They never got to touch me because none of them would tell me their real age. Every time we hung around new kids. New baby mama's new divorces would pop-up and like you said, from the beginning, they try to control you. They don't realize that they're worse than younger dudes. And they look worse and they can't stay up past midnight. No thanks plus once upon a time, they came with a car house and money and now they're struggling in debt😅
Only older men you should ever consider dating are wealthy generous ones. Do not tie yourself to an old fool’s never ending struggle. And if he’s past a certain age with nothing to show for himself, run far run fast. Just compare him to other men his age. No matter what he says, if he is not on a similar level career wise, assets, etc then run.
Bad advice! The ones with money are even more controlling bc they will make you dependent on them and make you feel like you OWE them for the money and things they give you. Make you’re own money girl…. Do not depend on men for money. That’s a recipe for a very unhappy life.. and very low self esteem for you. DONT DO IT.
I had an older man tell me that he prefers to date a woman who didn’t have a father in her life. I said explain this, he clearly told my 40 year old self that he wants to groom a woman to his preference. Totally disgusting then he said he has 3 daughters. He was 54 and that’s too old for me anyways but to hear the groom was a red flag. I never made it to a date it’s not that serious
@@VeeKayGreenerGrass Males their age want much younger naive and inexperienced younger women someone they can groom... And young males looking for a suga mama. #4B Movement for safety, Success and Happiness.
Same reason some men prefer women in the church. They use God and Jesus against them. Just gotta becareful of manipulators whether they are women or men.
Someone who I won’t name was advising women to go for men 15, 20 or 25 years older to get high value. What value? Some of these older men are falling apart. Yes they’re probably livings double life, bad finances or hiding a terrible health condition
Horrible advice. I tell women to go younger. These men are always broke and full if bs . Get great sex without worrying of doing cpr or hurting his back😂
I'm 43 and have dated a man who is almost 60. He never takes me anywhere, is not romantic, he lies, doesn't buy me any Valentine's or birthday gifts, and never remembers my birthday. No older men for me; I'm good.
@@RappMDTV Due to him being a older man I equated that to he is going to be serious and mature and wants stability, he was also very charming, yes he is handsome but that’s not what reeled me in. He seemed like catch at first but then little by little he started pulling a switcharoo, he is also very cheap and stingy with his money , I spend more money on him and have been very generous when his salary is higher than mine. Such is life, you live and you learn
I wish we had social media like this Chanel when I was a young lady. Im blessed to see the age of 55. I would have did much better in my personal life if I would have focused more on my education and personal interests than focusing on male attention etc. young ladies put yourself first and enjoy your life and freedom. You are special 💐. Love-Auntie
It's true. I was a recognized performer in my 20ies. At 30ies I was looking good and I could have kept performing. But I had the misfortune to meet this wracked man who made a lot of promises and distracted me from my job. Now I regret what I could have lived but didn't because of him.
I’m 26 and dated someone who was 46 for only 9 months. It started off great with lots of flowers, presents, love letters, introducing me to his family and friends, making space in his house for my things, etc. He talked all big about wanting a healthy marriage with communication since his previous marriage ended due to her “not saying anything” to him when she left. But when I began addressing concerns I had about the relationship he became defensive and aggressive, then I realized why she divorced him LMAO. These videos make me even more grateful that I dumped him.
Don’t waste your youth & beauty on these old men who are past their prime! Grow old with someone who’s your age or younger lol (and no more than 5 years older than you!) because with older men as they age, your going to have to become their caretaker because your younger. I met my husband at 21 and we aged and grew together! Now we’re about to be 37 🥰 we got to enjoy each other at our prime lol when we were the most attractive, fit & young! I can’t imagine wasting my youth on an older man. Older men love to waste younger women’s time, because they have all the time in the world to waste! Your eggs have a time limit. Your youth has a time limit. Take your youth seriously and find a healthy & youthful husband! Date to marry. Don’t let these older men play you.
I once dated a older guy when I was in my 20's lol he complained that he does everything for me and I never offer him anything. So I asked him, "what do you want, what can I do?" He said he wanted some handkerchiefs 😭 with his initials engraved on them 😂 it was over...
I waited for this point in history🎉🎉🎉 I dated a 52yo at 28. He lied about his age first saying he was 45. He literally was the most immature male I ever dated and he would say "grow up lil girl" I snuck and recorded him while he was going off on me and played it back to him. I'm like yea you talk like you're my dad but you have nothing close to my dad's money 😅 I'll never ever date anyone older ever again. They truly believe they're the SHIII When they get younger. No you old & expired too buddy
I dated an older man briefly and that was the most stressful dating experience. He wanted to control every aspect of my life and was the most childish person ever. It felt more like babysitting than it did dating, ewww 🤢🤮
The only exception to getting an older man is if he looks good for his age and is financially well off, and God fearing, other then that it makes no sense because they come with drama
I'm 40 and married. When I see a younger woman with an older man, I'm either thinking that I hope she's being treated like a princess or I'm thinking get that money baby girl. Never a fire in my stomach. If my man leaves me for anyone else, he wasn't my man.
