This ADHD Procrastination Habit is Killing Your Dreams. Please Stop.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.พ. 2024
- ADHD procrastination takes on MANY forms, but this one is top of the list for my adult adhd clients. We buy ALL the courses and read ALL the books and yet, we never make progress toward an outcome. In today's video, I'll share why that is, and what to do to move past it. Let's go.
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I hate how accurate this is. Constantly feeding my brain information yet not having mastered anything.
Same here, i start everything and end nothing.
When i think of doing the thing, im telling myself im not good enough and/or people will be negative about it.
Or i simply don't have motivation,or am anxious, which the "people will react negatively" probably the bigges role in.
I have to say, though i don't have ADHD.
You're definitely not alone...this hit home with me too!
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I feel like I'm the worst in the world for this.. 200 unfinished/unstarted Udemy courses, 300 Skillshare courses, 2500 TH-cam watch laters, endless free email courses, endless journals, planners, notebook pages, 1000s of Pinterest pins, numerous expensive professional qualifications... yet here i am, still wasting my life in a mindless profession. I feel like I've swallowed a library and don't know what to do or where to start. My brain has imploded and it's actually made me really miserable in life.
I was inspired by Arnold Schwarzenegger's book a while back, where he talks about the danger of overthinking and over learning because it prevents you from taking risks and growing. That's exactly what I've done. Anyway, great content that I need to rewatch. Somehow I need to reset my brain and figure out what direction to take.
Udemy is the WORST... when they have those sales (which they have all the time lol) it gives me such a thrill
Same here trying figuring out how to stop multitasking in my mind and actually complete one thing
We are twins! 😢
You are not alone ☀️
Same. I find that purchasing a book or a course ie more exciting than actually going through it. I'm always thinking maybe this will be the one to get me on track in life. I've wasted nealy 10 years in an employ I don't like, I don't think highly of myself. You're not alone.
In programming, "Tutorial Hell" is a thing. Just another tutorial, then I can start a project.
Also paired with things like "Impostor Syndrome", "Analysis Paralysis", perfectionism and similar symptoms.
relatable
So funny I just came to this realization a few days ago! I wrote on my mirror “you can learn all day long, but it’s practicing is what makes it stick”.
YES!!!!!
I need to use this line!!!! 👏
This is me. I'm the king of starting and not finishing projects. From coding, to writing a book, to starting a podcast, to learning the piano...I've studied so much, and have applied so little. I feel like a huge failure.
I'm writing a book... finally. About the books I've been reading 🤣
Are you watching me or something? These are literally all of the projects I've done and also quit halfway through LOL. Thing I hate about it is the fear of failure is what leads to the procrastinating, but then I feel like I'm failing for not actually doing the thing and it just becomes one big vicious cycle :,)
I started learning coding and bought a digital piano - my new year resolutions 😂. Watching this video is telling how is going so far.
coding and piano? I'm not alone I see.
Always a keyboard, not always the same one,@@tigerex777 😁
Wow this is my life. Obsessed with learning, planning, dreaming more than anything. Been feeling the universe tell me to just act (not as sexy).
It is hard, specially with imposyor syndrome...we need to heal inside first before taking actions. Being a perfectionist can't allow do anything, check on that. Happen to me too and i'm working on it.
I need to declutter, so I keep buying containers and labels and reading all the books and watching all of the videos. Now I need to declutter my organizing supplies because I have hundreds 😂
Oh gosh, this is me
And me!
Hmm recognizable
When I get stressed I find myself walking Staples because I think a planner or container will fix the problem. My mom used to make my Easter basket with a clear container because she knew I would want the container more than a basket. 😂
@@jayc6159 Yes! Let's not talk about my planner collection and the supplies that go with it.
I’ve always said I gather the wood but ever start the fire. It was before my diagnosis.
Ha! I love that ! I can relate ;)
Such a perfect analogy, totally gonna steal that!
That's a great metaphor. Also works for any other kind of behavior that falls prey to the Collector's Fallacy.
(At least I'd consider 'pracrasti-learning' a subtype of that.)
Perfectly put.
Lolol, this is so, so me. I used to say, Have a problem? Throw a book at it." Because I read all the things about all the problems, without doing anything else.
lmao yup!
Exactly! 💯
Now I have too many books and no time to read them to get started. And everyone has a new technique or system. Then you have to learn or unlearn. My brain can't take it anymore. I follow the simplest and most logical way now = with ease.
