shirt I was wearing. It was a dress, not a shirt and I dressed nice for him, but this was his answer. It was hurtful.
For those of you dismissive folks out there, some cases are men expressing how they feel as a result of being treated and some cases are actual abuse. So keep cherry pickin and looking at a small portion of the bigger picture.
If you don't get offended easily, why are you airing your views on social media for other people's opinions? I think too many of us get manipulated by the mind altering words or actions of another. Sometimes we just have to focus more on our inner beliefs than what someone else said or did to try to diminish our self worth.
The rice experiment shows what negative words does
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Yea I'm going to ask why did she stay. He's abusing her because she let's him.
Why does it seems like they all went to the same school
I have too many! 😂
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i been told i am ugly my whole damn life by everyone especially men. my heart is broken. the only men i can get to date/be engaged/ marry are abusers some were narcs and sociopaths and psychopaths. then on top of abuse not only did the abusers blame me anyone i tried to get support from or they learned about the abuse told me i was dumb to be w/ these asshole cult leader acting jerks. and told me to leave them w/no damn money. why are women blamed for abuse by some dude or any person? why? no one has the rt to treat anyone male or female like shit!! i am empath, hsp and infp and i care a lot for peop, i stand up for the rts of anyone male or female. God said in bible that women are created to be helpmates of men not the help mate of other women. women are created to be wives and mothers. but the problem is there is no dudes out there worth shit to be w/. i never met not one dude that is kind and is following God. I meet men who think they are god. I have had peopl and men tell me I am beautiful but i have had many tell me i am ugly. no one should tell someone they think they are ugly, no one is ugly everyone has their own beauty. it makes me sick to see how men and women blame abused women for being abused. why did i let him do this to me or talk to me this way etc or why did I stay.? um why don't u ask the assholes who abused us why they did that shit to us huh? why? bc these peop never get in trouble for abusing women then they continue to abuse bc no one confronts them. its useless to call police bc they do not care. dv hotlines tell women to leave and are rude and uncaring. where are women supposed to go? shelters are full. there is no shelter in my town. i had lease w/damn last piece of shit i left fake husband. i had no money he was not helping me pay rent and bills. he moved his satanic demon possessed friend in house w/o telling landlord and then we could have been evicted then his friend lied on me and sexually harassed me and my fake husband told me i was lying about it . he treated his friend like they were gay lovers and treated me like shit. he let this man take over our house and do whatever he wanted. they had pet names for each other. so i freaking left w/no place to go. i was homeless and i made the mistake of going to live w/a so called friend just so she and her demon possessed mom can abuse me. so now i am in dump of house w/sewer spill in damn back yard and landlords gaslighting me about it and not repairing home bc they are slumlords and do not clean up all sewer and fumes are making me sick. i am going to tell u how it is i been abused since i was born starting w/ me parents and peop at school etc. i am sick of this shit. i am not mean person. i am not perfect. but i am going to tell u this truth that it drives women to suicide and if i can find a way to kill myself believe me i would. i been suicidal since i was a kid bc of abuse. i cannot go live w/.my demon possessed parents who abused me. my parents are crazy. my job is not paying me enough. i just i have no options. rent is sky high. i have so called controlling friends blowing up my ph trying to stalk me and control me i had to block them. i am all alone. it was offensive one person in video said never take u make up off in front of dude. men are not perfect they get fat too and old and what society considers unattractive, but no one says shit to them no only to us women. i have had women abuse me and bully me all my life. too. i have had men tell me other women are prettier then me. i have peop do all kinds of shit to me. i am heterosexual person and i have tried all my life to find rt dude to marry and have family w. and i will die alone bc no dude wants me. i am going to end up homeless bc no income and cost of living. women attack women its unbelievable when we should all act like sisters and have each others backs to support one another but instead we say oh do not take u make up off in front of dude bc he will think u are too ugly to stay with which is something my 1st ex husband said. thats repulsive that even another woman would tell a woman that she is ugly w/o make up. that is cruel. make up has toxins in it that cause skin to break out. peop gain weight male or female bc of toxins in food and water we consume. our whole society has toxins that make us not feel good and look our best. no one is perfect looking we all have flaws. love is about excepting each other for who we truly are not some fake person. i am not trying anymore to find rt dude bc they do not exist. my heart is beyond broken. i needed to vent. bc this video reminds me why i stopped trying find rt dude. i am not going to try to even find friends bc everyone since i was kid has been cruel to me. i asked a potential landlord on zillow questions about a house and i told him i cannot afford the amt of deposit he told me on messages and he was so rude to say next time fully read the listing before bothering him. the listing did not say how much was needed move in. the house does not have ac and heat and its 2 bd 1 bath. how is he asking 1000 for it? peop are struggling to buy freaking food and rent is higher then what we make. peop are getting laid off and cannot find jobs. i was laid off and i just put in another position. but i went on interviews and cannot get hired for jobs i am qualified for, peop are really evil. i am domestic abuse survivor i am doing best i can to stay alive and fend for myself. my ex husbands never loved me yet their lives are wonderful as evil as they are. they are not struggling financially and they have family, friends and women they are w/, while men diss me and act like i am ugliest person alive. then peop wonder why peop commit suicide. what is there to live for?
i forgot to add both my ex husbands regretted marrying me they said to my face. um well i told them i regretted the day i ever met them assholes, they pursued me and i do not act or look any different then when we got married. all the dudes i was engaged to abused me to but they were controlling they never said i was ugly or regretted getting engaged to me. i left all these dudes bc i am not going to be hurt anymore. everyone male or female deserves the love God said we are supposed to have in His bible. i will accept nothing less.