I was talking to an older man who was 44 years old at my old workplace. He was stingy to the point where he wouldn't buy me stuff. Mind you, he would sell snacks and juice to fellow coworkers, including me. I brought things from him quite often. I asked him several times what he was looking for, and he was beating around the bush and wouldn't be straightforward with me. Quite a few times when we were walking together, he'd ask if i was hungry and i told him "Yes, but I don't have the money to buy it for myself, so if you want to buy me something, then that's fine," he would then change his mind and we wouldn't get anything to eat. He started to do shady things like body shaming me, etc. I couldn't deal with him and put up with his crap anymore, so i had cut him off after a few months of talking to him.
Also, I am not fat. That man was so toxic. I thought that because of his age, he would be more mature. I was so wrong. I thank God that I didn't do anything serious with him.
Bro I'm 31 and every time a man in his 40s thought they have a chance with me that shit turned my stomach. I dated a guy in his early 40s when I was 20s. For 3 years, that was the most horrible experience I had in my life.
FYI - Y’all don’t need an old man to get your own AARP membership. They don’t have an age requirement anymore. They usually have a deal where it’s $12 for the first year. I joined in my 30’s when I found out I could and added my son a couple years ago. I read a lot of Gen Zers are joining for the discounts.
@@1Skorpia he definitely wanted to use his money as lubricant but made me feel like a piece of meat so I sent him back to the infants he’s used to. I didn’t lie about my age he was the one adamant that I look younger than his daughter 😂😂😂
@@1Skorpia I didn’t lie about my age. In his creepy mind he thought I was a younging and in my parting message I advised him to go back to what he’s used to. I don’t need $40 and take care of myself in a peaceful environment 🥰
His health is probably like an 80 yr old lots of these 40 yr old and up men had a stroke already as a nurse I have seen men with chf ,diabetes,kidney diagnosis and they in they late 30’s and 40’s
Okay so I've dated up to 15 years older than myself and anywhere 8-12 years is a good age gap ( I'm now 35 😂 ) and let me tell you....they are all broke ( or claim to be broke ) because by the time they are 40-50 they've been divorced at least once and have kids and ex wives they are funding 🙃 finding a man with no ex wife or children 35+ is hard. 🙃
Very true, they don't have all this "money" and high valueness they proclaim to have 😂 As a middle aged woman I specifically deal with fit younger men not below the age of 35. For fun only, and no long-term commitment needed or wanted. Even with that I have to be super selective and careful. Men my age and older are out of shape, grumpy and broke. Younger ladies should avoid them at all costs!!!
That's why I'll never date older men . I'm happily single. Most are broke. Their health is garbage! They want a nurse with a purse to take care of them
Oh Lord, I’ve dated a few Mr. Ernests. Loved me some handsome older men thinking it meant wisdom. Start out suave and charming and giving you the world. They often end up being just….old and fussy and controlling. And don’t let them be cheap on top of it.
I met a man at one of my jobs. He told me that he was married to a woman 26 years younger than him. He said, "I told her she is my insurance policy. She will take care of me when I get older." I always suspected that, but I never heard anyone say it out loud. And he wasn't black
If you date older, date up and someone who wants to help you elevate. If he isn’t doing well in life at his big age, walk the opposite way. Yes I date older, but they have things going for them. You do have to ask those hard questions some of these ladies present
Beyond all of that, the fact is they will never stop looking at the age they got with u at or even younger. You will age & they’ll discard u for someone younger as soon as the opportunity comes. & if they stick around & y’all have kids, they’ll end up checking out & even preying on ur child’s friends!! Seen it time & time again..even in my own family. Sick 🤢
Older men are only good for one thing…money. Other than that, you better off with someone your own age. Then, these younger women be messing with older for chump change like dinner, nails, and hair. If he is not helping you with buying a house, car, or a business. You should be focusing on getting your own. The first girl talking a $20 and Denny’s, girl bye!
Right! I would've caught the flu instantaneously and DIPPED, never to be found again, once he pulled up to that Denny's thinking he's gonna walk with me in there. Idek why she stayed and ate with him
Married a man who’s 29 and I’m 31. He makes 6 figures so I got to retire. My father is wealthy and is literally the “old man” who goes after younger women. Ladies, even though he’s my father I will tell you SO MANY RED FLAGS. It’s not worth it. Find a good man around your age.
Because we need to expose these stupid societal bs lies. Biggest lie told is "date older men- they have money and they're more mature". That was over 50 years ago! It doesn't apply anymore. Men now are broke and immature.
So tired of people taking advice from youtube. Every situation is unique. Your relationships is unique. I'm 43 my partner is 62. He works out every day & is a lot healthier than friends my age & younger. He looks extremely good. Definitely not controlling or any of the things/stereotypes listed above. Date who u love & get along w. Younger men screw up too..a lot. I was just watching dateline w bunch of young men cheating, abusing mentally, physically, financially, their wives. I'm the one who's suddenly had health issues. Focus on your relationship, be happy, and forget about everybody else. Love each other. Life is short. Just be careful not to chose anyone who's lazy, abusive, or has bad characters.