@@triciamc8373yeah I do the same thing and my brain can’t handle it either. What is the way you follow now? If you don’t mind me asking
Like how I spend hours planning how to approach my exam and what to learn when, then write a schedule print out the notes, buy the stationary but need to take a nap first every-time I feel I should learn
I’ve started (and not finished) FOUR masters degree programmes. Frustrating as I am always told how “gifted” I am which makes me feel so ashamed every time I “waste” my “potential”. Spend too much £££ on constant learning that never materialises in anything solid. I got diagnosed with ADHD this year and I don’t want to take medication but I’m so tired of my brain.
Can totally relate. Why don't you want to take medication?
Half the battle is to know what's going on so that you can stop trying to be like "normal" people and start learning what works for you.
As someone who started meds in December after rejecting it so for so long, it was so worth starting for me. I feel like all gunk was removed and I can actually start tasks, focus on them, finish them, and move on! (I have been diagnosed with Severe ADHD and take Vyvanse, but it's not for everyone)
Even if u don't wanna take meds, getting help with a Counsellor/therapist/life coach helps so much.
Best wishes ❤
Totally relate. I went to uni 3 times and got to the end of the 2nd year each time and then fell off. I haven't been diagnosed yet but I'm 100% sure I have it. Cannot wait to take pills to get past this block. I wasted too much £ on other things though and now don't have the funds I need, which is so typical 😂😂. Glad I finally understand this issue.
I just started taking the ADHD meds and it was life changing..the noise quit..the scattered quit.
I don't obsess over things.. and my mood is calmer my kids say I am calm. I still notice my ADHD and some days even with meds some symptoms present . It really depends on stress !
Meds don't cute it..just help. Changing diet and exercise and lifestyle help huge. Learning about ADHD also gives you tools how to recognize symptoms and manage them. Drugs don't cure it..they just help !👍❤️
This feels like an April Fool's prank aimed at me 😂
This is so me that my first instinct was to watch every TH-cam video I can find on this topic and order a few books about it from Amazon. You know, to make the perfect plan to correct it. 😂
See what I put above. There's a term for it. But I think everything has to be perfect to get started. It feels like if I put the pieces together just right first then magic will do the rest. haha
"None of those fears will go away by taking more courses." Man, do I need to hear that! Thank you so much. I remember telling a therapist years ago that I want to FEEL like I'm a thing (an architect, an accountant, a designer, etc). But after a general bachelors degree, 2-year certificate in one field, and masters degree in another plus working 4 years in that field I still feel like an imposter. The urge to switch to something new is overwhelming. In fact I'm already enrolled in a new bachelor's degree program.
This. Why are we like thisss???
I kid you not, my New Year's resolution is that I cannot sign up for any new certifications or courses this year! 😏 I have to work on all of the ones that I've already paid for but haven't finished yet. Procrasti-learning is such a perfect name for it! 😅
Udemy Audible, Kindle, and Masterclass, among others, have thousands of my dollars.
My consultant told me to have "mini goals" and to report my progress on them.
Take it one course at a time. Break it down into small steps. You've got.this.
This is literally my main problem. I will be unstoppable once I figure out how to manage it.
Reminds me of this apparently common saying that I only recently became aware of: “If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.”
I am 48..
I always thought I was stupid. I couldn't tell time ..tie my shoes... struggling through my life being told I am lazy or feeling inadequate. I love learning...but that's where it stops. I can't seem to move from that gear!! I just found your channel and the more I learn... I find comfort in learning that there are others who are going through this too. I just need to figure out how to have some success!
I think its safe to say that I came to the realization that after all this time I believe I am afraid of success. Not sure why but I've achieved crazy things as a child. Now as an adult I know I still have potential but theres something holding me back, again not sure what.
Decluttering
Organizing
ADHD
Tarot cards
Vision boards
Manifesting
Oracle cards
Journaling
Planners
Cooking/ meal planning
My list, so far this year.
lol! yes...this
I want to do all of these at once sometimes and then I find myself laying on the floor with no motivation.
So far the decluttering has helped! 👍
same lmao
ive never related to a comment so much lmao
1000000% true!
I feel ATTACKED 😂 This is so so real.
Oh my word! I so needed this. I don't procrastilearn, I give up before I even start. I have had a "thing" in my brain to learn for a long time now. I am going to do it! It's one thing. I can do one thing.