Dumb pick me women are created to be bosses, educated, independent, and do way better than men. The bible is written by incel men to brainwash your dumbass. Women should be helping other women, men needs forever help so your pick me self will be Barbara the builder lol. Single and childfree is the way to go.
I want to cry for her
He told me “I would never love you…”
Do you ever share positive relationship stories or only these negative ones? 😅
Tbh I hardly hear of positive ones that didn't turn sour... But I'll try find them
Why don’t you post positive relationship stories on YOUR channel? You have a youtube. Be the change you want to see. Easy to criticize hard to CREATE 😅
@@sallyhemings2295because majority of men are like this and why don’t yall make your own channel if you want to show good relationships
16:43 she knows he’s low-key stalking her right? Or did that just go over her head?
Can you find more vids of women not doing make up? ❤
Toward the middle of this video it became clear many of the women were narcissists and cringe in their behavior.
It must be a TikTok thing to talk to us while doing your makeup. I don’t mind when it’s a makeup tutorial, but umm this was not. 🤦🏽♀️
Im halfway through thia video and i think that if this is the worst youve ever heard you,ve had an easy life. That is not to say any of those things are nice but ive received many many worse experiences of ( verbal) abuse from men in my life.
A lot of us have….send the ugly one home! Or she’s the ugly sister…or gross why are u talking to me!! When just being polite….or being made fun of for the symptoms of a pretty bad autoimmune disorder that potentially ends the life much earlier then expected…a red chicken neck and everyone in the room starts laughing and looking at u….their inside joke…but it does no good to dismiss what others have been through by comparing ur own experience as worse….thats a form of abuse too…not a good idea to do to others who have been through the same sort of thing….should learn to be more compassionate and empathize with others with out the self comparison…what u commented is actually a narcissistic trait….not a good thing around people who suffer with echoism
Our cat was killed- humane society contacted us that they found her. He blamed me for that.
25:27 okay, whispering is as annoying as yelling. Maybe ;)
When the second lady said "this happened about 5 years ago so I was about, I don't know 54/55 years old." I automatically didn't believe her. There's no way she's currently 60. Lolol 😂
She does look her age. Be realistic. She is an attractive older woman.
@ikeameltdown8012 I apologize for not making note of this in my comment. I didn't think I needed to, but just so we're clear, I was using sarcasm to make a joke. What I meant to say, in other words, is that she was stunning and youthful. I didn't believe that anyone would take what I said so literally. I didn't actually mean that this lady was a liar.
...Fucking obviously.
@ikeameltdown8012 I'm not sure why you automatically assumed I was insulting this lady rather than complimenting her. Weird.
I was making a sarcastic joke. Implying that she must be younger. It was a compliment speaking to how stunning and youthful she appears. I didn't think I needed to specify that. Jokes and sarcasm aren't witty or funny if you explain them immediately after you say them. But that's why we use emoji's. So that there is no confusion about tone in text.
Also, I already responded to this. It got deleted?
17:49 why are you screamingggggg ;)
35:20-35:32 lmao
I can tell the blonde woman with the purple background is a terrible person. Nothing justifies men approaching you unwarranted especially when you make it clear that you are avoiding them but she also just sounds really fkd up towards the end. I dont care who comes in my DMs. if Im attracted to them or not, its never a bad feeling to get a compliment or be desired by anyone. Dont speak for everyone else
wait ; don't just gloss over he said; you took all my money.... wait; tell us the rest of the story here; he mightve had a point?
My ex told me birth control dont make you fat. Your just lazy, he is 400 pound neckbeard mama body. I was only 159 pounds under depo which is very dangerous birth control that makes you gain way too much weight. Theres a lawsuit on it now😂
That first clip with the man on camera does not at all prove that he's abusive, or the real narcissist in that relationship. It just proved he went off, but odds are he was only acting like a normal, good person pushed way past his limits by nonstop horrible behavior by her. Show me what lead up to that point in the argument, and you might have proof, but as it stands, you most certainly do not. Either he is abusive, or she is and she's sitting back acting like she doesn't deserve and hasn't obviously earned every word he's saying. I've yelled at my narc 81 year old grandmother worse than this. Several times worse, and I'm not abusive, she is. The fact she's female doesn't give her or that woman an out. Neither does her age. It just means that at her age, she knows better than to push someone over the edge with her hateful words. Don't think you wouldn't talk like that man eventually if you were in a narc relationship, because I can assure you, you would, if they did certain things. Like poison my dog repeatedly like my grandmother did, and tell me to kill myself by eating two year old mold that I even got her to verbally admit she knew could kill me. Good people go straight the hell off every day on their horrendous abusers, just like he did. It's very suspicious she purposefully did not show what lead up to that part where he was reacting that way. Duh. Good people yell at their narcs. They even throw things. They scream. They lose their shit and their temper. They do so many things the abuser claims is proof they're the unstable or mean spirited, hateful one. Don't think he's the guilty just because he's said those things or in that tone, I've told my fake nice granny a million times to go burn in hell because it's exactly where she belongs. And if you think you're above acting like that man under abusive circumstances, you're delusional or arrogant.
Dude? Wtf? Why is he calling her 'DUDE'.