I dated older once never again. I was not aware at the time that he was someone that had fallen from grace. He was arrogant and boasted about everything although he didn’t have those possessions anymore. He was also used to the younger women who were amazed about things I already possess at 35. He couldn’t stand me not being amazed and was slick in competition with me. Weirdo
I dated a man who was 45 (I'm 34). He turned out to be a lying, cheating, and MARRIED bum. At this point, I'm convinced that no matter their age, something is not right with men.
As a teenager it was cool because they were the age i am now 25... Now its just boring and weird to be around anyone over a few years older. 2 or 3 years cool but these guys are aging so fast and are boring and broke
21:46 I’m 29 but I only feel sorry for those naive young girls because I’ve been manipulated by older men so many times. I wish I could save them but I know only time will teach them. My last ex is 30 and started dating an 18 year old- it plagues me I can’t do anything to help her from suffering the abuse I did. It’s not my job to, but I’m angry the cycle continues.
I gave them a time a day when they begged me. And they are emotionally damaged majority of the time, and one of them had the nerve to say they are looking for a live partner after having kids and being married for most of their life. He was fifty and delusional
3:30... I cant STAND when people refuse to hold the camera still! But he's right, I ONCE dated a man in his 40's, talk about set in his ways! He talked to melike I was his chid once time....thats all it took
Gout is not something you go to the hospital for. She basically is exaggerarion a lot. I would be excited to get crisp $2.00 bills because they are not easy to find and I collect WW paper money as hobby. Basically when you date someone 10 to 20 years older you are going to hit what use to be called the generation gap and your interest and needs are going to be different. But I have to also why would a women date a older man instead of someone her own age. For many women they have their own motives also. The fact that 70 to 80% of black women in the USA are having babies out of wedlock, which make me wonder if some of these women are thinking if I have a baby then he's got to stay for the kid. Having a baby for future monetary gains or in hope he will finally marry is not a good plan.
This dating advice is shocking ! Ask God to remove all the people out of your way that don’t serve your purpose then ask God to bring you your mate ! He answers prayers … Good luck sisters ❤
19:00 Be careful. There was a married w/kids mayor who had a construction business & financed his young girlfriend's lifestyle. He ended up deleting her.
Take this video seriously. I didnt take advice and was in a situation with an older man 27years my senior. Best believe he's single at that age for a reason. And best believe you dont want a relationship. Dont let them trick you into thinking that you do. He cant be babies or saved. You're not more soecial than all the rest.
I am older immigrant woman now who dated 18 older man in my 20s for financial reasons but lying to myself it was LOVE. Waste of time for woman and man. You can’t cheat biological clock older man!! I use to think that older women were of me and my older man. I was wrong! Now I know they were sorry for me! I had access to old these young guys I choose to run around with a “ daddy “
AGE rarely equals emotional maturity. Most men are who they are by around 30. Want a great relationship, listen to how i learned from my grandparents. My grandma & grandpop were constantly laughing together, listening to music and talking. Their conversation never dried up. Looking back, I realised he treated her like the prize. For instance, he would wash the dishes as she dried. He said she has the most beautiful hands and he didn't want her to scold them in hot water. He was born in 1924 and she in 1926. Don't buy into male & female duties. Houseduties shared equally and both worked. They were a team in life together. When one was down the other stepped up. My grandma is 98 and still lives on her own, is independent. MY grandpop died 20years ago. My gran won't listen to music anymore because it breaks her heart, music is her biggest reminder that he has passed. But she doesn't fear death, she is patiently waiting for it, because that is when she will be with him again.
I wouldn't have that much of a problem with age gap relationships if men actually had good intentions towards young women and offered them something. I'm not talking getting nails and hair done or even paying rent. I'm talking about buying a house and leaving the young girl in the will with a nice insurance policy and putting her through college and giving her a regular allowance. But for the most part I think the men just seek to use young women.
Listen to these ladies from experience, save the money 💰 they probably messing around anyway and more then likely he’s gonna replace you for someone younger which ladies if you learning that’s actually works for you, stay focused ❤
I dated an older 62 year old very horrible man controlling manipulating me very hateful he only took me to eat once then he wanted me at his beck and call for his way he s very selfish a liar a evil man they want the younger ones to control them
Its not that one shouldn't date older men: its that the older men these women dating are not marriage minded and a lady needs to not entertain fwb,casual, companions,etc but husband material. My cousins and friends some married older guys and are providers,thriving! A man will know which woman is wife and which is not. My hubby told me men are not marrying. By 2030,women ages 25-40 per World Economic Forum,will be single and childless. Men are looking elsewhere for wives sadly....i've 9 months married . I met all suitors in a coffee shop,never dinner. And was direct and men are simple,direct,will let you know so i politely thanked them and said bye until i met my hubby. Many men invited me on trips,second dates,etc but i declined. I was focused on what i wanted. A husband
Older men will try and control a younger woman. Be safe ladies.❤
They will lie and pray you don't do a background check on them
They try to control women their age too
one hundred percent agree. saw a 26 yr age gap relationship where dude tried to coerce her and she didnt relaise it until after it ended
They never got to touch me because none of them would tell me their real age. Every time we hung around new kids. New baby mama's new divorces would pop-up and like you said, from the beginning, they try to control you. They don't realize that they're worse than younger dudes. And they look worse and they can't stay up past midnight. No thanks plus once upon a time, they came with a car house and money and now they're struggling in debt😅
Older mails will turn you into a baby momma. They will never change
Only older men you should ever consider dating are wealthy generous ones.