Undiagnosed ADHD here, but this is SO me. Retired and procrasti-learning each and every day. This helped so much because I don't want to just learn and not do.
Every now and then you come across a video that is ACTUALLY life-changing. Not because we haven’t heard of the concept before but because of how tangible your words are in regard to the reminder! Thank you for your no bs approach and the practical examples you provided based on what I can tell is real world experience lol. I’m writing a message for myself on my wall right now.
Wow, thank you!
1.Procas learner definition & why 1:31
- marathon calendar plan, learn everything except running. The idea of running is better than do it. We love in theory but we hate the process.
2. 3:42 the Fear of failure and paralysed. You can’t achieve efficiency by procrastinate.
-What would feel less scary? Doesn't feel terrify. Design the system that don't terrify you? Look for opportunities, elements movies, environment that is okay. Putting in the reps in your goals. 8:36
Don’t assume you have to be expert.
3. Question: get real with yourself. Do you actually want to do the thing or like the idea of having done it? Has it retain and applying it? 9:47 if there is gap and asked them what I need to be aware.
What do I need to feel safe and make 1st step? -Create boundary of yourself. Don't buy new course until you apply what you learn.
I have problems with like in G too many hobby and want to started it. It is with writing music for me
@@WhitetysnownyI also have many interests and hobbies and it is hard to keep up, but I have created a plan for each day with time blocking for each hobby (and prioritizing my interests) and it has helped immensely!! I no longer procrastinate and I just do the things.
For example:
1 hour a day for drawing
10 minutes a day for guitar playing
10 minutes of exercise
30 minutes of taking a walk
And I usually have 5-20 minutes of a break in between!!
Thank you for the video summary, I didn’t want to watch it since I already guessed it wouldn’t be relevant to me
I just audibly said “Wowwwww” when I saw this thumbnail. Clearly need this one.
I join every free course I can find
holy cow!! ...one of those rare moments where the YT algorithm actually was reading my mind and recommended something I truly needed. I'm not diagnosed with ADHD (yet) but have felt I have an adhd-like brain and everything you described is 100% how it feels. I don't know when/how I was brainwashed to behave this way but I definitely feel the constant urge to be perfect and confident at every major goal before actually doing it (which I know logically makes no sense) and can't figure out why I have always failed. Procrasti-learning described it, as well as 'rejection-sensitive dysphoria'. Didn't know it was a thing. THANK YOU!!
I see TH-cam is reading my mind again, so many UDEMY courses undone. lol. I needed to hear this, feeling of perfection and rejection is real! Currently a junior web developer only just started last year. I should have started looking for work over 5 years ago when i graduated, but i was so nervous that i wasn't "good enough" and stayed in my current job at the time whilst some of my colleagues got jobs. By the time i was ready to apply (even then i wasn't still ready) the job market was hard. I got it eventually, but i see myself doing this all the time. I need to just do things. Just like driving a car, you gotta drive to put in the experience to learn.
OH MY GOSH.....This is exactly me! Thanks for this video. I procrastinate, I'm a perfectionist, and I'm always disappointed in myself!
It is exactly what I am doing! ! ! Procrastination Learning. Fear of Failure. Time to change by taking action. Thank you for the advice. Keep the good work
The story of my LIIIIFIE! And now I’m singing that beautiful number by the ONE and only DIRECTION aloud!
THANKS FOR ALL YOU DO I’m so obsessed with your videos! Always so helpful!
You are so welcome!
Ugh this hit me SO hard. I have been taking writing courses for years and never finishing them and never really pursuing my dream of being a freelance writer. Recently, out of the blue, my friend was asked to write for a local publication. Though she wasn't actively pursuing writing I know it's because she networks and puts herself out there while I just take courses. So now she's a paid writer and I'm happy for her but that hurt so much 💔💔💔
You hit the nail on the head and named the condition perfectly: procrasta-learning. This is the real dilemma: You don’t want to own the Ferrari, you want to own the feeling of owning the Ferrari. If I can conjugate that feeling in my mind and body then pursuing the actual path and going through the effort and pain of actually owning it is not needed. That's a failure mentality but works for many.
I actually feel such a sense of relief that there are successful people in the world that also have experienced this seemingly endless cycle of procrastilearning as you call it 😭 I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD but I’ve been diagnosed with a slew of other things.
Thank you for putting this gem of a video out there because I definitely needed to be read in this exact fashion. 😭
I've been stuck in procrasta-learning for a few years now. I've become so disillusioned with the world I can't answer both honesty and realistically what I want to do. My brain is full of big things, but the world looks hopeless so I'll just watch.