Do not tie yourself to an old fool’s never ending struggle.
And if he’s past a certain age with nothing to show for himself, run far run fast. Just compare him to other men his age. No matter what he says, if he is not on a similar level career wise, assets, etc then run.
And be also careful with the wealthy ones : they'll suck your beauty, energy, youth and use you as a beard, a nurse and the purse.
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Facts
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Bad advice! The ones with money are even more controlling bc they will make you dependent on them and make you feel like you OWE them for the money and things they give you. Make you’re own money girl…. Do not depend on men for money. That’s a recipe for a very unhappy life.. and very low self esteem for you. DONT DO IT.
If he's not there to add to what you have, he's there to subtract from what you have. That was a perfect statement there!
That beginning story ..😂😂😂😂😂 hollerin
Mr. Ernest!!! 😂
I can’t stop rewatching!! $22 in $2 bills. Mr Ernest be tripping harrd!😂😂😂😂😂
Man talking abt day light saving time. Who does that?!!!😂😂😂😂
I'm over here in tears! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This was the best laugh I've enjoyed in a while!! He got the gout, and then she got the AARP number!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂......
Most older single BM are broke. You’ve been warned.
Yup!
That is the truth. Open up your choices and enjoy your youth and freedom.
Yup my dad and uncle 😮
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Leave them dusty oldies alone
I dated someone a decade older he was always broke and very immature it’s not worth it left me nothing but traumatised!
Same
U normally attract what you are ..
I believe you. Many old wracked narcissists are in the dating pool out there.
I had an older man tell me that he prefers to date a woman who didn’t have a father in her life. I said explain this, he clearly told my 40 year old self that he wants to groom a woman to his preference. Totally disgusting then he said he has 3 daughters. He was 54 and that’s too old for me anyways but to hear the groom was a red flag. I never made it to a date it’s not that serious
Women in their fourties and fifties honestly should not date older. They should date same age or lower.
@@VeeKayGreenerGrass Males their age want much younger naive and inexperienced younger women someone they can groom... And young males looking for a suga mama. #4B Movement for safety, Success and Happiness.
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@@VeeKayGreenerGrass facts
Same reason some men prefer women in the church. They use God and Jesus against them. Just gotta becareful of manipulators whether they are women or men.
If you’re dating anyone and calling them “Mr” anything that’s a grandad not a partner.
Lmao
Someone who I won’t name was advising women to go for men 15, 20 or 25 years older to get high value. What value? Some of these older men are falling apart. Yes they’re probably livings double life, bad finances or hiding a terrible health condition
Being stucked at home being a nurse for her geriatric husband instead of traveling and enjoying life 😂
Horrible advice. I tell women to go younger. These men are always broke and full if bs . Get great sex without worrying of doing cpr or hurting his back😂
@lain5858 a woman can always hire a nurse which is more than a man will do for his sick wife!
the sprinkle sprinkle lady lmaoo
It's the health conditions for me
I'm 43 and have dated a man who is almost 60. He never takes me anywhere, is not romantic, he lies, doesn't buy me any Valentine's or birthday gifts, and never remembers my birthday. No older men for me; I'm good.
1 broken bone or fall away from a nursing home.
What drew you to the man initially, was he doing those things in the beginning then switched up? Was he very handsome?
Date younger honey... 40s and 50s for women is too young for men in their 50s and over.
@@RappMDTV Due to him being a older man I equated that to he is going to be serious and mature and wants stability, he was also very charming, yes he is handsome but that’s not what reeled me in. He seemed like catch at first but then little by little he started pulling a switcharoo, he is also very cheap and stingy with his money , I spend more money on him and have been very generous when his salary is higher than mine. Such is life, you live and you learn
You wrote that in the present not past tense...
The first story Mr Ernest 😭😭😭😭😭 a bank envelope with 22$ in it 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@ladylibra1984 Don’t forget the loving message telling her not to spend it all in one place. 🙃🙃. Bwahahaha!!! 😂😂😂😂🙃🙃😂😂😂😂
The first lady is a full time story teller , she funny.
We know already when a woman gets sick the man does not take care of her so ……we need to take care of ourselves only ….all the time ….
They want a nurse with a purse.
@ … I TOTALY AGREE WITH YOU .
@@1Skorpia😅they purposely target nurses 2,I've heard the narcissistic conversations of old desperate men.
I have autoimmune and my husband takes care of me when I am not well.
@@lindsaypeek63 youre one of the few lucky ones
I wish we had social media like this Chanel when I was a young lady. Im blessed to see the age of 55. I would have did much better in my personal life if I would have focused more on my education and personal interests than focusing on male attention etc. young ladies put yourself first and enjoy your life and freedom. You are special 💐.
Love-Auntie
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It's true. I was a recognized performer in my 20ies. At 30ies I was looking good and I could have kept performing. But I had the misfortune to meet this wracked man who made a lot of promises and distracted me from my job. Now I regret what I could have lived but didn't because of him.
@@irme8930 It’s never too late to pursue your dreams.
Thank you aunty!🥹amen!❤
Mr Ernest was taking full advantage omg 😳🤣🤣🤣🎲
Couldn't be me 😅
Just the name Mr Ernest sounds like high blood pressure and diabetes I wish I would date some old man I call Mr anything!
I’m 26 and dated someone who was 46 for only 9 months. It started off great with lots of flowers, presents, love letters, introducing me to his family and friends, making space in his house for my things, etc. He talked all big about wanting a healthy marriage with communication since his previous marriage ended due to her “not saying anything” to him when she left. But when I began addressing concerns I had about the relationship he became defensive and aggressive, then I realized why she divorced him LMAO. These videos make me even more grateful that I dumped him.
Don’t waste your youth & beauty on these old men who are past their prime! Grow old with someone who’s your age or younger lol (and no more than 5 years older than you!) because with older men as they age, your going to have to become their caretaker because your younger. I met my husband at 21 and we aged and grew together! Now we’re about to be 37 🥰 we got to enjoy each other at our prime lol when we were the most attractive, fit & young! I can’t imagine wasting my youth on an older man. Older men love to waste younger women’s time, because they have all the time in the world to waste! Your eggs have a time limit. Your youth has a time limit. Take your youth seriously and find a healthy & youthful husband! Date to marry. Don’t let these older men play you.
@ amen!!
Anytime they start talking to about how awful the Ex is that's a red flag...
@ Very true. I could tell he hadn’t gotten over it and that’s one of the leading reasons I dumped him. He can figure that shit out on his own 😅
I am certain his ex wife said plenty before she silently (most likely for her safety) exited stage left.
I once dated a older guy when I was in my 20's lol he complained that he does everything for me and I never offer him anything. So I asked him, "what do you want, what can I do?" He said he wanted some handkerchiefs 😭 with his initials engraved on them 😂 it was over...
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The way I screamed 🤣🤣🤣😭
@@tinytoon8417 Handker what?! 🤔🙃🫤🙂↔️…😂😂😂😂😂
🤭🤭🤭🤭 lolz not the handkerchiefs!! 😂😂😂😂
He said he wanted some handkerchiefs with passion y'all lol
I waited for this point in history🎉🎉🎉 I dated a 52yo at 28. He lied about his age first saying he was 45. He literally was the most immature male I ever dated and he would say "grow up lil girl" I snuck and recorded him while he was going off on me and played it back to him. I'm like yea you talk like you're my dad but you have nothing close to my dad's money 😅 I'll never ever date anyone older ever again. They truly believe they're the SHIII When they get younger. No you old & expired too buddy
My gap ex would often call me “kid” even though I was 35 lol so gross. Never again.
I’m not dating any man significantly older who is not spending good money 💴.
What’s the point?
Exactly 😅
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FR. I ain’t changing diapers for free. 😂
Right
@@PsychicRenegadeTarotand if you are there getting paid too 😂😂
I dated an older man briefly and that was the most stressful dating experience. He wanted to control every aspect of my life and was the most childish person ever. It felt more like babysitting than it did dating, ewww 🤢🤮
Omg this is how I feel with my old man. He’s twice my age and he’s an alcoholic, I started feeling like a caretaker😂😂😂
@ caregivers get paid a lot lol you’re doing a tough job for free 😂😂😂
The only exception to getting an older man is if he looks good for his age and is financially well off, and God fearing, other then that it makes no sense because they come with drama
I have a missing teeth overweight neighbor in a studio apartment still don't get why don't want him 😂 in his 60s
Where are all the kevin samuels at now who talk about men being a prize even as they age? Such lies
Lies, lies,...all lies I tell you. Stay away from old men. They want to suck your youth away from you. They're truly energy vampires 😖
I'm 40 and married. When I see a younger woman with an older man, I'm either thinking that I hope she's being treated like a princess or I'm thinking get that money baby girl. Never a fire in my stomach. If my man leaves me for anyone else, he wasn't my man.
I'm 50 and pray to God she gets every penny for stealing her youth.
Same I hope she takes him to the cleaners. Or what's the point. I don't get jealous.