OH MY GOSH! This is EXACTLY what I do! I had to watch this video twice because it was so spot on! I'm sure I'll watch it a few more times in the future. Saving this one!!! Thank you for explaining it! I'm also wondering now if I do have ADHD?! Hmmmmmm......
I don't think this is exclusively an ADHD thing, but it's common.
A lot of it is due to being "easily influenced" which is dangerous
5:43 If you don’t feel ready, and you need inspiration, go find your favorite long-running TH-cam personality, and take a look at his or her early videos from 7 or 8 years ago. Almost certainly, compared to where they are now, they were nowhere near polished or “perfect.” Likely, they sucked. But that didn’t stop them.
Well said! What I've also noticed with procrastilearning is that it makes me feel anxious at times because I start feeling bad about not doing the thing. My fantasy hobby was sewing and no number of TH-cam videos gave me as much confidence as sewing my first scrunchie. Sad reality is, sometimes there are other factors holding us back (in my case, it's the shortage of space and spare time) and because of this the fear of failing is not very obvious at first.
After I started supplimenting L-methionine and Trimethylglycine, this kind of... broke. I started to actually do the work. I'm drawing/practicing the things I saw in youtube videos. The "watch later" list was opened. It was useful, just as I planned. It's awesome to no longer have ADHD!
Thank you, I never heard it put this way before. The massive, non-stop proliferation of micro-learning that pours out of social media and TH-cam makes this hard to avoid for anyone, irrespective of ADHD status. Even on topics on which I genuinely want to apply learning, it's hard to turn off the tap of new intake.
Omg I'm a Procrastalearner, didn't know there was a term for my ridiculous habit...
Gotta snap back into reality and take action, smh
Thank you so much Caren.
This video needs a billion views. I've been trying to verbalize what's going on in my brain with learning how to do a hundred things, getting just good enough with it to maybe start monetizing it, and then dropping it cause boring. Something about passion and sacrificing your time. I dont know. I finally believe i figured out what i want to do but it was a journey....
new learning gives me instant dopamine hits and can get me to flow or quasi flow state. if im having rough time its also a distraction but eventually it will backfire so i think it might be good thing to get out of tough spot and get the ball rolling but not great in long run
00:40 Nailed it! This is one of my habits and I’m reeeeaaalllly good at it. 🙃
So true! I find that the whole culture of courses/coaching/"learning" is based on creating a need in us to move on to the next step, which is more of the same of that eternal quest, but not achieving mastery. I find the best courses for me are the ones with workbooks or absolute assignments so I can SEE that I can *have* learned and have moved measurably closer to acquiring the goal. Otherwise I'm just stuck in an orbit path, rotating *around* the goal, seeing it from different angles, acquiring bits of stardust, but not getting any closer. If that makes sense!
I saw this video title, I recognized that this is something I should watch, and then literally put off watching it.
No kidding, I procrastinated about watching a video about procrastination.
This video is packed with valuable advice. I'm going to move it to my 'Valuable Life Lessons' playlist. Nothing in this video is new to me, other than the term 'Procrasti-learner'. I've been one for many years and faced all the consequences. Yet, it's hard to take that leap and do stuff.
Wow that is SO me! Now I'm going to watch 12 videos on the topic to get ready before I go back to writing my thesis
Caren, your content is... SPOT ON and such high quality!! Thank you 🙏💖
This was a great video Caren! One of the most helpful/truthful Adhd videos I've come across in a while. Thank you!
Oh my gosh, Caren. I was realizing this in my business, and this video popped up. Pure gold. Thank you ❤️
Glad I could learn about procrasti learning instead of doing the thing I’m learning about how I’m learning I should do.
Never before seen your channel so was shocked at how just the title of this video explained the dysfunction of my life. Every word in the video applied to me. Thank you for opening my eyes! 🙏🏼💖
omg so spot on!!! I recently came to realize what I am doing with all this learning....it is literally procastinating. listening to you for the 3rd time! THis is the most valuable video for me from all I hav3 seen out there. Hope I could get started on the acting and deciding part ASAP
all I do is learn and not DO. I also kind of take things in quickly so they dont absorb. People think im really knowledgable about something because I have been learning it for so long, but I can barely talk about it because im always just skimming through trying to learn as much as possible.