Smh. But yall don't see why you get the ones yall get?? Your own hearts aren't right!!😂 .. trying to use people smh..
Says alot about YOU.
@no1_raisondetre542 lol right bc an old man with a young girl must be an innocent victim. Gtfoh.
Yep. I don’t judge. Use your youth to your advantage especially if it’s beneficial to both people 🙂
I was talking to an older man who was 44 years old at my old workplace. He was stingy to the point where he wouldn't buy me stuff. Mind you, he would sell snacks and juice to fellow coworkers, including me. I brought things from him quite often. I asked him several times what he was looking for, and he was beating around the bush and wouldn't be straightforward with me. Quite a few times when we were walking together, he'd ask if i was hungry and i told him "Yes, but I don't have the money to buy it for myself, so if you want to buy me something, then that's fine," he would then change his mind and we wouldn't get anything to eat. He started to do shady things like body shaming me, etc. I couldn't deal with him and put up with his crap anymore, so i had cut him off after a few months of talking to him.
Also, I am not fat. That man was so toxic. I thought that because of his age, he would be more mature. I was so wrong. I thank God that I didn't do anything serious with him.
Eeeew what a joke
Bro I'm 31 and every time a man in his 40s thought they have a chance with me that shit turned my stomach. I dated a guy in his early 40s when I was 20s. For 3 years, that was the most horrible experience I had in my life.
You can't teach an old dog New tricks😂😂😂
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The commodification of relationships is so depressing. So glad I like my own company.
Whew the first video, got me weak 🤣😂😂😂
The Mr Ernest story 😂😂😭😭😭
I am so glad yall ladies smarter than we were. I am over 50!!! Yaaaaas!❤❤
I’m jst a few minutes in… you gotta be at my house before the street lights come on..gurrrllllll😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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FYI - Y’all don’t need an old man to get your own AARP membership. They don’t have an age requirement anymore. They usually have a deal where it’s $12 for the first year. I joined in my 30’s when I found out I could and added my son a couple years ago. I read a lot of Gen Zers are joining for the discounts.
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He’s 48 years old, his ex was 26, his daughter is 27 and he thought I was 23….. I’ll be 37 in a few weeks 😂😂😂
Gross
Why lie? Money? Well then, ...carry on😂
@@1Skorpia he definitely wanted to use his money as lubricant but made me feel like a piece of meat so I sent him back to the infants he’s used to. I didn’t lie about my age he was the one adamant that I look younger than his daughter 😂😂😂
Oh dear! The fact he thought you were 23 and in his league is dirty old mentality.
@@1Skorpia I didn’t lie about my age. In his creepy mind he thought I was a younging and in my parting message I advised him to go back to what he’s used to. I don’t need $40 and take care of myself in a peaceful environment 🥰
The woman who was 17 dating 30 yr olds preach sister!!!!!!!! ❤
I had to call him Sir 😁🤣
This Mr. Earnest guy was supposed to be 58 but acts like he’s 80. 😂 He makes my father look like a triathlete.
His health is probably like an 80 yr old lots of these 40 yr old and up men had a stroke already as a nurse I have seen men with chf ,diabetes,kidney diagnosis and they in they late 30’s and 40’s
Okay so I've dated up to 15 years older than myself and anywhere 8-12 years is a good age gap ( I'm now 35 😂 ) and let me tell you....they are all broke ( or claim to be broke ) because by the time they are 40-50 they've been divorced at least once and have kids and ex wives they are funding 🙃 finding a man with no ex wife or children 35+ is hard. 🙃
Ugh there is nothing worse than a stingy, broke, old man 🤢🤮
Very true, they don't have all this "money" and high valueness they proclaim to have 😂
As a middle aged woman I specifically deal with fit younger men not below the age of 35. For fun only, and no long-term commitment needed or wanted. Even with that I have to be super selective and careful.
Men my age and older are out of shape, grumpy and broke. Younger ladies should avoid them at all costs!!!
I would also be cautious, because he is probably the cause of that divorce, and blames her and the kids.
I find older man disgusting 🤮
I am 30 now and never dated a older man.
That's why I'll never date older men . I'm happily single. Most are broke. Their health is garbage! They want a nurse with a purse to take care of them
Cassie was a victim , Jlo understood the assignment and DIPPED
JLo also had her own $$$
😅 First lady Mr Ernest don lost his Gotham mind 😂 Look at Shera giving good advice and ppl want to demonize her smh
Oh Lord, I’ve dated a few Mr. Ernests. Loved me some handsome older men thinking it meant wisdom. Start out suave and charming and giving you the world. They often end up being just….old and fussy and controlling. And don’t let them be cheap on top of it.
I met a man at one of my jobs. He told me that he was married to a woman 26 years younger than him. He said, "I told her she is my insurance policy. She will take care of me when I get older." I always suspected that, but I never heard anyone say it out loud. And he wasn't black
1:30 😂😂😂 My Smitty pulled out his senior citizen discount on our one and only date, I had trouble controlling my laughter.
HAAAAA!! 530 pm got me CRYINNNGGGGG!! 😂😂😂😂
If you date older, date up and someone who wants to help you elevate. If he isn’t doing well in life at his big age, walk the opposite way.
Yes I date older, but they have things going for them. You do have to ask those hard questions some of these ladies present
Beyond all of that, the fact is they will never stop looking at the age they got with u at or even younger. You will age & they’ll discard u for someone younger as soon as the opportunity comes. & if they stick around & y’all have kids, they’ll end up checking out & even preying on ur child’s friends!! Seen it time & time again..even in my own family. Sick 🤢
He got da “Gout”…..Where is Mr. Earnest?! With the $22.00 in $2 bills so don’t spend it everywhere 😂😂😂😂😂
I left my older bf when he got sick .He expected me to take care of him ,but I left him lol
Why tf would I waste my youth taking care of an oldman?
Older men are only good for one thing…money. Other than that, you better off with someone your own age. Then, these younger women be messing with older for chump change like dinner, nails, and hair. If he is not helping you with buying a house, car, or a business. You should be focusing on getting your own. The first girl talking a $20 and Denny’s, girl bye!
There's an older guy right now know that I got inheritance. Dude is hot on my butt is is trying to use lust to get me. Nope
Right! I would've caught the flu instantaneously and DIPPED, never to be found again, once he pulled up to that Denny's thinking he's gonna walk with me in there. Idek why she stayed and ate with him
Keanu Reeves got with an older woman...and hes the real mvp. ❤
His girlfriend is 9 years younger than him. Still better than going super young.
I think about my daughter and the trauma men impose upon women especially younger women
They looking for a nurse with a purse
Thank you exactly 💯
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First story: Ladies you never let a man go get you items. Always request and only take the money.
Married a man who’s 29 and I’m 31. He makes 6 figures so I got to retire. My father is wealthy and is literally the “old man” who goes after younger women. Ladies, even though he’s my father I will tell you SO MANY RED FLAGS. It’s not worth it. Find a good man around your age.
Lol men is going to hate this! I'm seeing more and more of this
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Because we need to expose these stupid societal bs lies. Biggest lie told is "date older men- they have money and they're more mature". That was over 50 years ago! It doesn't apply anymore. Men now are broke and immature.
Nah younger guys h8 the competition 😅
Hmmm nah.. half of yall young girls dont even know how to wipe yourselves correctly ... no disrespect
Go be a firefighter 😂😂😂wtf🙈
Don't go there unless he's got serious CASH💲💲💲
So tired of people taking advice from youtube. Every situation is unique. Your relationships is unique. I'm 43 my partner is 62. He works out every day & is a lot healthier than friends my age & younger. He looks extremely good. Definitely not controlling or any of the things/stereotypes listed above. Date who u love & get along w. Younger men screw up too..a lot. I was just watching dateline w bunch of young men cheating, abusing mentally, physically, financially, their wives. I'm the one who's suddenly had health issues. Focus on your relationship, be happy, and forget about everybody else. Love each other. Life is short. Just be careful not to chose anyone who's lazy, abusive, or has bad characters.
I dated older once never again. I was not aware at the time that he was someone that had fallen from grace. He was arrogant and boasted about everything although he didn’t have those possessions anymore. He was also used to the younger women who were amazed about things I already possess at 35. He couldn’t stand me not being amazed and was slick in competition with me. Weirdo
I dated a man who was 45 (I'm 34). He turned out to be a lying, cheating, and MARRIED bum. At this point, I'm convinced that no matter their age, something is not right with men.
As a teenager it was cool because they were the age i am now 25... Now its just boring and weird to be around anyone over a few years older. 2 or 3 years cool but these guys are aging so fast and are boring and broke
21:46 I’m 29 but I only feel sorry for those naive young girls because I’ve been manipulated by older men so many times. I wish I could save them but I know only time will teach them. My last ex is 30 and started dating an 18 year old- it plagues me I can’t do anything to help her from suffering the abuse I did. It’s not my job to, but I’m angry the cycle continues.
He had tbe gout 👀😂😂😂😂
I gave them a time a day when they begged me. And they are emotionally damaged majority of the time, and one of them had the nerve to say they are looking for a live partner after having kids and being married for most of their life. He was fifty and delusional
They get sick,die and HIS kids kxll you for his house,cars, retirement accounts etc😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
The 1st girl, that man is diabolical 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That man is unhinged 🤣
3:30... I cant STAND when people refuse to hold the camera still! But he's right, I ONCE dated a man in his 40's, talk about set in his ways! He talked to melike I was his chid once time....thats all it took
There’s a reason why a lot of older men are still single!!😂 stay away from them!!!
The first girl😂😂😂😂
The First Lady: INCREDIBLE!
Yooooooooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂the First Lady got me crying real tears bro
That first one may have dementia 🤔
“I know he got the gout” !!!