Listening to you helped me a lot with a struggle I’ve had for a long time. Thank you for being so amazing.
Thank you! I randomly came across this video while preparing to search for my "next unfinished goal," and it's what I needed! Kind of like a reality check. I saved the video knowing that I will need to hear these words again from time to time. Thanks again!!
Thank you for naming it! I have also sunk so much money into my procrasti-learning over the years.
This is JUST in time. Thanks Caren! I heard this in your how I'm so productive with ADHD video, and looked up "procrastalearning adhd" because it sounded so relatable, I thought it had to be a thing. It wasn't! Thank you for making it a thing though, because it IS.
Subscribing to your channel as one of my first steps to stop procrasti-learning. So many little notes in my phone and on OneNote, post-its... the whole nine. So MANY ideas for greatness but just always learning and watching. Learning and watching. I want to do the things or at least SOME of them before I expire to feel that accomplishment as well as to have the courage through experiment and experience to then do more of them. Anyhow, thanks for this video.
Gee Caren, you know me better than I know myself!
Also, here's a saying I was told long ago that goes with what you are saying: "Fantasy is always better than reality!"
Wow this is me! I am so glad a stumbled across your channel! Loved this video, love how you come across. I am dreadful for prograsalearning but am finally taking small steps towards my main dream.
I really appreciate this wonderful video. The title really resonated with me, and while watching the first minute I thought to myself "I will come back to this". I decided I just needed to hold myself accountable and watch it as somewhat of a test to myself. I have been procrastinating by learning for years. I accumulate knowledge that I don't apply. The fear of not being able to create something meaningful or up the the standard I would hold myself to is very real.
I am going to hold myself accountable, and create something with the knowledge I have. This part of applying the knowledge really is not a simple task. Especially when you are self directed. That is what is so beneficial about traditional academia, they direct and you just have to show up and do what you are told to do. I am making a resolution with myself that it is okay to make something that sucks, I just need to make sure that it isn't the last thing I make.
This almost elicited an emotional reaction during the part of the video where you talk about don't want to screw up and be perfect. I know where I can tie that back to. I told my wife recently I was done going to YT or internet hoping to have that lightbulb moment that is the pot of gold. I have so many examples that pop into my head around this topic.
Man I feel so called out and thank you for doing so, i really needed this
Thank you! I have been doing exactly what you are talking about At great cost to myself on many levels. I woke up this morning turned on TH-cam and this was the first thing I saw today. I am so grateful, thank you again. I’m going to take action on my business today.
Yay!!!! Do you take action?
This is SO much me. But I also have another dimension to this: PROCRASTI-PREPARING. Like, I'll spend tons of time researching the best tools or software and designing my workspace and planning my project in minute detail. The thing is, I really ENJOY doing this part. For me, preparing for the project seems more enjoyable than actually doing the project.
Holy 🤬! This is so me all the way down to the core. I'm so glad I came across your channel. 👍🏽
Its been said that doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. Im not going to lie I winced a couple of times while watching this because it struck too close to home for comfort. The truth is often inconvnent, but if we dont recognize reality for what it is we can never change the future for the better. Its 2024 and its time to put up or shut up. Thanks for the perspective!
With you one hundred per cent
Thank You Caren!!! I really needed that message.
Thank you for sharing this. Just what I needed to hear so motivate me to do the thing I wanted to do! No excuses this time. Thank you!
Caren, what you say in your podcast really resonated with me. I say I always wanted to learn sign language and I've taken courses in the past. However, I never take it to the next level of applying what I've learned to really learn the language. I have a dog that needs consistent training and I took a class and even paid the trainer to come to my house. Well, my dog is still untrained at 3 years old. I did not consistently apply what I learned. Same goes to following a weight loss program like Weight Watchers. I've gone through "the motions" of counting points but never stay with it. Whatever it is for me, fear of failure or even fear of success, I agree that I need to be real with myself. Thank you for being honest for everyone who procrastalearns!
Damn!! Thank you, thank you! Your videos are so on point for me. I really needed this! Thank you!
Wow. This video was fantastic!! You definitely hit the nail on the head for me!! I want to break this habit starting today!👩🏫
Thank you, Caren! That was helpful 🙂
THIS IS ME TOO!!!!!!!! WHAAAAAA? I honestly didn’t realize this was really a “thing” but wow. I need to just get off my butt. You broke this down so well that it spoke to my soul!!! Thank you for sharing. I’ve saved this video for future reference. This is something I have to be very aware of and just DOING what I’m working towards. Thank you.