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Gout is not something you go to the hospital for. She basically is exaggerarion a lot. I would be excited to get crisp $2.00 bills because they are not easy to find and I collect WW paper money as hobby. Basically when you date someone 10 to 20 years older you are going to hit what use to be called the generation gap and your interest and needs are going to be different. But I have to also why would a women date a older man instead of someone her own age. For many women they have their own motives also. The fact that 70 to 80% of black women in the USA are having babies out of wedlock, which make me wonder if some of these women are thinking if I have a baby then he's got to stay for the kid. Having a baby for future monetary gains or in hope he will finally marry is not a good plan.
18:50 they hate when women say this like they date young men 😂
This dating advice is shocking ! Ask God to remove all the people out of your way that don’t serve your purpose then ask God to bring you your mate ! He answers prayers … Good luck sisters ❤
That's the one. They got to go quick fast and a hurry!
The divorce rate says otherwise. 😂
Women can date older or younger. We just need to keep our guard up.
19:00 Be careful. There was a married w/kids mayor who had a construction business & financed his young girlfriend's lifestyle. He ended up deleting her.
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They all really do that. U really don't need a a scenario.
Older women BEEN dating younger though..
Take this video seriously. I didnt take advice and was in a situation with an older man 27years my senior. Best believe he's single at that age for a reason. And best believe you dont want a relationship. Dont let them trick you into thinking that you do. He cant be babies or saved. You're not more soecial than all the rest.
If he hasn't found someone there's something wrong
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The first sis in yellow was fired up😂😂
Old men are good for three things: money, His Humana Card, and his Walmart credit card 😂
First Lady, ma’am you let yourself get played with by grandpa for some bags of groceries 😳😂
Not gas is $55,000 😂😂😂
I am older immigrant woman now who dated 18 older man in my 20s for financial reasons but lying to myself it was LOVE. Waste of time for woman and man. You can’t cheat biological clock older man!! I use to think that older women were of me and my older man. I was wrong! Now I know they were sorry for me! I had access to old these young guys I choose to run around with a “ daddy “
gurl he’s like 30 yrs older, u only saw him as a social experiment
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AGE rarely equals emotional maturity. Most men are who they are by around 30.
Want a great relationship, listen to how i learned from my grandparents.
My grandma & grandpop were constantly laughing together, listening to music and talking. Their conversation never dried up.
Looking back, I realised he treated her like the prize. For instance, he would wash the dishes as she dried. He said she has the most beautiful hands and he didn't want her to scold them in hot water.
He was born in 1924 and she in 1926. Don't buy into male & female duties. Houseduties shared equally and both worked. They were a team in life together. When one was down the other stepped up.
My grandma is 98 and still lives on her own, is independent. MY grandpop died 20years ago.
My gran won't listen to music anymore because it breaks her heart, music is her biggest reminder that he has passed.
But she doesn't fear death, she is patiently waiting for it, because that is when she will be with him again.
yes im 55 my sugar daddy is 25 at any age they must provide
Wait what🤣😂...aah this is the way
Preach!
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When I was in my early 20s I dated a man in his 30s. Now looking back I feel grossed out. I was so immature and naïve 😢
They are no different than younger men. They stop maturing at 16
My cheeks are sore… I can’t stop lmao ! Mr. Ernest tired of the pimp game !! He done! 😂🤣😆😂😭😭😭😭🫳🏽🎤🙏🏽
The first girl 😂😂😂😂😂Fire fighter 😂
I wouldn't have that much of a problem with age gap relationships if men actually had good intentions towards young women and offered them something. I'm not talking getting nails and hair done or even paying rent. I'm talking about buying a house and leaving the young girl in the will with a nice insurance policy and putting her through college and giving her a regular allowance. But for the most part I think the men just seek to use young women.
I dated a 66 yr old 304 that was hateful and a liar
"Anybody seen Mr. Ernest?" 😂😂😂😂😂 No thanks
Listen to these ladies from experience, save the money 💰 they probably messing around anyway and more then likely he’s gonna replace you for someone younger which ladies if you learning that’s actually works for you, stay focused ❤
I dated an older 62 year old very horrible man controlling manipulating me very hateful he only took me to eat once then he wanted me at his beck and call for his way he s very selfish a liar a evil man they want the younger ones to control them
The first gal is so funny because it's real.
Its not that one shouldn't date older men: its that the older men these women dating are not marriage minded and a lady needs to not entertain fwb,casual, companions,etc but husband material. My cousins and friends some married older guys and are providers,thriving! A man will know which woman is wife and which is not. My hubby told me men are not marrying. By 2030,women ages 25-40 per World Economic Forum,will be single and childless. Men are looking elsewhere for wives sadly....i've 9 months married .
I met all suitors in a coffee shop,never dinner. And was direct and men are simple,direct,will let you know so i politely thanked them and said bye until i met my hubby. Many men invited me on trips,second dates,etc but i declined. I was focused on what i wanted. A husband
Maybe it means she doesn’t want her daughters to be victimized by older, immature XY's