Preach!! This is so relatable! I keep trying to force myself to be so called normal or have a normal basic job. When that's not the real me. Also, I keep trying to learn as a nerotypical person, and then I beat myself up for not retaining anything. I need to figure out how I really learn! And what I really want! Thank you 😊
Working on overcoming this RIGHT NOW. I'm doing a new thing and ONLY learning about and aspect of it if it directly relates to the next step I need to take. I'm not letting myself get overwhelmed with information and paralyzed into not doing anything.
I've been in that situation for too long and it sucks! It destroys self-confidence and so on. Thank you for the video, I'm glad to discover your channel :)
Wow, I needed to hear this. Thank you!
First of all: thanks so much for this video!
Second: The minute you said try getting into situations with a risk of failure but within a save environment reminded me of the 3 years I played in a improvisational theatre group in University that were so important for my development of self-confidence especially for feeling confident in front of a crowds. Nowadays I have no problem at all with presentations and kinda improvising how I hold them.
It was a save space where everyone put themselves into unknown situations (because that's how improvisational theatre works) but because we all did it and we all learned it together and got better over time through practice the situation of having to improvise within seconds became less and less scary and we became more an more confident with practice and with collected memories of situations that went good so why shouldn't it go well the next time as well? The more experienced players were also very welcoming and non-judgy about the beginners so it really felt like a safe space.
Highly recommend trying out improvisational theatre for people that want to learn and practice creative associative thinking and being confident in front of people.
This is so helpful. Thank you so much for Posting this.
The way how this video just naturally came to me when really I needed it. This is a sign that it's time for me to actually get rid of this procrastination
I really needed to watch this! I recently came to terms with the fact that I'm an information hoarder and I need to actually internalize all the videos I've downloaded, all the articles and books I've acquired, etc. I've recently came to the conclusion that information is like a toolbox. Construction workers and people who use tools do not buy tons of tools all at once. They buy tools here and there as they need them.
“Terrified of screwing up…” Damn. That hit.
I and my *THOUSANDS* of painting related Pinterest pins feel *very* called out. But I thank you. It’s nice to know that this isn’t just me (it is, however, even more proof that ADHD really is my personality😆).
STELLAR 411. SO ON POINT. I am learning to embrace myself and my Super Power aka ADHD. It is apparent you have ADHD b/c you are SO Relatable. You can't make this stuff up or copy someone else. You either have it or ya don't. SO Thankful I found You!! 🙏 🕊️
Timely for me, thanks did not know I needed the support but I guess I did.
Excellent advice, thank you. That idea of preparing for things has always been something that inhibited my progress. My therapist described it that I tended to see things as linear, that I would put things in a sequence as if I could only do the thing I wanted to do before I had completed all the linear steps I put in front of it, whereas often he observed that it seemed like I could simply just go ahead and do the thing I was saying that I wanted to do :)
I can so relate to this! Thank you for your video. I just subscribed!
Thanks for pointing this out! You did a good deed. I learned enough, now let's change the world by failing a few times🎉.
Good stuff! Thanks for making this
Excellent content! Very awesome info! You're the Queen.
Real talk! ❤ Thank you for sharing.
Thank you! Just thank you! I've already somehow got to this point of understanding of this behaviour, but im so glad to hear that its a real thing and im actually taking right steps towards stoping this procrastilearning. For now among of all the recommendations for adhd - to do and put yourself in a challenge and get rejections is the best so far. nothing else was more effective till now, at least for me. Also imprortant - understand your limit and align those challenges with it. For example i can accept one big reject in a week 😅
I definitely needed this video. Made me realize I've been doing this the last 20 years.
OMG. I am literally sitting here binging TH-cam videos about organizing my tasks instead of actually organizing my tasks! 😂😂
This was a very good way to put it and gave some direction forward. Thanks
Procrasti-learner!! That's me!! Learning so much, doing so little! Thanks for this insightful video, Caren!
That’s so accurate about me, it made me laugh and then feel a bit sad about it for taking so long to understand that it is a thing, that other people struggle with it as well. This and some other things I have been watching on your videos and, that’s considering I am not even diagnosed with ADHD. I wonder if they are common behaviours out of the ADHD’s spectrum as well?! Thank you!!
Woah! This is 💯 me! Such a helpful video, THANK YOU ❤
You're literally describing my brain. Thanks for sharing ❤